Sometimes it's even that you doubt everything you feel and you think you are the bad one. You say you were hurt and hear that you're lying, manipulating, your mindset is wrong. So even when you feel hurt you just don't say it to not hurt those who had hurt you...
@Meaness That is so true my friend....I think when you start feeling guilty about yourself then the person in front of you also thinks that You have done something wrong and suddenly You become a bad person in everyone's eyes
I'm so ashamed of being a manipulator a few years ago. I feel guilty every day for what I'd done. I stopped such behaviours when i was manipulated by someone else. That feeling hurts; when you have high hopes in something and turns out you've been lied to
same here and i still worry that im being manipulative and just don't know it yet. sometimes i don't realize the things im doing until after it's happened
That’s not my case I made a small friend circle and somebody stole it and then I made another one and it didn’t work and then I had to do it again and it’s currently ok just because it’s small does not mean they are that meaningful but that’s just my case :)
I just got out of a manipulative relationship, and even though it's been five months now, he managed to plant the doubts so deep in my mind that I still sometimes think "What if he was right after all, and nobody will ever love me the way I am, and he was just trying to help me?". No, don't let him take over again. He was manipulating you and those thoughts is just what he needed to control you. You are NOT crazy, and not over-sensitive, you're fine the way you are. You are strong. You are loved.
Ive struggled with the idea that being over-sensitive is fine. Primarily because of this reason. If we as humans don't enjoy pain, wouldn't are natural instinct be to protect ourselves from it? And if my statement is valid about the human condition of dealing with pain. Aren't sensitive people more manipulative then those that are not? Honest question coming from someone who was hypersensitive, but now I think first before going off of my emotions.
going thru this :( it’s so hard not to feel doubtful of yourself esp as you hit 30 you feel you’re the one that will never meet anyone who can accept you for you
@@MistyBlahbull have ya ever looked up the word stroke learnt its true meaning i sujest u do b4 u trivialize twrrible afliction its basically a heart attack of the brain that can kill half the berves n ur body n leve u barely functioning n theiretically it could even kill u if savere enough sense it shakes u like a ragdoll when u do that nazistroke crap u disrespect thoes who lost theor livelyhoods n maby even their lives to strokes so think of that nxt time u wanna mock serious aflictions
I’ve been guilty of being manipulative without knowing. Because I’ve seen worse people, so I try to never be like those people, but I forgot that there’s a spectrum, and I end up still being subconsciously manipulative because “at least I’m not this.” And it’s the shittiest thing.
Some people don't realize when they manipulate someone because they don't know yet. I'm so glad you acknowledge your mistakes and want to change for better.
If you are here and you recognize some of those behaviors to be yours, you are not a narcissistic person, because if you were, you wouldn't even question yourself or you would deflect it, or even victimize yourself. We all have flaws and it's okay. If you are working on them, it's even better because you will end up having better relationships and you'll simply improve your own life. You got this.
You might be hard pressed finding someone who doesn't do any of these, I think what's better is someone who is willing to recognize their manipulative behavior and from there do their best to change it.
My schoolmates used all those methods to abuse my good nature. I had no idea what was happening at the time. I did all those favors for them, but eventually they became too much, and I started resenting their maltreatment of me.
The first one guilt tripping... Is the one I've always face. No matter how right I am... They still push me into wrong. I solve every problem by "screw it i gave up" because the more I try to prove I'm right the more trouble I will get later.
Grey rocking for me works but sometimes that can make the guilt tripper more pissed off. After awhile I say F it, they are always going to complain no matter what.
Dude, this video should totally have more views. People focus on identifying narcissism a lot, which would kind of be the end of the line already, but this stuff right here is much more subtle and can cause great damage to one's mental health. Keep rocking, Psych2Go!
@Benny Pickerel , thanks for the clarification. I used the word 'tactics' to include people that may be having a narcissistic moment (as we sometimes do). Also, narcissists are made. I'm of the school that if a person gets any kind of dopamine for a behavior, they will have a tendency to repeat what feels good and keep using what ever tactics (I'm not sure what neurotransmitter that full-fledged narcs get when they "win" or gain something from their behavior, but I imagine dopamine is involved). I think that American culture is supporting such behavior, glorifying players and hustlers (I don't mean people that have "hustle" or motivation). So, am I wrong to think that some narcissistic behavior fall on a spectrum, with NPD at the far end?
he changes the criteria conveniently, catered to his benefit, and blames it on ADHD. he guilt trips. i think the overly complimenting is what got me though. i had a feeling his compliments were hollow and generalized. like anyone would like to get the compliments he gives, but they're not really for /me/ specifically, just directed at me. thank you for shedding some light on this, i needed it.
Me and my ex were in a very toxic relationship and did these things to each other without even knowing it :( communication is so helpful especially if the manipulation isn’t intended
Thankyou for posting this stuff. Not only does it help me see the relationships I engage in that I have been manipulated, but also how I too have been manipulative. I struggle to see things from the perspective of others sometimes and this helps remind me that our experiences are all inherently unique.
I compliment all of my friends all the time... am I a manipulator? I only wanted to make them feel awesome! I dont want to make them feel sad and/or smothered...
well that's kinda saying they cant feel awesome without you complimenting them.. just make sure you're complimenting them genuinely and not because you want to please them. it's better from the heart
@@lukasreissig4500 same, I never thought about this as manipulation tho ?? : 0 I feel like I need a better explication on how over-complimenting can be manipulative cuz I don’t fully get it
Complimenting people isn't manipulating them. If you were doing it because you didn't mean it and wanted to build them up to break them down, then you'd be a manipulator. It's about intent and I don't think you are.
I dealt with an emotionally manipulative guy before and thank God I cut it off. He did everything that they listed. Watch out for the red flags 🚩 and protect your peace.
Everyone can be an emotional manipulator, you’ve probably done it unintentionally and so have I. But the people who think that it’s a ‘flex’ or something to be ‘proud’ of, big difference
if you care a lot about them enough to save the friendship, you could probably bring it up, just don't accuse bc according to psychology that will make people extra defensive understandably. say something like "hey __, when you do these things ( example: "compliment me a lot"), i'm not sure if you mean to, but it makes me feel ___"
@@abcd18802 idk mily bff (whom I might cut off) said to me once that no one deserves a friend like me cause I didn't help her with something and didn't even say sorry afterwards tho it's okayish now and this was 2 years back and when I ask her for something she says no or like is rude and acts as if they are right all the time.
@@crimsonmatter yeah, cut her off, but you can also tell her and stand up for yourself, I know that’s not always easy. Whatever you do, if you start to accuse her in the face, anyone would probably get mad. Sometimes you also just have to distance yourself and cut off, I was under the impression if you’re commenting about her and the friendship, you wanted advice to save it
And no matter what you do to help them, it's not enough, even if you go out of your way to assist or help them when you can, boyfriend, friends, it doesn't matter, if they lay out something that you should attend straight away and you tell them you have plans, they go through the ranks to make sure what you are doing is hurting them and YOU are wrong for trying to live your life or help yourself, I'm so tired of it, glad this video covers the basis of what I have to deal with, looking after and focusing on myself is what I need to do, there has to be limits regarding this and my compassion
My wife often diminishes my issues whenever I try to tell her about something in our relationship that upsets me or when we argue. She (or other people) have it worse, so I shouldn't complain. It's really frustrating.
