Hey P&M Fam! Comment what you thought of this video and the views we shared. Also, comment any encouragement you have for those who might be unsure or struggling in this area :) Watch pt 2! ‘What We Did Together/How Much Time Spent?’ th-cam.com/video/0NEjX957GEU/w-d-xo.html
Yay for 100k subscribers 🎉🥳 love this , I certainly agree with boundaries while dating it’s so important to keep ourselves right and pure. Holding hands and side hugs I think are ok. The rest is to wait till marriage.
I like where you are coming from and the need to stay pure. However, I think that it is also best to go over your love languages in that topic as well. For me, I needed that physical touch and affection to feel loved by my now husband. And not in a sexual way but in more of a "I'm telling you I love you" kind of way. Holding hands, hugging, and maybe some kissing with limits (if they can exercise self control). Otherwise, I would have wondered if he truly loved me. Obviously making sure that lines are not being crossed. But that's just my opinion and what I know that I needed in that time to feel his love towards me.
This is coming from love and in hopes that future videos might be even better. Thank you for allowing The Sovereign to use you. One suggestion, bro, your shirt was a huge distraction simply because of how open and expository it was. Message was strong, but simple things like that can be a stumbling block for a brother or sister in Christ. Maybe just buttoning it up a little more. Thanks again for being bold and letting Daddy use you both and your experiences to help others! Take care!
A phrase that always sticks with me is: 'It's not the weak man who falls, but the man who thinks he's strong.' You're so right that we''re probably weaker than you think! But if we recognise that we're weak, we can put the boundaries in place, like you're always saying, so that we don't fall! I like that you guys present such a 'strict' model because it normalises the desire for purity and makes us feel stronger in our pursuit. Be blessed!
Someone once told me that....Some people think, “I want to be ‘free’ to do what I want, so I don’t want boundaries. I want freedom.” BUT that’s not freedom at all. God gives us boundaries so we can experience TRUE freedom: free from guilt, shame, etc. Boundaries=living in real freedom. Thanks for sharing Paul and Morgan! Great stuff!!
So true. We can see that with driving. If everyone is following the laws and guidelines for driving, then no one gets hurt. However it is when people go beyond those rules that tragedy happens. Getting tboned by a drunk driver as you cross an intersection, ignoring the speed limit and losing control of the vehicle ending up at the bottom of a cliff, and many other scenarios. The day that we stop having rules and guidelines to protect us is the same day that tragedy will strike powerfully.
Just for encouragement... we have been married almost 5 years... when we were dating, we didn’t hold hands, kiss or even intentionally touch each other. IT WAS SO WORTH IT!! Our wedding night and honeymoon were the ultimate high point where we got to do EVERYTHING! I can not recommend it enough.. hard? Yes. Worth it??? A million times YES! Having ZERO regrets was so worth it!
It would be interesting to see a video of them talking about modesty. I feel like modesty is part of “fleeing lust”. It’s intersting to see different Christians views of modesty...
Jessica Torrez Girl who told you that lie. Of course we can judge others with fair judgement. Society today depicts judgement as wrong and wicked but in reality it can be constructive. If someone is giving me good advice i should be humble as a christian and analyze the judgement/advice through the Bible and if they are right suck it up and accept it.
Hey, I'm still a single Pringle. I'm a young 19 year old girl in college waiting for someone special to come along. Your videos have helped me learn what to expect and how to make the most out of a relationship one day
I started watching your videos a few years ago after I ended a pretty ungodly relationship. We didnt have any conversations about boundaries and very quickly things escalated. When I started watching your purity videos God really changed my heart and I am happy to say that I am totally on board with all of your strict boundaries and am now starting to see someone new and I laid out my strict boundaries right away and have really felt Gods peace and blessing in it. Thank you both, your message and ministry changed my life, may God bless you both and thank you for giving us all the encouragement to have hope and be free.
I watched a message by Steven Furtick the other day and he said, "Your habits create the condition of your heart." You can't expect to have a pure heart while falling into habits of kissing early and things like that. It's so important to guard our hearts!
intimacy doesn’t mean sexual either. i feel having some physical aspect is very important to some relationships and some things shouldn’t always be viewed as sexual. with that being said, can things lead to other things, absolutely can however, that’s where self discipline is very important. those temptations should be ignored and fought if that’s what you believe. sacrificing a non sexual intimacy aspect of a relationship like cuddling, hugging, and even kissing can hurt relationships in my opinion. everybody does their own thing but i don’t think saying these things are bad pre marital is bad is the right thing.
So what if your love language is affection? While completely respecting the boundaries put in place, you never find out if the other person's naturally affectionate. Then you get married and find out that they hate touching and hate physical affection, hugging or cuddling? Now you're stuck. Just a thought, I am sure you'd talk about it and hope they're honest.
I've thought of this too. Touch is my love language. I'm thinking though that if you are really putting God first in your life and you ask Him if this is "the one" you will get an answer. I think we need to have faith and pray 🙏 I hope this helps you.
Precisely. In my relationship (9 months in) quality time is primary for both of us. Physical affection is secondary for me, third for him. Words of affirmation is secondary for him. So we discussed boundaries from the beginning. Hands stay in appropriate areas. We hold hands, hug, and kiss. I'm fine with light pda when out on a date or just hanging out, but no more than a side hug or hand on the back with family and friends. I think I am more private than him in this way and I clam up with embarrasment/shyness😅. Like the one time he gave me a kiss on my forehead at church I was like😳🙈. If it ever gets carried away, one or both of us needs to initiate a pause and we'll re-evaluate those boundaries as needed. I'm not thinking about sex when I'm affectionate. It's more about romance and how safe I feel with him. I am the same way with family, especially my older sisters and my neices and nephews...long hugs, kisses, and sometimes cuddles. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy lol. Everyone's mind is different and have different levels of self control. Therefore, boundaries will look different in every relationship.
Love y'all so much. Please do a video on awkward things that need to be talked about in a relationship. Like body hair or other sex related things. You always handle every video with such grace and dignity. Also pmease adress how you KNOW who the one to marry is??
Angel Helton awe thank you so much :) We plan to do a series and get deeper into topics related to sex. And actually part 5 of this series is on how we knew they were the one!
Body hair doesn’t have to be awkward. It’s a totally natural thing and neither partner should feel under any pressure to change their body hair habits just to please someone else. If you want to shave your legs/anywhere else, that’s totally up to you. If your partner can’t or won’t accept your body hair (or lack of), or they are hypocritical about it, they’re not worth your time. End of.
Thanks for sharing how y'all went about it! It's super helpful to see how different people handle these areas, so one can determine how they could go about it when the time comes or the question arises.
love this series so far! i just got in a new relationship and this is really strengthening my faith and confidence that my purity is nothing to be ashamed of, but rather to be proud of !!! thank yall for sharing
Thank you two for making this video. It makes me feel confident that my girlfriend and I are doing the right things. You two are amazing. Thank you again!
Your lady is so blessed to have someone respecting her to the point of delaying pursuing strong selfish desires, and being obedient to God's will and timing. May the Lord continue to bless you both and have His Hand on this growing union.
This is what I needed to hear! Boundaries are so important, when my boyfriend told me he doesn't want to kiss until we are married I nearly died! But looking at it now, it really does makes sense! xx
Thank you so much. My boyfriend has set a boundary with me that he wanted our first kiss on our wedding. I've been praying for a guy who'd do that to me. Struggle is their but I know that the wait is worth it. That Christ is glorified in the wait. And our relationship is strengthened as we go through this path of purity.
Paul and Morgan, you guys are awesome! My girlfriend and I very close to being engaged, and we have not yet kissed on the lips. We have talked about it and decided to at least wait until engagement, but as that day grows closer we felt convicted about waiting longer. However we were not 100% decided. Today I was driving home from work and just praying to God asking for wisdom and guidance whether it be through a mentor, Scripture, or one of the many Christian influencers that I follow. Sure enough I saw your video, and my convictions to wait longer were renewed. God directly answered my prayer through the two of you!!! I know this is a long comment, but I want you to know that God is using you!
