YOUR EX May NOT Care Now BUT They WILL CARE LATER (Be Ready for THE Keith Lee Effect)
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- YOUR EX May NOT Care Now BUT They WILL CARE LATER (Be Ready for THE Keith Lee Effect)
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If my ex goes out and dated someone else then comes back to me, I won't take her back.
Don't take them back regardless, have some self respect
Even if you broke up with them?
@@PlaywithDaisy yea why would you want to go backwards in life, it obviously didn't work out for a reason. And in reality people tend to not change all that much. That's like throwing water on a fire then trying to relight wet wood like nothing happened, it never works. It only causes more pain and suffering
@@beaublanton7788forgiveness is love.
Forgive but don’t forget.
Anything can be rekindled, you can still take an ex back and maintain your self respect. They just have to earn you and recognize and respect your worth.
It’s not impossible, but not guaranteed either. Power of faith bruv, faith the size of a mustard seed can move a mountain. But whether the mountain will move or not is gods will not yours.
Faith without action is dead.
Couple this with the law of attraction, law of assumption, and law of accumulation.
And nothing is impossible.
@@beaublanton7788 true
That keith Lee affect analogy is 100% truth. I had an ex hit me up last week after 16 years. I actually forgot all about her. I always tell people, the one major decision is life changing. If you are a good person, I promise you. They will NEVER forget you.
Update:
I’ll do my best not to make it long. We met up at BJ’s restaurant, we mostly communicated through text messages. I ended up being there first, as she walked. I stood up and greeted her with a hug, she started to cry. As we waited to be seated we chatted a little bit. I didn’t want to get in a deep conversation with people all around us. Once we got the table situated, I told her you have the floor. She thanks me for meeting up with me after 16 years. She gave me a run down of all what transpired in her life over the years we didn’t speak. I won’t go to deep into that conversation. She told me, I remember the things you use to say to me. I use to tell her, why are you SORRY for what you did. You knew exactly what you’re where doing at the time you did it. You told me 16 years ago, where in the Bible does it say sorry? You taught me to ask for Forgiveness. I’m asking you tonight to Forgive me for what I put you threw. I didn’t realize how good I had it, the men after you didn’t compare. She has 2 kids, same dad. They never really got along. I asked her, you saw the red flags in the beginning with him going out drinking not being a man of his word. Why would you not only have one kid, you turn around and have a 2nd. I thought having a 2nd kid would change things. I just looked at her and just SMH. She, asked me if I had kids. I told her no! Your 55, great man with no kids. Now, before everyone starts putting me on blast, of why I don’t have kids. I did a tour in Desert storm (ARMY)! I have screws in my lower spine, lots of stitches over my body. I average 4 to 6 hr.’s of sleep a night for the last 30 years, with plenty of pain meds next to me bed. I didn’t want to be selfish, and try to raise a kid in so much pain and not be able to play with them. Or just do the simple things in life, how to tie a shoe, ride a bike, fly a kite! Just simple things for me. I remember, it was a night raid. On our way to the object, SGT Mitchell step on some sort land mine. Blew his left leg off, I remember looking over and everything seemed to be in slow motion. Between the return fire and yelling and movement. I made my way over to him and carried him behind a wall. No, he didn’t make it. For the one’s on here reading this. My heart goes out to the people who have had loves ones that didn’t make it back. Let me stay on track! She just wanted to meet up and ask for my forgiveness. As soon as I told her I forgave her. I could see whatever had a hold of her on the inside, gave her peace within. I didn’t this about 10 years ago or so. I got in contact with some of the women I hurt in the past, some cursed me, some never returned my email or calls. Some actually said, thank you for reaching out and asking for forgiveness. I tell people all the time, we are never promised tomorrow. So why do I watch Coach Blac or a few other ones. Trying to help the younger generation. My nieces and nephews mostly, or anybody that is willing to listen without rolling their eyes. What brother’s me the most, so I can end this. I saw a few months ago, young lady gets on social media and tell the young gentlemen. I look to good for the cheesecake factory! What’s wrong with going to Baskin and Robins for some Chocolate almond Ice cream. Of course, it’s my favorite, you can have anything you want. My dad said to me May 18 1988, Son don’t hang your hat high enough to where you can’t reach it. Meaning, if you start off at high end place you have set the standard. Bottom line, choose someone that chooses you, Its make life a lot more enjoyable with each other. Gentlemen, don’t lead with your wallet. I’ve done that in the past, it doesn’t end well. Last thing, I don’t not recommend going to back to the ex. They are a Ex for a reason. They hardest time for me during my journey of battling my ex’s in my mind was at night when my head hit that pillow. That’s when those Mind monsters will get you. Everyone stay the course, be safe, be blessed! My best advice to give to anyone, you will know when you had enough!
