6 Warning Signs of A Manipulative Person

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  • When we think of a manipulative person, we think of a narcissist. But toxic people come in many forms from a dark empath to your own parents. Are you wondering what the signs of manipulation are? Common signs of manipulation include gaslighting, emotional blackmailing, guilt tripping, etc. The list goes on. If you're unsure whether you're dealing with a manipulative personality, this video can help.
    Disclaimer: Sometimes, we are unintentionally manipulative. If you find yourself being a manipulative person and want to change, self-awareness is the first step.
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  • @T355V
    @T355V 3 ปีที่แล้ว +892

    ~Timestamps for anyone who needs them~
    1. They don't acknowledge your thoughts & opinions 0:40
    2. They're good at guilt-tripping you 1:14
    3. They don't take responsibility for their own behaviour 1:45
    4. The turn friends to enemies 2:11
    5. They play the victim 2:39
    6. They routinely provoke arguments and disagreements between the two of you 2:59
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    Psych2Go probably won't see this, but they have helped so many people and inspired hope in so many more. this is getting cheesy lol but we all appreciate their hard work and dedication 💙
    I'm not a member (because I can't right now), but I would if I could to support this amazing channel.
    Have an amazing day!

    • @user-cz1yi7nz6f
      @user-cz1yi7nz6f 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I hate the fact i can relate to no 2 and 4, I'm going to try to be a better person now :)

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +114

      Wow! Thank you so much for doing this and putting together this kind message. Hopefully, we will see you around more. Have a cheesy amazing day/night where ever you are!

    • @mejo6020
      @mejo6020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      This is my dad

    • @salty74VR
      @salty74VR 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Thats my friend keeton right there

    • @cdg2222
      @cdg2222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks my luv! I hope you have a wonderful week ♥️🌟

  • @VictorPham_
    @VictorPham_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +577

    “Actions speak louder than words” That has always helped me identify manipulative people

    • @torrentialtom7626
      @torrentialtom7626 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wait im slightly confused. So like, if they say that, is it a sign of manipulation? or is the sign how they react after you say it?

    • @fairyfellermasterstroke
      @fairyfellermasterstroke 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@torrentialtom7626 It means that what they do tells you more about them than what they say

    • @torrentialtom7626
      @torrentialtom7626 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@fairyfellermasterstroke ohh okay yeah that makes sense

    • @PhoenixtheII
      @PhoenixtheII 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So, then you end up saying. If you cared, you would have acted x,y,z...
      The hallmark of manipulation

    • @torrentialtom7626
      @torrentialtom7626 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@PhoenixtheII if someone was saying that id definitely be concerned because phrases like that are used to guilt trip, which is a common tactic of control over people who dont like making others upset

  • @SelfMadeWealth
    @SelfMadeWealth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +459

    Half of the people lie with their lips; the other half with their tears

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      And the eyes are the windows to the soul.

    • @boorave
      @boorave 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Psych2go yes

    • @rainsara2795
      @rainsara2795 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not true

    • @FractalPrism.
      @FractalPrism. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      females do both.

    • @nokayart612
      @nokayart612 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@FractalPrism. like men never do both? Just sayin

  • @reallifepsych3309
    @reallifepsych3309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +329

    If you’re reading this, just know I’m rooting for you. You got this!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Thank you! Good luck on your channel!

    • @kylakyla918
      @kylakyla918 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      my step sister constantly manipulates me and I thank you for this atleast someone has my back!

    • @p0w3rr._
      @p0w3rr._ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kylakyla918 stop lying. you manipulate me 🤔

    • @blessingchioma6063
      @blessingchioma6063 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you

