5 Signs God Is Warning You Not To Date Someone- Christian Dating
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So you’ve gone out with this person and you like a lot about them, but deep down you begin to have doubts. Are you just overthinking it, or could God Be warning you to get out? We’re here to help bring clarity! Enjoy this Christian Dating Advice :)
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Hey P&M Fam! What did you think of our five signs? What advice would you add for someone questioning their relationship?
Paul and Morgan I would say definitely praying about it for sure
Definitely understanding your worth, and trusting the Lords plan. Anyone who is trying to change your values or questions your worth is not someone you should be with. Thanks for the tips guys!!
I’ve experienced all of these signs and even the examples given! Lol. They are definite red flags 100%
Paul and Morgan 🙌🙌peace of God with a man that I like in my church 😁 amazing advice so good!!
Not only asking others “hey are there any red flags I’m possibly missing?” But checking yourself and if you’re ok with even asking your trusted friends and family that. Like if you have this feeling of not WANTING to ask them because of what you’re afraid they may say, you may want to check your motivation for being with them
A sign God is warning you not to date someone ... you’ve been praying on it for several days and then this video shows up as your #1 recommended 🤷🏻♀️
Awe haha that’s awesome!
😂😂😂
Or it can actually be a sign to date them. When this person watches the video and realizes that no negative signs are present in his case. It can add confidence :)
Hahahahahahahaha
Yep. There's one guy I was talking to. Literally every time I consider giving dating him a chance I always get these "How to know God doesn't want you to date" videos in my recommended. I've watched like 4 already 🤦🏾♀️🙉
The most important things is to ask God to show you a sign. I had god show me in a dream that a guy was married. Another guy sent me an abusive type of text 3 mins after I prayed to God. God spoke from another’s person mouth to tell me that the person that reached out to me didn’t change. God knows the person true colors. Ask and he will show you.
Brianna C Good advice! Thanks for sharing! 😊
It’s called confirmation bias sweetheart
Amen! He has shown me countless times that someone was not right for me immediately after I prayed for clarity and guidance-He is sure to answer us! "In all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight"
Same! In my dream, my boyfriend was shown in a display. A guy next to me examines him and says to me, "This guy has no more benefit for you." I said, "You're right, I should break up with him!" Now why did I wait 2 months to do that?
The Seven Unkowns why are you clicking on a video about the “imaginary friend?”
"If you're a believer and you have a gut feeling, it's the Holy Spirit talking to you!" -What Morgan said her mom said to her when she was growing up
😊😊
What if it's just my own fears and anxieties? How does one distinguish?
@@kotyayv I think you put it to the test by comparing it to what the Bible says! The Bible says not to be anxious about anything, so if that's the overwhelming emotion, you can assume it's of you and not of God :)
I recently went on a date and I felt like I had a connection with this guy, it was a good date. After the date, I prayed about the guy and I said, "God if this person is supposed to have a part in my life, keep him on my mind. Otherwise, if you feel this guy has no place in my life, remove him from my brain." The next day I had ZERO thoughts of this guy, I took that as God telling me that this guy was not meant for me.
Jenna H That’s awesome! Way to listen to God! 😊
Gut feeling is a real one. The Holy Spirit will prompt you relentlessly
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FACTS
Not the Holy Spirit but actually a biological reaction gifted to us by non other than... EVOLUTION
@@refriedbean4805, ok so random matter over tons of years somehow has produced that..? Or maybe....... simply God did.
I gotta BAD feeling
Trust in the Lord and don't lean on your own understanding.
Brenton Gandy 🙌🏻
Praise allah
But surely; ‘trusting in the lord’ is the same thing as ‘leaning on your understanding’? Because you’re essentially trusting in your interpretation of the signs you see. No?
@@DanielLee1 interesting. Nice comment
I don't like this statement, at all.
You're basically stripping your individuality away from yourself. God has made it abundantly clear that he doesn't interfere in people's lives. So 'trusting the Lord' is a stupid thing to do.
You're just giving up.
Take ownership. Make mistakes. Learn.
The fact that this video was uploaded is a sign that God is warning me not to date someone 🤣
Test all spirits, so pray for other signs and guidance. Only this way you can know that this sign (and the others) were for you.
Dara Mack 😁😁
It's possible. At the very least, perhaps slow your roll and observe more from an outsider's perspective, maybe even ask some believers you trust.
megalopolis2015 me and the boy I'm talking to just discussed a change of perspective, wow! Thanks for the great advice :)
@@darlingdara255 Anytime, sister.
Sign #6: He sends a lightning bolt between you and your crush
Ana Banana lol perfect!
Or you're kissing them under a tree & you get pooped on by a bird. Happened to me once. I took that as a sign.
@@courtneybeavers2235 LOL😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@courtneybeavers2235 lol!!!! 😂
oh my... hahahaha
One of my warnings to not date someone is if they are unashamed gossipers.
Grant Klentzman that’s a good one👍
@@PaulandMorgan a better one is if the person is against being physically intimate with someone they're genuinely in love with and care for, because they think they'll burn for an eternity for it. Doesn't make a whole lot of sense does it? Just like it doesn't make sense for God to make people gay, if it's literally wrong to be gay.
@@micablade6477 God didn't make people gay tho... And why do you sound offended at something you don't believe in?
@@buikejesus if God didn't create gay people, who did?
@@chris4436 Ever heard of demonic spirits? Did you know you can grow up with a demonic spirit attacking you and not even know that it's there? They're called Familiar spirits, and people are attacked by them every day, even christians that have no idea those negative thoughts are indeed evil familiar spirits. It takes a great light to get rid of a small darkness, in other words if you don't know it's there you can't fight it. Being gay is a good example of this generations naivety in spiritual and mental matters. It doesn't make gay people bad people, but it does make their torturer more visible to those able to see, it scares the crap out of the unknowing christians who don't look to God for answers but to their books, granted there is power in knowing the bible, but there is more power in knowing God personally rather than just knowing his celebrity. Although an autographed copy of the bible would be fun to have lol...but I'd rather be written in as character than just be some fan girl😉. You have a good day.
