I'm 31 And Have No Friends (Emotional I'm Sorry)
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I am 31 and I just realized something that I never expected. Be it Gamestop or Walmart. Retail horror or gaming. You need to hear this from me.
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Yo... I just got here by Aba and Preach. Honestly I didn't see it there cause I wanted to watch the original and properly react with my own thoughts. Thank you for sharing this. No I'm not a subscriber and I have no idea what your content is but I will find out soon XD
That been said I want to shar emy piece with you as well.
I am from Mexico, 36 years old and married. When I was around 12 ish I was bullied for 5 years at my school. There was no "rejected" section. Even those "loosers" would mess with me as well so... you can imagine. Back then my aunt (Father's sister) was married to an American. Most amazing guy ever. Unfortunately around this month after thanksgiving and such he took his life due to his own demons. My grades were also going down so my parents took me to therapy. While I explained this so called "professional" basically told my parents that I wasn't able to take the blame of my own actions and would blame everyone else instead. lol. So now my only safe place which was my homw turned as well into hell. Not that they did anything bad to me but simply thought i was just lazy and irresponsible.
A few days I'm pretty sure during those years I really just wanted to end it all. But the grief that me and my family went through loosing my uncle would remind me what I would cause to all of them. The only reason I'm brething right now is because of him. Then I told my parents. Earned the courage to let them know the type of looser I was. They took it on the best way possible and changed me to another school. But ofc I was at high school at that point. All those things I didn't live younger I was experiencing them. Even having a girlfriend. Took me again into the wrong direcion not focusing on school and just... living and having fun.
That made me think that those who decide to end it all are just cowards. How dead wrong I was.
So it could have been no more than 2 years ago I trully understood. I also cried. Realizing that my uncle didn't end it cause he was a coward. He did it to save my life in a way. For that I am thankful. Today I only have 2 best friends and ofc my wife. I have been betrayed by others. I have learned the bad way that as much as you offer sometimes people don't appreciate it. Hope you don't need to learn that but please remember it is is a possibility and yet you are not alone. There is always someone new. There is always a new experience. And there is also always a new downfall.
Someone once said "tears are the heart's sweat" and it's very true. Cause it just simplifies how much your heart can work for you and eventually just has to express it on one way or another.
Big hughs from Mexico. And stay strong my dude.
Good luck.
Man I don’t believe you for a second, you have friends come on.
@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395
How come?
@@rainynight6334 because he’s cappping
It was painful seeing you being upset, it's not easy being lonely. I hope you are feeling happy and fulfilled in the relationships that you have.❤
"i got married and she became my best friend and then one day she just didn't want to be my friend anymore" that shit hurt my heart man
I know my heart sank
That line hit hard man.
this just happened to me and it really sucks.
I mean it happens. I mean, I was on the other end of it with a girl I dated for 8 years. She was planning out our lives together and the reality is, I had just been carrying on because I didn't want to hurt her, I should have broke up with her years ago. When she started saying we need to seriously discuss marriage, that's when I said that's it. That was the step I couldn't take.
Yeah, i relate to that situation, i am living it.
Stay strong..
I prefer to be alone, but I hate feeling lonely. It's not the loneliness that kills you, its the thought that no one cares about you and that you'll be forgotten.
This .. 🥺
Bruh cmon stop making me cry.
That doesnt bother me in the slightest tbh haha everyone will be forgotten one day.
Thats part of it for me too. I used to have so many friends but honestly I feel like I've already been forgotten since I've moved so much. Now I'm just in a pure loneliness where I feel like I forget how to make friends. Friendship online seems to be a "Friendship" only when they feel like it. I'm probably guilty of that too because I like my space to do what I want but at times I want someone to do things with but only when im in the mood.
@@TheBloggme For the most part I don't mind it either, and you could sure as hell survive school without any friends. But in the real world, you'll 100% need them, and that's no joke. I don't care how introverted, resclusive, or "doomed" you think you are, you're gonna need friends at some point in your life. If you're working a day job or following a career, or even just simply going to Uni, I couldn't stress how crucial it is to help you keep up with the days of stress and inevitable anxiety. Being forgotten or not cared about can be the most painful thing in the world if given the proper circumstance.
I'm a disabled dad. No friends. This video hits.
Edit: Since commenting on this video, I put my ordination to proper use and began serving God in a small, rural chapel, which resulted in further clerical opportunities in the church and closer ties with family and community.
Helping others has helped me overcome my feelings of isolation, and building a closer relationship with the Lord has healed my heart and soul.
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support.
God bless you all.
F man
wishing the very best for you bro
Get a gaming console bro me and my friends will game with you anytime you’re free
Hey friend :)
28 years old. No friends, never had a girlfriend. I have a job thank God for that. Gives me a reason to wake up in the morning. No life outside of work. But its a life I guess.
I know a guy who rode his bicycle from home (western Europe) to China. Took him about one year.
Im married now with kids so this isn't in it for me but if I were you that's what I'd do. He said it cost him about 5 grand, not including the bike and flight back. So say with 10k you can do that and have an enormously adventurous, enriching experience.
Life goes by quick, and you can always get another mediocre job and apt. Trust me, I've been there. I know from experience. Don't let life pass you by.
I'd like to be ur friend!
❤️
You’re still young. Get out there and see if you like some people. You’ll be surprised how often you’ll prefer the company of a couple people and even your own company.
24 and in the same spot. I acutally had a good amount of friends before covid but I slowly lost them all over the years for many reasons, but it didnt have to be that way and it's my fault. I hope you're doing well man. You need to put yourself out there and fix this problem as soon as possible because it will only get more difficult to make friends as you get older. If you're in this situation, then you've already hit the bottom and it can only go up from here. Any win, even small talking to a new person is a huge win.
It’s so hard to make friends after high school
It's more hard to make friends after college. When you start to dive into workforce, you will face allot of toxicity and deceitfulness
Only if you suck at being social, you just need a hobby and the ability to be alone
true
It’s actually way easier to make friends after Highschool. People mature after Highschool and I struggled to make friends in Highschool because everyone was so immature and I matured faster than everyone. I made so many more friends in my first semester of college than all four years of High school put together
@@apostolalin8765 yup yup true. That’s what happened to me
I have “friends” but I don’t have “friends”. My only “real friend” is my blood younger brother. and that’s ok. I love my brother.
Word! With my bro it’s like hanging out with myself
That's the best! I have 3 siblings and they are my friends too.
Yeah my older brother is my only real friend. I agree. I like hanging out with people for like an hour, then in my head I’m just planning an escape route and how to get home as quickly as possible lmao.
My sister died in 2017. We didn't really hang out (she had a family going on and shit, I wasnt like her first concern, still we saw each other often enough), but GOD DAMN, I'll never get over losing her! 💔
IF YOU'VE GOT A BROTHER OR A SISTER GO TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM! RIGHT NOW! If you're not on talking terms or some shit like that, work it out before its too late!
@@johndough2902 I am in the same situation, hang out with my bro, chill with other ppl max of 2 hours, then I want to escape home.
I'm 42 and I don't have any friends. I buried my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle from age 9-13. I lost so many people in my life and I don't want to lose any more. I play video games to numb the pain and act as a distraction, but I want to have friends to play games with.
Go out. Go to swim, Go to the gym, join any sport group, join any club, adopt dog/ cat and meet new people. Don’t waste time alone with games.
@@LawZist Sorry but that's pretty ignorant. Nowadays people can play with others online. Plenty of genuine, deep relationships have been started just through gaming.
Jesus man Jesus is the permanent friend. Seek in spirit.
@@angelduran717 did you not understand you cant be friends with dead people
The first reply is very ignorant, definitely play video games, it helps so so much. Although I do agree you should go out on walks, bike rides and maybe get a dog! I just recently lost the most important person in my life, my grandfather. It’s been hard but being distracted, learning new things and focusing on my own progress is the only thing that helps.
im 39, and will be 40 in a small handful of months. i have no friends. i go to work and come home. day in, day out. every week. many days get very hard to not jump off a tall building
Hey man u doing okay? I’m sure being 40 isn’t easy but there’s always other people out there in the same boat. Just be out there and you’ll find them.
Hey how you doing now buddy?
Hope you're doing well,
life's really hard, but we're blessed to be alive, i guess...
God bless you always my man, stay safe
Hey, I hope you’re doing okay?
Please let us know you’re okay :)
I know. It's really hard not to. Unfortunately for me, one day I'll lose the battle, it will be harder not to do it than to actually do it.
I have no friends and being alone is heartbreaking. I got no one to game with and I remember having so many friends to game and have a social life with and now life happened and reading this comment sections. I realized how much of a chronic issue it is.
Xbox or Ps4 my dude ?