*sigh* I'm banking on it.
facts
Thanks
thanks
Facts. We poured into every aspect of their life and they will search for us in everyone else they meet. Meanwhile we’ve learned what not to accept from a so called romantic partner. Our future is so bright we need sunglasses. 😎 Shalom.
If they are a narcissist or narcissistic, definitely don’t reach out to them. Ever.
never go back regardless of what social media category they slot into...
People need to really be aware of these type of demons labeled as “people”. Those demons people called “narcissists” even if you never reach out they will reach out and try to “Hoover” you. Meaning try to pull you back into your life… don’t fall for it!
Agreed!
It always surprises me how negative people on this platform are. If you still love the person who broke up with you and are willing to forgive them, than go ahead and be with them. This is especially true if you've both done the work to improve yourselves. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Exactly and sometimes people have to fall apart to be able to fall back together! But only if both people have worked on themselves so they don’t repeat the same patterns
Agreed. But ONLY if they’re done the work during the time apart.
There’s one thing people doesn’t understand. When someone beg you to stay with you, especially the one you took them for granted. Being patient with you all their life. And you left them when they still loved you. Those kind of people, once they closed their hearts. It’s over. By the time you came to your senses. They have gone to far.
I agree. You can go back to an ex and it can be better. People make mistakes all the time and everyone deserves forgiveness and grace
No that's way too much doubt. If you can't be in a door and work on the issues at that time.Why bother coming together later in life?Especially if you were regrets to the first time
He gets☝🏿ONE chance with me.
One.
I ain't nobody's option.
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Lmao you are a lot of peoples backup
If a person is dating and being with someone in only a week or so after a break up they been talking to that new person while in a relationship with you
True
Facts
Unfortunately, we cant unmeet people.🤷🏽♀️
LOVE IT!!!
True. But if they are toxic we can have nothing to do with them. Go No Contact.
It’s been 18 months since my wife left. She showed up around July last year and said she missed me and still loved me. We started dating again and out the blue she said she can’t do it. We were getting on so well as well. I knew there was someone else, the person she left me for. Yet, I wanted to salvage my marriage. I went full no contact in November and she went straight back to him. Ultimately, it’s been this man the whole time. I’ve no idea what she’s doing in life now. Fact is people, they don’t always come back. However, IF they do, it’s because whoever they left you for wasn’t as good as they thought. If they’ve been with someone else after your break up, you can NEVER take them back. It’s so hard to accept that but taking them back shows weakness. They left for “better”….let them have it. Stay strong to you. You’re worth so much more.
My ex of 11 years destroyed our family n tore it apart this past year so she could see if she was missing out, we been in no contact since December, this fucked my brain up but I will never take her back cus I know she’s sleeping around tryna fill the void, in due time I expect her to come back taking accountability and apologizing but like you said, they think they gone find better so ill make sure she stands on it, we have a child so she’ll always be in my life but never will she get my love again
Happy Healing You Got This Forgive And Move Forward And Pour That Love You Have into You.
Facts..
My ex of 15 years destroyed our family last year and i know i would not take her back. She even know it as i told her to contact only for kids and dog as i dont want to hear from and see her. Now i have standards. It takes only 3 words to explain m6 stndards. "Soft guy era". Drizzle drizzle baby 😅
@slaven Your post does hold some truth. My husb and I separated for 3 years about 10 years ago. It wasn't due to an affair. Long story, less long, we reconciled. We both needed that break. We celebrated 40 years of marriage this year. However, depending on why you separated, I would not recommend reconciling, not unless you both do the work and bring your healed selves back to the relationship. I have no regrets. I've done a great deal of internal transformation. Pricesless!!❤
We both agreed that if we separate again, there's no coming back. I'm not sure if he meant it, but I did. And I'm sure he knows I meant it.
This man is spot on. It took my ex-wife 16 years to reach out with regret... by then, I was 13 years married to a good woman, with which I have 2 children.
Rebuild your life. If (when) she tries to come back... remember, she abandoned you once, she'll do it again.
Took my ex-wife 5yrs. Still single and still don’t need that drama. 😆
My ex is reaching out after 27years.
I always tell people be the best you are to them, don't abuse them when they leave. It doesn't matter how they try they can't replace you and will always regret leaving you.
80% nonsense 🙄
Exactly Forgive And Move On.