I was talking to a guy and he seemed on the same page about biblical views/principals... BUT, when we got on the topic of premarital sex, he was like "well if I'm horny.. whatever happens, happens.. *lol*.."
And I'm like uh.. no dude.. not cool. The Bible is clear on what the boundaries are before marriage . .. I'm not ok with your morals not aligning with mine...
So now, I'm like, thank you, next!
Elisu Emiya Yikes! Glad you had the conversation before it got to a potentially awkward situation! 😂
oh this song follows me everywhere :)
Elisu Emiya that seems a little creepy & rapey for me. Like what does he mean ‘whatever happens happens’ . Is he saying he’s going to have his way with you if he’s turned on without his consent?
Idk man maybe it’s just my overthinking mind
@@yara9594 not exactly, he said if I'm not ok with going that far he CAN wait, but that's not the point of why it's a red flag. It means he's not willing to follow the Bible entirely of his own will, it's his flesh above God's instructions, which to me is translated as him saying he doesn't give a crap about what God says. That's being selfish and not a man of God. So it's a huge red flag and a turn off. If we were to start making out and hands start roaming.. it means he's not willing to respect my body or respect his future wife. I shouldn't have to stop it, I should be at ease knowing he won't be willing to push boundaries and violate God's blessing. So yeah, he seems nice and polite has restraint to a degree.. but why would i settle for someone who doesn't value God and put him first in his life. I do understand your point though, very good observation, I didn't think of that and I will be cautious, thank you.
I ran into a lot of men with this mentality. From my personality experienced they told me that in the bible it says that I have to be submissive and display characters of a psalms 31 woman. But, when it comes to premarital sex their all board for it😆😆. If men are going to quite things from the bible, then quote everything.
One thing I know is if you don’t feel peace about it,you get into a relationship and you’re not just at peace like I am right now, I don’t feel so good about this relationship but I’m still in it.Thats the most important thing, PEACE!
Update: Glory be to God!! We’ve broken up and I have peace now. I promise I’ll listen to you God anytime you speak lol
Let go as soon as possible. I stayed in that kind of relationship for almost 7yrs. It didn't turn out good.
Priscilla Reygel De Guia wow!!! Thanks Priscilla, I’m easing out of it slowly
Same here. Every time he speaks about marraige it's like my spirit cringes. I love him, hes a believer but our boundaries aren't the same. He cheated yrs ago and we were broken up before we began walking with God. Not sure if my feeling comes from being nervous or because I see he is struggling with lust. He makes crude jokes and crosses my boundaries in regards to kisses on my neck and being too touchy feely. He laughs it off and says he just "loves me so much" but I know it's a lust issue.I don't have peace about it. We're supposed to start pre marital counseling not sure whether to go and see if it will help or just end things.
So true! I stayed for over 5 yrs. Worst decision of my life
Nana Osei gurlll!!!! The Spirit Of God never and can not lie. God is also not a God of confusion. You have to leave because there is someone better and even best for you out there!
I've met many devil's in church that were there every Sunday and Wednesday. What a person should be watching for is the fruit of the Spirit.
Can you make a video about 5 signs that God is telling you to date someone
Great topic, I’ll add to the list!
Yesss!!
Just do it😎
Agreeee!!
Yes, please!! ❤🙏
I had all the signs and still went ahead. God gave me a very strong gut feeling in December last year. I ignored and finally God used my mother as an angel to help me see the light and realise I was in the wrong thing. I am out and now working on myself with the Lord.
NYANGOMA ATWINE I’m glad to hear that! Praise God for being patient when we are stubborn :)
@@PaulandMorgan Really grateful!!
I went through the exact same thing , should’ve end it last december , my mum was such an angel and God totally spoke to me through my stepdad, i wish i didn’t ignore the signs 😔 but it happened already and i am working on myself with the Lord too now. I wish you the best ♥️
@@Isabelle-kk4nm Happy to know that you are stronger and can share your experience. It's a great big step.
Thanks for the kind wishes and God bless you through your journey!
Same thing happened to me. Something was off from the beginning but I ignored it and the signs. Left last December and surrounded myself with family. It’s wonderful to feel at peace again. I now know to trust myself when something doesn’t feel right.
6. There's a difference between helping someone through hard times, and being a crutch. Sometimes people need to take responsibilities for their struggles themselves before they depend on you for constant support. When the person resorts to you as their lifeline instead of looking to God and at themselves, that's when you know the relationship isn't quite healthy.
You made some great points! Thank you for sharing! :)
Things I have experienced and consider to be red flags include.
-Being emotionally invested and open too quickly (by either party)
-Being compared to another/ex
-Inviting themself into your home after first date (Had known him for a week)
-Continuously talking about drinking and how it's okay after finding out I choose not to drink. (He didn't know if it was something I struggled with so extremely inconsiderate)
-Lack of communication or feeling like you don't have any say
-Testing physical, emotional or spiritual boundaries. (Discussing is definitely okay.)
-Best one would be realising I like someone else.
Mai Muramoto Wow those are some red flags for sure!😊 Thank you for sharing, and we’re so glad you moved on after seeing those! Continue following God’s path for you! ❤️
The being emotionally invested and opening up quickly I just want to touch on.
Some people do have things they need to disclose to the other party. And it’s usually best to do so before there is a lot a time and emotion involved.
There could also be things. Like every person has a past. A before Jesus story and sometimes that also needs to be shared because of a consequence they had or if they got a arrest record. In my opinion it’s just always better to get that stuff out of the way in the beginning so you don’t wait 3 months and then tell them and then have all this investment into this person and have it all fall apart and then you be heartbroken.
Also being emotionally invested...
I want to be a wife and definitely going to guard my heart but if you can’t be open and vulnerable to me then I’m not wasting my time.
