Therapist Shares Ways to Invest in Yourself! | How To Reclaim Your Time, Energy, and Knowledge

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  • @thenerdyblackgirljournal8850
    @thenerdyblackgirljournal8850 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I agree with all this, especially the vacations! I had never really taken a vacation as an adult because I felt like I didn't have the money, but one year when I was so stressed out that I was breaking out in hives, I decided I needed a break. I pinched my pennies and took a trip to Mexico. It changed my life. I couldn't believe how much it eased my stress. Now, I look at vacations as more a necessity, and I try to take at least one each year to keep me balanced. I may have already posted this comment on this channel, but....oh well. It's important to me. 🙃

  • @___shaishayshae__
    @___shaishayshae__ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    This has come at a really good time. I recently had a breakup and it was a little harder than I thought it would be, but it’s better now by the Grace of God.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I’m so glad that you’re doing better ♥️

    • @Bigtime3245
      @Bigtime3245 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@StephAnya how can I book a session

    • @kembachristopher6608
      @kembachristopher6608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Awe, sorry to see that you are having a hard time now, always remember that joy cometh in the morning. Take time and heal yourself.

    • @geeandy8918
      @geeandy8918 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@StephAnya I must admit you are very pretty

    • @alinespindola2428
      @alinespindola2428 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Omg, Im in Thais exact situation

  • @alysonemery5147
    @alysonemery5147 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    You may have already, but would you consider doing a video on how to choose good people (friends, romantic parters, even family) for your circle? Looking to build healthy relationships to have a solid community, but half the time I seem to invest too much into the wrong people without even realizing it.
    I love your channel, and this video especially I will have on replay! Happy belated birthday! 🎊

  • @this_mundane_life
    @this_mundane_life 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Very helpful tips. I realised the energy draining interactions a year ago and put a stop on them. It was difficult for me to say no to friends at first but then I realised it wasn't worth wasting my time and energy. I definitely need to invest in energizing myself. Will definitely schedule time slots for exercise and meditation

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So glad you recognized that! That can be the hardest thing to identify and address. I hope you're able to continue building on your energy as you said with exercise and meditation.

    • @jhorjielovepierre7634
      @jhorjielovepierre7634 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same I’ve been crying since😰😰 I have no strength to do anything

    • @this_mundane_life
      @this_mundane_life 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@StephAnya any tips on how to stay consistent? Would love to hear you talk about building good habits/ keeping yourself motivated.

    • @this_mundane_life
      @this_mundane_life 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jhorjielovepierre7634 you can do it. Start with small steps first and build on them. Sending a virtual hug to you.😊

  • @rprawl3185
    @rprawl3185 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You’ve become my new bestie! This is liberating for me and this is a confirmation of what I’ve been feeling for a while now. I welcome positive changes in my life and I’m happy I’ve found content that speaks to the change I want to see within myself. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @incredibledorster5207
    @incredibledorster5207 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Man, I really needed to hear this. There is a lot of truth in how certain relationships can impact our energy levels. My coworkers at my internship give me the cold shoulder and I've been jumping through hoops on trying to build a relationship with them. Why should I even put my energy into a relationship that won't even bloom? Time to reclaim my energy and say goodbye to all those people/things who only bring me down. I need to focus on me and who I am as a person and stop letting others define my self-worth in this world.

  • @postwoman1802
    @postwoman1802 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Hi, please can you do a video on support systems, and how to be your own support system when you have none, thank you

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great video idea! Thank you.

  • @Tctiffany
    @Tctiffany 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i love how well you explain everything and don't go crazy with too much detail. this is amazing, thanks a ton!

  • @seeyeah5172
    @seeyeah5172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This couldn't have come at a better time. Do you have any tips on how someone can have fun or "learn how to play" again?

    • @lovelylinda8891
      @lovelylinda8891 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Try rollerblading, go to a carnival, play a claw game for stuffed animals, do a jigsaw puzzle solo, fingerpaint and make a mess, watch a Muppets movie, revisit your favorite childhood place.

  • @4hinson777
    @4hinson777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Needless to say, YES! It's all important energy, tme and knowledge. Appreciate how you display how *investing in oneself* can pay off even in education. Well deserved! 👨‍🎨👩‍🎨🥳

    • @4hinson777
      @4hinson777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks Steph ... Like you say, "What's on your mind?" 😃

  • @nwabalisa2674
    @nwabalisa2674 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am watching (actually listening) to this as I am busy studying for a course which will assist me in applying for a promotion at work.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love to hear it! Good luck with your promotion. You've got it :)

  • @ajalomaureen4738
    @ajalomaureen4738 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just love how bright she looks..

