If you all pay attention he says this only applies to the men who YOU see as your husband later. Therefore, unless that is the case you don’t need to do this. ALSO, you are the one who is ending things and putting your foot down. This does not apply to all males and all relationships. He’s also not saying you should try to impress him he’s telling you to not just go sulking around after the break up. Do YOU and better YOURSELF sis. Be your definition of beautiful and independent! There’s nothing wrong with what’s being said
I wholeheartedly agree!!! Less than 5 minutes in this man touched my soul with his presentation! He validated my exact sentiment to an individual. Coming from a man's perspective? I now realize I was NOT wrong with my assessment. Locked all the way down! I was called emotional, childish, stubborn lol. I am in my non-negotiable stage! 🙂
A narc will hold on for dear life! He will search forever and never find another you! Run! Going to Kroger wanting to sell puppies but Kroger doesn't sell them. The potential you thought or hoped you would/will get is not available. Ty TG!
Nothing wrong at all!!!!! I learned some things and knew some things; saw some strengths and gaps of weakness. I was proud of myself for some things and mad at myself for others and had to forgive myself because I didn't understand things I hadn't been taught. At the end of the day, Brother Tony has consistently and honestly broken down the TRUTH in love, NO holds barred!!!!!!!! If it applies, don't be offended, just ask God to help you change, forgive yourself, be grateful for this Brother and commit to being better so you don't repeat the cycle. Thank you Brother Tony!!! May God continue to Bless you, your marriage and your ministry.
Grow to love yourself more. Learn from the experience and move on. Know your worth and never have soul ties with no ex. Don't lose sleep. Get your beauty rest. Peace, love, and Your happiness means the world. Do not look back. Stop ALL contacts. God's Blessings.
This methods that helps me to get my ex back…This program is both for male and females.. I would recommend it to anyone. Good luck guys. ….Please visit here *MyExLove. info*
I glowed up started working, got a new car, and started going out with friends. My ex came knocking on my door a year later! Nope, buddy!! It’s too late!! ✌🏾🥳
A year boo?? I keep thinking that if my ex wanted me back he'd turn around quick quick. Not happening though. I'm moving forward, but still hurts a bit.
godseed79 Yes!! The whole time, he had been riding pass my house trying to make me jealous of him being with other women. When it didn’t work out with them as expected.. he finally came out the wood works! THE NERVE!!🙄
I never took him back. I know he regretted it because he tried to get me back. I moved to another city miles away and got on with my life. I developed myself confidence and respect and worked hard and got all the things I wanted for myself. My own home, brilliant job and lots of new friends. Life goes on. 👸 🙌
My husband of 28 years down graded to an old grandma backseat Whore for 3 years now!!! I haven’t left him for one second stood by his side wondering why he keeps doing this?? This one is #7! And I’m still here!! Probably because he removed me from all accounts and I can’t leave without a penny to my name!! He told me last week I’ll NEVER be a one woman man! 28 years thrown away!! I’m pointless!!!
What I’m doing now and had to do 😢 it hurts walking away but I know if I don’t do it then he’ll never respect me . But I’m the meantime I’m learning and growing 😊 he wasn’t a bad guy but now it’s time to boss up and do me!
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems 🙏🙏🙏
He tried contacting me again...but I just blocked him. Greatest feeling in the world. I like a new man now and if he doesn't act right, I'll cut him off too.
Riight me too I just blocked my ex who tried to speak to me again and it felt good 😌✨to just block him and I said the same thing let this new dude mess up and it’s over for him too lol
Amen. This second hard hitting break up got me here. I compromised. I accepted my mistakes and was ready to work on them. For us. He couldnt hold on that long? Well, good for him. I KNOW you will have to settle down for way lesser and what I gave you (I am a tough girl to love, but I myself loved you abundantly). I won't have to know it in the future boo, cause I know my love for you. And you lost it. There's nothing worse than regret. I know you will settle down for less, and will have your peace (the peace for which you decided to let go).
I hope this is true because I started today. I was taken for granted he didn't appreciate my love. I'm tired he has called and text all day. I want answer
Angela Stewart keep going sis. Mine was blocked 3 weeks ago, and I’m pregnant but was mistreated. If I can do it as bad as it hurts, you can too. Best...
Dated a man for 7 months, one night drunk and in his feelings said he has yet to find the woman he wants to marry. Now he's upset because I walked away. Too late for regret boo boo.
😳😮Oooo No he didn't! I don't blame you for walking away! Bc if he don't automatically see the special in you. Who's to say YOU need to PROVE it to HIM?!?.....Tuh!!!💅😎👓🚶🚶🚶🚶
Don't show him NOTHING! Completely "delete" him from your mind, body and soul, FOR LIFE. Take good care of yourself for YOU, and move on. He never really deserved YOU 👑. Be blessed ♥️
i deleted him from all things blocked on contact with me he also is chasing me all of my security gates are locked yes i AM not with him and his ex non-sense at all yes he took my kindness for weakness smh
Walked out on me and our 10 year old daughter 10 years ago. Moved in with another woman. Regretted it almost immediately and has been apologizing for the last 10 year. Constantly telling me he can't find anyone like me. Still dont want him back. I leveled myself up right away. Began actually living and loving myself. Him leaving was the best thing to ever happen to me.
Men rarely regret what they never truly valued in the first place. Of course as women we want some validation that we were good women, but sometimes you have to reassure yourself and not wait for a man's remorse to do so.
Vagina comes to easy for select men most women are competing for the same men the 80/20 rule. So the women who dont want to put out 1st gets put to the side.
When my husband left me & our sons, I gave him to the Lord and let me tell you God took care of that situation. He wanted to came back crying!!!! I said NO!!!! trust is gone.... i focused on raising my kids and being happy...
Im glad you're not like the other Christians who will push to make it work as they cannot relate to your situation. God recently gave me the wisdom to fully give up standing and waiting on my narcissistic husband
You go, girl!!! I'm doing this "no social media for 30 days" thing to focus on myself. It's been 6 days, so far, so good! If I need more time to detox from this guy, I will get more days out!
Me too! I’ve blocked him his family and all mutual friends it’s been 8 months . I am so thankful for all the blessings God has given me since I shut that unhealthy 5 yr chapter. 8 mths and I’m learning to love myself through Christ😇
A narcissist will only regret losing you when they realize you are actually better than the other 'better' women he was looking for because of which he left you. If he comes back, it would probably be wise to not take him back since he cannot value you objectively, only AFTER he realizes you're better than the others.
He been gone for 4 months and recently sent me a picture of his new girl to make me jealous, he definitely down graded but he said he love her now. God has helped me let go, I been with him for 7 years and I was the only one that worked a job, now he's telling her lies about me, I lost him lustfully because I hold back from sex when things are bad in a relationship, instead of fixing it he moved on. He was a man of lust not a man of love
i think can be more relative than this. We are all here to became better and who knows in what way and time. People can break up and marry happily after i belive in many possibilities
For the first time in a long time I’ve been completely single for a whole year! I’ve grew so much spiritually with God, Lost 70 pounds, Saved money and focusing on becoming better in all aspects! My EX has definitely seen the glow but I’m doing a lot better now, Thank you God for growth!
Sheila Thomas Yes drink only water through out the week, work out daily even if it’s simply walking and don’t eat past 6pm. I do the intermittent fasting so I eat from 12pm -6pm
Sometimes things that hurt you most, Teach you the greatest lesson in life. And when you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointment.
That is so right! It was 4 days since I heard from him. He made it my fault and THIS time I accepted it. Somehow my eyes came open and I looked myself in the mirror and said look at you. You are beautiful but I heard a voice inside of me say NEVER AGAIN. 4 days later he texts me out of the blue to ask - WYD? This dude is straight crazy. I did not respond and guess what? I won't! Next thing you know ....3.5 hours later he calls twice. He has got to be kidding. I have Trap Call on my phone so he won't get to me. No I deserve better and I plan to make him see that as well!
