Marrying Someone Who Was Not A Virgin, But I Was

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  • ‘Marrying Someone Who Was Not A Virgin, But I Was‘
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  • @PaulandMorgan
    @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +203

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    • @Sekon61
      @Sekon61 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Love you guys😭❤️

    • @manasavuibaubatiwale3593
      @manasavuibaubatiwale3593 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for the honesty 😊😊😊😊😊😊

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      👏👏👏👏👏

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  • @victoriarhodes9245
    @victoriarhodes9245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +938

    "Who am I to hold that over her head when God has forgiven her?"
    WOW! How encouraging!! This is a beautiful statement and an idea that I believe a lot of Christians (I am guilty too) need to be reminded of today! Not just in sexual purity, but in ALL things. That was an amazing and kind thing to say and I love how you two clearly reflect the love of Christ and Word of God in your words and actions. I love this channel!

    • @monanana-04
      @monanana-04 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Wow such Christ-like love❤

    • @TutiFruity7103
      @TutiFruity7103 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Seriously!!’ So awesome

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Awe praise God, Victoria! Thanks for the comment😊❤️

    • @newwi6456
      @newwi6456 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      There is nothing to forgive here, in my opinion...

    • @ragingsaviorkami9862
      @ragingsaviorkami9862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@newwi6456 There is. If you're a Christian, then there is. Whoever says there isn't, isn't a true believer.
      And this is coming from a Satanist actually, but I simply know all about their holy book. Which they don't. According to Bible, having sex prior to marriage is a sin, as well as having those lustful thoughts that guide us. IT'S A SIN, PERIOD.

  • @Nickbenoit720
    @Nickbenoit720 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I'm a firm believer that once the potential spouse is definitely living the lifestyle of repentance then who am I to take their sin from the blood of jesus, I serve the God of restoration. I truly believe even when you lose your virginity, when repentance comes jesus makes ALL things New. ALL

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😊🙌

    • @NarutoUzumaki-xg9et
      @NarutoUzumaki-xg9et 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen. However very few girls are repentent and broken ablut their sexual past. Many lie about it, I was in that situation and it damaged me greatly because she fooled everyone. I said the same words you typed to her and she looked me in the eye and spouted lie and lie.
      Brothers use discernment as there are women who infiltrated the church to lure good christian men (someone admitted this before)

    • @daughteroftheking7548
      @daughteroftheking7548 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen! What is bound on earth, is bound in heaven, what is loosed on earth is loosed in heaven. We are new creations in Christ Jesus. So that deals with both the physical and those soul ties! Who are we to condemn where Christ has forgiven! The only one who brings up past sin, is the accuser. Whose work are we doing when we remind people of their past?!

    • @daughteroftheking7548
      @daughteroftheking7548 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @JewTube WorldOrder Untrue.

    • @Nickbenoit720
      @Nickbenoit720 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @JewTube WorldOrder is Jesus not merciful and forgiving when repentance is made head way? Is he not our kinsman redeemer,
      Taking our greatest failures and turning them into success for his glory? Just as he did with David giving him sure mercy?
      That is who Jesus is, that none would perish but all would come to salvation and repentance and he comes to make ALL THINGS NEW

  • @ranip7644
    @ranip7644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +402

    I'm Christian but I wouldn't care if my husband had sex in the past. All I care about is if he loves God.

    • @MyTestimony
      @MyTestimony 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      sweet

    • @Kwildcat13
      @Kwildcat13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      Oh yeah it won’t ever bother you to think about your husband being with someone else I mean this kindly but said no women ever . Yes u can absolutely marry a guy who has been with another women but your lying to yourself if u think it won’t bother you ever . It also goes the other way around . When you love someone yes you accept there past but it doesn’t erase those thoughts of how she was in bed , knowing intimate things they have done I’ve just never met a women that hasn’t questioned things about there husbands previous sexual encounters . Also why using porn is painful for the other person as well even if they believe in god !! It destroys marriages , I think it’s important to remember that who ever your with will always wonder about those things , you can absolutely move past it but to think it won’t be an issue at all is false . And if you can say that I’m thinking you never actually had sex with someone you regret or you haven’t had sex yet and you haven’t fallen in love with someone who gave a part of themselves to someone else . Sex is way more important then saying I’d be cool with my husband having had sex prior to me . Or wife .. men also get insecure as well doesn’t matter how focused either person is on god most people have issues with people they love having been with someone else intimately it in no way makes that person a terrible person but it’s not something just blown over especially when your considering marriage .

    • @julesservantofjesus972
      @julesservantofjesus972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@Kwildcat13 As a Christian who married a Christian and had sex before marriage each, it is bothering to one another. I wish we'd been each other's firsts & onlys but we still love each other & with the forgiveness of Jesus Christ our Savior we can move forward. We've been married 23 yrs now. God bless you and everyone. 🙏🏼✝👑🙋🏼‍♀️

    • @Raccoon_Chic
      @Raccoon_Chic 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@Kwildcat13 sounds like you got some relationship issues

    • @leejones2551
      @leejones2551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@Kwildcat13 Speaking as someone who isn't Christian... I mean, no, I wouldn't care. His past is his past. If we're getting married, I'm his future.

  • @nguyenlanhuong2014
    @nguyenlanhuong2014 4 ปีที่แล้ว +468

    Thank you so much for your genuinely sharing. Although I'm not a Christian, i knew some Christians who are pious, religious. They told me a lots about God. I feel like God is calling for me so i start to read the Bible. You guys make me strongly believe in God. I'm 23 now and I decided to keep my virginity. Waiting for a great worthy man who God send me

    • @wes2610
      @wes2610 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      If I may, I'd like to suggest the TH-cam channel Wretched. It's very biblically sound and I've gotten a lot out of it.
      I'm praying for you!

    • @donnaleepalmer8910
      @donnaleepalmer8910 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Praying for you!! the TRUTH OF GODS WORD aka THE BIBLE WILL SET YOU FREE!!! JESUS IS THE TRUTH!!!!

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Hey! Awe praise God, that makes me so happy to hear!❤️ God bless you, stay in God’s word!

    • @waverly9421
      @waverly9421 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      To Nguyễn Lan Hương, hi, I'm praying for the same thing as you, keeping myself pure till marriage. If you want to chat I would love to get to know you more and build each other faiths, encouraging one another. If you have the app called Amino, I have a community called Bible Fellowship if you want to learn more about the Bible and have others to build your faith, you can join. If you do decide to join my Amino, you can just say I texted to you, and I'll accept you into my Amino.

    • @estherbrown650
      @estherbrown650 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Praying for you

  • @matthewwal353
    @matthewwal353 4 ปีที่แล้ว +852

    Dear stranger whoever reads this: God Loves you !

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Matthew Wal 😊

    • @dreys01
      @dreys01 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Dear Matthew Wal God love's you too.

    • @mariaangelicamalabanan9953
      @mariaangelicamalabanan9953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh thanks Matthew! God bless you too

    • @adamlitz8052
      @adamlitz8052 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yup just as much as an abusive step father loves his redheaded step child.

    • @naznimation
      @naznimation 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I don’t believe in god.

  • @lexihays3614
    @lexihays3614 4 ปีที่แล้ว +341

    I really admire Paul for not being embarrassed about sticking to what he believes in. He doesn’t push Morgan down but he also acknowledges the fact that she did sin and he did forgive her, but it did hurt him because it was difficult for him to do the right thing. I think he needs some credit for that because so many people will say he’s being too prideful but in reality he is just showing that he succeeded in sticking to his goal.

    • @silentj624
      @silentj624 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      I don't understand why he had to forgive her for something that had nothing to do with him?

    • @lexihays3614
      @lexihays3614 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      @@silentj624 He chose to wait until marriage for his wife and she didn’t. That’s a common idea that Christians have is to save that special gift for your future spouse. It was something that was important to Paul (which is why he did it) but he doesn’t judge her for her past, though he still acknowledges that it was a sin. It applies to him because he is her husband and she wasn’t able to give him the same gift he did. I just think there’s too much shame on people who are upset when their spouse doesn’t wait for them when it’s so difficult to wait themselves, but I thought he handled it perfectly. You may not agree with this opinion but I don’t see how he could’ve handled it any better.

