I totally disagree and will debate this man on this subject and many others because he's really not telling it right he just telling women what they want to hear😮
@@genovasquez8361 I don’t know who told you that men get better with age. Women only want old men for one thing… MONEY. We actually laugh at old men who think that young women find them desirable for anything else. So it’s not that men get better with age, it’s that most men get richer with age.
After our first date, my now husband didn’t call me like he said he would. When he finally called I said look I’m not about to play these games with you and from that point on we talked daily and married 7 months later. I recently asked him when he knew he would marry me and he said when I told him I’m not the one to play wit when he didn’t call a after the first date. Stand your ground ladies he will respect it💗
I very briefly was starting to date this guy who eventually ghosted me. Nothing ever got physical (that’s not what I do) and I resisted texting him again after the initial 2 texts that he ignored. 1 month later I got offered a position where he worked and I had to work for him for 3 months. I could not believe how he acted once we were working together. It was like he really liked me! Acted jealous sometimes. Was always going out of his way to do things for me. Like he was trying to earn his way back into my good graces! He’s been promoted now so has moved away. But crazy the reaction I got simply because I did not beg him or pester him after he ghosted me.
Accepting any kind of treatment & rewarding bad behavior just to have a piece of a "man" has conditioned a lot of men to continuously play in our faces. This is why self-respect is so important.🙏🏽
Be a proverbs 31 woman that respect's herself. Be willing to walk away from any relationship, romantic or platonic that doesn't align with your worth and value. 🙏🏼💖👑✨
Woman who set boundaries and Loves Themselves First. I was taught by my Dad to always know you don't need a man. I am so grateful, my Father taught me this priceless mindset and my Mother was nurturing/loving and taught me how to be a remarkable Woman.
I’m still confused on the whole saying by a woman: I DONT NEED A MAN😮 EVERY woman On this planet called Earth NEEDS A Man.. if not for one thing It’s For the Other 🤔 these women need to be more specific on what They mean WHEN SAYING THEY DONT NEED A MAN …
So basically men respect a woman who doesn’t want him. This is why it is said to be with a man who loves you more than you love him rather than the other way around. I’m beginning to think that men don’t trust love that’s given too easily no matter how pure it is because they think there’s gotta be a catch, or at least there “should” be a catch. If it is too good men don’t trust it. Men have created a dangerous game of their own.
Nope. That's not what I get from this. I get you have to be willing to show him what you will allow. If you follow him regularly, he's not just talking about ANY man, he's talking about the man that's your husband. A man follow is your husband. It wakes him up because men can be complacent, immature and if he really is ready for this relationship, then he will wake up. He had to show you that he's changing and yall work together. You don't want to manipulate and find someone who loves you more.
The one who can walk away!! Amen!!! Took me yearssss to learn this lesson I love myself too much now to be mediocre! KNOW YOUR WORTH LADIES! We are the catch!!!!
Same unfortunately- never again! I won’t even warn a man - I will just watch and wait and see how he is and I just go!!! Too much time lost - yes Proverbs 31 🙌🙌🙌
I'm in this situation right now and honestly its blessing to have a woman who challenges me silently to man up. I absolutely needed this and yes honestly i can confess i do have the peter pan syndrome but afterwards meeting my woman i have been putting more effort to change and become a true Man not a male. Thank you for this comment
Most men get ANGRY 😡 when you have morals and standards. You walk away and they'll start acting mean even passing rumors!! They wanna hurt you because they tried to play you but ended up playing themselves because you took it slow, paying attention to his lies and shady energy .
@@shutit4024 it's happened to me a few times. They'll even start using other people to try to hurt you instead of just saying, well I was telling lies and trying to manipulate her anyway and just let it go. Like your not supposed to protect yourself. I've had to BLOCK some so they couldn't call me anymore or take them off of my Facebook page when I use to be on Facebook. There's a man at my job who's in his 70's been there a very long time. Whenever he starts saying negative stuff about an attractive women I already know she done turned his ignorant, selfish ass down because he does the same thing to me. Like a 14 year old boy acting mad 😡 and stupid LoL. Sits up in church every week. Seat fillers , that's what I call folks like that.
@@donnajeffreys8252 I don’t understand men that do this type of stuff, a lot of guys in their 20s do this where I’m from, it’s sad honestly they need to grow up!
No. If you could sleep with her fast…That means she was emotionally broken; which made her easy to manipulate. And you chose to exploit that and break her more….Any man like that is not a good man. Losing a man like that is not a loss. And a man like that bringing moral judgment against a woman or anyone is ridiculous.
Girl pls 😭 everybody wants to make excuses. Get therapy. It’s your fault if you make the choice to sleep with someone immediately and allow the bare minimum. Nobody owes you ANYTHING but you. So start doing better bc these men don’t care either way.
@@xxcryssmarie224 you’re right but sad part is people make a lot of excuses for men like these. Oh they’re just like that , it’s your fault for falling for it! It completely takes away any accountability from the other party. There are in fact women who have grown up to have low self esteem and nonexistent boundaries. Men who can sense this but still manipulate them to give up their bodies are also at fault. They laugh and call her easy when really, she most likely had a traumatic life. It’s not an excuse, it’s a sad reality for most women and some men use that for their own selfish gain. It’s sick
Imagine if someone murdered a whole bunch of people. When the time comes to settle down and have a normal life with a wife/ husband and kids, they are arrested and put on trial. On trial, the judge looks at how the murderer was able to get away with it. Imagine him getting released because well… it was the victim’s fault for being too naive to follow him/her to the car or to the alleyway or to his house. Now he’s able to live his or her life like the families he or she traumatized aren’t suffering from the actions he made. If that makes sense. Yes, we know there are serial killers out here so we should know better than to go with a stranger … but does that make the murderer any less wrong??
One of the problems is western culture, normalizes sex before marriage, living together, babies before marriage. It’s often times too late when the woman realizes that approach will never benefit her. Start normalizing the opposite and society will take a huge shift. Men will have no choice, but to step up. The power is all in our hands ladies.
Did that really ever work though? Even when women follow what you preach some men still had side-chicks and were horrible husbands and fathers. What I’m saying is it’s all about the man’s character that determines his suitability as a husband and/or father.
Women listened to men telling them they are too uptight and prude, but men just end up exploiting our kindness when we gave them benefit of doubt. We need to go back to our high standards and accepting marriage as real commitment only.
You are so RIGHT! I've said NO to marriage more than I can remember. Married a couple of times but now single. Now I'm 62 years old and I still will not have sex with a man unless we are married! Listen women fear God and keep His commandments!! Flee from SIN and watch God bless you!
I had A man ask me to go out of town with him...I told him I'll go but I'm not sleeping with you.....he said never mind....told me all I needed to know
Kicked mine out and divorced him after 17years of marriage and 3 kids when I had given him a warning about flirting and disrespecting me.He apologised and within few months started again ,so I asked for a seperation for him to go figure out what he wanted, he thought it wise to find himself a whole girlfriend using we are separated excuse, saved him with divorce and kicked him out,he came back crying like a baby only to find out new girlfriend infected him with 2 STDs,Trich &Hep B chronic!he lost everything!moving on with no regrets!doing better than before and glowing while doing it.God is good.Know your value and always maintain your respect. He thought because I invested 17years of marriage and children I will never walk away!proved him wrong
They always think you’ll never walk away…take back your power and walk away and move on and heal!!! Best feeling in the world is the power of walking away from what no longer serves you ❤
As a woman I will tell you the reason most women are desperate for men is NOT because they want kids and a family. Its because something went terribly wrong in the father daughter dynamics growing up that led to low self worth and self confidence....and thusly seeking validation from men became that replacement. As a woman who chose not to go the family route in my 20' s(I'm now 41 living an authentic happy child free life and financially free) I too had my moments of desperation but It wasn't until I worked on myself looked at all of my accomplishments that I did on my own to get me to where I am now that the desperation went away....now I seek a man who can offer companionship and go places its just unfortunate that I run into grown men who play little boy games....yes even the wealthy men...so I am single by choice to protect my peace. Men respect women when a man respects himself and they raise self respecting women. So to stop this cycle of F boys and low self esteem women....be a better man to yourself and your family. This starts with the father period.
I love how you put this together so eloquently. And to add, men please learn to work on yourselves ... there's a lot of hurt men walking around swinging their manhood as f boys...
Its as though you are speaking about me, perpetually looking for love in all the wrong. My father probably looks at me as a whore. Doesn't know it probably started with him
When my ex walked away from our relationship of 4 years in 2017, I realized my worth, strength and beauty. I was always chosing the same type. That's exhausting, I was just tired of dating the wrong men so I just stayed single, decide to commit my life completely to Christ Jesus and I have been happy with being single.
