What It’s Like Being A Virgin On Your Wedding Night
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- We wanted to have a raw and honest conversation around what it’s like being a virgin on your wedding night. Hope this video provides some helpful insights :)
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As a Christian who is pretty young like 18-20 age group, I like to watch these because it makes me realize how romantically lonely I truly am. I heavily desire to be married.
Keep working on your relationship with God, yourself and another unforgotten gem is to DATE. Go out and meet people a husband more than likely won’t fall into your lap.
Same with me as a 21 year old... Some times I worry it will never happen given how bizarre the world and the people are these days, but hopefully God has a plan for me
Same here! A few first dates and many crushes later, I'm still single and alone. I, too, desire to marry one day, but only within our good Lord's perfect timing and selection.
How's the dating coming along?
Two virgins marrying = no sexual baggage - no such thing as a bad experience!
I got married as a 30 year old virgin. I have no regrets. My husband was not a virgin, but he had repented before our wedding. It wasn’t awkward at all for me. Not sure if that’s because of my more advanced age or if it was just my attitude and confidence towards it. But just wanted to give young ladies encouragement that it doesn’t HAVE to be weird, uncomfortable, awkward, or even painful. My wedding night was none of those things. It was the easiest thing I’ve ever done.
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing❤️
Well duh your husband had experience before you so he obviously knew what he was doing and that’s why you had a great experience your first time. Can’t say the same for most Christians who waited till marriage to find out that sexuality is not a switch you can just turn on once your married
@@PaulandMorgan Paul, congrats for having such a beautiful wife! I had a question maybe you could answer. I'm a young guy but have a heart issue (fairly recently discovered) that will be my undoing faster than expected. Now I am at the point of wanting to enjoy life while I can, but knowing I will be a virgin and never experience the joy of marriage. I'm excited about heaven, but am having jealous thoughts seeing beautiful women out there specially when they are with men. Any thoughts on how I can focus on heaven and not what men love to focus on in life?
@@bobjones2460 more closeness with God and having Christian friends you can talk to and to pray over you
@@mhodges118 Thank you hun, I do this, even had the preacher put his hands over my heart and prayed as I relaxed. It helped knowing I will be in heaven, but I still think a lot about missing out on relationships with beautiful women, desiring a wife, etc.
My husband and I were virgins when we both got married. I know I was encouraging him because he was anxious. I knew we have a lifetime with each other, so I wasn't too worried on how our first night would go. Which was definitely a learning process.
Nice! Gotta communicate 😊
Even though I had been renewed by Jesus and rewaited (wasn’t a virgin), I was too nervous from the pressure of having to do it that night after waiting so long so we had to stop and try again the next day😅I cried lol
Aww that’s okay❤️
I am getting married in two months and greatly appreciated watching this video! There truly is such a stigma with silence in Christianity surrounding sexual intimacy between a husband and a wife, so I'm very thankful for videos like yours to help answer my questions while keeping the focus on holiness.
My wife and I were both virgins and it was a fun way to conclude the night. Our sex has definitely gotten better, but for the first time there was nothing awkward. I think if you have a healthy view of sex and are good at communicating with your partner, then it’ll be a fun experience
Thanks for sharing!
@@cslapler007 For us there wasn’t really any pain. It’s different for everyone, my friend. I’d suggest strong communication, and if there’s anything that is out of the ordinary seek a medical professionals help
It sucks because what if that partner is bad then divorce may happen
@@Linkin-qb7fy For married couples, sex should get better overtime if you communicate well and are intentional about learning each other.
@@kamarwashington but let's say that the man is not the satisfactory size for her. I'm just saying I don't mean to be explicit but Christians just act like everything is guaranteed to last, and aren't impeccably honest. And they act like it's an automatic for each other to be happy and that's not reality. Because I can imagine many times many people men or women just weren't satisfied. But I am struggling right now with the temptation to not fornicate one more time before finding my wife and it sucks because I'm trying to be without sex for a long time and I have but temptation just seems strong. Because it's easy for a married person to say wait until marriage because they are getting their needs met. But for someone like me it's tough which is why I'm seeking marriage fast
this is honestly so comforting. i am only 19, but with my fiance, we just got engaged and he is 20. we are in pre marital christian counseling, and we just started talking about sex. i have a lot of trauma due to rape from my father during my middle school years, so i am terrified of what it will be like. i love how you guys said it is ok to pause and laugh and that it wont be picture perfect because i def was scared that it wont be like movies. our pastor supports us and says our relationship with God and each other are strong, but that my trauma is something that needs to be worked out prior to marriage. i just started therapy for it! i am excited for marriage, and we are planning to get married nov 2024, so a year and a half which is a lot of time to work on my past. i know morgan has briefly mentioned having a bad past relationship, and i dont know if it had to deal with sexual assault or pressure or anything, but i would love tips on how to heal from it if thats what you went through. i love you guys dearly and yall are some of the only people who are transparent about sex in a positive and healthy way!!
