AITA For Breaking Up Bc GF Changed Her Looks to Resemble My Dead Wife | Episode 101
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Episode 101 w/ Sam, Madi, Sahdia and Brandon
SCREENSHOTS ARE BACK NEXT EP
0:00 CO and Crocs Don't Mix
0:44 Sam and Big Brother
5:33 My FIL Had a Meltdown BC I Proved He Doesn't Know His Son
8:48 Response
12:27 A Comforter, Ottaman, and Cousin Walked Into a Bar
13:39 Brandon and His TWIN
15:10 Flashing Her Breasts
16:21 AITA For Asking My Wife To Please Stop Flashing Her Breasts at People
20:15 Response
28:00 Top Comments and Response
29:55 Shout Out Cameraman Steph
31:50 Story 3: Bring Back Dad Fights!
34:16 Act Out
39:30 Response
43:06 TIFU: Today I Gave My 4-Year-Old His First Existential Crisis
44:33 Response and We Tell our Loved Ones WE LOVE THEM
49:30 Top Comment and Response
51:58 Sam WOULD Hit On Sahdia's Mom BUT She's Too Godly
53:12 Breaking Up W/ My GF
54:10 AITA For Breaking Up W/ My GF Bc She Changed Her Looks to Resemble My Dead Wife
1:00:14 Response
Okay so IMO flashing people, and just existing topless are two VERY different things. I was sitting between my boyfriend and brother once and this woman flashed us and I was PISSED. Now, if I was at a beach (where nudity is allowed) with my bf, I couldn’t care less if people had their titties out. Flashing, (IMO) is a sexual act directed at people usually non-consensually. She seems to be the one sexualizing her own breasts. I am glad that she is proud of her body, but that doesn’t excuse her from acting inappropriately.
This. I agree with this so hard
i 100% agree with this!
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You articulated this perfectly. I was trying to figure out why this one irked me when I’m very pro body autonomy. I think she was good up until the dinner party and football game - it’s seems like she is going for shock factor now. She enjoyed the big reactions she got when she first got the boob job but now people are more used to it, so she is doing more shocking things to try and get that same big reaction she was getting right after the surgery.
@@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse woah, you actually analyzed her motives so well!! this makes a lot of sense.
Story 2: it’s not about the flashing it’s the disrespect the wife is showing and unwilling to listen to differing opinions
Imo its both, she does seem to be sexualising herself and then flashing ppl without their consent while she's in a committed relationship. She's making a fool out of herself
Also, were any of those people consenting?
The "whose my father?" While Brandon calms Sam down cracks me up every time
every. time!!! lmaooo
Does Sam know the "Where's My Dad?" song from Tiktok? From the Finding Nemo musical? Because that would be MONEY to add on top of the "whose my dad!?"
Pure gold when they do that 😂💯
NO BUT FR 😭😭🙂
Same, I want a compilation of it
His wife flashing everyone is embarrassing. It starts to be like she’s not for me energy.
It's honestly kinda pathetic. Like look at me!.
@kellharris2491 yes is like she had nothing else to offer but her fake boobs now
The boob debate is really interesting! Female breasts should be desexualized, but I also get the point about consent, since they are sexualized right now.
Why ? How?
Totally agree. People would stop exclusively sexualizing if they were more used to it (see a lot of Nordic countries with saunas). But as of rn there is more of a time and place issue as mentioned by our hosts. Even if it wasn't an issue we still have places that require a certain amount of dress, even for men
So you can't show your feet or armpits?
@@Lordforgiveme528 desexualizing does not mean you're not allowed to find them sexy, it just means normalize seeing nude breasts without it necessarily having to be in a sexual context. Just like male chests.
@@luvely1062 those are not on the level of tits right now.
That last woman didn't just cross boundaries with the dad and tried to punish him for not acting how she wanted - her specifically asking the child to call her Mama and then treating him coldly after he said no is such a big red flag.
The dad and the girlfriend loved each other, but the girlfriend definitely has some mental health issues she needs to work out bc the way she crossed so many boundaries to seek validation and blamed others for not acting how she wanted is so wrong.