Also/ I’m a single mother so I feel like a discussion on parenting beliefs is definitely necessary conversation to have before meeting my son because
I don’t Spank or yell. I do the gentle attachment parenting. I co sleep.
I breastfeed a 18 month old still. Etc... and you would not believe how many people run away at that. Lol. People Also walk away the second they find out you have a child. So sometimes stuff just gotta be thrown out on that table
@@dylainacrowe8407 I agree with those totally, might need to be careful how to approach the topics but definitely think it's important to approach such topics at some point especially from a more factual standpoint, stating things how they are.
My version of emotionally open was a guy talking about their ex, how she wouldn't date him even though he treated her with so much love and even saying how pointless life was and so on. This was after the first date and later found out he was still hanging out with her. Seemed like he just wanted me to throw emotional baggage at/have as a second option.
Suddenly emotionally invested where the guy thinks if you don't date him his world will end kinda deal makes me think he is idolizing relationships and saw it as a red flag.
To me that “gut” feeling it’s truly the Holy Spirit that we have inside of us warning ⚠️ us not to do something or get involved with someone 🙏 God bless y’all 😁
:)
Not compromising for my morals and boundaries is something I really need to work on. Thanks for this video
Glad I'm not alone.
A couple of tips on knowing if this person is who God has for you:
1. Whenever you believe and have faith in God about it, you have peace in your heart.
2. This person gets you closer to Christ.
3. You both work good together in glorifying God in all your life's aspects.
4. if he or she respects your purity and protects it .
5. The Lord will show you signs if you ask and pray about this specific person.
6. If this person helps you to be more holy and sanctified
7. If your directions in God are the same paths.
I dated an awesome man of God who fully respected me, was kind, generous and just all round good guy(I have nothing negative on this dude). But while we were dating I couldn’t shake off the feeling that it wasn’t meant to continue. There was a small part of me wanting to ignore that I wasn’t feeling the peace and joy because he was my very first boyfriend and that maybe if I persevered we’d come over the hump. But in love and respect we ended it and turned out it was mutual and the peace that came over me when I actioned the obvious was so freeing. I just had that gut feeling. I’m very blessed that the dating period was full of respect, prayer and Jesus because it made moving on a lot easier. Cheers for the video....great points..oh and listening to family/parents and friends is a huge one...totally agree.
Spliv Neal Thank you for sharing that. How did you figure out that you weren’t meant to be together and what made you realise the feeling was the Holy Spirit not yourself or the enemy trying to make you anxious?
This comment is so encouraging and I needed it. Thank you for sharing xxxx
I was in a similar situation like you. I was in a relationship with a good Christian guy. Nothing to write home against him. But we weren’t just on the same page. Our conversations were dry in my opinion. I fasted several times and prayed for God to give me a specific sign that He was the one but God didn’t. I really wanted Him to be. I have it a lot of time because I felt the problem was from me as in why won’t I like a really good Christian man. But I finally ended things after a year and a half. I finally listened to my gut feeling; the Holy Spirit. That he was a good guy but we weren’t just meant to be together
@@GraceFaithGFDance it was awkward and the relationship was naturally flourishing. Although it was only around 3 months, a fresh relationship like that shouldn’t be feeling so off. Plus it was mutual. Certainly didn’t think it was the enemy and it didn’t feel right to keep going when it was super obvious. Plus if it was the Lord, maybe a new opportunity to date him again could have arose after the time apart. But it hasn’t.
God has warned me about several guys....did I listen? No I got BURNED 🔥 🔥 🔥 ohhhhhhhhhhh sad days😭😭😭😭😭😂 Paul and Morgan Makin Jesus proud
Listen and obey😊❤️
Please listen. Or else you'll regret. I am now suffering because of it.
I read this and I'm so sorry. I have learned that sometimes it's easier to speak to the situation of others because we're on the outside of their situation. When it comes to our own issues, however, it's more challenging for us to obey, even if we're dealing with the same thing we told someone else to get out of. I would say as long as you have repented for disobeying and have learned from it, i'm sure you'll be ok. Prayerfully you haven't recently dated someone God told you to leave . It can be hard to leave someone when you don't want to be alone, but ultimately, God's will is the best.. Learning that for myself
@@prjdghyt oh, no!! I pray all will be well with you!! See my comment to the person below 🤗
Lollllllll I didn't listen either
I was talking to this one guy and he’s been on my mind ever since. I feel like God is trying to reach out and sorta tell me to let him go because at this point it’s unhealthy to think about someone so often and in random situation. Adding to this, I’ve been doing all the work. 😔😔😔This video came in the right time but it took me a while to finally get the guts to watch it 😭😭😭😭 I really needed that rude awakening
God bless, you got this :)
This just confirmed to me that God isn't warning me hallelujah! Bearing in mind I'm single and don't have a guy wanting to date me currently but God has given me promises but I'm just waiting on what he's said.
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Same here. Im just waiting and if theres someone tryin to show interest on me even he is a man of God who knows how to respect God, even he is my ideal, i keep praying on God to show me if that one is for me. Well still God says its not him yet. Wait a bit more and i will train u to become better partner for the one im preparing for you. No hard feeling after u ask God. God is always in good work. He really is great
That last one has saved me three times. For me it’s a very STRONG sense of anxiety in my stomach.
Thanks for sharing! :)
It has happened to me so many times! And it’s scary, but it is real.
How do you distinguish this from pure fear of commitment?
@@kotyayv Haha I love this, because I’ve been on SUCH a faith journey since I left this comment. I think that some of the anxiety is a direct result of the way that relationships are taught in purity culture now. So, so with that what you will!!
I saw something that said you should use 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 to see if your significant other is living accordingly. Replace the word love and charity with your partner's name.