Calliecarter, God bless you on your journey to healing and recovery. Thank you for sharing, and blessings for your upcoming marriage.
Aww congratulations! I'm turning 19 and my fiance is turning 19 and we are getting married June 2024. I pray you will find healing and strength, and that you will be able to overcome your past obstacles, may God bless you and your fiance's marriage! 🙏🏾😊
Friendly reminder to Christian’s waiting until marriage:
Sexuality is not a switch. You can’t go your whole life repressing your sexuality and then expect yourself to have great sex on your wedding night. It takes self exploration and practice to know what you like and how to make your partner feel good
Finally someone talking some sense in this comment section!
By practising what do you mean? Because masturbating and pornography is a sin. Plus you can explore that with your partner dislikes and likes in your marriage
@@jess6520 is giving yourself a massage a sin? 🙄 i don't even believe that
@@Kia-iq7dh i'm sorry i don't understand what you mean by that question. Jesus said 'if you look at a woman lustfully you've already committed adultery'. people that watch porn or have sex outside of marriage will always try to compare their partner with their exes or try to force their partner to do things they saw on the internet. this generation is perverted
@@jess6520clearly talking about sex with the husband or wife. Why are you trying to complicate things?
I had no expectations of doing it the wedding night and we didn't. I was a 26 year old virgin. But things still unfolded more naturally that night than I thought it would. So it wasn't very awkward.
Ya'll are amazing to be so upfront about this. Praise God for you guys and your ministry.
Aww thank you🙏
I'm a Catholic and I'm amazed how beautifully you both described the process of progressively get into marital intimacy. That is what it should be.
I’m engaged and getting married in two weeks! I’m so glad that you guys are so open and vulnerable, your videos have been very timely and helpful for me 😊
Aww huge congrats!❤️
Uuuh, just one week to go. 😊
Congratulations!! Enjoy being married. It’s awesome!
How’s it going?!😆
Are you okay?:)
Im asexual , been abused by my brother age age 5. Was addicted to corn at age 12. Lost my virginity at 13 and the relationships i was in were very toxic and ungodly who used me for sex and made fun of my body ALOT my family also body shames me and my mom even made fun of my female parts often .. i love myself this is how God made ME so special and amazing . I truly just want love honesty and purity. No more pressure or worldliness. Just honoring and glorfying God in my marriage in the bedroom and the way i love and wife i am. Theres sooo much comparison and lust in world. All i want is purity peace joy REAL LOVE and honesty.
Purity culture made it difficult for me to feel okay about having sex. My husband and I were both virgins and our first time was not as we hoped lol. It was hard to figure out how to position comfortably but we laughed about it. I definitely think it would have been better to wait until the day after the wedding because I was so exhausted from the days events. It isn't a requirement on the wedding night and people need to know that lol. But you should definitely not wait 2 weeks like you said.
I love how you guys have these conversations. It would have been helpful for me to see this before my wedding. You are a blessing
Yes it not a requirement
For my husband and I, literally nothing COULD happen that night because we were both too tired.
Any virgin couple should be prepared for and ready to let there be some time between wedding and successfully completing the next task. 😊 Things take a little time.
Why not wait two weeks if that’s what one spouse needs?
This video was so encouraging and pretty adorable actually. If you both don't mind, I ask for your prayers. I'm an older guy who always dreamed of getting married but have started losing hope lately in thinking marriage may not be in God's plan for me. It feels like there are no single godly women left at my age. On the topic of the video, I've resigned to the reality that statistically speaking my future wife will likely not be a virgin if God ever blesses me with a wife. Lots of scary thoughts of her comparing me negatively to previous guys flood my mine. So please pray for me. God bless you both!
