This hit so close to home. It’s not like u hate ur old friends or anything, there’s just a point in time where ur interests ain’t theirs and ur kinda checked out of forcing urself to be something ur not. I love that ur able to record urself despite what ur old friends may have said, because that is wt makes u happy. True friends should support u in ur interests if they’re healthy and not hurting anybody, and they’ll tell u respectfully when they don’t agree with something ur doing. It’s hard to find genuine people out there, not to say that everyone’s not genuine in their own way, but I mean genuine in the sense to where u can sit down and share a piece of ur humanity with them and vice versa. Not forcing anything. Friends should enhance ur life not control it. Respect to u for speaking out man, I feel like so many of us feel this way but u had the courage to make a video about it and as u can see it’s touched so many peoples hearts. Keep doin wt ur doin man, it’s inspiring honestly.
I didn’t find my real people till I was 23. It was always people I grew up with, or yeah school buddies… once I found my real people I felt a true change in my life and myself like I had never knew was possible. It’s a true love that is life changing.
Amen to that. My friends from the last 7 years only wanna get together to drink. Now that I’ve stepped away from that life, they pretty much never reach out.
Similar situation with me. Coworker who I thought was my friend used to drink with me every weekend after work. We had rounds of beers together and told each other personal life stuff and talked about how work could be better, etc. He was recently offered another position at a different location and decided to take it. Other than one brief text I never heard from him again. Coworkers are just that. Coworkers. They're not your friends. Lesson learned.
@@outis439-A only if you are that lucky. if you have no friends at 20's, it gets harder to develop friendship and social circle, to get to meet people and meet your girl friend / wife.
Im 27 now and am confinced that your 20's are supposed to be lonely. You usually got alot of shit going on whether it be grinding at something (hobby, school/work, sports) or even mental because the early 20's are very rough IMO. As you get older you'll become more collected and actually find the energy and time to make friends. That's my theory anyway, Im still a lone wolf but I wouldn't wan't it any other way as of right now
That’s true, I hate myself or atleast some parts in my mind do. Some parts of my mind try to convince me to feel suicidal, some little parts in my mind art seeing the good. I think i am depressed deep down because at school my friends only see my happiness because I hide my sad side. I could never be friends with myself
@@Bye_everyone000 If it's any consolation bro I feel the same. I alternate between liking myself and hating myself on a daily basis. I've always related to that line in Lord of the Rings where Gandalf says about Gollum how he 'hates and loves the ring as he hates and loves himself. Smeagol's life is a sad story'. Hope you have bright days ahead bro. Peace.
Man I know what you mean. The other day my cousin asked me to bring him $80 cash and I got so excited cuz I actually had a reason to go out and do something with someone. Was short lived tho cuz all I did was give him the cash and left but that’s the level of lonely I’ve reached. Running an errand for my cousin got me excited lmaoo.
Im 19 and I feel like I’m missing out all the time. But then I remember my high school days and how I was pretty much alone too. Everyone my age was either always high, or doing some dumb shit. They’d call me names for actually caring ab my grades 😂 so I’ve just gotten used to being alone tbh. Until someone is actually mature and doesn’t require some type of drug to have fun, and has ambitions and want to make a better future, imma stay alone.
I've only ever had 2 friends in highschool. They ignored me a few days after graduation, so I moved on. I had no friends for around 11 years. I only have 1 good friend now. It's the quality, not the quantity.
@@javiereg956i wish i could answer you. try finding a friend through what you like? if you like football, join a football team for fun. what are your hobbies, what do you like to do?
@@javiereg956 It's the same thing I say to people who "need" to have a romantic partner. If you are looking for it, it can happen. But you're also forcing it, which risks a lower quality relationship that won't last. A real relationship will happen whether you meant for it to or not. People gravitate towards each other most when they're not trying to. If I reach out to you, it's because I want to reach out to YOU. Not because I need someone, anyone so I just settle for you. lol
YOU'RE 100% CORRECT. Been there, and been on the complete opposite side of there for 28 years. Now 35 and lost... 20's were incredible, then 29 hits and everyone's having a baby, not ready for it, and stressed to the max. All the threads that once connected the friend group, are now lost and meaningless. I had social life before COVID, a long contact list that was endless in names and recent calls/texts. Since then I still talk to 2 people that are not blood.... rarely. There are very few people left in the world that are NOT NARCISSISTS! If you find one, or anyone that you TRULY get along with, PROTECT THEM AT ALL COSTS! Thank you brother for showing me I'm not alone.
you genuinely expressing yourself and not cutting the vid all the time feels authentic and nostalgic kinda like the real friend you always had fun and serious conversations abt
nice catch friend, I also felt what you mean... these kinda talk if it weren't a video, it would be a very meaningful interaction, a kind of interaction would fill the emptiness. not complaining, not gossips, not pretending, just being authentic and talking heart to heart.
Exactly! The real ones who don’t have a marketing funnel or a plan to monetize TH-cam and make $18 billion a day, and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with monetizing TH-cam… If you can do it, do it… We all need some extra cash and if you are actually sharing wisdom with people that helps them, you deserve a few bucks or all the money in the world, but it’s a formulaic cult at this point and it’s so obvious to people who know how these things work! I love it when people say that they charge $10,000 an hour for their coaching. Yeah, no one ever paid you $10,000 an hour. I charge $10,000 an hour to do nothing but no one’s ever paid me 10,000 to do nothing. Maybe they will someday. 😂
You know deep down that those people don’t have your back. They’re not going to go out of their way to talk to you or know anything about you. I really don’t feel like there’s anyone who I can be 100% honest with. All the friends I’ve had, I have to put on some exaggerated persona. But that’s not me. I know other people are going to relate to this.
@@juanfilipwinifredFor fucking real man. I’ve realized that people mostly want to talk about themselves, and when the conversation turns to something else the interest isn’t there
I hate seeing stuff like this because it makes me realize how alone I actually am. I work at a gas station at night, so it's literally just me most of the time and my thoughts, and I'll tell you what, man, being alone with just your thoughts can be depressing as hell. It's gotten to the point where I truthfully don't even know how to make friends.
I’ve lost most of my friends. I work second shift and a truck driver so I have nothing but the road and my thoughts and it’s a killer sometimes. Just know even tho you may feel alone, you are never alone. I feel and understand your pain.
Trust me bro I've been the same. Try to use your loneliness to your advantage and truly find yourself. I've found out where my morals lie being lonely and it kind of kept me at peace with it. Once you get out of your bubble, you'll be able to have conversations with people. Nothing just clicks it takes time just like almost every skill known to man.
I'm 22 as well, it's hard finding decent people. I've always been quite happy being alone, but sometimes it would be nice to share my experiences with someone outside my family. The world is isolating but at least videos like this show how we are not alone in how we feel. I hope everyone reading this finds genuine friends to enjoy their life with.
I felt this message. When I got out of Hughes school I still had lots of friends who we all talk,partied,went outside and chill everyday when I hit 20 and when I stared working own myself and stop doing those things that are not beneficial thays when I knew I was losing friends left and right and even family members. I'm only 24 don't get me wrong I am cool with some of old friends but we don't talk occasionally I've meet new friends everyday I come around they make me feel welcomed. I'm isolated almost all of my life. You start to lost friends when you are bettering yourself nowadays in the 2020s it's hard to find good people without being around toxic people
i graduated in 21 and I also lost 95% of my "friends". even when I was young, I made the distinction that these school friends arent really real friends, they're just acquaintances, all contact died outside the classroom and playground, I was never really into sports like that so I never connected to peers. I've always been seen as the quiet kid and its a certain type of awful when you're the quiet kid whos too anxious to put yourself out there to actually meet people. i stayed by myself all throughout highschool until I met the 2 only other people I talk to from my class, who I am slowly losing touch with now, since we're almost to our mid 20's and the time just isn't there anymore.. i could rant forever but I just want ya to know this video really touched me, it really felt like i was sitting across from you in the field. thank you so much. we'll make it through the rough waters and eventually get to the smooth ocean.
@@paulo0651 Dont do that bro, most people feel like that at some point but it can only go up from that point. Exercise and just keep pushing through and you'll thrive.
What's sad is that people have the expectation that friends are just friends they don't play a meaningful part in life, but that's so wrong. Even when you get married you'll still need friends to nurture and recharge you. I hope you find the friends you need. ❤
When I sit down and I look at myself, I start to realize I really have had no true friends or no true connections. Not a single person, not even my mother or father I can truly say I have a deep and affectionate bond with. My dad's a narcissistic jerk and my mom is always doing stuff, so theres nothing to bond with her on. If there was a bond before, it's most definitely gone now. The more I look around, the more I realize I'm slowly gaining weight, losing friends, and i can't find anyone with similar passions or things to connect with them on, well, because I can't find anything to connect with to myself. Nothing is really interesting and that's mainly because I don't have anything to do. Being lower middle class means you have no money to do fun things, therefore you have no money to actually find passion or connect, so you are just working paycheck to paycheck and sit miserably depressed inside your room.
I'm also going through the same situation but I realised that we have to be happy with ourselves. We can't buy dreams with money. Focus on yourself, know your ability and chase your dreams, be proud and feel happy about who you are. It's your life dude
If I think about it, you're right. I don't have a strong bond with anyone outside, just the love I feel for my daughter, whom I had last year, before and now with other people, zero... I don't have anyone who considers me a friend or who is there to tell me how special I am to them, not even my parents or my siblings... If I think about it, I'm really alone and only my daughter and God in my life. I have what I call acquaintances that we simply like, but that's all, nothing special with anyone else. But you know... at 22 years old I've already gotten used to it and I don't even force relationships with anyone anymore, that's how my life is and I have to accept it.
It makes my heart bleed for people who actually suffer from this type of loneliness where the person actively seek friends but are unable to make any. That is the true struggle.
Saw your face, read the caption, and knew bro was going through the same thing I am right now. I started reading I stop playing video games. I started eating healthy, hitting the gym, actually working towards the person I wanted to be and I watched everybody I loved fall away. Don’t worry bro you’re not alone sadly, in the end we’re all we got so we have to make ourselves the best version possible it’s not always gonna be like that but inevitably it will.
@@jaylinjenkinsyt trust family I’m right there with you/ you. God/Universe gave us the vision for a reason ain’t nobody else supposed to understand it.
I'm trying to quit videogames and weed but it's tough because I don't have enough hobbies. I love playing sports and guitar but I get bored easily because of my adhd
I feel you my brotha! I never had friends myself. Many people never found me entertaining because I do not act thuggish, drink alcohol, do drugs, or smoke weed! So, many people always found me boring! Unfortunately, we live in a popularity, fame, and social status socity that seems to be the reasons why a person have friends! Keep your head up, stay true to yourself, and never let anyone tell you your not worthy! Focus on your goals. Remember, you are somebody my brotha, YOU ARE SOMEBODY! always remember this somebodiness inside of you!
Im 22, i had the same experience at my highschool graduation. Nobody was there for me and I walked by everybody taking pictures and drove home. Ill never forget that
if it makes you feel better i didn't go to my middle, high, and college graduation. i also pretty much stop celebrating my birthday around high school.
Im the same. At my HS graduation I left while everyone took pictures with each other. My best friend stood me up at the graduation after party. I never felt more alone. And when I come back to my hometown I have no good friends. I just sit at home waiting to go back to college.
I hear exactly what you are saying. I am 61 years old and I am a widow. My whole life I was aloof from most people. My husband has been in Heaven for 6 years.
I'll be 21 in a few weeks, and the only friend I've had it's been from the internet, we've been talking for 8 years now and he's also been alone, only for wanting to bond more with people instead of something superficial. I've never had friends, and since 2020 it's only gotten worse, but I know they'll come when the time is right, If you seek them desperately you'll only find more of those people who don't care much and will quickly forget about their "friends." I love these types of videos, helps you remember you're not alone in this. There'll always be people here that'll support you, even if they're far away, because they know how it feels. Thanks for this.
I’m Japanese and recently I learned English and now I can understand English pretty well, and I started to watch TH-cam in English too. It’s surprise me that a lot of foreign people are also feel lonely too. I see a lot of video of talking their thought which is interesting. Because my image of US people was optimistic, happy and always throwing party and some shi. It’s good to know and interesting to know your thought and read comments too Good vid my man ps my English is surely improving isn’t it:)
"I make content to help y'all out because I know what it feels like to not be helped out". I'm in a similar situation but I never took that point of view. You're inspiring man.
