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- Fake friends are untrustworthy and only care about themselves. Have you ever had a fake friend that you never saw coming? How do we know who’s worth trusting and who’s not? How do we decide which of those around us we should and shouldn’t let in? Or figure out someone’s intentions to protect ourselves from getting hurt? In this video, let's talk about the most common and definitive signs that someone is being fake towards you, according to Psychology!
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I always overthink I have fake friends, And I thought I was just being paranoid. Even if they were fake, I never had the audacity to confront them.
@@kaguyabokuto1509 me to..
Fake people don't surprise us anymore, loyal people do
They really do
Point made🤔🤔
When distrust becomes normal and trusting real honesty becomes a chore. It's a rough perspective, and very tough to get out of.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
*the truth has been exposed*
Fake friends: once they stop talking to you, they start talking about you.
That’s so trueeeee. Sadly :(
Truee
Oof.
Yep!
Sad reality tbh.
Damnn truee
Never cross oceans to people who can't even cross a puddle for you.
Absolutely! I've done that twice ... never again.
Great comment!
Ma'am you just dropped a crown FOR THIS AMAZING COMMENT
@may I'm Your Friend Always even if I don't know you , we could be chatting friends☺
As the saying goes, "Never make someone a priority when you are only an option."
A true friend is the one who stays when all the others walk away.
Bt wat if that frnd said this will end one day.. one day we will stop talking.. look for a good frnd who will giv u equal love as u do.. protect your heart frm me.. you think i should still stay? Btw she was my ex n now was like a bestie for me n now she has found new frnds and she keep saying all this things
I've had too many fake friends
@@Reenanaik674 I had a friend call me when they wanted me to participate in his wedding he no longer talks to me fake friend
The one you trust more is the dangerous one
Family and friends also fake.
I'd rather be by myself then to have fake friends.
Me too....I finally got rid of them
I'm alone, but I was anyway
@@flowforever9084 i'll drink to that! - to the Good Ridance!
....Salut!
Same
“You deserve someone who’s gonna treat you like you matter everyday. Not just when it’s convenient for them.” 🙌🏽
1. Are u on Lucids server
2. If I dont communicate a lot, does that make me fake?
@@daejuanobrien1399 Answer to 2.) no, but you sound like a nice little introvert to me
@@Fatasswatermelon36 thank you ❤️
AYEEEE WUSS GOOD JT
Exactly. And you know what once you realize your value and what you deserve, you will start to attract it. And you will no longer accept the subpar “friends”
Worst is when PARENTS act like this with their own children .
My ex does this with our kids.
Absolutely 🐝👀
They're called NARCISSISTS
@Maggie's Cottage also not noo
FACTS!
The majority of people in most people's lives are acquaintances.. They come and go... Real Friends are rare...
Exactly 💯%
Totally agree. The majority of friends people have on social media are really acquaintances. As you say if you have a real friend who is loyal and trustworthy then you are lucky.
Thank you! I’m so glad someone else understands this :) My family certainly doesn’t.
“ It is better to be alone than in bad company.” George Washington
Yep exactly
Agree
AMEN!!!!!
right
@@communityloveartprojectc.l9806yes definitely.
Friendship is overrated. Almost every friend I have had has betrayed me.
I thought I was the only one that this has happened to. I have no friends.
Well I have people in Grand Junction Colorado that ran off because of my father drinking. I lost all 3 of my best friends and felt betrayed because of 5000% alcohol. So I can't trust anyone in person.
Me also. I prefer my own company now I'm in my 50s
And you haven't betrayed anyone???? 💁🏽♀️
@@damejazesoul Not really. Ones in Great Bend are the ones who betrayed me and set me up.
My mother always said, "it's better to have quality friends than quantity. Keep your circle small".
There’s a huge difference between a FRIEND and a TRUE FRIEND.
Better to be alone than have a group of fake friends and family. Personal experience
Trueee
Too bad I found that out later in life!
Cassandra Glenn it’s never too late!
@@kumaSOevl So true, thanks!
True, based on my experience. I'm always alone especially when eating lunch at my work.
I disagree with some of this. Friends that have anxiety (general, social, etc...), depression, and other issues may bail on plans, may not initiate contact, or keep in touch.
Yea , that's why ,not all friends are fake just because they have all these signs . But maybe all fake friend has these signs .
Exactly
This is true. I have found friends with these types of disorders will tell me that they're struggling socially and recommend less triggering activities.
At some point I started questioning if I'm a fake friend because of that
Yeah. I don't want to think I'm a fair friend just because im socially awkward, too anxious to say something, or depressed and isolating myself from everyone, not just specifically them. I think about that after it happens and really stress over it. I think it's actually made me a walking mat because I feel like i owe certain things to people, or don't deserve their friendship. I hate the fact that i know all of this, but only afterwards. While I'm in the moment, things just happen then i realize later how im treating someone or how they've treated me.
That is why you don't want to get too comfortable with anyone right away. Even if you come across people who seem to be nice, be careful not to be so quick to be comfortable with them and don't be so quick to start hanging out with them, especially if you meet them in school and/or work environments. Take your time to get to know them at least maybe a few years or more before you allow yourself to be close to them and start hanging out and keep in mind, they can turn around and show a totally different personality all of a sudden.
So true. Usually the nicest ones are the ones to beware of.
Real talk
So true.....👍👍👍 SOGOIII?!?!
Sadly I can relate I have backstabbers for relatives
Is so true,this kind of people r everywhere.
dogs make good friends I wish they could talk
Some of them
I'm not a huge dog fan after getting attacked by a large one when I was a kid
@mpg. And cats!!!
