Yip thats the truth. Your body soul and Spirit actually protecs U from anymore darkness and evilness from entering into your life and doing anymore damage. God decides. No more pain for my child. Leave her NOW in Jesus name xxx
I was told in my younger years "As long as he can still make you cry, you're not done. The minute he does something that should hurt you and you feel nothing, that's when you know you're done." It was completely true.
It should never get to the point that she’s so disgusted by you that she checks out. What’s happened to you men? Just be stand up men who can provide for a wife and family without struggle and you’ll be good. All the other races figure out how to be accomplished men so you can too. Stop making simple things hard by being lazy and lacking initiative. Make responsible education and/or business decisions that set you up for future success, BE that man, then choose a wife. You’re literally NOT qualified to date a good women IF you’re out here earning low wages, no plans or purpose, and taking no steps to become Head of your own Household and family one day.
Yesss.. I literally loved my ex soooo much I always wanted him, then when he was talking/having sex with other ppl I literally had to force myself to sleep with him & I never felt or looked at him the same way. I held onto him for 1.5 yrs, trying to feel the way I did before about him but it was over way before I even left.
@@stormyweather4898 Negative. Everyone isn't codependent. There are people, men and women, who can truly be alone - without human crutches. A person who can't stand in their pain and heal, alone, isn't a viable option, imho. That's someone who requires a lot of emotional support. 🚩Rebounding only creates more baggage.
I know my ex saw this and cried. 🤷🏾♀️ I did absolutely EVERYTHING for that man. I was humble, I was submissive, I met all his sexual needs, I was loyal, played stepmother (with no children of my own) let other women call and didn't trip cause he said they were friends, I did laundry, I cooked, I loved to going to work and helping out, I did everything I thought would please him and I'd ALWAYS try to impress him. But It was never enough. He would humble more at every turn. "I wasn't fun enough," "I didn't dress nice enough." I was raised in TN so I didn't dress like DC girls. Then it was I wasn't thin enough, feminine enough, cute enough, or young enough. But for five years he dangled marriage infront of me cause he knew I wanted it so baaaadly. When I decided to leave and stay gone, his whole world fell apart. His family members would call asking me to " just pick up for him," " can just check on him," "I've never seen him like this." He even had his father call me. I used to really care but now I couldn't care less. There's not one lie in the words he's saying.
I played the fool before too. Some men want the comfort of a woman but choose to not commit. These ones are superstars at the beginning of courtship. But, his lack of authenticity transformed into negging you because he has a LACK mindset. Never happy with what they already have. I think those of us that do for others have one of abundance. Ultimately God seen he couldnt level up to you….glad we know our worth ❤
Once I'm done I'm done and there's no coming back from that. And no we can't be friends because if you couldn't be good to me as my man, you damn sure can't as my friend! Good day and forget you knew me. 😉
Some men think when we’re fussing and nagging them because we’re being mean and bitter but it actually means we care enough to constantly try to talk and tell u what’s the problem and they don’t get it but once we’re silent just know it’s a wrap we no longer care to express anything
How about communicate like an adult instead of fussing and nagging and being mean and bitter. Last chick I was with thought I didn’t care about her issues because I refused to discuss them if she did not come respectfully and under control. Why do we have to put up with that? Then you want to accuse a dude of not caring when you didn’t try to address your problems like a mature woman would.
@@bruceleroy5585 well majority of women’s fussing comes from her partners poor ability to communicate that’s a Big problem in relationships too many adults don’t know how to communicate
@@MsSN518 someone else’s poor communication should not justify me to act a fool. We should always have self control and be in control of how we react. Sounds like justifying bad behavior.
A man gets to a point where he disgusts you....like the very essence of him being alive is repugnant...no matter how much he's changed....he's a being she just wants to act like she never met🙏🏼💕
This is where I am now. Took 14 years. Married 20 years this year. First 6 years, I didn't see the issues as issues but as challenges that every couple face, no one is perfect etc. 14 years of crying, going to therapy to work on myself, so could be better for him and our kids. I still believed in him through it all. Think it was last year that I finally checked out emotionally. I am in a lot of pain today but not about him. I finally feel like I know what I want. I would like a companion. A strong, steady mature man. A loving, firm, fair and gentle leader. I went to therapy to fix me for him, but I am becoming whole for me.
This young brother gets it, so true. We women, when we truly love you-- will give you a ton of chances. But when we reach the point of DONE, we DONE!!!
Yes! That was me, cheated on repeatedly and I stayed in the marriage for 8 years before I finally chose to leave. I've been single for 2 and a half years so no, nobody else was in my mind when I chose to leave.
I lost the best thing i ever had and its all my fault.I wish i could go back in time and did better but i guess i didnt see her for who she really is .Now i m lost and dead inside knowing i can never get another chance 😢
@niongg8042 so you were using her as God or to make yourself feel like one? I hope you learn what God really is and get in alignment so you're not "broken" over your own actions. It's ok to let go now and keep living.
There’s no flipping the switch back. It’s done and they never see it coming bc they think you’ll just keep taking it until the day you don’t and they are shocked.
So true, I gave warnings in ways like expressing how I feel, asking for what I need, it was constantly ignored until I just got too hurt and emotionally exhausted to try anymore, I cried a few days and then I was at peace
I must agree 100%. We check out mentally, we tell our family and friends how we're being treated, getting second opinions, and invisioning life without this person. Lastly, we wish them the best on their journey away from us.
” You need to worry when I stop asking for communication and common ground. When I don’t get emotional and passionate about us, it’s too late.” That time came and went now I could care less, nothing he says phases me. At this point we’ve already gone thru the grieving process by ourselves, we are out of emotions and numb to it. You can parade your new girl in front of us and get nothing but a sigh dismissal.
