You guys did a great job talking on this topic. I was told a lot of wrong things about sex by christian leaders in my life to try to scare us into not doing it until marriage. Like telling girls it’s gonna hurt so bad all the time. I’ve heard some people say it didn’t hurt at all on their wedding night as a virgin and I’ve heard some that say it only hurt a little bit maybe the first few times... God would not create a good thing that is pleasurable and it be uncomfortable and painful all the time. They also say It’s gonna hurt, don’t do it and it’s bad bad bad and it’s a sin to unmarried people (Which is true out of context). Then when we’re married, they all of a sudden want us to start popping out babies...😂 There’s a disconnect... I’m glad you made this video because Christians need to talk about it more. We should be informed on the truth in a wholesome way so we are prepared for that part of marriage. Love you guys. ❤️
May you guys do a video why you don't think the WHOLE law of God applies to use today!! Because I disagree with that and I think it would be fun to have a conversation on that!! Maybe I could do a response video and see where it goes from there!!:) Thanks and I want to hear your thoughts!!
@@hannahbrister40 its unfortunate that Christian leaders used fear based tactics to scare you away from sin, atleast they had good intentions but the only reason sexual purity is important is because it is so in the Bible
Depends on the couple, but yeah some do. Some kiss, some only do hand-holding and hugs and cheek-kissing, some do no lip-action period ... It depends. I've often wondered if the no-kissing thing makes the sex times that much more intense tho.
james kile Are Christians sinners, saints, or both? Christians are both sinners and saints. All human beings are sinners because we are born in sin. But not all humans are saints. According to the Bible, a saint is not someone who has done wonderful things, nor is it someone who has been deemed a saint by a church or organization. The word translated “saint” in the New Testament, hagios, literally means “sacred, physically pure; morally blameless or religious; ceremonially consecrated; holy.” In the context of New Testament passages, saints are those who belong to the body of Christ, saved by grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8-9). In other words, saint is another word for a Christian, a true believer in the Lord Jesus Christ. It is a clear biblical truth that all are born in sin and all have a sin nature. Scripture says that God created humankind originally good and without a sin nature: 'Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness.’ . . . God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:26-27). However, Genesis 3 records the fall of Adam and Eve, and with that fall sin entered into the two previously sinless creatures. And when they had children, their sin nature was passed along to their offspring. Thus, every human being is a sinner. Saints, on the other hand, are not born saints; they become saints by being reborn. Because we have all “sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23), we are all in need of spiritual rebirth, without which we will continue in our sinful state throughout eternity. But God, in His great mercy and grace, has provided the (only) means for turning a sinner into a saint-the Lord Jesus Christ, who came “to give His life as a ransom for many.” When we confess our need for a Savior from sin and accept His sacrifice on the cross on our behalf, we become saints. There is no hierarchy of saints. All who belong to Christ by faith are saints, and none of us are more “saintly” than our Christian brothers and sisters. The apostle Paul, who is no more of a saint than the most obscure Christian, begins his first letter to the Corinthian church by declaring that they were “sanctified in Christ Jesus and called to be saints, together with all those who in every place call upon the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 1:2, emphasis added). In this verse, hagios is translated “saints,” “holy,” and “sanctified” in different Bible versions, leading to the unmistakable conclusion that all who have ever called upon Christ for salvation are saints, made holy by the Lord. We are all “fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God” (Ephesians 2:19). We are not saints because we have been declared to be saints by a church, nor can we work our way to sainthood. Once we are saved by faith, however, we are called to certain actions befitting our calling as saints of God. “But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: ‘Be holy, because I am holy’” (1 Peter 1:15-16). Saints are not sinless, but the lives of saints do reflect the reality of the presence of Christ in our hearts, in whom we “live and move and have our being” (Acts 17:28).
Maya Ivy Very in depth interpretation of the meaning of saint in a Christian context. I don’t know what this has to do with what I previously said but you clearly know your Bible.
james kile To shed light on the life of christians prior to and after marriage, since the act of marriage does not make anyone holier. Demons are fallen angels, as Revelation 12:9 indicates: “The great dragon was hurled down-that ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, who leads the whole world astray. He was hurled to the earth, and his angels with him.” Satan’s fall from heaven is symbolically described in Isaiah 14:12-15 and Ezekiel 28:12-15. When he fell, Satan took some of the angels with him-one third of them, according to Revelation 12:4. Jude 6 also mentions angels who sinned. So, biblically, demons are fallen angels who, along with Satan, chose to rebel against God. Some of the demons are already locked “in darkness, bound with everlasting chains” (Jude 1:6) for their sin. Others are free to roam and are referred to as “the powers of this dark world and . . . the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” in Ephesians 6:12 (cf. Colossians 2:15). The demons still follow Satan as their leader and do battle with the holy angels in an attempt to thwart God’s plan and hinder God’s people (Daniel 10:13). Demons, as spirit beings, have the ability to take possession of a physical body. Demonic possession occurs when a person’s body is completely controlled by a demon. This cannot happen to a child of God, since the Holy Spirit resides in the heart of the believer in Christ (1 John 4:4). Jesus, during His earthly ministry, encountered many demons. Of course, none of them were a match for the power of Christ: “Many who were demon-possessed were brought to him, and he drove out the spirits with a word” (Matthew 8:16). Jesus’ authority over the demons was one of the proofs that He was indeed the Son of God (Luke 11:20). The demons who encountered Jesus knew who He was, and they feared Him: “‘What do you want with us, Son of God?’ [the demons] shouted. ‘Have you come here to torture us before the appointed time?’” (Matthew 8:29). The demons know their end will be one of torment. Satan and his demons now look to destroy the work of God and deceive anyone they can (1 Peter 5:8; 2 Corinthians 11:14-15). The demons are described as evil spirits (Matthew 10:1), unclean spirits (Mark 1:27), lying spirits (1 Kings 22:23), and angels of Satan (Revelation 12:9). Satan and his demons deceive the world (2 Corinthians 4:4), promulgate false doctrine (1 Timothy 4:1), attack Christians (2 Corinthians 12:7; 1 Peter 5:8), and combat the holy angels (Revelation 12:4-9). The demons/fallen angels are enemies of God, but they are defeated enemies. Christ has “disarmed the powers and authorities,” and He has “made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross” (Colossians 2:15). As we submit to God and resist the devil, we have nothing to fear. “The one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world” (1 John 4:4).
I agree with this. I feel very ready to be a mother but my husband and I don't yet have a steady financial standing so therefore I am waiting. I want to provide everything for my child I don't want to bring them into a stressed out environment
I think the point is rather that if you're financially unstable you probably should start tithing before the next time you have sex. If you're walking in financial freedom , don't use birthcontrol. If not, stop having sex for a while and pray and fast about your financial issues.
@@helixmoore7636 he also gave everyone free will so for them to say if it happens it was God's will is ridiculous. It was THEIR will because they decided to risk pregnancy and test science aka: sperm+egg+ovulation= pregnancy and that is just a fact. God doesn't control it, it's free will. If you do the dirty there's always a chance a little one will come around.
Dude, words in a book will not change an atheists mind. There are several other books from other religions that say stuff too. Do you believe them too?
Jeremiah Tassinari annnnnnnnd this is why there’s such a divide between religious people’s and atheists. The OP was kind and supportive. Just because they don’t believe doesn’t immediately mean they’ll benefit from you quoting countless scripture. If anything, that pushes people away even more.
Sarah Bird I’d like to recommend a documentary called “Science Falsely So Called” to you. It makes a lot of good, logical points for those who are nonbelievers. Hope you can give it a look, cuz ik it helped me with a lot of my doubts about the subject.
Hey! Thank you for this comment! There's a lotta judgemental atheist stereotypes out there, and this is the perfect example that not all atheists are God-hating Christian-hating wild apathetic blah blah and such as some people who call themselves Christians think. Just as there are crazy views of Christians that aren't true for all (which hopefully Paul&Morgan help counteract), there are crazy views of atheists, which your comment helps counteract. Kudos to you👍 Oh and don't be too bothered by the come-to-Jesus advice and scripture quotes and such; God has called His followers to reach out to the lost and spread His truth, so it's a little hard to resist the urge when the opportunity presents itself lol. It's almost instinct, especially for those who know the love of God and want that for others. Have a nice life!❤
I have no issue with people waiting until marriage but one thing that has always made me curious is, why do young couples that are deciding to wait until marriage get married young if it isn’t about sex? Or is it about sex? How do you really know the person if you have only known them for a few months? I have so many questions about this topic but I won’t get into all of them.
Sarah Rumley it is partially about sex in terms of the rush... I’m getting married at 20 but have been dating my fiancé for 4 years! Not everyone rushes but it is very hard to wait. His family wanted him to wait longer, but we knew we were getting married eventually, and we didn’t really want to wait years to be together in that way.
It’s not 100% about sex(in my case), and it may sound cliche but when you know, you know. I married my husband a year and one month after officially dating. We wanted to try our hardest to be God honoring, though WERENT perfect at all. We knew we wanted to get married, so we did as soon as possible. If we had waited longer it would’ve left more time for temptation, and we were insanely in love so we didn’t want go waste any time.
Well it does say in the bible that “if they cannot excersise self control, they should marry. For it is better to marry then to burn with passion.” Corinthians 7:9
If someone is financially, emotionally, and/or physically unprepared to have a child, they have no obligation to "trust god" to see if they have them or not. It's not selfish. It's also not selfish to just not want to have kids.
Welllllllllll actually I get where your coming from but I honestly believe that if you want your freedom as a person you also need to understand that that freedom comes with responsibilities so if you have unprotected sex you need to take the responsibility to take care of that child
Taylor Petty Alright, but I'm not a Christian. Also, literally every Christian I've ever met in real life hasn't believed that they have to "trust god" to give them the amount of kids they can handle. I think Biology will run its course and you'll have kids if you're having unprotected sex (unless there's fertility problems) so it's much more responsible to take your fertility into your own hands.
I saw a pastor and his wife on stage discussing their intimate lives in a bit of detail. I thought it was awesome. It was funny and bold and was an example to the church as to how to be within a marriage--without being gross. Thank you for putting yourselves out there. The younger generations, in particular, need to hear this and feel encouraged. While I haven't been a nun for my adult life, as my faith increases, so does my chastity. About seventeen years now (twelve years with the improved version). It can be done. And I miss nothing, except what I never had--lifetime commitment and Love through marriage vows.
I’m an atheist and I was good until y’all went anti- birth control. We may disagree and that’s fine but damn. Y’all can’t actually believe god controls whether or not a sperm makes it to the egg???? Birth control is healthy, effective, and perfectly okay to use. And it’s perfectly okay to not want to be a parent, whether it’s for right now or forever. Regardless of religious beliefs.
What about the people who can’t get pregnant? Are they just out of luck by God’s will? All that aside, “Jesus is my birth control,” is not a healthy way to go about sex. If you can’t support a child, use birth control! There’s no shame or selfishness for wanting to provide a stable life for you child. Jesus specifically didn’t test God gg jumping off of a building or cliff or whatever so you should take control of your own child brain functions.
This might be completely unrelated, but it’s something a mentor of mine taught me. I was sexually abused growing up and sexually assaulted when I was 13. It was really brutal but thankfully I’m doing great and God has done an enormous work in my life to say the least. I say that to say, through those bad encounters, I experienced a lot of spiritual and emotional confusion, depression, etc. If sex can be that influential to me in that context, how much worse (influence wise) could it be outside of marriage with my consent? I can’t even imagine!! Thank you guys for being bold! 🙏🏻 Edit: I’d like to add - I’m speaking from my own perspective of the confusion, hurt, and anger I experienced after going through what I did and feel that sex outside of marriage, for me, would cause a lot of problems in my life!
