Yip thats the truth. Your body soul and Spirit actually protecs U from anymore darkness and evilness from entering into your life and doing anymore damage. God decides. No more pain for my child. Leave her NOW in Jesus name xxx
Yesss.. I literally loved my ex soooo much I always wanted him, then when he was talking/having sex with other ppl I literally had to force myself to sleep with him & I never felt or looked at him the same way. I held onto him for 1.5 yrs, trying to feel the way I did before about him but it was over way before I even left.
I was told in my younger years "As long as he can still make you cry, you're not done. The minute he does something that should hurt you and you feel nothing, that's when you know you're done." It was completely true.
It should never get to the point that she’s so disgusted by you that she checks out. What’s happened to you men? Just be stand up men who can provide for a wife and family without struggle and you’ll be good. All the other races figure out how to be accomplished men so you can too. Stop making simple things hard by being lazy and lacking initiative. Make responsible education and/or business decisions that set you up for future success, BE that man, then choose a wife. You’re literally NOT qualified to date a good women IF you’re out here earning low wages, no plans or purpose, and taking no steps to become Head of your own Household and family one day.
@@stormyweather4898 Negative. Everyone isn't codependent. There are people, men and women, who can truly be alone - without human crutches. A person who can't stand in their pain and heal, alone, isn't a viable option, imho. That's someone who requires a lot of emotional support. 🚩Rebounding only creates more baggage.
Yep, women we will emotionally leave before actually physically removing ourselves and just letting the loudness of the silence in our absence do what it needs to do! The healthy women will go on a journey of self-discovery, going completely no-contact to heal, and level up!
Some men think when we’re fussing and nagging them because we’re being mean and bitter but it actually means we care enough to constantly try to talk and tell u what’s the problem and they don’t get it but once we’re silent just know it’s a wrap we no longer care to express anything
How about communicate like an adult instead of fussing and nagging and being mean and bitter. Last chick I was with thought I didn’t care about her issues because I refused to discuss them if she did not come respectfully and under control. Why do we have to put up with that? Then you want to accuse a dude of not caring when you didn’t try to address your problems like a mature woman would.
@@bruceleroy5585 well majority of women’s fussing comes from her partners poor ability to communicate that’s a Big problem in relationships too many adults don’t know how to communicate
@@MsSN518 someone else’s poor communication should not justify me to act a fool. We should always have self control and be in control of how we react. Sounds like justifying bad behavior.
This is where I am now. Took 14 years. Married 20 years this year. First 6 years, I didn't see the issues as issues but as challenges that every couple face, no one is perfect etc. 14 years of crying, going to therapy to work on myself, so could be better for him and our kids. I still believed in him through it all. Think it was last year that I finally checked out emotionally. I am in a lot of pain today but not about him. I finally feel like I know what I want. I would like a companion. A strong, steady mature man. A loving, firm, fair and gentle leader. I went to therapy to fix me for him, but I am becoming whole for me.
I must agree 100%. We check out mentally, we tell our family and friends how we're being treated, getting second opinions, and invisioning life without this person. Lastly, we wish them the best on their journey away from us.
A man gets to a point where he disgusts you....like the very essence of him being alive is repugnant...no matter how much he's changed....he's a being she just wants to act like she never met🙏🏼💕
Yes! That was me, cheated on repeatedly and I stayed in the marriage for 8 years before I finally chose to leave. I've been single for 2 and a half years so no, nobody else was in my mind when I chose to leave.
I lost the best thing i ever had and its all my fault.I wish i could go back in time and did better but i guess i didnt see her for who she really is .Now i m lost and dead inside knowing i can never get another chance 😢
@niongg8042 so you were using her as God or to make yourself feel like one? I hope you learn what God really is and get in alignment so you're not "broken" over your own actions. It's ok to let go now and keep living.
What about when they give no warnings? What if she was telling you she loves you every single day for months and never broke her routines, spoke about future plans + more children and then one day says I feel indifferent about us! What does that say?
Ooooooh brother preach!!!!! Is not the easiest thing for a woman to do but the peace that comes with it is bittersweet I’m soooo done that I believe I’ll be single my all life
This young brother gets it, so true. We women, when we truly love you-- will give you a ton of chances. But when we reach the point of DONE, we DONE!!!
” You need to worry when I stop asking for communication and common ground. When I don’t get emotional and passionate about us, it’s too late.” That time came and went now I could care less, nothing he says phases me. At this point we’ve already gone thru the grieving process by ourselves, we are out of emotions and numb to it. You can parade your new girl in front of us and get nothing but a sigh dismissal.
