For those of you who are considering waiting a while in between: we waited until our daughter was 3 to have another, and I’m so glad. The really nice part of waiting for that long is she is physically independent and actually enjoys helping with baby.
@@csgaiao33 That's what I was thinking too! But my baby just started daycare, and please keep in mind that usually the first year in a daycare/kindergarten means a lot of illnesses🙈 and even the normal runny nose thing might be extremely dangerous for a newborn🙈
Had 2 kids 16 months apart and everything was healthy. Pregnant again 18 months postpartum and feeling great! People being so judgy of kids close in age was the worst part.
I had a rough VBAC with my second baby which resulted in a complication with my bladder. I wish these rare issues were discussed more often. Commenting for those who’ve had similar experiences!
Would also love to hear data on pregnancy after uterine rupture! Had a uterine rupture with my 2nd, BUT they didn’t know that until the c-section! SO SO thankful baby and myself were totally fine. God is good!! 🙌🏻
I had a uterine window not a rupture with my 3rd c section, the doctor knew about it as she opened me. I got pregnant with my third after nine months of my second C-section. After 7 yrs i got pregnant again. My pregnancy was a breeze thank God. Now after 2 yrs of the 4th I'm pregnant again😅3rd, 4th and 5th were not planned I was switching between birth control. Now my obgyn is so chilled. he said don't panic. We're going to treat it as a regular pregnancy but I will have an earlier C-section. I pray I won't have complications or anything happen to the baby Amen🤲🏻
Love this content!! I am mom of two boys (2 (almost 3) & 5 yrs) I really want baby #3 but hubby wanted to wait and isn’t 100% sure we can handle another. I will be 37 in January and don’t want to wait too much longer. I think he is coming around as life is getting easier. I appreciate hearing your perspectives!! Thank you for all you do! ❤
I can't imagine how it must be to be able to plan the spacing between kids. We suffered with infertility with all of our kids, so planning spacing wasn't a luxury we had. Oddly enough, we ended up with 5 years between our first two and 4.5 years between our second and third--so pretty evenly spaced, even though we started trying 1 year pp with our first and our second. It took 3.5 years with our second and 3 years with our third. Infertility stinks and I wouldn't wish it on anyone and am so happy for everyone here who has been able to plan spacing with your kids
@@racheldodsworth7902 Hugs!!! I'm so sorry you've struggled with infertility as well! Congratulations on your first, though! How exciting and an extra special blessing after infertility
Yep same. 5 years and IVF between our first two and 22 months between the second and soon to be third (who naturally happened). There are no guarantees.
I was so scared with my first child and you guys were my mentors from afar. You gently and calmly walked me through everything to expect and it was like having an older sister. Especially the post birth hospital videos- I cannot describe how much less alone I felt wearing that mesh panty! 😂 I can’t believe you even filmed. What a badass. Anyway we are thinking about having more kids and this video is timely. You guys are doing Gods work. I am sure you’re tired but I promise this is worth so much more than you even know.
Maybe we can do a fun episode about health affects from multiple pregnancies - with some in real life content about our decisions/plans to grow our family.
I'm excited to be pregnant with my second and that we will have 2 under 2...for about 3 weeks! Not that it will magically get easier when my son turns 2, but it doesn't feel as much like simultaneous babies.
lol we are nearly 7m pp with our third and my husband and I have agreed since 4months pp we’d be okay with getting pregnant again anytime now 😊 I’m hopeful every month! 🎉 I love my kids. My oldest is 4(June baby) 2.5( December baby) and our newborn (May baby)
I've been struggling with depression and gender disappointment for two years now. Despite loving my son dearly, I yearned for a daughter. At 44, with my husband not wanting more children, I'm finding it challenging to cope and move forward. My heart and mind are still adjusting to this unexpected path.Honestly, I'm struggling to accept our family dynamics. Two years ago, I welcomed another precious son, but my heart longed for a daughter. I had saved some of my barbies and dolls and princess books.Loving him unconditionally, yet grieving the loss of that daughter dream. Now, at 44, with my husband complete, I'm grappling to find closure.
You will probably make such a good MIL that i am almost jealous of the woman who gets to call you MIL... While your feelings are completely valid and its natural to feel disappointed when things dont go as we plan. But I am sure that feeling will find its resolution in one way or another.
My baby is just about 6 months old and I about had a panic attack when you said you guys started trying after about 6 months. I guess we're not ready for baby number 2 yet 😅
My daughters are 20 month apart. We waited until the first baby was almost a year old before we started trying again. And to our surprise we got pregnant right away. But both pregnancies were high risk with bedrest and unexpected hospitalization. But we have two healthy babies.
we’ve just wrapped up 2 under 2 and gosh I loved it! it was definitely challenging at times but I think having them so close together was incredible! they are 15 months apart and are now 13 months and 2.5 years. my birth was so fast and my body recovered so quickly too! good luck! you’ve got this mama x
@@ashleymason0i had my 2nd when my first was 2.5 and it’s been rough. He’s still breastfed so that was an adjustment- and it got way harder to keep behavior in check with proper discipline and follow through on consequences when my hands are always full with the baby so instead of gentle parenting like I’d hoped I’ve ended up failing a lot more
@@ksamadoff congratulations 🎉🎊 I had 2 under 2 and they are now 4&3 with my 6month old. The newborn stage is a little different because my first wasn’t sleeping through the night and still waking up 1-2 times a night. But dad woke up with the toddler and I handled the newborn. As they grow and the baby interacted more with my older it was sooooo cute my son loves his sisters! It was easier when they weren’t playing with the same things and not eating the same foods but as they grow so does their bond. Fights will happen but finding ways to give them their own time alone and with you is helpful. I would play with my son for a solid 5-10 mins before nursing. Baby would be in a safe places then I’d nurse and I’d say things like after I’m done feeding I’ll come back or whatever but as much as I can I’d reframe and not blame the baby. Baby need this or that or no cuz i have the baby. Stuff like that… and I think that helped them. Now with a third it’s great! lol the baby is entertained by the bigs and the bigs are old enough to do so much on their own getting dressed, potty, getting snacks and water, going out back… it’s like having one sometimes all over again
I have 5 kiddos. I have an 18 month, 2yr, 2.5yr, and 3yr age gap. The 2.5 and 3 yr age gap was a nice age gap. The 18 month age gap kids are my 4th and 5th so it’s not been terrible. I feel like after 3 it’s not much different. 0-1 is tough because you don’t know what you’re doing. 1-2 is hard because you have to learn how to take care of 2 at one time. Once you’ve learned how to balance 3+ is just along for the ride😂
I would also love to hear more of Kurt's point of view, i.e. from the baby no 1. I've heard it is best to wait 3 years after having a baby, so that the child's emotional and psychological development has closed a very important stage!❤
I was so scared with my first child and you guys were my mentors from afar. You gently and calmly walked me through everything to expect and it was like having an older brother and sister. Especially the post birth hospital videos- I cannot describe how much less alone I felt wearing that mesh panty! 😂 I can’t believe you even filmed. What a badass. Anyway we are thinking about having more kids and this video is timely. You guys are doing Gods work. I am sure you’re tired but I promise this is worth so much more than you even know.