Rebecca Harris You’re so incredibly strong! May God continue to give you strength and peace of mind because you are beautiful and loved by the One True King ❣️
I lost my virginity at 16 to my partner so clearly I disagree, if I didn't I'd be a hypocrite. As a child I was raised Christian and always wanted to wait til marriage, even after I left the Christian faith (I left as a teen Because of various different problems with my mental and physical health so I decided to focus on my needs instead) I still wanted to wait. I eventually decided I didn't though (clearly) and decided I would wait for two things: -Wait until I find someone I treasure and love unconditionally -Wait until I, myself as an individual am ready. I met my partner, fell in love with him and decided I was ready. We're still together years later btw, not that all teen relationships end up passing highschool and college etc but we made it. He's a Catholic but I personally still don't talk much about religion. I don't know what to call myself, I don't follow religion very well but I do believe in God or that if God doesn't exist than at least SOMETHING might. I have a controversial question for you two however and a question regarding myself: 1. Is my relationship any less of a relationship or a so called impure one if we started having intercourse before we were married? 2. When it comes to sexual assault do you consider it counts and makes you any less "pure?" I ask this because I myself was a sexual assault victim at the age of 15 by an ex boyfriend who was very manipulative and controlling. I've met some who tell me that obviously it wasn't my fault but I need to "repent" Because I still "sinned" because he assaulted me. This is probably a huge reason why I also left the faith for a while mental health wise. I didn't even accept what happened to me until about a year later and was still being contacted by my ex who told me things to make me feel guilty as if I was the one who "wanted it" Would appreciate a detailed response.
Delihlah, first I am sorry that you had to experience that pain. I myself was raped (by my female doctor, who unfortunately got away with her crimes) and I can say that I also heard such things from other Christian's. From people who knew nothing of the pain and horror I was in. Honestly I say that the church did more harm to me than it did good. I left church and went to God on my own, though I will not say that my faith was unshaken. I questioned God, but know that I only got through it because of His strength (I prayed during my attack as I couldn't get away and knew of others {like Christine Caine, from her books}) that survived raped). I was in deep pain and my own body became my enemy. I was victim blamed and shamed by the ER nurses who were supposed to help me and others in my life, it was awful. I do not believe that an act that is forced upon, such as rape, makes us impure in anyway. I do not believe that my being raped makes me dirty a year later (though as is normal I was obsessed with getting clean right away,but that's not what we are talking about here). I don't know about you, but for me the pain of other believers telling me that is was somehow my fault and that I just needed to just forgive her (they are Wrong and WRONG!) was even more painful than the original attack. Only recently (past 6 months) have I gone inside another church again. The pastor at the church that I currently attend is doing a series on forgiveness and in the first part he talks about the one exception, and that is abuse, rape being a type of abuse. You can watch it online at www.cbclascruces.org/messages/on-demand?sapurl=Lys0NjcyL2xiL21pLys0cGM0NTgyP2JyYW5kaW5nPXRydWUmZW1iZWQ9dHJ1ZQ== I recommend watching it if you feel up to it. I know it gave me clarity and a release.
@@melissar.2737 I myself am a Christian! And no, I dont think any person should half to repent or ask for forgiveness if they were rapped! But purposely committing fornication is a whole story.
I myself am a Christian! No I dont think any person should half to repent or ask for forgiveness if they truly were raped. But it's a whole knew story when it comes to purposely fornicating.
So, this is totally irrelevant, but .... It kinda bothers me that the channel name is "Paul and Morgan" but Paul is usually in the right half of the screen, and Morgan on the left side. I feel like you guys should sit with Paul on the left, and Morgan on the right ... to match the channel name and your signs on the wall.
I think this encourages rape culture tbh... now hear me out. I waited until I was 22 to have sex. I was an evangelical Christian and wanted to wait till marriage. But I fell in love and honestly thought I'd be spending my life with him, or could very easily. By the end of our relationship he was having nonconsensual sex with my body (rape, I'd call it). I confronted him. He essentially said "that's the way it is, deal with it." (I broke up with him a week after that). The first six to nine months weren't like that though. I'm SO grateful I didn't wait till marriage. What if we HAD been married? What if you're with someone and you don't know what they're going to be like in bed? I say absolutely "no thanks" to that.
Hey love, was the guy a Christian? God says to cherish your wife and do not deal harshly with her, to love her with the sacrificial love of Christ towards the church ... If he was a follower of God and valued you as a daughter of the Most High he shouldn't have had sex with you before marriage in the first place, much less doing so without your consent. Being a Christian means you strive to choose God's way over your own, so no matter how much you yourself want to have sex, you honor God's plan for sex and marriage. Anywho, I don't think saving yourself for marriage encourages rape culture at all. What does encourage it, is not fully knowing someone's heart and the way they value you before getting married. I wouldn't want to marry someone who hasn't shown through his words, actions, worship, and countenance that God is his Lord and that he would cherish me with love and gentleness. I don't mean to be harsh, but it's a bit upsetting to see someone's view of God's way skewed because of someone else's failure to uphold the character of God, especially when I know the God I serve is good and wants the best for you. I'm sorry you had to go through that, love.❤
@@kaylanfomby7506 the bible also says that a man needs sex, it's like water. And that a women is made to satisfy their needs. Don't get it twisted bc one part says something. It doesn't match up and it's all how you interpret it. So her husband, although christian, is interpreting the bible in a different way than you, which is a reason why religion is so dangerous. You are just using excuses.
Waiting for sex before marriage doesn't encourage rape culture. Stop twisting the beauty God has created to fulfill your sinful desires. Plus, there is no such thing as rape culture.
i just can’t take paul seriously in the spongebob sweater 😂 😂 p.s. all love here paul ✊🏽 😆 in all seriousness, this is probably my favorite video yet of yalls. this is such a christian advice video and more of the world and the young generation needs to see this. love you guys!
I am a complete weirdo and probably a contradiction, I have only slept with my husband, and I am agnostic. I disagree with many of your points and found you two through Mr. Atheist, yet I think you present your beliefs and advice in a respectful, thoughtful, and levelheaded way. Keep it up! ♥️
@it's just me Amen! I get so pissed at the its selfish to not have children. It is selfish to bring children into abject poverty it is selfish to have children because you feel pressured and obligated. Have them because you want them and can provide and love them. And if you dont want them thats dandy too.
Genesis 1:28 "And God blessed them, and God said unto them be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the world" Having children are 1. a blessing from God, and 2. part of God's will for a married couple
@@annalewc Id partially agree but YHVH has different plans for different couples. Not all were meant to have children and there are many who struggle with infertility. And HE told the 6th day creation to Re Plenish the Earth. Please read about the account at Theseason.org
Thank you for this. As a 17 year old young woman your channel gives me hope that I can stay true to myself as a Christian and that love will come at the right time. And that I shouldn’t feel pressured to buy into the expectations for love and sex in today’s day and age. I love you guys 💓💓
Gullible! You are ignorant and Gullible! Jesus is only a mythological sun god made up by a greek writing team, that is why he has 12 decilples and dies and rises again, and is born on Dec 25 and his birth initiates the start of the Age of Pieces the fish! Because Christ is only a metaphor for Gods SUN as it moved through the 12 months of the Zodiac, during the age of Picese the Fish! And totally and completely never ever exsited in history, he is 100% fake and man made allegory myth!!!! That is why Judas gives Jesus the kiss of death, because Judas is only a symbol for the month of Scorpio, scorpion bites look like a kiss mark, and are called the Kiss of death, you are a gulible sun worshiper!!!! Sun Worshipper! Learn Critical thinking skills and do not be brain washed and exploited by the Horrible cancer of Religion!!
The Channel That’s my belief and I’m going to stand by it. I’m not being gullible or ignorant and no one is brainwashing me. This is what I CHOOSE to believe in and nothing is going to shake my faith. Thank you for your input, but I do not agree with what you’re saying. Have a nice night.
@@tomilolaoyasiji3620 No, choosing to believe empty assertions without sufficient evidence is the very defintion of GULIBLE, you need sufficient evidence to justify belief if you want to correctly assert you are not gullible, you choose to belive because it sounds good to you, and makes you feel good, but you must be brain washed and gullible if you are choosing to accept empty assertions just because they are written upon paper, and for this reason you cannot escape the Gulible label, sorry but the bible is already completely refuted as false, already, and you are only choosing to be willfully ignorant, sad but true.
You guys are SO cute! enjoyed listening to what you had to say. You might be surprised, but this stuff pertains to all ages. I'm a 64 yr old widow, just found a wonderful Christian man that I'm going to date. I panicked when I started thinking about this subject, and thought I'd better be doing some studying! lol Thank you both! Bless you!
How is birth control bad in christianity? I'm an atheist and I can't see why it's bad. How is it considered "selfish" not to have kids? It's just a life plan.
PRINCE KRAZIE I think it’s ok to use a condom or something like this. But I don’t agree with the pill you know what pill (I don’t know how is it called in English lol =)) )
Morgan! Thank you. I’m a new baby Christian and I’m still learning. I bought my first Bible two months ago and have started going to church. I unfortunately didn’t wait to have sex.....long story short, I’ve met a guy. He’s Christian and a virgin. I feel like you were talking to me in this video. I’m officially going to come to you for advice and opinion. Again thank you so much 🙏🏼 😊
I love Jesus, I’m a proud Christian, and guess what? I’ve been having pre marital sex for many years. Happily not married and instead have been with my guy for 8 years and will continue to live that way. If you choose to have sex before marriage that is your choice. Jesus loves us even when we sin.
I think this was the best video you've made on this topic. There is bound to be disagreements lol, but it was very fair and balanced, and honest. Ultimately, being open and honest about your convictions and what you believe about sensitive topics, as long as it isn't hurtful, is honorable.
If anyone is reading this know that its totally okay to have premarital sex. Dont let these two make you think its not okay. Just because you are married doesnt mean you will be sexually compatible.
"We believe sex is a great thing" Oh boy, do I despise this channel and all the videos you two make. I love that Mr. Atheist has broken down some of these videos in such a rational way. I grew up in a cult-like family that not only taught horrific gender roles and True Love Waits, but also knew about molestation happening to both myself and my sister and didn't take it to the law. They claimed that the God of the Bible would forgive my father for molesting us because he sought God's forgiveness and confessed his sins unto the Lord. I had to live under the same roof with my father for six more years after being molested and both he and my mother continued to teach purity to us. They taught us that women have control of their sexuality and men don't. They used Biblical references and verses to defend these views. They taught me that homosexuality was a sin. I was a closeted bisexual until I was 26 years old because of fear. I watch your videos only to remind myself that your teachings are toxic and more evil than this "world" you are always referring to. And I am not an atheist and I do not hate spirituality. But I hate this kind of religious doctrine. This kind of religious dogma is dangerous and ruins peoples' lives. It nearly ruined my life. I am so grateful for loving, open people in the gay community, quaker community (my spirituality), my loving queer spouse, my accepting friends from all walks of life and beliefs, and most of all--to the loving (non-gendered) God that I believe exists. Not your nasty, psychopath, gendered Father God. Disgusting. Also--your viewpoint about family planning is ignorant. There is nothing selfish about waiting to have children OR not having children at all.
Rachel Batz What your dad did is wrong and I'm sorry, but you can't blame God!! In fact God loves us and made rules for are own good!! He says to love your neighbor as your self, but your dad didn't do that by miss treating you!! It says to not have sex with your father, well you couldn't help that, so I would put the blame on your dad. It's not God who's messed up and cruel, it's people!! I am deeply sorry for what you had to go through and I pray that God will show you the truth!!
@@KAyLA_K It's spelled mistreat not miss treating. Also, the God of the Bible can, according to scripture, protect his children. I prayed for years that God would protect me from my dad. And do not pray for me. I don't need you to pray for some kind of perverse "truth". I know what I believe and live a life of rationalism, logic, and further discovery.
hey love, I'm so sorry you hold such animosity towards God and His love and those who are trying to follow Him. It's really sad that you don't know these two people but still manage to have such hostility towards them just because they're trying to help others of the same belief as them. The God I know, love, and serve does not condone what happened to you in any way, nor did He want that for you. He cried for you, actually. Seeing your pain hurt Him too, but the truth is that God doesn't immediately shield us from every bad thing that could ever happen, and there is such a thing as evil spirits and forces. The doctrine your parents taught you does not sound like it was a true reflection of God's way, for God's way is not that of religious doctrine anyway, as Jesus tried to tell the Pharisees and the disciples following Him. It is a life of peace, gentleness, love, kindness, self control, wisdom, and purity. Just because people say they follow God's way doesn't mean they actually do, for that is determined by the condition of your heart, not outward appearance. Hence, look at the heart of this channel. They are trying to help others. Why attack them in such a way? The misrepresentation of God's teachings by your parents to you is what ruined your life, love. Not the teachings themselves. May God soften your heart to give you peace and joy even in the face of those who have harmed you❤
Rachel Batz Hi, I grew up in a “Christian home”. My parents didn’t believe me when I finally confessed I had been molested all throughout elementary school by a family member in middle school. That lesson taught me that our homes aren’t always perfect even if Christian is plastered all over them. My parents are sinners, still are but I won’t go on in my life holding resentment over that. I enjoy God and his perfect love for me and that allows me to forgive the parents I thought could never fail me. But I know you situation is different, your own dad who was supposed to love and protect you. All I can say is I’m sorry, but you are stronger than that man. What he did in hypocrisy can never compare to the perfect love from God. If you are still reading please hear the plea of my heart, you are loved by God. What your dad did to you can never compare to what God did for you to be new. God bless.
