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I'm 23 YEARS OLD And Have NO FRIENDS
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ส.ค. 2021
- A short vlog of a 23 year old wojak that can find himself in today's world. Activities that came to him with ease now seem beyond his ability. Aware of his present position in the world, He broods over the past in search of a reason.
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What should he do to finally break this circle?
But in all seriousness, not some "hit the gym" comments.
Capitalism needs to be abolished and replaced with Socialism.
@@just_a_turtle_chad more capitalism
@@Tizzytho Less😎
yeah he should hit the gym bro and do nofap
hit the gym
The level of detail is extremely terrifying.
Utterly brutal
Hits way too close home
its beautifully tragic
@@tvbuu not beautiful, more common than u think
get a grip
It's sad that Mark is the representation of an entire generation. We're all alone together.
Together in loneliness. It would be ironic it it wasn't true
Not me, im just built different
We isolated ourselves, by being terrible to each other. It’s not something that’s been done to us. We made it this way. We want to isolate, we want strife, we want divisions.
Secondly don’t act like we have it worse than any other generation. If we wanted to change we’d change. But we want everyone else to change first. Then once everyone else apologizes and does what we want, then we’ll begrudgingly admit we aren’t perfect, but everyone else is worse.
That’s what this generation is.
@@josyahtestosterone3592 Damn...are you a disciple of Brucie Kibbutz?
more like the representation of fanbase
Started hitting the gym. Started going to places. Started going to have fun outside. Started talking to people. Started to have confidence in myself. And yet, still alone.
You have to be born with the ability to socialize, anything you do is useless. Everything was decided from birth
Feel that, keep trying.
Sorry bro y feel that
Does take awhile man and getting legitimate friends is usually only gotten from a stroke of luck because the other person usually must have the same interests, compatible personalities, and is also looking for friends. Having hobbies, developing social skills, and putting myself in proximity with other people also doing the same thing as me whether it is school or hobbies made it much easier than being isolated.
For example I've been pretty much friendless for like 2-3 years. I've had people I was close with but I wouldn't really call them legitimate friends where we would talk outside of whatever activity we were doing together. It's only just last month where I found a person that just vibed with me off the bat. He's slowly introducing me to his circle and it's been great. It'll only snowball from here. Besides, you don't need a lot just a few close friends are good enough.
SAME holy shit.
For someone who doesn't have a single friend by the age of almost 26, I feel this.
I wish you the best in this life and I hope you find friends that will make you laugh and bring joy into your life.
There is still time to make some
Am I looking in a mirror
I'm 32, same.
will be 26 in about 8 months... no friends either. this is hard
“Of all men's miseries the bitterest is this: to know so much and to have control over nothing.” ~ Herodotus
Highly relatable.
That's why ignorance is bliss
When incels come together though, they become friends? All good?
@@1mol831 but you never get to see their face
in real life
Why would i want to have control over most things? I think it s liberation when u finally understand how little control u have over things in your life. Think deeply man, think deeply
" All my life was hoping that someone will come from nowhere and take me away. And no one ever came. " - dude, just thank you. When I heard it, I somehow understood what was wrong with me all the time. Thank you.
I resonante with it as well but my take away is that i need to take/save myself
I need to call my friends, like I know they are keepers becouse they would mostly call me first wich means that they care!
И это самое страшное, что никто тебе не поможет. Даже родители
same i was always the adopted in friend so I think that's always what I try to find
сколько здесь одиноких русских людей
I was born in 1969 and graduated from HS in 1987. My close circle of friends included Matt, Tom, Steve and Joe. My extended circle of friends was 5x larger. We hung out every day after school and roamed around the neighborhood and city on the weekends. Life was like this for virtually every person before the 21st century. I have 2 sons ages 18 and 20. They say it would feel weird to hang out at a friend's house every day. My wife and I can't believe what has happened to young people. Youth society needs to be reorganized around socialization and it should start at school. Memorizing and regurgitating facts is useless. Kids needs to spend time together socializing and making friends that they will keep for life.
I totally agree, I'm a bit younger then your sons and I get jealous whenever my parents, grandparents, or uncles/aunts talk about how kids used to just be out on the street playing. It used to be like that for me but it disapeared when I was around 8 or so when we started getting tablets and consoles.
I was born 1987 and i'm in the strange situartion that i experieced both worlds, in my youth there where no mobile phones or internet
and we even had a phone with this round dial thing to input the numbers.
If you wanted to meet friends you had to call them and be lucky to catch them at home or just walk over to them and ring the door bell.
And we played outside all day long - back then it was a common punishment for kids to be prevented to go outside.
Later then mobile phones came and i still remember how exiting it was to be outside or just in my room and be able to call a friend or send text messages.
Around this time i played video games with my friends most of the time, we still went outside but not as frequently as before but we still met each other to play since very few of us had access to internet
But then smartphones and social media and the internet came and i started getting annoyed that people now started to expect me to be accessible all the time - i had an facebook account but only a short while but as social media spread people spread over all platforms and it became more and more complicated to keep contact if you didn't want to have an account on every platform.
And video games started to expect you to be online to play with friends and it made less and less sense to actually meet to play
And now i have some kind of hate relationship with social media and especially my mobile phone, I hate to be called - no matter who is calling
I spend very much time with myself because after becoming an adult and people started working and having kids and moving in other citys many of them don't have time to play games anymore and keeping contact became quite difficult - especially with kids
Let’s be honest all that time hanging around at a friends house everyday was a waste of time and spent most of it getting drunk and stoned.
Maybe the youth today spend it studying and learning
@@sko1beer Actually not true. We spent nearly all of our time together talking and joking around. Maybe 25% of the time we were roaming around outside.
@@threeone6012 maybe growing up in London it’s different 👍
The fact that I can see so many comments, including my own, of people who can relate to this really says something. We as Generation Z are a bunch of misfit, lonely and sad individuals who in the end, just want to be loved and wanted for who we are but we're afraid to go the extra mile because we're scared what the other person may think.
Personally for me, it was my childhood trauma. As a kid in grade school, I was exactly like Mark, but I was also a massive introvert who had a hard time talking to others or had anything interesting to say. The boys would talk about games like cricket or soccer and I was never the athletic type or had any interest in those games so automatically, I was labeled as "the weird one" and since I didn't talk back or made an effort to defend myself, I was an easy target for bullies and a punching bag for everyone. Even the girls in my class thought I was a loser and jumped on the hate train. They'd all still talk to be but they only ever did when they needed something from me like help in homework or something like that, and I quickly noticed they were using me because they only ever talked to me when they wanted to use me and never included me in any of their plans, and when asked, they'd say "haha who'd want to call that guy? He's such a weirdo". I still had one or two friends from here but unlike me they were more socially gifted than I was and they had other friends of their own with whom they hung out more. I still felt lonely.
Fast forward to high school, my situation hadn't changed much but I soon found out that I had a better time talking to some of the older seniors rather than my own classmates who, majority of whom, were the same from grade school. The seniors thought I was kinda cool and found that I was easy to talk to or vent to because I was a good listener and gave good advice. That's when I also found out that in order to be seen and to make a change, you need to get out of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities. Although I was still very shy even at this point, but my social skills were increasing and I worked hard to not be labeled as a loser again. Alas, it didn't last for long because the classmates who followed me to high school were still more popular are fun than I was and they continued making it a duty to belittle and make fun of me on the most trivial of bullshit just to look cool. Some people believed their douchey personality to be cool but there were still some who thought they were assholes, but at this point I had fallen so deep on depression that I basically cut myself off from everyone and just chose to be with myself. I'd avoid the bullies and if they'd come after me, I'd stand my ground and fight, but against 7-8 others, I'd still get beat. They knew I was starting to stick up for myself now and that I could box, so they'd always attack me in packs and never alone.
Fast forward to the current day, I'm now a student in university and I have to say, things aren't perfect, but they've never been better for me. I've actually met a few people who I share the same ideals with, whom I consider my true friends. The people I once knew from grade school and high school are near non existent at this point and I've actively been working to take new challenges to better myself and my social skills constantly. I cam safely say that now I can walk up to anyone with a smile and start a conversation and hit it off with them which still amazes me to this day. I'm still an introvert at heart, but I still have a small friends circle and I appreciate their company, and that's the advice I can give you, my brothers. Things may seem impossible right now, but life will constantly try to pull you out of your comfort zone, so instead of seeing those obstacles as threats, take them as opportunities and push through because trust me, you'll be thanking yourself later on that you went the extra mile and plucked up the courage to go talk to that cute girl who would look at you from across the classroom and you've now found a good friend in her.
Sorry, it was a long read, but if you liked my little monologue, drop a like and let me know your thoughts
Your words made me feel better،Thank you for giving me some hope.❤️
Holy shit you wrote so much and it's isn't even edited i should read
Edit: nice to hear things getting better for you I'll hope the Same for me
Thank u for telling us this story. It cheered me up and gave me hope that i could also find people whom I'll be comfortable with despite my introverted anxious ass
i mean this was always a thing. its just more mainstream now because of social medias
Stay strong, brothers. You are not alone 🖤🙏
I feel personally attacked by this, because this is true. I'm blaming myself for having no social skill.
same brother
yeah same
Same....
It's never too late bro
I am always shocked at how accurate MilleniaThinker can recreate situations a lot of people can connect to.
The bitter irony of that video.
We always think we have friends, but when we need them, we realized that they don't exist.
Capitalism is to blame
@@just_a_turtle_chad ok lenin
@@susfranzliszt Im more of a marxist
@@just_a_turtle_chad So Lenin
@@just_a_turtle_chad gae
"All my life I was hoping that someone would come and take me away" that hit hard. I had that hope for years and now that I'm 25 and still all alone, that hope is almost gone.