I feel I have experienced these types of people in my past, possibly present. I like these videos because I like to step back & reflect on how I respond to other people & hope I don’t ever diminish how others feel
I'm guilty of most of these, I am working with a therapist to change these bad habits. I will apologize to my loved ones for my manipulative ways and change them. Thanks Psych2Go, I can now rebuild my family bonds better and stronger.
ahhh i had this one friend who guilt tripped me over the smallest things and ended up making me do whatever she wanted we changed schools so i dont talk to her much but only after that did i realize that she was manipulating me also i love your videos they are really informative and help answer the many questions i have about psychology
the -past friend- girl who i thought was an actual friend was definitely an emotional manipulator who was also narcissistic. *explains how my self-esteem was absolutely shattered.*
I've had to deal with one on my own and I've left them for once and now I've felt a little better. All I'm saying is if you come across one then just leave them and block them
Number 4. My roommate constantly does that. Nothing is EVER his fault. He always acts and says that you "promised" him something, when the maximum you said was "I might do that". Also, he tries to guilt trip you all the time. He wants pity and is complaining and whining all the time. But then won't accept any solution. He always has to be the victim.
Can you next video be about recovering from being manipulated? I’ve been manipulated before so now I feel like everyone around ether secretly hates me or is trying to use me. It’s getting hard and I’ve starting to be distrustful of my own family members. The only thing that will get me to tell someone is if I have broken down completely. Which in turn gets me yelled at by my friends. Which makes me trust them less a cycle continues
I had a friend like this and I was scared of her. She hated all my friends and if I disagree with her on a small thing she would act so offended and angry until I apologies to her. I realized she was toxic so I cut her off :( Sometimes I wonder if I was wrong and that she actually liked me...?
If she was hurting you, you're not wrong in cutting her off. Your well-being comes first. If she was hurt by you cutting her off that's not your fault, you come first.
Yes i had same 8 years. She always dominant to all people. Always manipulate and when you say no to her you always feel quilty and bad. She never care your opinions or feelings. She just control me with fake extreme love words. Same with my ex too. They are so dangerous depressive and weak people. They can never make joke about themselves for example. They always try to show themselves as strong. They dont care.
Thank you for making this video! 💛 In my last relationship he would go from telling me how special I am, how great a girlfriend I am and how he’s never felt this way about anyone to telling me that I’m not doing enough, I don’t appreciate him enough and that he’s alone because I don’t care about him (none of which were true) SO OFTEN and I would always cry and blame myself for not trying hard enough or not giving him good enough compliments but now I see that it was all a manipulation tactic all along💔. It really hurts to find out that someone you loved was manipulating you all the time
I’ve noticed that I often consider using these manipulative behaviours to try and make myself feel vulnerable so others will take care of or”love” me, I can usually stop myself but it’s concerning to me that they’re often the first course of action I come up with.
I dated a girl who did many of these things. Guilt Tripping, diminishing my issues, changing the criteria, and gaslighting were her tools of choice. Guilt tripped me into changing how I interacted socially. Then changed the criteria and included how I behaved privately to accommodate them. When I brought up the issue of how these changes were affecting me she responded with "imagine how I felt before you made the change" immediately followed by gaslighting me. After 3 months I became emotionally numb to everything she did. At some point she didn't even care if I reacted. She would appear to only want to express her negative view points so she could appear like ahe was putting in all the effort. When in reality she'd make demands and I'd process them in a productive way and try to meet half way. Since this wasn't what she wanted she'd get mad. Since we seperated I was able to communicate in a more healthy way. The thing is she has custody of our child and I fear they will learn this alright behavior. My ex had a history of being this way before having a relationship with me. It's been 4.5 years and has had 7 co habitating relationships... all ending in some dramatic way where our child and her have had to leave while the other person was away. Unhealthy in my opinion.
I DO overly compliment people but I think it's just me, I like seeing people's face light up and the subtle blush they get when I sincerely compliment them. I've never said a compliment I did not mean, I hope I'm not turning into a manupilator 😟
Same. I mean I see the good and bad in people, but most times people don't see what they're really worth in the eyes of others. We don't praise people for our own personal gain, we do it for theirs. Nowadays it feels as if we can't even do anything without it being called "manipulation" when all we do is behave like what normal humans do :/ Then again the video says "sugar coating" and "excessive" complimenting, which I think you wouldn't do since you said you're sincerely complimenting them, which is more like telling the other party facts about themselves haha.
@@thecommenter2711 Agreed. It's all about intent. I wish people would just tell me their true intentions from me straight up! Like if a woman just said I want sex from you I'd be far more likely to give it than if she tried to love bomb me to get me to do it... Mind you I'd still be wary in the first situation as they may want something else really! One has to be careful out there!
I’ll be honest and say I used to be a manipulator- Once I realized the damage I was causing, I knew I needed to change for the better, because I didn’t want to hurt the people I love anymore. A lot of the time I want to go back in time and try again, but it’s impossible for me to do that. I can’t undo the damage I caused and I can’t change the way people feel about me based on their experiences with me. But, even though I used to be rather horrible, I still work to becoming a better person. While the things I’ve done in my past were bad, they don’t define who I’m trying to be now. That goes for anyone else out there who may be in a similar boat as me- if you used to be manipulative, once you realize your mistakes and try to become a better person, remember your past won’t define you. It’s better to admit to your actions and genuinely apologize to the people you’ve hurt, and don’t blame them if they’d like to cut ties with you. There’s still a future for you and it’s possible you’ll be in healthy relationships in that future. If you read all of this, I hope I helped you out in some way. Just remember you’re not alone, and my heart goes out to anyone who has been manipulated before, and my heart goes out to former manipulators, like myself, who are trying their best to become a better person. Love y’all.
Holy Moly, I've used these....in my private life. I was always very confident in my judgement, school work, military & professional life, and average athletic abilities. However, I have many shortcomings physically (heighth, weight, muscle development, and looks) and lacked confidence when it came to the opposite sex. I was a nerd! I did meet and married a wonderful woman (40+ yrs) and have 7 wonderful kids. However, looking back at my life (70yrs), I see where I have used several, if not all of these. Insecurities??? Thank you for making me more "aware" of these things.
One day my ex friend actually came up to me and asked me whether she was gaslighting me. I knew the answer was yes. But I said no because I didn't want to make her angry. I think if I had said yes maybe she would know better than to walk all over me for 5 years
I've had experience with #7 so often that I ultimately find it incredibly hard to accept any sort of compliment. While it's partially due to other reasons, because of the constant #7s I've also grown to have trust issues by default :/ I hope that this video helps people recognize these warning signs and can better able to protect themselves against people who shouldn't even have taken your time
i have an example for each point, this is definitely describing my past abuser who lead me to depression, self harming and police, but as my supposed best friend said "they're not horrible, they are sincere it's your fault for letting them do, don't expect me to comfort you" this sucks.
I do some of these things. And I feel so bad. I try my hardest to be a good person but sometimes I fall flat. I think I have become more emotionally manipulative with my family as a survival mechanism cause I didn’t want to get hurt by them as much but that’s not who I want to be and I don’t want that bleeding into my other relationships with other people that actually do treat me well.
I'm sensitive but insensitive to others. Sometimes when I feel sad bcs of what my friends say thats probably not really serious, I unintentionally guilt trip them.