You two are adorable (hahaha Morgan at 5.18)😂🤩! We appreciate your talking about this even when it's awkward and personal. So thank you for these videos!! I'm almost 22 and I'm still waiting and these videos and seeing your godly relationship encourage me to not settle for anything less than a solid Christian man. 😍💖🤗
This was really great. I liked your response to Mr. Athiest too. I admire your patience with so many haters and just all these crude, base people. 😠 It's good that you minister to them and show love; they may be saved. God will bring justice to you for your forbearance with their hate. "Wait for the Lord. Be strong and let your heart take courage. Wait for the Lord." - Psalm 27:14
Despite the fact that I disagree with most of the ideology in this video, I'm really glad that you guys seem to have a healthy and enjoyable sex life. Many people don't get that privilege after waiting until marriage, so congratulations.
Yes guys!!! Kudos for tackling this topic and handling it with grace, honesty, and love! I think it was Bethany from Girl Defined who said that Christians' fear to talk about sex in a God-honouring fashion is actually contributing to the idea in the church that sex within marriage is still somehow dirty and taboo. Really appreciated how you guys emphasized communication as one of the key ways to combat wedding-night-awkwardness :P Martha Peace in her book The Excellent Wife encouraged wives in particular to let their husbands know what they're comfortable/uncomfortable with, what hurts, and what they enjoy instead of just expecting the man to figure it out. I feel like with sex as with any other part of marriage, communication is soooo important!!! Love you guys and keep shining
Tabby RH thank you so much girl!! Yes and amen to communication! It’s such an important thing man. Phew. In every single aspect. Us ladies tend to just assume that the men will know what we’re thinking. But I don’t know if that’s ever been the case 😂😛
As someone who has a very complicated heart condition, takes a very harsh medication for it while also not using birth control, got pregnant, and ended up in the emergency room because my medication, in the words of my doctor, "fried the crap out of my baby" and could have killed me. I think treating birth control as a medical device is a better way to view it. My doctor.. many doctors infact, have told me having a baby, in my case, is not without risk. I might die, my baby might die, we both might die. My baby could come out very badly deformed. I would need to be highly monitored and put on a medication that's safe for baby but not 100% guaranteed to work for me. For me, saying maybe I'm not trusting God by using birth control is extreamly hurtful. I wanted my baby, me an my husband cried for days after losing our baby. It still hurts months later. I trusted God to keep my baby alive under less then ideal circumstances and my baby died. I don't blame God cause in the end it was my fault for getting pregnant while on my medication. I should have been on birth control and went to my doctors first and hatched out a plan with them to try and give me and my baby the best chance at a healthy life. So, do I trust God with my birth control 100%...I trust he will keep my birth control working and doing its job of preventing pregnancy until I can safely bring a baby into this world. I think it be more selfish of me to stop taking it, get pregnant and die, leaving husband alone, then anything else. So instead of saying "maybe you're not trusting God" leave it to a personal conviction. We're living in a fallen world, not eveything is so black and white.
Just would also like to mention that I think it's perfectly okay that this is your choice to not use birth control. As far as we all know you're healthy aka having a child should prove little risk to you and/or baby and as far as we know you're financially stable. So I can also understand why is would be difficult for you to understand and comprehend how someone who doesn't have your physical and financial advantages could not agree with your "biblical" view point, even if they are also a believer. I hope you never have to be told by your doctor that your baby has died because of complications regarding a medical condition and I pray neither you or your future children have to live off mac and cheese because you're not bringing in enough money to cover all your bill's + food.
I came here after Mr. Atheist's video and, as an agnostic, I believe you have a very healthy approach to sex and your suggestions are pretty good regardless of religion. Congrats guys, I respect you.
I really enjoyed this video, thanks! It's nice to know that there are young Christians out there who believe according to the Bible like me. And who realize that we won't always understand God's commands, but we still need to obey them. This was really encouraging. Thank you.
@Collin 02456 I'm only saying this because I know how strong simple comments like that can make someone doubt their faith in God. If you don't believe on God in Christianity, please keep it to yourself. There is a simple spirit of unbelief going around lurking to find who he can devour, so please, do not cause sisters and brothers to loose their faith in their belief. Of course you may not believe this, but think of the other person please and thank you.
@Collin 02456 Hey love, some people are new to the faith and haven't figured everything out yet, so their belief in certain areas isn't as strong as the next Christian's. Yes, our God is mighty and WAY capable (I would advise you not to insult Him on the off-chance He turns out to be real, btw. If you don't believe, fine. But you shouldn't disrespect what others believe), but that doesn't mean the influence of others' words means nothing. That being said, it's ok to question God as long as it's with a truly questioning attitude as opposed to mocking or judging or some sorta malful intent about insulting/breaking down the Christian faith. I think the KPOP person was just tryna limit what some Christians call a 'seed of doubt' from being 'planted' in those who don't yet have the experience or knowledge of God's Word to dismiss it. Lol this is long ... But do you get what I'm saying? You do have a point about shutting down any questions, but you weren't exactly asking a question with the intent of gaining understanding. Would you do the same to a Muslim speaking of their experiences? A Buddhist? A Hindu? I would ask that you respect other people's beliefs, even if you don't agree. There is a way to respectfully disagree, love. And calling someone's beliefs ridiculous, extreme, or silly isn't doing that. Be kind, my friend. There are people behind these comments, with lives and experiences and scars and emotions and stories and friends and hurts and random favorite colors or preferences in weather or whatever. Your comments say something to these people. So please be kind❤
@Collin 02456 You're right, it shouldn't. But OuR cHrIsTiAnItY, doesn't mean that it doesn't come with temptations. God told us temptations will come and that doesn't just mean sexual things, it could be those kinds of things such as people trying to give you doubt on God. Of course you atheist will say something about me telling you not to date question our God. I could care less if you did, but it's not like you asked her in a questioning way. You just said 'there is no God.' You don't believe in God, but if you did, we may not show it- but we are humans too with feelings and a conscious. So idc if you're trying to tell someone about what makes God seem as if he doesn't exist, but that doesn't mean you should just declare it like that. Last time I checked "Freedom of Religion" is a thing. I'm not questioning your religion- I wish I could persuade you to change it- but I am not in the appropriate place to tell you what to believe in, so please do not do it to others. And what exactly do you mean extreme things? It ain't extreme if I know spirits are real . That's like, a basic knowledge I've learned as a Christian since it's legit in the Bible. You may have not seen it, but that's not an extreme thing since I have word proof of it. If I were someone who believed like, you shouldn't uhhhhhh..... walk on the left side of the street because we're on the right side of God, then yes, you could say that's extreme but I don't believe in those types of things, because there's nothing truly to back it up. I'm sorry if its difficult to understand what I mean, English isn't my first language
@Collin 02456 could I point something out that happened like that? U didn't ask me, but I have idk how to describe it, something that would help put a thought in your head about that
As I think they explained clearly, birth control is not a black and white subject. They are sharing what they have come to believe through study and prayer, and I for one think having conversations about these topics can be helpful in forming one's own opinions on modern issues like birth control. Biblically, sex outside of marriage is sin. That's very clear. But birth control didn't exist in the first century and so this is a topic that Christians have to study as more of a balance between trust and wisdom.
Hey there Paul and Morgan. This is your atheist friend who has a lot of great respect for you. I’m actually glad you’re expressing what you feel. Even though I may not agree with you. And also, even though you haven’t verified anything. But you’re really good people and I cheer you on. And I support you.
The Bible makes it clear that you can be married to hundreds of women while having hundreds of concubines. Is Paul admitting that he's living under this biblical mandate? Suh-weet, bro! You do you!!!
Y’all, this is a very helpful video! Thank you for making it! I am very happy that I can help support y’all ministry because y’all really are helping people!!! 💙💛🙌 I’m praying for y’all 🙏
rules of being a good Christian >dont hug before marriage >dont kiss before marriage >dont make prolonged eye contact before marriage >dont have any contact before you're married >no touching bibles before you're married, the leather might tempt you.
I don’t think sex could be awkward on your wedding night. You’re marrying someone because you’re in love with them, they’re your best friend, you’re comfortable with them, and this is someone who has promised their life to you so why would it be awkward? I’m waiting till marriage not only because I believe sex is something God made to be done between a wife and a husband, but because I also think I’d be much more comfortable being intimate and vulnerable only with someone who has promised their life to me. Just a thought I had while watching this.
brown eyes I’m sorry you regretted your decision. I think if I’m cautious and I listen to God I’ll know when I’m with the right person. I think people think too little of marriage and don’t really understand that it’s something sacred and that God made it to be permanent (not directed to you, I mean this in general). I’m gonna trust God and trust that he’ll bring the right guy into my life. Then when I’m married someday and I take that step with my husband I don’t think I’ll regret it.
@@Mari-il4bw thank you for your response. I do really hope things will work out for you. For me, I did not so much underestimate marriage, I underestimated the importance of good sex within a relationship. I loved my partner. He was my best friend, truly, I could laugh and cry with him, and I felt like he was my soulmate. But then, when we finally had sex, it didn't work. It literally didn't. For a long time I blamed my body, thought I just couldn't, somehow. And for quite some time, we both just accepted that it was fine.. But in the end, it wasn't. The lack of physical intimacy started to cause problems. We still hugged, and kissed, but it wasn't enough. Sex is very important, but we didn't realise it. We started to fight. Often. I kept on trying to fix the relationship, when others told me to get out. I felt like I should stay with him. Until he cheated on me, lied about it, and didn't show up at my grandads funeral. Finally I could see then, that I should not stay within that relationship. I think, had we had sex earlier on, we would have realised our miss match earlier. I think, had we split up sooner, things wouldn't have gone as sour as they did. We could have stayed friends, even, maybe, cause we truly clicked on so many other levels. I didn't get together with him for no reason, of course. Now, I am in a relationship with someone else. I have discovered that my body can participate in sex without issue, and that I like it as much as I once thought I would. I would never, ever, wait with sex again. Its important to know before you literally and legally bind yourself to someone.
brown eyes I think every couple is different. For instance, I know if two couples who have waited and it worked out fine. I’m willing to take that risk. Again, sorry you went through that.
Sex with anyone for the first time isn’t usually a great experience. You don’t know what you like, you don’t really have experience with how your body responds, it can be uncomfortable/awkward/embarrassing if things go awry. Must be even harder if you’ve never done anything physical before marriage, or even masturbated so you at least know your own body well enough to guide your partner a little and make the experience more pleasurable for both of you. Plus there’s the potential issue of sexual incompatibility, as the other reply describes. It’s not something you can predict or fix and something you can only discover through actually having sex with someone. Sexual incompatibility comes in many forms, from different libidos, to mismatched desires/expectations, to your bodies just not ‘working’ with each other, to having different turn ons or levels of experimentation that mean you can’t actually pleasure each other properly. It can put a lot of pressure/damage on long term relationships and even end them.
"Intended for Pleasure" is a really great sexual education book written from a Christian perspective! My husband and I were gifted that book during our pre-marital counseling, and I think it's really well done.
Appreciate these Q&A's. I've really been trying to keep myself pure and I have these kinds of talks with my parents as well. Nice to see that there are those out there who aren't following the world. Keep it up!
1.boundaries and bringing them up and writing them is the best thing you can do. Great video friends ❤️ P.s Paul I think spongebob eyes are judging ....😂 jk. Waiting for sex in marriage is beautiful and something to be proud of not ashamed of.
As a Catholic, I believe the reproductive element of sex is integral to its nature and cannot be removed from the act; therefore, I believe oral sex and birth control to be immoral. As he says in the video, however, if you feel something to be immoral in your heart, that is a message from God to you and you must act on it.
Hi thank you for sharing this video I'm 22 years old and this is my weakness i wanted someone to encourage me but i don't have any one to share with so Thank you so much you guys encouraging me alot to be a godly woman of God Love you both.... God bless!
Gosh this is so needed in this era. Many of us grew up not being able to be open about sex (it’s why I’m so shy about it now). So this is a great thing you’re doing .