@@godsown4683 why do you consider someone your ex after 27 years...? thats just an undead zombie
Once someone leaves your life don’t hold on to them. That’s the only way they will be able to come back. Let that ex energy go. Take on a new you. New love. New life. They left for a reason. And why would I take someone back that had to leave my life for me to elevate and find myself. That’s means they were holding me back.
beautifully said 👏🏻 ❤️ 💙 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Not necessarily true.. you could be holding yourself back depending on the situation. Most relationships end do to a person past trauma. If one is holding onto past trauma they will bring that into a relationship that has nothing to do with the new person and ruin everything. If it’s meant for you to be with that new person you work on yourself and God will bring you two back together.
🎉Bingo! They hurt u intentionally & will do it again. guaranteed!!! Never take who threw u away back.
Right on 🎯
Once a person shows you who they are... please believe them. They are not going to change. They are going to take advantage of you if you let them. Deuces.
If they don't care now, they will not care about u later
Only when they cant get who they really want, then they know they can come back.
This is very true.
No they can't.
Exes always come to see if can start something. Even start a friendship or see if there still something still there. This guy I stop talk like 2 years ago, keeps sending friend request I'm not interested In talking too him.
When no one want them, ,
Absolutely Correct.
Even if we did get back together I will never trust him the same again.
No contact will not make her want you again. It's just the only option you have. She might feel lonely at some point at contact you again for validation when her new guy is treating her poorly but it's not even worth it talking to her again. Just move on. When a woman loses genuine desire for you it's because you were too available and lost your leverage at some point. Getting a woman to have genuine attraction for you again is very difficult and unlikely.
My ex did exactly what you said. Took him less than 3 weeks to come back begging for my forgiveness. Week later I learned of a woman he had been screwing the whole 4 we were together. I learned where she lives. I went there and sure enough he was there. You can imagine his surprise when he saw me pull up in her driveway. She had no idea of me like I didn't her. I was dumb enough to even considered working it out.... yes my family was there for me but they did not want me with him cause of the lies. I'm so glad I learned the true person he is..
Lol pretty sure I’m not in no contact anymore. I’m in “I don’t even exist to them” mode at this point
They don't exsist to you either.
@@jonthomson9262 I was about to type that EXACTLY!
Gotta change that defeatist mindset
@@CatwalkPurz actually, he is mentally on the right path. The 1st step of recovery/healing is acceptance of what you cannot change.
No contact works because she either comes back, or you move on. It's a win win.
It hurts the most when they get someone new fast. I know it's bound to happen but at least be respectful lol I'm talking replaced in 8 days.
Mine was 4 days :(
Try one day 😂😂
@@dimphosenong6635 oh god..
Most likely they were already seeing these people
Try a week😂
We have been married almost 21 years and been together 22 years and he tells me he can’t do this anymore out of the blue. Then after 4 kids and 22 years together he leaves me for his ex wife of 1 and half years. He moves out and leaves the state without even telling his kids just abandons while I’m in the hospital. I can’t believe he’s so selfish to break his kids hearts without even having a conversation. He could have talked about whatever was bothering him before he left. At this point I put him on child support and he’s mad about that. Why he got what he wanted he still has kids that need support pay your support and do you Noal Madden. I hope you are happy!!!
I hope you know that what he did was terrible, strange, and would make anyone hurt so badly. I am so so sorry!! You deserve better!!
That’s extremely narcissistic. Go no contact. Educate yourself on this disorder and it will fall into place. He did you and the children a favor. Be Strong🙏🏾you got this👏👏❤️
The problem i have is, these prople walk out of your life with zero regard for the state they leave you in.
Then when they are done with whatever they were doing. Clearly it did not work out for them, they want to run back.
I think if they could leave you once they WILL do it again.
I think it's best for once sanity to move on.
We should only want people that respects us enough to work on problems, not away away when there is a problem IMHO.
I agree sis! Couldn't of said it better myself.
Excellent way of looking at things.......but have you ever dumped a man before, and why did you dump him???? Perhaps your guilty of the same thing. Most women are like this.
@@jonthomson9262d I've dated and been married to the same person for nearly 20 yrs.
Why do you say most women are that way?
I think that statement is true for both sexes not just women.
Yes of cause I've broken up with people in my youth. Everyone has.
@@jonthomson9262 we dump men after giving them many chances to change and do better ,we first distant ourselves but the guy keep acting the same, then we are finally done with his bs and block him forever no matter much we used to love him and even when we miss him we will never let him now and one day we meet a new guy, and we fall in love again and old guy is all forgotten lol
women are more ruthless than men..they just dont give a fck...
Yup! She went from the most caring person I've ever met to a robotic soldier of doom.