When I’ve rejected past guys for sex, even though they were mad about it and left me for it, somewhere along the line they always try and stray back. I say this to say, I’m not saying they respected me more, but I intrigued them because I never gave in . Men aren’t used to that, I guess. And no, I never take a man back who throws a fit over not laying in bed with him.
U fixin to move in and get a job at Winn Dixie! 😂 yep! That's how u do it! And really are doesn't have anything to do with it..its your mindset , period men or women! No disrespect but some women don't care not one not about your colorism, atheletic or whatever. It's funny how some of these men think that's where its at. Smh ..lol pathetic
Caution: it is wiser to walk away and show in that way that you aren't carrying men's feelings. Remember: the rate of BM murdering BW is increasing, and the excuse is, "She disrespected me." It is wiser often times to speak with your feet...
@@hymnodyhandsYes, very wise and extremely effective. My silence always has them calling back but when I’ve patiently and kindly expressed my needs and he can’t do it, I take it that he doesn’t have it in or or doesn’t care to do it for me; therefore, I walk away, block, gone forever.
I'll never forget a man told me months later that I passed his test bc I didn't answer an inappropriate question he asked. Like TG says even good men test women. Know who you are ladies and don't settle!
@@j-tenn226 "I'm not comfortable answering such questions." If they insist, say "it's getting late, and I have something I need to get done" basically dismiss them then hang up. If he keeps brining it up despite your wishes, that man isn't testing you he's plain rude and you need to drop him. Why? Because he doesn't respect your boundaries.
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f yeah I gotta agree. A good man may test you, but sexual questions is just disrespect in general. Like that’s not a godly man in the first place
@@sherryj738 Oh I do fine..lived my whole life alone, but I see a lot of women struggling to raise their children alone...exhausted, worried all the time, financially strapped...walking away from what they thought was a good relationship, heartbroken.
As someone who dates woman, a lot of the woman in this generation are desperate and I don’t say that to be disrespectful. I just experience it on this side and definitely witness on the other side. Woman want someone to love. And it’s at the cost of themselves. And self-esteem: Usually. Woman are lovers by nature, so to see so many lower their standards for a loser saddens me. I try to put them on game. But I know because of my sexuality they don’t want to hear it. I’ve gotten plenty from men and I treated them like trash. So I know a man who wants you will adapt, I know these men are acting a plump fool because of the desperation they sense from the women of today. A solution you keep giving them. Is TO CLOSE your legs. So you can see them red flags 🚩
@@genovasquez8361 do you think anyone reading your comments thinks “dang this is a good man. how I wish he was mine”? No judgments but the way you’re presenting yourself in these comments is not what good women want in a relationship. But hey may you find happiness and be well - it’s your life :)
This is so true. My exes were crazy disrespectful and didn't take me seriously. I walked away and stayed away...years later they were asking for another chance smh. NEVER. I'm convinced a good number of guys never change/grow up.
Well these type of men are not worth your time ! Games are for kids if they don’t respect you walk away don’t settle or tolerate disrespectful behaviour protect your heart and love yourself it’s hard to walk away but it then the problem they can’t appreciate you or what you bring to the table then let them starve.
I think it's high time we start placing more emphasis on men being raised to be better instead of constantly putting the onus on women to decipher so much sociopathic behavior that's been normalized. I think this advice is useful, however it could easily be summed up as most men are full of mess until they prove you otherwise. It's exhausting. It also seems odd that men are supposed to be the leaders but arent expected to lead in celibacy. It seems out of order that she has to essentially require him to grow into a man vs having those values for himself.
The poles are shifting. Women are realizing that we are the true power and men are our compliment. Our true greatness has been suppressed to appease the male ego so they can "rule" over and control God.
I wholeheartedly agree with everything you stated. Men are not of God and do not desire healthy dynamics that are sustainable. After some deep thinking, I have come to the realization that and I would argue that a promiscuous male is WORSE than a promiscuous woman. Why? Because (1) women look at men to model their own behavior since women often seek validation and sense of leadership/security to land a lifelong relationship/marriage (2) men often (by society's standards) initiate relationships and invite women into their lives (3) if you have a lack of discipline/self-control, how can you be trusted in other aspects of your life to *lead a woman and family* (because males are so obsessed with submissive women after all and desire to be respected) for a sense of future stability especially as it related to raising children together (males like this is likely to be negligent or absent in child care). Men are the initiators of dysfunction, especially that they lie and give attention to what is not a part of their long term plan rather than be "logical" about the behaviors/consequences that arise from their actions.
I 100% agree on walking away when he does even the smallest thing. If you stay around he will think you will never go anywhere and he will continue to play with your feelings. In the end you’ll be miserable. It’s better to bow out gracefully in the early stages. Save yourself some time and heartbreak.
I agree, we get a lot of respect. So much so that it takes a rare and honest man to sign up for no sex before marriage. I waited until marriage at the age of 24…just to find out that he was never faithful leading up to our marriage and while I was pregnant. Needless to say we divorced shortly afterwards. I’ve remained abstinent over the 10 years following our split. Even though I whole heartedly believe in this walk, it’s a very single walk even while having the BBB’s you taught us about. At this point, I told God that I’m no longer asking for a husband. I pray that if there’s a man that I’m meant to be a wife to, let it be. If not, help me to continue creating the life that I desire on my own 🙏🏽.
That sucks he did that to you! What a pos. Thankfully you got out of that situation. Good for you. I’m where you are now, if it’s meant then God will bring him to me, if not, then let me sustain my own life and happiness ❤
the 2nd time i walked away..he faked a suicide his mama called me from the e.r. ninja overdosed, i told her we not together anymore...i warned him about his street life, drugs n gangs...shortly after he went to prison...for murder, ladies go with your gut NOT looks, money or lust
Tony was spot on in this video. “A man won’t respect you unless you’re willing to walk away.” Well, I did just that a year ago and my ex finally acknowledged that I’ve moved on with another man who committed to me. The man I’m with now is intentional about being with me- not just through his words, but his actions. My advice is to never date a man who claims he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or settle down with one woman. Turn the other way and find a man who wants the same things you want- relationship, marriage, family, etc.
A disrespectful man won't have respect for anyone, so ladies don't think you can change a thug by being a saint... They're still gonna be a playa... But a respectable man who is God fearing will know a good woman who is a gift. God made woman to be a man's helpmate. But if it's not a union in God, then it won't be blessed. A woman can't change a man either, and she shouldn't want to be a man's reason to be his best self. That belongs to God. God wants every one of us to love him above all, and to do good for him. If you put a man or woman first, it will not be blessed. Worldly people will always seek to indulge in pleasures of the flesh.
Alot of women want to have a man because they are not happy with themselves. They will push themselves on him to avoid dealing with their trauma or low self-esteem.
True. Some though, are tired of being alone despite being happy with themselves. They are thinking: I am decent. Educated. Classy. Attractive. Comfortable in my own company. Where is my man?
So basically a man wants what he can never have 🤷♀️🤦♀️ I just did this... walked away which means we will never be together, but yet I’m a woman he respects. Please explain how this makes any sense... and they say men think logically 🤣👍🤣🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
This means you respect yourself, he will become more disrespectful if you’re willing to take his junk. It’s now the next woman’s turn….he may have learned his lesson, and maybe not. Leaving him now gives the right man access to you. Just keep doing your self work and stay encouraged.
There is something about a woman wanting sex that these men just cannot deal with. It is just amazing how the men really and truly do not see women as human beings. Men have a sex drive, women have a sex drive, get over it. There was a time when men believed that women did not. They believed that women were objects created for their pleasure or purpose. Nothing has really changed.
Yea you are right about that. And how men are always raping and torturing and murdering women all over the world every 5 minutes and now there degrading women on TH-cam all these men trying to train women on how to keep a man as if we are animals and we have to be trained by these guys on these videos on how to keep a man
And then they complain when the woman who they persuaded/convinced/ sweet-talk to give him a chance in having a future together doesn't actually want to have intercourse in marriage because he really doesn't appeal to her lmao 🤣😂 We shouldn't be sexual until they say we should.
Y’all have to understand you having her on her back wasn’t due to your greatness. Women are sexual beings as well. We want sex as much as y’all do. Especially if it’s been a long time. Your ego tells y’all it’s due to your greatness. Most times. We want sex. Flat out. A lot of women aren’t comfortable with that.
This! Also, who’s to say she’s easy because it happened on the first night? Like women can’t just use men for their bodies too. Like we automatically want a relationship if we have sex. And the length of time you wait to have sex doesn’t affect the quality of the relationship. I had a longer relationship from someone I met and connected with in a short time frame than someone who I’ve known for years prior. Just saying.