Same here man I still have some on FB messenger from hometown I see extremely rarely. I guess I struggled to keep up with everyone else. I am divorced in 20s after dating a girl for 6 years and divorce after 1 year of marriage that probs didn't help LOL. Just know you aren't alone!
It’s hell when you truly don’t and annoying when people say they don’t when they really do and another thing many people don’t understand is that having no friends in childhood is way more traumatizing than drifting apart from friends in adulthood
I've been gaming with the same group of guys for like a decade and we all met through a hockey message board and never actually met eachother in person until 5 years after we started gaming together.
If I had the consoles everyone else has I’d add you. But I only play on the switch 😟
Having a small number of true friends will always be better than being surrounded by a large amount of fake friends 💯
That's very true, the smaller the circle the stronger the bonds.
@@skydonkey9515 I've learned that over the years in the hard way but I wouldn't trade the lessons learned for anything else
I gots 5.
Until you realize the true friends were fake as well.
I got no friends either and I could care less. I lost faith in people a long long time ago. I am alone but I am not lonely.
I've been out of high school for 5 years and it's crazy how everyone you hung out with slowly fades away, not because you have problems with them but because everyone moves on. I guess it's just life
Just wait till you’ve been out of school for 2 decades. The only people you’ll even know anymore are your coworkers and if they’re not your age or they don’t like you then you pretty much have no one
Well during your youth the word friend just means ppl who know your name. But at the time you think they'll help you in need but reality is they are just ppl who just know your name.
Lifestyle change is a big factor I find. I don't hang out with drinkers or drug addicts by choice because my wife isn't a drinker or drug addict. I used to have loads of friends in high school but their lifestyle isn't my cup of tea.
@@NickJaime true as god 🙏
@@NickJaime very deep meaning 👍👍
Have a beautiful day
Why do we feel like we have to apologize for being emotional? To be human is to be emotional, don’t apologize for being human! ❤️
i had "friends" when i was 24, but when my car broke down... i found out they weren't my friends... you get my point
Yes your learning g at a young age. Your friends are in your wallet. Washington, Hamilton, Lincoln.
I had friends then I got married then I had kids now they’re gone
@@Andreasplace if anything you'd have more friends by having a kid
@@coryleblanc they are but they for sure can’t relate past Roblox and 7th grade math
@@Andreasplace no, you can make friends with other parents
You’re not a “bitch” for crying bro your room is a vibe my friend. Take care of yourself.
Exactly!!!
Yeah at least hes not a prisoner of approval of others
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He really is tho. Choosing to not go out and make friends then crying about it. Is the weakest thing ive seen.
I don't have any friends either. None. I talk to noone and i play with noone. Do I care? No. Because i learned to cook, work on my body and started studying psychology. Stop. Crying. You. Child.
@@JoeMama-mg5dk I agree and disagree everybody has a different mind. Depression for one can play a huge factor. That and anxiety so I'ma assume if it was that easy he would be able to open up. Just depends some may need medication to function better.
I am only 23 and feel this. Work, sleep, work, sleep. Lost my mom in Februrary from cancer. Never realized how lonely this world is.
stay strong!
Same thing about working and sleeping. Its super easy to forget what the good stuff is when you do that for a while without anyone around. We can get through it man.
I'm 26, and when I was like 22 or 23, I still had a group of friends and a girlfriend, which was super weird, because I was always closed off, introverted and stuff, so I guess you could say I got lucky? But I didn't. They turned out to all be toxic people who didn't appreciate me or respect my choices, she ended up cheating on me and just leaving as soon as I found out, for another man, literally the dude she told me not to worry about. And this was right before Covid started. I don't remember having 5 genuine social interactions since then. It's just work and sleep. I try to fill up my time with hobbies like reading, drawing, building model kits, collecting comics and action figures, working out, playing video-games, hanging out with my family... But sometimes I can't even do that. I don't have the strength or the willpower to keep on going. It's so hard when you have no one to share your experiences with, to be excited about something together.
But that just makes me wonder, what is it that I'm looking for? Is it people to actually build relationships with? Or is it just someone to compliment my existence and my life?
We all know how you feel.
I know what you are saying. Im 33, ive got nothing. No friends, no family, no career, no life. Ive always been so worried about other people and what they think of me that i have let it control my life. Now im in a position where im at the end. I cant get a job because ive been unemployed so long and due to mental health struggles its been very hard to hold down a job throughout my life. I feel so alone and abandoned because i dont know where to turn. People say go to the doctor but honestly whats the point? They just refer to you to "talking therapies" which dont make much difference and its a huge waiting list. Soon im going to be homeless and i keep thinking that id be better off dead but i never get the courage to do it. Ive never been on a date or had a relationship with anyone and although i feel so lonely i dont want to be around or interact with other people in person. I feel stuck
try volunteering.
Could of written this myself. I'm in the same boat 😢
7 months ago. Im sorry my man. Same boat with you ill be on the streets soon ill be having one more good meal then ill be dead soon
me too brother. stay strong.
I was just like you brother . i say try looking after ur body like start lifting weight its a really good start and it worked for me im still alone sure but i feel way better and looking better too
It makes me feel a little "better" knowing that I'm not the only person having no friends as an adult
Same I’m also 30
*hugs*
Same and I'm 27. I'm so glad I found this video I feel less alone.
Same & just recently turned 45😳
Same. I'm 33 not married, no kids, no siblings, no friends.
I'd rather die a loner than live surrounded by fake friends.
Agreed
@FuckOuttaHere I fail to see how that is edgy. If anything I see another human being expressing he/she wants a genuine connection rather than playing a character (or entertaining one) like many (including myself) do.
Why do human beings backbite other human beings, is it worth having friends that backbite and gossip about others, sometimes being surrounded by people like this is not worth it.
@FuckOuttaHere facts
This sounds like a coping mechanism. If all of your friends turned out to be fake, you have to consider the problem may not lie with them. The odds of having all or most of your friends turn out to be fake is slim to none. More likely than not it’s not even intentional at all, but a misinterpretation of a relationship that never truly was reciprocal. Or, in other words, they were never your friends to begin with.
Most people I know who feel the way you do got there because they realized they didn’t mean as much to their friends as their friends meant to them. It can be easy to invest in a relationship without ever realizing your investment doesn’t automatically mean the other party feels the same...
I had never realized how real internet friends can be. You talk every night for hours, year after year, and it never really clicked for me. And before our meetup was planned after years of talking, one of our good discord friends committed suicide. And never getting to see him in person, or go to his funeral because of the distant really hit hard. It made me realized that the important parts of a friendship, communication and connection, can happen even on the internet. Its a beautiful thing
I really don't mean to be mean but how the hell do you find out they commited suicide? My curiosity is selfish sorry
@@ararix3722 no problem! We actually started to get nervous after not hearing from him in a week, and his best friend went through his contacts and discord to notify all his friends
@@StarTrekBro is his best friend ok? Jesus he took it upon himself to tell you all what a nice guy
@Death Frost he's a good nan then, BTW is the game still active and alive?
@@StarTrekBro that's heartbreaking to hear
I'm nearly 59. This platform was not available for my generation. We hashed it out the best we could over beers and just dealt with our problems alone mostly. My wife and I already had 3 kids before the internet became a thing. You can really reach a lot of people with your content and make new friends as you've shown here. Everyone needs a friend. They are hard to find and even harder to keep. Your raw emotions will always make you stand out. Best of luck to you in all that you do.
I’m 39 and I grew up without social media and I’m thankful for that. When we got bored we would call friends or go to their house .. we had to make things happen whereas todays young people can just watch TH-cam and twitch all day . More young people need to just start going outside more often.. they spend more time watching other people live than living themselves
@@brianmeen2158 The internet's a double-edged sword, every day it saves some and kills others. Unfortunately no easy solution.
@@brianmeen2158 Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
KJV Bible says;
Matthew 6:31
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Luke 12:22
And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
Matthew 6:25
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
@@brianmeen2158im 29 and i was about 13 or 14 when fb and all this bs social media came out, i can remember calling friends and just going to there house to see if they are in, ironically, life was simpler and easier back then and people were easier to get hold of, ive hated social media since it came out
I am 45 and have ZERO friends and alone 90% of the time. You are doing just fine. Keep up the great work.
I am 24 and have zero friends, I go to park in the evening to feel positive energy of Happy people especially kids, but I feel inside that people do see me as that "Alone awkward guy". The other day, I was eating at McDonald's alone and everyone was staring at me, I just realized later that they saw me as someone awkward
@@exoticindiaa don’t feel awkward bro I’m about to turn 25 and have like 3 friends and I haven’t seen them in months. I spend my weekends at home cause I’m not about that party life anymore. A man that can be alone and find happiness in his purpose and/or hobbies is a dangerous man. I get why it might hurt or feel weird to be “alone” but you’re not. And go to the gym! I promise you’ll fall in love with it and bring some real happiness to your life.
