What was what the Mafia dude from the other video said...Something about that one day will never come. Chad guides but even he can't completely raise you up as a man
Dating in your 30's is like walking on broken glass, stepping on landmines while trying to defuse a nuclear reactor from overheating, but you're just a plumber.
«You can do it later» is lie for both men and women. It’s does not get easier after school, or after college, or after university, or after you get job. It becomes harder. Progressively harder.
I would say this is relative to your situation. Personally, it only became easier for me around the age of 29-30. I overcame my complexes and, sitting alone, I was finally able to figure out WHAT I am and WHO I am. In the end, I began to understand that what seemed like an ideal partner to me was in fact far from being the one with whom I could live long-term and build a stable relationship. But probably the main skill and the most valuable is that I learned to live and get along with myself. I stopped looking for a partner just to get rid of loneliness; another person shouldn't be some kind of “pill” for your chronic condition. I began to see people as, in fact, people. Women have become just people like me and not “potential partners”, which in the past has often caused me to worry and fall into analysis paralysis. Yes, you now have fewer potential partners, but on the other hand, the likelihood of mistakes is less because you know exactly what you are looking for in other people. I found a match through friends, simply by directly laying out my situation and asking if they had any available friends of the opposite sex in a similar situation. There are actually a lot of people with similar problems, they are just not as open about them as in their younger years because they are afraid of being judged. So I would say that there is nothing wrong with being single at 30 and it is not necessarily a problem or something bad. It's more a matter of perspective. Personally, I realized that for me it was a long process of personal growth and not a mistake, albeit painful and not at all as pleasant as they say in all the motivational nonsense. If you don’t learn to survive alone with yourself, then even after finding an ideal 100/10 partner, the problem will not be corrected and it will not become easier, since you haven't found a mate for yourself, but simply some object in the hope that it will solve the problem that is actually in you himself. Viral infections cannot be treated with antibiotics; this will only make things worse. So the first step is to learn how to translate your “loneliness” into “solitude.” This is not a problem of age, but of one's own maturity.
But everyone at this stage is an insane tiktok addict with far left views? Finding love in an age of sex is mission impossible, so why drag yourself down?
I love how you have characters from the previous video going through their stories in the background. I can really appreciate features like that when storyboarding.
@@randomvideos6231or it’s called world building, something that in some degree can actually be more impressive. life is about perspective. Choose a rotten or close minded one and that becomes your reality.
I think there is. Or atleast that's what millennia thinker was trying to say when the main character and his friend were talking about a single 30 year old man and women. The main character realizes he fucked up but it might already be too late.
@@1000timka man in his 30s that is single i would argue this is the norm , especially if he tried dating woman in his 20s without success Now a woman single in her 30s ...welll she belong to the streets .
@@Chali_9 it means they didn’t have time to peak looks wise. Besides I clearly wasn’t talking about me…I still have a full head of hair and a full grown beard you goofball 💀
I never had a girlfriend, still a virgin and have no social contact with any women and I'm nearly 30... My coworkers wonder why I'm still single and are willing to help me in my situation, but all the help they offer involves going to brothels or getting on tinder. I had a few chances in the past but was way so involved with private problems, that I cut ties with everyone I knew then. Now I work 10 hours a day and have either no time or no energy to go out and meet people. It's basically wake up, work, get home, calm down from the stress, sleep, wake up and the cycle continues. It's been 12 years since I had a conversation with a woman. I think I've lost my ability to have a conversation outside of work. Shit's so hard I've nearly given up on the thought of having a family of my own. This hits very close to home.
My case is the same as yours, with the difference that I am unemployed (Spain has a Big problem with unemployness). I have no money to go out, still live with my mother, brother and sister-in-law. My mother is the only woman Who has cared for me. What I want to say is you are better off saving money and live the best live you can. I would like to say that you Will find a good woman, but no one can assure you that, but I assume you are intelligent and Will find solution to your problems. Hope is there to give you strength.
I'm shocked not more people realize this, but tinder is a pipe dream. it's a scam meant to keep you single. they want you to pay and stay on tinder, the last thing tinder wants is for you to actually match a good girl and move on.
There are much better ways, but often if you ask them to go clubbing and they bring a lot of people. You don't usually hit on the people they bring unless it's a given but you use it as a basis or backup to hit on other chicks at the club. It helps if you have a table, but it could get rather expensive if you are paying alone. I know many guys who use that method, and it works but they have a few pals, and usually they all bring something to the table. Either to be backup in case of a fight, the guy that socializes a lot with strangers, the one that keeps the inner group moving, or the guy that pays a bigger split for the night. Usually all are welcome and those benefits i mentioned are not really brought up, but you can tell by being there everyone chips in somehow. Though this is mostly early twenties I am talking about.
I only have one year left of my master's in college, I have a remote job where all the female colleagues are 30+ with families and kids. My time will seem to pass differently now. I'm dreading thinking about where I'll be at the beginning of next summer. I need to do something, and I need to do it fast. FUCK.. x(
I'm 25 as well. My gf broke up with me 7 months ago. She became Schizophrenic, became hypergamous. Said she could do better then. Like I was a commodity. I don't feel human these days. God I just want to feel human.
Yup. going to be 25 soon. Only place I had left to meet women was at work which actually had somewhat of a variety, but being real nervous made me 'miss out'. Just when I was getting more comfortable with people I moved to another workplace with few people, few women. Hardly a friend group, got like 1 person there. im yet to formally close a date. ill prob do a liquor run tonight
Dating in your 30s is looking through people who believe they’re 10s and won’t settle for less, or people so jaded that the always have one foot out the door as soon as the slightest inconvenience or better option comes up
Cruddy reality I guess it's overseas or well bust. But even being overseas trying to hit up chicks has it's set of issues but if hey you can manage it kudos
Man, I really felt it at the last line about “you are out there chasing success, with no one to back your dreams. Only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard work for granted.” I’m worried that might happen to me
Nobody will ever take my success, for granted or otherwise. If the success isn't the dream in and of itself, why did you chase it? My dreams are backed by money. I know what I am and what I want. If you thought you were me but were actually just a normie wanting a tradwife and suburban bliss with 3 kids and dog... you should have admitted it to yourself a lot sooner then 30s and sought for your actual dream accordingly.
Nie zmieniaj się ze swoją twórczością. W świecie, gdzie wierzy się w tak mało, pozostaje ona światłem w tunelu. Mrocznym, ale trzymającym w poczuciu, że jeszcze nie wszyscy kłamią...
The Tinder sketch was so relatable for anyone who's tried online dating. The funny profile prompts and the guy's rapid-fire swiping left on every woman nailed how disheartening the experience can be. A hilarious take on the modern dating struggles!
At least tinder improved it by giving males the limit for swipes a day. Now you can just sweep it in 5 mins and get going. Treat it like working in a call center and don't get your hopes up.
I'm in my late 20s but this still feels too relatable. I don't even use Tinder anymore. It's full of fake and joke profiles and some people there are just... Let's say not exactly the most decent folks on both the male and female side. Bumble has better quality but still... It feels like it's almost impossible to get a date. I know I'm not the best looking but I still consider myself somewhere between a 6 and 7, I'm not fat I'm around 195cm and I have a decent job as well but I only managed to get 1 match in one month. It's pathetic. It feels like girls' standards have gone through the roof lately. It's probably die to social media. I've read an article somewhere that claimed that around 80% of girls/women now try to go for only the upper class 20% of men. Upper class here means not only looks but wealth and even personality. And I'm afraid these numbers are right. If you have access to dating site statistics you often find men vastly outnumbering women to this ratio or even worse.
It's not relatable for *anyone* who's tried online dating. It's really only relatable for men in their 30s and 40s who are trying to date women who are over a decade younger than them.
I already reached my 30s a few months ago and it does hit hard. Then I never was interested in dating. Even back in my college days. Still, as hard as it is I rather be alone than be with someone who makes you feel alone.
I'm in the exact same case. If I didn't want a family of my own one day, I would give 0 shits, but if finding someone at all is already very hard, finding the right person is almost an impossible mission. Disheartening, but I can withstand it. As you said, it's much better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel 10 times worst with her than alone.
lol, the sister has a body count of 100+ by now. Her idi0+ brother was hard at work keeping a guy who was good enough to be his best friend away while she was seeing a different dude on the side every month b/c her brother wasn't monitoring her 24/7 (nor should he...I reiterate...what a MOH-RON)
brother stopped his and her sister's potential relationship because of the jealousy (single people don't want to hang around with people in relationship, it's frustrating for them)@@nobodyworthknowing8707
I’m 32, 6 years ago If I would of seen this video, it would have made me depressed but funnily enough I have learned to love my self and pursue things that bring me happiness and fulfillment. I’ve been in 7 relationships and every relationship it felt like I was catering to their needs. I’ve been the happiest on my own and having a blast. Break free from the chains my brothers. Look inside for happiness ❤
At least horror movies has a closure but dating is a labyrinth. While few get lucky and found someone, the rest of us still struck here trying to make sense of what the hell is all this.
Totally agree. In Tinder I even tried a 18-64 year range for a while. Not a single response to my messages in the couple matches I got. In highschool I was very much afraid of the same answer I got from Girls: no, always no. Now, in my thirties, I just try to make friends with some women because I don't want to be disconnected from them. Until this day I have no real friendship with any woman, but I still feel like trying. It's frustrating because I am polite, curious, keep respectfull distances and want to be lovely, but I still don't know what sets them off so much to not even want to be friends with me. I really feel like i'm invisible.
Holy shit this is some phenomenal writing imo. MC is a guy who is your typical individual, genetically fine, yet his mindset constantly has kept him off the dating scene due to perpetually being prone to create excuses and not take risks. From highschool to late adulthood, he never truly changed. He sees all the flaws in everyone else to justify his worldviews, yet not himself. He's stuck on a hamsterwheel of self justification. It's really impressive how well Millinal captured this vibe imo. It's spot on. Meanwhile, you have the more charismatic friend who while not wholly genetically blessed, has a completely different mindset. Something that cannot be forced. It has allowed him to see the world more realistically, and not think too deeply into things etc. Thus of course he ended up with a very different outcome by the end of it all. However, MC, will push down the uncomfortable thoughts and of course tell himself things to consistently justify his worldview. Very impressive and more nuanced take of the dating cycle. Way more thought out than typical redpill / doomer takes LMFAO.
That's a great analysis! I think the worst part is that he still has that same mindset of making excuses and not putting himself out there from high school. He never matured out of it
Not gonna lie, this is the first video on YT that hits me really hard in my feelings. I'm currently 26, never been in a relationship despite being far from undesirable. I feel almost everyday the loneliness and the lack of affection. I'm feeling more and more that I will be alone forever or I will die alone. It's becoming a mental torture and I cannot tell for how long I will continue to hold this. It's maybe a video with some memes, but you managed to talk about real problems in our society. Just for that, I thank you. Love from France
If you are unhappy alone you will be unhappy in a relationship, you will bring all your insecurities and issues into it and destroy it. Learn to be happy alone, then pursue a relationship, there is lots of self help info online, if you can't do it yourself, seek professional help.
Dating in my 30's is exactly the same as it was in my 20's. I'm still getting 0 matches on every dating site there is. Still "working on myself". Still showering daily and saving money. Still going to sleep alone and crying myself to sleep. Only difference is that the number of single moms in my age bracket who I can't relate to is going steadily up.
30, never had anything serious. Gave up on the dating apps 3 or 4 times in my 20s. My friends weddings were all years ago. Close friends son just turned 10. Generally gave up trying and let my self go. Most of the time im doing ok. Work keeps my busy, even though it is from home. I live comfortably. But once in a while there is a lonely depression that hits. It comes and goes but there's no hiding from it. Regret, despair, loneliness, fear of dying alone some day. Oh well. Another working day starts in a few hours. Soon all this feels will be forgotten and all that matter is work performance. Then the evening enterainment of games TV and youtube.
i let myself go just a tad bit and i hate how it felt, not going to lift like i used to but will be hitting the treadmill and focus on my studies and maybe learn to play the piano rather than fall back into pit of alcoholism and self hatred
My parents got married when they were in their 40s. They had my sister when my mom was 42 and me when she was 44. This has it's downsides of course, I'm just 18 and my mom is 62 years old and my dad 65. This puts so much responsability in me (my sister studies medicine so she can't really work) to care for the house and provide what they can't bc of their age.