Thank you! When I first heard about some of these women, I thought, "She may be getting over an ex or she's just horny and chose someone". Also, just because she slept with one man the first night, doesn't mean it will happen with another man. It's like men think we're robots. We can pick choose how we want to be sexual and it varies greatly.
Unfortunately, society puts sooo much pressure on us women to be married…. and if we are not married with kids there is something wrong with us…. I have decided not to settle for just anyone…. I support myself and will remain on my own…. because nobody can offer me what I already have. I don’t care what anyone thinks..
Once i realised there is superficial pressure i stopped carying and now am single. Also never forget how many miserable unhappy wifes are there looking at you with envy
Women who are conditioned to want a man above all else need to learn how to love themselves more. A woman who has the self respect to walk away has already learned that lesson.
Thank you for this CONFIRMATION. I REFUSE to lay down w| ANY man who isn't being LED by God. With that being said if he isn't following God then he can't and WON'T LEAD me anywhere. I strive, survive, and thrive to be a Proverbs 31 woman. In other words ... I'm celibate until he's Heaven Sent 💯 ❤🙏🏾
This was meant for me today. I am walking away. I am done. He blames me for the failure of the relationship, but I’m so done that despite me doubting myself and crying, I’m pushing through. Maybe once I’m gone he will respect me and learn a lesson for his next woman. I’m not returning a third time.
I did the same thing too I walked away from a relationship that I was in love with a Man but I got tired of being in a relationship where marriage was something he didn't want. You did the right thing sometimes we have to do this to them to get their attention
Stand firm it’s not easier but as days goes by with no contact and staying busy it gets easier, along the way find and know and value your time and worth. No one says it will be easy, but it’s worth it at the end. Blessings to you.
Tony done said the young lady with the thick tongue 😂😂😂😂😂😂I done hollered in my apartment!! I know my neighbors heard me. The imitation of her is so funny😂😂😂😂😂🤦
This is so crazy 😢. A man who does the same act as her is allowed to reap benefits from it and degrade her. I used to love men because my dad and his friends are some of the best men I’ve ever met. After my experience in the dating field I lost ALL respect for men and lost the desire to want a marriage and children. I felt like K. Michelle was right when she said men are not good people. The only reason I’m changing is because the Lord told me don’t trust man, trust him and he will send the one. My heart grew so cold and it’s disturbing to think that some can cause such turmoil to many individuals and later on decide to be better people but leave a trail of hurt, some who may not recover properly. It grieves my spirit and I’m glad I had a veil over me.
Same here lovely! I'm happy you guarded your heart. There is no loss when not interacting with these vile creatures. May God continue to protect you 🙏❤✨
Respect from a man means nothing. It is a circular argument. They only "respect" what they believe they will lose. That's called emotional labour and men have been playing those games on women for thousands of years. Women do the emotional labour and men believe they can act like fools because women take on the heavy lifting in relationships. I wouldn't want a man who wants me because I don't want him. I would want a man who wants me because he knows I want him. That's how I know he has self respect.
@@kdphotos4691I like that reasoning you just shared. It's a sound argument. I've always had a similar sentiment that males are not congruent in their behaviors, values, expectations, and "words," but I never thought of the details from the perspective you offered 😅 Thank you so much for sharing this!
lol it was by far the most hilarious of his videos. He learned something that day too. Sex comes with some expectations 😂😂😂. So don’t be so quick to sleep with any one.
That 24 year old woman knew exactly what she was doing. She did that to indirectly tell you you wasn't ready for her for real and was barking up the wrong tree lol.
The amount of wise woman in this comment section makes me happy , I can tell you all have healed and wants the best man for you, wonderful!!!! Because all of us know that a man can manipulate and use us.
This video is timed so perfectly. I just did this and I was debating if I did the wrong thing. 3 weeks later I still think about him, dream about him but he wasn’t looking for a relationship, so I walked away for my peace. Only one month into dating, we became so close so fast, he’s slept at my place, I knew his friends, we never had sex but it was clearly giving dating and relationship so I knew he was getting ready to drag me through the mud. I wasn’t mad at him,I’m still not. I know I’m lovable and the right person is going to adore me. Honestly my confidence ever since has been better, because I know I have the power to walk away from something I so desperately want. Also ever since I’ve been TRULY working on me, and now I no longer desperately want it, because I’m giving myself the love and assurance I was looking for in him. I am 21.
You’re very wise! You did the right thing. You was only going to keep getting hurt because u wanted him and he didn’t want a relationship. Happy YOU choose You!
The video is straight facts! Being willing to walk away at all times and having standards is key. I'm on my 2nd long-term relationship at 36, getting married next week after 2 years together. My current partner has never been married, and no previous long-term relationships. I only divorced my EX-husband because he cheated after 13 years together and refused therapy or doing any work to try and rebuild. That was my que. The few other men I've met over the years, I'd never begin a relationship with once I saw how they moved.
Yes set boundaries for yourself ladies be self sufficient love him. but do not ever walk depend on him show him your worth but show yourself your own worth put them in thier place always have a plan and always keep your finances in order let him know by your actions and not so much mouth respect yourself first and know your worth before you commit live and learn ❤
You're speaking facts. This is why I always had issues breaking up with men, because they knew that it was nothing for me to leave them. I used to sit and talk to my great grandmother and she told me too many other choices to worry about one man. If a man told me that it was over I was like okay bye. They always tried to come back.
It's been my experience and opinion that men want a challenge 🙄 basically want what they can't get. I stopped wasting my time in my late 20's. I go on dates but no relationship and no spending the night. I've come to learn that most men just want to achieve having you. Sad but true. Open your eyes ladies. If you do settle for a man make him earn you.
Golden advice. At 34, still single, I appreciate this REMINDER. I was raised well and had great Christian mentors but but I lost my way with my ex and don't ever want to make the same mistakes anymore. So I really need all this wisdom. Thank you.
@@cherh 🔥 ❤️ ♥️ Yea he always talking about he wants me to be kind to him (which honestly I am just to keep the peace as he is my sons father) yet he is never kind. The ridiculousness. But I stay grounded.
Don't be loyal to disrespect Thank you Tony. I needed to hear this message. I walked away and you (as a woman) never hear this perspective from the males
this is so true lol I was talking to a guy & noticed a girl always commenting on his facebook, I asked him about her & he said the famous line “shes just some girl, she wants me BUT I dont want her” 😂😂😂 Just when I was about to let my guards down and go all in with him I saw them together downtown, his reaction alone confirmed she was more than a girl so I was done with him. 6 years later he came back trying to sweep me off my feet
Yup. Just walked away from a guy that was trying to make me compromise what I wanted. This man wanted me to drive an hour to see him. I'm not driving for no date. Invest in me. He approached me so do the courting. I'm not desperate for love nor attention. Bye 👋🏽
Exactly! I’m not meeting you halfway, quarter way or pick you up. Twelve months is way too long, that’s a year I can’t get back. Leave immediately when you see one red flag!
God please bless this young nan with more and more wisdom everyday. And let him and his wife love eachother more and more everyday. I hope they grow old together happily in you God. I am amazed everyday with how much wisdom he has and is so young. I think he is the only one. God please raise up more young men like this. Please God.
That’s what I’ve been saying, the majority have always tried to come back, because they realized that I was a good one nor would I put up with their mess!!! There was one who was interesting when he was 22 y/o and I was 17 y/o. Not a good idea to get involved with a coworker, but we only spoke on the phone. We had a disagreement about something and next thing I knew, he’s screaming at me on the phone, so I hung up. He called right back and asked if I hung up on him, I told him, “Yes, you will not speak to me that way!” and he started yelling again, so I hung up again! He called back a third time, his voice was softer and he seemed like he wanted to listen while correcting himself when speaking. Nope, he started screaming again, I hung up and he didn’t call back. I saw him the next day at work and he did not say one word, because he knew his actions were not going to work on me. I totally felt, if he was okay with screaming at me like that over something small, it was only a matter of time where he thought it was okay to hit me!!! 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
thank you. this video on time. I just find out my husband cheated on me again. And it time for him to go! I deserve respect! It hard because I don't want to break up my family and I was looking forward to celebrating 10 years vacation (my first vacation out the country). But it's probably best to show myself self love, respect, and honor. And not fall for his fake romance because he's a liar
Go sis, even if just long enough to start therapy for you and heal. Take time apart to allow him to think about his decisions. Once you are healed you can truly then ask The most high to show you what to do next. ✨✨
i have many such freinds who are exactly this type of women as you say and mention . but i'm not that type unfortunately . i use only spanish fly drops on my husband and it actually really works as he's so bad in bed
I’m 42 and single because I was the foolish woman who put up with wayyyy too much. I wish someone had taught me this when I was young. I got it now but I might’ve gotten it too late.