I’ve been dumped like a piece of trash after almost 3 years of planning my life with my ex. Every day I go through turmoil of emotions. One moment I’m ok and the next I’m crying in the corner.
I want to thank you for your videos and wisdom. I cannot tell you how many times I watched your video and was validated and chose not to reach out to my ex to preserve the little dignity and self respect I have left.
Please Keep on guiding us. I’ll keep on watching. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
@user-tb8re4yz1n, I had to let mine go for almost three years. He kept being inconsistent, everything can first and kept cancelling on me. He wasn't a person of his word. I went no contact and just gave up..His words never matched his actions. The lack of actions told me everything...
Love You Babes It Will Get Better Going Through The Same!!!
Jesús loves you he can heal you ❤
Hey..I am going through the exact same right now…its 4 months ago now but I feel like Im getting worse. The turmoil like you describe it, every damn day. And the suicidal thoughts did return harder. Im so devastated, I feel like I can‘t do it anymore.
Better days are coming!! Keep on trusting in God. God has someone way better for you.
My ex-husband has been asking for us to be reunited for the past 10yrs. We were married for 8yrs and have been divorced for 22yrs.
During our marriage, he was mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive, a notorious cheater, and had a mistress whom he had 2 children with during our marriage.
I forgave him 22yrs ago so that I could live my life in peace with no hatred or grudge towards him, and all is forgiven.
I look forward to God blessing me with my Boaz someday.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I can relate may God give you the desires of your heart and everything in between
@@belevhersboutique4727 Thank you. May God bless you with the desires of your heart as well.
I w been in no contact for almost a week, it’s been hard for sure. If he doesn’t contact me with a sincere apology and own up to his exact faults and don’t try to put blame on me, we may have a chance to something stronger. If not I’m
Prepared to keep moving forward and doing things differently in my next relationship.
I don't think my ex will ever come back. It's been 6 months since the breakup. And 3 months into no contact. She had many problems regarding the relationship. And the last time we met she told me she doesn't love me anymore. She never sees us getting back. So, I told her I cannot be friends with her. That was it. I haven't contacted her since. Haven't heard from her since.
Once my ex leaves me and gets with another man. Congratulations cause now you got that second place prize. Better raise that trophy pretty high cause you ain’t coming back to me. I’m not on the back burner for nobody. I played that game once , and I learned my lessons of why you don’t do that to yourself. It’s called self respect.
My Ex came back after 14years apart though we are both married but I was happy to see him,he told me he was sick and needed to tell me about it,but I was shocked cos the way we parted was painful we didn't talk about it,it just happened that he got someone pregnant so I had to let him go now he is pleading for forgiveness
She's not coming back
What I’m wondering is why the people who are saying don’t go back it’s not worth it, are on this channel watching this video exactly about how to get your ex back in one way or another? Leave.
My ex came back after 4 years. We have known each other 18 years. We started dating and he just ghosted me out of nowhwre. Hadnt heard from him in four years and honestly had healed and moved on from the heart break. To be honest he hadnt even crossed my mind in a couple years...pops up apologizing...we started to date again and while i had hoped he had changed....he didnt. Just realized he wasnt gonna find anything better....even admitted that... That was the moment i decided...nah... I dont want my husband saying to me "well...i went and searched far and wide for something better and decided you were the best i was gonna fine".... I wany my husband saying "I knew it was you from the start and i never want to lose you" period.
Good for you. You deserve that.
Every woman I’ve ever dated has always came back later on. It’s always heartfelt conversations, and getting true closure. We all remain friends from a distance.
Hi Coach! I have decided, in my situation, that I no longer desire the relationship. It’s over and I have moved on. Life is too short. Better horizons on the way. Enjoy your stories. Loving the new look.🌟
exactly. these videos are so enlightening and so true but i will not do any of these things in the hope that the ex comes back but rather to take my power back, nurse back to health and never look back
Facts
I'm fairly sure my ex has moved on, she left me for someone else. It's been three months now and there has been zero reach out. I'm learning to see how I will be okay. Though there is always so much uncertainty felt every single day, I know I deserved better than how she left me and that I deserve better today than to think about someone so dearly that likely does not reciprocate that on her end. I don't know if I will ever be as hurt as I was and still am to some degree from this breakup, but I won't let her get the best of me. It might not be obvious to see today, or tomorrow, or even a year from now, but I will be the kind of person she will in fact miss and regret losing. To all the people who has had their heart broken from someone you loved dearly and thought would be your future, you are never alone and I wish you all the love that you deserve to have. Take the time that you need to heal from this and cherish your life for how valuable it truly is ❤
Trust me brother, u don't want her back. It will be worse than before.