@@shanialee7361don’t be an ass. taking care of your parents as they get older and more tired is a sign that the parents did a good job. they have already fulfilled their duties as parents
@@shanialee7361nope. Some older couples have children so they can be looked after full time. If you're lucky, you're not born for that purpose, you're just stuck with it. I was a surprise as my mother was 42 when she had me (I'm now 20). Now I'm usually looking after my 60 year old step dad and can't really rely on him. Really, he relies on me. As for my biological dad, he's 68 and legally blind. He can't drive anywhere and spends most of his days listening to movies. He relies on my much younger step mom to take care of him.
My mom had me and my sis at 39 and 40. you Litterally win some and lose some with all things in life…. Though she definitely still had her issues, my mom was a lot more mature raising me and my lil did, than she was raising our older siblings that she had at aged 19-25. Because she was a bit wider and more mature at 40 than 20
What does it actually mean? "Only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard work for granted" Does it mean that you finally find someone but that someone expects you to be a successful man?
@@ChlopZUtopii I guess it means something different for everyone. For me for example, I saved money hard throughout my life and bought a shit shack on a large piece of land that I have been renovating and turning into a nice house for the last 6 years by myself. If I find a woman, she will see the final product and take all that hard work for granted not knowing my struggles and sacrifices I made.
This has been the common theme I tell my friends and family about dating after essentially 24: If the girl is single at 30, there's a reason she's single. I've dated several divorcees, single moms, girls who they themselves are not emotionally intelligent, alcoholics (several unfortunately), mentally ill girls who don't get proper treatment (or don't follow the treatment plans), girls who cannot fucking commit, and that's not even counting the people who are so out of shape/overweight that there's no amount of 'body positivity' is going to change the impact on your health long-term. (We're looking for life partners, not a hospital case in less than 10 years). I eat healthy, exercise, and prioritize my physical health, its not unfair to want someone with a similar mind set. God this is probably the hardest hitting to home video for me of yours and I've been watching your content for years. I lost my gf of 4 years due to her alcoholism which led her to self destruct the entire relationship and eventually cheat on me. I financially supported her through her masters degree, bought us a house together, and took care of her cat's vet bills who unfortunately still passed away. I never asked much from her, she even admitted to that. Just loyalty, affection, and companionship. That's all I want... And she still cheated and left. I know for a fact that her wonderful parents are livid at her for ruining our relationship. They know I was the best she's ever had, the most stable and healthy partner she'd yet to have. And she still tossed me out like garbage. What the fuck, man.
Thank you for sharing. There might still be girls who are single at 30 and not necessarily for those reasons. But they are rare for sure. In fact, if not for religious reasons, or because she is autistic or something, that would be very rare.
I had a somewhat similar experience with someone once (not due to alcoholism though), you think you're helping them best you can and that they'd appreciate you in return... Wishful thinking, these people are broken beyond repair and usually don't change.
The only thing worse than reaching 30s with the grindset mentality and no gf is reaching 30s with nothing to show for it and no gf either...Yeah, I'm in a bit of trouble...
Your not alone, though a saying that comes to mind" a child complains about his situation, a man changes his circumstances." I just wish I wasn't so burnt out is all after my ex, who we are talking with( she wants me back, I'm hesitant to go back. Maybe I will end up going back, I really don't know at the moment. I'm getting myself mentally back together, have a job coach helping me get into the workforce, I'm improving myself more and more. Part of me wants to consider seeing what is out there, part of me is considering staying. It's funny how we end up where we do. Though my biggest problem letting my twenties go and moving on. If I can then I can truly live again. I guess I'm in the Damaged goods, though it wasn't as bad as I make it out to be also my older brother didn't meet his girlfriend until well later in his thirties, also for awhile I knew my aunt was dating in her 60s, she isn't that bad of a person. So, my point is don't give up, don't close yourself off. Do get yourself together though. Forgive yourself, and others. Improve yourself to a degree that your not completely a mess, and things will work out only until you make them work out.
I love seeing the evolution of animation. The characters' faces became much more lively and animate, you can see their emotions and inner thoughts. That's lovely considering they are still wojacks!
@@mrtyrant1680 Yep, and even then odds are it will likely not get much better in our thirties. You can look great for your age and have a load of money, but even that can only do so much to increase your chances. The only way out of this, is if the way we look at dating, marriage & divorces laws, and hookups as a society experience a massive overhaul. Almost everyone is self-absorbed and thinking in the short run, and that needs to change.
Yeah, like, have you talked to a woman in their early 20's when you're almost 30. It's like they're children, I can't imagine dating someone like that, I don't want to be my partner's father figure lmao.
@@mrtyrant1680 It's not about age, it's about maturity and life experience. Someone who's barely out of school is gonna have a much different level of social maturity. If you are happy being with someone immature then great, but most people past their mid 20's are not that interested in someone like that.
Really nice detail having the two friends from the “Toxic Friends vs. Real Friends” video in the back of the college lecture! It’s also a really nice contrast between what a good relationship is vs. what a struggling relationship looks like
Such is the sad fate of all young males in the western world. Focusing on their career and by the time they want to find someone to settle down with, they are met with an endless desert that threatens to swallow them at any moment they screw up.
@@rturaeyeah! Good news is as a 30 years old good man, you can still nail the 20s girls. You won't really suffer if you really grinded hard in your younger years
Not really, just the men you are chasing. If you look at the feedback on this, there are tons of single men out there. Many are good men, but they are invisible to you, just like average women are invisible to me. I could get a 9 or a 10, but refuse to allocate the resources necessary to keep them complacent. If you date within your value range, i can promise you won't have that problem. The issue is, the average point spread with hypergamy was about 1 point 10 years ago.... Now it is 2 to 2.5 points on the looks chart considering online dating. Its honestly crap, but its what men have to live with. I am a top 3% earner in my state and realized my money doesn't matter, as it is just expected. unless you have $1,00,000's, you are considered the same as a chad that lives in his parent's basement. Even worse, many women will bang the chad the first night, while they will make the quality guy wait months. I know this because I know chads and this is what happens. Anyways, best of luck and women have a massive advantage in the dating world, and they don't even know it. PS. my G/F is 36, moderately overweight, has three kids and is a server that makes a fraction of what I do. However, she is very pretty, a good woman that wants to be with me and not extract resources. Me on the other hand, I live in a top 3% house (fully owned), have two cars, two kids (50%) and have a top 3% state average income with no debt. I'm also very good looking (although short (5-9)) and a good man. @@frederikaz5085
@@hieuthepunk Why would you want to nails girls in 20s? if I compare my female friend's that I have known since 16 and they are now 30. At age of 18 they literally had zero IQ and not able to hold any lvl of conversation.
I think it depends it worked great for me. I'm in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend since 2018 and we met through badoo (a dating app) I think the problem is that people aren't clear on what they are looking for, at least the Single Women I know and then they're surprised that guys only want to fuck them.
if u choose carefully and have standards, u won't date much there anyways. tinder algoritm makes sure most girls won't see most males even (and the fact that there's tons more males signed up), next of my roughly 200 likes over the time i wrote maybe 20, got response of 15, kept writing with 5, met one or two and it wasn't good still. for me kinda useless, i fear
As someone in his late 30's unlucky enough to be trying to find a decent woman, this is the hardest thing I've done by far. It feels like going through endless job interviews while also trying to dodge speeding cars on the highway. It shouldn't be that hard and nobody should have to go through that much trouble.
@@frederikaz5085Depends cause most are too scared from past interactions and actually are nice people and the rest just have hearts of stone from having a dog shot life
7:19 really sums it up. In my early 30s and had flings but never a relationship. Some ppl might look at this and be like that dude's living the dream but its more of a nightmare. I envy my friends who have been with their partners for years
I just turned 40, had a few brief girlfriends but nothing serious, have given up on dating at least in this country. I'm happy being alone most of the time as an introvert, so being single suits me just fine. And its wonderfully liberating, to not not have to care about dating anymore, it frees up so much time, energy and expense
I just had really good luck with men personally almost 0 effort at all with those but same at 31 for women which is what I really want in the first place.
Cieszę się, że wśród moich rodaków jest taki świetny twórca jak Millenia Thinker, jeden z najlepszych kanałów na YT, który pokazuje prawdę tego niesprawiedliwego świata.
Świat jest niesprawiedliwy czy ludzie? Jak się żyje kłamstwem wpajany przez media, popkulturę itp. To potem kończy się to frustracją i poczuciem pustki. Słabi sami się eliminują.
I found my now husband when I was 30 and he 36. He was divorced from 2 years. We are married one year now and together from almost 6 years. But boy, was it hard to find that man.
Honestly I’ve always had this mindset- I’ll worry about getting a serious partner once I finish college and get a stable career… this video is making me second guess that
@@TripsOfficial Same edit: Also, my best dating advice is as follows: If she's not that into you don't waste your time. Only date women who are physically attracted to you or you will only feel suffering. "Water seeks its own level." ~ Aristotle Attraction is non-negotiable; there is nothing you can do, say or buy that can make a woman physically attracted to you. She's either into you or she isn't.
I spent my 20s chasing women and failed miserably because of my physical traits. Spent my 30s building career. Now at 40, dating for marriage has become an impossibility for me. 😢
Looking like this is my path. At least they were honest about not wanting you. Then you didn't experience the rug bring pulled out from under you later.
i am 27 ... and i am more depressed than ever ... no matches anywhere and i am not ugly or desperate. I am ignored everywhere even though I have a good paying job, I have decent clothes, I don't smell bad, I take care of myself etc. Nothing. I hate it here... The older I am getting the worse it is getting ...
You can make it brother. I am 28 and finally felt the touch of another person. But I can live without it. You must practice self love to the highest degree. True happiness comes from within. You need to remember that the video is not indicative of reality. Women are still beautiful regardless of their age and yes, people have issues but that's where love and understanding comes from. Regardless of age, their career, if they have kids or not. The love and connection you'll create will overshadow all of it. Keep pushing.
@@MadMazov I mean, I know. I am on the gym daily and I am a really creative person, I digitally draw etc. But it is really lonely sometimes and everytime I met someone in person, I am very kind and sweet but I didn't vibe with anyone since my last relationship and it has been a few years now. It's just... I don't know, nobody around me seems to get it.
Also I am not planning to date a women that is 28+, definitely not. Most of them already have kids, bad careers, bad experiences, huge issues, no goals, already "worn out" looks (i mean in the face), it is more like a burden to me then... and even though I am 27 I look a lot younger myself so I am looking for the equivalent of myself and nothing "higher", I have real expectations, nothing too complicated. Nobody would guess I am 27 at all. But hey, here I am. It's just something else and me being completely ghosted by most cute girls I am almost 100% sure we would have a great vibe together and I am not even getting a slight chance, it's just really painful.
same with me. Even tho im 19, i do not look like the one (perceptionally younger). Never been in true relationship, or went on a date with a single girl. Looking around myself, all i notice is ignorant and immature guys, who smoke, drink, yet somehow they still push through this unbreakable barrier that we can't. I really want to experience this kind of stuff just once in my life.. while i'm young..@@jaystergg
@@jaystergg no worries guys I'm 22 and I depressed as f. I'm waking up everyday on autopilot. I working on autopilot and looking for something better. I never had any experience in love or even in any kind of relationship. I don't have any contact with people from school. In job I don't want any friendship because it will cause trouble and only more work to do (for real). I'm depressed or something idk I'm not doc. I lost reason in my life as fast as I graduated from school. My look is better than my feeling about it. Whatever I never even had chance for love. That sucks? No what sucks is living with worst future in my head, that I'll never move forward I'll like that forever. That just sad.