I know I'll be a hypocrite for saying this, but we can't rely on that belief. No one is there over the horizon to save us, all we can do is save ourselves. If you ever meet someone you are interested in, please muster up the courage to talk with them. Don't let that chance slip away. Don't ever be afraid of rejection. It's better to have tried and fail then never have tried at all...
Same here , 25 alone no friends no girlfriend.
@@user-tx9ko4mm1t jbg buraz , mozda nam i netreba , cuvaj se, uspjecemo i nas dvojca
Someone won't come and take you away, but there's always someone waiting for someone or something to come into their life. Connection is a two way street. Make an effort to connect with people and you will find what you are looking for.
@blake1177 Yeah, you're right. Sometimes I think that there is something wrong with me for not having an instagram, tik tok or whatever. Ofc the blame is on me in the end of the day. I lack the social skills or an interesting life for such platforms and don't have that much will to change those things.
@blake1177 Well most of us are more social online then irl, but thanks. Also don't think that you are a side character dude. We all have our own stories. Even if we are the only characters in them...
I love the realism and how the "viewer" is watching on an active TH-cam video and is skipping as they get bored. Very nice touch.
This is so oddly comforting to hear other people share my depressing thoughts
I feel you it can be real rough
The tiktok generation alone asf. Goodluck ya’ll.
Nothing odd about it. The truth sets you free.
Goth
Misery lives company
It's like this guy has lived through every single live that led to the scenarios that he shows in his videos, it's always so spot on and relatable no matter the topic
Whoever this guy is he thinks reminds me of some of my friends who study philosophy which is probally why they are so relatable
MilleniaThinker might not be just one guy. It could be a group of people managing this channel
@@wesleyng3045 that would explain why some videos are actually wise and nuanced while some are strawmanning brainlet tier
@@teratoma. _>brainlet tier = critiques that shatter my hastily-built ego_
Yeah, MT videos sometimes _sting_ on a deep personal level, but one should blame the object in front of the mirror, _not the mirror itself._
@@glidershower very simpleminded assumptions
youre projecting
I think the reason for all this misery is very simple: there's too much sh*t to do nowadays and none of it requires being around people. If you want a vibrant social life, you need to build massive momentum. 1 hangout every month will not get you anywhere, I've tried. You've gotta just poor your heart and soul into it and keep things alive. I don't have any proof to back up this statement, but I literally have nothing else to try and the logic sounds... OK. So I'm either going to cry alone in my room another 200 nights or I'm going to go try and figure out this social thing no matter how stupid and undignified it makes me feel.
I recommend to ya'll lonely homies out there to delete social media, stop playing video games, delete discord, stop binging comfy Netflix shows, stop smoking weed--- stop all the sh*t that makes it easier. You've gotta feel the raw pain of loneliness. No f*cking pacifiers to ease things over. You're gonna have to fall face first into the abyss and then claw your way back out.
Honestly great advice! I've already been on the bandwagon of quitting social media as it's been truly toxic but I'm still clinging on onto my smartphone and watching TH-cam half the days I'm not working. While there are great videos like this, I'm still at a plateau at not progressing on any of my goals because I haven't gotten up from my bed yet like I've always wanted to. The first step that I feel will help me is to get rid of this damn smartphone and up to a flip phone so I can find other more productive things to do with my time that's actually fulfilling.
I felt this but still am afraid of the abyss bc it's dark and lonely. But couldn't agree more with your logic of rawdogin the pain and loneliness. I feel like a lot of people don't like that bc that's what they were forced to do as a kid(no drugs or social media for the most part), and we hated every minute of it. So we rather choose the infinity of the internet than the abyss of loneliness.
@@robertosalazar3255 Yo dawg I got good news, sh*ts working too. I haven't felt lonely in months. Hang out with people and you won't feel alone. It's like no sh*t Sherlock
i rather jus stay alone in my room for 200 days tbh im not built for change
@@Twanbankz_IG bruh are you really gonna give up before you've even tried? You can do this bro
When I was a teen, I would look at the popular and succesful kids and think: "How do they do that?! They look so confident, it comes so naturally to them, there must be a reason." Almost jokingly, I also thought at some point that they must have reincarnated as themselves, to live the same life a second time. Since they already knew what was going to happen, the people who actually liked them, the things they could say to interest someone, that's how they always had everything they wanted. Maybe one day I'd reach the end of my life and be granted this opportunity too.
I still like to lie to myself like this from time to time.
reincarnation is what happens, but you don’t remember the overhead everyday things like that; the ‘RAM’ is erased, only what’s baked into the hard-drive storage memory through a lifetime is kept. “i know because i have a degree in reincarnation from the university of woo” ;)
Can I just say, I was one of the popular kids you speak of. I had really close friends and a wider circle. I dated pretty girls and had a great time. However, the whole time I remember thinking how horrible it must be to be on the other side. I know you looked at those kids at thought "they must not know how lucky they are". However some do. It may sound big headed, but I did. Your comment reminded me how lucky I was, and that is meant as a compliment, comments like this make me reflect and be even more grateful for every single day I had. You probably didn't expect this reaction, but your comment was a gift to someone completely unlike you and that's a pretty special thing. You might read this comment and think what an asshole as I haven't really articulated the point well, but what I'm saying is you didn't have a bad time for nothing friend, it did impact others even if you didn't think so.
But isn't the existence of people like that a great opportunity to learn? When I see a more successful man than myself, I automatically think, what mindset does he have to produce his behaviors. After you "analyze" a number of such people, you start to understand, and I must say, I got a lot from it and I'm starting to become someone better. Some things I learned, you need a attainable goal that you will pursue without a doubt in yourself or in it's success. Everything else is a "side quest", but you should improve in all areas (social, your field of competence, spiritual, etc...). Do it in small steps, or you will burn out, obviously. Also, you cannot let your ego get in a way of your opportunities.
@@gucciadjective7745 mate from the comment you predicted my thought i will say thats one of the reason you are popular
When i was in highschool i always told myself they are popular succesful and likeable because they were born in better circumstances and i was jealous of everyone for no logical reasoning.
I'm 30 and have 2 friends, trust me quality over quantity.
Im 28 and i have noone. Trust me, anything over nothing
27 years young. Left home at 17. I make small talk with just about anyone and have always been a known extrovert. Had no problem lying my way into social scenarios. But then when I was 23 I decided to start being honest. Since then, it's been harder keeping people in my life because... Well... Most people don't want to know the truth. People come and people go. I'm stronger physically and mentally than I've ever been. Isolation has turned me into some sort of beast and made the noise of silence so loud that I cannot ignore it any longer. Starting junior year of college tomorrow. I'm going to ask some attractive people if they'll be my friends. I know it probably won't last. But a guy can hope, right?
23 and 1 or 2 friends but honestly they've helped me in situations when I felt my family couldn't help.
@@Cesko_Plny_Fialovejch_Zmrdu One close friend is way better than 100 acquaintances
I dont trust you internet stranger
"Everybody isn't your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn't mean they are your friend. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention" - Fred Flintstone
I honestly had “friends” like these back in High school. They were just what I call “table friends”. You can crack jokes and laugh all you want at their stories, but you can never talk about personal things.
This is why I'm alone. Once my kid died of SIDS and I got divorced where were all my friends that "had my back" throughout the years? Nowhere. Nobody gave a fuck and it almost cost me my life. So I decided to better myself with or without friends. Now that my life is awesome they all want to hang out again. Turns out they're all losers that just want to use me up. When the going gets real tough and life fucks you inside out you'll find out who your real friends are. Make peace with yourself because in the end you are the only one that truly has to live with yourself.
no way fred said that
@@TOO_RAW hey man, that’s shitty of them, assuming they weren’t going thru their own shit at the same time and really we’re just not reaching out. But the fact you’ve recognized you want to better yourself and they don’t goes to show that if you want to find better friends, you need to look for people more like yourself (similar interests, passions, valuing self-improvement, etc.). Don’t get me wrong, it’s still difficult to do as an adult and it doesn’t feel quite the same as making friends when we were younger, but you can still find people you can enjoy spending time with and getting close with. Sorry you went through all of that, and best of luck🤙
@@BubbaJems2 it was so easy to make friends in the past but after all that trauma I just cant get around to it for some reason now. It just doesn't feel important anymore. All of my motivation gets funneled into my career and hobbies and at the end of the day I have almost no energy to socialize. PTSD changed me but at the same time I wouldn't be where I am now in life without all that horrid shit I had to experience. Seems like the only way I know how to cope with the past is to work myself to the point of exhaustion and stay busy all the time. I'm self employed so I control my schedule but I still work 12 hour days 5+ days a week just to keep my mind occupied. At least I get to work in the wilderness every day and that helps me more than anything else. There's just something so soothing about working in the sound everyday and can go 12 hours without having to say a single word to anyone or even see another person some days. My best friend is nature.
so connected, yet so alone, the tragedy of modern times
As an introvert I don’t mind not having friends, in fact I love being in peace in my solitude, in my experience friends are just temporary, you meet people all the time and you can have fun hanging out with them every now and then but thats it, so don’t feel bad for not having friends, people tend to bring a lot of problems.
As an extrovert, I also agree with this.
Personally, I have lifelong friends that I consider my family who I've known for decades, but I also acknowledge friends are a temporary thing. In fact, two members of this family were recently kicked out for doing some toxic, unforgivable things.
Peace and quiet is a privilege, and I wish I had more alone time because frankly I never do and it exhausts me.
I'm an introvert too, so I kind of understand what you say. I can only call friend to six persons in my life (now three, i lost contact with some), but without them I wouldn't have enjoy my life and learn as much as I have done. Of course, everyone should live their life the way they want to. Good luck with yours.
@@tomewifecollector9608 how? how do you make friends and make plans with them?