Could you provide a source for the information regarding pre-eclampsia and shorter interval? I of course will also be talking to my own doctor, but that really peaked my interest.
Got my 2 babies - 1 year & 51 weeks apart 😵💫 Didn’t expect to get pregnant again so soon. I was 35 when I first got pregnant. We started when our son was 15m. Been a rollercoaster ever since! Tips on 2 under 2 would be much appreciated!
IVF baby #1 is 19 months old and I am struggling so much with knowing if I'm even wanting a second. Having these embryos waiting for us feels like it's adding so much pressure. You just plan it and go in and hope for success as opposed to trying unassisted and if you get pregnant, you get pregnant. Sometimes I'm feeling like I wish I didn't have embryos to fall back on. Struggling so much with wanting to provide a sibling for my daughter, but having no desire to start the baby thing all over again. 😕
@@kristenneri2424 🥺 praying for you. That sounds like a tough position to be in. I’m an advocate for kids so I’d say just go for it siblings are so great. But it might be nice to have one completely out of diapers before getting into it again. Two in diapers was difficult for a little while. Praying God give you wisdom.
This video comes at absolute perfect timing! Just found out baby #2 is on the way and have a 10 month old at home. I’m interested in how you guys got through those first few days, months, years while also being successful and busy working professionals? Mom! How did you decide to continue pursuing your career? What did you do for childcare? My husband and I have demanding careers but have always wanted to expand our family. Nervous for baby number 2 because we don’t know how we’ll be able to do it. Any insight/advice would be greatly appreciated!
My pregnancy with my daughter in 2022 was really traumatic for me. I had hyperemesis gravidarum, hypertension, gestational diabetes, severe PGP (was in a wheelchair the last 2 months). It was a lot and i needed time to recover mentally from that. My husband and I knew that we wanted one more relatively close in age. I got pregnant with baby #2 in june 2024 (my daughter turned 2 and a few days later found out I was pregnant). My due date is in February 2025 and my daughter will be 2 years 8 months old when her little brother arrives. I feel good about this age gap and i needed the time to recover.
@melissaharley3237 no because I am on continuous Zofran! I take 4 mg every 7 hours and I throw up maybe once every two weeks now. I'm 24 weeks currently. I didn't take Zofran the first time and I was so so ill. This time when I felt the extreme sickness I knew I had to advocate for myself, I had done more research since my first pregnancy and I knew about Zofran. Got on it at about 5-6 weeks and haven't stopped. I'm still losing weight unfortunately - my appetite is not the greatest but at least I'm not vomiting all the time like I was with my first.
@melissaharley3237 I tried to reply to your comment once before and I think TH-cam removed it because I named a medication. Thankfully I am not suffering near as bad this time around because I got on Z*fran at around 5-6 weeks. I had done a lot more research before getting pregnant the 2nd time especially knowing how much I suffered last time. I am 24+4, I'm still losing weight unfortunately because my appetite is not the best, but I'm only throwing up about every 2 weeks now. The nausea comes and goes throughout the day but it's manageable. I was constantly sick and vomiting with my first so it's a big improvement. I take it every 7 hours on the dot and it has truly been a life saver.
@@melissaharley3237yes but it's been controlled by meds this time! TH-cam keeps removing my replies to you but it starts with Z. It's been a lifesaver. I'm 24+4, still losing weight bc my appetite is not the best but I only throw up once every 2-3 weeks or so. The nausea is manageable. It's a big difference from my first!
I wanted 2 under 2 but my perioid did not return until I completely stopped breastfeeding. I breastfed my oldest 13 months, got my perioid 14 months. Then we just could not get pregnant, my obgyn checked all of my hormone, did letrozole for 3 months, did not work. We did IUI when our oldest is 2 years old, luckily it worked. Now our second is 3 months, and I want another baby, really debating how long I should breastfeeding. Of course I want give him all the immunity and nutrients, but based on our past experience, it means more waiting for another child.
Many women have an anemia after the childbirth that usually left untreated, it’s a good idea to test your iron level before getting pregnant the second time
I’m one of those women who breastfeeds and don’t ovulate for a while. I’m almost 15 months postpartum and just had some spotting and I’m waiting to figure out if I could be pregnant or if my period is finally back. We have not been “trying” but not preventing. I always wanted kids 2 years apart but my body seems to have other plans and my son is very committed to nursing lol. I also have a fairly “low” but heathy BMI and I believe that has an effect on my fertility (while breastfeeding - I got pregnant with this BMI). My BMI usually sits around 18.5 (98-100 lbs at 5’1) and I only started getting hints of my cycle coming back after night weaning for 2 months and gaining 5 lbs in a month. I lost the pregnancy weight by 3 months postpartum so I think that was a little fast.
Same boat here! I only got my cycle back 23 months postpartum when I fully completely weaned. Interestingly, similar bmi. Then the first few months, the cycle was pretty wonky and short but finally got pregnant 6 months after fully weaning with meticulous BBT and opk tracking and cuddling that little baby right now!