He still has hair more than most men his age can say. With some hair products and some basic maintenance he can have good fair and a nice haircut solves. It's not like Wojak has a completely bad deck of cards has an apartment, office job though he struggles to rise up in the ranks (he should just talk the boss up it seems to work sometimes) and doesn't seem to be bad in the economic side. Unlike Nate/Incel who literally has everything going against him
@@BWatskins The brutality of the situation is that most of us are like Wojak. There's nothing abjectly terrible about us. To an outside viewer, we're doing just fine. And yet we are still alone. Inceldom is becoming the norm. And the curse of doing just alright outwardly is that it means there are no obvious avenues of improvement left. The obese guy can always lose weight and hope. But what do you do when you already did all the right things and you are still alone? At some point you just realise, it's over. You're average, and average is the new ugly.
Having a loving relationship is a high priority for me and I’ll bet it’s the same for a lot of you out there. Don’t let family, friends, or anyone else convince you to focus solely on work if you want to find someone to fall in love with because you can do both! I recently found a girl who supports me in my ambitions and lifts me up when I feel down, it makes my professional life a lot easier to bear. I haven’t felt this way since my very first girlfriend so I hope we last a lifetime together. Best of luck to everyone
@@iithunderii9800 I feel like there has to be eventually a trade off somewhere with "happiness alone" and not being happy alone. Like the former is dangerous because the comfort of being alone could be trapping, the latter is bad too, making people desperate. Some amount of loneliness could be necessary to force socialisation
don't get too attached bro, she could leave you for a better guy, especially with that 'loving relationship being a high priority for me' mindset. i'm not trying to bring you down, I just don't to see you get too invested then get hurt along the way.
@@nax1807 I struggle with letting myself get attached to people for this reason. My grandmother has been going through some surgeries recently and shes seen me in some rough places and been there to support me so I feel like she has really earned my loyalty. Ultimately though I think I’m ready to take that risk of getting fully attached because there’s always going to be that doubt in my mind no matter who I’m with and at some point I gotta take that leap of faith. If I get hurt later down the line then I guess she wasn’t the one but I don’t wanna let the fear of that happening in the future control my actions now. But I honestly believe she likes me for myself, a lot of the time she refuses that I spend money on her with dates and she’ll organize a beach day instead or something. I used to be a “fuck bitches get money” kinda guy after I got my heart broken for the first time then I realized none of the women I was with cared about me and I didn’t really care much about them I was just letting fear keep me from becoming vulnerable with someone and building a solid relationship that will last. I appreciate the concern though man
Dating in your 30's makes you realise that you are one of the very few who actually managed to grow up and polish their character and intellect(If you were doing it throughout your 20's). It is a very disappointing and lonesome feeling.
I like these pseudo intellectual takes, it makes me feel sophisticated like (insert fancy pantsy person here) one comment says that dating people in their 30's is like dating ten-year-olds and here you're saying they are intellectual.
@@iiCounted-op5jx Because at one point in our lives We all have to grow up, and mature, .... because at one point in life there will be an event or an experience that will force us out of our Cacoon, out of our Bubble... I understand what you mean it has worked for me in the past, but not anymore... Not after the death of Two of my closest friends, now I feel like I'm walking alone in a Desert 🏜️ with no real Road to follow no real destination... The only things that keep me going are 3 goals I want to accomplish a Purpose in life , after that I don't care if I die I'll die Happy know that atleast there will be no more worry, stress, and Pain.... But everyone even does end up being forced to mature... eventually so will you.
Always has been, there's a reason why back in the day Boomer men put a hard limit on 24 as a cut off age. I was stupid enough to go for a much older woman because I was attracted to her success and intellect, unfortunately hypergamy as a man isn't something that is rewarded long-term.
Why I prefer 18-22 range. Problem with that however, is if the village I'm in is obsessed with blue pulled bullshit, they'll go out of their way to gain up to sabotage it.
The guys sister and our hero meet after a long time, the sister is married and has kids now with another dude, who is tall, handsome, multimillionaire,... They talk for a while and she admits that she liked him, but he never asked her out so she just moved on. Our hero comes home and stares at the ceiling for hours. Time passes, he is 40 now. Lost his job and apartment because of drug abuse and lives on the street now. Age 43, he gets murdered by another homeless man because he wanted to steal his stash of canned beans. 🥳THE END 🥳
I have a feeling I may go down this road... 24 currently and haven't had proper relationship yet, yet to build a career or get a job. I have mostly focused on self improvement and battling behavioral addictions/escapism through out years... thanks a lot for making vids man, your vids always makes me very very bothered like it makes me want to do something quickly... of course discipline > motivation but still, nice to read comments too...
*The Movie Horrors* - --Specifficaly horror movies where somebody chasing someone,scary and gore horrors-- *The Real Life Horrors* - Real and deeper horrors than in movies, Fomo,toxic friends,emotional damages,becoming fastly old these are the real horrors
Even tho im younger than 30, I feel like at 30 you would be dealing with so much emotional baggage from people, it feels like you either lockdown your highschool sweetheart or youll get a very hard time in dating, brutal
Damn this hits hard, personal financial circumstances and being a responsible person for family make this the reality for most of us. i hope this changes some day
Yes, so, how can we solve this problem of postponing a relationship? Women at the age of 30 have had their tremendous share of dating and sex with hot wealthier 10% of men. So the average beta male could suffer with what is left for him at the end of the road. Most men can not stand the liability of extravagant spending on girls in their formative years which is usually in their 20s. Women peak at a younger age mostly around between 18 to 26. Therefore, that grants them a huge advantage in the dating pool. That is why you would notice that men(30s) go look for young girls (20s) to take the chance of the heat steel before it is washed or put out😅😅
I never had a chance, never got interest from girls, or at least I was too oblivious to notice it. The "grind" is my only saving grace, if I can't get lucky in love then I gotta prosper somehow.
this must be a message that dont take time for granted or the people you meet because you might never meet them again and that person may be your future partner
The ending hits too close to home, all your friends are getting married and you are there alone, it makes you feel like you did something wrong in your life
I was unlucky in love the same as this my whole life, but I never just settled. Met my wife when I was 32, she is stunning and my ideal partner. I am 41, married and we have two great kids. Don't lose hope.
@@MinhNguyen-pk9qk It’s a misogynistic view to think that all women dating in their 30s “have issues”. The truth is they may have been hurt and now have emotional baggage , may be a single mother, etc but so what? That doesn’t make them broken and you perfect. If you’re always looking for what’s wrong with them you will never find the good in them. The reality is you can bring out the best in them and in turn they will do it for you too. My wife makes me a better a person and I wish I had realised that’s how strong relationships work earlier.
Well, I have dated in my 20s - it's just that the ladies wanted to play the field themselves and most of them were many levels below me so it was I who didn't commit many times. I did both the grind and have dated - I come from a poor family, also. And it's a similar case more or less to my friends also. What I'm trying to say, It's a generational thing, what we experience in dating. Our great grandparents never even put in a fraction of the effort that we did to get below-average results. Doesn't even matter if you're 6", have some attractive facial qualities, making good money... It's not his fault, it's not my fault, it's not your fault - society has just failed us. I guess now in my 30s I certainly am more attractive because now I also have a good career on top of looking somewhat decent. And the results are still for the most part crap - just have to make peace with it that it's a bad period in history for men and that's it. Note: I originally posted it as a reply to someone, but I figure it will help more guys if they can see it as a comment in itself.
You'll get there bro, maybe don't limit yourself to "when I love myself", being happy in your own company is a great first step, aim for small goals, over time it compounds.
hi, i like your animations. i wont know what its actually like to date in the 30's but i still think your videos are as true as ever. youre a very rare specimen on this platform. good job
@@bestlobjagamer348maybe he's younger than 30 just like me. Well at least if it comes to body because your mental can be something absolutely different. Just like mine I don't have any idea about what talking about with people in my age
Parting message is fairly spot on. You need to have dreams and ambitions and know how to be happy alone. Then if you by chance meet the right person, they'll amplify all the happiness you've already made for yourself. Relationships multiply happiness. If you have zero happiness in you, a relationship x your happiness will still be zero. Even those that have been dating since their youth have failed relationships. It's just about getting lucky, and you'll increase that luck naturally by pursuing those ambitions
Trust me, those b*tches ain't worth your time. I had chances myself, but they weren't right for me then, and they sure as hell ain't right for me now. I am 100% on this. Absolutely no reason I should've settled for the two girls who gave me chances.
Dude, you still have time to change and get it done. I'm 31 and I do not advise being single. I also was maybe too shy and I always thought girls didn't like me but I have actually been with quite a few women and I'm picky. Just my advice is get out of your own head and try to get a solid girlfriend within the next couple of years.
stfu, you are 24, you are PRIME age to go out and meet someone. At 30, when you walk into a bar you feel like a creepy grandpa, everyone looks so young. I fucked around and now I'm finding out.
This one was rough. I have to saying being a 30 plus wizard is rough (not from lack of trying), but its humbled me to see the good in people and not judge based off looks. I was a social reject until I started working in retail. The job forced me to come out of my shell and talk to people more, and I now can tell when people show interest in me for friendship or more. But, my teenage years ruined my brain, and I'll always think I'm not good enough for anyone, even if I know I'm worth it. I just keep my self applied to my grindset, and have worked my way up in the credit score world, and have a decent savings which makes me happy, and its enough for me now.
Sometimes I have the same thought, that I'll look for love as soon as I got it all together, but lately I don't think I want to seek for love at all. Everything is messed up with people this days. For the sake of myself, maybe being alone isn't as bad as it may seems.
"You are out there chasing success, with no one to back your dreams, only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard word for granted" 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🚨🚨🚒🚒🚒🚒
It's the same in your 20s these days. Social media has ruined dating expectations both in guys and girls. The game is rigged for average and below average looking people from the start as their self esteem is hurt so much that they rather stay on their phone looking for "matches" and end up even more frustrated. At the end of the day it is a thing we can't really control anyways so don't sweat it. You are good the way you are and the ammount or "looks" of partners you've had or have in your life, do not represent your worth as a human being.
@@thomas.thomasI dont think insane. He lacks the realist/stoic perspective/attitude that finding a proper partner in your 30s that's stable mentally, physically, emotionally and financially is harder to find. Most people had/have built up baggage over the years emotionally, mentally, physically or financially in some way nor do they want to fix their character flaws and think things will workout without them doing any of the inner work believing that somebody out there will put up/enable their bullshit which is insane. Hence the MC saying, "I'm single because I was in my grindset in my younger years, they're single in their 30s because they are insane"
7:07 Here’s the difference: women have intrinsic value in the dating world. While men do not. Just be having female biology gives them significantly more value and desirability over men in similar standing. A cute body and a baby factory give Im you a big advantage in finding a partner, all the way until your mid thirties when your feminine body traits begin to fade, and you’re on your last few eggs. Then at 40, the playing field becomes even.
This hits hard. I skipped dating in my 20s because I had stuff to take care of. Grindset, health issues etc. Now I don't know if it will ever happen. Is it even worth it to try?
You need to learn to enjoy the process too, meeting various women, turn the failures into anecdotes, learn what to avoid, learn what to seek. It takes time, effort and will have ups and downs but someone out there is a match. It's not about it being "worth it" that mindset is awful, like it's a process to hire an employee, this approach will make you unhappy. Try to find joy in meeting people and hanging out and sooner or later you'll meet someone who is a good match. The reward at the end shouldn't be "acquire a partner" it should be finding someone you want to spend time with and be around.
@@Eagle3302PL Hiring an employee is actually a good metaphor for dating. You spend a lot of time and money looking for possible candidates, you have to try and figure out how much of what they're presenting is accurate, and if you pick a good candidate you can get many years from a fruitful relationship. If you pick wrong, then you're bound by law to a contract that is an expensive process to get out of. At least where I live if you fire someone you need to pay to unemployment boards, give justification for why the person was terminated, and quite often have to pay lawyer fees.
@@EdWard-ie5wn I approve. Making a family is the only good reason to bother with it. Every other reason is pointless where you are in your 30s. Lots of women (and people) are of low quality nowadays, feminism and social medias taught them to be useless leechs and only the smart ones have actual useful skills to help you with in a relationship, and most of them are already in a relationship. Only bother if you want a family.
