@@MegaBrandon3 Proof that he is a psychologist? Either way, you can do a simple google search and psychology will confirm that not contacting someone will cause them to miss you if you were significant to them in any way. It also is pretty obvious that chasing them indicates that you need them instead of it being mutual.
It really sucks when someone you gave your heart to becomes a stranger to you all of a sudden. - - - - - - - 2023 Update: I found Jesus..and everything fell into place. And after that He gave me a God fearing man, I love him so much and he loves me so much. I'll be forever thankful. And we're getting married next year. Praise God 🙏❤️
Yes losing someone you love is hard!! But in all honesty mine did me a favor I was 350 pounds and on a road to self destruction!! We have been broken up for almost a year now! No contact at all! Yes I still have my bad days missing her thinking of her but I started working on myself I’m down to 269 pounds! To everyone who is new to this you got this I promise it does get easier! Hang in there! And thank you coach Lee!!
Keep up the good work! I too have lost weight, 270 to down to 240 and counting. Focusing the energy on yourself is way to go. 6 months of breakup and staying strong at NC.
I am too... After 2 month in grief and sadness I now realize I have different options. In the darkest hours you just don't see all the cards on your hand. After what she did to me I don't see a way of getting back together. It's still kinda sad but I learnt to accept - it was so tough. She made me feel that way. Whenever I look back I now see her making me feel faulty, less attractive and most of all: insecure! How could I ever want that back? She never took over any responsibility for what she sad or did. Best is to move on quick! I sometimes cry, yes, but these are now tears for having wasted so much time trying to understand and love someone who simply didn't want me in her life anymore. Goodbye Ex!
@@paolanatalia2000 ....I'm at the point where, I don't gave a damn if he comes back or not. Since I got to that mindset, NOW he's calling!....lol...smh
@@picachicaasmr260 That's the way it always is, like they feel the pull of your energy is missing. My ex, will wind up crying to me, when his life is so destitute and he is broke, then I will have to figure out what to do. Should I be mean to him?
“when you stay away they have to re create you to feel your company” this is a really hard hitting one. and with the effect of time discarding all negative thoughts of you it’s genius.
5 months no contact. Checked his social media last week and he already moved on to another girl. Bye forever to him now. Once I see they have a connection to another woman I cry one full day and then get super turned off. Wouldn't take him back now even if they paid me.
"And if you could stay away, you could move on. What a wonderful message for your ex to get from you instead of a text message." This got me cracking. 😂
My ex told me that he wanted me to move on, that I “deserve better”. I asked him if he really wanted me to be with another man, he said he wouldn’t like to see me with someone else but if I’m happy then he’ll be happy for me. That’s how I knew it was over for good. An ex wanting you with someone else is a huge sign that they’ll never try to get you back.
That isn’t true at all. I want my ex back, it’s been four years, and yet what I want more than my own selfish desire for her to be in my life is for her to have what she wants in her life, even if that’s someone else, of course it would hurt but I would support it if it meant she was happy and felt loved. I’d like it to be me because I can see and trust my love and intentions, but as uncomfortable as it makes me to imagine her with someone else that’s only because I want her to be loved properly. I’d accept the life of misery, I already have.
My situation is weird and complicated. He is being forced to stay away from me by his father (hes almost 18, still living at home) and I can't really talk to him. His dad is controlling his feelings for him right now, he's not allowed to text or call me. I am still in NC and it's been a month and I decided I'll reach out another month from now since our situation is a bit unique and we were forced apart by a third party. I also need something back from him that belongs to me. I'm keeping it casual and doing the best I can not to pounce and bother him because silence is power! I've actually been working on myself a lot and doing better without him, but I still love and want to be with him.
And within 2 weeks of reconnecting, I acted like I did when we first started dating so I wasn’t rushing into anything and then the talk came about getting back together. I was sooo happy .
You have the same name as my ex gf which is kind of what psychology drew me to this comment. Maybe it a a sign that I’ll get back with my Jordan (sure fucking hope). But Jesus man what did you to make it happen?
45 days no contact after being with her for four years. Christmas will be a tough day as I was going to ask her to marry me. my heart is crushed but thanks to coach Lee maybe just maybe I will be okay not today or tomorrow but one day stay strong everyone
He contacted me after two weeks to ask if we could be friends, and I said we are not enemies, but I am not interested in friendship with you either. Thank you.
My current ex said to me in her previous message which I’ve added this a few times, she said we could remain friends but for now she wants to be single for a bit to look after her elderly dad who has pressure sores and her mum is becoming poorly, I told her in my final communication that I couldn’t just remain friends as I only want a relationship with you as I know my worth, my value and I’m irreplaceable, and when we get back into work that I’ll just be professional around you so there will be no kissing or cuddling. Her final communication with me was , it’s my loss that you cannot remain friends and it’s a decision that i’m going to have to live with for the rest of my life, I read what she had to say and I went straight into NC which was 9 days ago , not sure how it’s going to be when we finally get back into work and we get to see each other again..
I've been in NC for about a month and I'm doing much better. I have my moments but these videos and a lot a prayer have really helped me. I have a daily routine of listening to gospel music, praying for my ex and praying for MY strength! Thanks Coach Lee!!
@@AminataD26 we haven't gotten back together but I'm dating someone else now... it's for the best. I found out alot of disturbing things he was doing while we were together
I absolutely love this ! Turned all my emotions into myself! Got my dream job/career, moved into an amazing new place, bought a new car, working out helps a ton(boosts confidence), learned to cook, saving a ton, and going back to school to acquire additional certificates/degrees. Best thing you can do is give it time, and in that time love yourself and work on yourself, you will eventually get to a point where it does not bother you!!! P.S. Coming back after over 8 months, just know I was in that dark hole with no idea of what to do for a month straight. I Cried myself to sleep every night for the first month, but after 8 months of working on myself I can promise you it does get better!!
