The Boy Who Won’t Eat | Diagnosing Autism | Born Naughty? | Origin
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1 in 20 children, aged between five and sixteen, suffer with serious behavioral issues ranging from refusing to eat, anti-social behavior, disruptive and violent tendencies. Mental health disorders in children can be hard to diagnose and for some parents not knowing whether their child suffers from a mental condition or is just badly behaved can add more frustration to an already stressful home life.
In this series, experts Dr Ravi Jayaram and Dr Dawn Harper, along with clinical psychologists, are going to help parents fast track the process to determine whether their children need medical help or if they are simply out of control.
Bobby is 8 years-old and has never tried meat, vegetables or any other normal food. Is diet consists of yoghurts, sweets and chocolate. Does he have a food phobia as his parents suspect or are they simply giving in too easily?
Jessi-Jay is nearly 3 years-old and not speaking. Her baby like tantrums and strange behaviors have concerned her parents.
Could this be the result of her being unable to communicate or do the experts need to look deeper to diagnose the problem?
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Yeah don't go to ambitious about autism they are an ABA organisation and thats just the equivalent of "gay conversion therapy" for autism focusing on stopping necessary and unharmful behaviours such as stimming for us. NAS has a questionable history too on some issues also and list ABA on their website. Support actual autistic led organisations like Autistic Inclusive Meets instead.
Jesus Christ went 40 days without food so
this is nothing new.
@mason nix Do you really believe that? You’re soo brainwashed
Please this this isn't for men this is for God this is spiritual take the children to a pastor who does deliverance
Dr Ravi’s meeting with Jessie was such a good example of how many doctors have very little understanding of autism in girls. He said she had good eye contact, interacted with him, had imaginitive play, so didnt even think about autism as a possibility. Because they expect autistic girls to be the same as autistic boys but they arent. I was the same as Jessie at her age. I didnt speak till 5 and only then when essential. I had same meltdowns, wasnt interested in playing with other unless it was my game. I played by recreating normal routines like Jessie played “meal time”. But i was a “good girl” according to experts so i was dimssed as simoly not wanting to talk. I was forced to behave in the way people expected me to behave and it was torture. By time i was 12 i was self harming, eating disorder and seriously mentally unwell. I spent 10 years in mental health system in and out of psych wards. I was misdiagnosed with all kinds of mental illnesses, given ect and left blind frim osych meds i shouldnt have been on. Inwas finally diagnosed in my 30s as autistic. I use communication aids to communicate at times, need 24hr support and have an autism assistance dog to keep me safe. My life has been hell because doctors said i made eye contact when it wasnt proper natural eye contact, because they said i played nice and and i was simply shy. Im relieved Jessie got a correct diagnosis so she doesnt have to go through what i did. You can hear my story in more detail on my Ted Talk. Search Carrie Beckwith Autism on yt to watch it. I talk about how dangerous it is not having a correct autism diagnosis for girls or making them learn to mask or hide their autism.
Carrie Beckwith-Fellows I think I have what you had at 12
One of the things I loved about Dr Ravi in this episode is he knew when he needed to bring in a specialist with more experience in that area, and was very happy to learn from her when she pointed out things he didn't have the experience to pick up.
You are bellyaching about the entire processes used to try to help you to become independent and self sufficient, thats what people mean when they say normal btw ( for those that say, " what is normal anyway") and you don't realize that you would probably be alot worse off if all those people and resources had not been utilized to try and help you. The made mistakes in your diagnosis and your treatment at times but where would you be today had they just left you on your own.
You make it out as if you are where you are today in spite of there efforts, when in reality you are where you are because of them.
Quick question. How long is the TED talk?
ANGEL WHA So sorry to read concerning your daughter.....😔
When Bobby started crying in the psychiatrist's office it broke my heart. That is not a spoiled child, and I hope he gets the help he needs.
It’s a difficult subject you can only tell what it’s like if you experience it. Problems can cause lots of different emotions and difficulties in controlling and dealing with them
Unfortunately these legitimate struggles children face are still very stigmatised 😥
You can see how upset his dad was too 🙁
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Depends on your definition of spoiled. They’re a lovely family but the mum is way too scared of conflict. She’s almost pushing the treats on him to stop him being upset.
the little girl is so lucky to be getting a diagnosis so young
Because she's young but cuz she's young and a girl... Often women now aren't getting diagnosed until adulthood
My child got diagnosed at 2 years old. Alot more children are getting diagnosed very young these days.
@@ashleyburbank3129 actually I know someone who’s a female and an adult, she’s having a lot of trouble with get a diagnosis because all the doctors she visited, think autism only effects males and she doesn’t show the major signs of autism, like lack of eye contact.
I was diagnosed at 3 and I'm really thankful I knew that soon!
@@spottedtime that’s because girls learn how to mask their symptoms to be accepted by society.
My daughter's speech was horrible at this age. She was angry that no one understood her. I figured out what she was saying one day and realized it was a sophisticated vocabulary. Started speech therapy,she was so happy. She had severe allergies and didn't always hear well. She's a molecular biologist now!
Wow. That's great!
I am so happy for her. That'ss great that she has gone on to do well in her life. You said she had severe allergies. Did she have to change her diet to anything specific to maybe combat that?
Why in the hell would Bobby’s mom just start a argument and basically encourage him to stop eating when he’s actually eating and going perfectly fine!!! Like what tf! Great job dad. The mom needs to get the hell away.
Emily Wiebel that’s exactly what I was thinking.
I think shes just scared for him and his health
Mom wants him to fail so she doesn't look like a bad parent, kinda sad. Hopefully she'll get over herself and let her boy prevail.
I think she's the reason why he wasn't eating in the first place!
I wanted to slap her at that moment. I wish the crew (doctor) was there at the time to be able to barge in to tell her off.
Why are the parents hovering over the child while he eats? That would drive me crazy
what
what
Shazia Parveen she means that the parents are standing above the kid when he's eating instead of just sitting next to him and watching him.
I can understand their anxiety
@gasmask 2245 I agree, probably the parents have been thru so much, they're anxiety must have been so heightened when and if their child eats, it's only to be expected, it's a complete modern day f*ck up. Humans create their own problems
I was diagnosed with autism at 21 years old because I had a mental breakdown. For this little girl to possibly have her diagnosis from THREE will allow her to live a full life that is wonderful and happy. She will have understanding from those around her and that is literally one of the most important things you can give us.
so the results of yoyr mom parenting you badly got you registered in the end as a patient subject to Mental Health Act?
I have myself Autism and I can say , I’m NOT naughty , I just have less social skills and a different way of thinking
I have traits on the autism spectrum and I’m the same way. My way of thinking compared to how my family thinks is different. I am not good with social skills either, same with reading body language. I have nonverbal learning disorder.
I’m the same I’m not bad I just think differently and social skills are less
I too have a mild form of Autism, my daughter however is more severe and she's the sweetest child I have ever met in my life. Never mean. She just learns differently than others and has trouble communicating. Thank you for your post.
I'm autistic too. I myself agree it's the angle of view really. Not nearly as good at socialising but not undermanered. I agree fellow strangers.
I beat you with the bad social skills!
I have social-anxiety disorder!
MUAHAHAH!
I AM ALWAYS ON THE TOP WHEN IT COMES TO BAD SOCIAL SKILLS.
I am dumb ;-;
I just love how the doctor interacts with the kids
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Because they are in front of camera, otherwise, their eyes rolls
me too Indians and Pakistanis especially are hands on with children they come from large families my oldest grandchild is autistic
These doctors are so misguided. Blaming parents of PDA children is endemic and they should be made accountable for the trauma they are causing for children and parents.