I really want to help people in that same way. So many people just want someone to hangout with but it’s too hard to go out and find someone u can really connect with. Sometimes u need someone to reach out and give u a real chance and when nobody does u feel alone, I want to give people a real chance.
Being alone polishes you. Forces you to look at yourself and not run from the thoughts in ya head. you doin it right g, wishin u the best on ya journey real shit
I fw this comment man. You just gotta face life head on , head held high, arms wide open to any challenge life throw at you with no one at your back. If you can handle that you can handle anything.
@@Montanajj thank you and you have my respect, I agree with you 100%. People gotta realize how much they capable of an stop limiting themselves by thinking negatively and also incorporating self awareness into their mental
Man, this video is so beautiful it made me cry. I’ve been alone alone with little communication for months and I still barely have anybody. My family is toxic and I can’t communicate w them, and I don’t want to. And I’m only 18 but it’s okay. I hope I find the strength in me to keep pushing forward
I have a toxic family that destroyed my life and turned my friends against me. I have friends, no family, forced to rebuild myself alone right now. It's tough, but it makes you stronger. Keep pushing.
Mannn, this is the realest shit I've ever heard. Just recently a "friend" that I was hanging out with have been on and off for the past 2 years I could barely call us friends anymore. Finally, I told him how I want to grow and become a better version of myself, how I didn't want the same things, activities anymore; we ended up "breaking up" our "friendship". I got told "You've Changed". I thought I was the only one, since the beginning I didn't get invited to sleepovers, hangouts, parties. That was until I stumbled apon you. Never had REAL friends, the struggle is real, but I can't compromise for a shitty situation.
Im 32 and I thought I was the only guy like this… I’ve found myself focusing on improving myself more not having friends. I had friends growing up but didn’t realize until I separated myself from them due to them stabbing me in my back that they were not actually my friends. I had a mental breakdown and was severely depressed between 2019-2021 not knowing how to be alone with my life and my thoughts. After therapy, realizing that it’s nothing wrong with me being who I truly am and working on controlling my emotions now I can actually say I’m proud of myself. Now I just don’t know how to get friends or maybe I’m just protecting my energy and my mental health.
I had the same, It was hard at first but it made me find actuall friends so maybe one day it will happen to you too if not already! Be patient and the right people will find you
friends dropped me senior year of highschool. one stuck w me but it almost j feels like pity so ive started pushing him away too. i hope i get out of this soon
hey jaylin, it’s nia. i’m proud of you man. keep it pushing. there are so many people who feel the same way you do, so you being open about your experiences helps other people feel comfortable with sharing theirs. no matter what changes happen in our lives, even in your life personally, never stop being you. the people who are for you will never make you feel less than or make you have to question their motives.
My story is kinda similar, I'm 22 with no friends, but I had buddies along the way. I never had a girlfriend. I try not to complain because I have parents and siblings but outside of that I have nobody, the last time I had real friends was five to six years ago. I don't get invited to parties or social activities. Sometimes I try to pick up a soccer game but when I leave nobody texts or calls. I used to actually go out of my comfort zone and call people to check on them, but they wouldn't reach out back, so I stopped. It's very hard but I'm trying to lock in and man up. Like my brother said when you work hard and you make it, people will come out of nowhere, I'm starting to see that people are more attracted to things than they are to people a sad reality. I wish there was a way that people can meet coz a lot of people feel this way. Stay Up!!
Hey bro. Keep your head up. Start hobbys you really like, and become friends with the people there. First find the thing you love. I know its hard sometimes, but it really is not bc of you but bc of your surroundings you will get this man
i know for a fact it gonna turn out very well for you in the end like nothing is 4ever not even this pain or loneliness whatever this is it jus not a reality no more Shi is shifting all the times lik have hope for that
here's my saying at the end of the day people care about themselves only so truth be told you're best off finding a distraction my choice was start business and become successful it outweighs other concerns because trying to find value in life through the whims of other random people is just not a good way of valuing yourself that's it
I'm 26 with no friends lol - I get looked at like if I'm the reason I have no friends when I tell people sometimes lmfao ... like no - some of the people in the world my age mindset's be on toxicity or unloyal levels. and I don't care to waste my time on that or sacrifice my peace for that . I fee you - that's why I'm so heavy on family ❤ stay up 🙌
Hi there! God can be your best friend! Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." May God bless you!
@@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot Jehovah God is my best friend - thank you 🩷🤎 imitating Jesus is the way to go to paradise , I’m not 144,000 flock that goes to heaven - I’m not anointed - I’ll be in paradise tho 🥹💚 hopefully lol
Welcome to adulthood friend. What you're experiencing is fairly common, where you realize friends you have are just friends of proximity and not of spirit. It feels rough at first, then you find REALLY good friends after that, because you get to know the real you, and THAT'S what people will gravitate towards.
my father warned me of this when i was like 14 years old, he told me few if any of the people i called my friends would stick around. absolutely preposterous i thought, how could he be right and i be wrong. more than 20 years later i'm long past the point where i realized he was right of course. we drifted apart. someone got married. someone died. i just observed it from afar. as you said, i have new friends now and for proximity there's colleagues at work. but when you enter your twenties it's a normal thing to struggle with i guess.
alright but where do you get your real friends from ? bc personnaly i dont like going out ( like party i like to cruise around in the city or chill somewhere but not go out partying ) and like idk where ppl like that are...
man your video helped a lot. i realised that i am not alone, that i do have people that i care abt, i swore to myself to never let em go, to always check on them daily, thanks a lot dude
Cap thats delusion if you real then why ppl dont like you make it make sense yall just be bitches irl if you got a problem wit everybody YOU the problem work on yall selves
Oh shit I'm 22 too and have no friends like you. After high school it seems everyone dropped me, no notifications, no nothing. But you know what, I like this man.
@@coolgainz9307 No man I had a blast in high school, especially the ending years. It just sucks the fun didn't stick around when it ended. Such is life.
@@Ardeact Oh rip, in high school I wasn’t really popular, I was the quiet kid and didn’t wanna talk to anyone, only a few but things going better for me since I’m a college and making progress with my social skills, it’s not the best but still better than last time 💯
@@coolgainz9307 If I had to offer one thing: workout a lot, that'll turn into confidence and you'll be surrounded by people. At least that's how my high school experience flourished. Seeing as your name is coolgainz, i don't think that'll be an issue
I have no friends too man and it’s unfortunate in a time where I really need reassurance and clarity in my life and just a bit of freedom from the life I’m currently suffering in by the family I’m surrounded by, it genuinely sucks. I’m 22 just like you are and I too have left a group of ppl that never reached out to me nor ever included me in anything, it’s like at times I feel like a ghost people can see and hear but I’m never understood in what my heart wants which is just the love and understanding from another person in the world. It really hurts being alone in the world and the people in my circle really don’t even understand or care how truly isolating it feels to be in a position like that. I’m trying to get better but it’s just difficult when all the progress you gotta make an effort to be better in has to be development you make on your own.
the realest video i’ve seen in awhile. i always felt like i “needed” friends especially when i was in college living on campus but honestly ion think im meant to have friends like everyone else. im fine with being in my own world.
A lot of us are in the same boat I feel like. I wanted friends, I asked for them and God sent me the wrong crowd. Similar to your story. There's a lot of power in being alone. I feel like being away from the crowd gives a chance to build yourself and create a legacy that most other people wouldn't think to do. It's hard, but nothing great ever came easy. Your vulnerability is inspiring. Keep being you!
Same here. No one cares about me. I just have those "school buddies". Them people become ghosts once that bell rings. No one ever asks me out. Shit makes me feel so damn lonely. I just dont understand why no one gives a fuck about me. Im a genuine guy fr. Recently, i ran into this old friend of mine, who plays in my football team. We started going to practice and games together, and i was actually starting to feel like i finally found a real friend. Last week i wanted to walk to practice with him, but when his real friends showed up though, i realised that i was just being his backup the whole time. Bro just left me alone and went with his friends.
ah man that's sad to hear, i have a few school friends too. But i also have one real friend that cares about me like i am his brother. I hope you will find someone like him too, God bless you!
@@boo4644 Bro you're lucky that its your siblings. If you want my advice, go tell them how you feel about their behavior. Its way more easy than doing it with friends
Showing love all the way from South Africa. Crazy how i found myself contemplating about the very same thing on my way home today, after having to spend time alone everyday at school. But through him we believe that its Only The Chosens Ones.
They way you talk, sir you have a solid head on your shoulders. Please continue to not get wrapped up in no mess out here in this world and please pursure ANY and ALL your hobbies, interests or passions no matter how small or big the venture if able. Having a solid mind is more than its weight in gold. Whole heartedly wishing you the best in your life.
It’s been like this all my life and I feel you it’s so painful to not have no one outside your family to talk too I haven’t had a true friend since 7th grade now I’m about to graduate in 2 months and I’m still trying to make friends one day I will find a true friend that I can trust
friends (my brothas) just snaked me, dad got locked up, just moved in with my mom, i have nothing and no one to talk to. Everything feels so empty, and alone.. things i found entertainment to are now boring. I’m taking this as a new start, i found this really relatable and helpful, keep up the grind man.
Genuinely, thank you bro. I'm 13, in a few weeks, I'm heading to 8th grade with no close friends. I got some ppl in my life who criticise me for being an introverted and closed person but I don't listen, my main focus is myself and myself only. It's complicated tho. When I used to have friends, i felt like I wanted to be alone in life and now it's the exact opposite. I feel blessed that I found someone who can relate to me.
I’m in grade 11 and I feel exactly the same way as you.. I always prioritized quality over quantity when it came to having friends but they recently started drifting away and made new friendships. It kinda hurts cause they changed a lot throughout high school and they aren’t the people I used to love being around. I guess they care more about popularity now but I wish I wasn’t the second choice for once in my life. I am also introverted so I’m fine with being alone but it still sucks
Hey man. Was in your position at that age, had no friends until I was well into my teens. I don't have much wisdom but stick to it, work on yourself, life gets better. Real friends come along.
HEY IM IN 10th grade im so glad I relate to this too. Nobody understands right now because I guess this is an adult thing people go through, but you’re not alone. I promise you’ll find friends who value you and have the same interests and intentions of being genuine. I’m always willing to talk or even become friends because I only have one true friend at school. I have about 3 I can text but I don’t see them at all honestly. I wish you the best.
I'm 23 just graduated colege. I dont fw nun ah the people from my college or home town anymore. Most "Friends" in school or at work or just going out dudes were never real friends. Last couple months I been locking in with my younger cousins and blood family. Our society says we need to meet all these new people. Your family has always been there, knows your good and bad and it's just easier. It's weird going out to the bars with my cousins I knew since they were kids but its still mad fun and you know they wont just ditch you. Going to hoop will always bring solid dudes too.
Im 23 too, its no joke very sad how fake people are, its like its getting worse with time, our age group is wild as fuck with how snakey they act. I feel you on family bro, my cousin is one of the few people I really chill with.
@@clunt2548facts bro i’m genuinely tired of it. everytime you try to be as loyal as you can, they backstab you the second they get the opportunity . all u need is ur self and family
turning 30 this year. I can tell you 20-30 is a ride fellas and ladies, you are going to go through some shit. you are going to feel like everything in the world is challenging and you are going no where. you will feel like your past choices are making your future not worth it. or you will have everything you wanted and still feel lost. 20-30 is a ride for sure. but you can make it. these 10 years are the time to focus on yourself. make it happen for you and the ones you love. don't worry about "friends" people who are gonna be there will be there when the time is right. trust the process and just go day by day let go and live. find the peace find the happiness even in the worst of days. even when no body shows up. show up for yourself. peace and love.
@@just-me-bruh-69420 he knows what's up. 20-30s is grind time figure out where you want life to go instead of who's gonna be there. the ones who are meant to be will be. everyone on their own journey don't get left behind not thinking for yourself.
Same.... just kinda distanced myself until there was no one left... Kinda miss a friend. Real friend, not school buddy or drinking buddy. A friend. Reach out.