@@flipsiderainbow ??? Thank god??? That means you dont want it to talk?
They do talk just not in the way we do.
perfect timing because I'm overthinking about my friends being fake.
((edit: I see, I wish everyone in the replies to have a wonderful day/afternoon/night. I hope all of you will make great new decisions and choices in the future and meet new amazing people unlike those fake ones. I love you all 💖💖))
Same
Same here bud
Aww,i hope you figure it out and remove that back stabbing friend you have,
HDHDJD SAME!!
Wait what's a friend ?
When people show you who they really are the first time, believe them.
And keep your distance.
Exactly
I say this all the time it's so true
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So true, but it's unfortunate that some show you their true self after.
Not all the time some r charmers & find ur kindness as a weakness
I had a fake friend for 10 years and I quit the toxic relationship just recently.
you wont regret it after the initial hurt I promise you
I had a similar experience with a friend of 6 years. Hurts at first but I'm happy I don't have to deal with those things anymore. I'm surprised at how much happier I am.
I had 1 of those for 18yrs! I can't believe it took me all that time to finally notice🤦🏻♀
I did the same thing after 35 years....
good
4:55
Don’t tell me what they said about me, tell me why they felt comfortable saying it around you.
Period
YES.
And that’s that on THAT…Period!
Also what did they say to defend you?
I was a fake friend to a fake friend 🌚🌚🌚
Same here
Oof 👀
eye for an eye i guess...
I guess that is me...
Lol 😃✌️
Your lucky to have 1 true friend in your lifetime.
Wow I have spent my whole life looking for that one true friend. Yet to find them!!!!
Yes indeed ...a 70 year old man told me this in 1993 he said when you get my age and look at one hand and count 1 true friend you have been blessed 19 year old me looked at him like he had three heads 47 year old me perfectly understands now🤔
True. I have a best girlfriend. I met her when our sons were little. 25 years later and still my favorite person. Thanks Gretchen!
I am we've been friends for 3 months in game same nationality but thousand miles away from her becuz we just met at online, we really both know each other and we have also same interest, mindset and humor like we can talk for hours and hours i really love her and we both know to ijust idont want to push it myself to turn into an awkward relationship just being best friend is fine to me, fun and memorable, we both 18 and i wish i can flew to her hometown after years past because im badly want to rush and hug her like forever. I love her sooo much
Know one. Knows that more i
Narcissists... they're everywhere, unfortunately. I remember when I could go out, see all kinds of nice people, and run into the occasional jerk. Fast forward 20 years, now you see jerks everywhere and you run into the occasional nice person. It's sad. I dated one of these people for a year. She destroyed how I feel and how I trust.
It's particularly painful
when the "fake friend"
is a close family member.....
Is it possible that most people aren't taught friendship etiquette.
yes and no it can be what you came in content with first idk
I found that being alone teaches you how to be a friend. Some people end up not being alone though...
So obvious answer, introverts are the best friends!
True!!!
yes i think so
It's hard to find good friends. There's alot of fake people out here in this world. Be careful of who your friends with.
Its not that everyone is "fake". Nature is a lot about instinct and survival. So defensive behavior is taken wrongly. The video is speaking of people you already know for a while. For new people, you have to learn to separate opportunistic people from naturally cautious people... and a third group... friendly people that kind of seem out of place at first.
Yet to try me yeah you are yet to.
True but it's impossible to chose your own family 👪💔😕
@@kerisemiekeyourmua4574 always choose your family always parents are important siblings are important ❤️🙏🏼💯 Friends are just Fake always no matter what so be careful what you say or do keep in mind what you doing or say protect yourself 🙏🏼❤️💯
i’m so sorry ppl r dealing with toxic friends and family! i’m really grateful that i have ppl who stick with me but i hope everything goes well with you!
My only sister is like a fake friend, she only talks about her own concerns and opinions. She doesn't listen to me about what I might have to say or how I'm feeling.😑
Sounds like we have the same sister
I am okay when people don't listen to me. It just means they are not trustworthy enough to know my business.
Narcissist
I have a sister like that also.
A true friend is someone who's with you against all odds
This woman has such a serene beautiful voice
Amanda Silvera? Yeah, she's the best
I must say that I liked your comment because (I read a lot of comments) it was like break that made me appreciate the craft and dedication that the makers put into these videos.
The animation is good too.
@@EJ-hj4nd Amanda Slivera is the cream of the crop.
Is it just me or do you also think she sounds like dakota johnson?
Bruh,
I know right,
I feel so calm when I listen to her voice
1. (1:04) They Make Plans They Don’t Keep
2. (1:38) They Don’t Initiate The First Contact With You
3. (2:12) They Talk Over You And Don’t Listen Very Well
4. (2:46) They Only Show Up When It’s Convenient For Them
5. (3:09) They Are Never There When You Need Them
6. (3:42) They Are Passive-Aggressive Towards You
7. (4:13) They Only Care About People In Power
8. (4:52) They Willingly Talk About You Behind Your Back
If you have a fake friend, I hope that you can find friends that actually care about you and will support you
Thank you very much 🤗
A sign of a good friend is when you, or when one of your loved one is in jail, or was diagnosed with an illness, or a sudden death of a friend or loved one for they will always be at your side no matter what. Remember, there's a saying that says: a friend is, and will always be a friend until the very end; and not just for the purpose of being your friend for one time only.