Have had an emotional manipulative friend for years on end. Thought she was my best friend and that I could trust her. She often would tell stories about new friends I have made or about my boyfriend in order to try and rip me and those people apart. Whenever we had an argument she never apologized and she never thought it was her fault. She blamed my parents for me being antisocial, she thought I was weird and she said my parents didnt raise me in a normal way and that it was odd. I did so much for her and was always there for her but I figured out it was rather one sided... that I was the only one who cared about her in the end. Every time I made plans with another friend, she suddenly needed me and whenever I said no, she said I was a bad friend and was never there for her etc. Etc. I also figured out she said a lot of stuff behind my back and that she also said a lot of other stuff behind my now good friends their backs. I believed those things at first about them but turns out they werent true at all and she was just manipulating me in getting whatever she wanted from me, I believed those things at first and distant myself from the people she gossiped about because after all I thought I could trust her because she was my best friend for years on end. I figured out recently that she has been manipulating me for years and cut ties with her, she didnt even say sorry or try to make it right and tried blaming everything on my now best friend which who I figured it out with together. She acted like she was sad about losing me but later I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back but I aint going back to her. I am finally becoming my own person again and now I am surrounded by lovely people... The lesson for you all is: watch out because your closest friend might be your biggest enemy.
How did y'all manage to describe my mom almost perfectly? Nothing I do to please her is ever enough. She can manage to find the tiniest mistake (in her eyes) and goes to town on me about how I can't even do basic household chores. It's disheartening. Living with BPD, a narc mom and an enabler dad isn't the best😢 BUT! Thank for the valuable info, which I will take into account from now on. Love this channel and absolutely appreciate it's wisdom so much
Hm, I compliment random strangers all the time but because it feels good when strangers compliment me so I want people to feel that way too and I sometimes start conversations that way as well. I notice how I emotionally manipulate people sometimes by being overly nice. I want people to like me because I feel like enough people hate me already (mostly just myself). I always worry that I'm being manipulative or toxic or abusive because I grew up in an abusive household and I'm afraid of becoming abusive as well...
I compliment one of my friends so much, sad moment or not, because of the things she says, whether it’s “I’m going to give up why does no one love me/want to be around me” or it’s a mere “K” when someone else needs help. I never know whether she’s telling me she’s harming herself with something like alcohol or something but in 30 minutes, she’ll abandon the statement and be completely fine. I never know what to do to protect her but it’s not the same for me. Basically “Sometimes you’d take a bullet for the one pulling the trigger”
I have experienced overly complimenting. I had a best friend once and she used over compliment on everything. I thought she was the one who truly understood me. I was on cloud9. Later that I thought if I miss this person I will be losing something great, So I proposed to her and we became lovers. After a while, she met a rich guy and left me. I was shattered and the same person said about my qualities now saying trash things about me. It took around one year to recover from that situation. What you said was 100% true. We won't realise we are getting addicted to those compliments until it is too late. Nice video...
I’m also watching this video to make sure that I’m not like this as well, but at the same time ! I feel like I have some of these signs and I’m gonna take that time to improve, but first I’m going to take that step to self forgiveness because I do beat myself up for my past mistakes ( and I’m very hard on myself too). I’m also a people pleaser so I always tell people what they want to hear instead of telling them what’s going on in my mind. But, no I’ve faced many consequences of not communicating with my friends twice about taking precautions against covid, and this video is an eye opener for me to really change.
My mother saying at lunch "I have one helping at a time and then finish, and that's how everyone should actually eat!", repeating this every time we eat together, knowing both my sister and I used to have an eating disorder... :(
Yep I've been there in terms of being emotionally manipulated by my girlfriend. Hints why I initiated the break up letting her know that I didn't want to be with her anymore. All because she brought all her emotional baggage when she started to get into a relationship with me and expected me to heal her only for her to take advantage of me for that.
When you’re a narcissist and you nail all of these 👁 👄 👁 Seriously, I don’t know if there’s someone who doesn’t think these are bad, but they’re truly bad when they do that to you, especially when in the end you don’t trust yourself and your judgment anymore because they’re so good at making you believe you have something wrong
My best friend does this, sometimes more often then not. It’s at a point where it doesn’t really bother me (I actually find it quite comical sometimes!), but it still can be mentally draining to deal with.
I have a friend I care about but every time we talk about the pain he caused me so I can move on and heal, it always gets turned into me that I'm wording things that others translate as guilt tripping and stuff while I'm just genuinely upset and I don't know if I'm the bad one. It hurts when people care more about how I say things rather than how I feel. I feel guitly for being upset.
To be honest even I used to manipulate people to get things I wanted , it was only if I wanted a pacific thing such as toy figurines , snacks , books and food . But I'm glad I don't do it anymore because it was a very bad habit of mines .
My mother guilt trips and diminishes me, even though it doesn't seem intentional, I think it has affected the way I treat other people. I have realized my mistakes and am working to not be like her.
All those signs actually fit my mom, but i already broke contact with her cause she was just overall very toxic and responsible for half of my mental problems😫☝️
@edward delorme yeah hopefully but i doubt it my sister tried to help her change, she tried too often it never helped. She tried to keep up the conection between them but she also has to realize it is not good for her. She always forgives my mother even after she almost made her commit unalive, but i also cannot do anything she would reject me and keep doing it.
I lost my 20 yo cat who is my best friend since i am 18yo, and during an argument he told me : "i've never seen someone so affected by the loss of an animal". that was too much for me.
I’ve had a friend like this, she got mad at me once and then later she just was like “oh but I wish I had your life. Your life is perfect. Your parents buy you everything you want (they do sometimes, but when they say no I just save up for it myself.) but when I want something my parents don’t buy it for me.” She was being super manipulative and I didn’t know how t respond to it.
That one moment when you realize that you are emotional manipulator yourself and made you hate yourself even more for all the stuff I done... Gosh I am an awful person.