I can see I did everything wrong in my last relationship. I would always respond to his texts within about 30 min. Sometimes he wouldn’t even apologize, he would act as if nothing had happened and I would not call him on it. My father used to leave and we wouldn’t see him for 18 to 36 months, he would show up and behave as if we were just talking yesterday and nothing had happened. I realize that my fear of abandonment has caused me to allow men to mistreat me. I’m not allowing that anymore. Thank you Mr. Gaskins.
I used to care why men didn’t want me. But I realize that men walking away without closure is a signal to self actualize and work on myself. All that energy expenditure is not worth a man that’s not guaranteed to be faithful or stay ✌🏾
Let the Glowup commence! Rejection is redirection to one's self! Look within, stay flyy, keep shining and know that God and Jesus are your best friends/husband! Facts!
Straight facts! If a mans actions do not support what he says, LEAVE! No coming back anymore. GONE! No time for man boys No wasting my time anymore. It is all about me now, and it feels soooooo good to get to know myself again....
My ex boyfriend cheated on me and left me for the girl he cheated on me with.The worst part is he never apologized at all, fought for me or showed any remorse. I had to reach deep inside myself to forgive him and wished him well in his new relationship. Was really hurt but I know God has so much better for me.I know one day I will have my happy ending ❤️
I pray God will send you the" Adam' you so deserve as you are a worthy Eve. After 11 years with my husband he left me for a Jezebel who has been in love with him since she was 17 and that's the only excuse he can come up with for the " why" ! I bid them peace and know God sees all and its clearly adultery. We are in the middle of a divorce and its hurtful but sexual betrayal is hard to get over and a process. I pray I will trust to love again
@Margo Wynn in with you... I was used and manipulated by a jail nigga he came home 10/23 and he blocked me on social media and never called me .. at All! I’m doing ok but when it first happens I was so upset
I haven't been through this but I am praying for all in these bad situations and who take a stand and they get their glow up on to their real future and no looking back at the past.
You can’t make anyone feel anything about you. Take that energy and pour it into yourself. The real freedom is healing and no longer caring what that person thinks of you.
I walked away in 2020, I blocked him on all social media, phones and I haven’t talked to him since. As much as it hurt I blocked all of our mutual friends and/or unfriended them so he can’t question them about me. He was so cruel to me that I had to walk away and take his power away. He’s a narcissist, well it’s been going on two years and I’m doing very well!! Yay me!!
How did you handle losing the mutual friends? I'm in the same situation and its hurts. Losing alot of people and making the social circle smaller. He seems to be doing so well.
@@nataliethomas9943 I didn’t lose them I just blocked them on social media. Found out he was inquiring about me at the class reunion (I didn’t go, cause I knew he’d be there). But some of our mutual friends told me he was saying some terrible things about me there (flying monkeys). So in order to keep my life private from him I blocked everyone except my family. Now if he inquires about me or lies to them about me he’ll look like a fool cause no one will have information about me to give him. It hurt to block them but they truly aren’t good long time friends if they believe him, not everyone will believe him but people can be two-faced, backstabbers. And he may not be doing as well as he pretends to be sweetie. My ex pretended too and found out he’s drinking heavily and has another addiction he lied about. The hardest thing I did was walking away, but he was very cruel to me and for my sanity and safety I had no choice.
I needed to see this. Broke up with my BF, I was a ride or die girlfriend. I gave him EVERYTHING- affection, time, commitment, my body, even my dang money! I feel stupid and angry at myself, because something in my gut told me no. . since the start! I ignored my gut, but after a year and 3 months I decided to follow my gut. Tony's video made me realize that he's not mature enough to know what kind of women I am.
I am going through this. It just happened 2 days ago. He broke up with me. And I pretty much begged him to not give up. Only because I'm almost 4 months pregnant! So now what? He agreed to keep trying but his heart is not there. He says he loves me. He got that way because I looked in his phone and he is cheating. Not physically..yet. but definitely video chats with ex and woman from Ghana Africa where he is from. He says its nothing they are far away. He dont love them just friends. But they call him babe and say they love him. He never said it back on the text. But sends pics. He is African and he thinks it okay to do so. I just broke up with a celebrity. I asked him if I video chat with him in my bed at 2am is that ok. He said IDK. Lying. I just feel stuck because of being pregnant. I'm now 42 he is 32 his 1st child..1st real girlfriend never had one in the same country or city upclose and actually having a relationship. This is also only a 6 month relationship. We fell in love fast and it died just as fast. I love him too. But I think only because of my situation. I have it all..a huge 5 bed home..private golf community. ..2 nice trucks and a car...my own money. But cant get this love thing right. How do I do the 2 wk distant thing now. Doctors appointments . One tomorrow. Help! Just a little would help. I'm tough and I feel weak and broken. Terrible
Tina Dymond Cox I went through the same exact thing!!!! It gets easier my baby is 7 months now never met his father.. and I’m ok with that! Better off anyway!
Tina Dymond Cox if his not willing to respect you and act right for the sake of your unborn baby and your relationship then dump him sis..ur Prince Charming is some where he ain’t it..I hope you have a healthy and safe pregnancy & good luck
Stop looking broke, busted, and disgusted. Go and manifest your dreams. Facts Tony!!! 🔝💯 Give Self-love, Glow up, Keep shining and know you have a TRUE Friend in Jesus!!
I was mad at him for so long, but now I'm mad at myself for staying for so long and allowing so much nonsense 😣..he showed me he was a grown baby over and over
Take time to truly forgive yourself... take time and ask God to forgive you for allowing yourself to be ill treated.Take time to heal !! After you heal there is no end to what you can achieve. It’s not what someone did to you it’s about what you allowed to be done to you. Girl life is beautiful when you start loving on yourself.... prior to finding me I thought I was physically ill until I finally exhaled from the toxic life I had been living... life is good when you fall in love with yourself !!!
“If he is watching give him a movie” true statement ! I grew and learned to love myself again and I established myself mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially and God sent the man I desired. My ex sent him a friend request after I posted him on my story…. I declined it for him ❤️
Hi I got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, l will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours
I dated a guy twice and last year I stopped cold turkey blocked him on everything except my social media account. I only posted when I was looking like a bag of money 💅 and he wasn't able to reach me directly for months. I started feeling good by reaching certain goals, dating quality men and listening to these types of videos. He's now all of a sudden watching all of my stories and trying to pass by my house. Too bad I don't live there anymore ✌🏾🤣. He's not my husband, but I like knowing *he knows* he's not my only option 😁.
Ms. Perfectly Imperfect Hahahaha I went cold turkey on a guy as well , for about a year now deactivated my fb , deleted my IG, made a new one a few months ago but to follow spiritual accounts and when I looked him up, his account wasn’t found (he found me and blocked me) do I set my profile to private 🤪 I have seen him twice on my street 🤦🏽♀️ second time I pulled to a stop light I’m fixing my hair, i turn to the right and homeboy is right next to me with a spanking new Jeep, he covered his face in shame and I laughed and sped off , switched lanes and hoped on the freeway 😝✌🏽 skiiiirtttt
Kenisha Perkins This dude has his own mobile detailing business, wealthy from without broke A’F from within 🤮many woman surrender themselves to him, but I chose to resist, he chose to chase the one who he can’t have anymore and that feels so empowering 💪🏽
@@pajiasweeting3222 same thing if he watching give him a movie. If he see his child keep it strictly co parenting, if he picks up his child no other conversation unless it's about the baby.