Here's the thing. These people tend to be the one to walk first, leaving you, to ask yourself, what you could have done to offend them, when absolutely nothing you could have done could ever please them. They can do great damage to ones self esteem.
Sounds like what the narcissists do after love bombing & no longer finding someone a useful supply to feed their narcissism.
Truer words have never been said. It took me a while to realize that one fake friend of mine never really liked me. It hurt a lot and to this day, it still kinda does that someone treated me that way. But I'm happy it happened since I no longer have to shoulder that burden alone anymore.
When you have grown up in a dysfunctional family (parents included) your siblings can also be your worst enemy. To combat this when feeling isolated just learn to love yourself and distance yourself away from bad energy.
Yes my brother was that... I'm free now 😊
I thought it was just me on this one Enigma , you must have been reading my mind
So true !! , Enigma , you can expect it from strangers , but when its family , its whole nother ball field all together , when strangers are totally better than family toward you , something is very wrong !!
@@catherha1 you & me both sis 🙏❤ , bless you always
This is what I'm trying to tell my daughter
I not trust anyone, i trust myself.
Someone wise ever said : "In the end you cant trust anyone."
My mother was the only person who never hurt me or let me down.
And I treated her like shit............what a f******g arsehole I am......I will never forgive myself.
@@SA77888 Everyone makes mistakes. I'm certain she forgives you. Time to forgive yourself and learn from it. Bless you and be safe.
@@gladiator1342 aww thats nice mate.............thank you ..all the best. :)
@@SA77888 well... what if the case is the opposite? Like her being so transphobic and you never let her down ..?
@@SA77888 question...would she want you to do that to yourself....knowing how much she loves you....she proabably would be very hurt and very sad that she's the reason why you can't forgive yourself...life is short...forgive and learn from your mistakes...
Its ok to be a loner and an introvert, i dont mind being alone i enjoy it since ive been single and choose to be single, no drama no heartaches. Wisdom is my best friend she is a hottie and a real beauty
I hate to say this but I found out one of my "friend" showed all these eight signs. It was an awful feeling to find out she was such a toxic person. But I moved on! Life is too short to hang out with these ungraceful human being.
Yup I have had such bad experiences with people I see why everybody is living alone .
Accept the fact that you were/are a fake friend for someone
I think we all are at some point in our life. I definitely was one in elementary.
I used to be a Fake friend to 2 of my This True friends bcos of they always complain everything fly- by/ &passed- by them, I felt they are quite annoying but In terms of helpin me, They helped me a lot in school works and exploring places so I decided to jus B their "Fake friends" and take advantages of the Helping until KARMA STRIKES BACK, AFTER 1- year They stop contactin me and I Found this New friend who was a FaKe Friend to me instead(In which I taught him BacK all School works and helping me do Assignments even pickin- him up drivin him ups-and- downs to places and In Returns He Walked- off /Away and Ignored me When I falled- off from the Bed and No friends to hang- OUT WITH :(
~ Ever since THEN, I regret the entire of my life OF not Appreciating True/ Real friends over some of their Annoying Bad Behaviour/ Habits !!!
Just you.
@ it's alright sweetie you'll get many other friends i really love when people realise their mistakes and try to improve themselves and we are just human beings we tend to make mistakes but when when we learn from our mistakes and try to change them makes us a good human and you are a good person and deserve to have good friends
I never talked to anyone
I used to be extroverted but I went through a drastic change and now I'm very introverted but I prefer it that way...I realize ppl respect my opinion more since I talk less but i dont initiate conversations...if ur reading this....trust me...find some time to be alone and teach and learn from yourself...u won't regret it...
Couldn't agree more!
same !!!
Yes. Same thing happened to me. Atleast I think. One day when online classes started a few of my "friends" asked me to come with them and my sister asked to come with us and they refused. They were already suspicious. We headed towards a shop nearby. Suddenly we stopped and they said we have to talk. I recated normally. They said that I should change and that I act wierdly in last couple of days and that they are ashamed to be around me. I was shocked. It happened in March of 2020 and I got over it. They talked about it for 20 minutes when it all came to and edn by me saying and I quote: "I don't want to change for people like you." and I walked away. There were 6 of us, including me. Another fight happened near the end of April 2020. One of my "friends" asked if we had slides from math class and the question was kinda like this: "Does anybody have slides for math? (don't tell if you don't have)" and I, AS A JOKE, said that I don't. Then 2 other "friends" joined them and started talking ABOUT 5th GRADE. I don't know if you would believe me but the fight lasted from 2PM to 10PM. What's the silliest thing, I wasn't even there. That's why I'm introverted, have trust issues and no real friends. Thanks. Have a great day!
You are very true
@@emilijajazic5597 I wish I was that coherent when I was young.
I’m old and fat and stupid now. I’m ok with it.
The way I see it, there are two ways to live. One where your life is guided by intellect and focus. Everything has a purpose and is calculated. You are in control of your emotions, and you do what is necessary to reach your goals.
The more you live this way, the clearer it becomes that other people are hard to relate to, they simply do not understand you, and they do not see the world the same way as you. This path is lonely but tends to leave you with an inner happiness and contentment.
The second path is one where everything is based on externalities. You need to buy this, buy that, meet these friends, go in this vacation, do these drugs, get out there. etc..... You will make more friends, but you will see the associations are not very meaningful and both parties are at some level questioning the whole thing. This path is easier, more social, but internally more chaotic.
I have walked both paths, and the older I get, I realize the first path is better.
I still do believe though that maybe one day I could meet a soulmate and have true love. I still believe a man and woman can have a real connection.