@@rachelburton6779 What are "PDA" children? And how are the doctors in this documentary "traumatising" them.
The speech and language therapist, Helen Gill was absolutely amazing here. She accurately and professionally picked up on very subtle signs of autism, which, when pointed out you could see clearly in the clips shown.
She deserves more credit - why interview the doctors who missed these signs and not the speech therapist, Helen Gill?
there us no autism , just brattiness and chaotic parenting.
@svetavinogradova4243 so for someone like me who's been referred for an assessment at 22, is it still an issue with parenting? Lol
“Right, everyone just stop fighting”
I felt that, I feel bad for him
And when he said that his mum just got mad. Like wtf??
Not all autistic people are energetic though,I have autism and I am very anxious I have severe anxiety and a small case of social anxiety
Mostly differs in the genders,most girls with autism are more indecisive and have anxiety or are very shy whereas (not always) boys with autism are the energetic ones but girls can also be energetic!
I knew within one minute of watching Jessie J. that she was/is on the spectrum. Girls present differently than boys, and I know this from having a daughter who is autistic. They too had a challenging time diagnosing her, because girls do mimic and adapt "better" for lack of a better term. My girl had a "social smile" when she met the psychologist, which was why he didn't diagnose her with ASD from the beginning. After three additional months, she received the dx, because of a lot of the same reasons as Jessie. I remember they would bang their car keys on the wall next to my daughter and she wouldn't even flinch or jump (which is similar to when the SLP tickled Jessie behind her back). The Mother's description was spot-on. You don't feel as if you're truly communicating with your child, and it's like you have a 'big baby." I've learned now that the communication/interaction is just different. This show is a great tool for parents, I believe. I would have loved to have seen something like this 13 years ago.
I’ve never in my life seen or used learnt and I’m 29. We do not used that in the US. I even googled it bc I was confused and it even states it’s not used in the US. So don’t correct someone on their grammar especially when they are correct Bc you speak differently where ever you live. It says it is more coming in the UK but they both are the exact same thing.
Nikki Bentley Is My Angel Jesus, stop gatekeeping something as stupid as minor variances in the same language. You clearly understood what they meant whether they used learnt or learned, and seem to even know that the US uses different spellings of words.
Emily Wiebel True I Agree 100 Percent With You Love & Also it’s common Not Coming ...
Agreed. My son failed eye contact, tickle test, and didnt react to many of the prompts. I'm so glad for early intervention, because I did not recognize the signs myself. I kept listening to my Mom, who told me it was normal. She still denies it, but now that hes older its becoming more noticeable. Those people on teams are Angel's for helping us out. All we want to do is talk with our children and raise them up well in this world.
@Jaxon Doggo how bad are you at reading
i love how bobby's dad Is holding him its so sweet
the look in his dads eyes
how much he loves his son &how the mum is smiling at the relationship her son and her and husband
23:08
These parents are reinforcing his behavior by spending so much time concentrating on it. This was never addressed by these "professionals".............
My mom started crying as well, when I was diagnosed. Granted I was 15 and I think it was just as much a relief for her, because so many things started making sense. And being able to help in a much different way. I wish I had been diagnosed that young. My whole upbringing, especially school related would have been so much different.
When I was diagnosed at age 14 no one cried. Not me or my parents. Thats because we kinda already knew I was autistic. Its was still a big relief though.
My mom didn’t cry because my older brother has autism so I don’t think my mom was that surprised that I have it, especially because I’ve had so many meltdowns during my childhood
An 8 year old playing with 3 year old's toys seems strange to me -- Bobby on the toy motorcycle for example. Many children his age would eschew such things for fear of being called a baby.
I think Mama is a big part of the problem -- after one bite of the papadum she asks Bobby, "Would you rather not eat it? Have you had enough?"
That is coddling behaviour, not encouragement. Bobby is not stupid -- he knows Mama will give him treats if he refuses a proper meal, and she seems all too willing.
Yuo are right! This is all the mother.
That does not surprise me...my nephew only watches the PBS channel or the shows aimed at Toddlers....he's 25 yrs old. I don't understand it...Welcome to the world of autism. Being referred to as a baby wouldn't affect him. He doesn't have an ego like that. He is who he is....he'd rather be alone and untroubled by your idea of who he should be. He doesn't lie...he doesn't know how but he knows when you think he did something wrong and he'll smile and smile while you fuss at him. It's his only defense. He is perfect on an outing...he knows his chores and does them without a word of complaint....in fact he's proud to do them. If you tell him to do something he does it asap but if you tell him to do two things at once, he'll get so confused that he'll go in circles and neither thing gets done. It's not his fault...you just don't know what you are doing. I don't know how many times I had to bite my tongue because I thought he was disobediant. There ya go...it's a whole differet way of thinking and relating.
It is because the mother
Yes he did seem a bit young for his age, and his writing seemed a bit behind. I've had an eating phobia all my life but since I was about his age I've managed to eat most foods. Still cannot stand fish or cucumber though. Wasn't due to my parents though.
Let him go hungry for a bit,he will soon eat what is in front of him. Wah I dont like this, so she gives him sweets as a reward,course hes not going to eat it,he knows she will give in!
Such a shame that more kids don't get the help they need this fast .
Agree. I dnt have custody of my son. Cps pretty much decided that I couldn't parent due to my autism. My narc controlling abusive parents have custody of my son and refuse to get him tested for autism he is now ten. Even court papers stated that he should have been tested at four solely for the purpose that not only do I have autism myself but my ex has it as well.
Ive also seen traits myself. Mum has teased me for having autism on more than one occasion and according to dad I'm not good enough for the family He didn't have to say that. It just shows. Pretty shit i cant prtect him support him and love him.
Ever since I told a pediatrician that my son could be on the spectrum, my olds have refused to tell me anyrhing bout his life. Havent seen him in nearly 13 months
@@jacintaluppino9758 wow i can’t imagine how hard that must be. i’m sorry to hear that but i hope things will be better some time and you’ll be able to see him again soon. stay safe!
These very serious medical problems like autism spectrum disorders and ADHD symptoms parents need to understand about these things like learning disabilities and serious health problems the kids are not naughty they have a serious health problems with life and the parents of children with autism spectrum disorders and ADHD symptoms have to be more than happy to do this to protect themselves from others that will bully children with special educational needs
Agreed, I have an eating disorder called Arfid, which formed at around age 4. Its literally exactly like what Bobby had. If I had been diagnosed when I was his age and got into treatment earlier, It could have saved a lot of damage that I have caused my body in not getting treatment earlier.
Jessie’s mom looks so tired.
Parents of children with autism have to deal with things that parents of typical children do not. It is not easy to have a special needs child.
@@dakooter9 That is true, it's hard for the child with autism but also the people around them. I am autistic and I can definitly tell that my parents have a hard time understanding me sometimes. I dont even understand myself! It makes me so tired and my parents probably too! I hate it.
It was very tiring it still is, she doesn’t sleep much but after 11 years I think I’m getting used to it 🙈I Hope I don’t look half as bad now just a tad older ❤️
Some kids with Sensory Processing Disorder are highly sensitive to food textures and tastes.
I agree.
My son has autism / adhd and the best tip for a parent is follow a
Schedule and let them run around outside get them a trampoline or playground some kind activity for them to feel relax . Let the children know there are consequence to bad behavior like time out . Time out works amazing . My son gets frustrated when he can’t say what he wants . But being patient helps a lot
I'm really annoyed with the people in the comments. Everyone's acting like doctors. So what if the kids do or do not have Autism (my brother has Autism, I have my opinions but I'm not gonna state them) at leat their parents are getting them help and concerned with them. That's better than nothing.