I'm on day 3. I changed my number and packed me a bag and left town. Deleted all my social media accounts. I was at the counter to changed my number I sent him a text and said YOUR SERVICES IS NO LONGER NEEDED. CONSIDER YOURSELF LET GO.
He broke our engagement today, valentine's day. It's ok, l know I'll be OK. 😊 Praying for all of us going through this incredible pain, may this expirience push us in becoming the greatest versions of ourselves! Power to us! ❤️
Best thing your guy could of done. Saved himself a lifetime of misery of being married to you. Good luck with the cat food. Listen to this fools advice and you will be single for the rest if your life. Best of luck to you.
I do feel like some women just need that one maybe two days to cry, cause when you put your all into someone mind,body, and soul the PAIN is real. Don’t make you weak, Naive, or stupid. Live your life definitely but heartache is a real thing.
I divorced my husband 3 years ago. Im still crying Hard . I hate beening All by my self . 100% ALONE . 24/7 it gets very old . 72 years old now . be glad when my Life is over with . I Lone to be with Jesus the sooner the better ! Men are NO good any more so please watch who u choose in life . god bless u. Girl .
He told me he was going to marry me and he promised me. He came to my home and talked to my father. He promised me everything and then he broke up with me because he said he’s not “mentally stable”. I have never been in so much pain in my life
I’m so sorry. I hate reading things like this because it hurts to see how men can pull a bait and switch on a woman, misleading her, then leave her in pain. I really hope you’re doing better.
I love you so much for this. He actually called me during this video, if I wouldn’t have watched this I probably would’ve picked up. Now that I’m watching I have the confidence to do what’s best for me. He’s gonna learn today!
I understand and I applaud you. Though it’s not easy, in your weak moments and maybe in tears, ask God to heal your broken heart and to make you whole again. It’s a process. counting days could be a little discouraging but take it day by day. You will get through it. God bless you on your journey. Been there and done that. Time heals ALL wounds.🙏🏾👏🏽🙏🏾👏🏽🙏🏾
@@dstm7777 30:22.... I learned this the hard way. My friend did this to me and now her family and my family despise her and my ex husband. Sadly, her husband did not know until he found my husband (ex) had been sleeping with her for 18 months. Our respective children have nothing to do with either “ki-ki-dee’ing cheater.
You've got to glow up! I love it! Success is the best revenge! He didn't deserve you. Go attract a real man. One who will respect and adore you. Know your worth ladies. You deserve better. Settle for less and you will be miserable! I'm a witness.
You are so right stay out of the Twilight Zone that's all that was the Twilight Zone get out and stay out get educated yourself put your boundaries back up put your walls back up put the doors back on the hinges and keep them shut and Trust the Most High God and love yourself and build yourself back up stop thinking about what they doing and stop thinking about who they're with cuz all of it is lies lies lies yeah just like that song Say
After seven years of the same crap, I finally found the strength and courage to move on. He kept telling me to "get over it" when I found out he was cheating. Well... I'm getting over it, buddy. Without YOU!
She very blessed to have a man as him and he seems he learned alot through his life and became a better person because he knew other ways was not working out for him..
I have been separated for 6 months and my husband is already with some other female and had her move in with him. Since I been in the lords path my Lord has taught me to see things differently and to learn how to forgive even when not wanting to but all I can do is pray for him.....
Pray for him, Stand still and constantly in God's presence and work on yourself and your happiness... And don't allow anyone to tell you when to stay or go except you and God...
And narcissists never ever regret losing anyone, because they can do you so dirty, break every single piece of your heart and every part of your soul no matter how much you love them and try to be everything they want, they will do whatever they want, dont care how you feel about it, dont matter how many tears they see you cry and it will always always always be your fault no matter what, they feel nothing but pity for themselves, they are incapable of loving anyone else. The absolute worst type of person to be in a relationship with.
Your husband is on his way, Diamond. Prepare YOURSELF for his arrival, beautiful. I feel your pain (literally). Make the days forward pouring into yourself the best years of your life. I shall do the same. Keep a journal. Ignite a fire within. SOAR!!!!!!
I love his coaching, he sounds so old fashioned, but ladies, he’s is right. It’s not wise to give a man all of yourself when you don’t know if his intentions are serious
You are sooooo right when you talk about a woman not having a best friend. Women, please don't share your relationship problems with those who call themselves your friends (whether female or male). It's better not to share anything related to your relationship, unless it's with the psychologist. I say this from experience!
It's not about making that man regret...You weren't HIS!! It's Trial and Error... He's not going to regret it if he doesn't see you in his future! Pointless...If you're a good woman, Do You..Move On...and by the time he grows up... it'll be too late! At that time..He will regret it!..
He finally revealed himself after fronting for a whole year. He’s a narcissist. I’m devastated. I can’t breathe. He love bombed. I am researching what a narcissist is. I didn’t even know.
Nah I deleted him off my social media. It's private. I hope he finds whatever he's looking for. My life still is the same :) still leveling up in so many ways...he's not gonna watch me at all via social media. Negative. I'm not chasing him, he don't want to act right then there's the door. I'm a real cool down to earth girl and I told him ghosting isn't cool and he still does it. Like go find your dream woman & leave me alone. Simple.
As a woman who has been in two abusive relationships, and did not have a positive male role model to give me advice about men this has been my go to and god send. You are doing God’s work Tony. This is giving me clarity and healing. Bless you 💙
I’m seeing a lot of comments about “that’s doing too much” Read between the lines. What he’s telling you to do is what you should be doing anyway - loving yourself.
Yesss I Agree! It's all about Self Respect, Self Worth & Self Love if you have this... you will attract the man you deserve because you won't settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!
One day there will be a man that will come and swoop you up and give you REAL PURE love so when it comes to men who treat you wrong you shouldn't want them to regret losing you. You should want them to never speak to you again.
Yes!!!! As serious as I was watching and listening, I can’t lie , he had me hollering!!! Like damn that conviction be something and all the low key jabs he be throwing!!!! I love it though, it’s real ish !!!
I have watched this video probably about 15 times in the last week… been so therapeutic. Currently getting silent treatment because I stood up for myself and demanded my respect. I hurt his ego with the truth. I know I didn’t do any wrong, but it’s still very hurtful… I am worth it
Yep, on day 3 here. I did exactly the same, enough is enough. We were getting so close but he sabotages it by using words which are not appealing to me which hurt me at some points in the conversation. Even one comment a day can destroy your self esteem. Set my final boundary and also told him the truth.
I'm working on treating this guy like Casper!!!! He knows I'm in love with him but he's in a situation, his words not mine. And I just cannot be his friend while knowing that my feelings are strong for him. I would rather hurt and heal in silence and in private than to be his friend while he is in his situation with the ex he took back.
@@michelletiaraharris girl you got this! stay strong and keep thinking of him as Casper the nonexistent unfriendly ghost. don't give away your power to him by even letting him know you are hurting. you know what you deserve is so much greater, so keep your love for yourself and leave him where ghosts stay-- in the DARK!
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If you all pay attention he says this only applies to the men who YOU see as your husband later. Therefore, unless that is the case you don’t need to do this. ALSO, you are the one who is ending things and putting your foot down. This does not apply to all males and all relationships. He’s also not saying you should try to impress him he’s telling you to not just go sulking around after the break up. Do YOU and better YOURSELF sis. Be your definition of beautiful and independent! There’s nothing wrong with what’s being said
I wholeheartedly agree!!! Less than 5 minutes in this man touched my soul with his presentation! He validated my exact sentiment to an individual. Coming from a man's perspective? I now realize I was NOT wrong with my assessment. Locked all the way down! I was called emotional, childish, stubborn lol. I am in my non-negotiable stage! 🙂
A narc will hold on for dear life! He will search forever and never find another you! Run! Going to Kroger wanting to sell puppies but Kroger doesn't sell them. The potential you thought or hoped you would/will get is not available. Ty TG!