@@bikeshop2002 I think you need to check yourself and get your priorities in line. Your family loves you and that’s enough. Since when are you supposed to measure your happiness on wether people are there or not ? Someone’s gotta be real with you bud. Find your happiness in your passion, in being healthy and helping those who are in need. Snap out of it. You’re better than that.
@@exoticindiaa why were they staring at u? Jesus people are just weird.
@@HELLISH43 society just thinks that way sadly
"She didn't want to be my friend anymore" ...that cut deep fam 😔
The most redpilled part is your wife is NOT your best friend
Yea,that cut me deep like it sounded like she wasn't a real friend at all:(
True, that hurt for real...
(Also Sidenote: Interesting track design sir. Just thought I'd mention.)
@@KeyJayHD thank you!
Her loss!
The older I get (I’m 26), the more I realized I was “friends” with fake people who didn’t care about me at all. I realize I am content spending my spare time fishing, away from all the noise and bullshit 🎣.
Fishing is extremely therapeutic I do that a lot when I feel lonely
@@chiclids Yes, indeed! I enjoy every time I go, even when I don't catch anything. I think almost everyone feels lonely because friends come and go constantly. I'm not sure how old you are, but that's the consensus I've gotten from different people in their 20s and 30s. This is apart from the "fake" friends I mentioned.
This year I moved to a new country, with the hopes and dreams of starting a new life and meeting new exciting people. But at the age of 26, it has become increasingly difficult to make real friends to the point this has to be the loneliest I have ever felt.
Still not used to being by myself, and it's definitely a struggle considering I have never been comfortable in my own skin.. but I'm working towards learning how to enjoy being by myself.
@@cheesybish9920 I understand how you feel! I also have moved around thinking it would be a better situation to make friends, and it hasn’t. Like I know of many people that are peers. Meaning they know me, will talk to me whenever I see them, but they will never see how I’m doing, never meet up with me, and so therefore, are not my friends. It’s like people either don’t want to be friends anymore or have a hard time with communication today. It’s ridiculous.
Out of all the hundreds of "friends" I had on facebook, only 1 of them kept in contact when I announced I was deleting my account.
Relationships are a joke in modern day. Everything is so fake. Might as well just enjoy yourself
As a youtuber you probably don't realize that you are the person ppl connect with when they feel lonely and complete strangers feel a close social connection when they watch your videos
You are correct with your words, but there is a big difference being CAMELOT331 and the people who watch his content. You mean well with your words, and that can be appreciated. CAMELOT331 is connecting with you through a virtual online world. But who is connecting with CAMELOT331? No one! Comments on this channel are not considered connections. They are just opinions.
It may be time for CAMELOT331 to slow down this channel to get out more and spend time with people in public so that he can start getting back in touch with himself and who he is, instead of being online constantly transmitting all this depressing news about what is happening in the retail and corporate world!
@@talk2azs @OffTheRails Some psychologists may argue that helping others with your similar issues can provide you with great relief. When I'm feeling down I might forget how important I am to someone else, and being reminded that something I've said made a difference for someone else, really inspires me. He read the testimony of another person who was on the trip and I think this inspired him too. Sometimes loneliness perpetuates because you get sucked into yourself and being reminded that you're not alone in feeling lonely is helpful. He also said that it was helpful to him to be reminded that other ppl were in the same boat. It depends on the person but it is really important for most ppl to feel like they are contributing to the world and to focus on what they are grateful for.
I think he is doing great work in exposing these companies and I have stopped funding almost all the businesses he's reported on. I see his reporting as positive and helpful, as he's a voice for those people who feel like they don't have one.
@@trillstina Well said Pisces! I did not mean for my comment to be taken out of any context. I agree CAMELOT331 is doing a great job here, but I am looking at the issue from the other side of the screen. I just think that with all the work he is doing by making other people feel better about themselves, by broadcasting the truth about what is really happening in the retail and corporate world, I think CAMELOT331 is starting to lose touch with his personal mental health! This is what I am seeing and reading into what CAMELOT331 is saying here!
All I am really trying to say here is that if CAMELOT331's mental health starts failing, he can't be here much longer for those who need to hear his words.
This is NOT about us and our needs here. This is about CAMELOT331 as well! And if your words to him helped him in any way, then you have done your good deed for the day and you should be given credit for your kind words.
I completely agree with your assessment. You’ve made many new friends because of the videos you make.
True
Someone get this man a beer, a pizza and a hug. In that order.
You might want the hug before the beer... Could get weird.
@@DarkSalarian what happens after the beer, stays after the beer
Yea,he needs a hug:(
Agreed!
What about a beer pizza hug?
No one talks about how hard it is to make friends as an adult. They need to talk about that when you are younger so people put more effort into long term friendships.
It is a challenge...but it's harder to just not try and live a life without social connections...sure some will be in your life for a season.. but some people will stay in your life...
The former friends I had were lame..
So I'm not sad that they're gone . I'm a different person..I have interactions with others, but I try to keep my expectations low with people all the while putting myself out there and try to connect with people.
What helps me is my faith in God..
I do have a desire for connecting with others, yet I know I would be disappointing to me..
But I know that those who are supposed to be my friends and acquaintances will be there for me..
basically impossible.
@@rauldelarosa2768 yes faith in God is a big connector for me; most important one living the life. Being honest helps too.
I've heard people warn me about this when I was younger, I just never thought it would happen to me..
Oh god it’s the worst! I have 0 friends and don’t think it will change anytime soon.
I LOVEEEE the spirit Cody! I'm 45yo with NOOOOOOO friends. I actually don't keep a phone because noone calls me. It's a VERY lonely life😢 I'm so glad you found the people who were looking for a friend like you.❤
People don’t realize the profound effect we have on those around us. A simple gesture can keep someone alive. Treat every encounter as if it’s the last time you’ll see that person, be kind.
Good comment, Made me think
I recently learned that some people lack the "inner monologue" that others have. Meaning some people have a voice in their head that they use to actively think while others don’t. Part of me thinks the ones that don’t have the voice are incredibly common because people who are like that have stated that they don’t do much self-reflection or really think about how or why things are. They just kind of accept what they see and feel at the moment in relation to what’s right in front of them. There are way too many people who have a clear disregard for others that it actually blows my mind sometimes.
Hell, I’ve tried to start complimenting people on things in the games I play and most of my compliments are met with immediate toxicity and negativity. I just want to make people feel good about something they did.
"makes people feels important"
-Dale Carnegie
@@babyhoho6745 it’s not something you do very much of is it
Smile at people.
There are so many lonely people in this world but no one knows how to find each other
Exactly, you're worried that reaching out will confirm your suspicions that you truly are alone
@Logan Roof Up your troll game my man
@Logan Roof fudge off from here mate
Very true. Are you from Detroit?
It's so fucking true it hurts
Don’t you dare apologising for crying and letting your heart out in this. It takes real courage and strength to acknowledge pain and use it to educate people. Thank you and I wish you the very best.
My life is pain
@@alphawolf8503 oh
@@philcollinslover56705 :(
@M Y T H I C A L N O V A 💀
Don't forget self awareness is key to helping others people 😌
when you cried, i saw that little boy you mentiond in the beginning. and this is the point.... The adult shell that we live in is not the true version of us. im soo glad that you had met those people and that you've finally found your tribe. i relate to you a 1000% 🙏🏽💥
ok your humour at the end was hilarious. ended on a light note. great guy.
I'm almost 30. Grew up a loser. Still a loser. Still overweight. Just out of a almost 10 year relationship. But got a very few close friends. I'll be your friend too
The best advice for you is to focus on yourself. Do what’s something what you want to do.
You're a winner in my book. Losers don't give someone a decade of their life for the hell of it. Takes someone with dedication.
Don’t give up man, you can do it if you put discipline and positive attitude towards it but you have to become disciplined on getting your weight down, once you dominate your brainmeats you can do almost anything
just wanted to say--have you thought about getting counselling?? i understand completely (i think) but would love for your self esteem to be higher too and not calling yourself a loser. i feel like i am weird combination. i think i am a loser. but i also have enough self esteem to say i dont need someone to do bad with- i can do bad on my own. but other times i think also-- hey maybe im not so bad after wall-- im not an alcoholic, i dont do drugs, i wasnt a teenage pregnancy statistic, i dont have tons of kids from different daddies....whatever stigma you can think of i guess as far as those. But lets see--- i didnt finish college-- i STILL dont know what i want to be when i grow up (i want to do something that i love but still support the lifestyle i want- which is not a rich lifestyle either) my daughter and i live in a house my mom owns, she helps out will bills- she bought my last two cars....im not stupid, but i think emotionally immature alot of times...i just dont care about alot of shit. i am overweight- again not caring right now other than for my daughter...i dont know how to express how i feel like a loser too-- i certainly dont look at my circumstances and say- oh she's successful...i wanna be like her.....i dont get in trouble with the law-- i have my daughter to worry about but i have done stupid shit before her....dont know if this makes sense....your still young. i am 46 i just hope you can learn from me.