    • @hycynth82828
      @hycynth82828 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@silentj624 because they’re one now. God knew they were getting married, he saved himself for her, she didn’t for him. It might not be that big of a deal but I totally understand what he feels

    • @simpsbelongtothegulags3702
      @simpsbelongtothegulags3702 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@hycynth82828 that kinda sucks but im pretty sured God allowed it bc it wasn't a really big deal for him
      That would never be the case for me tho bc Virginity is a big deal for me

    • @simpsbelongtothegulags3702
      @simpsbelongtothegulags3702 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@johnbelser9388 what's wild about it

  • @fannydr.997
    @fannydr.997 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    There is one simple answer to this question if you are a virgin man and your woman is not and it is bothering you it won’t get better it won’t go away if it is something that you grew up with and you value the first time from a woman than it will never go away it won’t get better I personally was in a relationship myself for 5 years she was not a virgin and I tried to deal with it and get past it and push towards marriage we had problems that needed to be fixed and shape into each others wife and husband and those were fixable but the virgin part I could not get over it was in my mind every second every day I could not value her to the fullest so I had to let her go for both of our sake because her marrying me neither would be happy

  • @danielnilson6115
    @danielnilson6115 4 ปีที่แล้ว +274

    I'm in a relationship with a girl who was sexually assaulted. And she constantly feels dirty about it. And it's a fight for me to remind her that she is a chosen, forgiven, redeemed, exquisite, beloved daughter of God. So I'm not in the same position as Paul was, but this video is a huge help for perspective. Like I've been thinking that even if technically she's not a virgin that doesn't matter to me; she is beloved by God. And she's so special it hurts me when she tells me about the way she sees herself. I pray repeatedly to God that she I'll she herself in the way I do. And even though she has forgiven the guy who assaulted her. And I don't even know him, but honestly I don't think I could forgive him.All together This video was a huge encouragement P+M!

    • @j.fraser
      @j.fraser 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Food for thought that you can take to Jesus or just throw it away....but if she hasn't already broken soul ties with her offender, she can do that. We sometimes get them whether it was planned or not (planned meaning marriage). And cast off any spirit that came upon her through that assault...claiming she's now made white as snow. I've done this and then asked Jesus to reveal what He loves about her....that's the most important perspective.

    • @Mermaid_Katharina
      @Mermaid_Katharina 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@j.fraser How would one go about breaking souls ties with someone they were once with? Offender or not.

    • @j.fraser
      @j.fraser 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Mermaid_Katharina so I cut them off and return any part of their soul I have and call mine back. Ie: "in Jesus name I break the ungodly soul tie with ______. I send back the piece of ______ that I have and call back the piece of me they have. I put the cross Jesus between us and ask Lord that you create a healthy, Godly tie and a relationship that is pleasing to you. I now declare my wholeness before Jesus and that my identity is in Him and Him alone. I am no longer tied to _____."

    • @cupcakeswilson04
      @cupcakeswilson04 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Have you considered that you might be harbouring hateful thoughts towards this guy as t he spouse and that you may need to also find a way of forgiving him? Just a thought

    • @adamlitz8052
      @adamlitz8052 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Just remember this is all part of god's plan. You should remind her that on a daily basis that it was in Gods plan to have her sexually assaulted and that she needs to pray because its a cardinal sin to have sex outside of marriage. Honesty to right the wrong she should have married her attacker then the sin would be forgiven in the eye's of god

  • @browniesnofrownies4843
    @browniesnofrownies4843 4 ปีที่แล้ว +253

    I didn’t wait at first, but after that relationship ended, I have decided that I am going to wait from now on. Just because I started to have sex doesn’t mean I can’t change my mind. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone.

    • @Joefest99
      @Joefest99 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Absolutely!

    • @butterflymon5752
      @butterflymon5752 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolutely

    • @KatrinaDancer
      @KatrinaDancer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Charles Huang Some people believe all sex is a sin so I guess some of us have different beliefs

    • @haileyhurley9173
      @haileyhurley9173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Charles Huang If you're going to preach, learn your bible. It's founded on the premises that all man-kind is consumed by sin, and we can only do the best we can do, try to push forward, ask forgiveness, and then repenting.

    • @femininityoverfeminism212
      @femininityoverfeminism212 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Charles Huang She might not be a virgin, but God still wants our obedience. Paul talked about that too: “some were some of you, but you were sanctified in Jesus”, he urges us to stop sinning and follow God, even if we were adulterors, practising sexual immorality, drunkards etc, and if we keep living in those sins we will not inherit the kingdom of god.
      How can we ask for Gods will in our life if we don’t try to obey him fully? Should we keep sinning against our flesh only bc we did it when the spirit wasn’t in us?
      Being a non virgin is not optimal, true, in the purpose of being a virgin for your future spouse, BUT in God’s eyes he wants us to direct ur steps towards him, give ourselves fully and practice chastity, and chastely we can be even if we are not a virgin, if we have repented.
      Doubt is Satan, His will stands.

  • @TheAvenueKid
    @TheAvenueKid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +446

    I haven't made it all the way through the video yet, but I just wanted to pause and say THANK YOU to both of you for tackling this super personal subject. Thank you for the bravery. I have saved myself, my partner didn't and has had a past, and I've struggled with it terribly. I don't want to bring unhealthy feelings into my marriage so I really needed this. Love you guys 💜

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      TheAvenueKid awe you’re welcome. Hope God leads you into clarity and peace in this area❤️

    • @TheAvenueKid
      @TheAvenueKid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@lebogangmonakge7237 I used to feel this SAME WAY. I understand your question! But, let me tell you, as I've grown in my faith, I've found that we are imperfect humans. If someone makes a mistake in their past, but wants to follow a new path and asks in prayer for forgiveness and asks YOU for forgiveness, then we should forgive like Christ does. It's definitely not easy, but scripture calls us to forgive. My fiancee wanted to follow a new path when we started dating, he had good intentions and I honored that and just focused on moving forward. I imagine Paul felt a similar way when Morgan told him she wasn't a virgin. Love covers a lot, and this type of thing definitely should be handled on a case by case basis. I would not have agreed to marry someone who didn't want to walk alongside me in a path of patience and purity going forward. We can't change the past, but we can move forward.

    • @TheAvenueKid
      @TheAvenueKid 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lebogangmonakge7237 I have to admit that I understand how you feel. I wish you the best in whatever relationship you enter!

    • @outps
      @outps 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I know of a lady that was raped on a date but her fiancé left her because she wasn't a virgin! I strongly believe if Christ gives someone a pass it should be obvious for any person that claims to believe in Christ and under Grace to forgive their partners and get over it. How on earth was a person who was previously abstaining and had sex once then became celibate after rape until marriage supposed to be 'unfit' for this godly man! While it can be a little shocking, the fact that it bothers you, maybe you should let go of the relationship or be sure you can overlook sin and not remember it!

    • @klopcodez
      @klopcodez 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Outwesiga Precious It’s because of the blood covenant...once the hymen breaks..broken by another it leads to issues in life..it’s hard to explain but the soul is damaged..it’s something that cannot be undone..what he did is shallow but we have to understand that people have boundaries and we have to respect how they feel..you can’t force anyone to marry or love you..they weren’t married and the guy probably dint know

  • @trinsaldias4551
    @trinsaldias4551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    I’m so blessed by y’all sharing this. I’m 25 soon to be 26 next year and still waiting till marriage. It’s hard with how everyone makes casual sex to be the new norm. It’s discouraging. Hearing your story and Morgan’s testimony a few days ago have been so encouraging to me! Love y’all and can’t wait to see future videos.

  • @avinashchaudhary4301
    @avinashchaudhary4301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Believe, at some point in life you will process everything, how your girl losed her virginity... Also it doesn't felt appropriate when she laughed about her sexual encounters with 4-5 guys.. 😅 it made him uncomfortable to.. 😶

  • @sarahmateo8698
    @sarahmateo8698 4 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    Telling the truth about the making out before the engagement was really sincere and raw.Most people like to talk about the things they do right but not about their mistakes.Good job on being sincere about your mistakes and how you guys fixed it.🙏🏼💗🙏🏼

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Awe thanks for the sweet comment, Sarah. That means a lot😊❤️

    • @cassieatitus9604
      @cassieatitus9604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i agree! y’all continuing to be raw and honest really helps me trust you guys even more than i already did!

    • @MalloryNewcomb
      @MalloryNewcomb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I don’t see it as a mistake but I know that their conviction was to not engage in that sort of physical contact. I hope they didn’t feel too guilty about it and just decided to hold off if that made things difficult.
      That said, I appreciate the realness because it seems easier to share when boundaries were kept and then we don’t want to share our mistakes... but it’s good to see no one is perfect & it gives wisdom to others and a humility in your spirit that God cherishes.

  • @PockASqueeno
    @PockASqueeno 4 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    I’m a virgin, and this is something with which I’ve always struggled. My first girlfriend was not a virgin, and I was totally okay with it. Later on in the relationship, she pushed me a lot to do things I didn’t want to do. We still never had sex, thank God, but she really wanted to, which is one of many reasons we broke up. So after that, my mindset was that I NEEDED to marry and even just date virgins because I didn’t want to be put in that position again. So my next girlfriend was a virgin, and I loved that about her. Unfortunately the relationship didn’t last long because she had different priorities in life.
    Anyway, I haven’t seriously dated anyone else since. I’ve talked to my pastor about it, and he basically said that I should show more mercy and not write off a woman just because she isn’t a virgin, although there’s nothing wrong with seeking a virgin woman as long as I don’t judge her if she’s not.
    This is a real struggle for me because I feel almost as if my future wife isn’t a virgin like me, she’s already become one with another guy, so what’s even the point of me waiting if she’s already become attached to someone else in such a holy way?
    Please pray for me that I’ll be able to find the right balance.

