7 Examples Of Emotional Manipulation

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ค. 2024
  • Not sure if someone is actively exploiting you or influencing you in a harmful way? Here are a few examples of emotional manipulation to be aware of.
    Everyone can be emotionally manipulative towards others, even if they don’t intend to be. However, true manipulators perform each action deliberately and do so on a constant basis. Manipulation occurs when an individual controls another person’s emotions, behavior, and thought processes in order to satisfy a personal need. This can weaken relationships and also cause the victims to feel powerless, offended, and confused.
    Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but for general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.
    Original article - psych2go.net/7-examples-of-em...
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    References:
    Emotional Manipulation: 8 Signs To Look For. (n.d.). Retrieved from www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-emotional-manipulation
    Frank, M. (2020, June 26). 33 Ways People try to Manipulate You. Retrieved from lifelessons.co/personal-development/manipulation/
    Gaslighting. (n.d.). Retrieved from www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/gaslighting
    Villines, Z. (2019, September 20). Red Flags: Are You Being Emotionally Manipulated? Retrieved from www.goodtherapy.org/blog/red-flags-are-you-being-emotionally-manipulated-0917197#:~:text=Some of the most common,or make them feel indebted.
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  • @mikiChen-bd7zs
    @mikiChen-bd7zs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2435

    1. Guilt tripping 0:46
    2. Taking advantage of your insecurities 1:17
    3. Always changing the criteria 1:56
    4. Twisting reality 2:29
    5. Diminishing your issues 3:06
    6. Gas-lighting 3:34
    7. Overly complimenting 4:05

  • @EddyConejo
    @EddyConejo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3319

    I'm watching this just to make sure I'm not a manipulator unintentionally.

    • @laurensilverspikes4346
      @laurensilverspikes4346 3 ปีที่แล้ว +115

      Awww what a wholesome and awesome comment
      You sound like a great 👍 person

    • @lonetabii9735
      @lonetabii9735 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      Same i too watched it with that intention 😂

    • @goglegoo4320
      @goglegoo4320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      I’m just here to see if my girlfriend is manipulating me

    • @goglegoo4320
      @goglegoo4320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Update, yes she is

    • @EddyConejo
      @EddyConejo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@goglegoo4320 Damn, I'm sorry!

  • @denissea.7190
    @denissea.7190 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2213

    Doubting yourself and feeling guilty about your emotions is the worst kind of feeling.

    • @clarax363
      @clarax363 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Oh shit u even said it.

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      True

    • @beenagupta3506
      @beenagupta3506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have been there

    • @Meanness_Scar
      @Meanness_Scar 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Sometimes it's even that you doubt everything you feel and you think you are the bad one. You say you were hurt and hear that you're lying, manipulating, your mindset is wrong. So even when you feel hurt you just don't say it to not hurt those who had hurt you...

    • @beenagupta3506
      @beenagupta3506 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Meaness That is so true my friend....I think when you start feeling guilty about yourself then the person in front of you also thinks that You have done something wrong and suddenly You become a bad person in everyone's eyes

  • @ICEcoldJT
    @ICEcoldJT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1318

    “Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy, and attention. Stay in your light.”

    • @yusra8376
      @yusra8376 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      i always see u under channels that speak truth and you always comment the right things ahah. i hope youre well

    • @jmvs7777
      @jmvs7777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great coment, Namaste

    • @zahavasantos902
      @zahavasantos902 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Um I needed this

    • @yaraserrano4415
      @yaraserrano4415 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      awakened soul. 💯

    • @m.teunissen3270
      @m.teunissen3270 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙌🏽👌 I’ll remember this! Thanks 🙏

  • @matthewyang7893
    @matthewyang7893 3 ปีที่แล้ว +815

    This is why a small friend circle is often best because you can make sure you are in meaningful relationships with your friends

    • @arvinjayumayam8811
      @arvinjayumayam8811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Quality over quantity. ÚwÙ

    • @matthewyang7893
      @matthewyang7893 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@arvinjayumayam8811 Yep

    • @lemonpeachsy9458
      @lemonpeachsy9458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      That’s not my case I made a small friend circle and somebody stole it and then I made another one and it didn’t work and then I had to do it again and it’s currently ok just because it’s small does not mean they are that meaningful but that’s just my case :)

    • @lonetabii9735
      @lonetabii9735 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜

    • @lonetabii9735
      @lonetabii9735 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜

  • @dxrk2737
    @dxrk2737 3 ปีที่แล้ว +847

    I'm so ashamed of being a manipulator a few years ago. I feel guilty every day for what I'd done. I stopped such behaviours when i was manipulated by someone else. That feeling hurts; when you have high hopes in something and turns out you've been lied to

    • @gektoast4968
      @gektoast4968 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Good job