Edit - to clarify, I'm not stating my opinions on whether or not the children have autism, not my opinions in general.
Someone finally said it.
Come to Africa and the child will be normal
@@Javvos why? May I know?
first, i was casually impressed with the intelligence and awareness of the male (dark skinned) doctor las he assessed the behavior of Jesse Jay... then i saw the female doctor interact and assess her... i guess it is really good that they worked in a team because that woman was one of the most intuitive and brilliant people i've ever watched (in regards to assessing child behavior). how cool was she and all her knowledge and intuition?!
i like how she dug deeper than a mere cursory analytical glance. she noticed things i didn't readily notice and listening to her describe stuff was fascinating.
My brothers autistic too (he was diagnosed at 2 years old) and he is just as picky as Bobby but he dose eat food
Jessie J is on the spectrum,she has Echolalia..repeating the sentence..and fixed play these were obvious to me,but then I have a son on the Autistic Spectrum....he’s now 34 years old and is a QA in IT Information Technology he’s married and is happy,he does have High anxiety,and difficulty facing
Life down from time to time..but he does it!! Jessie J. Will be fine 😋🇨🇦
That makes me feel ill be able to succeed in life im austitic and wanan be a special needs teacher (because ivr got them)
@jean willis I agree. My teenage kids are on the spectrum as well. I picked up on her behavior immediately too.
@@ithinkradioheadisgood cool!
I totally agree and that she'll be fine but I believe though a lot of people expectations or rather lack of expectations. I have high functioning autism I live all by myself I work for my sister I even got my driver's license because I'm autistic people treat me differently I wish people saw us as normal people with Autism because we are normal 😔🥺💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
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i have anorexia (i’m currently recovering) and it’s really interesting to me how bobby explained how it felt when he had to try new foods because i basically feel the same way when i have to eat something i don’t want except i’m worried i’m going to gain weight
im pretty sure autistic people are 5x more likely to devolp an ed its crazy
I think Bobby has ARFID, which is almost like the fear of food, being scared of secent, smell, texture, ex. Its a horrible ED and is just as deadly as any other. I am in recovery from it and I couldnt watch Bobbys because it hit so close to home. Stay strong and I'm so proud of you for recovering!
I’m autistic and have Food Avoidance Disorder, not because I think I will get fat! Or for weight issues airs because I don’t like textures due to sensory overload..
19:01- 19:45 sums it up so well!!
I was recently diagnosed age 29 with ASD- good in school, no behavioral outbursts and definitely flew under the radar for the majority of my life. Now I have a diagnosis, I understand myself so much more and realize it’s a positive thing to have the answers I was looking for🤗
I'm so proud of Bobby, lol 😭 He is such a nice kid, and if he keeps being positive like this, he will go far
I'm surprised Sensory Processing Disorder wasn't mentioned. Basically, the brain has trouble with filtering sensory input and output. SPD can cause food aversion, a high startle response, heightened sensory sensitivity, anxiety, inattention, seeking behavior (ex: touching everything in the store), and also hyposensitivity to stimuli (ex: not recognizing touch). There is a push to have it recognized as a standalone diagnosis in the US because many who have it do not have autism.
My son has that, and someone told me how to find it out.
the fact that not eating was classified as misbehaviour and not a medical condition that came from parental grooming and hovering actually drives me insane. i hope these kids got out of their toxic environments or at least learned to cope
It is misbehaviour and grooming and hovering - yes.
@@svetavinogradova4243 they meant it should be classified as more of a medical diagnosis rather than simply dismissed it as the kids behaving badly and parenting. Sure it can be a combination of bad parenting and medical diagnosis like these kids. I think of misbehaving as more of a choice and medical diagnosis is more you were born with it and your brain is wired differently. Parenting just depends on if either of things would get better or worsen.
Yes like yes I can be misbehaving if its for sweets or chocolate ,but there's eating disorder
This is the child's bag, a bag of chocolates ! This is the child's fridge, a fridge full if yoghurt, the parents need help not the child !!
@@jayne1905 agree...they enabled all of it
I had an eating problem, it turns out I was lactose intolerant from a very early age. So I learned that eating would lead to me feeling sick, and I ended up avoided food as much as possibly (they always had some kind of milk product in the meal). Once I realized what it was (when I was 17 - my boyfriend at the time, now husband, pointed out I might be lactose intolerant when I explained how food made me feel sick), I eliminated some milk and started taking lactase, and I suddenly started to love eating. The doctors and my parents just thought I was "being picky" and "making" myself sick. My parents said they never brought up my intestinal issues (constant gas and unhealthy looking poo on top of vomitting almost daily) to my doctor because they "didnt think it was a problem".
That's so sad. Thank fuck your boyfriend wasn't a complete idiot.
Your parents on the other hand.... Sigh.
I am an adult who has autism, so I totally understand not liking a wide range of food....I'm trying to make myself try new things from time to time, but there are quite a few things that I'm not ready to try yet.
I'm an adult with autism too and I totally understand what you're saying
Excellent job for trying new things! Keep up the good work, hun. Change isn't easy for anyone and it's even more difficult when there's extenuating circumstances like autism!
Im also an adult with Autism. I dont have the pickiness that usually comes with it, but as someone who has supported many older teens and young adults on the spectrum, I can totally understand how you feel. Keep perservering and youll succeed. Each time you try something new, remember to reward yourself in some way. As a child, I had bad behavioural issues and went to boarding school for specil education. Something I personally reacted well with, was behavioural adjustment techniques such as rewarding ones self when they do something good. In this case, it may help you to reward yourself anytime you try a new food. Rewarding yourself will help train your brain to let it know that its ok to try new things. From an outsiders point of view, I keep thinking that if I dont like it, all I have to do is avoid it in future, so I might as well through myself in and try it anyways. Good luck and keep trying :)
I learned something new! I had no idea that picky eating was related to autism. Not saying every picky eater is autistic but you get what I’m saying lol. Good job at trying new things!! Just go at your own pace and don’t force it. I feel if you force something it wouldn’t make it much fun to even want to like it.
I’m autistic and both my kids are too. Food is always tough.. when my kids were younger they were very restrictive. The past few years they’ve gotten much better at trying new things.... but we allow them to try new things in environment that’s comfortable for them. We also allowed them to spit out they don’t like it. So we tend to try things in the privacy of your own home. Never force ever
As a parent of an autistic daughter, I can sympathise with Jessie Jai and her parents. Our road to diagnosis started at 9 months when my daughter wouldn’t hold a spoon properly, meaning she wasn’t trying to feed herself. My health visitor was amazing, and so supportive. Our daughter was finally diagnosed at 3 years 11 months. Even though we were expecting the diagnosis and agreed with it, it was still very hard to hear. We were told not to expect much from her educationally, that she was in her own bubble. We were told she would never sing hymns in practice, would struggle in group activities and PE.
Our daughter is now 18. We moved area shortly after her diagnosis, and chose where to live based on the primary school that suited her needs best. It makes a huge difference to have a team working together both at school and at home. With a Statement of Educational Needs, now called an EHCP, she not only sang hymns in practice, she took an active part in classes, no matter how small the contribution. She passed her year 2 SATS and was creatively writing not long after that. In her final year of primary school she passed her SATS at level 6, and was one of a handful of children who did this.
