I’m so terrified to even stop exercising. I’ve been restricting for about 5 months and went down over 40 pounds. I’m really trying my best but it’s so hard when I’ve been fat my whole life and now I’m not.
I completely agree to this, and I am sending you so much love and good energy in figuring out how to exercise in a way that makes you feel good, and not out of fear. I have a ton of resources like this amazing video on my channel should you ever need support on your body loving journey
Unless you have some kind of metabolic issues, that's almost impossible :) But if you have extreme hunger your body needs more food, and that means you should eat as much as your body tells you to, even if that means gaining some weight back. Then when you feel better again and the hunger stabilises, try making your eating habits and lifestyle more sustainable :)
guys don't worry, it really is normal to crave food after restricting! The extreme hunger will get better! Wear comfortable clothes and just EAT. enjoy it and don't restrict. The normal hunger will come back!
im so glad i saw your comment :")))....one week into recovery and i cant stop craving bloody everything. from donuts and cakes to carrots, its crazy. id also feel kinda full after a meal, then suddenly feel awfully hungry literally 20 minutes after. its a hunger so bad that my throat and stomach will hurt in anticipation of food. but yeah, hope all of this will pass
Cadet Grey I'm glad I can help 💖 I'm about two months in recovery now and I don't feel the extreme hunger anymore 💗☺ But honestly really just try to enjoy it: you deserve that food and your body needs all of it! Never deny it food no matter what. You can do it 😊
I actually lost weight after about 12 months into recovery. I shot up past the weight my doctor recommended, about 10 pounds. It was hard and it sucked. After about 6 months my body stopped gaining. It stayed there. Then without really noticing, my body slowly went down now I just sit at 100 pounds (im only 5 feet tall). Which is the PREVIOUS weight I had before my ED blew up. So the next time you feel like sabotaging your recovery and then recover again, your body will always stabilize at your natural set point.
thank you that makes me so happy, doctor says im suppose to be 155 but now im 160 and i feel like im stil gaining and im getting so scared, this is my second recovery attempt, and the first attempt i had gained to 185 and im scared ill go up there again
Have you got your period back after you recovered? How long did it take you to recover? And how did you do it? Pls I'm in need of recovered ppl's help :(
I've been restricting my diet for about two months and I've already lost like 15 pounds and I look a bit skeletal. I'm just scared my metabolism is trashed now. I really wish I hadn't started this. :(
wow. This has to be a sign that I need to recover. I started this two months ago and I have lost exactly 15 pounds. I am in the same boat also.. did you gain?
My father is 'overweight', but he eats very healthy and regularly runs half marathon distances (in very respectable times - he 'beat' the owner of my local gym at the HM they both did on Sunday! Not bad for my 59 year old Dad, right?). He runs every other day, long distances and fast too! My father eats intuitively, but sticks mainly to whole foods (with the odd treat, like dessert or takeout on a special occasion). And when I say he is overweight, I don't mean just muscle... he does have a higher muscle mass than most because of all his activity, he is strong, but he has more fat than other people too! He is far from obese/very large, but he is stocky/chubby. My father is very physically and MENTALLY healthy and happy. I think my father is my biggest motivation for accepting that people have different healthy weights. My father is well, can take part in all the sports he enjoys and can achieve a high standard of result, he is a very mentally happy person and never worries about his food beyond making sure he makes healthy choices when hunger hits - and not even rigidly! He is very relaxed about it and enjoys lots of healthy whole foods.. but he does make sure to make good choices and changes where he thinks he needs to, based on how his body feels... He is not perfect, but seems to be 'in tune' with himself. His body has settled where it has, and it has lead him to a very healthy point. His whole family is mostly short and chubby lol, like chubby hobbits :D My point is, an onlooker on the street would probably see my father and his 'chubby' physique compared to what is seen in the media and assume my father does nothing and overeats and doesn't exercise much... but it is far from the truth. I'm sure my father could supress his hunger cues and calories and achieve a leaner body, but you know... I think that would have a negative effect on his mental health, and his physical too really. I take after my father, grandfather etc.. I am the female version of them. I have been diagnosed with anorexia though and I supress my natural weight, hunger cues, restrict calories... So I am quite a bit skinnier than the people I take after. If I were to recover, I think I would be chubby and stocky too.. but strong, and hopefully able to take part in the sports I enjoy too. I have to come to terms that my natural weight and chubbier/fatter than my supressed weight.... but if I can be half as active and HAPPY as my father is, and doing half marathons with him (instead of too sick and tired to join in :( I have to watch him run, when I wish I could run WITH him... I LOVE running...) then it will be worth it, right? Sorry for the rant. I am learning a lot myself through my recovery process about what are real healthy weights, and what the media tries to tell us healthy weights are (to sell us things). I think I am lucky to have my father - who hasn't been touched by this, eats naturally, enjoys his sport and is such a happy person - as inspiration for this. It's going to be a long journey though...
Try listening to the voices inside of your head, and writing down when the negative ones come up, or the urges come up. Ask yourself when they came up, what they are saying, and what actions lead up to you feeling that way. This can be a very powerful tool in understanding exactly what is going on in your head, and being able to navigate how to tackle it in the best way possible
Elisa, you are so wonderful and so helpful. I began my recovery journey after suffering from out of control eating. You explained why that was happening and how to get better. I stopped all restriction, went crazy at first, butter, pasta, bread, you name it. Gained 12 pounds back, but am so much happier, more free, more in tune with my body signals. I don't ever want to go back. Your videos started my journey, and I just wanted to thank you so much for being there for all of us.
I’m soooo nervous about weight gain. I was under eating for like two and a half months and lost 15 to 20 pounds and it felt good to see that number go down every week. I’ve slowly been adding to my diet for only like a week and I’ve already seemed to gain some weight back. Idk what it’s from or where it’s going but it’s making me want to eat less and less 😓 it’s sooo frustrating I don’t want to gain it all back
Same here too, i was restricting myself for like 3 or 4 months and i got happy because i lost weight but then i got anorexia and I want to recover but i'm scared, i stopped working out to recover but idk what else to do
Being trapped in the ED loop was the worst 2 years of my life. Now being free from that has made life wonderful again. If you do exactly what Elisa says, you will also get your life back, I promise! Don’t rush it, give it time. Good things will happen 🙂 Life is good
you might have just given me a way out of a ten year cycle- never understanding why i was overeating and/or binging has ruined my self-esteem and made me afraid that ill never be a “normal” weight or eat like a normal person, and even when i realized it was from restriction, i still thought i could “outrun” my hunger. this makes it sound like it might be possible for me to have a normal life, thank you
My binge eating isn't caused from restricting that's why not restricting doesn't work for me it'll just make me gain 20 kg and more ( tried it) for me it doesn't matter how healthy I eat I'll always end up binging. My binge eating is caused from trauma and stress so it's way harder to overcome it because it's not about my diet
HI Ron, have you tried to work with a professional on that? You are right, just stopping restricting won't help but it would be worthwhile what food means to you: such as safety, comfort, protection and then work from there?
3 Brendan My experience is similar, but restriction isn’t just about starving oneself, or over exercising. Restriction can also be about limiting many other things than just food. Deprivation of any kind counts as restriction. One of my worst restrictions is social; I deprive myself of love and connection as a form of punishment, and then stuff the feelings of misery with food. Overeating and then waiting many hours to eat again, because you feel terrible, is also a form of restriction.
I wish there is and overweight or obese person on these channels talking about intuitive eating and what they went through to start getting normal hunger cues. Yes, in both cases there are eating disorders, but obese body is different. Most of your viewers are obese people who are just fed up with diet mentality, I am pretty sure.
Im in 3 months- weight gain. Let i tell you some incredible thing. Im recovering from a strict vegan and no processed food diet. After 8 months in those kind of diet, i feel so badddd. I look like a zoombie with non- glowing skin, my eyes are dry, i think about food 24/ 7,binge eating.. my mood is so bad. I decided to go all in. It very hard at first. I don't controll my eating, i eat so much, bloated, have some acne. Scarest thing is my finger nail turn yellow and brown, my hair fall a lot and fell itchy on my skin !!!!. At first i think that because i ate a lot junk and processed food and want to restric those food again. Thank god, i did'nt do that. I listen and eat what ever i want. I still gain weight, fell uncomfortable sometime. Magically, all my bad health signs at the begin of recovery go away in 2- 3 week, my hair now full and shiny, my finger nail now turn pink again, i don't feel itchy any more. My body get used with it! It need time to accept the change. I gain weight but my hair, nail, skin, eyes, ..... better. My boobs is now dubble bigger 😂😂😂. I love it so much. Dont scare of weight gain or health problems in recovery.