Cameron Alexander I’ve heard that too :)
Oooh, gonna check this out!!! ❤❤❤
Yes but you also have to be able to put your own name there too. Do you have any idea how hard it is to love like that? I have been in a lot of different relationships and i can say that only one person I was ever with loved me like that. And he wasn't even Christian. I have had an on and off relationship with God in my life. A few years ago, i prayed and asked God to show me what love really is. And to show me how to love others the way he wants me to. I had a very dysfunctional upbringing with no real examples of love. That's when I learned 1st Corinthians 13. That is how i gauge love now. I also look to Jesus as an example of how to love and treat others as well. I actually met someone else who showed me that kind of love but it was only temporary. He changed within a couple months. And he was "Christian." He was my first experience in a relationship practicing the kind of love God wants me to share with others. I had been working on learning how to love for a few years. I loved him intentionally and truly cared about his needs. He seemed to be doing the same at first. But then it changed. So please be careful and really get to know someone before you invest in a future with them. This guy totally fooled me and was talking about getting married and i am so glad the truth was revealed before I made that kind of commitment. I was so positive God had put him in my life to have a future with until he changed up on me.
Whoa. This is eye opening.
Could you make a video about how to know when you want to get married our of insecurity/desperation vs when you want to get married out of a genuine desire God has put in your heart.
Sacred Rose that’s a good topic. We’ve made several videos on similar topics you should go watch. God bless
yes me too
Sacred Rose Ascension Presents and Emily Wilson talk about not settling in relationships if that helps :)
Skip to 2:34, you're welcome.
Reading your comment 3 mins later than I could have
Thank you for doing the Lord’s work lol
Yeah, I had to do it myself because I came down here late
😂😂😂, I rushed to skip immediately I saw your comment.
I was on time.
Recently, I met a guy that is agnostic. When he told me that initially I was like no this man is not for me, but when he told me that he left the things of God like 3 years in a half, I kind of latched on to the idea that maybe God would use me to bring him back to Himself. Instead, I found myself compromising in things that I knew better. I felt like he was trying to get me to denounce my faith, and that I was a prey not someone he actually cared about. When I met him, I cried and felt a strong connection with him as if I had known him already. I tried to shake it off, but couldn't. Now, I see but it's really sad that I allowed myself to be in this dark place.
Great video guys. Yeah a big thing is just because you guys are both christians doesn't mean you're equally yoked. I would never date a person just coming to Christ I need someone who has a strong relationship with God and shares a lot of convictions He has showed me over time. Nothing more attractive than someone living for God and actually knowing scripture. When a girl starts quoting scripture #wifematerial lol.
Hey Kevin! That’s good stuff, haha yep. A girl who knows scripture is👌👌
Like for real lol. If someone says they don't read the bible huge red flag.....nope nope nope.
This comment 🤣 so true! I started talking to a guy, thinking he was a Christian on fire for Christ just to find out that he is relatively new to things. Very sticky situation to say the least.
It's great if he/she can quote scripture but I genuinely feel that the most important check is- does he/she DO the word of God.
@Cherryl absolutely! Being a doer of the Word is most important but we have to know the Word to do the Word. I was just saying when you see a girl that really knows her bible its like wow lol.
Feeling such a huge gut feeling right now that I shouldn't be with the person I am dating at this time in my life. It is my first relationship and I realized I don't know how to date someone, maintain my Christian standards and set boundaries. Thank you for this Paul and Morgan!
Excellent signs. And I would add emphasis to the fact God *will* give you fantastic good things when you do move on from a bad dating situation. Have hope and be free, oh yes!
Chelle Due Amen that’s so good! Thanks for sharing 😊😊
I lost it at the word "projectory" followed by "trajectory" on the screen. LOL.
Haha
If you see this video in your TH-cam recommendations, it may be a sign
haha :P
yea!
I’m so glad I found this video 😞 it’s heart breaking because I’ve been dealing with this and I didn’t think my current relationship was bad. I’ve been dating a guy for almost 4 years, and I didn’t realize this was a “bad” relationship, thank God that he lead me to this video, y’all the best.
Great first tip/warning -if you can not be yourself!!! Nailed it! And someone that makes you compromise even after a discussion. All the tips are great guys!!
😊🙌
I’m pretty young. I’m 16. I had a gut feeling that the guy I was dating was not the one for me. I was looking at someone’s Instagram story and they were doing the ask/say question things and someone said “I feel like God is telling me he’s not the one” (or something very similar to that) and then a couple months later I went to a retreat at my church and broke up with my boyfriend when I got back home. I’m going to focus on myself and God now and if God lets me meet the man I’m going to marry at this age id be very lucky, but until then I am going to keep praying for my future husband!
She spoke directly to my circumstance and a day later we broke up. Probably for the best.
Paul and Morgan, could you do a video on true friends or distancing yourself from bad influences in your life?
Good topic😊
Paul and Morgan, looking forward to seeing it if y’all decide to make it!!
I'm from Ethiopian orthodox church and this really helps....May God be with you all the time!
I get the feeling that the Holy Spirit tells me not to date someone almost everytime i try and date someone. Im okay with it though. Im willing to wait till i find the girl thats meant for me. Took a long time for me to say that tbh.
Christian Bickel honesty is well respected . The waiting season is hard but when you are patient (which we should learn how to be with GOD) it just means waiting in the right time but focusing on GOD moving you forward to set your focus on him and get to know him deeper . The flesh is your enemy in this season and distractions are also going to come hard and fasting will definitely help get closer to GOD
Omg same! Finally someone who understands! Me too. i met some amazing guys but i always reject them because i get that feeling.
@@kendraz7994 I find it so hard to stay away, I'm just "glad" that they always end up leaving me or losing interest before anything bad happens.
@@BlackOreoCookie Oh. Im sorry to hear that :( So basically,you always feel like someone is "the one"?
@@kendraz7994 Not really, there are always red flags that I'm ignoring, it's just that my feelings get so out of control that I have a hard time staying away from them, or even refraining from flirting at times.
Sometimes I wish i didn't have the desire to be with someone, I asked God several times to take the desire away but that hasn't happened until now. It's frustrating and exhausting to fall for guys over and over and being left heartbroken, even if that is the best case scenario in each of those instances.