    • @znvorz
      @znvorz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      same here and i still worry that im being manipulative and just don't know it yet. sometimes i don't realize the things im doing until after it's happened

    • @mostafawatchs4483
      @mostafawatchs4483 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      apologize to who u manipulated

    • @anamikaojha2645
      @anamikaojha2645 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Good thing is you realised what you had done, really impressing

    • @APleasantDaydream
      @APleasantDaydream 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Agent Of Chaos 666 Please consider talking to a therapist

  • @sai-no1438
    @sai-no1438 3 ปีที่แล้ว +440

    Damn...been depressed for years, fell in love and they loved me back. Became happy, What a beautiful time to find out you're being manipulated

    • @rosariog5412
      @rosariog5412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Same here

    • @meediamongergamemodder2302
      @meediamongergamemodder2302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      narcs r like sucubi they eppear as the appitmy of beauty only to reveal their hidious nature when theyv drained u dry😖

    • @MistyBlahbull
      @MistyBlahbull 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@meediamongergamemodder2302 i had a stroke reading that

    • @meediamongergamemodder2302
      @meediamongergamemodder2302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@MistyBlahbull have ya ever looked up the word stroke learnt its true meaning i sujest u do b4 u trivialize twrrible afliction
      its basically a heart attack of the brain that can kill half the berves n ur body n leve u barely functioning
      n theiretically it could even kill u if savere enough sense it shakes u like a ragdoll when u do that nazistroke crap u disrespect thoes who lost theor livelyhoods n maby even their lives to strokes so think of that nxt time u wanna mock serious aflictions

    • @caitlin0005
      @caitlin0005 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@meediamongergamemodder2302 yes because the average teen searches up what a stroke is in their free time

  • @Jormbis
    @Jormbis 3 ปีที่แล้ว +577

    I’ve been guilty of being manipulative without knowing.
    Because I’ve seen worse people, so I try to never be like those people, but I forgot that there’s a spectrum, and I end up still being subconsciously manipulative because “at least I’m not this.”
    And it’s the shittiest thing.

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/qpdFIcMK2o8/w-d-xo.html

    • @oluwatoyin6385
      @oluwatoyin6385 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      At least ur self aware and changing now. Good on u😊

    • @igurospit
      @igurospit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      At least you know, that means you can change now :3

    • @blam9360
      @blam9360 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Being aware of it is the first step to changing. I've also been guilty and now I can take steps to improve myself.

    • @habibahmiftahurrahmah2427
      @habibahmiftahurrahmah2427 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Some people don't realize when they manipulate someone because they don't know yet. I'm so glad you acknowledge your mistakes and want to change for better.

  • @shaireensharma6603
    @shaireensharma6603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    The only way to protect yourself is "BE VERY CLEAR OF WHAT YOU WANT" and "DON'T TRY TO PROVE OR PLEASE ANYONE"...Trust me this helps

  • @potato1674
    @potato1674 3 ปีที่แล้ว +276

    Psych2go: ,,Have you experienced any of these signs"
    Me: _chuckles_ ,,All of 'em. My mom"

    • @rinaq3541
      @rinaq3541 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      SaAaAmMmMeeee, my grandma!

    • @Mo-xy9qi
      @Mo-xy9qi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ME TOO SDHFKJSDG,

    • @dhruviraj3761
      @dhruviraj3761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OMGG SAMEEEEE

    • @NatalieTheRican
      @NatalieTheRican 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I feel your pain. My mom does this to me too

    • @iamnotreal0717
      @iamnotreal0717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ALLOFMYFAMILY

  • @augusthavince8909
    @augusthavince8909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    Maybe the word 'narcissist' is getting overused or overbearing these days, but that these are the tactics of narcs.

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/qpdFIcMK2o8/w-d-xo.html

    • @sammaloney1746
      @sammaloney1746 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You have answered your own question!

    • @augusthavince8909
      @augusthavince8909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Benny Pickerel , thanks for the clarification. I used the word 'tactics' to include people that may be having a narcissistic moment (as we sometimes do).
      Also, narcissists are made. I'm of the school that if a person gets any kind of dopamine for a behavior, they will have a tendency to repeat what feels good and keep using what ever tactics (I'm not sure what neurotransmitter that full-fledged narcs get when they "win" or gain something from their behavior, but I imagine dopamine is involved). I think that American culture is supporting such behavior, glorifying players and hustlers (I don't mean people that have "hustle" or motivation).
      So, am I wrong to think that some narcissistic behavior fall on a spectrum, with NPD at the far end?

    • @rajanikm458
      @rajanikm458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was also thinking about narcissists

    • @DennisMC1974
      @DennisMC1974 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes hundred percent that's what I was just saying above vulnerable narcissists playing two different roles the perpetrator and the victim

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 ปีที่แล้ว +280

    People who display these traits do not deserve space in your life. Be protective of your energies, friends ✨

    • @jackiebennett3762
      @jackiebennett3762 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      It took me 3 years to realize I was being manipulated. Better late than never!