Well, hope this helped. Peace Out.
🤮🤮🤮
@@justinwilliams7311
Nice belly brah
Matthew, well put!
All of the fake friends that I've had, and I've had a few, ALWAYS initiated contact, persistently sought and "nurtured" the friendship. Looking back, it's as if they had some kind of goal, and agenda. And they did.
Exactly they want to ignitiate and be manipulative !!
1:05 - 1. They make plans they don't keep
1:39 -2. They don't initiate the first contact with you
2:13 -3. They talk over you and don't listen very well
2:46 -4. They only show up when it's convenient for them
3:09 -5. They are never there when you need them
3:42 -6. They are passive aggressive towards you
4:14 -7. They only care about people in power
4:54 -8. They willingly talk about you behind your back
Thank you, our saviour
Thank you
thankiu i eas looking for this
This comment is way too buried
I had a friend exactly like that, he was self absorbed, would only hangout when it is convenient for him, he would talk badly of any friend who was not present, would always talk about himself or his thoughts. He was terrible friend and the moment I cut ties, my life became so much better and and less stressful afterwards.
NARCISSIST!!!
I’ve finally solved that problem, I just refuse to be friends with anyone at all.. because for all of my discernment and intuition, my spineless empathy betrays me every time.
I completely understand. And your empathy isn't spineless, it's pure, the assholes are spineless, too cowardly to have morals
@@gratefulila9980 🙏
@JUST JULLES I am down with that if you need a Chatting friend I'm here a email away anytime You can talk freely to me I'll talk freely to You ☺💕💐💐💐💐💐
@@equalizertime188 what a kind gesture. Thank you, it’s rare for a stranger to offer such kindness and I appreciate it, very much ♥️
@Just Julia aww thanks for the compliment ,I just think what a advantage to meet friends on a channel talking about it , we are both on the same page so to speak lol!
My email is , if you can shoot me a Hi so thrn I can go back and erase it ok and we can go from there?☺☺☺💐💐💕
As Dr. Maya Angelou educated us when she was still among us: "Always believe people when they show you their true colors, the first time!"
Moral of the story: don’t tie your friends’ shoes if they have a knife
🤣
That is what I also learned.
hahahahahahahaha
Ok
😂👍
There's an old saying 'who needs enemies with friends like these'.
A friend is one knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.
Don’t let anyone in, assume everyone is fake, problem solved.
I keep getting labeled the a-hole for that approach.
@@CTuna-uo3pq let them label. Don’t deal with it.
@@brianpayne4549 fr
Thank God I'm an empath and I can see all this bullshit right away and avoid these people.
Must be nice. Any advice for the rest of us mere mortals?
@@RearAdmiralTootToot Your response tries to imply I was being arrogant, but if you do your research, you'll find it is truly a blessing if we empaths can manage to avoid those individuals.
But, as you said, you're a mere mortal so you wouldn't understand. 😒
Counselor Troy?
Which god do you speak of? The Christian one bails constantly
I'm an empath too. I love my solitude more than being around people who make small talk.
My intuition is always 100% spot on. A lier has no chance with me.
Strangely enough, or maybe not, most of my fake friends are family members.
Mine too.
Thats the worst kind.
No, given my observations, it ISNT strange. Just be thankful it was only The Olive Garden that considered you family--If your family is involved with the mafia, it would probably be best to do what "daddy" says!😂😂😂
I haven't voluntarily spoken to my relatives for 7 years, so
My father scored 100% on this scale. He also had a lot of "friends" who were power brokers.
I'll show this my 12 year old son,in this video the woman explains everything better than I can,its great and I'm giving this video a thumbs up,thank you very much for your video.
Watching this, I know I don't have true friends. Never really had.
@Aprajita Kool name , if friends treat you that way who needs Enemies lol
I'm here I'm a Kool loyal guy Smart , business, have things going for Me if you need a good Friend I'm here a email away anytime for chats or advice really just let me know!!🙏🌸🌸🌸☺💕
You guys forgot to mention: friends also love telling you who YOU are and pass off their perceptions and opinions of you as facts. They also like to test you by either doubting you, or saying something outrageous just to see how you react. Fake friends will NEVER stick up for you, only blame you. They pretty have this "you're on your own" attitude or "not my problem, so I don't care" or "you're so selfish! You only care about yourself! What about ME?" Or the classic "not responsible for you, so I don't need to _____." That, and they often like to "joke" around, but they really just have no sense of humor so they insult you as a "joke". Make you feel nervous and complain excessively over everything you do to the point of nagging but never look at their own bullshit. Bitter, or overly positive, never "just right". Complain constantly that you made them lose brain cells. Refuse to undersrand you ans give up on you when you need them the most. All of those are just a few extra signs of a fake friend.
That was good. Pretty much explains my narc mother.
And they often judge you if you like something they don't :/. Or if your better than them at something, they'll say you're showing off. Don't listen to those people. Whatever they say, you are still special and unique in your own way and you should not be worried about that. Be yourself!
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 101 IS DESCRIBED. VERY TOXIC PEOPLE. RUN FROM THEM!!!
Sounds like my ex best friend.
So very true
No matter how many fake friends you have .. I know it hurts but still cherish the true friend you have and it's you yourself . Don't be a fake friend of yourself and love yourself.❤️
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#8 hits home for me. If you want to know what someone truly thinks of you, find out what they say about you when you're not there to hear it.
A real friend will tell you the truth even if it hurts ... A fake friend will tell you a sweet lie just to get on your good side.