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell. Matthew 5:27-30 Personally, whatever it is that causes us to stumble in a relationship, especially if it affects our relationship with God negatively, we need to remove it. To some it may be holding hands, To some it's hugging, to some is being too close, to some it's looking into each other's eyes for too long, to some it's kissing. We all need to be sincerely honest about what the Holy Spirit says to us with regards to how we conduct ourselves in a relationship, Both in thought and in action. That's my starting point.
@@ipodtouch573 I agree with you that even if you don't exactly follow their advice but avoid lust and sexual temptations then you are avoiding sin. What I have increasingly come across is what I call "Sunday Christians" where they go to church, call themselves Christian but continue to engage in sins such as sexual relations outside of marriage.
Having each person write what their expectations of physical boundaries is a great piece of advice. With my last boyfriend I let him know what my expectations where and he nodded. Come to find out later he totally didn't care about purity to the degree I did. I wish I had taken purity way more seriously. I was all about staying pure till marriage, but I indulged in a ton of sexual activity besides full on intercourse, and it did damage me and the relationship. It made the relationship feel less real. I learned if I can't keep my hands off of someone, it's not a real, honoring, friendship with longevity- it's a lustful affair. He was a cool person but ultimately I got sick of my trying to please God, myself, and him all at the same time.... I am super interested in what I would have previously considered "strict religious boundaries". I'm happy to hear Morgan loved dating Paul and felt loved by him because he was challenged to express genuine love to her in other ways. Physical stuff is easy; intimacy takes a lot of maturity and intentionality.
I appreciate your videos, Paul & Morgan! Almost 5 years ago, for about 8 years, I was part of a strict Baptist Church and Bible college. Sadly, it took me that long to find out how much spiritual abuse was in that place. While the standards you shared were very similar in the "letter of the law" to what I was taught there, the heart is completely different. God does care about the little things, but most importantly He cares about our heart (not about the rules themselves, if that makes sense). I am so thankful for how He has been teaching me about listening to the Holy Spirit, not just living by man made rules. Your videos are helping me relearn how to step into dating with intentionality and purity, while also walking in freedom and having fun along the way. I'm looking forward to the rest of this series. God bless you!
“Such a fresh of breath air.” - Morgan 2019 😂 I love you guys so much and I’m so blessed and thankful that I came across your videos. God bless you both!
Lol!!! You guys are soo hilarious.. You guys preach THE GOSPEL and still show the joy of YAHWEH!!! At the same time being honest!!! Being who God called you to be.
GOD BLESS YOU PAUL N MORGAN!!!!! God literally spoke to me right now using you guys and im sooooo glad we have a christian couples who takes time to SHARE the gospel through dating and stuff....you guys are the best
I'm not dating yet but I love watching your vids because I want to keep these standards I have current for when I do. It also encourages me to know there are other people out there who believe the same things I do. Thanks so much Paul and Morgan!!!💕
This is a wonderful video!! I havent dated or crossed any physical boundaries yet, but i intend to start dating fairly soon and this was definitely encouraging!! I think i am committed to saving kissing until I'm engaged, and i think holding hands and hugging I will be fine with! But if i see myself start to slip or lust, I will quickly put those boundaries in place!!
I really love to see that a man can set boundaries like that! I've always been the one to set boundaries about this sort of thing .I ' ve learned from this that it's really important to pray for a Christian man who sets strict boundaries too. Thank you so much. God has used your videos 😊 to teach me something.
In a world full of compromise and mixture, even in the Church and amongst Christian circles, your videos are seriously a breath of fresh air and an encouragement to know we're not crazy or too "extreme." Thank you!!
My first and the last relationship I had was very difficult revolving boundaries. We set them very early on but they definitely did not last. My advice to everyone who is wanting to date or is currently dating, coming from someone who has fallen, please do NOT compromise. In my situation We justified overstepping boundaries by saying that other people are going way farther etc and a little 3 second kiss won’t be that bad but it really does accelerate things. I use to think my will power was greater than any temptation but don’t fall for that same thought. You will become a victim of sexual sin. It’s similar to doing a drug. Once you have had it, you want more of it and once that’s not good enough you up it to something stronger (all the way sex).
One other down fall I want to mention, just because you don’t go “all the way” does not mean you aren’t sinning. If you feel the least bit of conviction or guilt you have committed sexual sin. If I could redo it over or whenever I date somebody again I’m setting strict boundaries and avoiding being alone in secluded areas.
Appreciate you sharing that, Cory, and your openness. I hope that will resonate with some of our viewers who might think boundaries are not a big deal :) God bless
My friend just entered a relationship and she said that God told her something that totally blew my mind. He told her that she could cross certain boundaries of the “promised land” with her boyfriend (obviously not sex) with God not being on the mix, or like Moses, she could say “I’m not going past this point without you Lord” and move at the pace of grace. Only going as far as God is present, entering the promise land together. Just something to think about.
Loved this video & your honest opinion! My boyfriend & I have been going on 2 years & it’s been hard keeping those boundaries sometimes, but we have to remember that God will bless our marriage & our obedience for waiting. It may not be easy, but it definitely will be worth it! God has entrusted us with our significant other’s heart & their testimony, so we must learn to respect & treasure those boundaries. May we consider them to be blessings rather than just simply boundaries.
Enjoyed the video as always. I don't have any regrets from the hugs and hand-holding from my last relationship, but when I begin dating again, I do plan on having stronger boundaries, or at least to introduce things much later in the relationship. I smiled and smashed that like button when you guys kissed. :) I had an idea last night after watching some of your older videos: you guys should make a video compilation of all of your bloopers and funny moments from your videos so far! There are so many times you've made my day better by scaring each other, being funny, etc. Edit: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! 100k subscribers!!! Go do a special date or something to celebrate!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
Zogly thank you so much! Always love reading your comments. You’re awesome! And yes! We definitely need to do some kind of blooper video! 😂😄 and ahhhh! Thank you so much! It’s crazy! 🙌🏼😄💜
Hannah Dare It would be amazing, but it would also be a lot of work. Some of their funniest moments are spread through their videos, not just put at the end. So they would have to go back through all of their videos and find the good moments to include.
Zogly oh that’s true it would be very time consuming... they should make a community post and get everyone involved! Could ask people to comment the names of any videos that have their favorite blooper worthy moments in them. I’ve seen another TH-camr do something similar in the past getting their subscribers help finding specific moments from old videos :)
Hannah Dare That would be helpful for them, and would also mean that all of our individual favorite moments have a better chance of being considered. But that means we will have to all spend that time digging to find it. It may be something they could ask the Patrons to help with though.
This generation really need a conviction to pursue purity before marriage, because a relationship that honors God is a pure, true and free from guilt and immorality kind of relationship. Thank you for being a model.
Guys...YES! Thank you so much for simply talking about this. I am currently not dating however I have met someone who I really like and the feeling has been made clearly mutual. We had a conversation about our feelings however want to just get to know each other. Since we are not actually "dating" I often wonder if even having a conversation about boundaries is necessary, however we have spent a bit of one-on-one time together so I think it is so important to talk about it. This video has encouraged me as I'm in the middle of something so new to me. Having that desire to hug, hold hands and even go further is SO REAL! I want to be sure that he is the one I marry first though, because trusting someone for me is a big deal. There are some character questions I need answered about him. I'm praying about it and I think I will have at least a small low-key conversation with him about my thoughts on boundaries; I simply want to guard both our hearts and protect them as we are still answering the important questions as to each others characters. Like you said, Paul and Morgan, it's different for everyone and I simply needed this push to really listen to the little nudges I believe God is giving me. I know what is too much for my heart and mind to feel comfortable with. God knows too; I have to be sure I'm not trying to hide from Him.
I love this video!!! People really discredit boundaries and values because they don’t want to be left out but God wants us to understand that if we do it his way, we’ll never be left out! And for anyone who dares try to go against what they said in this video, go read 1 and 2 Corinthians. God Bless! 😊
Thank you so much, Paul and Morgan!! I really appreciate the practical advice, and the godly way that you express your thoughts and opinions! I am so grateful that there are people like you on the internet! ❤️❤️ May God bless you both for you faithful ministry!