Cus we know the new girl going to eventually go through the same shit that we went through. If not worse!!!! No!!! The new girlfriend can keep my old trash. I'll keep keeping on walking!!!🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
When a man avoids issues its a wrap. To make light conversation when I'm confused?? How can you VALUE me without acknowledging MY WORTH.. I'm Done-Done ✔
Exactly they’ll sweep it under the rug then next time it’s bigger, keep handling issues that passive way until it festers. Like Hello? We have a problem here can we discuss a solution? He can’t 😮
Idk why some men love to put us in a situation where we hate them. It's bs. Inmature. It hurts, man. Why don't you all get it? Why push our limits like that??
Right, Sis!! I'm not hating anyone. It conflicts with my divine nature. I'll hit him with the "oh you're one of thooose" real quick ✌🏽😂 Some men loathe themselves so much that they have to create that same truth for any woman that crosses their path. It's not personal, it's them.
I partially agree with what this gentleman praise. For example I feel very uncomfortable in fights, I much rather say kindly and firmly I don't like something. You do it again, I forgive. You keep doing it, I am emotionally out. I don't understand much the pushing limits side. Do the have so much hormones/energy to spare? Because if I have to keep fighting for simple concepts and respect, it's a no. No matter the man love for arguing.
So True! At that point she’s gotten tired of ALL of your B S, your neglecting her feelings and not being mindful of the words you say to her. She’s Just done and the planning to leave begins.
I told my ex husband if I ever get to the point I am no longer communicating about anything other than bills, it's no turning back. Needless to say he didn't believe me, until he did. 😏
Once the blinders are taken off your eyes by the narc, and you see what is revealed behind their deceit, you can never “unsee “ it. I got over him faster than a common cold 😊
Very true. I checked out sexually, then emotionally, next love, but when I mentally checked out, I woke up that morning and said boo I can't do it anymore."" It's been 8 years since then.
I’ve finally reached this point-I’m just biding my time. We have our children, I’m going to stick this out to keep things stable for them because they deserve that much. But when they are gone, it’s a wrap. May these next 13 years fly.
This is definitely facts!!! First I mentality left, then I emotionally left, and finally I physically left. Once a woman does all three it’s a wrap. I’ve been broke up with my ex for almost a year after being in a relationship with him for 8 years. It is nothing that man can do or say to get me back.
He knew he would never be able to come back when he asked “Do you hate me?” . I told him I don’t care enough about you to hate you, I’m indifferent. He walked away with what little pride he had and left me alone.
Ooooooh brother preach!!!!! Is not the easiest thing for a woman to do but the peace that comes with it is bittersweet I’m soooo done that I believe I’ll be single my all life
I never wanted to check out. I wanted what we had. He let others influence him to give me the bare minimum, while I was giving him and the kids 1 million percent. I think that hurt the most. 😢
That is nothing but the truth! I did 30 years and then I couldn’t do it anymore. I walked away and never turned back, and my life has been so wonderful and full and I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you definitely told the truth on this!💯💜🙏👌🏾
Yep, women we will emotionally leave before actually physically removing ourselves and just letting the loudness of the silence in our absence do what it needs to do! The healthy women will go on a journey of self-discovery, going completely no-contact to heal, and level up!
True....I checked out years before I removed my self and children physically after 12 years of marriage. What he did was questionable and unpardonable but I chose not to go low that but level up and let it go and let God! Once I did that there was no looking back. I haven't regretted it.
@@allme813 its actually illogical to keep sticking around a person you already know you don't want to be with,especially for that extended length of time........unless you are using that person for something.......or you are scared to be alone and you are just waiting for a better option to come along,which is still using them.
I slowly stopped saying anything to him. It became meaningless conversations and we did nothing together ever. I had checked out but he still didn’t seem to care until I was physically gone🤷🏼♀️
She doesn't hate him. She loves him. She wants the best for him. Even if He didn't want to stay. She forgave Him and prays for Him to find peace, and for His Salvation. She doesn't have to look back though. She doesn't need any validation cause She knows that She is in the hands of the most High. The joy of the Lord is Her strength. She didn't check out. She checked Up, and Jesus saved her. There is no turning back.
This is so true cause I don't give a DAMN!!! Mentally I gave him back to God. It's nothing with me💯💯🎯 He's a enemy that I love from a distance. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I won't spend an ounce of my emotions on it I'm checked out. That narcissist was the worst experienced in my life. I'm unbothered & free🕊️
I’m probably older than most of you.But I’d like to say that at one time I hated my ex.And that hatred and anger was holding me down.So I prayed and asked God to remove the hatred out of my heart for him and he did. I ve learned to tolerate him but I’m happy being alone with my 2 kids But at the end of the relationship he call himself getting into the church.Too little too late.