Same boat here... with my first, it took 11 months to come back, with my second it took 13 months - but hooooooo boy could I tell BOTH times when my body decided to get ready to ovulate that first egg postpartum.
Could you share the new research you quote? I’d like to have it up my sleeve next time I’m criticised for small age gaps ;) (3 under 4yo here and hoping for more !)
So thankful you guys are back! Question- for IVF transfer, do you recommend waiting to do a transfer until at least 3 months after stopping breast feeding? Is that a normal recommendation? What about breastfeeding and an IVF retrieval? Thank you!!
Personal experience: it definitely helps! I'm a PT myself and had my second a few months ago--the DR from #1 took about a year to heal since it was so wide and I had some muscle-intenstine adhesions. "Healing" just means getting the width down to about 1 finger width and depth, plus not having back pain when lifting your older child.
Currently 25 weeks pregnant with my second 😊 I put an IUD in after my first because I knew I was not mentally ready to go through pregnancy and newborn again yet. Waited until a few months before her second birthday to have it removed. We knew we wanted a sibling for her and didn’t want too big of an age gap, she’ll be about 2 months shy of 3 when her sister is born and I think as they grow up it’ll be a good gap for both them and my own mental health ❤ I am nervous about bringing a newborn home with my toddler and how it’s going to rock her world. She is so used to having 100% of my time as a stay at home mom with her so I know it’ll be hard in the beginning. I’d love a video about getting the first born somewhat prepared for the change
I have done both. First 2, are 1 yr apart, and for the 3rd one, they are 3.5 and 4.5 yr apart. Each have its pros and cons. First 2, are 6 and 5 now and play with each other. 21 month old has a hard time getting in there, but only 1 with diaper is good 😂
I had an unexpected C-section with my first baby. He's now 8 months old. I originally wanted 3 or 4 kids close in age, but after having a C-section I'm terrified of the idea of uterine rupture. But also being in my 30s, time is not really on my side (not to mention the possibility of secondary infertility). There's just so much to consider. I constantly go back and forth with what I want to do in regards to growing my family 😕
Omg same! I just turned 30 1 month after my first baby. But I wanted to try for 9months before getting pregnant again. I asked my OBGYN and he told me that 9months is a good time. So I'm just gonna do excersises and eat good food so that by the 9month mark im super healthy and ready (I had him october 2 2024)
Could you maybe speak to the other side of things - ie, wanting to have a longer space between babies? We currently have a 4-month-old, conceived when I was 32 and my husband 33, without difficulty and born vaginally without complications. We want a second child, but we don't think we'll be ready until our first is at least 3 or 4 (and given that secondary infertility is a possibility, it might end up being longer if we wait until then) - what do the data say about waiting?
The data really only starts to show significant medical concern for mom and baby when the gap gets above that 5 year mark. Some of the reason for this is increased maternal age - which carries multiple potential increased risks on its own. There are most certainly some social benefits to having an older child who is a bit more independent when the next baby comes, but you may want to talk to your OB if there are any special reasons for how much waiting might be “too long” for you.
Great video, thank you for this information! How difficult is it to get pregnant while still breastfeeding and having no period? Does night weaning really help or will we have to wean completely? Our son is 17 months, he nurses about 10 times a day including nighttime but I still have 9-15 hours of breastfeeding break while he is in daycare and I am at work.
My kids are 19 months apart and I had a vbac! My first baby was breech so thats the only reason for my csection. My midwives told me 18 months between deliveries for a vbac. Both my pregnancies were super easy and I recovered really well. 2 under 2 is rough but I wouldn't have changed it. They are 2.5 and 13 months now.
I’m still watching, but in case you don’t mention it, what is the reason waiting longer than 5 years shows more risk? What happens in the body that waiting that long would do that?
@@TheDoctorsBjorkmaninteresting. So for someone like me who had her first baby at 20, waiting until I was 26-27 or even 30 to have another (we didn’t, but suppose we had) likely wouldn’t have mattered as much. As it turned out we decided to go for a 5 year age gap so inter pregnancy interval was about 4.5 years. But it is interesting to think about.
My mama always wanted kiddos 2 years apart. She also had secondary infertility and after 5 years they gave up and got rid of all of their baby stuff. Got pregnant with my sister year 6! Thought her family was complete. 5.5 years later SURPRISE 🎉- they got pregnant with me 😂. Instead of 2, 2 years apart she got 3 across a 14 year spread hehe!
My daughter is 19 months now, and I am finally wanting another (I was surprised I didn't want one 6 months ago, but motherhood was just too hard)! We're not ready to jump on trying right away, ideally we want to buy our own place first, but hunting could take months, and so could babymaking (took us 6 months to conceive our daughter), so I'd probably like to start trying before she turns 2. I learned a lot from your video, I think all I've heard was 1 year from my doctor, since I had a C-section.
How could you have had a journey of secondary infertility?!? A 3 month blip at most. We started trying at the 18 month mark like we were supposed to due to my C-section and our child is turning 5 soon and still no baby on the way yet.
What about when you have a stillbirth and want to get pregnant again asap 😢 Is it going to ruin your body to have back to back pregnancies (such as getting pregnant 2-3 months after birth)?
I’ve actually never heard the recommendation to wait a set amount of time after giving birth to conceive again which is wild to me because that makes sense!! I had a (mostly) healthy, full-term, non-cesarian twin pregnancy/birth last year. I asked my OB at my 4 week follow-up visit (4 instead of 6 due to minor complications) how long he recommended I wait if I wanted to conceive again soon and he said I was “good to go” if I wanted to start trying again immediately! At 4 weeks postpartum from twins! I wasn’t ready then but that also didn’t sound like best practice to me
I had HELLP Syndrome with my first pregnancy, and I'd love any data input on this. My daughter was born at 36 weeks and did well, and thankfully, my blood pressure and liver enzymes returned to normal a few days after giving birth. I've seen a lot of conflicting data on HELLP: how long to wait, the likelyhood of reoccurrence, miscarriage, and increased severity. It makes me very apprehensive to try for a second, even though I really want to have another baby. My daughter is currently 14 months old. It's hard not to feel discouraged.