At senior school she flourished, although she didn’t, and still doesn’t deal with exam preparation and stress very well. She walked away from a senior school at 16 with the equivalent of 7 A*, 3 A and 1 B at GCSE level. This included sociology, which was a tough subject for her at first, dealing with opinion rather than facts and black and white.
She is now finishing her first set of A levels. She is struggling with exam stress, anxiety and depression, but as with all the way through her life, we are all working as a team to support her and help her reach her full potential. She is studying Politics, Maths and Sociology. Based on last years AS results, she is on course for 1 A and at least 2 B grades. She has now changed her career path or studying Politics at university, and wants to go back to college for 2 years to study A levels in Physics, Further Maths (her strongest subject) and possibly Computer Science or Chemistry. She wants to do a physics degree. I can see her excelling in this, she has a very analytical mind.
All the way through our journey with her, we have had the attitude that we needed to work together as a team for her. Her SEN mentor at college is amazing with her. I think it makes a huge difference to have that aim, all working towards the common goal.
She says she doesn’t feel ready for university yet, and I personally think she wouldn’t cope well. In 2 years time it will be a different story. As a parent, and as she is our only child, I find it hard to back off and let her make her own mistakes. She has no real friendships, but is fiercely independent. She joined a political party that was in line with her views, and was an active canvasser in the last election. She organised when and where without help from us, and also used her bus pass to travel to places. She only asked for a lift once. She doesn’t drink, and studies hard. She has food issues like Bobby in the video, but her issue is textures. She doesn’t like alcohol because it’s sour and has bubbles (her words). She has never wanted fizzy drinks, because of the bubbles. She does however like Baileys.
I think back to the day she was diagnosed, and see a very different outcome to the one we were told to expect. It is possible for children with Autism to become successful adults if they are given the right support in an environment where they are comfortable. Our daughter has the possibility of becoming a well respected mathematician or physicist. As long as she is happy in her chosen career, I will be happy.
You are describing a normal child being incorrectly parented. She is " fiercely independent"? No. Truly independent people live separately from their parents and pay all the bills, and can cope with life. What you are doing is growing an overprotected, infantile, nervous girl ( you are making her such, not her " autism") who will get depression later - as she is still at 16 clinging to her dummy-mommy. She still cannot appreciate the besuty of life do cannot enjoy simple foods ( food issues are sign of brattiness and ungratefulness), she is unloveable as a person ( no friends, nobody wants to be besides her)... well, what a failure of parenting - given excellent gene material to start with. First world problems. She is not autistic. She is parented to act autistic.
@@svetavinogradova4243 exactly how much experience or knowledge of autism do you have?
@@svetavinogradova4243
Boy, oh boy.
What an incredibly narrow minded, bigoted, narcissistic and bitter person you must really be.
For your information, our daughter was given an OFFICIAL MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS, after around 2 years of investigation and assessment by various medical professionals, including an educational psychologist, paediatrician, health visitor, speech & language therapist, GP and the specialist play service.
Also, in all the subsequent years, with all the help she has had from Schools, Colleges, teachers, lecturers, Senco's and therapists, no one has EVER questioned her diagnosis.
But, of course, with your stellar qualifications in watching rain man and youtube videos, you knowledge of this subject exceeds ALL these experts and their years of experience.
In future, I suggest you keep your mouth shut on subjects you have NO knowledge on, the planet has enough pollution to deal with already, without you verbal effluent.
@@chriggle1 professional
@@simonoleary9264 It is not a MEDICAL diagnosis, it is a SOCIAL diagnosis, and it means only one thing: a person cannot cope and his/her parents cannot cope. I direct you to Autism Act, nice reading.
The questionnaires and all the process is created to fascilitate a failing mother claiming problems in the child (when the problems lie in the mother's parenting style), and then put a young person on the hook for a potential incarceration without a court order. You are a very misinformed person and a bad parent.
I'm so happy for Jessi-Jay and her familly. I wish them all the best! Autism can really suck sometimes...
Thank you ❤️
Bobby's father is such a sweetheart! I am so happy that these kids got the necessary attention at an early age. Kudos to the parents ❤️
maybe its the cooking...
It’s either burnt or undercooked or tasteless lmao
No I have austim brother he doesn't eat much
I have autism and eating is very difficult. I eat maybe 2 meals a day at most and don't like most foods usually due to texture.
countess bunker Are you a supertaster maybe?
HAHAHAHHAHA
I am an adult with autism, and I totally understand certain foods one doesn’t like because of the texture. Moreover, change is hard too, but after being in film school, I learned to grow as a person and adjust easier to change as time progressed , especially when being on set where the hours are long. I learned how to be more versatile with the schedule and flexible. Also, I can understand when there are meltdowns at times where the best way is to reassure them in a positive than a negative, especially with autistic children. There needs to be more positive than negative.
I definitely agree. I’ve gotten to the point where I can discern my 3 year olds 2 types of meltdowns. I have been praised by pretty much every therapist that has been in his life for how I handle it.
I pay attention to what caused it. If it’s because I said no, and he doesn’t like it, and flails himself onto the floor, I will walk away. If it’s a communication issue, and I don’t understand something he is very clearly trying to tell me (or get me to do), I will sit beside him if he melts down. I want him to know it’s not his fault that he doesn’t know the correct words, or think I’m ignoring him. I want him to know he’s loved and that I am truly trying to understand him. He’s a head banger, so I often need to intervene even if it is because I said no. It doesn’t matter if it’s carpet, or wood flooring. I’m honestly going to ask his pediatrician if we should mri his head to make sure there are no problems that may cause future issues. I live by the saying “I wouldn’t change you for the world, but I would change the world for you”.
have you heard of arfid?
I agree. I have quite a few friends with things like ADD, ADHD or Autism. And quite a few asked me if I was ever diagnosed with anything because apparently alot of the things I do and how I was like a child reminded them of themselves. My family was very much one of those if I just ignore it then the problem will go away on its own types. So whenever I went to the Dr I was told not to talk about my 'weird habits'. I got bullied alot in middle school because I had(still have but they were worse in middle school) tics
As someone with autism I don’t even need to look past the Star Trek pfp
*Yogutt, unyons, potaytoes, mooshroom, sundwatches, peppuss, colliflawa*
3CyxGaming 🤣🤣🤣
Such a lovely accent 😁
Jessica E lmao.
Rhys British / English perhaps??? 🤔
Poochie Kitty there is no British or English accent. Different parts of England have different accents
In our school that lunch box would not be allowed with all that sweet stuff
Same but we do it anyway
Schools will make exceptions for kids with food sensitivities.
Not all autistics line up their toys though? Mine never lined his toys up, I never lined my toys up. Lie on the floor, kicking and screaming - yup mine did that as did I.
Exactly!! Especially in little girls! I did like up toys as a toddler, but as I got older I was much more likely to sort toys, or do other repetitive play. Like one of my main versions of this type of play would be to create games around dressing, undressing and redressing my dolls.
@@TheQueerTailor underressing and dressing is a classic between my dolls lol- (im autistic aswell (:)
@@samsamsoup same lmao
only thing that I like to be lined up a certain way are my clothes, notebooks and warrior cats books ˆˆ'
for the rest I don't really care as long as I can find it ˆˆ'
That was such a weird thing for a so called 'professional' to say. As though she's the first medical professional they've ever consulted.
Bobby is such a cute kid and deserves to have a good life with out trouble of food
I have a son who will only eat three types of foods. I went through everything, and I mean everything with the situation. Today, my son is 20. And no, he will only certain types of foods. He has autism related anorexia. This brings me back...I so understand and support the parents...