At that point now he hanging out over night with his "homegirl" too much....lying about where he at ...if he with her, when he See's her, he ain't touching me...calling her before me etc. I'm packing my shit now I deserve better. I would never do no shit like this to anyone so before shit gets crazy I'ma exit because men CANNOT HANDLE WHAT THEY DISH OUT✨
Yes, hunny. Please be careful. Some things just aren't worth it. You leaving and not being bothered will hurt him more than anything, but at the end of the day, don't concern yourself with anything other than healing and being healthy and happy once it's officially over. Remove everything and everyone who could be a distraction during your journey. Good luck! 💖💖
@@brwnserenity2351 Thank you so much for your encouraging words and support. It really means a lot Ma'am. That's what I'm doing focusing on me and our kids...my goals and dreams so I can be a better person for myself and kids first. I'm about to sign up for culinary school Monday and start working again. Much love🥰🙏🏾✨
@Olivia Griffin That's amazing! It makes me so happy to know that you have a plan/goals for yourself. I'm so excited for you and your children! I know that you're going to do so well! Be blessed! 🥰❤️
Amen hallelujah 💞💞💋💞💋🙏🙏🙏💖🙏🙏🙏💖❤️💕😘💕🙏🙏💖❤️💕🙏🙏🙏🙏💖❤️💕😘💕😘🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 he Will always be with the one and only can't stop won't stop 🛑🛑🛑💪🔥🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑💪🔥💪🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑💪🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑
That’s how my boyfriend was. He was always saying u talk so nice to ur ex (kids dad) but then will argue with me. Why u don’t argue with him. I told him, cuz he can’t get me mad and upset anymore. I’m not letting him get that pleasure of upsetting me. I don’t have to see him. But with you, I see you everyday so yes, if u yelling at me and saying crazy stuff (boyfriend was a narcissist btw) I’ll take it easy on you, but I will argue back because I care & get emotional. I had to walk away, it was too much on a daily basis - now he gets that version of me who he can’t make upset. I no longer care
I kept warning him that he was going to lose all access to me. Now...he can't come around or talk to me at all. I blocked all access...and he still don't get it.
That's what I keep trying to figure out like how did you picture this working out? Did you think how this was going to play out long-term? We're either are or are NOT! There are no in-betweens. Take a good look because this is what moving on looks like. Understand clearly, it doesn't mean we're enemies but it also doesn't mean we're friends. You know what you lost and you know what you let go of. Periodt. And just in case you forgot I LEFT!
You better let them know! These men think it’s a game out here. Just like you thought I was cute…someone else thinks I’m cute too. I have talked, cried, written letters, and accepted a whole lot of stuff I should have never accepted. All bc I loved him. No more! Im done. There’s nothing else to even talk about. Not even mad. I just want to be left alone.
When she is indifferent, that means no more love. When she hate you, that means the love she had has turned into hate. Your really lost their too. When she hates you, her love is burning out. Then it became indifferent ❤
LADIES WOMEN OUT THERE PLEASE TELL THE MAN YOUR DONE AND DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ANY LONGER DONE IS DONE ITS LIKE FORGIVENESS YOU DONT DO IT FOR THEM BUT FOR YOU AFTER 3 WARNINGS I THINK IT WONT WORK ANYMORE JUST SAY IT WITH BOLDNESS NO FEAR AND CONFIDENCE AND KINDNESS ITS OVER AND WALK AWAY IN PEACE WITH PEACE ,TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS TO PUT GOD FIRST LOVE THEMSELVES MARRY THEMSELVES AND THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME IN TO STAY FOR A LIFETIME AND DONT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS YEARS BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN MUST DO BETTER THAN US AND KNOW IT SOONER THAN WE KNEW WE BECOME THE LEADER AFTER LEARNING
@@24goodbuddy TRUE THATS WHY WE SPEAK TO GOD FIRST AND HE GIVES THE INSTRUCTIONS ON WHAT WE SHOULD AND SHOULD NOT DO ITS IMPORTANT TO PRAY AND MOVE IN SILENT
For those Still Mingling....... 👍"💓GOD💓"👍 BLESS! You to Unite With the one 👍"💓GOD💓"👍 CHOSE FOR You! 👍💓😊💓👍 (With 👍"💓GOD'S💓"👍 Marital Purpose) IN 👍"💓JESUS💓"👍 GLORIFIED MIGHTY NAME 👍💓🤗💓👍 👍"💓AMEN!!!💓"👍 👍🙏💓🤗💓🙏👍
The point of NO RETURN, and he can only blame himself. Our love doesn't change, unless he changes it. Once the switch is flipped OFF there is no flipping it back on.
When a woman disconnects from your family.. and just send the kids and stay at no functions .. and when you drop them off and you just see the hand open the screen door and door closes.. she been checked out.
That's a scary place to be because what follows next is her physical departure. I know for me, if I'm fighting hard for the relationship, I'm still in, but when I don't care anymore....that's it. It's over and I'm not looking back.
If he is disrespecting you in anyway shape or form. Check out sooner than later. It gets worse not better. And resntment towards all men grows subconciously. After years of abuse.....i fought for my husband till the indifference kicked in. I took my 2yr old son and left him with the clothes on our backs. I had no fight left for him. Its been 20 years and I really try, but I dtill cant trust a man. Dont become like me. Leave before he totally anialates and your trust for me. God Bless. Thinking of U xxx
So true. I’m currently going thru this right now. Having kids wit that person doesn’t help. He tries to do whatever to get bck into my good graces but I jus dnt feel the same anymore. I kind of hate it bc we hve so much history. Thru out our course of time I was able to forgive so much. I dnt quite understand the difference now? I think it’s bc he made me not like me, it’s not a good feelin. I love & care for him, wish him nothing but the best. But I really jus want to co-parent in peace, responsibly w/o the drama. I really feel our time is ov’r & it’s ok. ❤
I was in the same situation once you make me doubt myself or look at myself differently I’m done I love me to much I just put my guy out February 13th the day before Valentine’s Day and I’ve been at peace a little sad 22 years gone but I have peace!!
Ladies hugs from afar.❤ Better days are ahead keep your head up. Keep on keeping on. They had many opportunities do right by us. ❤🙏🏾 God will provide.❤🙏🏾 Detail prayers can move mountains.