First of all, NEVER EVER call yourself a loser. If you do that you will start believing it. And if you believe it, you will program yourself into a huge state of depression! This is something you DO NOT want in your life! Also it does not matter if you are overweight. You MUST STOP calling yourself that as well! You also do not need those words programming yourself into depression. Lets take a look at some facts here. I am in my early 50's now to let you know that I know what I am talking about!
1> You stated you just got out of a 10 year relationship that started when you were 19, seeing how you are almost 30. We as people in our society are still immature kids in our 20's. We change so much that we do not even realize it! I went through the same exact thing in my 20's. Yes, it sucks, but do what I did and just tell yourself these words: "SHIT HAPPENS!"
2> You are just about to start your adult life and have so much to learn about the world and yourself. It's a new chapter you are starting. Embrace it, learn from it, and most importantly, just enjoy the ride. "Things always change! They never stay the same!" This is a line from the lyrics of the song "Life, Love, and Laughter" by Donavan Frankenreiter which was released in 2008. Here is the link if you want to take a listen:
www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjx1vuYt_7vAhVrleAKHcN0AAIQtwIwBHoECAYQAw&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D8Y-upHLOv48&usg=AOvVaw1Rtk3J-_eUhDNV1LQVz4cI
3> When you get into your 40's, you will realize how stupid and immature you actually were in your 20's. LOL. You will learn even more about yourself than you would ever have realized!
As stated above. Sit back and enjoy the ride. ALWAYS love yourself first. You will run into people on your journey that will try to bring you down. Think of these as little challenges that will get thrown at you. The way to deflect that is to always stay positive about yourself and no one will ever take you down. If there is something you don't like about yourself, only you will know how to change that. If you decide to make those changes, enjoy that ride as well!
I'm 17 and have no friends, both online and real life. It's miserable, especially seeing others my age with loads of friends. It's honestly triggering tbh, because seeing them have fun, makes me realize on how much I've missed out on, and what I'm currently missing out on. It hurts.
Bro ur still young get out there communication is key go to a bowling alley or skating rink you'll meet new people
You're not alone. I'm your age and in the same situation, same feelings. I lack social skills and it brought a years long depression, which worsened my situation.
If you're lonely, please work on your mental and overall health, because it will only increase your confidence and consequently your chances of meeting new people.
I'm 19 and something that I'm trying to work on is realizing that my life doesn't have to fit in the model of a regular teenage life I've seen on tv or can see my classmates have. I'm different and others may look at me weird but at the end of the day I'm the most important person in my little world and i don't need to be like others. Little happiness like silly talks with my mom or small talks with my neighbors is ok, life is supposed to be easy, i shouldn't force myself to be like others and torture myself thinking I'm missing out. The only thing you should worry about is to be in a good place mentally and the rest will come easy. Don't stress it.
Pretty much the same here
FRIEND IS OPTIMUS PRIME 🛐🛐🛐
Well, I'm 63 and retired without any friends or family.
You still have plenty of time to find a friend.
I still have some hope to find a friend before I die.
Don't give up. You're a very good person.
Where do you live?
my brother you are still young at any age!!
Try to go places where's other people doing things that you like maybe swimming or something like that, U hope you find someone. Good luck
I'm in the same boat. Too hard to meet someone my age that isn't nuts, nosey, cheap, drunk, or a pest,or a mooch.
Try to go to church 1 you will find people your age & 2 they often are excited to see you and want to get to know you. I know you may not be religious but church is honestly the easiest way to make friends no matter the age
I'm 41 don't have friends not married, no kids, no social life what so ever. It gets to me sometimes, I just learned to move on. These days my heart is made of stone, nothing makes me smile nothing makes me sad i honestly don't care about anything anymore. That's how its been for a while
Hey man I don’t know if you’ll read this but I want you to know it’s never to late I know that probably don’t mean much coming from a stranger on the internet but it’s never to late to start a family or get married or do whatever you want really you know I get that sometimes it might seem impossible but remember you gotta work on yourself you know start working out, taking pride in yourself and your work and accomplishments, I think a good way to think of it is imagine your goals and dreams in life are butterflies and right now your trying to catch these butterfly’s with a net now you might catch some of them but you won’t catch the majority of these butterflies so instead of trying to catch them you need to work on a butterfly garden so that they’ll want to come to you and you dont have to chase anymore butterfly's what im trying to say is work on yourself and make yourself the best version of you then you want have to chase your dreams and passions they'll come to you
Volunteer to be a big brother/big sister, or at other agencies that need help, like the VA or humane society. Sometimes, we make great friends that way and we can start focusing on things outside of our problems and loneliness
That's about how it is for me, except I'm 35. No spouse, no kids, only a couple close friends and family which are the only reason beside cowardice why I'm still here. I don't really feel alive but more like I just exist.
I’m 68 and in all those years the people I thought were my friends turned their backs on me. I’ve never known why. I don’t mind being alone. But I do mind being lonely. I have no one to talk to, to hang out with, or eat a meal with. So glad I have my cat.
Awwhh that’s really tough, glad you have your cat!! Love my two kitties, animals are the best! Cheering you on
I love you cotton.
My God that is really tough man. My heart goes out to you
@@beatriceroosmark thanks so much
@@ecomm7048 thank you. You must be truly kind soul.
I feel ya, brudda. My real friends all moved and grew apart and I filled that void with wife and kids. But the past year has been a real test for me.
Just wait until you get older. And be happy you're not a girl.
I am in the same situation your not the only one.
Yeah... same boat...
Yeah life kinda sucks. Specially after COVID since many friends went into isolation for a year and forgot about you. Loneliness is torture.
@@angelgjr1999 the lockdowns were purposely meant go break relationships and people by the elite parasites for society control
I’m 33, lonely truck driver, I can relate. Your videos help me get through some long nights of driving. Keep moving.
Thank you for your service hon
Also a trucker here. I get the whole loneliness thing
I was in-house (Detail/Instal and Shop) for Prime Inc for 10 bloody year. Ya'll are a different breed for sure to be able to keep our country going. 99% have a heart of gold for sure ... messy as hell ... but sweeties. I don't know how you do it, but thank you
You got a kinda cool job at least
Thank you so much for your Service man 🙏.
I don't even have "online friends". We need to stop saying the online friends are not real. It is real life too.
“I have friends”- I felt that deep in the chest. We ain’t alone even when we think we are. Thanks for the reminder :,)
I never had any friends during my childhood. I had too many fake ones I regret hanging out with during high school. Some of you guys might find this relatable. The only friends I have is my family and my subscribers I love them all 🥰
@@Lava_Zoid definitely relatable about the fake friends in high school😂
Except some of us actually fucking are...
I'm 29 years old and the more time I spend on this world,the more I realize that most people don't have real close friends. Real friend won't let you behind when it's convinent to them.
True. Indeed,so very true.
@@yangyangkittykat3 thank you man that's nice off you
@@armin38822 It sucks but the reality is. People have so many friends in high school and college because your kinda forced to in a way. Your placed with all this strangers for long times of your life. You have to make friends. In the real world however no one forces you into a room with strangers( except for in your job). And since it doesn't matter if your a teen, child, or adult. Approaching a stranger is always uncomfortable and therefore few bother.
Then the double whammy of the fact that being an adult with a family is very time and energy consuming. It's no wonder most people only have about a handful of friends by their late thirties. And that number just keeps dwindling.
Jesus will be your best friend closer then a brother
@@bloodwashedsaint how would you know if jesus is your friend?
Being lonely in general isn't that hard in my opinion. The hard part is being reminded that other people have friends and get more easily while you get rejected or at least not invited.
This. You nailed it. Btw, nice Manowar avatar!
This is my life😢
real
When I would watch shows like Top Gear and 4wd Action, I always thought that I watched these shows because I liked cars. But really I was watching it because they had a brotherhood and I didn´t.
Comparison is the thief of joy
* hugs * I’m so sorry, man. Thank you for opening up, sharing, and being vulnerable with us.
I’m 35 and I’m kind of in the same boat. I’m lonely as fuck and have severe depression and social anxiety. I’m overweight and more introverted and serious. I have no actual friends, or people in my life that I would consider “friends.” I have a handful of acquaintances and co-workers, but no one that genuinely likes me, cares about me, or wants to include or hang out with me. And other than my mother, I have no other family safety net that I can trust, rely on, or communicate with. Other than my mother, no one checks in on me. I’ve actually been placed on suicide watch.