@rjk - A good starting point is finding common interests with others and slowly building up a relationship over time. For example, if someone's wearing a t-shirt from a show you like, try commenting on it and see if they're interested in taking the conversation further. Compliments and small talk go a long way and can sometimes take practice. If any of these tactics lead to a dead end, that's alright. Not everyone is looking for new friends right now, so consider it practice for future people who will be more receptive. If you're not in school, try looking around for interest groups in your area like clubs, community events, sports, etc. Work can also be a good option too. Ideally you'll want to be apart of something that allows you to be around the same people for a while, as more exposure to someone will develop your relationship into a friendship. Consistency is key and a little bit of persistence, but never be too pushy as that can scare people away. There are a lot more tips and tricks online that you can look into for meeting new people, but that's been my experience so far and where I've found most success. Keep in mind, this is still a skill, and the only way things will get better is if you practice and put yourself out there. Another trick I've done is if someone plays the same video game as me, I try to friend them in the game so we can possibly play together in the future. Minecraft is a good one if you're into that.
How you hold yourself also makes a difference. You want to look approachable and friendly to people who don't know you. Keeping good hygiene, developing a sense of style, being groomed, etc. Trust me, this makes a huge difference. I've struggled with severe depression most of my life, so I've failed in these areas before, and during those periods in my life, I made significantly less acquaintances. Another tip is being genuinely interested in others. Ask questions, let the other person talk. Asking questions about them is a surefire way to get them more engaged with you and become more memorable to them. Always follow up on their answers and try to actively participate in the conversation. You have the opportunity to meet and learn about this new wonderful and beautiful person. Try to take that opportunity to its full potential.
Confidence and self-assurance is incredibly appealing. People are good on picking up vibes, and if you're unsure of yourself then it can be a huge turn off for others. If you don't have the confidence yet, then pretend to be someone who does. Fake it if you must. Because faking it will eventually rub off on you in someway.
For creating plans, that one is really about gauging how close you are to the person, if you're more comfortable in group settings vs 1x1, and finding opportunities when they arise. If someone invites you to something, always try to go if you can (unless it's like dangerous or something). Sometimes it will suck, but that's okay. This opens the window to meeting more people or putting you on the radar for future hangouts. If no opportunities come your way, then create your own. Hard day of work? Maybe ask some co-workers if they want to get some quick coffee/food after. Birthday coming up? Invite casual friends and acquaintances in case they would be interested. Be inclusive and try to include everyone you can. Choose plans that fit the environment where you're meeting these people. I wouldn't invite co-workers I hardly know to a family reunion, for example.
Taking initiative to invite others indicates that you're willing to take the friendship further and allows for future plans to come up down the line. Plus, it always helps to treat others how you want to be treated.
Those are some general tips I've acquired over the years. One area I'm not very good in is online stuff. I'm horrible at making online friends lmao. The only reason I use Discord is to talk to irl friends. I believe stuff like Discord or Snapchat can be a powerful tool in getting to know people but I don't really know how to utilize it. Some people do though and even used them on me before. A lot of friendships I've had stemmed from people consistently talking to me on Discord or Snapchar without being too pushy. Although, do try to expand your learning in social skills and try to learn as much as possible in order to improve your skills. Research online. Not everything works for everyone, and a lot of it really is trial and error and seeing what works for you. These are general strategies and tactics that have worked for me so far. I can't give specific advice because I don't know you, don't know what opportunities you have, or where your comfort level is at in social situations
strange... without friends its like strange
"I was liked for the whole class, no bullying, I never made anyone cry"
I think most of us lived this.
Unfortunately i was bullied by some idiots... anyway
@@midnightfox5684 same the secondary school was bad but the primary was the worst, thanks God the bachelour was my best stage of my life
Not really...
What does "I was liked FOR the whole class" mean?
Not lame enough to hang with the losers. Not cool enough to hang with the popular kids. Cordial with pretty much anyone, sometimes even having conversations and what seemed like a connection, only for another schoolyear to pass with almost no meetings outside of class.
This was my high school. With the exception of a couple guys, this was my college. There's nothing wrong with me, I don't think. I just couldn't relate to anyone.
Out of all stories about loneliness I've ever heard, this might be the most relatable. Just staying at home distracting myself, that one best friend I just stop talking to even though we live next to each other, not fitting in because most other people already knew each other, nobody thinking I'm interesting enough to make friends with me, just being there hoping that maybe something would happen. I don't know what to say. I see myself just like that guy, sitting in a car wasting my 20's because no friends and there's nothing much I can do about it.
It’s not hopeless. I can understand you very well. You can become interesting though. You gotta know yourself better and you need to notice the positive qualities that you DO have. Yes you have positive qualities as crazy as it sounds.
You gotta practice a bit with people, you know. Take more initiative. Invite yourself to stuff if that makes sense. Like asking if you could join people. I know it takes energy to do that. You can’t expect people to make friends with you. You need to make friends with people. Be the approacher.
The mindset of „I‘m not interesting enough“ is limiting you. But idk what to say to you.
What I really want to say is please don’t give up. The course of your life can depend on this. Don’t become a loser. Your struggles are valid but some things I‘ve learned is that some things aren’t nearly as impossible as your mind tries to make it out to be.
Getting friends will not make you any less lonely if you will get into their friendzone. Real friends require certain level of homosexuality because you need to get a bit more intimate than just cold business relationship.
Without that no matter how many friends you will have you will feel as lonely as if you had noone.
@@deltaxcd i think you mean vulnerability
@@adventurer2700
I don't think its vulnerability. Intimacy does not make you vulnerable it is just scary because your partner may not react to it as you would like. Vulnerability is when you expose compromising information about yourself which later can be used against you.
When you have time to yourself it's time do something with your time. Learn something new that can be of benefit. 1 or 2 GOOD friends is more than enough.
It’s weird how the generations and mentalities are drastically different based on which country you live in.
We don’t have this problem in the Pacific Islands, everyone practically knows each other or the cousin of the brother who’s the son of the aunt… you get the picture.
Our mentality is very community oriented and centered on hospitality so it’s impossible for you to not know people here.
Your blessed to grow up on a small tropical island. Everyone knows eachother & lifes simple. You ever had to grow up in New York life is dreadful.
@@michaelweston409
Idk about life in the city
In the islands life can be harder at times but overall I won’t change this lifestyle for anything else
It all depends where you live too, Rural areas tend to have more welcoming people from my expirence. Learned that when I moved from Texas to LA
That's good to hear. Community is so important. Community-building and high-trust-societies were intentionally subverted and destroyed here, you learn once you bother to look into it. Now most of us are doomers, consciously or not.
@@Red_Devil_2011
That’s sad, where I live people say hello to one another even if they don’t necessarily know each other.
It’s common to invite neighbors and newcomers to the neighborhood over to eat dinner or even breakfast and to help one another in our neighborhoods if there’s anything.
I lost all my friends as soon as high school ended. Never made a single attempt to reconnect with them. It sounds like i hate them but that's not the case at all. I can't quite fully articulate why I just drifted off from them. I just kind of hate being around people, and yet i hate being alone for extended amounts of time.
What a cruel trick God played on me.
Same here. Many times I want someone to spend time with and talk to, but the next day I think that to keep friends you need to be there for them and keep in touch and it's hard, because I often want to be alone. The craziest days are when at the same moment I want to be around people and alone. Not the mention that I feel lonely in the crowd, so that's just some next level shit lol
Wow Same And today I still feel that way!
same here my man
The school district I went to high school in had already done the big school merge by 6th grade, so when I started school in my HS everyone had already formed their friend group for 3 years at that point. I could get along well with most everyone in my school, but I only did things outside of school with a couple of guys. Once school was over, I immediately lost all contact with them.
I saw one of the guys I used to hang out with 4 years later and he was working for Porsche as an engineer, meanwhile I was working at some hole in the wall body shop. We didn’t have a ton that we could relate with anymore since he had gone to college and I hadn’t, so after the one meetup we didn’t meet up again or talk either. I’ve gotten very good at being alone, but it still gets lonely sometimes.
the last sentence hit me bro :(
This feels like a mirror that extends beyond what I’ve lived and shows what may await for me and it terrifies me.
Same here, same here
True
im not gonna let myself become that
@@sophilia8565 I’ve said stuff like this a lot but it really is hard to change like that
Black Mirror
It's kinda painful how accurate this is... makes me think about all my mistakes and my problems I caused myself with my personality
If you want to talk about it im willing to listen.
@@thesaddestdude3575 appreciate it, stranger on the Internet. Maybe , not in a TH-cam comment section...
We should make a loner reddit. I'm down 👐 where we can all talk
@@tence_6965 well, makes sense lmao
we need to make a place or idscord we can connect. casuse i can unleash my shit to strangers but dont trust telling people i know my feelings
I'm feeling it. I'm also 23 and it's hard to find people I can call my friends. I have one internet friend whom I knew in real life, but I’m not sure that we communicate sincerely and not just out of boredom.
Despite my introversion and slight social phobia, I always strived to be the first to communicate with people. But one way or another, all my childhood friends, friends from school left me or exchanged me for someone else. I don’t know why this is, because I always tried to be a good person.
Now I'm tired of looking for someone and hoping for something. But deep down in my soul there is still a hope that I will meet my only true friend
É porque amigos da escola não são amigos de verdade, nunca foram.
the worst part is that i can relate to like 90% of the things said in the video...
I always envied my dad. No matter where he was, he could strike up a conversation with someone and chat to pass the time. Even those close-fisted, stuck up looking types that I wouldn't dare even look at. It's amazing how far a smile and friendly conversation with a stranger will go. It helps being interesting and being able to read people. It's something I'm continuing to master but I'll be lucky if I get even half as good at it as he was.