I have always said if I'm still fussing and nagging. That means I still care. But the moment I go silent, I have checked out. And that's ANY type of relationship. Not just with a S/O.
Ooooweee! Tell it! I just went no Contact- after a month of him calling & texting to get back, I suddenly started seeing him for the liar & manipulator he was- it took me stepping away… and NOW- I careless, who he screws, where he goes, what he does- I checked out & moved on- Thank You- Next✔️😉
Cancel Christmas. Cancel Easter. The only one coming back is Jesus.
😂😂😂 IKTR!
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Amen !
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I woke up indifferently today...I'm done. Cancel all the holidays...
😂😂😂 omg!!! The way I screamed
I stopped everything! Talking, repeating myself, caring ....I was mentally gone and then physically. Tell em again!!!!
That Part
Yip thats the truth. Your body soul and Spirit actually protecs U from anymore darkness and evilness from entering into your life and doing anymore damage. God decides. No more pain for my child. Leave her NOW in Jesus name xxx
Me
Huh… yup!
Yup
When a woman is silent and no longer addressing the issues, she’s done.
So TRUE! and POINT Said! 👍😊
I was told in my younger years "As long as he can still make you cry, you're not done. The minute he does something that should hurt you and you feel nothing, that's when you know you're done."
It was completely true.
I can dig that tho
man that’s real
Yep...Facts on 🔥🔥🔥
It should never get to the point that she’s so disgusted by you that she checks out. What’s happened to you men? Just be stand up men who can provide for a wife and family without struggle and you’ll be good. All the other races figure out how to be accomplished men so you can too. Stop making simple things hard by being lazy and lacking initiative. Make responsible education and/or business decisions that set you up for future success, BE that man, then choose a wife. You’re literally NOT qualified to date a good women IF you’re out here earning low wages, no plans or purpose, and taking no steps to become Head of your own Household and family one day.
Sounds like trauma bond
When you look at them in disgust and sex is gross.. you definitely done. ✌🏽
Yesssssss!!!
😂 facts
Yes Lawd!!! This is exactly how I knew I couldn't be with my ex-husband
Yesss!! Or just the thought of sex with them!
Yesss.. I literally loved my ex soooo much I always wanted him, then when he was talking/having sex with other ppl I literally had to force myself to sleep with him & I never felt or looked at him the same way. I held onto him for 1.5 yrs, trying to feel the way I did before about him but it was over way before I even left.
The opposite of love isn't hate but INDIFFERENCE 🙌🏾
Yes, indifference also means she has someone else.
@@stormyweather4898no it doesn’t.
The opposite of love is FEAR.
@@stormyweather4898 that someone is herself. That's the part men mess up. She chose her 🌹
@@stormyweather4898 Negative. Everyone isn't codependent. There are people, men and women, who can truly be alone - without human crutches. A person who can't stand in their pain and heal, alone, isn't a viable option, imho. That's someone who requires a lot of emotional support. 🚩Rebounding only creates more baggage.
When you'd rather be solo than with him ✌🏽💙
Whew chile!! When being solo brings more peace than being with him. When you could careless what ppl gotta say
@donnajeffreys...it happened to me. I love the peace!
@@lyndapeoples8127me too 💙
@@missmarymack3457 yes indeed
Because peace no anxiety manipulation tears Heartache
I know my ex saw this and cried. 🤷🏾♀️ I did absolutely EVERYTHING for that man. I was humble, I was submissive, I met all his sexual needs, I was loyal, played stepmother (with no children of my own) let other women call and didn't trip cause he said they were friends, I did laundry, I cooked, I loved to going to work and helping out, I did everything I thought would please him and I'd ALWAYS try to impress him. But It was never enough. He would humble more at every turn. "I wasn't fun enough," "I didn't dress nice enough." I was raised in TN so I didn't dress like DC girls. Then it was I wasn't thin enough, feminine enough, cute enough, or young enough. But for five years he dangled marriage infront of me cause he knew I wanted it so baaaadly. When I decided to leave and stay gone, his whole world fell apart. His family members would call asking me to " just pick up for him," " can just check on him," "I've never seen him like this." He even had his father call me. I used to really care but now I couldn't care less. There's not one lie in the words he's saying.
Perfect.
I played the fool before too. Some men want the comfort of a woman but choose to not commit. These ones are superstars at the beginning of courtship. But, his lack of authenticity transformed into negging you because he has a LACK mindset. Never happy with what they already have. I think those of us that do for others have one of abundance. Ultimately God seen he couldnt level up to you….glad we know our worth ❤
A man's indifference will foster a woman's indifference. If he shows that he genuinely doesn't care, eventually she won't either.
Let the church say amen 🙏🏽
Speaking truth right here!! Been there
This!
Right
I’m right there.
When they kill the love and feelings you had for them, you’re totally done
Absolutely bc THEY KILLED IT.
it was just his turn.....time to let the next man have his turn? right ladies? lol 😂
@@jonthomson9262 I take it you don't believe a man can ever do anything wrong in a relationship?
@@nitaw.498 He’s gay. Don’t pay him no mind
And they won’t stop until the feelings are DEAD or until you leave first.
Women can be colder than men …when we are done with you, we are done!
Real talk
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Me asf he came back on his knees and I was like nope, 5 years im done .
Say it again so True
“When a womens fed uppppp, there ain’t nothing you can do about it”
Nothing!!!
Not a damn thing!
I'm trying to tell ya!!! 💯
Na na na, na na na na💃🏽
It's like running out of luck, and it's too late to talk about it!
Once I'm done I'm done and there's no coming back from that. And no we can't be friends because if you couldn't be good to me as my man, you damn sure can't as my friend! Good day and forget you knew me. 😉
POINT Said!.....