Same here! It’s good that you have realized all this. My narc ex will learn that money doesn’t buy happiness OR real love.
Same ♥️
I hope that you are able to heal from this and also become a better you for the person who is truly your person.
Dealing with the same ❤️
Everything he’s saying in all his videos is 100% on point. I’ve watched all of coach’s videos. Today makes 6 months since I got T-boned. I did everything he advised. No contact works I promise you it does. Even though I was dying on the inside I never showed her that I was suffering. She calls me today and tells me she misses me and needs to see me. I played the hard to get role and told her I have plans. She then said she would come by tomorrow. I told her I will see if I’m not busy. We have been together for more than 20yrs. I’m super excited about this chance. I understand the hopelessness and gut wrenching emotions that we go through. I promise you watch coach’s videos. It helps trust me. Coach thank you sir
What does it mean that you got T-boned? Is that 6 months since your ex dumped you?
@@leonh2044 I got the “I love you but not in love with you” speech. I felt like I was t-boned. It came out of no where.
Congratulations 🎈
I love his videos, they give us hope, so thankful for him. And good job staying in no contact even though it was really tough, I'm very happy for you. Thanks for the advice too.
@@leonh2044 obviously
Personally I quit caring long ago. I don't have friends family or acquaintances. I realized love is weakness. I don't trust no one but myself
Same. fuck everyone ngl
F me too?
That's sad
@@godsown4683 it's not sad. It's choosing to never be hurt again. I'm single and it's staying that way. Relationships are nothing but more crap you don't need.
I’m at that point
Ever since i chose therapy and pouring into me, life became so much better. Next month makes it 1 year and since I finally chose me and just put it to the universe.....it's legit, "it is what is it." I know all my exs are suffering and paying for their consequences. I don't wish ill on them because in the end. I'm not going to block my blessings.
Wish them
Well
My wife divorced me when she gave birth to our child.
2 years tried stayinf corporative to grow the child but she wanted me gone.
3 years more depressed and figuring life and covid came and lock downs.
I worked out at home, covid opnwd up i paid a gym.
Today im 10 years younger, competing for Amateur bodybuilding competitions.
She now calling me back telling me i shluld come visit our child be there.
Shes unhealthy too, shes calling me twice a day.
Asked me hows my love life.
She tore my heart, i was abandoned yet i moved on.
I felt peace, pity for her at same time respect and kindness for woman i shared body with.
They come back when you move on.
She likes this version of me.
Im done now, she lost a man who was ready to five uo life for her. I wouldve been a greta fathdr a husband but she turned me to a guy near 40 living modern hookup life.
. Sad end to both our lives.
Let go! You will love again.
Work on yourself. Know what you want. Heal.
He had been gone about a month and although it was heart breaking he did me a favour. I was too good for him. He was broke and had only love to offer and he withdrew that aswell. So i am now gona find a real man who will be provider and protector as God intended . Losers will always be losers.
A provider lol.
Girl go to work.
@@kloppo94’he was broke and only had love to offer’ 🤣🤧
@@TT-ey4on that's crazy
Same happened to me, I worked my ass off & he didn’t. I was paying his bills & my own. Feeding his kids & my own. He has Tourette’s and claims he can’t work. He left me out the blue for a childhood friend he said was like a sister & got a job & is trying to build a life with her now. Oh & she states out loud on her social media how much she doesn’t like kids & doesn’t want kids. He’s got 3 SMH.
@@tiselectric that's a different case though, he's shameless.
Your situation is unfortunate
Your calming voice during a time of trauma and pain is soothing to my soul.
That was great wisdom regarding the lady who was blessed with a huge tip. She wasn't prepared to handle what she asked for. My motto is, if you ask for it, pray for it, or manifest it, be prepared to receive it. That's why it's imperative to work on inner-self.❤❤
I just broke up with my ex. I loved him more than anyone, but he was moody in a bad way and brought major chaos. It was hard to put my foot down with him. I took it back, but he didn’t bite. May just be a good thing. But it wasn’t the best relationship. We both need healing.
Currently going through that now I broke up with her and she move on quick.
Broke no contact multiple times.. first time we actually hooked up.. ended poorly. Now 3 months post break up. Back in NC for two weeks. Anxiety is wearing off. Been leveling up in life but still left with sadness. Realizing my worth but wondering if she’ll find greener grass. End of the day we have to remember we’re him!