This is accurately terrifying. I went to work (ten hours) and sometimes I’m scared to fall asleep just because I didn’t do anything else with my day. It’s like one day I’ll be 35-40 and won’t remember anything life altering.
You don't need to be 30, falling in love with one wrong girl can make such a devastation, holding for too long, trying too hard and if you open eyes it's often too late. It's not too late for me tho but it was close enough, such an experience is like bucket of cold water, after that you know what you need to do. It's growing up in this times (and its just one aspect of life from many others). Keep being focused, keep your rules, make time for your hobbys, grind a little bit and remember better to do something and regret it than regret that you didn't do it
Turning 30 in a couple days, been single for over 5 years and I'm satisfied with how I've lived my life. My advice is to have healthy hobbies that can also help you build friendships. For me, thats rock climbing. My next piece of advice is easier said than done and can require years of introspection, but find out what you really like to do, and do that. You might have to be a starving artists, but if you do what you love, that in and of itself is the reward.
1:38 back then, walking in college, he saw so many girls.. "no need to rush".. 4:46 now, walking at the workplace, and seeing only bald dudes.. I felt that 😅
It's sad how hard it is to find love nowadays. I have never been a fan of dating apps because imo you cannot force love and I think the relationship is already onto a bad start when there are already such high expectations laid out the first time you meet (finding a mate). The best relationships usually happen with people you randomly meet and fall in love with after you have spend time with them. But nowadays it's so difficult to meet people naturally without it being forced. Everyone is so isolated and lonely. Makes me sad
i used to make friends with people easily both online and offline. until a shift happened and now it is difficult to meet new people. sometimes i chat with a couple of people at shows that i go to or i add people that i played with on some online game, but everyone seems more closed off, less likely to exchange contacts, and generally seem less interested in making friends and/or become acquaintances. but at the same time everyone complains that they are so lonely and have no friends so i dont get it?
Kind of relatable and I hope this helps future men in their early 20s, I wasn't interested in going to parties or clubs doing one-night stands with randoms, or dating females wanting to cheat, I was critical about all that disgusting crap from how it contributes to just meanless relationships, on top of that risk of STDs and accidental childbirths. Online dating was scam, wasting loads of money to attract only baby mamas even in early 20s. Met women who aren't wholesome and talking to them feels like feeding a black hole and they only intersted in sexual things or someone to complain to. All the fun upbeat women who can have wholesome conversations and fun are always taken. Same crap day by day from 20s to 30s. On top of that trying to ask for online advice about dating as a single man can be difficult as the internet likes to try to make an incel loser out of you.
Dating as a man in your 30s is the best time ever. Being financially stable and not likely to fall for any bs. You just have to avoid wimminz your age due to foreseeable reasons (pregnancy trap, etc.).
I don't want to feel like a women has invaded or is leeching off my life and work just becuase she wasn't there when things were hard. I would greatly prefer someone who had my back the whole way and who helped build my life with me.
I’m 20 and it’s exactly the same as in this video, only difference is I don’t care. I’m not gonna cry about never meeting “my soulmate” or a woman who’ll make me happy, because what matters is I make myself happy. I’m not gonna let anyone else define my happiness, and if so happens I meet a woman who I enjoy being around then I’ll make an effort to be around her more because that makes me happy. If not then who cares, i won’t worry about who’s at the finish line because I know I chased success running along side myself.
This is the right mindset. As someone who experienced it, being with someone don't improve your happiness if you're not happy in the first place. It only increases what's already there, and it's only positive if you're with the right person anyway. Happiness comes from self growth and hard work.
if you don't fix your life you are going to be 30, single and istead of having a car and a house like this guy, you are gonna live with your parents or under a bridge
After a long relationship i was alone between 25 and 32, at 32 i met with a girl, she was 30 at the time. Im 37 now, she is loving and very supportive, we are married and live together. Its not impossible guys.
Turning 30 this year, single. Last relationship ended 3 and a half years ago due to getting cheated on. She's happily dating someone else, and I feel like I am left with all the personal issues still. Most stable people that I know, who are in healthy relationships, met with people they met at their time at university, or one of their first jobs. Accepting I will be alone until I die, or most likely end up in a less healthy relationship due to the other person being as broken as me.
Your still young , don't give up , my husbund married me when he was 34 and i was 23, and he was lost too , that was 10 years ago , one thing i can tell you , we didnt look for love on dating apps, but rather found each other when he was shopping and i was the cashier at a store 😂 he would allways buy stuff from the store i worked in , and that's how it happend ,and we married in a year ,we didnt waste time, you just need to look in the right places,
Imma say it, the dating world is hot garbage right now. For everyone. Doesn't matter how old you are. It's mainly caused by tinder and technology in general.
I’m 18 and never dated. Liked a hot but was always too awkward around her. Tried talking to girls but was always too nervous. I need to get my shit together…
Yeah, yeah, I get it, as soon as you become a billionaire, you start looking for her.
Ok bro
Ok bro
Great video as always!
Ok bro
What was what the Mafia dude from the other video said...Something about that one day will never come. Chad guides but even he can't completely raise you up as a man
Dating in your 30's is like walking on broken glass, stepping on landmines while trying to defuse a nuclear reactor from overheating, but you're just a plumber.
Or trying cut out the Caesar's head tumor in Fallout New Vegas. "What, l only know how to kill."
Only if you're a women in her 30s
l am not comparing but it is same in 20's . But women are more immature than 30's .
@@pizzaforever69 haha wait until you are 30, it just 10 times worst.
@@redknight344 ah man ...l am ugly asf . No chancce than
«You can do it later» is lie for both men and women. It’s does not get easier after school, or after college, or after university, or after you get job. It becomes harder. Progressively harder.
definitely
I would say this is relative to your situation. Personally, it only became easier for me around the age of 29-30. I overcame my complexes and, sitting alone, I was finally able to figure out WHAT I am and WHO I am. In the end, I began to understand that what seemed like an ideal partner to me was in fact far from being the one with whom I could live long-term and build a stable relationship. But probably the main skill and the most valuable is that I learned to live and get along with myself. I stopped looking for a partner just to get rid of loneliness; another person shouldn't be some kind of “pill” for your chronic condition. I began to see people as, in fact, people. Women have become just people like me and not “potential partners”, which in the past has often caused me to worry and fall into analysis paralysis. Yes, you now have fewer potential partners, but on the other hand, the likelihood of mistakes is less because you know exactly what you are looking for in other people. I found a match through friends, simply by directly laying out my situation and asking if they had any available friends of the opposite sex in a similar situation. There are actually a lot of people with similar problems, they are just not as open about them as in their younger years because they are afraid of being judged. So I would say that there is nothing wrong with being single at 30 and it is not necessarily a problem or something bad. It's more a matter of perspective. Personally, I realized that for me it was a long process of personal growth and not a mistake, albeit painful and not at all as pleasant as they say in all the motivational nonsense. If you don’t learn to survive alone with yourself, then even after finding an ideal 100/10 partner, the problem will not be corrected and it will not become easier, since you haven't found a mate for yourself, but simply some object in the hope that it will solve the problem that is actually in you himself. Viral infections cannot be treated with antibiotics; this will only make things worse. So the first step is to learn how to translate your “loneliness” into “solitude.” This is not a problem of age, but of one's own maturity.
But everyone at this stage is an insane tiktok addict with far left views? Finding love in an age of sex is mission impossible, so why drag yourself down?
Idk it got way easier after me after 30, but I did become significantly fitter, richer, and more impulsive.
Yuuuup
I love how you have characters from the previous video going through their stories in the background. I can really appreciate features like that when storyboarding.
yeah i love how they go to the same school and how its in the same world and shit
Goes to show just how much he cares about showing that everyone is fighting it's own battles and nothing exists in a vacuum.
The MLCU
Nah, hes just too lazy to make like 5 new characters every video, so he uses characters from previous ones
@@randomvideos6231or it’s called world building, something that in some degree can actually be more impressive. life is about perspective. Choose a rotten or close minded one and that becomes your reality.
The worst part is that all the situation makes you feel like there’s something terribly wrong with you
I think there is. Or atleast that's what millennia thinker was trying to say when the main character and his friend were talking about a single 30 year old man and women. The main character realizes he fucked up but it might already be too late.
@@1000timka man in his 30s that is single i would argue this is the norm , especially if he tried dating woman in his 20s without success
Now a woman single in her 30s ...welll she belong to the streets .
@@khshur2 I kind of agree but men are also at blame here. There are just as many 304’s as men that are fat and losers
Yep, self esteem goes down the drain
He literally doesn't want to date women of his own age because that'd be "desperate"... And you think there's nothing wrong with him? lmao
He’s got hair in his 30s. Seems pretty good to me tbh 😂
I knew people from high school that started balding in their early 20’s 😭 they didn’t even have a chance to fully explore young adult hood 💀
@@ricosuavemente571 how does having hair relate to exploring adulthood? Insecure much? 😂
@@Chali_9 it means they didn’t have time to peak looks wise. Besides I clearly wasn’t talking about me…I still have a full head of hair and a full grown beard you goofball 💀
@@ricosuavemente571 Uhm transplant?? Minoxidile?? Any treatment try??
People be acting like people in their 30s look like they’re 70 😭
I never had a girlfriend, still a virgin and have no social contact with any women and I'm nearly 30... My coworkers wonder why I'm still single and are willing to help me in my situation, but all the help they offer involves going to brothels or getting on tinder. I had a few chances in the past but was way so involved with private problems, that I cut ties with everyone I knew then. Now I work 10 hours a day and have either no time or no energy to go out and meet people. It's basically wake up, work, get home, calm down from the stress, sleep, wake up and the cycle continues. It's been 12 years since I had a conversation with a woman. I think I've lost my ability to have a conversation outside of work. Shit's so hard I've nearly given up on the thought of having a family of my own. This hits very close to home.
My case is the same as yours, with the difference that I am unemployed (Spain has a Big problem with unemployness). I have no money to go out, still live with my mother, brother and sister-in-law. My mother is the only woman Who has cared for me.
What I want to say is you are better off saving money and live the best live you can. I would like to say that you Will find a good woman, but no one can assure you that, but I assume you are intelligent and Will find solution to your problems.
Hope is there to give you strength.
This will sound odd, but I wish I were a virgin. Do you attend church? You might find some good options there.
You're not the only one. I had the same experience. This issue also mentioned in stream media but no one cares about men
I'm shocked not more people realize this, but tinder is a pipe dream. it's a scam meant to keep you single. they want you to pay and stay on tinder, the last thing tinder wants is for you to actually match a good girl and move on.
There are much better ways, but often if you ask them to go clubbing and they bring a lot of people. You don't usually hit on the people they bring unless it's a given but you use it as a basis or backup to hit on other chicks at the club. It helps if you have a table, but it could get rather expensive if you are paying alone. I know many guys who use that method, and it works but they have a few pals, and usually they all bring something to the table. Either to be backup in case of a fight, the guy that socializes a lot with strangers, the one that keeps the inner group moving, or the guy that pays a bigger split for the night. Usually all are welcome and those benefits i mentioned are not really brought up, but you can tell by being there everyone chips in somehow. Though this is mostly early twenties I am talking about.
God this is so relatable and im only 25. Meeting people organically seems so difficult. Just know you are not alone in this
I only have one year left of my master's in college, I have a remote job where all the female colleagues are 30+ with families and kids. My time will seem to pass differently now. I'm dreading thinking about where I'll be at the beginning of next summer. I need to do something, and I need to do it fast. FUCK.. x(
I'm 25 as well. My gf broke up with me 7 months ago.
She became Schizophrenic, became hypergamous.
Said she could do better then. Like I was a commodity.
I don't feel human these days. God I just want to feel human.