Anybody seen the Netflix documentary “I love you now die” well… that sort of shit happened to me, too, and I nearly died because of it… didn’t realize I was being manipulated until after I left the situation I was in. Never again 😳
Years ago I dated a manipulator/abuser without knowing how bad it affected me, i nearly lost my own passion, career, and my bestfriends/family without realizing (back then i never knew about "toxic relationship" thing). Until Yt somehow coincidentally recommended me a vid from Psych2Go about "toxic relationships" (probably bcs i love watching animations), which actually opened my eyes, i cried when i realized. 2 years ago i finally gathered my courage to break up with my toxic ex, it was a bad process but i've never felt so happy and free. Tho i still suffered with bad anxiety and depression but i'm proud i got out of it. Thankfully my friends and family are still here. I've finally commented this because i need to give my biggest thank you to Psych2Go for it. been subscribing ever since. Thank you so much ❤️❤️ (Sorry if my english is bad. It's not my first language 😊)
Omg, So I met this guy and I was just like something is not right. He gives the best compliments and praises me so much it makes me uncomfortable. the way he sweet talk his way around things did not sit well with me and I have notice him trying to manipulate me. He has a baby mother and when we just met, I told him that he and his child's mother should really try to work things out and He said he did tried and she told him that she grew out of love from him, I told him about Post partum depression and that it can be the reason why she is saying this. I remember a guy friend of mine having post partum depression after His daughter was born, so i know its real. He said that things has been like that for sometime and she doesn't care about his feelings. I really felt sorry for him( this manipulator) I ask alot of questions and put them to out of context and out of pattern to understand what's going on before I ask you about it. Somethings that He said about his baby mother started to not add up. He said they video call everyday and I said okay, fine with me you guys have a son together. Then I notice this pattern on Weekends where he was picking fights and when I ignore his attempts then he straight up ignore me weekend. Weeks day we video call almost everynight. It's only about 1 month since I have met him. One Sunday I called him at about 2 in the afternoon, He answered and said he was on thr phone talking to his son he will call me soon and hang up immediately. He called me like about 10:30 that same night And send me a message saying I know my son can't talk but I'm talking to him. I just ignored him. ( first red flag for me) The next time he gave me his phones and told me to look at it. I opened it infront of him and went into his message out of curiosity and starting reading his messages and then after about a minute into it I asked him can I read your messages and He said no, I said okay Can I look on your photos, he said yes sure but please don't hate me. There was girl's pictures and naked pics, so i asked him if he used to cheat on his baby mother out of curiosity and he said yes, once but I knew it was more than once based on his gallery Of he cheat one he will do it twice and if he cheat on his baby mother he will cheat on me ( red flag two) I told him we can be friends but this will not work out. He said he had changed and it was just old images. I replied I still think that you should probably wait before going into a relationship, you and your baby mother just broke up 3 months ago. Process your feelings, I don't think your ready for a relationship. He said fine friend is cool. We were close friend for the last week, he always complimented me and made me feel extra confident, he didn't judge me, funny and just portraiting this great personality. Friday we had lunch together and he told me that it was a misunderstanding what took place and he promise that he and his child mother isn't together, I told him to try and work it out for the child's sake, he said he had tried multiple times and nothing, I told him that he should work through his feelings and he asked me if I could help him while he does. I replied that I will support him the best I can. While talking he leaned over and kiss me and I kissed back. Then I pull away. The kiss was so good. It made my body fire hot. I have been single for over 9 months and that kiss did something to my body. I pulled back because I didn't like how much control that kiss had over me. Then he told me he loved me and I said really, he said yes. I said how can you love me when you don't even know me and he started complimenting on how I'm so kind and sweet and I deserve to be happy and just the few days he has seen what an amazing, caring, dedicated person I am and he will make any changes necessary he doesn't want to lose me. Later in the evening we were talking over the phone and sex was the topic. I am Christian and I abstain from sex since becoming one. The conversation came aby relationship and i asked him why does he want to be in a relationship with me and he said ( start usual compliments)( it was sucking at this point to the point where i thought I didn't know how to recieve a compliment but my guts were telling me it was his cringe) I told him that we can talk but I need him to understand that I honor God's commandments and sex will not be part of our relationship. He said if it would be okay for him to have sex with other girls if we were to ever going into a relationship and he would run who he had sex with by me. I said no, I said we can be committed to each other and have sex, let is get to knos each other to seee how it goes. Then he start to talk about commitment and said he just don't want to be committed after asking for s explaination on what I meant when I said commitment. I told him it meant be loyal to each other and not giving up on each other no matter what we will work through anything. We would have made a promise to each other and God. He said no he is not ready for that he is ready to stick his penis into someone h barely even know. I said what's the poinf of tge relationship then, are we just going to have sex together for 2 to 5 years and say we together the hard times and babies come and that fuzzy feeling is lost and BOOM we separated so I don't want no relationshi, its waste of time. Then he said what doI want, I said I have compromised enough no marriage justv commitment and we can have sex since you want it and we can talk about it more as time process he said cool . I told him i would call him later in the night and i notice he was texting super slow and late. He said he was cleaning and i said okay,I have to talk now because I have other things to do and trying to fit him into my schedule ith enough time. I tried calling and he declined it and texted me and said he is talking with his baby mother about his son's birth certificate, I said why it is Friday night, and you have Saturday and Sunday before any business places open. Then he started cursing and saying i was over doing it and he just taking about his son's birth certificate, I knew his baby was at his house based relationship and jut deleted all history of him from my phone. I guess he still talking about his son's birth certificate. He is such a manipulator.
My mom has used guilt tripping to manipulate me many times as an adult when my life wasn't going the way she wanted it to. It took me years to realize what she was doing.
1. Guilt tripping 0:46
2. Taking advantage of your insecurities 1:17
3. Always changing the criteria 1:56
4. Twisting reality 2:29
5. Diminishing your issues 3:06
6. Gas-lighting 3:34
7. Overly complimenting 4:05
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Thanks for putting this together!
Doubting yourself and feeling guilty about your emotions is the worst kind of feeling.
Oh shit u even said it.
True
I have been there
Sometimes it's even that you doubt everything you feel and you think you are the bad one. You say you were hurt and hear that you're lying, manipulating, your mindset is wrong. So even when you feel hurt you just don't say it to not hurt those who had hurt you...
@Meaness That is so true my friend....I think when you start feeling guilty about yourself then the person in front of you also thinks that You have done something wrong and suddenly You become a bad person in everyone's eyes
I'm watching this just to make sure I'm not a manipulator unintentionally.
Awww what a wholesome and awesome comment
You sound like a great 👍 person
Same i too watched it with that intention 😂
I’m just here to see if my girlfriend is manipulating me
Update, yes she is
@@goglegoo4320 Damn, I'm sorry!
“Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy, and attention. Stay in your light.”
i always see u under channels that speak truth and you always comment the right things ahah. i hope youre well
Great coment, Namaste
Um I needed this
awakened soul. 💯
🙌🏽👌 I’ll remember this! Thanks 🙏
I'm so ashamed of being a manipulator a few years ago. I feel guilty every day for what I'd done. I stopped such behaviours when i was manipulated by someone else. That feeling hurts; when you have high hopes in something and turns out you've been lied to
Good job
same here and i still worry that im being manipulative and just don't know it yet. sometimes i don't realize the things im doing until after it's happened
apologize to who u manipulated
Good thing is you realised what you had done, really impressing
@Agent Of Chaos 666 Please consider talking to a therapist
This is why a small friend circle is often best because you can make sure you are in meaningful relationships with your friends
Quality over quantity. ÚwÙ
@@arvinjayumayam8811 Yep
That’s not my case I made a small friend circle and somebody stole it and then I made another one and it didn’t work and then I had to do it again and it’s currently ok just because it’s small does not mean they are that meaningful but that’s just my case :)
Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜
Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜
I just got out of a manipulative relationship, and even though it's been five months now, he managed to plant the doubts so deep in my mind that I still sometimes think
"What if he was right after all, and nobody will ever love me the way I am, and he was just trying to help me?".
No, don't let him take over again. He was manipulating you and those thoughts is just what he needed to control you. You are NOT crazy, and not over-sensitive, you're fine the way you are. You are strong. You are loved.
Ive struggled with the idea that being over-sensitive is fine. Primarily because of this reason. If we as humans don't enjoy pain, wouldn't are natural instinct be to protect ourselves from it? And if my statement is valid about the human condition of dealing with pain. Aren't sensitive people more manipulative then those that are not? Honest question coming from someone who was hypersensitive, but now I think first before going off of my emotions.
I’m literally in the same position. I hope we find strength ❤️
going thru this :( it’s so hard not to feel doubtful of yourself esp as you hit 30 you feel you’re the one that will never meet anyone who can accept you for you
Going through this rn. 😢
Damn...been depressed for years, fell in love and they loved me back. Became happy, What a beautiful time to find out you're being manipulated
Same here
narcs r like sucubi they eppear as the appitmy of beauty only to reveal their hidious nature when theyv drained u dry😖
@@meediamongergamemodder2302 i had a stroke reading that
@@MistyBlahbull have ya ever looked up the word stroke learnt its true meaning i sujest u do b4 u trivialize twrrible afliction
its basically a heart attack of the brain that can kill half the berves n ur body n leve u barely functioning
n theiretically it could even kill u if savere enough sense it shakes u like a ragdoll when u do that nazistroke crap u disrespect thoes who lost theor livelyhoods n maby even their lives to strokes so think of that nxt time u wanna mock serious aflictions
@@meediamongergamemodder2302 yes because the average teen searches up what a stroke is in their free time
The only way to protect yourself is "BE VERY CLEAR OF WHAT YOU WANT" and "DON'T TRY TO PROVE OR PLEASE ANYONE"...Trust me this helps
I’ve been guilty of being manipulative without knowing.