...Good day and Forget you knew me?!
LOL! 👍😂
Its painful leaving behind the man you wanted to be with forever but wow, this is so true. 😔💔
Yes I just left the man I want to be with the rest of my life but unfortunately he did me wrong and I had to go
When a woman is unbothered, it’s a wrap. Period.
Yup
Some men think when we’re fussing and nagging them because we’re being mean and bitter but it actually means we care enough to constantly try to talk and tell u what’s the problem and they don’t get it but once we’re silent just know it’s a wrap we no longer care to express anything
How about communicate like an adult instead of fussing and nagging and being mean and bitter. Last chick I was with thought I didn’t care about her issues because I refused to discuss them if she did not come respectfully and under control. Why do we have to put up with that? Then you want to accuse a dude of not caring when you didn’t try to address your problems like a mature woman would.
@@bruceleroy5585 well majority of women’s fussing comes from her partners poor ability to communicate that’s a Big problem in relationships too many adults don’t know how to communicate
@Bruce Leroy right!!! All that damn yapping and yelling....
Sometimes we been gone mentally before yall
@@MsSN518 someone else’s poor communication should not justify me to act a fool. We should always have self control and be in control of how we react. Sounds like justifying bad behavior.
@Bruce Leroy what bad behavior was the fussing about?
This should be a damn commercial!! Maybe even on the ESPN channel 😅
REPEAT, REPEAT!
Right😂😂😂😂
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They still wouldn’t get it 😂
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A man gets to a point where he disgusts you....like the very essence of him being alive is repugnant...no matter how much he's changed....he's a being she just wants to act like she never met🙏🏼💕
True
Me right now…moving in silence…there’s no coming back from the emotional and verbal abuse this time.
This is where I am now. Took 14 years. Married 20 years this year. First 6 years, I didn't see the issues as issues but as challenges that every couple face, no one is perfect etc. 14 years of crying, going to therapy to work on myself, so could be better for him and our kids. I still believed in him through it all. Think it was last year that I finally checked out emotionally.
I am in a lot of pain today but not about him. I finally feel like I know what I want. I would like a companion. A strong, steady mature man. A loving, firm, fair and gentle leader. I went to therapy to fix me for him, but I am becoming whole for me.
That’s a beautiful testimony! Said a prayer for ya! Wishing you the best!
After seeking therapy, what do you think is the root issue of your marriage issues? And your husband’s behavior towards you?
Listen to "Never would've made it " by Teona Taylor
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I feel this 100%. I went through hell and back....lost everything but I found myself❤ God and Divine helps me every step of the way!
This young brother gets it, so true. We women, when we truly love you-- will give you a ton of chances. But when we reach the point of DONE, we DONE!!!
Absolutely, finished with you! Next!
@@patricialytch4892 next?...ewwww
@@eltonjohn4239 eewwww you!! What type of response is that?? How old are we😂😂
So DONE ☑️ OUT TIME✌🏾💪💯
@@eltonjohn4239you want people to not find another partner? Delusional😭
When the feelings are no longer involved & you are no longer bothered✌🏾!
When I stop fussing and become silent 🔨⚰️🤞🏾 that's the final nail in the coffin
This is correct. Especially if the response is Okay.
Usually she has given him chance, after chance, after chance before she gets there...so she knows it's time to go.
No she has someone else she has in mind! Yall never tell the truth
Yes! That was me, cheated on repeatedly and I stayed in the marriage for 8 years before I finally chose to leave. I've been single for 2 and a half years so no, nobody else was in my mind when I chose to leave.
I lost the best thing i ever had and its all my fault.I wish i could go back in time and did better but i guess i didnt see her for who she really is .Now i m lost and dead inside knowing i can never get another chance 😢
@@GeeWay73yes, and that person is ourselves. We choose Ourselves over you and your bs.
@niongg8042 so you were using her as God or to make yourself feel like one? I hope you learn what God really is and get in alignment so you're not "broken" over your own actions. It's ok to let go now and keep living.
FACTS and I'm so grateful for my indifference to foolishness!!! Remain unbothered ladies😉
Amen!!!❤
Facts
YES, INDEED THEY WILL CONTINUE LIVING!
💪💪💪
It hurts their soul on a whole other level when you literally give ZERO f's. They'll try all kinds of tactics to get you to act out of character.
True, after she gives her best. If you hurt, insult , embarrass her make her wait. Judge her bully her. That's it...I m gone!
“When a woman’s fed up, there ain’t nothing you can do about it”.
That part
There’s no flipping the switch back. It’s done and they never see it coming bc they think you’ll just keep taking it until the day you don’t and they are shocked.
Ain't that SAD just think u wanna keep being a Doormat........At some point he/she will wake up and leave the madness ALONE.
So true, I gave warnings in ways like expressing how I feel, asking for what I need, it was constantly ignored until I just got too hurt and emotionally exhausted to try anymore, I cried a few days and then I was at peace
That's what I told his ass when he was blowing up my phone early this morning at the crack wanting to talk bout feelings and whatnot. Boy bye! ✌🏿
...and just know: it's not always because of another ninja; it's because we finally found PEACE, and we won't jeopardize it for ANYONE‼️
Facts!!!!! Peace is the key word!!!
@@jamiemariejo3582, IIIIIIIIIIIIIS...‼️😎💅
Indifference = That's between you and the Lord. I'm good!
I must agree 100%. We check out mentally, we tell our family and friends how we're being treated, getting second opinions, and invisioning life without this person. Lastly, we wish them the best on their journey away from us.