Jolsten J 💪
I broke NC after 2 months , she was cold and told me to move on , I got rejected twice now🙂 , now I started again with NC day 2 but this time I'm doing it permanently, I'm done being treated like I'm nothing to her anymore, plus she's been texting some new guy friends she met during her internship she told me that soo idk...im doing NC permanently now
Let's hope that she does find greener grass and that she is happy,so that you dont carry grudges and negative energy......she doesn't belong your grass anymore dude. CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, BLOCK HER ON EVERYTHING, AND STAY IN NO CONTACT FOR LIFE.......TIME WILL HEAL THESE WOUNDS,BUT IT WILL BE A LONG,PAINFUL PROCESS THAT WILL PROBABLY TAKE YEARS. BE PATIENT.
@@doubleJJ01 yeah,she made it clear......by breaking no contact you only delayed your own healing process. It will probably take a few years, but you will make a full and complete recovery.
@@jonthomson9262 thank you bro , I'm feeling better each day , now I'm just at a point where my thoughts are like " how will I trust again" I'm having difficulties in trusting again I feel like girls only gona cheat and flirt behind their bfs back , idk man I'm having this issue now...I don't mind losing her now since I did my best , but how will I trust again is a bigger question bcuz now my mind feels like I got to check my future gf phone which I know is not a good idea..idk I'm going crazy
I've been single & and had no contact with my ex for almost 3 years. When we dated the 2nd time, he showed me the writing on the wall in all capital letters. I will tell anyone if you break up 1 time, keep it moving forward. A true relationship you don't break up. You work through things. Things will not ever be the same, plus when it comes to healing from the break up a 2nd time around for me, it felt tripple times worse to start the healing process all over again. I stay in prayer. i'm thankful that i actually saw the truth and some things i admit i overlooked. However, i know the next time, don't overlook anything. Actually, believe what they tell you don't try to change their mind keep it pushing. It will save you your time later on down the road. I can't change my past, but i sure do regret dateing him, that's for sure!!
I regret dating mine too. My fault for ignoring the red flags in the beginning. I’ve been single for a year and a half now. I’m still devastated but I’m starting to realize he never loved me, someone who puts you down and belittles you everyday for no reason doesn’t deserve you
So I assume he dumped you,correct?? How long were the 2 of you together? Did you cohabitate? What was his stated reason for the breakup??
@@IvanaGirl you know,I'm pretty sure you passed up ALOT of Good Men who would have loved you and treated you well.......if that's actually what you want????........why did you choose this particular man in the 1st place? Maybe you need to evaluate the criteria you use to select men????
@@jonthomson9262that I am just so stupid otherwise I would have a high paying job like him etc etc. he punched a hole in the wall because I took too long to come back home from the store and it made him angry. He is out of control. I think I tend to choose damaged men because I guess I am damaged myself because I grew up in a pretty abusive household
And he grew up in a abusive household as we, but I was submissive and he was the aggressor
I can tell you.Why was the one who was awful and she reacted?And so I was even more awful.I miss her but i am working on my self.
I hope he does come back, but I’m working to accept that he is not
I notice that since i act like i dont care he gets out of his way to see me. Because of our child i cant go zero contact but i do the minimum and only about the child. Two days ago he forgot something for our child and i wrote him that it is fine, he can bring it next time he gets her but nono he was like " i can bring it over...we can meet in one hour" and then i just took what he had forgoten and said thank you, have a good day. His Mother told me that he startet to ask how im doing and if she knows what im doing....so i give it more time
Same here
This time she’s the one blocked on everything during NC. Tired of seeing her fake on social media and try to piss me off just so she can get a reaction out of me! If she really loved me or cares she will find a way to reach out and apologize and communicate w me like I did for her the first time we broke up! Now I can finally have no setbacks bc I break no contact after a week or see her stories!
How you holding up bro?
@@J__007 I been better bro we both blocked but I could care less pretty sure I met a way better girl recently anyways.
We don't take ex'es back over here playa
I’m speechless. I didn’t expect to see this. I really hate her 💔💔💔. I really don’t have nothing to say 💯
I have been in no contact for a month. I have worked on myself and also enjoying my life as much as I can, I have never talked to my ex since the night she broke up with me and I’m doing great.
The weird thing is that now 2 other exes from the past have reached out to me and are chasing me 😂
Same !!! I’m trynna get my recent ex back & I literally have 2 past exes in my phone chasing me tf down 😂😂😂😂
Good, a confidence boost 👍
Keep improving and don't block your blessings 🙏
proud of you ❤
Coach Blac Big Pimpin. Dropping truth bombs 💣
That one comment was hilarious 😅 The comment that says they dont care about their exes and hates them. Lol!!!😅😅😅😅😅
Yes absolutely the change in Him
Looking sharp sir ❤
This was a great video ,calm,cool and smooth !