You are a stoic, my friend. A stoic should be happy in his own mind. In his own company. I love the company of other people. But I don't need it. I am grateful for what I have.
don't want to look annoying, but we as humans are social animals hard-wired to seek attention and bonds, saying you don't need other people's company is a straight up lie
@@Splodge542 nah, there's definitely some things that are inherently bad to the human mind, using things like philosophy helps, but only to a certain degree. If people could just logic it's way through emotional problems things like psychiatrists wouldn't exist
23 here, same feeling as you. I was always the one trying to cheer everyone up, make plans and make everybody laugh and have a good time. I planned a lot of cool things to do and I was willing to move the whole earth for my friends, but they wouldn't care shit about me. I traveled 6 months to work to a far away country and when I came back no one even tried to see me or ask me how it went. I felt like nobody cares about me, everybody is so selfish... I tried talking to them about this topic and I was really straightforward and honest about how it felt. They showed superficial remorse and excuses and months after the situation is the same. I have a wonderful girlfriend and I have a good life, but the feeling that no one except my girlfriend actually cares about me is sad... It's just an awfull feeling knowing that you gave the 100% to people and they just didn't give a shit... this has happened to me on different times in life but now it hurts more looking in retrospective. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk about my interests, hobbies, or just have a cool time together and I don't want to force myself to "find new friends" because it doesn't feel right.
I’m 23 too, and I am a girls not a guy but I don’t have friends too girl friends around me like female friends?? No I don’t have they don’t care abut me the same way I care,they don’t do the things I do so……idk.I have been alone for a long time now like 3 years since I graduated from college and now I think about being in university to further my associate degree to bachelors but I don’t know if I can have friends when I am in university that what bothers me because I am an introvert and all the things I do kinda introverted but I also sometimes can be extroverted around the people I really feel okay but those type of people are less so,I hope I will have okay friends or a boyfriend at least but again idk.So we aren’t alone in this hope gets better for me and for others too I have diabetes actually since I was 5.It is the number one reason why I want to be away from other students and people because they don’t get what diabetes is so I have to explain them this every time but i don’t want to and I can’t I feel like my energy is getting low every time I try to explain or about to explain so I that why I avoid explaining my situation and stay away from the crowd to pay attention to health problems of mine that what I can do at least…. So I think if people who do not have health issues are alone without friends then my case is valid.
I'm so happy that you are aware of the situation and that YOU care. Often times how people treat you and how they do things are a reflection of THEM not you. Keep trucking. All of us are out here looking for our people, continue to let your light shine and stay on the look out. Friends may not always come from the same age, race, or social group but be open.
I always try to make sure I don't follow the wrong people, making friends gets so much harder as life goes on. Many bad people to watch out for in this world.
95% of people in this world at least in North America are just straight up selfish, rude, egoistic, shallow…I currently work parttime at a library where I have to look after little kids and if there’s anybody that deserve my positive energy is these children, just so pure, cute, wholesome and whenever you show em love it’s guaranteed these lil angels are gonna show you love back, unlike most adults who would take your kindness for weakness
I resonate with everything you said my brother. I honestly think we're blessed so that we can walk our own path and keep a clear mind. God bless you sir
I feel this on so many levels I spend most of my time alone and I just turned 21 watching this video definitely made me feel a lil better knowing I’m not the only one who feels like this ! If your reading this comment just always remember sometimes it’s okay to be alone 🫶🏼
I’m nearly 20 with no friends. Sometimes it’s hard. But then I remember that a lot of people don’t have your best interests in mind. You’re the only one who knows how to make you happy. You’re the only one who knows what you like and how you are. It’s best to be alone than to have friends who hate you
@@Smile200-z4y He obviously doesnt mean that he just stays inside, there are many people that go to the gym, have a good lifestyle and have a nice job but have no friends because they can keep themselves happy
I feel this, I am a 17 year old who goes everywhere alone at this point because i have literally no friends! I’ve been in this position since i was 13 refusing to smoke, misbehave & hang out outside of school with people i didnt trust. It always felt like i stood out from the rest and it felt like i developed socially slower than my peers. It seems sad but i gave up on finding people my age to hang with and just walk the world alone, I think being alone has helped self-reflect more than anything, I got so much kinder and down to earth spending so much time with myself, It makes me think that if people come across me now they get the best version of me. I hope you’re doing okay and i wish you much happiness 💯
I was in a similar position around your age, and I'm currently in that position now that I'm a couple years in college and it'll pay dividends. Don't get me wrong I've got a group I could go to at any moment, but being selective in who you put around you and reflecting on yourself will make you a much deeper human, and eventually you'll find yourself in places where there are people just like that. You just gotta be patient, and keep doing you!
Don’t feel bad bro. I’m 25, no friends, hardly no family, no girl… it’s not even my choosing. I needed a change in my life and God started molding me into the man I am today. Take this as a sign. If you don’t have nobody near you it’s cause God wants you to spend time with him. Stay strong, speak to father, grow closer to Christ. You got this and welcome to the club homie. It’s tough but the process is definitely worth it💪🏻💯
Im 22 and i just recently decided to go my own way from my “friends” learning to be alone has been tough man but it has given me more courage and confidence than ever fr , stay up mane ✌️
I'm 29 but look 23 and I haven't had a friend since I was 15.. I don't know why.. when ppl start being nice to me I get confused. I think because I'm "attractive" but I want friends for my personality and not looks.. I'm a Metalhead too. I've been a Metalhead for 16 years.. I'm a chill person, calm and like to play electric guitar and keyboard. I've been playing music for 16 years. I'm a artist, I paint, and draw.. love hiking, I have 5 dogs and like learning physics and playing games once in awhile. I'm always working or going to college and trying to learn stuff that I had a problem learning before. I hope things work out for you dude..
Glad this popped on my timeline. In a similar situation sitting at the lunch table alone all that and having graduated may 2023 with 3 friends that was mostly rocking with me in school. Stay on your grind it'll all come in due time. Prioritize your Peace and Mental everything else will fall into place. Stay safe God bless 🙏🏿
same man i feel you. it's just me everyday sitting in front of the computer doing nothing. Sometimes I go to the gym or just walk, but thats it. you're a brave guy to have confidence to talk about this out loud. i admire you
Thank you for your honesty. Not enough people talk about this. You will have friends in your future, You are a quality person and you seem to know a lot at your age. So many people don't recognize the "school buddies" are not real fiends. Friends are in your future.
Hello, Im 18, from Spain, and I feel the same way u talking right now. I graduated last year, and the thing was, that I was tryna fit in so hard, that I thought I made people unconfortable. Since this feeling took over last year, I just let everything flow, and now, I feel like all of the conncetions or those buddies you've talked about, have left me alone, and it feels like shi. The feeling with this people at least for me is that we not on the same page. Im grinding, tryna go D1, and all of the people who I've seen around me those years, just want to party, and I just dont like that at all. This video has helped me understanding this unknown feeling I had, but sice Im not alone anymore, I might dont feel the loneliness that has been hand to hand with me whole summer. Thank you for this
Bro, tengo 16 y soy de Madrid siento lo mismo, de verdad estoy cansado de la gente,no soy como ellos,me queda 4 de la eso para terminar y solo de pensar ya no dan ganas ni de dormir,ojala solo poder pasar desapercibido y ya,pero es lo q toca ahora,fuerza Bro no estás solo 🤛😔
@@Martins_2s Bro vivo en los estados unidos y la verdad te entiendo, quisiera tener amigos de verdad y solo poder pasarla bien en la escuela (estoy en 9no grado) pero bueno es lo que hay, fuerzas bro tu tampoco estas solo
realeast video i think i've ever watched. this resonated with me so hard and im gettin emotional right now im legit going to a concert on my own in a month because i cut off a lot of my friends who seemed to be going down the wrong path and ain't treat me right. outside of school, i realized i aint got any real real friends fr.
bro everything you said is exactly me rn, I’ve really learned to embrace that I’m doing things I enjoy and I don’t need a group of people to do it with.
You a real one when you can do stuff alone like that. It’s character and strength building. It’s also good you don’t sacrifice your morals for the actions of others.
“Right now i’m no one… but when I’m successful, it’s going to be everyone” Watching this video just relating to everything you said, but those exact words resonate with me the most! I feel so seen.
I appreciate that you feel seen, but that line of the video didn't sit right with me. If you have power, wealth, or influence it's more likely that people will want to be around you for that power, wealth, or influence. I respect working hard, but I think that the best of friends will be made on your way up, not after you hit the top. I resonate with this video quite a bit. For a long time I felt I had no "real friends." I felt "replaced" as all of my friends found significant others that took up most of their time. However, I continued to try and make new connections by talking to strangers and taking initiative to reach out to others. It was a long and arduous grind and I won't say it was fun. Lot's of lonely nights feeling like my efforts were wasted. Despite those nights of suffering, it eventually started paying off. I see I went off on a tangent here. I want to reiterate that I think making friends is a lifelong endeavor that takes active effort from your part. Neglecting it for the grind seems unwise to me, especially when those same friends could have the skills to help you on your grind and help you get farther than you ever could have otherwise. Last thing I want to say is that I agree that being friends with people who you don't authentically enjoy or don't authentically enjoy you is a waste of time. It's just that waiting until you have material success to make those authentic connections is too late.
I really felt this video. Ive never really had friends, an when I did have "school buddies" i would never be their first choice so when something better came around they would move away from me. At first it was fine by me that they left when I graduated by I'm ngl i feel pretty lonely sometimes, its just so hard to find genuine people that arent your friends cuz its convenient
been feeling like this lately. im 19 about to turn 20 in september and am coming to the realization that i really have no one to talk to. no one to schedule plans with, no one to go and hang out and explore a restaurant nearby, no one... I see ppl who are my age that go out every weekend and have an established friend group and i feel very much of an outcast. i know God has something in store for me though, as well as he has something in store for you too.
I’m 20 and this is my exact situation. I used to hate it in the past but now I’m at peace with myself because it’s better to be by yourself anyways. And you’re right, God has a special plan for us!
Hi there! God can be your best friend! Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." May God bless you! :)
Nah just be the one standing out and If i did hang around yk what I'm sayin not sayuibn AI had no friends at school but that graivaster towards goal year ot year because at 9th grade then 10th grade then then so so this ammount then uhmm 11th grade come then in this then this then we yk and I guesss this is because idk its just certain thing that just fall off yk what I;'m sayin cuz yk I would love to have friends ai havent have 2020 yuh 2020 yuh 2020
This is giving me the focus to make sure me and my brothers stay close Ty for this. This is some of the deepest advice in my life while I'm in high school
I’ve been feeling so lonely lately, I feel like I need friends to stay motivated to do stuff, and my girlfriend who was my only real friend thought it wasn’t working out. I’m grateful for your channel it’s really helped me work through this.
I can relate alot to this, especially the "school buddies" friend feeling. I'm trying to start hobbies to have more to talk about myself so I can have a common interest with other people. Don't know where I could find those people but I'll at least build on my interests from until I see one of those people. I wish we could meet the people we see on the Internet in person. Especially those who can relate or are feeling the same. I Hope things go well for you too.
I have autism and I also have no friends, I’m polite, I have acquaintances that I like to keep in contact with ...but actual connection and friendship is just too exhausting ! In addition to my autism, I’m also introverted . I’ve always found peace with being alone, i can only deal with socializing for brief amount of time.... there’s nothing wrong with enjoying being alone, however if you used to be more sociable and are experiencing negative emotions, or are used to be more social and are withdrawing, then that’s when you know there’s something ls wrong, but if you’ve always been like that, it’s just who you are ❤
When I first watch the first few minutes of your video, i just burst into tears. I have been struggling to find real friends that stick close, and although i have "school buddies" they don't text me or call me. And that hit close when you mentioned that. Because ever since I was young I struggled with that. But I will find the right friends one day, people that will also help me go in the right directions. But it's alright even I don't have friends at the moment, because I have my family, and thats all that matters. I hope you find the rights friends as well. No matter how long it takes. :)
this video deadass made me feel like i was sat wit u, u got a calm vibe my dude and i feel this video on a personal level like fr fr. i needed this and i preciate u twin.
i've only watched the first few seconds of this but i just wanna say that being alone can be so insightful and peaceful. rather be on my own than around people that don't make my life better. being alone lets u learn a lot and u have more room to think. but make sure u get some kinda social interactions every now and then though so u don't FEEL alone. balance is important
I resonated with what you said as I was in the same position as you. You can always make friends by reaching out first to new people or the people you already know. You can use social media to get to know people or go to events and know people there. I hope you find your crowd 🌿✨
hey men my name is mohamed i live in germany im 29 years old i found your video randomly in youtube and men you really spoke to me from my soul. That's exactly how I feel, no friends for years. I just wanted to write it and say that even if we never come into contact, you still have someone here and I have your back and hope that you get asap exactly what you are missing in your life.