I am still a virgin in the case of having no intercourse. But to be honest I had everything between kissing and oral sex and I wished I had not done it. I am still happy that I can give something to my future wife that no one else got it from me. I still hope the Lord loves me.
Love you guys!! I just shared this vid and your channel with my daughter, who is a wonderful, Christian teenager. This is where her heart is and this will give her knowledge and reassurance ❤❤❤
Hello! I love you guys ! Your videos are so helpful, thank you. I as wondering Which book/chapter/verse mentions living in the world but not of the world ?? Thanks!!!
Preserving self from sex before marriage.. Am waiting for my "the one"after marriage. That's my conviction. I want to influence our young people to remain pure before marriage, and Yes by the help of the Lord and strong conviction of the Holy Spirit we can do it. It's worth the wait. I'm Anne, 35 and excited for the right time. :)
Overall i did enjoy this video you guys made. Very open and honest about your beliefs and i gotta say i do agree with quite a bit of the info you two provided. I'm gonna stick to the plan of waiting and continue praying that God will lead me to true happiness!
yay you guys answered the question about oral sex.I’m glad that Morgan said that oral sex is still a form of sex because a lot of us (at least I was) thinking oral outside of marriage might be okay.This was great guys,thank you.
I'm a born again Christian and I am older ( I'm 43 ) my past life was full of active addiction. I, thankfully, have the spirit of truth today within me now so I leave it to God...
I am so happy to have found your video. As a mother who actually had sex outside of marriage and then through getting to know God understand that I had been living in sin in this area. I repented and changed my ways. I have raised my son, who is now 23, to understand the blessing of waiting until marriage. He has and desires to wait but has trouble hoping to find a girl who also has waited. I tell him to pray and seek God's direction and finding you two gives hope that there are more who have followed God's word concerning the blessing of sex after marriage. God bless your ministry kiddos. Keep spreading hope and love.
You guys have barely been married for a minute and have been having sex for like a second and you think you think you are qualified to give advice on these topics lol
Megan Michelle so so true it's like someone who has just learnt to ride a bike then preaching how to win the Tour de France ! They are so inexperienced and have lived in there middle class Bible Belt bubble.
Well even if your new to it, doesn't mean you can't be good at teaching it!! You can still study about topics, even if you don't do the topics!!:) I teach about the mark of the beast, but do I have it? No!! A lot of things you can teach with out having to do the activity. They don't know everything, but there sharing with us what they do know!!
Leviticus 19:28, ”You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you" Morgan that Tattoo on your arm is a sin girl. People in glass houses should not throw stones.
You should also understand the reason behind this law. The reason that God commanded his people to not get tattoos was because pagans from the surrounding regions would use tattoos as a form of worship of other false Gods. Most Christians use the New Testament as a hard rule for the laws that should be kept based on moral grounds rather than cultural grounds. I understand that you are trying to call her out for hypocrisy, but if you are going to try and do that, find better points. This was super easy to refute. The New Testament confirms many of the the laws and commandments of the Old Testament. Many Christians believe that the New Testament (which is what Christianity is based on) is where the hard rules are. The Old Testament, especially Leviticus, is full of laws that were more meant for that culture and the struggles that the Israelites would face based on the setting they were in. Many believe this applies to tattoos, as the reason for this law was based on the times. Levitical law especially liked to paint in broad strokes, so as to prevent sin and destructive behavior. God didn’t want pagan symbols tattooed onto his people’s skin.
I dint believe tattoos are wrong. I have several friends who love God very mucb(and myself) we all love God and we all have tattoos. One of my friends has been a christian her whole life and she has a lot of tattoos(including one around her breast). I have a tattoo on my rib cage and i dont think its wrong(i plan to get a lot more tbh). I believe tattoos are only wrong when tbey depict other gods or nudity.
I think what needs to be spoken about more is that when you get married, there are no exceptions. If you, or your significant other is not ready to be intimate with you, you do not owe them that just because you married them. Yes it might test patients, but if you are not ready to submit yourself to that level of vulnerability its okay. Theres just so much expectations for that.
Well, personally i don't agree with the birth control answer. To me it's not selfish, it has to be with responsibilities. You can say ok, im not gonna use anything because it's selfish... But let me ask you this: Are you gonna keep not using anything if you become pregnant for the 5th/6th or 7th time? What about those who got married and both are waiting to finish their colleges for one or two more years... Are they selfish? Or Are they thinking about the time to take care of a family because they don't want to leave the baby on day care or with a nanny? This are examples, but i do agree with most of the answer. You guys are awesome!! 😎😉👌👍 Be blessed!
It’s probably more selfish to have a child when you cannot afford one or you aren’t at the right place in your life. So no, birth control is not selfish at all.
I think P&M said it depends on the 'why' behind the 'what' from the get go, so I'm pretty sure they'd agree with you. If it's not for selfish reasons, then ok. But they felt convicted by the Holy Spirit for their own reasons for doing it, so I'd say if you aren't feeling convicted then it's ok. All about the heart, loves. Ergo, you sure you don't agree with them? They said if the reasons are selfish, maybe just give it to God. The reasons behind the scenarios you gave weren't selfish, so it's different. That's what I heard them say, anyway.
Love that you guys are so open to talking about any topic! The Bible is full of such beneficial, good, loving, wise advice! Truly value your videos and they make a difference for the Lord! Keep up the amazing videos!
I love masculine men who treat sex with respect and are sexually responsible. Especially when they wait until marriage. Paul you are one of those men. You’re all the things a man should be, responsible, loving, understanding and you know what you believe in. That’s a really attractive thing and I wish more men were like that.
Yikes. Please explain why consensual sex with someone you know and are comfortable with is harmful BESIDES "bc god said so". We are animals. We are sexual beings. If it's consensual and with good intentions, there is nothing wrong with it. I hear the "harmful" thing, but never explained except for situations that are unlikely between two people who just want to have sex.
@@jensraab2902 thank you. I I just feel they are teaching kids the wrong thing. If they get in a relationship and get married right away, things could go south. Rape could be involved, many things could go wrong. And sexuality isn't something to be ashamed of. I just feel so bad. And the non birth control mentality leads to unplanned pregnancies and children who are born into a family who can't support. Makes me so sad
It is harmful to your future spouse because sex is supposed to be a special act shared only between you and the person you love the most (romantically). Therefore if you have sex with someone else, you are treating the act and your future spouse as if they are not that special. If you don't see sex this way and want to be with people who also don't see sex this way, then I say go for it, but then I don't understand why you're wasting your time watching and commenting on this video when you obviously don't give a crap about the Christian perspective. Also, I don't know where you got the idea that the solution to being young and wanting to have sex is to rush into marriage... that's messed up.
@@thestorykeeper6818 Oh really save myself for spmeone i dont know. Wouldnt it be better with them if you both have expirience, its doesnt become less special it becomes more if you do it with skmeone you love
@@PaulandMorgan oh my goodness thank you for replying. You guys have really helped in what you're doing & it's very admirable!! Thank you for spreading light on godly relationships & living. Love you guys sm!! 💛
Why is the world messed up because people view things different from you? We are not all Christians and Christianity isn’t the best religion in the world, it’s just one of many religions. And not everyone is raised with a religion. I don’t see how that’s messed up.
You guys are the best! I often feel sad because I see a lot of Christians getting lost in this matter... christians that live this truth are becaming a rare species... thanks God for your lives!keep spreading God’s truth!! 🙏🏼
Hey P&M Fam! Let us know what you thought of the video and look to encourage others who might have questions in the comment section!❤️
Paul and Morgan I loved the video just as I usually love your other videos. I love this channel and may God continue to you use you to bless others ❤️
I'm proud of you two for tackling this topic as it is one that people have so many questions about.
You guys did a great job talking on this topic. I was told a lot of wrong things about sex by christian leaders in my life to try to scare us into not doing it until marriage. Like telling girls it’s gonna hurt so bad all the time. I’ve heard some people say it didn’t hurt at all on their wedding night as a virgin and I’ve heard some that say it only hurt a little bit maybe the first few times... God would not create a good thing that is pleasurable and it be uncomfortable and painful all the time. They also say It’s gonna hurt, don’t do it and it’s bad bad bad and it’s a sin to unmarried people (Which is true out of context). Then when we’re married, they all of a sudden want us to start popping out babies...😂 There’s a disconnect... I’m glad you made this video because Christians need to talk about it more. We should be informed on the truth in a wholesome way so we are prepared for that part of marriage. Love you guys. ❤️
May you guys do a video why you don't think the WHOLE law of God applies to use today!! Because I disagree with that and I think it would be fun to have a conversation on that!! Maybe I could do a response video and see where it goes from there!!:)
Thanks and I want to hear your thoughts!!
@@hannahbrister40 its unfortunate that Christian leaders used fear based tactics to scare you away from sin, atleast they had good intentions but the only reason sexual purity is important is because it is so in the Bible
Do Christians couples really go from never kissing to having full on sex in one night?
Depends on the couple, but yeah some do. Some kiss, some only do hand-holding and hugs and cheek-kissing, some do no lip-action period ... It depends. I've often wondered if the no-kissing thing makes the sex times that much more intense tho.
james kile CHILLLLLLL LMFAO
james kile Are Christians sinners, saints, or both?
Christians are both sinners and saints. All human beings are sinners because we are born in sin. But not all humans are saints. According to the Bible, a saint is not someone who has done wonderful things, nor is it someone who has been deemed a saint by a church or organization. The word translated “saint” in the New Testament, hagios, literally means “sacred, physically pure; morally blameless or religious; ceremonially consecrated; holy.” In the context of New Testament passages, saints are those who belong to the body of Christ, saved by grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8-9). In other words, saint is another word for a Christian, a true believer in the Lord Jesus Christ.
It is a clear biblical truth that all are born in sin and all have a sin nature. Scripture says that God created humankind originally good and without a sin nature: 'Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness.’ . . . God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:26-27). However, Genesis 3 records the fall of Adam and Eve, and with that fall sin entered into the two previously sinless creatures. And when they had children, their sin nature was passed along to their offspring. Thus, every human being is a sinner.
Saints, on the other hand, are not born saints; they become saints by being reborn. Because we have all “sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23), we are all in need of spiritual rebirth, without which we will continue in our sinful state throughout eternity. But God, in His great mercy and grace, has provided the (only) means for turning a sinner into a saint-the Lord Jesus Christ, who came “to give His life as a ransom for many.” When we confess our need for a Savior from sin and accept His sacrifice on the cross on our behalf, we become saints.
There is no hierarchy of saints. All who belong to Christ by faith are saints, and none of us are more “saintly” than our Christian brothers and sisters. The apostle Paul, who is no more of a saint than the most obscure Christian, begins his first letter to the Corinthian church by declaring that they were “sanctified in Christ Jesus and called to be saints, together with all those who in every place call upon the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 1:2, emphasis added). In this verse, hagios is translated “saints,” “holy,” and “sanctified” in different Bible versions, leading to the unmistakable conclusion that all who have ever called upon Christ for salvation are saints, made holy by the Lord. We are all “fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God” (Ephesians 2:19).
We are not saints because we have been declared to be saints by a church, nor can we work our way to sainthood. Once we are saved by faith, however, we are called to certain actions befitting our calling as saints of God. “But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: ‘Be holy, because I am holy’” (1 Peter 1:15-16). Saints are not sinless, but the lives of saints do reflect the reality of the presence of Christ in our hearts, in whom we “live and move and have our being” (Acts 17:28).
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Very in depth interpretation of the meaning of saint in a Christian context. I don’t know what this has to do with what I previously said but you clearly know your Bible.
james kile To shed light on the life of christians prior to and after marriage, since the act of marriage does not make anyone holier.
Demons are fallen angels, as Revelation 12:9 indicates: “The great dragon was hurled down-that ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, who leads the whole world astray. He was hurled to the earth, and his angels with him.” Satan’s fall from heaven is symbolically described in Isaiah 14:12-15 and Ezekiel 28:12-15. When he fell, Satan took some of the angels with him-one third of them, according to Revelation 12:4. Jude 6 also mentions angels who sinned. So, biblically, demons are fallen angels who, along with Satan, chose to rebel against God.
Some of the demons are already locked “in darkness, bound with everlasting chains” (Jude 1:6) for their sin. Others are free to roam and are referred to as “the powers of this dark world and . . . the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” in Ephesians 6:12 (cf. Colossians 2:15). The demons still follow Satan as their leader and do battle with the holy angels in an attempt to thwart God’s plan and hinder God’s people (Daniel 10:13).