This year, I decided to do something about it. I’m getting in shape and have lost 40 ibs so far. I’m working on learning to be more outgoing, social, and funny (even if it’s just a mask). I’m seeing a therapist and I’m taking medication. And I’m learning to be comfortable being a lone wolf and not caring about others approval. Supposedly, the right people will come eventually.
How are you now? I hope you have become better in all the things you mentioned💟😸
The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move. Just know that you’re not alone. It takes real guts to share this with so many, thank you.
Well put
Or afraid to open up to another person for one reason or another
:,(
People ignore us for without any reason.
@Logan Roof Exactly, like seek therapy. No one here actually cares. They’re just looking for someone who relates to their “struggles” or it was randomly recommended to them.
This is a guy putting his heart on his sleeve ❤️
Very late to the party but don't dunk on him for just being him!
Never had but a couple actual friends ever. Like 3 or four maybe. Nobody cares about anyone but themselves by and large nowadays. At 38 I have no family left that are still alive and willing to help me or even talk with me much. I have a single real friend, maybe two good acquaintances. Wait until you're closer to 40. Then you'll start to feel really awful as your body starts to hurt. While your uncle's and aunts, grandparents and parents all die around you. When the half assed attempts become harder and harder to achieve. 05:40 isn't the dead inside pain i was promised. It's a lament. It's a recollection of a better time. It isn't a lack of hope. It isn't despair.
@@mateo7813 I'm 44, went through absolute hell when I was in an extremely bad place, if I can overcome it fucking you all can!
Never ever give up, there will always be some there to tap on your shoulder and ask if your ok! You never give up mate ❤️
Bro, I have to get back to school this year, would you donate to me in my btc wallet..
@@mateo7813 What you said in your comment is almost my exact situation even down to things starting to hurt. I’m going to be 39 in a couple of months and unbelievably, I’m dealing with early osteoarthritis. I lament the passing of happier times where I had a few people to share and enjoy things with, some human company and the feeling of life and possibilities, of hope.
L + ratio + didn’t ask + bozo
“I’m just a big ole fat bitch” is one of the best lines I’ve ever heard
He's adorable and I'm not even gay
Haha I found it funny but I'm not laughing at him
I'm handsome but the world hates me
@@trock4523 I can’t help that I’m popular
Hello from Japan! I am totally new here, and thank you so much for such a beautiful story. I feel like I have no friends and that is how I came to this video! In fact, I have a few close friends but we do not hang out anymore. Your story touched me, and sharing your story and being able to be emotional like this means that you are a brave man. Thanks again!
Being alone isn't the worst thing in life, being around people who make you feel alone is
That hit, very true
Amen 👍
Robin Williams quote its so true
I feel this way in social situations, I much prefer my own company.
Other people cause anxiety it's rarely the person's who has anxieties fault
Really enjoyed this. I'm 22. Most people just say I'm young and will grow out of it. Not being able to socialize and just going from work to home everyday destroys me. No friends. No family. Everyone at work upsets me all. Day. Long... I wish you the best..
If they bother you, look for another job, if there is a reason why you don't, then it must be good. Wish you the best, personally quitting engineering was my best decision since high school
I feel you man. like the person said above, u might need to find another job. Joining the army is actually a real eye opener. So many people that you instantly connect with its awesome!
Just don’t pick up the bottle I did and it’s not a good path
Don't stop telling yourself that you love yourself. Sometimes we do our best for months or years and nothing happens, only for one moment or day to turn everything around. Be it a person you meet, or something in your head just clicks and you're just done with whatever messes u up.
maybe try a passion project! following your passion brings many other benefits!
We're with you dude. Every single person in this comment section is just a friend you haven't met yet.
The trolls certainly aren't with him but most of us support him
Truth.
I feel you. Turning 30 in three days. I have no friends... none. I haven't gotten a text from anyone in almost 10 years. I don't have someone to talk to, I don't have someone to kick it with, I don't get messages on social media. I don't have a girlfriend or any girls talking to me, I don't have a worthwhile job, I feel pretty worthless to be honest. I don't think anyone would bat an eye if I disappeared. I've been holding it together for almost a decade of being alone everyday, but in the past couple days the loneliness has hit me like a ton of bricks. For the first time in a decade I truly do feel alone. Just another birthday and just another year by myself.
same, 32 soon, no friends, no actual skills to be productive, only small time job for few hours delivering papers at night aka no social interactions at all, sit in front of my pc all day watching random shit and feeling bad, trying to live more healthy and exercise more these last few weeks but that just makes it even harder, I dont want many friends at all as I usually like being on my own but some days I wish I had at least 1 or 2 or a significant other but I feel like I dont even know where to find actual friends or meet new people, never liked going outside to parties or such and gaming is just not fun anymore, everytime I play something I feel this strange pressure that nothing matters anyway because I just waste more time doing nothing, watching twitch streams and joining random discords just to find out I have no social skills anymore and Im too scared to even say anything there, hoping that by losing some weight and such I would gain more confidence but not sure about that either so probably wont happen. I just know theres other people like you who feel the same and that just proves to me that Im not alone in my struggles, even If I dont know you. Ill bookmark this vid to reply to this comment in a Month, lets see if something changes.
@@Jacdxxand?
How are you doing now man? Have things gotten better now?
@@Lordani66 Wish I could give you a fairytale update that everything change for the better but that is not the case. If anything it has turned into a downward spiral at this point.
When I made that original comment I was clean from drinking alcohol for over ten years… that is not the case now. I now drink almost everyday and also went back to smoking cigarettes which I was also clean off of for over 7 years.
Sobriety is down the drain and still in the same rut I was in in the original comment with the addition of alcoholism and fluctuating depression.
On the plus side I’m in management now, on the downside absolutely everything else plus alcoholism.
@@T3MUwU Daaaamn, that's brutal. But I wouldn't drink if I were you, it will only make things worse and prevent you from possibly setting your life straight. And it will be harder to come off from it.
Anyways, have you done something in regards of finding the right people for you to be in your life?
ay man I don't really ever common but.. this is very relatable and I just wanted you to know you aren't alone. gonna be 30 soon and my friends? gone.
Already getting done with highschool and down to 3 friends wont be long now.
Is it a bad thing? I myself love being alone and doing my own stuff not having to care for others.
@@alborn4217 wouldn't say it exactly a bad thing more of a bittersweet type of deal. Yknow you get told make fome friends when we were young and when we grow up friends just disappear. It's sad but not exactly a bad thin.
"the enemy of my enemy is my friend"
@@michelangelo1136 Its apart of life. People grow and change, friends come and go. Find a hobby and live with passion and you wont be alone too long.
I dont have friends anymore. I find myself wanting to play games with people then i realize i have NO ONE
Discord community’s have plenty of people
@@Wild_Productions it’s not the same
@@organizedopinions8068 what do you mean it’s not the same?
Making friends is a good thing no matter what. If there’s a discord full of people who are willing to be a potential friend, then I’d take it.
@@redranger807 cool for you, it’s not the same to me.
@@organizedopinions8068 you poor soul. i'll play games with you lol
I started speaking to an elderly man at work a few days ago and he said something to me that changed my life forever he said “ you sound like a young man who is on the verge of being being successful and you don’t have anyone to share it with” and that really affected my world view. The same as this video.
I think the world isolates those destined for greatness, right before the bang
This made zero sense..
Bro me af I started making so much money from investing but in order to invest alot of money I had to work 60 hours a week so I aways told my friends I couldn't hang and I didn't have time for a gf but now that I'm making alot of money I have no one to enjoy it with
@@musicpro7278 yeaaahh bro, that shit is real, bit that's life and that's our choices. Now that you have the money, just focus on getting a gilrfriend and hope she's not with you only because of your money. Try getting a girl that is just as hard working as you!
First of your videos I’ve ever seen. Many thanks for sharing. I’m 71 and no friends, just me and my little dog. I’ve now subscribed to your channel.
I don’t even know you, nor have I come across on your channel ever. I just wanna give you a big hug. Also, don’t apologise for crying, we are all human, and men do cry too. We all support others without realising it sometimes, and I know I have done. Then once I’ve learnt such a thing, I cry all over again. (Big hugs from England.)
@aidang1305 ?
Dude I'm 37 and I'm not sure I've ever truly had friends.
22 year old here and I’m the same. Been a loner since Birth ha!
i have a lot of friend groups but i always feel that im just a side friend. they would plan and hangout without inviting me and when we are talkingg they are so close with each other. i will definitely find my soulmate one day and i know you guys will.
You know me to I've always been just that friend that they talk to because they have nobody else and once they start talking to their other friends I am just there lonely and forgotten and when I left it was as if I was never there because nobody cared and nobody remembered about me...