I want to learn to deal with my feelings, push them out or kill them before they get too strong, but the more I try, the harder it gets, it seems. Do you have any advice? You seem better at rejection than me 😂😂
I realllly liked one of my guy friends once and i reallllly wanted him to like me back. I'm pretty good at hiding my feelings when i want too, so i dont think he ever picked up on my feelings for him. But the more I liked him, the less effort he seemed to put in to our friendship. Funny thing is, i had been praying that if we werent meant to be together that God would cause us to just naturally drift apart without hurting each other in any way. But when i noticed him starting to naturally slowly pull away from our friendship, I tried to excuse that and kept trying to get him to notice me as more than a friend and soon enough i was the only one putting in effort in our friendship. I should have taken that as a sign, especially since i had literally asked God specifically for it, but i didnt. And unfortunately it took me accidentally coming across a HUGE red flag about something in this guys life for me to realize that we should definitely not date!
Aliyah Friesen that stinks, but I’m glad you were finally able to realize and accept God’s answer! It will be better for you and easier to identify next time! 😊❤️
I’m 32 years old and I’m still learning I would have loved to have seen this video before I got hurt a few months ago. God usually always gives me a gut feeling and for some reason I ignored it. There were some other things you guy said that were there to. But I did learn something out of it I learned to quit trying to do it my way and give it to God and it will happen his way.
You guys are amazing and have been very helpful. One way God has told me to not date someone was a little...difficult. Essentially I was into a girl (this actually happened twice with two different girls and two different occasions) and I asked God whether or not I should talk to them about my feelings, God told me yes. But He also told me yes so they could tell me no, God wanted me to talk to them so I could know their opinion and so I could get my head out of the clouds and focus on Him more. And now I'm facing a completely new and foreign situation where the girl actually likes me and I might, emphasis on might, be ready for dating, but I don't know for sure. Mostly I'm terrified of this whole situation since I recently turned 20 and have never been in a relationship, casual or serious (although I dislike the idea of something casual and the idea of something serious scares the living daylights out of me). If you wouldn't mind I could use prayer for guidance.
Alton Hunter Stay strong man! God has a plan and I think it’s cool how you recognize God allowing you to grow through your past experiences. Just be true to yourself and let this be a learning experience as well! We’re praying for you! 😊
I will pray for you, that God shows you the way, and that you have perfect peace about it. Many blessings to you.
Bro. You need to look elsewhere for guidance, these sad people think that hugging before marriage is wrong. Get a mind of your own. You're being brainwashed
@@micablade6477 Interesting that you are here, then. :0)
Praying for you my brother!
Hey, even at my age I can remember going through all that stuff, believe me I prayed a lot.
I was older when I married, I had seen so many unfaithful men in my life, I never wanted
to marry that kind of person so I had to look and look, I finally found him! Whew!
John Peake awe thanks for sharing :) God blessed you with a good man for sure!
Great video! God told me in a dream to let someone go before it's too late. Just go with God..he has better for you.
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“ there should be unity in the boundaries”- Paul
Wow I love you guys
These tips are the best! In my past relationship I saw most of these red flags for months but I didn't want to go with my gut. In the end I finally did and I'm so grateful! Be blessed you guys! I'm so thankful for you two!!! 💖💖💖
Thanks for sharing Caroline😊
Loved this video! I can relate to the gut feeling a lot. One time I went on a date with this guy and had planned to go on a second date but as I was praying about it I got very sick to my stomach. I was very anxious, felt lots of unrest and I eventually got a really bad headache. As I was talking with one of my friends and saying that I wasn’t sure what God was trying to tell me she wisely stated that God was letting me know through all of these “gut feelings.” The moment I decided that I wasn’t going to go on the second date, my headache went away and my stomach stopped freaking out. I got to experience a very peaceful sleep that night and the rest of my week. I’m so thankful that God guided me through my gut feeling. I know he has my best interest at heart and I’m willing to wait for his best. Thank you guys for all of the amazing videos!
Wow thanks for sharing, Caralee
absolutely agree to this! I recently just got out of a "relationship" (it was literally a week long hahaha) but he believed in God but didn't go to church and never really experienced His love and knew the Lords life. I just had this gut feeling that God was like "Olivia you need to get out of this now before it's too late and it becomes even more messy." I still feel so bad for hurting him but I know that the Lord has great things coming in my life.
Wow. Every single thing just fit!
God was clearly giving me the sign .
1. I wasnt myself I wasn't feel comfortable around him. 2. I physically & morally compromised.. my ex also said he is Christian but he didn't go to church. But I kept telling myself that its okay caz he is Christian.
3. I kept pushing myself to work things out..
4. My sister hated my ex and She said he isn't the one.
5. I had a gut feeling that this ain't right but I ignored it because I was afraid to be alone again.
It was really God's will to break up with him and I re-assured it through this video. Thanks!!!! I shall have peace in mind caz I listen to his word. Thank you Lord.
God bless you :)
Thank you guys for being such a light!! Good tips, trusting the Lord and listening to His guidance is so important, especially in dating!
Stefanie and Caleb Amen! You’re welcome😊
Thank you for this video! I've been talking to God about who my future husband is and He keeps saying "be still" and I dont. .. I just go out and keep dating the wrong guys that don't lead me closer to Christ and it's because God has the right one for me but has me growing in patience and I need to follow God's plan and the gut feeling He gives me.
How does he tell you that ,to be still ?
"If there's a but trust your gut." -Morgan
Yes!
Seems odd to trust your gut based on the quality of her butt?
I dealt with wondering if something was my gut vs. anxiety.
Thankfully God confirmed the gut feeling through someone at church 😭😭😭🙌🏾🙌🏾.. I appreciate your video. Thank you!