Appreciate the video bro, I feel understood, know you’re not alone. I’m turning 23 in July, no friends in sight, still single, and this has been on my mind heavy. Keep going!
Thank you so much for sharing! You are growing up and setting boundaries, this is a part of growing up. A family member once told me, everyone is not your friend so don’t claim everyone you know as a friend, one or two people who are good friends are better than a lot of people who are fake imposters of a friend. You are not alone, it seems to be very common now and days social media. You have the characteristics of a leader. 🙏🏽
6:44 is so real to me I know the exact feeling. That feeling of everyone else celebrating being with their friends, and then you just have you walking alone no one at your side or back and just feeling hollow. Like everyone around you is happy, but you feel nothing. I'm 19 almost 20 and I've had a similar experience. I had at one time a really close friend group. I don't choose friends lightly they were the best almost like a 2nd family to me. That all changed when I moved in 7th grade. That turning point in my life set me down a sort of spiral into a rut in life with some depression. It started out routine we talked on text until the group chat slowly died out. Wanting to stay connected I reached out and was invited into a new group chat in discord. From there I would be invited to parties and such and we were still close, but As i kept visiting christmas party after birthday I noticed my best friends slip away towards their classmate friends. I was being discarded. I tried to fit in, but as I kept trying to join the group they would distance themselves socially from me. I felt I was invited out of pity and nostalgia rather than being a genuine friend. Then the last straw for me was a last day of summer pool party before college. I jumped in and invited people in with me, but no one joined in except for an underclassmen who I hated (he was dating my crush and was a real narcissist) and joined in just to outswim me in a race (I won tho cuz of lessons I took recently >:) ). But, no one even spoke or acknowledged me at the party. I was like a stage hand in the friendship while they were all the actors on set it was the most painful and gut punching feeling I've ever experienced. From then on I cut ties, went to College and have only one friend who also cut ties due to personal reasons left who is distant with me slightly. I have made small friendships in class, but they die out just as fast as I form them (STEM campus so people tend to keep to themselves). Now I have no real friends to be with at college since my friend dropped out also due to personal reasons at home. And I go through the motions of going to class, but have no one to experience it with. I found pleasures in the small stuff the beautiful nature around campus, the fun games that have been coming out lately, bonding with my close family, watching anime, but when I'm alone I feel like a Phone that's wasting charge. I have time to spend with others, but no other's to share it with.
Honestly, cut out friends who didn't have the same ideals as me and I ended up with a handful of friends who I genuinely like. The best piece of advice I ever heard was "having a few high quality friends is better than having many low quality friends"
Tbh u can have friends that have different ideals than u. If u cut off people couse u disagree with them idk bro but thats not a healthy way to live. This just my opinion tho idk if its even compatible for ur situation
@@MARTISTICTENDENCIES Some people definitely do what you are saying based off stupid meaningless things like arguing in a video game however, if you guys disagree about something fundamental and you now know they think a certain way its way harder to EVER see that person as a true friend ever again unless one of you truly changes who they are. Whats worse cutting them off and finding new people or dealing with people who constantly think fundamentally different from you? Some people their entire life is based on religion, as someone who did not grow up with many religious values I find I will never become true friends with someone who bases everything off of "god did it" because I only truly believe in science and explanations like that will never make sense to me. Thats just one example and there are many other things, this does not mean I can't get along with these kind of people, they can never just be a true friend so why not cut them off and look for real people who think like me?
@@yungchimp i get what ur saying but i feel like a defference in vieuws should only be a problem when it interferes with yall relationship a lot. and i feel like people focus on those vieuws too much. im a very strong atheist too but I have friends that are religious and i can have open conversations about it but even outside of that topic we talk and do a lot of other stuff. one vieuw thats not the same shouldnt push people appart imo. if you cut people off that have different vieuws u dont agree with thats dangerous because u will stop challenging ur personal vieuws imo
I am a lucky bastard for being able to say I've always had friends, but I felt this way about so many people. You outgrow them or just don't feel interested in the things they talk about. But man u touched my heart, the way u speak, u have good in u man. Try to keep yourself that way.
I'm 14 with no friends. I sit home every single weekend when I'm not in school. When I get to school, i hang out normally when I'm with my friends. But when that weekend comes, it's just me. Alone in my room. Nobody to talk to, nobody to text, absolutely no one to hang out with and completely restless. All I've ever had is school buddies but when I switch schools it's like I switch friends too... And it's not like I wanted it to be like that. I just don't want to be alone anymore. And I'm jealous of all the other teens my age that get to experience their childhood while im stuck in my dark room. It feels like I'm missing out and I know I'll never get these years back. I feel forgotten. I feel ashamed of myself for not being better. (Edit) Thank you so much to everybody for replying and taking their time trying to help me out in these comments like fr I really needed it rn. I felt like I was the only one but now after reading every single reply I don't feel the same anymore and it's such a relief. I'm so grateful for y'all.
When I was a kid an adult told me to cherish my time because high school was the best of times. I'm 34 now and I can honestly say that is nonsense. Maybe for some people it was. Maybe they live in their past and for them that was the last time they were happy. But it was a hard lonely time for me. I wasn't mature enough to find my own inner happiness. It was a struggle just to seem normal and fit in. I think more kids struggled with that than I knew. And that's probably true today. People put on acts in public to seem normal. The people you think are having the childhood you want may have an entire inner struggle you'll never see. Not to say your feelings aren't real. But you'll never be happy measuring yourself by what you perceive another person's success to be. Measure your success by your past self. If you hate being in your dark room every weekend then go outside. Even if it's just for ten minutes. That's a win. Celebrate it. You don't need other people to be happy. Just keep stacking up little wins day by day. Find things that spark little joys. They'll flourish eventually. It isn't easy. And the struggle never ends. But it does get easier. And you aren't alone in feeling like this. You got this.
It’s a shame really, I’m 18 abt to graduate and I have the exact same story, my advice early before you lose it is to get a productive hobby or get a job. Shit is really hard from the start but it gets better
You don’t have to be stuck in your room, try talking to new people and making an effort to build outside-of-school relationships. You’d be surprised at how people will give you a chance at friendship if you just speak to them about random stuff. It’s sound cliche but, don’t take making friends too serious just have fun with it because you’ll look back years from now and most of it wont matter.
Just got recommend this video and what you described hit so close to home I teared up. The way you're able to bluntly acknowledge the very real pain that comes with loneliness, without downplaying it, and still be so forward thinking and hopeful is inspiring. Thank you for sharing this
BRAVO DUDE..! -GOOD on you..! -FOCUS, ON YOURSELF..! -You just DON'T Need ANY of that "USELESS, EXTRA Baggage"..! I did the same thing for 3-4 Years now, and I'm actually HAPPIER FOR IT..! -Trust me you WILL be BETTER OFF, and have far BETTER LONGEVITY..! Fuh-SURE..!!!
I’m 26 and I feel you brother. I’ve literally had this conversation with myself. You can consider me a friend. I can feel energy so I only let certain people in my life
Greetings from Poland. Same here, no friends, real friends. Since I was around 25 I guess. Now I'm 38 and I have my girl and my cat, that's it. My "pack of friends" dissapeared thruout all those years, different view on life, different hobbies. That's sad side of life.
im 24 and have felt this drift and didn't know how to articulate it, you did well explaining this experience that I didn't know was universal. Your caption gives me hope because I feel like I'm clinging onto my last 2 friends from highschool that I'm not sure feel the same about me. Keep your head up king, this was 7 months ago u posted this and I hope you put that time into learning about yourself and have or will meet people along the way that vibe well with you enough to continue onwards with you in this journey of life and you can both call each other friends mutually and mean it :) pray for me too please
This hit so close to home. It’s not like u hate ur old friends or anything, there’s just a point in time where ur interests ain’t theirs and ur kinda checked out of forcing urself to be something ur not. I love that ur able to record urself despite what ur old friends may have said, because that is wt makes u happy. True friends should support u in ur interests if they’re healthy and not hurting anybody, and they’ll tell u respectfully when they don’t agree with something ur doing. It’s hard to find genuine people out there, not to say that everyone’s not genuine in their own way, but I mean genuine in the sense to where u can sit down and share a piece of ur humanity with them and vice versa. Not forcing anything. Friends should enhance ur life not control it. Respect to u for speaking out man, I feel like so many of us feel this way but u had the courage to make a video about it and as u can see it’s touched so many peoples hearts. Keep doin wt ur doin man, it’s inspiring honestly.
Dang, 3 minutes ago with a pin? Dude is dedicated.
@@cainthegreat3056 I was just as surprised as u lol this guys the goat fr
kinda cool
Never had a more relatable video randomly get suggested
This is so true. This feeling just happened to me.
when he said "school buddies" i felt that on another level
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I didn’t find my real people till I was 23. It was always people I grew up with, or yeah school buddies… once I found my real people I felt a true change in my life and myself like I had never knew was possible. It’s a true love that is life changing.
yeah i thought i had a bunch of friends until i realized the meaning of school friends so in reality i only have a couple ppl
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I never had genuine friends. It was ten years of 'drinking buddies'. When I stopped drinking, they stopped calling.
Same here but with weed, once I stopped smoking for Like A month or 2 they never hit me up.
Amen to that. My friends from the last 7 years only wanna get together to drink. Now that I’ve stepped away from that life, they pretty much never reach out.
Similar situation with me. Coworker who I thought was my friend used to drink with me every weekend after work. We had rounds of beers together and told each other personal life stuff and talked about how work could be better, etc. He was recently offered another position at a different location and decided to take it. Other than one brief text I never heard from him again. Coworkers are just that. Coworkers. They're not your friends. Lesson learned.
@@josebro352 that’s life bro
Depressing tbh but you'll see who there for you for you
Not enough people talk about how lonely your 20s can be. Thanks man
20s that’s nothing wait til u hit 30/40s real life starts there
@@hintvision yeah but you can get kids, wife, etc.
@@outis439-A only if you are that lucky. if you have no friends at 20's, it gets harder to develop friendship and social circle, to get to meet people and meet your girl friend / wife.
Im 27 now and am confinced that your 20's are supposed to be lonely. You usually got alot of shit going on whether it be grinding at something (hobby, school/work, sports) or even mental because the early 20's are very rough IMO. As you get older you'll become more collected and actually find the energy and time to make friends. That's my theory anyway, Im still a lone wolf but I wouldn't wan't it any other way as of right now
@@hintvisionwtf, it gets worse??? What is life bruh 🤦🏾♂️
The comparison of school buddy's and friends hit so hard.
To je real
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥
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Being your own best friend is a super power most people can’t achieve
That’s true, I hate myself or atleast some parts in my mind do. Some parts of my mind try to convince me to feel suicidal, some little parts in my mind art seeing the good. I think i am depressed deep down because at school my friends only see my happiness because I hide my sad side. I could never be friends with myself
@@Bye_everyone000 I am feeling the exact same way as you.
💯💯As a 42 year old man i learned this the hard-way 🙏
I dont hate myself really. Other people say i hate myself, but im not them, and they got issues.
@@Bye_everyone000 If it's any consolation bro I feel the same. I alternate between liking myself and hating myself on a daily basis. I've always related to that line in Lord of the Rings where Gandalf says about Gollum how he 'hates and loves the ring as he hates and loves himself. Smeagol's life is a sad story'. Hope you have bright days ahead bro. Peace.
I’m 25. It’s starting to take a toll on me. It’s been a few years I just feel sad not having anyone to make plans with or get asked
Man I know what you mean. The other day my cousin asked me to bring him $80 cash and I got so excited cuz I actually had a reason to go out and do something with someone.
Was short lived tho cuz all I did was give him the cash and left but that’s the level of lonely I’ve reached.
Running an errand for my cousin got me excited lmaoo.
@@Rockyroad321 make sure u cousin aint taking advantage of u. stay strong and i hope u find some good friends bro
@@zxorizonn_3111 oh nah he just needed physical cash, he E-transferred the 80 to me before.
Jesus loves you. i was the same. God fills that void
Im 19 and I feel like I’m missing out all the time. But then I remember my high school days and how I was pretty much alone too. Everyone my age was either always high, or doing some dumb shit. They’d call me names for actually caring ab my grades 😂 so I’ve just gotten used to being alone tbh. Until someone is actually mature and doesn’t require some type of drug to have fun, and has ambitions and want to make a better future, imma stay alone.