  • @katiefountain2407
    @katiefountain2407 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great video. One's energy and time are the most valuable things you will ever own in life..

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So undervalued!

  • @Gugx
    @Gugx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m excited to watch this, so needed! I’m writing a comment while waiting for adverts to go by. thank you in advance 🙏🏽
    Love from South Africa 🇿🇦

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love right back to you ♥️

  • @JonathanS-ki8zn
    @JonathanS-ki8zn ปีที่แล้ว

    Another excellent video! I feel that value can be added to one's life without costing money. Investing time, investing energy, and investing in better ways to manage life, including reaching out to others. Many thanks that you are part of TH-cam University!

  • @BeautiforAshes
    @BeautiforAshes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good Morning! So many Gems! Thank you for the ex. Very helpful for me.

  • @kayrawlins7719
    @kayrawlins7719 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Welcome back Steph. You look so beautiful 😍❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aw 🥺 Thank you so much♥️

  • @ElectrikUnicorn
    @ElectrikUnicorn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've been having major issues with keeping myself consistent with the investment I put towards myself....I have a lot of legal issues and family relationship issues due to the legal complications along with intimate relationship issues that affect the way that I feel about myself....I lost the the ability to balance out the guilt I feel and the confidence I used to feel for myself to achieve anything....I looked into my job for therapy today ironically enough lol it really is a blessing to see you today. Thank you for being so knowledgeable and compassionate 💖💖💖

  • @RayneWalker
    @RayneWalker 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wish that I could get ready at night for the next day 😆 I'm not a morning person either, and I end up skipping makeup or doing my hair how I'd actually like it to be because I'm too tired in the moment and then feel bad about myself for the rest of the day.

  • @mikyahalbena-yasharal3387
    @mikyahalbena-yasharal3387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Greetings Mrs. Steph! You have helped me so much; now let me help you. You mentioned, when you go to sleep, that you put EarPods, in your ear. I recommend that you do the research on Bluetooth frequencies close to the brain, and how they affect you? Also, how it may interfere with your equilibrium. Now, an alternative could be 1. If your husband enjoys listening to music too, to put it on the lowest volume possible, and place it on your nightstand. Or 2. Put it on the lowest volume possible, and stuff it underneath your pillow(s). 3. A third option, could be a wired earbud type.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you for the tips. I actually said “ear plugs,” but I have been falling asleep to audiobooks with my AirPods recently and I keep the volume very low. I really appreciate your concern and thanks for watching!

  • @jend7390
    @jend7390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm a recent subscriber, and I'm so glad I have! What grabbed my attention initially was your video on trauma, and the different ways trauma can affect individuals. I've had TRMCD for most of my life, and almost everything you brought up in your video, was like you were describing me! Thank you so soo much for what you do!! I'm going to learn more about making myself a priority, and try to learn self love. Hopefully with your assistance, and my (who I've come to call "my dream team") Healthcare providers, I can learn more about how to be the best me I can be!! 💕

  • @FlowWithJeaux
    @FlowWithJeaux หลายเดือนก่อน

    So helpful, so creative, and so well done. Thank you so much!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Aw thank you!! ♥️

  • @yuurei_ender
    @yuurei_ender 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for these explanations, it really can be helpful to go through depression and to study properly, to be more productive and feel less guilty (sorry if my english is not perfect)

  • @wesb.8491
    @wesb.8491 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes! This came right on time. 🙌💜

  • @AEK113
    @AEK113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love your videos! You have a really calm energy that I really appreciate. ❤️
    Would you be able to do a video analyzing the couples from The Ultimatum? I loved the video you did on Love is Blind couples!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you! I’ve heard such bad things about the show. Do you think I’d enjoy watching it?

  • @Imjustthatgracegurll
    @Imjustthatgracegurll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was a really amazing and helpful video! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us! I have been struggling lately and I wanted answers and tips on how to make changes and your video was incredibly informative! ❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So glad that you found it helpful! ♥️

  • @lovelybrowngirls1673
    @lovelybrowngirls1673 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, this video is amazing and quite timely for where I am in life, such a wealth of advice, thank you.

  • @Sweet.Mari26
    @Sweet.Mari26 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Steph! Thank you so much for creating your TH-cam channel. ✨💛 The series of different therapy models have been so helpful for my upcoming internship. Is there any possibility you can do role plays for each modality too? It would help solidify one’s visual & hands-on learning to observe and see it practically done 😊 Blessings from Canada!