Autistic anorexia is a real thing. Starvation is palliative for the parts of autism that annoy the patient. But so is a ketogenic diet.
lmaoooo i dont accept that.
@@autobotdiva9268 good it's not your kid then. Stop being so judgemental. 🙄
@@nausicaninja kick rocks!
gigi jordan Right there with ya! My son is also 20. I feel you, it's very hard.
Did she literally name her daughter JESSIE J?
нелла yes she did
Well no because they called her
‘Jessi-Jai’ not ‘Jessie J’
Sasha Miller you pronounce them they same
Player 288 I know but it's spelt differently, I don't think they named their daughter after the singer 😅😂
and lexi-lea
I was diagnosed with autism but not until I was an adult. It healed some part of me for the psychiatrist to look at Jessie Jai and say that she might still have autism regardless of how she socializes. I had so many friends but I also suffered from depression, anxiety and anorexia because of my untreated symptoms.
Foods for Bobby;
- smoothies
- protein bars
- boiled egg whites (straight up doesn’t register texture wise and has mild taste)
- Greek yogurt with sweetener
- chocolate porridge
- frozen grapes
- low calorie ice cream like halo top
- vitamin gummies
- tomato soup (the cheap stuff that tastes like baked beans)
I was looking for this comment. Thats what I was thinking the whole time, that they should feed Bobby smoothies because it looks like a texture issue and that is way better than sweets.
Bobby’s mum needs back up her husband vice versa. My daughter went through assessment after assessment and she has had BPD with Suicidal tendencies and Anxiety and Attachment issues. It’s so stressful and scary. I really feel for these parents. It’s so hard but you realise your a lot stronger than you thought you were.
Allison McDonald I hope everything is going better for your family! I agree they need to work together not against each other or individually.
Emily Wiebel thanks! It can only get better. Right?
A minor can’t be diagnosed with personality disorders per dsm!!
joan baczek where are you from? You would be very surprised. Did you know I was told by my mother she couldn’t be diagnosed with schizophrenia until she turned 16yrs. So you can see I was surprised when there was a 11years old in the mental health ward with schizophrenia. A lot of things have changed since when we were younger and our parents were younger, kids these days are exposed to a lot when I was younger my foster parents could shelter us from nasty things in the world.
Oh my goodness, I’ll be praying for her and for you! God bless you! 💜💜💜
Bobby is a brave boy. That was so hard for him but he did it. What a good boy.
Jesse Jay is such a cute little girl. I agree that there is more to the story than just not talking.
I'm glad these parents recognized they needed help and reached out. No matter how small a problem if you need help reach out. Also, shame on anyone who judges these families. They are getting help for the issues they don't know how to solve alone... they don't need extra judgments. Support is what they needed and are what they are receiving. Who knows... This may help someone else struggling with the samethings somewhere.
Thank you ❤️ I’m Jessi’s mum
I’m autistic and have adhd- I was diagnosed with adhd around age 11- and diagnosed as autistic at age 17. I’ve always had my specific interests- main one being fashion, sewing and such. Always have wanted to design and make clothes-i had a tough time at school with fitting in, was bullied for a while then after my GCSES I started college (a fashion course) and found it to be the best I’ve ever been within school, learning which exactly what I wanted to do. I’m now 19 on a foundation art course with a confirmed place at university to study a BA in fashion design this September . Being autistic does affect me in most aspects of my life but it definitely does not inhibit my ability to do great things. My advice to parents who are scared for an autistic child’s future is that it’s going to be okay. Your child is wonderful, smart and extremely capable of becoming something great. Some push might be needed to get focus on the right way but believe in your child and know that they are just as capable of every other child.
Jessie jays parents don't know how lucky they are to get a clear cut diagnosis so young, Ive worked in soo many schools, and nurserys, we have to beg parents to see specialist because they just ignore it and don't want to know. You can tell Jessie's parents love her regardless
I know people with grown children who for the most part are functioning at a “normal” level, who refuse to acknowledge the fact that there are numerous sensory issues, social interaction issues, and even some glaring physical developmental issues. Yes grown people with grown children. It’s a pride issue for most parents, and I can understand that on some levels. Eventually, however, the person with the issues wind up suffering in ways that aren’t necessary if parents would just get over themselves. It doesn’t help the “child” if their parents die, and they are left alone to their devices to figure out what the heck to do with themselves. It’s a cruel world, and to NOT prepare your children-especially if they have some issues-is beyond unwise and lacks compassion.
I do know how lucky I am
Very impressed with Bobbys loving parents.The look on his dads face,when he was trying to say,how he felt,melted my heart.You could see so much love.God bless them.
So pleased for Bobby!!! Well done❤️
Yea im really happy for him!
"That was a lovely meal". What a sweet little boy. I'd love to see how he grows up
I guess I was lucky when my doctors diagnosed me with autism when I was 3 mostly because I wasn’t walking nor talking, I was 8 when I could talk probably to the point everyone could understand me, and I was 7 when I started walking, but I’m great full for my parents cause if they didn’t raise me like how they raised my sisters and how their parents raised them. I wouldn’t be where I am today in art college or getting a passing the grade that the staff of my college predicted in my GCSE English.
You gave me so much hope, my nephew is 5 and was just diagnosed with autism and an intellectual disability... We all cried cause doctors saying he'll never out grow it and he'll always need a caretaker. He's 5 and babbles like a toddler still
@@Yayaxoxoxo95 don’t let doctors tell what he can do and can’t do if you raise him how you where all raised but with a slight twist cause remember we still struggling to adapt to things and take your time with us and take time to understand him and get him straight on speech and language therapy, also if he has a dream that he wants to be something like a artist, musician, police or whatever encourage that dream cause there’s never a thing called never plus you be amazed how much of an autistic child have when it comes to creativity and how smart they are, just because he has autism it doesn’t mean you need to raise them any different it’ll be hard but it will get easier as life goes on.
I love that the parents are trying to help their child instead of just ignoring he has a problem
Wow this speech therapist is a genius
All that chocolate and sugar is very addictive. The voices are an addictive response to the food he is eating, and he hasn't learnt how to regulate his behaviour. Adults with addiction issues have the same thought processes. There is a battle going on inside, with the amygdala driving the addictive responses and the other parts of the brain trying to steer you down the correct path. Its not an easy battle to win.
“Born Naughty?” Is a terrible title. Also it’s a terrible thing to ask about any child.
Exactly no child is “ born naughty” just like how no child is born with the ability to walk and talk all these things have to be developed
It’s a bad title but it’s done for shock value, so people will watch the video unfortunately
It also hurts autistic people like me. Growing up I always saw docunentaries like this that made me feel incredibly guilty. Advertisements that implied I was a burden and I was ruining my parent’s marriage. It was horrible and largely the source of all my paranoia and anxiety imo. I still have a lot of self-hatred from those days.
It's clickbait
@@fabplays6559 Those documentaries are stupid. Those guys should be ashamed of themselves
Folks get creative. Boil sweet potatos in their skin until soft. Peel when cold. Hides so well in brownies and in chocolate muffins. Chopped spinach hides real well in dobble chocolate cakes, muffins, or brownies too.
Add a lot of powdered milk and eggs to pancakes and to your baking. Add just a little of whole grain flour. Or maybe add some quick oats, they hide well too.
Make smoothies, and add a banana to the vegetables your are desguising, it will taste sweet - without added sugar.