I've only ever had 2 friends in highschool. They ignored me a few days after graduation, so I moved on. I had no friends for around 11 years. I only have 1 good friend now. It's the quality, not the quantity.
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How do you find a good friend if you don’t mind me asking?
@@javiereg956i wish i could answer you. try finding a friend through what you like? if you like football, join a football team for fun. what are your hobbies, what do you like to do?
@@javiereg956 I wouldn't say there is a way. Kinda just happened for me.
@@javiereg956 It's the same thing I say to people who "need" to have a romantic partner. If you are looking for it, it can happen. But you're also forcing it, which risks a lower quality relationship that won't last. A real relationship will happen whether you meant for it to or not. People gravitate towards each other most when they're not trying to. If I reach out to you, it's because I want to reach out to YOU. Not because I need someone, anyone so I just settle for you. lol
YOU'RE 100% CORRECT. Been there, and been on the complete opposite side of there for 28 years. Now 35 and lost... 20's were incredible, then 29 hits and everyone's having a baby, not ready for it, and stressed to the max. All the threads that once connected the friend group, are now lost and meaningless. I had social life before COVID, a long contact list that was endless in names and recent calls/texts. Since then I still talk to 2 people that are not blood.... rarely. There are very few people left in the world that are NOT NARCISSISTS! If you find one, or anyone that you TRULY get along with, PROTECT THEM AT ALL COSTS! Thank you brother for showing me I'm not alone.
you genuinely expressing yourself and not cutting the vid all the time feels authentic and nostalgic kinda like the real friend you always had fun and serious conversations abt
thanks family ❤️ that’s means a lot to me
nice catch friend, I also felt what you mean... these kinda talk if it weren't a video, it would be a very meaningful interaction, a kind of interaction would fill the emptiness.
not complaining, not gossips, not pretending, just being authentic and talking heart to heart.
Exactly! The real ones who don’t have a marketing funnel or a plan to monetize TH-cam and make $18 billion a day, and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with monetizing TH-cam… If you can do it, do it… We all need some extra cash and if you are actually sharing wisdom with people that helps them, you deserve a few bucks or all the money in the world, but it’s a formulaic cult at this point and it’s so obvious to people who know how these things work!
I love it when people say that they charge $10,000 an hour for their coaching. Yeah, no one ever paid you $10,000 an hour. I charge $10,000 an hour to do nothing but no one’s ever paid me 10,000 to do nothing. Maybe they will someday. 😂
"school buddies" what an accurate term man.
You know deep down that those people don’t have your back. They’re not going to go out of their way to talk to you or know anything about you. I really don’t feel like there’s anyone who I can be 100% honest with. All the friends I’ve had, I have to put on some exaggerated persona. But that’s not me. I know other people are going to relate to this.
@@juanfilipwinifredi relate to ts so much man
@@juanfilipwinifredFor fucking real man. I’ve realized that people mostly want to talk about themselves, and when the conversation turns to something else the interest isn’t there
@@juanfilipwinifredThis is so real
I hate seeing stuff like this because it makes me realize how alone I actually am. I work at a gas station at night, so it's literally just me most of the time and my thoughts, and I'll tell you what, man, being alone with just your thoughts can be depressing as hell. It's gotten to the point where I truthfully don't even know how to make friends.
It’s okay man you’re gonna get through trust. We’re all here with u don’t worry
I’ve lost most of my friends. I work second shift and a truck driver so I have nothing but the road and my thoughts and it’s a killer sometimes. Just know even tho you may feel alone, you are never alone. I feel and understand your pain.
you are the man
Trust me bro I've been the same. Try to use your loneliness to your advantage and truly find yourself. I've found out where my morals lie being lonely and it kind of kept me at peace with it. Once you get out of your bubble, you'll be able to have conversations with people. Nothing just clicks it takes time just like almost every skill known to man.
@@moeski17 same situation I used it as my advantage, feeling really relaxed and peaceful
I'm 22 as well, it's hard finding decent people. I've always been quite happy being alone, but sometimes it would be nice to share my experiences with someone outside my family. The world is isolating but at least videos like this show how we are not alone in how we feel. I hope everyone reading this finds genuine friends to enjoy their life with.
I felt this message. When I got out of Hughes school I still had lots of friends who we all talk,partied,went outside and chill everyday when I hit 20 and when I stared working own myself and stop doing those things that are not beneficial thays when I knew I was losing friends left and right and even family members. I'm only 24 don't get me wrong I am cool with some of old friends but we don't talk occasionally I've meet new friends everyday I come around they make me feel welcomed. I'm isolated almost all of my life. You start to lost friends when you are bettering yourself nowadays in the 2020s it's hard to find good people without being around toxic people
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yo u being outside when u talk idk why, but it makes it seem so much more personal. love it my man. fr keep this up.
i gotchu brotha 💪🏾
Duke dennis?
REAL QUEEN
@@jaylinjenkinsyt Do you have a wife or girlfriend?
@ no
i graduated in 21 and I also lost 95% of my "friends". even when I was young, I made the distinction that these school friends arent really real friends, they're just acquaintances, all contact died outside the classroom and playground, I was never really into sports like that so I never connected to peers. I've always been seen as the quiet kid and its a certain type of awful when you're the quiet kid whos too anxious to put yourself out there to actually meet people. i stayed by myself all throughout highschool until I met the 2 only other people I talk to from my class, who I am slowly losing touch with now, since we're almost to our mid 20's and the time just isn't there anymore.. i could rant forever but I just want ya to know this video really touched me, it really felt like i was sitting across from you in the field. thank you so much. we'll make it through the rough waters and eventually get to the smooth ocean.
same
i will just end it all no one likes me
@@paulo0651 dont do that bro we love you.
@@paulo0651 Dont do that bro, most people feel like that at some point but it can only go up from that point. Exercise and just keep pushing through and you'll thrive.
What's sad is that people have the expectation that friends are just friends they don't play a meaningful part in life, but that's so wrong. Even when you get married you'll still need friends to nurture and recharge you. I hope you find the friends you need. ❤
When I sit down and I look at myself, I start to realize I really have had no true friends or no true connections. Not a single person, not even my mother or father I can truly say I have a deep and affectionate bond with. My dad's a narcissistic jerk and my mom is always doing stuff, so theres nothing to bond with her on. If there was a bond before, it's most definitely gone now. The more I look around, the more I realize I'm slowly gaining weight, losing friends, and i can't find anyone with similar passions or things to connect with them on, well, because I can't find anything to connect with to myself. Nothing is really interesting and that's mainly because I don't have anything to do. Being lower middle class means you have no money to do fun things, therefore you have no money to actually find passion or connect, so you are just working paycheck to paycheck and sit miserably depressed inside your room.
I'm also going through the same situation but I realised that we have to be happy with ourselves. We can't buy dreams with money. Focus on yourself, know your ability and chase your dreams, be proud and feel happy about who you are. It's your life dude
If I think about it, you're right. I don't have a strong bond with anyone outside, just the love I feel for my daughter, whom I had last year, before and now with other people, zero... I don't have anyone who considers me a friend or who is there to tell me how special I am to them, not even my parents or my siblings... If I think about it, I'm really alone and only my daughter and God in my life. I have what I call acquaintances that we simply like, but that's all, nothing special with anyone else. But you know... at 22 years old I've already gotten used to it and I don't even force relationships with anyone anymore, that's how my life is and I have to accept it.
It makes my heart bleed for people who actually suffer from this type of loneliness where the person actively seek friends but are unable to make any. That is the true struggle.
This made me realize how pathetic it sounds to people
This is me. My heart hurts so much from it all.
Did you not watch the video
He’s not actively seeking friends lol he just said he would like to have some
@@Hakuuu99seriously this made me feel worse lmfao
Same, No friends just "Buddies". There is a strong difference between Buddies and real Friends, Real Friends are hard to get.
Especially after elementary school
REAL FRIENDS HOW MANY OF US
Saw your face, read the caption, and knew bro was going through the same thing I am right now. I started reading I stop playing video games. I started eating healthy, hitting the gym, actually working towards the person I wanted to be and I watched everybody I loved fall away. Don’t worry bro you’re not alone sadly, in the end we’re all we got so we have to make ourselves the best version possible it’s not always gonna be like that but inevitably it will.
keep going family you on the right path 📈
@@jaylinjenkinsyt trust family I’m right there with you/ you. God/Universe gave us the vision for a reason ain’t nobody else supposed to understand it.
This the one ☝🏽
I saw something in his face, too, but didn't know what.
I'm trying to quit videogames and weed but it's tough because I don't have enough hobbies. I love playing sports and guitar but I get bored easily because of my adhd
I feel you my brotha! I never had friends myself. Many people never found me entertaining because I do not act thuggish, drink alcohol, do drugs, or smoke weed! So, many people always found me boring! Unfortunately, we live in a popularity, fame, and social status socity that seems to be the reasons why a person have friends! Keep your head up, stay true to yourself, and never let anyone tell you your not worthy! Focus on your goals. Remember, you are somebody my brotha, YOU ARE SOMEBODY! always remember this somebodiness inside of you!
Damn i felt this
Im 22, i had the same experience at my highschool graduation. Nobody was there for me and I walked by everybody taking pictures and drove home. Ill never forget that
Cold
if it makes you feel better i didn't go to my middle, high, and college graduation.
i also pretty much stop celebrating my birthday around high school.
Me too
Im the same. At my HS graduation I left while everyone took pictures with each other. My best friend stood me up at the graduation after party. I never felt more alone. And when I come back to my hometown I have no good friends. I just sit at home waiting to go back to college.
Exactly my same experience
who wants to be his friend
👇
I'd be his homie anyday. Dude's seem solid.
Fuck it's sad knowing so many of us are alone
Stay strong out there
me fr man
yall chasing shit stfu and be real
Be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
Any day
I hear exactly what you are saying. I am 61 years old and I am a widow. My whole life I was aloof from most people. My husband has been in Heaven for 6 years.
i hope you will find people to hang out with
I'm sorry to hear that. Jesus loves you
Im sorry. Stay strong and hopefully you can make the most of what life throws at ya
Life isn’t over till it’s over. Your husband is watching you everyday and wants you to be happy. You got this :)
U can’t prove he went to heaven
I'll be 21 in a few weeks, and the only friend I've had it's been from the internet, we've been talking for 8 years now and he's also been alone, only for wanting to bond more with people instead of something superficial. I've never had friends, and since 2020 it's only gotten worse, but I know they'll come when the time is right, If you seek them desperately you'll only find more of those people who don't care much and will quickly forget about their "friends."
I love these types of videos, helps you remember you're not alone in this. There'll always be people here that'll support you, even if they're far away, because they know how it feels. Thanks for this.
I’m Japanese and recently I learned English and now I can understand English pretty well, and I started to watch TH-cam in English too.
It’s surprise me that a lot of foreign people are also feel lonely too. I see a lot of video of talking their thought which is interesting. Because my image of US people was optimistic, happy and always throwing party and some shi.
It’s good to know and interesting to know your thought and read comments too
Good vid my man
ps my English is surely improving isn’t it:)
Your english is perfectly fine man :D
your english is really good!!
good shi
"some shi" man you knew english for a long time
Theres a reason everyone be partying and drinking its because behind the scenes they got problems they haven't dealt with yet or even realize
"I make content to help y'all out because I know what it feels like to not be helped out".
I'm in a similar situation but I never took that point of view. You're inspiring man.
I really want to help people in that same way. So many people just want someone to hangout with but it’s too hard to go out and find someone u can really connect with. Sometimes u need someone to reach out and give u a real chance and when nobody does u feel alone, I want to give people a real chance.
Being alone polishes you. Forces you to look at yourself and not run from the thoughts in ya head. you doin it right g, wishin u the best on ya journey real shit
I fw this comment man. You just gotta face life head on , head held high, arms wide open to any challenge life throw at you with no one at your back. If you can handle that you can handle anything.
@@Montanajj thank you and you have my respect, I agree with you 100%. People gotta realize how much they capable of an stop limiting themselves by thinking negatively and also incorporating self awareness into their mental
Oh, you can easily run from your thoughts
@@csanadtemesvari9251 cause you choose to
But when you’re building yourself up, you get to a point where you stop and look around, and it’s just you. That shit hurts
Man, this video is so beautiful it made me cry. I’ve been alone alone with little communication for months and I still barely have anybody. My family is toxic and I can’t communicate w them, and I don’t want to. And I’m only 18 but it’s okay. I hope I find the strength in me to keep pushing forward
i’m in the same boat keep forging ahead
I have a toxic family that destroyed my life and turned my friends against me. I have friends, no family, forced to rebuild myself alone right now. It's tough, but it makes you stronger. Keep pushing.