Wow... after a year of no contact , he reached me out and saying how much he misses me.... I immediately thought of you Coach Lee.. haha 😅😍 Thanks for your amazing advises..🖒
I swear to my mom Coach Lee is a life saver I’ve listen to his videos over and over or I can say I’m addicted , fall in sleep I’ve to listen his videos and I’m gone. There is 100 of videos out there but Coach Lee has a very different style very genuine he is so talented for his professional, his speech give us so much strength, confidence, hopes and positive energy❤️ I highly recommended his advice also who ever listen to his new videos let’s make some contributions if we put $1.00 and there’s good amounts of people for him so beneficial and for us is only a $1.00.. God bless you coach... Josh...(how we can donate please advise)🙏
This hurts so much. But he left because I had a temper tantrum that led to horrendous consequences. It’s harder knowing it’s my fault. But it still hurts so damn much. Thank you for these videos. 🙏🏻
I know that he won’t forget me right away. But the real question is what do they feel when they remember me? Do they feel nothing? Feel nostalgic?if yes, after a significant time has passed since the breakup, do they still feel desperate and nostalgic towards me? This is the question I’m dying to find an answer for.
Thank you so much for sharing your ideas with us, I finally get a call from my ex after 3 months of no contact, and I fallows exactly your advices tnx, I finally get her back.
I have decided to break up with my fiancee. He has been good but now he has really changed. He has been harassing and accusing me for mistakes I didn't know. Then he immediately stopped contacting me. I went through pain and loneliness. I was sending messages to him pleading with him not to leave me but he gave me a deaf ear He even blocked my number, then unblocked my number. I thank you. You are my coach. I am now in no contact mode. I wake up in the morning and work up every day. I am strong and I am not gonna call him. I take your advice serious and I know that one day he will contact me to apologize to me. I have learnt that we are many who are broken hearts here. Thank you coach.
Great advice. I am in a different position. I was obsessed because of trauma bonding with a narcissist who had gone no contact on me longer ago than I am prepared to say. I was the one that was messaging but watching your videos and losing a colleague to coronavirus helped me to come to the conclusion that today is a good day for a fresh start. No more messaging. Stay safe and all the best.
Just got away from a similar situation it’s for the best, very traumatizing. I hope you find the love you need within yourself and through someone that will give you the love you deserve
Hi Lee. I had to remark on this video because it does remind me of my ex, however, I no longer miss him. I was under the impression that I was engaged to a healthy, normal human being. I believe he was cheating, lying, and using me, but I found out too late. I was in love with him and I did want to get married. I listened to your videos non stop after I left him, then I found out he rebounded and married her 2 weeks later. WOW! After listening to two of your videos on Narcissism, I put 2 and 2 together. The FUTURE FAKING, the lies, and you know the rest about that topic. It took me 2 years to get over him. I listen to Dr Ramani a lot, and I ALWAYS listen to you, regardless of the topic. YOU HELPED ME! Love you...❤
I like Coach Lee's no bullshit style of saying things. "They broke up with you because they've lost an emotional attraction to you, they feel they are better than you and can do better than you." I was like, shit, Lee isn't sugar coating this stuff. Lee said your ex had been thinking or may have been even planning this break up a long time. Today I spent the day just thinking back and realized it was 8 months ago my ex began to pull away from me. We lost our intimacy, we began to lose our connection. I realized I have taken my ex for granted and forgot to develop our love. Hard to think about. I am angry she didn't sit me down and tell me, "Hey, you need to change or I am walking out" Rather, she just up and walked out. Its been 5 days and I have been doing the NC and listening to Lee tell it like it is. I feel stronger already. We both took each other for granted. Don't do it if you still have that person in your life.
Thanks for giving me the right mind set to keep the no contact going. You made me realize that if he doesn’t come back he never loved me so I have to wait for him to come back. He had already been taking me for granted and contacting him again would only reinforce that.
I honestly no longer have a need for my ex anymore, i only watch your videos because they really help me out and put everything into perspective. And the need for her has only dissipated more due to realizing that she went back to her ex before me.
Pretty sure I’ve watched all your videos through my breakup and this one is definitely my new favorite. Thank you for continuing to remind people of their inner strength and helping us through some of our darkest days.. Your a blessing Coach Lee 🙏🏼🇺🇸
Coach you blew it up with this video so much passion! You should know your giving me and many others the strength to stick to the no contact rule in an effort to get our X back....Thank you Coach!!
"If you stay away they have to recreate you in order to experience some of your company." -Coach Lee This is how the dynamic changes. I appreciate how you thought it through.
Coach Lee's videos are on point. My 22 year relationship is over, I just wished I was armed with this information at the beginning. I made mistakes like bargaining telling her I love Her etc it doesn't work. Going into NC for my own sanity.
I don't know if you would be able to read this coach lee but I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all these super helpful advices that helped me get back from my feet after my ex broke up with me the last few months and I cannot be thankful enough that I stumbled upon you to know all these things. You are literally the best thing that could ever exist for all the people going through a rough patch after a breakup coach lee!! Thank you so much for all of these!! Much love from a heartbroken fella from the Philippines!
Coach Lee, You're my best and favourite coach. Your videos really helped me a lot and played a vital role in my breakup and tough periods. Now my ex reached me out while pleading her faults. Even though we haven't yet met face to face.
Coach Lee, you are on another level when it ones to relationships. I've searched all over TH-cam for similar videos and so called relationship or dating coaches. They simply do not compare with their advice and knowledge that you have. And I still come back to your videos for guidance. You are a constant voice of reason for many of us. Keep up the great work and I look forward to your next video.
It's been a week and i'm not even sure if i want him back or not, he used to tell me that I'm love of his life. Now it sounds like i'm being fooled 🤷 idk if he will ever come back or not, if not then he had gone for good, if somebody love you they will never leave you guys!
There are Some days i really feel like giving up on my ex . Its been 2 moths now and she has stopped contacting me from 2 weeks. And deep inside i know there is still some hope left. But as i look back i see those positive and happy memories we shared together since last 5+ years and all that boosts my hopes and makes me aware of not giving up on her. Whenever i feel low this channel is the one i reach out. 😇😇. You are doing a great work.
Been watching your videos Coach since last year after she left me. Been doing 100 push ups a day since April 3 2020 til now. Thank you Coach Lee, You have answered all my questions. More power to You.