Same. Turned 42 April 2nd. Right now I'm just beginning to accept the reality that even a good man can't seem to escape his corner-cutting nature unless you the woman demand it. I always felt I couldn't respect a man who had to be trained. I just don't know how I feel about men in general anymore. They're busy testing us and thinking we are easy or dumb while we're giving them benefit of doubt and hoping for the best. I will focus on self love and the three B's as Tony advises.
@@nzingahoney it’s hard because men tend to play games and as women we want what we want and we end up putting in way too much work on the wrong guy/ relationship if we aren’t taught differently. I believe this is a fathers job to groom us on how to deal with men and mothers job to lead by example on how to have healthy self esteem and know your value. My parents both showed me all the love but they both dropped the ball on teaching me these important life/ survival skills. I stayed with a narcissist for 11 years. He love bombed me so good I thought I had died and gone to heaven then he switched it up on me and I wasted many many years trying to save him whole time I was losing myself. I saw it very clearly 11 years and a baby later. Now I’ve been single for 4 years and have a 3 year old. Tough learning experience. It cost me vital years of my life. I am happy I took some time to heal. Now I’m ready to date but have no idea how to start. 14 years a baby and a pandemic later, the dating game has changed!!! Not to mention being older, lots of men are looking for younger women. Best of luck sis 🫶🏽
I had a man. He's the father of all my children. We split up but decided that throwing 16 years away was too much so got back together. I thought we were moving forward when he bought me a replacement ring last Christmas. When I asked him about setting a date I could never get a straight answer so I left it until one day I had enough and asked again..he let it out that he doesn't want to get married and just 'isn't into it' anymore. He got me the ring to make me happy thinking we'd be happy just plodding along as we are. Without hesitation I said goodbye and I'm not looking back. No commitment then no getting husband treatment with all the trimmings. Bye! I'm a strong woman and I will continue to raise the kids the best I can on my own. No doubt he'll visit when he can but I can't keep on when we have different outlooks and a different end goal. I'd rather have no man than a half hearted man.
Not being funny, but this is what happens, why buy the cow when you got the calf for free? If there's one thing we women have to learn is God's order is the best way to protect us from heartbreak and hurt. Marriage, sex, then children in that order. If we could all keep our legs closed until Marriage the world and society would be a better place. Period.
I'm sorry but I'm the woman that has to respect the man also and if he's not morally clean and have a love for what's right then I really don't want to entertain them
The man a woman respects is a woman who respects herself.
Exactly!!!
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Period Point Blank POOH!!!💯💯💯💯%🛡️🤺 🧕🏾 AMEN!!
Yup!!!
Facts
“A man respects a woman who is willing to walk away.”
@@genovasquez8361 great for you! 😂 be blessed!
@@genovasquez8361 yeah right. You have to be able to find better. Which is usually not the case for your type. 🤣
I totally disagree and will debate this man on this subject and many others because he's really not telling it right he just telling women what they want to hear😮
@@genovasquez8361 I don’t know who told you that men get better with age. Women only want old men for one thing… MONEY. We actually laugh at old men who think that young women find them desirable for anything else.
So it’s not that men get better with age, it’s that most men get richer with age.
factssss
I walked away…. “I forgive myself for falling for potential ,instead of their reality”❤
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That’s the pet I’m still working on! Forgiving myself for falling for bs
This. All of this🎯
Me too ❤
Amen sistah! 😇🦋👏
After our first date, my now husband didn’t call me like he said he would. When he finally called I said look I’m not about to play these games with you and from that point on we talked daily and married 7 months later. I recently asked him when he knew he would marry me and he said when I told him I’m not the one to play wit when he didn’t call a after the first date. Stand your ground ladies he will respect it💗
So you got a man who can't think for himself. Man-child.
I very briefly was starting to date this guy who eventually ghosted me. Nothing ever got physical (that’s not what I do) and I resisted texting him again after the initial 2 texts that he ignored. 1 month later I got offered a position where he worked and I had to work for him for 3 months. I could not believe how he acted once we were working together. It was like he really liked me! Acted jealous sometimes. Was always going out of his way to do things for me. Like he was trying to earn his way back into my good graces! He’s been promoted now so has moved away. But crazy the reaction I got simply because I did not beg him or pester him after he ghosted me.
I called this out and he ghosted. Guess that’s the difference between a real man ‘your husband,’ and the unserious
Thank you
Hmm every time I told a man I didn't want to play games he got worse!😂
I have walked away from friends, family, and partners..
You will NOT Mistreat ME!!
Facts!
Absolutely! You sound just like me 😂
100 %
At all
Amen
Accepting any kind of treatment & rewarding bad behavior just to have a piece of a "man" has conditioned a lot of men to continuously play in our faces. This is why self-respect is so important.🙏🏽
This 💯 💯
PREACH!!!!!
SAY THAT!!!! 🎉
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Well said
The woman that respects herself… is respected ❤️
My grandmother said: A man is made to ask and a woman to deny 😊
yesss 🔥🙌🏻😁💯
I love this!
Ooh your grandma was spitting straight fire 🔥
@@theorderofthebees7308 I really appreciate the way you spoke about my grandmother. Sounds like you met her. lol 😂
Thank you
Be a proverbs 31 woman that respect's herself. Be willing to walk away from any relationship, romantic or platonic that doesn't align with your worth and value.
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YES & AMEN.
And most importantly if the relationship doesn't align with GOD'S commandments, walk away. That's a Proverbs 31 woman.
@@heavenleighbeing And if it's not ordained by God, walk away. ✌🏽
@@c.l.9344 God will only ordain what aligns with His Commandments, His Word, His Principles🙌🏽
Who doesn't align with God's word.
“You gotta show a man in the first 12 months that you’ll leave his butt.” Facts!!
Only first 12 months?
@@redefinedliving5974 ...basically..show him early on that you will not tolerate piss-poor treatment.
Facts!!
12 months???
3 month, 6month check, etc. 12 is too damn long.
In the first month and there after keep the goods for your Husbands
Woman who set boundaries and Loves Themselves First. I was taught by my Dad to always know you don't need a man. I am so grateful, my Father taught me this priceless mindset and my Mother was nurturing/loving and taught me how to be a remarkable Woman.
How do u deal with. A guy with female friends he's flirted with I want to walk away..
@@qweenkia a guy with female friends is usually a guy who is waiting to sleep with them or has slept with them. why bother with him?
I’m still confused on the whole saying by a woman: I DONT NEED A MAN😮
EVERY woman On this planet called Earth NEEDS A Man.. if not for one thing It’s For the Other 🤔 these women need to be more specific on what They mean WHEN SAYING THEY DONT NEED A MAN …
Your father is a rare one💎
@qweenkia walk away, please. Why are you even dealing with something that you don't like? The hurt will only last for a moment you will survive. ❤
So basically men respect a woman who doesn’t want him. This is why it is said to be with a man who loves you more than you love him rather than the other way around. I’m beginning to think that men don’t trust love that’s given too easily no matter how pure it is because they think there’s gotta be a catch, or at least there “should” be a catch. If it is too good men don’t trust it. Men have created a dangerous game of their own.
Fully agree. It is up to us to not play it
I’ve always believed in being with a man who loves me more!
Noone wants anything that comes easily. Even if it is most pure love.
The more we try to get something the more we value it.
Simples
Nope. That's not what I get from this. I get you have to be willing to show him what you will allow. If you follow him regularly, he's not just talking about ANY man, he's talking about the man that's your husband. A man follow is your husband. It wakes him up because men can be complacent, immature and if he really is ready for this relationship, then he will wake up. He had to show you that he's changing and yall work together. You don't want to manipulate and find someone who loves you more.
Indeed.
The one who can walk away!! Amen!!! Took me yearssss to learn this lesson I love myself too much now to be mediocre! KNOW YOUR WORTH LADIES! We are the catch!!!!
I agree especially when you refuse to go back .
Same unfortunately- never again! I won’t even warn a man - I will just watch and wait and see how he is and I just go!!! Too much time lost - yes Proverbs 31 🙌🙌🙌
Same here. Be willing to walk away and in some cases, never look back. You are the prize!
Yessss
Yeah but this asshole says we should give them three or four chances. Anyone who does that doesn't respect themselves.
A woman who challenges a man to grow and mature in every aspect of his life deserves to have a piece of that man's heart❤
Only wise men know and appreciate that fact.
@@nikkyshamz2696 Absolutely🙏🔥💗
I'm in this situation right now and honestly its blessing to have a woman who challenges me silently to man up. I absolutely needed this and yes honestly i can confess i do have the peter pan syndrome but afterwards meeting my woman i have been putting more effort to change and become a true Man not a male. Thank you for this comment
@@judekabongo282 Keep leveling up brother💪👑🔥
but they dont wanna grow up and mature...if he would have listened to me , it would have saved him 33yrs in prison
a man with God in his heart and who will pray for you is a blessing.