  • @oursunflowerliving
    @oursunflowerliving 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Perfect timing 💜

  • @rmy_Youtube
    @rmy_Youtube 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Loved this video and how the tips were doable/realistic!! Also, happy belated birthday!! 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Glad you think so!! And thank you! ♥️

  • @aaliyahahmed9112
    @aaliyahahmed9112 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is one of my fav conversations with you girl I love love ur mind it's beautiful n so are u

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  ปีที่แล้ว

      Aw thank you so much ♥️

  • @lauray.alston4225
    @lauray.alston4225 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good afternoon I started following you a few months back you have been giving me tips, help me to learn what to do on my relationship and personal life. But I have a small question, how could I maintain myself happier, energetic with me been a mom of a toddler, wife and work a full time job.
    Have a wonderful day hope to see a video of tips or anything regarding this matter

  • @iampstylesss
    @iampstylesss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This has come at a great time. Thank you for your positive energy & genuine advices 🙌🏾🙏🏾 I Absolutely love your “What’s ANYA Mind?” That’s Genius #new Sub ❤️

  • @CozyToni
    @CozyToni ปีที่แล้ว

    This is wonderful advice, thank you so much! 🥰

  • @shelbypost3234
    @shelbypost3234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I could use these tips too!!

  • @briana14333
    @briana14333 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes! Thanks Steph!
    And happy belated! xo

  • @JusFallinForYouAgain
    @JusFallinForYouAgain 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This was an incredible lesson. Thank you. I consider sharing some of these wonderful thoughts &ideas with my middle school students.
    Peace & love ❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for sharing! They're at the perfect age to start developing these habits.

  • @kembachristopher6608
    @kembachristopher6608 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great points! I've also learned that adding positive connotations can help, too.

  • @empreenergy3376
    @empreenergy3376 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    over 90 days means a new habit is formed❤

  • @dulcesantos1679
    @dulcesantos1679 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks a lot for this video and your advise, there are definitely some things that resonate with me and I appreciate listening to them. I’ve got some thinking and reflecting to do. 💕

  • @JuiceJonesCreates.
    @JuiceJonesCreates. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    These were some spot-on suggestions. Definitely need to exercise some of this in my life.

  • @natashanicole3642
    @natashanicole3642 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video made me 😭,thank you❤️!!!

  • @samdube6337
    @samdube6337 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video!
    I've recently started picking my life back up after years of MI, and investing in myself has been a big part of that

  • @mariafernandasaucedo7903
    @mariafernandasaucedo7903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesome video! What are good ways to restructure friendships that drain your energy but you want to salvage?

  • @karti-soor
    @karti-soor 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoy jogging, in the morning: And swimming 🏊 on monthly basis.. Due to work commitments..

  • @NothingButJoyRadio
    @NothingButJoyRadio 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey Steph! I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I need your advice. My partner told me they were severely insecure with themselves (physically, mentally, emotionally) and it severely effects their confidence. They see themselves as a “lone wolf” but in conversation speak about how they know they need their close friends in their life, even tho they push them away.
    Also, It took time but through your video I learned they have an “abandonment attachment style”. During the earlier mentioned conversation they revealed they suffer with abandonment issues from their family and as a result they feel inadequate.
    Looking back on my actions, there have been moments when I haven’t reassured him in the way he needed it (by trying to give solutions and not listening) and I don’t want to make the same mistakes.
    I don’t know how to fully support him and wanted to reach out for any advice you may have.
    (His love language is Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.)

  • @NurseRatched-k7c
    @NurseRatched-k7c 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank youuuuu!!

  • @eddiephyo1677
    @eddiephyo1677 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing. This is such an amazing video

  • @awazijaafaru7936
    @awazijaafaru7936 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you sm ! This was super helpful 💓

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aw so happy to hear that!

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I found this content fascinating and informative. Thanks for sharing 👍

  • @MoonSparkles11
    @MoonSparkles11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m hoping I can get something from this video I just recently became a single mom and I’m definitely struggling

  • @jessek-9scentdetectiontrai10
    @jessek-9scentdetectiontrai10 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful Smile ❤😍

  • @ShawnaTress88
    @ShawnaTress88 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really enjoyed this video, your energy and light is so Vibrant! Love the information, definitely needed tools that will help me invest in well in to myself on this journey to living my most bestest life. YESSS SIS!!🙌🏾✨💛

  • @bethanijade6867
    @bethanijade6867 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love watching your videos and learning about relationships and imagining the kind of person that I want to attract. But this video is a great little power pack of tips that I can work on right now as a single person. Thanks for giving me the hot girl summer road map 💕

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Haha! I love that. Enjoy your hot girl summer 🔥

  • @zackariasbesson2824
    @zackariasbesson2824 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hej, I'm new to you channel and really love it, but I was wondering if you could do a video about disabilities and relationships? I have severe ADHD and I'm terrified to even approach potential relationships and the once that I have had were messy. I'm trying to gather as much information as possible so I can approach it in a good way.