Mannn, this is the realest shit I've ever heard. Just recently a "friend" that I was hanging out with have been on and off for the past 2 years I could barely call us friends anymore. Finally, I told him how I want to grow and become a better version of myself, how I didn't want the same things, activities anymore; we ended up "breaking up" our "friendship". I got told "You've Changed". I thought I was the only one, since the beginning I didn't get invited to sleepovers, hangouts, parties. That was until I stumbled apon you. Never had REAL friends, the struggle is real, but I can't compromise for a shitty situation.
Im 32 and I thought I was the only guy like this… I’ve found myself focusing on improving myself more not having friends. I had friends growing up but didn’t realize until I separated myself from them due to them stabbing me in my back that they were not actually my friends. I had a mental breakdown and was severely depressed between 2019-2021 not knowing how to be alone with my life and my thoughts. After therapy, realizing that it’s nothing wrong with me being who I truly am and working on controlling my emotions now I can actually say I’m proud of myself. Now I just don’t know how to get friends or maybe I’m just protecting my energy and my mental health.
Never forget when I lost my friends. Soon as school ended that was it, not a single word ever again.
That's awful you think someone's gonna be there for u and check up on you but then nope. Did u at least check in on the other person?
I used to have a pretty good friend that I was friends with since preschool but he moved away sadly
I had the same, It was hard at first but it made me find actuall friends so maybe one day it will happen to you too if not already!
Be patient and the right people will find you
yup. I learned a lot when that happened.
friends dropped me senior year of highschool. one stuck w me but it almost j feels like pity so ive started pushing him away too. i hope i get out of this soon
hey jaylin, it’s nia. i’m proud of you man. keep it pushing. there are so many people who feel the same way you do, so you being open about your experiences helps other people feel comfortable with sharing theirs. no matter what changes happen in our lives, even in your life personally, never stop being you. the people who are for you will never make you feel less than or make you have to question their motives.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🫂
@@jaylinjenkinsytproud bubba💙
My story is kinda similar, I'm 22 with no friends, but I had buddies along the way. I never had a girlfriend. I try not to complain because I have parents and siblings but outside of that I have nobody, the last time I had real friends was five to six years ago. I don't get invited to parties or social activities. Sometimes I try to pick up a soccer game but when I leave nobody texts or calls. I used to actually go out of my comfort zone and call people to check on them, but they wouldn't reach out back, so I stopped. It's very hard but I'm trying to lock in and man up. Like my brother said when you work hard and you make it, people will come out of nowhere, I'm starting to see that people are more attracted to things than they are to people a sad reality. I wish there was a way that people can meet coz a lot of people feel this way. Stay Up!!
Damn we live the same life
Hey bro. Keep your head up. Start hobbys you really like, and become friends with the people there. First find the thing you love. I know its hard sometimes, but it really is not bc of you but bc of your surroundings you will get this man
i know for a fact it gonna turn out very well for you in the end like nothing is 4ever not even this pain or loneliness whatever this is it jus not a reality no more Shi is shifting all the times lik have hope for that
keep it pushing bro
here's my saying at the end of the day people care about themselves only so truth be told you're best off finding a distraction my choice was start business and become successful it outweighs other concerns because trying to find value in life through the whims of other random people is just not a good way of valuing yourself that's it
I'm 26 with no friends lol - I get looked at like if I'm the reason I have no friends when I tell people sometimes lmfao ... like no - some of the people in the world my age mindset's be on toxicity or unloyal levels. and I don't care to waste my time on that or sacrifice my peace for that . I fee you - that's why I'm so heavy on family ❤ stay up 🙌
only way is up ❤️🤝🏾
yep 💯
Hi there! God can be your best friend!
Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
May God bless you!
@@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot Jehovah God is my best friend - thank you 🩷🤎 imitating Jesus is the way to go to paradise , I’m not 144,000 flock that goes to heaven - I’m not anointed - I’ll be in paradise tho 🥹💚 hopefully lol
@@jaylinjenkinsytI want to be your friend.
Welcome to adulthood friend. What you're experiencing is fairly common, where you realize friends you have are just friends of proximity and not of spirit. It feels rough at first, then you find REALLY good friends after that, because you get to know the real you, and THAT'S what people will gravitate towards.
my father warned me of this when i was like 14 years old, he told me few if any of the people i called my friends would stick around. absolutely preposterous i thought, how could he be right and i be wrong. more than 20 years later i'm long past the point where i realized he was right of course. we drifted apart. someone got married. someone died. i just observed it from afar. as you said, i have new friends now and for proximity there's colleagues at work. but when you enter your twenties it's a normal thing to struggle with i guess.
alright but where do you get your real friends from ? bc personnaly i dont like going out ( like party i like to cruise around in the city or chill somewhere but not go out partying ) and like idk where ppl like that are...
I graduated in 2017 and haven't really had a friend since.
No you don’t find good friends after that. You don’t find friends at all.
@@Smitty_7truth
man your video helped a lot. i realised that i am not alone, that i do have people that i care abt, i swore to myself to never let em go, to always check on them daily, thanks a lot dude
The realest people are alone 💯
Real
Thats not true
@@pumpkincoffeeits 100% true
Cap thats delusion if you real then why ppl dont like you make it make sense yall just be bitches irl if you got a problem wit everybody YOU the problem work on yall selves
@@sliceoflazania No! This is just factually wrong! The amount of friends you have doesn't define whether or not your "real"
Oh shit I'm 22 too and have no friends like you. After high school it seems everyone dropped me, no notifications, no nothing. But you know what, I like this man.
Happy for you bro❤
Honestly bro, fuck high school but I’m happy for you that you’re doing better 💯
@@coolgainz9307 No man I had a blast in high school, especially the ending years. It just sucks the fun didn't stick around when it ended. Such is life.
@@Ardeact Oh rip, in high school I wasn’t really popular, I was the quiet kid and didn’t wanna talk to anyone, only a few but things going better for me since I’m a college and making progress with my social skills, it’s not the best but still better than last time 💯
@@coolgainz9307 If I had to offer one thing: workout a lot, that'll turn into confidence and you'll be surrounded by people. At least that's how my high school experience flourished. Seeing as your name is coolgainz, i don't think that'll be an issue
I have no friends too man and it’s unfortunate in a time where I really need reassurance and clarity in my life and just a bit of freedom from the life I’m currently suffering in by the family I’m surrounded by, it genuinely sucks. I’m 22 just like you are and I too have left a group of ppl that never reached out to me nor ever included me in anything, it’s like at times I feel like a ghost people can see and hear but I’m never understood in what my heart wants which is just the love and understanding from another person in the world. It really hurts being alone in the world and the people in my circle really don’t even understand or care how truly isolating it feels to be in a position like that. I’m trying to get better but it’s just difficult when all the progress you gotta make an effort to be better in has to be development you make on your own.
the realest video i’ve seen in awhile. i always felt like i “needed” friends especially when i was in college living on campus but honestly ion think im meant to have friends like everyone else. im fine with being in my own world.
A lot of us are in the same boat I feel like. I wanted friends, I asked for them and God sent me the wrong crowd. Similar to your story. There's a lot of power in being alone. I feel like being away from the crowd gives a chance to build yourself and create a legacy that most other people wouldn't think to do. It's hard, but nothing great ever came easy. Your vulnerability is inspiring. Keep being you!
Same here. No one cares about me. I just have those "school buddies". Them people become ghosts once that bell rings. No one ever asks me out. Shit makes me feel so damn lonely. I just dont understand why no one gives a fuck about me. Im a genuine guy fr. Recently, i ran into this old friend of mine, who plays in my football team. We started going to practice and games together, and i was actually starting to feel like i finally found a real friend. Last week i wanted to walk to practice with him, but when his real friends showed up though, i realised that i was just being his backup the whole time. Bro just left me alone and went with his friends.
ah man that's sad to hear, i have a few school friends too. But i also have one real friend that cares about me like i am his brother. I hope you will find someone like him too, God bless you!
@@fisch.130 Thanks man, take care and may god bless you too
Spend more time with your family while you still have time.
@@RealJavierEscuella i spend as much time as i can with my family, as they're the only people who truly love me.
@@boo4644 Bro you're lucky that its your siblings. If you want my advice, go tell them how you feel about their behavior. Its way more easy than doing it with friends
Showing love all the way from South Africa. Crazy how i found myself contemplating about the very same thing on my way home today, after having to spend time alone everyday at school. But through him we believe that its Only The Chosens Ones.
facts
💯☝️☝️
They way you talk, sir you have a solid head on your shoulders. Please continue to not get wrapped up in no mess out here in this world and please pursure ANY and ALL your hobbies, interests or passions no matter how small or big the venture if able. Having a solid mind is more than its weight in gold. Whole heartedly wishing you the best in your life.
It’s been like this all my life and I feel you it’s so painful to not have no one outside your family to talk too I haven’t had a true friend since 7th grade now I’m about to graduate in 2 months and I’m still trying to make friends one day I will find a true friend that I can trust
you will trust
friends (my brothas) just snaked me, dad got locked up, just moved in with my mom, i have nothing and no one to talk to. Everything feels so empty, and alone.. things i found entertainment to are now boring. I’m taking this as a new start, i found this really relatable and helpful, keep up the grind man.
How did they snake you bro?
Genuinely, thank you bro. I'm 13, in a few weeks, I'm heading to 8th grade with no close friends. I got some ppl in my life who criticise me for being an introverted and closed person but I don't listen, my main focus is myself and myself only. It's complicated tho. When I used to have friends, i felt like I wanted to be alone in life and now it's the exact opposite. I feel blessed that I found someone who can relate to me.
I’m in grade 11 and I feel exactly the same way as you.. I always prioritized quality over quantity when it came to having friends but they recently started drifting away and made new friendships. It kinda hurts cause they changed a lot throughout high school and they aren’t the people I used to love being around. I guess they care more about popularity now but I wish I wasn’t the second choice for once in my life. I am also introverted so I’m fine with being alone but it still sucks
Hey man. Was in your position at that age, had no friends until I was well into my teens. I don't have much wisdom but stick to it, work on yourself, life gets better. Real friends come along.
Bro fuck friends they only bring trouble facts
HEY IM IN 10th grade im so glad I relate to this too. Nobody understands right now because I guess this is an adult thing people go through, but you’re not alone. I promise you’ll find friends who value you and have the same interests and intentions of being genuine. I’m always willing to talk or even become friends because I only have one true friend at school. I have about 3 I can text but I don’t see them at all honestly. I wish you the best.
I have loads of school friends but never have anyone hitting me up outside of school, its weird but im content with it. Loved this video
I'm 23 just graduated colege. I dont fw nun ah the people from my college or home town anymore. Most "Friends" in school or at work or just going out dudes were never real friends. Last couple months I been locking in with my younger cousins and blood family. Our society says we need to meet all these new people. Your family has always been there, knows your good and bad and it's just easier. It's weird going out to the bars with my cousins I knew since they were kids but its still mad fun and you know they wont just ditch you. Going to hoop will always bring solid dudes too.
💯💯💯
Im 23 too, its no joke very sad how fake people are, its like its getting worse with time, our age group is wild as fuck with how snakey they act. I feel you on family bro, my cousin is one of the few people I really chill with.
@@clunt2548 Seriously platonic or not, its just so many fake people
@@TheRelaxingWind Honest to god bro
@@clunt2548facts bro i’m genuinely tired of it. everytime you try to be as loyal as you can, they backstab you the second they get the opportunity . all u need is ur self and family
turning 30 this year. I can tell you 20-30 is a ride fellas and ladies, you are going to go through some shit. you are going to feel like everything in the world is challenging and you are going no where. you will feel like your past choices are making your future not worth it. or you will have everything you wanted and still feel lost. 20-30 is a ride for sure. but you can make it. these 10 years are the time to focus on yourself. make it happen for you and the ones you love. don't worry about "friends" people who are gonna be there will be there when the time is right. trust the process and just go day by day let go and live. find the peace find the happiness even in the worst of days. even when no body shows up. show up for yourself. peace and love.