Yup. going to be 25 soon. Only place I had left to meet women was at work which actually had somewhat of a variety, but being real nervous made me 'miss out'. Just when I was getting more comfortable with people I moved to another workplace with few people, few women. Hardly a friend group, got like 1 person there. im yet to formally close a date. ill prob do a liquor run tonight
Its a hard pill to swallow, but you have to find happiness, confidence, and security within yourself before you supplement someone elses life.
@jamescrock2213 we can make it man. It's tough... there is hope. There is true love out there. We must keep pushing forward
Excellent production right to the point! Teşekkürler.
Dating in your 30s is looking through people who believe they’re 10s and won’t settle for less, or people so jaded that the always have one foot out the door as soon as the slightest inconvenience or better option comes up
My toddler came out as trans. What should I do?
if you miss out on teen love its ovER
Somebody put it into words
@@TurtleChad1 why does this sound like those botted Quora questions that pop up in Gmail all the time for no reason 😂😂
Cruddy reality I guess it's overseas or well bust. But even being overseas trying to hit up chicks has it's set of issues but if hey you can manage it kudos
Man, I really felt it at the last line about “you are out there chasing success, with no one to back your dreams. Only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard work for granted.” I’m worried that might happen to me
As long as you know of the dangers, and defend what’s yours, you will not fail. Gain wisdom and execute what you’ve learned
Also, seek someone who's achieved their own success so you can pool together your successes. @@KeihatsuWarrior
thats how life works
Nobody will ever take my success, for granted or otherwise. If the success isn't the dream in and of itself, why did you chase it? My dreams are backed by money. I know what I am and what I want. If you thought you were me but were actually just a normie wanting a tradwife and suburban bliss with 3 kids and dog... you should have admitted it to yourself a lot sooner then 30s and sought for your actual dream accordingly.
women aren't manic pixies
Nie zmieniaj się ze swoją twórczością. W świecie, gdzie wierzy się w tak mało, pozostaje ona światłem w tunelu. Mrocznym, ale trzymającym w poczuciu, że jeszcze nie wszyscy kłamią...
stay in poland, tard
The Tinder sketch was so relatable for anyone who's tried online dating. The funny profile prompts and the guy's rapid-fire swiping left on every woman nailed how disheartening the experience can be. A hilarious take on the modern dating struggles!
He was swiping right though
At least tinder improved it by giving males the limit for swipes a day. Now you can just sweep it in 5 mins and get going. Treat it like working in a call center and don't get your hopes up.
@@hogrider8525 not a good thing
I'm in my late 20s but this still feels too relatable. I don't even use Tinder anymore. It's full of fake and joke profiles and some people there are just... Let's say not exactly the most decent folks on both the male and female side.
Bumble has better quality but still... It feels like it's almost impossible to get a date. I know I'm not the best looking but I still consider myself somewhere between a 6 and 7, I'm not fat I'm around 195cm and I have a decent job as well but I only managed to get 1 match in one month. It's pathetic. It feels like girls' standards have gone through the roof lately. It's probably die to social media. I've read an article somewhere that claimed that around 80% of girls/women now try to go for only the upper class 20% of men. Upper class here means not only looks but wealth and even personality. And I'm afraid these numbers are right. If you have access to dating site statistics you often find men vastly outnumbering women to this ratio or even worse.
It's not relatable for *anyone* who's tried online dating. It's really only relatable for men in their 30s and 40s who are trying to date women who are over a decade younger than them.
As a guy all I want is for someone to care about me besides my mom and dad.
All you want is someone(anyone) to "care" about you? Your thinking is on par with the definition of Panshekshual.
Not only care . Man l feel so low in this life . Lonely from kid . All l want is someone to support my career . A little bit of motivation
All I want is any creature that is on my team apart from a pet. male or female, I don't even care anymore about the gender.
@@useritiswhatitis4655And? What is it to you? Even if he was, let people be. I bet you wonder why you’re alone lol
Buy a doggo)
I already reached my 30s a few months ago and it does hit hard. Then I never was interested in dating. Even back in my college days. Still, as hard as it is I rather be alone than be with someone who makes you feel alone.
That's the catch I'm facing to a degree, to a degree.
I'm in the exact same case. If I didn't want a family of my own one day, I would give 0 shits, but if finding someone at all is already very hard, finding the right person is almost an impossible mission. Disheartening, but I can withstand it. As you said, it's much better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel 10 times worst with her than alone.
How could you even know?
It’s ok bros, he’ll meet the sister at the wedding and it’ll all be ok… right? 😞
she will already be a single mother of 2, from different fathers
lol, the sister has a body count of 100+ by now. Her idi0+ brother was hard at work keeping a guy who was good enough to be his best friend away while she was seeing a different dude on the side every month b/c her brother wasn't monitoring her 24/7 (nor should he...I reiterate...what a MOH-RON)
brother stopped his and her sister's potential relationship because of the jealousy (single people don't want to hang around with people in relationship, it's frustrating for them)@@nobodyworthknowing8707
Y’all are some sad discord mod ass incels. 😂
@@nobodyworthknowing8707 bro why are you projecting so hard, we havent even story yet, and haven't been given any foreshadowing by the creator.
Man I didn't even get to date in my 20's.... This is gonna suck cause now I'm rapidly barreling towards 30.
Believe me, it is going to suck way more before anything gets better.😅 I'm at that age and I know.
What's stopping you? In fact you could go this weekend just as an experiment and have fun.
@@Amantducafe dudes can only offer. We can't force a sale.
@@mr.puddles5246 That is true but to sale and offer you have to put it on a stand for everyone to see ot lock it up in a room.
@@mr.puddles5246
[Mμslim]©els:
I’m 32, 6 years ago If I would of seen this video, it would have made me depressed but funnily enough I have learned to love my self and pursue things that bring me happiness and fulfillment. I’ve been in 7 relationships and every relationship it felt like I was catering to their needs. I’ve been the happiest on my own and having a blast. Break free from the chains my brothers. Look inside for happiness ❤
This man is speaking the truth. Thank him later.
Great you are happier now.
This man must be protected at all costs
That bicycle joke was actually funny, not gonna lie
At least there is someone who's laughing in this comment section
Kekw
It's funny how the joke is unfunny actually.
I don't get it!
@@totem6064 I loled too👴🏼
In our time, getting a partner would be like a horror movie for me, and I don't think I'm the only one in the comments section here.
👍
Yeah
At least horror movies has a closure but dating is a labyrinth. While few get lucky and found someone, the rest of us still struck here trying to make sense of what the hell is all this.
Totally agree.
In Tinder I even tried a 18-64 year range for a while. Not a single response to my messages in the couple matches I got.
In highschool I was very much afraid of the same answer I got from Girls: no, always no.
Now, in my thirties, I just try to make friends with some women because I don't want to be disconnected from them. Until this day I have no real friendship with any woman, but I still feel like trying. It's frustrating because I am polite, curious, keep respectfull distances and want to be lovely, but I still don't know what sets them off so much to not even want to be friends with me. I really feel like i'm invisible.
You mean trying to get a partner or having a partner?
Holy shit this is some phenomenal writing imo.
MC is a guy who is your typical individual, genetically fine, yet his mindset constantly has kept him off the dating scene due to perpetually being prone to create excuses and not take risks. From highschool to late adulthood, he never truly changed. He sees all the flaws in everyone else to justify his worldviews, yet not himself. He's stuck on a hamsterwheel of self justification. It's really impressive how well Millinal captured this vibe imo. It's spot on.
Meanwhile, you have the more charismatic friend who while not wholly genetically blessed, has a completely different mindset. Something that cannot be forced. It has allowed him to see the world more realistically, and not think too deeply into things etc. Thus of course he ended up with a very different outcome by the end of it all. However, MC, will push down the uncomfortable thoughts and of course tell himself things to consistently justify his worldview.
Very impressive and more nuanced take of the dating cycle. Way more thought out than typical redpill / doomer takes LMFAO.
That's a great analysis! I think the worst part is that he still has that same mindset of making excuses and not putting himself out there from high school. He never matured out of it
Nah when he said 'I was on my grind set, they're just insane" that was facts 😂
No it's just women ignoring anyone who is not a 10
It’s scary how relatable this is to me. But I don’t know what to do I feel so stuck
@@m.aureliusme too, I am 26 now and I dont want to reach 30 being single..
Not gonna lie, this is the first video on YT that hits me really hard in my feelings. I'm currently 26, never been in a relationship despite being far from undesirable. I feel almost everyday the loneliness and the lack of affection. I'm feeling more and more that I will be alone forever or I will die alone. It's becoming a mental torture and I cannot tell for how long I will continue to hold this.
It's maybe a video with some memes, but you managed to talk about real problems in our society.
Just for that, I thank you.
Love from France
Same and I'm 17
Well bro your personality must suck then. Toodaloo
If you are unhappy alone you will be unhappy in a relationship, you will bring all your insecurities and issues into it and destroy it. Learn to be happy alone, then pursue a relationship, there is lots of self help info online, if you can't do it yourself, seek professional help.
Don’t think like that. Only women talk like that.
I'm 20 and in the same exact boat. Never had anyone.
Dating in my 30's is exactly the same as it was in my 20's. I'm still getting 0 matches on every dating site there is. Still "working on myself". Still showering daily and saving money. Still going to sleep alone and crying myself to sleep. Only difference is that the number of single moms in my age bracket who I can't relate to is going steadily up.
Thats hard to read man. I'm 20 and don't want to be like that.
your issue is dating sites. they do not work for the average man.
Bruh I’m 30, I have no fear of being alone since I’ve seen many guys get divorced graped
Just go out lol
@@pk-sz6bdi tried, it doesn't help
30, never had anything serious. Gave up on the dating apps 3 or 4 times in my 20s. My friends weddings were all years ago. Close friends son just turned 10.
Generally gave up trying and let my self go. Most of the time im doing ok. Work keeps my busy, even though it is from home. I live comfortably. But once in a while there is a lonely depression that hits. It comes and goes but there's no hiding from it. Regret, despair, loneliness, fear of dying alone some day. Oh well. Another working day starts in a few hours. Soon all this feels will be forgotten and all that matter is work performance. Then the evening enterainment of games TV and youtube.
Good for you. Stay put. It'll be alright. The loneliness is all in your head.
i let myself go just a tad bit and i hate how it felt, not going to lift like i used to but will be hitting the treadmill and focus on my studies and maybe learn to play the piano rather than fall back into pit of alcoholism and self hatred
Life is truly running by.
I recommend reading chapter 78 of the Quran.
Bro Go to the Philippines.
What are you waiting for ???
23 the last year in college and live almost exactly like you
Aw yeah, my favorite horror channel updated again!
Except you live that horror every day, and cannot wake up as if it were a bad dream.
My parents got married when they were in their 40s. They had my sister when my mom was 42 and me when she was 44.
This has it's downsides of course, I'm just 18 and my mom is 62 years old and my dad 65. This puts so much responsability in me (my sister studies medicine so she can't really work) to care for the house and provide what they can't bc of their age.
I thought the whole point if having children in older age is so they are financially more stable. Why are you taking care of them then?
@@shanialee7361don’t be an ass. taking care of your parents as they get older and more tired is a sign that the parents did a good job. they have already fulfilled their duties as parents
@@shanialee7361nope. Some older couples have children so they can be looked after full time. If you're lucky, you're not born for that purpose, you're just stuck with it. I was a surprise as my mother was 42 when she had me (I'm now 20). Now I'm usually looking after my 60 year old step dad and can't really rely on him. Really, he relies on me. As for my biological dad, he's 68 and legally blind. He can't drive anywhere and spends most of his days listening to movies. He relies on my much younger step mom to take care of him.
Idk my dad still works and he is 62 🤔. Guess it all depends on health
My mom had me and my sis at 39 and 40. you Litterally win some and lose some with all things in life…. Though she definitely still had her issues, my mom was a lot more mature raising me and my lil did, than she was raising our older siblings that she had at aged 19-25. Because she was a bit wider and more mature at 40 than 20
"Taking your hard work for granted"... That line hit me hard. Almost 30 myself, hope you're having a good life!
What does it actually mean? "Only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard work for granted"
Does it mean that you finally find someone but that someone expects you to be a successful man?