Cus we know the new girl going to eventually go through the same shit that we went through. If not worse!!!! No!!! The new girlfriend can keep my old trash. I'll keep keeping on walking!!!🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
That is nothing but the truth! I did 30 years and then I couldn’t do it anymore. I walked away and never turned back, and my life has been so wonderful and full and I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you definitely told the truth on this!💯💜🙏👌🏾
There’s no flipping the switch back. It’s done and they never see it coming bc they think you’ll just keep taking it until the day you don’t and they are shocked.
So true, I gave warnings in ways like expressing how I feel, asking for what I need, it was constantly ignored until I just got too hurt and emotionally exhausted to try anymore, I cried a few days and then I was at peace
Yes years of me repeating the same sh!t over and over and having it disregarded. That's what's so pathetic and sad is that it's not like we give them a few weeks, I gave this mf a few years and his dumb ass still didn't get it so bye. 🙄
This is so true cause I don't give a DAMN!!! Mentally I gave him back to God. It's nothing with me💯💯🎯 He's a enemy that I love from a distance. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I won't spend an ounce of my emotions on it I'm checked out. That narcissist was the worst experienced in my life. I'm unbothered & free🕊️
I told my ex husband if I ever get to the point I am no longer communicating about anything other than bills, it's no turning back. Needless to say he didn't believe me, until he did. 😏
When a man avoids issues its a wrap. To make light conversation when I'm confused?? How can you VALUE me without acknowledging MY WORTH.. I'm Done-Done ✔
Exactly they’ll sweep it under the rug then next time it’s bigger, keep handling issues that passive way until it festers. Like Hello? We have a problem here can we discuss a solution? He can’t 😮
So True! At that point she’s gotten tired of ALL of your B S, your neglecting her feelings and not being mindful of the words you say to her. She’s Just done and the planning to leave begins.
Once the blinders are taken off your eyes by the narc, and you see what is revealed behind their deceit, you can never “unsee “ it. I got over him faster than a common cold 😊
This is definitely facts!!! First I mentality left, then I emotionally left, and finally I physically left. Once a woman does all three it’s a wrap. I’ve been broke up with my ex for almost a year after being in a relationship with him for 8 years. It is nothing that man can do or say to get me back.
Idk why some men love to put us in a situation where we hate them. It's bs. Inmature. It hurts, man. Why don't you all get it? Why push our limits like that??
Right, Sis!! I'm not hating anyone. It conflicts with my divine nature. I'll hit him with the "oh you're one of thooose" real quick ✌🏽😂 Some men loathe themselves so much that they have to create that same truth for any woman that crosses their path. It's not personal, it's them.
I partially agree with what this gentleman praise. For example I feel very uncomfortable in fights, I much rather say kindly and firmly I don't like something. You do it again, I forgive. You keep doing it, I am emotionally out. I don't understand much the pushing limits side. Do the have so much hormones/energy to spare? Because if I have to keep fighting for simple concepts and respect, it's a no. No matter the man love for arguing.
He knew he would never be able to come back when he asked “Do you hate me?” . I told him I don’t care enough about you to hate you, I’m indifferent. He walked away with what little pride he had and left me alone.
You better let them know! These men think it’s a game out here. Just like you thought I was cute…someone else thinks I’m cute too. I have talked, cried, written letters, and accepted a whole lot of stuff I should have never accepted. All bc I loved him. No more! Im done. There’s nothing else to even talk about. Not even mad. I just want to be left alone.
Them being done is not always a bad thing when one door closes another one opens just have self confidence and think highly of yourself because the that’s only a chapter continue the book stay strong my brothers!
Very true. I checked out sexually, then emotionally, next love, but when I mentally checked out, I woke up that morning and said boo I can't do it anymore."" It's been 8 years since then.
True....I checked out years before I removed my self and children physically after 12 years of marriage. What he did was questionable and unpardonable but I chose not to go low that but level up and let it go and let God! Once I did that there was no looking back. I haven't regretted it.
@@allme813 its actually illogical to keep sticking around a person you already know you don't want to be with,especially for that extended length of time........unless you are using that person for something.......or you are scared to be alone and you are just waiting for a better option to come along,which is still using them.