Because I’ve seen worse people, so I try to never be like those people, but I forgot that there’s a spectrum, and I end up still being subconsciously manipulative because “at least I’m not this.”
And it’s the shittiest thing.
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At least ur self aware and changing now. Good on u😊
At least you know, that means you can change now :3
Being aware of it is the first step to changing. I've also been guilty and now I can take steps to improve myself.
Some people don't realize when they manipulate someone because they don't know yet. I'm so glad you acknowledge your mistakes and want to change for better.
If you are here and you recognize some of those behaviors to be yours, you are not a narcissistic person, because if you were, you wouldn't even question yourself or you would deflect it, or even victimize yourself. We all have flaws and it's okay. If you are working on them, it's even better because you will end up having better relationships and you'll simply improve your own life. You got this.
Psych2go: ,,Have you experienced any of these signs"
Me: _chuckles_ ,,All of 'em. My mom"
SaAaAmMmMeeee, my grandma!
ME TOO SDHFKJSDG,
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I feel your pain. My mom does this to me too
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✨~ timestamps ~✨
1) ~ guilt-tripping -> 0:44
2) ~ taking advantage of your insecurites -> 1:16
3) ~ always changing the criteria -> 1:55
4) ~ twisting reality -> 2:28
5) ~ diminishing your issues -> 3:04
6) ~ gas-lighting -> 3:33
7) ~ overly complimenting -> 4:04
Stay safe!
Thanks Ticklteee!!!
Thank you 😊
People who display these traits do not deserve space in your life. Be protective of your energies, friends ✨
It took me 3 years to realize I was being manipulated. Better late than never!
Yes! Even if they are family. I am related to a bunch of toxic people!!!
You might be hard pressed finding someone who doesn't do any of these, I think what's better is someone who is willing to recognize their manipulative behavior and from there do their best to change it.
Remember that some people don't even know they're being manipulative and don't want to be
But what happens when they’re your parents?
Diminishing your issues 3:06 ... really hit hard, I have a depressed friend who always manipulates me that way. I'm sick and tired of it. :'(
My schoolmates used all those methods to abuse my good nature. I had no idea what was happening at the time. I did all those favors for them, but eventually they became too much, and I started resenting their maltreatment of me.
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Same here too. Are you doing alright now?
@@noname420 Yes, I'm doing better now.
@@drinasun6984 Im happy and proud of you! Have some online hug. Take care of yourself!
@@noname420 Thanks! You too!
The first one guilt tripping... Is the one I've always face. No matter how right I am... They still push me into wrong. I solve every problem by "screw it i gave up" because the more I try to prove I'm right the more trouble I will get later.
Grey rocking for me works but sometimes that can make the guilt tripper more pissed off. After awhile I say F it, they are always going to complain no matter what.
Dude, this video should totally have more views. People focus on identifying narcissism a lot, which would kind of be the end of the line already, but this stuff right here is much more subtle and can cause great damage to one's mental health. Keep rocking, Psych2Go!
This channel is so emotionally therapeutic mentally too, but it’s rare to find one emotionally assured
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Maybe the word 'narcissist' is getting overused or overbearing these days, but that these are the tactics of narcs.
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You have answered your own question!
@Benny Pickerel , thanks for the clarification. I used the word 'tactics' to include people that may be having a narcissistic moment (as we sometimes do).
Also, narcissists are made. I'm of the school that if a person gets any kind of dopamine for a behavior, they will have a tendency to repeat what feels good and keep using what ever tactics (I'm not sure what neurotransmitter that full-fledged narcs get when they "win" or gain something from their behavior, but I imagine dopamine is involved). I think that American culture is supporting such behavior, glorifying players and hustlers (I don't mean people that have "hustle" or motivation).
So, am I wrong to think that some narcissistic behavior fall on a spectrum, with NPD at the far end?
I was also thinking about narcissists
Yes hundred percent that's what I was just saying above vulnerable narcissists playing two different roles the perpetrator and the victim
Me seeing if I'm accidentally emotionally manipulating someone..
I'm sorry... I will change my ways. Thanks Psych2Go
Good on you for changing once you realized what you were doing is wrong! Good luck in life.
Is it just me or do Psych2Go videos sound calming like asmr
Yeah except way better, Asmr can be weird to say the least
he changes the criteria conveniently, catered to his benefit, and blames it on ADHD. he guilt trips. i think the overly complimenting is what got me though. i had a feeling his compliments were hollow and generalized. like anyone would like to get the compliments he gives, but they're not really for /me/ specifically, just directed at me. thank you for shedding some light on this, i needed it.
Me and my ex were in a very toxic relationship and did these things to each other without even knowing it :( communication is so helpful especially if the manipulation isn’t intended
True
Thankyou for posting this stuff. Not only does it help me see the relationships I engage in that I have been manipulated, but also how I too have been manipulative. I struggle to see things from the perspective of others sometimes and this helps remind me that our experiences are all inherently unique.
You are the one who understands what I am going through....You are like a friend who listens and understands me and teaches me for my well-being.
I compliment all of my friends all the time... am I a manipulator? I only wanted to make them feel awesome! I dont want to make them feel sad and/or smothered...
I am the same. I often compliment friends even on small things. My intention is to make them feel good. I don't want to manipulate them.
well that's kinda saying they cant feel awesome without you complimenting them.. just make sure you're complimenting them genuinely and not because you want to please them. it's better from the heart
Well, I would say that I do compliment others genuinely. But sometimes these are small and maybe "unnecessary" things
@@lukasreissig4500 same, I never thought about this as manipulation tho ?? : 0 I feel like I need a better explication on how over-complimenting can be manipulative cuz I don’t fully get it
Complimenting people isn't manipulating them. If you were doing it because you didn't mean it and wanted to build them up to break them down, then you'd be a manipulator. It's about intent and I don't think you are.
I dealt with an emotionally manipulative guy before and thank God I cut it off. He did everything that they listed. Watch out for the red flags 🚩 and protect your peace.
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Everyone can be an emotional manipulator, you’ve probably done it unintentionally and so have I. But the people who think that it’s a ‘flex’ or something to be ‘proud’ of, big difference
Nah some people are way worse...yes we all manipulate but some people are really outthere trying to hurt people constantly
It’s always a very serious topic then you have these cute animations and character’s
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"Smooth like butter" I literally choked on my air XDD
It's an early reference to Butter MV, it's out since three days only ! Good job ahah
*when you realize your best friend may be emotionally manipulating you and has the past five years*
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And how about you?
if you care a lot about them enough to save the friendship, you could probably bring it up, just don't accuse bc according to psychology that will make people extra defensive understandably. say something like "hey __, when you do these things ( example: "compliment me a lot"), i'm not sure if you mean to, but it makes me feel ___"
@@abcd18802 idk mily bff (whom I might cut off) said to me once that no one deserves a friend like me cause I didn't help her with something and didn't even say sorry afterwards tho it's okayish now and this was 2 years back and when I ask her for something she says no or like is rude and acts as if they are right all the time.