    • @realhealing7802
      @realhealing7802 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! Even if they are family. I am related to a bunch of toxic people!!!

    • @jamkeofficial
      @jamkeofficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You might be hard pressed finding someone who doesn't do any of these, I think what's better is someone who is willing to recognize their manipulative behavior and from there do their best to change it.

    • @teraspeXt
      @teraspeXt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Remember that some people don't even know they're being manipulative and don't want to be

    • @StrawberryNinjaNibbles
      @StrawberryNinjaNibbles 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      But what happens when they’re your parents?

  • @Fareysia
    @Fareysia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    I just got out of a manipulative relationship, and even though it's been five months now, he managed to plant the doubts so deep in my mind that I still sometimes think
    "What if he was right after all, and nobody will ever love me the way I am, and he was just trying to help me?".
    No, don't let him take over again. He was manipulating you and those thoughts is just what he needed to control you. You are NOT crazy, and not over-sensitive, you're fine the way you are. You are strong. You are loved.

    • @oscarcastillo7448
      @oscarcastillo7448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ive struggled with the idea that being over-sensitive is fine. Primarily because of this reason. If we as humans don't enjoy pain, wouldn't are natural instinct be to protect ourselves from it? And if my statement is valid about the human condition of dealing with pain. Aren't sensitive people more manipulative then those that are not? Honest question coming from someone who was hypersensitive, but now I think first before going off of my emotions.

    • @ummulsadiq580
      @ummulsadiq580 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m literally in the same position. I hope we find strength ❤️

    • @baybeetinax3
      @baybeetinax3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      going thru this :( it’s so hard not to feel doubtful of yourself esp as you hit 30 you feel you’re the one that will never meet anyone who can accept you for you

  • @sage-vj9pm
    @sage-vj9pm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    Is it just me or do Psych2Go videos sound calming like asmr

    • @xaviergonzalez44
      @xaviergonzalez44 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeah except way better, Asmr can be weird to say the least

  • @drinasun6984
    @drinasun6984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    My schoolmates used all those methods to abuse my good nature. I had no idea what was happening at the time. I did all those favors for them, but eventually they became too much, and I started resenting their maltreatment of me.

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/qpdFIcMK2o8/w-d-xo.html

    • @noname420
      @noname420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here too. Are you doing alright now?

    • @drinasun6984
      @drinasun6984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@noname420 Yes, I'm doing better now.

    • @noname420
      @noname420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@drinasun6984 Im happy and proud of you! Have some online hug. Take care of yourself!

    • @drinasun6984
      @drinasun6984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@noname420 Thanks! You too!

  • @sinistor3727
    @sinistor3727 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    The first one guilt tripping... Is the one I've always face. No matter how right I am... They still push me into wrong. I solve every problem by "screw it i gave up" because the more I try to prove I'm right the more trouble I will get later.

  • @LordArkanaNavy
    @LordArkanaNavy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    This channel is so emotionally therapeutic mentally too, but it’s rare to find one emotionally assured

  • @weemouse3056
    @weemouse3056 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Everyone can be an emotional manipulator, you’ve probably done it unintentionally and so have I. But the people who think that it’s a ‘flex’ or something to be ‘proud’ of, big difference

  • @destinyjames6117
    @destinyjames6117 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Me seeing if I'm accidentally emotionally manipulating someone..
    I'm sorry... I will change my ways. Thanks Psych2Go

    • @buttercupkat
      @buttercupkat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Good on you for changing once you realized what you were doing is wrong! Good luck in life.

  • @Goose_frog
    @Goose_frog 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I compliment all of my friends all the time... am I a manipulator? I only wanted to make them feel awesome! I dont want to make them feel sad and/or smothered...

    • @lukasreissig4500
      @lukasreissig4500 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I am the same. I often compliment friends even on small things. My intention is to make them feel good. I don't want to manipulate them.

    • @taiyoko
      @taiyoko 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      well that's kinda saying they cant feel awesome without you complimenting them.. just make sure you're complimenting them genuinely and not because you want to please them. it's better from the heart

    • @lukasreissig4500
      @lukasreissig4500 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well, I would say that I do compliment others genuinely. But sometimes these are small and maybe "unnecessary" things

    • @vildeeckhart7713
      @vildeeckhart7713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lukasreissig4500 same, I never thought about this as manipulation tho ?? : 0 I feel like I need a better explication on how over-complimenting can be manipulative cuz I don’t fully get it

    • @buttercupkat
      @buttercupkat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Complimenting people isn't manipulating them. If you were doing it because you didn't mean it and wanted to build them up to break them down, then you'd be a manipulator. It's about intent and I don't think you are.