My first relationship started and ended badly. I had never been in a relationship before, so I skipped over just getting to know the person.. I felt rushed, like I needed to be in an official relationship with him or he would move on to someone else. One week into it, I had absolutely NO peace.. as the weeks went by, my family voiced their concerns to me several times! I knew they were so right, but I felt stupid for making such a bad decision.. Inside I knew that God was telling me to get out, but I wasn't sure how. Well, lemme encourage you, ask Holy Spirit to make the hidden things revealed, and ask Him for a way out! He delivered me out of that relationship safely. Even though it was extremely difficult and painful, God healed my heart up to be better than before. You can do this! Listen to God's voice and your family!
Wow thanks for sharing that. Praise God
He makes me feel alive I’ve been having so much fun since I’ve met him he goes to my church 🥰
Thank you so much for this video!! I recently went through a break-up and am FINALLY beginning to realize I was holding onto something that was not only toxic but unGodly as well.
This is great! We’ve been ‘rescuing’ our 19 year old daughter from a really bad guy, and this video will help!! We’ve also been watching a lot of great teachings!! She’s got God and her WHOLE big family supporting her new path in finding the RIGHT mate and being single for as long as it takes to be ready to date🙌🏻💕🙏🏻
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6th Sign: They want absolutely nothing to do with you.
number 1 is so awesome - so important to stay true to who you are that the other person is truly loving you for YOU
Even though I have never experienced dating yet, I am happy that I found your channel I learned a lot.
I met a girl who looked innocent . On going with talks every thing falled into place. God guided held me as I was about to ruin my future because she tried to muck and play around and could have kept me behind bars. When god revealed me I kept her distant and never gave chance to contact me again. LEAN ON GOD HE WILL GIVE WISDOM TO FIND FAITHFUL AND GOD DEPENDENT SPOUSE.
Thank you guys for this video. So thankful for this free guidance. God bless.
Cameron Alexander your welcome 😊
Loved this video. I think you should do a video on what it really means to be "equally yoked." Sometimes people just think that means you both are believers but I think there's a little more to it than that and I think you started to touch on it on this video in mentioning people dating where one doesn't like to go to church and the other does. A similar example would be someone who only wants to go to church once a week while the other wants to go to every prayer meeting and bible study available, they also wouldn't really be equally yoked. Does that make sense? There's lots more examples that could be made, to include things like prayer and devotion time outside of church functions, etc... Do you agree or disagree?
Shala Lucero I messaged p&m after my ex made a huge deal about me being agnostic and him being Christian. Believe me, for him it was a deal breaker. And it’s what broke us up. To me not so much, to him it was. But I found this channel and it’s made me happier even if I’m still not Christian and still agnostic
i would LOVE to see a video about that too!!!!
It can be really frustrating to be in a relationship and not be able to share a common love for God. It will divide your time, loyalty, and ultimately the relationship. It affects your priorities, direction in life, how you make decisions, etc... All these things would be done differently for you than him and leave the door wide open for lots of fights, disagreements, and discontentment. It might not seem like it but he did you a favor being the one strong enough to end the relationship because you differ in some foundational beliefs. Relationships are hard enough even when you get everything right.
Shala Lucero thanks for your comment! That’s a good idea and we may do a video on it in the future. 😊
@@evec5007 I'm really glad you made it here. This is a nice community of people (even Mr. Atheist, who chimes in now and then), so I hope you get even more out of your connections here. I have a beloved who doesn't feel he is worthy of being saved, so we are not together. Perhaps in time he will finally see the truth, but just for now it is this way. Christianity is about ninety percent of who I am. God is Love (1 John 4:8-16). That is everything to me. I will pray into your situation. If you are meant to be together, then God will see things fit. Many blessings to you.
From my experience:
1. Holy Spirit convicts relentlessly.
2. Loss of appetite.
3. Lack of sleep.
Definitely true, someone ask me out, I was planning to go out for a date but loss appetite was one of them and lack of sleep, last night I pray for God to give me sign until today he referred to me as Hot and if I can give him a hug, I deleted his number straight away.
Wow, I feel like your tips are so accurate. Thank you for the video! I actually just found you guys out through my feed. Thank you random feed. One tip that I would add is "When you feel like you're constantly trying to hide things with the person from other people and wanting to go to dark or covered areas". Like you can't feel comfortable together in the open and your relationship is just pushing you away from a social life with friends and family.
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Thank you holy spirit. 😭🙌🙌🙌
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Your really cute Amber.
I was in a serious relationship for 2 years, a year into it my family had a very bad feeling about it and tried warning me. Even some family friends warned me saying there's someone else out there for me. Of course, I didn't listen, and I kept the relationship going. She wound up leaving me after 2 years because she had a gut feeling it wasn't right..if I would've listened to my family the separation would've been a lot less painful. It's been 2 years since we broke up and looking back without my love blinders on I am SO thankful we did not get married. I was trying to make something work that would've never worked and it would have put us in a very unequally yoked marriage(we are both believers, but being unequally yoked doesn't just have to do with belief).
Hey Paul and Morgan, thanks for the video. It came at the right time. ❤ God bless you both.
So I've always had my questions about dating being a christian and all because I come from country where parents in general don't talk to kids about dating. And my family especially, is definitely one place where dating isn't talked about at all. It's not even taken into consideration. It's a very common in schools and colleges, but just not at home.
These questions about dating have been bothering me a lot for the last couple of days, I've been praying consistently for my future life partner and yesterday I ran into your channel and it's literally one of the best things that happened to me. I didn't expect channels like these to exist on bit.
The fact that your channel is completely based on christian advice means everything.
Something I would add is that if you’re picking up their “slack” so to speak. I think this ties in with compromise.
Something that I have learned over the last year and a half or so is to give people time. That doesn’t mean you can’t have those deeper talks (I personally think those are important if you’re getting to know someone), but seriously - GIVE THEM TIME YALL 🙌🏼 They will reveal themselves to you. I was being pursued by a guy for a few weeks and out of nowhere he stopped wanting to talk to about God, found ways to dodge the “did you read your Bible today?” type of questions. Then it was not going to church anymore, not praying as much, etc. If God doesn’t want you with someone I believe he will reveal that to you in their dedication to him!