Chelsea Lucas.....day 42 here, she dropped a how are you? message yesterday, I just said fine. I was amazed but as coach says around day 45. Enjoy the silence!
Yay another video you’re the best coach lee! 11 days into nc and she keeps talking to me and that she likes how we are no label nice and slow.she keeps complimenting me and saying how much she misses me. I never reach out and make her initiate I’m excited for us working back to be a couple !
Nice Corey! I had to go into NC knowing she would call and text non stop but sometimes putting your foot down when you aren’t seeing changes is for the best! I know it’s not practical to ignore your ex but no contact really works if it’s applied with the “giving us space to work on ourselves” talk before ignoring them for the specific time!
Update : I was scrolling through ig and accidentally called her and she made a joke about it like are you stalking my ig😂 but we went on and it seems like she’s being a little hot and cold. Should I be worried ?reach out to her? Or just chill give it time and continue no contact ?
coach Lee, you are a rare GEM. you are simply heaven-sent. You may never in a thousand years know what your videos do to bring balance to many broken souls out here and especially some of us that are silent followers. may eternity judge you ever graciously.
Coach Lee i don't know the adjectives to qualify you rather than to say you are a genius far better than any other relationship coaches i have ever watched on TH-cam,thank you so much for your hard work
I am so so so happy I ran across coach Lee! I was in a relationship for 2.5 years, my bf said we needed to take a break. Of course I was blindsided by this but I just said ok and left. BTW, we lived separately I would stay with him on weekends because of work. Anyway, I immediately listen to you speak of No Contact Rule and put it in motion. By the end of the first week he was texting asking about my family. I replied nicely but that's it back to no contact until he let's me know he wants back in the relationship. Thank u Coach Lee.
Since I stared to listen to these videos it really helped me understand 😌 my break up, separation with my ex. Even though he's moved on with a new relationship I'm still going through it yet my mind now has really changed me and the effort I was doing to get him back I've put it towards myself love. ❤ Thank you Coach Lee
I am in on and off relationship and seriously this man has helped me so much..I don't even bother anymore I just go straight to no contact and follow all the advices he gives, instead of overthinking and worrying. Thank you for saving my nerves!
Hi I know of a good and a very powerful woman who can help you to manifest back your ex within 2 days . I got my ex back through her love manifestations and it works effectively
Coach Lee, I can't even begin to describe how watching your videos when I'm crying before I sleep help give me that piece of understanding or comfort, that's just enough to help me get through another day of pain. Thank you so so much.
Thank GOD, you are saved from corona virus..we wanna hear alot more from you.please bring some other topics as well in your videos other than breaks up or no- contact..you have great convincing power coach lee
I've watched tons of breakup coaches and got decent advice but coach Lee actually is more on the nail. i don't know if it's just me but he seems more specific and has touched way more that is like my current situation than anyone else. I feel like with his information I can navigate it all more appropriately.
Dated for 1.5 years. 103 days in NC. I was about to break it this week but THIS video stopped me. I trust statistics, i trust coach Lee and these secrets made me smile like a villain and rejuvenated my hope. Well put friend
Coach Lee, I have been binge watching all your videos for months, honestly you are the best coach on TH-cam. Listening to your videos has a genuine calming effect and enables me to see things from a better perspective. Thanks for your efforts and the time to put out these knowledge and info out there. Wish you a long and happy life 😊
Hey Coach! 9 days of NC and she broke down! Now we are seeing each other with different feelings then when we saw eachother before I gave NC a chance! Our dynamic is different knowing I can walk away! Coach we talked about our future with our child in mind. We even kissed last night! Huge thanks to you I will keep following you for a long time because the fight isn’t over! - Cheers Randy
Thanks for every video, they are all really helpful. I've been in NC for a month (and I don't have a problem with that) ever since the breakup. I haven't cried in three days(I used to cry every single day)and I feel much stronger. You wouldn't believe how far your words of wisom have travelled. Sending you a big hug from Serbia 😊🤗
Your videos are so helpful. Just listening to your voice helps. My husband of 21 years walked out at the beginning of the month. He's out of state for work right now and won't be back until the end of the month. I haven't contacted him and it's been so hard. I know I'm going to have to see him when he gets back to sort through the business of this separation and I just hope I can keep it together.
Once again great information. I have no doubt I would have gotten my ex had I access to this knowledge. I literally did everything wrong and made an utter fool of myself. Live and learn. Coach Lee is the man, love his honest and logical approach.
Coach Lee you’re such a remarkable man. Listening to you and how much care you put into your craft takes your effort to a whole other (level) aspect of respect!⭐️💯
People need to stop with all the negative comments. I think a majority of the time when people do get their ex back they do not come back to these videos and post to comment on their new found success. I’ve had it work many times for myself. The last one was at 42 days of NC. Good luck.
Another great video from Coach Lee, although my no contact is way past 4months I am choosing to stay in no contact as Coach Lee suggests. Awesome to see you.
Thank you Coach Lee. Your vids are always helpful. I miss her and her kids like crazy. But I'm working on me. It's been 3 months. I still hurt like it was yesterday.
Worst thing to do is message your ex that broke up w you because honestly they just won’t care so you gotta stay strong and make them miss you by moving on. I know it’s hard because I have been in this position and I made the mistake of messaging and I wish I hadn’t because it made me realise how much she didn’t care after but a long three months after I can finally say I’m happy and I don’t want her back anymore.
This is really coming from a straight up comforting point of view. Words are very comforting, and also humourous. You are very clear and precise and I know this is because you know what you are talking about and you are fair and say "in most cases" These videos are so helpful and I just wish everyone love and success because these videos are a tool for this.
Great stuff ! You are helping me right now. Me and my wife are somewhat separated right now. In the beginning I was doing all the things you said not to do and now I see it would have been catastrophic to my marriage. I have watched all or almost all of your videos. My wife is doing some things that I do not understand and putting me in a unique situation not covered in the videos I have watched. But I am applying your advice the best I can with the cards I am being dealt. You are a blessing to me. So far you have saved me from myself.