  • @casacubs9374
    @casacubs9374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    *when you realize your best friend may be emotionally manipulating you and has the past five years*

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/video/qpdFIcMK2o8/w-d-xo.html

    • @dreamthedream8929
      @dreamthedream8929 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      And how about you?

    • @abcd18802
      @abcd18802 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      if you care a lot about them enough to save the friendship, you could probably bring it up, just don't accuse bc according to psychology that will make people extra defensive understandably. say something like "hey __, when you do these things ( example: "compliment me a lot"), i'm not sure if you mean to, but it makes me feel ___"

    • @crimsonmatter
      @crimsonmatter 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@abcd18802 idk mily bff (whom I might cut off) said to me once that no one deserves a friend like me cause I didn't help her with something and didn't even say sorry afterwards tho it's okayish now and this was 2 years back and when I ask her for something she says no or like is rude and acts as if they are right all the time.

    • @abcd18802
      @abcd18802 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@crimsonmatter yeah, cut her off, but you can also tell her and stand up for yourself, I know that’s not always easy. Whatever you do, if you start to accuse her in the face, anyone would probably get mad. Sometimes you also just have to distance yourself and cut off, I was under the impression if you’re commenting about her and the friendship, you wanted advice to save it

  • @Ptitnain2
    @Ptitnain2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    If you are here and you recognize some of those behaviors to be yours, you are not a narcissistic person, because if you were, you wouldn't even question yourself or you would deflect it, or even victimize yourself. We all have flaws and it's okay. If you are working on them, it's even better because you will end up having better relationships and you'll simply improve your own life. You got this.

  • @an-xiety3606
    @an-xiety3606 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Diminishing your issues 3:06 ... really hit hard, I have a depressed friend who always manipulates me that way. I'm sick and tired of it. :'(

  • @ticketlee3852
    @ticketlee3852 3 ปีที่แล้ว +339

    ✨~ timestamps ~✨
    1) ~ guilt-tripping -> 0:44
    2) ~ taking advantage of your insecurites -> 1:16
    3) ~ always changing the criteria -> 1:55
    4) ~ twisting reality -> 2:28
    5) ~ diminishing your issues -> 3:04
    6) ~ gas-lighting -> 3:33
    7) ~ overly complimenting -> 4:04
    Stay safe!

    • @GreeneChakra
      @GreeneChakra ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks Ticklteee!!!

    • @noonegirl
      @noonegirl ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you 😊

  • @jamesgilbert2432
    @jamesgilbert2432 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Me and my ex were in a very toxic relationship and did these things to each other without even knowing it :( communication is so helpful especially if the manipulation isn’t intended

  • @rawnoodle
    @rawnoodle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    It’s always a very serious topic then you have these cute animations and character’s

  • @gabriele.1105
    @gabriele.1105 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Dude, this video should totally have more views. People focus on identifying narcissism a lot, which would kind of be the end of the line already, but this stuff right here is much more subtle and can cause great damage to one's mental health. Keep rocking, Psych2Go!

  • @LibraP93
    @LibraP93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I dealt with an emotionally manipulative guy before and thank God I cut it off. He did everything that they listed. Watch out for the red flags 🚩 and protect your peace.

  • @vanishingstar777
    @vanishingstar777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    That's why I never talk my stories to anyone even to my friends

  • @paulanocu3711
    @paulanocu3711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Me:
    -watches video
    -realizes my parents are emotional manipulators
    -gets mad

  • @otherside_ofqila
    @otherside_ofqila 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    "Smooth as Butter"
    ME : *chokes while drink water.. "W-Wait... WHAT? lololololoolllololol"

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      th-cam.com/video/IAnBkmPdemQ/w-d-xo.html

    • @SamiHime
      @SamiHime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      like a criminal undercover haha

    • @winterflower3569
      @winterflower3569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hi there! ARMY💜

    • @raiany195
      @raiany195 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      thoughts 😏

    • @otherside_ofqila
      @otherside_ofqila 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@winterflower3569 hey👋🤣

  • @ip1136
    @ip1136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Number 4. My roommate constantly does that. Nothing is EVER his fault. He always acts and says that you "promised" him something, when the maximum you said was "I might do that".
    Also, he tries to guilt trip you all the time. He wants pity and is complaining and whining all the time. But then won't accept any solution. He always has to be the victim.

  • @rosenianieves4659
    @rosenianieves4659 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    after watching this, I feel like I don't have friends anymore.

  • @edenhoneyy
    @edenhoneyy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thankyou for posting this stuff. Not only does it help me see the relationships I engage in that I have been manipulated, but also how I too have been manipulative. I struggle to see things from the perspective of others sometimes and this helps remind me that our experiences are all inherently unique.