It goes both ways.
True
Nothing wrong at all!!!!! I learned some things and knew some things; saw some strengths and gaps of weakness. I was proud of myself for some things and mad at myself for others and had to forgive myself because I didn't understand things I hadn't been taught.
At the end of the day, Brother Tony has consistently and honestly broken down the TRUTH in love, NO holds barred!!!!!!!!
If it applies, don't be offended, just ask God to help you change, forgive yourself, be grateful for this Brother and commit to being better so you don't repeat the cycle.
Thank you Brother Tony!!! May God continue to Bless you, your marriage and your ministry.
Move on with your life and don’t look back. If he cared he would’ve done what was necessary to keep you.
B S exactly!
Say It
Exactly. . .
Point blank periyod
Grow to love yourself more. Learn from the experience and move on. Know your worth and never have soul ties with no ex.
Don't lose sleep. Get your beauty rest. Peace, love, and Your happiness means the world. Do not look back. Stop ALL contacts. God's Blessings.
The First issue is; he doesn’t know how to recognize a real woman because he is not a real man.
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Yesssss
Amennnn!!!
Truth... 💯💯
FAX!
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If a man leaves you let him go god has better for you
ALLAHU AKBAR❤️
Jesus IS THE ROYAL RESURRECT-US!!!
This methods that helps me to get my ex back…This program is both for male and females.. I would recommend it to anyone. Good luck guys. ….Please visit here *MyExLove. info*
I read that please explain
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Don't be afraid to lose him. Be strong and notice the red flags. Speak up. Stay in prayer. God blessed me with a better man.
Some women skin is so beautiful they don't need makeup some of us like being natural. Don't get me wrong I get what you are saying.
In other words beauty fades. I agree you should get your self straight @ all times regardless ladies
Praise the Lord. God is faithful!
Wow you funny
I glowed up started working, got a new car, and started going out with friends. My ex came knocking on my door a year later! Nope, buddy!! It’s too late!! ✌🏾🥳
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I'm so proud of you! Yep, keep on walking, I ain't talking to ya anymore...walk on, keep on!
A year boo?? I keep thinking that if my ex wanted me back he'd turn around quick quick. Not happening though. I'm moving forward, but still hurts a bit.
Same here, 1 yr later, really, Cmon
godseed79 Yes!! The whole time, he had been riding pass my house trying to make me jealous of him being with other women. When it didn’t work out with them as expected.. he finally came out the wood works! THE NERVE!!🙄
Ladies BEWARE of ANY man with many female "friends" or stays friends with all his ex's. These type will NEVER regret losing you.
Say it again they did not hear you in the balcony...
U just described my ex....he thought it was ok for him to still be friends with his ex....I wasn't n agreement w/ that....
Fact!!!!! Yet the lady should not have any male friend🤔
Whispering Acts I think he will, because he will have access to everyone of his exes but YOU !!! Hahaha ... we win again 😂😂😂
Yes because they always have someone in the queue
The only thing that makes a man wanna stay faithful
Is Him.....
No matter what you do!!!
Amen.
Exactly 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Absolutely!
For sure!!!
Only thing is fear on God if he or she don’t fear God 🚶♀️or 🚶a way 🤷🏾♂️
I never took him back. I know he regretted it because he tried to get me back. I moved to another city miles away and got on with my life. I developed myself confidence and respect and worked hard and got all the things I wanted for myself. My own home, brilliant job and lots of new friends. Life goes on. 👸 🙌
Yasssssssss sis!!!!!! I stood up and gave you a standing ovation!!!! I’m so proud of you!!! You’re an amazing inspiration 👏🏾🙌🏾👍🏾🫶🏾💪🏾🏆🎯💯‼️
I'm so proud of you sis!!!🥰🙃🎉
Thank you for sharing
Rejection is protection, never trip off No Man 💯
That part boy bye
I agree
Or woman !
Drop that science boo💯💯💯
Amen🔥💯💜
He's going to wake up next to another girl and realize that he downgraded instead of upgraded...
just wait and see.
@Priyanka Gupta 😉
Lol! Yes that's what my ex did.
Yaaasss spicy juicy truth...
Yes. He surely will. I'm a witness to that.
My husband of 28 years down graded to an old grandma backseat Whore for 3 years now!!! I haven’t left him for one second stood by his side wondering why he keeps doing this?? This one is #7! And I’m still here!! Probably because he removed me from all accounts and I can’t leave without a penny to my name!! He told me last week I’ll NEVER be a one woman man! 28 years thrown away!! I’m pointless!!!
"He does Not Recognize a Real Woman, because He is Not a Real Man"
A Real man knows a real woman when he sees her. Amen!!!
Yeepp
Exactly!
That part💯
Preach
I figured out the key. The key is walking away and never looking back ever in life! 🤷🏾♀️ and working on yourself and bossing your life up
Yes, exactly ❤️🔥❤️🔥
What I’m doing now and had to do 😢 it hurts walking away but I know if I don’t do it then he’ll never respect me . But I’m the meantime I’m learning and growing 😊 he wasn’t a bad guy but now it’s time to boss up and do me!
Theeee key period!!🎯❤ no other way at all!!! Glory to God 💛
Yeah no second chances . You will regret it just move on
If they don't try contacting you. They're happier without you because they had a new victim before they ended your relationship
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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So true
Omg i never thought of this
New victim...
If a man wanna walk off an leave you LET HIM GO the devil can’t take nothing from you without God giving you Better 🥰
❤
Wow! Good one!
Say that sis! ❤
Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amen! 🙌🏽
He tried contacting me again...but I just blocked him. Greatest feeling in the world. I like a new man now and if he doesn't act right, I'll cut him off too.
Natalie Negrita305 needed to hear this
You go girl!
Okay big facts
Cant wait for this shit to happen . It ain't happening
Riight me too I just blocked my ex who tried to speak to me again and it felt good 😌✨to just block him and I said the same thing let this new dude mess up and it’s over for him too lol
We as women need to stop putting up with foolishness and grow a backbone.. we let our emotions steer our decisions. It’s time to level up!!!
I agree. We as women need to think logically like men instead of emotionally. We would be in better positions as a whole. ❤
you love him he completely complete s u 0:44
What they do to you
Emotions that are willing to be able to get to be there with us and never a apologies or feel ing involved
Amen. This second hard hitting break up got me here. I compromised. I accepted my mistakes and was ready to work on them. For us. He couldnt hold on that long? Well, good for him. I KNOW you will have to settle down for way lesser and what I gave you (I am a tough girl to love, but I myself loved you abundantly). I won't have to know it in the future boo, cause I know my love for you. And you lost it. There's nothing worse than regret. I know you will settle down for less, and will have your peace (the peace for which you decided to let go).
SILENCE IS HOW YOU MAKE S MAN REGRET LOSING YOU..🤫🏃🏽♀️
Exactly
@Eternity With Christ on God ❤👏🙏
YES! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I hope this is true because I started today. I was taken for granted he didn't appreciate my love. I'm tired he has called and text all day. I want answer
Angela Stewart keep going sis. Mine was blocked 3 weeks ago, and I’m pregnant but was mistreated. If I can do it as bad as it hurts, you can too. Best...
Dated a man for 7 months, one night drunk and in his feelings said he has yet to find the woman he wants to marry. Now he's upset because I walked away. Too late for regret boo boo.
He is a manipulator 🏃🏃🏃bcz abuse will continue do not go back..
They say a drunk person speaks a sober mind. You did the best thing for yourself.
Good for you sis!!
😳😮Oooo No he didn't!