"Intuitive eating is the result of you going through recovery." This is key. Other coaches in the IE community focus on moderation, which is just another form of restriction. I never understood why I couldn't moderate until I found your channel. I have to heal the restrictive mindset, and then my body will feel safe enough to start giving me true hunger and satiety cues. It's all about letting go of fear, in whatever form it might take so tht the body can relax.
So if I have an eating disorder and undereat, when I start eating normal again will my metabolism be damaged and will I gain weight back really fast and lots of it? Or is it usually less likely to gain lots of weight easily? I really don’t want to gain lots I just want to know if I’m gonna get big really quick as soon as I eat normally again
I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone, but I did gain weight pretty fast as I recovered. However, the weight gain stopped after a while and my eating habits became kinda balanced (I still restrict sometimes and binge, but rarely). Overall, I feel much better and healthier.
Have you got your period back after you recovered? How long did it take you to recover and how did you do it? Please I'm in need of recovered ppl's help
@@lameese9670 I am not recovered yet, but i can tell you my experience. When i started recovery i kind of stayed at the low bmi and everything for like 1 month or so, but then extreme hunger kicked in and i gained weight pretty fast... After 4 months i got my period back, then after restriction lost it again. You have to gain weight, start to eat normally and it will all come back. Your weight shoud be stable when your body fells comfortable and healthy. I havent reached that point yet, but i am slowly getting there. Wish you lots of love!
I am too terrified to contemplate recovery,because I have lost all feeling in my stomach. I no longer have the ability to naturally gauge how much to eat. The stretch receptors,nutrient detectors no longer function and I never feel full unless I have gastroparesis (the lesser of the teo evils). I am so frightened and suicidal. How this happened is too complicated to go into. I was never a binger,purely a non-purging anorexic. I tried to embrace recovery approx 4 years ago,during which I was advised to override my natural hunger and satiety signals. At the time,it was necessary to survive. Stubbornly,I wanted to recover on "clean foods". It was simply too much volume of food for my body... I cannot face the rest of my life like this. Currently,I'm mildly underweight. My periods have stopped. My body fat percentage seems to fluctuate like crazy. This is because,I was going out for walks but my body cannot tell me it is hungry,so I was eating too few calories. A sure fire way to acquire belly fat. I am now petrified to stop exercising,but know I have to. I cannot see my way through this at all. It is the very reason people end up with gastric bands. Apologies for the War And Peace length post. Just had to vent,and that is actually a vague synopsis.
You are so beautiful and all of this is so helpful. I thank God. I'm so glad I found your cannel. I'm trying recovery after more than 2 years of starvation and a few months of over excersise. Now I'm trying intuitive eating, but sometimes these questions come to my head, and the fear of gaining weight is trying to stay alive. I gained weight and there's a fight but my body has improved, I'm not tired all the time, I don't have insomnia anymore, and other things in my body are getting better. But all of the questions that I have seems to find an answer in your videos. Than you very much.
your videos have helped me so much throughout my recovery from anorexia. thank you so much for all the information in the videos and help you have given, it means so much and I’m so thankful i able to get stronger and healthier again. it was hard, but i got through it and am definitely a happier person now than I was a year ago. :)
i came to this video because i am currently in a program for girls with anorexia. i’ve lost 30 lbs in 2 months and i’m 15. i’m still scared about food but i’m also scared that the people at the program are going to make me gain all the weight back. idk life is hard EDIT: *wow. never knew how disordered i was until recently. Im beyond blessed I am recovered.*
I hope you are doing better now I’m 14 and have lost like 60lb in like 4-5 months because I was restricting I was overweight then and now I am trying to recover and my number 1 fear is being overweight again because I felt terrible so I am trying reverse dieting so I am adding 50 calories a week and this is literally day 3 and I am still loseing weight but I am hoping that I can just keep my weight I wouldn’t mind losing like 10 more pounds while still under eating but I don’t want to gain weight 😰
@@randomghost3472 I am now at a safe place to be able to tell you how hard I know it is. I was JUST like you. It is so so so scary, i know. You have to trust the process and even though that little voice in your head keeps telling you NO, you have to FIGHT it. Why would you listen to something that is trying to hurt you right? I promise there is hope on the other side. I see it now! I know weight gain is scary, but you have to TRUST the process and listen to what your body is trying to tell you and not a voice in your head...
i’m eating too little in a day and i’m starting to be low in energy and so tiered i want to eat normally but i’m so scared to gain all the weight back i lost my period and I’ve already lost 44 lbs my weight is 119 lbs and my height 165cm and i’m 15 i’m superrrr scared I don’t wanna gain all the weight back and return to the nightmare but i want to eat normal i’m just eating 400,300 calories in a day
@@ghalarazan6666 you have to be able to understand that voice is NOT YOU. It is trying to tell you that you need to lose weight and that you shouldn’t eat so you would be a better person. THAT IS A LIE. It is not normal to skip meals. you know what is normal? EATING. I know you think it’s hard but please seek help and understand that your body NEEDS the food i’m order to survive🥺
I was anorexic for about 3 months. I got down to a bmi of about 16. Im 1.5 weeks into recovery and i eat 4000-10000 calories a day because im always so hungry. My bmi is now 18.4. My bmi before anorexia was probably around 19-20. Will I get normal hunger cues and return to my normal bmi if i keep eating like this?
TupolevPilot that’s too much I know u need recover but that’s too much u body to handle eat about 1700 calories I guess and it needs to be healthy so u won’t gain fat but muscle and weight lifting more will help ur body u can obviously have a treat but mostly healthy salmon chicken tuna brown rice lots of vegetables and fruits water get your protein
Sabrin Roble LOL. You could NOT be more far from the truth, and that isn’t quality advice for someone coming from a restrictive eating disorder. You can’t tell someone who is recovering from anorexia that he or she is “eating too much” and only needs 1700 cals with muscle training? No, this person needs REST and FOOD. And lots of it.
Yes, your normal hunger cues will return. Don’t worry about your BMI, it isn’t important as long as you are healthy and happy. Keep eating and resting as much as you need. You should be eating a MINIMUM of around 3000 calories in recovery anyway, and that isn’t even including extreme hunger. Trust me, I went through the same exact thing. My weight stabilized, my hunger stabilized, my food obsessions went away. Hang in there and you will get through this❤️.
lisa y sorry but recovering is also your mind and how u body feel not stuffing your body with unhealthy food all the time just ad some calories but eat of course more so your body adjust I don’t understand people who say people who need recovery have to eat crazy amount of unhealthy food that not good for the body especially the insulin she can ad 200 calories every week but healthy I mean good protein healthy fat and nutritious carbs so u feel really good and also have a little treat some time that’s how I recovered it took me 8 months but mentally 1 year I was 39 kg 163 cm and 16 years now i am 47-48 kg turnes recently 17 and i feel so Happy and have good relationship with food more energier
Sabrin Roble I can barely understand what you’re writing. And exactly - recovery is also about your mind. I know this because I am also recovered from anorexia. That is WHY you need to eat whatever you want, whenever you want to recover and that is why nothing should be off limits. You have restricted your body and many times it leads to long term damage (shrunken hearts, starved brains, death). Eating is the most important thing to do so your body begins to trust you again and your metabolism can recover. Maybe that is how you recovered, but you cannot go around telling people how to eat and make them feel bad for extreme hunger which is out of their control. As someone who had an eating disorder you should know this. In recovery nothing should be off limits. Setting up rules for “healthy foods” and protein and “nutritious carbs” sets you up right for failure or even the development of orthorexia (as I had developed trying to eat “clean” in the beginning of my recovery). Sources: edinstitute.org/blog/2011/9/14/i-need-how-many-calories edinstitute.org/blog/2013/3/31/homeodynamic-recovery-method-guidelines-overview edinstitute.org/paper/2012/5/22/extreme-hunger-1-what-is-it/
Well, from my own experience eating disorders doesn't develope only from dieting, there is other aspects to it BUT without a doubt the first step should be to STOP dieting otherwise the body and soul simply cannot function enough to continue the journey to full recovery. Thank you for the excellent & informative video!