This young man is preaching!
This is so true…. When we checked out, we are out 🏃♀️
So true 😂
☑️😂out Time
” You need to worry when I stop asking for communication and common ground. When I don’t get emotional and passionate about us, it’s too late.” That time came and went now I could care less, nothing he says phases me. At this point we’ve already gone thru the grieving process by ourselves, we are out of emotions and numb to it. You can parade your new girl in front of us and get nothing but a sigh dismissal.
Cus we know the new girl going to eventually go through the same shit that we went through. If not worse!!!!
No!!! The new girlfriend can keep my old trash.
I'll keep keeping on walking!!!🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
Beautifully said!
In a nutshell!
This is the truth. We have completed the entire grieving process...so they might as well be dead
Stick a fork in it DONE!!✌🏾
So true, I left mentally first, then physically.
Truth! I'll interact UNTIL I don't see the future of this to continue.
When a man avoids issues its a wrap. To make light conversation when I'm confused?? How can you VALUE me without acknowledging MY WORTH.. I'm Done-Done ✔
Damn. Mic drop. Perfectly said
Exactly they’ll sweep it under the rug then next time it’s bigger, keep handling issues that passive way until it festers. Like Hello? We have a problem here can we discuss a solution? He can’t 😮
yes exactly
This is it 🙌🏻
I feel as though men are problems solvers so if he’s avoiding issues that’s always been a concern for me too 🤷🏾♀️
He's absolutely right and that's a beautiful point to get to. You just don't care! You really are free!
Yup
True 👍🏽
Jesus🙌🙌🙌🙌
I just typed something similar before scrolling to your comment. You are on point.
Yes because the feeling is numb u just can't get it back no matter how much u dig down
Idk why some men love to put us in a situation where we hate them. It's bs. Inmature. It hurts, man. Why don't you all get it? Why push our limits like that??
The word is " broken" aka " toxic"
Right, Sis!!
I'm not hating anyone. It conflicts with my divine nature. I'll hit him with the "oh you're one of thooose" real quick ✌🏽😂
Some men loathe themselves so much that they have to create that same truth for any woman that crosses their path. It's not personal, it's them.
I partially agree with what this gentleman praise. For example I feel very uncomfortable in fights, I much rather say kindly and firmly I don't like something. You do it again, I forgive. You keep doing it, I am emotionally out. I don't understand much the pushing limits side. Do the have so much hormones/energy to spare? Because if I have to keep fighting for simple concepts and respect, it's a no. No matter the man love for arguing.
When you go silent, that’s when they think they finally got you to accept everything they want. But…surprise 😉✨
This is so True...being alone is better than staying with someone half hearted into too you.
So True! At that point she’s gotten tired of ALL of your B S, your neglecting her feelings and not being mindful of the words you say to her. She’s Just done and the planning to leave begins.
I told my ex husband if I ever get to the point I am no longer communicating about anything other than bills, it's no turning back. Needless to say he didn't believe me, until he did. 😏
Same
😂😂😂😂
Exactly, till they do
When a woman fed up, ain't nothing u can do or say
THIS IS TRUE!!
..Unless she using u, then she'll flip flop, & in that case u don't need her (or him)
Once the blinders are taken off your eyes by the narc, and you see what is revealed behind their deceit, you can never “unsee “ it. I got over him faster than a common cold 😊
That is truth. When ‘we’ are ‘done’, ‘NOTHING’ about him will phase us. ‘Nothing’.
Very true. I checked out sexually, then emotionally, next love, but when I mentally checked out, I woke up that morning and said boo I can't do it anymore."" It's been 8 years since then.
“Cancel Christmas!” 😂
😂😂😂
That was funny.😂😂😂
For real though 💯
Okaayyyy!! That HO HO HO turned into NO NO NO!! 😂😂😂😂
@@HandsofGlory1 😂 do y’all remember that reggae 🎶 song by dawn penn NO No No, you don’t love me and I know now. 😂 so true 👍🏽
I’ve finally reached this point-I’m just biding my time. We have our children, I’m going to stick this out to keep things stable for them because they deserve that much. But when they are gone, it’s a wrap. May these next 13 years fly.
Dang... SO TRUE!!!
Remind me of R Kelly song (when a Woman's Fed Up) BOY BYE!!!
This is definitely facts!!! First I mentality left, then I emotionally left, and finally I physically left. Once a woman does all three it’s a wrap. I’ve been broke up with my ex for almost a year after being in a relationship with him for 8 years. It is nothing that man can do or say to get me back.
Yep, when you've put up with stuff over and over with him and he's not changing, it's a done deal!
He knew he would never be able to come back when he asked “Do you hate me?” . I told him I don’t care enough about you to hate you, I’m indifferent. He walked away with what little pride he had and left me alone.
😂 ik them words hit him differently
😂😂😂
😂😂😂 I’m bout to use this
Well that's a blessing he walked. Mine still tried to propose to me and give me an engagement ring that didn't fit 🤦
Wow now I felt that 😬
Ooooooh brother preach!!!!!
Is not the easiest thing for a woman to do but the peace that comes with it is bittersweet
I’m soooo done that I believe I’ll be single my all life
Let the whole church say Amen!
The point of indifference now!! I've given many warnings ⚠️. Warning Comes Before Destruction!!
Before Creation comes destruction 🧬
Amen! Once a person is pushed too far. They are DONE! Man or woman.