Stop looking for women at your own age. If you're in your 50/60's look for women at 35-45. Women usually look for men that are older, due to maturity and financial stability.
There's a lot of women looking for you, you're just not visible to them. Wear clothes that you want to wear. Start loving yourself.
Your positive aura will attract so many women you won't imagine.
You got this! 🙏🏼
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I'm 38, single and still a virgin. I find it's difficult to meet a guy who is willing to wait. It was hard to meet a guy who was willing to wait in my 20s. In my 30s it feels impossible to meet a guy who is waiting for marriage. I've been rejected so much that I've given up showing interest in men. It seems the only men who approach me are either atheist and push for sex too soon or they are older and divorced with kids and as someone who is waiting, I'm not interested in being a stepmother.
As long as you are willing and able to be married it's God's plan for you to be married. We were not made to be alone.
@@MasterKnutA Thanks. Yeah, I'm not quite that old. But old enough where my prospects are narrowing very quickly. I definitely prefer younger women and I'm trying to improve myself all the time.
Cat Statue Morgan making the guest appearance for the first time in a while! Thanks for sharing your story, Paul! My night is coming up shortly 😊
Haha had to😸 Oh that’s awesome bro! It’ll be a blast😊
This was actually really sweet. Purity culture and the way I was raised has really kind of trashed sex. It still kind of terrifies me thinking that I am closer than I may think to it. I'm about to be 33 in August and still a virgin. Never even dated. But I am still definitely nervous about it.
Purity cullture. What does that mean. Whats wrong about keeping pure till marriage as the bible points out ?
if youve never dated how are you close? I suggest learning to crawl before trying to run.
I love how his wife is looking at him like a piece of steak while he talks about foreplay haha 😂 😂
thank you guys for being so honest, this helps my anxiety go down a lot
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Please don't worry Ann..... God made it and it's truly amazing the togetherness in marriage xx
@@sambailie4773 thank you so much ❤ I am trying my best. I do feel a little bit more at ease knowing that both of us are virgins and that there arent too many expectations, which we both agree is why God created it the way he did!
My hubby was more nervous as the non virgin lol....definitely not awkward, just fun.....Just take it slow and it gets better and better with time. God bless everyone. X
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"The Gift of Sex" by Jim and Joyce Penner is an excellent Christian resource to check out on this topic. Y'all's point on sex being a focus on the enjoyment of each other (and not just "penetration") is one of their main points in the book.
Not really but I'm talking to a guy I really like we have been best friends since we were children for me it's hard because I still see him as that child so I do not know how I'm going to get out of that mindspace but I really do like him and he really likes me but it's hard to see us together on my part because I still see him is that child I used to play with when we were kids but it's mostly on my part it's not really on his
The spirit of God is still active. Thanks for the sharing it will be helpful for many. May God bless your wedding.
The coolest thing is you have a covenant relationship to explore and enjoy the gift of sex together for the rest of your lives! Blessings.
Amen!
Take it easy on yourself and your partner. Be patient. Be kind. Be loving. Communicate! Talk to each other BEFORE you start to have sex, talk to each other DURING sex about what you want and need, talk to each other AFTER sex about what you wanted/needed what was good and what wasn’t so good for you. Work as a team! Neither partner should be “just doing it” to get it done for their partner. Ever. You should both be willing, happy participants. And it’s okay for sex to be mediocre sometimes. Again. Be patient, and gentle with yourself and each other. This is uncharted, scary, exciting territory on your wedding night and it’s natural to be awkward and even scared.
Not married & no prospects at the moment but I have mad respect, love & appreciation for both of you! The honesty, honoring God’s way & just being clean is so refreshing!
My wedding night was super awkward! My husband and I weren't virgins but I had been celibate for 10 years and he had hardcore repented- like complete 180 womanizer to saint in about 6 months. And that was 2-3 years before we met. It was fun but awkward. We've adjusted obviously and it's been smooth sailing ever since!
aw!!! beautiful story, praise God for putting you two together, thanks for sharing ❤
This was very helpful.. Thank you Paul and Morgan 🤍
Good!❤️
I'm turning 19 in a couple of days (april 14) and my fiance is turning 19 a couple months after me, and we are getting married June 2024. We are re waiting because we fell short but repented and haven't done it again. We are so excited to be married but I'm definitely nervous about doing everything again, so i really appreciate this video it really helped me feel more reassured.😊🙏🏾✝️❤️
It seems that he was the only one excited. She’s teasing him about the photo and so on. A little nerdy and over the top. My wife and I are Christian’s and waited which is why we married at 20yrs old. We knew we were right for each other so why wait
Thanks for the video guys!