Let the kid have a multivitamin with minerals, natural sources, from the healthfood store both with breakfast and with dinner. It will help them as well.
If there are no candies in the house, no high sugar products, they will not find any. I promise, most hungry kids will try something eventually, when hungry enough. At least try, they don't have to eat it up on the spot. Taking kids to the park and letting them play and run a few hours before dinner might increase their appetite. No sugar loaded drinks though, none. Just lots of water. They might be hungry enough when getting home.
Yep, let them get hungry. They’ll try something.
My autistic kid doesnt eat any of those things. Got any other recipes. I like the ideas though. But he won't even touch a smoothie, pancakes, or cake.
Its frustratingly how limited they can be. Last time I swapped milk out for pediasure, he didnt drink anything other than water for 2 months. I once tried to put meds in his yogurt-he had an ear infection. It took a good 6 months before he ate it again. Still won't eat the kind I did it in though. I'm hoping he'll grow out of some of it as he continues to learn hes hungry.
Works for neurotypical kids but kids on the spectrum often have a WAY higher level of sensory sensitivity. my son would be able to smell the added ingredients before the spoon touched his mouth. Its more about patience and support than being creative. In fact, trying to change stuff too fast will make some kids shut down.
It does take creativity. I learned to find vitamin fortified cookies or cookies made with pulverized nuts and veggies because I can count on one kid eating cookies. However, hiding meats only upped the anxiety and not trusting food, so I don't recommend that. Smoothies only worked if they turned out completely smooth, so any fiber or seeds left in it would be rejected, but yes, they do help. And thank God for nutritional breakfast drinks.
He's very brave to open up that its something in his head
the kid who had an aversion to food looked very friendly, he was always smiling and happy.
bobby clearly has ARFID. when you add everything up
1) fear
2) restrictive food intake but not to do with weight/body/control etc
3) it’s him scared he won’t like the feel of it in his mouth (this isn’t a symptom of all those w ARFID but ever one with ARFID is scared of something eg feel/texture/taste/poison/allergic etc of/to food)
I agree. his food reactions remind me a lot of my friend's child who is diagnosed with ARFID. I feel like this panel should be more informed on food aversions in order to diagnose Bobby...
@@hazeelise I was thinking the same thing, as someone who may have arfid (haven’t yet been diagnosed but my dietitian said that I may have it) his fears of certain foods remind me of mine.
Im soo proud of the little boy..he truly is a wonderful little man and was willing to fight threw his food problem and it was a real fear not him being a brat or anything like that..he has such a sweet way about him and its truly exciting to see him enjoy new foods and im sure everything has improved so much..the little sweetheart of a girl truly was struggling and thank goodness they caught the autism at an early age..hopefully she can continue to get better but that pasafir really needs to go and should have been gone a long time ago..i got the feeling the parents just didn't want to hear her cry so it was easier for them to just let her have it but the long term was very bad and I feel she would have been talking more and better if it wasn't for the passy but am so glad they really looked deep within and seen the problem...i really liked this vidio..it was really educational....
My nephew has severe autism
If he can be taught to eat through therapy any of these kids can. Side note: he is a musical savant. He can pick up any instrument and with a few days has mastered it. He blows my mind.
Nicole Butter not every autistic child/person is the same some therapies just don’t work and some with texture issues just won’t eat. Has your nephew been diagnosed as a savant? I wish your nephew well!
This was an awesome video, and I'm so impressed with the help people in the UK can get.
I was like Bobby, I started at a young age refusing to eat most foods, and lived on a diet of tomato soup and chips and sweets and bread rolls, as I got older I slowly started eating other things (much to my poor mothers relief) , but even to this day I have a restricted diet, and the thought of some foods make me want to hurl, the smell of certain foods also makes me nauseous, it's definitely a pyscological thing, but if you had to ask me now, I still couldn't tell you why I became scared of eating food. Nobody could have asked for a better childhood than me.
My nephew used to eat anything and everything as a young child, and now today he's over 40 and won't eat fruit and veggies, which is really wierd, not even an apple pie (and who doesn't love apple pie???) it seems to be a theme that runs through our family here and there, fortunately my own son was never afflicted by this wierd phobia, nor his kids, it does affect your social life, specifically as a child and a teenager, you become socially awkward around food which leads to embarrassment, because you feel you're not normal.
I'm so glad Bobby has managed to overcome this massive hurdle because it is a really wierd issue that even to this day I cannot explain despite suffering from it myself well into adulthood.
same.
I started doing this when i was very young, i had many food allergies (on common foods) and when they went away i (gradually, i think) started eating less things (but i started eating some of the ones i was allergic to)
Have you ever heard of an eating disorder called arfid? I have it and it sounds a lot like what you are discribing
@@cassieopea please tell me more
@@wendyburrows4178 its a non body image eating disorder thats like extreme picky eater. People with arfid often get extremely triggered by smells and textures of foods and cannot eat a lot of foods without gagging. a lot of people with arfid have huge fears of vomiting or choking. It can be passed down, and develops at a young age. People with arfd tend to only eat a few foods, and sometimes like a food and then never eat it again.
Very informative and helpful show! Imagine the struggles of families having the same concerns and without the right information to help them. Thank you.
Bobby said 2 things that made it clear he is just afraid that the food wasn't going to taste good. When eating the chicken he said "I can just taste it" and the pizza he said "it's not as bad as I thought it was going to be". Idk if that is considered a phobia
The thing with food and autism - they like consistency. Meaning it tastes exactly the same every time. I have 3 children with autism. My youngest ate everything under the sun until he turned 18 months. He began refusing. He would only eat chocolate chip cookies. A very specific brand and type. He refuses any and all other cookies. He refuses all meals and snacks. He will not eat oatmeal, cereal even now. It is a regression. My oldest doesn't like food that gets between her teeth. These took years of encouragement, Drs and specialists. She's 11 and now eats almost anything I put infront of her. Her favorite foods are watermelon, broccoli and pasta. My middle child will only eat his food when it is cut in a specific way. If I leave the crust on the toast for example, or cut it in half instead of squares... He won't eat it.
When your child refuses food, you come to a point where you either let your child starve OR look for ways they will eat the food. All specialists agree consistency is a major factor. The food must taste the same each and every time. The new taste, texture, smell, look of food can cause sensory overloads. Which leads to a whole spew of behaviour problems, skill developing delays and both the child and parent feel lost.
@@angelad5037 do you think that's in the phobia category? That's what I was trying to make sense of. Like a pure fear or just being upset because it's not "normal" to me seems different.
Wow, the part about autism really hit me. I'm female and have only been recently diagnosed with asd at the age of 20. The first person to be diagnosed with it is still alive to this day so it's quite a new thing actually. It's good to see that actual facts about autism are getting more recognized now rather than old beliefs. If i would've been diagnosed younger, I likely wouldn't have developed other mental health problems. The pandemic kind of was the last straw, and since, I've been having panic attacks almost every day, due to being hypersensitive to all stimuli.
Happy autism awareness month everyone :)
This is a label for antisocial behaviour, nothing else. Now you are subject to Autism Act, so you can be put behind bars without a court order on a whim of dome low paid clinician social worker.
43:30 I'm sure the mom new. She was probably expecting. It's just very hard to hear.
Exactly that ❤️
Amazing! I have learned a lot about Autism when it comes to girls.
Omg when the parents found out Jessie J had ASD and the mum burst into tears my heart broke 💔
Amanda Jane L 💔
@@MelB868 she probably did since other people suggested it but she didnt want to recognise or admit it was ASD
@@chrisb757 my man, did you take any kind of biology lessons or is the ignorance meant to be a joke?