You haven't. I am 44 and had millions of "friends" up til about 28 years old....maybe 35....but now...not ONE keeps in touch. Not one. Zero. ZERO! I am not married and have no kids....the truth is you are alone and we are tested to battle earth alone just like the inscription on the tombstone of Orson Welles...we are born alone...we live alone...we die alone. Truth is sometimes very very harsh.
22 year old just had internet friends back in 2015-17 and since then no friends no one to hangout with
Lets be honest. Even around "family and friends" you on your own.
I agree, basically no one will have your back
Most definitely. You're in this world alone pretty much.
Depends but i feel yall
Depends in what kind of family and friends you have😏.
True
I feel this as a woman, many women are soooo bad at prioritizing friendships, it seems once you get to a certain age people are ONLY invested in their romantic partner but life is about balance! The only friends I really have apart from my best friend are male and as such there are limitations to our friendship that wouldn't exist with some good female friends, but it's like as soon as they find their partner they disappear :( I think there is a general disrespect to friendships when in my opinion they are the most important and fulfilling relationships (at least for someone like me from a 'bad' family background, friendships mean everything to me! Which is why it's so upsetting that it's hard to find/keep)
I’m a girl and I haven’t had girl friends in years..I had a toxic friend for a while but couldn’t handle it anymore so had to cut ties..the loneliness kills me 💔
I could spend hours writing with my best friend and she spent her free time always with me. She has a boyfriend now and all the things she did with me she does with him now. I barely see her now :( i would never to that to any of my friends because there should be a helathy balance for friends and partner in your life but it is what it is. I found 2 girl friends i can meet up with anytime (they are single😂)
“Got married and she became my best friend. In 2016, she didn’t want to be my friend anymore.” 😩😩
Ik that low key broke me
Time stamp?
@@darcezillious like 2:00
That sucks. I know that feeling. It really blows.
Low key kinda just how dating is
I've never watched your channel before, but somehow the youtube algorithm put this on my feed. Just want to say from across the world you seem like a kind and genuine person, two incredible qualities I would value in anyone. Making friends is exceptionally difficult, don't feel alone in that. Anybody would be lucky to have you as a friend.
Don't fall for this. This dude is an actor and a liar and a hypocrite. He let one of his friends die
@@thepatriotbangingxi4718 WTF? -15.000 social credit for you sir 😡😡😡👎👎👎
same it was shown to me even tho i never went to his channel
👍🏻
@@sonickirbys same
I’m 36 and have no friends or a family of my own. I drown myself in work on purpose to not have to deal with that reality. Ugh this made me cry so much.
God is with you
It makes sense that your friends are through youtube, since thats where you put your energy and time. You are brave for expressing your true feelings.
You’re not alone man. I’m 25 and have no friends. Never had a girlfriend or had sex before. I was athletic when I was in high school but after I graduated depression, anxiety and laziness set in and I gained over 100 pounds.
Depression and anxiety are such a bastards, im dealing with them, but i know you are a cool dude, and we will overcome this.
Power man, the sky is your limit
Same bro, but I'm only 20.
It will get better my man
I'm 26 here and have no friends either. Mostly due to moving around from my parents divorcing and a house foreclosure. That happened in high school and I eventually lost contact with everyone. Then the depression, anxiety, self doubt, and laziness kicked in during my early 20s..none of that helps. Just letting you know you're not alone.
@Cat 123 You're not wrong either. I started hiking about 5 days a week a year and a half ago. I have lost 40 pounds with no strict dieting. When I hike I feel my anxiety melt away especially when it's sunny outside. It's also great for depression. There are so many benefits to exercise.
Hey I'm 35 with no friends and divorced. It's tough making new friends as you get older.
It takes a ton of patience sprinkled with kindness, time and effort and unfortunately it seems like not to many folks have that in abundance anymore......but don’t give up I’m 41 and People still give me some niceties at times. 🙂 Also a cat or doggie can help.
Its hard and seems like more effort than its worth, but be open, friendly and fun.
Dude, it sucks SO much trying to get friends when you are that old. I'm 39 shortly and pretty much as soon as you are out of school, the door closes on "friend-making". You can technically get them at work, but it's so much harder there since the dynamic is off. In school you know everyone is roughly your age, at work you have no idea what's going on.
too many disingenuous people out there. and it sucked for me because my parents kept moving every so often.
@@knowledgeseeker4116 He needs a BIG dog. You can wrestle big dogs and not be too afraid of hurting them as you would with small dogs. I LOVE WRESTLING MY GOLDEN RETRIEVER! LOL
i'm 19 and i don't have friends either, sometimes i'm fine but then when i see others having a good time and enjoying their selves i feel alone and sad even depressed
Work on urself, it’s better that ur alone than around snakes.
I'm in the same position. When i see friends having fun i feel like i'm missing out lots of fun but i am also too much of an introvert to make friends.
@@noworries2418 that ending was really surprising lol
@@sodapop7531 💀💀💀
@@noworries2418 i stutter talking to anyone,
“ she became my best friend, then she didn’t want to be my friend anymore” that hurt
She was fake
She belong to the streets
💔
He treated her like she was his mom most likely. Women aren't built to be your emotional support. There's a reason men aren't supposed to cry and show emotions. If you want to get cheated on, tell a woman your issues. She'll try to find other men to release the pressure really quick.
Women aren't built for this. The only time you get to cry is when your arm is slashed and even then you have 3 seconds then you put on a straight face.
Sorry guys, it's just the way it is. Refuse the feminisation of men, this isn't attractive. Courage bros.
@@Krullerized You've been single most your life.
My best friend of 28 years has terminal cancer. I'm grieving already.
You have much a difference to so many people. Love to you from Australia.
I'm glad you have realised you have so many friends.
Stay strong!!!
Prayers to u guys bro ❤️
Lucky them
such a beautiful video, thanks for sharing yourself so openly and honestly
Means a lot my man. Your content gives me life. Such a breath of fresh air to the platform. Thanks! 😭😭
@@CAMELOT331 will you be my friend
I wanna give that comment another like but I want it to stay at 69
this is so good, even joel is commenting on this! Guess we all are feeling kinda similar.
Damnit lol
This made me cry like a 9 year old girl. What a beautiful story. I can't relate personally as I've never felt this way, but it truly breaks my heart to know there's people out there without friends. I knew 4 young men who took their own lives by the time I was 21. I really hope your video finds the people who need it most.
“Being alone has a power that very few people can handle.” -Steven Aitchison
@ImVynn yes it’s like we’re not alone we have social media and can talk to strangers but we still feel alone. I remember my grandma would visit all her friends individually every Sunday and drop off goodies and have teas with them. I wish I had a friend like my granny. Who wasn’t bringing drama or mess but just stop in say hi and show love.
They say the great men of history always stood alone, but they were also very miserable
Having no friends is basically worse than being a chronic smoker
In fact, the negative effects and the toll loneliness has on your mental health is so severe that it can be equated to smoking 15 cigarettes daily, meaning it has the same amount of life-shortening potency as those 15 cigarettes
Learning to be alone and loving oneself isn’t just enough on its own, in my opinion
The key to happiness is BOTH having a quality genuine social circle AND learning to be with oneself
You need both of them
Cause being alone is just impossible for us humans, we’re probably the most social creatures to ever walk this Earth
@@relaxingsoundsforpeaceands3509 Try being happy for those people on Insta instead of jealous.
Then i dont want this superpower 😑
I am losing that power at 45 years of age because it starts to get VERY BORING BEING ALONE!!!
I'm 24 and I relate to this so much. The only reason I'm still around is my mom.
My mother and my dog for me
Me too. As soon she‘s dead, so am i.
Reach out to somebody, anybody, really. Reach out to me.
Same dude, the only reason I am here sometimes is because I don't want to hurt anyone in my family, and I'm not all that close to them. At least, it doesn't feel that way.
Things will get better, don't worry!
I was just lying in bed crying thinking about how I have no friends. Then I hop on TH-cam and this video pops up out of nowhere. Who is reading my mind?!
The universe is reading your mind
I will be your friend!
What is your favorite color
God is trying to teach you something.Gob bless you.
Sup friend
youtube is using ur mic :-0
I have spent so much of my life have no fiends with suck awkward social skills and always being misunderstood, so thank you for sharing this video! It gave me at least some solace.
Don't Worry Maam everything will be fine.❣❣❣
You are awesome bro 🙏🏿
Totally agreed,
How about you go ultra instinct mom and drop a new video cuz I’ve been waiting patiently bro bro
Nice to see you here
Oh wow howieazy hey dude
I know
I see everyone putting their opinion in the comments so I just want to share mine. I am an extreme extrovert, life of the party, always talking to people, and still alone as shit. Have no real friends. Have people that will hit me up if they need shit or if they need help but that’s about it. This doesn’t just affect introverts or people that are “losers”. We got this y’all
Facts, real friends don't exist as we thought it meant...