I can't stop myself calorie counting and exercising... But I don't have problem with overeating. I feel like I tend to always undereat. When I don't count calories, I worry that I'm eating less or eating too much. Idk what to do. I also lost my sense of hunger. I'm already on my desired weight range but I'm still worried. I want to have a healthy relationship with food. :(
That's exactly my Problem right now i stopped counting calories with myfitnesspal but i still kind of count them in my head. And i try to eat intuitivly now but i always worry if i'm eating too much and when cause of restricting for so long my hunger cues are all over the place. Like i could eat a pretty big meal but 30 min later and i'm hungry again :/ Did you fix it and if yes did you gain weight?
Hi I hope you read this. I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for your insight (as someone with disordered eating because of bipolar 1 disorder) and knowledge that you put into your videos. I've been restricting for about 17 years now and I've only recognized for about 2 weeks now that I have a huge problem. And your videos on recovery have been extremely helpful to me. I've reached out to our ED clinic and have an assessment coming up Sept 9th. I'm hopeful that everything goes well and she confirms my theory. As I have enough disorders to deal with 😉 but once again I want to thank you. God bless
I'm struggling to eat and recover because every time I try I get ill physically. I don't know how to get over this to recover. I'm so worried I'm going to get refeeding syndrome. I don't want to end up in hospital again to do this. When I do try to eat I just can't cope with the physical and mental problems from eating
recovery is so hard, I am already 27 days in recovery from a 8 month low restriction and binging, sometimes purging cycle, and I’ve already went up a size, seeing major differences even when eating about 900-1,300 calories a day, and working out either doing 50 min of a walking ab workout or 10 min hiit with 10 flat stomach yoga at the end of the day and some stretches, with doing tons of laps up and down stairs with a 3 story school. When I was dealing with these eating struggles, I was a normal weight and body fat percentage. And when I started I was almost overweight with probably more fat on me. It’s hard to start recovery now because I started at a normal weight, so now I’m scared I’m going to get overweight-obese, cause I see it happening, I don’t know if it’s gonna stop or not. I have been eating only healthy foods, one processed snack and everything else is natural and healthy, with good balance of carbs, protein and fat. The only good thing I’m seeing is I’m getting nice biceps and my leg muscles feel good, but my belly fat, not at all. My stomach looks very obese, like unhealthy fatty stomach even though I workout my abs and stretch and heat healthy and drink slim tea 2 times a day, i still see myself becoming overweight, if I do become overweight, is it possible for me to lose it if my metabolism catches up? This is coming from a 12 year old 4,11 girl. It is to much to handle at this age, i just want control over my body :/
Hey! So I’ve been big all my life and within the last 8 months I’ve lost over half of my body weight by starving myself and over exercising. I went from 285lbs 8 months ago to the 133lbs I currently weight now. I’m an 18 year old male who is 6 foot 1. So basically I need to eat a lot and whatever I want, stop the exercising in order to get some weight back and solidify my system back to a healthy weight? Please help girl!
I gained 75 pounds after stopping bulimia. I am 224 pounds. I was bulimic for 11 years. So anyone saying you won’t get fat after stopping, this is not the case for everyone. I hate the weight and I am trying to love myself but I don’t know how. I have been trying to loose weight since I was 8 years old and bulimia and drugs were the only thing that kept the weight off
@@Trololo2234 reallyyy I hope we’ll End up this yourney I miss my normal hunger cues I think the hunger can last over a year also,but I dont know,I can’t guarantee that
Has anyone dealt with or heard of sudden food intolerances after restricting for a period of time? I used to eat gluten my whole life up until my ed and now anytime I try to eat it, I get nearly every symptom of celiac or gluten intolerance (therefore I've been on a GF diet). My thinking was from probably cutting a decent amount of it out of my diet (cakes, desserts,breads,etc.) then when I finally got into recovery I can't process it anymore. I'd like to know if others can relate and if there's a possibility of fixing this! Thanks
The process of physical recovery was a bit different for me. As a teenager who developed an eating disorder when she was about fourteen years old (I‘m now seventeen), my body kinda regulated itself pretty fast. I‘ve been going through this physical recovery for the second time (first try 2017-2018) and by the first one I got to the highest weight I‘ve ever been, but still in the normal weight range and healthy bmi. So I then relapsed, lost a bunch of weight again and now I‘m at a very stable weight actually after recovering for the second time. But this time, my body, even though I still have episodes of extreme hunger, gets rid of every excess calories by simply heating up and producing more poop (I’m sorry tmi). I hope I do not trigger someone by mentioning numbers, but I‘m at a (I think) set-point range of 59-61kg at a height of 170cm and just cannot put on some more weight. (In addition to that, I‘m a very active person, who dances daily and sometimes goes to the gym and is up on her feet like 24/7.) When I first started recovery back in 2017 I‘ve gained like 16kg and ended up being at 66kg. I just wanted to share my personal experience with weight gain, to show you, that everyone‘s recovery and results are completely different from each other so you don‘t have to fear a higher weight after you fully recovered. For me, personally, it was just I would say weird, because I‘m kinda suspicious if my body‘s really healed (I‘ve had my period regularly, have normal hunger and satiety cues and more energy and joy in my life than ever before), because on the internet there‘re so much people trying to help other’s by sharing their process in which they gained a few pounds over their normal and healthy set point, while I stick to mine now healthy weight and that without even trying (I’m not forcing myself to do sports!!!) For those of you who are interested in what I eat on a daily basis : I enjoy a bunch of fruits and vegetables, I eat meat, dairy products and I‘ve recently experienced and still am experiencing an ice cream and chocolate phase. But you know it‘s winter and christmas time, you gotta enjoy your self and get ya self unlimited chocolate :D I hope I helped some of you by sharing my story. I still have a lot to do for my mental recovery, but I won‘t give up this time! 👍🏻 Oh yeah and I also eat potatoes, rice, bread and pasta when my mom‘s incorporating this for dinner! And sometimes like yesterday and today, I crave salad! I don‘t have to eat big portions to feel satisfied and can finally trust my body again. We just have to follow the flow and everything will fix itself. You simply have to trust the process, your body won’t harm you bc it‘s loving you unconditionally!
hi love, very proud of you for recovering.🥺 i have a few questions for you because i am 14 and recovering so you might be able to help? once you reached your weight restored weight, did you experience the weight going down after a while? because most people are telling me that i need to eat A LOT because i’m still growing, but did the weight even out/drop as you got older? i’m currently 5’1. i hope you can give me some reassurance as i am very scared that i’m just going to keep putting on weight until i’m ‘fully grown’🥺 thank you 💘💓💗💗
I’m about 9 months into recovery. My hunger cues are beginning to normalize and I don’t feel as hungry anymore. However, I still crave sweets and junk food a lot, and it’s showing no signs of stopping any time soon. Will this ever subside? I don’t want to gain any more weight than I have to because I’m always wanting junk.
Is it okay that I keep wanting oatmeal yogurts and cheese....I can't sleep unless I eat this everyday....I am an 18 year old male and am eating 4000 calories...and I can't help it
Hey Thomas - this is normal if you have been restricting yourself. The body wants to be fed properly. And since you are young your body needs it if you are still growing or very active. I have always nuts and dates on hand... for the case I need more fuel. Hope you do better these days.
I have just started ed recovery and I am now being made to eat 1500 calls a day and I am terrified because I am only boarder line under weight and I am terrified I am going to get fat but I have lost all control because my parents are now feeding me and planning all 3 of my meals and snacks. Does anyone have any advice with how I can deal with all of this mentally and the guilt because at times it just feels to much and I feel so out of control and feel helpless because I feel like I am being force fed although I am not and 1500 calories feels like so much although it probably isnt
What if you're experiencing extreme hunger when you're at a healthy weight already? I gained the weight back after 10 years of anorexia but never allowed myself to eat till I was satisfied, always exercised etc. Won't I just get over weight if I give in to the extreme hunger now?
This is anorexia. It’s not just because of our culture, it is sometimes. But it is very common. Just eat. Eat healthy. Fruit is a very good option if you still are afraid of gaining weight. Eat some fruits and veggies. It’s not very fatty. And watermelon is mostly water. It needs to be more well known. It has a name. It’s a severe eating disorder. Get the word out. Get help. You are beautiful. No matter your weight.
I live for climbing and bouldering. Now i have a problem. I need to be shreaded and have power alot of muscle and strength to climb well. Now i have crazy mental hunger. I lost alot of muscle and gained weight but still have crazy hunger. I was 54 kilo 180cm and had like 0,2 body fat. I was doing 1arm pullups with extra weight. Now i am 62kilo i lost alot of muscles and gained alot of fat. So i went from a ultra lean maschine to skinny fat. But now i am very despressed becsuse i am so weak at climbing i cant even do 1 pullup. How can i get out of this headfuck? I am crying becsuse i am so weak at climbing but i know i need to get fatter and weaker to cure my mental hunger. Also i dont understand i am eating so much but i am getting weaker at the gym and weaker even not climbing so not weight dependend i am really weak. Should i just eat and get more fat and unhealthy until my hunger stops?