    • @davidringler7131
      @davidringler7131 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      That is not true God made the perfect person for you, stay close to the Lord/Jesus Christ and you will find her eventually, and believe me waiting will pay off, God Bless you and your loved ones.

    • @FLP90
      @FLP90 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I’m on the same page. I’m a virgin woman saving myself for marriage and I can’t be with a man who is not a virgin because I probably won’t be able to get over it mentally that my husband experienced such intimacy with another woman before me. However if God directly speaks to me about a man he has for me and he is not a virgin, then I will accept Gods gift but otherwise I wouldn’t be able to

    • @agnieszkadebnicka9476
      @agnieszkadebnicka9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Don't waste your life.. You deserve a virgin wife and husband!

    • @theRTT
      @theRTT 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      You are not alone! I think exactly like this. I'm 24 and a virign. I just can't handle it when I know my future wife had that experience with someone else. I will always feel like a number to her.. So you are not alone my friend. What I do, is as soon as I find out a girl isn't a virgin anymore, I close myself to get any feelings for her. I don't know if you do that, but if you do: Maybe good advice for us both, is first trying to get to know her, how she is, and then see where it takes you and your feelings. If you still can't accept it then, stop it, and look further. God is with you!

    • @jeffreyajiriosauzo-ajirio
      @jeffreyajiriosauzo-ajirio 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm in a similar boat, except my ex cheated. Now I plan to have one virgin wife, and plenty of side chicks.

  • @MarkAzzTrick
    @MarkAzzTrick ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It does affect him too this day. He is mentally laying(sexually) with the other men you slept with 90% of the time.

  • @humbleasian8866
    @humbleasian8866 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I am 25 and virgin. I can't think of marrying someone who is not a virgin. I don't know..... Looking and praying for the right girl. Lord help me.
    Anyways, happy for you guys.

    • @shaznewa752
      @shaznewa752 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      im 20 and a virgin i cant think of marrying a man who is not a virgin

    • @ashley_brown6106
      @ashley_brown6106 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Ok🤨 I'm trying not to judge y'all but it's really hard when you judge people just off 1 aspect of themselves💀💀

    • @NikeAirJordanGabes
      @NikeAirJordanGabes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@ashley_brown6106 It’s not about judging, but rather a preference. You’re not better or worse for being a virgin, just like someone may prefer blondes over brunettes.

    • @therookie8872
      @therookie8872 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ashley_brown6106 it’s not one aspect.

    • @tanatswataruvinga
      @tanatswataruvinga ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@ashley_brown6106 Someone who has kept themselves has every right to expect the same from their marital partner.

  • @taylorpitman6838
    @taylorpitman6838 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I currently am in a situation similar to what you all have faced. The man that I feel God has led me to is not a virgin, although he has truly changed for the better in several aspects of life throughout the past three years. I am so thankful for the message that you guys are sending. I always feel as though God uses you to give me a message that I need to hear. God bless you both!

  • @oliverjohnson6649
    @oliverjohnson6649 4 ปีที่แล้ว +228

    I'm not a virgin anymore but I definitely want to wait here on out.

  • @heidikathleen5048
    @heidikathleen5048 4 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I love Paul's comment on physical touch. He says "you're giving your emotions too much rule in your life". And as a person who has physical touch as their love language, I actually couldn't agree more. If I focus too much on the physical aspect, it's allowing my feelings to take over. And my personal feelings are not more important than God's expectations and plan for me.

    • @victoriaburton3921
      @victoriaburton3921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes that love language test is awesome I scored low in personal touch it had me thinking I was an ice queen😥 I scored high in spending time together 🤗 that made me happy

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Victoria Burton, is there an online love languages test, or is it only in a book?

    • @victoriaburton3921
      @victoriaburton3921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@HopeUnquenchable there is one online I don't know the exact link but if you Google it definitely I'm sorry I can't be of more assistance,😭😭😔

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Victoria Burton, no no, just knowing there _is_ an online quiz available is help enough, thank you 😊

    • @Sam__N_K
      @Sam__N_K 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Currently suffering from this and I cannot agree more!

  • @hannahvangarderen2009
    @hannahvangarderen2009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    “Lord send me a virgin” hahahaaha

  • @rabidgator6473
    @rabidgator6473 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Ok. I was a virgin when I found my “wife”, she was not. It has caused a lot of problems in the marriage, so I’m kind of cold in some ways to my “spouse”. I don’t feel bad about it, she made a mistake and she doesn’t seem repentant of it. We have kids, but I don’t “make love” to her, I just have sex with her. I don’t see her as “mine”, or “one flesh” with me; she belongs to all the other guys she was with. Does it sound harsh or bad, I didn’t ask anyone’s opinion. GOdD 13:20 can redeem people he can and will forgive if you ask. I feel she settled for me, and not that she “chose me”. Is this a way for GOD to work on me ? Yes. I don’t see why GOD, would want someone who has abided by his word, to be with someone who hasn’t, I see the couple as unequally yoked.

  • @TheMagicTaco
    @TheMagicTaco 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You could tell It still messes with his head... just look at his face when she talks about it.. And she talks about it with a big Kool-aid smile in her face..

    • @Mugsey1984
      @Mugsey1984 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Cap

  • @bethanyriddle7039
    @bethanyriddle7039 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This makes me so hopeful and happy. I am not a virgin either and it truly affects me deeply and makes me sad. It’s amazing to see that God is still faithful and graceful. ❤️

  • @fw5680
    @fw5680 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for this video! The comment Morgan made about Paul not physically showing that he loved her and Morgan feeling that he didn’t because he wasn’t showing it with hugs and kisses was like a light bulb moment. I never realized that this is part of what I viewed as love and watching this video made me realize that there are so many other ways to show love! It gives me hope that there are others out there who respect physical boundaries in relationships! Thank you for this awesome video!! You guys give so much encouragement through your videos!

  • @kristiniosifelis8501
    @kristiniosifelis8501 4 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    How has no one commented on the "I'm going to find out where you live and come after you with cookies"?!!?

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Kristin Iosifelis 😂😂

    • @tonikola20
      @tonikola20 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Because we want the cookies 😂😂

    • @danielscully9356
      @danielscully9356 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah! I want cookies! ...but I'm too nice to be mean to get them...

  • @victoriaburton3921
    @victoriaburton3921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I think that when people ask me they think I am "holier than thou" when that is not the case. People judge me wrongly and don't allow me time to explain why I don't have sex. One person actually was offended and said he felt sorry for me because guys wouldn't stay with me if I did not have sex. Practical I don't want to have children that I can't support by myself. I want to have a healthy home life. I don't want to be a single parent. I am waiting for the person that I am married to. I want commitment and no STDs. Spiritually the Lord gave me understanding of why not. I'm not holy but I really just want what I want. I can't settle for less. I will wait I'm 33 yrs old. I believe God for this.

    • @anissa2361
      @anissa2361 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen sis!

    • @rachelmcclain5367
      @rachelmcclain5367 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sex should be reserved for love. Those 2 shouldn't be separated

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa ปีที่แล้ว

      How are things going now in your dating life? You make me happy being so devoted at your age as I'm 23 and feel like I'm running out of time lol

  • @barborakahancova476
    @barborakahancova476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love that you are not afraid to go into controversial topics and that you are open and straight forward. I think it is important to talk about sex as Christians because it is not going to go away when we just keep our eyes closed. All of us will eventually need to deal with this issue in some way so it's better to be prepared. Thank you for sharing your heart ♥

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the comment!❤️

  • @heathereagle2984
    @heathereagle2984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I think the reason people have said that "Morgan shouldn't have to ask Paul for forgiveness" are the people who think that premarital sex isn't a sin. 🤷‍♀️

    • @RealBianca
      @RealBianca 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Heather Eagle because its not lol

    • @whitneyallman8365
      @whitneyallman8365 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Bianca Flores it is

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      He that is without sin among you
      ...let him cast the first cookie 🍪

    • @agnieszkadebnicka9476
      @agnieszkadebnicka9476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It is a very serious and disgusting sin

  • @MA-rg9tv
    @MA-rg9tv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I seriously needed this!! I'm a 26 year old guy who is a virgin and wanting to wait till marriage to have sex. My girlfriend who I love is not and I have been trying to ask for God's guidance about this. I struggle with this but I know she is forgiven and is new creation in Christ. ✝️

    • @rogercarrico4975
      @rogercarrico4975 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      M A, In my experiences. It's very unlikely that guys that marry girls with more sexually experience than them can work. Think it over carefully. Before you marry this girl and have kids!! You are young and have lots of time yet. Please know there are many many girls out there that have saved themselves for their future husband. God bless you my friend.