Also specifically trying to make someone feel guilty for your suicide is incredibly fucked up. Doing that to someone who you know is still recovering from grief like that??? She needs an intervention ASAP.
Tbh, sounds like BPD and extremely insecure attachment
In the last story, when his gf accused him of not loving her, he shouldn't have apologised. I feel like a lot of people think that apologising is a safe communication style, but it's not. Especially with things that other people just have an intuition about, apologising is like confirming that their intuition was correct.
I think she sounded really manipulative.
“Community chest” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In the bewbie story, I totally agree that we should live in a world where breasts/bodies should all be treated equally. However that’s not reality and not everyone cares about boobs being de-sexualized. In our society (we live in a society) showing body parts covered by a swimsuit to someone who doesn’t consent is wrong and invasive. If she were a man flashing a bunch of ppl then she’d probably be arrested and registered as a sex offender. IMO divorcing over disrespect of boundaries is valid but couples therapy should be considered first in order to address his concerns, her attitude to OP and her insecurities as well.
I do not agree that flashing breasts is the same as flashing genitals, but I do agree that we do have to accept that to some people breasts are sexual in the modern society and when you flash them, you are being sexual to them, because they see them as sexual. So in that instance you are doing something sexual to people who have not consented. I myself do not care about boobs, but I would still question someone who constantly keeps flashing them to people... Edit: Especially to husbands of friends. That part especially is a red flag for the husband AND the friends.
The depression that overcomes me when i think of my parents aging is so real. I thought about it before, but now that i have a kid its like 50x worse 😂 in my head i think “the older my child gets the less time my parents have” 😭
The Korea analogy is bad. The bath house is not unisex and still relatively private. And not all Koreans goes to the bath house. Those who do expect that there will be naked people there and that they also have to remove their clothes. Also, Korea is still a very conservative country. They arrested korean girls for wearing bathing suit while riding motorbike in Seoul. Sj is right. There is a time and place for everything.
I don't know why, but Sam's mom texting him back made me cry.. 😭😭😭
Not you guys forgetting Gen X 😂😭 I’ve been getting so many TikToks of them complaining they’re forgotten all the time
Dang, that one story started with the poor kid in an existential crisis, and ended leaving everyone in an existential crisis. 😭
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Woah, that girlfriend story was...wow. I thought that was a made up plot from tv shows/books. Hopefully that lady gets mental help, and I hope bro can heal too.
As someone who just got a boob job(breast reduction) I understand the feeling of wanting to show everyone my boobs. There’s also a huge mental disconnect that me and many of my friends who’ve had BRs feel that my new boobs aren’t MY boobs. However flashing people is not ok ever cuz people aren’t consenting to it.
Surgery one - I think NTA cause wow it honestly sounds like she needs therapy? Like she must’ve be sooooo insecure and LOL imagine 2 years down the line and she keeps doing it 😂
I think you skipped one story
@@tunasciohhh so true! lemme edit it thanks ❤
While I think nudity and breasts should be less sexualized and be more casual, flashing is just an act that’s sexual in general. It uses the idea of hiding something then suddenly revealing something and it’s used to be shocking and sexual (doesn’t have to be just breasts in this scenario too).
Yessss like butts. If someone had a BBL and randomly shows a group or started twerking at a party I’d be very uncomfy. But if we’re talking beach or other places where they would usually be visible it’s normal and everyone has them. I think it’s be in one scenario I wasn’t expecting that so there’s that which and in another and I’m already cognitively promised to see it. Not about being necessarily sexual just out of respect for everyone
I dont think he's trying to set a boundary on her body, i think he's trying to set a boundary for their relationship. Take kissing for example. My partner is free to kiss whoever they want, given that the other person gives consent. It's their body, not mine, so I can't stop them. However, I agreed to be in a monogamous relationship, so I have the freedom to leave the relationship if you cross that boundary.
I get kissing is different, but I'd also be upset if my male partner was stripping infront of others because he seeks validation in the form of sexual desire from people who arent me.