@@TiimmyBoiii coincidentally I also know a guy named timmy who just turned 30 and he also said “don’t worry about friends, people come and go”
@@just-me-bruh-69420 he knows what's up. 20-30s is grind time figure out where you want life to go instead of who's gonna be there. the ones who are meant to be will be. everyone on their own journey don't get left behind not thinking for yourself.
Thanks man 🥺
As a struggling 29 year old, thank you.
@@LowLifeDust keep pushing homie we got this!
Same.... just kinda distanced myself until there was no one left... Kinda miss a friend. Real friend, not school buddy or drinking buddy. A friend. Reach out.
Bigup for speaking about this g, love from Australia!!
You are a stoic, my friend. A stoic should be happy in his own mind. In his own company. I love the company of other people. But I don't need it. I am grateful for what I have.
Your comment made me smile..... STOICISM!!
1. Improvise
2. Adapt
3. Overcome
Focus on what you can change and make it work....#momentomori✌🏽
don't want to look annoying, but we as humans are social animals hard-wired to seek attention and bonds, saying you don't need other people's company is a straight up lie
@@marcelomelo9977 You have no idea what stoicism involves, research more and come back.....🤗
@@marcelomelo9977 Or you could say that loneliness is a state of mind. Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.
@@Splodge542 nah, there's definitely some things that are inherently bad to the human mind, using things like philosophy helps, but only to a certain degree. If people could just logic it's way through emotional problems things like psychiatrists wouldn't exist
Man I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. Girls/relationships boyfriends can also break alot of friendships
23 here, same feeling as you. I was always the one trying to cheer everyone up, make plans and make everybody laugh and have a good time. I planned a lot of cool things to do and I was willing to move the whole earth for my friends, but they wouldn't care shit about me.
I traveled 6 months to work to a far away country and when I came back no one even tried to see me or ask me how it went. I felt like nobody cares about me, everybody is so selfish... I tried talking to them about this topic and I was really straightforward and honest about how it felt.
They showed superficial remorse and excuses and months after the situation is the same.
I have a wonderful girlfriend and I have a good life, but the feeling that no one except my girlfriend actually cares about me is sad...
It's just an awfull feeling knowing that you gave the 100% to people and they just didn't give a shit... this has happened to me on different times in life but now it hurts more looking in retrospective.
I feel like I don't have anyone to talk about my interests, hobbies, or just have a cool time together and I don't want to force myself to "find new friends" because it doesn't feel right.
Real.
i think making friends is gonna be uncomfortable no matter what. if you wanna make friends i think you have to be okay with that
I’m 23 too, and I am a girls not a guy but I don’t have friends too girl friends around me like female friends?? No I don’t have they don’t care abut me the same way I care,they don’t do the things I do so……idk.I have been alone for a long time now like 3 years since I graduated from college and now I think about being in university to further my associate degree to bachelors but I don’t know if I can have friends when I am in university that what bothers me because I am an introvert and all the things I do kinda introverted but I also sometimes can be extroverted around the people I really feel okay but those type of people are less so,I hope I will have okay friends or a boyfriend at least but again idk.So we aren’t alone in this hope gets better for me and for others too I have diabetes actually since I was 5.It is the number one reason why I want to be away from other students and people because they don’t get what diabetes is so I have to explain them this every time but i don’t want to and I can’t I feel like my energy is getting low every time I try to explain or about to explain so I that why I avoid explaining my situation and stay away from the crowd to pay attention to health problems of mine that what I can do at least…. So I think if people who do not have health issues are alone without friends then my case is valid.
which country?
I'm so happy that you are aware of the situation and that YOU care. Often times how people treat you and how they do things are a reflection of THEM not you. Keep trucking. All of us are out here looking for our people, continue to let your light shine and stay on the look out. Friends may not always come from the same age, race, or social group but be open.
Ayy praying for you bruh you always Got God believe that lil bro!!!
You made me cry dude the part where you said you left the room all by yourself after getting graduated hit home 😭🥺
That hit different 😢
@@coolgainz9307 For real unfortunately I had the same experience 😔 tho it’s myself to blame as well cuz I was always the awkward and shy kid
@@Voyager696 Yeah I can relate to you man especially in high school
I always try to make sure I don't follow the wrong people, making friends gets so much harder as life goes on. Many bad people to watch out for in this world.
95% of people in this world at least in North America are just straight up selfish, rude, egoistic, shallow…I currently work parttime at a library where I have to look after little kids and if there’s anybody that deserve my positive energy is these children, just so pure, cute, wholesome and whenever you show em love it’s guaranteed these lil angels are gonna show you love back, unlike most adults who would take your kindness for weakness
@@praneeldeb2087 I completely agree with you, I hope your job is going well. You seem to be a nice guy around those kids.
I resonate with everything you said my brother. I honestly think we're blessed so that we can walk our own path and keep a clear mind. God bless you sir
thanks family , God bless you as well
I feel this on so many levels I spend most of my time alone and I just turned 21 watching this video definitely made me feel a lil better knowing I’m not the only one who feels like this ! If your reading this comment just always remember sometimes it’s okay to be alone 🫶🏼
I’m nearly 20 with no friends. Sometimes it’s hard. But then I remember that a lot of people don’t have your best interests in mind. You’re the only one who knows how to make you happy. You’re the only one who knows what you like and how you are. It’s best to be alone than to have friends who hate you
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U do need some kind of social interaction or else you go crazy.
@@Smile200-z4ywell not really
@@Smile200-z4y He obviously doesnt mean that he just stays inside, there are many people that go to the gym, have a good lifestyle and have a nice job but have no friends because they can keep themselves happy
@@Smile200-z4y nah facts
I feel this, I am a 17 year old who goes everywhere alone at this point because i have literally no friends! I’ve been in this position since i was 13 refusing to smoke, misbehave & hang out outside of school with people i didnt trust. It always felt like i stood out from the rest and it felt like i developed socially slower than my peers. It seems sad but i gave up on finding people my age to hang with and just walk the world alone, I think being alone has helped self-reflect more than anything, I got so much kinder and down to earth spending so much time with myself, It makes me think that if people come across me now they get the best version of me. I hope you’re doing okay and i wish you much happiness 💯
I hope I can follow in ur footsteps bro
I was in a similar position around your age, and I'm currently in that position now that I'm a couple years in college and it'll pay dividends. Don't get me wrong I've got a group I could go to at any moment, but being selective in who you put around you and reflecting on yourself will make you a much deeper human, and eventually you'll find yourself in places where there are people just like that. You just gotta be patient, and keep doing you!
Wish I could think like you I’m also 17 in the same predicament you basically just wrote my life
same except I'm 16, I used to have lots of friends but now none except for online, ima make an effort to stand out and talk to people next year
Im pretty similar but got a few friends they aint into drugs and shit either
Don’t feel bad bro. I’m 25, no friends, hardly no family, no girl… it’s not even my choosing. I needed a change in my life and God started molding me into the man I am today. Take this as a sign. If you don’t have nobody near you it’s cause God wants you to spend time with him. Stay strong, speak to father, grow closer to Christ. You got this and welcome to the club homie. It’s tough but the process is definitely worth it💪🏻💯
that’s a fact
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Ts sound so lonely
@@tajneedstogooutside it is… still is. Been at this now since mid December… just gotta keep swimming like Dory says
@@brandonlewis1245haha thats pretty funny.
Im 22 and i just recently decided to go my own way from my “friends” learning to be alone has been tough man but it has given me more courage and confidence than ever fr , stay up mane ✌️
I'm 29 but look 23 and I haven't had a friend since I was 15..
I don't know why.. when ppl start being nice to me I get confused. I think because I'm "attractive" but I want friends for my personality and not looks.. I'm a Metalhead too. I've been a Metalhead for 16 years.. I'm a chill person, calm and like to play electric guitar and keyboard. I've been playing music for 16 years. I'm a artist, I paint, and draw.. love hiking, I have 5 dogs and like learning physics and playing games once in awhile. I'm always working or going to college and trying to learn stuff that I had a problem learning before. I hope things work out for you dude..
thanks family only way is up
@@jaylinjenkinsyt Same to you.
😭 😭 would u like to try to be friends with me lol ? I’m 22 if age matters
@@yyyeet6956 Who me?
Hell yeah I’m a metal head to I’ve been listening to metal since like middle school and I’m 28 now ingested is my favorite band what’s yours?
Damn, this hit it right on the spot. I’m about to be 28, no friends, and don’t talk to anyone in the family… needed this
Same
Why don’t you talk to our family?
Glad this popped on my timeline. In a similar situation sitting at the lunch table alone all that and having graduated may 2023 with 3 friends that was mostly rocking with me in school. Stay on your grind it'll all come in due time. Prioritize your Peace and Mental everything else will fall into place. Stay safe God bless 🙏🏿
same to you my friend 🌟
same man i feel you. it's just me everyday sitting in front of the computer doing nothing. Sometimes I go to the gym or just walk, but thats it. you're a brave guy to have confidence to talk about this out loud. i admire you
Thank you for your honesty. Not enough people talk about this. You will have friends in your future, You are a quality person and you seem to know a lot at your age. So many people don't recognize the "school buddies" are not real fiends. Friends are in your future.
Hello, Im 18, from Spain, and I feel the same way u talking right now. I graduated last year, and the thing was, that I was tryna fit in so hard, that I thought I made people unconfortable. Since this feeling took over last year, I just let everything flow, and now, I feel like all of the conncetions or those buddies you've talked about, have left me alone, and it feels like shi. The feeling with this people at least for me is that we not on the same page. Im grinding, tryna go D1, and all of the people who I've seen around me those years, just want to party, and I just dont like that at all. This video has helped me understanding this unknown feeling I had, but sice Im not alone anymore, I might dont feel the loneliness that has been hand to hand with me whole summer. Thank you for this
Bro, tengo 16 y soy de Madrid siento lo mismo, de verdad estoy cansado de la gente,no soy como ellos,me queda 4 de la eso para terminar y solo de pensar ya no dan ganas ni de dormir,ojala solo poder pasar desapercibido y ya,pero es lo q toca ahora,fuerza Bro no estás solo 🤛😔
@@Martins_2s Bro vivo en los estados unidos y la verdad te entiendo, quisiera tener amigos de verdad y solo poder pasarla bien en la escuela (estoy en 9no grado) pero bueno es lo que hay, fuerzas bro tu tampoco estas solo
You from spain? You have American slang, (not in a negative way)
@@BrahianGiudiceyu a strong ass kid coming from a 19 year old American live long and hard my friend
@@buffAsh195wrd
realeast video i think i've ever watched. this resonated with me so hard and im gettin emotional right now im legit going to a concert on my own in a month because i cut off a lot of my friends who seemed to be going down the wrong path and ain't treat me right. outside of school, i realized i aint got any real real friends fr.
that’s how it is but that means your in the top 1%
bro everything you said is exactly me rn, I’ve really learned to embrace that I’m doing things I enjoy and I don’t need a group of people to do it with.
You a real one when you can do stuff alone like that. It’s character and strength building. It’s also good you don’t sacrifice your morals for the actions of others.
“Right now i’m no one… but when I’m successful, it’s going to be everyone”
Watching this video just relating to everything you said, but those exact words resonate with me the most! I feel so seen.
I appreciate that you feel seen, but that line of the video didn't sit right with me. If you have power, wealth, or influence it's more likely that people will want to be around you for that power, wealth, or influence. I respect working hard, but I think that the best of friends will be made on your way up, not after you hit the top.
I resonate with this video quite a bit. For a long time I felt I had no "real friends." I felt "replaced" as all of my friends found significant others that took up most of their time. However, I continued to try and make new connections by talking to strangers and taking initiative to reach out to others. It was a long and arduous grind and I won't say it was fun. Lot's of lonely nights feeling like my efforts were wasted. Despite those nights of suffering, it eventually started paying off.
I see I went off on a tangent here. I want to reiterate that I think making friends is a lifelong endeavor that takes active effort from your part. Neglecting it for the grind seems unwise to me, especially when those same friends could have the skills to help you on your grind and help you get farther than you ever could have otherwise. Last thing I want to say is that I agree that being friends with people who you don't authentically enjoy or don't authentically enjoy you is a waste of time. It's just that waiting until you have material success to make those authentic connections is too late.
I really felt this video. Ive never really had friends, an when I did have "school buddies" i would never be their first choice so when something better came around they would move away from me. At first it was fine by me that they left when I graduated by I'm ngl i feel pretty lonely sometimes, its just so hard to find genuine people that arent your friends cuz its convenient
been feeling like this lately. im 19 about to turn 20 in september and am coming to the realization that i really have no one to talk to. no one to schedule plans with, no one to go and hang out and explore a restaurant nearby, no one... I see ppl who are my age that go out every weekend and have an established friend group and i feel very much of an outcast. i know God has something in store for me though, as well as he has something in store for you too.