  • @chococharlotte8385
    @chococharlotte8385 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    When you accidentally realise your mum has accidentally done all of these frequently by accident

  • @shambhavisharma2592
    @shambhavisharma2592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I DO overly compliment people but I think it's just me, I like seeing people's face light up and the subtle blush they get when I sincerely compliment them. I've never said a compliment I did not mean, I hope I'm not turning into a manupilator 😟

    • @renee.ssance
      @renee.ssance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Same. I mean I see the good and bad in people, but most times people don't see what they're really worth in the eyes of others. We don't praise people for our own personal gain, we do it for theirs. Nowadays it feels as if we can't even do anything without it being called "manipulation" when all we do is behave like what normal humans do :/
      Then again the video says "sugar coating" and "excessive" complimenting, which I think you wouldn't do since you said you're sincerely complimenting them, which is more like telling the other party facts about themselves haha.

    • @crispymattu9286
      @crispymattu9286 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same.

    • @sammaloney1746
      @sammaloney1746 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@thecommenter2711 Agreed. It's all about intent. I wish people would just tell me their true intentions from me straight up!
      Like if a woman just said I want sex from you I'd be far more likely to give it than if she tried to love bomb me to get me to do it...
      Mind you I'd still be wary in the first situation as they may want something else really!
      One has to be careful out there!

    • @shambhavisharma2592
      @shambhavisharma2592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@renee.ssance That makes me feel so much better, you're kind 😊✨

    • @shambhavisharma2592
      @shambhavisharma2592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@thecommenter2711 that's a very nice way to put it, thank you, I like your way of thought 😊✨

  • @v1p3rlotus
    @v1p3rlotus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    the -past friend- girl who i thought was an actual friend was definitely an emotional manipulator who was also narcissistic.
    *explains how my self-esteem was absolutely shattered.*

  • @aomccaskill81
    @aomccaskill81 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My wife often diminishes my issues whenever I try to tell her about something in our relationship that upsets me or when we argue. She (or other people) have it worse, so I shouldn't complain. It's really frustrating.

  • @shreekantprasad8278
    @shreekantprasad8278 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are the one who understands what I am going through....You are like a friend who listens and understands me and teaches me for my well-being.

  • @itstoorainy
    @itstoorainy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    he changes the criteria conveniently, catered to his benefit, and blames it on ADHD. he guilt trips. i think the overly complimenting is what got me though. i had a feeling his compliments were hollow and generalized. like anyone would like to get the compliments he gives, but they're not really for /me/ specifically, just directed at me. thank you for shedding some light on this, i needed it.

  • @AkiraDraws124
    @AkiraDraws124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Can you next video be about recovering from being manipulated?
    I’ve been manipulated before so now I feel like everyone around ether secretly hates me or is trying to use me. It’s getting hard and I’ve starting to be distrustful of my own family members. The only thing that will get me to tell someone is if I have broken down completely. Which in turn gets me yelled at by my friends. Which makes me trust them less a cycle continues

  • @astrama7102
    @astrama7102 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    "Smooth like butter" I literally choked on my air XDD
    It's an early reference to Butter MV, it's out since three days only ! Good job ahah

  • @sp3ctrez231
    @sp3ctrez231 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ahhh i had this one friend who guilt tripped me over the smallest things and ended up making me do whatever she wanted
    we changed schools so i dont talk to her much but only after that did i realize that she was manipulating me
    also i love your videos they are really informative and help answer the many questions i have about psychology

  • @penelope7823
    @penelope7823 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I had a friend like this and I was scared of her. She hated all my friends and if I disagree with her on a small thing she would act so offended and angry until I apologies to her. I realized she was toxic so I cut her off :(
    Sometimes I wonder if I was wrong and that she actually liked me...?

    • @user-nu1hukph85
      @user-nu1hukph85 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      If you think that she was toxic, it is the best that you cut her off. Better be safe than sorry

    • @ElCalimocho18
      @ElCalimocho18 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      It's not about whether she liked you, it's about how she made you feel.

    • @isaak1748
      @isaak1748 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      If she was hurting you, you're not wrong in cutting her off. Your well-being comes first. If she was hurt by you cutting her off that's not your fault, you come first.

    • @karyadenemeler1247
      @karyadenemeler1247 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes i had same 8 years. She always dominant to all people. Always manipulate and when you say no to her you always feel quilty and bad. She never care your opinions or feelings. She just control me with fake extreme love words. Same with my ex too. They are so dangerous depressive and weak people. They can never make joke about themselves for example. They always try to show themselves as strong. They dont care.