Demons, as spirit beings, have the ability to take possession of a physical body. Demonic possession occurs when a person’s body is completely controlled by a demon. This cannot happen to a child of God, since the Holy Spirit resides in the heart of the believer in Christ (1 John 4:4).
Jesus, during His earthly ministry, encountered many demons. Of course, none of them were a match for the power of Christ: “Many who were demon-possessed were brought to him, and he drove out the spirits with a word” (Matthew 8:16). Jesus’ authority over the demons was one of the proofs that He was indeed the Son of God (Luke 11:20). The demons who encountered Jesus knew who He was, and they feared Him: “‘What do you want with us, Son of God?’ [the demons] shouted. ‘Have you come here to torture us before the appointed time?’” (Matthew 8:29). The demons know their end will be one of torment.
Satan and his demons now look to destroy the work of God and deceive anyone they can (1 Peter 5:8; 2 Corinthians 11:14-15). The demons are described as evil spirits (Matthew 10:1), unclean spirits (Mark 1:27), lying spirits (1 Kings 22:23), and angels of Satan (Revelation 12:9). Satan and his demons deceive the world (2 Corinthians 4:4), promulgate false doctrine (1 Timothy 4:1), attack Christians (2 Corinthians 12:7; 1 Peter 5:8), and combat the holy angels (Revelation 12:4-9).
The demons/fallen angels are enemies of God, but they are defeated enemies. Christ has “disarmed the powers and authorities,” and He has “made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross” (Colossians 2:15). As we submit to God and resist the devil, we have nothing to fear. “The one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world” (1 John 4:4).
If you can’t financially support a child don’t let God be your birth control! That’s a baaaad idea.
GOD gave both of you a brain. Im agreeing with you
I agree with this. I feel very ready to be a mother but my husband and I don't yet have a steady financial standing so therefore I am waiting. I want to provide everything for my child I don't want to bring them into a stressed out environment
I think the point is rather that if you're financially unstable you probably should start tithing before the next time you have sex. If you're walking in financial freedom , don't use birthcontrol. If not, stop having sex for a while and pray and fast about your financial issues.
Its a very very good idea to let God be Lord over your body and walking in alignment with the word.
@@helixmoore7636 he also gave everyone free will so for them to say if it happens it was God's will is ridiculous. It was THEIR will because they decided to risk pregnancy and test science aka: sperm+egg+ovulation= pregnancy and that is just a fact. God doesn't control it, it's free will. If you do the dirty there's always a chance a little one will come around.
Morgan: “yeah, sex isn’t always going to be great!!”
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Hetero sex 🤣
@@amandashaver8887 fr lol
Lololol body language tells all tales
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As an atheist, this was a very interesting video to watch. Thanks for sharing your views, not many Christians talk about this things.
Dude, words in a book will not change an atheists mind. There are several other books from other religions that say stuff too. Do you believe them too?
Jeremiah Tassinari annnnnnnnd this is why there’s such a divide between religious people’s and atheists. The OP was kind and supportive. Just because they don’t believe doesn’t immediately mean they’ll benefit from you quoting countless scripture. If anything, that pushes people away even more.
Sarah Bird I’d like to recommend a documentary called “Science Falsely So Called” to you. It makes a lot of good, logical points for those who are nonbelievers. Hope you can give it a look, cuz ik it helped me with a lot of my doubts about the subject.
Sarah Bird
None of these other books have a living God nor inspired word with tons of fulfilled prophesy.....Dude.
Dont bother responding.
Hey! Thank you for this comment! There's a lotta judgemental atheist stereotypes out there, and this is the perfect example that not all atheists are God-hating Christian-hating wild apathetic blah blah and such as some people who call themselves Christians think. Just as there are crazy views of Christians that aren't true for all (which hopefully Paul&Morgan help counteract), there are crazy views of atheists, which your comment helps counteract. Kudos to you👍
Oh and don't be too bothered by the come-to-Jesus advice and scripture quotes and such; God has called His followers to reach out to the lost and spread His truth, so it's a little hard to resist the urge when the opportunity presents itself lol. It's almost instinct, especially for those who know the love of God and want that for others.
Have a nice life!❤
I love how Paul’s world came crashing down when his wife says sex isn’t always fireworks man that must of stung rip Paul
I have no issue with people waiting until marriage but one thing that has always made me curious is, why do young couples that are deciding to wait until marriage get married young if it isn’t about sex? Or is it about sex? How do you really know the person if you have only known them for a few months? I have so many questions about this topic but I won’t get into all of them.
Sarah Rumley it is partially about sex in terms of the rush... I’m getting married at 20 but have been dating my fiancé for 4 years! Not everyone rushes but it is very hard to wait. His family wanted him to wait longer, but we knew we were getting married eventually, and we didn’t really want to wait years to be together in that way.
It’s not 100% about sex(in my case), and it may sound cliche but when you know, you know. I married my husband a year and one month after officially dating. We wanted to try our hardest to be God honoring, though WERENT perfect at all. We knew we wanted to get married, so we did as soon as possible. If we had waited longer it would’ve left more time for temptation, and we were insanely in love so we didn’t want go waste any time.
Not all couples marry young because of sex
@JacobTheLittleBro such a thoughtful answer!
Well it does say in the bible that “if they cannot excersise self control, they should marry. For it is better to marry then to burn with passion.” Corinthians 7:9
If someone is financially, emotionally, and/or physically unprepared to have a child, they have no obligation to "trust god" to see if they have them or not. It's not selfish. It's also not selfish to just not want to have kids.
Actually, as Christians, we're called to trust God in all walks of life, not just the ones we want to...
Welllllllllll actually I get where your coming from but I honestly believe that if you want your freedom as a person you also need to understand that that freedom comes with responsibilities so if you have unprotected sex you need to take the responsibility to take care of that child
Period .
Taylor Petty Alright, but I'm not a Christian. Also, literally every Christian I've ever met in real life hasn't believed that they have to "trust god" to give them the amount of kids they can handle. I think Biology will run its course and you'll have kids if you're having unprotected sex (unless there's fertility problems) so it's much more responsible to take your fertility into your own hands.
Lindokwethu Mamba Ok sure, so why not use contraception to prevent having kids if they can't take care of them?
I saw a pastor and his wife on stage discussing their intimate lives in a bit of detail. I thought it was awesome. It was funny and bold and was an example to the church as to how to be within a marriage--without being gross. Thank you for putting yourselves out there. The younger generations, in particular, need to hear this and feel encouraged.
While I haven't been a nun for my adult life, as my faith increases, so does my chastity. About seventeen years now (twelve years with the improved version). It can be done. And I miss nothing, except what I never had--lifetime commitment and Love through marriage vows.
Thanks for the encouraging comment 😊❤️
You’re awesome! 👏🏻 God bless you
I’m an atheist and I was good until y’all went anti- birth control. We may disagree and that’s fine but damn. Y’all can’t actually believe god controls whether or not a sperm makes it to the egg????
Birth control is healthy, effective, and perfectly okay to use. And it’s perfectly okay to not want to be a parent, whether it’s for right now or forever. Regardless of religious beliefs.
Brittiany Perkins Wow! We Christians totally believe God is in control of babies and timing! Its his most precious gift how could you not?
What about the people who can’t get pregnant? Are they just out of luck by God’s will? All that aside, “Jesus is my birth control,” is not a healthy way to go about sex. If you can’t support a child, use birth control! There’s no shame or selfishness for wanting to provide a stable life for you child. Jesus specifically didn’t test God gg jumping off of a building or cliff or whatever so you should take control of your own child brain functions.
Child baring*
blondie 4lyfe No we as Christians do not believe that
blondie 4lyfe I’m a Christian and can say with certainty that no we definitely don’t believe that 🙅♀️🤦♀️
This might be completely unrelated, but it’s something a mentor of mine taught me. I was sexually abused growing up and sexually assaulted when I was 13. It was really brutal but thankfully I’m doing great and God has done an enormous work in my life to say the least. I say that to say, through those bad encounters, I experienced a lot of spiritual and emotional confusion, depression, etc. If sex can be that influential to me in that context, how much worse (influence wise) could it be outside of marriage with my consent? I can’t even imagine!! Thank you guys for being bold! 🙏🏻
Edit: I’d like to add - I’m speaking from my own perspective of the confusion, hurt, and anger I experienced after going through what I did and feel that sex outside of marriage, for me, would cause a lot of problems in my life!
Rebecca Harris You’re so incredibly strong! May God continue to give you strength and peace of mind because you are beautiful and loved by the One True King ❣️
praying for you... Jesus loves you and you are so precious to Him!
God bless you, I pray for your continued recovery 🙏❤
You guys are all so amazing 💛 I’m so excited to see where God takes me through this journey! Thank you all so much 💜
I was sexually assaulted from four till 10
While I don't agree with a lot of the points made, it's still the most open and honest I've seen a Chrisitan blog talk about sex. I appreciate that.
As a 17 year old I’ve always wanted to hear a christians perspective on it. Thank you for this💖
Jeanmarie Perez woohoo! You’re so welcome 😄💜
What do you mean? They’re perspective is literally all over the place. They’re never stop talking about it.
Nothing wrong with sex, be safe and smart
You may want to check Pastor Todd's Lay with Fire too!
I lost my virginity at 16 to my partner so clearly I disagree, if I didn't I'd be a hypocrite. As a child I was raised Christian and always wanted to wait til marriage, even after I left the Christian faith (I left as a teen Because of various different problems with my mental and physical health so I decided to focus on my needs instead) I still wanted to wait. I eventually decided I didn't though (clearly) and decided I would wait for two things:
-Wait until I find someone I treasure and love unconditionally
-Wait until I, myself as an individual am ready.
I met my partner, fell in love with him and decided I was ready. We're still together years later btw, not that all teen relationships end up passing highschool and college etc but we made it. He's a Catholic but I personally still don't talk much about religion. I don't know what to call myself, I don't follow religion very well but I do believe in God or that if God doesn't exist than at least SOMETHING might.
I have a controversial question for you two however and a question regarding myself:
1. Is my relationship any less of a relationship or a so called impure one if we started having intercourse before we were married?
2. When it comes to sexual assault do you consider it counts and makes you any less "pure?" I ask this because I myself was a sexual assault victim at the age of 15 by an ex boyfriend who was very manipulative and controlling. I've met some who tell me that obviously it wasn't my fault but I need to "repent" Because I still "sinned" because he assaulted me. This is probably a huge reason why I also left the faith for a while mental health wise. I didn't even accept what happened to me until about a year later and was still being contacted by my ex who told me things to make me feel guilty as if I was the one who "wanted it"
Would appreciate a detailed response.
Delihlah, first I am sorry that you had to experience that pain. I myself was raped (by my female doctor, who unfortunately got away with her crimes) and I can say that I also heard such things from other Christian's. From people who knew nothing of the pain and horror I was in. Honestly I say that the church did more harm to me than it did good. I left church and went to God on my own, though I will not say that my faith was unshaken. I questioned God, but know that I only got through it because of His strength (I prayed during my attack as I couldn't get away and knew of others {like Christine Caine, from her books}) that survived raped). I was in deep pain and my own body became my enemy. I was victim blamed and shamed by the ER nurses who were supposed to help me and others in my life, it was awful.
I do not believe that an act that is forced upon, such as rape, makes us impure in anyway. I do not believe that my being raped makes me dirty a year later (though as is normal I was obsessed with getting clean right away,but that's not what we are talking about here). I don't know about you, but for me the pain of other believers telling me that is was somehow my fault and that I just needed to just forgive her (they are Wrong and WRONG!) was even more painful than the original attack. Only recently (past 6 months) have I gone inside another church again. The pastor at the church that I currently attend is doing a series on forgiveness and in the first part he talks about the one exception, and that is abuse, rape being a type of abuse. You can watch it online at www.cbclascruces.org/messages/on-demand?sapurl=Lys0NjcyL2xiL21pLys0cGM0NTgyP2JyYW5kaW5nPXRydWUmZW1iZWQ9dHJ1ZQ==
I recommend watching it if you feel up to it. I know it gave me clarity and a release.
@@melissar.2737 I myself am a Christian! And no, I dont think any person should half to repent or ask for forgiveness if they were rapped! But purposely committing fornication is a whole story.