Best discovery of my 2023, much love to you all
“Walking like you going to see the Lord or something “ 🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀
Things I learned: if I ever get a breast augmentation - make sure the surgeon doesn’t leave me with NASCAR titties😂
1:00:06 For the last story, she needs mental help. The fact that his own family wasn't on his side and made him feel guilty for her suicide attempt is horrible. It isn't his fault that she went that route. She clearly had much more issues than she'd let on.
Not only that but she wanted the son to call her mama, and when he said no, she treated the son and Op coldly. She is a big red flag in my opinion. If anyone I was dating chose to change themselves into someone I know that passed away. Especially my partner. I would running for the hills.
His family wanting him to marry her and have kids with her already. Is such a big red flag as well. This woman is literally not mentally, okay. She changed herself to look like a passed away person. She needs mental help. She does not need to be married and he shouldn't have to marry her just for his family to be happy. If I was him I would go low contact with my family. And I wouldn't speak to that woman again.
Adding to this, the way the gang brought up how weird it was that she wore the late wife's earrings but OP was able to look past it, makes me think that OP has been around a toxic familial environment where boundaries were either always crossed or never established.
Therefore his perception might've been skewed in a way. His family not recognizing the red flags is concerning.
The call is coming from inside the house!
Not you all (even the camera guy) having an existential crisis and texting your moms after the age progression story 😅
Story 2: The guy isn't the AH but he does need to learn the definition of a boundary. You can set your boundaries for yourself not for the actions or behavior of someone else.
Every relationship has boundaries. Not flirting with other men is a given. Dropping her shirt in front of other men to show off is flirting. If she had been a man Flashing a dick or butt it would be considered sexual harassment to everyone.
I'm 61. I'm afraid my parents aren't callable. I do still have an aunt.
As to the dead wife. My husband and I are remarried widows. We've been together 6.5 years, I'm only now starting to feel like I can borrow Christine's belongings. I haven't redecorated her kitchen or the bedroom because I don't want to trespass. I don't understand how people can be so calous about their partner's late partners. I also don't understand why they get so jealous about them.
I'm jealous of yall with your close relationships with your parents 😭
that last story has got me thinking that maybe its not just the gf taking it upon herself to become his late wifes doppleganger- since his family is not on his side and wants him to make it up to gf and get married so that his son can have a mother; im thinking that maybe the family has also put in some mentions or words to gf that would imply that he wont love her like he loved his late wife. besides the fact that she took it upon herself to give op AND the son the cold shoulder because the son didnt want to call her mama, it seems that op is being the last to find out things on PURPOSE, and theres no going up from here unless gf gets some serious help and op can find out just why this is happening.
I'm a younger millennial and thought you all were also. I don't know why it shook me so bad hearing you are gen Z, haha.
Sam is a Millennial. I have no idea how old the others are lol
Same!
The one with the 4 year old. As a mom myself, sometimes you’re just gonna make mistakes and they’re literally learning-life. NTA the baby will be okay.
Love the podcast btw
It might have even helped him have some empathy for her friend's kids
Definitely gonna help with empathy
my mom passed away in 2021 october , my 3 kids were there with me and it was unexpected she passed in her room and we didn't know until my son (8-9 at the time ) told me nana don't look ok ...
so i rushed even tho i was 30 weeks pregnant .. tried my best but sadly it was to late :( i miss her so much and i wish she could have met my son ( he was born premature at 35 weeks)
it's been a rough 4 years of constant death in my life and trauma but we are healing slowly
i feel like the point of the 2nd story should be more about her flashing people nonconsensually I get telling your friends but just flashing people to flash is weird for anyone
The dad fights between country dads is the funniest. Cause they usually a few beers in and the balance is almost nonexistent 😭
the parent conversation gave my 28 year old self so much anxiety that i now have so much that i want to have a sleepover with my parents
I’m always worried I’m not spending enough time with my daughter before she turns 18. Thanks to this episode I’m even more worried.😢😭
the transition sound sounds like the arthur flashback sound effect to me i love it and can’t get over that every time
Nothing better than waking up to a new Comfort Level Pod :)
“I could have 45 years or two weeks” goes hard
In the flashing story, I want to know what boundary the husband thinks he set. Boundaries are for our behavior, we can't set boundaries on other people's actions. You can set a boundary for yourself in response to another person's actions for example: If you show your boobs at a party, I'll leave immediately.