@@ChlopZUtopii It means that she will not see the hard work that you´ve put in your career.
ah thats true@@Moesmakendehakker658
@@ChlopZUtopii I guess it means something different for everyone.
For me for example, I saved money hard throughout my life and bought a shit shack on a large piece of land that I have been renovating and turning into a nice house for the last 6 years by myself.
If I find a woman, she will see the final product and take all that hard work for granted not knowing my struggles and sacrifices I made.
fingers crossed for you bro @@bluephoenix222
This has been the common theme I tell my friends and family about dating after essentially 24:
If the girl is single at 30, there's a reason she's single.
I've dated several divorcees, single moms, girls who they themselves are not emotionally intelligent, alcoholics (several unfortunately), mentally ill girls who don't get proper treatment (or don't follow the treatment plans), girls who cannot fucking commit, and that's not even counting the people who are so out of shape/overweight that there's no amount of 'body positivity' is going to change the impact on your health long-term. (We're looking for life partners, not a hospital case in less than 10 years). I eat healthy, exercise, and prioritize my physical health, its not unfair to want someone with a similar mind set.
God this is probably the hardest hitting to home video for me of yours and I've been watching your content for years.
I lost my gf of 4 years due to her alcoholism which led her to self destruct the entire relationship and eventually cheat on me.
I financially supported her through her masters degree, bought us a house together, and took care of her cat's vet bills who unfortunately still passed away.
I never asked much from her, she even admitted to that. Just loyalty, affection, and companionship. That's all I want... And she still cheated and left. I know for a fact that her wonderful parents are livid at her for ruining our relationship. They know I was the best she's ever had, the most stable and healthy partner she'd yet to have. And she still tossed me out like garbage.
What the fuck, man.
that’s so sad, hopefully you’re still doing okay and taking care of yourself
Thank you for sharing. There might still be girls who are single at 30 and not necessarily for those reasons. But they are rare for sure. In fact, if not for religious reasons, or because she is autistic or something, that would be very rare.
Im in the exact same boat and im afraid
many people are acting against their own benefit, doesn't matter what one should be getting - only focusing on the next step is viable
I had a somewhat similar experience with someone once (not due to alcoholism though), you think you're helping them best you can and that they'd appreciate you in return...
Wishful thinking, these people are broken beyond repair and usually don't change.
The only thing worse than reaching 30s with the grindset mentality and no gf is reaching 30s with nothing to show for it and no gf either...Yeah, I'm in a bit of trouble...
Your not alone, though a saying that comes to mind" a child complains about his situation, a man changes his circumstances." I just wish I wasn't so burnt out is all after my ex, who we are talking with( she wants me back, I'm hesitant to go back. Maybe I will end up going back, I really don't know at the moment. I'm getting myself mentally back together, have a job coach helping me get into the workforce, I'm improving myself more and more. Part of me wants to consider seeing what is out there, part of me is considering staying. It's funny how we end up where we do. Though my biggest problem letting my twenties go and moving on. If I can then I can truly live again. I guess I'm in the Damaged goods, though it wasn't as bad as I make it out to be also my older brother didn't meet his girlfriend until well later in his thirties, also for awhile I knew my aunt was dating in her 60s, she isn't that bad of a person. So, my point is don't give up, don't close yourself off. Do get yourself together though. Forgive yourself, and others. Improve yourself to a degree that your not completely a mess, and things will work out only until you make them work out.
@@thestraycat69 In 9.9/10 cases, I say it's bad mojo to take her back, my guy... you'd have to give some details on that.
Hello fellow hikikomori...
@@ScienceDiscoverer over for neetcels...
I love seeing the evolution of animation. The characters' faces became much more lively and animate, you can see their emotions and inner thoughts. That's lovely considering they are still wojacks!
Not a fan of those Redpill dating coaches who say "grind untill you're 35, bro, then date a 20 something".
Most of them are either single or dating 30 something themselves. Their advice are simply bullcrap.
@@mrtyrant1680 Yep, and even then odds are it will likely not get much better in our thirties. You can look great for your age and have a load of money, but even that can only do so much to increase your chances. The only way out of this, is if the way we look at dating, marriage & divorces laws, and hookups as a society experience a massive overhaul. Almost everyone is self-absorbed and thinking in the short run, and that needs to change.
Yeah, like, have you talked to a woman in their early 20's when you're almost 30. It's like they're children, I can't imagine dating someone like that, I don't want to be my partner's father figure lmao.
@@Eagle3302PL
The truth is, you should stop giving a fuck about age (Unless the person is underage.) and just be with someone that makes you happy.
@@mrtyrant1680 It's not about age, it's about maturity and life experience. Someone who's barely out of school is gonna have a much different level of social maturity. If you are happy being with someone immature then great, but most people past their mid 20's are not that interested in someone like that.
07:50 that... that HIT's so fVcking Hard man, there should be entire Metal albums with that theme.
Really nice detail having the two friends from the “Toxic Friends vs. Real Friends” video in the back of the college lecture! It’s also a really nice contrast between what a good relationship is vs. what a struggling relationship looks like
Such is the sad fate of all young males in the western world. Focusing on their career and by the time they want to find someone to settle down with, they are met with an endless desert that threatens to swallow them at any moment they screw up.
Sad and lonely, but what's the alternative? To chase these shape-shifting bipolar lunatics that call themselves women? I would rather be alone...
i know that feel.
This is not exclusive to western world
as ukrainian, i can confirm@@STuffSuperRandom
@@STuffSuperRandom true, but in some places if you are single in your 30s you can arrange a marriage
Him: "Hows the dating going?"
Me: "Bro, I've never even gotten a match."
I get matches and tell the women to delete themselves and I don't meet up. I don't know what I'm doing anymore.
Dating in your 30 is like girls expect you to be a rich successful mature man, while the girls you date has not much left in them to expect that.
7:19 sums it up
@@rturaeyeah! Good news is as a 30 years old good man, you can still nail the 20s girls.
You won't really suffer if you really grinded hard in your younger years
Its the same for women. Men expect you to have a perfect life and loads of money and career.
Not really, just the men you are chasing. If you look at the feedback on this, there are tons of single men out there. Many are good men, but they are invisible to you, just like average women are invisible to me. I could get a 9 or a 10, but refuse to allocate the resources necessary to keep them complacent. If you date within your value range, i can promise you won't have that problem. The issue is, the average point spread with hypergamy was about 1 point 10 years ago.... Now it is 2 to 2.5 points on the looks chart considering online dating. Its honestly crap, but its what men have to live with. I am a top 3% earner in my state and realized my money doesn't matter, as it is just expected. unless you have $1,00,000's, you are considered the same as a chad that lives in his parent's basement. Even worse, many women will bang the chad the first night, while they will make the quality guy wait months. I know this because I know chads and this is what happens. Anyways, best of luck and women have a massive advantage in the dating world, and they don't even know it.
PS. my G/F is 36, moderately overweight, has three kids and is a server that makes a fraction of what I do. However, she is very pretty, a good woman that wants to be with me and not extract resources. Me on the other hand, I live in a top 3% house (fully owned), have two cars, two kids (50%) and have a top 3% state average income with no debt. I'm also very good looking (although short (5-9)) and a good man. @@frederikaz5085
@@hieuthepunk Why would you want to nails girls in 20s? if I compare my female friend's that I have known since 16 and they are now 30. At age of 18 they literally had zero IQ and not able to hold any lvl of conversation.
Fellas don’t waste your time on dating apps. The only reason it exists is to prey on the desperate and lonely.
Dating apps are often only for hookups or pay for pleasure
I mean, if you don't have a way irl to meet people with school/work or friends groups, it's kinda hard to organically meet people
I think it depends it worked great for me. I'm in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend since 2018 and we met through badoo (a dating app)
I think the problem is that people aren't clear on what they are looking for, at least the Single Women I know and then they're surprised that guys only want to fuck them.
@@agxec2932 Hookups for the average girl and CHAD.
if u choose carefully and have standards, u won't date much there anyways. tinder algoritm makes sure most girls won't see most males even (and the fact that there's tons more males signed up), next of my roughly 200 likes over the time i wrote maybe 20, got response of 15, kept writing with 5, met one or two and it wasn't good still. for me kinda useless, i fear
As someone in his late 30's unlucky enough to be trying to find a decent woman, this is the hardest thing I've done by far. It feels like going through endless job interviews while also trying to dodge speeding cars on the highway. It shouldn't be that hard and nobody should have to go through that much trouble.
Why do you think it's so much trouble
Its even worse with men…. There r no decent men either
you trying to find a decent butthole buddy?@@frederikaz5085
@Sick_Pencil Al Bundy warned us
@@frederikaz5085Depends cause most are too scared from past interactions and actually are nice people and the rest just have hearts of stone from having a dog shot life
7:19 really sums it up. In my early 30s and had flings but never a relationship. Some ppl might look at this and be like that dude's living the dream but its more of a nightmare. I envy my friends who have been with their partners for years
I just turned 40 in May and this video hit really hard. I feel like it's a very accurate representation of my life. Fuck.
I'll be 40 in November.... and a virgin.
@@OAInboxi am 38 years old virgin male. Never had a girlfriend.
@Sick_Pencil Women aren't virgins at this age. If he finds someone she'll be a used up hole from Chad.
I just turned 40, had a few brief girlfriends but nothing serious, have given up on dating at least in this country. I'm happy being alone most of the time as an introvert, so being single suits me just fine. And its wonderfully liberating, to not not have to care about dating anymore, it frees up so much time, energy and expense
I just had really good luck with men personally almost 0 effort at all with those but same at 31 for women which is what I really want in the first place.
Cieszę się, że wśród moich rodaków jest taki świetny twórca jak Millenia Thinker, jeden z najlepszych kanałów na YT, który pokazuje prawdę tego niesprawiedliwego świata.
Every day the future approaches and looks more like My Twisted World
To Polak? 😮
@@The_Real_Dream_Chasertak
Świat jest niesprawiedliwy czy ludzie? Jak się żyje kłamstwem wpajany przez media, popkulturę itp. To potem kończy się to frustracją i poczuciem pustki. Słabi sami się eliminują.
@@The_Real_Dream_ChaserNa początku na szkole widnieje napis „liceum ogólnokształcące” ;)
I found my now husband when I was 30 and he 36. He was divorced from 2 years. We are married one year now and together from almost 6 years. But boy, was it hard to find that man.
What was the special hardness of it? 🤔
Great you found your love
Honestly I’ve always had this mindset- I’ll worry about getting a serious partner once I finish college and get a stable career… this video is making me second guess that
22.. and I'm losing hope 💀
Unless that stable career is a rockstar, athlete, or some other form of celebrity...don't wait.
@@MK_ULTRA420 Wish I got this advice when I was much younger.
Problem is, college-aged women are (generally) thinking about their career just as much as you are.
@@TripsOfficial Same
edit: Also, my best dating advice is as follows:
If she's not that into you don't waste your time. Only date women who are physically attracted to you or you will only feel suffering.
"Water seeks its own level." ~ Aristotle
Attraction is non-negotiable; there is nothing you can do, say or buy that can make a woman physically attracted to you. She's either into you or she isn't.
I spent my 20s chasing women and failed miserably because of my physical traits. Spent my 30s building career. Now at 40, dating for marriage has become an impossibility for me.
😢
Looking like this is my path.
At least they were honest about not wanting you. Then you didn't experience the rug bring pulled out from under you later.
Exercise, get fit, they'll come
Stay fit, dating apps don't have quality women there so if you re looking for quality women I'd recommend networking w ur friends at pubs or so
Don't give up, I almost did.
Do you really “need” to get married?
2:32 the reference of the pervious episode dudes in the back line is so gooood
i am 27 ... and i am more depressed than ever ... no matches anywhere and i am not ugly or desperate. I am ignored everywhere even though I have a good paying job, I have decent clothes, I don't smell bad, I take care of myself etc. Nothing. I hate it here... The older I am getting the worse it is getting ...
You can make it brother. I am 28 and finally felt the touch of another person. But I can live without it. You must practice self love to the highest degree. True happiness comes from within.