    • @manofsteelgoodmanll.2512
      @manofsteelgoodmanll.2512 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate cause my covert narcissistic enemy at work is trying to start a war with me..his names Jamal and even I was wrong on a few things there's still no reason to keep tarnishing me if I'm growing and learning from my mistakes...he was cool now he's phony asf...I'm like he'd better watch it and not get in my way or he'll force me to use reinforcements against him...I use to work with him as one of my supervisors he had all the power and all the control...shamefully I allowed him to get in my head and treat me like a punk I would get emotional at times...I told myself don't get angry cause that's how he'll use that against me I'm trying to not unleash the beast within me but my rageful power is getting stronger like the hulk...I'm being constantly pushed to feel things I don't wanna feel I'm as nice,calmed and respectful as I possibly can..besides he's sneaky and a crew of flying monkeys supplies of so called friends he's like lex Luther and I'm like superman he knows all my strengths and weaknesses the man is smart and can be too strong for me....but I'd just ignore his passive aggressive B.S not say anything do what he ask me to do and keep it moving so I'm left alone...as far as gaslighting others to be nice...I thought he was cool now he's crazy I only apeas others so their happy and satisfied of me doing they needed to do so they'd shut up an get off my back....my co worker named Antonio said you working too hard man....I said yeah I know but I'm doing what I gotta you wouldn't quite understand I said to him...I do custodian janitoral work I do trash man work...I'm like a anti super hero helper when others need my help...I get things done without letting anything get in my way.

  • @RefugiumF2
    @RefugiumF2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    The scary thing about manipulation is that when one realizes their good at it. It becomes difficult not to do.

    • @sakura-bj5zb
      @sakura-bj5zb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I know I am lowkey manipulative and I can use my words to my own advantage but I don’t use it for harm...at least I think I don’t. I’m scared of hurting people who are close to me, and I’m scared ima do it and not notice at all. It’s become a habit so I will distance myself before I talk to others again.

    • @diplomatdiplomat2800
      @diplomatdiplomat2800 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sakura-bj5zb Yeah, sometimes we all struggle with bad habits. No worries, just work on it and read good books and watch videos on TH-cam, etc. You can also speak to a counselor anonymously online. It also helps to build a relationship with God. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Savior ♥️♥️

    • @GrungeVoid
      @GrungeVoid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@diplomatdiplomat2800 Not everyone believes in god. Stop pushing your own agenda no one asked for on others in a psychology video.

    • @themonke9850
      @themonke9850 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I just realised i am hella manipulator.

    • @Fourrandomidiots
      @Fourrandomidiots ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh wow...that's just sad.

  • @Talkinglife
    @Talkinglife 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    They use guilt trips or ultimatums. During a disagreement or fight, a manipulative person will make dramatic statements

    • @hrae91
      @hrae91 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My ex is an expert in guilt tripping. What's sad is that it took me years before I realize everything. I'm thankful for my close friend who made me realize it.

  • @misaruzinska2791
    @misaruzinska2791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    My roommate. I thought he is my best friend but when we moved in together, he started to be extremely manipulative. He tried to make me believe that I haven't locked the door, turn off water in bathroom...Then he lied to my boyfriend and brother about how I lose everything he borrow to me (I've found all of the things in HIS ROOM next month). He always plays victim and make me feel so bad. Thankfully I'm moving out next month.

    • @littleninnie
      @littleninnie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      That's called gaslighting. It's a manipulation technique used by manipulators.

    • @cags1744
      @cags1744 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This person clearly lacks empathy

    • @biggaywizard
      @biggaywizard 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sadly this happened with my best friend as well. Keep in mind we had a platonic friendship. She wanted to know when I worked, what days I had off, when I got paid and when I would be home from work. She had to interview women I went out on dates with to see if they were acceptable for me to have over at night. On date nights she had to know when I would be home after a date. I could go on, but you get the point.

    • @not-a-ghost2206
      @not-a-ghost2206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am so sorry that happened to you and yet so proud you're moving out! 😊 I know how hard it can be, happened to me as well.
      With just one roommate its especially hard, because you don't have others as "witnesses" which you really need with a manipulative person. I hope you can heal now!

    • @miguelmejia4656
      @miguelmejia4656 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Miša Ružinská the worst part was that he's a snitch. telling your loved ones about petty things like losing a comb. just goes to show you he's out to get you at all costs.

  • @tanushrikerkar9963
    @tanushrikerkar9963 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I got rid of my toxic best friend three days ago. Later, I started second guessing if I did the right thing. By watching your video, I realized that letting go of that person was the best thing to do. Love your content❤️.