I don't blame you for walking away! Bc if he don't automatically see the special in you. Who's to say YOU need to PROVE it to HIM?!?.....Tuh!!!💅😎👓🚶🚶🚶🚶
@@biggieshorty yep! So that she can over prove herself whilst he continues to manipulate and use her.
Don't show him NOTHING!
Completely "delete" him from your mind, body and soul, FOR LIFE. Take good care of yourself for YOU, and move on. He never really deserved YOU 👑. Be blessed ♥️
💯
Athena Wagner daM I needed to hear this
i deleted him from all things blocked on contact with me he also is chasing me all of my security gates are locked yes i AM not with him and his ex non-sense at all yes he took my kindness for weakness smh
ALL OF THIS!!!
Amen!!🙌
Walked out on me and our 10 year old daughter 10 years ago. Moved in with another woman. Regretted it almost immediately and has been apologizing for the last 10 year. Constantly telling me he can't find anyone like me. Still dont want him back. I leveled myself up right away. Began actually living and loving myself. Him leaving was the best thing to ever happen to me.
Some men can’t handle a strong woman. 🧚🏾♀️
Eve Haughton so true!💯
Eve Haughton ... What is your definition of “strong woman”?
Exactly
So much facts....
Eve Haughton agreed, it’s sad!
A lady should be sweet, gentle, but firm with a backbone and standards.
That's right
Thanks so much
God bless u sir
With a splash of fiesty and clever
@@supernovaa9332 yes lol😂
Men rarely regret what they never truly valued in the first place. Of course as women we want some validation that we were good women, but sometimes you have to reassure yourself and not wait for a man's remorse to do so.
So true!
This is God's honest truth. Giving someone else the power to validate u is too much power. Ppl dont know what to do with all that power
Vagina comes to easy for select men most women are competing for the same men the 80/20 rule. So the women who dont want to put out 1st gets put to the side.
Amen
nathalia504 so true!! 🙌🏼
“Does he regret losing you, no” 😂😂😂😂 - so true Tony - If he was the man God had for you he would still be there.
When my husband left me & our sons, I gave him to the Lord and let me tell you God took care of that situation. He wanted to came back crying!!!! I said NO!!!! trust is gone.... i focused on raising my kids and being happy...
Im glad you're not like the other Christians who will push to make it work as they cannot relate to your situation. God recently gave me the wisdom to fully give up standing and waiting on my narcissistic husband
Beautiful, God bless you....x
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
How he came back?
Such an intelligent lady. Stay blessed.
This is ridiculous that we women have to do this much work because men refuse to work on themselves lol
I guess we have to direct them, remember...we're the ones who can "multitask "
I agree! Fuck mind games!
Amen! 🥴
Right?! We ain’t his momma. So tired of the game playing and having to “prove” my worth to these boys. Game Over.
Exactly
I actually blocked him for about 3 month straight. My life is booming with success
You go, girl!!! I'm doing this "no social media for 30 days" thing to focus on myself. It's been 6 days, so far, so good! If I need more time to detox from this guy, I will get more days out!
Amen to that!
Me too! I’ve blocked him his family and all mutual friends it’s been 8 months . I am so thankful for all the blessings God has given me since I shut that unhealthy 5 yr chapter. 8 mths and I’m learning to love myself through Christ😇
@@chatonsacrement7454 amen sista
@@roxshells354 Happy for you dear
A narcissist will only regret losing you when they realize you are actually better than the other 'better' women he was looking for because of which he left you. If he comes back, it would probably be wise to not take him back since he cannot value you objectively, only AFTER he realizes you're better than the others.
If a man doesnt regret losing you right when he loses you, move on.
Thank u for sharing...something for me to help me. .thanks
Exactly
He been gone for 4 months and recently sent me a picture of his new girl to make me jealous, he definitely down graded but he said he love her now. God has helped me let go, I been with him for 7 years and I was the only one that worked a job, now he's telling her lies about me, I lost him lustfully because I hold back from sex when things are bad in a relationship, instead of fixing it he moved on. He was a man of lust not a man of love
Sometimes a loss is a GAIN!!!! 🙏
Heaven Davis 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Amen 😊👏👏👏
Heaven you are sooooooo true Blessings come through interruptions thats people and everything connected
Addition by subtraction...
Exactly
“If he breaks up with you,
he ain’t your husband”
said Mr. Tony Gaskins
Rebecca Romain “ YOU HERE MEEEH’ “ lol Tony voice .. he takes me out every time he says it 😂😂😂
*hear*
@@feleciapowell5792 LoL
i think can be more relative than this. We are all here to became better and who knows in what way and time. People can break up and marry happily after i belive in many possibilities
Valeria L Giangrande yea he gave both perspectives .. I think to me it was funny how he said it 😁😁especially the part about turning up on Instagram 😅😅
If he's narcissistic, he just doesn't care. Period
This!!! Just call it what it is. They’ll have you questioning your sanity sis
@@songbirdtrucka7193 exactly!!
Of he is a narcissist then it is better if he left. A lifetime with a narcissist is pure misery.
Thank you!! Who cares anyways....Move on just like he did.....focus on anything else but him.....it works"
Right!!!!!!👋🏼👋🏼
For the first time in a long time I’ve been completely single for a whole year! I’ve grew so much spiritually with God, Lost 70 pounds, Saved money and focusing on becoming better in all aspects! My EX has definitely seen the glow but I’m doing a lot better now, Thank you God for growth!
Congratulations.Any advice of how you lost your weight.
Sheila Thomas Yes drink only water through out the week, work out daily even if it’s simply walking and don’t eat past 6pm. I do the intermittent fasting so I eat from 12pm -6pm
@@Whatabouutasiaa_ You have inspired me. After l get closer to God and lose this weight l am stepping up and out
God gets the glory for everything He does!! Amen! Never let the enemy steal from you again
Congrats hun... im on that type of time.
Sometimes things that hurt you most, Teach you the greatest lesson in life. And when you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointment.
That was absolutely beautifully put.
Thank you so much!!!😘
Amen!
That is so right! It was 4 days since I heard from him. He made it my fault and THIS time I accepted it. Somehow my eyes came open and I looked myself in the mirror and said look at you. You are beautiful but I heard a voice inside of me say NEVER AGAIN.
4 days later he texts me out of the blue to ask - WYD? This dude is straight crazy. I did not respond and guess what? I won't!
Next thing you know ....3.5 hours later he calls twice. He has got to be kidding. I have Trap Call on my phone so he won't get to me. No I deserve better and I plan to make him see that as well!
Run! Sounds like a Pisces or Aquarius!
I love this ❤️
Don't just work on your physical, work on your mental.
I can see I did everything wrong in my last relationship. I would always respond to his texts within about 30 min. Sometimes he wouldn’t even apologize, he would act as if nothing had happened and I would not call him on it.
My father used to leave and we wouldn’t see him for 18 to 36 months, he would show up and behave as if we were just talking yesterday and nothing had happened. I realize that my fear of abandonment has caused me to allow men to mistreat me.
I’m not allowing that anymore. Thank you Mr. Gaskins.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I wish you were my real brother you are awesome God bless you sir .
I've experienced this, too. You're not alone!
You are worthy, it's not your problem that these men are indicisive, so keep it moving. You got a lot to give. Love yourself because God commands it.
Amen sis!
I used to care why men didn’t want me. But I realize that men walking away without closure is a signal to self actualize and work on myself. All that energy expenditure is not worth a man that’s not guaranteed to be faithful or stay ✌🏾
You're CLOSURE is he's a NARCISSIST. That's all the CLOSURE I needed after learning about Narcissist.
🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💞✨👑
@@lynnmorris8659 true indeed!
Let the Glowup commence! Rejection is redirection to one's self! Look within, stay flyy, keep shining and know that God and Jesus are your best friends/husband! Facts!
This comment🙌🙌💯
"Her gentleness was coming from strength not weakness"
Total POWER!