I’m 20 and this is my exact situation. I used to hate it in the past but now I’m at peace with myself because it’s better to be by yourself anyways. And you’re right, God has a special plan for us!
Hi there! God can be your best friend!
Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
May God bless you! :)
Feel this. 19 boutta be 20 in Dec
This is my exact situation right now
Nah just be the one standing out and If i did hang around yk what I'm sayin not sayuibn AI had no friends at school but that graivaster towards goal year ot year because at 9th grade then 10th grade then then so so this ammount then uhmm 11th grade come then in this then this then we yk and I guesss this is because idk its just certain thing that just fall off yk what I;'m sayin cuz yk I would love to have friends ai havent have 2020 yuh 2020 yuh 2020
This is giving me the focus to make sure me and my brothers stay close Ty for this.
This is some of the deepest advice in my life while I'm in high school
Bro why we basically got the same name but slightly different💀
I’ve been feeling so lonely lately, I feel like I need friends to stay motivated to do stuff, and my girlfriend who was my only real friend thought it wasn’t working out. I’m grateful for your channel it’s really helped me work through this.
I can relate alot to this, especially the "school buddies" friend feeling. I'm trying to start hobbies to have more to talk about myself so I can have a common interest with other people. Don't know where I could find those people but I'll at least build on my interests from until I see one of those people.
I wish we could meet the people we see on the Internet in person. Especially those who can relate or are feeling the same. I Hope things go well for you too.
19 going on 20, I got no friends. I felt that!
same , turned 20 last week
Happy birthday guys I just turned 16
@@HannahBrowsley Congratulations , Happy Birthday to you too
@@HannahBrowsley happy borf yall, literally turned 16 too 2 days ago
@@blades50 Happy birthday !! I turned 2 weeks ago now
I have autism and I also have no friends, I’m polite, I have acquaintances that I like to keep in contact with ...but actual connection and friendship is just too exhausting !
In addition to my autism, I’m also introverted . I’ve always found peace with being alone, i can only deal with socializing for brief amount of time.... there’s nothing wrong with enjoying being alone, however if you used to be more sociable and are experiencing negative emotions, or are used to be more social and are withdrawing, then that’s when you know there’s something ls wrong, but if you’ve always been like that, it’s just who you are ❤
When I first watch the first few minutes of your video, i just burst into tears. I have been struggling to find real friends that stick close, and although i have "school buddies" they don't text me or call me. And that hit close when you mentioned that. Because ever since I was young I struggled with that. But I will find the right friends one day, people that will also help me go in the right directions. But it's alright even I don't have friends at the moment, because I have my family, and thats all that matters. I hope you find the rights friends as well. No matter how long it takes. :)
this video deadass made me feel like i was sat wit u, u got a calm vibe my dude and i feel this video on a personal level like fr fr. i needed this and i preciate u twin.
i've only watched the first few seconds of this but i just wanna say that being alone can be so insightful and peaceful. rather be on my own than around people that don't make my life better. being alone lets u learn a lot and u have more room to think. but make sure u get some kinda social interactions every now and then though so u don't FEEL alone. balance is important
facts i talk about this as well further in the vid and in the description box
Cope.
Loneliness doesnt always mean that you dont have anyone, sometimes it means no one has you. I been strugglin with this and you're speaking my mind bro
I resonated with what you said as I was in the same position as you. You can always make friends by reaching out first to new people or the people you already know. You can use social media to get to know people or go to events and know people there. I hope you find your crowd 🌿✨
hey men my name is mohamed i live in germany im 29 years old i found your video randomly in youtube and men you really spoke to me from my soul. That's exactly how I feel, no friends for years. I just wanted to write it and say that even if we never come into contact, you still have someone here and I have your back and hope that you get asap exactly what you are missing in your life.
Damn bro, hoffe alles klappt für dich ebenfalls.
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bro du packst das! Ich glaub an dich mohamed
Appreciate the video bro, I feel understood, know you’re not alone. I’m turning 23 in July, no friends in sight, still single, and this has been on my mind heavy.
Keep going!
Thank you so much for sharing! You are growing up and setting boundaries, this is a part of growing up. A family member once told me, everyone is not your friend so don’t claim everyone you know as a friend, one or two people who are good friends are better than a lot of people who are fake imposters of a friend. You are not alone, it seems to be very common now and days social media. You have the characteristics of a leader. 🙏🏽
At this point im so happy you made this video, im suffering with having no friends atm and i can relate with you so much
6:44 is so real to me I know the exact feeling. That feeling of everyone else celebrating being with their friends, and then you just have you walking alone no one at your side or back and just feeling hollow. Like everyone around you is happy, but you feel nothing.
I'm 19 almost 20 and I've had a similar experience. I had at one time a really close friend group. I don't choose friends lightly they were the best almost like a 2nd family to me. That all changed when I moved in 7th grade. That turning point in my life set me down a sort of spiral into a rut in life with some depression. It started out routine we talked on text until the group chat slowly died out. Wanting to stay connected I reached out and was invited into a new group chat in discord. From there I would be invited to parties and such and we were still close, but As i kept visiting christmas party after birthday I noticed my best friends slip away towards their classmate friends. I was being discarded. I tried to fit in, but as I kept trying to join the group they would distance themselves socially from me. I felt I was invited out of pity and nostalgia rather than being a genuine friend. Then the last straw for me was a last day of summer pool party before college. I jumped in and invited people in with me, but no one joined in except for an underclassmen who I hated (he was dating my crush and was a real narcissist) and joined in just to outswim me in a race (I won tho cuz of lessons I took recently >:) ). But, no one even spoke or acknowledged me at the party. I was like a stage hand in the friendship while they were all the actors on set it was the most painful and gut punching feeling I've ever experienced. From then on I cut ties, went to College and have only one friend who also cut ties due to personal reasons left who is distant with me slightly. I have made small friendships in class, but they die out just as fast as I form them (STEM campus so people tend to keep to themselves). Now I have no real friends to be with at college since my friend dropped out also due to personal reasons at home. And I go through the motions of going to class, but have no one to experience it with. I found pleasures in the small stuff the beautiful nature around campus, the fun games that have been coming out lately, bonding with my close family, watching anime, but when I'm alone I feel like a Phone that's wasting charge. I have time to spend with others, but no other's to share it with.
I wish I could just go through the screen, dap you up, and give you a big hug bro. You're a real one. Keep pushing through.
Honestly, cut out friends who didn't have the same ideals as me and I ended up with a handful of friends who I genuinely like. The best piece of advice I ever heard was "having a few high quality friends is better than having many low quality friends"
Tbh u can have friends that have different ideals than u. If u cut off people couse u disagree with them idk bro but thats not a healthy way to live. This just my opinion tho idk if its even compatible for ur situation
@@MARTISTICTENDENCIES generally i think this is true, but there are some ideals you can't compromise on
@@gills10975 ofc I agree
@@MARTISTICTENDENCIES Some people definitely do what you are saying based off stupid meaningless things like arguing in a video game however, if you guys disagree about something fundamental and you now know they think a certain way its way harder to EVER see that person as a true friend ever again unless one of you truly changes who they are. Whats worse cutting them off and finding new people or dealing with people who constantly think fundamentally different from you? Some people their entire life is based on religion, as someone who did not grow up with many religious values I find I will never become true friends with someone who bases everything off of "god did it" because I only truly believe in science and explanations like that will never make sense to me. Thats just one example and there are many other things, this does not mean I can't get along with these kind of people, they can never just be a true friend so why not cut them off and look for real people who think like me?
@@yungchimp i get what ur saying but i feel like a defference in vieuws should only be a problem when it interferes with yall relationship a lot. and i feel like people focus on those vieuws too much. im a very strong atheist too but I have friends that are religious and i can have open conversations about it but even outside of that topic we talk and do a lot of other stuff. one vieuw thats not the same shouldnt push people appart imo. if you cut people off that have different vieuws u dont agree with thats dangerous because u will stop challenging ur personal vieuws imo
I am a lucky bastard for being able to say I've always had friends, but I felt this way about so many people. You outgrow them or just don't feel interested in the things they talk about. But man u touched my heart, the way u speak, u have good in u man. Try to keep yourself that way.
I'm 14 with no friends. I sit home every single weekend when I'm not in school. When I get to school, i hang out normally when I'm with my friends. But when that weekend comes, it's just me. Alone in my room. Nobody to talk to, nobody to text, absolutely no one to hang out with and completely restless. All I've ever had is school buddies but when I switch schools it's like I switch friends too... And it's not like I wanted it to be like that. I just don't want to be alone anymore. And I'm jealous of all the other teens my age that get to experience their childhood while im stuck in my dark room. It feels like I'm missing out and I know I'll never get these years back. I feel forgotten. I feel ashamed of myself for not being better.
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Thank you so much to everybody for replying and taking their time trying to help me out in these comments like fr I really needed it rn. I felt like I was the only one but now after reading every single reply I don't feel the same anymore and it's such a relief. I'm so grateful for y'all.
Same here man and I'm 20, missed most of everything
Same I got nobody that want to hang with I’m about to be a sophomore 🫤🫤
When I was a kid an adult told me to cherish my time because high school was the best of times. I'm 34 now and I can honestly say that is nonsense. Maybe for some people it was. Maybe they live in their past and for them that was the last time they were happy. But it was a hard lonely time for me.
I wasn't mature enough to find my own inner happiness. It was a struggle just to seem normal and fit in. I think more kids struggled with that than I knew. And that's probably true today.
People put on acts in public to seem normal. The people you think are having the childhood you want may have an entire inner struggle you'll never see.
Not to say your feelings aren't real. But you'll never be happy measuring yourself by what you perceive another person's success to be.
Measure your success by your past self. If you hate being in your dark room every weekend then go outside. Even if it's just for ten minutes. That's a win. Celebrate it. You don't need other people to be happy. Just keep stacking up little wins day by day. Find things that spark little joys. They'll flourish eventually.
It isn't easy. And the struggle never ends. But it does get easier. And you aren't alone in feeling like this. You got this.
It’s a shame really, I’m 18 abt to graduate and I have the exact same story, my advice early before you lose it is to get a productive hobby or get a job. Shit is really hard from the start but it gets better
You don’t have to be stuck in your room, try talking to new people and making an effort to build outside-of-school relationships. You’d be surprised at how people will give you a chance at friendship if you just speak to them about random stuff. It’s sound cliche but, don’t take making friends too serious just have fun with it because you’ll look back years from now and most of it wont matter.
Just got recommend this video and what you described hit so close to home I teared up. The way you're able to bluntly acknowledge the very real pain that comes with loneliness, without downplaying it, and still be so forward thinking and hopeful is inspiring. Thank you for sharing this
BRAVO DUDE..! -GOOD on you..! -FOCUS, ON YOURSELF..!
-You just DON'T Need ANY of that "USELESS, EXTRA Baggage"..!
I did the same thing for 3-4 Years now, and I'm actually HAPPIER FOR IT..!
-Trust me you WILL be BETTER OFF, and have far BETTER LONGEVITY..!
Fuh-SURE..!!!
Keep doing these! I really appreciate them and you’re helping so much people. And if you ever need a friend yourself I’m always around to listen
I’m 26 and I feel you brother. I’ve literally had this conversation with myself. You can consider me a friend. I can feel energy so I only let certain people in my life
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@@jaylinjenkinsytyou’re a good guy brother, I can also sense it, try be open to new people who can bring new experiences
Greetings from Poland. Same here, no friends, real friends. Since I was around 25 I guess. Now I'm 38 and I have my girl and my cat, that's it. My "pack of friends" dissapeared thruout all those years, different view on life, different hobbies. That's sad side of life.
You're not alone man. I've been through the same. But it gets better. Continue to attract your own circle.
im 24 and have felt this drift and didn't know how to articulate it, you did well explaining this experience that I didn't know was universal. Your caption gives me hope because I feel like I'm clinging onto my last 2 friends from highschool that I'm not sure feel the same about me. Keep your head up king, this was 7 months ago u posted this and I hope you put that time into learning about yourself and have or will meet people along the way that vibe well with you enough to continue onwards with you in this journey of life and you can both call each other friends mutually and mean it :) pray for me too please