For sure!
J was just laughing so much with what Paul was saying 😅
Haha
I knew a woman who's partner insisted that they wait until they were married to have sex. After they married she discovered he was impotent.
That's the issue 😂 what if the partner is no good? Now what?😊
What do you mean by impotent? That he didn’t care about her needs in the bedroom? And he was selfish?
They could have sent nudes after becoming serious
Wow that's powerful information for singles...... it's really gives anxiety to think about the first time because many people have spoken many things that scare us
🙏🙏
The way you two are so open in communication is so so so foreign to me as a new Christian (28 y/o).
Love how open y’all are about these things!! Thanks for sharing!!❤️
Hey Kayla! You’re welcome😊
You guys have my favorite style of all Christian TH-camrs...I love how real you are. Down to Earth and I feel the Spirit...
Wife and I are followers of Chris and were both virgins, which for the record I believe is the right in God's eyes and per His design. There's an amazing amount of freedom in that, and I honestly would be a mess if it was any other way. But it wasn't an easy road even after marriage. I will say that if only the guy is a virgin or neither it probably makes it much easier physically to just jump right in, but if the girl is a virgin it can change the experience significantly. Our wedding night was a bit rough. The initial fourplay was great and I completely resonate with what Paul is saying seeing his wife for the first time, but as things progressed it went downhill fast. Things on the women's end were intact if you know what I mean had to be broken which for some isn't a big deal but not in our case. Blood everywhere! I was surprised since she was an avid horse rider and thought I probably didn't need to worry about that. Needless to say that ended our intimacy right then and there. We were both very tired so it wasn't super disappointing, but our honeymoon the next week was equally rough especially for her. First couple days of trying penetration and there was pain and a lot of blood, sheets were soaked red, she had to stop and get in the shower more than once. Likely the hymen hadn't been broken completely the first night and/or wounding hadn't healed. I remember trying to wash the stains out of the sheets and towels in our hotel room and cabin so people didn't think there was a massacre. Besides the blood and discomfort, it was also difficult to be comfortable, or know how to move and work together, took a ton of control and thinking about what you were doing rather than enjoying what you were doing if that makes sense. All this happening also resulted in some emotional scars with not being able to please the other person, associating with pain, etc. Some of which we are still dealing with 9 years later. It felt so unnatural for us for many weeks, I don't know how people can just so easily "accidently" have sex for the first time.
I still can’t decide if this is real or satire.
Wow, I’m really intrigued in your experience! I just want to express that this is not the “norm”. I also was a big time horse rider and while I never even remember breaking my hymen, it did not happen when I lost my virginity. I’m sure it must have happened years prior. I also found that I was very open and communicative when something hurt or was uncomfortable, and that helped prevent this kind of thing. The more stressed I got the more painful sex was, because I got very tense. If it got too rough for me, I did bleed on and off for the first year or so of having sex, but that didn’t happen when we were properly lubricated or spent enough time on fore play. From my experiences talking to other women, it is very, very common for losing your virginity to be painless and blood-free-I was actually considered an anomaly for having any pain or bleeding at all!! At that level of pain and bleeding for a new couple I would definitely explore adding lubricants or maybe even discussing with a doctor because it really isn’t normal and there probably were ways to improve it. Obviously a bit late for that now, but just in case someone stumbles across this and is having a similar experience!
The first time I engaged in that, I experienced the exact same thing. you described the scene as a massacre and thats exactly how I would descibe mine LOL. I am the woman though, and I do have to say, over time I learned. but the reason why it was bad at first was because I was suuuuuuuuuuuuuper insecure and overthinking it. (this was before i was saved, Lord forgive me, but I share to hopefully help heal your wounds.) but everything in my head , made it so much harder. I was making it wayy more painful- I realized bc eventually when i just stopped thinking about all the 'what ifs' and just ' let loose ' then it was like ok no pain (although actually.... i was never pleased either, but i chalk that up to me not walking with Jesus at the time and not really caring about another person ) but I pray that you'll know that it isnt all on you. There are some things that another person has to work through to blossom truly - some ppl are comfortable with receiving, - in the spiritual, emotional or physical lol and it sounds like your lady was like me and struggled with that- which is not your fault.