Thanks for your comment! You gave some great advice! 😊
Your comments are always really insightful and helpful for the Fam❤️ You rock Becca!
Paul and Morgan thank you guys for being so faithful with posting 💛 every Thursday always ends up being a video I need! God is so amazing!
Love the sweater you're wearing morgan
Sammy Jackson thank you, it’s from H&M 😊😊
It's a good color and it looks good on her.
These are real signs! All of these signs happened near the end of my recent relationship. It was good for the first year but the next half year he really started changing and all of these signs popped up.... I’m glad that we were placed together at the time that we were, but God clearly has better plans for me :) thanks for another good video!
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I always think about how you said Morgan that God gives us intuition so we can listen to it and it helps us make wiser decisions. Thanks for this video guys
Thanks for sharing! :)
Based on my experience, there was one time where I dated this really great guy and we were so compatible and the funny thing is when we started to get closed...I was scared for him to actually ask me to be his girlfriend. I think it was because I was in such a good place with God that I didn’t want a guy to come between that. I ended up dating him (great relationship) then after about 6 months I started to not want to be in it. I think I could just feel deep inside that if I chose to continue to be with him it would be settling and not truly the best that God had for me. I guess sometimes it’s just not right 🤷🏽♀️
But that's every single relationship I've ever had...eventually leaves you feeling that 1)you rely too much on feelings 2)maybe something is wrong with YOU
I have never dated someone every time I come close to it I get this gut feeling like something is telling me I shouldn’t go out with this person. Every guy I have come close to dating isn’t Christian or has my beliefs I think that may be a big part of it. Anyways thanks for this video it really helped me understand better💓💓
God has given me signs about a guy and He was interested but then I ended up doing a lot of the work when we was hanging out a while back and things fizzled out but God has promised him to me and we recently started talking again as I got to sit next to him at church the other day it's been slow going but I'm believing in God I know he's preparing us and allowing us to grow we needed space to grow. Even though it may seem like I'm in the winter a seed is growing under the surface! Love is a flower that grows!
Those notes at 7:39 were absolutely fabulous, Paul. Well done.
Every time Paul talks I feel like I’m listening to the radio. 😂😂 Great video by the way!
Thank you! :)
Thank you for this video. It was good hearing brethren knowing about the same thing's I have experienced with the "gut feeling". The gut feeling has saved me multiple times in my life not just with dating. The Lord is alway's with us, constantly guiding our every step. The gut feeling is prime example. I'm so thankful for it! Even though the Spirit (gut feeling) war's against the flesh (our heart's desire's) we are definitely in the safe zone that leads to life when we obey God and heed those warning signs. In ALL area's of our lives. God bless to ALL!
Jessica Johnson amen so good!
Love this!! PERFECT timing!
Wow, this was a really good one! As well as missing those red flags is due to interest in that person. Infatuation drops all judgement/imperfections on the person of interest.
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"The Lord speak to other people to help you". This rings a bell. Thanks Paul and Morgan! ☺️
I’m patiently waiting for God to bring alongside me a Life Partner who has a burden and love for those lost to Mormonism and others lost to cults and counterfeit religions. I need a cohort to go witness with, right now I do it all by myself and it sure would be wonderful. Ideal actually.
That Gut feeling is key! That is how God showed me He is telling me no. I know it might sound weird to some but God would show me and warn me through dreams but I started ignoring those because I was so blinded. He will still give me a dream but couples it with this super uneasy feeling! Then when I would break it off and find out some things or a side of them I hadn’t seen, God reminds me of the dreams and it’s confirmation he had shown me who they were before I even actually saw it in real life! 😬 God is so good!
During college I remember dating a guy and feeling really unsettled about it. We were at a point when we needed to really do the dreaded DTR conversation. I had been getting increasingly anxious and couldn't sleep one night. I specifically remember it being a sunday morning that God woke me up and I got out of bed at like 4 AM. So I went down the hallway with my Bible and just gave it to God. I remember specifically praying for God to give me an answer that day. First time I ever asked God something so specifically but I knew I couldn't handle the anxiety anymore. So if it was a NO then I would walk away and if it was a YES that God would work that out. I remember talking with this guy that very night after dinner and deciding to move on from our relationship. While I was sad that the relationship ended (more for the relationship part than the actual guy) I felt so relieved! And knew that God had specifically answered my prayer. I don't think I will ever forget it. God does care and He does listen. Now... almost I don't know... probably 12 years later.. I'm just ova here still single. But I know that if I am supposed to be married... God will work that out as well.
Christine Louise Do remember how you got your yes or no? Why was it making you so anxious if you don’t mind me asking?
@@GraceFaithGFDance I think I was anxious because I didn't know if I should be dating and pursing the relationship more seriously. It had come to the point where we needed to date seriously or break up. I think I was anxious because I knew my motivation was wrong. I wanted the relationship more than pursuing what type of ministry we could do together in partnership. Needless to say I prayed specifically for an answer that day because I couldn't handle the anxiety. I was honest and open to either answer as long as God would tell me an answer. Of course that was hard! I still liked him, there weren't any major problems; I just didn't know if we were right for eachother and felt unsettled. We went about our normal day... no awkwardness but after dinner that night we went to a cafe and talked. It was actually amazing because I didn't really have to bring it up. I think he was feeling the same so it felt "mutual". I honestly remember going to my best friends room after crying but telling her, "I'm crying a little bit because it's over but mostly because I'm relieved." I don't know. I still had to lose a close friend in a sense so I had to walk through that but God knows where I am. I've dated only a few times after that. It's not easy to be single at 33 but I'm so thankful I am not unhappily married either. God has given me more than I could ask for in the last 10 years. It's pretty cool to see God's leading and who He is preparing me to be. I get to experience serving God through seeking the exact plans He has for me and no one else. I don't know, I still get sad and lonely at times or it makes me doubt God's goodness because I am also human. But deep down I believe that there is a purpose in it all.