I never wanted to check out. I wanted what we had. He let others influence him to give me the bare minimum, while I was giving him and the kids 1 million percent. I think that hurt the most. 😢
That is nothing but the truth! I did 30 years and then I couldn’t do it anymore. I walked away and never turned back, and my life has been so wonderful and full and I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you definitely told the truth on this!💯💜🙏👌🏾
Absolute truth. I remember that day I had had it up to here 💁🏽♀️ and he did that one more thing... I was done. Just had our 3rd child....
Yep, women we will emotionally leave before actually physically removing ourselves and just letting the loudness of the silence in our absence do what it needs to do! The healthy women will go on a journey of self-discovery, going completely no-contact to heal, and level up!
I wish I could know what that loudness od silence do to them...?
True....I checked out years before I removed my self and children physically after 12 years of marriage. What he did was questionable and unpardonable but I chose not to go low that but level up and let it go and let God! Once I did that there was no looking back. I haven't regretted it.
why didn't you end the relationship as soon as you checked out? what were you waiting for?
@@jonthomson9262 I removed my self and my children to safety first and then ended it forever after 12 years of being in abusive & controlling marriage
@@jonthomson9262 that's what I was thinking..... It's toxic as hell to waste someone's time knowing you are numb to their existence.
@@allme813 its actually illogical to keep sticking around a person you already know you don't want to be with,especially for that extended length of time........unless you are using that person for something.......or you are scared to be alone and you are just waiting for a better option to come along,which is still using them.
@@jonthomson9262 Exactly! In lesser words, it's just selfish.
I slowly stopped saying anything to him. It became meaningless conversations and we did nothing together ever. I had checked out but he still didn’t seem to care until I was physically gone🤷🏼♀️
She doesn't hate him. She loves him. She wants the best for him. Even if He didn't want to stay. She forgave Him and prays for Him to find peace, and for His Salvation. She doesn't have to look back though. She doesn't need any validation cause She knows that She is in the hands of the most High. The joy of the Lord is Her strength. She didn't check out. She checked Up, and Jesus saved her. There is no turning back.
This is so true cause I don't give a DAMN!!! Mentally I gave him back to God. It's nothing with me💯💯🎯 He's a enemy that I love from a distance. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I won't spend an ounce of my emotions on it I'm checked out. That narcissist was the worst experienced in my life. I'm unbothered & free🕊️
I’m probably older than most of you.But I’d like to say that at one time I hated my ex.And that hatred and anger was holding me down.So I prayed and asked God to remove the hatred out of my heart for him and he did. I ve learned to tolerate him but I’m happy being alone with my 2 kids But at the end of the relationship he call himself getting into the church.Too little too late.
May the church Say-Amen 😌
Okay this Brother right here is ordained with the ‘truth’. I hope he’s living it…
Same.
The last part be the main issue over time most show that they've done opposite so the words then hold less value
@@jaelenrandolph2030 if he's done the opposite, doesn't make the words any less impactful.
At that point now he hanging out over night with his "homegirl" too much....lying about where he at ...if he with her, when he See's her, he ain't touching me...calling her before me etc. I'm packing my shit now I deserve better. I would never do no shit like this to anyone so before shit gets crazy I'ma exit because men CANNOT HANDLE WHAT THEY DISH OUT✨
Yes, hunny. Please be careful. Some things just aren't worth it. You leaving and not being bothered will hurt him more than anything, but at the end of the day, don't concern yourself with anything other than healing and being healthy and happy once it's officially over. Remove everything and everyone who could be a distraction during your journey. Good luck! 💖💖
@@brwnserenity2351 Thank you so much for your encouraging words and support. It really means a lot Ma'am. That's what I'm doing focusing on me and our kids...my goals and dreams so I can be a better person for myself and kids first. I'm about to sign up for culinary school Monday and start working again. Much love🥰🙏🏾✨
@Olivia Griffin That's amazing! It makes me so happy to know that you have a plan/goals for yourself. I'm so excited for you and your children! I know that you're going to do so well! Be blessed! 🥰❤️
@@brwnserenity2351 Great advice! Be safe Ms. Griffin
No they cannot!
I woke up indifferently today!!! And I'm so thankful for it!!
Amen hallelujah 💞💞💋💞💋🙏🙏🙏💖🙏🙏🙏💖❤️💕😘💕🙏🙏💖❤️💕🙏🙏🙏🙏💖❤️💕😘💕😘🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 he Will always be with the one and only can't stop won't stop 🛑🛑🛑💪🔥🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑💪🔥💪🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑💪🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑🛑
That’s how my boyfriend was. He was always saying u talk so nice to ur ex (kids dad) but then will argue with me. Why u don’t argue with him. I told him, cuz he can’t get me mad and upset anymore. I’m not letting him get that pleasure of upsetting me. I don’t have to see him. But with you, I see you everyday so yes, if u yelling at me and saying crazy stuff (boyfriend was a narcissist btw) I’ll take it easy on you, but I will argue back because I care & get emotional. I had to walk away, it was too much on a daily basis - now he gets that version of me who he can’t make upset. I no longer care
Facts!!!! Indifference means no love, like, nothing is there for you at all!!! Empty!!! Y'all better listen to this man!!
I kept warning him that he was going to lose all access to me. Now...he can't come around or talk to me at all. I blocked all access...and he still don't get it.
That's what I keep trying to figure out like how did you picture this working out? Did you think how this was going to play out long-term? We're either are or are NOT! There are no in-betweens. Take a good look because this is what moving on looks like. Understand clearly, it doesn't mean we're enemies but it also doesn't mean we're friends. You know what you lost and you know what you let go of. Periodt. And just in case you forgot I LEFT!
it feels good doesn’t it!!!! walking away and them chasing lol
You better let them know! These men think it’s a game out here. Just like you thought I was cute…someone else thinks I’m cute too. I have talked, cried, written letters, and accepted a whole lot of stuff I should have never accepted. All bc I loved him. No more! Im done. There’s nothing else to even talk about. Not even mad. I just want to be left alone.