    • @crimsonmatter
      @crimsonmatter 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The last point could answer all your questions

  • @AlexanderLynn12548
    @AlexanderLynn12548 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I've had to deal with one on my own and I've left them for once and now I've felt a little better.
    All I'm saying is if you come across one then just leave them and block them

    • @prudenthumanbeing4613
      @prudenthumanbeing4613 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      th-cam.com/video/qpdFIcMK2o8/w-d-xo.html

    • @multi_verse8636
      @multi_verse8636 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why would u wanna control someone’s emotions that’s sad really

    • @AlexanderLynn12548
      @AlexanderLynn12548 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@multi_verse8636 That's a great question

  • @matter9145
    @matter9145 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    One day my ex friend actually came up to me and asked me whether she was gaslighting me. I knew the answer was yes. But I said no because I didn't want to make her angry. I think if I had said yes maybe she would know better than to walk all over me for 5 years

  • @katjamihalic6303
    @katjamihalic6303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this video! 💛 In my last relationship he would go from telling me how special I am, how great a girlfriend I am and how he’s never felt this way about anyone to telling me that I’m not doing enough, I don’t appreciate him enough and that he’s alone because I don’t care about him (none of which were true) SO OFTEN and I would always cry and blame myself for not trying hard enough or not giving him good enough compliments but now I see that it was all a manipulation tactic all along💔. It really hurts to find out that someone you loved was manipulating you all the time

  • @Sage3356
    @Sage3356 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you psyc2go, these videos help so many people every day

  • @kerridunn4283
    @kerridunn4283 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I feel I have experienced these types of people in my past, possibly present. I like these videos because I like to step back & reflect on how I respond to other people & hope I don’t ever diminish how others feel

  • @igurospit
    @igurospit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Y’all…that’s literally my friend-
    And whenever I call her out she victimize herself

  • @SuperBlessedKing
    @SuperBlessedKing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    These types of videos are very reassuring when difficult times are happening. ♥️

  • @geometrydashishere
    @geometrydashishere 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for letting me know! Especially diminishing issues

  • @whyger7259
    @whyger7259 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Me who compliments my friends all the time:
    I'm something of a manipulator myself

  • @Gandellion
    @Gandellion 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve noticed that I often consider using these manipulative behaviours to try and make myself feel vulnerable so others will take care of or”love” me, I can usually stop myself but it’s concerning to me that they’re often the first course of action I come up with.

  • @LordNicotine
    @LordNicotine 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How did y'all manage to describe my mom almost perfectly? Nothing I do to please her is ever enough. She can manage to find the tiniest mistake (in her eyes) and goes to town on me about how I can't even do basic household chores. It's disheartening. Living with BPD, a narc mom and an enabler dad isn't the best😢
    BUT! Thank for the valuable info, which I will take into account from now on.
    Love this channel and absolutely appreciate it's wisdom so much

  • @__Vasachi__
    @__Vasachi__ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank your for telling us Psych2Go!

  • @KhamTVinc
    @KhamTVinc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I dated a girl who did many of these things.
    Guilt Tripping, diminishing my issues, changing the criteria, and gaslighting were her tools of choice.
    Guilt tripped me into changing how I interacted socially. Then changed the criteria and included how I behaved privately to accommodate them. When I brought up the issue of how these changes were affecting me she responded with "imagine how I felt before you made the change" immediately followed by gaslighting me.
    After 3 months I became emotionally numb to everything she did. At some point she didn't even care if I reacted. She would appear to only want to express her negative view points so she could appear like ahe was putting in all the effort. When in reality she'd make demands and I'd process them in a productive way and try to meet half way. Since this wasn't what she wanted she'd get mad.
    Since we seperated I was able to communicate in a more healthy way. The thing is she has custody of our child and I fear they will learn this alright behavior. My ex had a history of being this way before having a relationship with me. It's been 4.5 years and has had 7 co habitating relationships... all ending in some dramatic way where our child and her have had to leave while the other person was away. Unhealthy in my opinion.

  • @averageastolfoenjoyer473
    @averageastolfoenjoyer473 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm guilty of most of these, I am working with a therapist to change these bad habits. I will apologize to my loved ones for my manipulative ways and change them. Thanks Psych2Go, I can now rebuild my family bonds better and stronger.

    • @mady8539
      @mady8539 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don’t think you’re as bad as you think you are.

  • @user-tf3ru1ji3s
    @user-tf3ru1ji3s 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love how the people put the time stamps and what it is because it helps me go through it faster since I have a lot of homework.

  • @retiredarmy3755
    @retiredarmy3755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Holy Moly, I've used these....in my private life.
    I was always very confident in my judgement, school work, military & professional life, and average athletic abilities. However, I have many shortcomings physically (heighth, weight, muscle development, and looks) and lacked confidence when it came to the opposite sex. I was a nerd! I did meet and married a wonderful woman (40+ yrs) and have 7 wonderful kids. However, looking back at my life (70yrs), I see where I have used several, if not all of these. Insecurities???
    Thank you for making me more "aware" of these things.