    • @jeanhong7275
      @jeanhong7275 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I have a churchmate who married a woman who has STD. He knew about it but chose to love her and marry her anyway. :) The girl got STD because of her past life but got saved and committed her life to Christ. She was also the one who brought him ( who used to be an atheist) to the Lord. Then, the guy proposed to her because he loves the way she loves Jesus even though he knew that she has STD. So, each person's story is different and is always redeemable in the hands of God.

    • @MA-rg9tv
      @MA-rg9tv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you very much Roger! This girl is amazing and we are committed to staying pure before marriage. I have had a lot of women that have wanted to be with me but have turned them down because I didn't see a future with them. A huge part of me wanted to marry a virgin and thought it would be God's way. That is another reason why I am super cautious about this relationship.

    • @CestLaVieMonAmor
      @CestLaVieMonAmor 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@MA-rg9tv From a young woman's perspective, I think the idea of imbalanced-experience Christian relationships can always be rocky regardless of which of the genders is more experienced. Typically, the one with more experience is more gracious about it. They've seen the dark side and felt the effects of it, and they're glad you've remained pure in that regard. Usually the one without experience is the one that gets insecure about it and has second thoughts. They might compare themselves to that person's previous sexual partner(s), struggle to value/respect them as much, and so on. I've been waiting thus far, but I've dated guys that haven't. I've definitely had that thought of, "Do I want to be with someone that doesn't have the same capability (or willingness) of resisting their desires? Can this be a problem for them in other aspects of their life?" However, I WOULD marry someone who hasn't waited until marriage IF I had the confirmation from God that we would complement each other well. They may not have waited, but maybe I've slipped up in areas of life that they haven't, and we can both extend grace to each and move forward. Over all, I would suggest as my brother in Christ that you remember you are not owed a virgin and neither am I. Just because we've obeyed the Lord in that manner doesn't mean we get rewarded with a person who has also done that. After all, the LEAST we can do is obey Him, so a trophy virgin spouse isn't merited. Maybe your future wife has never stolen but that doesn't mean she's owed someone who has never stolen, you get what I mean? God sees us as forgiven and He brings us together with other people who are also forgiven. As long as your girlfriend has repented and you can actually see the fruits of that, as in she's helping you stay strong, not trying to steer your relationship in the wrong direction, and she's carrying herself about respectfully and in a modest way -- then I'd say she has renewed her mindset on the topic of sex and can share your same values. Then it's up to you if she's someone you want to do life with and can be a supportive partner to you. If you've been together a while and you're still really struggling, I'd get some kind of counsel from older, wiser people. I'd be concerned that it's something that will stay in the back of your mind and it won't really be fair for either of you to deal with that inside of the marriage. Just as much as you deserve to be with someone you have peace of mind about, she deserves someone who won't hold back from her emotionally or secretly mistrust her in any way. Definitely pray about it.

    • @Shnooosan
      @Shnooosan 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Kia Peltonen THANK YOU.

  • @mscottster444
    @mscottster444 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for posting this. I literally sought out both of your’s perspective on this because I was dealing with it I ended it but I would have remained friends if she wanted to. It’s just heavy and there’s not really a great answer. I don’t knock anyone for being okay with it or someone like me who just can’t. Thanks for the help and support. 🙏🏻

  • @candicecan1634
    @candicecan1634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you guys so much for this video. Your openness and honesty are really refreshing and one can really just sense how you are filled with the Holy Spirit. It’s a beautiful and worshipful thing. So glad to see how God is using your lives as testimonies of His love and power to restore, as well as how He delights in blessing His people. May God keep blessing you both in your marriage and your ministry and above all in your relationships with Him.

  • @hannahdavis1169
    @hannahdavis1169 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Y’all, thank you for your vulnerability and your Biblical outlooks! My fiancé and I are working through all of these same things as we prepare to be married and it is so rare to find couples in your positions willing to share their experiences with others, so thank you! We are both in ministry and also seeking to help others work through these things as well, and look forward to sharing your content! Keep up this ministry, y’all have just eased my heart and mind so much. Such an answer to prayer!

  • @tabbyrh978
    @tabbyrh978 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I think my favourite part of this video was when Paul just so casually was like "you're a great interviewer, by the way" UGH I just love how sweet you guys are with each other 😍 And yessss!!!! I just LOVE how you guys emphasize repentance as a vital part of the Christian life 'cause it's something that many Christians don't want to talk about but it's sooo clear in Scripture! We have to be repenting and confessing our sin to the Most High or else it calls into question whether or not we've been truly saved.... And myyyy LANTA, Morgan!!! You're sooo spot on about us as women self-sabotaging ourselves by wanting to know too much for our own good. Some things it's just best not to know and we need to trust Adonai that it is best that we don't know and that He knows :) Ugh man, I feel like every time I watch your videos, I love you guys more and more hahaha Seriously, though, you all are Legends and the Most High is using you world-changers for His Kingdom so never doubt your usefulness even with all the "hate" comments you get!! Love you guys and keep shining

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Tabby RH awe thanks so much for the sweet comment and encouragement❤️You’re a blessing! Love your insight!

  • @pagebrewer6740
    @pagebrewer6740 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This was such a gooooooooood video! I have always found boundaries super important in relationships but as I’ve gone to college I’ve realized that not very many people keep them. Thanks for being so raw on your channel! Keep shining your light!

  • @edenalekssandria
    @edenalekssandria 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Hi 👋🏾 I’m a Christian young woman. I’ve been scared of being in a relationship because I feel I couldn’t keep the boundaries ‘cause I like hugs a lot. But I think not engaging in physical touch would be the best option, except I don’t think there’s guys that live by that where I live. Even Christian guys don’t have these boundaries. I met one guy who did, but that was it. I’ve known him for almost two years and I’ve learnt that he is not what I’m looking for. So, there’s that...

  • @lindseyjohnson6140
    @lindseyjohnson6140 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    How Paul reacted is amazing. I think he did perfect. It changes his life and his future as well. Well done Paul!

  • @Renee-vr6zq
    @Renee-vr6zq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    It's always encouraging to see that when one person's will power is stronger than the other, the one who is stronger has the ability to teach the other how to withstand temptation and hold on because of the blessing that is tied to the wait. Your union in coming together had to of been so much more beautiful because you both chose to not only honor God but to honor yourselves.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Awe praise God. Well put!❤️

  • @singing.winnie
    @singing.winnie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Yayyy i really enjoyed the Morgan's video so I came in right away to hear the other side!!!!! I'll watch this when I get home from work. 🥳 yayy love you guys, from korea ❤❤

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Winnie 위니 awe good, thanks for watching! Hope work goes well😊

  • @tWINtin05
    @tWINtin05 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I feel so WONDERFUL after watching this video.
    First, the thing about the tattoo makes me laugh my ass off everytime I hear Morgan talking about it.
    Second, I have been looking for a couple who would be in the PERFECT position to OPENLY talk about matters of virginity and stuff. I found that in you two, Paul and Morgan.
    Third, I am very happy to hear Paul’s side of the story because I used to have this mentality that guys like him are extinct and do not exist in this world. I have been wondering if there are still guys who would be the ones to set boundaries during dates according to their values and convictions. Your testimony proved that guys like him do exist.
    I would often hear it as a cliche to not talk about 3 things - Sex, Religion and Politics. Thank you for talking about sex the way that you did. This feels so light to me. Thanks to how God can turn a taboo topic into a very enlightening one.
    More Power to Morgan and Paul and I hope I can meet and greet you one day!!!
    I LOVE YOU COUPLE!