Update! Every time I post a story on Facebook, he sees it. But, I didn’t made a deal or anything out of it because, like coach lee has always said, that doesn’t mean anything. He actually has to reach out first. And today, he commented on my story. It was pretty casual, nothing about our relationship or not even asking how I was doing. Just something about my Facebook story. I did reply to him. But it was even more casual and of course I didn’t ask anything about him. He said something back (although not really necessary) and I just replied with a thanks. And that was all. Even if he doesn’t reach out to me anymore and nothing comes out of it, I see this as a little victory. My ego is a little bit bump up. Lol!
Coach Lee, You have allowed Me in gaining a better perspective in understanding My mission in recovering My broken relationship!.... May God Bless You!
Coach Lee!!! He said that he thought he missed me but when he got here and saw me and held me in his arms he KNEW he missed me. It was incredible. Incredible. I didn't need to even ask for a meeting. He did. First a call on Sunday and then he asked Tuesday. Okay so we're dating for now.. we had an unnaturally fast short term relationship the first time before we said couple. . Too close too soon. And I'm the one who said so today. I also made it clear I wasn't taxing him for the break...I said i heard all men need some space once in a while.
I'm happy for you Nofyah! Truly. I know the joy you feel. And I know the sorrow so many others feel. To those of you who want what Nofyah has had happen, take it one day at a time.
@@RealCoachLee I know it's still one day at a time. And I now know what to do if he ever asks for a break again..NC immediately. Your videos helped so much. I treated most of the lockdown like smart NC ...and what made him ask for a meeting I think was the last week I only mirrored him on good morning and good night. He then got 'worried' by his own admission..
@@RealCoachLee one of my best friends was dating a guy who didn't trust women... And she had to do the NC for breaks around ten times!!!! Before she gained his trust. They're now married two years and have been together for five and he's incredibly happy with her. She said he started coming back sooner and sooner .. taking only a day break the last few times. She said she gave her best when they were together and completely ignored him when he did his break lines. Whenever he started grumbling...I don't have time for you etc... she'd say "okay, bye". She said it took an incredible amount of self control and confidence.
What coach Lee saying is 100% correct. I am saying this as a psychologist. People listen to this man.
So your proof is?
@@MegaBrandon3 Trust me bro
@@MegaBrandon3Are u the police or sum💀
@@MegaBrandon3 Proof that he is a psychologist? Either way, you can do a simple google search and psychology will confirm that not contacting someone will cause them to miss you if you were significant to them in any way. It also is pretty obvious that chasing them indicates that you need them instead of it being mutual.
It really sucks when someone you gave your heart to becomes a stranger to you all of a sudden.
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2023 Update: I found Jesus..and everything fell into place. And after that He gave me a God fearing man, I love him so much and he loves me so much. I'll be forever thankful. And we're getting married next year. Praise God 🙏❤️
It truly does.
Its mind-shattering!
Yup. Especially after half a decade or more.
I feel ur pain brother
I agree
I no longer listen to coach lee to get my ex back. I listen to him because his words give me extra strength on the days I feel down. ❤️
Coach Lee is the boss! 💯
Manayer Mussaed I’m on the same page , I’ve accepted what’s best for me but every once in awhile I do get down , and he helps :)
I feel the same way. I gave up after a year and she has been through 6 boyfriends later
Agreed.
Lol me too
I'm no one's back up plan. The more of these videos I watch, the more I realize I'm going to be OK 👌.
Rosser Scott preachhhhh
That's right! You are the prize to win over.
@@MsThebeMoon Yes!!
I know a strong and spiritual one who can help you with a love spell
Never ever ever settle to be a backup plan! You are amazing, unique and you deserve your right match
Yes losing someone you love is hard!! But in all honesty mine did me a favor I was 350 pounds and on a road to self destruction!! We have been broken up for almost a year now! No contact at all! Yes I still have my bad days missing her thinking of her but I started working on myself I’m down to 269 pounds! To everyone who is new to this you got this I promise it does get easier! Hang in there! And thank you coach Lee!!
Keep going!
Keep up the good work! I too have lost weight, 270 to down to 240 and counting. Focusing the energy on yourself is way to go. 6 months of breakup and staying strong at NC.
Great. Keep going 😊
proud of you bro!!! keep grinding, each hard day is just another lesson that you can apply in the future
Keep at it!💯
I miss her a lot. But I am worthy of love. I am a catch. I am good looking. I am compassionate. I want her. But I don’t need her to be happy.
Well said! Believe it and stay strong!
Damn right you are!
Yes you are!!!
I am too... After 2 month in grief and sadness I now realize I have different options. In the darkest hours you just don't see all the cards on your hand. After what she did to me I don't see a way of getting back together. It's still kinda sad but I learnt to accept - it was so tough. She made me feel that way. Whenever I look back I now see her making me feel faulty, less attractive and most of all: insecure! How could I ever want that back? She never took over any responsibility for what she sad or did. Best is to move on quick! I sometimes cry, yes, but these are now tears for having wasted so much time trying to understand and love someone who simply didn't want me in her life anymore. Goodbye Ex!
You're the only one keeping me from texting my ex right now. We recently broke up and I feel so lost
Stay strong. Give your ex the opportunity to miss you.
Cool beans how old are you?
Coach Lee knows his shit inside out. Watch as many vids as possible, they are all full of wise words
@Trenton Doggett thank you
@@benjunior1678 thank you. I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope things work out for the best for the two of you 😊💕
Most important secret that they don't want to know: you moved on and not giving a crap about it anymore.
Then the are on you like white on rice!
Vandella Charles Right? When it’s just a little too late.
@@paolanatalia2000 ....I'm at the point where, I don't gave a damn if he comes back or not. Since I got to that mindset, NOW he's calling!....lol...smh
@@picachicaasmr260 That's the way it always is, like they feel the pull of your energy is missing. My ex, will wind up crying to me, when his life is so destitute and he is broke, then I will have to figure out what to do. Should I be mean to him?
@@picachicaasmr260 after how long your ex reached out?
“when you stay away they have to re create you to feel your company” this is a really hard hitting one. and with the effect of time discarding all negative thoughts of you it’s genius.
5 months no contact. Checked his social media last week and he already moved on to another girl. Bye forever to him now. Once I see they have a connection to another woman I cry one full day and then get super turned off. Wouldn't take him back now even if they paid me.