@@josephmooby720 definitely 100% a true story and happened to me. I'm not a satirical humor kind of guy.
@@lexinicole4317 thanks for your insight. Ya I was kind of gathering from some of the other comments on here and the way Paul and Morgan talked that my first time experience wasn't as normal as I thought it might be. We are outdoorsy and have worked with livestock so just kind of accepted it as the norm since we were used to things being a lot of work and not always going the way you expect. We never had anyone who we felt comfortable talking about it in detail. She didn't have a doctor at the time, looking back she probably should have been examined before we were married. She must have been really physically intact and closed off, which survived all of the climbing of trees and horse riding & drill team stuff she did for years. We did use lube but you couldn't even stick a single finger inside at first (sorry, trying to be somewhat discrete). Maybe that's not normal? I wouldn't know. There had never been any self discovery/pleasure in the past either, I could see how those actions could definitely pave the way (although not advocating for it). Things got better after the first few months but it's still something she finds difficult to find pleasure in. Like you say I think a lot of it now has to do with letting go of everything in life causing her stress; she's a worrier by nature always preoccupied with the next thing that needs to get done.
3:05- Yes Morgan, the details are good! lol
How long were you dating for before marriage?
I just love y'all. I remember when I first stumbled upon your channel. I thought y'all where so cute and you still are.
As a virgin myself I don't find this conversation uncomfortable or awkward. It's actually helpful? 😂 I mean. Really. It actually is.
Anyway, love you guys ❤
Aww that’s awesome to hear❤️ Thanks for watching!
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Old eldest son called home on his wedding night to ask his dad (me) about Nuptial consummation. I asked if he has knowledge of the human female anatomy; his answer was: ..well .. No. So I explained the geographic locations and functions of the various "naughty-bits". I explained how to start the experience, and don't be afraid to experiment a little. About a half-hour later we received another call, which my wife answered, and two-minutes into the conversation she began to laugh uncontrollably. The wife rang-off the line, came to where I was sitting and collapsed into my lap, laughing her fool head off. Five minutes later, she composed herself sufficiently to repeat our sons epic words: "You mean .... that's it?" "That's all there is to it?" We went to bed that night, giggling our fool heads-off and reciting his epic words: "You mean .... that's it?"
Sorry but how did it happen that your grown ass son doesn’t know female anatomy?
2:09 Major LOL! Too funny! 🤣🤣🤣
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Paul: Change location
Next minute: Outside for neighbours to hear 😆 "here's the intimate detail".
Honestly, this is a topic that terrifies me about marriage. I honestly have no desire to "get intimate" with my wife on day 1, 2, 3, or 90. I just want to live with the love of my life.
That is so normal. Sex was so “expected” of me as a woman in a relationship when all I wanted was their partnership, love, and to share my life with them. It did change for me in time, especially when we started trying for a baby (not to say that is something you will necessarily want, just speaking from experience). Emotions aren’t permanent and they can change, and if you don’t want to have sex, there’s no need to pressure yourself. The right person won’t pressure you either.
There's in this world someone who thinks exactly like me? Wooow, where are you dude?!
I literally don't want to do this, just want to be with a partner, a friend, the love of my life and most people today are not interested anymore !;
Y’all weirdos.
You guys may want to consider the possibility that you're asexual. Whatever the case I encourage you to make sure your partners are aware of how you feel because for many people, sex is VERY important and mismatched sex drives is a key reason why people get divorced or cheat (not that cheating is excusable but that's the reality).
Make sure to tell that to the love of your life while dating
I will get marring next month iam so nervous but thanks for the info guys ❤.
What a Blessing! God Bless You both!
Beautiful family ❤
Three minutes in and i already love these two 😂❤❤❤
Paul, congrats for having such a beautiful wife! I had a question maybe you could answer. I'm a young guy but have a heart issue (fairly recently discovered) that will be my undoing faster than expected. Now I am at the point of wanting to enjoy life while I can, but knowing I will be a virgin and never experience the joy of marriage. I'm excited about heaven, but am having jealous thoughts seeing beautiful women out there specially when they are with men. Any thoughts on how I can focus on heaven and not what men love to focus on in life?