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I’ve been in a relationship with someone who they themselves self labeled as manipulative. & that was my sign to go 🚪

    • @user-ur9bj9un9u
      @user-ur9bj9un9u 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      How long did that relationship last? Lol

    • @user-ur9bj9un9u
      @user-ur9bj9un9u 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If someone were to tell me that I wouldn’t even be w them tbh

    • @tommygunn6901
      @tommygunn6901 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Now that's uncommon that they admit that. All the same, props for bailing out! Aunt nobody got time for that

    • @nicoleonfeels
      @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@user-ur9bj9un9u I left them soon after but it really should’ve ended before that point lol

    • @nicoleonfeels
      @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@tommygunn6901 thank you! It was really the hardest but best thing I ever did.

  • @sassylittleprophet
    @sassylittleprophet 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    With a manipulative person, remember: It doesn't matter how much they care about you or how good their intentions are...because regardless of these things, they still hurt you and will hurt you again.

  • @Emmie013
    @Emmie013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    They offend you, and when you point it out they'll just say: "Omg you're so sensitive I was just joking". There's a big difference between teasing for fun and using jokes as a way to insult someone.

  • @vAqeii
    @vAqeii 3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    Sign 1: They always manipulate you for your diamonds in Minecraft

    • @slushoz1615
      @slushoz1615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      E

    • @ChaosRecession
      @ChaosRecession 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Sign 2: They won't stop stealing your wolf(*Cough cough my friend Maxwell*)

    • @lxchristhebuff1303
      @lxchristhebuff1303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ChaosRecession Drop him

    • @Ashley-gw9jh
      @Ashley-gw9jh 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't play roblox

    • @reiyameiya9030
      @reiyameiya9030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Ashley-gw9jh Minecraft ain’t Roblox...... did you mean Minecraft you are you so anti Roblox that you go around commenting that.....

  • @alaskanactressp30
    @alaskanactressp30 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Don’t forget coworkers too. They can be all that too. Narcissism is rampant everywhere 😫😖

  • @arpitkumar4525
    @arpitkumar4525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I hate manipulative people but that's the only people I find in my life. 🙁

    • @lxchristhebuff1303
      @lxchristhebuff1303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah, especially online.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Why do you think you attract them?

    • @arpitkumar4525
      @arpitkumar4525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@Psych2go I have a hard time saying no and I get insecure that if I do not do what they ask from me even if it is unreaaonable I might get outcast and they would not help me if I have a reasonable request for a help.
      Also I am a quiet and timid kind of person so maybe people think they can take advantage of me

    • @rosexoxo6087
      @rosexoxo6087 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@arpitkumar4525 u just described me:)

    • @lolaishotasf
      @lolaishotasf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rosexoxo6087 and me

  • @pragyansingh4154
    @pragyansingh4154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    No one:
    Me :*tries to check if I m manipulating others*👀

    • @manu-singh
      @manu-singh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🤫

    • @smolsunikki8043
      @smolsunikki8043 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same,, but may this lead to earnest self-improvement!!

    • @_cyrille
      @_cyrille 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah I'm afraid.

    • @sililtatchu
      @sililtatchu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sweetie you are so special

  • @SeArquiteteMininu
    @SeArquiteteMininu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My father is this person.
    And I'm really sick and tired of everybody treating me as a terrible person for not wanting to spend time with him.

  • @niwona_
    @niwona_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    It's amazing because someone is gaslighting me using many of these reasons to say I'm the manipulative person when I was trying to call out THEM for how manipulative they are. Feels like there should be a second level here

    • @ethancropp600
      @ethancropp600 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same shit here, its insane!!

    • @pghSkuLLs
      @pghSkuLLs ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s called narcissism

  • @pepper0111
    @pepper0111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    When you’re in love, it’s really hard to see these signs. You almost don’t want to believe it because you’ve convinced yourself that the person loves you. It happened to me for almost 9 years.. He kept blaming me for everything and kept saying it was all in my head. But then when our friends or family are around, he’s the sweetest. It was very toxic. I know that self love can be hard but please love yourself enough to know when someone is mistreating you. I didn’t and had to learn it the hard way.

    • @1Delta2
      @1Delta2 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow yesss!!!

    • @hrae91
      @hrae91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True.. when i look back the signs/red flags were there and i didn't see them. If I didn't had that talk with my close friend, i wouldn't have realized that my ex was a narcissist and manipulative. Even in our last fight he was gas lighting and made me feel bad because i told him he disrespected me.