You need to remember that the video is not indicative of reality. Women are still beautiful regardless of their age and yes, people have issues but that's where love and understanding comes from.
Regardless of age, their career, if they have kids or not. The love and connection you'll create will overshadow all of it.
Keep pushing.
@@MadMazov I mean, I know. I am on the gym daily and I am a really creative person, I digitally draw etc. But it is really lonely sometimes and everytime I met someone in person, I am very kind and sweet but I didn't vibe with anyone since my last relationship and it has been a few years now. It's just... I don't know, nobody around me seems to get it.
Also I am not planning to date a women that is 28+, definitely not. Most of them already have kids, bad careers, bad experiences, huge issues, no goals, already "worn out" looks (i mean in the face), it is more like a burden to me then... and even though I am 27 I look a lot younger myself so I am looking for the equivalent of myself and nothing "higher", I have real expectations, nothing too complicated. Nobody would guess I am 27 at all. But hey, here I am. It's just something else and me being completely ghosted by most cute girls I am almost 100% sure we would have a great vibe together and I am not even getting a slight chance, it's just really painful.
same with me. Even tho im 19, i do not look like the one (perceptionally younger). Never been in true relationship, or went on a date with a single girl. Looking around myself, all i notice is ignorant and immature guys, who smoke, drink, yet somehow they still push through this unbreakable barrier that we can't.
I really want to experience this kind of stuff just once in my life.. while i'm young..@@jaystergg
@@jaystergg no worries guys I'm 22 and I depressed as f. I'm waking up everyday on autopilot. I working on autopilot and looking for something better. I never had any experience in love or even in any kind of relationship. I don't have any contact with people from school. In job I don't want any friendship because it will cause trouble and only more work to do (for real). I'm depressed or something idk I'm not doc. I lost reason in my life as fast as I graduated from school. My look is better than my feeling about it. Whatever I never even had chance for love. That sucks? No what sucks is living with worst future in my head, that I'll never move forward I'll like that forever. That just sad.
wow, wojak used to have such nice hair
Neck
He still has hair more than most men his age can say. With some hair products and some basic maintenance he can have good fair and a nice haircut solves. It's not like Wojak has a completely bad deck of cards has an apartment, office job though he struggles to rise up in the ranks (he should just talk the boss up it seems to work sometimes) and doesn't seem to be bad in the economic side. Unlike Nate/Incel who literally has everything going against him
Sorry, but who is wojak?
@@BWatskins The brutality of the situation is that most of us are like Wojak. There's nothing abjectly terrible about us. To an outside viewer, we're doing just fine. And yet we are still alone. Inceldom is becoming the norm. And the curse of doing just alright outwardly is that it means there are no obvious avenues of improvement left. The obese guy can always lose weight and hope. But what do you do when you already did all the right things and you are still alone?
At some point you just realise, it's over. You're average, and average is the new ugly.
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 Overseas then. Not the best solution but what can we do in these times of trial.
Having a loving relationship is a high priority for me and I’ll bet it’s the same for a lot of you out there. Don’t let family, friends, or anyone else convince you to focus solely on work if you want to find someone to fall in love with because you can do both! I recently found a girl who supports me in my ambitions and lifts me up when I feel down, it makes my professional life a lot easier to bear. I haven’t felt this way since my very first girlfriend so I hope we last a lifetime together. Best of luck to everyone
Thanks for sharing. I found happiness alone but would like to have a relationship to uplift each other's life you know?
@@iithunderii9800 I feel like there has to be eventually a trade off somewhere with "happiness alone" and not being happy alone. Like the former is dangerous because the comfort of being alone could be trapping, the latter is bad too, making people desperate. Some amount of loneliness could be necessary to force socialisation
don't get too attached bro, she could leave you for a better guy, especially with that 'loving relationship being a high priority for me' mindset. i'm not trying to bring you down, I just don't to see you get too invested then get hurt along the way.
@@marsdriver2501 I agree
@@nax1807 I struggle with letting myself get attached to people for this reason. My grandmother has been going through some surgeries recently and shes seen me in some rough places and been there to support me so I feel like she has really earned my loyalty. Ultimately though I think I’m ready to take that risk of getting fully attached because there’s always going to be that doubt in my mind no matter who I’m with and at some point I gotta take that leap of faith. If I get hurt later down the line then I guess she wasn’t the one but I don’t wanna let the fear of that happening in the future control my actions now. But I honestly believe she likes me for myself, a lot of the time she refuses that I spend money on her with dates and she’ll organize a beach day instead or something. I used to be a “fuck bitches get money” kinda guy after I got my heart broken for the first time then I realized none of the women I was with cared about me and I didn’t really care much about them I was just letting fear keep me from becoming vulnerable with someone and building a solid relationship that will last. I appreciate the concern though man
the tinder part is so well written
Dating in your 30's makes you realise that you are one of the very few who actually managed to grow up and polish their character and intellect(If you were doing it throughout your 20's). It is a very disappointing and lonesome feeling.
this is why I never wanna "grow up" and carry myself so seriously, if the rest of the world is immature why should I be mature? 😂😂
I like these pseudo intellectual takes, it makes me feel sophisticated like (insert fancy pantsy person here)
one comment says that dating people in their 30's is like dating ten-year-olds and here you're saying they are intellectual.
@@iiCounted-op5jx Because at one point in our lives We all have to grow up, and mature, .... because at one point in life there will be an event or an experience that will force us out of our Cacoon, out of our Bubble... I understand what you mean it has worked for me in the past, but not anymore... Not after the death of Two of my closest friends, now I feel like I'm walking alone in a Desert 🏜️ with no real Road to follow no real destination... The only things that keep me going are 3 goals I want to accomplish a Purpose in life , after that I don't care if I die I'll die Happy know that atleast there will be no more worry, stress, and Pain.... But everyone even does end up being forced to mature... eventually so will you.
@@crushedcan5378unfortunately that you do not understand things you read
@@White-dj2go lmao what is this sentence?
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Dating in today's 30s hits you hard when you realize that all the quality women are already in relationships. And you get....well, the insane rest.
Always has been, there's a reason why back in the day Boomer men put a hard limit on 24 as a cut off age. I was stupid enough to go for a much older woman because I was attracted to her success and intellect, unfortunately hypergamy as a man isn't something that is rewarded long-term.
@@lxdead5585 Just say you've been rejected and move on 💀💀
They can completely change 10 years later after marriage, it is really unpredictable.
Why I prefer 18-22 range. Problem with that however, is if the village I'm in is obsessed with blue pulled bullshit, they'll go out of their way to gain up to sabotage it.
same shit in the 20s as well don't worry
Ah yes, another anxiety for me
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@@hardworkingslacker7233 danke brudi
4:27 "Hey, you know why the bicycle fall over? Because it was two tired." - this really got me.
Glad I'm not the only one who recently heard about "men's life start after 30, be on your grindset bs"
We need a second part to see what happens at and after the wedding
The guys sister and our hero finally fall in love with each other and soon get married themselves and from there on living happily ever after!
@@hardworkingslacker7233I'm not desperate enough for your candy, silly coat man
The guys sister and our hero meet after a long time, the sister is married and has kids now with another dude, who is tall, handsome, multimillionaire,... They talk for a while and she admits that she liked him, but he never asked her out so she just moved on.
Our hero comes home and stares at the ceiling for hours. Time passes, he is 40 now. Lost his job and apartment because of drug abuse and lives on the street now.
Age 43, he gets murdered by another homeless man because he wanted to steal his stash of canned beans.
🥳THE END 🥳
I have a feeling I may go down this road... 24 currently and haven't had proper relationship yet, yet to build a career or get a job. I have mostly focused on self improvement and battling behavioral addictions/escapism through out years... thanks a lot for making vids man, your vids always makes me very very bothered like it makes me want to do something quickly... of course discipline > motivation but still, nice to read comments too...
*The Movie Horrors* - --Specifficaly horror movies where somebody chasing someone,scary and gore horrors--
*The Real Life Horrors* - Real and deeper horrors than in movies, Fomo,toxic friends,emotional damages,becoming fastly old these are the real horrors
Even tho im younger than 30, I feel like at 30 you would be dealing with so much emotional baggage from people, it feels like you either lockdown your highschool sweetheart or youll get a very hard time in dating, brutal
Others also have to deal with your baggage whats your point?
He is immature and a shallow thinker, maybe it's not his point but it's his problem.@@cryptidddd
@@cryptidddd that's exactly what OP said. Basically you either make it earlier, or you don't. Pretty much true.
Damn this hits hard, personal financial circumstances and being a responsible person for family make this the reality for most of us. i hope this changes some day
Inflation so bad it has men cope with the harsh reality that they have to wait till there in their 30s to be in a relationship with a young woman
Good. Why young woman need older man?
Yes, so, how can we solve this problem of postponing a relationship? Women at the age of 30 have had their tremendous share of dating and sex with hot wealthier 10% of men. So the average beta male could suffer with what is left for him at the end of the road. Most men can not stand the liability of extravagant spending on girls in their formative years which is usually in their 20s. Women peak at a younger age mostly around between 18 to 26. Therefore, that grants them a huge advantage in the dating pool. That is why you would notice that men(30s) go look for young girls (20s) to take the chance of the heat steel before it is washed or put out😅😅
Not to mention the economic turbulence and crisis we live in now impede our relationship growth and its continuation.
@@AliiMerc
To start a family, women at their age ranges are already single moms or near hitting the biological wall.
@@loner9832 Yes but you're talking to a female NPC.
I never had a chance, never got interest from girls, or at least I was too oblivious to notice it.
The "grind" is my only saving grace, if I can't get lucky in love then I gotta prosper somehow.
2:13 I love that you put the 2 guys from the last video in the background
this must be a message that dont take time for granted or the people you meet because you might never meet them again and that person may be your future partner
And here i was told that 30s is your prime time of life. Been 30 for 9 months already, and it feels like this shit isnt gonna go that way at all.
The ending hits too close to home, all your friends are getting married and you are there alone, it makes you feel like you did something wrong in your life
I was unlucky in love the same as this my whole life, but I never just settled. Met my wife when I was 32, she is stunning and my ideal partner. I am 41, married and we have two great kids. Don't lose hope.
Any advice? I'm 28 and I'm reaching my prime
Hahahahahaha, unlucky *MY ASS!!!!*
The fact that lucky people actually go out to say that they are unlucky is INSANE!
How old is she?
Congrats man, gives me hope.
@@MinhNguyen-pk9qk It’s a misogynistic view to think that all women dating in their 30s “have issues”. The truth is they may have been hurt and now have emotional baggage , may be a single mother, etc but so what? That doesn’t make them broken and you perfect. If you’re always looking for what’s wrong with them you will never find the good in them. The reality is you can bring out the best in them and in turn they will do it for you too. My wife makes me a better a person and I wish I had realised that’s how strong relationships work earlier.
@@godnyx117 “unlucky in love” is an age old saying my friend. Google it.
The animation quality and the details in the videos have improved massively. Looks very clean, good job!
Well, I have dated in my 20s - it's just that the ladies wanted to play the field themselves and most of them were many levels below me so it was I who didn't commit many times. I did both the grind and have dated - I come from a poor family, also.
And it's a similar case more or less to my friends also.
What I'm trying to say, It's a generational thing, what we experience in dating. Our great grandparents never even put in a fraction of the effort that we did to get below-average results. Doesn't even matter if you're 6", have some attractive facial qualities, making good money...
It's not his fault, it's not my fault, it's not your fault - society has just failed us.
I guess now in my 30s I certainly am more attractive because now I also have a good career on top of looking somewhat decent. And the results are still for the most part crap - just have to make peace with it that it's a bad period in history for men and that's it.
Note: I originally posted it as a reply to someone, but I figure it will help more guys if they can see it as a comment in itself.
guess I'm stuck in that state too, won't look for a girl to love until i love myself, problem is i might never accomplish that
Yes you can
You'll get there bro, maybe don't limit yourself to "when I love myself", being happy in your own company is a great first step, aim for small goals, over time it compounds.
hi, i like your animations.
i wont know what its actually like to date in the 30's but i still think your videos are as true as ever.
youre a very rare specimen on this platform. good job
why you wont ?