Focus on being of service, it will give your life meaning like nothing else can, think about it, service to each other is what makes a marriage work. From the other end of the road, i am over 40 with multiple chronic illnesses, I don’t see myself as being able to get married. You’re not alone but its definitely a big trial and spoiler alert, the idea is that you rely on God, that’s the way through. i wonder how you’re doing now 2 months since posting?
@@thewhiterabbituk Thank you so much for your kind response. You are exactly right -service to others is the key, and reliance on God is essential. I wish you all the luck possible, and hope God heals you as much as possible. I am doing about the same since posting, thank you for asking. How about you-ow are you? I want my life to have meaning, and your advice sounds like a good way to give it meaning.
Which are your thoughts on wearing a veil on the wedding day when the person is no longer a virgin?
What does the bible say about it?
Thanks guys :)
You are precious people! 💖
I'm sorry, but I have to bring up the elephant in the room here. Wedding night aside, a male being a virgin is an entirely different situation then the woman being a virgin, just from a physical sensation and biological perspective. And a woman virgin with a male virgin who has little to no clue how to properly take care of certain aspects . . . that is a worrisome proposition. And then if you fold in wedding night and all the jitters and excitement and build up? I think if you were to poll 100 couples who fit this criteria, the number of unsatisfying experiences would far out weight the positive ones.
@ek5371 care to elaborate? Hard to tell your stance on the emoticon. Not sure if sad face is from situation i described or about my opinion on the situation
He wants to wait and I am happy to wait with him, the more I think about it the more I want to, but I’m so worried that he will, well…finish before we’ve even begun. He has, accidentally, just from us making out so what if our first time is just a flop? I don’t want that to spoil what’s supposed to be one of the most perfect days 🥺
Are you saying it’s better if the male is a virgin on the wedding night vs the woman being the virgin on the wedding night?
@Psawyer555 they are both bad on a wedding night.... a female may have a very painful experience even with an experienced partner but her partner being a virgin could make it even worst...a male being a virgin won't yet know how to be a good partner and how to make that first night as wonderful as it could be. Both have negative points but the woman could have physical pain and issues which should be avoided. The whole concept of virginity is a social construct and shouldn't be part of the equation
@@Biscuitavenger thats the point have you noticed a trend on these comments its all fueled by society standards of what sex is supposed to be and it almost seems like your trying to lure people back into multiple sexual partners as your biggest argument is it wont be worth it as the experience isnt positive for your first time. Another inference by this that you have been influenced by societal norms is that its supposed to be good on the first time which is the instant gratification that is being promoted with 5 second videos scrolling and hookup culture. The point is marriage should be something you build upon and if it isnt great the first time or the marriage itself isnt all that you envisioned it to be you should work with your partner to find ways to enhance it, not simply explore your options because your self centered and do not feel the need to improve something over time like playing the piano. Very sad reality its all about what can i get out of it for myself and only me. what it should be is what can i do that wont only benefit me but my family and situation in the long term that will give us and our upcoming generational lineage the best results. if people thought like this everyone would be millionaires
Morgan not a virgin on her wedding night?
did you finish very early?.....lol from all the excitement
So he was virgin ,she wasn't
right? ??
Great video! Y’all never disappoint…God bless!
Okay so I don’t really agree with anything y’all say but I laughed at:
Paul: My anxiety did affect my performance.
Morgan: … I don’t remember that 👀😏
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This is very beautiful You 2 are virgin until the marriage.Very very beautiful no past no drama no baggage, wish you a happy life
I know this will be me because I can’t take birth control so I want to be married to have kids
No I won’t either already have enough medical issues from being on so many meds for my bipolar.
Cînd m-am logodit cu soțul meu,am fost prima mea noapte de dragoste nu am regretat nimic.
This BOY is a bigger red flag than his wife! I can acknowledge that they are built for each other though.
Hahahahah, the cat! 😅🥳
❤ nobody needs to know what happens in the bedroom, its too sacred and intimate to share...😨😰🥵
God Bless Your Marriage And Your TH-cam I Pray You Guys Blow Up In Jesus Name 🙏🙏🙏
Awww so cute 😃❤😃
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I am anticipating ❤😊
First after video comment 😎
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It's like playing pool and getting the last ball in the hole😂😂😂😂😂
Bro all y’all talk about is sex. I’m so over it
congratulations in getting your desires of heart
I think you have found a reason purity culture is bad. It can make you feel so guilty toward sex, it can spill over into even after you are married. It is hard to get that garbage out of your head even if you are married.