  • @vanmoonn
    @vanmoonn ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much! It's really useful and helps me to do my science research topic in school

  • @TaraTHESecretONE
    @TaraTHESecretONE 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Oh, look, this fits some people in my family. They wonder why I rarely talk anymore, I should see how they react to this video. =_=

  • @NatalieTheRican
    @NatalieTheRican 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is how my mom has treated me my whole life. I feel bad for feeling this way but I despise her for how she treats me

  • @waqarsaleem1412ah
    @waqarsaleem1412ah ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes, I had found this video useful, relatable and true. Thanks for this. We appreciate it.

  • @arielm1374
    @arielm1374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hm, I compliment random strangers all the time but because it feels good when strangers compliment me so I want people to feel that way too and I sometimes start conversations that way as well. I notice how I emotionally manipulate people sometimes by being overly nice. I want people to like me because I feel like enough people hate me already (mostly just myself).
    I always worry that I'm being manipulative or toxic or abusive because I grew up in an abusive household and I'm afraid of becoming abusive as well...

    • @halynia8646
      @halynia8646 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your intentions are different.
      A manipulator do it to lower their guard down and manipulate them afterwards
      While yours is to be nice to everyone

  • @NeroDracolith
    @NeroDracolith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I've had experience with #7 so often that I ultimately find it incredibly hard to accept any sort of compliment. While it's partially due to other reasons, because of the constant #7s I've also grown to have trust issues by default :/ I hope that this video helps people recognize these warning signs and can better able to protect themselves against people who shouldn't even have taken your time

  • @Momo-tk7oc
    @Momo-tk7oc 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your videos they always make my day better and never fail to help me understand what I'm going through tysm for all the videos u post

  • @HUYI1
    @HUYI1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    And no matter what you do to help them, it's not enough, even if you go out of your way to assist or help them when you can, boyfriend, friends, it doesn't matter, if they lay out something that you should attend straight away and you tell them you have plans, they go through the ranks to make sure what you are doing is hurting them and YOU are wrong for trying to live your life or help yourself, I'm so tired of it, glad this video covers the basis of what I have to deal with, looking after and focusing on myself is what I need to do, there has to be limits regarding this and my compassion

  • @bitzyvelvet4767
    @bitzyvelvet4767 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ethereal beauty, smooth like butter
    Psych2go is an armyyyyyy

  • @ChocoParfaitFra
    @ChocoParfaitFra 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When you’re a narcissist and you nail all of these 👁 👄 👁
    Seriously, I don’t know if there’s someone who doesn’t think these are bad, but they’re truly bad when they do that to you, especially when in the end you don’t trust yourself and your judgment anymore because they’re so good at making you believe you have something wrong

  • @neezv9224
    @neezv9224 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m also watching this video to make sure that I’m not like this as well, but at the same time ! I feel like I have some of these signs and I’m gonna take that time to improve, but first I’m going to take that step to self forgiveness because I do beat myself up for my past mistakes ( and I’m very hard on myself too). I’m also a people pleaser so I always tell people what they want to hear instead of telling them what’s going on in my mind. But, no I’ve faced many consequences of not communicating with my friends twice about taking precautions against covid, and this video is an eye opener for me to really change.

  • @isaak1748
    @isaak1748 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of those I called "best friend" used all of these. At first when cut them out I felt bad but now I'm glad I did it.

  • @theresaotte2707
    @theresaotte2707 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    „Smooth like butter“ get it, let it roll hahah

  • @Sunny-wz5fh
    @Sunny-wz5fh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Have had an emotional manipulative friend for years on end. Thought she was my best friend and that I could trust her. She often would tell stories about new friends I have made or about my boyfriend in order to try and rip me and those people apart. Whenever we had an argument she never apologized and she never thought it was her fault. She blamed my parents for me being antisocial, she thought I was weird and she said my parents didnt raise me in a normal way and that it was odd. I did so much for her and was always there for her but I figured out it was rather one sided... that I was the only one who cared about her in the end. Every time I made plans with another friend, she suddenly needed me and whenever I said no, she said I was a bad friend and was never there for her etc. Etc.
    I also figured out she said a lot of stuff behind my back and that she also said a lot of other stuff behind my now good friends their backs. I believed those things at first about them but turns out they werent true at all and she was just manipulating me in getting whatever she wanted from me, I believed those things at first and distant myself from the people she gossiped about because after all I thought I could trust her because she was my best friend for years on end.
    I figured out recently that she has been manipulating me for years and cut ties with her, she didnt even say sorry or try to make it right and tried blaming everything on my now best friend which who I figured it out with together. She acted like she was sad about losing me but later I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back but I aint going back to her. I am finally becoming my own person again and now I am surrounded by lovely people...
    The lesson for you all is: watch out because your closest friend might be your biggest enemy.

  • @sierrahuestis5115
    @sierrahuestis5115 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for making this very insightful ♥️

  • @pipermclean7805
    @pipermclean7805 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your video! Thanks for all the hard work you do! Can you maybe do a video on How To Accept Your Insecurities?