I myself am a Christian! No I dont think any person should half to repent or ask for forgiveness if they truly were raped. But it's a whole knew story when it comes to purposely fornicating.
@@tyronesmith6921 “committing fornication” oh lord
So, this is totally irrelevant, but .... It kinda bothers me that the channel name is "Paul and Morgan" but Paul is usually in the right half of the screen, and Morgan on the left side. I feel like you guys should sit with Paul on the left, and Morgan on the right ... to match the channel name and your signs on the wall.
Omg someone give Lauren a medal!
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“Morgan and Paul” sounds like “Josh and Drake” it’s not right at all
I think this encourages rape culture tbh... now hear me out. I waited until I was 22 to have sex. I was an evangelical Christian and wanted to wait till marriage. But I fell in love and honestly thought I'd be spending my life with him, or could very easily. By the end of our relationship he was having nonconsensual sex with my body (rape, I'd call it). I confronted him. He essentially said "that's the way it is, deal with it." (I broke up with him a week after that). The first six to nine months weren't like that though. I'm SO grateful I didn't wait till marriage. What if we HAD been married? What if you're with someone and you don't know what they're going to be like in bed? I say absolutely "no thanks" to that.
Hey love, was the guy a Christian? God says to cherish your wife and do not deal harshly with her, to love her with the sacrificial love of Christ towards the church ... If he was a follower of God and valued you as a daughter of the Most High he shouldn't have had sex with you before marriage in the first place, much less doing so without your consent. Being a Christian means you strive to choose God's way over your own, so no matter how much you yourself want to have sex, you honor God's plan for sex and marriage.
Anywho, I don't think saving yourself for marriage encourages rape culture at all. What does encourage it, is not fully knowing someone's heart and the way they value you before getting married. I wouldn't want to marry someone who hasn't shown through his words, actions, worship, and countenance that God is his Lord and that he would cherish me with love and gentleness.
I don't mean to be harsh, but it's a bit upsetting to see someone's view of God's way skewed because of someone else's failure to uphold the character of God, especially when I know the God I serve is good and wants the best for you.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, love.❤
@@kaylanfomby7506 the bible also says that a man needs sex, it's like water. And that a women is made to satisfy their needs. Don't get it twisted bc one part says something. It doesn't match up and it's all how you interpret it. So her husband, although christian, is interpreting the bible in a different way than you, which is a reason why religion is so dangerous. You are just using excuses.
redhatgnome rape culture in America does not exist if that’s what you’re referring to
Waiting for sex before marriage doesn't encourage rape culture. Stop twisting the beauty God has created to fulfill your sinful desires. Plus, there is no such thing as rape culture.
@@kaylanfomby7506 just because your Christian doesn't automatically make you a good person
i just can’t take paul seriously in the spongebob sweater 😂 😂
p.s. all love here paul ✊🏽 😆
in all seriousness, this is probably my favorite video yet of yalls. this is such a christian advice video and more of the world and the young generation needs to see this. love you guys!
Thank you Cat! 😁
I am a complete weirdo and probably a contradiction, I have only slept with my husband, and I am agnostic. I disagree with many of your points and found you two through Mr. Atheist, yet I think you present your beliefs and advice in a respectful, thoughtful, and levelheaded way. Keep it up! ♥️
Wow thank you Courtney :) Appreciate you watching
So not wanting to have children is selfish? Wow
They arent the best teachers. No it isnt selfish. Not all couples have children.
@it's just me Amen! I get so pissed at the its selfish to not have children. It is selfish to bring children into abject poverty it is selfish to have children because you feel pressured and obligated. Have them because you want them and can provide and love them. And if you dont want them thats dandy too.
No! It is not! Plenty of married people don't want kids. There is nothing wrong with that.
Genesis 1:28 "And God blessed them, and God said unto them be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the world" Having children are 1. a blessing from God, and 2. part of God's will for a married couple
@@annalewc Id partially agree but YHVH has different plans for different couples. Not all were meant to have children and there are many who struggle with infertility. And HE told the 6th day creation to Re Plenish the Earth. Please read about the account at Theseason.org
Thank you for this. As a 17 year old young woman your channel gives me hope that I can stay true to myself as a Christian and that love will come at the right time. And that I shouldn’t feel pressured to buy into the expectations for love and sex in today’s day and age. I love you guys 💓💓
Tomi O amen!! That is so awesome girl. Love that! We appreciate you very much! Love you right back! 💜🙏🏼
As an atheist I wish you the best of luck in this path, your life is your business and nobody else's.
Gullible! You are ignorant and Gullible! Jesus is only a mythological sun god made up by a greek writing team, that is why he has 12 decilples and dies and rises again, and is born on Dec 25 and his birth initiates the start of the Age of Pieces the fish! Because Christ is only a metaphor for Gods SUN as it moved through the 12 months of the Zodiac, during the age of Picese the Fish! And totally and completely never ever exsited in history, he is 100% fake and man made allegory myth!!!! That is why Judas gives Jesus the kiss of death, because Judas is only a symbol for the month of Scorpio, scorpion bites look like a kiss mark, and are called the Kiss of death, you are a gulible sun worshiper!!!! Sun Worshipper! Learn Critical thinking skills and do not be brain washed and exploited by the Horrible cancer of Religion!!
The Channel That’s my belief and I’m going to stand by it. I’m not being gullible or ignorant and no one is brainwashing me. This is what I CHOOSE to believe in and nothing is going to shake my faith. Thank you for your input, but I do not agree with what you’re saying. Have a nice night.
@@tomilolaoyasiji3620 No, choosing to believe empty assertions without sufficient evidence is the very defintion of GULIBLE, you need sufficient evidence to justify belief if you want to correctly assert you are not gullible, you choose to belive because it sounds good to you, and makes you feel good, but you must be brain washed and gullible if you are choosing to accept empty assertions just because they are written upon paper, and for this reason you cannot escape the Gulible label, sorry but the bible is already completely refuted as false, already, and you are only choosing to be willfully ignorant, sad but true.
You guys are SO cute! enjoyed listening to what you had to say. You might be surprised, but this stuff pertains to all ages. I'm a 64 yr old widow, just found a wonderful Christian man that I'm going to date. I panicked when I started thinking about this subject, and thought I'd better be doing some studying! lol Thank you both! Bless you!
Awe so cool to hear that, Sue! God bless you 😊
I pray that I will meet a godly man like Paul one day
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I pray you do sister
Moonflower D. Thank you so much. It means a lot 😊
Same here! And let him be sexy as Fudge
Amy Rose ohhhh totally 😂
How is birth control bad in christianity? I'm an atheist and I can't see why it's bad. How is it considered "selfish" not to have kids? It's just a life plan.
PRINCE KRAZIE
I think it’s ok to use a condom or something like this. But I don’t agree with the pill you know what pill (I don’t know how is it called in English lol =)) )
@@booksarefromheaven49 Why not the pill? What's wrong with it?
PRINCE KRAZIE
I honestly don’t know much about it. Doesn’t it kill the embrion already formed?
@@booksarefromheaven49 I don't either, but I'm sure there are pills that don't kill anything and just prevent pregnancy altogether.
PRINCE KRAZIE
Maybe
It really bothers me how many atheists feel the need to come onto your channel and downvote your videos. Christians don't bother atheists.
Haha yeah it is rather strange
Or also the "btw im an atheist" at the start of every comment acting as if that was something to be proud of
Morgan! Thank you. I’m a new baby Christian and I’m still learning. I bought my first Bible two months ago and have started going to church.
I unfortunately didn’t wait to have sex.....long story short, I’ve met a guy. He’s Christian and a virgin. I feel like you were talking to me in this video. I’m officially going to come to you for advice and opinion. Again thank you so much 🙏🏼 😊
Awe thanks for the comment :) Keep reading God’s word❤️
I love Jesus, I’m a proud Christian, and guess what? I’ve been having pre marital sex for many years. Happily not married and instead have been with my guy for 8 years and will continue to live that way. If you choose to have sex before marriage that is your choice. Jesus loves us even when we sin.
I think this was the best video you've made on this topic. There is bound to be disagreements lol, but it was very fair and balanced, and honest. Ultimately, being open and honest about your convictions and what you believe about sensitive topics, as long as it isn't hurtful, is honorable.
Esdras Lopez thank you so much! We really appreciate that! 😊🙏🏼
This is good video. This video help a lot of people. Thank you. Love this channel.
I love you two sooo much, thank you for everything!!❤❤❤❤
Awe😊❤️
@@PaulandMorgan sjshjxbsnajjajzh😭❤😭❤😭❤
What you are doing gives power and helps many people. God bless you!❤❤❤
If anyone is reading this know that its totally okay to have premarital sex. Dont let these two make you think its not okay. Just because you are married doesnt mean you will be sexually compatible.
"We believe sex is a great thing"
Oh boy, do I despise this channel and all the videos you two make. I love that Mr. Atheist has broken down some of these videos in such a rational way. I grew up in a cult-like family that not only taught horrific gender roles and True Love Waits, but also knew about molestation happening to both myself and my sister and didn't take it to the law. They claimed that the God of the Bible would forgive my father for molesting us because he sought God's forgiveness and confessed his sins unto the Lord. I had to live under the same roof with my father for six more years after being molested and both he and my mother continued to teach purity to us. They taught us that women have control of their sexuality and men don't. They used Biblical references and verses to defend these views. They taught me that homosexuality was a sin. I was a closeted bisexual until I was 26 years old because of fear. I watch your videos only to remind myself that your teachings are toxic and more evil than this "world" you are always referring to. And I am not an atheist and I do not hate spirituality. But I hate this kind of religious doctrine. This kind of religious dogma is dangerous and ruins peoples' lives. It nearly ruined my life. I am so grateful for loving, open people in the gay community, quaker community (my spirituality), my loving queer spouse, my accepting friends from all walks of life and beliefs, and most of all--to the loving (non-gendered) God that I believe exists. Not your nasty, psychopath, gendered Father God. Disgusting.
Also--your viewpoint about family planning is ignorant. There is nothing selfish about waiting to have children OR not having children at all.
Rachel Batz What your dad did is wrong and I'm sorry, but you can't blame God!! In fact God loves us and made rules for are own good!! He says to love your neighbor as your self, but your dad didn't do that by miss treating you!! It says to not have sex with your father, well you couldn't help that, so I would put the blame on your dad. It's not God who's messed up and cruel, it's people!! I am deeply sorry for what you had to go through and I pray that God will show you the truth!!
@@KAyLA_K It's spelled mistreat not miss treating. Also, the God of the Bible can, according to scripture, protect his children. I prayed for years that God would protect me from my dad. And do not pray for me. I don't need you to pray for some kind of perverse "truth". I know what I believe and live a life of rationalism, logic, and further discovery.
hey love, I'm so sorry you hold such animosity towards God and His love and those who are trying to follow Him. It's really sad that you don't know these two people but still manage to have such hostility towards them just because they're trying to help others of the same belief as them. The God I know, love, and serve does not condone what happened to you in any way, nor did He want that for you. He cried for you, actually. Seeing your pain hurt Him too, but the truth is that God doesn't immediately shield us from every bad thing that could ever happen, and there is such a thing as evil spirits and forces. The doctrine your parents taught you does not sound like it was a true reflection of God's way, for God's way is not that of religious doctrine anyway, as Jesus tried to tell the Pharisees and the disciples following Him. It is a life of peace, gentleness, love, kindness, self control, wisdom, and purity. Just because people say they follow God's way doesn't mean they actually do, for that is determined by the condition of your heart, not outward appearance. Hence, look at the heart of this channel. They are trying to help others. Why attack them in such a way? The misrepresentation of God's teachings by your parents to you is what ruined your life, love. Not the teachings themselves. May God soften your heart to give you peace and joy even in the face of those who have harmed you❤
+Kaylan Fomby I have a relationship with God. Just not their God or my parents God and not yours. Don't call me love.
Rachel Batz Hi, I grew up in a “Christian home”. My parents didn’t believe me when I finally confessed I had been molested all throughout elementary school by a family member in middle school. That lesson taught me that our homes aren’t always perfect even if Christian is plastered all over them. My parents are sinners, still are but I won’t go on in my life holding resentment over that. I enjoy God and his perfect love for me and that allows me to forgive the parents I thought could never fail me. But I know you situation is different, your own dad who was supposed to love and protect you. All I can say is I’m sorry, but you are stronger than that man. What he did in hypocrisy can never compare to the perfect love from God. If you are still reading please hear the plea of my heart, you are loved by God. What your dad did to you can never compare to what God did for you to be new. God bless.