  • @nadillasakinah950
    @nadillasakinah950 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Sometimes, I don't even know if I am being manipulative or not until someone points it out on me. Which makes me confuse and try to improve myself but afraid what if it happens again without me being aware of it?
    I cry when I talk because it's a natural reaction when I am scared or feel hurt. I am very sensitive so I take things personally when I shouldn't be
    To people who feel hurt without me being aware, I am sorry

    • @littlewillowlinda
      @littlewillowlinda 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same here. I wish i knew when i was doing it. And i try so hard to deal with emotions but end up crying too. I feel like everyone is manipulative to a degree like we want people to like us etc. Still trying to figure out how to stop that. Reading these comments i feel horrible.

    • @diogocasstro
      @diogocasstro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yeah same here this is freaking me out I don't know anymore I mean no one said I'm manipulative but sometimes I feel like one even though I don't to this stuff sure I cry when I'm scared and that's it

    • @mesmerizefragaria
      @mesmerizefragaria 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Guys, try checking out Borderline personality disorder and Histrionic personality disorder and its characteristics. Maybe you'll find an answer to what's happening.

    • @random...3723
      @random...3723 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You sounded manipulative in this comment, but I do feel your furstration...

    • @appa1154
      @appa1154 ปีที่แล้ว

      What about when you DO know when you’re doing it?

  • @laural4431
    @laural4431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You have no idea how much this helped me. I recently left a toxic friendship that I had since i was three. Even though i knew leaving was the good thing to do, i kept questioning my judgement about what happened and my decisions, but this video made me see how right i was. Thank you so much!❤️

  • @kaileighdesjardines1115
    @kaileighdesjardines1115 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is so scary accurate to my past manipulative relationships

  • @holographichologram
    @holographichologram 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I'm pretty sure I'm a manipulative person and i really don't want to be one, it's really frustrating and difficult to deal with, it's also very frightening and stressful. I'm trying to get out of it though, really really trying

    • @fairymystonight1783
      @fairymystonight1783 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I too feel that way and I have been going to therapy, but my therapist tells me it’s easy to identify yourself as something bad and everyone can have one or more of these traits. Not everyone is a good person we always learn from our mistakes and try to get better

    • @Lillylafrog
      @Lillylafrog 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too bud

    • @yanny6268
      @yanny6268 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      me too.

  • @devinelight8238
    @devinelight8238 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I grew up in a situation where I had to use manipulation to survive in my abusive family. I'm out of that situation and I'm very focused on not being manipulative to my friends and my partner. Just because I had to act like that in that situation doesn't mean I am that person anymore. There's always a choice to be made and you are responsible for your own actions if you catch yourself being toxic find a way to go forward in a healthier manor. You are not your parents, partner or family. Be yourself and remember there's always a choice to make about who you want to be. You are your own person own it.

  • @E.Nobody
    @E.Nobody 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This sounds like my Mom and Last relationship... I've learned.. my mom can't manipulate me anymore.. and my ex has been completely removed from my life..
    You guys are a big reason of how I've learned to deal with people like this.. thank you 💙..I really do appreciate it 💙

  • @Oricato
    @Oricato 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of my ex friends, who i thankfully cut out my the end of 2019, did 3 of these things: 2, 4 and 5. I knew she was toxic and manipulative but I am a person who finds it hard to say no to people. All of her "friends" (who were actually my friends but she claimed they were her's) hated her and we're all glad she's gone now. she would always act like her feeling were more important than everyone else's, she would always be over dramatic about everything but when I needed someone she wasn't there for me because she didn't care.
    There was a time in 2018 when I was going through a rough patch, I got called up by my guidance teacher (I think some people call them school counsellors?) and I was allowed a week off but she never asked if I was ok or if I needed to talk.
    Then I found out she made a youtube video talking about how I *bullied* her and didn't care about her, but non of those were true, I only stopped caring about here when I realised she was manipulative and toxic.
    She also shoplifted at our local shop and tried to get me to do it, that was one of the thing I absolutely said no to.