I'm an email away if you want to be Long distance friends🌸💕💐
I was a true friend but some situations made me a fake one..
You know sometimes you have to keep yourself away from some people..
I find all of that from people I called "family"
Well this is life
Feel yah😥
Well I dont want to call them fake/toxic but that just how I felt when I'm with them😕
Exactly my situation.
same...all my family are transphobic af so i guess I will have to cut them off.
family are the biggest backstabbers ever
This is so true 😔
This video was 100% right, this is why I don't trust people and rather be single then deal with fake people.
I recently watched “ The Red Hen” recommended for me to read. What a great book written and describes the two types of people, one whose in the relationship to benefit, the other is the one who takes on responsibility to initiate . A giver vs a taker. A true friendship is rare!
The dislikes are people who are fake friends themselves.
(edit: didn't know this would get so many likes wow)
Unless you are in jail or in the hospital, you have no idea how many friends you have.
That is so true when I was in the hospital for a week and recovery for another 3 months. I realize not only who my friends were but family. only about 10 people came to see me, no one asked me if I needed any help when I got out.
@@jerrysullivan8424 If any of us want a true friend, it's time to buy a dog.
So true... I had so many friends when I was teenager. By the time I became pregnant and couldn’t partying with them anymore... That’s how I find out who my real friends are...
I am constantly in & out of hospital with my health and only 2 family members ever visit me. No friends have ever visited me.
Counting. Zero.
But been there for others, and broke my heart over them, many...
Stopped even trying to beg god to help me, cuz in my worst hours he didnt even come through. From a tired and torn soul. Who always tried to be kind good and giving to others. Now looking at the pieces left of myself into self love, which once felt so selfish to do, no kinda vital to keep me on ... All my life I wanted at least one true friend... now I'm too scared to get hurt again and trust, pushed beyond I can take. I hate being selfish, but I guess it's me time. Peaceout
My so called best friend of 20 plus years dropped me as soon as she move.d in with her b/f & she belittled me in front of our other friends so now I go it alone as it’s just not worth the hassle
I remember parents being this way , that's the worst feelings
The most hurtful is when you realise that the person you trust, care and love the most, the person you call your best friend, collects the most of the signs. Lifetime disappointment 😔😔
Ah yes, this perfectly describes100% of the people I had ever known, and is the reason I never leave my house...or talk to people anymore.
Exactly correct!!💯💯
I got alot of fake ppl around me but I distance myself from them especially so called cousins that's jealous cause I am doing better
I feel you!
I’m with you.
Have you found friends?
"Its better having an enemy than having a fake friend" 😢
There’s no real friendship between grown up ladies for jealousy. Just my Case is like that.
I remember a girl that I met in school, tell me it was her bday and asked if I could get her a gift, I wasn't really talked to much so,I thought this was a chance to make a friend, but when I got her a gift I heard her talking about how I got her a gift and was basically talking behind my back for awhile. She basically though I was an easy target because I didn't have friends let this story be a lesson to not trust everyone you meet.
Aw. Never lose your loving soul, thats what makes you different from them
Very good lesson from you
When i was younger i thought everyone was my best friend
I was wrong
Your mistake was buying someone a gift that asked you to.
@@stevemarshall3986 yup. Probably XD
You just got played by the wrong person. Don't change
A sign of a real friend is someone that can laugh at each other's imperfections & shenanigans, respect personal boundaries and appreciates your growth as a person. People nowadays are loosely using the label "friends" to almost anyone that appears friendly or compliments their ego on a periodic basis.
Neighbors, school colleagues, relatives, co-workers, employers, etc., are not your "friends", nor will they ever be.
Exactly
Bullshit, they COULD
@@justice_of_TH-cam exactly!!! They were like spot on in the first bit, but went all squirrely with that last sentence...
Very good video. I’m 59 years old and yes I’ve had my share of fake friends.
I now go in with extreme caution and have been able to avoid fake friends.
Everything you said in this video is accurate.
As the old saying goes “ you really hit the nail on the head”
I feel like this is a spot on description of narcissists.
I remember actually having quite a lot of fake friends back in middle school, at first I thought I was just being emotional, but then I realized that indeed, they were fake, as I found out that one of them had thrown my binder in a ditch, and got dog poop on it.
Forget what they say about high-school, fricken middle school is where all the bull crap is! I'm a senior, and there has been NO conflict socially in all my years there, god I hate middle school.
I'm now in my 60's and work with people in their 20's and 30's. Many act like middle-schoolers trapped in adult bodies. These people never mature, they "succeed" by trashing others and virtue-signaling to their "woke" friends.
Same
Middle school is where a lot of kids’ personalities change. My mom always tells me that I used to be a happy trusting person and then I did a hard 180. I got rid of my fake friends FAST. Because if they tried any more bullshit they were going to be wishing that they remembered how to breathe correctly.
I am still a loving person, but I believe every faker needs to be taken out. But that’s just my opinion and no one needs to stand on a soap box about it.
Same My middle school years were horrible
I think that’s when my anxiety picked up now I’m 33 and I have the worst anxiety!
@@rprb1957 Yessss!!!
What is that !!
Don't get it !!🤔🤔🤔🤔😘😘
Damn, without even me realizing it that, I’ve became a fake friend
It’s okay 😃 sometimes that happens do to people talking our friendships for granted but you’re a good person 🖤💚 I felt that way before 😉😉
Maybe I have... Maybe... But I don't socialize a lot anymore
@Amina Sabat i thought I was gonna get ricked rolled 😂, I just subscribe to you, good luck on your journey to becoming a better artist
@@daejuanobrien1399 same....