    • @Patrick_Kozma
      @Patrick_Kozma 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I feel like many boys at a younger age say, Yes I am saving for marriage, but once the Hormones kick in when they get older it is harder to fight back, especially when the devil is involved with it and he tries to put you in situations to make you slip up, it happens, and he'll fill a woman with a Jezebel spirit that would just lure a man, or fill a man with a jezebel spirit to lure a woman, or he'll make a woman extra flirty just to get you to do something with her, we cannot forgot that we are not only fighting against the lusts of our flesh, but the devil is influencing our flesh aswell and adding many temptations to it, many are being led like sheep to the slaughter and I pray that their hearts would be changed, this new Generation is filled with lust and desires, what vanity it is, they came into this world naked and naked they will come out, standing infront of a Holy God, Hallelujah, and they'll fall on their faces before the lamb, oh please pray for our street preacher, for those are the ones who are making the biggest impact in expanding the kingdom, and they are recieving much persecution, but I am happy that I have saved myself for my wife, and I recommend all men to do the same, the bible says flee fornication, and provide your body as a living sacrifice to the Lord, And to your wife, the bible says wives be obediant to your husbands, and most woman look at that verse as if it is disgusting but the verse right after says But Men, Love your wives Just as Christ(Jesus) Loved the church and he gave himself up for it, Hallelujah, Jesus died for his people, for his church, and we should do the same with our wives, love them with a sacrifice, You are Loved my sister in Christ, the grace and Spirit of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you, trust God in all things. Amen
      Ephesians 5 : 24 - 25

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the comment😊

    • @tWINtin05
      @tWINtin05 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Patrick_Kozma Wonderful! Thank you so much! 😊🙏🏼

  • @rocioagandar8924
    @rocioagandar8924 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Paul and Morgan! I wanted to let you know that I love watching your videos. I find that they have been helpful in answering different questions and things I wonder about especially in dating since I do want it to be intentional. Depending on where I am at in life I tend to watch some videos I've already seen, which are always good reminders from people a young couple who love the Lord and want to please Him in every aspect of your life. Thank you for these videos and being honest and vulnerable because I feel like the world needs to see that we aren't fake and don't think less of others, but want to help and show God's love.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awe glad to hear it😊❤️

  • @KingdomWomanLiving
    @KingdomWomanLiving 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    For a while I thought I would only marry a virgin, but then the Lord woke me up and I realized, like Paul, who am I to hold that over someone's head if God has forgiven me of all I have done and forgiven him for that sin? I hope and pray no one I know ends up with a person like Morgan's last guy she dated who said that he wanted to marry a virgin when he wasn't. Girls and guys, wait. Whether you've been waiting or have now decided to wait, wait and know that God sets boundaries for us because he loves us and not because he wants to cage us in. I know trusting his word and following in obedience will lead to much reward and a deeper understanding of his love.

    • @ashley_brown6106
      @ashley_brown6106 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your beautiful perspective!!

  • @clairemarie3195
    @clairemarie3195 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    So encouraged with this video from hearing both of you guys!! Paul your side of the story gives me hope that there are guys out there who take physical boundaries seriously & can actually man up in a relationship with keeping up with boundaries & Morgan your transparency with your struggles in the past gives me so much reassurance that I’m not alone in my struggles too & that I can move past my sin struggles in other areas of my life as well :) Loved this video & absolutely appreciate the honesty & God-given truths that you guys don’t hold back from sharing that are clearly told in His Word regarding sexual purity!!

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the sweet comment😊❤️

  • @jaidenolivia2761
    @jaidenolivia2761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I recently got out of a relationship where both of us remained pure. Now that I am entered back into the dating world, I am really nervous about dating people that are more experienced than me. I am 18 now and was in my previous relationship 3plus years. I understand that now that I will be dating older people there will be more of a chance that the person I find will not have waited. This is something I highly valued in high school, but understand this may be something I have to look over. I am saying lots of prayers about it and I am so thankful to have found your video. I think it might be scary that they may expect things out of me that I am not prepared for. I really needed this video. Thank you! I hope you guys have a blessed day❣️

  • @rocioruggirello5225
    @rocioruggirello5225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your chanel is such a blessing for me!! It really encourage me to start praying for boundaries in my future relationship. I'm excited to see what God has for you and is going to do in your life guys, for his glory. Your ministry is a blessing, just wanna say that.
    Kisses from Argentina 🇦🇷💕 Great video btw👌

  • @angiehovind8619
    @angiehovind8619 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    i just found your channel, i am 15 and striving to save everything for my future husband. thank yaw for being so open and truthful!! you inspire me!!

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awe welcome😊❤️

    • @Juststayhopeful
      @Juststayhopeful ปีที่แล้ว

      Girl Come back here after 5 years and say if you could stay with your commitment

  • @snowball9107
    @snowball9107 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Ya'lls story is so redemptive like ours is it makes me want to cry tears of joy!!! Hubby wasn't pure before marriage ( He was a virgin but did a ton of stuff that was not pure) but yet we went and had God honoring relationship, that was incredibly redemptive, and we even ended up saving our kiss for our wedding day because we figured why the heck not?

  • @joselinemosquera2467
    @joselinemosquera2467 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, Paul & Morgan! God bless your amazing channel and your beautiful marriage. I consider this video and the previous message as a direct confirmation from God, on a burdensome petition I've been carrying onto for a long while. I can say with tears in my eyes that finally, I can truly feel that I can accept the peace and redemption He's been offering me and it's all because you two spoke the truth and helped others be Set Free. Thank you a thousand times!

  • @BushMaid
    @BushMaid 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Really enjoyed and appreciated your real ness in this video. I probably think that it’s important and trust building to share details of your sexual history with potential spouses. I’d hate to be in a situation where I was caught unawares by randomly meeting someone or having a piece of trivia come out of the blue simply because I didn’t think it “necessary” to know. If you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone, surely your history up to the point of meeting them is important to share (of course not all at once, but eventually). And like Paul said, you’d want to know if the person has grown through those mistakes and learned, and become a new person. You don’t want to marry a time bomb because you didn’t ask enough specific questions. Those are my two cents.

  • @stacysharena
    @stacysharena 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Soul-ties are real so repenting is important. I’m still waiting. Not perfectly, but relentlessly.

    • @whitneyallman8365
      @whitneyallman8365 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen

    • @nomrs5942
      @nomrs5942 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      stacysharena then how do you know soul- ties are real?

    • @stacysharena
      @stacysharena 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mrs Jacobs From having boyfriends whom I would’ve shared making out with.

    • @nomrs5942
      @nomrs5942 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      stacysharena shared making out with? How does that work? That sounds either kinky or nonsensical. Not sure which.

    • @stacysharena
      @stacysharena 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mrs Jacobs sounds like you want sordid details lol...But I won’t bore you with it.

  • @scarlettie
    @scarlettie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve watched this video two times now and it’s really so sweet and encouraging. I love how you shared so openly and I really appreciate it. It’s so sad knowing that I have failed in this area but even though I don’t have the power to change my past I do have the power to change my future. 😄 I really just struggle with guilt but I’m in a season of singleness right now so I’m happy to have time to work through all that

  • @qreua_3075
    @qreua_3075 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys have a special place in my heart, because I'm always so conflicted when I watch your videos 😂
    I disagree with so much of what you guys say sometimes, and especially how you say it. But as a fellow Christian, I love your heart for Christ and boldness in sharing unpopular opinions regardless of the potential backlash. Really good job on this video, way to encourage those who came to Christ later in life (I wasn't saved until 24 years old, and I too am not a virgin though I have been celibate ever since I gave my life to Christ). You guys are growing so much in terms of delivery, and I know that with your continued obedience, God will continue to increase your wisdom and you'll only help more people
    All love all the time ❤

  • @doesitmatter413
    @doesitmatter413 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I don't know as a virgin man who stays in the word. I couldn't truly move on if the girl I love had guys before me but I wanted to wait. In a way, im somehow paying for what other guys got for free, Like im giving you the best of me on my wedding night, but that same thing is not reciprocated. I believe virgin guys should mostly go for the virgin girls and vice versa. Am i wrong to not want to wait for a born-again virgin while being an actual true virgin.

    • @Whiponized
      @Whiponized 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      abslootly true

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      In a way you are paying full price for someone else pleasure of a special moment. They had fun with your other half, but you pay the price of having a defiled marriage bed, one that you will stuggle fighting a battlle in your mind. If your a virgin you have every right to seek and ask for a virgin wife. You had self control and deserve someone who also had wisdom and self control, why should you pay for someone baggage.

    • @Star-bp5jj
      @Star-bp5jj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@j.moto3435 I am very sure you are right about it being easier when both partners have a past.

  • @ramanpreciado2241
    @ramanpreciado2241 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm waiting till marriage, props to Paul to be very humble to marry someone who isn't but I just don't see myself doing the same.

    • @emiistanley
      @emiistanley 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Then you're being judgemental, because you're assuming you are superior to someone who made mistakes in the sexual area. You're just as imperfect and sinful, and whether someone is a virgin or not should not be a criteria to get married.

    • @AppleJacksCereal
      @AppleJacksCereal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@emiistanley when it comes to picking a partner you have to be judgmental. Judging isn’t a bad thing. If it was then I guess you’d be happy with marrying an aids-ridden crackhead off the street? No? Then I guess you are being judgmental.

    • @shespaula8048
      @shespaula8048 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Very true I was a virgin all my life basically except this yr I made one mistake n I ask forgiveness and I don’t think it’s right to say I’m pure than others I was that person for 22 yrs I judge ppl but now I’m in the position where I’m on the other side now being judge

    • @Insane_ForJesus
      @Insane_ForJesus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@emiistanley That's correct. For example ask them if they would marry a widow? Why? Because widows are not virgins, but have sexual experience within the bounds of marriage which was considered Holy by God.

  • @chikachikaslimshady1
    @chikachikaslimshady1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Ofc in this day and age its the guy who marries as a virgin and not the woman.