Question: is this data impacted by whether or not you breastfeed and for how long? For example, if two people are TTC, they’re the same number of months postpartum, but one is breastfeeding and one is not, then I imagine that the risk of nutrient deficiency may be lower for the person who is no longer breastfeeding. Is this true?
I've been thinking a lot about getting pregnant again. I feel like it's a good time for our family because my daughter is 19 months old now, and I'm well-established at my new job. However, my fear is finding and affording daycare! My daughter's daycare has a 1.5 year long wait list, and we can barely afford her tuition! I will not be upset if we can't have another child, but my mind will always wonder.
I'm 42 with a toddler of nearly 2. I don't know if I'll be too old to have a second by the time we've got the energy and finances to do it again, babies are exhausting and expensive!
Do you have any advice for people with under active thyroid and trying to convince baby #2 no longer on mini pill only breastfeeding at for maybe 9 mins
Is there any data on periods for working moms who pump and work? I feel like my period came back faster when I was working, vs being a stay at home mom and nursing on demand.
Wow! Amazing but I'm sure it is a crazy amount of work. Hope you're all doing well and great job being a mom❤❤❤❤ children are such blessings even though I'm sure that's really hard. You've got this 👍
Curious about the increased risks associated with a > 5 year gap. To what extent are these risks simply related to increased maternal age, versus time from prior pregnancy? Did the studies compare the risk of complications in first versus second (with 5 year gap) pregnancies among women who fall into the same age group?
Im 42 & pregnant with my 3rd. First 2 with first marriage. My boys are 23 & 20 years old. So theres a 20 year gap between this one:) now with my current partner & us wanting nore kids after this one. I know i dont have much time to wait. All the fun things that come with getting older 😭
Why am i watching this? Im currently 29 weeks pregnant with my second and already wondering if I'll want more in the future lol we have a 5 year old boy and our little girl is due in January and i feel like we should be done but at the same time i kind of like the idea of trying for more, and hoping for twins for a last round hahaaaa i feel crazy
I'm having a next baby 23 years later ...I will be 43 when this baby is born. It's a natural pregnancy after my husband's vasectomy was reversed...I'm healthy,but tired. I don't know if I have time to wait after this one is born (being this old ) to have another child which we do want..if I was younger I could wait. But running out of time in life
We have a 7 month old and I’m not sure when is the right time. I want them close together so they can grow together and play but financially I’m terrified. Also we have no support system so child care is really hard to come by which is tough since my husband and I both work. Not to mention I had a bit of a traumatizing birth so I’m scared to go through that’s agin. It’s quite frustrating because I want baby no 2 so bad!
I'm 16 months postpartum from an emergency c section. I'm still breastfeeding my son enough that I still have no cycle. Would love to know what I could do to get my cycle back without weaning
It's so hard because I'm the breadwinner and my first pregnancy almost killed me by setting off my immune system. We have to factor that in plus the fact that COVID makes my husband infertile for 13 ish months following the infection.
I dont think it's true that more than 5 years between births results in complications. I actually read that humans used to only have children 7 years apart at least!
I enjoy so much how you share information and break it down helpful video! Can you make a video talking about ICP. It’s so hard to find information and I remember being so confused and so worried during my first pregnancy I felt like they truly didn’t have a lot of answers for me. Is it related or worse if you don’t have a gallbladder. Will it happen for future pregnancy’s? Worth a shot thought I’d ask 😅
I actually had a c-section AND a preterm birth (at 35 weeks) 😅 thankfully we got pregnant with baby #2 at 21 months, and our daughter will be 2 and a half when this baby is born. I’m really excited for this age gap! And it’s another girl! 🥹
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For those of you who are considering waiting a while in between: we waited until our daughter was 3 to have another, and I’m so glad. The really nice part of waiting for that long is she is physically independent and actually enjoys helping with baby.
This is a great reason for many to wait, especially if you’re only planning to have 2 kids, or you got a relatively early start!
I'm planning on doing the same thing! This way the oldest is off to kindergarten and I can have more time for the newborn.
I have six kids and they are all spaced 4-7 years apart! It have me time with each and time to get ready for another.
We're waiting until 3 too! Hopefully it works out.
@@csgaiao33 That's what I was thinking too! But my baby just started daycare, and please keep in mind that usually the first year in a daycare/kindergarten means a lot of illnesses🙈 and even the normal runny nose thing might be extremely dangerous for a newborn🙈
I had all 4 of my kids within 4 years…c-sections, too 😳 Praise God all pregnancies and deliveries were healthy!
that's amazing
Had 2 kids 16 months apart and everything was healthy. Pregnant again 18 months postpartum and feeling great! People being so judgy of kids close in age was the worst part.
I had a rough VBAC with my second baby which resulted in a complication with my bladder. I wish these rare issues were discussed more often. Commenting for those who’ve had similar experiences!
Would also love to hear data on pregnancy after uterine rupture! Had a uterine rupture with my 2nd, BUT they didn’t know that until the c-section! SO SO thankful baby and myself were totally fine. God is good!! 🙌🏻
@@Chantelle456 Wow that must have been so scary for you all!! I am so glad you are both okay! 💗
God is good! Glad you and baby are well!
I had a uterine window not a rupture with my 3rd c section, the doctor knew about it as she opened me. I got pregnant with my third after nine months of my second C-section. After 7 yrs i got pregnant again. My pregnancy was a breeze thank God. Now after 2 yrs of the 4th I'm pregnant again😅3rd, 4th and 5th were not planned I was switching between birth control. Now my obgyn is so chilled. he said don't panic. We're going to treat it as a regular pregnancy but I will have an earlier C-section.
I pray I won't have complications or anything happen to the baby Amen🤲🏻
It’s crazy but most uterine ruptures are actually NOT catastrophic 😊
@@lnbth625 That’s great to hear! I don’t know the statistics, but my friend’s baby passed due to uterine rupture. It was tragic.