Very good video very informative thank you for sharing
You two are adorable (hahaha Morgan at 5.18)😂🤩! We appreciate your talking about this even when it's awkward and personal. So thank you for these videos!! I'm almost 22 and I'm still waiting and these videos and seeing your godly relationship encourage me to not settle for anything less than a solid Christian man. 😍💖🤗
Caroline Urena hehehe 💁🏻♀️😛
Thanks so much girl. Really appreciate you and your heart for the Lord. You’re a blessing 💜
Caroline Urena I’m also almost 22 and still waiting. And I love Paul and Morgan’s videos. So encouraging.
@@priscilladewey1201 Me too! 💖💖
I am a christian man, a sinner, but saved. I am still waiting haha
This was really great. I liked your response to Mr. Athiest too. I admire your patience with so many haters and just all these crude, base people. 😠 It's good that you minister to them and show love; they may be saved. God will bring justice to you for your forbearance with their hate. "Wait for the Lord. Be strong and let your heart take courage. Wait for the Lord." - Psalm 27:14
Amen, thank you Gary!
Despite the fact that I disagree with most of the ideology in this video, I'm really glad that you guys seem to have a healthy and enjoyable sex life. Many people don't get that privilege after waiting until marriage, so congratulations.
Thanks Paul and Morgan!! I appreciate this video, y’all are such a powerful example to so many of us!! God bless y’all😁😁😁😄😄🐥
Thank you Gracie!❤️
Yes guys!!! Kudos for tackling this topic and handling it with grace, honesty, and love! I think it was Bethany from Girl Defined who said that Christians' fear to talk about sex in a God-honouring fashion is actually contributing to the idea in the church that sex within marriage is still somehow dirty and taboo. Really appreciated how you guys emphasized communication as one of the key ways to combat wedding-night-awkwardness :P Martha Peace in her book The Excellent Wife encouraged wives in particular to let their husbands know what they're comfortable/uncomfortable with, what hurts, and what they enjoy instead of just expecting the man to figure it out. I feel like with sex as with any other part of marriage, communication is soooo important!!! Love you guys and keep shining
Tabby RH thank you so much girl!! Yes and amen to communication! It’s such an important thing man. Phew. In every single aspect. Us ladies tend to just assume that the men will know what we’re thinking. But I don’t know if that’s ever been the case 😂😛
I love Girl Defined. It's a shame they get a ton of hate though, smh 😒
As someone who has a very complicated heart condition, takes a very harsh medication for it while also not using birth control, got pregnant, and ended up in the emergency room because my medication, in the words of my doctor, "fried the crap out of my baby" and could have killed me. I think treating birth control as a medical device is a better way to view it. My doctor.. many doctors infact, have told me having a baby, in my case, is not without risk. I might die, my baby might die, we both might die. My baby could come out very badly deformed. I would need to be highly monitored and put on a medication that's safe for baby but not 100% guaranteed to work for me.
For me, saying maybe I'm not trusting God by using birth control is extreamly hurtful. I wanted my baby, me an my husband cried for days after losing our baby. It still hurts months later. I trusted God to keep my baby alive under less then ideal circumstances and my baby died. I don't blame God cause in the end it was my fault for getting pregnant while on my medication. I should have been on birth control and went to my doctors first and hatched out a plan with them to try and give me and my baby the best chance at a healthy life. So, do I trust God with my birth control 100%...I trust he will keep my birth control working and doing its job of preventing pregnancy until I can safely bring a baby into this world. I think it be more selfish of me to stop taking it, get pregnant and die, leaving husband alone, then anything else.
So instead of saying "maybe you're not trusting God" leave it to a personal conviction.
We're living in a fallen world, not eveything is so black and white.
Just would also like to mention that I think it's perfectly okay that this is your choice to not use birth control. As far as we all know you're healthy aka having a child should prove little risk to you and/or baby and as far as we know you're financially stable.
So I can also understand why is would be difficult for you to understand and comprehend how someone who doesn't have your physical and financial advantages could not agree with your "biblical" view point, even if they are also a believer. I hope you never have to be told by your doctor that your baby has died because of complications regarding a medical condition and I pray neither you or your future children have to live off mac and cheese because you're not bringing in enough money to cover all your bill's + food.
You guys are so brave for making this video. Proud of you two!!! Praying for yall and your channel xo
Thank you Carla❤️
I came here after Mr. Atheist's video and, as an agnostic, I believe you have a very healthy approach to sex and your suggestions are pretty good regardless of religion. Congrats guys, I respect you.
Thank me for watching, Maria :)
I really enjoyed this video, thanks! It's nice to know that there are young Christians out there who believe according to the Bible like me. And who realize that we won't always understand God's commands, but we still need to obey them. This was really encouraging. Thank you.
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They used my question!!!! It was the last one. I am not married so don't need to be thinking about that yet but I feel special, haha
@Collin 02456 I'm only saying this because I know how strong simple comments like that can make someone doubt their faith in God. If you don't believe on God in Christianity, please keep it to yourself. There is a simple spirit of unbelief going around lurking to find who he can devour, so please, do not cause sisters and brothers to loose their faith in their belief. Of course you may not believe this, but think of the other person please and thank you.
@Collin 02456 Hey love, some people are new to the faith and haven't figured everything out yet, so their belief in certain areas isn't as strong as the next Christian's. Yes, our God is mighty and WAY capable (I would advise you not to insult Him on the off-chance He turns out to be real, btw. If you don't believe, fine. But you shouldn't disrespect what others believe), but that doesn't mean the influence of others' words means nothing.
That being said, it's ok to question God as long as it's with a truly questioning attitude as opposed to mocking or judging or some sorta malful intent about insulting/breaking down the Christian faith. I think the KPOP person was just tryna limit what some Christians call a 'seed of doubt' from being 'planted' in those who don't yet have the experience or knowledge of God's Word to dismiss it.
Lol this is long ... But do you get what I'm saying? You do have a point about shutting down any questions, but you weren't exactly asking a question with the intent of gaining understanding. Would you do the same to a Muslim speaking of their experiences? A Buddhist? A Hindu? I would ask that you respect other people's beliefs, even if you don't agree. There is a way to respectfully disagree, love. And calling someone's beliefs ridiculous, extreme, or silly isn't doing that. Be kind, my friend.
There are people behind these comments, with lives and experiences and scars and emotions and stories and friends and hurts and random favorite colors or preferences in weather or whatever. Your comments say something to these people. So please be kind❤
@Collin 02456 You're right, it shouldn't. But OuR cHrIsTiAnItY, doesn't mean that it doesn't come with temptations. God told us temptations will come and that doesn't just mean sexual things, it could be those kinds of things such as people trying to give you doubt on God. Of course you atheist will say something about me telling you not to date question our God. I could care less if you did, but it's not like you asked her in a questioning way. You just said 'there is no God.' You don't believe in God, but if you did, we may not show it- but we are humans too with feelings and a conscious. So idc if you're trying to tell someone about what makes God seem as if he doesn't exist, but that doesn't mean you should just declare it like that. Last time I checked "Freedom of Religion" is a thing. I'm not questioning your religion- I wish I could persuade you to change it- but I am not in the appropriate place to tell you what to believe in, so please do not do it to others.
And what exactly do you mean extreme things? It ain't extreme if I know spirits are real . That's like, a basic knowledge I've learned as a Christian since it's legit in the Bible. You may have not seen it, but that's not an extreme thing since I have word proof of it. If I were someone who believed like, you shouldn't uhhhhhh..... walk on the left side of the street because we're on the right side of God, then yes, you could say that's extreme but I don't believe in those types of things, because there's nothing truly to back it up.
I'm sorry if its difficult to understand what I mean, English isn't my first language
Thanks for asking Michelle!❤️
@Collin 02456 could I point something out that happened like that? U didn't ask me, but I have idk how to describe it, something that would help put a thought in your head about that
You guys make marriage so exciting and an adventure to look forward to!
Haha thank you! :)
As I think they explained clearly, birth control is not a black and white subject. They are sharing what they have come to believe through study and prayer, and I for one think having conversations about these topics can be helpful in forming one's own opinions on modern issues like birth control. Biblically, sex outside of marriage is sin. That's very clear. But birth control didn't exist in the first century and so this is a topic that Christians have to study as more of a balance between trust and wisdom.
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@@PaulandMorgan Thank YOU guys! Love and appreciate your channel!! ❤❤
I like Paul's sweater
Natalie Di Giulian it’s pretty cool😄 Love your profile pic!! Haha
Where did you get it???
We understand why
Hey there Paul and Morgan. This is your atheist friend who has a lot of great respect for you. I’m actually glad you’re expressing what you feel. Even though I may not agree with you. And also, even though you haven’t verified anything. But you’re really good people and I cheer you on. And I support you.
Love this! I like how you guys are talking about this with a Biblical perspective! ♥️😊
Thank you Regan!
The Bible makes it clear that you can be married to hundreds of women while having hundreds of concubines. Is Paul admitting that he's living under this biblical mandate? Suh-weet, bro! You do you!!!
First time here. Love your vedios already ❤🦋
Awe welcome!
I love love love your glasses!! Nice video!
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Y’all, this is a very helpful video! Thank you for making it! I am very happy that I can help support y’all ministry because y’all really are helping people!!! 💙💛🙌 I’m praying for y’all 🙏
Your support means a lot to us Sarah!❤️ Thank you!
rules of being a good Christian
>dont hug before marriage
>dont kiss before marriage
>dont make prolonged eye contact before marriage
>dont have any contact before you're married
>no touching bibles before you're married, the leather might tempt you.
Exactly. It’s bullshit. I love a person like you who understands. Plus, isn’t it lust or sexual attraction that partly gets a couple married?
I don’t think sex could be awkward on your wedding night. You’re marrying someone because you’re in love with them, they’re your best friend, you’re comfortable with them, and this is someone who has promised their life to you so why would it be awkward? I’m waiting till marriage not only because I believe sex is something God made to be done between a wife and a husband, but because I also think I’d be much more comfortable being intimate and vulnerable only with someone who has promised their life to me. Just a thought I had while watching this.
I thought the same thing as you did, but I really, really regretted it in the end...
brown eyes I’m sorry you regretted your decision. I think if I’m cautious and I listen to God I’ll know when I’m with the right person. I think people think too little of marriage and don’t really understand that it’s something sacred and that God made it to be permanent (not directed to you, I mean this in general). I’m gonna trust God and trust that he’ll bring the right guy into my life. Then when I’m married someday and I take that step with my husband I don’t think I’ll regret it.
@@Mari-il4bw thank you for your response. I do really hope things will work out for you.
For me, I did not so much underestimate marriage, I underestimated the importance of good sex within a relationship. I loved my partner. He was my best friend, truly, I could laugh and cry with him, and I felt like he was my soulmate.
But then, when we finally had sex, it didn't work. It literally didn't. For a long time I blamed my body, thought I just couldn't, somehow. And for quite some time, we both just accepted that it was fine.. But in the end, it wasn't. The lack of physical intimacy started to cause problems. We still hugged, and kissed, but it wasn't enough. Sex is very important, but we didn't realise it.
We started to fight. Often. I kept on trying to fix the relationship, when others told me to get out. I felt like I should stay with him. Until he cheated on me, lied about it, and didn't show up at my grandads funeral. Finally I could see then, that I should not stay within that relationship.
I think, had we had sex earlier on, we would have realised our miss match earlier. I think, had we split up sooner, things wouldn't have gone as sour as they did. We could have stayed friends, even, maybe, cause we truly clicked on so many other levels. I didn't get together with him for no reason, of course.
Now, I am in a relationship with someone else. I have discovered that my body can participate in sex without issue, and that I like it as much as I once thought I would. I would never, ever, wait with sex again. Its important to know before you literally and legally bind yourself to someone.
brown eyes I think every couple is different. For instance, I know if two couples who have waited and it worked out fine. I’m willing to take that risk. Again, sorry you went through that.
Sex with anyone for the first time isn’t usually a great experience. You don’t know what you like, you don’t really have experience with how your body responds, it can be uncomfortable/awkward/embarrassing if things go awry. Must be even harder if you’ve never done anything physical before marriage, or even masturbated so you at least know your own body well enough to guide your partner a little and make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.