Yes I agree. He's talking like he owns her. They're her breasts to show off if she wants to. If he's uncomfortable with that he can express that and state hiss expectations but unless you're going to physically stop her it's her choice to behave that way. If she continues after he's stated that then he can decide if he's willing to live with that or not.
No I agree showing off your breasts to people is rude. Also I think being upset that she is flashing other men is disrespectful to her husband.
@@elenaoakes8494sorry, but why would you randomly show your breasts to people at random? What if someone just doesn't want to see that for whatever their reason is? She can wear what she wants, but I think most people would just look at you like you're crazy if a pair of breasts were just out there for no reason.
i think he is just misusing the word. sounds like for him her flashing everyone is a form of cheating & i do think he has a right to voice that. "i don't want to be with someone unfaithful" is a very normal stance for people to have & everyone has to define what behaviour falls under that for themselves.
i absolutely think he is allowed to voice how uncomfortable & upset her new behaviour is making him feel & say it is a hard line for him. she is absolutely allowed to refuse & do whatever she wants. but if he decides to walk away from her due to that, then she has to accept that (similarly if he decides to stay, he has to come to accept her new behaviour).
@@elenaoakes8494completely disagree because then that logic can apply to “if he wants to flash people his penis he can, it’s his body” and many other things that are not appropriate. You can’t just do things because “its your body” and when you have a partner you have to respect that there’s things they won’t like you doing. If you used to lay on your male friend’s shoulder in a non-sexual way before and now you have a bf and he doesn’t feel comfortable with it, that’s a reasonable boundary.
I definitely understand the husband’s frustration with his boob flashing wife not respecting his boundaries.
As a 42yo, the death anxiety is very real.
im only 19 and dealing with it constantly :,))
The irony of you walking around snowy CO in Crocs is unmatched. For anyone else curious; Crocs were actually invented in Boulder, and the HQ is in Niwot. I worked in their call center office in Broomfield! They do sell clogs with different linings that are quiet warm, many older customers told me how they love them in the winter LMAO. I hope y'all enjoyed your visit though! I can't help but spit out Croc facts whenever they are mentioned.
Last story Ops family sucks. They probably think he can't be a good parent As a man alone and so they are throwing this new woman at him. It's honestly sexism.
" Oh your son needs a new Mom. "
Meanwhile the son is like, "No I already had a Mom."
I’ve been binging your pod all morning and totally forgot a new one was coming out! Great surprise. 😅
Thank you guys for being so open about how thinking about death (of ur self and family) makes you feel. I’ve been struggling with getting smacked w existential crisis every other day and it felt good to hear someone else talk about it bc wtffff some ppl act like they can go all their life without thinking about the shit
The one about the dead wife sounds like a lifetime movie
I lost my mom recently, way too young. You never know how much time you have left. please please please tell the people who are important to you in your life that you love them as much as you can 💙💙💙
Just found this podcast today and I'm already obsessed! ❤
i think the most the husband can do in the flashing story is say it makes him uncomfortable, they can talk through why and he can hear her out as well (but like genuinely hearing each other out), but he cant set a boundary on what she does with her body. just as she wouldnt be able to do the same to him.
I think it's reasonable to not show other men and a group of men your breasts when you have a husband. She is literally trying to get attention from other men when she has a husband. How is that any different then flirting with other men? Not to mention she violated everyone's consent in that room. The husband is perfectly in his right to be upset and even want to leave her when she can't keep her clothes on anymore.
@@kellharris2491 oh well yea i think he has every right to leave her i just dont think he has any right to tell her what to do with her body. if shes the kind of person that likes to show her breasts and hes the kind of person that doesnt want her to do that then they have ideological differences and yea probably shouldnt be together anymore. but i didnt wanna go to outright “leave her” bc maybe they can solve those differences through talking about it and actually hearing each other out.