Most men get ANGRY 😡 when you have morals and standards. You walk away and they'll start acting mean even passing rumors!! They wanna hurt you because they tried to play you but ended up playing themselves because you took it slow, paying attention to his lies and shady energy .
Yup this happened to me dude was mad cause I walked away so he talk a lot of mess and spread rumors lol
@@shutit4024 it's happened to me a few times. They'll even start using other people to try to hurt you instead of just saying, well I was telling lies and trying to manipulate her anyway and just let it go. Like your not supposed to protect yourself. I've had to BLOCK some so they couldn't call me anymore or take them off of my Facebook page when I use to be on Facebook. There's a man at my job who's in his 70's been there a very long time. Whenever he starts saying negative stuff about an attractive women I already know she done turned his ignorant, selfish ass down because he does the same thing to me. Like a 14 year old boy acting mad 😡 and stupid LoL. Sits up in church every week. Seat fillers , that's what I call folks like that.
@@donnajeffreys8252 I don’t understand men that do this type of stuff, a lot of guys in their 20s do this where I’m from, it’s sad honestly they need to grow up!
Are you sure, those men are not Yoruba men, from the western part of Nigeria?
@@shutit4024 They aren't real men today, they are over grown boys. The majority of guys don't respect women like they used to do.
No. If you could sleep with her fast…That means she was emotionally broken; which made her easy to manipulate. And you chose to exploit that and break her more….Any man like that is not a good man. Losing a man like that is not a loss. And a man like that bringing moral judgment against a woman or anyone is ridiculous.
Girl pls 😭 everybody wants to make excuses. Get therapy. It’s your fault if you make the choice to sleep with someone immediately and allow the bare minimum. Nobody owes you ANYTHING but you. So start doing better bc these men don’t care either way.
@@xxcryssmarie224 Shut up.
Exactly!
@@xxcryssmarie224 you’re right but sad part is people make a lot of excuses for men like these. Oh they’re just like that , it’s your fault for falling for it! It completely takes away any accountability from the other party. There are in fact women who have grown up to have low self esteem and nonexistent boundaries. Men who can sense this but still manipulate them to give up their bodies are also at fault. They laugh and call her easy when really, she most likely had a traumatic life. It’s not an excuse, it’s a sad reality for most women and some men use that for their own selfish gain. It’s sick
Imagine if someone murdered a whole bunch of people. When the time comes to settle down and have a normal life with a wife/ husband and kids, they are arrested and put on trial. On trial, the judge looks at how the murderer was able to get away with it. Imagine him getting released because well… it was the victim’s fault for being too naive to follow him/her to the car or to the alleyway or to his house. Now he’s able to live his or her life like the families he or she traumatized aren’t suffering from the actions he made. If that makes sense. Yes, we know there are serial killers out here so we should know better than to go with a stranger … but does that make the murderer any less wrong??
One of the problems is western culture, normalizes sex before marriage, living together, babies before marriage. It’s often times too late when the woman realizes that approach will never benefit her. Start normalizing the opposite and society will take a huge shift. Men will have no choice, but to step up. The power is all in our hands ladies.
ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!
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Absolutely!
Did that really ever work though? Even when women follow what you preach some men still had side-chicks and were horrible husbands and fathers. What I’m saying is it’s all about the man’s character that determines his suitability as a husband and/or father.
Yes I realized this, this year at 28
“A man respects a woman who will walk away. If you want to keep a man, you gotta be willing to lose him” 16:51
You Never Lied!!!! Alot of women are desperate and take alot of disrespect from men...I have no problem walking away from disrespect
Women listened to men telling them they are too uptight and prude, but men just end up exploiting our kindness when we gave them benefit of doubt. We need to go back to our high standards and accepting marriage as real commitment only.
I love being the girl that walked away! ❤️ idgaf I’m not settling ever again I appreciate my exes for everything!
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Facts same here
I know that's right
YAASSSS!!🎉
THANK YOU NEXT 😂
Anytime you have to walk away from a man, it's best to move on and not go back to him cause it's always worse if you do.
that urge to go back is intense. You gotta fight it everyday.
Facts been there done that
Very true
This isn’t true so many married man’s women have left them
@@destiny5481 yup until you no longer care at all
You are so RIGHT! I've said NO to marriage more than I can remember. Married a couple of times but now single. Now I'm 62 years old and I still will not have sex with a man unless we are married! Listen women fear God and keep His commandments!! Flee from SIN and watch God bless you!
Amen!!! Glory to God❤❤❤
I hear you girl! Nothing wrong old fashioned values. Thank you Jesus!❤
The one he’s providing for 🎉
Amen
HalleluYAH!!
I had A man ask me to go out of town with him...I told him I'll go but I'm not sleeping with you.....he said never mind....told me all I needed to know
Kicked mine out and divorced him after 17years of marriage and 3 kids when I had given him a warning about flirting and disrespecting me.He apologised and within few months started again ,so I asked for a seperation for him to go figure out what he wanted, he thought it wise to find himself a whole girlfriend using we are separated excuse, saved him with divorce and kicked him out,he came back crying like a baby only to find out new girlfriend infected him with 2 STDs,Trich &Hep B chronic!he lost everything!moving on with no regrets!doing better than before and glowing while doing it.God is good.Know your value and always maintain your respect.
He thought because I invested 17years of marriage and children I will never walk away!proved him wrong
Right move, congratulations 😅
Black men are irresponsable and dangerous ! A lot of them are acting like children. It is a shame and it kills our community !
They always think you’ll never walk away…take back your power and walk away and move on and heal!!! Best feeling in the world is the power of walking away from what no longer serves you ❤
This right here speaks to me.
Ikr....divorced after 21 yrs of marriage n happily divorced for 7!!!
As a woman I will tell you the reason most women are desperate for men is NOT because they want kids and a family. Its because something went terribly wrong in the father daughter dynamics growing up that led to low self worth and self confidence....and thusly seeking validation from men became that replacement.
As a woman who chose not to go the family route in my 20' s(I'm now 41 living an authentic happy child free life and financially free) I too had my moments of desperation but It wasn't until I worked on myself looked at all of my accomplishments that I did on my own to get me to where I am now that the desperation went away....now I seek a man who can offer companionship and go places its just unfortunate that I run into grown men who play little boy games....yes even the wealthy men...so I am single by choice to protect my peace.
Men respect women when a man respects himself and they raise self respecting women.
So to stop this cycle of F boys and low self esteem women....be a better man to yourself and your family. This starts with the father period.
¡Never better said!
I love how you put this together so eloquently. And to add, men please learn to work on yourselves ... there's a lot of hurt men walking around swinging their manhood as f boys...
Well said sister!!!
SPEAK !!!!
Its as though you are speaking about me, perpetually looking for love in all the wrong. My father probably looks at me as a whore. Doesn't know it probably started with him
When my ex walked away from our relationship of 4 years in 2017, I realized my worth, strength and beauty. I was always chosing the same type. That's exhausting, I was just tired of dating the wrong men so I just stayed single, decide to commit my life completely to Christ Jesus and I have been happy with being single.
Amen! I love this.
That's on you for always picking the wrong the man lol
Amen. Do not allow anyone (man/ woman) to disrespect you. Been celibate over 4 years!!
Me too
I Don't miss stress and pain!!
Me, too, Sis! It's been one of the best decisions of my life. Praise God!🙌🏾
Just made one year
Congratulations, it's been 3 years 4 months for me.
When I’ve rejected past guys for sex, even though they were mad about it and left me for it, somewhere along the line they always try and stray back. I say this to say, I’m not saying they respected me more, but I intrigued them because I never gave in . Men aren’t used to that, I guess. And no, I never take a man back who throws a fit over not laying in bed with him.
Same happened to me and they just stop talking to me lol I be like oh well
men still come back even if you had sex with them.
U fixin to move in and get a job at Winn Dixie! 😂 yep! That's how u do it! And really are doesn't have anything to do with it..its your mindset , period men or women! No disrespect but some women don't care not one not about your colorism, atheletic or whatever. It's funny how some of these men think that's where its at. Smh ..lol pathetic
@@deadbeats4417exactly that's what I was gonna say. They all do that.
men ALWAYS come back. sex or no. if you're getting involved with dudes who do this you aren't properly vetting.
I'm cool living a life by myself. I have more important things on my agenda than worrying about passing a man's test.
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Same opinion here
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I've always had people tell me that they admire how I carry myself, it gives them the vibe that I dont deal with bullshit and that I know my worth.
I’m going to start telling men exactly how I feel about them going forward. Carrying a man’s feelings have been the most exhausting part of my life.