At that point now he hanging out over night with his "homegirl" too much....lying about where he at ...if he with her, when he See's her, he ain't touching me...calling her before me etc. I'm packing my shit now I deserve better. I would never do no shit like this to anyone so before shit gets crazy I'ma exit because men CANNOT HANDLE WHAT THEY DISH OUT✨
Yes, hunny. Please be careful. Some things just aren't worth it. You leaving and not being bothered will hurt him more than anything, but at the end of the day, don't concern yourself with anything other than healing and being healthy and happy once it's officially over. Remove everything and everyone who could be a distraction during your journey. Good luck! 💖💖
@@brwnserenity2351 Thank you so much for your encouraging words and support. It really means a lot Ma'am. That's what I'm doing focusing on me and our kids...my goals and dreams so I can be a better person for myself and kids first. I'm about to sign up for culinary school Monday and start working again. Much love🥰🙏🏾✨
@Olivia Griffin That's amazing! It makes me so happy to know that you have a plan/goals for yourself. I'm so excited for you and your children! I know that you're going to do so well! Be blessed! 🥰❤️
I slowly stopped saying anything to him. It became meaningless conversations and we did nothing together ever. I had checked out but he still didn’t seem to care until I was physically gone🤷🏼♀️
This happened to me. Is was like a light switching off. He did one thing and after all the other things, and I simply had enough. We were together for about 4/5 years. That day I erased every last bit of him from my life. Deleted messages, threw out his stuff, gifts he had given me, erased every photo and blocked his number. Wouldn’t answer the door when he came around. I was DONE!! I didn’t care to talk, I was no longer interested. Eventually he got the message and gave up. I never saw him again. It’s been over 10 years now. Best thing I ever did.
I never wanted to check out. I wanted what we had. He let others influence him to give me the bare minimum, while I was giving him and the kids 1 million percent. I think that hurt the most. 😢
LADIES WOMEN OUT THERE PLEASE TELL THE MAN YOUR DONE AND DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ANY LONGER DONE IS DONE ITS LIKE FORGIVENESS YOU DONT DO IT FOR THEM BUT FOR YOU AFTER 3 WARNINGS I THINK IT WONT WORK ANYMORE JUST SAY IT WITH BOLDNESS NO FEAR AND CONFIDENCE AND KINDNESS ITS OVER AND WALK AWAY IN PEACE WITH PEACE ,TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS TO PUT GOD FIRST LOVE THEMSELVES MARRY THEMSELVES AND THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME IN TO STAY FOR A LIFETIME AND DONT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS YEARS BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN MUST DO BETTER THAN US AND KNOW IT SOONER THAN WE KNEW WE BECOME THE LEADER AFTER LEARNING
I’m probably older than most of you.But I’d like to say that at one time I hated my ex.And that hatred and anger was holding me down.So I prayed and asked God to remove the hatred out of my heart for him and he did. I ve learned to tolerate him but I’m happy being alone with my 2 kids But at the end of the relationship he call himself getting into the church.Too little too late.
So true. I’m currently going thru this right now. Having kids wit that person doesn’t help. He tries to do whatever to get bck into my good graces but I jus dnt feel the same anymore. I kind of hate it bc we hve so much history. Thru out our course of time I was able to forgive so much. I dnt quite understand the difference now? I think it’s bc he made me not like me, it’s not a good feelin. I love & care for him, wish him nothing but the best. But I really jus want to co-parent in peace, responsibly w/o the drama. I really feel our time is ov’r & it’s ok. ❤
I was in the same situation once you make me doubt myself or look at myself differently I’m done I love me to much I just put my guy out February 13th the day before Valentine’s Day and I’ve been at peace a little sad 22 years gone but I have peace!!
Ain't this "THE TRUTH!" It goes both ways though...enough is enough! No hard feelings, life's changed, we just got to move on. Enjoy your life! Enjoy your peace! 💨❤🕊️
Speaking true facts 💯👌 that’s how it was with my ex husband it’s only so much we can take especially when you give your all to a person and for them to cheat cheat cheat different women a lot of outside kids while you married then wants to physically and emotionally abuse you yes I was done and I walked away straighten up my crown I’m so glad I did because I wouldn’t be here today had I stayed love don’t hurt the man I’m with now it’s been 25 years we been together never married raised our kids together and we still going strong 💪🏾 💕so you most definitely can find love after the pain 💯💯💕💕🙏🏾🙏🏾
I kept warning him that he was going to lose all access to me. Now...he can't come around or talk to me at all. I blocked all access...and he still don't get it.
That's what I keep trying to figure out like how did you picture this working out? Did you think how this was going to play out long-term? We're either are or are NOT! There are no in-betweens. Take a good look because this is what moving on looks like. Understand clearly, it doesn't mean we're enemies but it also doesn't mean we're friends. You know what you lost and you know what you let go of. Periodt. And just in case you forgot I LEFT!
The point of NO RETURN, and he can only blame himself. Our love doesn't change, unless he changes it. Once the switch is flipped OFF there is no flipping it back on.
I stopped everything! Talking, repeating myself, caring ....I was mentally gone and then physically. Tell em again!!!!
That Part
Yip thats the truth. Your body soul and Spirit actually protecs U from anymore darkness and evilness from entering into your life and doing anymore damage. God decides. No more pain for my child. Leave her NOW in Jesus name xxx
Me
Huh… yup!
Yup
When you look at them in disgust and sex is gross.. you definitely done. ✌🏽
Yesssssss!!!