@@kellharris2491 and i think with the how is it different from flirting? i think theres couples who have no problem with their partner flirting with other ppl and they share ideologies so it works and then there are people who would hate their partner flirting with other ppl and i think thats fine too. i think its less a one size fits all and more about finding someone who shares your ideology about life.
@@mkamara7279but would someone be in the wrong for being like I don't want you to flirt with other ppl while we're dating? Like I think that IS a boundary and if it's not one you can accept then we just break up
@@lalie9995 no i dont think theyd be in the wrong. and i agree if its not one that your partner can accept you can and probably should break up.
Yes love on your motherrrr ! I lost mine last year and I STILL. Don’t know what to do without her . 😢❤
"Everyone text your mom!" 😂❤
Sam on BB would for sure win the first HOH and be backdoored the next week 😂
Love y'all! ❤️❤️ Late listening because work has destroyed my soul but hopefully I'll be able to fully listen tomorrow at lunch and get back on that patreon after dealing with my bank. (my new debit card they sent me had a misprint of my name so I couldn't use it but luckily I can get a digital one for now!) Much love for you all! You all help me get through the days with your realness and humor. Keep being you. 👌
thank you for reminding me to text my mum 🥺 she's my favourite lady in the whole world, you guys are so right about making the effort!!!!!
As usual, impeccable timing with the release. Right when I started experiencing existential dread due to boredom lmao
damn i’m early, i’ve been listening to this podcast non stop recently,, when i’m cleaning, cooking, getting ready or going to sleep😮💨
Sam has lived a life. He can relate indirectly to or has an anecdote for SO many of these stories lol!
Silent gen, boomers, gen x, millennials, gen z, alpha
When Sam said Community Chest I started laughing and coughing 😂
Not me texting my dad while my eyes are watering…. 😭😂
"Community breast, community chest" 😂😂😂😂
The wife being a ghost that takes over the girlfriends body is literally a colleen hoover book lol
Every time Comforters get brought up, Sam has to bring up Ottomans LOLOL
EVERY TIIMMMEE
Noticed you guys wearing teddy fresh in a few of the videos!!! Family Family Family!❤❤❤❤
0:33 So your feet have to stay dry, but also, too tight fitting shoes will cause your feet to sweat(some people like me, develop sweaty feet naturally or through stressors) Ever since I caught C19, my hands and feet sweat profusely, so I found spraying the soles of my feet and in between my toes with antiperspirant spray to really help cut down on the moisture, smell, and the coldness of my entire body!! Crocs material just worsen your feet sweating, and then you loose heat super quickly, in the heat it isn't that noticable bexause it is kind of wicked(weird how that words meaning is could be sucked away, or really evil) away.
in case you’re interested you could also look into botox to cut down on excessive sweating
With the flashing story, on top of the lack of consent from people being flashed, you also have to consider that he married her as someone who was more conservative/modest. Now that she's becoming more liberal with showing off her body, it could be a turn-off.
Thinking about anyone passing makes me want to explode but with my animals it’s like a whole different feeling.
Also I have had a strained relationship with my mom for a long time but within the last year or so we’ve really made strides to mend our relationship. One thing that made me want to mend it is the fact that she’s getting older and I don’t want any regrets.
36:55 when everyone was reenacting the story 😂
10/10 across the board!
Everyone was so dedicated to their role 🏆
The role play session made me feel like y’all would play a crazy game of DnD
honestly yeah i have a coworker who got a boob job and the first 16 times she showed me her tits i was like “wow they look amazing!!!!” and now i have to tell her i don’t wanna see boobs today. it’s weird
Not all of you giving yourselves existential crises!! 😂😂
15:39 how did nobody say communittitties
Me screaming into the void “Who’s my mother?” While y’all have an existential crisis telling us to call our moms 😂
The husband has a right to preference. She has the right to show her boobs but he has the right to leave someone who’s willing to show off parts of herself that were meant for him. He got in a relationship with someone who was modest.
Hey I wanted to hear borrosca because I didn’t want to be alone with the icky feeling since reading it. Thanks for helping me not feel alone!