Love, love, love this!!!! THANK YALL for being BOLD!! I have been married for 7 years and my husband and I had clear physical boundaries that we stuck to and I do not regret it one bit. Ours were very similar to what y'alls were and I would agree with you if I could do it over again my husband and I both agree that we would wait until our wedding day to kiss. If you think about it there's really no negatives to that other than it makes the boundaries very clear and simple and I think it takes a lot of pressure off of you and you can just relax and enjoy getting to know each other on a not physical level just emotionally and spiritually and all of those areas.
As a Christian, I feel that if it doesn’t convict you then it is within your boundaries. I believe you guys feel the same way! The only thing I’d ask that you add to videos like this is that it’s okay to be tempted. Temptation is not a sin. Avoiding the temptation is where it’s at. It’s about taking those thoughts and feelings captive and pushing them away. As I’m sure you know, even Jesus was tempted, but he didn’t sin cause, well, He’s Jesus (among other more we’ll put and thought out reasons). I love you guys, I love your ministry, and I’d love to see more of y’all! Maybe a video about maintaining a relationship through all of the things that we humans go through? Y’all might already have one of those. I’m just getting into your channel. Thanks for providing such a great ministry to this forum. Y’all rock!
I loved this video! I’m dating a guy now and we set our boundaries on our third date and this advice pretty much lines up with what we agreed upon. We’ve been keeping to our boundaries for 3 months so far and this video really gave me hope that we can continue it and be grateful for the outcome. :)
HEEEY you've just got a 100k !!! That's the proof that God's word is spreading ❤🙌🏻 I'm so happy for you guys! Can't wait to see a video you were talking about
Omg! This video! Thank you! Ever since I watched my first video, I can’t stop watching! We are approaching 1 year and we’ve had our share of what is right and what’s not right. We were honest with each other about boundaries and now I feel so much lighter and free while in courtship with him!
“God is into the practical” “There are things you can do that can set you up for success” But taking birth control if you’re not ready or able to support a child isn’t included in this?
This was a great video! :) Paul and Morgan- I love your guys' mission.💓 Staying pure for the Lord in ALL areas of life shows that you really love Jesus with your whole heart, mind and strength. I'm glad that there are others who want to stay pure, not only in dating but in singleness and marriage and just in our everyday lives. It's all for Jesus, to love others, and to love our selves! The dating world can be tricky, but remember, God is on your side! The Holy Spirit will guide you, because Jesus LOVES you! ✝️ Proverbs 16:3- "Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed."
Nice job on the video Paul and Morgan. Thanks for the advice on physical boundaries it was very helpful. I believe finding love is not easy but after watching your videos I have hope that I will find that special person someday. You guys are an awesome team. Keep up the good work.
This was awesome . I’m engaged right now and to see someone else had boundaries like me and my fiancé really encouraged me. We’ve committed to waiting for our first kiss and being physical for our wedding day next April of 2020. We’ve been in a relationship for 3 years so our wedding day will be a blast lol. We’re already seeing how God is going to bless us for waiting this long. And I love how you said Morgan that God does care about the little things. Thank you again for showing such a beautiful example . God’s smiling down on you both 🤗
I’m not incredibly religious, but it’s very refreshing hearing such advice. I really like your videos because while I may disagree on some things, your personalities and chemistry together is very fun to watch! Don’t listen to all the haters, just live your lives the way you want because god was great enough to give us that power :)
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16 Only Jesus Christ is the way to Heaven and be saved from hell. "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8 "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." John 14:6 Have you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose from the grave? You must believe that Jesus Christ is the Son and God and died on the cross for your sins and rose again to be saved from eternal damnation and instead go to heaven "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved." Romans 10:9 "For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one." 1 John 5:7
Great advice guys! For me no holding hands till in a relationship and no kissing, cuddling, or sex till marriage. Hugging in moderation until in a relationship as well. Congrats on 100K.
Hey y’all, thanks for another great video! I will say, boundaries are great! But let’s not forget that there’s a difference between personal convictions and biblical commands-and this looks different for everyone!
I am sorry you have already experienced that. I know that God works all things for good, even our deepest pain. I hope you know that comfort and are strengthened by His presence.
I have been in several relationships that did not respect boundaries at all. The more I grow closer to God, the more I am valuing myself and the other person. Boundaries are NOT easy, however the more I seek a man after God’s own heart, the more I want to respect him by keeping proper boundaries. Thanks for sharing the awkward moments, and topics, that many people are curious about, but don’t ever talk about. 😊
We have a lot of the same views on physical standards... no holding hands until engagement and no kissing until the wedding day! Thank you for your stand for Christ!
This is fantastic! Boundaries are just a must have and something that I’ll be implementing when I’m in a relationship again because I’m not strong and to protect me, I need them. You guys are great and so encouraging!!! 😍💖
I appreciate your wisdom. You encourage me to stay on this path of purity and to also create boundaries for when I begin to date. Staying pure is so important for us as believers in Christ and to surround ourselves with likeminded people. I praise God for your ministry.
I think it depends on the couple. My parents held hands, hugged, and kissed when they were dating and it didn’t go further. So if you struggle with self control or think you couldn’t trust yourself to stop then this is good to follow, but if you and your significant other are strong people and have a good sense of self control then I think than it’s OK. And I know literally dozens of Christian couples who did these held hands, hugged, kissed while staying pure, and are still happily married today. I think it’s just a matter of personal preference and knowing what you can or can’t handle.
Okay so I first watched this video a year and a half ago and I was in the boat of thinking that you are too strict and that is ridiculous. And now after all this time spent with Jesus, intentionally single for 12 months of it, and refining my heart and mind, I agree with everything you are saying! I’m shocked at how much Jesus has changed my heart and mind. I had settled on waiting to kiss until engagement but I’m now considering a month before the wedding date or maybe a week before. I do want our first kiss to be just the two of us and private. But not so far from marriage that we go further than we feel convicted about. Thanks for sharing your story and experience
I totally agree with you guys on this. Things can escalate fast physically. And it's really hard to put a stop to it when you're in the moment. My fiancé and I are getting married this fall. And yes it's hard sometimes to wait but I know it's totally going to be worth it. While some might see you as too conservative, God is serious about holiness. Either it's a sin or its not. There's no in-betweens. Thanks guys for reaching out to the younger generation 💛
Awesome, i have spent the last 10 years...being healed , sanctified, and prepared for a kingdom marriage... I have never heard anyone speak and mirror my Hearts desires and boundaries for marriage, until now, praise God, hope there are more of us out there lol God bless you guys for your transparency!
I love this! Recently I have also heard so many discouraging stories of Christian relationships that haven’t stayed sexually pure until marriage-which is something I desperately want!! I have some good strong marriage examples thankfully, but I started feeling discouraged that I could actually have high standards or boundaries pretty much exactly like the ones u guys mentioned. I feel like I’m not alone in wanting those high standards! Thank u for sharing exactly what u guys did it’s encouraging and helpful:)
In y’alls opinion, do you think that there should be a ‘spiritual boundary’? What I mean by that is; do you think it would be wise to have a boundary that would keep a dating couple from doing devotions together? Like, at first you’d think, of course you can do devotions together, but at the same time, while doing devotions together, you create a spiritual connection that makes it very difficult to let go of and separate if that relationship doesn’t pan out.
Alyssa Hoyt I agree, however, if you love your boy/girlfriend so much, you should try your best to protect her and save her for her future husband/wife, whether that is you or someone else. It’s a little different with friends, but good point! ;)
Absolutely!! No kissing until marriage. My husband and I have been married 12 years and we are SO glad we waited because our relationship was not clouded with shame, AND we now have 3 daughters that we can share our testimony and wisdom to. Thanks for this video AND series; ya’ll are the BEST! 💝💝🙏🙏
Hey, Guys Thank you for doing these videos :) I was dating someone and had all these boundaries defines, I totally agree with you boundaries make JERKS Run Away !!! And let's be honest we all want a true, real, and authentic LOVE who wants someone who just wants to mess around with you and take advantage of you and use your body just for FUN nobody!!! so letS do ourselves a favor and live up to our values OUR FAITH and ESTABLISH boundaries in a relationship it is totally worth it and prepares you for the love of your live :)
Thank you guys for making this video. Both of you give me hope that there is someone that God has made just for me. It’s very hard being strict on my boundaries in dating but I have stuck to them. Thank you for continuing to give me hope in today’s world ❤️
I love how you guys serve God and do His Will by sharing these wonderful videos with us all. Thank you Paul and Morgan, hope God blesses you both eternally💖 and even though hard times sometimes come, NEVER EVER EVER stop doing this amazing thing for Our God and community. Keep being as focused on Him as you are now!!