Love this content!! I am mom of two boys (2 (almost 3) & 5 yrs) I really want baby #3 but hubby wanted to wait and isn’t 100% sure we can handle another. I will be 37 in January and don’t want to wait too much longer. I think he is coming around as life is getting easier. I appreciate hearing your perspectives!! Thank you for all you do! ❤
I can't imagine how it must be to be able to plan the spacing between kids. We suffered with infertility with all of our kids, so planning spacing wasn't a luxury we had. Oddly enough, we ended up with 5 years between our first two and 4.5 years between our second and third--so pretty evenly spaced, even though we started trying 1 year pp with our first and our second. It took 3.5 years with our second and 3 years with our third. Infertility stinks and I wouldn't wish it on anyone and am so happy for everyone here who has been able to plan spacing with your kids
Same, and I'm 8 months with my first at 35! If she's getting a sibling, I can't wait long.
@@racheldodsworth7902 Hugs!!! I'm so sorry you've struggled with infertility as well! Congratulations on your first, though! How exciting and an extra special blessing after infertility
Yep same. 5 years and IVF between our first two and 22 months between the second and soon to be third (who naturally happened). There are no guarantees.
I was so scared with my first child and you guys were my mentors from afar. You gently and calmly walked me through everything to expect and it was like having an older sister. Especially the post birth hospital videos- I cannot describe how much less alone I felt wearing that mesh panty! 😂 I can’t believe you even filmed. What a badass. Anyway we are thinking about having more kids and this video is timely. You guys are doing Gods work. I am sure you’re tired but I promise this is worth so much more than you even know.
I would love the hear more about your experience/challenges with trying for baby #2. Looking forward to the next video!
Maybe we can do a fun episode about health affects from multiple pregnancies - with some in real life content about our decisions/plans to grow our family.
Baby #2 (Boy this time around) is on His way in around 3 months.
Two under 2, let's GO!
It’s a trip. There are many challenges but also so many amazing interactions with this close age gap. Good luck and congrats!!!
@TheDoctorsBjorkman thank you so much for your comment. We'll be sure to watch your videos if we need some advice. Cheers.
I'm excited to be pregnant with my second and that we will have 2 under 2...for about 3 weeks! Not that it will magically get easier when my son turns 2, but it doesn't feel as much like simultaneous babies.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkmancan you guys please make a video about the challenges
Clicked on this so fast! We have a 7 mo old and are trying for no 2 currently 😅
lol we are nearly 7m pp with our third and my husband and I have agreed since 4months pp we’d be okay with getting pregnant again anytime now 😊 I’m hopeful every month! 🎉 I love my kids. My oldest is 4(June baby) 2.5( December baby) and our newborn (May baby)
I've been struggling with depression and gender disappointment for two years now. Despite loving my son dearly, I yearned for a daughter. At 44, with my husband not wanting more children, I'm finding it challenging to cope and move forward. My heart and mind are still adjusting to this unexpected path.Honestly, I'm struggling to accept our family dynamics. Two years ago, I welcomed another precious son, but my heart longed for a daughter. I had saved some of my barbies and dolls and princess books.Loving him unconditionally, yet grieving the loss of that daughter dream. Now, at 44, with my husband complete, I'm grappling to find closure.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I feel for you. Hope you are okay ❤
I would feel the same way too, its so normal! Maybe you can adopt a daughter!
You will probably make such a good MIL that i am almost jealous of the woman who gets to call you MIL... While your feelings are completely valid and its natural to feel disappointed when things dont go as we plan. But I am sure that feeling will find its resolution in one way or another.
My baby is just about 6 months old and I about had a panic attack when you said you guys started trying after about 6 months. I guess we're not ready for baby number 2 yet 😅
Me too! Mine is 16 months and when people say they are expecting second this early I'm like "they're crazy or it wasn't planned 😂😂
Perfect timing! Planning to go off birth control for baby #2 today!
Good luck!!
My daughters are 20 month apart. We waited until the first baby was almost a year old before we started trying again. And to our surprise we got pregnant right away. But both pregnancies were high risk with bedrest and unexpected hospitalization. But we have two healthy babies.
Currently pregnant and will have 2 under 2 😅 can we please have a video on tips and tricks/surviving and thriving with 2 under 2?❤
we’ve just wrapped up 2 under 2 and gosh I loved it! it was definitely challenging at times but I think having them so close together was incredible! they are 15 months apart and are now 13 months and 2.5 years. my birth was so fast and my body recovered so quickly too! good luck! you’ve got this mama x
@@ashleymason0i had my 2nd when my first was 2.5 and it’s been rough. He’s still breastfed so that was an adjustment- and it got way harder to keep behavior in check with proper discipline and follow through on consequences when my hands are always full with the baby so instead of gentle parenting like I’d hoped I’ve ended up failing a lot more
@@ksamadoff congratulations 🎉🎊
I had 2 under 2 and they are now 4&3 with my 6month old. The newborn stage is a little different because my first wasn’t sleeping through the night and still waking up 1-2 times a night. But dad woke up with the toddler and I handled the newborn. As they grow and the baby interacted more with my older it was sooooo cute my son loves his sisters! It was easier when they weren’t playing with the same things and not eating the same foods but as they grow so does their bond. Fights will happen but finding ways to give them their own time alone and with you is helpful.
I would play with my son for a solid 5-10 mins before nursing. Baby would be in a safe places then I’d nurse and I’d say things like after I’m done feeding I’ll come back or whatever but as much as I can I’d reframe and not blame the baby. Baby need this or that or no cuz i have the baby. Stuff like that… and I think that helped them. Now with a third it’s great! lol the baby is entertained by the bigs and the bigs are old enough to do so much on their own getting dressed, potty, getting snacks and water, going out back… it’s like having one sometimes all over again
I have 5 kiddos. I have an 18 month, 2yr, 2.5yr, and 3yr age gap. The 2.5 and 3 yr age gap was a nice age gap. The 18 month age gap kids are my 4th and 5th so it’s not been terrible. I feel like after 3 it’s not much different. 0-1 is tough because you don’t know what you’re doing. 1-2 is hard because you have to learn how to take care of 2 at one time. Once you’ve learned how to balance 3+ is just along for the ride😂
I have a friend who has 2 girls 9 months apart. She also has a son who is in high school. Watching her life happen on Facebook is wild!