    • @ozzivpodno1356
      @ozzivpodno1356 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well she was just plain stupid 🙄 😒.
      I am a manipulative person and one of the most important things is to have a perfect persona that gives you "moral leverage". She didn't do that at all.
      She never even attempted reconciliation. Her approach was aggressive and carnal. And she so outwardly immoral its disgusting....
      Congratulations on breaking ties with her. She would probably steal much more as time went on. But it looks like you have a solid social net, so you should be fine 🙂👍

  • @maurademi3006
    @maurademi3006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The 'making things about themselves' is so accurate.. like I'll be talking about something I struggle with (can be minor or major) and they just completely ignore me and go: "omg same" before continuing to tell me why the same problem bothers them, while somehow they making it seem like I am not important

  • @oli_unicorn_loverhydzik8903
    @oli_unicorn_loverhydzik8903 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I had a fake friend who acted exactly like this

    • @mna2518
      @mna2518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      me too, i feel you

    • @Her3tic15
      @Her3tic15 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mna2518 me too

  • @ericahampton5675
    @ericahampton5675 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They NEVER take responsibility 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

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    th-cam.com/video/RO1pY7vOsY4/w-d-xo.html. Comment below if you're studying psych!

  • @gollishh
    @gollishh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I used to be friends with a manipulative person. All my friends hated him and didn't want to be friends with me if I was going to friends with a manipulative person. My friends told me to decide between them or the one person (the manipulative one). He tried manipulating me into thinking he was the good person and my friends were the bad ones. I had to 'chose' the manipulative person or he'd manipulate me more. But..
    I could never leave and betray my friends so I had to get rid of the manipulative person out my life first. He wouldn't let me not be friends with him and tried to guilt-trip me. But I realised he was was manipulative, trying to guilt-trip me, turning my friends agaisnt me and I had enough of him and finally got rid of him.

  • @bel4166
    @bel4166 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    woah my ex was so manipulative and I didn’t even realize how bad it was until I saw this, thank u!!

  • @anywyas4637
    @anywyas4637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i had a manipulative ex bf and i avoid calling him manipulative even after he guilt tripped me and gas light me bc i feel bad about putting blame on him and still do but am trying to accept the fact he actually did those things i have to get out of this head space that manipulative partners are aggressive and forceful when things can be very sublime

  • @namelessflower6025
    @namelessflower6025 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video just helped me.
    My friends blame me for something I didn't even do.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Feel free to share this with your friend.

    • @namelessflower6025
      @namelessflower6025 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Psych2go Never mind.
      Even if I tell them,they won't listen.🙂
      But I'm glad everything I want to know is here😊

  • @OffTheWagons
    @OffTheWagons 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Each box checked. I have to get away from this person

  • @izzyb5644
    @izzyb5644 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I come to this channel when I'm anxious her voice is so soothing

  • @ildo8189
    @ildo8189 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A friend of mine blames her family members for EVERYTHING. When I asked her why I'm blocked in sch she said "Oh tat is my bro do wan" when I ask her why she keeps ignoring me, she goes "My mother forced me to do so". And her math, 100% of her answers are copyed

  • @phantomwolf7580
    @phantomwolf7580 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I just hate those people, i just can't be this type of a person

  • @Emmawow12
    @Emmawow12 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this the real reason why gotten rid of every BFF I even had to in a nutshell...

  • @LiztheLostGirl
    @LiztheLostGirl 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this video really confirmed my thoughts about a few of the people in my life, thank you!

  • @JustMejustLiving
    @JustMejustLiving ปีที่แล้ว

    This video has helped me come to a decision within my own personal life . And I appreciate this Chanel for that .

  • @Ahmed-fp8dk
    @Ahmed-fp8dk 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    how is the video uploaded just an hour ago and the comments are 3 days ago ? this channel blows my mind up!

  • @camilacedeno7885
    @camilacedeno7885 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this amazing videos! :")
    💖

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for watching Camila.

  • @lilmisskitty2631
    @lilmisskitty2631 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I already knew the signs it just confirmed it! I have had my fair share of em! In the past and in the present ... Thank u for this video x

  • @dexterity2220
    @dexterity2220 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Its either that Someone is good at manipulating you, or you blame it on yourself saying youre a naive pushover..
    In both ways its not good

    • @retrokyla
      @retrokyla 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Paradox Fox i’m the naive pushover 😭

    • @nadiaelsa3850
      @nadiaelsa3850 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      yep, i blame it on myself in the end, many people say i am too naive 😢🤦‍♀️

  • @Selfware
    @Selfware 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My mother does all 6 of these things, and it’s astonishing just how far she’s willing to go to in certain cases. Unfortunately for me and my other siblings we all had/ have to grow up with her raising us, but luckily I was able to move out and start living with my dad recently. I tried confronting my mom about her behavior, and it was probably one of the most pointless things I’ve ever done considering the outcome. She pulled off the same behavior mentioned in the video about playing the victim and refusing to acknowledge that she had done anything wrong. She instead just tried making me believe I was the one in the wrong without actually acknowledging anything I was saying. Being in situations like that are hard especially when it’s with a family member. You just have to distance yourself from them if you’re able to.