😂 facts
Yes Lawd!!! This is exactly how I knew I couldn't be with my ex-husband
Yesss!! Or just the thought of sex with them!
Yesss.. I literally loved my ex soooo much I always wanted him, then when he was talking/having sex with other ppl I literally had to force myself to sleep with him & I never felt or looked at him the same way. I held onto him for 1.5 yrs, trying to feel the way I did before about him but it was over way before I even left.
I was told in my younger years "As long as he can still make you cry, you're not done. The minute he does something that should hurt you and you feel nothing, that's when you know you're done."
It was completely true.
I can dig that tho
man that’s real
Yep...Facts on 🔥🔥🔥
It should never get to the point that she’s so disgusted by you that she checks out. What’s happened to you men? Just be stand up men who can provide for a wife and family without struggle and you’ll be good. All the other races figure out how to be accomplished men so you can too. Stop making simple things hard by being lazy and lacking initiative. Make responsible education and/or business decisions that set you up for future success, BE that man, then choose a wife. You’re literally NOT qualified to date a good women IF you’re out here earning low wages, no plans or purpose, and taking no steps to become Head of your own Household and family one day.
Sounds like trauma bond
When a woman is silent and no longer addressing the issues, she’s done.
The opposite of love isn't hate but INDIFFERENCE 🙌🏾
Yes, indifference also means she has someone else.
@@stormyweather4898no it doesn’t.
The opposite of love is FEAR.
@@stormyweather4898 that someone is herself. That's the part men mess up. She chose her 🌹
@@stormyweather4898 Negative. Everyone isn't codependent. There are people, men and women, who can truly be alone - without human crutches. A person who can't stand in their pain and heal, alone, isn't a viable option, imho. That's someone who requires a lot of emotional support. 🚩Rebounding only creates more baggage.
When you'd rather be solo than with him ✌🏽💙
Whew chile!! When being solo brings more peace than being with him. When you could careless what ppl gotta say
@donnajeffreys...it happened to me. I love the peace!
@@lyndapeoples8127me too 💙
@@missmarymack3457 yes indeed
A man's indifference will foster a woman's indifference. If he shows that he genuinely doesn't care, eventually she won't either.
Let the church say amen 🙏🏽
Speaking truth right here!! Been there
This!
Right
I’m right there.
Its painful leaving behind the man you wanted to be with forever but wow, this is so true. 😔💔
When they kill the love and feelings you had for them, you’re totally done
Absolutely bc THEY KILLED IT.
it was just his turn.....time to let the next man have his turn? right ladies? lol 😂
@@jonthomson9262 I take it you don't believe a man can ever do anything wrong in a relationship?
@@nitaw.498 He’s gay. Don’t pay him no mind
And they won’t stop until the feelings are DEAD or until you leave first.
When a woman is unbothered, it’s a wrap. Period.
Yup
Yep, women we will emotionally leave before actually physically removing ourselves and just letting the loudness of the silence in our absence do what it needs to do! The healthy women will go on a journey of self-discovery, going completely no-contact to heal, and level up!
I wish I could know what that loudness od silence do to them...?
“When a woman’s fed up, there ain’t nothing you can do about it”.
Some men think when we’re fussing and nagging them because we’re being mean and bitter but it actually means we care enough to constantly try to talk and tell u what’s the problem and they don’t get it but once we’re silent just know it’s a wrap we no longer care to express anything
How about communicate like an adult instead of fussing and nagging and being mean and bitter. Last chick I was with thought I didn’t care about her issues because I refused to discuss them if she did not come respectfully and under control. Why do we have to put up with that? Then you want to accuse a dude of not caring when you didn’t try to address your problems like a mature woman would.
@@bruceleroy5585 well majority of women’s fussing comes from her partners poor ability to communicate that’s a Big problem in relationships too many adults don’t know how to communicate
@Bruce Leroy right!!! All that damn yapping and yelling....
Sometimes we been gone mentally before yall
@@MsSN518 someone else’s poor communication should not justify me to act a fool. We should always have self control and be in control of how we react. Sounds like justifying bad behavior.
@Bruce Leroy what bad behavior was the fussing about?
This is where I am now. Took 14 years. Married 20 years this year. First 6 years, I didn't see the issues as issues but as challenges that every couple face, no one is perfect etc. 14 years of crying, going to therapy to work on myself, so could be better for him and our kids. I still believed in him through it all. Think it was last year that I finally checked out emotionally.
I am in a lot of pain today but not about him. I finally feel like I know what I want. I would like a companion. A strong, steady mature man. A loving, firm, fair and gentle leader. I went to therapy to fix me for him, but I am becoming whole for me.
That’s a beautiful testimony! Said a prayer for ya! Wishing you the best!