  • @annabrzezycka2768
    @annabrzezycka2768 4 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Hey! You are awesome ;) Thank you for your story! I'm 22 and getting married to a wonderful guy in April. Please, pray for us (we are waiting but we feel like the closer it is to the wedding the harder it gets to keep our boundaries). We've decided to do it all like God intended it but we could use some encouragement ;)
    We are each others' first boyfriend and girlfriend and first kiss :)

    • @brittanywillingham5804
      @brittanywillingham5804 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You got this!

    • @krystahowell4229
      @krystahowell4229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Anna Stoch Avoid any and all situations that could lead to those boundaries being broken.
      Keep reminding yourself why it’s going to so worth the wait. You can do this!

    • @franciscasilva1800
      @franciscasilva1800 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I AGREE!, some times you may think "ok, we are getting married anyway" but the thing is you are not married yet! hahaha
      Hey! enjoy this previous days! it is a really nice and full of love phase

    • @ilovestrawberries47
      @ilovestrawberries47 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I pray it will go so well for you guys! Remember to always put God first x

    • @fw5680
      @fw5680 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Good for you two! You two can do it, you’ve come this far!

  • @donannrempe7898
    @donannrempe7898 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    So glad y’all covered this topic! I know there’s so many people who worry and struggle with this on both ends and I thank y’all for being so open and honest💛

  • @benktarlok9948
    @benktarlok9948 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My girlfriend honestly told me she is not a virgin. Her previous boyfriend took her virginity. We have been dating for a long time now but now i have decided to dump her after knowing the truth. Tell me if i am doing wrong?

    • @benktarlok9948
      @benktarlok9948 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Cont Google Most women admitted that they can't forget the person who broke her virginity. So whats the point of staying with her when she will probably be thinking about him all the time?

    • @johnwi-l_l-iamsf3763
      @johnwi-l_l-iamsf3763 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@benktarlok9948 true , let her go , if u are a virgin, u are wasting ur one time life

    • @JohnSmith-uq1jx
      @JohnSmith-uq1jx 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You're definitely not wrong to dump her. As a virgin guy, I would've dumped her as well

  • @melissaleigh3013
    @melissaleigh3013 4 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    Morgan should do a hair routine vid she is so pretty 😭

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Melissa Leigh awe😊❤️

    • @nanent
      @nanent 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      agree!

    • @MurphyMosby
      @MurphyMosby 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      she actually inspired me to grow my hair that long too... I'll tell you in two years how that worked out xD

    • @user-ee8cq9jt3y
      @user-ee8cq9jt3y 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That is a worldly concern that distracts from your relationship with God!

    • @JD-FIES
      @JD-FIES 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Melissa Leigh seems like wash n wear

  • @RedMoonlight26
    @RedMoonlight26 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello there, lovely couple, Paul and Morgan! New subscriber here! I just want you to know how grateful I am to have found your channel. I salute you both for discussing such personal subjects. And thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I can relate to Morgan in your topic on this video. I have an LDR with a godly and Christian man. When he found out that I'm no longer a virgin, it doesn't hold him back to pursue me. That's why I thank God that he sent me someone who's so in love with Him, that he's not able to judge people based on their past.

  • @RuthDavis
    @RuthDavis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I just discovered you two and I've watched about 6 videos so far but I just wanted to say how much I appreciate you guys being so open and real about stuff like this, and just so grounded in GOD! It's refreshing and gives me so much hope :)

  • @lexiegracehudson
    @lexiegracehudson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this video! Helps get insight Incase someone is going through this or wandering about it. Love y’alls videos and love how God is using y’all to inform others!

  • @amparodomenech9600
    @amparodomenech9600 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Simply beautiful. I love that part where Morgan says "Paul never told me, or making me feel like he was more puré than i". A Really man of God, that knows how to love. Simply beautiful. Love this couple. Love your videos. Thanks for Share this guys. ❤😊😍

  • @debbiegonzalez9976
    @debbiegonzalez9976 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You two are amazing! I always seek y’alls advice and it has really made a difference in my life ❤️ keep doing what you do. May God continue to bless your marriage and ministry!

  • @drewgles_official
    @drewgles_official 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    "I'm going to find out where you live and come after you-with cookies!" 😂😂

    • @treesaroshnic.j.3663
      @treesaroshnic.j.3663 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I didn't understand what it meant
      Please somone explain to me

  • @ruthdobinda2832
    @ruthdobinda2832 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I loved this video, it helped me because I have a lovely christian guy in my life who is not virgin anymore and I am. So your thoughts helped me, and comforted my heart once again about this subject. God bless you two, your videos always helped me in the past and also in the present. I love you ✨!!

    • @ruthdobinda2832
      @ruthdobinda2832 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I appreciate your sincerity as well ! Great job 💫

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Awe yay thank you😊😊

  • @katie2531
    @katie2531 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    “I’m gonna find out where you live...and come after you with cookies.” Love it😂

  • @frosty_friends1807
    @frosty_friends1807 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    As wonderful and holy restoration I find this an all to common of thing among the church. The Christian man is virgin into marriage and the Christian women is not. I for one will not marry a women who has been with another man. I made the conscious decision to stay pure before marriage. I could have sleeped with handfuls of women if I so desired, I'm very handsome, but I have chosen to wait and I fully expect God to honor my faithfulness. God has shown me numerous times through dreams and visions what she actually looks like! This has encouraged me to remain pure, that's what she would expect from me as I expect that from her. God will reward you if you make the choice to stay pure.

    • @spannycat2
      @spannycat2 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      There are many women who are not virgins and very godly and have good character. And there are many Christian women who are virgins and kind of meh about Christianity and have poor character. Isn't it also important to pick a woman who has good character and is Godly.

    • @tulipbubbly3748
      @tulipbubbly3748 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You will get the woman of your dreams, don't worry

  • @meaghanlinhart2936
    @meaghanlinhart2936 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was amazing! Thanks guys! It was really encouraging (and sobering) because before I was a Christian, I dated...quite a bit. And I trust in Christ to fully forgive me and that I am new in Him. But it does break my heart thinking that if God ever blesses me with a marriage, that we will have to navigate these things. BUT it was super encouraging to hear how you guys dated, because that’s exactly the way I would want to handle boundaries. Several months ago, I purposely dated someone for the first time as a Christian, and those were some of the boundaries I had asked for. After we were no longer dating, I felt terrible and honestly a little stupid, thinking that maybe I asked for too much and was unreasonable. But after hearing that you both had the same boundaries, and with a similar heart, it encouraged me that there was godly wisdom with asking for those boundaries. Long story short (: God bless you guys! ❤️

  • @katwoman203
    @katwoman203 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I respect y'all so much for opening up about this topic! I was a virgin until marriage and my husband was not. We were both worldly in our own ways before the Lord began to do a work in us separately prior to meeting each other. When I noticed he was interested in me I immediately asked him how he felt about sex before marriage, etc, to see how serious he was about the Lord. He opened up and was honest about his past and that he did not wait but that the Lord had changed him. My willingness to be so forward about these things led to him asking me out. 9 years later and we've been married 7 years with our first baby on the way. :) I will say that being the one who waited was hard for me. He had been with multiple women before me during a dark time in his teen years. I felt extremely insecure, partly because his views of intimacy had been destroyed and it took time for God to heal that in him. I had so many unrealistic expectations that I had placed on him going into our relationship and marriage that he just had no way of meeting in himself without God's help. I finally realized we are both human and have made mistakes that have affected us deeply and it takes time to heal together! I'm so thankful for my husband and the man he is. It was tough early on but God always showed us how to work through it! We are now both more compassionate because of those struggles!

    • @katwoman203
      @katwoman203 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also, my husband and I did have to stop even kissing before we got married because it became so much of an issue. We can totally relate to y'all! Lol

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Really appreciate you sharing! God bless❤️

  • @EstherJJones
    @EstherJJones 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thanks so much for sharing!!!!! Seriously, this is a perspective that I haven't heard much in Christian circles. People need to hear this!!

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awe thanks for the comment!❤️

  • @gigisolo3579
    @gigisolo3579 4 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    Finally a video about a virgin man marrying a non virgin woman! Thank you so much for doing this q&a video and keeping it real. God bless you both 💜

  • @kalidmatr9050
    @kalidmatr9050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Respect to anyone who has never had sex outside of marriage, you're the real jewels of humanity

    • @Lja77613
      @Lja77613 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂 what a joke. Real jewels of humanity are those who are generous, helping others without taking money for it, helping animals etc.

  • @mangostar3240
    @mangostar3240 4 ปีที่แล้ว +312

    Morgan's shirt is so cute

  • @pauoel
    @pauoel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thanks so much for this amazing and honest testimony! I think I just want to emphasize that if you have repented you are made NEW in Christ. Even if in the natural you might not be a virgin, in his kingdom you are, because he has paid the price. We are pure out of his grace not our own achievement. God chooses to forget our sins, it’s the enemy who’ll keep reminding you. Hope to encourage someone with this. The world doesn‘t get it but true christians will.