Caution: it is wiser to walk away and show in that way that you aren't carrying men's feelings. Remember: the rate of BM murdering BW is increasing, and the excuse is, "She disrespected me." It is wiser often times to speak with your feet...
❤yes
@@hymnodyhandsYes, very wise and extremely effective. My silence always has them calling back but when I’ve patiently and kindly expressed my needs and he can’t do it, I take it that he doesn’t have it in or or doesn’t care to do it for me; therefore, I walk away, block, gone forever.
I'll never forget a man told me months later that I passed his test bc I didn't answer an inappropriate question he asked. Like TG says even good men test women. Know who you are ladies and don't settle!
What was the question ?
Lol my brother (religious) did this while dating. He intentionally asked inappropriate questions to see how she reacted.
What should we say when they ask inappropriate questions?
@@j-tenn226 "I'm not comfortable answering such questions." If they insist, say "it's getting late, and I have something I need to get done"
basically dismiss them then hang up.
If he keeps brining it up despite your wishes, that man isn't testing you he's plain rude and you need to drop him. Why? Because he doesn't respect your boundaries.
@@user-rx7uh9mg4f yeah I gotta agree. A good man may test you, but sexual questions is just disrespect in general. Like that’s not a godly man in the first place
Problem with walking away is that you end up alone - so be sure you are comfortable with that.
You have to love yourself before being with anyone. Make sure you like you! Lol
Sure your alone...but you do the spiritual work and learn to love your life.
Would rather be alone than be with someone and feel alone
@@sherryj738 Oh I do fine..lived my whole life alone, but I see a lot of women struggling to raise their children alone...exhausted, worried all the time, financially strapped...walking away from what they thought was a good relationship, heartbroken.
@@niese8928 You and me both, but not everyone feels that way.
I decided to walk away. I WILL NOT tolerate disrespect I saw to many red flags and I know God will Bless me with someone who will respect me.
I know my worth and won't put up with any man's bullshit! If there is no respect, then there is no relationship.👸🏾
As someone who dates woman, a lot of the woman in this generation are desperate and I don’t say that to be disrespectful. I just experience it on this side and definitely witness on the other side. Woman want someone to love. And it’s at the cost of themselves. And self-esteem: Usually. Woman are lovers by nature, so to see so many lower their standards for a loser saddens me. I try to put them on game. But I know because of my sexuality they don’t want to hear it. I’ve gotten plenty from men and I treated them like trash. So I know a man who wants you will adapt, I know these men are acting a plump fool because of the desperation they sense from the women of today. A solution you keep giving them. Is TO CLOSE your legs. So you can see them red flags 🚩
@@genovasquez8361 lucky her! Thank you for your service
@@genovasquez8361 do you think anyone reading your comments thinks “dang this is a good man. how I wish he was mine”?
No judgments but the way you’re presenting yourself in these comments is not what good women want in a relationship. But hey may you find happiness and be well - it’s your life :)
@@genovasquez8361 you are the one who won't be able to build a family. You think is fun now but you will age and you will regret
@@genovasquez8361 you have reduced yourself to an animal...
@@genovasquez8361 serious question dude, has a woman hurt you in the past?
This is so true. My exes were crazy disrespectful and didn't take me seriously. I walked away and stayed away...years later they were asking for another chance smh. NEVER. I'm convinced a good number of guys never change/grow up.
This. All still act like teenagers.
Yep they all come back wanting another chance
🙅🏾♀️No chance
men are real trash nowadays
Well these type of men are not worth your time ! Games are for kids if they don’t respect you walk away don’t settle or tolerate disrespectful behaviour protect your heart and love yourself it’s hard to walk away but it then the problem they can’t appreciate you or what you bring to the table then let them starve.
What pppp
I think it's high time we start placing more emphasis on men being raised to be better instead of constantly putting the onus on women to decipher so much sociopathic behavior that's been normalized. I think this advice is useful, however it could easily be summed up as most men are full of mess until they prove you otherwise. It's exhausting. It also seems odd that men are supposed to be the leaders but arent expected to lead in celibacy. It seems out of order that she has to essentially require him to grow into a man vs having those values for himself.
Excellent points. Agreed.
The poles are shifting. Women are realizing that we are the true power and men are our compliment. Our true greatness has been suppressed to appease the male ego so they can "rule" over and control God.
Well stated!!!
I wholeheartedly agree with everything you stated. Men are not of God and do not desire healthy dynamics that are sustainable.
After some deep thinking, I have come to the realization that and I would argue that a promiscuous male is WORSE than a promiscuous woman.
Why?
Because (1) women look at men to model their own behavior since women often seek validation and sense of leadership/security to land a lifelong relationship/marriage (2) men often (by society's standards) initiate relationships and invite women into their lives (3) if you have a lack of discipline/self-control, how can you be trusted in other aspects of your life to *lead a woman and family* (because males are so obsessed with submissive women after all and desire to be respected) for a sense of future stability especially as it related to raising children together (males like this is likely to be negligent or absent in child care).
Men are the initiators of dysfunction, especially that they lie and give attention to what is not a part of their long term plan rather than be "logical" about the behaviors/consequences that arise from their actions.
I 100% agree on walking away when he does even the smallest thing. If you stay around he will think you will never go anywhere and he will continue to play with your feelings. In the end you’ll be miserable. It’s better to bow out gracefully in the early stages. Save yourself some time and heartbreak.
I agree, we get a lot of respect. So much so that it takes a rare and honest man to sign up for no sex before marriage. I waited until marriage at the age of 24…just to find out that he was never faithful leading up to our marriage and while I was pregnant. Needless to say we divorced shortly afterwards. I’ve remained abstinent over the 10 years following our split. Even though I whole heartedly believe in this walk, it’s a very single walk even while having the BBB’s you taught us about. At this point, I told God that I’m no longer asking for a husband. I pray that if there’s a man that I’m meant to be a wife to, let it be. If not, help me to continue creating the life that I desire on my own 🙏🏽.
They're really ungrateful. He didn't deserve you.
That's the thing I fear at times. It's why a lot end up settling. I almost did last year.
amen I need to say that same prayer. Thank you and God is great!
That sucks he did that to you! What a pos. Thankfully you got out of that situation. Good for you. I’m where you are now, if it’s meant then God will bring him to me, if not, then let me sustain my own life and happiness ❤
Unfortunately, I hear that more often than not with men saying they agree to abstain with you.
the 2nd time i walked away..he faked a suicide his mama called me from the e.r. ninja overdosed, i told her we not together anymore...i warned him about his street life, drugs n gangs...shortly after he went to prison...for murder, ladies go with your gut NOT looks, money or lust
Sis, could the name NINJA 🥷 have been a clue❓ 🤔🤨😕
Tony was spot on in this video. “A man won’t respect you unless you’re willing to walk away.” Well, I did just that a year ago and my ex finally acknowledged that I’ve moved on with another man who committed to me. The man I’m with now is intentional about being with me- not just through his words, but his actions. My advice is to never date a man who claims he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or settle down with one woman. Turn the other way and find a man who wants the same things you want- relationship, marriage, family, etc.
A disrespectful man won't have respect for anyone, so ladies don't think you can change a thug by being a saint... They're still gonna be a playa... But a respectable man who is God fearing will know a good woman who is a gift. God made woman to be a man's helpmate. But if it's not a union in God, then it won't be blessed. A woman can't change a man either, and she shouldn't want to be a man's reason to be his best self. That belongs to God. God wants every one of us to love him above all, and to do good for him. If you put a man or woman first, it will not be blessed. Worldly people will always seek to indulge in pleasures of the flesh.
Alot of women want to have a man because they are not happy with themselves. They will push themselves on him to avoid dealing with their trauma or low self-esteem.
True. Some though, are tired of being alone despite being happy with themselves. They are thinking: I am decent. Educated. Classy. Attractive. Comfortable in my own company. Where is my man?
literally walked away today! thank you tony this was right on time
So basically a man wants what he can never have 🤷♀️🤦♀️ I just did this... walked away which means we will never be together, but yet I’m a woman he respects. Please explain how this makes any sense... and they say men think logically 🤣👍🤣🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Men aren't logical.
This means you respect yourself, he will become more disrespectful if you’re willing to take his junk. It’s now the next woman’s turn….he may have learned his lesson, and maybe not.
Leaving him now gives the right man access to you. Just keep doing your self work and stay encouraged.
And this is why I don’t listen to ANY of these arrogant online dating professionals. They will have you confused and not wanting to date at all
exactly. the woman he respects, will be the woman he never did wrong to, to begin with,
The biggest gaslight of humanity is that men can control their primal instincts and are more logical. We need to babysit them
I believe this is true. The more I show this man love, the more he pushes back. When im quiet, he's looking for me.