Chris B I’m confused bc you sound like your commenting about the boy who only eats sugar not the little girl who doesn’t speak.
It was relief and not understanding autism at the time I was scared
I have an autistic son, from the time he was small, there was a need for firm traditions, a firm person and stability in the home, and no fluctuating or doubting sentiments, it gave calm, not least the safety of my son, then I did not know yet that he was autistic, but according to observations I could see fluctuations in his mood, so you start to avoid unnecessarily worrying him, and it has helped in his behavior towards others and self-respect and confidence to begin with.
I'm so impressed by Bobby! What a great kid! He's cooperative and enthusiastic!
These 4 parents are amazing gor seeing and reaching out. No one ever wants to admit there child may have a mental issue. The love for their kids is amazing as well as they are. Good luck loves
“I’d rather see him eat a chocolate bar, than nothing.” Ok, well...your child pretty much IS eating nothing. Chocolate and crap like that is empty calories. Provides no nutrients or sustenance for him.
Sophia Good right
But some cases are so bad a child will stave to death, in that case this mentally make sense (out of fear) but you are actually correct and a doctor / nutritionist should been seen but the UK doctors are not as well versed in the disorder.... some kid with this issue end up iv or tube feed because they have such bad sensory issue with all food. The problem is its such a complex disorder! I wish the UK had better resorcess for this, especially because in the medical field they usually do well In comparison to the us!
@@joshwhipkey9957 A healthy child might skip a few meals to get his/her way, (depending on age), but they WILL eat what they are being served long before starving becomes an issue. If you can't get your kid to eat healthy you should get them to checked out for food allergy or phobia as early as possible, either you get a diagnose and can respond and act from that or if not, it's just that your parenting that haven't been strict enough and not being consequent in their actions, and you have caused the problem yourself.
In fact, chocolate has everything you need, it is an excellent source of nutrients.
The "disorder" you are talking about sounds more like a disorder of the parents - they need help to stop making their own child sick.
@@verabolton Most chocolates have around 60% sugar. Sugar got kcal, but NO nutrients. Eating only chocolate is a recipe for malnutrition, and will lead to poor health, slower development for a child and eventually can cause things like blindness, due to lack of vitamins, diabetes, since you're bloodsuger is averaging a LOT higher than it should be. Even if he is not overweight, I would really check that kid out for pre-diabetes. He is defiantly in the danger zone, when he eats that much sugar.
I remember when my brother and I went to the dentist with my dad and the dentist told my dad that it was about time for my brother to stop using that pacifier and when we left the dentist and we were in the car my dad removed the pacifier from my brother and threw it out the window (I know bad decision for the environment) and my brother cried the whole way home but he never used one again 😂 this was back in Puerto Rico
Alannis Cordero LMAOOOOO for real same but my mother threw on top of the house latinos will have no time for the fuss over it
freaking latinos 🤣. I was also a child that didn't want to give up a bottle/pacifier. We were on a road trip and my dad apparently had enough of me and the bottle and he got a jalapeno and smeared it on. Then when I asked for it and started drinking out of it, it burned me and I cried and threw it out the window. My dad said it worked cuz I never wanted a bottle after that 🤣🤣
@@squeso33 😂😂 they have their way always
@@jeisselima once they over something they can’t stand it
Ah yes, puerto rico. The medical area there is horrible and some of the parents ate a little to old school for their own good. Brings back memories.
Such a sweet boy. I’m happy they were able to diagnose the little girl. Our son too is on the spectrum. I new something was different at 18 months. He stopped being talkative and started crying a lot. Our Pedatrician did not believe anything was amiss- just a delay🙃however we got him evaluated and today he is doing well. We see it as a special gifted son with extraordinary gifts. He is the best worker at his job🥰
"This may or may not be significant". Helpful
They need to stop buying him sweets. They did that to him
It’s not that easy. My brother has very limited diet and he’s fine. Even if they didn’t let him eat candy he’d get it somewhere else. At least they know what he’s eating. The child has a fear of food, his parents only did what they thought was best. Would you let your child starve or let him eat so he doesn’t die.
@@alexandraframe6493 You are naive to assume that he is not being manipulative.
@@janicewolk357 And you're judgemental and evil for trying to give a child such negative traits such as manipulative instead of trying to help them... Anxiety is a real thing you know.. Stop being so judgemental.
All of you google ARFID
@Claudia Maigret lmao, youre so ridiculous that I wont even bother to answer xD
at the end I was so proud of Bobby. I'm so glad he can finally experience more foods he likes.
Many children don't like cheese because of the smell
Boby is beautiful little boy. And very brave in talking about his anxiety re food and to see his delight and pride and fun when he achieved the eating goals he set with his psychological was wonderful. The worry and pride for his parents as the went through the process with Bobby was so emotional.... The whole family altogether now can see a bright future and that's wonderful... Every happiness to Bobby and family
I could relate with both these stories. As a mother with a son on the spectrum, I have agonized over his eating habits. It’s very frustrating and sad. The important thing is to never stop trying new ways to introduce new foods. I intentionally try to make it as less stressful as possible, not giving it to much attention. I’m big on rewards just for effort. I think the speech therapist in the video was very professional in the way she assessed the child. The little girls mother was very loving and patient, the child will be fine,with unconditional love all things are possible.
They really had the little girl best interest in mind and I'm happy for Bobby
Never in my life I heard a kid say "I don't like pizza"
ok 69 I hate pizza 🤮🤮
@@eri-wx4yw oh
I dont like pizzas either
I’m not the biggest fan of pizza mostly because of the cheese it’s too much
ok 69 pizza is gross tbh
My four year old was diagnosed with autism when he was three. Even though I knew he was possibly autistic (brother and uncle are autistic) it was still heartbreaking. That said I am glad he was diagnosed. He now has access to speech and occupational therapy. We have a team of professionals that understand his needs and want to help him reach goals. He is a very happy little boy and his speech is improving everyday. Autism is hard, but it is also beautiful. He lacks in speech and social communication, but is able to learn numbers and facts very quickly. The other day he counted to 340! He knew the alphabet before he was two, but he couldn’t say mama until he was three. His strengths are different to others his own age, but he has them and he is amazing. I hope other autism parents see their child’s strengths and encourage them rather then being fixated only on what is lacking or different
These 2 kids seem like sweethearts! I'm so glad their parents took this opportunity to find their children help.
Oh, that boy! What a lovely child he is. He just makes me smile.
I'm autistic and had a lot of trouble with food as a kid. I had a very limited list of foods I was willing to eat, I needed a certain plate, I had a specific spoon etc, adults thought I was picky and spoiled and just needed to be pushed to eat, but I was extremely distressed by certain textures, smells and tastes and the ritual of mealtimes. It's like someone gave you a bowl of cockroaches and is like "they're fine, just eat them :)", your body rejects it. I eat plenty of vegetables now as an adult, but that's because I make my own food now and can prepare everything in a way I can eat.
yes, you were spoilt and cowardy, overprotected and infantile.
I was born with Asperger's and I never ever acted like that.
Wow! I had a wonderful childhood. Especially by my Mom.
What an amazing show. Mental health is so so important.
I think Bobby likes the attention he gets. That seems a little worrisome.
Most kids like attention, though. I think he's genuinely afraid and his parents (especially mom) have gotten so anxious now about his eating that they accidentally make him more anxious.
He is afraid, you can tell, I have a btec in psychology and I work in pediatricity, so I think p (as a professional) that you are incorrect.