Imma drink til i cant feel feelings 😢
Im going to start losing feelings…
Looking suave coach👌
Is this the way men think? I’ve been dealing with a man, in and out, off and on, hot and cold. It’s absolutely destroying my self confidence yet I love the person he is when he’s hot. I love our relationship when he’s hot on me. He says he’s scared yet runs away every time I give him a chance. I’m tired of being left feeling like an option. He can go get his can of green spray paint and stay away. Maybe that’s how all these women feel when you break NC. If you break NC, make sure you’re ready to go in hot. Other than that, it feels like games. When a man goes no contact on me, I just assume he’s not interested and won’t reach out to “wonder why”. Even if I’m completely heartbroken. If men need that ego boost for me to call him crying, I don’t want it
Women do the same. The solution is the same in both cases.
If they keep going hot and cold it means theyre still talking to multiple people. Do you really wanna be in that situation? Go find someone who doesnt treat you like that
I needed every single word,thank u🙏🙏🙏
Very wise words from beginning to end
That story you shared, though! You're brilliant and different, Blac!
Yes!!!! The dealing with a completely different person. It’s so hard for me to wrap my head around sometimes.
SAME HERE. BUT GOD is keeping me. Take great care of yourself. This too will pass...Peace be unto you ✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽.
Thanks I needed exactly this dialogue today. I've been struggling with this issue for a week now, and I now feel better about everything that's happening.
I love your videos, Coach Blac, always wise and informative thank you
Love the new look….very sharp coach!
Never take a woman back after she has left you for some time. All she did was increase her miles and realize that she pushed all the good guys away. With the increased mileage she has learned to easily disconnect from men.
Do men have mileage too with all their break ups and affairs?
Fantastic video❤
All my exes be trying to spend the block sometimes it’s months sometimes it’s years . I even have someone creating a fake account on messenger and won’t tell me who he is (blocked)😂😂😂
@Coach Blac- 4 months NC but since day of breakup been working on me. Just gotta keep moving forward right. Thanks for this💪
lookin' sharp today coach. 😉
AMEN 🙏🏾 I take up my ex in a slippers two pants three shirts and two shorts and he didn’t have anything to give me I take care of his child and his sick mother I was so happy to know I could help them, I help him to get a job and as soon as he starts working he dumps me yes he did the same man that cried to me day and night to be there for him and promise that he would never leave or disrespect me, now he’s boasting about how many females he has and how he can change clothes and shoes, I cried day and night am so depressed and don’t know what to do, am so hurt but am here trusting god!
Wow! I need to share this with a friend who is going through this exact thing ❤❤❤
Hey man thank you for your inspiring videos. I really have been working on my self after my devastating break up!!! And I have decided not to pursue the relationship, but your videos helped me learn deep down what I truly need to do for myself. And this inspired me to focus on my purpose driven life!!!! Thank you man you saved my life bro!!!! FACTZZZZ!!!!
I do not return. If it did not work out the first time why would it work out a 2nd, 3rd, and 4th time. Drop it and keep it moving. They call back years later because things did not work out with the last person and they try to come back to what they knew before they left you ONE PROBLEM...you grew stronger through the pain and hurt. I will not go back - the rose-colored glasses are off.
You’ve never connected with someone worth fighting for and not all relationships end poorly or in an abusive way. A break up can result in a huge surge of growth and realisation, if you have a closed door by default that’s you, but maybe you’ll understand some day.
I already told my ex that i dispise him and have lost the love I felt for him for the repeatitive silent treatments by him. I am not in love with him but still have him in my heart. I couldn't go on with those silent treatments and had to let him go. I also have blocked him via email and have changed my telephone number. He is arrogant and thinks he could get me back whenever he wants which he has but this time I am not in love with him and can leave him permanently. The thaught of him cheating on me seeing another woman a year has taken away my desire to be near him or even kiss him. He destroyed my trust and desire. Cant go back no matter how bumbed out I am.
may 2024 listening! bless all us here in jesus christ and it is so amen hallelujah glory yes lord thanks lord! 🎉 thanks
Dang - Wish I would have watched your videos the beginning of this week. I truly settled into the decision to go No Contact yesterday. But it was after weeks of not knowing my worth and behaving desperately. So embarrassing.
An ex will ALWAYS be an ex 😊
Everyone is an ex though… you’re too black and white, relationships and interpersonal, romantic connections are complex and dynamic… your perspective is due to your experience, you’ve never separated from someone worth growing yourself for, to fight for.