Say that👌🏽
Amen Bee
“Treat him like he’s Casper the Ghost”. Yup! This is funny but serious talk🤣🤣👍🏽👍🏽
Amen. 😂🙏
"Sometimes the Loss ain't a loss, the loss is a Gain" Tony Gaskins.
Say it again baby!
Most of the times
Amen. I pray god brings me the right better one who is not an insecure phony. I think I was love bombed
Preach!!
No response is a response. Bottom line Men need too learn how to truly appreciate good Women without us having to play GAMES.
Amen!!!
YES 💯
Exactly why do we have to go through this in the first place? Why can’t they realize what they have the first time around?
Exactly
Men do, it’s women who choose the guys who don’t see the good in them.
Straight facts! If a mans actions do not support what he says, LEAVE! No coming back anymore. GONE! No time for man boys No wasting my time anymore. It is all about me now, and it feels soooooo good to get to know myself again....
Amen
"You have a friend in JESUS." That's 💯
YOLANDA CRESPO Amen!
If he’s watching, give him a movie 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯💯
TiffanyB TV 👏🏽
Amen
Yesssss!
Yessss! He said, Make a movie, get up, show your ..br... I was like careful bruh..LoL
Make a man regret losing you by being a better person after he leaves. If he left he didn’t deserve you in the first place.
🌹🌹I know of man who can bring back your ex within two days without delay 🌹🌹
🌹🌹He was the one who helped me restore back my ex 3 days ago without delay 🌹🌹
+ 2 3 4 9 0 3 0 0 2 4 3 6 4.
"Whtsapp him"**"
Very true !!!
Sometimes you just have to be done and let it go... wait for the right one to come along and see how valuable you are.
My ex boyfriend cheated on me and left me for the girl he cheated on me with.The worst part is he never apologized at all, fought for me or showed any remorse. I had to reach deep inside myself to forgive him and wished him well in his new relationship. Was really hurt but I know God has so much better for me.I know one day I will have my happy ending ❤️
I pray God will send you the" Adam' you so deserve as you are a worthy Eve. After 11 years with my husband he left me for a Jezebel who has been in love with him since she was 17 and that's the only excuse he can come up with for the " why" ! I bid them peace and know God sees all and its clearly adultery. We are in the middle of a divorce and its hurtful but sexual betrayal is hard to get over and a process. I pray I will trust to love again
@Margo Wynn in with you... I was used and manipulated by a jail nigga he came home 10/23 and he blocked me on social media and never called me .. at All! I’m doing ok but when it first happens I was so upset
@Margo Wynn I never had a man of ANY race love me and I and 64.
I haven't been through this but I am praying for all in these bad situations and who take a stand and they get their glow up on to their real future and no looking back at the past.
Yes, you will. It's called Karma. 😆
What I won't do is let a man tell me ever again, that he doesn't want me.
You can’t make anyone feel anything about you. Take that energy and pour it into yourself. The real freedom is healing and no longer caring what that person thinks of you.
Yes!
Needed this❤
Exactly I was just thinking I don't care if he regrets losing me because If I dropped him he's dead to me anyway so the dead know nothing...
I walked away in 2020, I blocked him on all social media, phones and I haven’t talked to him since.
As much as it hurt I blocked all of our mutual friends and/or unfriended them so he can’t question them about me. He was so cruel to me that I had to walk away and take his power away. He’s a narcissist, well it’s been going on two years and I’m doing very well!! Yay me!!
How did you handle losing the mutual friends? I'm in the same situation and its hurts. Losing alot of people and making the social circle smaller. He seems to be doing so well.
@@nataliethomas9943 I didn’t lose them I just blocked them on social media. Found out he was inquiring about me at the class reunion (I didn’t go, cause I knew he’d be there). But some of our mutual friends told me he was saying some terrible things about me there (flying monkeys). So in order to keep my life private from him I blocked everyone except my family. Now if he inquires about me or lies to them about me he’ll look like a fool cause no one will have information about me to give him. It hurt to block them but they truly aren’t good long time friends if they believe him, not everyone will believe him but people can be two-faced, backstabbers. And he may not be doing as well as he pretends to be sweetie. My ex pretended too and found out he’s drinking heavily and has another addiction he lied about. The hardest thing I did was walking away, but he was very cruel to me and for my sanity and safety I had no choice.
The energy doesn’t everrrrrr lie! Trust your intuitive gut feeling...
I needed to see this.
Broke up with my BF, I was a ride or die girlfriend. I gave him EVERYTHING- affection, time, commitment, my body, even my dang money!
I feel stupid and angry at myself, because something in my gut told me no. . since the start!
I ignored my gut, but after a year and 3 months I decided to follow my gut.
Tony's video made me realize that he's not mature enough to know what kind of women I am.
I am going through this. It just happened 2 days ago. He broke up with me. And I pretty much begged him to not give up. Only because I'm almost 4 months pregnant! So now what? He agreed to keep trying but his heart is not there. He says he loves me. He got that way because I looked in his phone and he is cheating. Not physically..yet. but definitely video chats with ex and woman from Ghana Africa where he is from. He says its nothing they are far away. He dont love them just friends. But they call him babe and say they love him. He never said it back on the text. But sends pics. He is African and he thinks it okay to do so. I just broke up with a celebrity. I asked him if I video chat with him in my bed at 2am is that ok. He said IDK. Lying. I just feel stuck because of being pregnant. I'm now 42 he is 32 his 1st child..1st real girlfriend never had one in the same country or city upclose and actually having a relationship. This is also only a 6 month relationship. We fell in love fast and it died just as fast. I love him too. But I think only because of my situation. I have it all..a huge 5 bed home..private golf community. ..2 nice trucks and a car...my own money. But cant get this love thing right. How do I do the 2 wk distant thing now. Doctors appointments . One tomorrow. Help! Just a little would help. I'm tough and I feel weak and broken. Terrible
@@tinadymondcox1664 he's not going to change, your baby is most important forget him
Tina Dymond Cox I went through the same exact thing!!!! It gets easier my baby is 7 months now never met his father.. and I’m ok with that! Better off anyway!
Tina Dymond Cox if his not willing to respect you and act right for the sake of your unborn baby and your relationship then dump him sis..ur Prince Charming is some where he ain’t it..I hope you have a healthy and safe pregnancy & good luck
Stop looking broke, busted, and disgusted. Go and manifest your dreams. Facts Tony!!! 🔝💯 Give Self-love, Glow up, Keep shining and know you have a TRUE Friend in Jesus!!
Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗💗
Let the church say Amen!!!
This speaks to me.❤️
POINT BLANK PERIOOODD!!!
Say a word! Amen all day. Hallelujah for Jesus♥️💯🙌🏾
I was mad at him for so long, but now I'm mad at myself for staying for so long and allowing so much nonsense 😣..he showed me he was a grown baby over and over
Same!
Same.!
I was in the same boat......forgive yourself and move on...biggest lesson you can learn here is to love yourself more.
Take time to truly forgive yourself... take time and ask God to forgive you for allowing yourself to be ill treated.Take time to heal !! After you heal there is no end to what you can achieve. It’s not what someone did to you it’s about what you allowed to be done to you. Girl life is beautiful when you start loving on yourself.... prior to finding me I thought I was physically ill until I finally exhaled from the toxic life I had been living... life is good when you fall in love with yourself !!!
Can definitely relate... after 30yrs 😡
“If he is watching give him a movie” true statement ! I grew and learned to love myself again and I established myself mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially and God sent the man I desired. My ex sent him a friend request after I posted him on my story…. I declined it for him ❤️
Hi I got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, l will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours
“That’s no husband, that’s one of satans minions” 🤣🤣 I love thiss!!!