After seeking therapy, what do you think is the root issue of your marriage issues? And your husband’s behavior towards you?
Listen to "Never would've made it " by Teona Taylor
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I feel this 100%. I went through hell and back....lost everything but I found myself❤ God and Divine helps me every step of the way!
I must agree 100%. We check out mentally, we tell our family and friends how we're being treated, getting second opinions, and invisioning life without this person. Lastly, we wish them the best on their journey away from us.
A man gets to a point where he disgusts you....like the very essence of him being alive is repugnant...no matter how much he's changed....he's a being she just wants to act like she never met🙏🏼💕
When the feelings are no longer involved & you are no longer bothered✌🏾!
FACTS and I'm so grateful for my indifference to foolishness!!! Remain unbothered ladies😉
Amen!!!❤
Facts
YES, INDEED THEY WILL CONTINUE LIVING!
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It hurts their soul on a whole other level when you literally give ZERO f's. They'll try all kinds of tactics to get you to act out of character.
Fellas this is jewels...I leave and never look back becuz I fought hard for us before I let go forever ❤❤💯🙏🏾
Absolute truth. I remember that day I had had it up to here 💁🏽♀️ and he did that one more thing... I was done. Just had our 3rd child....
“When a womens fed uppppp, there ain’t nothing you can do about it”
Nothing!!!
Not a damn thing!
I'm trying to tell ya!!! 💯
Na na na, na na na na💃🏽
It's like running out of luck, and it's too late to talk about it!
Usually she has given him chance, after chance, after chance before she gets there...so she knows it's time to go.
No she has someone else she has in mind! Yall never tell the truth
Yes! That was me, cheated on repeatedly and I stayed in the marriage for 8 years before I finally chose to leave. I've been single for 2 and a half years so no, nobody else was in my mind when I chose to leave.
I lost the best thing i ever had and its all my fault.I wish i could go back in time and did better but i guess i didnt see her for who she really is .Now i m lost and dead inside knowing i can never get another chance 😢
@@GeeWay73yes, and that person is ourselves. We choose Ourselves over you and your bs.
@niongg8042 so you were using her as God or to make yourself feel like one? I hope you learn what God really is and get in alignment so you're not "broken" over your own actions. It's ok to let go now and keep living.
We give warnings but when we’re over it we’re over it no goin back
What about when they give no warnings? What if she was telling you she loves you every single day for months and never broke her routines, spoke about future plans + more children and then one day says I feel indifferent about us! What does that say?
Indifference = That's between you and the Lord. I'm good!
Women can be colder than men …when we are done with you, we are done!
Real talk
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Me asf he came back on his knees and I was like nope, 5 years im done .
This should be a damn commercial!! Maybe even on the ESPN channel 😅
REPEAT, REPEAT!
Right😂😂😂😂
😂😂💯💯💯💯💯👏👏👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥
😂😂😂
They still wouldn’t get it 😂
🙌🏽😂😂
I woke up indifferently today...I'm done. Cancel all the holidays...
Ooooooh brother preach!!!!!
Is not the easiest thing for a woman to do but the peace that comes with it is bittersweet
I’m soooo done that I believe I’ll be single my all life
This young brother gets it, so true. We women, when we truly love you-- will give you a ton of chances. But when we reach the point of DONE, we DONE!!!
Absolutely, finished with you! Next!
@@patricialytch4892 next?...ewwww
@@eltonjohn4239 eewwww you!! What type of response is that?? How old are we😂😂
So DONE ☑️ OUT TIME✌🏾💪💯
@@eltonjohn4239you want people to not find another partner? Delusional😭
” You need to worry when I stop asking for communication and common ground. When I don’t get emotional and passionate about us, it’s too late.” That time came and went now I could care less, nothing he says phases me. At this point we’ve already gone thru the grieving process by ourselves, we are out of emotions and numb to it. You can parade your new girl in front of us and get nothing but a sigh dismissal.
Cus we know the new girl going to eventually go through the same shit that we went through. If not worse!!!!
No!!! The new girlfriend can keep my old trash.
I'll keep keeping on walking!!!🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
Beautifully said!
In a nutshell!
This is the truth. We have completed the entire grieving process...so they might as well be dead
Stick a fork in it DONE!!✌🏾
That is nothing but the truth! I did 30 years and then I couldn’t do it anymore. I walked away and never turned back, and my life has been so wonderful and full and I’m happier than I’ve ever been and you definitely told the truth on this!💯💜🙏👌🏾
Let the whole church say Amen!
This young man is preaching!
There’s no flipping the switch back. It’s done and they never see it coming bc they think you’ll just keep taking it until the day you don’t and they are shocked.
Ain't that SAD just think u wanna keep being a Doormat........At some point he/she will wake up and leave the madness ALONE.