He likes the attention, and the power he gets from his defiance.
@@davidh9844 He's 8
David H Stop projecting. We get it, you’re a psycho.
I just knew in my heart when my son was three years old that he was autistic because he could never tell me when he was hurting where he was hurting and he was such a quiet little boy if he was sick he would just go off in a corner so I kind a know he could not tell me how he felt and when I took him for walks he was off in his own little world I just knew in my heart and then when he got diagnosed I cried because I was was hoping it wouldn’t be this way but I can’t explain it but I wouldn’t have him no other way I love him just the way he is .... he is 26 years old now and smells everything he eats , The only thing that hurt me was I couldn’t tell where he was hurting and I wanted to make him feel better That is whatdrove me crazy, and mostly was he wouldn’t sleep at night, I love him like crazy I couldn’t imagine my life without him but I wish people around him would understand more what he goes through instead of staring or acting like he has a disease when he’s trying to talk to them ,,,one day he had a meltdown but they didn’t understand him and just stared rudely, that really hurts he is my son a human being and not a freak , bottom line autistic children are awesome and my son does not have to change himself for anybody or anyone 😍❤️💯
Normally experts seem to not understand that someone has autism or they can not bother to help the child and some experts just care about money and about there selves. So it is good to see that some experts care.
Things like these make me afraid to spoil my child (when I have one)
Well this is more than just spoiling
this isn’t just spoiling, these are deeper psychological issues that had to be solved by specialists.
@@honeycrispsnail4032 yeah
My son was diagnosed with autism at 17 months he has severe autism and ADHD as well. As a parent with a child with autism it's a very difficult Journey for you and your child
Hi i don't me to sound rude but if you know can you please tell me if constant , uncontrollable highly aggressive behaviour and frequent illogical tantrums in kids ages 8 - 10 was one of the symptoms of the ADHD , Because I know this kid , (not putting their name out here on the net) , even now at age nine he acts like a toddler , he's interested only in his toys , he communicates fine but he acts like the devil when he doesn't get what he wants - he's bit and scratched people hard enough to leave scars , the parents gave up on soft parenting by the time he was seven , tough love makes it worse , his teacher looked ready to cry at the parent teacher meet ... and they don't want him to see a therapist because the family wants him to be 'normal' . Like , kids are naughty but this is a whole new level , the parents' other kid turned out perfectly alright .
@@jules2291 The answer is very simple and was used in every school until 1986 in the UK, Watch the capital letters: Control Arrogant Naughty Egotists. Capital letters put together.
This documentary is like seeing my brother and I. My mom had to deal with my brother's autistic behaviors and then with my food problems. I found it interesting
These sweet babies ❤ I hope they’re doing amazingly wherever they are right now
Thank you foe this; very helpfull and feel like we don't fight alone
As an Aspie, when I'm not eating, it's not me being naughty. I either can't stand the texture/taste/smell of the food. I struggle strongly with the textures and smells of food.
I'll also say, as an Aspie, I am very capable of being naughty. Sometimes I act a bit impish, I can be mischievous and cause trouble, but when I'm having a meltdown or a tantrum, it is because there is a problem, my senses are being overloaded by something and I feel under pressure and like I'm losing control
Your honesty and self awareness are refreshing! You will do well!
I know it sounds wierd but have you ever tried to purposefully put yourself in that state to get better at not freaking out or last longer before freaking out?
@@rileysmall4317 I do try to use exposure to help myself to deal with daily life, but can only do it in small doses, so while I am progressing, it is only a very small amount each time. I think this type of therapy works best with help because like a lot of people, I like to be in my comfort zone, and when I'm not, it can be quite scary/stressful/irritating. Sometimes we need a different perspective given to us so we can know that we are going to be OK
My son is like this...i think its more of a texture thing...
Yeah I be Autism and I don't like to eet food with weird textures
@@awesomeamy6722 That's sensory processing disorder not autism. Although a lot of people with SPD do have autism too but people can have SPD without having autism. Like me for example.
@@alaurahwillow155 I have SPD and autism
@@alaurahwillow155 You aren't familiar with Autism. Look it up. This is even covered in this documentary. People with Autism can have sensory issues especially when it comes to textures. And this doesn't require a separate diagnosis. It is a listed characteristic of ASD just like speech delays or not liking changes to schedules or finding medium pressure calming or looking someone in the eye is difficult, etc. It's just part of the package.
Many disorders have some of the same characteristics. That is one of the reasons why the diagnosis process is so very complicated.
Donna Hessong I don’t know autism? 🤣 My younger brother is autistic, I am his carer and our mother is autistic. I am also a support worker for adults with autism and I have a degree in Inclusive Practices. So I bet that I know way more than you ever will. Please stop making assumptions about people because it just makes you look naive. I never said that it HAD to have a separate diagnosis. I said sometimes it gets diagnosed separately as it’s a condition in its own right. I was saying that it can also be diagnosed separately as it’s own condition. Not everyone who has SPD has a diagnosis of autism. It’s like expressive language delays, it’s a characteristic of a lot of conditions yet it can be, and often is diagnosed as a separate condition.
Jessie was the EXACT same way I was growing up. Only play games certain ways, not being able to be still, meltdowns, low or odd speaking abilities, not responding to my name, hatred for sharing, refusing to let go of paci. And 13 years later here I am with an autism diagnosis. It’s been 2 years since I was diagnosed and it really shows the lack of research in autism and different ways it shows.
Bobby probably has avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID). i have this and it isn't as simple as picky eating, it wasn't actually described until 2013 and a lot of people don't know about it even professionals. It starts in early childhood and it is almost impossible to eat foods that are not "safe". I have tried for years to find anyone to help me with this and have found none from medical professionals. Its caused me to be malnourished and have long term health issues. i hope bobby was able to get better help, its not his or his parents fault its a real disorder that can be treated if taken seriously
I can help you, easy peasy. You need to be given OznLY foods that you do not eat and be locked up until you eat them.
Lovk yourself, put those foods that you " cannot" eat in your room, nothing else, and tell your friend to not let you out until you finished them.
@@svetavinogradova4243 that’s a one way ticket to passing out from starvation or vomiting all over yourself from the anxiety, dislike, and distaste of eating foods you’re not okay with. i’m what people would call a “picky eater” (which makes my issues sound infuriatingly simple when it’s not, and you won’t understand that unless you’ve been through it, which explains why you think your suggestion is somehow a good one). so no, not “easy peasy”. although this might work for actual picky children who are just spoiled about food in some way, we’re not talking about those children. definitely do not go around suggesting this. dumbing it down to something that’s “easy peasy” is dangerous for specific situations.
@@uneagerly First world problems, dear. Read up about 1941 suege of Leningrad. People ate belts, boiled wallpaper, they were hungry. All that distaste is cured by hunger, while the mom should NOT be giving attention to this performance. You badly need a 6months course of a Siberian village winter. Yuck, what an entitled attitude. If you earn your food, eat what you earn for and choose. But when you are a dependant - you eat what you are given and get GRATEFUL for it.
Spoilt is a good word. If you want an instant cure - go teach English in a small Siberian village during winter time. Ridiculous.
I'm so happy to see this comment, because Ive been looking for one saying he must have ARFID. I developed arfid at a very young age and actually tried ending my life because of the stress of it when I was 11. I'm in recovery now and doing so much better.
@@cassieopeaour parents managed to compeltely spoil you, they spared the rod and brought up a very unhappy being. Willow branches, on the bottom, dayly, for 5 minutes, until the bottom is red and hot!