  • @CapnMadelyn
    @CapnMadelyn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    hm....
    i think i do it on accident
    im very messed up and i cant get the help i need
    im sorry for anything ive done
    i think my time is over
    goodbye

  • @xjuan3898
    @xjuan3898 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    All those signs actually fit my mom, but i already broke contact with her cause she was just overall very toxic and responsible for half of my mental problems😫☝️

    • @xjuan3898
      @xjuan3898 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @edward delorme yeah hopefully but i doubt it my sister tried to help her change, she tried too often it never helped.
      She tried to keep up the conection between them but she also has to realize it is not good for her.
      She always forgives my mother even after she almost made her commit unalive, but i also cannot do anything she would reject me and keep doing it.

  • @glorialee1993
    @glorialee1993 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this helped me so much, thank you!

  • @kristalhumphreys4621
    @kristalhumphreys4621 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m really enjoying this channel’s videos…

  • @torisaursky
    @torisaursky 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My ex-boyfriend did most of these things and that is why we are no longer dating 🙃

  • @iu9130
    @iu9130 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have two of these signs. I don't want to hurt anyone. How am i supposed to overcome these bad things.😭😭😭

  • @niyuki87
    @niyuki87 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love her voooiiiiceeeee, and the way she talks!!

  • @imjustchillinandplayin4745
    @imjustchillinandplayin4745 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I had to put up with a friendship full of emotional abuse and manipulation but I was able to walk out early before they destroyed my mental health completely, but I am still scarred from it

  • @danielabaer1826
    @danielabaer1826 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My mother saying at lunch "I have one helping at a time and then finish, and that's how everyone should actually eat!", repeating this every time we eat together, knowing both my sister and I used to have an eating disorder... :(

  • @ganndalf202
    @ganndalf202 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have a friend I care about but every time we talk about the pain he caused me so I can move on and heal, it always gets turned into me that I'm wording things that others translate as guilt tripping and stuff while I'm just genuinely upset and I don't know if I'm the bad one. It hurts when people care more about how I say things rather than how I feel. I feel guitly for being upset.

  • @Loading-..
    @Loading-.. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The fact that i always use gaslighting and twisting reality every day wthout even realizing it is just crazy

  • @wendyfrey01
    @wendyfrey01 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    you guys help me sm! :) you helped me realize therapy is okay, and acceptable! i’m doing much better now

  • @florsoupita
    @florsoupita 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    _why are the coments from 2 days ago? Whatthehell 😭🤙_

  • @ravenlover7924
    @ravenlover7924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That one moment when you realize that you are emotional manipulator yourself and made you hate yourself even more for all the stuff I done...
    Gosh I am an awful person.

  • @MissAllaCinderella
    @MissAllaCinderella 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My best friend does this, sometimes more often then not. It’s at a point where it doesn’t really bother me (I actually find it quite comical sometimes!), but it still can be mentally draining to deal with.

  • @user-pc7po4tx8d
    @user-pc7po4tx8d 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i have an example for each point, this is definitely describing my past abuser who lead me to depression, self harming and police, but as my supposed best friend said "they're not horrible, they are sincere it's your fault for letting them do, don't expect me to comfort you" this sucks.

  • @chelseaharridass4531
    @chelseaharridass4531 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To be honest even I used to manipulate people to get things I wanted , it was only if I wanted a pacific thing such as toy figurines , snacks , books and food . But I'm glad I don't do it anymore because it was a very bad habit of mines .

  • @sage_am_plant6747
    @sage_am_plant6747 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Haven't seen all of these videos but could you maybe do one to help lgbtq+ community with homophobic parents it could help me and others out

  • @wildcard2319wonders
    @wildcard2319wonders ปีที่แล้ว

    Amanda is my favorite narrator ❤ her voice is so calming

  • @tatkobob1597
    @tatkobob1597 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Most of my friends oftenly say that I can be easly manipulated and I can't even realize it,being blindfolded by the joy of finding a new ,,friend"

  • @exist_E
    @exist_E 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    original upload date: yesterday (may 20)
    view count (at the time of writing this): 8

    • @maxim_ssc
      @maxim_ssc 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      haha
      hello time traveller!

  • @an-xiety3606
    @an-xiety3606 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    1:25 SMOOTH LIKE BUTTER, LIKE A CRIMINAL UNDERCOVER! Gon' pop like trouble breakin' into your heart like that~~~~~

  • @gwk8009
    @gwk8009 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had to stop seeing this at point 3, coz i felt trauma of being manipulated constantly and still living with that group of people, and i have no choice yet ...
    Will continue seeing this hopefully soon

  • @blam9360
    @blam9360 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My mom has used guilt tripping to manipulate me many times as an adult when my life wasn't going the way she wanted it to. It took me years to realize what she was doing.