Totally Mrdragonbreathr, well said
Same here. I’m generally known to all in my classes as a social floater. I can hang with anyone and form friendships but that’s about it really. You see, I can hangout and adapt with all these cliques but I can never feel a sense of belonging, it’s a lonely feeling honestly, especially as most people, like your situation come to me for advice and all that.
Truth is all I ever will be to some of these people is a guy you can rely on. But I never found somebody for myself I could rely on.
@@CoolGuy-xf3hb you will find true friends eventually man I know all to much about fake mates that would do shit or talk shit behind my back and they’re the worst type of people to be around. Your last two sentences I really felt though I can tell your an awesome guy just from the way you write your sentences, I really hope somebody can appreciate you the way you deserve to be appreciated brother ❤️
Geez.. I feel you. I barely even have anyone who hits me up even when they need something. It's really hard..
Great video man. I love when people make real stuff on youtube (not many do). Im 39 and all my friends have disappeared as well. Many of them dead (drug overdoses and suicides). It is heartbreaking that you can be so close to people for years and then they just go away without even realizing it until it’s been 10 years since the last time you saw them
Great to see you on here Trav, I may owe my entire career to you.
I have close friends from high school who I only meet every 2 months or so now.
This video and your comment reminds me to probably arrange meet ups more often.
Not be so myopically focused on work and neglecting my genuine friends.
I mean, I am 39 too and time just slips away so fast now. I remember my wife laughing at me one time because one day I was certain I was 37 (when I was actually 38 at the time) and she did the math for me and Im like shit.
I'm 40 now and can definitely relate. Time goes by faster and faster, its scary.
These past two years have been exactly that in my peer group, drug overdoses and suicides. It is so crazy, and I am only just approaching 30.
Hey man, thank you for getting me out of programming class and web development course.
Never say sorry for showing your feelings!!! Never ever!!! You are very strong and strong man cries.
No friends is better than having "friends" secretly against you
But it's not like you must choose between these 2 options. You can have good friends.
I don't have good friends though
@@Cassofalltrades If you keep trying I'm sure you'll find some. :) Don't give up.
@@alittax It’s emotionally exhausting
@@BarelyNoticeable I don't know you, but maybe you're saying that because you don't have enough practice making friends and maintaining relationships. This is a skill, after all. At first everything is difficult, but if you keep an open mind (open to how you could improve your interactions, etc) and you keep trying, you'll get the hang of it! :) Even kids can learn to become friends.
Friendships should be fulfilling (the opposite of "exhausting" as you said), so maybe you're not trying with the right people, or you're not trying properly. True friendships are well worth it. If I were you I'd read "How to Be a Friend: An Ancient Guide to True Friendship" by Cicero. He was one of the greatest speakers who has ever lived and also a famous philosopher, and he wrote this letter to his best friend. Maybe you'll like it. :)
I have learned to enjoy my own company once I've realized that my "friends" only talk to me when they need something from me
Thats the same thing i said in my comment please read.
100% correct. just be you and what will stick is quality, the egotistic ones will fade away.
The same thing happens to me
Most people are takers not givers!
@@bomfs8100 It doesn't 'happen' to you, you let it happen.
Being lonely isn't as bad as being with people who make you feel lonely...
true but it's a lot worse than a strong support system of people who care about you...
Robin Williams, shut yo ass up. Quit trying to sound cool
Thats me brotha,
If u dont wanna see my story then dont press read more.
So long story short.
I had a friend named Lily and she was always a bad friend,
Example: if u didnt say what she wanted u to say she'd get mad, if u played with her and a person joined she'd ignore u.
( ive been friends with her for a year )
And i dont know if i should leave her or not.
If u could answer i'd appreciate if u could tell me if i should leave her or not.
@Mandy Gee but i really dont understand, she only does that to me.
For example: if i join and she is with her friend she doesnt talk to me, which yes, i understand. But if i talk with her and someone joins like her friend she ignores me.
And she is kinda rude but idk maybe thats just me.
And alright ill try to talk to her.
Thank u for ur time.
@Mandy Gee alright.
Thank u for telling me.
"I leanred that they were my real friends", I was so worried it was going the other way because you so emotional. Grats, truly glad you getting some wins. Best video for a long time.
"She didn't wanna be my friend anymore" hit my soul. ahhh man happened to me with a 7 yr relationship too. Hang in there bud
Wow....same. 7 yr relationship
What did you expect? love last max 3years, if you dont make her pregnant by then its over
@@Cortesevasive that’s simply not true lmfao
@@vCarxie how would you know that ?
@@Cortesevasive because that is the dumbest statement I have ever heard. Sorry u can't stay in a relationship, u can't speak for everyone tho lmfao
I'm 47 and don't have friends. I'm ok with it. People can suck. Life is complicating. Finding like minded who you can share with is priceless💖
Agreed. That and many Christmas card list is really short AND less birthdays to remember, plan for etc.
How many people do you talk to on a daily basis
@@michaelsheppard87 Besides my Wife and my kids? Just you so far.
@@sirkdopsah1081 oh ok
Being alone and being lonely are two different states of mind.
Fact
👍Good analogy! I have extremely limited demographics of friends and others are social associates. However, I’m a 🙂true introvert and loving it. Not 😖much into “humans”..I’m very selective which is to my psychological and emotional benefit. The secret to a person’s social lifestyle..it’s, 🌻Attitude🌸. And, you have to 🥰like yourself. It sounds strange but some people actually likes the drama of 😆Doom, depression and swim in a pool of despair..seriously. The same with criminal activities, some purposely gravitate towards that type of scene..go figure. Acknowledge ones mental/emotional state then reverse that attitude towards the positive, you will be okay. It’s all up to the person. 🌈Peace
@@dakotaseven947 One day my friends and I had arranged a day trip to the city, ending up with dinner and a show. I missed the train they got on so I arranged to meet them later. I spent the day alone walking round the city, shopping, just being by myself. I turned up at the restaurant we had arranged to meet at in the evening. I sat at the table, there was ten of us. I sort of fell away from the chatting and laughing and I suddenly felt very alone in this group of people. After that I stopped agreeing to go places or do things I didn’t want to do.
You should look into Neville Goddard on this, you sound just like him :)
I'm LONELY 😭
Oddly enough I met a guy in a youtube live chat room ..... living with him now. he's amazing. whatever we end up being im sure we'll be great friends, i hope for the rest of our lives. two lonely 38 year olds ...now cherishing eachothers company, and we already watched all the same stuff on youtube and he even got me into some new stuff we bond over it ! not saying we will get married or anything but just to have this nice connection at this age where i had just resigned to being alone. caught me off guard. he's a great person. good luck all
Moral of the story here is TH-cam can connect you to people in a positive way. Just being in the same comments section as somebody highly increase the compatibility rate I would imagine..
For anybody out there that is living day to day without any “friends”, please stay positive. There are soooo many people out there searching for the same thing you are.
I really suck at socializing and because I’ve ‘been alone’ for so long it’s like I manipulated myself into thinking I’m ok living life like this…but it’s super lonely for me personally. I want to have hope that it will change but it doesn’t feel like it’s in the cards for me sometimes. I’m happy I seen this comment. Very encouraging 💕
@@brewalls2301 i literally done the same thing my whole life too, tellimg myself i don't need any friends, i like being alone, i don't like ppl that much etc etc. But deep down i really would like to know more ppl to talk and hang out with bcuz the loneliness and boredom definitely being hitting hard sometimes 😭😭😭
Ever since i started college ive been alot more social than i ever been but still have alot of moments where I would like to be social at the moment but just too shy and awkward to do so, i hate it 😩
@@niya4670 I'm starting college this year and I'm hoping i'll make friends in college ;_;
Couldn't say it better myself.
@@0rye06 I've started college last year and it hasn't gone well for me 😣😣 I hope you're able to find friends. All I can say is try to become friends with anyone you can as quickly as possible because once some months go everyone will have found their group of friends and you'll be left alone. That's what happened to me. Now I have no one to hang out with and I'm pretty lonely but just barely hanging by.
I'm 42 and have zero friends. The only real friends I ever had was while I was in the military and that was 16 damn years ago!
I hear ya man. I'm a year younger than you and no friends either.
Hey man I was just scrolling through the comments and I came across yours and I felt something tell me to reach out and see if you wanted to be friends. I would love to have you as a friend!
@@thomasallen4340 get each others email, email your number and call
There’s around 3.1 billion people on this planet yet I’m all alone. But I’ll keep trying..🙂
@@whiskeyopsonps4497 3.1 billion? try about 7.8 billion.