  • @selfworthgroup4361
    @selfworthgroup4361 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Impressive! Excellent work

  • @khushboogoklani565
    @khushboogoklani565 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was in a manipulative relationship for 2 years and he consumed me so much in those years, I wasted the most crucial years of my career life and now I’ve have become so quiet, underconfodent and insecured 😓

  • @heyitsrikia
    @heyitsrikia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What a nice art style!

  • @tablet6655
    @tablet6655 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this animation, definitely one of the cutest ones.

  • @sunstella
    @sunstella 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wish I could share this with my past self when I was in my first relationship and thought I was wrong every single time for 2 years

  • @purerockrocks123
    @purerockrocks123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My mom was manipulative. You could see it in so many situations. Definitely was frustrating. Especially as I got older and realized I was being manipulated. I still love my mother and have a relationship with her. I just minimize conversation and take what she says VERY lightly.

  • @lyibee7939
    @lyibee7939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "We all had that one friend"

  • @lululillyrose
    @lululillyrose 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your soft voice!! It’s so nice!!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the kind words!

    • @lululillyrose
      @lululillyrose 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Psych2go omg u replied:D

  • @eltedelarosa
    @eltedelarosa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One sign I observed, a manipulator can't remember what they said.

  • @Sali009
    @Sali009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My mom manipulates me and is TOTLLY unaware and would dent it, she would guilt trip me and get me to do what SHE wants. She would gaslight me and point out my flaws.

  • @FrancesShear
    @FrancesShear 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Valuable video.

  • @ARTygr-vt9ow
    @ARTygr-vt9ow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My god...so many people in my family have done this to me so much and so often. I had no idea I was being manipulated.

  • @mr.spyro98thedragon24
    @mr.spyro98thedragon24 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some of these people can be your co workers , they be all friendly with you, and then slowly work their way to dominate you by telling you how to do your job, you got people like this.

  • @toadqueen495
    @toadqueen495 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💕💕💕💕💐💐Thank you for all your work☺️

  • @reiyameiya9030
    @reiyameiya9030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had a manipulative friend online. I know in person it can feel even worse though. We would play together in royale high on Roblox usually but then they would instantly act offended and we would wind up in an argument. One time I was tired of the arguments and when I “offended” them I asked what I did wrong and how I could improve upon my actions. Instead of a response I just got this “shut up and stop being so sensitive.”
    Whenever I talked about how I always wanted to help people mentally but I knew no matter what someone out there will still be suffering and sad she responded with: “well can’t help everyone”.
    I began to realize she was being toxic so I warned my close (online) friends Alanna who was also “friends” with her. When Alanna began to realize this “friend” (we will call her panda) was being manipulative, Panda began to talk lies about me to make me sound like a bad friend. She tried so hard to keep Alanna in the “friendship” to the point where she decided to fake depression. I ran into her in a game and she admitted to faking depression. But her words after that were just so frustrating. Here is her words exactly “what’s wrong with that?”
    SERIOUSLY BRO THIS GIRL ASKED WHAT WAS WRONG WITH FAKING DEPRESSION! This made me upset because of how ignorant she was that this was something people really suffered from this and that I knew people who were miserable because of it. And to put the cherry on top of the cupcake of bad person she told me to go to hell.

    • @ozzivpodno1356
      @ozzivpodno1356 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can find whats worst:
      How she openly admitted her manipulation tactic or how she tried to make it sound totally fine. 😆🤣

  • @nishan125
    @nishan125 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey psych2go, your all videos are very lovely and I really appreciate your efforts that you put for us.
    Lots of love from me. 💕❤😊
    Are you doing this from America?

  • @rajakatrina5352
    @rajakatrina5352 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the info

  • @WilmaWonka100
    @WilmaWonka100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This makes me feel better about recently quitting my job. My ex boss may have been a manipulator. He has done several of these things.