  • @naeemjai968
    @naeemjai968 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you.

  • @payingless4more
    @payingless4more 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m so happy to be a subscriber! I look forward to your videos♥️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So happy to have you here! 🤗

  • @divinelyguided1144
    @divinelyguided1144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesome video thank you 🙏🏾

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for watching!

  • @j.b.3235
    @j.b.3235 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great tip's ❤️

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you like them!

  • @rickeshahinton4829
    @rickeshahinton4829 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved this

  • @simplyrosalinda
    @simplyrosalinda 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    when it comes to finding resources on learning something new (like finances) or hiring someone (for fitness or health), how can you discern reliable sources from unreliable/misinformational sources?

  • @teamlovepanda
    @teamlovepanda 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Subscribed this is my first time watching your content. Amazing 👏🏽 tips thank you 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for subscribing! ♥️

  • @erisaratv12
    @erisaratv12 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you x

  • @_sammydb
    @_sammydb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi! I’d love to share this to my IG stories. Would you ever consider doing a snippet of your videos and posting them as reels to IG? I think your videos are so helpful, I just want them to reach more people! 😊

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm still trying to figure out the reel thing! That's a great idea. Thank you for wanting to share!

  • @NDObeats
    @NDObeats 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Great video! This gives me some things to reflect on. Also, congratulations on over 100K subscribers!

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you!! ♥️

    • @nothingnowhere2358
      @nothingnowhere2358 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Now this is the sort of support we love to see ;)

  • @aleropopo1389
    @aleropopo1389 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Do you enjoy being an LMFT I studied family science in college but was hesitant to pursue a further degree in family therapy

  • @nadiarambles
    @nadiarambles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I loved this! The comments about making more time for things that align with your purpose really struck me. New subscriber here. 🥰

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Welcome!! 🤗♥️

    • @nadiarambles
      @nadiarambles 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@StephAnya Thank you! 🧡🧡

  • @traceym.8371
    @traceym.8371 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can you please share the app that you are using to track your sleep ?

  • @PriscillaMB
    @PriscillaMB 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a great video!! ☺️☺️

  • @keelaw6749
    @keelaw6749 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video! ❤️

  • @NatySpaghetti
    @NatySpaghetti 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a question regarding this issue. I already invest in myself l, I have improved a lot of areas in my life,.like the ones you mentioned, but I can't seem to improve on my self promotion and dedication to actually having a good portfolio, which is essential in my careers. I have tried to tackle this issue so many times but I don't know what stops me. I know I have the tools, but it just doesn't flow, ive tried agendas, clases, therapy, it's something I just can't get the ball rolling for some reason.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi! I’m glad to hear that you’ve been investing in yourself Are you sure that this is the career that you want?

  • @User91050
    @User91050 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    In light of the last season of Ozarks on Netflix. Can you review the relationship between Marty and Wendy and give a guessed diagnosis of Wendy. Season 4 episode 13 is a great depiction of Wendy acting insane. *Spoiler Alert* There is a scene where they get into a car crash and it looks like Wendy pretends to be dead for a second to see her family's reaction. What are your oppinions on this kind of behavior?

  • @shannonwilliams62
    @shannonwilliams62 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    #AD

  • @dhqbrandi
    @dhqbrandi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Personal question. … Have you had a sleep study?

  • @Thewizardofizm
    @Thewizardofizm 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What’s hatnin baby welcome to me

  • @welikelethabo
    @welikelethabo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2:17
    What apps do you use for sleep ?

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You can use your smart watch if you have one, but we took the plunge and got a Sleep Number bed that has an app that tells me my sleep rating and if I was restless. I’m sure there are other ways to get those metrics too.

  • @lisadukes6471
    @lisadukes6471 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🔥🔥🔥📖👑💒🛐🕊🔥🙏🏻very true 🙏🏽🙏🏼🔥

  • @melissathatcher7164
    @melissathatcher7164 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If you value sleep, don't ever have kids 😆

  • @theearkandcovenantofbeauty1415
    @theearkandcovenantofbeauty1415 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🥰💯

  • @GorillaTactix
    @GorillaTactix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    CoPilot sounds dope. Just got my trial.

    • @StephAnya
      @StephAnya  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you love it!

  • @williguelpa6597
    @williguelpa6597 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🙌 ᑭяỖmo𝓼𝐦