I couldn't believe at the time God answered me so specifically like I had asked. But because He did it confirmed my faith even more! So if you are questioning... go for it. Pray specifically, ask with BIG faith, believe He will answer you. He will give you peace. Fast if you need to. Let Him speak to you through that. Be open to whatever answer He gives even if it's not actually the one you "want" to hear. You won't be disappointed.
i needed this, so thank you so much! This video came in a time of need when I knew that i had fallen a bit. Thank you guys ❤️
You’re welcome ❤️
Very insightful for me personally as an 18 year old Christian man, lots of good points!
Michael Saviano 😊
This was good. Thank you!
Really needed this video today. My long term boyfriend and I are currently going through a pretty messy break up. Listening to this I can now recognise all these signs which I chose to ignore while we were together. So hearing it now makes me feel a bit better that the relationship is over - it wasn’t what God wanted for me.
Perfect timing 😅 I think God is using you guys to tell me something!
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I appreciated this video!! I recently had this dude chasing me and I really ended up liking him/we liked each other BUT there were tons of red flags that I noticed come up with him and it hit me that I shouldn’t date him. I never did go on a date with him because of this gut feeling and it totally made me realize that God really speaks to us even if it’s just in small mysterious ways. Thanks for being awesome y’all! I always love watching your videos, (I’m basically a babe and I’m in high school ) but I am always so encouraged by all that y’all speak about and 100% agree with y’alls morals and lifestyle. Once again thanks for being so open genuine and honest in your videos and for being so amazing 😆
Also I can tell that the Lord is shining through both of your lives, continue to let Him dwell in your hearts and continue to pursue Him in all that you do. Have a good one you two 😄😊
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Man. If only I would have seen this in my past relationships. Y’all just verified exactly what it took me two relationships and three and a half years to learn. So many people need to see this thank you!
This was very helpful, thank you! God Bless y’all!
I’m actually going through a similar experience 😂. And which I’m grateful for sooooo much honestly I’m learning so much. My experience is not tell the guy I like that I have feelings and deeper spiritual feelings for him. God told me four times, first through my mom, twice through social media, and once in intimacy with God. Because God is still preparing me and him. And it inlines with my prayers about my future spouse. I’ve actually liked him for two years and have kept it. And honestly in my spirit I feel like it won’t happen until I’m near 25 years old and I’m 20 right now and so is he. (This doesn’t mean he’s for me or not do I think it’s a confirmation. I don’t let my emotions over ride that) And so he says all the time how he sees himself getting married at 25 years too. We are really good friends and honestly I care about him a lot more as a friend and his spiritual life than I would RIGHT now as a couple. I’m not ready and I know it. I don’t want to date anyone right now and neither does he, and that also inlines with another prayer I made about my future husband
Gut feeling or discouragement from the devil ? 😩😭
Gabriella Christina. I swear 😂😂😂
I had that problem too.
Actually sometimes you are absolutely blinded not to take the right decision of leaving wrong people...Especially if you are a teen....I would advice any teen to avoid relationships for now and focus on God.This may seem stupid but it will save you from alot of things.....a whole lot of things.This advice is not for everyone but for someone out there.... This may be the sign you need.Honour God with your life and let Him build you up for your future family..... He created us and decides every major timing in our lives.... Even when we are supposed to meet our life partners.... Your mind might even lead you to think of someone who truly isn't your destined life partner as if they are.....Just believe God for His blessings at the right time.Dont eat your tomorrow's blessings today.God bless you
Rennie Sylves PLC dear, i need help.
I hv a friend, actually we hv been friends for three years nw. his a Christian I am also a Christian.
we started loving each other. his 27 a graduate and I I'm 22 a student.
me I fear God as a Christian I don't wanna disappoint him in either relationship or marriage.
the more I think abt him the more I love him.
we know our boundaries as a Christian already, as a matter of fact I'm a virgin.
But my fear is, is it a sin to fall in love.
even with marriage or future in mind.
michael uchechi Am happy you have a deep desire to serve God. May He bless you with more grace to continue in Jesus name.Firstly,You both are matured and somewhat ready for marriage but sometimes what we truly feel like we desire isn't actually what God wants for us. God doesn't want you to be confused about anything. He knows your heart and He knows that you are waiting on His opinion on this matter. So what should you do, PRAY!.Yes, marriage is a life long commitment... After many years of marriage, the euphoria of love is gone, the increased heart beat whenever you see your lover is gone. So what am I saying,love is not just about feelings, love is action.... It's crazy but love is action.... The ability to please and make your partner happy even when in old age with all the wrinkled skin e.t.c
Think about all the people who were in "love " but are divorced now.Most of them act on their feelings and give up on their marriage...because they don't feel anything for each other again. That's why I say love is action.So pray to God before taking any important decision in your life. But also, you need to focus on your studies too, sometimes don't be distracted by anything.One more thing... Make sure He's not making you to compromise your godliness, values and morality.... Run away from such people,they are there to kill your spirituality. I was deaf to warnings till God used a young woman to speak to me about leaving a person I was with ...My excuse was that I was trying to lead him to Christ but I was slowly compromising my standards... Don't make the same mistake I made.... More grace to you in Jesus name Amen
michael uchechi Also just trust and believe God to lead you but for now that you are not yet married... Focus on your character and behavior that would make you a proverbs 31 woman who will make her future husband whosoever it will be.. Proud of her. I want you to trust God, His plans for your life are great with no mistakes.... Pray to God and trust Him to lead you. You might have to wait for some time for an answer from God but the Bible says they that trust God will never see shame. Guard your heart too. If you're thinking about marriage.. Are you sure that's what the other person is thinking of too? Don't be too attached to anyone without a confirmation from God to avoid heart breaks... I wish you all the best.
Perfectly timed guys!! Thanks for standing up for the truth!! X
Meg Dunn Thank you! 😊
7:39 had me cryin 😂😂 God bless those notes!
Soul Speaker hahaha just rewatched😂
Lol