At least you’re owning up to it, not many people do that nowadays! Very mature. All you can do is learn from your mistakes.
Hi Psych2go! Thank you so much for this video! I had a fake friend for a very long time. Sometimes, I would feel rly upset when she would always be mean and talk about me behind my back. She would say things like 'get a grip' or 'dont you have a sense of humour' or 'it was only a joke' I brushed it off simply because I didnt want to believe that she would be mean and fake. But then she started being mean to my other friends and I had enough by that point. She has done alot to hurt me, my friends, and some other people I know. Thank you so much for this aware ness video! (sorry I think I spelt that wrong) and for the people reading this, dont surround urself with the wrong ppl, its so hard to find out who is kind and mean and it takes time but besties you all deserve someone in ur life who treat you well and how u deserve to be treated!
Fake friends only say cool when you show them something but when they show you something you are really happy for them
Imagine others watching this and thinking of you like you’re doing to them :(
I watch these to realise if I've mistreated someone and I've realised I've displayed a few signs. Something to work on
@@user-zu8lq8qe2y If you realise your mistake , you already take the first step . So don't feel bad about yourself but change yourself . I have to do that too.👍
@@june756 really proud of both of us for trying to be better people. Good luck friend.
Army 💜
A true friend is when you call them up and say you've killed somebody and a 1/2 hour later they show up at your door with 2 shovels
*sigh if only
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That's not a real friend. That's a friend that's lacking in character probably much like yourself
@@jimkelly2829 r/wooooosh
A good way to know if someone is talking behind your back is to see if they talk about their other friends behind their backs. If she is doing to her other friends she is doing it to you.
Honestly, I had to make a tough decision to sort of stop talking to my 2 bf's of 6 years. They changed up on me for the worse. Passive aggressiveness, generally not caring about how I feel, not listening, no longer there when I needed them, talking about me behind my back, always making me out to seem like I'm always the one in the wrong. Then it changed to them only really being there when they needed something. I still consider them friends but they're too stuck up in their own ways and I can't change that. But when faced with a decision such as this it was < to protect my own feelings & my mental health. When clearly they don't care and to stop putting forth soo much effort when they don't exert not even the smallest bit. Not anymore.
The take away: Sometimes some of the hardest decisions you make are often the right one's.
I told my former friend You only invoted the married couple. because both of you are couples.She said no it wasnt that.The second former friend was jealous of my 1st former friend.Tell linfa 1 thing and tell me anotjer thing.I asked a next door neighbor that was in tje service and he also worked at a factory job for 35 years and I asked when you work at 35 years do you get to know certain kinds of people and he said carol is jealous how close linda and I were in our friendshio.Carol has bipolat disorder and a jealousy.complex.He said carol was trying to keep linda and me apart.Linda keep backing out when to see her mom in a nursing home.She has depression.Seasonal depression and chronic insomiia..One time I saw a guy that had silmarsities to lindas boyfriend.He had the same crewcut as her and drove fast and slam on the hprn like he would.Insread of her anwering het phone I let it ring 3 times and Linda would yell carol I was bothering her and called carol to tell her to tell me to quit calling Linda.Im stressing her out.I saw a friend of linda and she idenified herself.I said did Linda tell you about me backing out of her boyfriend giving me a ride yo take the cat for her vet appointment.Sherry.Yes Linda told me all about it.She said she asked Linda how often should I call you.Linda told her once a week.She dalledher once a week and Linda woulnt answer her phone and Sherry said linda was being a bitch about it.My neighbor said it was crazy tp get mad over a ride to vet and said Linda must be crazy to be with her.Since Im nt friends with them anyone I got rid of the headsche and stress being around them anymore and fake friends like that.who needs enemies.Best thing I did and nver regretted it.It took a whole year to get over the pain and loss about.They were toxic and I walked away and I dont worry about it anymore.Unknowingly best thingI ever done and I dont regret it and alot happier without them..
Im sorry that happened to you.I had a silmar situation.I of my former friends would invite another former friend because she lived with and the former friend has a husband got invited to the housewarming party and I said because you guys are a c
Thanks for help and comments.Two heads are better than one.
I've had... *some* fake friends. Which is one of the few reasons why I prefer to be alone.
Yeah I understand because truly there comes a time when you become tired of spotting these fake friends and decide to be on your own which is easier honestly
Same... I feel u
You know what that happened same with me one of my friend. She always tell me that "hey, tomorrow is test can learn it and help me too cheat it in test" She give stupid reason for not doing study . Even she take my cradit. And if i need some help she refuses.
But now i learn this world is not easy you have to fight for yourself otherwise this people will eat you.
Try to get communicate with people but don't get attached . And learn to say NO to this kind of people
Sorry if i wrote too much and sorry for my bad English
@@aayushiyadav7811 no, it's cool it's cool.
Sounds like you’re describing a narcissist.
That’s what I thought as well:)
Sounds more like every person on the planet.
Exactly. Need to add gaslighting, deflecting, lacking in compassion, selfish, self entitled, dismissive and manipulative.
Narcissism is a personality disorder that is spreading across society like a disease that's much worst than covid. You can thank social media and 'dating' apps for the narcissism explosion.