I would also love to hear more of Kurt's point of view, i.e. from the baby no 1. I've heard it is best to wait 3 years after having a baby, so that the child's emotional and psychological development has closed a very important stage!❤
I was so scared with my first child and you guys were my mentors from afar. You gently and calmly walked me through everything to expect and it was like having an older brother and sister. Especially the post birth hospital videos- I cannot describe how much less alone I felt wearing that mesh panty! 😂 I can’t believe you even filmed. What a badass. Anyway we are thinking about having more kids and this video is timely. You guys are doing Gods work. I am sure you’re tired but I promise this is worth so much more than you even know.
Sweet! Hit the 🎯 with 18-24 months. I had no idea that was the recommendation 😅
Could you provide a source for the information regarding pre-eclampsia and shorter interval? I of course will also be talking to my own doctor, but that really peaked my interest.
Love your videos! Wish all drs were as helpful as you two are. What I would give to have you as my doctors!!
my first was IUGR less than 1% when born, I got pregnant again when she was 10 months, this baby is growing so much better- 70%!
Got my 2 babies - 1 year & 51 weeks apart 😵💫 Didn’t expect to get pregnant again so soon. I was 35 when I first got pregnant. We started when our son was 15m. Been a rollercoaster ever since! Tips on 2 under 2 would be much appreciated!
IVF baby #1 is 19 months old and I am struggling so much with knowing if I'm even wanting a second. Having these embryos waiting for us feels like it's adding so much pressure. You just plan it and go in and hope for success as opposed to trying unassisted and if you get pregnant, you get pregnant. Sometimes I'm feeling like I wish I didn't have embryos to fall back on. Struggling so much with wanting to provide a sibling for my daughter, but having no desire to start the baby thing all over again. 😕
@@kristenneri2424 🥺 praying for you. That sounds like a tough position to be in. I’m an advocate for kids so I’d say just go for it siblings are so great. But it might be nice to have one completely out of diapers before getting into it again. Two in diapers was difficult for a little while. Praying God give you wisdom.
This video comes at absolute perfect timing!
Just found out baby #2 is on the way and have a 10 month old at home. I’m interested in how you guys got through those first few days, months, years while also being successful and busy working professionals?
Mom! How did you decide to continue pursuing your career? What did you do for childcare? My husband and I have demanding careers but have always wanted to expand our family. Nervous for baby number 2 because we don’t know how we’ll be able to do it. Any insight/advice would be greatly appreciated!
My pregnancy with my daughter in 2022 was really traumatic for me. I had hyperemesis gravidarum, hypertension, gestational diabetes, severe PGP (was in a wheelchair the last 2 months). It was a lot and i needed time to recover mentally from that. My husband and I knew that we wanted one more relatively close in age. I got pregnant with baby #2 in june 2024 (my daughter turned 2 and a few days later found out I was pregnant). My due date is in February 2025 and my daughter will be 2 years 8 months old when her little brother arrives. I feel good about this age gap and i needed the time to recover.
Have you had HG this time around with baby boy?
@melissaharley3237 no because I am on continuous Zofran! I take 4 mg every 7 hours and I throw up maybe once every two weeks now. I'm 24 weeks currently. I didn't take Zofran the first time and I was so so ill. This time when I felt the extreme sickness I knew I had to advocate for myself, I had done more research since my first pregnancy and I knew about Zofran. Got on it at about 5-6 weeks and haven't stopped. I'm still losing weight unfortunately - my appetite is not the greatest but at least I'm not vomiting all the time like I was with my first.
@melissaharley3237 I tried to reply to your comment once before and I think TH-cam removed it because I named a medication. Thankfully I am not suffering near as bad this time around because I got on Z*fran at around 5-6 weeks. I had done a lot more research before getting pregnant the 2nd time especially knowing how much I suffered last time. I am 24+4, I'm still losing weight unfortunately because my appetite is not the best, but I'm only throwing up about every 2 weeks now. The nausea comes and goes throughout the day but it's manageable. I was constantly sick and vomiting with my first so it's a big improvement. I take it every 7 hours on the dot and it has truly been a life saver.
@@melissaharley3237yes but it's been controlled by meds this time! TH-cam keeps removing my replies to you but it starts with Z. It's been a lifesaver. I'm 24+4, still losing weight bc my appetite is not the best but I only throw up once every 2-3 weeks or so. The nausea is manageable. It's a big difference from my first!
@@melissaharley3237 it's been medication controlled for the most part thankfully!
This video is so informative! Thank you for sharing this valuable information - it’s sure to be helpful for many families! 😊
I wanted 2 under 2 but my perioid did not return until I completely stopped breastfeeding. I breastfed my oldest 13 months, got my perioid 14 months. Then we just could not get pregnant, my obgyn checked all of my hormone, did letrozole for 3 months, did not work. We did IUI when our oldest is 2 years old, luckily it worked. Now our second is 3 months, and I want another baby, really debating how long I should breastfeeding. Of course I want give him all the immunity and nutrients, but based on our past experience, it means more waiting for another child.
Many women have an anemia after the childbirth that usually left untreated, it’s a good idea to test your iron level before getting pregnant the second time
I’m one of those women who breastfeeds and don’t ovulate for a while. I’m almost 15 months postpartum and just had some spotting and I’m waiting to figure out if I could be pregnant or if my period is finally back. We have not been “trying” but not preventing. I always wanted kids 2 years apart but my body seems to have other plans and my son is very committed to nursing lol.
I also have a fairly “low” but heathy BMI and I believe that has an effect on my fertility (while breastfeeding - I got pregnant with this BMI). My BMI usually sits around 18.5 (98-100 lbs at 5’1) and I only started getting hints of my cycle coming back after night weaning for 2 months and gaining 5 lbs in a month. I lost the pregnancy weight by 3 months postpartum so I think that was a little fast.
Same boat here! I only got my cycle back 23 months postpartum when I fully completely weaned. Interestingly, similar bmi. Then the first few months, the cycle was pretty wonky and short but finally got pregnant 6 months after fully weaning with meticulous BBT and opk tracking and cuddling that little baby right now!