Confirmation Thx u so much for it
That’s the line I need to post up on a banner! 😭😭
That had me gasping 😩😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
I dated a guy twice and last year I stopped cold turkey blocked him on everything except my social media account. I only posted when I was looking like a bag of money 💅 and he wasn't able to reach me directly for months. I started feeling good by reaching certain goals, dating quality men and listening to these types of videos. He's now all of a sudden watching all of my stories and trying to pass by my house. Too bad I don't live there anymore ✌🏾🤣. He's not my husband, but I like knowing *he knows* he's not my only option 😁.
Good for you Sis !! I’m inspired.
😂😂😂 He passes by your house but too bad you don't live there anymore... Priceless phrase 🤣🤣🤣🤣 get your goals sis get your goals God's got you 😘
Ms. Perfectly Imperfect Hahahaha I went cold turkey on a guy as well , for about a year now deactivated my fb , deleted my IG, made a new one a few months ago but to follow spiritual accounts and when I looked him up, his account wasn’t found (he found me and blocked me) do I set my profile to private 🤪
I have seen him twice on my street 🤦🏽♀️ second time I pulled to a stop light I’m fixing my hair, i turn to the right and homeboy is right next to me with a spanking new Jeep, he covered his face in shame and I laughed and sped off , switched lanes and hoped on the freeway 😝✌🏽 skiiiirtttt
Muvaa Mayraa He is literally a child. You dodged that bullet 😂😂😂
Kenisha Perkins This dude has his own mobile detailing business, wealthy from without broke A’F from within 🤮many woman surrender themselves to him, but I chose to resist, he chose to chase the one who he can’t have anymore and that feels so empowering 💪🏽
"If he watching, give him a movie." 💯
Brittney Silver amen
What if y’all have a child together ?
Thissssssssss
Right
@@pajiasweeting3222 same thing if he watching give him a movie. If he see his child keep it strictly co parenting, if he picks up his child no other conversation unless it's about the baby.
"Stop looking broke, busted, and disgusted!" Guilty!! 😅 Wondering how long it will take me to get over this.
How are you doing now?
I'm on day 5 of not texting 🙌🏼
It’s been a full week not texting 👏🏽
I’m only on day 1 lol I’m so mad I couldn’t text back if I wanted to.
U. Go girl . life is to short .find some one who really Loves u us we man needs to stand OUR ground . love u . god bless u girl . .
14 days now, blocked on all platform
I'm on day 3. I changed my number and packed me a bag and left town. Deleted all my social media accounts. I was at the counter to changed my number I sent him a text and said YOUR SERVICES IS NO LONGER NEEDED. CONSIDER YOURSELF LET GO.
He broke our engagement today, valentine's day. It's ok, l know I'll be OK. 😊 Praying for all of us going through this incredible pain, may this expirience push us in becoming the greatest versions of ourselves! Power to us! ❤️
😩😩😩Sorry
Something much better is coming your way
Hes a scumbag...wishing you all the best.
Best thing your guy could of done. Saved himself a lifetime of misery of being married to you. Good luck with the cat food. Listen to this fools advice and you will be single for the rest if your life. Best of luck to you.
You're lucky he let you go now.
I do feel like some women just need that one maybe two days to cry, cause when you put your all into someone mind,body, and soul the PAIN is real. Don’t make you weak, Naive, or stupid. Live your life definitely but heartache is a real thing.
I completely agree with you, the pain is definitely real
I divorced my husband 3 years ago. Im still crying Hard . I hate beening All by my self . 100% ALONE . 24/7 it gets very old . 72 years old now . be glad when my Life is over with . I Lone to be with Jesus the sooner the better ! Men are NO good any more so please watch who u choose in life . god bless u. Girl .
Shirley Starnes I’m sorry to hear that.
The pain is real for sure...
It certainly is.. I’m done crying over men..
He told me he was going to marry me and he promised me. He came to my home and talked to my father. He promised me everything and then he broke up with me because he said he’s not “mentally stable”. I have never been in so much pain in my life
Hope your bearing up ok ❤
That was an excuse
I’m so sorry. I hate reading things like this because it hurts to see how men can pull a bait and switch on a woman, misleading her, then leave her in pain. I really hope you’re doing better.
You don’t want to deal with a unstable person. ITS WORST.
Walk away without looking back. He'll regret it but I'm better off. When you know your worth, you move different. Be blessed 💫 2020 vision
Always❤❤
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@@rozh8321 ❤
@@DynamicallyDC ❤
Yes always honey that’s what I had to learn
Sometimes a loss is a gain.. wow👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Girl now your talking 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Well said
Amen
He sounds like a Pastor, therapist and comedian...love it
Contessa Talbert ha ha he says shower 4 an hour! I'm not gonna be able to make it!
He is a mentor for sure!!
I swear!! 🤣
It's what you call a calling idiot.
I love you so much for this. He actually called me during this video, if I wouldn’t have watched this I probably would’ve picked up. Now that I’m watching I have the confidence to do what’s best for me. He’s gonna learn today!
Yassssssss!!!!
how did it go? I'm on Day 5 😪
I understand and I applaud you. Though it’s not easy, in your weak moments and maybe in tears, ask God to heal your broken heart and to make you whole again. It’s a process. counting days could be a little discouraging but take it day by day. You will get through it. God bless you on your journey. Been there and done that. Time heals ALL wounds.🙏🏾👏🏽🙏🏾👏🏽🙏🏾
"You got a friend in Jesus and that's it" ...Amen to that
Amen sis🙏🏾
Amen 🙏
He's talking about the chics you call your "best friend"
Amen
@@dstm7777 30:22.... I learned this the hard way. My friend did this to me and now her family and my family despise her and my ex husband. Sadly, her husband did not know until he found my husband (ex) had been sleeping with her for 18 months. Our respective children have nothing to do with either “ki-ki-dee’ing cheater.
“If you got to wear a towel around your neck; never let them see you sweat.” Be blessed.
Dr. E Harper ❤
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You've got to glow up! I love it! Success is the best revenge! He didn't deserve you. Go attract a real man. One who will respect and adore you. Know your worth ladies. You deserve better. Settle for less and you will be miserable! I'm a witness.
Have patience, work on yourself, even if you have to remind yourself why you walked away 😘
No regrets from a narcissist instead be glad and 🏃🏃🏃 for your life and never look back cut your losses and move on...deceit and betrayal...
Exactly. You can be the best, do the best, have the best and No Regrets. And if or when you leave/fall back. All They just see is Betrayal.
You are so right stay out of the Twilight Zone that's all that was the Twilight Zone get out and stay out get educated yourself put your boundaries back up put your walls back up put the doors back on the hinges and keep them shut and Trust the Most High God and love yourself and build yourself back up stop thinking about what they doing and stop thinking about who they're with cuz all of it is lies lies lies yeah just like that song Say
@Eternity With Christ Exactly... 💯💯
@@Dlovely516 Too bad no more toxicity...
@@teetrustyah1849 Truth... 💯💯
After seven years of the same crap, I finally found the strength and courage to move on. He kept telling me to "get over it" when I found out he was cheating. Well... I'm getting over it, buddy. Without YOU!
You have more value than you know....we win at the end
U got this boo!!
Congrats on leaving 🙏🏿
Did you slap him front and back hand when he said that?
how r u doing now??
I love how you give women advice without male bashing. Your wife is lucky.
keisha williams he’s lucky too. She had that influence on him being the man he is today 😊
She very blessed to have a man as him and he seems he learned alot through his life and became a better person because he knew other ways was not working out for him..
@@DeeDee-no7bb Amen, lol!!
@@rhondaroberts7617 So true! 🤔
I have been separated for 6 months and my husband is already with some other female and had her move in with him. Since I been in the lords path my Lord has taught me to see things differently and to learn how to forgive even when not wanting to but all I can do is pray for him.....