@@crimsonmatter yeah, cut her off, but you can also tell her and stand up for yourself, I know that’s not always easy. Whatever you do, if you start to accuse her in the face, anyone would probably get mad. Sometimes you also just have to distance yourself and cut off, I was under the impression if you’re commenting about her and the friendship, you wanted advice to save it
"Smooth as Butter"
ME : *chokes while drink water.. "W-Wait... WHAT? lololololoolllololol"
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like a criminal undercover haha
Hi there! ARMY💜
thoughts 😏
@@winterflower3569 hey👋🤣
And no matter what you do to help them, it's not enough, even if you go out of your way to assist or help them when you can, boyfriend, friends, it doesn't matter, if they lay out something that you should attend straight away and you tell them you have plans, they go through the ranks to make sure what you are doing is hurting them and YOU are wrong for trying to live your life or help yourself, I'm so tired of it, glad this video covers the basis of what I have to deal with, looking after and focusing on myself is what I need to do, there has to be limits regarding this and my compassion
My wife often diminishes my issues whenever I try to tell her about something in our relationship that upsets me or when we argue. She (or other people) have it worse, so I shouldn't complain. It's really frustrating.
I feel I have experienced these types of people in my past, possibly present. I like these videos because I like to step back & reflect on how I respond to other people & hope I don’t ever diminish how others feel
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I'm guilty of most of these, I am working with a therapist to change these bad habits. I will apologize to my loved ones for my manipulative ways and change them. Thanks Psych2Go, I can now rebuild my family bonds better and stronger.
I don’t think you’re as bad as you think you are.
This is how my mom has treated me my whole life. I feel bad for feeling this way but I despise her for how she treats me
That's why I never talk my stories to anyone even to my friends
Thank you psyc2go, these videos help so many people every day
ahhh i had this one friend who guilt tripped me over the smallest things and ended up making me do whatever she wanted
we changed schools so i dont talk to her much but only after that did i realize that she was manipulating me
also i love your videos they are really informative and help answer the many questions i have about psychology
the -past friend- girl who i thought was an actual friend was definitely an emotional manipulator who was also narcissistic.
*explains how my self-esteem was absolutely shattered.*
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how did they shatter your self-esteem
after watching this, I feel like I don't have friends anymore.
I've had to deal with one on my own and I've left them for once and now I've felt a little better.
All I'm saying is if you come across one then just leave them and block them
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Why would u wanna control someone’s emotions that’s sad really
@@multi_verse8636 That's a great question
Number 4. My roommate constantly does that. Nothing is EVER his fault. He always acts and says that you "promised" him something, when the maximum you said was "I might do that".
Also, he tries to guilt trip you all the time. He wants pity and is complaining and whining all the time. But then won't accept any solution. He always has to be the victim.
Can you next video be about recovering from being manipulated?
I’ve been manipulated before so now I feel like everyone around ether secretly hates me or is trying to use me. It’s getting hard and I’ve starting to be distrustful of my own family members. The only thing that will get me to tell someone is if I have broken down completely. Which in turn gets me yelled at by my friends. Which makes me trust them less a cycle continues
I had a friend like this and I was scared of her. She hated all my friends and if I disagree with her on a small thing she would act so offended and angry until I apologies to her. I realized she was toxic so I cut her off :(
Sometimes I wonder if I was wrong and that she actually liked me...?
If you think that she was toxic, it is the best that you cut her off. Better be safe than sorry
It's not about whether she liked you, it's about how she made you feel.
If she was hurting you, you're not wrong in cutting her off. Your well-being comes first. If she was hurt by you cutting her off that's not your fault, you come first.
Yes i had same 8 years. She always dominant to all people. Always manipulate and when you say no to her you always feel quilty and bad. She never care your opinions or feelings. She just control me with fake extreme love words. Same with my ex too. They are so dangerous depressive and weak people. They can never make joke about themselves for example. They always try to show themselves as strong. They dont care.
The last point could answer all your questions
Thank you for making this video! 💛 In my last relationship he would go from telling me how special I am, how great a girlfriend I am and how he’s never felt this way about anyone to telling me that I’m not doing enough, I don’t appreciate him enough and that he’s alone because I don’t care about him (none of which were true) SO OFTEN and I would always cry and blame myself for not trying hard enough or not giving him good enough compliments but now I see that it was all a manipulation tactic all along💔. It really hurts to find out that someone you loved was manipulating you all the time
I’ve noticed that I often consider using these manipulative behaviours to try and make myself feel vulnerable so others will take care of or”love” me, I can usually stop myself but it’s concerning to me that they’re often the first course of action I come up with.
I dated a girl who did many of these things.
Guilt Tripping, diminishing my issues, changing the criteria, and gaslighting were her tools of choice.
Guilt tripped me into changing how I interacted socially. Then changed the criteria and included how I behaved privately to accommodate them. When I brought up the issue of how these changes were affecting me she responded with "imagine how I felt before you made the change" immediately followed by gaslighting me.
After 3 months I became emotionally numb to everything she did. At some point she didn't even care if I reacted. She would appear to only want to express her negative view points so she could appear like ahe was putting in all the effort. When in reality she'd make demands and I'd process them in a productive way and try to meet half way. Since this wasn't what she wanted she'd get mad.
Since we seperated I was able to communicate in a more healthy way. The thing is she has custody of our child and I fear they will learn this alright behavior. My ex had a history of being this way before having a relationship with me. It's been 4.5 years and has had 7 co habitating relationships... all ending in some dramatic way where our child and her have had to leave while the other person was away. Unhealthy in my opinion.
it is so goog
I DO overly compliment people but I think it's just me, I like seeing people's face light up and the subtle blush they get when I sincerely compliment them. I've never said a compliment I did not mean, I hope I'm not turning into a manupilator 😟
Same. I mean I see the good and bad in people, but most times people don't see what they're really worth in the eyes of others. We don't praise people for our own personal gain, we do it for theirs. Nowadays it feels as if we can't even do anything without it being called "manipulation" when all we do is behave like what normal humans do :/
Then again the video says "sugar coating" and "excessive" complimenting, which I think you wouldn't do since you said you're sincerely complimenting them, which is more like telling the other party facts about themselves haha.
Same.
@@thecommenter2711 Agreed. It's all about intent. I wish people would just tell me their true intentions from me straight up!
Like if a woman just said I want sex from you I'd be far more likely to give it than if she tried to love bomb me to get me to do it...
Mind you I'd still be wary in the first situation as they may want something else really!
One has to be careful out there!
@@renee.ssance That makes me feel so much better, you're kind 😊✨
@@thecommenter2711 that's a very nice way to put it, thank you, I like your way of thought 😊✨
3:06 I've experienced that so many times that now I never even share my issues. I myself have Gaslighting issue.
Me:
-watches video
-realizes my parents are emotional manipulators
-gets mad
I’ll be honest and say I used to be a manipulator- Once I realized the damage I was causing, I knew I needed to change for the better, because I didn’t want to hurt the people I love anymore. A lot of the time I want to go back in time and try again, but it’s impossible for me to do that. I can’t undo the damage I caused and I can’t change the way people feel about me based on their experiences with me. But, even though I used to be rather horrible, I still work to becoming a better person. While the things I’ve done in my past were bad, they don’t define who I’m trying to be now. That goes for anyone else out there who may be in a similar boat as me- if you used to be manipulative, once you realize your mistakes and try to become a better person, remember your past won’t define you. It’s better to admit to your actions and genuinely apologize to the people you’ve hurt, and don’t blame them if they’d like to cut ties with you. There’s still a future for you and it’s possible you’ll be in healthy relationships in that future.