Life is not over at 31. It’s only just beginning. IT’s harder to gain friends as you get older. It’s better to be alone than have toxic friends.
You sure it's only the beginning? I'm 10 years away from 31 and feel very much closed in
Toxic friends are the worse man
that kind of mentality will eat you up inside. well if the only other alternaltive is something negative, then ofc its better to be alone. but people are social creatures. and i think for the most part most people dont know know how to interact with people let alone do anything else besides sitting on the pc and do stuff.
Life can come and go any second.
...31 and no friends is better than 31 and toxic friends..
I have spent my last 6 Christmas' and birthday's alone with my cat. I'm 40 now. I had a lot of people calling me family and a real friend. But as soon as you need them and start living how I want and not just what they want, they forgot me. I'm like a prisoner in jail with no visitors. But I'm still here. Still fighting. Remember who you are, people. And the good you represent.
Wow I feel this way too!
I'm 25 and have no friend. It gets depressing tho. My friends from high school and college disappeared one by one. It's so hard to reach out to them. If there is somebody from my past life, all they want to do just borrowing money or complaining about their problem. When they have good news, they disappear. When they need some help, they pop out. Sometimes I wish I had just that one friend who truly is genuine. You're definitely not alone. Sending my virtual hugs❤️
Those people are not your "friends". They are merely former accuaintances. You just happend to get to know them on a personal level. What you urge is not just a friend though, what you urge is to be loved and that's what really friends are for.
Love is so much more than romantic. Love goes beyond "kiss and hug". The true meaning of love knows no boundaries and it is shared between true friends, not fake ones. The best way to develop such a relationship is to be completly honest with your own emotions and feelings when you first get to know someone.
For instance, if you help your friend in need, don't say "no problem" afterward, but say "It brings me joy and happiness that I could help you" even for small things, such as giving them a ride, but most importantly if they are opening up about some personal issue.
Actions always speak louder than words, that's why showing them that you love them by your actions, will always be what deepens the relationship the most. That's also why saying "no problem" is bad, because you disregard your action as one out of love, but more something you just did to be nice. It doesnt matter what words you use, as long as they convey that whatever you did was ONLY becuase you wanted to help THEM.
Anyway, I have no friends either so I shouldn't really talk, but this is at least what I've learned in my life.
I’ll be a friend
Im your friend for sure!
@@AlexanderTheGreat1000 Thats a flattering thing to say, but obviously a white lie.
well, it really depends on wether or not you are going to stick to your words or not.
for anyone who was wondering, this is exactly what you shouldn't do if you want to get a good friend, fake promises or talking about "I will do this and that" without actually doing it.
It's way more powerful to just do without explaining why, which goes into what I said before "actions speak louder than words".
Everyone knows this deep down already though but explaining it with words can be tricky.
So, how are you going to be her friend when you don't even know her? But only her fake persona on an internet web-site?
It is possible, but you are kinda setting yourself up for failure here. The problem with internet-friends is that there is a nother layer to the already complicated problem, which is trust.
"Do I trust this random person enough to meet in real life?" "Maybe I can't even trust him to let him know my real name or where I live"
Do you see how quickly this could fall apart?
It's not just on you, but also on her to decide if a stranger should be her "friend".
In short, you are better off not saying it at all. You're better off saying that to someone face-to-face since at that point you already know their name and how they look so developing a friendship from the already existing knowledge of who eachother are is way more natural.
You can't force friendships and even though you might have read her comment as "problem" and you saw the "solution" which was being her friend, when you account for all the factors I just said, this "solution" might hurt more than if you would've said nothing at all, just something to keep in mind.
A general tip for guys: When people, but mostly girls or women, talk about problems, they are not searching for a solution but mostly to vent their emotions, hear and listen to them and show that you understand how they feel by simply repeating what they said with your own twist and add your own opinion to it aswell.
If they wanted a solution, they would've already found one, unless they specifically are asking for advice.
It's a natural instinct for us guys to just search for a solution when someone is talking about one of their problems, but when you do that, you are actually indirectly disregarding how they feel and let's say you did that to a friend, that would atually do the opposite of deepening the relationship you had.
This might all seem very complicated, but I'm just rambling about it in a weird way. This all is really founded in core fundamental human congnitive ways of functioning and yes, there is a big difference between how women and men handle themselves, by pure instinct, in these situations, but that's a long discussion on its own.
What I'm trying to say is that,if you wanna understand it better yourself, just step back for a moment and just think about WHY you think how you think without poisoning it down with logic, because logic does not work with emotions, you must think about why you think about or talk about emotions or that which is closely tied to emotions (such as relationships between people) by trying to find common patterns in past experiences you have had.
Everyone are able to understand these simple, yet quite abstarct concepts, because we all already know them, it's just all based on instinct and intuition which makes it hard to "just know" without taking a step back and thinking about it at first.
Good luck.
I'd be happy to be your friend
Please, never apologize for being emotional or for crying, you're human thats all and you need to live through those emotions to grow. You're a great person Cody, never doubt it
Its the people that dont show emotions you gotta stay away from like some people I know. Their attitudes are negative and they never apologize if they hurt someone.
Don't listen to them. Apologize if you want, it's a message to your solid online (which turn into IRL) friends... on your main channel. Kudos man, and keep that tough guy talking shyt to asshole retailers persona up (after this crybaby vid (I Kid, it was good)), while keeping and fostering new friends that will be there til the end. Good vid overall bro.
@@eisernfront8549 Some people that don't show emotions were probably taught that showing those emotions is weak.
The older I get, the harder it is for me to make friends. Having anxiety and being an introvert doesn't help. But I am so happy for you that you were able to find those real friendships you've wanted 💛. You and those that were able to share those moments 💖
I feel really sorry for those with no or few friends in their twenties, that shouldn't be the case. But then those with in their sixties without friends seems worse maybe, how do they meet people. In both scenarios ideally you meet similar people who also have few friends. Lastly what would you prefer? No friends or a few bad friends, maybe the occasional type from your job? We are doomed what with 'social ' media and now Covid!!
Me tooo :( its really hard
You really need to cement the friends you make in school and college, and also work colleagues you meet around 19 20 21. After that it becomes more difficult and most have found their own grouping and connections
Same.
So true
Late to this I know. It just breaks my heart hearing this stuff, but at the same time, gives me hope because we really are not alone. For me, as an autistic woman, it's always been more about the fact I just want ONE person I feel especially close to. As Anne would say, a really kindred spirit, to share life with. I don't need to know lots of people, and to be perfectly honest, most people that seem to have lots of friends, really don't. They have lots of acquaintances, if even that. I know it's really hard, but I guess we can take comfort in that connections mean more to us. The superficial doesn't work. I can't do small talk, and things like that. I just want someone to hang out with, and do other stuff. It's hard to meet like-minded people who are close by, and available. Everyone is always so far away. But I just hope people realise, this really is not just you, and there is nothing wrong with you. It's just the world now. I read not long ago that in the USA, the average person went from having about 10 people they would consider friends, to one, or NONE since like, the 1950s I think it was. We just have designed a world that is not conducive to building meaningful relationships. Add in all the longer drives, commutes to work, isolated from family, friends etc, and it's just one giant mess. Covid made things even worse. We have to find a solution to all this, and better connect people irl. Many of us meet people online, in things like video games etc, and that's fine, I love games still too. But what about people we can see day to day? Who will be there for us when we need it?
Just because you’re by yourself doesn’t mean you’re alone. Stay strong everybody
He's a married man he ain't alone plus he has his community of subscribers
Nice sentiment but just not true.
@@GregoryAlanBaileygamereviews he's not married anymore his wife left him
@Vintage Wrestling Zone always gotta be that one comment...
@Vintage Wrestling Zone physically?
The older you get, the smaller your group of friends get.
If you are smart.
True....life happens
Not true if you didn't have friends growing up and you never really had any through adulthood.
@@ashleyzrubek6404 Their are exceptions to many things.....
That small group evolve from friends to family
This is really comforting to me, another human with no friends
same here..
@Waldel Martell facts sadly..
My social anxiety has me much the same.
@@ahsal023 same
Bruh this comment make me happy and sad 🥲🥲
I am 40, my best friend who was my German Shepherd recently passed, and now I'm all alone, unemployed, living in a tiny room. I am trying to continue here but it's difficult with no family, no friends and with big gaps in a CV because I had to spend full time caring for my dog when he was a senior. Thanks for your video, you still have your golden years ahead of you! And remember, you are an entertainer and good at that, at least you are doing what you do best, not all can do this. I honestly won't ever do anything bad to myself because my dog would not have wanted it but when I wake up tomorrow knowing I got some medical situation that will see me gone soon, as soon as I don't suffer, I really don't care.