Its helpful skill
I'm an "introvert's introvert" but I developed that skill. It's what I do to reduce my suffering from being around people I don't want to be around. When you learn to talk about nothing to everyone, it makes being around them more tolerable. If you keep doing it, you will get better at it, because when you look into it, he was probably having the same 10 conversations over and over.
Most people are more approachable than one first thinks. I mean, I wouldn't go up to a 1%er and start chit-chatting, lol. But as the saying goes "Be kind for everyone is fighting a difficult battle." 99% of people don't want to know us, but they're willing to shoot the shit about the weather for 5 minutes. As an introvert, I hate people coming up to me which is part of why I've learned to "draw first blood".
It’s pretty fun honestly (as someone who can) but I can totally see how it’d be very hard to do
It's because he grew up before cell phones were popular. People would talk at bus stops or before class to just kill time, after a few weeks of this, friendships started forming. Now, everyone has their nose buried in their phones as a defensive measure, to avoid someone engaging with them. Engagement is what it's all about, so they're robbing themselves.
@@burningdaylights Having a big family with lots of siblings was more common and fostered better social skills.
This is what happens when you dont put points in social skills during character creation
We basically become some depressed empty vessels... I can confirm, 0/10 would never do that again.
I don't know why, but this is the funniest comment i've seen in this video among other inspirational or sad stories
But having these brings superficial relationships mainly .. probably better than none
I do sure we at some part when kid has social skills but it affected by the circumstances and yeah no one teach anyone social skill even in school as far as I can tell except someone invokes the topic/you just meet the topic
It doesn't seems like a big deal but you will feel that it is some kind of deal in adulthood
Then what did I put my points into? Reading comp? DID ALL MY POINTS GO INTO A COLLEGE READING LEVEL?
У меня сложилось впечатление что я сейчас провел разговор с самим собой ,такой внутренний монолог после которого я должен подвести итог и прострелить себе голову ,все что описано в этом видео на 90 % описывает мою жизнь , за тем лишь исключением что в школе я подвергался буллингу и был совсем не любим, серой мышью которая боялась лишний раз посмотреть кому то в глаза , не говоря уже о том что бы с кем то заговорить , эта дружба что была описана в видео , дружба ради убийства скуки во время занятий , на работе ... Это преследует меня , в каком бы коллективе я не оказывался , стоит мне подумать что я нашел людей с которыми имею общие интересы, с которым просто приятно проводить время вместе , стоило нашим путям немного разойтись и все связи обрывались , причем даже в том случае если я сам инициировал общение после , в ответ были лишь односложные ответы и отговорки , отсутствие обратной связи , моя ли это проблема ? Проблема ли моих родителей ? Которые развелись когда я был маленьким и в итоге остался расти с мамой , которая не смогла дать мне должного воспитания...
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До 16 лет меня не особо беспокоило мое одиночество , я просто закрывался в мире видеоигр , или же своих фантазий , возможно мне ещё помогал так называемый синдром навязчивых грез , когда я мог часами ходить туда сюда по кухне и представлять разные ситуации с собой ,будь я героем фентези мира из недавно просмотренного фильма ,мультика , или же просто разные ситуации из жизни , где я мог быть таким каким хотел бы быть ,а не тем кем я являюсь , разговаривая с самим собой , но с возрастом, а мне сейчас уже почти 23 года , меня начал очень тяготить тот факт , что единственные от кого я могу получить сообщение , так это от родителей , либо от оператора сотовой связи...
If anyone ever feels the same as Mark, there is a little tip: when you meet someone new, always ask questions and pay attention to what they say and try to remember it, keep asking until they ask you something and then answer in the most interesting way possible, (wihtout liying) keep in mind that most people will end their answers wiht "And you?" so ask about things that you are interested on or that you have a good answer for
@Redemption Ryan do they?
@Redemption Ryan So sad to hear that, that usually works really well from me and my friends. Maybe try with other people?
As Billy Joel sang in the Piano Man
“Yes they're sharing a drink they call loneliness
But it's better than drinkin' alone”
Oh yhea, I remember listening to this song, while a prnguin fell down a cliff.
@@ADRENERGlC excuse me, what?
As a long Islander myself.
Nothing a little bottle of red, bottle of white won’t fix.
Sing us the song of the piano man! Sing us the song, my friend!
@@friedlemon5172 its a meme but the bird lives
the biggest miracle Jesus did was to have 12 friends at age 33.
One of which betrayed him for 30 lousy silver coins.
@@Ozymandias1 Seems realistic.
@@Ozymandias1 >Mike Pence taking silver shillings after betrying Trump
Underrated comment lol. Never heard this one before
I'm literally 23 years old and have no friends , got no time for it .
This is as close to a masterpiece as it can get.
The gloomy music at the end combine with " So maybe you are watching me for the last time and this short film told you the story of my life, which wasn't the worst that I could have, but wasn't any good either" - it's almost like a suicide note, and judging by the gunshot at the end, I think Mark is gone...
I really didn't think I'd get to the end of this video but it's scary how accurate it was for me and comforting knowing there's others out there.
Same
"It wasn't the worst that I could have, but it wasn't any good either" is such a simple and concise statement, yet it rings so deep.
Not great, not terrible either
..you need to pray to JESUS CHRIST , YESHUA THE MESSIAH to give you strentgh...wisdom and knowledge ...you are a child of GOD ...you just need to pray..fast...work on yourself...LOOK AT the movie ATHEIST DELUSION ...
@@ivanivanjo7407 we have tried
How does that ring so deep lmao. That’s Litteraly loser talk. Just justifying your complains about your situation. If you don’t like it then do something about it. Then being ok with being a loser.
Non of us remember what normal used to be like, at least not gen z and millennials. So we can’t remember. We don’t know what’s normal anymore thats why we’re saying it’s “not too great, not too terrible”.
“That’s rough buddy”
I imagine your first girlfriend turned in to the moon
His mother turned into the moon
It really is though
"Have you ever done DMT?"
@@Hawaiiitalian avatar moment
Well I was somehow in the same situation from 18 to 25 years old. I realized it was kinda my fault. The fact was that I just hanged out with People, talked about trivial stuff without real interest and the got back home to do it again the next day. I understanded that nobody really cared about me, because I really didnt cared about anyone. When was the last time that I offered a friend to help him buying his groseries or cooking? When was the last time I planned a party for a friends birthday? Never. So I decided to really really try, I choosed some People I judged where good and decided to really care about their lifes and I made some very good friends that I think will be there forever.
I’m currently 17 and J realize that I’m sort of going in the direction Mark went. This video really hit me.
same man ima be 17 in 2 months and this shit is becoming terrifying, I'm legit having a panic attack
I'm almost 19 been like this since I was 14 tbh I got used to it doesn't bother me anymore but I would be lying if I said I didn't want someone to talk to or hangout with once in a while, hopefully my job offers me more solutions and perhaps I can make some friends and expand my circle
@@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820 yo it's been 4 months, has your situation changed since then??
@iiCounted2134 yo I seen your other comments on a other video I'm just say I'm glad that I'm not the only 17 year old who isn't panicking about adulthood
@--novus-ordo-secrolum-un--8820 Same I’ve been like that since 14... fucking sucks
“I’m the bad guy?”
“Yeah.”
…”how did that happen?…I did everything they told me to…”
-Falling Down
This.
"I'm the bald guy?"
One of my favorite movies
Whats this movie?
C'mon, is that why my chicken is drying out in the oven? Hey, they lie to everyone, they lie to the fish
the worst part about our society is some people never get the chance to learn proper social skills. Those same people are shamed for their lack of experience which makes it worse, and also happens with dating too. Its a horrible spiral. I'm grateful I have had a lot of experiences with friends in my late teens/early 20s. im a late bloomer when it comes to talking to women and getting experience in that front at 26, so now all I want to do is be in a relationship/commit to someone which I'm currently doing rn, or at least starting
Yeah. I’m in that spiral. No friends, and whenever I reach out it’s usually met with a “im busy but thank you” or just no response at all. A couple times I’ll even get laughed at. It’s a losing game for a lot of us, you really have to spend all your energy building those skills or else you’re dead. The nail on the coffin is dating. Girls want men who’ve dated and know what they’re doing so the inexperienced ones struggle big time with dating. Unfortunate our society is flailing that direction but we can’t change other peoples minds.
As a person who always tries to be friendly, hang out with lonely people and support them, i can tell that you nailed this overthinking and overanalyzing thing about everything they do.
Hang out with weirdos and losers got it
I like how we're talking about how similar Marks life is to ours but not making any attempts to connect with eachother
Lol it really do be like that.
I fucking hate TH-cam lol. My comment got deleted when the worst thing in it was "your [rude three letter word referring to someone's rear]"
was referring to all the people not trying to interact in these comments.
But as I was trying to say, now hyper-self censored, I tried with like 10 people but only one of them is still sort of talking to me in the comments after a day or two, most didn't even respond once. I don't have much in the way of friends but I really see why a lot of these people have no friends lol. I get that initiating can be hard, but if someone else initiates and you ignore it, I don't want to see you whining about having no friends in these comments. Unbelievable bro.
Maybe some haven't seen the notification yet or something, but a few people responded once or twice and then stopped so some mfs saw it and didn't do shit lol
@@panasane Hii
Can't help but feel that this is the creator of this channel speaking through this. You okay anon?
No
@@MillenniaThinker If you want a friend I can be one.
@@MillenniaThinker 😔
@@MillenniaThinker hit the gym 😈
@@MillenniaThinker hit the gym
I went through a period after college where things just disintegrated and my friends and I lost touch. That early to mid 20's phase will often suck. The next toughest part is having people in your own age group start to distance themselves from you if you have a not so great job or less income. I think finding a place of worship and a community helped somewhat. Presently I have hobbies I found that I can share and I have my "martial arts" friends, and my this or that friends. I'm 50 now. I have one or two friends I can rely on. I'm married. It's OK. Hang in there guys. People come and go. Stay busy. Exercise, I suggest a martial art or crossfit. Learn guitar.