Same boat here... with my first, it took 11 months to come back, with my second it took 13 months - but hooooooo boy could I tell BOTH times when my body decided to get ready to ovulate that first egg postpartum.
Could you share the new research you quote? I’d like to have it up my sleeve next time I’m criticised for small age gaps ;) (3 under 4yo here and hoping for more !)
So thankful you guys are back!
Question- for IVF transfer, do you recommend waiting to do a transfer until at least 3 months after stopping breast feeding? Is that a normal recommendation? What about breastfeeding and an IVF retrieval? Thank you!!
The ending was my favorite part. 😂 The interruption and Cec wondering why y'all were wearing lab coats and scrubs. 😂
We loved it too, and just had to include for you! 🥰
Thank you for this video and the cute blooper! 😊🥰 You guys are amazing. 💪
Should women heal their diastasis recti before getting pregnant again?
Personal experience: it definitely helps! I'm a PT myself and had my second a few months ago--the DR from #1 took about a year to heal since it was so wide and I had some muscle-intenstine adhesions. "Healing" just means getting the width down to about 1 finger width and depth, plus not having back pain when lifting your older child.
@ thank you 🙏🏽
Currently 25 weeks pregnant with my second 😊 I put an IUD in after my first because I knew I was not mentally ready to go through pregnancy and newborn again yet. Waited until a few months before her second birthday to have it removed. We knew we wanted a sibling for her and didn’t want too big of an age gap, she’ll be about 2 months shy of 3 when her sister is born and I think as they grow up it’ll be a good gap for both them and my own mental health ❤
I am nervous about bringing a newborn home with my toddler and how it’s going to rock her world. She is so used to having 100% of my time as a stay at home mom with her so I know it’ll be hard in the beginning. I’d love a video about getting the first born somewhat prepared for the change
Can you do a video talk about when baby is drinking and they are spitting up and what to do. Your video is really helpful to a new mom. Thank you
I have done both. First 2, are 1 yr apart, and for the 3rd one, they are 3.5 and 4.5 yr apart. Each have its pros and cons. First 2, are 6 and 5 now and play with each other. 21 month old has a hard time getting in there, but only 1 with diaper is good 😂
I had an unexpected C-section with my first baby. He's now 8 months old. I originally wanted 3 or 4 kids close in age, but after having a C-section I'm terrified of the idea of uterine rupture. But also being in my 30s, time is not really on my side (not to mention the possibility of secondary infertility). There's just so much to consider. I constantly go back and forth with what I want to do in regards to growing my family 😕
Mee too girl, i am also having the same thoughts
@@saymashaikh6933 it's so tough 😞
Omg same! I just turned 30 1 month after my first baby. But I wanted to try for 9months before getting pregnant again. I asked my OBGYN and he told me that 9months is a good time. So I'm just gonna do excersises and eat good food so that by the 9month mark im super healthy and ready (I had him october 2 2024)
Awww…. this is perfect timing for me. I just got off my birth control this month and now trying. ❤
Good luck!!
Thank you! This gives us confidence!
Could you maybe speak to the other side of things - ie, wanting to have a longer space between babies? We currently have a 4-month-old, conceived when I was 32 and my husband 33, without difficulty and born vaginally without complications. We want a second child, but we don't think we'll be ready until our first is at least 3 or 4 (and given that secondary infertility is a possibility, it might end up being longer if we wait until then) - what do the data say about waiting?
The data really only starts to show significant medical concern for mom and baby when the gap gets above that 5 year mark. Some of the reason for this is increased maternal age - which carries multiple potential increased risks on its own. There are most certainly some social benefits to having an older child who is a bit more independent when the next baby comes, but you may want to talk to your OB if there are any special reasons for how much waiting might be “too long” for you.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman Thanks so much for your reply!
Are the increased risks after 5 years related to maternal age?
Great video, thank you for this information!
How difficult is it to get pregnant while still breastfeeding and having no period? Does night weaning really help or will we have to wean completely?
Our son is 17 months, he nurses about 10 times a day including nighttime but I still have 9-15 hours of breastfeeding break while he is in daycare and I am at work.
My kids are 19 months apart and I had a vbac! My first baby was breech so thats the only reason for my csection. My midwives told me 18 months between deliveries for a vbac. Both my pregnancies were super easy and I recovered really well. 2 under 2 is rough but I wouldn't have changed it. They are 2.5 and 13 months now.
What birth control methods are best for breastfeeding mommas? Or how do common contraceptives affect postpartum?
I’m still watching, but in case you don’t mention it, what is the reason waiting longer than 5 years shows more risk? What happens in the body that waiting that long would do that?
I'm guessing increased maternal age. A 35 year old giving birth is going to have better outcomes than 40 year old.
Advanced maternal age gap is likely the major driver strongly correlated with the negative data for mom and baby.
@@TheDoctorsBjorkmaninteresting. So for someone like me who had her first baby at 20, waiting until I was 26-27 or even 30 to have another (we didn’t, but suppose we had) likely wouldn’t have mattered as much.
As it turned out we decided to go for a 5 year age gap so inter pregnancy interval was about 4.5 years. But it is interesting to think about.
My mama always wanted kiddos 2 years apart. She also had secondary infertility and after 5 years they gave up and got rid of all of their baby stuff. Got pregnant with my sister year 6! Thought her family was complete. 5.5 years later SURPRISE 🎉- they got pregnant with me 😂. Instead of 2, 2 years apart she got 3 across a 14 year spread hehe!
Nice. I wonder what the optimal spacing between children would be for mothers who are bariatric patients.
how about combining between breastfeeding and formula, majority is breastfeeding? How soon can you get pregnant? Thank you!
I watched the whole video, I thought you guys were going to talk about if you were considering baby #3???
My daughter is 19 months now, and I am finally wanting another (I was surprised I didn't want one 6 months ago, but motherhood was just too hard)! We're not ready to jump on trying right away, ideally we want to buy our own place first, but hunting could take months, and so could babymaking (took us 6 months to conceive our daughter), so I'd probably like to start trying before she turns 2. I learned a lot from your video, I think all I've heard was 1 year from my doctor, since I had a C-section.