So true, I gave warnings in ways like expressing how I feel, asking for what I need, it was constantly ignored until I just got too hurt and emotionally exhausted to try anymore, I cried a few days and then I was at peace
True, after she gives her best. If you hurt, insult , embarrass her make her wait. Judge her bully her. That's it...I m gone!
When she don’t give a shit no more that’s dangerous💯🔥🙌🏾
This is so true…. When we checked out, we are out 🏃♀️
So true 😂
☑️😂out Time
Crazy part is she didn’t get there overnight. It took years. And dudes be expecting 1 or 2 weeks of good behavior to erase it all.
🙄Just go!!!
Yes years of me repeating the same sh!t over and over and having it disregarded. That's what's so pathetic and sad is that it's not like we give them a few weeks, I gave this mf a few years and his dumb ass still didn't get it so bye. 🙄
Yes it took mee years to get there...chance after chance 😢. When nothing works you just have to leave for your sanity
U nailed it ❤
Me right now…moving in silence…there’s no coming back from the emotional and verbal abuse this time.
This is so true cause I don't give a DAMN!!! Mentally I gave him back to God. It's nothing with me💯💯🎯 He's a enemy that I love from a distance. I don't hate him, I forgive him but I won't spend an ounce of my emotions on it I'm checked out. That narcissist was the worst experienced in my life. I'm unbothered & free🕊️
I told my ex husband if I ever get to the point I am no longer communicating about anything other than bills, it's no turning back. Needless to say he didn't believe me, until he did. 😏
Same
😂😂😂😂
Exactly, till they do
He's absolutely right and that's a beautiful point to get to. You just don't care! You really are free!
Yup
True 👍🏽
Jesus🙌🙌🙌🙌
I just typed something similar before scrolling to your comment. You are on point.
Yes because the feeling is numb u just can't get it back no matter how much u dig down
So true, indifference is the deathnell of a relationship.
This is so True...being alone is better than staying with someone half hearted into too you.
When a man avoids issues its a wrap. To make light conversation when I'm confused?? How can you VALUE me without acknowledging MY WORTH.. I'm Done-Done ✔
Damn. Mic drop. Perfectly said
Exactly they’ll sweep it under the rug then next time it’s bigger, keep handling issues that passive way until it festers. Like Hello? We have a problem here can we discuss a solution? He can’t 😮
yes exactly
This is it 🙌🏻
I feel as though men are problems solvers so if he’s avoiding issues that’s always been a concern for me too 🤷🏾♀️
When a woman leaves for herself SHE WONT BE BACK🎉
This young man is a wise man.
I can 💯 identify! When I’m reserved, it’s because I’m DONE!💨 I love this podcast!❤️🩹
...and just know: it's not always because of another ninja; it's because we finally found PEACE, and we won't jeopardize it for ANYONE‼️
Facts!!!!! Peace is the key word!!!
@@jamiemariejo3582, IIIIIIIIIIIIIS...‼️😎💅
So True! At that point she’s gotten tired of ALL of your B S, your neglecting her feelings and not being mindful of the words you say to her. She’s Just done and the planning to leave begins.
Most women don’t just leave. Some men just don’t listen.
Once the blinders are taken off your eyes by the narc, and you see what is revealed behind their deceit, you can never “unsee “ it. I got over him faster than a common cold 😊
That's what I told his ass when he was blowing up my phone early this morning at the crack wanting to talk bout feelings and whatnot. Boy bye! ✌🏿
That is truth. When ‘we’ are ‘done’, ‘NOTHING’ about him will phase us. ‘Nothing’.
Strong facts. It's taken me 22 years to finally hear the truth about why I feel the way I feel towards past relationships.
Yep, that’s right. When it’s done, it’s done!
Amen! Once a person is pushed too far. They are DONE! Man or woman.
This is definitely facts!!! First I mentality left, then I emotionally left, and finally I physically left. Once a woman does all three it’s a wrap. I’ve been broke up with my ex for almost a year after being in a relationship with him for 8 years. It is nothing that man can do or say to get me back.
Hell yeah!!!! Stay focused fellas!!! I learned the hard way.
That's right. When I'm done I'm done. Talking arguing thats energy. When you done they get ZERO energy.
The point of indifference now!! I've given many warnings ⚠️. Warning Comes Before Destruction!!
Before Creation comes destruction 🧬
Idk why some men love to put us in a situation where we hate them. It's bs. Inmature. It hurts, man. Why don't you all get it? Why push our limits like that??
The word is " broken" aka " toxic"
Right, Sis!!
I'm not hating anyone. It conflicts with my divine nature. I'll hit him with the "oh you're one of thooose" real quick ✌🏽😂
Some men loathe themselves so much that they have to create that same truth for any woman that crosses their path. It's not personal, it's them.