  • @njmaso6001
    @njmaso6001 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was interesting thank you!

  • @bazuca185
    @bazuca185 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video made me remind of moments I wish I never had

  • @Isaiahsails
    @Isaiahsails 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Right when I needed this. 🤔🤔

  • @tommygunn6901
    @tommygunn6901 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Don't I know these signs all too well? Years of putting up with this has made me not only aware, but they get nothing from me now!

  • @mint8127
    @mint8127 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This made my life better
    Thank you

  • @janeapproximately
    @janeapproximately 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video helped me recognize my own manipulative behaviour

  • @m0L3ify
    @m0L3ify 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of the best things I've ever heard: "Playing the victim is manipulative lying."

  • @michaelokeke4976
    @michaelokeke4976 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is the work of all psychopaths/sociopaths and even some people who aren’t psychopathic but still antisocial in a way so I would just still avoid them

    • @phalvorantos
      @phalvorantos 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Or just cluster b in general

  • @LoveMusic-dv4sl
    @LoveMusic-dv4sl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They turn it around on you, and take something innocent that you said or did and make it sound like you deliberately did it on purpose when you didn't. Another words the person thinks they out smart you.

  • @aceblvrd
    @aceblvrd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    when my “best friend” applies to all of these warning signs

    • @caitlinhickombottom123
      @caitlinhickombottom123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You need to drop that person for the safety of your mental health. If nobody has ever told you this, I just want you to know that you are worth more than to be treated that way. Stay safe💕

  • @null4531
    @null4531 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i recently figured out one of my friends is really manipulative :( i feel like i cant really do anything about it because they're my friend, and i feel like if i tried to leave they'd guilt me into coming back. thank you a lot for this video, it helped me see why manipulators do what they do a lot clearer (:

  • @magicspiritmoonaj8096
    @magicspiritmoonaj8096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My best friend and I have been fighting.She says I’m the manipulative one, and won’t take responsibility for her actions. But I listen to her, I constantly defend her questionable actions, I’m constantly trying to view things from her point of view. And she uses my emotions against me. If I tell her I’m upset she says it’s manipulation. I’ve been in a really bad place mentally recently, and so I distanced myself from my friend group. She said I did it for attention and when I explained my reasonable reasoning she said I was melodramatic, manipulative and says I have a victim complex.

    • @zens6890
      @zens6890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think she's manipulating you. the same thing happened to me, my friend basically turned it all around on me and always played the victim. please, if I'm correct, you need to cut them off when you're ready. they are not good for you, and it'll be better in the long run. when I cut my friend off, it was hard to move on, but now that I have moved on, I'm really thankful I dropped them. you don't need to stay around them, please don't feel pressured to stay in the friendship with them. again, this is just from what I know, but from what you're saying, this sounds just like manipulating and lying. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, I promise it'll get better

    • @allicurry8854
      @allicurry8854 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think she's manipulating you, too. When you are ready, I highly encourage you to cut ties with her--you will be very glad you did!

  • @kathleenbarragan2003
    @kathleenbarragan2003 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg Thank you so much just help me a lot I know someone who’s been doing this all those symptoms to me

  • @ambivert8122
    @ambivert8122 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    These key points are accurate

  • @JustCas
    @JustCas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I see comments from a few weeks ago and a month ago i-

  • @namra6060
    @namra6060 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    A new student became friends with my besties group..i knew my besties for 6 years that time...that girl used to do all these signs and she made me almost apart from my best friends..i was left all alone for 4 years...that affected me mentally so bad....we always fought not a single day had passed when we didn't argue...after the lockdown happened i started talking more with my best friends over texts..we have grown closer now..yesterday that girl again played the victim card over texts...we were just joking around and she is like i am hurted by u..one of my best friend still believed her and other was on my side for the first time...
    Whenever we had fight even if it wasn't my fault i was the one who apologized every time....
    I am fed up of this so now i don't try to play along with them..
    In march my friends and i will be together for 10 years but i don't feel like staying with one of them anymore..

  • @Luciaa2763
    @Luciaa2763 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thx for the how to!

  • @yaanas7753
    @yaanas7753 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Im an introvert, I dont talk much and its hard for me to say no for something and i keep my feelings for myself. Maybe for this reason its easy for people to manipulate me.