Had my first one two and half years ago. If I got asked when i am having the second one, i'd roll my eyes and say never😂😂😂
How could you have had a journey of secondary infertility?!? A 3 month blip at most. We started trying at the 18 month mark like we were supposed to due to my C-section and our child is turning 5 soon and still no baby on the way yet.
What information can you share about clomid? Pro and cons
What about when you have a stillbirth and want to get pregnant again asap 😢 Is it going to ruin your body to have back to back pregnancies (such as getting pregnant 2-3 months after birth)?
I’ve actually never heard the recommendation to wait a set amount of time after giving birth to conceive again which is wild to me because that makes sense!! I had a (mostly) healthy, full-term, non-cesarian twin pregnancy/birth last year. I asked my OB at my 4 week follow-up visit (4 instead of 6 due to minor complications) how long he recommended I wait if I wanted to conceive again soon and he said I was “good to go” if I wanted to start trying again immediately! At 4 weeks postpartum from twins! I wasn’t ready then but that also didn’t sound like best practice to me
I had HELLP Syndrome with my first pregnancy, and I'd love any data input on this. My daughter was born at 36 weeks and did well, and thankfully, my blood pressure and liver enzymes returned to normal a few days after giving birth. I've seen a lot of conflicting data on HELLP: how long to wait, the likelyhood of reoccurrence, miscarriage, and increased severity. It makes me very apprehensive to try for a second, even though I really want to have another baby. My daughter is currently 14 months old. It's hard not to feel discouraged.
Is there anytwe can do to make our bodies ready sooner?
Question: is this data impacted by whether or not you breastfeed and for how long? For example, if two people are TTC, they’re the same number of months postpartum, but one is breastfeeding and one is not, then I imagine that the risk of nutrient deficiency may be lower for the person who is no longer breastfeeding. Is this true?
Can you talk about the 6 months gap between pregnancies with HG and wanting to breastfeed a while through pregnancy with maternal age.
What length of time trying counts as infertility or secondary infertility?? Is it 1 year??
Our daughter turns 2 in January and I'm due with our second one end of May. I think it's kind of perfect
Good luck! There are always challenges, but this does sound like perfect timing- especially if it’s the right time for you!
Should I use baby aspirin and prednisone after transfer?
I've been thinking a lot about getting pregnant again. I feel like it's a good time for our family because my daughter is 19 months old now, and I'm well-established at my new job. However, my fear is finding and affording daycare! My daughter's daycare has a 1.5 year long wait list, and we can barely afford her tuition! I will not be upset if we can't have another child, but my mind will always wonder.
I'm 42 with a toddler of nearly 2. I don't know if I'll be too old to have a second by the time we've got the energy and finances to do it again, babies are exhausting and expensive!
Why are risks increases after 5 years?
Do you have any advice for people with under active thyroid and trying to convince baby #2 no longer on mini pill only breastfeeding at for maybe 9 mins
What about being older mom 40s and want to have 2nd baby after 6 months?
Is there any data on periods for working moms who pump and work? I feel like my period came back faster when I was working, vs being a stay at home mom and nursing on demand.
I have 3 under 2 😅 twin girls ,then another girl 21 months later.
Wow! Amazing but I'm sure it is a crazy amount of work. Hope you're all doing well and great job being a mom❤❤❤❤ children are such blessings even though I'm sure that's really hard. You've got this 👍
Curious about the increased risks associated with a > 5 year gap. To what extent are these risks simply related to increased maternal age, versus time from prior pregnancy? Did the studies compare the risk of complications in first versus second (with 5 year gap) pregnancies among women who fall into the same age group?
Im 42 & pregnant with my 3rd. First 2 with first marriage. My boys are 23 & 20 years old. So theres a 20 year gap between this one:) now with my current partner & us wanting nore kids after this one. I know i dont have much time to wait. All the fun things that come with getting older 😭
Why am i watching this? Im currently 29 weeks pregnant with my second and already wondering if I'll want more in the future lol we have a 5 year old boy and our little girl is due in January and i feel like we should be done but at the same time i kind of like the idea of trying for more, and hoping for twins for a last round hahaaaa i feel crazy
I'm having a next baby 23 years later ...I will be 43 when this baby is born. It's a natural pregnancy after my husband's vasectomy was reversed...I'm healthy,but tired. I don't know if I have time to wait after this one is born (being this old )
to have another child which we do want..if I was younger I could wait. But running out of time in life
We have a 7 month old and I’m not sure when is the right time. I want them close together so they can grow together and play but financially I’m terrified. Also we have no support system so child care is really hard to come by which is tough since my husband and I both work. Not to mention I had a bit of a traumatizing birth so I’m scared to go through that’s agin. It’s quite frustrating because I want baby no 2 so bad!
I'm 16 months postpartum from an emergency c section. I'm still breastfeeding my son enough that I still have no cycle. Would love to know what I could do to get my cycle back without weaning
Have them close.
It's so hard because I'm the breadwinner and my first pregnancy almost killed me by setting off my immune system. We have to factor that in plus the fact that COVID makes my husband infertile for 13 ish months following the infection.
Well I luckily don't have to worry! With breastfeeding still 13 mos and not a period in sight! 😂😂😂
I dont think it's true that more than 5 years between births results in complications. I actually read that humans used to only have children 7 years apart at least!
Isn’t this an old video?
You're breathing too heavy into the mic man
Sarah stop making your eyes look so freaky while you talk please 😂😂
I enjoy so much how you share information and break it down helpful video!
Can you make a video talking about ICP. It’s so hard to find information and I remember being so confused and so worried during my first pregnancy I felt like they truly didn’t have a lot of answers for me. Is it related or worse if you don’t have a gallbladder. Will it happen for future pregnancy’s? Worth a shot thought I’d ask 😅
I actually had a c-section AND a preterm birth (at 35 weeks) 😅 thankfully we got pregnant with baby #2 at 21 months, and our daughter will be 2 and a half when this baby is born. I’m really excited for this age gap! And it’s another girl! 🥹
That is awesome! Good luck and congratulations!!!
@@TheDoctorsBjorkman please make a video on how to get you period back while still breastfeeding ?