I just stumbed on your videos now and honestly I got stucked viewing them one at a time. Being young and vibrant, you give the realest advice on Christain dating topics bibically...you show me, there's more fun in Christ. I cherish what you both have. Bravo❤👏
Great video, you guys have the same standards I want to have for my future relationship. You guys are happily married and that encourages me that other people have the same boundaries.
I have never dated before, I'm 17. I love the Lord very much and made a promise to him not to date until I turn 18. I find it harder and harder as time flies by, But I've made it this far, praise the Lord! Just want to say as a fellow Christian, I really appreciate the message that you guys are sharing. When I do finally get into a relationship, I only want to love the man God made for me. So thank you very much for your advice! Sexual purity is a huge issue for teenagers I feel like. So hearing advice from people who have gone through the tough choices and boundaries is really comforting. Thank you again. God bless.
First time watcher of your channel and I completely respect that your views are your views and you (and your audience) are absolutely entitled to them. I’m just curious, though, do you think there is any incongruency in the belief that it is totally okay for your God to allow millions of children EVERY year to die from illness (about which he does nothing); allow tens of thousands of children to be abused by leaders of His churches (about which he idly stands by and does nothing); allows people all over the world to live in poverty and take their own lives because “God doesn’t answer their prayers” (about which he does nothing) and yet, somehow, he DOES care about two people holding hands and no! no! no! He’s definitely going to do something about that? Notwithstanding the incomparable narcissistic arrogance to think that God cares about YOU holding hands or not but does nothing to save the lives of millions of suffering children (when, apparently He can, but chooses not to), does it not seem, prima facie, somewhat askew to you - that there is something just not quite right about that? Just curious to know what you think of that. And please spare me the “we aren’t supposed to understand God’s ways” diatribe.
Hey God bless you guys, I’m single and saving myself for marriage I turned 19 today Lol. For When I do start dating I want to be intentional about it like you guys have said. I want to save the most for marriage and there were thing you guys mentioned that I’ve never stopped to think about them and I now agree with you guys and understand the message you guys are delivering. We can’t let our guards down thinking we are strong enough and give way for the enemy and sin. Godly Boundaries are necessary and essential for not only relationships but for other things in life. Thank you Guys! Love y’all! ❣️🤗 I’ve never written this much😂
Such a good video! I’ve been super encouraged by this series as I become interested in having a relationship with a girl who puts Jesus first in her life. I’m SO BLESSED by you two for talking about this and for giving such PRACTICAL advice! I’ve learned so much because so often this isn’t talked about at church. Also def lol’d at least 2.5 times during this video 😂 God bless! - Eli from Montana
I love you guys and I love your content! One thing that I would love to see is references to specific verses in the bible either on screen or in the description. I think this would help to solidify that your argument is based in biblical truths, and so that I can go back to those verses and meditate on them myself as well. You guys are both filled with the Spirit and it is evident in your videos!
Hey, just started watching your videos and subscribed, Im 26 single and grateful where God has me but its so encouraging to hear all y'alls ministry. Your thoughts on boundaries are awesome, love the challenge!!
Hey P&M Fam! Comment what you thought of this video and the views we shared. Also, comment any encouragement you have for those who might be unsure or struggling in this area :)
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Yay for 100k subscribers 🎉🥳 love this , I certainly agree with boundaries while dating it’s so important to keep ourselves right and pure. Holding hands and side hugs I think are ok. The rest is to wait till marriage.
I like where you are coming from and the need to stay pure. However, I think that it is also best to go over your love languages in that topic as well. For me, I needed that physical touch and affection to feel loved by my now husband. And not in a sexual way but in more of a "I'm telling you I love you" kind of way. Holding hands, hugging, and maybe some kissing with limits (if they can exercise self control). Otherwise, I would have wondered if he truly loved me. Obviously making sure that lines are not being crossed. But that's just my opinion and what I know that I needed in that time to feel his love towards me.
I love this series so much! I am so thankful to know that I'm not the only one who holds these values!
You're my best
This is coming from love and in hopes that future videos might be even better. Thank you for allowing The Sovereign to use you. One suggestion, bro, your shirt was a huge distraction simply because of how open and expository it was. Message was strong, but simple things like that can be a stumbling block for a brother or sister in Christ. Maybe just buttoning it up a little more.
Thanks again for being bold and letting Daddy use you both and your experiences to help others! Take care!
“It’s okay if you look different from the world!” Amen, sister!
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Preferable. The world is ugly
A phrase that always sticks with me is: 'It's not the weak man who falls, but the man who thinks he's strong.'
You're so right that we''re probably weaker than you think! But if we recognise that we're weak, we can put the boundaries in place, like you're always saying, so that we don't fall! I like that you guys present such a 'strict' model because it normalises the desire for purity and makes us feel stronger in our pursuit. Be blessed!
jazzyrobot amen! Thanks for sharing 😊
Someone once told me that....Some people think, “I want to be ‘free’ to do what I want, so I don’t want boundaries. I want freedom.” BUT that’s not freedom at all. God gives us boundaries so we can experience TRUE freedom: free from guilt, shame, etc. Boundaries=living in real freedom. Thanks for sharing Paul and Morgan! Great stuff!!
Amen that’s right on! Thanks for sharing!
Amen! Such a great comment :)
Amen! That is so true
@@chesssean Interesting. I never knew the words.
So true. We can see that with driving. If everyone is following the laws and guidelines for driving, then no one gets hurt. However it is when people go beyond those rules that tragedy happens. Getting tboned by a drunk driver as you cross an intersection, ignoring the speed limit and losing control of the vehicle ending up at the bottom of a cliff, and many other scenarios. The day that we stop having rules and guidelines to protect us is the same day that tragedy will strike powerfully.
Just for encouragement... we have been married almost 5 years... when we were dating, we didn’t hold hands, kiss or even intentionally touch each other.
IT WAS SO WORTH IT!!
Our wedding night and honeymoon were the ultimate high point where we got to do EVERYTHING!
I can not recommend it enough.. hard? Yes. Worth it??? A million times YES!
Having ZERO regrets was so worth it!
Woah
“Fresh of breath air” i diedddd, I was confused too! 😂
I really admire you guys and appreciate these videos, it’s good to know I’m not crazy 😂
Elizmary Marrero haha yeah that was epic😛 So glad to hear that! You’re not alone :)
Elizmary Marrero I’ve totally said that before!!! 😁
Morgannnn I can't get over how beautiful you and your hair is😍😍😍😭😭
Nikita Gabrielle aweee😊❤️
I loved it when Morgan said that if there is a difference in stsndards, the couple is better off taking the higher ones.
Thanks Esther❤️
Paul & Morgan: Modesty is important!
Paul: *shows us half his bare chest*
i was literally looking for this comment 😂 never have i ever missed buttons so much
It would be interesting to see a video of them talking about modesty. I feel like modesty is part of “fleeing lust”. It’s intersting to see different Christians views of modesty...
You’re not suppose to judge others for what their conscious allows them, you’re not god to judge
@@jessicatorrez8370 Real funny that they do, then
Jessica Torrez Girl who told you that lie. Of course we can judge others with fair judgement. Society today depicts judgement as wrong and wicked but in reality it can be constructive. If someone is giving me good advice i should be humble as a christian and analyze the judgement/advice through the Bible and if they are right suck it up and accept it.