I'm from Vietnam and went to grade 11 in Canada. The cultural difference was insane and it made making friends almost impossible, it still does now that I'm 23. Everyone looks different, talks about experiences, events, celebrities, music, and memes movies I've never seen or taken part in. Really makes you feel like an outcast. And as an immigrant you have more to worry about than just school and work, it's all very stressful and it alienates you even more from the rest. All I can do is push through till the day I get to have a life and a good real friend. God bless us all, brothers.
The 20s can be a terrible decade for men. The only thing I miss about those years is my metabolism.
i felt that
Imagine the world where people would describe their most healthy and free youth years as a "terrible decade". I am honestly terrified of what will come next.
Women too, sadly.
Fellas, your mid thirties are awesome. I've noticed women like older guys quite a bit, and by the time your 35 you've had some experiences and know things about life, women, relationships, and hopefully have built up your mental strength to handle life's problems. I 100% agree that my 20's were hard. Didn't know how to handle all that stuff. You figure out who you are in your 20's, it solidifies in your 30's, and your confidence skyrockets because your secure w yourself.
Tldr; hit the gym 😎
@@UCABrSfFxOw_91MsYSwPABqQyeah, I relate to this feel as well as a woman. This kind of struggle doesn't vary much between men and women
I consider myself extremely lucky for having the same group of friends since 2006. Seventh grade for us. We’re still rock solid.
try to never fuck it up. youll regret it. speaking of experience of ruining great friendships and relationships
@@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more that ain’t happening. Like I said, we’re rock solid. I’d take a bullet for them and I know they’d do the same for me.
I’ve had the same friends for over a decade as well (since std 2 which is equivalent to 3rd grade I think, I was 8) I don’t know why but it’s just not easy to make new ones.
Over my school years, I have lost so many friends. After my graduation this year, almost of my friends ghosted me.
But I'm glad my original group in high school are around and active. I tried to make friends in Discord but most friendship last a day or two
This is pretty much the same for me. I've got 3 guys that I know would take a bullet for me and I'd do the same for them.
Gf of 5 years just left though and my social circle of females has all branched off to having kids/getting married/long term relationships. I have no clue how I'm going to meet a female without crafting some fake online persona. All my pictures of myself were with my ex
It's strange how people here come from around the world but we have the same problem, i'm from Indonesia and im not even completely understand English (im still learning) but i completely understand what are you feeling guys. Hope you guys have a better life and out from this loneliness
I think in non western countries friendship is more solid...
Yeah, I'm 23 about to be 24 in 4 months.
I don't exactly know what more I can do than be honest with people, but for many it seems impossible to feel like people don't care about them. Having 20 years to see how people don't want to check in on me, get to really know more about me, or see me as anything other than a therapist when times get hard is saddening.
And if I have no success with friendships why would I be hopeful for someone to care about me outside of the immediate family I live with especially in regards to a S/O. It really puts a drain on you when you're told that it's just your fault or that you didn't pick up signs etc. When in reality things would be a lot smoother if we were willing to speak to each other more.
It's more than ironic how I went from a free spirit trying to make friends with everyone including the ones who weren't included, into my present self that is secluded from the world yet still trying to help people as best as I can. It almost makes me cry.
Edit: A big portion of my inability to keep friends was due to moving around repeatedly until I got to High School, by then it was far too late for me (Girl literally scooted away from me the first day I sat down, ironic we became friends later but she was into my friend at the time so I can see why in a sense)
I'm also 23 years old, and it seems like every year there's a new person or character that's the same age as me, and they talk about what's going on in their life... the scary part is that there are things that match of what's going on in my life.
So true man... I'm 23 years old now as well lmao
Lol, same. Maybe it's all just a simulation and only you or me are real.
Well yea, it's 2021, there are things that are the same happening in everyones lives, we all live in the same society. You and I are not that unique.
It really doesn't get much if any better in one's 30s and reading around to find there are people decades older who are in the same shoes is depressing.
Same
“If only you knew how bad things really are.” -Anon
This. Can close comments now.
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"Time can be unforgivable, at first it seems that you have plenty, but then you don't have any" damn. That hurt a little too much.
I've never experienced this, the only explanation i have is due to my religious practices always helped and brought me peace and joy. I plead with those who are experiencing what is shown in the video, practicing Christianity really does help spiritually and mentally.
I loved how the "viewer" randomly skipped parts of the vid as if they were just a "normie", or just somebody who doesn't relate to what the poster is talking about and just watched it out of boredom and weren't even that interested
So I'm a nomrie?
Hello babou
@@bingchilling994 yup
@@SZJA sad norrmie
Just because I have a low attention span doesn't mean I am a normie smh
I'm almost 23 and I relate to this on a depressing amount of levels.
Consider yourself lucky that you're still so young.
One year younger and I am at already that low, I am not sure how will I be able to go on
Are you somehow addicted to social approval and attention? "Friends" wasn't a realistic depiction of young adult life, neither are beer commercials. Get money get a gf.
@@86Corvus oh, wow! What a brilliant idea, how come I never thought about it myself!
Do you seriously think is it this easy?
@@niccolomiglio6996 What if we get together and destabilize the system and government.
Finding friends is the easy part, maintaining it however, is the hardest part. Life is never smooth sailing, you are bound to run into problems that would take your attention away.
People always talk about how they wish to find new friends, yet they always only stick with their already known friends. This was especially true in school.
Throughout my life I have found many friends, people who I cherished, but at the end of the day only a few remains. Nothing happened to them, it’s not like their dead or something. It’s just that we decided to move on, and when we do, it seems impossible to take what we have along with us.
I can’t see the future, but I know for certain, that the friends I have now, too, will move on.
Man…life can be cruel sometime. To give you something, only to take it away as time passes by, and as you move on in life.
The fact that i share most of these thoughts, even thinking that nobody would wanna watch videos like this, but here we are, connected to all the people on the world, lonelier that ever
This is unfortunately becoming more common even though "Society" becomes more connected and it often can be hell, Tons of Wojaks stumbling around to find purpose and some meaning to the cycle of life. Living like this will eventually mentally wear anyone out, the lack of socialization draining ones will and ability to enjoy passions and form bonds with other individuals. The disconnect from meaningful bonds tormenting them as they're left to wonder. "Why did I do wrong?" it's why often used to talk to the more outcasted lads in high school, at first they seem like you're typical NPC but often are a loyal friend who will stand by your side though fair weather and hell and high water. It takes time for people like this wojak to come back from life as a quiet spectator but stick around, you'll often find a true friend where you least expect it.
Capitalism is to blame
First comment?
Why are you commenting an essay when the video just released like 2 seconds ago? You gosh darn kids.
@@just_a_turtle_chad never heard that one before
@@haroldwilfred857 the comment is 3 hours old by now so he had the access to it before the realese
Further into his story it started to hit closer to home. If anyone else is feeling the same, lets turn around our lives together, lets make ourselves better people, we can become better if we put effort in it
i hate to admit it but yeah me too but i accepted it and im happy alone
@@DoctorEdgarMcQuack no youre not. If you werent happy alone before it means that your base biological structure demands that you have social relationships. What you feel is desensitisation to the loneliness just the same as someone who thinks they operate fine on 4 hours of sleep. Accept the painful truth and do this:, build muscle (that WILL make you more confident and reduce your suffering to moderate amounts) once you got enough confidence from this you start looking into social exposure therapy and meditation and therapy. Stop being a little bitch is what im saying and never convince yourself again that you "feel fine" being lonely, eventually you will get enough motivation from the pain to do something about it.
@@DoctorEdgarMcQuack you won't be later on.
Easier said than done..
@@makutas-v261 that's true, but you won't give up, will ya?
Hello there apprentice, 33 and no friends here, living by myself since 18, no roomates, no girlfriends, working remote now, life is great
Good luck mate. You seem like a good friend
have you unlocked the flamethrower feet ability yet?
This is a great example of modernity we live through everyday, people put on their cloaks of personality just so they can get their daily dose of attention and a little sense of achievement.
deep down everyone is lonely and very few people have what they can really call "company". They don't even realize it before it's gone... You have to direct your focus on something, anything. Either that be upgrading your social skills or going on a journey of self improvement to have people admire you. But if you are just "there" and living for the sake of living then you get nowhere
You should not do anything to get people to "admire" you, that's such a toxic goal to go after. You should do things that are fulfilling to you and make improvements for your own sake, not to impress or get adulation from other people
I-I I'm just speechless. Because this video almost explains everything I've gone through.
I don't have close friends. And the ones I had don't keep in touch with me anymore. My parents don't really support me and my ideals. I don't have people to accept me for who I am.
It's just shocking to see that there are other people like me.
Thank you for posting this and please never take this video down.
100% I'm with you bud.
..you need to pray to JESUS CHRIST , YESHUA THE MESSIAH to give you strentgh...wisdom and knowledge ...you are a child of GOD ...you just need to pray..fast...work on yourself...LOOK AT the movie ATHEIST DELUSION ...
never take the video down indeed..
Hold on buddy Just hold on
♥️
I’m 23, I haven’t had friends since I was 18, at work the other day these 2 servers ran up to me like they were gonna jump me and we joked around for a minute, it took me back to being a teenager and made me realize how lonely I was and how bad I actually wanted friends again
25 y.o here with no friends. I can’t complain since I am used to it. Had one friend in school until the 5th grade, he moved to. Another city. Then one guy from college, I moved to another country. No option to contact them since messengers are banned there. I am Ok with having no friends. Just never felt a need.
Wow...
I'm like speechless.
This vid really did hit me in the sensitive spot damn.
I'm actually quite schocked by how much i can relate to this.