Be strong. You'll get someone better.
Igor Oliveira Thank you!!
He his actually hurt himself because he will know your value after loosing you
Kevin Rally I hope he does see that one day. Thank you🙏🏼
Manayer Mussaed that's right! haha
You gave me more advice than my parents have in the 21 years of my life..
I'm well over my ex, thank you though
🤣🤣 too true
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Don’t ever be someone else’s back up plan.
Great video Coach
"And if you could stay away, you could move on. What a wonderful message for your ex to get from you instead of a text message." This got me cracking.
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Awesome mantra to repeat to myself!
Lol
LOL! me too.😂😂
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My ex told me that he wanted me to move on, that I “deserve better”. I asked him if he really wanted me to be with another man, he said he wouldn’t like to see me with someone else but if I’m happy then he’ll be happy for me. That’s how I knew it was over for good. An ex wanting you with someone else is a huge sign that they’ll never try to get you back.
That isn’t true at all. I want my ex back, it’s been four years, and yet what I want more than my own selfish desire for her to be in my life is for her to have what she wants in her life, even if that’s someone else, of course it would hurt but I would support it if it meant she was happy and felt loved. I’d like it to be me because I can see and trust my love and intentions, but as uncomfortable as it makes me to imagine her with someone else that’s only because I want her to be loved properly. I’d accept the life of misery, I already have.
Your silence is powerful! That to me is the biggest one and speaks volumes to me. How can someone miss you if you don't let it be silent?
what’s your story? did he reach out?
My situation is weird and complicated. He is being forced to stay away from me by his father (hes almost 18, still living at home) and I can't really talk to him. His dad is controlling his feelings for him right now, he's not allowed to text or call me. I am still in NC and it's been a month and I decided I'll reach out another month from now since our situation is a bit unique and we were forced apart by a third party. I also need something back from him that belongs to me. I'm keeping it casual and doing the best I can not to pounce and bother him because silence is power! I've actually been working on myself a lot and doing better without him, but I still love and want to be with him.
@@rachaeladeline how old are you
Listen to him. I followed his advice and got my ex back September of last year and we are still together.
After how long you both get together?
Was wondering the same thing
Lola G we were no contact for around 2 months . But like Coach Lee says, this is what makes them miss you . So it’s worth it .
And within 2 weeks of reconnecting, I acted like I did when we first started dating so I wasn’t rushing into anything and then the talk came about getting back together. I was sooo happy .
@@lourdesandzachary13 that's great to hear, I'm happy for you two. I'm just about at 2 months myself, one day at a time.
I still watch your videos even though I’m back with my girlfriend
Congrats bro
Congrats
advice us what you did?
You have the same name as my ex gf which is kind of what psychology drew me to this comment. Maybe it a a sign that I’ll get back with my Jordan (sure fucking hope). But Jesus man what did you to make it happen?
He's got this calming reassuring way about him.
45 days no contact after being with her for four years. Christmas will be a tough day as I was going to ask her to marry me. my heart is crushed but thanks to coach Lee maybe just maybe I will be okay not today or tomorrow but one day stay strong everyone
He contacted me after two weeks to ask if we could be friends, and I said we are not enemies, but I am not interested in friendship with you either. Thank you.
was that it? did you say you want romance? So is it over?
@@lovefamily8227 You are in a far away country? All those digits...
My current ex said to me in her previous message which I’ve added this a few times, she said we could remain friends but for now she wants to be single for a bit to look after her elderly dad who has pressure sores and her mum is becoming poorly, I told her in my final communication that I couldn’t just remain friends as I only want a relationship with you as I know my worth, my value and I’m irreplaceable, and when we get back into work that I’ll just be professional around you so there will be no kissing or cuddling. Her final communication with me was , it’s my loss that you cannot remain friends and it’s a decision that i’m going to have to live with for the rest of my life, I read what she had to say and I went straight into NC which was 9 days ago , not sure how it’s going to be when we finally get back into work and we get to see each other again..
@@1Andrea yes its over, better to move ahead, I feel so better right now.
@@adetilda5486 💞💞💞💞💞🕊
I've been in NC for about a month and I'm doing much better. I have my moments but these videos and a lot a prayer have really helped me. I have a daily routine of listening to gospel music, praying for my ex and praying for MY strength! Thanks Coach Lee!!
I have been on NC since January 1 but yet to hear from her...I don't think I need her anymore...have healed from the break up
Erica update ?
@@AminataD26 we haven't gotten back together but I'm dating someone else now... it's for the best. I found out alot of disturbing things he was doing while we were together
Stay strong
It's been 3 weeks no contact. And I'm slowly regretting this relationship
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I absolutely love this ! Turned all my emotions into myself! Got my dream job/career, moved into an amazing new place, bought a new car, working out helps a ton(boosts confidence), learned to cook, saving a ton, and going back to school to acquire additional certificates/degrees. Best thing you can do is give it time, and in that time love yourself and work on yourself, you will eventually get to a point where it does not bother you!!! P.S. Coming back after over 8 months, just know I was in that dark hole with no idea of what to do for a month straight. I Cried myself to sleep every night for the first month, but after 8 months of working on myself I can promise you it does get better!!
No contact is the way to do it regardless of whether they come back or not.
You finish with dignity or you reconnect. Either way you win
Coach Lee is the most positive person in my life. If my ex was even 1 percent of Coach Lee, I would chase her forever.
Coach Lee was the dude that your girl left you for!!!
Wow... after a year of no contact , he reached me out and saying how much he misses me.... I immediately thought of you Coach Lee.. haha 😅😍 Thanks for your amazing advises..🖒
What happened?
A year? Did you guys get back together?
Update
I swear to my mom Coach Lee is a life saver I’ve listen to his videos over and over or I can say I’m addicted , fall in sleep I’ve to listen his videos and I’m gone. There is 100 of videos out there but Coach Lee has a very different style very genuine he is so talented for his professional, his speech give us so much strength, confidence, hopes and positive energy❤️ I highly recommended his advice also who ever listen to his new videos let’s make some contributions if we put $1.00 and there’s good amounts of people for him so beneficial and for us is only a $1.00.. God bless you coach... Josh...(how we can donate please advise)🙏
Well my tip jar is at myexbackcoach.com/tip-jar/ or you could buy the Emergency Breakup Kit. Thanks for your kind words.