One of my older brothers went on a calorie-restrictive diet for initial weight loss. He went from being obese to now being lean, and very toned and muscular. Granted, he doesn't restrict calories anymore... actually, he eats worth two, sometimes three people. But he has managed to maintain a lean and muscular frame ever since, since he continues to work out a lot. I guess he was one of the lucky 1% whose diet succeeded long-term? :/ Also, couldn't the overweight epidemic also have to do with the types of foods people eat? A lot of processed 'convenience' foods, vegetable and hydrogenated oils, animal products from diseased factory-raised animals, processed carbs, and a LOT of sodas? Ingredients that the average person doesn't recognise or can't pronounce? Added sugars and chemicals designed specifically to promote increased hunger and cravings so you buy more of the company's food products? This is why I have a hard time letting go of my own restrictive eating, because it seems like a lot of these foods that average Americans eat really *are* just that bad for you... :(
That's why you go plant based and eat all the yummy foods that you want AND feel great doing it Quantity. That's how you will be able to succeed in recovery and not feel so bad about eating so much which is really foreign to us who restricted our whole lives, at least for me.
Even though i'm eating a lot more sugary stuff than previously (because that was the one group I restricted completely), having everything homemade is definitely better than store buying..
they are bad for you. But what she is saying is that people who have BINGE EATING disorder or compulsive overeating lost touch with their hunger signals. They have a warped perception of food. they eat by numbers, not satiety. When they can return to a normal sense of feeling full/hungry, and stop the "i cant have that" mentality which triggers urges to binge, once they are free from that, they are free from the addiction to food. the addiction to food is what makes dieting impossible. if they are addicted to food, diets dont work. Cure the addiction first- then focus on weight loss after.
I don’t feel like she’s really answering the question. YES, there is a chance that you will be some fat in recovery. But exercising is not the answer. Because then exercise is a form of restriction, a tool to burn calories and this doesn’t work. Because you CANNOT RECOVER if you are exercising. Your body needs to repair. It needs to anabolize instead of catabolize. I would highly suggest you go into recovery only when you are willing to gain weight and let your body do what it needs to do. If you can’t you will likely make it worse. If you truly surrender and recover, eventually the weight will come off on its own but it will take time. Years sometimes.
Please help me I used to be overweight but now I am at an average weight but I did it by starving but now I want to start eating again but at the same time I don't want to gain that weight back because back then I was fat and my dad told me you were fat but now your weight is healthy and I don't want to gain back the weight but I am pretty sure I messed up my metabolism and the problem is that I come from a place where the food is unhealthy for ex: I just ate because my parents are here and I immediately gained 1kg I DON'T WANT TO GAIB WEIGHT YALL I AM CRYING
@Sunkyu [Kelly] Lee I understand how you feel and I wish that we can get out of this trap and hopefully we will recover ❤ and I am also really scared but idk why I am kind of happy that I am not alone and that someone feels what I feel it's not easy telling people but I hope we can get through this
hi, i am here just for ask if u eat now normally and if u gained back this weight (hope no and hope that u are ok w ur body, ur eating habits..) i ask bc i do the same ahah, hope u'll answer :)
@@alcksee oh wow thanks for reminding me that I commented that hower yes I'm doing way better now and I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through it now and speaking of the weight gain yeah I did gain a bit of weight but honey those numbers don't define you I shoulda heard that when I was in your situation believe me no one would care if you gained weight it is not worth making yourself go through hell believe me when I was recovering I got so many things back and the most important one was my happiness and I will tell you how I did it because you shouldn't go through this whatsoever .start slowly dont force yourself all at once it's not healthy .dont even look at the mirror or weigh yourself believe me it feels like a big relief to stop .when in the healing process you may want to wear baggy clothes so you dont really see what's happening it helps so freaking much .and this happened to but at first you dont know how to eat and when but thing is to listen to yourself whenever you feel hungry just eat honey you need it And again I am so sorry that this is happening to you and I really wish you the best and if you need more questions comment here and I'll gladly help you ❤
wow thanks for your answer ! you are so nice, thanks you too much for your council 🥺 they help a lot honestly, I will try maybe to eat a lil more and being more positive and healthy :) (easy to say ahah, I'll start slowly ofc) did you gained a lot if I can ask ? I hope that you are happy with your body, and with yourself in general, you deserve it 🥺❣
when you went on the binges or experienced cravings and you gave into them... did you still follow your meal plans and meals you were set to eat? so even if you ate lunch then binged and responded to craving did you still eat a snack and dinner
pink custard I got fat too over the years,but it was just trying to eat balanced after heavily restricting.It doesn't take much to gain weight when your metabolism is slowed from restricting and then eating normal.
For how long did you stop restricting? I went from being severe underweight to being overweight after I stopped restricting and after 3 years(!) my weight started to drop again. Now I'm sometimes underweight again, sometimes I'm a normal weight but I didn't start restricting again, my body just normalized itself after, as I said, ~3 years.
Laura Nagel are you now back to you r pre-ED weight? or slowly getting back to set point? Did you add exercise back in or did yur hunger cues just sorta stabilise and u just naturally began to drop weight? :D so excited for you!
But when you have bulimia do you have to eat like with the Minnie Mais method ? I purge every time I eat (I also fast and restrict and do some sport )even if I don’t binge when I let myself eat for a day I eat a lot so I binge and I know is completely normal but is too much I can eat I don’t know 4K or 5k cal in one day maybe less idk I don’t count on those day. So I really need to know I’m at a healthy weight like really healthy so idk. I tried to recover 3 times on my own and i ate without limit and every time I just binge. So I need to know if I really have to eat at least 3000 cal per day in bulimia recovery.
Girl I’m in the same situation as you, now I really want to recover by myself but I’m really afraid of gaining weight, I got into this cycle 1 year ago when I started dieting because I was fat, now I’m in a really healthy weight but I got here by restricting, this is so shitty!
Elisa I really like your videos and your pleasant nature. My question is (and i really hope you dont have already answered it in one of your videos): What do you think about refeeding syndrom? have you made experience with it?
Oh God but the ignorance in the first message (0:39) where the anonymous user pretends to know all overweight people don't eat normally and don't exercise? And they even state they doubt the majority of overweight people don't have an eating disorder? Excuse-me, what? -_-
I’m so terrified to even stop exercising. I’ve been restricting for about 5 months and went down over 40 pounds. I’m really trying my best but it’s so hard when I’ve been fat my whole life and now I’m not.
I completely agree to this, and I am sending you so much love and good energy in figuring out how to exercise in a way that makes you feel good, and not out of fear. I have a ton of resources like this amazing video on my channel should you ever need support on your body loving journey
Same
Watch this woman's videos. She doesn't work out and eats what she wants and she isn't fat.
So why would you become fat?
Hello,how are you now?
Unless you have some kind of metabolic issues, that's almost impossible :)
But if you have extreme hunger your body needs more food, and that means you should eat as much as your body tells you to, even if that means gaining some weight back. Then when you feel better again and the hunger stabilises, try making your eating habits and lifestyle more sustainable :)
guys don't worry, it really is normal to crave food after restricting! The extreme hunger will get better! Wear comfortable clothes and just EAT. enjoy it and don't restrict. The normal hunger will come back!
im so glad i saw your comment :")))....one week into recovery and i cant stop craving bloody everything. from donuts and cakes to carrots, its crazy. id also feel kinda full after a meal, then suddenly feel awfully hungry literally 20 minutes after. its a hunger so bad that my throat and stomach will hurt in anticipation of food. but yeah, hope all of this will pass
Cadet Grey I'm glad I can help 💖 I'm about two months in recovery now and I don't feel the extreme hunger anymore 💗☺ But honestly really just try to enjoy it: you deserve that food and your body needs all of it! Never deny it food no matter what. You can do it 😊
rolyp0ly ahhhh ty you’re so wholesome and precious 😭
Cadet Grey 💗💗💗💗💗😚
Thanks for the information, really needed this 💕 Nice profile too 😊😆
I actually lost weight after about 12 months into recovery. I shot up past the weight my doctor recommended, about 10 pounds. It was hard and it sucked. After about 6 months my body stopped gaining. It stayed there. Then without really noticing, my body slowly went down now I just sit at 100 pounds (im only 5 feet tall). Which is the PREVIOUS weight I had before my ED blew up. So the next time you feel like sabotaging your recovery and then recover again, your body will always stabilize at your natural set point.