Hey, I'm still a single Pringle. I'm a young 19 year old girl in college waiting for someone special to come along. Your videos have helped me learn what to expect and how to make the most out of a relationship one day
Tracy Monique awe so glad to hear that😊❤️
Tracy Monique haha girl same
Same girl sameee
Same here girl! Waiting patiently, they help prepare me for sure
I’m a single boy let’s talk
I started watching your videos a few years ago after I ended a pretty ungodly relationship. We didnt have any conversations about boundaries and very quickly things escalated. When I started watching your purity videos God really changed my heart and I am happy to say that I am totally on board with all of your strict boundaries and am now starting to see someone new and I laid out my strict boundaries right away and have really felt Gods peace and blessing in it. Thank you both, your message and ministry changed my life, may God bless you both and thank you for giving us all the encouragement to have hope and be free.
I watched a message by Steven Furtick the other day and he said, "Your habits create the condition of your heart." You can't expect to have a pure heart while falling into habits of kissing early and things like that. It's so important to guard our hearts!
Sky Bishop that’s a good word!
Steven Furtick is one of my favorite pastors to listen to. I love his sermons. What sermon was this that you listened to?
Elisha Jacobs I believe it was titled "Three Habits of a Healthy Heart"😊😇
Hugs and hand holding do not need to be sexualized, just saying
Yesss so true, touch can be used to communicate platonic/non-sexual love too 👏
that's true but they can lead to other things
intimacy doesn’t mean sexual either. i feel having some physical aspect is very important to some relationships and some things shouldn’t always be viewed as sexual. with that being said, can things lead to other things, absolutely can however, that’s where self discipline is very important. those temptations should be ignored and fought if that’s what you believe. sacrificing a non sexual intimacy aspect of a relationship like cuddling, hugging, and even kissing can hurt relationships in my opinion. everybody does their own thing but i don’t think saying these things are bad pre marital is bad is the right thing.
I wish they weren't but in this day & age/ culture they kinda are 😔 although holding hands is alright
That’s not what they are saying. Every little thing leads to something bigger. The adrenaline grows and you want more and more, just human nature.
So what if your love language is affection? While completely respecting the boundaries put in place, you never find out if the other person's naturally affectionate. Then you get married and find out that they hate touching and hate physical affection, hugging or cuddling? Now you're stuck.
Just a thought, I am sure you'd talk about it and hope they're honest.
I've thought of this too. Touch is my love language. I'm thinking though that if you are really putting God first in your life and you ask Him if this is "the one" you will get an answer. I think we need to have faith and pray 🙏 I hope this helps you.
Precisely. In my relationship (9 months in) quality time is primary for both of us. Physical affection is secondary for me, third for him. Words of affirmation is secondary for him. So we discussed boundaries from the beginning. Hands stay in appropriate areas. We hold hands, hug, and kiss. I'm fine with light pda when out on a date or just hanging out, but no more than a side hug or hand on the back with family and friends. I think I am more private than him in this way and I clam up with embarrasment/shyness😅. Like the one time he gave me a kiss on my forehead at church I was like😳🙈. If it ever gets carried away, one or both of us needs to initiate a pause and we'll re-evaluate those boundaries as needed.
I'm not thinking about sex when I'm affectionate. It's more about romance and how safe I feel with him. I am the same way with family, especially my older sisters and my neices and nephews...long hugs, kisses, and sometimes cuddles. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy lol. Everyone's mind is different and have different levels of self control. Therefore, boundaries will look different in every relationship.
Love y'all so much. Please do a video on awkward things that need to be talked about in a relationship. Like body hair or other sex related things. You always handle every video with such grace and dignity. Also pmease adress how you KNOW who the one to marry is??
Angel Helton awe thank you so much :) We plan to do a series and get deeper into topics related to sex. And actually part 5 of this series is on how we knew they were the one!
@@PaulandMorgan thank you!!!
Body hair doesn’t have to be awkward. It’s a totally natural thing and neither partner should feel under any pressure to change their body hair habits just to please someone else. If you want to shave your legs/anywhere else, that’s totally up to you. If your partner can’t or won’t accept your body hair (or lack of), or they are hypocritical about it, they’re not worth your time. End of.
Thanks for sharing how y'all went about it! It's super helpful to see how different people handle these areas, so one can determine how they could go about it when the time comes or the question arises.
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love this series so far! i just got in a new relationship and this is really strengthening my faith and confidence that my purity is nothing to be ashamed of, but rather to be proud of !!! thank yall for sharing
Thank you two for making this video. It makes me feel confident that my girlfriend and I are doing the right things. You two are amazing. Thank you again!
Luke Carter love hearing that bro! 👊
Your lady is so blessed to have someone respecting her to the point of delaying pursuing strong selfish desires, and being obedient to God's will and timing. May the Lord continue to bless you both and have His Hand on this growing union.
This is what I needed to hear! Boundaries are so important, when my boyfriend told me he doesn't want to kiss until we are married I nearly died! But looking at it now, it really does makes sense! xx
Amen, you got this😊
"Suck it up and step it up."
You guys are such a blessing to the TH-cam community! God bless you. :)
Alida Rose thank you!❤️
Alida Rose definitely
Thank you so much. My boyfriend has set a boundary with me that he wanted our first kiss on our wedding. I've been praying for a guy who'd do that to me.
Struggle is their but I know that the wait is worth it. That Christ is glorified in the wait. And our relationship is strengthened as we go through this path of purity.
Do you think the devil is transmitted through kissing? I dont see the logic here .. 🤔
Paul and Morgan, you guys are awesome! My girlfriend and I very close to being engaged, and we have not yet kissed on the lips. We have talked about it and decided to at least wait until engagement, but as that day grows closer we felt convicted about waiting longer. However we were not 100% decided. Today I was driving home from work and just praying to God asking for wisdom and guidance whether it be through a mentor, Scripture, or one of the many Christian influencers that I follow. Sure enough I saw your video, and my convictions to wait longer were renewed. God directly answered my prayer through the two of you!!! I know this is a long comment, but I want you to know that God is using you!
Awe praise God, that’s so cool!
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.
Matthew 5:27-30
Personally, whatever it is that causes us to stumble in a relationship, especially if it affects our relationship with God negatively, we need to remove it. To some it may be holding hands, To some it's hugging, to some is being too close, to some it's looking into each other's eyes for too long, to some it's kissing. We all need to be sincerely honest about what the Holy Spirit says to us with regards to how we conduct ourselves in a relationship, Both in thought and in action. That's my starting point.
Thomas Mbiba amen! So good. Thank you for your comment.
Amen.
Amen! It truly surprises me how many people who call themselves Christians but are not following this. I truly appreciate your guidance and ministry!
Chris Moraal 😊😊
YAAASSS!!!! I LOVE GOODDDD
Chris Moraal I don’t think it’s a sin not to follow this as long as you are not lusting
@@ipodtouch573 I agree with you that even if you don't exactly follow their advice but avoid lust and sexual temptations then you are avoiding sin. What I have increasingly come across is what I call "Sunday Christians" where they go to church, call themselves Christian but continue to engage in sins such as sexual relations outside of marriage.
Having each person write what their expectations of physical boundaries is a great piece of advice. With my last boyfriend I let him know what my expectations where and he nodded. Come to find out later he totally didn't care about purity to the degree I did. I wish I had taken purity way more seriously. I was all about staying pure till marriage, but I indulged in a ton of sexual activity besides full on intercourse, and it did damage me and the relationship. It made the relationship feel less real. I learned if I can't keep my hands off of someone, it's not a real, honoring, friendship with longevity- it's a lustful affair. He was a cool person but ultimately I got sick of my trying to please God, myself, and him all at the same time.... I am super interested in what I would have previously considered "strict religious boundaries". I'm happy to hear Morgan loved dating Paul and felt loved by him because he was challenged to express genuine love to her in other ways. Physical stuff is easy; intimacy takes a lot of maturity and intentionality.
Can you do a video on intentional dating for long distance relationships?
Lindsey Allen thanks for the suggestion :)
If they've never done one they might not have the experience with it
Yes please.