I don't want ny ex back, but these videos help me gain clarity for creating closure for myself without him.
This hurts so much. But he left because I had a temper tantrum that led to horrendous consequences. It’s harder knowing it’s my fault. But it still hurts so damn much. Thank you for these videos. 🙏🏻
I know that he won’t forget me right away. But the real question is what do they feel when they remember me? Do they feel nothing? Feel nostalgic?if yes, after a significant time has passed since the breakup, do they still feel desperate and nostalgic towards me? This is the question I’m dying to find an answer for.
Thank you so much for sharing your ideas with us, I finally get a call from my ex after 3 months of no contact, and I fallows exactly your advices tnx, I finally get her back.
Awesome One Black! Happy for you!
Your hair is on point coach lee.
He’s speaking TRUTH!!! My ex reached out and I’m NOT going to make any mistakes. The tables have turned ❤
Almost 3 months of NC . Im doing my best concentrating on career and health.. Thank you for all you do.
I have decided to break up with my fiancee. He has been good but now he has really changed.
He has been harassing and accusing me for mistakes I didn't know.
Then he immediately stopped contacting me.
I went through pain and loneliness.
I was sending messages to him pleading with him not to leave me but he gave me a deaf ear
He even blocked my number, then unblocked my number.
I thank you.
You are my coach.
I am now in no contact mode.
I wake up in the morning and work up every day. I am strong and I am not gonna call him.
I take your advice serious and I know that one day he will contact me to apologize to me.
I have learnt that we are many who are broken hearts here.
Thank you coach.
i have been watching your videos almost all the time during my no contact period and it gives strength, God bless you
Great advice. I am in a different position. I was obsessed because of trauma bonding with a narcissist who had gone no contact on me longer ago than I am prepared to say. I was the one that was messaging but watching your videos and losing a colleague to coronavirus helped me to come to the conclusion that today is a good day for a fresh start. No more messaging. Stay safe and all the best.
Damn! Stay safe. Not just from the coronavirus but the narcissist. Its a worse way to die than covid unfortunately
Stay away don't waste anymore energy and time. This doesn't apply to them. They are not even real.
Just got away from a similar situation it’s for the best, very traumatizing. I hope you find the love you need within yourself and through someone that will give you the love you deserve
Hi Lee. I had to remark on this video because it does remind me of my ex, however, I no longer miss him. I was under the impression that I was engaged to a healthy, normal human being. I believe he was cheating, lying, and using me, but I found out too late. I was in love with him and I did want to get married. I listened to your videos non stop after I left him, then I found out he rebounded and married her 2 weeks later. WOW! After listening to two of your videos on Narcissism, I put 2 and 2 together. The FUTURE FAKING, the lies, and you know the rest about that topic. It took me 2 years to get over him. I listen to Dr Ramani a lot, and I ALWAYS listen to you, regardless of the topic. YOU HELPED ME! Love you...❤
How can I miss you if you won’t go away...?!
I like Coach Lee's no bullshit style of saying things. "They broke up with you because they've lost an emotional attraction to you, they feel they are better than you and can do better than you." I was like, shit, Lee isn't sugar coating this stuff. Lee said your ex had been thinking or may have been even planning this break up a long time. Today I spent the day just thinking back and realized it was 8 months ago my ex began to pull away from me. We lost our intimacy, we began to lose our connection. I realized I have taken my ex for granted and forgot to develop our love. Hard to think about. I am angry she didn't sit me down and tell me, "Hey, you need to change or I am walking out" Rather, she just up and walked out. Its been 5 days and I have been doing the NC and listening to Lee tell it like it is. I feel stronger already. We both took each other for granted. Don't do it if you still have that person in your life.
I feel this. Update?
How's it been the last 3 years?
With each day that passes you really start to not care abt them anymore!👌
Trust the NC, you’ll feel better very quick!💪
Thanks for giving me the right mind set to keep the no contact going. You made me realize that if he doesn’t come back he never loved me so I have to wait for him to come back. He had already been taking me for granted and contacting him again would only reinforce that.
I honestly no longer have a need for my ex anymore, i only watch your videos because they really help me out and put everything into perspective. And the need for her has only dissipated more due to realizing that she went back to her ex before me.
Pretty sure I’ve watched all your videos through my breakup and this one is definitely my new favorite. Thank you for continuing to remind people of their inner strength and helping us through some of our darkest days.. Your a blessing Coach Lee 🙏🏼🇺🇸
Coach you blew it up with this video so much passion! You should know your giving me and many others the strength to stick to the no contact rule in an effort to get our X back....Thank you Coach!!
Absolutely love this guy! when I think about calling my Ex I just click on one video, dont matter which one and it just motivates me
I know someone who can help you💞💞
Messag him on WhatzApp 💞❤
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"If you stay away they have to recreate you in order to experience some of your company." -Coach Lee
This is how the dynamic changes. I appreciate how you thought it through.
Coach Lee's videos are on point. My 22 year relationship is over, I just wished I was armed with this information at the beginning.
I made mistakes like bargaining telling her I love Her etc it doesn't work.
Going into NC for my own sanity.
How you getting on now? Xx
Update?
I don't know if you would be able to read this coach lee but I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all these super helpful advices that helped me get back from my feet after my ex broke up with me the last few months and I cannot be thankful enough that I stumbled upon you to know all these things. You are literally the best thing that could ever exist for all the people going through a rough patch after a breakup coach lee!! Thank you so much for all of these!! Much love from a heartbroken fella from the Philippines!
Its amazing how we're all from different parts of the world but feel so connected by heartbreaks,thenks coach Lee
I feel like coach lee is that one friend I can talk to and is always there for me thx coach lee😊
Coach Lee, You're my best and favourite coach. Your videos really helped me a lot and played a vital role in my breakup and tough periods. Now my ex reached me out while pleading her faults. Even though we haven't yet met face to face.