This video is really something else and will hold a special place in my heart.
Same I don't know why I'm like that..
yeah this also hit me quite hard. Sometimes it's really nice to know you are sharing the same pain with others.
its not hard to make friends and they multiply exponentially the more u make. it's hardest at first I'm sure when you have no initial connections but my advice would be do the things you love the most and find others that do those things. but u can make friends anywhere.
@@ShadyRapture it's not hard to make friends but it's hard to keep the connections going for me at least.
The ultimate reality is accepting this brutal fact: No matter how much you want or wait someone to take you away or have friends automatically, it will never happen.
thats how it feels
11:15 - 11:25 Jesus is always there. All you have to do is turn to him. Please. I want you all to have the peace that I found. Please purchase a Bible and get closer to Christ. Your pain will end.
Three verses:
Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 1:25 (KJV)
25 But the word of the Lord endureth for ever. And this is the word which by the gospel is preached unto you.
John 16:33 (KJV)
33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
@@HebrewsElevenTwentyFive bible is free in many forms nowadays
@@timothyhubert2305 Indeed.
Always expect the worse, that way you are never disappointed
I had friends a few years ago. It ended up being hard to get along with them for multiple reasons, but primarily it was hard to get along with them because they were still stuck in the mentality of high school seniors. They acted childish in my opinion, and so I left the group. It’s not all bad being friendless, you just gotta be comfortable with yourself.
I really hate people who tell people with no friends to find hobbies or hit the gym. They don't realise most people have friends already and won't befriend that guy in the corner. Also I really hoped high school would change my situation but after my first year here, nothing changed as maby people already knew each other and even if I tried to talk a lot no one was willing to create a friendship, I even had some arguments and I think many actually hate me, so people should stop saying high school will change everything. I'd like for things to get better from September when I will start my second year there but I have no real hopes anymore, and by now I became almost immune to loneliness
Yeah. They just say cope instead of listening or understanding someone's life.
You should keep trying…it only gets much harder once you’re out of high school and not around people your own age anymore
I simply cannot walking through the streets without getting depression. I see a lot of beautiful guys and girls (16-23 years old), who are not only beautiful, but can also have fun with friends, they accomplished in their life much more than me, even though they are younger. Comparing 23 years old myself to them, I literally suck in everything: in social abilities, mental abilities, physical abilities, attractiveness, accomplishments, travelling, having fun, etc. And, of course, I do not have any friends...
Get on it get to it, eat the dirt and walk the hard path, 'cause there's no other way when starting from nothing (or if you think you have nothing, but everybody got at least a little something - unless they're morbidly obese; guess they have the grave waiting though).
Just be spontaneous and go do things, idk. Sometimes the only reason you need is "I don't know" and now you know. Just exist and stop worrying about the façade other people put on. As it is what it truly is for most you see: a façade. If that's what you think you want, then build up that false persona and go out in the world, you'll certainly have a level of success in vanity. So question yourself: is what you perceive others as what you want for yourself as well?
Do not be jealous and do not harbor ill feelings about anything if the answer is yes. People are not that blind to strangers from my experience.
If the answer is no, then the road is going to be different, and full of brambles, as at that point you'll be mostly alone and the answers will be very well hidden. Comparatively, the signs will be brighter than if you took the road of the blind... or the normie, whatever name fits.
Have luck good fun
Don't compare yourself to others people
@@Somerled_Pox You can't change who you are. I need full root access to all my memories in my entire life in order to do that. It's beyond my control.
Get out of ur comfort zone: change your style, pick up a new hobby or search about a new thing. The differences u make can make ur interestingness shine (sorry eng is not my native lango but I think it fits beautifully here lol) and never give up on yourself. With these qualities or without, you can always make your life fun and exciting
I'm a male turning 35 in couple of months, trust me when you reach this age you'll realize people just come and go. Having friends is not that important. Chasing excellence in life is. What matters to me now is building my own business, meeting more women that suits my criteria, and hopefully one day having my own children. Career and family is what matters
Despite all our different lives, it’s hilarious how we’re united by the same experiences/feelings. I’m gonna go shed a tear now
We are all the same in one way or another
As he explained the part, how he waits for somebody to come and hell him hits deep.
At my lowest point while being suicidal, my father told me :"Nobody will come and help you, you have to help yourself"
In some sense it broke me, but when hope for a miracle was gone, i realised he was right.
And i escaped my dark pit.
What i learned was: You are your past and your future-self, so treat as such. Be the caring person to heal your traumas ftom your childhood but also disciplin yourself as your 40y.o version, because nobody will do it for you.
Break your limits, dont be mediocre (because its easy), evolve by failure and learn from others mistakes (read).
Imagine a old future Version of yourself, filled with regret... lost potential and life thats filled with boring memories.
Dont give up, only when absolutly necessary.
Try to talk about Problems with your family or friends.
Be honest, even if it hurts, eventually you will create a wonderful relationship , nobody of you could have imagined.
You have no right to pull yourself further into despair, darkness and misery, because you wouldnt treat another Person like this...Do you?
You are the only one, who experiences your life and that alone is precious.
Wish you all the best, you can do it. :3
I had a couple of friends in middle school, but being with them always stressed and pained me without me realising it fully at the time. I had to change my personality and make my conversations more bland and masculine to fit in without thinking about it and there I was, thinking that everything was okay enough. I still had people who bullied me and my so called friends even joined the bullies somewhat. That is when I decided to not go to the same high school as any of them, besides one of my childhood friends that I still respected at the time.
There I was on my first month in the highschool. I tried to make a new start and speak to a lot of people but I still never hanged out with anyone outside of school. Then we were told by the 2nd years that there was a yearly event taking place (Our countrys high school tradition where new students are being welcomed to the school by throwing food and other greasy/moist items at them in a park. After that students drink alcohol all night). After skipping the initial event I gathered courage and finaly went there in the next week with a couple of those fake friends from middle school after one of them insisted and teased me.
After walking with them for a while I just decided to stop and see what would happen. That group which I was in had 2 of my former bullies so I did not want to be in it anyways. After stopping nobody looked back or waited for me. I was completely forgotten! Then I finaly understood how blind I was all this time, I almost went straight back home. Anyways, I decided to try to find random groups to join and talk to and by sheer luck I met my current friend group. Its like they were thrown to me on a silver plate and all I had to do was to just go to talk to them, and repeat the process in school.
I always had thought that having friends is immensly difficult. That you need your entire energy to just meet with them once and that I had an unusual, unlikeable personality that I had to bury and change just to have some friends. I am glad that I was wrong. Being completely yourself and having friends that make effort to hang out with you is truly a blessing that everyone deserves! Exiting your comfort zone is the right call! Go meet new people while its still easy!
As much as I hate to admit he’s basically describing my life and I can actually see myself like this in a couple years once I graduate from high school
(Edit) I decided to work out, become more social-able and I asked the girl I liked out. She said yes and while I am still in a pretty dark place it feels like start to rely on others for emotional support; while it’s not easy it’s much better than doing nothing
(Edit 2) it’s been over a year now and I must say I’m doing a whole lot better. I’m more socially active, I’m in better shape and found boxing which has given a purpose which is to a win a belt (in what weight division I’m not sure yet). And while I there are days where I really don’t want to try and just give up, I’m now aware that I really can do now is to keep on pushing forward no matter how uncomfortable and painful it might be and I also read some of the comments and I’m truly grateful for those who offered support and I wish you guys the best.
Already am there bud its amazing
You can be saved by Jesus Christ no matter what sin you committed
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
John 3:16
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Matthew 11:28
In other words Jesus is saying repent and come to Me, all who are longing to be happy through and through .
If you are ready to give your life to Christ just say this prayer
Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. I turn from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior.
@@lamyanba5652 spread your lies somewhere else
@Benjamin the Great what if u dont believe in god?
There are woemen who are like this, but no one believes 😒.
At work, everyone is twice his age. That's a good clue about his life. Keep grinding king.
Still better than everyone being half his age 🤔
I dont get it.... maybe i'm just dumb :(
@@tjdude09 basically, if his co-workers are older, by that logic we could deduce that his co-workers took more time/years to get the same job anon has. So basically, anon managed to grind his way a little up the work hierarchy?
But of course, he might work at a normal job where all are older just by pure randomness
Maybe he's a professor at a university where all the other professors are old, stale, grinches who once had a life like him, now he's on the path to becoming one if them.
@@kung-borean30 I work a job making 24 with 48 overtime starting. All old dudes because nobody my age wants to do the work lmao. Shipyard is no joke but thats where the money is. They did call me a pussy for saying I was tired after a 24 hour shift. Those dudes are a different breed.
25f, friendless, never been in a relationship. Got myself a dog, It's the only way I can touch and talk to a living creature 😔 I knew I was doomed early on in my life. Even as a kid I was the quiet one (when I was 8 my teacher forced 2 girls in my class to be friends with me) I tried faking by being loud and obnoxious from then on till the age of 14, i did get people to hang out with, but it never felt genuine. From the age 15 I went back to being quiet, and I started to feel like I should die at 18 (before everyone else realises that im a failure). Never managed to kms, and everyone in my family knows im a loser. To add salt to the open wound, i lost my job a year ago (it was a miracle that I even got employed in the first place). Now I feel more and more hopeless. I don't think I'm gonna achieve anything in life. I know that I should die to not be a burden on my family, yet Im too weak 😔 sorry just needed to rant
Your worth as a human being comes not from your strength or apparent weakness, but rather from the Image of God which you bear and are made in. Don't ever be tempted to kill yourself or to simply fade away, as these feelings will then lead you to further self-neglect, which will drive you further into despair. Basically, being a loser is a cycle of self-destruction, one which I am guilty of falling into.