I appreciate your videos, Paul & Morgan! Almost 5 years ago, for about 8 years, I was part of a strict Baptist Church and Bible college. Sadly, it took me that long to find out how much spiritual abuse was in that place. While the standards you shared were very similar in the "letter of the law" to what I was taught there, the heart is completely different. God does care about the little things, but most importantly He cares about our heart (not about the rules themselves, if that makes sense). I am so thankful for how He has been teaching me about listening to the Holy Spirit, not just living by man made rules. Your videos are helping me relearn how to step into dating with intentionality and purity, while also walking in freedom and having fun along the way. I'm looking forward to the rest of this series. God bless you!
“Such a fresh of breath air.” - Morgan 2019 😂
I love you guys so much and I’m so blessed and thankful that I came across your videos. God bless you both!
Baahaha❤️❤️
Lol!!! You guys are soo hilarious.. You guys preach THE GOSPEL and still show the joy of YAHWEH!!! At the same time being honest!!! Being who God called you to be.
Chosen To Be awe that makes us so happy to hear😄❤️
When Morgan said “it was such a fresh of breath air” Paul’s face 😂😂🤣😭😭
Love you guys!!
GOD BLESS YOU PAUL N MORGAN!!!!! God literally spoke to me right now using you guys and im sooooo glad we have a christian couples who takes time to SHARE the gospel through dating and stuff....you guys are the best
Awe praise God😊
Thanks for your videos on this topic! We also had boundaries when dating because we felt that it was worth the wait.
Rhoades24eva amen😊👍
I'm not dating yet but I love watching your vids because I want to keep these standards I have current for when I do. It also encourages me to know there are other people out there who believe the same things I do. Thanks so much Paul and Morgan!!!💕
Awe you rock Natalie 😊❤️
Paul’s unbuttoned shirt was making me stumble 😂😂😂 jk
LOL! I'm dead!
That’s is unholy
This is a wonderful video!! I havent dated or crossed any physical boundaries yet, but i intend to start dating fairly soon and this was definitely encouraging!! I think i am committed to saving kissing until I'm engaged, and i think holding hands and hugging I will be fine with! But if i see myself start to slip or lust, I will quickly put those boundaries in place!!
Darker ASMR thank you so much! So happy you liked it. And that’s awesome! Stay strong 😄
Cant stop human nature bud.
I really love to see that a man can set boundaries like that! I've always been the one to set boundaries about this sort of thing .I ' ve learned from this that it's really important to pray for a Christian man who sets strict boundaries too. Thank you so much. God has used your videos 😊 to teach me something.
In a world full of compromise and mixture, even in the Church and amongst Christian circles, your videos are seriously a breath of fresh air and an encouragement to know we're not crazy or too "extreme." Thank you!!
Awe thanks Grace❤️
My first and the last relationship I had was very difficult revolving boundaries. We set them very early on but they definitely did not last. My advice to everyone who is wanting to date or is currently dating, coming from someone who has fallen, please do NOT compromise. In my situation We justified overstepping boundaries by saying that other people are going way farther etc and a little 3 second kiss won’t be that bad but it really does accelerate things. I use to think my will power was greater than any temptation but don’t fall for that same thought. You will become a victim of sexual sin. It’s similar to doing a drug. Once you have had it, you want more of it and once that’s not good enough you up it to something stronger (all the way sex).
One other down fall I want to mention, just because you don’t go “all the way” does not mean you aren’t sinning. If you feel the least bit of conviction or guilt you have committed sexual sin. If I could redo it over or whenever I date somebody again I’m setting strict boundaries and avoiding being alone in secluded areas.
Appreciate you sharing that, Cory, and your openness. I hope that will resonate with some of our viewers who might think boundaries are not a big deal :) God bless
I'm not entirely sure I agree with everything but I understand why you waited and totally respect and support the position you are coming from!
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My friend just entered a relationship and she said that God told her something that totally blew my mind. He told her that she could cross certain boundaries of the “promised land” with her boyfriend (obviously not sex) with God not being on the mix, or like Moses, she could say “I’m not going past this point without you Lord” and move at the pace of grace. Only going as far as God is present, entering the promise land together. Just something to think about.
You may have to explain a little bit. As I don't completely understand the picture your trying to paint.
Loved this video & your honest opinion! My boyfriend & I have been going on 2 years & it’s been hard keeping those boundaries sometimes, but we have to remember that God will bless our marriage & our obedience for waiting. It may not be easy, but it definitely will be worth it! God has entrusted us with our significant other’s heart & their testimony, so we must learn to respect & treasure those boundaries. May we consider them to be blessings rather than just simply boundaries.
Thanks so much for sharing❤️
Your so close to 100k!! Only 11 subscribers away!! SO Happy for yall!😁
Natalie Halling we made it!! 😄 thank you so much!!! 😄💜🙌🏼
@@PaulandMorgan That's awesome!!! God bless you two!!🙌🙌😁
Enjoyed the video as always. I don't have any regrets from the hugs and hand-holding from my last relationship, but when I begin dating again, I do plan on having stronger boundaries, or at least to introduce things much later in the relationship. I smiled and smashed that like button when you guys kissed. :) I had an idea last night after watching some of your older videos: you guys should make a video compilation of all of your bloopers and funny moments from your videos so far! There are so many times you've made my day better by scaring each other, being funny, etc.
Edit: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! 100k subscribers!!! Go do a special date or something to celebrate!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
Zogly thank you so much! Always love reading your comments. You’re awesome! And yes! We definitely need to do some kind of blooper video! 😂😄 and ahhhh! Thank you so much! It’s crazy! 🙌🏼😄💜
Zogly this is such a great idea! P&M blooper video would be hilarious!
Hannah Dare It would be amazing, but it would also be a lot of work. Some of their funniest moments are spread through their videos, not just put at the end. So they would have to go back through all of their videos and find the good moments to include.
Zogly oh that’s true it would be very time consuming... they should make a community post and get everyone involved! Could ask people to comment the names of any videos that have their favorite blooper worthy moments in them. I’ve seen another TH-camr do something similar in the past getting their subscribers help finding specific moments from old videos :)
Hannah Dare That would be helpful for them, and would also mean that all of our individual favorite moments have a better chance of being considered. But that means we will have to all spend that time digging to find it. It may be something they could ask the Patrons to help with though.
This generation really need a conviction to pursue purity before marriage, because a relationship that honors God is a pure, true and free from guilt and immorality kind of relationship.
Thank you for being a model.
Guys...YES! Thank you so much for simply talking about this. I am currently not dating however I have met someone who I really like and the feeling has been made clearly mutual. We had a conversation about our feelings however want to just get to know each other. Since we are not actually "dating" I often wonder if even having a conversation about boundaries is necessary, however we have spent a bit of one-on-one time together so I think it is so important to talk about it. This video has encouraged me as I'm in the middle of something so new to me. Having that desire to hug, hold hands and even go further is SO REAL! I want to be sure that he is the one I marry first though, because trusting someone for me is a big deal. There are some character questions I need answered about him. I'm praying about it and I think I will have at least a small low-key conversation with him about my thoughts on boundaries; I simply want to guard both our hearts and protect them as we are still answering the important questions as to each others characters.
Like you said, Paul and Morgan, it's different for everyone and I simply needed this push to really listen to the little nudges I believe God is giving me. I know what is too much for my heart and mind to feel comfortable with. God knows too; I have to be sure I'm not trying to hide from Him.
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I use to debate the idea of saving me and my future husband's first kiss until marriage, but now I think it's for the best.
Same.
no. no. no.
I don’t think you’d regret it❤️
I love this video!!! People really discredit boundaries and values because they don’t want to be left out but God wants us to understand that if we do it his way, we’ll never be left out! And for anyone who dares try to go against what they said in this video, go read 1 and 2 Corinthians. God Bless! 😊
Amen so good!❤️
Such a big Challenge! Thanks for sharing everything!! Helps me so much and gives me hope
Lil ly you’re so welcome! With the Lord on your side, you can absolutely do anything! 💜
@@PaulandMorgan with the lord on my side can I wrestle a bear and win?