I also feel you have found a good reason why it is good to explore sex and sexuality before you are married because maybe you can't find it in your heart to have sex months after you are married is because you have discovered now that sex is allowed and on the table that you truly love your spouse but aren't sexually attracted to them.
Gay men don't hate women and lesbians don't hate men. They just find sex with them repulsive. Something that would be much better to discover BEFORE the wedding.
Are you a professing Christian?
@LA Revival I would bet not. A Christian would not talk like he does. Probably just another one of the trolls that hangs out in the comment section of every P&M video.
Purity culture is different than saving yourself for marriage but I think the two are often conflated because "deconstructed" folks were only taught Christian sexual ethics through that lense. You can save yourself for marriage without guilting and shaming yourself into doing it.
When you are truely walking in the spirit it feels very natural to abstain and it's exciting to look forward to it.
I think people put way to much weight on sex in general and you're talking basically about sexual compatibility which is a big load of horse poop if you ask me. Sexual comparability can change through your life. Some one you enjoy being with before you get married 10 years later it's not the same. So we just get divorced and marry someone were more attracted to at that point? Or we work through it? When my husband and I first got married we were very comparable. But I just had a baby and my drive is lower and I'm just not interested. Marriage is a commitment. Unless the other person is cheating or abusive you work it out.
@Mikaela Donegan Completely agree. I am sick of the phrase "purity culture" though. It's just another divisive phrase used to cut into Christianity. Like "Jesus freak" or "Bible thumper". Other than that, you are completely on it!
@@larevival4074 I am not sure how my answer would make my comment any more or less relevant.
Steamy LOL🤣🤣🤣
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I love you!
Jesus loves you. Love him too guys. Thanks.
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she is very beautiful
Beauty can be deceitful.
IF THE GIRL IS A VIRGIN, U HAVE A BLOOD COVENANT WITH YOUR SPOUSE. If not, you are forgiven because of the blood covenant with Jesus our eternal groom.
Ill take both, thank you! Its better choice !
It was your decision you made to be with a woman who wasn’t a virgin on your wedding night but I would never do that myself, never settle for someone less.
hallelujah
Your are not Virgins!!
Big whoop self righteous bunch
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MARRIAGE is about love NOT lust. God forgives men and women of sex sin. But she was NOT a virgin.. YOU DO NOT HAVE A BLOOD COVENANT. That was Gods idea. BOTH should keep themselves pure. I hope you continue to trust her. We have forgiveness of sin thru the Blood Covenant of Jesus and his blood.
Wisdom !
So she's not a virgin? Simp vibes
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Nothings kept sacred anymore 🤢
The girls behavior is so annoying, omg.
Damn, what a shame she's cheating on you with multiple guys now
How
Y'all are still pretending that Morgan was a virgin when these two got married? You poor Christians.
That is so gross to fetishise sex
This is so pathetic.
I am sure that no one is going to reciprocate my views, although I can understand why you are making this video, I don’t think this is very godly to share this because you never know what ages are watching, etc. this is inappropriate and should only be shared between you two. The Bible speaks on not defiling the marriage bed for a reason. Your viewers can get these details from friends/loved ones.
I have mixed feelings on it, on some of their vids they do have a disclaimer at the beginning for people to use their discernment on whether or not they can watch --which i think is good.
but yeah idk this video helps ease some worries for me if im being honest. sometimes my thoughts go south on things and when no one else is addressing it, it can be easy to think, maybe it can only be bad.
so for them to offer this perspective lightheartedly but also encouraging us to be godly, i felt like was reassuring ! cheers
Randomly stumbled across this channel and wow it's just garbage and I totally agree with you haha. I'm a Christian. My husband and I didn't even kiss at our wedding. Not saying everyone else has to go that far by any means but sharing stuff like this for the general public is completely inappropriate. Don't care who disagrees. They're wrong. Glad someone said something!
Aww Pauls dialogue on this is so sweet and almost literally bibical ❤💯🫶🏼 meanwhile he was a virgin this is very hopeful! The way he describes his wifey and how the experience honors God so beautiful ❤️
Wow you two guys looks so much in love ❤good positive vibes