What are the steps to recovery?I'm stuck in quasi-recovery but don't know how to proceed :(
thank you that makes me so happy, doctor says im suppose to be 155 but now im 160 and i feel like im stil gaining and im getting so scared, this is my second recovery attempt, and the first attempt i had gained to 185 and im scared ill go up there again
How did you recover? I'm too scared to tell my mother but I want to recover right
I was overweight before I started restricting, so does that mean that I'd become overweight again if I recovered?
Have you got your period back after you recovered? How long did it take you to recover? And how did you do it? Pls I'm in need of recovered ppl's help :(
I've been restricting my diet for about two months and I've already lost like 15 pounds and I look a bit skeletal. I'm just scared my metabolism is trashed now. I really wish I hadn't started this. :(
Leah M how are you doing now?
Me too :(
wow. This has to be a sign that I need to recover. I started this two months ago and I have lost exactly 15 pounds. I am in the same boat also.. did you gain?
@@alexisarianne9137 did u gain ?
Omg are we all the same or wth I’ve olso lost 15 pounds in the last two months and I’m worried about my metabolism
My father is 'overweight', but he eats very healthy and regularly runs half marathon distances (in very respectable times - he 'beat' the owner of my local gym at the HM they both did on Sunday! Not bad for my 59 year old Dad, right?). He runs every other day, long distances and fast too! My father eats intuitively, but sticks mainly to whole foods (with the odd treat, like dessert or takeout on a special occasion). And when I say he is overweight, I don't mean just muscle... he does have a higher muscle mass than most because of all his activity, he is strong, but he has more fat than other people too! He is far from obese/very large, but he is stocky/chubby.
My father is very physically and MENTALLY healthy and happy.
I think my father is my biggest motivation for accepting that people have different healthy weights. My father is well, can take part in all the sports he enjoys and can achieve a high standard of result, he is a very mentally happy person and never worries about his food beyond making sure he makes healthy choices when hunger hits - and not even rigidly! He is very relaxed about it and enjoys lots of healthy whole foods.. but he does make sure to make good choices and changes where he thinks he needs to, based on how his body feels... He is not perfect, but seems to be 'in tune' with himself. His body has settled where it has, and it has lead him to a very healthy point. His whole family is mostly short and chubby lol, like chubby hobbits :D
My point is, an onlooker on the street would probably see my father and his 'chubby' physique compared to what is seen in the media and assume my father does nothing and overeats and doesn't exercise much... but it is far from the truth. I'm sure my father could supress his hunger cues and calories and achieve a leaner body, but you know... I think that would have a negative effect on his mental health, and his physical too really.
I take after my father, grandfather etc.. I am the female version of them. I have been diagnosed with anorexia though and I supress my natural weight, hunger cues, restrict calories... So I am quite a bit skinnier than the people I take after. If I were to recover, I think I would be chubby and stocky too.. but strong, and hopefully able to take part in the sports I enjoy too. I have to come to terms that my natural weight and chubbier/fatter than my supressed weight.... but if I can be half as active and HAPPY as my father is, and doing half marathons with him (instead of too sick and tired to join in :( I have to watch him run, when I wish I could run WITH him... I LOVE running...) then it will be worth it, right?
Sorry for the rant. I am learning a lot myself through my recovery process about what are real healthy weights, and what the media tries to tell us healthy weights are (to sell us things). I think I am lucky to have my father - who hasn't been touched by this, eats naturally, enjoys his sport and is such a happy person - as inspiration for this.
It's going to be a long journey though...
you go babe!
I must say it's super hard to distinguish between knowing ur extreme hunger and binging
Try listening to the voices inside of your head, and writing down when the negative ones come up, or the urges come up. Ask yourself when they came up, what they are saying, and what actions lead up to you feeling that way. This can be a very powerful tool in understanding exactly what is going on in your head, and being able to navigate how to tackle it in the best way possible
Elisa, you are so wonderful and so helpful. I began my recovery journey after suffering from out of control eating. You explained why that was happening and how to get better. I stopped all restriction, went crazy at first, butter, pasta, bread, you name it. Gained 12 pounds back, but am so much happier, more free, more in tune with my body signals. I don't ever want to go back. Your videos started my journey, and I just wanted to thank you so much for being there for all of us.
Hi! thank you so much, I'm really happy for you!!! glad to be part of your journey too! :))
I’m soooo nervous about weight gain. I was under eating for like two and a half months and lost 15 to 20 pounds and it felt good to see that number go down every week. I’ve slowly been adding to my diet for only like a week and I’ve already seemed to gain some weight back. Idk what it’s from or where it’s going but it’s making me want to eat less and less 😓 it’s sooo frustrating I don’t want to gain it all back
Same
You can drink green tea or lemon water. It boosts the metabolism
@@dundundun430 this is COMPLETELY UNTRUE!
@@rachelpowell1379 ok
Same here too, i was restricting myself for like 3 or 4 months and i got happy because i lost weight but then i got anorexia and I want to recover but i'm scared, i stopped working out to recover but idk what else to do
Being trapped in the ED loop was the worst 2 years of my life. Now being free from that has made life wonderful again. If you do exactly what Elisa says, you will also get your life back, I promise!
Don’t rush it, give it time. Good things will happen 🙂 Life is good
you might have just given me a way out of a ten year cycle- never understanding why i was overeating and/or binging has ruined my self-esteem and made me afraid that ill never be a “normal” weight or eat like a normal person, and even when i realized it was from restriction, i still thought i could “outrun” my hunger. this makes it sound like it might be possible for me to have a normal life, thank you
My binge eating isn't caused from restricting that's why not restricting doesn't work for me it'll just make me gain 20 kg and more ( tried it) for me it doesn't matter how healthy I eat I'll always end up binging. My binge eating is caused from trauma and stress so it's way harder to overcome it because it's not about my diet
HI Ron, have you tried to work with a professional on that? You are right, just stopping restricting won't help but it would be worthwhile what food means to you: such as safety, comfort, protection and then work from there?
3 Brendan My experience is similar, but restriction isn’t just about starving oneself, or over exercising. Restriction can also be about limiting many other things than just food. Deprivation of any kind counts as restriction.
One of my worst restrictions is social; I deprive myself of love and connection as a form of punishment, and then stuff the feelings of misery with food.
Overeating and then waiting many hours to eat again, because you feel terrible, is also a form of restriction.
I wish there is and overweight or obese person on these channels talking about intuitive eating and what they went through to start getting normal hunger cues. Yes, in both cases there are eating disorders, but obese body is different. Most of your viewers are obese people who are just fed up with diet mentality, I am pretty sure.
There is! Heal with kalin
Im in 3 months- weight gain. Let i tell you some incredible thing. Im recovering from a strict vegan and no processed food diet. After 8 months in those kind of diet, i feel so badddd. I look like a zoombie with non- glowing skin, my eyes are dry, i think about food 24/ 7,binge eating.. my mood is so bad. I decided to go all in. It very hard at first. I don't controll my eating, i eat so much, bloated, have some acne. Scarest thing is my finger nail turn yellow and brown, my hair fall a lot and fell itchy on my skin !!!!. At first i think that because i ate a lot junk and processed food and want to restric those food again. Thank god, i did'nt do that. I listen and eat what ever i want. I still gain weight, fell uncomfortable sometime. Magically, all my bad health signs at the begin of recovery go away in 2- 3 week, my hair now full and shiny, my finger nail now turn pink again, i don't feel itchy any more. My body get used with it! It need time to accept the change. I gain weight but my hair, nail, skin, eyes, ..... better. My boobs is now dubble bigger 😂😂😂. I love it so much. Dont scare of weight gain or health problems in recovery.
facebook.com/profile.php?id=100046917891106 it my facebook link if someone ask me for experience
I'm experiencing the same things as you're saying here :/ I'd like to talk to you so I sent you a friend request if you don't mind :)
@@marcelam.8752 ok, nice to meet you
"Intuitive eating is the result of you going through recovery." This is key. Other coaches in the IE community focus on moderation, which is just another form of restriction. I never understood why I couldn't moderate until I found your channel. I have to heal the restrictive mindset, and then my body will feel safe enough to start giving me true hunger and satiety cues. It's all about letting go of fear, in whatever form it might take so tht the body can relax.