I partially agree with what this gentleman praise. For example I feel very uncomfortable in fights, I much rather say kindly and firmly I don't like something. You do it again, I forgive. You keep doing it, I am emotionally out. I don't understand much the pushing limits side. Do the have so much hormones/energy to spare? Because if I have to keep fighting for simple concepts and respect, it's a no. No matter the man love for arguing.
Good, now that man can save some money.... maybe enough money to leave this country!!!!
That is so true. When we stop caring, it's over fr
He knew he would never be able to come back when he asked “Do you hate me?” . I told him I don’t care enough about you to hate you, I’m indifferent. He walked away with what little pride he had and left me alone.
😂 ik them words hit him differently
😂😂😂
😂😂😂 I’m bout to use this
“Cancel Christmas!” 😂
😂😂😂
That was funny.😂😂😂
For real though 💯
Okaayyyy!! That HO HO HO turned into NO NO NO!! 😂😂😂😂
@@HandsofGlory1 😂 do y’all remember that reggae 🎶 song by dawn penn NO No No, you don’t love me and I know now. 😂 so true 👍🏽
This is correct. Especially if the response is Okay.
You better let them know! These men think it’s a game out here. Just like you thought I was cute…someone else thinks I’m cute too. I have talked, cried, written letters, and accepted a whole lot of stuff I should have never accepted. All bc I loved him. No more! Im done. There’s nothing else to even talk about. Not even mad. I just want to be left alone.
When a woman fed up, ain't nothing u can do or say
Yep, when you've put up with stuff over and over with him and he's not changing, it's a done deal!
When EVERYTHING stops 💯🤔😳 and it’s silence 👍🏾I’m done
Them being done is not always a bad thing when one door closes another one opens just have self confidence and think highly of yourself because the that’s only a chapter continue the book stay strong my brothers!
Very true. I checked out sexually, then emotionally, next love, but when I mentally checked out, I woke up that morning and said boo I can't do it anymore."" It's been 8 years since then.
Okay this Brother right here is ordained with the ‘truth’. I hope he’s living it…
Same.
The last part be the main issue over time most show that they've done opposite so the words then hold less value
@@jaelenrandolph2030 if he's done the opposite, doesn't make the words any less impactful.
Dang... SO TRUE!!!
Remind me of R Kelly song (when a Woman's Fed Up) BOY BYE!!!
No spinning BLOCKS BIG VIRGO!!!💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
True....I checked out years before I removed my self and children physically after 12 years of marriage. What he did was questionable and unpardonable but I chose not to go low that but level up and let it go and let God! Once I did that there was no looking back. I haven't regretted it.
why didn't you end the relationship as soon as you checked out? what were you waiting for?
@@jonthomson9262 I removed my self and my children to safety first and then ended it forever after 12 years of being in abusive & controlling marriage
@@jonthomson9262 that's what I was thinking..... It's toxic as hell to waste someone's time knowing you are numb to their existence.
@@allme813 its actually illogical to keep sticking around a person you already know you don't want to be with,especially for that extended length of time........unless you are using that person for something.......or you are scared to be alone and you are just waiting for a better option to come along,which is still using them.
@@jonthomson9262 Exactly! In lesser words, it's just selfish.
Facts!!!! Indifference means no love, like, nothing is there for you at all!!! Empty!!! Y'all better listen to this man!!
My word this is so so true...When shes done its truly over...We have to be careful too. Sometimes he won't accept it and will try to hurt you.
Facts I totally agree when I'm done I'm done ❗️
At that point now he hanging out over night with his "homegirl" too much....lying about where he at ...if he with her, when he See's her, he ain't touching me...calling her before me etc. I'm packing my shit now I deserve better. I would never do no shit like this to anyone so before shit gets crazy I'ma exit because men CANNOT HANDLE WHAT THEY DISH OUT✨
Yes, hunny. Please be careful. Some things just aren't worth it. You leaving and not being bothered will hurt him more than anything, but at the end of the day, don't concern yourself with anything other than healing and being healthy and happy once it's officially over. Remove everything and everyone who could be a distraction during your journey. Good luck! 💖💖
@@brwnserenity2351 Thank you so much for your encouraging words and support. It really means a lot Ma'am. That's what I'm doing focusing on me and our kids...my goals and dreams so I can be a better person for myself and kids first. I'm about to sign up for culinary school Monday and start working again. Much love🥰🙏🏾✨
@Olivia Griffin That's amazing! It makes me so happy to know that you have a plan/goals for yourself. I'm so excited for you and your children! I know that you're going to do so well! Be blessed! 🥰❤️
@@brwnserenity2351 Great advice! Be safe Ms. Griffin
No they cannot!