  • @angielili3707
    @angielili3707 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I see the lord use you guys in such an amazing way!! As a christian it's difficult to find christian videos that are appealing especially for the youth, and you guys are lighting this world through the word of God. blessings :)

  • @nicolemanning6831
    @nicolemanning6831 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really should have had this insight when dating my ex husband. Not to mention listening & obeying the red flags God so graciously, lovingly brought to my attention. Extremely well done in the details of how premarital physical relations affect us, can damage us unnecessarily, especially if things don't work out just before the wedding. And thank you for bringing up that not only asking God to forgive previous indiscretions, but I do need to and will be asking with a humble heart forgiveness of my future husband to be when/ if God so leads me to meet one some day. Now that I have waited and worked through emotional healing from a divorce, I am so thankful for your videos! Keep encouraging precious standards that I should have held in my younger years.

  • @erikagodlover730
    @erikagodlover730 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “I’m gonna come at you with cookies!” 😂😂
    Dibs on Morgan for my secret Santa this year 😍😍😂😂❤️❤️😘😘

  • @ethanporter5128
    @ethanporter5128 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I've been dating my girlfriend for only two months, I'm a virign, she isnt, and this is something I've been struggling with TERRIBLY for weeks. I felt so convicted of my prideful heart holding this over her, and at how cold I would sometimes b towards her, that I've been praying intensely, and looking SO HARD for this video. I needed to hear this, thank u for ur words Paul, its cemented the work the Holy Spirit's been doing in my heart on this issue

    • @SephC
      @SephC ปีที่แล้ว +17

      (Reposting from above) I had a similar story. I was virgin. My wife told me she wasn't but I pushed on with the marriage because I really loved her. Still do... We've been married for 20 years and I'll tell you, it doesn't get better. In the beginning it's easier to be distracted and say it doesn't bother you like Paul is doing now but around year 15, I realized that I was repressing and not moving on. If it's one of your core values, I'm not sure you can move on. I worry that he still remembers her and thinks about her. I hate the idea of another man thinking about my wife who I love so dearly. I've gone to therapy and what not but it isn't helping. My wife is the most wonderful person I have ever met and probably better than most reading this comment (definitely better than the person writing it), but I still look at her today and feel disconnected because of her terrible one time experience before we were married. I'm not sure I'll ever get over this and worry about what things will be like once the kids leave the house. I wish Paul and Morgan the best but in my experience it is too early for them to be making this video...

    • @gerritkriek6413
      @gerritkriek6413 ปีที่แล้ว

      How are you feeling now?

    • @johnwi-l_l-iamsf3763
      @johnwi-l_l-iamsf3763 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am not a Christian, so how can i make up my mind ??? He should have given something unbiased , not going for religions .. how can i make up the mind ?

    • @chrisrejon2872
      @chrisrejon2872 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm going to the same thing and yes sometimes i feel like she would compare me with her ex and that i might not be as big or handsome or attractive but when i see her everytime I forget about all that and i stop thinking about I'm insuficiente bcuz i realized that i can be better than her ex i can do the things he never did i can love her like he never did i can show her my love and be the best she ever had. Yes I'm a virgin (still am) and she was my first kiss and i know i can make her feel like a virgin again and what really makes me confident in my position is that she only had one other partner and they were only together for about two months and only did it once therefore i can make her feel the things she has never experienced before i can heal her and make her happy with me

    • @blancantutumu2338
      @blancantutumu2338 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@SephClol after 20 years you still can't forgive and forget even tho God did It already? Your wife is not your property she is God's child. So if you die today and she gets married again will you still be there to be jealous? Would you not wish her to be Happy? I think you are just insecure and she doesnt deserve this from you, because i'm sure you are not perfect too, just because you got married as a virgin does not make you perfect and does not mean you don't make mistakes, i'm sure during this 20 years she forgave you on many things, but you still judging here.

  • @gemmabatchelor3440
    @gemmabatchelor3440 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Loved this, thank you guys so much for your honesty and humility! But one thing I didn’t quite understand (and would appreciate a little explanation) was when it was said ‘what’s the point of dating for years and years?’ But what if that’s the only option?! There’s all sorts of reasons people date (whilst steering clear of sex) for a long time before getting married. Eh Weddings are expensive and require saving up, it may not be the right time, families may need reassurance, a couple may be too young.....

  • @karltan700
    @karltan700 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can't believe it! I think I'm freaking cured (at least mostly) of my retro active jealousy! It was my pride that was holding me down! I was so afraid that I wasted my time being a virgin because my future partner will probably not be. Spending months and a shit ton of videos finding cure for my jealousy, and it was just forgiveness. Thank you so much, will recomend it to others if they feel the same with me. Pls do not delete this video, I might come back in the future if my stupid jealousy acts up again :)

    • @gregdaweson4657
      @gregdaweson4657 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do not marry a non-virgin, they are fallen, they have crippled their ability to pair-bond and are more likely to commit adultery and initiate divorce.
      Also, do not be jealous of a virginity taken, the sinner gave it away frivolously, so it was never worth anything to begin with.
      Instead of jealousy, remain stalwart in your beliefs and do not marry a non-virgin.

    • @MarcusWB
      @MarcusWB ปีที่แล้ว

      No self-respect, you waited for nothing then.

  • @crinklechips6950
    @crinklechips6950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh god....I feel sorry for the guy...

  • @ourlittlelife2818
    @ourlittlelife2818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My husband and I waited to have our first kiss at the altar! We were both virgins and we were each other’s first relationship and first kiss. But we both were saved earlier on in life, at 14, which I’m thankful for. But we still felt like we had sinned before we got married physically, because holding hands (like you said) was way too much for us but we did it anyways. 🥺 So that was horrible and made our entire relationship absolute torture. Thankfully we were long distance and only saw each other twice before getting engaged and then he moved close to me and that’s when things got hard...holding hands and front hugs were just so hard for us so we did have to set VERY strict boundaries toward the end. And because of our age (I was 16 when we started courting) we didn’t get married for almost two years, which for most people is short, but for us (hormonal teenagers🤪) it was the WORST. 😂 So thankful you guys talk about strict boundaries! Totally agree! If we had kissed even once before marriage I’m convinced it wouldn’t have ended well. The Lord really is the only reason we made it to marriage. If I could go back I’d of begged my parents to sign for me to get married for the sake of our purity. 😂🥺♥️

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for sharing :)

    • @Juststayhopeful
      @Juststayhopeful ปีที่แล้ว

      You are just sharing your horiness here

  • @Yewon2001
    @Yewon2001 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a candid necessary video. My favorite part was the prayer 'please send me a woman who loves you with all her heart" I'll be saying that prayer tonight.

  • @NiquiCarltonMusic
    @NiquiCarltonMusic 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good points there, guys. I really enjoy your videos, and love that you have such a grounded, biblical and godly stance on dating and marriage. Unfortunately there are many Christians today who have been influenced by the world and the culture of this age when it comes to these things. It's refreshing to hear a young, pretty cool couple speak with such conviction and temperance. Keep going.

  • @hannahbrister40
    @hannahbrister40 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Love you guys! I’ve watched your subscribers quadruple. It is crazy!! Also a patron. Glad I get entered in twice 😜.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hannah Brister awe❤️❤️ Thanks for supporting us! You rock, Hannah!

  • @ashliediard3881
    @ashliediard3881 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I can understand asking for forgiveness but do you suggest asking your future spouse for forgiveness for any sin you or he/she committed before your relationship that could impact your marriage? For instance incruing lots of debt, drinking in excess, gambling, possible addictions, and so on? All of those things are far more impactful and can continue to cause issues into the marriage that's why I am asking.

    • @user-df8hl4zx2l
      @user-df8hl4zx2l 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm not them, but I would recommend it, yes.

    • @joyclynhope1606
      @joyclynhope1606 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ashlie Diard I think it's because it's something that so directly personally effects them like for comparison reasons. The more that you don't do sexually the more special it will be during marriage so it was probably something that Paul had thought about and wanted even just a little bit when he was younger like my future wife will be a virgin and it'll be so special. I don't rly know but I think that would be why

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s a good question, Ashlie. Hmm.. my thought is yeah, I think it would make sense to. Especially when it closely affects them. I’d be curious to hear other people’s perspectives. :)

    • @ashliediard3881
      @ashliediard3881 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@PaulandMorgan thank you so much for responding. Christianity is new to me and I am trying to learn despite being married already with 3 kids. My husband was raised in the Church but wasn't active when we met. Now almost 11 years into our relationship I am wanting to learn as much as I can. A lot of these concepts seem strange to me because I wasn't raised around it but I really enjoy your perspective and value your thoughts on dating and marriage even if I disagree. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.☺

  • @123WootTV
    @123WootTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I find your perspective interesting. My ex and I are both Christians. He was not a virgin and I was. Before I agreed to date him I knew he was not a virgin but made it clear I did not want to have sex. He agreed. Although we struggled a lot and crossed a lot of boundaries ( we both had our weaker days ) I was so glad we waited and he was too. This allowed us to be close friends even after we broke up. It was a huge blessing to have done our relationship God’s way in this way.