@@RearAdmiralTootToot soooo true going thru all this now
This can be applied to family too, not just friends. In my experience, when its a family member, it is a bit harder to admit
This is exactly what a former friend of mine did. She and I seemingly had so much in common (love bombing), but when any questions were asked, she would go to pieces (narcissistic rage). One thing I noticed in the beginning, she was a busybody who loved to gossip. Suddenly there were “miscommunications“ and “misunderstandings.“ Any conflict where she was the common denominator, she often tried to excuse it away and sweep it under the rug as a misunderstanding or wires being crossed. She immediately turned it around on me trying to make me seem like the bad guy (projection). Even minor disagreements or differences of opinion, she treated like it was a personal affront and turned it into a screaming match. I saw other friendships she had crumble and go down in flames. She was more than willing to trash-talk these people that she supposedly cared so much about. Honestly, it made me very uncomfortable. She needed a sounding board and I was her unwilling, reluctant audience member. I heard many a story where she was the victim and everyone else was the butthole. Who was the common denominator? Her. How much of the story was flipped to depict the other party as the villain and her as the innocent bystander? All of it. It was soon that I found out she was trash talking me too, despite her proclaiming that I was her “best friend” or her “friend for life.” Then the utter lack of respect for boundaries and trampling all over those boundaries that I laid down began. She dangled her kids in front of me to get me to give her money. It was supposed to be a loan, but of course she never paid back all of it. When I pressed her for it, the mask came off and I got to see how ugly she truly was. The only reason I stuck around as long as I did, was because I cared about her children. They didn't deserve the existence she had sentenced them to. Tragically, they grew up to be just like her: entitled, selfish and mean-spirited. To make a long story short, a list of the atrocities she committed against me include, but not limited to and in no particular order: defaming me to anyone who would listen after I demanded she pay back the money she owed me, spreading an entirely untrue rumor that I had caught an STI from a one-night stand, outing me to my extremely conservative Italian Roman Catholic homophobic father (we were already estranged and barely on speaking terms, but her malicious actions caused him to completely disown me and she showed no remorse), she had the nerve, on the day my father died to say, and I quote, that the two of us “never got along anyway“ and weeks after that repugnant statement, without even batting an eyelash, she shamelessly asked (demanded) that I share my non-existence inheritance with her because she had lost yet another job due to poor attendance.
I cut off all contact with her more than eight years ago and my life is far less stressful without her in it. She didn't even notice that I had blocked her on everything and changed my cell phone number for months. It was only when she tried to use the death of a mutual acquaintance as an excuse to contact me, and turn the tragedy into a story about herself, that she finally realized I had cut contact. I later found out from a mutual friend (who I was fortunately able to wake up to her toxicity and has also since cut contact), that my former friend, then a 50-year-old mother and grandmother, threw a tantrum that would have embarrassed a toddler. How dare I say enough is enough and choose to no longer be exposed to her viper venom? She wasn't done abusing me. Tough crap. Of course, to her, me taking back the power was not in any way acceptable. She demanded my friend, block me to show solidarity with her. When he refused, she tried a different tactic: tried to turn him into her flying monkey and get him to spy on me because she was [wait for it] convinced I was talking about her. When he refused, stating that she wasn't as interesting as she thinks she is, she flipped out on him, too. He wasn't used to seeing her like that. It was the beginning of the end that caused him to start asking questions and when she subjected him to the silent treatment, he took it as a hint to cut her off completely.
As for me, I hated her for a long while, not just because of the money or the horrible things she did to me, but because of the wasted time. I can't get those years back. After doing some soul searching, I realized that that she is a truly broken and hollow individual not capable of having anything resembling a conscience. It is through the grace of God, that I was able to privately forgive her and I repeatedly ask him, when I pray, to give her the ethereal slap upside the head so she will, hopefully, one day finally get a clue. The downside to free will is a person has to want to change. The odds, of my former friend ever admitting she has a problem, are about as likely as a Kardashian winning an Oscar.
Sounds like my dad he does this often . He only pretends to care when it's covinent for him . He has done many of those things .
I'm sorry
Sad 🙁
@Krishna Patel Uh so you are copy and pasting this everywhere now-
Hey my dad is the same. Along with him faking care, he is neglectful and abusive. Stranger I don't know you, or your life, but may I advise that you be very weary of him always. Coming from years of personal experience I know blood is thicker than water, and we always have the choice to drown in either. Family is not unconditional love. People use people. Please take care of yourself. Wishing all the best to you.
Mine too oddly....
“Never first to start conversations”
Bruh you know social anxiety exists right?
There is also introversion.......
@@ozzivpodno1356 yeah I was gonna mention that
Bullshit. You know messenger exists, right? They don't even text first on there either. I'm sick and tired of fake people
I don't think it is about them. It is about extrovert superficial people who contact you only when they need something or are bored and want to talk about themselves. Otherwise they forget you and since you are not very imporatant to them, never ask how are you doing, actually. Never initiate contact doesn't mean being two strangers who just met.
Being myself somewhat introvert, I still like to call people ocasionally and see how they are doing, have a chat. I don't understand extreme social anxiety, to be honest.
@@akumabazooka9169 my social anxiety is so bad I'm scared of getting messages. Answering them is pretty hard too. Messaging first is terrifying. They'll reply and then what? I understand its hard for people to understand but its the sad truth 😢
Learning more about my post concussion issues I have suffered through most my life... I learned too, just like this video showed me, my entire childhood was a sham. I am older, wiser, and more educated about my condition. And I truly feel happier about myself now, with all my "friends" out of my life, knowing now how fake they've been with me for over 30 years. That's how long I have suffered from multiple concussions.
Fake friends are a waste of ur life. Drop them as soon as you figure it out. It will hurt, but the pain is temporary. Being happier about yourself lasts your whole life!