So if I have an eating disorder and undereat, when I start eating normal again will my metabolism be damaged and will I gain weight back really fast and lots of it? Or is it usually less likely to gain lots of weight easily? I really don’t want to gain lots I just want to know if I’m gonna get big really quick as soon as I eat normally again
I'm not sure if it's the same for everyone, but I did gain weight pretty fast as I recovered. However, the weight gain stopped after a while and my eating habits became kinda balanced (I still restrict sometimes and binge, but rarely). Overall, I feel much better and healthier.
When you lose weight your bmr lowers it's normal you burn a bit less calories your metabolism is fine don't worry
Have you got your period back after you recovered? How long did it take you to recover and how did you do it? Please I'm in need of recovered ppl's help
@@lameese9670 I am not recovered yet, but i can tell you my experience. When i started recovery i kind of stayed at the low bmi and everything for like 1 month or so, but then extreme hunger kicked in and i gained weight pretty fast... After 4 months i got my period back, then after restriction lost it again. You have to gain weight, start to eat normally and it will all come back. Your weight shoud be stable when your body fells comfortable and healthy. I havent reached that point yet, but i am slowly getting there. Wish you lots of love!
@@katarinafacinikova5688 that is not true. i recovered without gaining any weight. but i was always naturally very skinny so
I am too terrified to contemplate recovery,because I have lost all feeling in my stomach. I no longer have the ability to naturally gauge how much to eat. The stretch receptors,nutrient detectors no longer function and I never feel full unless I have gastroparesis (the lesser of the teo evils).
I am so frightened and suicidal.
How this happened is too complicated to go into. I was never a binger,purely a non-purging anorexic.
I tried to embrace recovery approx 4 years ago,during which I was advised to override my natural hunger and satiety signals. At the time,it was necessary to survive.
Stubbornly,I wanted to recover on "clean foods". It was simply too much volume of food for my body...
I cannot face the rest of my life like this.
Currently,I'm mildly underweight. My periods have stopped. My body fat percentage seems to fluctuate like crazy.
This is because,I was going out for walks but my body cannot tell me it is hungry,so I was eating too few calories. A sure fire way to acquire belly fat.
I am now petrified to stop exercising,but know I have to.
I cannot see my way through this at all.
It is the very reason people end up with gastric bands.
Apologies for the War And Peace length post. Just had to vent,and that is actually a vague synopsis.
I suggest to go all in it'l help you!
You are so beautiful and all of this is so helpful. I thank God. I'm so glad I found your cannel. I'm trying recovery after more than 2 years of starvation and a few months of over excersise. Now I'm trying intuitive eating, but sometimes these questions come to my head, and the fear of gaining weight is trying to stay alive. I gained weight and there's a fight but my body has improved, I'm not tired all the time, I don't have insomnia anymore, and other things in my body are getting better. But all of the questions that I have seems to find an answer in your videos. Than you very much.
your videos have helped me so much throughout my recovery from anorexia. thank you so much for all the information in the videos and help you have given, it means so much and I’m so thankful i able to get stronger and healthier again. it was hard, but i got through it and am definitely a happier person now than I was a year ago. :)
i came to this video because i am currently in a program for girls with anorexia. i’ve lost 30 lbs in 2 months and i’m 15. i’m still scared about food but i’m also scared that the people at the program are going to make me gain all the weight back. idk life is hard
EDIT: *wow. never knew how disordered i was until recently. Im beyond blessed I am recovered.*
I hope you are doing better now I’m 14 and have lost like 60lb in like 4-5 months because I was restricting I was overweight then and now I am trying to recover and my number 1 fear is being overweight again because I felt terrible so I am trying reverse dieting so I am adding 50 calories a week and this is literally day 3 and I am still loseing weight but I am hoping that I can just keep my weight I wouldn’t mind losing like 10 more pounds while still under eating but I don’t want to gain weight 😰
@@randomghost3472 I am now at a safe place to be able to tell you how hard I know it is. I was JUST like you. It is so so so scary, i know. You have to trust the process and even though that little voice in your head keeps telling you NO, you have to FIGHT it. Why would you listen to something that is trying to hurt you right? I promise there is hope on the other side. I see it now! I know weight gain is scary, but you have to TRUST the process and listen to what your body is trying to tell you and not a voice in your head...
i’m eating too little in a day and i’m starting to be low in energy and so tiered i want to eat normally but i’m so scared to gain all the weight back i lost my period and I’ve already lost 44 lbs my weight is 119 lbs and my height 165cm and i’m 15 i’m superrrr scared I don’t wanna gain all the weight back and return to the nightmare but i want to eat normal i’m just eating 400,300 calories in a day
And i still wanna lose some weight but in a healthier way
@@ghalarazan6666 you have to be able to understand that voice is NOT YOU. It is trying to tell you that you need to lose weight and that you shouldn’t eat so you would be a better person. THAT IS A LIE. It is not normal to skip meals. you know what is normal? EATING. I know you think it’s hard but please seek help and understand that your body NEEDS the food i’m order to survive🥺
Can you keep fixing your metabolism if you still exercise while not restrincting?
I was anorexic for about 3 months. I got down to a bmi of about 16. Im 1.5 weeks into recovery and i eat 4000-10000 calories a day because im always so hungry. My bmi is now 18.4. My bmi before anorexia was probably around 19-20. Will I get normal hunger cues and return to my normal bmi if i keep eating like this?
TupolevPilot that’s too much I know u need recover but that’s too much u body to handle eat about 1700 calories I guess and it needs to be healthy so u won’t gain fat but muscle and weight lifting more will help ur body u can obviously have a treat but mostly healthy salmon chicken tuna brown rice lots of vegetables and fruits water get your protein
Sabrin Roble LOL. You could NOT be more far from the truth, and that isn’t quality advice for someone coming from a restrictive eating disorder. You can’t tell someone who is recovering from anorexia that he or she is “eating too much” and only needs 1700 cals with muscle training? No, this person needs REST and FOOD. And lots of it.
Yes, your normal hunger cues will return. Don’t worry about your BMI, it isn’t important as long as you are healthy and happy. Keep eating and resting as much as you need. You should be eating a MINIMUM of around 3000 calories in recovery anyway, and that isn’t even including extreme hunger. Trust me, I went through the same exact thing. My weight stabilized, my hunger stabilized, my food obsessions went away. Hang in there and you will get through this❤️.
lisa y sorry but recovering is also your mind and how u body feel not stuffing your body with unhealthy food all the time just ad some calories but eat of course more so your body adjust I don’t understand people who say people who need recovery have to eat crazy amount of unhealthy food that not good for the body especially the insulin she can ad 200 calories every week but healthy I mean good protein healthy fat and nutritious carbs so u feel really good and also have a little treat some time that’s how I recovered it took me 8 months but mentally 1 year I was 39 kg 163 cm and 16 years now i am 47-48 kg turnes recently 17 and i feel so Happy and have good relationship with food more energier
Sabrin Roble I can barely understand what you’re writing. And exactly - recovery is also about your mind. I know this because I am also recovered from anorexia. That is WHY you need to eat whatever you want, whenever you want to recover and that is why nothing should be off limits. You have restricted your body and many times it leads to long term damage (shrunken hearts, starved brains, death). Eating is the most important thing to do so your body begins to trust you again and your metabolism can recover. Maybe that is how you recovered, but you cannot go around telling people how to eat and make them feel bad for extreme hunger which is out of their control. As someone who had an eating disorder you should know this. In recovery nothing should be off limits. Setting up rules for “healthy foods” and protein and “nutritious carbs” sets you up right for failure or even the development of orthorexia (as I had developed trying to eat “clean” in the beginning of my recovery).
Sources:
edinstitute.org/blog/2011/9/14/i-need-how-many-calories
edinstitute.org/blog/2013/3/31/homeodynamic-recovery-method-guidelines-overview
edinstitute.org/paper/2012/5/22/extreme-hunger-1-what-is-it/
Well, from my own experience eating disorders doesn't develope only from dieting, there is other aspects to it BUT without a doubt the first step should be to STOP dieting otherwise the body and soul simply cannot function enough to continue the journey to full recovery.
Thank you for the excellent & informative video!
I can't stop myself calorie counting and exercising... But I don't have problem with overeating. I feel like I tend to always undereat. When I don't count calories, I worry that I'm eating less or eating too much. Idk what to do. I also lost my sense of hunger. I'm already on my desired weight range but I'm still worried. I want to have a healthy relationship with food. :(
That's exactly my Problem right now i stopped counting calories with myfitnesspal but i still kind of count them in my head. And i try to eat intuitivly now but i always worry if i'm eating too much and when cause of restricting for so long my hunger cues are all over the place. Like i could eat a pretty big meal but 30 min later and i'm hungry again :/
Did you fix it and if yes did you gain weight?