  • @zoebellanfante5017
    @zoebellanfante5017 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    its crazy how much in common i have with morgan you aint alone hun , love the honesty very refreshing

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😊❤️

    • @grace.b.cleveland
      @grace.b.cleveland 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When I watched this last I was a virgin! I am in so much pain because of the things I have done with my boyfriend. We were engaged and then we broke up last week because I found out he had been watching porn the whole year we were together and lied the whole time. He was a manipulator and an abuser. I wish I could take it all bad but it's too late💔💔💔

  • @gracec7179
    @gracec7179 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I feel like this is a different Paul, love it.
    'Gooooood, that is the Christ like thing to do and I'm proud of you' 🥺🥺🥺🥺

  • @azerlynno
    @azerlynno ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I had sex before marriage and my now husband did have to pray through that. But after he felt Gods peace he never questioned me or held it over my head ever again. He knew that I was a different person and my relationship with God was much stronger.
    God truly washes us white as snow. I’m not perfect but those past mistakes are no longer holding me down. The Lords love is redemtive❤

  • @gmelp
    @gmelp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you for sharing. I’m having the exact same experience with my boyfriend. I sometimes feel like I don’t deserve to have a man so pure after the things I’ve done, but it works as a reflection of God’s mercy and love for me. It sure is a fight with my flesh, but that’s why is so good to have boundaries. God is helping us to stay pure and driving me closer to him through my relationship. I feel truly blessed for that.

    • @gregdaweson4657
      @gregdaweson4657 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      "God is helping us to stay pure" far too late for that.

  • @youngmanoldman32
    @youngmanoldman32 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    i got enough self respect not to settle for this

  • @jeanneesta2997
    @jeanneesta2997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    I vote for Paul doing his own video about his experience, not interview style. Just raw and real, so that his story is not filtered.

    • @preciousafolabi8197
      @preciousafolabi8197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Jill Montegomery you are quite rude ,so a man can not marry a woman who has repented from her sins, that is really rude

    • @preciousafolabi8197
      @preciousafolabi8197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Jill Montegomery ok

    • @preciousgoje2193
      @preciousgoje2193 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jill Montgomery Pharaseas are usually the first to throw the stones at people when they themselves have closet sins. Not only unChristian but straight up mean calling her a harlot when in fact God has forgiven her. Rahab was a harlot and became the great grandmother of Christ. And she was rescued when Jericho was falling down. Very often we see the redemption of God in all Christians. Paul was another example. He was a straight up terroirt. Remove the plank your zyes
      You seem like a Mgtow and if this is the case, well then you should truly go your way and stop disturbing women.

    • @preciousgoje2193
      @preciousgoje2193 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Jill Montegomery she was a harlot..not she IS a harlot...big difference. Same thing can be said with David, He WAS a rapist and murderer he was not he is. Abraham WAS a lair not he IS. Paul was a terrorist not he is a terrorist. We are called to walk in the light... If, Rehab IS a harlot therefore the cross is not big enough to forgive anyone ant not even your "small". Her story shows the power of God's redemption and how far God can forgive and give those "harlots" a godly husband and be grafted into God's kingdom. It is clear that her husband is that kind of man. You MAY just be angry that this man remained a virgin and his wife did not and he doesn't make a big deal out of it because he may understand the power of redemption.

    • @preciousgoje2193
      @preciousgoje2193 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Jill Montegomery the king had authority to do as he pleased....he abused that authority regardless of how you may want to put it. We see this in how Nathan approached him with the story he gave... Implying that he used his authority to take that which wasn't his. Whether you call that rape or not is irrelevant. He did that which he wasn't and this showed his depravity. Again your own character is showing because of your last sentence which says "drop the sharp mouth and humble your heart."...you may just be mad because I called you out. Either way, that's your problem. you may just hate the fact that I gave examples of several flawed Christians whom God used despite their depravity. If you hate the fact that God redeems others even those who do not deserve it, you must go and fight God and not me. He has always been the God who redeems and so His children. If you hate the fact that this man found a woman who was redeemed by God, go and fight him and God if you so much like. As for those of us Christians who are virgins or not, we will keep understanding God's redemptive power and that everything is under the cross. Am done here :)

  • @liah371
    @liah371 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Really encouraging to hear from anyone, but especially a man who waited. I’m a high school girl, and many of my friends, especially boys, don’t seem to have any interest in waiting. It’s sad that I’ve never even heard a boy say they were waiting till marriage. Makes me a little worried, not gonna lie😂

  • @elizabethlopez2648
    @elizabethlopez2648 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I totally agree with all these tips! I am currently married and can agree 100% on setting boundaries, and how we should flee from temptation. This was a real battle, but God gives victory!

  • @HawkingRegime13
    @HawkingRegime13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I struggle mightily with the idea of marrying someone who isn't also a virgin. I pray the Lord gives me guidance.

    • @oluwatomithomas180
      @oluwatomithomas180 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Marrying a Virgin is a very good thing, however, marry a person who fears God is more important. Many virgins don't keep their purity. I watched a video of a lady who was pregnant and was still a virgin. A God fearing person will flee from all appearance of evil (including fornication etc.). There are many God fearing people who have made mistakes in the past out of ignorance, but have now repented and are waiting patiently for God to send them their spouses. Please don't look down on such people. God Bless.

    • @HawkingRegime13
      @HawkingRegime13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@oluwatomithomas180 I agree with you. I think the mental barrier lies with the idea that one often has to make a concentrated effort to choose to have sex, and that can be tough for me to overcome about the other person. But you are right that there is no reason to look down on people who are truly God fearing and have repented.

    • @nicapika7970
      @nicapika7970 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same...I know it's not right to judge people if they are not virgins... I think Jealousy is Hard to fight on. Plus the fear that he might compare me to his past lovers.😢

    • @indiaxlovee
      @indiaxlovee 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      HawkingRegime as long as you’re a virgin don’t be a hypocrite

    • @ea-tr1jh
      @ea-tr1jh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It's okay if you aren't *personally* okay with marrying a nonvirgin. I have nothing against nonvirgins, I just have a personal preference for virgin men because I feel uncomfortable being intimate with someone who has been intimate with other women. It's a personal preference thing, and that's okay. It doesn't mean you think nonvirgins are dirty or something.

  • @1Cor1614
    @1Cor1614 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Needed this so much ❤ you guys are inspiring. Recently got out of a 3.5 yr toxic relationship with a guy I thought really loved me and who would put God at the center of our relationship. Hes my ex now. Just found out this Monday about all the lies hes been keeping from us regarding who he was and what he did before, during, and after the relationship. They were severely different from the toned down stories he stuck by with and made us believe. He still wouldnt admit to them until he was sure that i had proof. All the truth spilled from his best friend who figured i would move on faster had i known everything. So yeah, it came from the best friend who swears they tell each other everything -- pretty reliable coz the stuff he said checked out. It made us all realize that he was gaslighting me the entire time. He used my love for God and people just as a means of winning my favor. It really took a great hit on my mental health as i struggled with insecurities, anxiety, and depression because of all the uncertainty and hurt he brought. I guess our friends, our families, and I never really actually knew who he was - we just knew who he was pretending to be. His closest friends didnt tell me sooner because of the "bro code." I really wish I knew sooner. As i feared, he went back to his usual ways and found another girl in just a month after we stopped talking. I learned my lesson. I'll stop making excuses for boys and will wait for a man who would love me and, above all, God. I'm excited for the day when I look at my husband's face and say "thank you, Lord, for this blessing" ❤ Until then, i shall trust in Him and pray for strength, forgiveness, patience, and peace.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😊😊

    • @princessmilkchocolate5246
      @princessmilkchocolate5246 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sister in Christ...I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Your story sounds just like mine. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a person like what you described and they are called NARCISSISTS! They are demonic compulsive liars who pride themselves in lying and hurting others for self-gain. They are evil and very scary people to deal with. The Lord delivered me from that horrible relationship just like he did for you as well. I will pray that the Lord sends you your husband in his timing and I ask you pray the same for me. God bless you! 💕✝️💕

  • @shirotsuru777
    @shirotsuru777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I met my fiance when i was 16, he was my first boyfriend and now im 22. We haven't been able to get married due to my scoliosis condition, which we are both believing God with heal me from soon. God has given us many words, pictures, scriptures all pointing in the direction of upcoming healing. So for us we had to wait, and are still waiting to get married, through faith that God will make everything work out. People have their own reasons.

  • @bvelazquez11
    @bvelazquez11 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I think this is one of the best videos! Learning how you, Paul, handled the relationship is so inspiring for me as a man. It's so encouraging to see an example like you.