Fake friends are hard to spot in the early days and the devastation is large when you do. Fake 'friendly' family members are just as prevalent - as being stabbed in the heart can hurt a great deal.
This pandemic and quarantine really helped me determine who are truly my friends cause fake ones didn't even texted a hello
@@0toNaN 💯
This has happened to me my whole life. That is why I know I don't even have one friend. After watching this video, it made me realize that this has happened to me from every single person I thought was my friend.
You're level of consciousness has risen.
I had true friend for almost 20 years, he simply got entangled with bad influence and it made him more twisted. Him being social butterfly was always both his strength and weakness. Still, I’m grateful of him of the time I’ve spent together, he was genuinely nice and supportive of those times.
It does suck that person you used to know well changes so much.
Anyone can have these attributes even ourselves, relatives, peers, and others. But the content is a reflection and guide for self-improvement and defense mechanism for the peace of mind. Overall, good content.
1. They make plans they don't keep 1:04
2. They don't initiate the first contact with you 1:38
3. They talk over you and don't listen very well 2:13
4. They only show up when it's convenient for them 2:46
5. They are never there when you need them 3:08
6. They are passive-agressive towards you 3:41
7. They only care about people with power 4:13
8. They willingly talk about you behind your back 4:53
I hope I could help! :D
Thanks you almighty time traveler
Thanks for putting this together!
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HOWWWWW IS THAT POSSIBLE
-soft- tulips- u too
Fact is I realised I dnt have any true friend.Even my parents r nt with me.I hope I will survive
You Will 👍
@@sushil6509 loop h by njuujj Moo moo moo nikki bull
Your Parents love you, even if you think they don't. Hang in there. 🤗
You're not alone... Be your own best friend.
They are some of the most precious people you'll ever have. HOLD ON TO THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR THEM. BECAUSE YOU DO LOVE THEM THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS AND TO SPEAK THIS WAY YOU HAVENT LEARNED ANY BETTER YET. BUT YOU WILL. TALK TO YOUR REAL FRIEND (JESUS) ABOUT YOUR SITUATION WITH THEM AND TAKE HIS ADVICE. ITS GUARANTEED YOU WILL FEEL BETTER. HE SAY JUST HONOR YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER. A REAL FRIEND IS NOT GONNA TELL YOU NOTHING WRONG. TRY HIM
This is a wonderful video channel and I can certainly relate to every reason that is spoken here. Personally im sick of people full stop and relationships because it seems the only person you can rely on is yourself. Reason number 3 is an exceptionally apt one....during telephone calls, the majority of 'friends' will just blatantly waffle on endlessly without I getting in a word in edgeways, and when they do actually pause for more than three seconds and you do get a chance to speak, im interupted and the one sided conversation continues again. Not only do I find it extremely rude but the person themselves seem to find it perfectly normal to act like this.
Huh.....truth hurts sometimes. Good to remember though, that these kinds of people are this way because they are broken, and have lost their soul 🙂👍🏻
I feel like I am both of these people........
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U can change to better
I think that sometimes these type of things are just overthinking signs, you can't really determine someone's motives or intentions or why they did or din't do something solely by some-type of actions. These may be accurate for most people that are fake friends but some of these qualities liking taking intuitive in contacting each-other or something may be because they wouldn't like to disturb you or aren't confident and potentially don't know what to say. So if you have a friend and you're suddenly suspecting now, please calm down and actually think properly, if you trust in your friends and KNOW that they're really believe in them and trust them.
Blessed for those who are pure in heart...
yes or the person might be having a tough time/dealing with mental illness. I don’t know what to think about this video but yes I understand it’s important that people should recognise a fake friend and get what they deserve and i know mental illness isn’t really an excuse to be a bad friend but I guess what I’m saying is just because someone is isolating themselves from others doesn’t mean they should be put in the same category as a “fake friend” because this is happening to me now and I’m not a fake friend, I love my friends with the whole of my heart and I think my best friend doesn’t like me anymore which is great but what am I expecting lmao
I understand that sometime there is this feeling of distancing yourself from "friends". And I guessing you also get the feeling of how people don't understand how you "really" feel and how you at thinking right? I'm a person who has personally experienced and have been in contact of different types of friends. And to be honest I've always questioned what exactly can be considered a friend or something like if I've ever actually gotten a friend and what are the emotions we feel. I've always been blurry about how things are how I am. But now it's just the feeling of people walking away because you've pushed them away at your own will but still feeling tingly and weird inside. I wouldn't describe it as sad but ...something. Judging from what you've written I'm assuming that it's hard being a friend to someone and people aren't actually able to be empathising and linking with you directly. I really hope that someday you'll be able to find whatever that you are searching for. Please think of what's best for you and try to not always force the blame on yourself. With an emotional restraint things all become harder. (^_−)−☆
@@-_-3621 yeah you’ve got it all right there. It’s just that one friend who I don’t think likes me anymore because he’s the only one who speaks to me everyday, who’s actually there for me and for me to not reply to him for days must be hurting him. Also I’m not sure about this but he might’ve got his friendship group (which btw is “the boys”) involved somehow and they probably think I’m doing this purposely to hurt him and a total bitch so yeah it’s hard I guess lmao but thank you so much you understand me more than anyone and you’re a stranger on the internet lmao it’s funny how the world works
@@natashakozlowski8062 Wow !!😘😘😘
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This describes many "friends" I know- I finally realized that not only were they never my friend, but also for my mental health, I need to walk away quietly and stay away.