As a 21 year old male, one thing I have uncovered is that I actually am extremely hesitant and anxious about going out and doing what I want to do, and this extends to being afraid of making conversation. It is possible that this arose in me from perfectionism, but I cannot say. Either way, I am trying to simply be more reckless in how I live my life, just doing things rather than fantasising about them in my room (a habit I developed as a child as a form of escapism from bullying). As a result, I decided to get an old broken outboard motor, fix it up, and put it on a dinghy (with my uncle's guidance), because I wanted to get into engines and practice mechanical skills. My parents always discouraged me from learning new skills, saying things like "but you're no good with your hands," or simply "but you don't know how to do that!": I will never learn if I don't try. I am glad to be now old enough to have some agency to do what I should have done years ago.
Anyway, the point I am trying to make in venting this is that I think the solution is simply to live. To be without remorse for not meeting others' expectations and desires. That said, take my advice with heaps of salt, as I am still a messed up detached loser with no friends, no social skills and no job, who fantasises about living like Big Boss from Metal Gear (or "Mad" Mike Hoare to use a real life example).
You say that you don't think you will achieve anything in life. What is it you want to achieve in life?
Just wanted to say that you're heard. Life in this day and age isn't easy. I know you're afraid of making mistakes and going the next step feels harder and harder with each time, but look behind you, you made it to where you are right now. You are the version of yourself that has survived and strives. This might sound strange but maybe you're being too hard on yourself there. It's quite astonishing for me to see anyone being able to take care of another living being, babies and animals dependent on us alike. Just take care of yourself, too, alright?
I would recommend you try to look for hobbies that are outgoing, it doesn't really matter what it is as long as you're doing it in a group. For me specifically it was martial arts - where I also met my first love. She was in her middle thirties and had a dog and was lonely, too. WIth quite a similar past trying to fit in & an overbearing mother that, by wanting the best for her child, pushed her often times far off the limits, damaging her physically and emotionally.
Back then I thought I could help her, but helping her was like draining myself off my energy. I really, really tried to put all my effort into it, but helping her move twice, living through the last days of her beloved dog companion & seeing her at her lowest and being accused of being the cause for some of her issues simultanously while she was only able to halfway keep me in her life as a motivated workforce and financial backer, I eventually just couldn't go on anymore. All that was left in me just collapsed and I broke contact with her.
Now, after Corona, I left behind a mess of what my plans for life were, basically starting from zero years later and I just want to go back to doing martial arts and taking care of myself.
Take care of yourself too, and be open to let people in your life as far as you're willing to go. That's the whole secret.
You will probably have difficulties finding a job even more now that you have a dog, as this means that you will likely have to keep them in your home alone for a long time during most weeks of the year. This is sadly a fact in life, but there are definitely companies that would allow you to bring your dog with you for sure. Ask and only go with how much you're willing to sacrifice, not how much is expected of you - and don't let people rule over your life.
25m, welcome to the club of losers. We are the ones who start many things and cant finish anything for ridiculous reasons or just sick twists of fate, like the pandemic that ended my study in electrical engineering and is the reason why im doing an apprenticeship right now at 25. Childhood was totally screwed.. so much so that i cant even talk about it with others without shocking them.
Im a burden for my family. Have also medical issues but oh well fate is what it is.
What helps me personally to get through is the belief that all your good deeds and all your suffering will get rewarded in your next live.
Some kind words, a friendly gesture or some good advice to someone has much more impact than any amount of money can have, bec. truly good deeds shine through and even break slowly the fabric of this sick egomaniac society.
Also ever considered becoming an educator? You are not too old to do it. You like your dog, kids are kind of like dogs but dumber. If you have the financial security then do it. Kids can do wonders to broken souls and suffering makes people wise and good teachers.
Mark is basically me, and it hurts how accurate this is and how there’s people out there with the same problems as me.
I am 21 years old, never actually lived like a normal person and always in my bedroom filling my mind of internet shit. Gym is not helping me anymore, I still feeling bad and it's getting hard to keep going.
You're not alone in this man, just take it one day at a time
oh yeah. 24 here.
Whatever you can do to learn, learn
If you can distance yourself from tech, try it.
Its a never ending black hole.
To think old people thought television was mind control.
@@KuntChitface mass media _is_ mind control, but it's a lot less interesting to us, since we can now fidget with the settings on our own personal timesink/traps.
Lol I have never had friends
28 here. Last time I saw my friends, was back in 2017. I try maintaining a connection with my uni friends by messaging, but they can't always answer, because they have their own lives to worry about (and they've returned to their own cities since graduation). I'm trying to get into online groups that share my hobby, but somehow, I feel out of place there as well, despite people there having similar interests to my own...
Adult life sucks. I thought that when I grew up, I'd know things and do things; instead, I'm wasting away with vidya and off-brand content to maintain my dopamine levels just high enough to perform my daily adult duties like wageslaving and paying the bills.
I'm 24 and in the same boat.
The only thing brings joys in my life are the little things:
Coffee in the morning, meals, and a nice beer at the park or rooftop.
Same age and I enjoy the same things. Simple pleasures 😎. I also enjoy studying IT. Keeps my mind busy throughout the day.
Same man, just moved to a new city for work after college where I don’t know anyone. Morning coffee and beer after work make the days bearable. It’s a tough world out there especially when you go in it alone
We are all living in the same simulation
23 and this Feels very almost same
same man
I am 23 and I never have friends, personally I never understand the concept of friendship which could be pathetic from others' perspectives but I am happy with the way I am. If I want to have someone who is able to listen to me and support me then I would go to my partner and I am doing the same for them. Having friends just feels uncomfortable and awkward for me and I only see my long term partner and my family as people who are intimate to me
as a 23 year old normie i gotta say this monologue pretty much sums up my whole life
When he said he never hung out outside school, and that it was possible their "friendship" was just passing time between breaks,
I feel that man
yeah that one really hit too close for comfort
Yeah, i have restricted mother (separate from my father). And she never let i hung out and even friends come home to play or talk.
Sports? She actually shamed me if i did, fortnuly my body is kind of naturally shaped
Damn
That really was too close to home
Really made me realize how many friends in school were not really friends. I tried to keep in contact with some people from school but it just slowly stopped after just a few months
This hurts so much. Because it's so true. If you told me ten years ago I'd be watching videos like this I'd tell you you're crazy, but the world is a weird place now, and everything is different and uncertain. I dont ask for much yet that is me right there.
Yeah ik. Right after I changed my school every friends decided to stop contacting me, even though I reached em all out. It’s a sad world we live in
If you told me that 10 years ago, I would sadly agree
..you need to pray to JESUS CHRIST , YESHUA THE MESSIAH to give you strentgh...wisdom and knowledge ...you are a child of GOD ...you just need to pray..fast...work on yourself...LOOK AT the movie ATHEIST DELUSION ...
Go outside or at least interact with people dont cry on the internet it does nothing for you
@@azpiapi you don't know my life. I interact with way more people than is comfortable a day. Especially during covid. I have 2 jobs and currently because of the housing crisis I'm in a homeless shelter. I'm constantly surrounded by people, and no one is genuine or helpful to anyone but themselves.
You must do what you love, and find a way to make it social. I used to be very worried about this. Around 22-23 yrs were the loneliest years of my life. Not because I was much less social then than I am now, but because there was a social shock of suddenly having no friends to talk to or hang out with, whereas in high school and my early college years, I had a good handful of friends that I got along well with and always got to see. Over time, you learn to just focus on doing what you want. But I haven't had romantic relationship, and I'm worried I'm getting to the point where it will become nearly impossible to have one. Not because of my age or health, but because I socially won't be able to adapt to it. It's a strange world we live in.
I'm in my 30s. I don't hang out with people. I work, I go the the store when I need to. And I go home. I don't see people doing stuff and think, " that looks fun" or "they seem like people I should hang out with" or even "she seems nice." When it comes to socializing, I have zero drive. I'll help people out if they clearly need it or if they ask for it. If someone talks to me I'll hold the conversation as long as they do. I don't actively seek to get away from conversation, in fact I like it most of the time. But when the conversation ends, my brain just switches that position off. As if nothing belongs there. I get along with most people, but if they aren't around, it's as if they were never there. It also helps that people seem to not mind it at all.
I already feel like it's been forever. That any connection that may be possible is just a figment of my imagination.
I hope that wherever you disappeared to, you're doing ok.
Having lived 19 miserable lonely years in this planet and hearing that the 20s is harder is very reassuring…
Shit is the same as 19
Yeah after you graduate highschool and enter the "real world"
is when you either become super out going, or slowly painfully dwindle away until you're absolutely nothing. With noone to rely on
I was alone all my teens so it was really only up from there. Went out drinking with coworkers and finally made friends after 7 years.
@@shamicentertainment1262my story is the opposite, had my own group of close nit friends in high school, was perfectly fine,
pretty much got ditched by all of them, and the coworkers I actually liked either quit or got fired
Been living alone and in depression for 8 years now , it started when i was 15, now i am 23
Unironically "hit the gym" did it for me. I'm 21. A 17-year-old lad asked me if he was doing the exercise right. I explained him and I said he could go with me sometime. He's been my gym buddy eversince. People noticed we trained together and asked if they can join in. I created a Whatsapp group with some 15 people in it and people say at what time they'll hit the gym today to see if they can train with someone together.
This gave me some social confidence so I joined a muay thai gym aswell. Mainly for the social contact but learning how to fight is a good bonus obviously. In most martial arts gyms you can participate in group lessons where there are people of your age. If you're somewhat muscular from "hitting the gym" you'll fit right in. I now bring some of my muay thai friends to the bodybuilding gym to train there together.