Plus there’s the potential issue of sexual incompatibility, as the other reply describes. It’s not something you can predict or fix and something you can only discover through actually having sex with someone. Sexual incompatibility comes in many forms, from different libidos, to mismatched desires/expectations, to your bodies just not ‘working’ with each other, to having different turn ons or levels of experimentation that mean you can’t actually pleasure each other properly. It can put a lot of pressure/damage on long term relationships and even end them.
"Intended for Pleasure" is a really great sexual education book written from a Christian perspective! My husband and I were gifted that book during our pre-marital counseling, and I think it's really well done.
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I love Paul’s spongebob shirt. 😂 I know that’s totally random lol
Haha me too😊
I love this channel so much. I look forward to every video that comes out.
That means a lot Michael!😊😊
Appreciate these Q&A's. I've really been trying to keep myself pure and I have these kinds of talks with my parents as well. Nice to see that there are those out there who aren't following the world. Keep it up!
1.boundaries and bringing them up and writing them is the best thing you can do.
Great video friends ❤️
P.s Paul I think spongebob eyes are judging ....😂 jk.
Waiting for sex in marriage is beautiful and something to be proud of not ashamed of.
Hey Monica! Thanks for the comment hope you’re doing well😊
you are a great example of what a Christian should be!!!
I wish you the best Pastor Paul and
Morgan who is a beautiful and virtuous woman of God :)
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As a Catholic, I believe the reproductive element of sex is integral to its nature and cannot be removed from the act; therefore, I believe oral sex and birth control to be immoral. As he says in the video, however, if you feel something to be immoral in your heart, that is a message from God to you and you must act on it.
I do as well and im non denomination Christian
Hi thank you for sharing this video I'm 22 years old and this is my weakness i wanted someone to encourage me but i don't have any one to share with so
Thank you so much you guys encouraging me alot to be a godly woman of God
Love you both.... God bless!
Bella Fayre I’m 22 too I can understand
You 2 remind me of 2 people from my camp (Gimli Bible Camp), they made me feel so safe and happy😆 I love Morgan’s personality it’s awesome!!
Awe thanks❤️
That intro though😂 Great video!
Haha thanks Micah!
Gosh this is so needed in this era. Many of us grew up not being able to be open about sex (it’s why I’m so shy about it now). So this is a great thing you’re doing .
Thank you :)
I am still a virgin in the case of having no intercourse. But to be honest I had everything between kissing and oral sex and I wished I had not done it. I am still happy that I can give something to my future wife that no one else got it from me. I still hope the Lord loves me.
He still does
Love you guys!! I just shared this vid and your channel with my daughter, who is a wonderful, Christian teenager. This is where her heart is and this will give her knowledge and reassurance ❤❤❤
Awe yayy😊
I’m an atheist, but I very much appreciate how they continue to push for consent between couples. Thank you 🙏
I'm an atheist too and I completely agree
Then why you are atheist there is morality for atheist
Hello! I love you guys ! Your videos are so helpful, thank you. I as wondering Which book/chapter/verse mentions living in the world but not of the world ?? Thanks!!!
Preserving self from sex before marriage.. Am waiting for my "the one"after marriage. That's my conviction. I want to influence our young people to remain pure before marriage, and Yes by the help of the Lord and strong conviction of the Holy Spirit we can do it. It's worth the wait. I'm Anne, 35 and excited for the right time. :)
If you force someone into anything, thats called rape, honey... not being "ungodly." Jesus christ.
Thank you! It's a great thing in the context of MARRIAGE. Thank you.
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Overall i did enjoy this video you guys made. Very open and honest about your beliefs and i gotta say i do agree with quite a bit of the info you two provided. I'm gonna stick to the plan of waiting and continue praying that God will lead me to true happiness!
Good luck! How old are you?
yay you guys answered the question about oral sex.I’m glad that Morgan said that oral sex is still a form of sex because a lot of us (at least I was) thinking oral outside of marriage might be okay.This was great guys,thank you.
Thanks for the question and your support, Esther!
Esther Blue have you ever heard the loophole song? It’s about Christian sex outside of marriage. Made me think of this! The music video is on TH-cam.
I'm a born again Christian and I am older ( I'm 43 ) my past life was full of active addiction. I, thankfully, have the spirit of truth today within me now so I leave it to God...
Be strong! Your work isn't in vain!! God sees! Bless you guys and your marriage!! Much love ❤
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Thanks guys. I think that y'all approached this topic in a very mature but not overly sober way. Nicely done!
Paul is so awkward its hilarious!!!!
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You guys are adorable! I'm so happy I subscribed🙏❤
I subscribed !! Love your videos ! I'm a Christian too and I totally agree with you guys 😘 Keep going !!
I am so happy to have found your video. As a mother who actually had sex outside of marriage and then through getting to know God understand that I had been living in sin in this area. I repented and changed my ways. I have raised my son, who is now 23, to understand the blessing of waiting until marriage. He has and desires to wait but has trouble hoping to find a girl who also has waited. I tell him to pray and seek God's direction and finding you two gives hope that there are more who have followed God's word concerning the blessing of sex after marriage. God bless your ministry kiddos. Keep spreading hope and love.
You guys have barely been married for a minute and have been having sex for like a second and you think you think you are qualified to give advice on these topics lol
Megan Michelle so so true it's like someone who has just learnt to ride a bike then preaching how to win the Tour de France ! They are so inexperienced and have lived in there middle class Bible Belt bubble.
Yeah, they think being married qualifies them to know everything about sex.
Well even if your new to it, doesn't mean you can't be good at teaching it!!
You can still study about topics, even if you don't do the topics!!:)
I teach about the mark of the beast, but do I have it? No!!
A lot of things you can teach with out having to do the activity.
They don't know everything, but there sharing with us what they do know!!
@@KAyLA_K but what are they basing their knowledge on? They don't even make reference from scripture. I wouldn't trust them.
Right so the devils real ha ha cant believe anyone actually believes such ribbish.even if they use scriptures they still wouldnt listern to them
Bro, I had to click because your SpongeBob shirt, I didn't think that was on your shirt😂😂😂👌👌👌
Leviticus 19:28, ”You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you" Morgan that Tattoo on your arm is a sin girl.
People in glass houses should not throw stones.
You should also understand the reason behind this law. The reason that God commanded his people to not get tattoos was because pagans from the surrounding regions would use tattoos as a form of worship of other false Gods. Most Christians use the New Testament as a hard rule for the laws that should be kept based on moral grounds rather than cultural grounds. I understand that you are trying to call her out for hypocrisy, but if you are going to try and do that, find better points. This was super easy to refute. The New Testament confirms many of the the laws and commandments of the Old Testament. Many Christians believe that the New Testament (which is what Christianity is based on) is where the hard rules are. The Old Testament, especially Leviticus, is full of laws that were more meant for that culture and the struggles that the Israelites would face based on the setting they were in. Many believe this applies to tattoos, as the reason for this law was based on the times. Levitical law especially liked to paint in broad strokes, so as to prevent sin and destructive behavior. God didn’t want pagan symbols tattooed onto his people’s skin.
I dint believe tattoos are wrong. I have several friends who love God very mucb(and myself) we all love God and we all have tattoos. One of my friends has been a christian her whole life and she has a lot of tattoos(including one around her breast). I have a tattoo on my rib cage and i dont think its wrong(i plan to get a lot more tbh). I believe tattoos are only wrong when tbey depict other gods or nudity.
Last part of the video is by far the best lol
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Great job on this video! It’s not an easy topic to talk about but you guys did it with grace and class! Go P&M.
Lovely You by Molly thanks so much girl! You rock 💜🙏🏼
I think what needs to be spoken about more is that when you get married, there are no exceptions. If you, or your significant other is not ready to be intimate with you, you do not owe them that just because you married them. Yes it might test patients, but if you are not ready to submit yourself to that level of vulnerability its okay. Theres just so much expectations for that.
Well, personally i don't agree with the birth control answer.
To me it's not selfish, it has to be with responsibilities.
You can say ok, im not gonna use anything because it's selfish... But let me ask you this: Are you gonna keep not using anything if you become pregnant for the 5th/6th or 7th time?
What about those who got married and both are waiting to finish their colleges for one or two more years... Are they selfish? Or Are they thinking about the time to take care of a family because they don't want to leave the baby on day care or with a nanny?
This are examples, but i do agree with most of the answer. You guys are awesome!! 😎😉👌👍
Be blessed!
I kinda agree.
Well said these two are setting themselves up for some hard times.
It’s probably more selfish to have a child when you cannot afford one or you aren’t at the right place in your life. So no, birth control is not selfish at all.
I think P&M said it depends on the 'why' behind the 'what' from the get go, so I'm pretty sure they'd agree with you. If it's not for selfish reasons, then ok. But they felt convicted by the Holy Spirit for their own reasons for doing it, so I'd say if you aren't feeling convicted then it's ok. All about the heart, loves.
Ergo, you sure you don't agree with them? They said if the reasons are selfish, maybe just give it to God. The reasons behind the scenarios you gave weren't selfish, so it's different. That's what I heard them say, anyway.
Pretty sure in one of their other videos they talked about it and that reason was considered selfish.
God bless you so much for this🙌. I Really needed this.
Paul. I love your sweater!I want one😂
Eden Adams me too
Hehe got it at Urban Outfitters I think :)
This was so helpful and encouraging!
Yay awesome!
Love that you guys are so open to talking about any topic! The Bible is full of such beneficial, good, loving, wise advice! Truly value your videos and they make a difference for the Lord! Keep up the amazing videos!
Awe you guys are sweet❤️
LOVE THESE ADVISE THANK YOU
Well done! Well done! 🙃😘
Marilyn Holder 😘💜
I love masculine men who treat sex with respect and are sexually responsible. Especially when they wait until marriage. Paul you are one of those men. You’re all the things a man should be, responsible, loving, understanding and you know what you believe in. That’s a really attractive thing and I wish more men were like that.
Thank you :)
Yikes. Please explain why consensual sex with someone you know and are comfortable with is harmful BESIDES "bc god said so". We are animals. We are sexual beings. If it's consensual and with good intentions, there is nothing wrong with it. I hear the "harmful" thing, but never explained except for situations that are unlikely between two people who just want to have sex.
@@jensraab2902 thank you. I I just feel they are teaching kids the wrong thing. If they get in a relationship and get married right away, things could go south. Rape could be involved, many things could go wrong. And sexuality isn't something to be ashamed of. I just feel so bad. And the non birth control mentality leads to unplanned pregnancies and children who are born into a family who can't support. Makes me so sad
It is harmful to your future spouse because sex is supposed to be a special act shared only between you and the person you love the most (romantically). Therefore if you have sex with someone else, you are treating the act and your future spouse as if they are not that special. If you don't see sex this way and want to be with people who also don't see sex this way, then I say go for it, but then I don't understand why you're wasting your time watching and commenting on this video when you obviously don't give a crap about the Christian perspective.
Also, I don't know where you got the idea that the solution to being young and wanting to have sex is to rush into marriage... that's messed up.
@@thestorykeeper6818 Oh really save myself for spmeone i dont know. Wouldnt it be better with them if you both have expirience, its doesnt become less special it becomes more if you do it with skmeone you love
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Then you create a soul tie. Then become attached even after you break up.
@@Kescy. What sould tie? I dont know your expirience, its better if they both have experience or even one so they know what thwy are doing.
You guys ARE so incredible 😍😍😍😍
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@@PaulandMorgan oh my goodness thank you for replying. You guys have really helped in what you're doing & it's very admirable!! Thank you for spreading light on godly relationships & living. Love you guys sm!! 💛
Love your glasses, Morgan! What brand are they? I need a new pair lol
ggema thank you!! They’re actually from H&M! Haha 😄
Paul and Morgan So do you wear them more for fashion or are they prescription?
Abby that’s what I’m wondering too. Lol
Abby Gresham i mean if they’re from h&m them they’re prolly for fashion
Why is the world messed up because people view things different from you? We are not all Christians and Christianity isn’t the best religion in the world, it’s just one of many religions. And not everyone is raised with a religion. I don’t see how that’s messed up.
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Flynn rider look from Paul lol 😂
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You guys are the best! I often feel sad because I see a lot of Christians getting lost in this matter... christians that live this truth are becaming a rare species... thanks God for your lives!keep spreading God’s truth!! 🙏🏼
Thank you Leticia❤️
Christians live the farthest thing from the truth
@@noelleirina5628 That's your opinion. You'll realize some day...
they're a "rare species" because it is an absolute asinine and unnatural way for a human being to live