❤❤❤ Thank you so much for your insight and this message ❤ 💜 🙏
Listening to you makes me feeling so good ❤️
I think blacademic might have one of the best Dating tips. Because he tells you the truth. And its great because TRUTH HELPS YOU HEAL AND GROW. This man needs a TV special. On GOD 🛐
Sounds racist af
Is that a haircut!!!???? Nice you look lovely
Your perspectives are an eye opener for me! I will definitely apply your perspectives on NC & detach by not being so emotional in proving my love for my long time friend who is not ready & very independent
Looking dapper coach. Thank you for dressing up for us. 10s across the board❤️🔥🔥👌🏾❤️
Looking sharp coach 👌 🔥
Thank you! This info is really helpful 🙏
@coachblac thank you for the knowledge and pep talk. Very uplifting.
All the things you said are so true, but for the people who go no contact for life and change our number. We’ll never know, and it doesn’t matter. Most times they don’t change!
Do you need help to restore the relationship or cure the illness?.
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Love yourself, and respect your self. Put God first trust him ,he will work it out for you, .invest in yourself, not in any body. Choose you.
They say you don't know someone till you live with them True I was staying over the holidays and saw many things that led me to break the engagement I am glad I did better now than 5 yrs in. I thought I loved him was very wrong
Thanks
Oh I know her and never lived with her. The few months after the breakup were the most telling as to who she really is.
So helpful ♥️ thx
This comment meant a lot to me I'm still hurt 4 months clean no contact well once but I hung up the phone and never called again. She really did hurt me good thank you for listening.
Thank you for the advice, you look great Coach!!
8 year relationship just gone down the drain, out the blue. 8 years of love & loyalty cut off over night. Im 2 months down the line following no contact & i hear from a mutual friend she is engaged to a rich business man and getting married this year. Ive managed to just about get back to my feet & working towards improving myself, been going gym, in the best shape of my life, seen her there a few times, see her looking but no communication. I can't see how she could come back now.
Literally my same story man. I believe she left me for more of a successful man. We where together for 9 years. It was hard getting though it but I did with self improvement.
She can't, she did that on purpose, and you can't take her back now, regardless.
@beaublanton7788 you're right I couldn't take her back. I can't give all that healing I've gone through to the same person responsible for bringing me to my knees in the place .
Keep on your grind fella. Don’t look back and improve yourself more and more each day. Time will come where you won’t want her back and you’ll be in abundance of women 👍
Great advice @@beaublanton7788
Your videos are so helpful. Your videos are getting me through this tough time. Thank you so much.
This is amazing brother. Your laid back approach made feel comfort and this knowledge is second to none. Thank you and God bless you. I still won't take her back after this one, but i understand better now.
You on point with this message! Please get your watch fitted though, respectfully.
Love the look in that jacket. It’s crazy bc yes my ex said he wasn’t going anywhere after coming back to me for a third time. Previously he ghosted me. Unfortunately, I had to walk away bc his actions did not line up with words. I miss him greatly, but I value me and I am a wife and not a game. Came from a marriage of 20 years to be with him. Decided to work on me before getting back into anyone. You videos help me to realize the love as is in him and not bc I wasn’t enough. Thank you for the way you explain these lessons.
So why did you divorce your husband of 20 years,Ma'am??
We were high school sweethearts, but as we grew and life happened I realized we went different ways. It was ok until it could not be ignored. We are best friends now but with different lives. We wanted different things.
Wow, I had a similar experience after 18 years of marriage. Chose him after I split with my husband (he and I had been friends for 4 years), and he ended up ghosting too. Immature men who can't even talk through a problem 🙄
Reaping what you sowed. Trust me marriage is til death do you part or you get used by others and by Satan. Trust me.
@@bossboston5128 you dont know anything about me and sadly that makes s your opinion on marriage. If you start young and don’t realize that the person you are with is not for you, you do not stay. Unfair to your partner and you. Have a great day.
No contact is your coat of armour!
Great video. It's imperative that we work on our inner selves. It's the best gift we can give ourselves. ❤❤
I'm in it at the moment. He has violated everything sacred of mind. My mental, emotional and spiritual state of mind.
I have begged, cried and even though I'm the one being cheated on and abused, I still think it's gonna work. 😢😢
How exactly do you think it's gonna work? Surely not by you being happy. Some people are really not worth it. He has a dark mind. I know it may be hard to realize he's not a good person just by reading some comments on TH-cam, but (from my opinion) you should not look back. I just broke a 2 yr situationship. It's not the same, but I'm very slowly starting to realize that it was and will be for the better. I somewhere found a comment saying >>would you treated yourself the same way if you were that person?
@@Sonohomohabilis thanks so much I appreciate you a lot. I truly do.