A more light hearted and fantastical creepy pasta I love is showers. I believe it’s a longer one as well though
Tell your people you love them often! I'm in my 30s and no longer have my mom and wish I was able to talk to her more. Couldn't have a proper conversation for 10 years because of Alzheimer's. I wish I at least texted her more. Share love and spread glimmers to brighten the darkness ❤❤❤
Love the cross over of other stories in the re-enacts
Not me having called my mom halfway thru the video bc I wanted to chat, even though I’m going to their house tomorrow 😂we on that same wavelength
This is def one of yall's best episodes lol
Whoa I’m really early 😂 I’ve been listening non stop didn’t even realize this just came out
so im currently 18 and i just got to 47:17 and i am crying thinking about all the time ive missed with my dad.
he's not dead just lives on the other side of the country.
me sitting here 2-3 years into not seeing my mom and hardly talking to her besides birthdays and holidays, cause pookie gave me a cool heap of trauma, and i cant bring myself to talk to her frfr knowing how she is.
them tryna figure out the order of generations 😭
😂 "Community Chest!" 🤣🤣🤣
I just got my Carolina blue comfort level podcast sweatshirt in Fort Collins Colorado! I will be wearing this around.
With the death story, that mom is better than mine 😅 I was talking to my mom about how I can’t imagine the rest of life without someone we lost and her response was “Well I’m gonna die, your dad is gonna die, your older siblings, you’ll just have to go on” 😭 I ended up crying more than before I called her 😂
THANK YOU FOR DROPPING THIS IN TIME FOR ME TO LISTEN TO IT AT WORK TODAY!!!!
So glad i found this podcast, I've binged so many old episodes and I can't wait for the new videos! Millennial mom with a Gen Alpha toddler. God help me...😂
“Who’s my dad?” 😂 I’m gonna start doing this but mom edition
That last story was very much like the thriller movie: "Single White Female." Jennifer Jason Leigh and Bridget Fonda.
Awesome flick that withstands the test of time.
I lost my mom suddenly to cancer 9 years ago. Text your mom ❤️
Also, if you have messages that are important to you or conversations with any loved ones, you enjoy, take screenshots. I have little snippets preserved in time that I treasure. It was one of the best ideas that someone gave me after she passed.
38:26 new flash budddy 😂😂
I’m at work I can’t handle this existentialism 😭😭😭
19:52 what sex offenders say before opening their coat
The concerned look on their faces during the first story 😭💀
My brother and his wife used to get into barfights together all the time when they were younger. The wildest story I heard was when bro squared up to this dude who was being an ass, and the dude and his friends dragged him outside. Sister-in-law was like "oh hell no, that isn't fair" and tried to make her way out when dudes girlfriend was all "where the f*ck do you think you're going" and tried to fight her. Sister-in-law threw a few good punches, got hit once, and knocked the gf out the way. I'm a letting foggy on the details from here because it's been a while since I've heard the story, but I know at one point, sis was on one of the dudes back ripping at his hair, he managed to throw her off and turned around to punch her, and she smashed her boot right into his nose and broke it. Brother also held his own pretty well. They went back to that bar a few minth later and someone behind the bar asked Sister-in-law if she was the one that fought the guy (let's just say his name was John). She said yes, and the guy started laughing and telling her that she "f*cked him up" and he had it coming because he's always running his mouth and acting like a big dog. He said that now, whenever he starts going off, the staff or even one of his friends will remind him how he got his ass beat by a 5'4" woman, so he had best just sit down and shut up.
screw the other commenter that said the acts were cringe they're hilarious
I have constant contact with my mom, if I randomly texted “I love you” she’d think I was dying
If Sam isn’t on the show ima give up >.> I need his sass. Geminis unite! ❤😂
47:28 I'm so broken that this parent talk means nothing to me. My bio mom could have already died and is have no idea because I haven't seen her in like 5 years and she never wanted a relationship with us. My dad raised me and my twin sister and I love and respect him but listening to people with healthy parental attachments reminds me that I still have a lot of issues because I don't think about these kinds of things at all.
My parents are getting older and I can confirm I have a crisis about what I'm gonna do without my mom at least once a week
5:20 for the first story from R/Entitled Parents :))