If you read all of this, I hope I helped you out in some way. Just remember you’re not alone, and my heart goes out to anyone who has been manipulated before, and my heart goes out to former manipulators, like myself, who are trying their best to become a better person. Love y’all.
When you accidentally realise your mum has accidentally done all of these frequently by accident
Holy Moly, I've used these....in my private life.
I was always very confident in my judgement, school work, military & professional life, and average athletic abilities. However, I have many shortcomings physically (heighth, weight, muscle development, and looks) and lacked confidence when it came to the opposite sex. I was a nerd! I did meet and married a wonderful woman (40+ yrs) and have 7 wonderful kids. However, looking back at my life (70yrs), I see where I have used several, if not all of these. Insecurities???
Thank you for making me more "aware" of these things.
One day my ex friend actually came up to me and asked me whether she was gaslighting me. I knew the answer was yes. But I said no because I didn't want to make her angry. I think if I had said yes maybe she would know better than to walk all over me for 5 years
These types of videos are very reassuring when difficult times are happening. ♥️
I've had experience with #7 so often that I ultimately find it incredibly hard to accept any sort of compliment. While it's partially due to other reasons, because of the constant #7s I've also grown to have trust issues by default :/ I hope that this video helps people recognize these warning signs and can better able to protect themselves against people who shouldn't even have taken your time
i have an example for each point, this is definitely describing my past abuser who lead me to depression, self harming and police, but as my supposed best friend said "they're not horrible, they are sincere it's your fault for letting them do, don't expect me to comfort you" this sucks.
I do some of these things. And I feel so bad. I try my hardest to be a good person but sometimes I fall flat. I think I have become more emotionally manipulative with my family as a survival mechanism cause I didn’t want to get hurt by them as much but that’s not who I want to be and I don’t want that bleeding into my other relationships with other people that actually do treat me well.
I'm sensitive but insensitive to others. Sometimes when I feel sad bcs of what my friends say thats probably not really serious, I unintentionally guilt trip them.
Have had an emotional manipulative friend for years on end. Thought she was my best friend and that I could trust her. She often would tell stories about new friends I have made or about my boyfriend in order to try and rip me and those people apart. Whenever we had an argument she never apologized and she never thought it was her fault. She blamed my parents for me being antisocial, she thought I was weird and she said my parents didnt raise me in a normal way and that it was odd. I did so much for her and was always there for her but I figured out it was rather one sided... that I was the only one who cared about her in the end. Every time I made plans with another friend, she suddenly needed me and whenever I said no, she said I was a bad friend and was never there for her etc. Etc.
I also figured out she said a lot of stuff behind my back and that she also said a lot of other stuff behind my now good friends their backs. I believed those things at first about them but turns out they werent true at all and she was just manipulating me in getting whatever she wanted from me, I believed those things at first and distant myself from the people she gossiped about because after all I thought I could trust her because she was my best friend for years on end.
I figured out recently that she has been manipulating me for years and cut ties with her, she didnt even say sorry or try to make it right and tried blaming everything on my now best friend which who I figured it out with together. She acted like she was sad about losing me but later I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back but I aint going back to her. I am finally becoming my own person again and now I am surrounded by lovely people...
The lesson for you all is: watch out because your closest friend might be your biggest enemy.
I love how the people put the time stamps and what it is because it helps me go through it faster since I have a lot of homework.
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Thank your for telling us Psych2Go!
How did y'all manage to describe my mom almost perfectly? Nothing I do to please her is ever enough. She can manage to find the tiniest mistake (in her eyes) and goes to town on me about how I can't even do basic household chores. It's disheartening. Living with BPD, a narc mom and an enabler dad isn't the best😢
BUT! Thank for the valuable info, which I will take into account from now on.
Love this channel and absolutely appreciate it's wisdom so much
Me who compliments my friends all the time:
I'm something of a manipulator myself
Most of my friends oftenly say that I can be easly manipulated and I can't even realize it,being blindfolded by the joy of finding a new ,,friend"
Hm, I compliment random strangers all the time but because it feels good when strangers compliment me so I want people to feel that way too and I sometimes start conversations that way as well. I notice how I emotionally manipulate people sometimes by being overly nice. I want people to like me because I feel like enough people hate me already (mostly just myself).
I always worry that I'm being manipulative or toxic or abusive because I grew up in an abusive household and I'm afraid of becoming abusive as well...
Your intentions are different.
A manipulator do it to lower their guard down and manipulate them afterwards
While yours is to be nice to everyone
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I compliment one of my friends so much, sad moment or not, because of the things she says, whether it’s “I’m going to give up why does no one love me/want to be around me” or it’s a mere “K” when someone else needs help. I never know whether she’s telling me she’s harming herself with something like alcohol or something but in 30 minutes, she’ll abandon the statement and be completely fine. I never know what to do to protect her but it’s not the same for me. Basically “Sometimes you’d take a bullet for the one pulling the trigger”
Thank you so much! It's really useful and helps me to do my science research topic in school
I have experienced overly complimenting. I had a best friend once and she used over compliment on everything. I thought she was the one who truly understood me. I was on cloud9. Later that I thought if I miss this person I will be losing something great, So I proposed to her and we became lovers. After a while, she met a rich guy and left me. I was shattered and the same person said about my qualities now saying trash things about me. It took around one year to recover from that situation. What you said was 100% true. We won't realise we are getting addicted to those compliments until it is too late. Nice video...
Y’all…that’s literally my friend-
And whenever I call her out she victimize herself
I’m also watching this video to make sure that I’m not like this as well, but at the same time ! I feel like I have some of these signs and I’m gonna take that time to improve, but first I’m going to take that step to self forgiveness because I do beat myself up for my past mistakes ( and I’m very hard on myself too). I’m also a people pleaser so I always tell people what they want to hear instead of telling them what’s going on in my mind. But, no I’ve faced many consequences of not communicating with my friends twice about taking precautions against covid, and this video is an eye opener for me to really change.
Oh, look, this fits some people in my family. They wonder why I rarely talk anymore, I should see how they react to this video. =_=
Thank you for letting me know! Especially diminishing issues
My mother saying at lunch "I have one helping at a time and then finish, and that's how everyone should actually eat!", repeating this every time we eat together, knowing both my sister and I used to have an eating disorder... :(
Yep I've been there in terms of being emotionally manipulated by my girlfriend. Hints why I initiated the break up letting her know that I didn't want to be with her anymore. All because she brought all her emotional baggage when she started to get into a relationship with me and expected me to heal her only for her to take advantage of me for that.
When you’re a narcissist and you nail all of these 👁 👄 👁
Seriously, I don’t know if there’s someone who doesn’t think these are bad, but they’re truly bad when they do that to you, especially when in the end you don’t trust yourself and your judgment anymore because they’re so good at making you believe you have something wrong
My best friend does this, sometimes more often then not. It’s at a point where it doesn’t really bother me (I actually find it quite comical sometimes!), but it still can be mentally draining to deal with.
I have a friend I care about but every time we talk about the pain he caused me so I can move on and heal, it always gets turned into me that I'm wording things that others translate as guilt tripping and stuff while I'm just genuinely upset and I don't know if I'm the bad one. It hurts when people care more about how I say things rather than how I feel. I feel guitly for being upset.