Strong facts. It's taken me 22 years to finally hear the truth about why I feel the way I feel towards past relationships.
When she is indifferent, that means no more love. When she hate you, that means the love she had has turned into hate. Your really lost their too. When she hates you, her love is burning out. Then it became indifferent ❤
Wow. Well said.
“Cancel Christmas” got me🙋🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣 that’s facts!
LADIES WOMEN OUT THERE PLEASE TELL THE MAN YOUR DONE AND DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ANY LONGER DONE IS DONE ITS LIKE FORGIVENESS YOU DONT DO IT FOR THEM BUT FOR YOU AFTER 3 WARNINGS I THINK IT WONT WORK ANYMORE JUST SAY IT WITH BOLDNESS NO FEAR AND CONFIDENCE AND KINDNESS ITS OVER AND WALK AWAY IN PEACE WITH PEACE ,TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS TO PUT GOD FIRST LOVE THEMSELVES MARRY THEMSELVES AND THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME IN TO STAY FOR A LIFETIME AND DONT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS YEARS BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN MUST DO BETTER THAN US AND KNOW IT SOONER THAN WE KNEW WE BECOME THE LEADER AFTER LEARNING
Some may get violent. Stay silent. Plan. Leave.
@@24goodbuddy TRUE THATS WHY WE SPEAK TO GOD FIRST AND HE GIVES THE INSTRUCTIONS ON WHAT WE SHOULD AND SHOULD NOT DO ITS IMPORTANT TO PRAY AND MOVE IN SILENT
The opposite of love is not hate; it is indifference.
I don't hate anyone. Single ready to mingle.
For those Still Mingling.......
👍"💓GOD💓"👍 BLESS! You to Unite
With the one 👍"💓GOD💓"👍 CHOSE
FOR You! 👍💓😊💓👍
(With 👍"💓GOD'S💓"👍 Marital Purpose)
IN 👍"💓JESUS💓"👍 GLORIFIED
MIGHTY NAME 👍💓🤗💓👍
👍"💓AMEN!!!💓"👍
👍🙏💓🤗💓🙏👍
The point of NO RETURN, and he can only blame himself. Our love doesn't change, unless he changes it. Once the switch is flipped OFF there is no flipping it back on.
When a woman disconnects from your family.. and just send the kids and stay at no functions .. and when you drop them off and you just see the hand open the screen door and door closes.. she been checked out.
NOT THE HAND AT THE SCREEN DOOR! 😂FACTS! ME ALL DAY!
NOT THE HAND AT THE SCREEN DOOR!😂 FACTS! ME ALL DAY!
That's a scary place to be because what follows next is her physical departure. I know for me, if I'm fighting hard for the relationship, I'm still in, but when I don't care anymore....that's it. It's over and I'm not looking back.
If he is disrespecting you in anyway shape or form. Check out sooner than later. It gets worse not better. And resntment towards all men grows subconciously. After years of abuse.....i fought for my husband till the indifference kicked in. I took my 2yr old son and left him with the clothes on our backs. I had no fight left for him. Its been 20 years and I really try, but I dtill cant trust a man. Dont become like me. Leave before he totally anialates and your trust for me. God Bless. Thinking of U xxx
And I STAND on that.
This is spot on. I never thought I would feel like this with my ex. The feelings just changed. Can never turn back
When a woman leaves for herself SHE WONT BE BACK🎉
Indifferent. Yes! Feeling nothingness, not love or hate is a CLEAR indicator that someone is done.
Fellas this is jewels...I leave and never look back becuz I fought hard for us before I let go forever ❤❤💯🙏🏾
COME ON CANCEL CHRISTMAS!!!! Thank you brother. ❤❤❤❤❤
So true.
I’m currently going thru this right now. Having kids wit that person doesn’t help. He tries to do whatever to get bck into my good graces but I jus dnt feel the same anymore. I kind of hate it bc we hve so much history. Thru out our course of time I was able to forgive so much. I dnt quite understand the difference now? I think it’s bc he made me not like me, it’s not a good feelin. I love & care for him, wish him nothing but the best. But I really jus want to co-parent in peace, responsibly w/o the drama.
I really feel our time is ov’r & it’s ok. ❤
I was in the same situation once you make me doubt myself or look at myself differently I’m done I love me to much I just put my guy out February 13th the day before Valentine’s Day and I’ve been at peace a little sad 22 years gone but I have peace!!
Absolutely. To this date, when I'm done I don't know how to turn on my turn off switch. I take it as a lesson learned and keep moving.
Riiiight. It's like the switch handle broke when you turned off🤷🏽♀️
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Ladies hugs from afar.❤
Better days are ahead keep your head up.
Keep on keeping on.
They had many opportunities do right by us. ❤🙏🏾
God will provide.❤🙏🏾
Detail prayers can move mountains.
Exactly once i’m checked out it’s no more turning back… Once a woman stop texting, stop arguing, and repeating herself it’s completely over
No spinning BLOCKS BIG VIRGO!!!💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I have always said if I'm still fussing and nagging. That means I still care. But the moment I go silent, I have checked out. And that's ANY type of relationship. Not just with a S/O.
Ooooweee! Tell it! I just went no Contact- after a month of him calling & texting to get back, I suddenly started seeing him for the liar & manipulator he was- it took me stepping away… and NOW- I careless, who he screws, where he goes, what he does- I checked out & moved on- Thank You- Next✔️😉