I try to say this to my friends….it goes both ways too when people sense desperation they will take advantage of you.
“I was lookin’ for a woman that would tell me no.” ⬅️ Thats pretty profound actually.
Please. I've told niggas no plenty of times and they kept bothering me asking me why and trying to convince me into to talking to them.
It's how a child behaves. They can't think for themselves so they need someone else to think for them.
That’s the sign of a sicko if you ask me
If you don’t agree or perceive it in a negative way then don’t watch the video.🤷🏾♀️
I don’t. I can’t believe you took time out of your day to state the obvious. Thanks for the advice I guess?
There is something about a woman wanting sex that these men just cannot deal with. It is just amazing how the men really and truly do not see women as human beings. Men have a sex drive, women have a sex drive, get over it. There was a time when men believed that women did not. They believed that women were objects created for their pleasure or purpose. Nothing has really changed.
Facts
Yea you are right about that. And how men are always raping and torturing and murdering women all over the world every 5 minutes and now there degrading women on TH-cam all these men trying to train women on how to keep a man as if we are animals and we have to be trained by these guys on these videos on how to keep a man
And then they complain when the woman who they persuaded/convinced/ sweet-talk to give him a chance in having a future together doesn't actually want to have intercourse in marriage because he really doesn't appeal to her lmao 🤣😂 We shouldn't be sexual until they say we should.
@@leaellas8400 It makes no sense, yet they swear they are logical. Lol
Your totally on it!
Y’all have to understand you having her on her back wasn’t due to your greatness. Women are sexual beings as well. We want sex as much as y’all do. Especially if it’s been a long time. Your ego tells y’all it’s due to your greatness. Most times. We want sex. Flat out. A lot of women aren’t comfortable with that.
😂😂😂😂😅😅😅🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
You’re right sister! I can pay my own way I don’t need a man really , but I do keep him for sex!
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This! Also, who’s to say she’s easy because it happened on the first night? Like women can’t just use men for their bodies too. Like we automatically want a relationship if we have sex. And the length of time you wait to have sex doesn’t affect the quality of the relationship. I had a longer relationship from someone I met and connected with in a short time frame than someone who I’ve known for years prior. Just saying.
Thank you! When I first heard about some of these women, I thought, "She may be getting over an ex or she's just horny and chose someone". Also, just because she slept with one man the first night, doesn't mean it will happen with another man. It's like men think we're robots. We can pick choose how we want to be sexual and it varies greatly.
Im so tired of it being okay for men to not grow up & always play games with a woman until he pushes her away. Why cant they do right from the start?
Why can’t we all be rich from birth and live until we are ready to go? Life ain’t fair.
Because despite being the supposedly "smarter gender" 🙄they like to rely on the "men mature slower" than women argument. Pure foolishness
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@@TonyGaskins good analogy
They keep telling us that they have no natural moral compass. We need to start believing them.
The way I conduct myself within the dating realm has changed immensely; every since I began listening to, Uncle Tony. Forever grateful ❤
100 percent
Walk away, when you need too!
Unfortunately, society puts sooo much pressure on us women to be married…. and if we are not married with kids there is something wrong with us…. I have decided not to settle for just anyone…. I support myself and will remain on my own…. because nobody can offer me what I already have. I don’t care what anyone thinks..
Once i realised there is superficial pressure i stopped carying and now am single.
Also never forget how many miserable unhappy wifes are there looking at you with envy
There are woman who are married with kids AND they are miserable! Marriage doesn’t equal happiness!
Women who are conditioned to want a man above all else need to learn how to love themselves more. A woman who has the self respect to walk away has already learned that lesson.
Tony this is so true... he respects a woman who respects herself.
You gone pay some bills part cracked me up.
Thank you for this CONFIRMATION. I REFUSE to lay down w| ANY man who isn't being LED by God. With that being said if he isn't following God then he can't and WON'T LEAD me anywhere.
I strive, survive, and thrive to be a Proverbs 31 woman. In other words ... I'm celibate until he's Heaven Sent 💯 ❤🙏🏾
This was meant for me today. I am walking away. I am done. He blames me for the failure of the relationship, but I’m so done that despite me doubting myself and crying, I’m pushing through. Maybe once I’m gone he will respect me and learn a lesson for his next woman. I’m not returning a third time.
Congratulations! Best of luck sis, you got this!
Third time is not a Charm, in this case. There will never be a third time to mess up with me. And I loved him
I did the same thing too I walked away from a relationship that I was in love with a Man but I got tired of being in a relationship where marriage was something he didn't want. You did the right thing sometimes we have to do this to them to get their attention
Me too. Amen
Stand firm it’s not easier but as days goes by with no contact and staying busy it gets easier, along the way find and know and value your time and worth. No one says it will be easy, but it’s worth it at the end. Blessings to you.
Love yourself enough to be willing to leave! Got ta go!!!!
Tony done said the young lady with the thick tongue 😂😂😂😂😂😂I done hollered in my apartment!! I know my neighbors heard me. The imitation of her is so funny😂😂😂😂😂🤦
Grl....I died at " ion really do dat" 😂😂😂😂😂
@@beefaye6861 ikr!!😂😂🤦
@@veronicawilliams1957 I did and yea it is!!😊 I enjoyed it!
I just heard it & I’m screamingggg 🤣🤣😂😂 I scrolled down to see if I’m crazy 😂😂😂
This is so crazy 😢. A man who does the same act as her is allowed to reap benefits from it and degrade her. I used to love men because my dad and his friends are some of the best men I’ve ever met. After my experience in the dating field I lost ALL respect for men and lost the desire to want a marriage and children. I felt like K. Michelle was right when she said men are not good people. The only reason I’m changing is because the Lord told me don’t trust man, trust him and he will send the one. My heart grew so cold and it’s disturbing to think that some can cause such turmoil to many individuals and later on decide to be better people but leave a trail of hurt, some who may not recover properly. It grieves my spirit and I’m glad I had a veil over me.
keep lovin urself sis, the lord will do the rest. so waiting when u'll be ripe. most men trash nowadays fr :/
💐💐 waiting on God is the best plan
THE ANSWER IS NO BLACK MEN AND HA STANDARDS BOUNDARIES AND EXPECTATIONS FOR OTHER MEN! YOU CHANCES ARE BETTER OUTSIDE OF BLACKISTAN
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Same here lovely! I'm happy you guarded your heart. There is no loss when not interacting with these vile creatures. May God continue to protect you 🙏❤✨
I agree with this. I've walked away from a few relationships, and I got the respect. Always respect yourself first. Always have an exit plan.😊
Respect from a man means nothing. It is a circular argument. They only "respect" what they believe they will lose. That's called emotional labour and men have been playing those games on women for thousands of years. Women do the emotional labour and men believe they can act like fools because women take on the heavy lifting in relationships.
I wouldn't want a man who wants me because I don't want him. I would want a man who wants me because he knows I want him. That's how I know he has self respect.
@@kdphotos4691I like that reasoning you just shared. It's a sound argument. I've always had a similar sentiment that males are not congruent in their behaviors, values, expectations, and "words," but I never thought of the details from the perspective you offered 😅 Thank you so much for sharing this!
Tony is a comedian 😭😭 but in all sound advice! 🫶🏾
When Brother told the part about the 24yo saying you bout to get a job at WinnDixie to help pay these bills…I fell out!!!😂😂😂😂😅
Same omg 😂😂😂😂😂
@@TheCupcakeicecream I couldn’t control my laughter!!! 😂 😆
@Love Souls Everytime!
lol it was by far the most hilarious of his videos. He learned something that day too. Sex comes with some expectations 😂😂😂. So don’t be so quick to sleep with any one.
@@cherylbrown5758 agreed! 🤣
You are correct when you stated a woman must be willing to walk away from a man; the man will see you care and love yourself.
That 24 year old woman knew exactly what she was doing. She did that to indirectly tell you you wasn't ready for her for real and was barking up the wrong tree lol.
The amount of wise woman in this comment section makes me happy , I can tell you all have healed and wants the best man for you, wonderful!!!! Because all of us know that a man can manipulate and use us.
This video is timed so perfectly. I just did this and I was debating if I did the wrong thing. 3 weeks later I still think about him, dream about him but he wasn’t looking for a relationship, so I walked away for my peace. Only one month into dating, we became so close so fast, he’s slept at my place, I knew his friends, we never had sex but it was clearly giving dating and relationship so I knew he was getting ready to drag me through the mud. I wasn’t mad at him,I’m still not. I know I’m lovable and the right person is going to adore me. Honestly my confidence ever since has been better, because I know I have the power to walk away from something I so desperately want. Also ever since I’ve been TRULY working on me, and now I no longer desperately want it, because I’m giving myself the love and assurance I was looking for in him. I am 21.