Hi I hope you read this. I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for your insight (as someone with disordered eating because of bipolar 1 disorder) and knowledge that you put into your videos. I've been restricting for about 17 years now and I've only recognized for about 2 weeks now that I have a huge problem. And your videos on recovery have been extremely helpful to me. I've reached out to our ED clinic and have an assessment coming up Sept 9th. I'm hopeful that everything goes well and she confirms my theory. As I have enough disorders to deal with 😉 but once again I want to thank you. God bless
I'm struggling to eat and recover because every time I try I get ill physically. I don't know how to get over this to recover. I'm so worried I'm going to get refeeding syndrome. I don't want to end up in hospital again to do this. When I do try to eat I just can't cope with the physical and mental problems from eating
recovery is so hard, I am already 27 days in recovery from a 8 month low restriction and binging, sometimes purging cycle, and I’ve already went up a size, seeing major differences even when eating about 900-1,300 calories a day, and working out either doing 50 min of a walking ab workout or 10 min hiit with 10 flat stomach yoga at the end of the day and some stretches, with doing tons of laps up and down stairs with a 3 story school. When I was dealing with these eating struggles, I was a normal weight and body fat percentage. And when I started I was almost overweight with probably more fat on me. It’s hard to start recovery now because I started at a normal weight, so now I’m scared I’m going to get overweight-obese, cause I see it happening, I don’t know if it’s gonna stop or not. I have been eating only healthy foods, one processed snack and everything else is natural and healthy, with good balance of carbs, protein and fat. The only good thing I’m seeing is I’m getting nice biceps and my leg muscles feel good, but my belly fat, not at all. My stomach looks very obese, like unhealthy fatty stomach even though I workout my abs and stretch and heat healthy and drink slim tea 2 times a day, i still see myself becoming overweight, if I do become overweight, is it possible for me to lose it if my metabolism catches up? This is coming from a 12 year old 4,11 girl. It is to much to handle at this age, i just want control over my body :/
Hey! So I’ve been big all my life and within the last 8 months I’ve lost over half of my body weight by starving myself and over exercising. I went from 285lbs 8 months ago to the 133lbs I currently weight now. I’m an 18 year old male who is 6 foot 1. So basically I need to eat a lot and whatever I want, stop the exercising in order to get some weight back and solidify my system back to a healthy weight? Please help girl!
I gained 75 pounds after stopping bulimia. I am 224 pounds. I was bulimic for 11 years. So anyone saying you won’t get fat after stopping, this is not the case for everyone. I hate the weight and I am trying to love myself but I don’t know how. I have been trying to loose weight since I was 8 years old and bulimia and drugs were the only thing that kept the weight off
@@laurah869I’m in the same position. How are you now? I’m overweight and still experiencing extreme hunger at its worst
@@Trololo2234Hi! Can I ask you how long are you in recovery?
I am 9 months and my hunger is still huge…I am obese now
@@elen474 same as you :(
@@Trololo2234 reallyyy I hope we’ll End up this yourney
I miss my normal hunger cues
I think the hunger can last over a year also,but I dont know,I can’t guarantee that
@@elen474 I’m sure everything will work out when our hormones balance out
Has anyone dealt with or heard of sudden food intolerances after restricting for a period of time? I used to eat gluten my whole life up until my ed and now anytime I try to eat it, I get nearly every symptom of celiac or gluten intolerance (therefore I've been on a GF diet). My thinking was from probably cutting a decent amount of it out of my diet (cakes, desserts,breads,etc.) then when I finally got into recovery I can't process it anymore. I'd like to know if others can relate and if there's a possibility of fixing this! Thanks
The process of physical recovery was a bit different for me. As a teenager who developed an eating disorder when she was about fourteen years old (I‘m now seventeen), my body kinda regulated itself pretty fast. I‘ve been going through this physical recovery for the second time (first try 2017-2018) and by the first one I got to the highest weight I‘ve ever been, but still in the normal weight range and healthy bmi. So I then relapsed, lost a bunch of weight again and now I‘m at a very stable weight actually after recovering for the second time. But this time, my body, even though I still have episodes of extreme hunger, gets rid of every excess calories by simply heating up and producing more poop (I’m sorry tmi). I hope I do not trigger someone by mentioning numbers, but I‘m at a (I think) set-point range of 59-61kg at a height of 170cm and just cannot put on some more weight. (In addition to that, I‘m a very active person, who dances daily and sometimes goes to the gym and is up on her feet like 24/7.) When I first started recovery back in 2017 I‘ve gained like 16kg and ended up being at 66kg.
I just wanted to share my personal experience with weight gain, to show you, that everyone‘s recovery and results are completely different from each other so you don‘t have to fear a higher weight after you fully recovered. For me, personally, it was just I would say weird, because I‘m kinda suspicious if my body‘s really healed (I‘ve had my period regularly, have normal hunger and satiety cues and more energy and joy in my life than ever before), because on the internet there‘re so much people trying to help other’s by sharing their process in which they gained a few pounds over their normal and healthy set point, while I stick to mine now healthy weight and that without even trying (I’m not forcing myself to do sports!!!) For those of you who are interested in what I eat on a daily basis : I enjoy a bunch of fruits and vegetables, I eat meat, dairy products and I‘ve recently experienced and still am experiencing an ice cream and chocolate phase. But you know it‘s winter and christmas time, you gotta enjoy your self and get ya self unlimited chocolate :D
I hope I helped some of you by sharing my story. I still have a lot to do for my mental recovery, but I won‘t give up this time! 👍🏻
Oh yeah and I also eat potatoes, rice, bread and pasta when my mom‘s incorporating this for dinner! And sometimes like yesterday and today, I crave salad! I don‘t have to eat big portions to feel satisfied and can finally trust my body again. We just have to follow the flow and everything will fix itself. You simply have to trust the process, your body won’t harm you bc it‘s loving you unconditionally!
hi love, very proud of you for recovering.🥺 i have a few questions for you because i am 14 and recovering so you might be able to help? once you reached your weight restored weight, did you experience the weight going down after a while? because most people are telling me that i need to eat A LOT because i’m still growing, but did the weight even out/drop as you got older? i’m currently 5’1. i hope you can give me some reassurance as i am very scared that i’m just going to keep putting on weight until i’m ‘fully grown’🥺 thank you 💘💓💗💗
I’m about 9 months into recovery. My hunger cues are beginning to normalize and I don’t feel as hungry anymore. However, I still crave sweets and junk food a lot, and it’s showing no signs of stopping any time soon. Will this ever subside? I don’t want to gain any more weight than I have to because I’m always wanting junk.
Hi how are you? How your recovery went?
Is it okay that I keep wanting oatmeal yogurts and cheese....I can't sleep unless I eat this everyday....I am an 18 year old male and am eating 4000 calories...and I can't help it
Hey Thomas - this is normal if you have been restricting yourself. The body wants to be fed properly.
And since you are young your body needs it if you are still growing or very active.
I have always nuts and dates on hand... for the case I need more fuel. Hope you do better these days.
I have just started ed recovery and I am now being made to eat 1500 calls a day and I am terrified because I am only boarder line under weight and I am terrified I am going to get fat but I have lost all control because my parents are now feeding me and planning all 3 of my meals and snacks. Does anyone have any advice with how I can deal with all of this mentally and the guilt because at times it just feels to much and I feel so out of control and feel helpless because I feel like I am being force fed although I am not and 1500 calories feels like so much although it probably isnt
What happened did you gain it back ?
@@ghalarazan6666 not yet I been made to up it to 2000 cals
@@tash7052are you ok now?
same here. hru now??
So the only key is to let go.
I couldn't agree more! Sending you love from the other side of youtube!
@@EdenGold thank You! Hope You are doing well too!
@@EdenGold it did take me a little time to realise this is it, but better late than ever, right?
Thank you so much! You are awesome, you are helping me in my recovery in every single video💜💜💜
What if you're experiencing extreme hunger when you're at a healthy weight already? I gained the weight back after 10 years of anorexia but never allowed myself to eat till I was satisfied, always exercised etc. Won't I just get over weight if I give in to the extreme hunger now?
This is anorexia. It’s not just because of our culture, it is sometimes. But it is very common. Just eat. Eat healthy. Fruit is a very good option if you still are afraid of gaining weight. Eat some fruits and veggies. It’s not very fatty. And watermelon is mostly water. It needs to be more well known. It has a name. It’s a severe eating disorder. Get the word out. Get help. You are beautiful. No matter your weight.
we went for a family vacation for a whole month and i didnt get the chance to restrict, now im too depressed about my weight.