I slowly stopped saying anything to him. It became meaningless conversations and we did nothing together ever. I had checked out but he still didn’t seem to care until I was physically gone🤷🏼♀️
You just described me to the T! Period 💯
This happened to me. Is was like a light switching off. He did one thing and after all the other things, and I simply had enough. We were together for about 4/5 years. That day I erased every last bit of him from my life. Deleted messages, threw out his stuff, gifts he had given me, erased every photo and blocked his number. Wouldn’t answer the door when he came around. I was DONE!! I didn’t care to talk, I was no longer interested. Eventually he got the message and gave up. I never saw him again. It’s been over 10 years now. Best thing I ever did.
I never wanted to check out. I wanted what we had. He let others influence him to give me the bare minimum, while I was giving him and the kids 1 million percent. I think that hurt the most. 😢
LADIES WOMEN OUT THERE PLEASE TELL THE MAN YOUR DONE AND DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ANY LONGER DONE IS DONE ITS LIKE FORGIVENESS YOU DONT DO IT FOR THEM BUT FOR YOU AFTER 3 WARNINGS I THINK IT WONT WORK ANYMORE JUST SAY IT WITH BOLDNESS NO FEAR AND CONFIDENCE AND KINDNESS ITS OVER AND WALK AWAY IN PEACE WITH PEACE ,TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS TO PUT GOD FIRST LOVE THEMSELVES MARRY THEMSELVES AND THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME IN TO STAY FOR A LIFETIME AND DONT WASTE THEIR PRECIOUS YEARS BECAUSE OUR CHILDREN MUST DO BETTER THAN US AND KNOW IT SOONER THAN WE KNEW WE BECOME THE LEADER AFTER LEARNING
Cancel Christmas. Cancel Easter. The only one coming back is Jesus.
I was attentively listening, I just woke up when he said cancel Christmas !that got me chuckling early in the morning smh lol
I’m probably older than most of you.But I’d like to say that at one time I hated my ex.And that hatred and anger was holding me down.So I prayed and asked God to remove the hatred out of my heart for him and he did. I ve learned to tolerate him but I’m happy being alone with my 2 kids But at the end of the relationship he call himself getting into the church.Too little too late.
May the church Say-Amen 😌
So true.
I’m currently going thru this right now. Having kids wit that person doesn’t help. He tries to do whatever to get bck into my good graces but I jus dnt feel the same anymore. I kind of hate it bc we hve so much history. Thru out our course of time I was able to forgive so much. I dnt quite understand the difference now? I think it’s bc he made me not like me, it’s not a good feelin. I love & care for him, wish him nothing but the best. But I really jus want to co-parent in peace, responsibly w/o the drama.
I really feel our time is ov’r & it’s ok. ❤
I was in the same situation once you make me doubt myself or look at myself differently I’m done I love me to much I just put my guy out February 13th the day before Valentine’s Day and I’ve been at peace a little sad 22 years gone but I have peace!!
Ain't this "THE TRUTH!" It goes both ways though...enough is enough! No hard feelings, life's changed, we just got to move on. Enjoy your life! Enjoy your peace! 💨❤🕊️
Speaking true facts 💯👌 that’s how it was with my ex husband it’s only so much we can take especially when you give your all to a person and for them to cheat cheat cheat different women a lot of outside kids while you married then wants to physically and emotionally abuse you yes I was done and I walked away straighten up my crown I’m so glad I did because I wouldn’t be here today had I stayed love don’t hurt the man I’m with now it’s been 25 years we been together never married raised our kids together and we still going strong 💪🏾 💕so you most definitely can find love after the pain 💯💯💕💕🙏🏾🙏🏾
I kept warning him that he was going to lose all access to me. Now...he can't come around or talk to me at all. I blocked all access...and he still don't get it.
That's what I keep trying to figure out like how did you picture this working out? Did you think how this was going to play out long-term? We're either are or are NOT! There are no in-betweens. Take a good look because this is what moving on looks like. Understand clearly, it doesn't mean we're enemies but it also doesn't mean we're friends. You know what you lost and you know what you let go of. Periodt. And just in case you forgot I LEFT!
it feels good doesn’t it!!!! walking away and them chasing lol
Indifferent. Yes! Feeling nothingness, not love or hate is a CLEAR indicator that someone is done.
And I STAND on that.
*When she start playing "I just got me, myself and I"*
“Cancel Christmas” got me🙋🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣 that’s facts!
The point of NO RETURN, and he can only blame himself. Our love doesn't change, unless he changes it. Once the switch is flipped OFF there is no flipping it back on.
Dam 💯💯💯💯 for real. Preach ...very thin line between love and hate
This facts but it’s also a two way street. Both parties gotta be mindful. Fellas get fed up too. 💯✅