You are so young. I’m glad you know this. ❤ wish you the best
You’re very wise! You did the right thing. You was only going to keep getting hurt because u wanted him and he didn’t want a relationship. Happy YOU choose You!
You did right sis
"Tony, you don't have dreams, you have movies" 🤣 sorry I CANNOT
A REAL man who is emotional developed will ❤ a woman who is sent to him from God to fulfill their life purpose together...that is divine love 😊
The video is straight facts! Being willing to walk away at all times and having standards is key. I'm on my 2nd long-term relationship at 36, getting married next week after 2 years together. My current partner has never been married, and no previous long-term relationships.
I only divorced my EX-husband because he cheated after 13 years together and refused therapy or doing any work to try and rebuild. That was my que. The few other men I've met over the years, I'd never begin a relationship with once I saw how they moved.
Congrats on your engagement!! I hope you 2 have a harmonious wedding and marriage; you deserve nothing less sis!! 🥂💕
@Jennifer Thank you, sis! I pray the same for you! 🙏🏾❤️
Yes set boundaries for yourself ladies be self sufficient love him. but do not ever walk depend on him show him your worth but show yourself your own worth put them in thier place always have a plan and always keep your finances in order let him know by your actions and not so much mouth respect yourself first and know your worth before you commit live and learn ❤
Congratulations
„Tell your Mama that you are going to move out of the house…“ this hit me 😂😂😂😂
Very true 👏🏽
You're speaking facts. This is why I always had issues breaking up with men, because they knew that it was nothing for me to leave them. I used to sit and talk to my great grandmother and she told me too many other choices to worry about one man. If a man told me that it was over I was like okay bye. They always tried to come back.
It's been my experience and opinion that men want a challenge 🙄 basically want what they can't get. I stopped wasting my time in my late 20's. I go on dates but no relationship and no spending the night. I've come to learn that most men just want to achieve having you. Sad but true. Open your eyes ladies. If you do settle for a man make him earn you.
Tony is the reason I stay single with standards. When my man comes, I will know. Thanks for grooming me Uncle Tony.
Golden advice. At 34, still single, I appreciate this REMINDER. I was raised well and had great Christian mentors but but I lost my way with my ex and don't ever want to make the same mistakes anymore. So I really need all this wisdom. Thank you.
I love he mix comedy with his counsel. Hilarious.
Well, I walked away from my sons father and he is still mad disrespectful.
Yeah, because you had the audacity to walk away. He probably couldn't believe it. Good for you! 👏🏾 keep going Queen! There's nothing like PEACE!
@@cherh 🔥 ❤️ ♥️
Yea he always talking about he wants me to be kind to him (which honestly I am just to keep the peace as he is my sons father) yet he is never kind. The ridiculousness. But I stay grounded.
'Cauz he's still a boy. I believe this video is about a real man.
He’s not a man lol
But you already had his child, so it’s different
Don't be loyal to disrespect
Thank you Tony. I needed to hear this message. I walked away and you (as a woman) never hear this perspective from the males
Man should not test but love back in the right way! They should be taught how to treat a women by their parents and society!
this is so true lol I was talking to a guy & noticed a girl always commenting on his facebook, I asked him about her & he said the famous line “shes just some girl, she wants me BUT I dont want her” 😂😂😂 Just when I was about to let my guards down and go all in with him I saw them together downtown, his reaction alone confirmed she was more than a girl so I was done with him. 6 years later he came back trying to sweep me off my feet
"Heard a car crank up" 😂 his face was hilarious 😂❤ 2:19
Yoooo,here I am listening with great compassion, and YOU SAY... Tony, you don't have dreams you make movies...😂😂😂that's funny. 😂😂
Yup. Just walked away from a guy that was trying to make me compromise what I wanted. This man wanted me to drive an hour to see him. I'm not driving for no date. Invest in me. He approached me so do the courting. I'm not desperate for love nor attention. Bye 👋🏽
Right choice sis ❤
They crazy out here
Exactly right.
Exactly! I’m not meeting you halfway, quarter way or pick you up. Twelve months is way too long, that’s a year I can’t get back. Leave immediately when you see one red flag!
"If you want to keep a man, you should be willing to lose him"
God please bless this young nan with more and more wisdom everyday. And let him and his wife love eachother more and more everyday. I hope they grow old together happily in you God.
I am amazed everyday with how much wisdom he has and is so young. I think he is the only one.
God please raise up more young men like this. Please God.
We are all high value but it’s whether or not we realize it and that’s when we finally love ourselves fully.
Respectability and desire are two different things. You said the words are interchangeable. They are not.
I like this guy... He's funny!
You are right. The men that were more eager to follow me were the ones I rejected as soon as they did something to disrespect me.
That’s what I’ve been saying, the majority have always tried to come back, because they realized that I was a good one nor would I put up with their mess!!!
There was one who was interesting when he was 22 y/o and I was 17 y/o. Not a good idea to get involved with a coworker, but we only spoke on the phone. We had a disagreement about something and next thing I knew, he’s screaming at me on the phone, so I hung up. He called right back and asked if I hung up on him, I told him, “Yes, you will not speak to me that way!” and he started yelling again, so I hung up again! He called back a third time, his voice was softer and he seemed like he wanted to listen while correcting himself when speaking. Nope, he started screaming again, I hung up and he didn’t call back. I saw him the next day at work and he did not say one word, because he knew his actions were not going to work on me. I totally felt, if he was okay with screaming at me like that over something small, it was only a matter of time where he thought it was okay to hit me!!! 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
Like the old school ppl used to say “It’s tight but it’s right!” Great advice.
thank you. this video on time. I just find out my husband cheated on me again. And it time for him to go! I deserve respect! It hard because I don't want to break up my family and I was looking forward to celebrating 10 years vacation (my first vacation out the country). But it's probably best to show myself self love, respect, and honor. And not fall for his fake romance because he's a liar
Go sis, even if just long enough to start therapy for you and heal. Take time apart to allow him to think about his decisions. Once you are healed you can truly then ask The most high to show you what to do next. ✨✨
i have many such freinds who are exactly this type of women as you say and mention . but i'm not that type unfortunately . i use only spanish fly drops on my husband and it actually really works as he's so bad in bed
I’m 42 and single because I was the foolish woman who put up with wayyyy too much. I wish someone had taught me this when I was young. I got it now but I might’ve gotten it too late.
It's not too late
Same. Turned 42 April 2nd. Right now I'm just beginning to accept the reality that even a good man can't seem to escape his corner-cutting nature unless you the woman demand it. I always felt I couldn't respect a man who had to be trained. I just don't know how I feel about men in general anymore. They're busy testing us and thinking we are easy or dumb while we're giving them benefit of doubt and hoping for the best. I will focus on self love and the three B's as Tony advises.
@@nzingahoney it’s hard because men tend to play games and as women we want what we want and we end up putting in way too much work on the wrong guy/ relationship if we aren’t taught differently. I believe this is a fathers job to groom us on how to deal with men and mothers job to lead by example on how to have healthy self esteem and know your value. My parents both showed me all the love but they both dropped the ball on teaching me these important life/ survival skills. I stayed with a narcissist for 11 years. He love bombed me so good I thought I had died and gone to heaven then he switched it up on me and I wasted many many years trying to save him whole time I was losing myself. I saw it very clearly 11 years and a baby later. Now I’ve been single for 4 years and have a 3 year old. Tough learning experience. It cost me vital years of my life. I am happy I took some time to heal. Now I’m ready to date but have no idea how to start. 14 years a baby and a pandemic later, the dating game has changed!!! Not to mention being older, lots of men are looking for younger women. Best of luck sis 🫶🏽
I had a man. He's the father of all my children. We split up but decided that throwing 16 years away was too much so got back together. I thought we were moving forward when he bought me a replacement ring last Christmas. When I asked him about setting a date I could never get a straight answer so I left it until one day I had enough and asked again..he let it out that he doesn't want to get married and just 'isn't into it' anymore. He got me the ring to make me happy thinking we'd be happy just plodding along as we are. Without hesitation I said goodbye and I'm not looking back. No commitment then no getting husband treatment with all the trimmings. Bye! I'm a strong woman and I will continue to raise the kids the best I can on my own. No doubt he'll visit when he can but I can't keep on when we have different outlooks and a different end goal. I'd rather have no man than a half hearted man.
Not being funny, but this is what happens, why buy the cow when you got the calf for free? If there's one thing we women have to learn is God's order is the best way to protect us from heartbreak and hurt. Marriage, sex, then children in that order. If we could all keep our legs closed until Marriage the world and society would be a better place. Period.
I'm sorry but I'm the woman that has to respect the man also and if he's not morally clean and have a love for what's right then I really don't want to entertain them
This man is telling the truth.