Coach Lee, you are on another level when it ones to relationships. I've searched all over TH-cam for similar videos and so called relationship or dating coaches. They simply do not compare with their advice and knowledge that you have. And I still come back to your videos for guidance. You are a constant voice of reason for many of us. Keep up the great work and I look forward to your next video.
It's been a week and i'm not even sure if i want him back or not, he used to tell me that I'm love of his life. Now it sounds like i'm being fooled 🤷 idk if he will ever come back or not, if not then he had gone for good, if somebody love you they will never leave you guys!
There are Some days i really feel like giving up on my ex . Its been 2 moths now and she has stopped contacting me from 2 weeks. And deep inside i know there is still some hope left. But as i look back i see those positive and happy memories we shared together since last 5+ years and all that boosts my hopes and makes me aware of not giving up on her.
Whenever i feel low this channel is the one i reach out. 😇😇. You are doing a great work.
Update bro?
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By far the best video on the net for the dumpee regarding a break up... when you are going stir crazy come back and watch this over and over !
Shocked he Coach Lee doesn’t have more subscribers. I could listen to these videos along with taking my daily vitamins.
Been watching your videos Coach since last year after she left me. Been doing 100 push ups a day since April 3 2020 til now. Thank you Coach Lee, You have answered all my questions. More power to You.
Thanks Coach Lee! I'm on day 33 of no contact and feeling discouraged lately, this video is just what I needed to hear!
Chelsea Lucas.....day 42 here, she dropped a how are you? message yesterday, I just said fine. I was amazed but as coach says around day 45. Enjoy the silence!
@@Nj-yu5md how'd it goo
Day 38
Yay another video you’re the best coach lee! 11 days into nc and she keeps talking to me and that she likes how we are no label nice and slow.she keeps complimenting me and saying how much she misses me. I never reach out and make her initiate I’m excited for us working back to be a couple !
Nice Corey! I had to go into NC knowing she would call and text non stop but sometimes putting your foot down when you aren’t seeing changes is for the best! I know it’s not practical to ignore your ex but no contact really works if it’s applied with the “giving us space to work on ourselves” talk before ignoring them for the specific time!
Update : I was scrolling through ig and accidentally called her and she made a joke about it like are you stalking my ig😂 but we went on and it seems like she’s being a little hot and cold. Should I be worried ?reach out to her? Or just chill give it time and continue no contact ?
@@coreybullard4441 did she come back?
coach Lee, you are a rare GEM. you are simply heaven-sent. You may never in a thousand years know what your videos do to bring balance to many broken souls out here and especially some of us that are silent followers. may eternity judge you ever graciously.
Been broke up with my ex for 9 months and i still watch these just great info for the future
Coach Lee i don't know the adjectives to qualify you rather than to say you are a genius far better than any other relationship coaches i have ever watched on TH-cam,thank you so much for your hard work
Thanks so much Bello! Take care of yourself man!
I agree🙌
I am so so so happy I ran across coach Lee! I was in a relationship for 2.5 years, my bf said we needed to take a break. Of course I was blindsided by this but I just said ok and left. BTW, we lived separately I would stay with him on weekends because of work. Anyway, I immediately listen to you speak of No Contact Rule and put it in motion. By the end of the first week he was texting asking about my family. I replied nicely but that's it back to no contact until he let's me know he wants back in the relationship. Thank u Coach Lee.
Since I stared to listen to these videos it really helped me understand 😌 my break up, separation with my ex. Even though he's moved on with a new relationship I'm still going through it yet my mind now has really changed me and the effort I was doing to get him back I've put it towards myself love. ❤ Thank you Coach Lee
Any updates? Xx
I am in on and off relationship and seriously this man has helped me so much..I don't even bother anymore I just go straight to no contact and follow all the advices he gives, instead of overthinking and worrying. Thank you for saving my nerves!
Hi I know of a good and a very powerful woman who can help you to manifest back your ex within 2 days . I got my ex back through her love manifestations and it works effectively
Coach Lee, I can't even begin to describe how watching your videos when I'm crying before I sleep help give me that piece of understanding or comfort, that's just enough to help me get through another day of pain. Thank you so so much.
@@wangtim3651 Thank you Wang Tim
Damn this dude looks so fly, best hair ever! I gotta up my game a few levels just in case my ex sees him in this video x-D
Thank GOD, you are saved from corona virus..we wanna hear alot more from you.please bring some other topics as well in your videos other than breaks up or no- contact..you have great convincing power coach lee
I've watched tons of breakup coaches and got decent advice but coach Lee actually is more on the nail. i don't know if it's just me but he seems more specific and has touched way more that is like my current situation than anyone else. I feel like with his information I can navigate it all more appropriately.
Dated for 1.5 years. 103 days in NC. I was about to break it this week but THIS video stopped me. I trust statistics, i trust coach Lee and these secrets made me smile like a villain and rejuvenated my hope. Well put friend
Update?????
Coach Lee, I have been binge watching all your videos for months, honestly you are the best coach on TH-cam. Listening to your videos has a genuine calming effect and enables me to see things from a better perspective. Thanks for your efforts and the time to put out these knowledge and info out there. Wish you a long and happy life 😊
Hey Coach! 9 days of NC and she broke down! Now we are seeing each other with different feelings then when we saw eachother before I gave NC a chance! Our dynamic is different knowing I can walk away! Coach we talked about our future with our child in mind. We even kissed last night! Huge thanks to you I will keep following you for a long time because the fight isn’t over! - Cheers Randy
good for you man!
my boi. happy for the progress
Awesome! My ex broke it off after getting a home and two dogs then just lost feelings? So Im trying to be positive and work on me
Thanks for every video, they are all really helpful. I've been in NC for a month (and I don't have a problem with that) ever since the breakup. I haven't cried in three days(I used to cry every single day)and I feel much stronger. You wouldn't believe how far your words of wisom have travelled. Sending you a big hug from Serbia 😊🤗
How you doing now? Xx
hey coach lee, i appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. you give me strength and reassurance when i need it most. keep going for all of us ❤️
Your videos are so helpful. Just listening to your voice helps. My husband of 21 years walked out at the beginning of the month. He's out of state for work right now and won't be back until the end of the month. I haven't contacted him and it's been so hard. I know I'm going to have to see him when he gets back to sort through the business of this separation and I just hope I can keep it together.