Thank you so much, Paul and Morgan!! I really appreciate the practical advice, and the godly way that you express your thoughts and opinions! I am so grateful that there are people like you on the internet!
❤️❤️ May God bless you both for you faithful ministry!
Josephine Postma awe thank you😊❤️
Love, love, love this!!!! THANK YALL for being BOLD!! I have been married for 7 years and my husband and I had clear physical boundaries that we stuck to and I do not regret it one bit. Ours were very similar to what y'alls were and I would agree with you if I could do it over again my husband and I both agree that we would wait until our wedding day to kiss. If you think about it there's really no negatives to that other than it makes the boundaries very clear and simple and I think it takes a lot of pressure off of you and you can just relax and enjoy getting to know each other on a not physical level just emotionally and spiritually and all of those areas.
Well said.
Thanks for sharing! Great insight😊❤️
Omgosh!! I literally needed this right now! 😱😂 thanks so much!!
GODLY GIRL23 hey! Welcome 😊😊
Thank you guys for this. You both are such an answered prayer for this generation.
Perry Foster awe praise God😊
Amen to That!
Hey, P & M! This was so good to hear and watch. I am so relieved that boundaries before marriage are still being implemented!
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As a Christian, I feel that if it doesn’t convict you then it is within your boundaries. I believe you guys feel the same way! The only thing I’d ask that you add to videos like this is that it’s okay to be tempted. Temptation is not a sin. Avoiding the temptation is where it’s at. It’s about taking those thoughts and feelings captive and pushing them away. As I’m sure you know, even Jesus was tempted, but he didn’t sin cause, well, He’s Jesus (among other more we’ll put and thought out reasons). I love you guys, I love your ministry, and I’d love to see more of y’all! Maybe a video about maintaining a relationship through all of the things that we humans go through? Y’all might already have one of those. I’m just getting into your channel. Thanks for providing such a great ministry to this forum. Y’all rock!
I loved this video! I’m dating a guy now and we set our boundaries on our third date and this advice pretty much lines up with what we agreed upon. We’ve been keeping to our boundaries for 3 months so far and this video really gave me hope that we can continue it and be grateful for the outcome. :)
Way to go!❤️
HEEEY you've just got a 100k !!! That's the proof that God's word is spreading ❤🙌🏻 I'm so happy for you guys! Can't wait to see a video you were talking about
Dasha Twinlight wahooo!!!🙌 thank you❤️
Love it, love it, love it! Thank you guys again for this series. You guys are a blessing!😇❤
Sky Bishop awe so glad to hear it!
Omg! This video! Thank you! Ever since I watched my first video, I can’t stop watching! We are approaching 1 year and we’ve had our share of what is right and what’s not right. We were honest with each other about boundaries and now I feel so much lighter and free while in courtship with him!
Awe thanks for watching😊
“God is into the practical”
“There are things you can do that can set you up for success”
But taking birth control if you’re not ready or able to support a child isn’t included in this?
This was a great video! :) Paul and Morgan- I love your guys' mission.💓
Staying pure for the Lord in ALL areas of life shows that you really love Jesus with your whole heart, mind and strength. I'm glad that there are others who want to stay pure, not only in dating but in singleness and marriage and just in our everyday lives. It's all for Jesus, to love others, and to love our selves!
The dating world can be tricky, but remember, God is on your side! The Holy Spirit will guide you, because Jesus LOVES you! ✝️
Proverbs 16:3- "Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed."
Charisma Washburn aww thank you so so much! We appreciate your support!! 😄💜 you’re awesome.
Nice job on the video Paul and Morgan. Thanks for the advice on physical boundaries it was very helpful. I believe finding love is not easy but after watching your videos I have hope that I will find that special person someday. You guys are an awesome team. Keep up the good work.
This was awesome . I’m engaged right now and to see someone else had boundaries like me and my fiancé really encouraged me. We’ve committed to waiting for our first kiss and being physical for our wedding day next April of 2020. We’ve been in a relationship for 3 years so our wedding day will be a blast lol. We’re already seeing how God is going to bless us for waiting this long. And I love how you said Morgan that God does care about the little things. Thank you again for showing such a beautiful example . God’s smiling down on you both 🤗
Awe congrats!
I love your videos. Thankyou for keeping it real and going over these topics that people are too shy to talk about.
Mariah Martinez awe thank you😊❤️
I respect this so much, thank y’all!!
Awe welcome❤️
I’m not incredibly religious, but it’s very refreshing hearing such advice. I really like your videos because while I may disagree on some things, your personalities and chemistry together is very fun to watch! Don’t listen to all the haters, just live your lives the way you want because god was great enough to give us that power :)
Brittany Wyatt we appreciate that a lot! 💜 you’re awesome. Thanks for your support, even if you don’t agree with all of it. 😄
Nice to see that there are still people out there who can listen and respect people with a different viewpoint!
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16
Only Jesus Christ is the way to Heaven and be saved from hell.
"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
Romans 5:8
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." John 14:6
Have you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose from the grave? You must believe that Jesus Christ is the Son and God and died on the cross for your sins and rose again to be saved from eternal damnation and instead go to heaven
"That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved." Romans 10:9
"For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one." 1 John 5:7
Great advice guys! For me no holding hands till in a relationship and no kissing, cuddling, or sex till marriage. Hugging in moderation until in a relationship as well. Congrats on 100K.
Appreciate you sharing, Kevin :) And thank you!🙌
I feel sorry for you brother. You're missing out on alot.
Hey y’all, thanks for another great video!
I will say, boundaries are great! But let’s not forget that there’s a difference between personal convictions and biblical commands-and this looks different for everyone!
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I'm 25 and unfortunately divorced. From experience, yall nailed it.
Sorry to hear that. Nevertheless, God can redeem any situation.:)
ConvictingTradition thank you❤️
I am sorry you have already experienced that. I know that God works all things for good, even our deepest pain. I hope you know that comfort and are strengthened by His presence.
@@megalopolis2015 sure. Shes alone and jaded. Way to go God.
@@PoisonTheWell_ There are a lot of mean people in the world. That is not the work of God.
I have been in several relationships that did not respect boundaries at all. The more I grow closer to God, the more I am valuing myself and the other person. Boundaries are NOT easy, however the more I seek a man after God’s own heart, the more I want to respect him by keeping proper boundaries. Thanks for sharing the awkward moments, and topics, that many people are curious about, but don’t ever talk about. 😊
Thanks for the insight, Kelsey❤️
We have a lot of the same views on physical standards... no holding hands until engagement and no kissing until the wedding day! Thank you for your stand for Christ!
That's so cool! Keep it up, you're encouraging so many. :)
Abby Welch 😊❤️
OMG YAAAAAS I LOVE GOODDDD
What are you fuckinng gay?
Thank you guys so much for making these videos!! This one in particular is so so SO encouraging for me as a young Christian in the dating world :)
Awe glad to hear it!
This is fantastic! Boundaries are just a must have and something that I’ll be implementing when I’m in a relationship again because I’m not strong and to protect me, I need them.
You guys are great and so encouraging!!! 😍💖
Ashleigh Pratt thanks for the comment!
This is super good and truthful! Don't be afraid to call it out cuz it's alllll true!
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I love you guys! I’m a single 20 y/o guy but love your videos that support a Christian lifestyle. Your marriage is such a beautiful thing.
This is why you are single chief
PoisonTheWell Don’t be toxic.
Awe thank you, Caleb😊
like literally yall are so encouraging and give me hope
I appreciate your wisdom. You encourage me to stay on this path of purity and to also create boundaries for when I begin to date. Staying pure is so important for us as believers in Christ and to surround ourselves with likeminded people. I praise God for your ministry.
Awe praise God❤️❤️
Its great to hear what you two did to keep physical boundaries. God has really blessed your relationship!
Allison Lucas thank you, yes He has😊
Sounds terrible tbh
I think it depends on the couple. My parents held hands, hugged, and kissed when they were dating and it didn’t go further. So if you struggle with self control or think you couldn’t trust yourself to stop then this is good to follow, but if you and your significant other are strong people and have a good sense of self control then I think than it’s OK. And I know literally dozens of Christian couples who did these held hands, hugged, kissed while staying pure, and are still happily married today. I think it’s just a matter of personal preference and knowing what you can or can’t handle.