Pray for him, Stand still and constantly in God's presence and work on yourself and your happiness... And don't allow anyone to tell you when to stay or go except you and God...
You pretty much just described the relationship with a narcissist. I don't ever wish that heartache on my worst enemy!
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 ½ yrs and I totally agree
I'm in a marriage now to one and I swear I really needed to hear this it's time for me to live for me he will never change
The absolute worst type of relationship in every single way.....
And narcissists never ever regret losing anyone, because they can do you so dirty, break every single piece of your heart and every part of your soul no matter how much you love them and try to be everything they want, they will do whatever they want, dont care how you feel about it, dont matter how many tears they see you cry and it will always always always be your fault no matter what, they feel nothing but pity for themselves, they are incapable of loving anyone else. The absolute worst type of person to be in a relationship with.
This was so painful to hear... he is not my husband. It’s time to heal and move on. Thanks Tony🙏🏿
Your husband is on his way, Diamond. Prepare YOURSELF for his arrival, beautiful. I feel your pain (literally). Make the days forward pouring into yourself the best years of your life. I shall do the same. Keep a journal. Ignite a fire within. SOAR!!!!!!
Same ✌🏾
Truth hurts, but this isnt the end. Love is out there.Dont go looking for it. Itll come to you when u least expect it❣
I am so sorry.
I feel you 100%.
I love his coaching, he sounds so old fashioned, but ladies, he’s is right. It’s not wise to give a man all of yourself when you don’t know if his intentions are serious
@Shukuat Abiola yes i want my ex back
Where do you meet someone with those morals?
Great video, yes indeed he is not a real man and he doesn't know who he is. Make sure you get your healing before you move on to another relationship.
@@amandalee714in your imagination
You are sooooo right when you talk about a woman not having a best friend. Women, please don't share your relationship problems with those who call themselves your friends (whether female or male). It's better not to share anything related to your relationship, unless it's with the psychologist.
I say this from experience!
It's not about making that man regret...You weren't HIS!! It's Trial and Error... He's not going to regret it if he doesn't see you in his future! Pointless...If you're a good woman, Do You..Move On...and by the time he grows up... it'll be too late! At that time..He will regret it!..
Very well said!
Yass!
I Agree
Very Good point 👍🏼
Carlease Austin direct and straight to the point!
I needed this video. At 4 a.m. my heart is so heavy. But tomorrow is begin of Day 1. No communication at all.. Thank you
You can do it girl
How’d you do?
Me too I cutting off his communication
Same
Come here please share your experience am in 2 day of no communication .I hope I will make it to 14
I just walked away from a toxic relationship and I feel like a heavy burden has just been lifted!
Same I think its the lions gate portal 0808, letting go of crap
I feel so much better as well
I hear that!!
Yes me too 🙏🏽
Smart lady!
He finally revealed himself after fronting for a whole year. He’s a narcissist. I’m devastated. I can’t breathe. He love bombed. I am researching what a narcissist is. I didn’t even know.
Why did this man go in so hard on us?! Broke busted and disgusted.... I’m CRYING 😂😂😂😂😂
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry 🤣😫😆
Huh? 😅
LMFAOOO I WAS SCREAMING BUT MY FEELINGS WERE HURT
I know right I was damb Tony I think us ladies get it
It was the makeup references for me 😭 He told me I needed my lashes and eyebrows micro-bladed... I just
Nah I deleted him off my social media. It's private. I hope he finds whatever he's looking for. My life still is the same :) still leveling up in so many ways...he's not gonna watch me at all via social media. Negative. I'm not chasing him, he don't want to act right then there's the door. I'm a real cool down to earth girl and I told him ghosting isn't cool and he still does it. Like go find your dream woman & leave me alone. Simple.
That's what I'm saying GO FIND HER
Yes boo! Queen mentality!
Queen
I felt that
Facts
Treat him like he is non-existent is RIGHT!!
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Thts your power! DELETE HIM...
Just because someone hurts and cries it does not mean it’s a pity party we do have emotion we are human!
hit me hard when you said and even at your best you werent enough for this man...
Right I'm done though. Mines can keep it moving tired of my feelings getting dismissed and disrespected.
Because no matter what we do he can't recognize the treasure we are and we need to meet the man that will.
@@akilahmorris6154 Amen! It's hurtful but I gots to move on.
@@tashaequeen8935 Same
“You crying too much because you’re not listening to videos like this” 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😂- love it 🤣
Amen it's the truth
@@sheiscalledsarah7076 scam
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😂😂😂😂😂True
Lol. He was smooth wasn't he!
After that fourteen days I ain’t won’t want him back...Imagine if I can go on with my life for fourteeeeen days n I can definitely go some more 😊
Niketa Singh 💯 Amen
ABSOLUTELY
Niketa Singh omg I almost just cried.... it’s so hard
Nique Adams hey girl
I'm a year and some months in 😂🤣😄
As a woman who has been in two abusive relationships, and did not have a positive male role model to give me advice about men this has been my go to and god send. You are doing God’s work Tony. This is giving me clarity and healing. Bless you 💙
I can fully relate. Praying for you to get strong everyday and healing ❤
@@taramay8174 thank you, I’m receiving
I’m seeing a lot of comments about “that’s doing too much”
Read between the lines. What he’s telling you to do is what you should be doing anyway - loving yourself.
Yesss I Agree! It's all about Self Respect, Self Worth & Self Love if you have this... you will attract the man you deserve because you won't settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!
Exactly! You suppose to be working on SELF 24/7
Eye opener...
You can't be with a man
Who is really a boy..
yup yup baby
Amen sister!
💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🗣
"He was not raised he just grew" 🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣😅
He is right
Preach 🙏
lol! actually this is true for my situation. this guy just grew, he is still a child.
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Everything he is saying in this video is nothing but pure facts. This man is giving us lady’s all the real tea to grow n love yourself
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One day there will be a man that will come and swoop you up and give you REAL PURE love so when it comes to men who treat you wrong you shouldn't want them to regret losing you. You should want them to never speak to you again.
"Never let him see you sweat." 💯
Dang right, Girl..thats the biggest fluster to him of all
Or cry
Tony is low key a comedian 🤣🤣🤣🤣
100%agree..praise God for that
TheDivine Lena right!!! 😂
Yes!!!! As serious as I was watching and listening, I can’t lie , he had me hollering!!! Like damn that conviction be something and all the low key jabs he be throwing!!!! I love it though, it’s real ish !!!
Exactly! You hear meee??? Love him though! 😂❤️
I know! I was crying 😭😭😭 at the beginning and then towards end he had me cracking up!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I have watched this video probably about 15 times in the last week… been so therapeutic. Currently getting silent treatment because I stood up for myself and demanded my respect. I hurt his ego with the truth. I know I didn’t do any wrong, but it’s still very hurtful… I am worth it
Yep, on day 3 here. I did exactly the same, enough is enough. We were getting so close but he sabotages it by using words which are not appealing to me which hurt me at some points in the conversation. Even one comment a day can destroy your self esteem. Set my final boundary and also told him the truth.
"you have to treat him like he is Casper the ghost" this one got me good HAHA
Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex back
Whatzapp
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I'm working on treating this guy like Casper!!!! He knows I'm in love with him but he's in a situation, his words not mine. And I just cannot be his friend while knowing that my feelings are strong for him. I would rather hurt and heal in silence and in private than to be his friend while he is in his situation with the ex he took back.
@@michelletiaraharris girl you got this! stay strong and keep thinking of him as Casper the nonexistent unfriendly ghost. don't give away your power to him by even letting him know you are hurting. you know what you deserve is so much greater, so keep your love for yourself and leave him where ghosts stay-- in the DARK!