I live for climbing and bouldering. Now i have a problem. I need to be shreaded and have power alot of muscle and strength to climb well. Now i have crazy mental hunger. I lost alot of muscle and gained weight but still have crazy hunger. I was 54 kilo 180cm and had like 0,2 body fat. I was doing 1arm pullups with extra weight. Now i am 62kilo i lost alot of muscles and gained alot of fat. So i went from a ultra lean maschine to skinny fat. But now i am very despressed becsuse i am so weak at climbing i cant even do 1 pullup. How can i get out of this headfuck? I am crying becsuse i am so weak at climbing but i know i need to get fatter and weaker to cure my mental hunger. Also i dont understand i am eating so much but i am getting weaker at the gym and weaker even not climbing so not weight dependend i am really weak. Should i just eat and get more fat and unhealthy until my hunger stops?
One of my older brothers went on a calorie-restrictive diet for initial weight loss. He went from being obese to now being lean, and very toned and muscular. Granted, he doesn't restrict calories anymore... actually, he eats worth two, sometimes three people. But he has managed to maintain a lean and muscular frame ever since, since he continues to work out a lot. I guess he was one of the lucky 1% whose diet succeeded long-term? :/
Also, couldn't the overweight epidemic also have to do with the types of foods people eat? A lot of processed 'convenience' foods, vegetable and hydrogenated oils, animal products from diseased factory-raised animals, processed carbs, and a LOT of sodas? Ingredients that the average person doesn't recognise or can't pronounce? Added sugars and chemicals designed specifically to promote increased hunger and cravings so you buy more of the company's food products? This is why I have a hard time letting go of my own restrictive eating, because it seems like a lot of these foods that average Americans eat really *are* just that bad for you... :(
That's why you go plant based and eat all the yummy foods that you want AND feel great doing it Quantity. That's how you will be able to succeed in recovery and not feel so bad about eating so much which is really foreign to us who restricted our whole lives, at least for me.
Even though i'm eating a lot more sugary stuff than previously (because that was the one group I restricted completely), having everything homemade is definitely better than store buying..
they are bad for you. But what she is saying is that people who have BINGE EATING disorder or compulsive overeating lost touch with their hunger signals. They have a warped perception of food. they eat by numbers, not satiety. When they can return to a normal sense of feeling full/hungry, and stop the "i cant have that" mentality which triggers urges to binge, once they are free from that, they are free from the addiction to food. the addiction to food is what makes dieting impossible. if they are addicted to food, diets dont work. Cure the addiction first- then focus on weight loss after.
I don’t feel like she’s really answering the question. YES, there is a chance that you will be some fat in recovery. But exercising is not the answer. Because then exercise is a form of restriction, a tool to burn calories and this doesn’t work. Because you CANNOT RECOVER if you are exercising. Your body needs to repair. It needs to anabolize instead of catabolize. I would highly suggest you go into recovery only when you are willing to gain weight and let your body do what it needs to do. If you can’t you will likely make it worse. If you truly surrender and recover, eventually the weight will come off on its own but it will take time. Years sometimes.
Please help me
I used to be overweight but now I am at an average weight but I did it by starving but now I want to start eating again but at the same time I don't want to gain that weight back because back then I was fat and my dad told me you were fat but now your weight is healthy and I don't want to gain back the weight but I am pretty sure I messed up my metabolism and the problem is that I come from a place where the food is unhealthy for ex: I just ate because my parents are here and I immediately gained 1kg I DON'T WANT TO GAIB WEIGHT YALL I AM CRYING
@Sunkyu [Kelly] Lee I understand how you feel and I wish that we can get out of this trap and hopefully we will recover ❤ and I am also really scared but idk why I am kind of happy that I am not alone and that someone feels what I feel it's not easy telling people but I hope we can get through this
@@ss-yr7ec how have you been doing because I am going through the same thing too
hi, i am here just for ask if u eat now normally and if u gained back this weight (hope no and hope that u are ok w ur body, ur eating habits..)
i ask bc i do the same ahah, hope u'll answer :)
@@alcksee oh wow thanks for reminding me that I commented that hower yes I'm doing way better now and I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through it now and speaking of the weight gain yeah I did gain a bit of weight but honey those numbers don't define you I shoulda heard that when I was in your situation believe me no one would care if you gained weight it is not worth making yourself go through hell believe me when I was recovering I got so many things back and the most important one was my happiness and I will tell you how I did it because you shouldn't go through this whatsoever
.start slowly dont force yourself all at once it's not healthy
.dont even look at the mirror or weigh yourself believe me it feels like a big relief to stop
.when in the healing process you may want to wear baggy clothes so you dont really see what's happening it helps so freaking much
.and this happened to but at first you dont know how to eat and when but thing is to listen to yourself whenever you feel hungry just eat honey you need it
And again I am so sorry that this is happening to you and I really wish you the best and if you need more questions comment here and I'll gladly help you ❤
wow thanks for your answer ! you are so nice, thanks you too much for your council 🥺 they help a lot honestly, I will try maybe to eat a lil more and being more positive and healthy :) (easy to say ahah, I'll start slowly ofc)
did you gained a lot if I can ask ?
I hope that you are happy with your body, and with yourself in general, you deserve it 🥺❣
Great advice! Love your videos! :)
thanks a lot!! :)
when you went on the binges or experienced cravings and you gave into them... did you still follow your meal plans and meals you were set to eat? so even if you ate lunch then binged and responded to craving did you still eat a snack and dinner
I actually did get fat (BMI 30) cos I developed binge eating disorder after restricting :/
pink custard I got fat too over the years,but it was just trying to eat balanced after heavily restricting.It doesn't take much to gain weight when your metabolism is slowed from restricting and then eating normal.
For how long did you stop restricting? I went from being severe underweight to being overweight after I stopped restricting and after 3 years(!) my weight started to drop again. Now I'm sometimes underweight again, sometimes I'm a normal weight but I didn't start restricting again, my body just normalized itself after, as I said, ~3 years.
@@lauranagel8634 I stopped fully restricting about a year ago. I have massively stopped binging and my weight is slowly decreasing :)
@@orangepulp392 that's really nice to hear, patience is often the key - wish you the best :)
Laura Nagel are you now back to you r pre-ED weight? or slowly getting back to set point? Did you add exercise back in or did yur hunger cues just sorta stabilise and u just naturally began to drop weight? :D so excited for you!
I really love your videos. They help me coping with my problems. :)
Why do some people not gain weight back after anorexia ?
i wonder that too
So helpful! Thank you for making this video! Your channel is great! +1 sub!
Do you allow yourself to exercise now?
I want to mess up my height! How to?!!?
But when you have bulimia do you have to eat like with the Minnie Mais method ?
I purge every time I eat (I also fast and restrict and do some sport )even if I don’t binge when I let myself eat for a day I eat a lot so I binge and I know is completely normal but is too much I can eat I don’t know 4K or 5k cal in one day maybe less idk I don’t count on those day. So I really need to know I’m at a healthy weight like really healthy so idk. I tried to recover 3 times on my own and i ate without limit and every time I just binge. So I need to know if I really have to eat at least 3000 cal per day in bulimia recovery.
Girl I’m in the same situation as you, now I really want to recover by myself but I’m really afraid of gaining weight, I got into this cycle 1 year ago when I started dieting because I was fat, now I’m in a really healthy weight but I got here by restricting, this is so shitty!
ale • same! How are you doing today?
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It’s crazy to me how some people can just simply.... eat. 😕
Elisa I really like your videos and your pleasant nature. My question is (and i really hope you dont have already answered it in one of your videos): What do you think about refeeding syndrom? have you made experience with it?
Oh God but the ignorance in the first message (0:39) where the anonymous user pretends to know all overweight people don't eat normally and don't exercise? And they even state they doubt the majority of overweight people don't have an eating disorder? Excuse-me, what? -_-
I know right?!
Amen I definitely struggle to eat enough because I feel such shame about eating food
Right.
Little do they know most people with eating disorders won’t become extremely underweight or overweight
I have read many articles on set point and most say it is not really true.
Thank you
I want to recover so fucking bad but I am scared of being overweight again. I just want to get fit and be skinny.
great video! and you look so beautiful 😍
thank you, glad u liked it! :)
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I'd rather by underweight than overweight. If 'recovery' means getting fat, I'm not interested in the slightest!
Please slow down and pronounce each word clearly.
She's easy to understand lol