    • @nadiaelsa3850
      @nadiaelsa3850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i feel like that too..

  • @Eric_Nguyen.
    @Eric_Nguyen. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's such a shame that my mom is the majority of these
    Every time I give a reason, she holds the guilt- trip.

  • @oz7354
    @oz7354 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i fear i may have been the manipulative one. sigh

  • @kimsmith819
    @kimsmith819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, I feel like you personally know my husband. Great video. It reminded me exactly of why I left him. 💗💗💗

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Is he your ex husband now?

  • @xdjackie8053
    @xdjackie8053 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    These videos help me so much

  • @farzanahameed6834
    @farzanahameed6834 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes it helped me out , thanks , ❤️

  • @chowsoanyways493
    @chowsoanyways493 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not me using this as a guide to write a manipulative character vdsjvbda . Keep up with the good work.

  • @cartonriley
    @cartonriley 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    How are people time traveling all of a sudden?

  • @stanleyyy427
    @stanleyyy427 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    When you're in a group of people and they start crying and drag you away because they don't like the people you're with, when they get upset or cry any time you talk to someone other than them or someone they don't like.

  • @edencampbell5581
    @edencampbell5581 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My father shows every one of these signs. He makes me wish I was 18 already, or that I had a dad instead of a father. But I know that he'll never be that person, and that's what hurts the most.
    Forgot to put this: I haven't seen my father for 7 months, and a court case is coming up. Where I live it's pretty uncommon for one parent to get sole custody, but we can still try🙏🏽.

  • @drinasun6984
    @drinasun6984 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I encountered those people in school. They guilt tripped me. They took advantage of my good nature. They were just terrible. I walked on eggshells around them because I resented them so much.

  • @princesasass2126
    @princesasass2126 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was helpful to stop blaming myself

  • @ngaszeng129
    @ngaszeng129 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like my families are all naturally manipulative to a degree that it's starting to *turn me into a manipulative person*
    Coz if I don't, I'll be exhausted to survive in compromising, meeting their growing needs (even I know those cross the line), yet still being blamed and guilt-triped.
    I always being told/hint that I'm the world's most terrible and ungrateful person who has done nth but being an unpleasant burden and negativity to their life.
    The negativity and toxicity is suffocating and I barely have any self-esteem or confidence.
    Eventually I feel imbalance and starts blaming others for making me like this (I believe it's a sign of manipulative?)
    I just really want to be leave alone.
    Being a stranger to them is much better to be their family.

    • @ozzivpodno1356
      @ozzivpodno1356 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Manipulative Person here.
      You likely aren't manipulative. Your terrible homelife is making you assimilate certain characteristics. When you are blaming other people, in the context you gave, its obvious that these are outbursts of frustration. Intent is always important in trying to figure out if someone is manipulative.
      But you need to start being more heartless and giving 0 🤬s. You seem to submissive and accepting of other peoples criticism. Your ruminations don't end with the discovery of not caring about others opinion it ends with you digging yourself a deeper hole.....😕

  • @guccicat223
    @guccicat223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hate how all of these points describe exactly my mom...boy am I so glad I got away from her

  • @heisenberg879
    @heisenberg879 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    For those of you that know this: *I’m sorry*
    But for those of you that don’t, here’s a little lesson for you:
    *Being a good person comes with a hefty price*

  • @ashleyburnham6924
    @ashleyburnham6924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sadly.. I have to watch for these manipulative signs in my own father... 😞

  • @Meatboy1
    @Meatboy1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well, I just try to gain my Reputation from many people, but there is always that person ruining everything, there's no other way than to fight him, I just want to fit between everyone and fail to do so, that's why am I a Introvert, and it's not bad, now they have to learn without my help.

  • @softshelltaco146
    @softshelltaco146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My sister is super manipulative and always gaslights me and whenever I tell her, she denys it and talks about how she’s the victim and try to guilt trip me but I already know none is my fault

  • @lalaland616
    @lalaland616 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    After watching this I realized I used to be manipulative, now I’m just mind blown. I don’t know what to feel bout this

  • @yashikasaxena4626
    @yashikasaxena4626 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i had a feeling that my ex was manipulating me in our relationship but this just proved my doubts right. thank gawd i am out of that toxic relationship