@@bestlobjagamer348maybe he's younger than 30 just like me. Well at least if it comes to body because your mental can be something absolutely different. Just like mine I don't have any idea about what talking about with people in my age
@@L3G10Npl yea but he said he will not know what its like to date in 30 it seemed like he meant he wouldnt live to his 30's idk
@@bestlobjagamer348 none of us can be sure if we'll live tomorow so... well...
@@bestlobjagamer348 either hes married already or checked out of dating completely, hope its former
Parting message is fairly spot on. You need to have dreams and ambitions and know how to be happy alone. Then if you by chance meet the right person, they'll amplify all the happiness you've already made for yourself. Relationships multiply happiness. If you have zero happiness in you, a relationship x your happiness will still be zero. Even those that have been dating since their youth have failed relationships. It's just about getting lucky, and you'll increase that luck naturally by pursuing those ambitions
Damn, I feel very old for laughing at the bycicle joke! 😢
yeah me too and i'm only 20 😱
scrolled for a while for this comment, glad I'm not the only one
Imagine zoomers in 30 years explaining dating dynamics
wdym in 30 years? We're 3 years away atleast to 30
Oldest Zoomers are already like 25-26. You’re thinking of gen alpha
To whom? None of us will have kids anyway....
@anatole2478 we'll be the forgotten 99% explaining it to the chosen 1%
Its shit. No personality and no skills. Not even worth trying
This hits too close to home.
I was too picky in high school and college, or maybe too shy.
Now I'm still single and 24 and it's got harder.
Trust me, those b*tches ain't worth your time.
I had chances myself, but they weren't right for me then, and they sure as hell ain't right for me now. I am 100% on this. Absolutely no reason I should've settled for the two girls who gave me chances.
I wish I even had a chance to be picky, no one ever showed even the slightest interest in me in highschool or college. Now Im 32 and very alone.
Dude, you still have time to change and get it done. I'm 31 and I do not advise being single. I also was maybe too shy and I always thought girls didn't like me but I have actually been with quite a few women and I'm picky. Just my advice is get out of your own head and try to get a solid girlfriend within the next couple of years.
stfu, you are 24, you are PRIME age to go out and meet someone. At 30, when you walk into a bar you feel like a creepy grandpa, everyone looks so young. I fucked around and now I'm finding out.
Significantly harder
This one was rough. I have to saying being a 30 plus wizard is rough (not from lack of trying), but its humbled me to see the good in people and not judge based off looks. I was a social reject until I started working in retail. The job forced me to come out of my shell and talk to people more, and I now can tell when people show interest in me for friendship or more. But, my teenage years ruined my brain, and I'll always think I'm not good enough for anyone, even if I know I'm worth it. I just keep my self applied to my grindset, and have worked my way up in the credit score world, and have a decent savings which makes me happy, and its enough for me now.
Sometimes I have the same thought, that I'll look for love as soon as I got it all together, but lately I don't think I want to seek for love at all. Everything is messed up with people this days. For the sake of myself, maybe being alone isn't as bad as it may seems.
Is not bad at all, I’m actually flabbergasted reading comments talking about loneliness and crying … wtf
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It's the same in your 20s these days.
Social media has ruined dating expectations both in guys and girls.
The game is rigged for average and below average looking people from the start as their self esteem is hurt so much that they rather stay on their phone looking for "matches" and end up even more frustrated.
At the end of the day it is a thing we can't really control anyways so don't sweat it.
You are good the way you are and the ammount or "looks" of partners you've had or have in your life, do not represent your worth as a human being.
"They're single in their 30s because they are insane"
Damm.. that sums up most of the mainstream dating websites
well that dude is insane as well
@@thomas.thomaswhy
@@okipoki818 not insane, just another bland careerist.
@@thomas.thomasI dont think insane. He lacks the realist/stoic perspective/attitude that finding a proper partner in your 30s that's stable mentally, physically, emotionally and financially is harder to find.
Most people had/have built up baggage over the years emotionally, mentally, physically or financially in some way nor do they want to fix their character flaws and think things will workout without them doing any of the inner work believing that somebody out there will put up/enable their bullshit which is insane.
Hence the MC saying, "I'm single because I was in my grindset in my younger years, they're single in their 30s because they are insane"
He is insane, he can't see that he is the male equivalent of these women. @@Sei1989
7:07 Here’s the difference: women have intrinsic value in the dating world. While men do not. Just be having female biology gives them significantly more value and desirability over men in similar standing. A cute body and a baby factory give Im you a big advantage in finding a partner, all the way until your mid thirties when your feminine body traits begin to fade, and you’re on your last few eggs.
Then at 40, the playing field becomes even.
This hits hard. I skipped dating in my 20s because I had stuff to take care of. Grindset, health issues etc. Now I don't know if it will ever happen. Is it even worth it to try?
Yes of course it is. Never stop trying. You lose all the chances you don't take.
You need to learn to enjoy the process too, meeting various women, turn the failures into anecdotes, learn what to avoid, learn what to seek. It takes time, effort and will have ups and downs but someone out there is a match. It's not about it being "worth it" that mindset is awful, like it's a process to hire an employee, this approach will make you unhappy. Try to find joy in meeting people and hanging out and sooner or later you'll meet someone who is a good match. The reward at the end shouldn't be "acquire a partner" it should be finding someone you want to spend time with and be around.
@@Eagle3302PL Hiring an employee is actually a good metaphor for dating. You spend a lot of time and money looking for possible candidates, you have to try and figure out how much of what they're presenting is accurate, and if you pick a good candidate you can get many years from a fruitful relationship. If you pick wrong, then you're bound by law to a contract that is an expensive process to get out of. At least where I live if you fire someone you need to pay to unemployment boards, give justification for why the person was terminated, and quite often have to pay lawyer fees.
Unless you really want kids or something I wouldn't worry about it.
@@EdWard-ie5wn I approve. Making a family is the only good reason to bother with it. Every other reason is pointless where you are in your 30s. Lots of women (and people) are of low quality nowadays, feminism and social medias taught them to be useless leechs and only the smart ones have actual useful skills to help you with in a relationship, and most of them are already in a relationship. Only bother if you want a family.
There are some inthe population that will never know love. With each passing year, life seems less worth living.
This is accurately terrifying. I went to work (ten hours) and sometimes I’m scared to fall asleep just because I didn’t do anything else with my day. It’s like one day I’ll be 35-40 and won’t remember anything life altering.
damn bro, feels like you just gave me one of those possible future visions. I'll try to learn something from this
You don't need to be 30, falling in love with one wrong girl can make such a devastation, holding for too long, trying too hard and if you open eyes it's often too late. It's not too late for me tho but it was close enough, such an experience is like bucket of cold water, after that you know what you need to do. It's growing up in this times (and its just one aspect of life from many others). Keep being focused, keep your rules, make time for your hobbys, grind a little bit and remember better to do something and regret it than regret that you didn't do it
Turning 30 in a couple days, been single for over 5 years and I'm satisfied with how I've lived my life. My advice is to have healthy hobbies that can also help you build friendships. For me, thats rock climbing. My next piece of advice is easier said than done and can require years of introspection, but find out what you really like to do, and do that. You might have to be a starving artists, but if you do what you love, that in and of itself is the reward.
1:38 back then, walking in college, he saw so many girls.. "no need to rush"..
4:46 now, walking at the workplace, and seeing only bald dudes.. I felt that 😅
It's sad how hard it is to find love nowadays. I have never been a fan of dating apps because imo you cannot force love and I think the relationship is already onto a bad start when there are already such high expectations laid out the first time you meet (finding a mate). The best relationships usually happen with people you randomly meet and fall in love with after you have spend time with them. But nowadays it's so difficult to meet people naturally without it being forced. Everyone is so isolated and lonely. Makes me sad
i used to make friends with people easily both online and offline. until a shift happened and now it is difficult to meet new people. sometimes i chat with a couple of people at shows that i go to or i add people that i played with on some online game, but everyone seems more closed off, less likely to exchange contacts, and generally seem less interested in making friends and/or become acquaintances. but at the same time everyone complains that they are so lonely and have no friends so i dont get it?
Kind of relatable and I hope this helps future men in their early 20s, I wasn't interested in going to parties or clubs doing one-night stands with randoms, or dating females wanting to cheat, I was critical about all that disgusting crap from how it contributes to just meanless relationships, on top of that risk of STDs and accidental childbirths. Online dating was scam, wasting loads of money to attract only baby mamas even in early 20s. Met women who aren't wholesome and talking to them feels like feeding a black hole and they only intersted in sexual things or someone to complain to. All the fun upbeat women who can have wholesome conversations and fun are always taken. Same crap day by day from 20s to 30s. On top of that trying to ask for online advice about dating as a single man can be difficult as the internet likes to try to make an incel loser out of you.
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I guess there's something wrong with me while I am at my 20's and I feel like this
same
Not really, society has gotten weirder over the last decade. I think it's going to be pretty hard for Gen Z no matter what.
Dating as a man in your 30s is the best time ever. Being financially stable and not likely to fall for any bs. You just have to avoid wimminz your age due to foreseeable reasons (pregnancy trap, etc.).
I don't want to feel like a women has invaded or is leeching off my life and work just becuase she wasn't there when things were hard. I would greatly prefer someone who had my back the whole way and who helped build my life with me.
@@lakitu6422 What does that have to do with dating in your 30s?
@@lakitu6422 Good luck finding that
@@lakitu6422this has nothing to do with the first comment 😂
Are you dating for marriage or just adding additional body counts to those younger women?
I’m 20 and it’s exactly the same as in this video, only difference is I don’t care. I’m not gonna cry about never meeting “my soulmate” or a woman who’ll make me happy, because what matters is I make myself happy. I’m not gonna let anyone else define my happiness, and if so happens I meet a woman who I enjoy being around then I’ll make an effort to be around her more because that makes me happy. If not then who cares, i won’t worry about who’s at the finish line because I know I chased success running along side myself.
This is the right mindset. As someone who experienced it, being with someone don't improve your happiness if you're not happy in the first place. It only increases what's already there, and it's only positive if you're with the right person anyway. Happiness comes from self growth and hard work.
Half the reason I don't wanna fix my life is becuase I know that the next step after passing school and getting a job is just this video.
if you don't fix your life you are going to be 30, single and istead of having a car and a house like this guy, you are gonna live with your parents or under a bridge
Fix it for your self. Not for a girl or to impress anyone else other than yourself.
Remember - the only one that's always willing to help you is yourself.
first positive/good comment here, thanks man :) @@mahmoodalmahmood7014
The goat just dropped a new video 😋
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Bro, drop this satanic ghetto slang asap.
2:14 Insane background detail on the previous video about Toxic and Real friends.
After a long relationship i was alone between 25 and 32, at 32 i met with a girl, she was 30 at the time.
Im 37 now, she is loving and very supportive, we are married and live together.
Its not impossible guys.
For some people it is impossible.
Life isn't fair
Turning 30 this year, single. Last relationship ended 3 and a half years ago due to getting cheated on. She's happily dating someone else, and I feel like I am left with all the personal issues still.
Most stable people that I know, who are in healthy relationships, met with people they met at their time at university, or one of their first jobs.
Accepting I will be alone until I die, or most likely end up in a less healthy relationship due to the other person being as broken as me.
Your still young , don't give up , my husbund married me when he was 34 and i was 23, and he was lost too , that was 10 years ago , one thing i can tell you , we didnt look for love on dating apps, but rather found each other when he was shopping and i was the cashier at a store 😂 he would allways buy stuff from the store i worked in , and that's how it happend ,and we married in a year ,we didnt waste time, you just need to look in the right places,
Imma say it, the dating world is hot garbage right now. For everyone. Doesn't matter how old you are. It's mainly caused by tinder and technology in general.
I’m 18 and never dated. Liked a hot but was always too awkward around her. Tried talking to girls but was always too nervous. I need to get my shit together…