A few months after I went on muay thai I also joined a soccer club. This one gave the most social experience. There is a real sense of camradery and fraternity. You play in the same team always so people get to know eachother well. Once again, people noticed I was muscular (when in the locker room) and that became my identity. You need atleast something that is apparant of you so people can put some sort of identity on you. After each game or training we also drink beer in the hall, and I think it's obvious to say that alcohol helps in socializing tremendously. The soccer fields are out of town so we always drive home on bicycle with the whole team. When it's a sunny saturday people are not afraid to ask you to come over to there house directly after a game. I started drinking on the weekends with my soccer team and I would meet some of the guys that were "friendly but not friends" from muay thai or the bodybuilding gym and drink and go to their homes to watch a scary movie or some shit.
I also played piano since age 10 orso but never had lessons and never needed any either, but for the sake of socializing I went on piano lessons. There was a girl my age who was new to piano but amazing at playing the harp. She looked like an angel. Talking with her was the scariest thing I would do all week. I was terrified but I did it anyway and now she's my girlfriend.
There is enough opportunity to socialize when you're "old". You just have to put yourself out there. Don't be afraid you'll look like a fool. People are eager to help if you ask them for help. Same as that 17-year-old lad did to me. Thank you, Jan. You're a dear friend.
damn
Everything looks amazing, but you're not old. I'M old, 38 years. You're in the right age to do exactly what you're doing.
Damn, great job man. I’m sixteen and have no friends but go to gym anyways, kinda helps me out since everyone in my class is trying to leave me out of every single conversations, I dont know why
You know what the answer is in your heart. Stop comparing yourself to others and give yourself a chance to be someone unique. Become comfortable in your solitude. and remember, dont give a fuck, talk to lots of girls. Embarrass yourself. Shame means nothing. Kratom is a good substance for loosening inhibitions while remaining in control...
@@AscendedZenith you’ll make it my friend. The best advice I could give to you, would be: to just act like you’ve done everything a million times. If you act as if you’ve done something hundreds of times, it will not only boost your confidence, but it will greatly increase your problem solving skills and improv skills when it comes to conversations.
Sincerely, a good friend.
I've always noticed that all of my friends I had in school literally just stopped talking to me out of the blue, I tried to contact them, ask them what the problem they had with me was. I never ever got a response back. They would read my messages but never reply. I will never understand why people do this.....
Happened to me few years ago and then deleted all my social media, since then I'm on my own
Same hear I contact my old friend but ge never respond back to me ever again.
@@jamespaguip5913 i don't have any way to contact anyone from my past anyway. Last month I moved in the French alps, all alone again I have 7 numbers on my phone which are my coworkers.
I just go to work come back home and try to keep myself busy, workout, draw, but I don't enjoy anything that brought me joy back then.
idk what I'm doing
Man, they are just sadistic. There are this kind of people, don't worry you didn't do nothing wrong . In fact you probably were better than them , that annoyed them. You are a king
Dont care about them, only care about the people who genuinely likes you or is friends with you. Not caring is one of the best things i have done in life besides YOU control your life
This is point on and so relatable but what is disturbing is that, i see many men, including myself trying to built any meaningful social interactions but getting awkward moments or sometimes mockery in return, making it vicious cycle. This will be extremely tough mentally but we will come out stronger.
Mark would later be found that day at a motel in one of the seedier parts of town lying in a tub filled with ice with a number of his organs missing. Phone logs indicated that Mark was to meet with a "Nathan" four hours prior to being found by a staff member.
I lost my friends when I was 15. This hit so close to home. Made a few friends at beginning of high school to improve my life didn't said single word during group conversation because I had nothing interesting to say as a result of being socially invisible. Isolated myself after few months because I felt horrible about myself. Now I am 19 years old with 0 friends and social anxiety just hoping somebody will magically appear and fix my life which is unlikely to happen. I will be stuck in this cycle forever
How and why?
Join the military and save yourself, or you will die waiting.
I would love to be the one who breaks that circle, i am pretty outgoing and easy to make friend with, just hope you find someone like me in your life
This is due to how modern society and relationships works. You just have to lift yourself up and just start speaking. Focus on making acquaintances first instead of friends. Also if you have a family of which you have good relationships with, then spend more time with them.
Introverts go through this usually.
For the young men reading- here are a few things I’ve learned regarding this topic that may help you:
Don’t stress about how old you are and the friends you’ve not had, you can start fixing it any time. The later in life you make friends the more you’ll value them.
Don’t stress about others looking happy/popular, only compare yourself to previous versions of yourself.
You need to do 2 things:
1 - to be someone who is likeable/relatable,
2 - and to be in a location often enough where someone can develop a liking towards you.
1. If you’re negative, have a victim mentality, are uninterested in things - that is how you will come across and you will not be likeable. If you are these things- realise that you have the power to change them. Begin developing yourself - mind, body, social skill. Look into stoicism and learn that your life is determined by the quality of your own thoughts and how you choose to react to events- not determined by those events themselves. Start small, aim to inculcate one new attitude at a time. Work on your physical ability, whether it’s through gym, endurance, sport, yoga, whatever. Just pick something. A mans body is designed to be developed, your mind and confidence will develop with it. Doing both these things will improve your social appeal and make you more likeable and improve people’s first impressions of you. It may take a long time but I’m sure you’ve got the time anyway. To start developing your social skill, you don’t need to have friends. You can stop avoiding things that involve people, you can try talking to people at work, you can change jobs from nightshift shelf-stacker to working behind the counter and dealing with people all day. Come up with small goals and hit them, even if you fail, but keep trying. Developing social skill ties into point 2.
2. You need to put your true self (hopefully now with improved likability) into a place where you are exposed to people often enough that you actually rub off onto someone. The more introverted you are, the longer this will take so keep that in mind when deciding where you want to place yourself. It may be the location you’ve decided to develop your body (sport etc), but gym is not recommended initially as the author pointed out. It might be a language class, toast masters, cafe you go to every day, sports team, orienteering club, volunteer organisation, workplace with dudes who will have a similar interest etc.. For myself it was a part time, team based, physical job that required a high level of fitness. It took years but I have been involved an extremely tight group of mates. In this place, don’t be a fraud- be yourself. If you still feel like people don’t like you after years, rinse and repeat step 1 and choose a different location.
Anyway, this is nowhere near exhaustive but hopefully it helps someone. Good luck boys, chins up
I guess I was always a quiet kid but i had friends before high school but instantly started reacting to anxiety entering high school by isolating socially during classes but had a table of people to eat by that knew my name at least and one was a past close friend. I was a late bloomer and very self conscious about my looks envious of the older looking students that picked on me for being quiet and started calling me school shooter. This only hurt me more as I only coped with it by responding with verbal humor bc I felt weak. Being Unmedicated
İmagine having the same problem like Mark but living in a third world country so you can't do anything to change it. Thats me
@@moviefanperson6294 Same man. I get shitted on for being strange when I'm trying to initiate a conversation.
@@MrOdaniels that place you just described.. if thats true then i hope the guy who left wouldve been a real shooter, how can he just leave and not atleast thumb one of those fucko's eyes out
Chad comment right here
You know sometimes porn, game and movie addiction , opens our minds that we see through people , absorb their poison and become venemous like never before, year after year , .........make us alone
It is a small group of people like us who cant stand fake people, but inside we are the most gruesome creatures who wants to be loved.
Thats very poetic.
Only tip that ever worked for me is doing something new. start a new hobby or change where you work could make huge differences. It didn't make me the happiest man alive but i really did help.
I am literally 23 years old and have no friends I just go to work and come home. I kind of do it to myself. I'm not bad looking or weird but it feels like social "events" drain my life energy and I start to dislike the people I am around. The strange thing is I am happy this way.
But are you truly happy? Becaus part of you needed to tell somone in guess.
If you want to talk about it im willing to listen.
@@thesaddestdude3575 well I assume he felt the need to make this comment seeing as his situation relates heavily to Thinker’s video, he isn’t necessarily sad being alone, I actually 100% feel the same way as him
Yeah me too, i dont have friends, i dont go out and I'm a real asshole to strangers but I'm happy being by myself and my family, sometimes i feel about them the same way but in the end they are the only ones that i can stand
i am younger but i can still relate to you, i feel happy this way, better than never but sometimes the loneliness strikes so hard it makes me wonder what the fuck is wrong with me
I would not say that I have no friends but I also don't see any point in those social interactions.
I Just noticed that many other people just need to be in some company even if there is nothing to do but they seem to be interested just in being with other people. And for me this looks pointless and boring.
Something I've noticed is that Mark is a guy who has been presented a lot of chances to do something that takes him out of his comfort zone. The circle of friends, the kids who teased him in grade school, the girl who wrote him a love letter, going to the gym and not commuting with anyone.
When you do things outside of your comfort level, it's difficult to fully commit to being outside of it. When given opportunities that could change your life in small ways, they pile up like a snowball and whether or not you chose to accept those opportunities is up to you.
I've made a lot of the same mistakes that
Mark has and it could be safe to say others who've watched this video might have made the same mistakes as well. When life throws small little opportunities at you, like someone glancing at you at the gym or a public place like your school campus, or you just have the urge to talk to someone. Is an opportunity for you to do so, even if you feel uncomfortable it's better to slightly embarrass yourself than to live in stagnation.
Treat life like the adventure it is, and it will give you back adventure.
I like this man.
Beautiful
I agree. However I would argue that's some people problem. I used to think that I was struggling with something smiliar but the answer was that I was being used and people truly didn't like me. So I needed to go to a different environment and got better results. So I learned to keep your mind open and don't fall apart at rejection. But also try to figure yourself out
@@mario125ww This was very useful
This is the answer. Start small. Take a tiny, tiny step.
19 and 0 friends here 😆 but I practice stoicism so I am coming in terms with everything
basically the story of my life, only i didn't even get as far as making the "close" childhood best friend.
incredibly average to the point where i unironically wish i had a struggle, or anything to which i can blame, but i know i am far too much of a coward to ever actually change anything.