I always thought I had a lot of self-control--until I didn't.
The thing is that it is not just about not having sex but it is also about not having lustful thoughts and that's the hardest part in my opinion.
@@arbretree5463 You're not wrong. Praying for God to take control of the deepest parts of ourselves is the most challenging thing.
Okay so I first watched this video a year and a half ago and I was in the boat of thinking that you are too strict and that is ridiculous. And now after all this time spent with Jesus, intentionally single for 12 months of it, and refining my heart and mind, I agree with everything you are saying! I’m shocked at how much Jesus has changed my heart and mind. I had settled on waiting to kiss until engagement but I’m now considering a month before the wedding date or maybe a week before. I do want our first kiss to be just the two of us and private. But not so far from marriage that we go further than we feel convicted about. Thanks for sharing your story and experience
I totally agree with you guys on this. Things can escalate fast physically. And it's really hard to put a stop to it when you're in the moment. My fiancé and I are getting married this fall. And yes it's hard sometimes to wait but I know it's totally going to be worth it.
While some might see you as too conservative, God is serious about holiness. Either it's a sin or its not. There's no in-betweens.
Thanks guys for reaching out to the younger generation 💛
Thanks for the comment!
Awesome, i have spent the last 10 years...being healed , sanctified, and prepared for a kingdom marriage... I have never heard anyone speak and mirror my Hearts desires and boundaries for marriage, until now, praise God, hope there are more of us out there lol God bless you guys for your transparency!
I love this! Recently I have also heard so many discouraging stories of Christian relationships that haven’t stayed sexually pure until marriage-which is something I desperately want!! I have some good strong marriage examples thankfully, but I started feeling discouraged that I could actually have high standards or boundaries pretty much exactly like the ones u guys mentioned. I feel like I’m not alone in wanting those high standards! Thank u for sharing exactly what u guys did it’s encouraging and helpful:)
Thanks for the comment!
In y’alls opinion, do you think that there should be a ‘spiritual boundary’? What I mean by that is; do you think it would be wise to have a boundary that would keep a dating couple from doing devotions together? Like, at first you’d think, of course you can do devotions together, but at the same time, while doing devotions together, you create a spiritual connection that makes it very difficult to let go of and separate if that relationship doesn’t pan out.
I would love to see a video on this too!
But I mean.. we do devotions with friends or in groups. Why not one-on-one with the person you love? I think you can hear their heart more.
Alyssa Hoyt I agree, however, if you love your boy/girlfriend so much, you should try your best to protect her and save her for her future husband/wife, whether that is you or someone else. It’s a little different with friends, but good point! ;)
First comment! Ya'll are crazy close to 100K!!! P. S. I laughed so hard at Paul's face at 4:53. Lol love you guys ❤❤
Christina Dimidenko woot woot!!🙌🙌⭐️⭐️
Absolutely!! No kissing until marriage. My husband and I have been married 12 years and we are SO glad we waited because our relationship was not clouded with shame, AND we now have 3 daughters that we can share our testimony and wisdom to. Thanks for this video AND series; ya’ll are the BEST! 💝💝🙏🙏
Awe love hearing that!❤️
Woah that must’ve been hard
wow guys, thank you for sharing this with us, you really make me feel like I'm not alone in this
Hey, Guys Thank you for doing these videos :) I was dating someone and had all these boundaries defines, I totally agree with you boundaries make JERKS Run Away !!! And let's be honest we all want a true, real, and authentic LOVE who wants someone who just wants to mess around with you and take advantage of you and use your body just for FUN nobody!!! so letS do ourselves a favor and live up to our values OUR FAITH and ESTABLISH boundaries in a relationship it is totally worth it and prepares you for the love of your live :)
Thank you guys for making this video. Both of you give me hope that there is someone that God has made just for me. It’s very hard being strict on my boundaries in dating but I have stuck to them. Thank you for continuing to give me hope in today’s world ❤️
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I love how you guys serve God and do His Will by sharing these wonderful videos with us all. Thank you Paul and Morgan, hope God blesses you both eternally💖 and even though hard times sometimes come, NEVER EVER EVER stop doing this amazing thing for Our God and community. Keep being as focused on Him as you are now!!
Agustina Sol awe praise God, thanks so much😊❤️
I just stumbed on your videos now and honestly I got stucked viewing them one at a time. Being young and vibrant, you give the realest advice on Christain dating topics bibically...you show me, there's more fun in Christ. I cherish what you both have. Bravo❤👏
Great video, you guys have the same standards I want to have for my future relationship. You guys are happily married and that encourages me that other people have the same boundaries.
Thank you!❤️
You guys are such a blessing! You never fail to encourage and strengthen me. Thanks❤️
Awe thank you❤️
I have never dated before, I'm 17. I love the Lord very much and made a promise to him not to date until I turn 18. I find it harder and harder as time flies by, But I've made it this far, praise the Lord! Just want to say as a fellow Christian, I really appreciate the message that you guys are sharing. When I do finally get into a relationship, I only want to love the man God made for me. So thank you very much for your advice! Sexual purity is a huge issue for teenagers I feel like. So hearing advice from people who have gone through the tough choices and boundaries is really comforting. Thank you again. God bless.
First time watcher of your channel and I completely respect that your views are your views and you (and your audience) are absolutely entitled to them. I’m just curious, though, do you think there is any incongruency in the belief that it is totally okay for your God to allow millions of children EVERY year to die from illness (about which he does nothing); allow tens of thousands of children to be abused by leaders of His churches (about which he idly stands by and does nothing); allows people all over the world to live in poverty and take their own lives because “God doesn’t answer their prayers” (about which he does nothing) and yet, somehow, he DOES care about two people holding hands and no! no! no! He’s definitely going to do something about that? Notwithstanding the incomparable narcissistic arrogance to think that God cares about YOU holding hands or not but does nothing to save the lives of millions of suffering children (when, apparently He can, but chooses not to), does it not seem, prima facie, somewhat askew to you - that there is something just not quite right about that? Just curious to know what you think of that. And please spare me the “we aren’t supposed to understand God’s ways” diatribe.
1st comment!!! I love y’all a channel. You’ve inspired me so much!!
(Small TH-camr here!! Let’s support each other!!)
I'm a smaller youtuber too😊
Maddie Reyes awe yay! Thank you😊
@@PaulandMorgan You're welcome :)
Hey God bless you guys, I’m single and saving myself for marriage I turned 19 today Lol. For When I do start dating I want to be intentional about it like you guys have said. I want to save the most for marriage and there were thing you guys mentioned that I’ve never stopped to think about them and I now agree with you guys and understand the message you guys are delivering. We can’t let our guards down thinking we are strong enough and give way for the enemy and sin. Godly Boundaries are necessary and essential for not only relationships but for other things in life. Thank you Guys! Love y’all! ❣️🤗 I’ve never written this much😂
Thank you for sharing❤️
Such a good video! I’ve been super encouraged by this series as I become interested in having a relationship with a girl who puts Jesus first in her life. I’m SO BLESSED by you two for talking about this and for giving such PRACTICAL advice! I’ve learned so much because so often this isn’t talked about at church. Also def lol’d at least 2.5 times during this video 😂 God bless!
- Eli from Montana
Awe so glad to hear that! Thanks Eli😊
SUCK IT UP & STEP IT UP
You should make merch that says that.
I love you guys. You're amazing. And what God is doing with you is amazing.
Awe thank you😊 haha yeah we should!
I love you guys and I love your content! One thing that I would love to see is references to specific verses in the bible either on screen or in the description. I think this would help to solidify that your argument is based in biblical truths, and so that I can go back to those verses and meditate on them myself as well. You guys are both filled with the Spirit and it is evident in your videos!
Hey, just started watching your videos and subscribed, Im 26 single and grateful where God has me but its so encouraging to hear all y'alls ministry. Your thoughts on boundaries are awesome, love the challenge!!
Awe thanks for watching! 😊