Once again great information. I have no doubt I would have gotten my ex had I access to this knowledge. I literally did everything wrong and made an utter fool of myself. Live and learn. Coach Lee is the man, love his honest and logical approach.
Coach Lee you’re such a remarkable man. Listening to you and how much care you put into your craft takes your effort to a whole other (level) aspect of respect!⭐️💯
You’re the man Coach Lee! You’re helping me in the most darkest time of my life.
Your loyalty is being used as a license 😩
People need to stop with all the negative comments. I think a majority of the time when people do get their ex back they do not come back to these videos and post to comment on their new found success. I’ve had it work many times for myself. The last one was at 42 days of NC. Good luck.
I go to sleep with you in my ear. You're the only comfort when I'm about to give up.
These videos motivate me to stay positive on my situation thank you
Same here
@@sarangnagbhidkar4956 me too. Gives me strength when im about to break nc.
Another great video from Coach Lee, although my no contact is way past 4months I am choosing to stay in no contact as Coach Lee suggests. Awesome to see you.
Thank you Coach Lee. Your vids are always helpful. I miss her and her kids like crazy. But I'm working on me. It's been 3 months. I still hurt like it was yesterday.
4 months for me and my kids miss him...
@@solidsix6766 hang in there. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Worst thing to do is message your ex that broke up w you because honestly they just won’t care so you gotta stay strong and make them miss you by moving on. I know it’s hard because I have been in this position and I made the mistake of messaging and I wish I hadn’t because it made me realise how much she didn’t care after but a long three months after I can finally say I’m happy and I don’t want her back anymore.
Tommie OH yessss!!!! Same. Keep it moving
This is really coming from a straight up comforting point of view. Words are very comforting, and also humourous. You are very clear and precise and I know this is because you know what you are talking about and you are fair and say "in most cases" These videos are so helpful and I just wish everyone love and success because these videos are a tool for this.
James
Stay in no contact and let it run it's course . Don't set a date . You won't want them back !
The more I watch these videos the more repulsed I am that I have to literally vanish for someone to value me.
Coach lee it worked he’s back 😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙😙🥰🥰
Congrats!
Congratulations 🎊 🍾
Congrats
What did you do? What happened?
I’m so happy for you 😄
In no contact since April 12..... Lee you give me hope.
No contact works! Good luck
@Zack Zack Around the same week, Same here. It’s been tough man.
1@@r.m.weisensee9287 Hopefully. My ex is stubborn as a rock... but lets see... Thanks
@@DreamMachineX Stay strong and good luck! I hope it will work for both of us!
Pretty much same april 11th here Lol but keep it up let them feel the loss if they come back great if not we will be fine :)
Great stuff ! You are helping me right now. Me and my wife are somewhat separated right now. In the beginning I was doing all the things you said not to do and now I see it would have been catastrophic to my marriage. I have watched all or almost all of your videos. My wife is doing some things that I do not understand and putting me in a unique situation not covered in the videos I have watched. But I am applying your advice the best I can with the cards I am being dealt. You are a blessing to me. So far you have saved me from myself.
I hope things worked out for you!
I could tell he had something running in the background. Sketchy communication. Over and out.
Guys put yourself first.. love and respect yourself.... and work on yourself. You are the star in your life.
Update! Every time I post a story on Facebook, he sees it. But, I didn’t made a deal or anything out of it because, like coach lee has always said, that doesn’t mean anything. He actually has to reach out first. And today, he commented on my story. It was pretty casual, nothing about our relationship or not even asking how I was doing. Just something about my Facebook story. I did reply to him. But it was even more casual and of course I didn’t ask anything about him. He said something back (although not really necessary) and I just replied with a thanks. And that was all. Even if he doesn’t reach out to me anymore and nothing comes out of it, I see this as a little victory. My ego is a little bit bump up. Lol!
Paola Carnelli,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,you only need a good man in your life!
This is all true. Listen to Coach Lee. It hurts but you will get through it.❤
At any rate, this is the best coaching video ever made. Wow! The rubric of the dating game must implement this acumen at all costs. I love it, man!
I just started watching him today he's really helping me with my break up
I hit “like” before the intro music ended..
Coach Lee, You have allowed Me in gaining a better perspective in understanding My mission in recovering My broken relationship!.... May God Bless You!
Coach Lee!!! He said that he thought he missed me but when he got here and saw me and held me in his arms he KNEW he missed me. It was incredible. Incredible. I didn't need to even ask for a meeting. He did. First a call on Sunday and then he asked Tuesday. Okay so we're dating for now.. we had an unnaturally fast short term relationship the first time before we said couple. . Too close too soon. And I'm the one who said so today. I also made it clear I wasn't taxing him for the break...I said i heard all men need some space once in a while.
I'm happy for you Nofyah! Truly. I know the joy you feel. And I know the sorrow so many others feel. To those of you who want what Nofyah has had happen, take it one day at a time.
@@RealCoachLee I know it's still one day at a time. And I now know what to do if he ever asks for a break again..NC immediately. Your videos helped so much. I treated most of the lockdown like smart NC ...and what made him ask for a meeting I think was the last week I only mirrored him on good morning and good night. He then got 'worried' by his own admission..
@@RealCoachLee one of my best friends was dating a guy who didn't trust women... And she had to do the NC for breaks around ten times!!!! Before she gained his trust. They're now married two years and have been together for five and he's incredibly happy with her. She said he started coming back sooner and sooner .. taking only a day break the last few times. She said she gave her best when they were together and completely ignored him when he did his break lines. Whenever he started grumbling...I don't have time for you etc... she'd say "okay, bye". She said it took an incredible amount of self control and confidence.
@@NofyahShemTov after how long did he come back?
@@Wifeyytalks sorry I didn't see this. a month. But it's been very hard because of lockdowns, and now we have another.
Thank you so much coach Lee. Just listening to you everyday keeps me encouraged. 🙏🏻 God bless you! Now on my 1 month NC.