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To be honest even I used to manipulate people to get things I wanted , it was only if I wanted a pacific thing such as toy figurines , snacks , books and food . But I'm glad I don't do it anymore because it was a very bad habit of mines .
My mother guilt trips and diminishes me, even though it doesn't seem intentional, I think it has affected the way I treat other people. I have realized my mistakes and am working to not be like her.
All those signs actually fit my mom, but i already broke contact with her cause she was just overall very toxic and responsible for half of my mental problems😫☝️
@edward delorme yeah hopefully but i doubt it my sister tried to help her change, she tried too often it never helped.
She tried to keep up the conection between them but she also has to realize it is not good for her.
She always forgives my mother even after she almost made her commit unalive, but i also cannot do anything she would reject me and keep doing it.
I lost my 20 yo cat who is my best friend since i am 18yo, and during an argument he told me : "i've never seen someone so affected by the loss of an animal". that was too much for me.
0:11 thats me
I’ve had a friend like this, she got mad at me once and then later she just was like “oh but I wish I had your life. Your life is perfect. Your parents buy you everything you want (they do sometimes, but when they say no I just save up for it myself.) but when I want something my parents don’t buy it for me.” She was being super manipulative and I didn’t know how t respond to it.
That one moment when you realize that you are emotional manipulator yourself and made you hate yourself even more for all the stuff I done...
Gosh I am an awful person.
Anybody seen the Netflix documentary “I love you now die” well… that sort of shit happened to me, too, and I nearly died because of it… didn’t realize I was being manipulated until after I left the situation I was in. Never again 😳
„Smooth like butter“ get it, let it roll hahah
One of those I called "best friend" used all of these. At first when cut them out I felt bad but now I'm glad I did it.
My ex-boyfriend did most of these things and that is why we are no longer dating 🙃
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He was probably a narcissist
Years ago I dated a manipulator/abuser without knowing how bad it affected me, i nearly lost my own passion, career, and my bestfriends/family without realizing (back then i never knew about "toxic relationship" thing). Until Yt somehow coincidentally recommended me a vid from Psych2Go about "toxic relationships" (probably bcs i love watching animations), which actually opened my eyes, i cried when i realized. 2 years ago i finally gathered my courage to break up with my toxic ex, it was a bad process but i've never felt so happy and free. Tho i still suffered with bad anxiety and depression but i'm proud i got out of it. Thankfully my friends and family are still here.
I've finally commented this because i need to give my biggest thank you to Psych2Go for it. been subscribing ever since. Thank you so much ❤️❤️
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original upload date: yesterday (may 20)
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Omg, So I met this guy and I was just like something is not right. He gives the best compliments and praises me so much it makes me uncomfortable. the way he sweet talk his way around things did not sit well with me and I have notice him trying to manipulate me. He has a baby mother and when we just met, I told him that he and his child's mother should really try to work things out and He said he did tried and she told him that she grew out of love from him, I told him about Post partum depression and that it can be the reason why she is saying this. I remember a guy friend of mine having post partum depression after His daughter was born, so i know its real. He said that things has been like that for sometime and she doesn't care about his feelings. I really felt sorry for him( this manipulator)
I ask alot of questions and put them to out of context and out of pattern to understand what's going on before I ask you about it. Somethings that He said about his baby mother started to not add up. He said they video call everyday and I said okay, fine with me you guys have a son together. Then I notice this pattern on Weekends where he was picking fights and when I ignore his attempts then he straight up ignore me weekend. Weeks day we video call almost everynight.
It's only about 1 month since I have met him.
One Sunday I called him at about 2 in the afternoon, He answered and said he was on thr phone talking to his son he will call me soon and hang up immediately. He called me like about 10:30 that same night
And send me a message saying I know my son can't talk but I'm talking to him.
I just ignored him. ( first red flag for me)
The next time he gave me his phones and told me to look at it. I opened it infront of him and went into his message out of curiosity and starting reading his messages and then after about a minute into it I asked him can I read your messages and He said no, I said okay
Can I look on your photos, he said yes sure but please don't hate me. There was girl's pictures and naked pics, so i asked him if he used to cheat on his baby mother out of curiosity and he said yes, once but I knew it was more than once based on his gallery Of he cheat one he will do it twice and if he cheat on his baby mother he will cheat on me ( red flag two)
I told him we can be friends but this will not work out. He said he had changed and it was just old images. I replied I still think that you should probably wait before going into a relationship, you and your baby mother just broke up 3 months ago. Process your feelings, I don't think your ready for a relationship. He said fine friend is cool. We were close friend for the last week, he always complimented me and made me feel extra confident, he didn't judge me, funny and just portraiting this great personality. Friday we had lunch together and he told me that it was a misunderstanding what took place and he promise that he and his child mother isn't together, I told him to try and work it out for the child's sake, he said he had tried multiple times and nothing, I told him that he should work through his feelings and he asked me if I could help him while he does. I replied that I will support him the best I can. While talking he leaned over and kiss me and I kissed back. Then I pull away. The kiss was so good. It made my body fire hot. I have been single for over 9 months and that kiss did something to my body. I pulled back because I didn't like how much control that kiss had over me. Then he told me he loved me and I said really, he said yes. I said how can you love me when you don't even know me and he started complimenting on how I'm so kind and sweet and I deserve to be happy and just the few days he has seen what an amazing, caring, dedicated person I am and he will make any changes necessary he doesn't want to lose me. Later in the evening we were talking over the phone and sex was the topic. I am Christian and I abstain from sex since becoming one. The conversation came aby relationship and i asked him why does he want to be in a relationship with me and he said ( start usual compliments)( it was sucking at this point to the point where i thought I didn't know how to recieve a compliment but my guts were telling me it was his cringe)
I told him that we can talk but I need him to understand that I honor God's commandments and sex will not be part of our relationship. He said if it would be okay for him to have sex with other girls if we were to ever going into a relationship and he would run who he had sex with by me. I said no, I said we can be committed to each other and have sex, let is get to knos each other to seee how it goes. Then he start to talk about commitment and said he just don't want to be committed after asking for s explaination on what I meant when I said commitment. I told him it meant be loyal to each other and not giving up on each other no matter what we will work through anything. We would have made a promise to each other and God. He said no he is not ready for that he is ready to stick his penis into someone h barely even know. I said what's the poinf of tge relationship then, are we just going to have sex together for 2 to 5 years and say we together the hard times and babies come and that fuzzy feeling is lost and BOOM we separated so I don't want no relationshi, its waste of time. Then he said what doI want, I said I have compromised enough no marriage justv commitment and we can have sex since you want it and we can talk about it more as time process he said cool .
I told him i would call him later in the night and i notice he was texting super slow and late. He said he was cleaning and i said okay,I have to talk now because I have other things to do and trying to fit him into my schedule ith enough time.
I tried calling and he declined it and texted me and said he is talking with his baby mother about his son's birth certificate, I said why it is Friday night, and you have Saturday and Sunday before any business places open. Then he started cursing and saying i was over doing it and he just taking about his son's birth certificate, I knew his baby was at his house based relationship and jut deleted all history of him from my phone. I guess he still talking about his son's birth certificate. He is such a manipulator.
I have two of these signs. I don't want to hurt anyone. How am i supposed to overcome these bad things.😭😭😭
My mom has used guilt tripping to manipulate me many times as an adult when my life wasn't going the way she wanted it to. It took me years to realize what she was doing.