yeah! the science of nutrition should definitely be taught in schools! Would debunk a lot of false ideas leading to any sort of ED before they even cross the kids' minds
Right?! My food and fitness education came from teen magazines that just showed you ab exercises you can do at home. I genuinely didn’t learn about protein / carbs / fats until I was 18 and thought starvation was the only way to lose weight. Wish she had been there to stop the ed before it ever started 😔
i used to eat anywhere from 1000-1400 calories a day (sometimes way more, wouldn't binge, i'd just allow myself at parties and stuff) and ive been increasing my calories by 25-50 a week for a while now. Ive gotten to 1,950 a day and I haven't gained a pound. It taught me how much food i really needed to eat in a day and helped to heal my relationship with food. Reverse dieting worked for me :) Update - got my period back and its been regular for the past 3 months!
I used to do the exact same thing but I brought my calories to maintenance with a few "surplus" days and have gained weight since then so I'm in a weird place rn :/ Good to know reverse dieting worked for you though!!
One questionnn, does it actually matter where they come from? I'm doing the same thing and I think is going well but I'm still afraid of increasing more
@@madzbray8444 i gained weight but stayed the mostly the same size through mine. In some areas I am bigger (glutes and thighs) and some areas are smaller (waist etc). Gaining weight isn't such a bad thing when it's paired with lifting weights and a slight surplus on some days.
I'm eating about 1000-1200 calories or less right now. I want to start reverse dieting and eat anywhere from 1500-1800, but I'm not sure how I can add more calories into my diet when I dont really feel much of an apetite..
@@EuphoriaInBloom Your appetite is suppressed because you're eating so little, and likely have been for so long, that you body has reached the point where it's decided to halt the physical signals of hunger in a desperate attempt to save energy. Mental signals of hunger though may be on overdrive though. You can literally jump up to 1500 calories off the bat and go from there. I got to add about 100 calories each week until I reached 1900, and the rate went down to about 50 until I reached my current intake level, 2150. I remember when I thought that it'd be amazing if I got to eat as much as 1800kc and look at me now, eating a lot more and maintaining and, most importantly, FEELING so good! I feel so energetic, my mind is so clear, I'm reconnecting with my hobbies and gosh. Seriously, don't be afraid of eating more. Your body needs the energy. You deserve freedom from restriction. You can do this.
I remember like a year ago i found you and i didnt like you. Why? Bc i had an eating disorder and didnt want to admit it to myself so instead I just said to myself that you were wrong. Today, after a year and a half of therapy, I love your content and even if im terrified to gain weight i know that i have to get through this. Thank you Abby for sharing all your knowledge ❤️
Weight gain can be scary and I know but it's just a temporary stage to get thru to be happier, healthier and regain your power with food & your body. You've got this
I really don't like how hypocritical she is. She always says don't shame but then reacts to all those what I eat in a day videos, and she gets really nasty and rude.
@@bossyspaghetti To me it doesn't seem like she's shaming them, she's just pointing out what's wrong with what they're doing and providing them with ways to become healthier and better.
@@xraye_ theres a difference between reacting to what someone does and reacting to them as a person, she’s reacting to what they do, she’s not shaming them as a person
To everyone who is trying to recover from metabolic damage it is scary because you're eating normally which means you will gain some weight but trust me the feeling of not being so tired all the time or being dizzy or getting cold easily is so so so good. Just make sure to exercise regularly and incorporate weight/resistance training to build up those muscles and reset that metabolism!! No one can live eating like a bird their whole life, no one deserves to either.
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
@@zureraova Ik this is like a super late response, but normally to get metabolic damage you have to send you body into starvation mode, or just eat in a severe calorie deficit compared to what you were previously eating. If you are eating under 1200 calories there is a high chance you went into starvation mode. I think the best way to stay out of it is by eating 1400 a day at least.
I took part in a reverse diet to help me recover physically from my eating disorder and after 6 months have increased my calories by around 800 so far ! Craziest part is I actually lost around 8 pounds from eating more ! My body reacted so well to finally being nourished and I am feeling amazing now , if anyone is looking to do it I would highly recommend but make sure you do your research first xxx
How did you change your diet? Like what did you eat? Did you start eating everything you wanted like EVERYTHING or did you eat healthy and cut out too much sugar?
@@meyra4305 When I started to reverse diet I made sure I was still eating well balanced meals so my body was being fed well as it had been starved for so long, but I mainly started to add more calorie dense foods mainly carbs as during my eating disorder I really struggled with eating these, gradually I increase my carb intake but still kept my protein intake high and I had so much more energy ! Then I started to add in more “unhealthy foods “ but I’ve now come to realise from this journey that everything can be in moderation and food isn’t always just good or bad so I try not to cut any foods out, but still working on it in the recovery process ! Xx
I would love to hear more info on how to lose weight without damaging your metabolism! I love my body, but I am overweight and would like to lose some weight safely because it might help with some of the chronic pain I am feeling. However I am already fatigued, so I can’t sacrifice more energy on a starvation diet that won’t even work.
Make gradual changes that you can see yourself sustaining for the rest of your life. Don't go on any particular diet. Instead, incorporate healthier food, cut out soda and make sure you're getting enough protein. Check in with your mental health and make sure you're not eating out of boredom or as a coping mechanism. Work out, but increase intensity gradually. I recommend cardio AND weight training, not just one or the other. You can lose weight healthily and sustainably. I lost 40 lbs 4 years ago and I've kept it off with no yoyoing, starvation or any sense of deprivation.
There’s a video on TH-cam by MissfitandNerdy it’s called “fat loss secret” it where you do mini cut cycles to loose weight. For example 3 weeks in a deficit and a week at maintenance. This allows for your metabolism to stay high and not drop when you get to your goal weight.
@@nc7332 I do something similar to that. Every month for a few days I will eat at my energy expenditure. I enjoy those days cause I can eat until I do feel more full and eat a lot more of the food I enjoy (NGL I do fit a hot choco into my daily calorie allowance)
I might be a bit late, but I will share what helped me lose 20 kilos and keep it off. Reducing to the absolute minimum anything that contains refined flour or sugar, and on days when you crave them a lot, just have them till noon. This way you still have like 10 active hours ahead to burn it off and you won't store it as fat. It also has a good psychological effect on you, because you know that it is perfectly okay to have a slice of cake in the morning every now and then, and it will calm you down. Then as for the rest, try to aim for lots of veggies and lean protein, and always make sure you consume twice as much of them as from healthy starchy carbs. For example: a nice plate of scrambled eggs with a bowl of salad is super for dinner, but if you are craving some healthy crabs, have some wholemeal (and really wholemeal) bread, half of the amount (or less) of the eggs and the salad. Or if you have a big steak, make sure that there is half the amount of potato next to it (or even less). There are no amount restrictions, clearly people have different needs and the person who weighs 90 kilos will need to eat less, than the one who weighs 150 kg, even if both of them are trying to lose weight. So make sure that 70% of your diet is based on low GI food (like most of the veggies, some fruits, most of the dairy products, meat, fish, tofu, eggs etc), and the rest is healthy carbs (whole meal bread, grains, potato, corn, banana, figs etc) and try to have them until 3 pm. Try to avoid anything with refined sugar and refined flour, but if you must, allow yourself some treats every now and then, and then move on without feeling guilty (during pms some chocolate is almost compulsory :). Be aware, that when you go cold turkey on sugar, you will have bad withdrawal symptoms, as it is as addictive as any other heavy drug. Or you can gradually reduce it by substituting it with sweeteners, until your taste buds go back to a normal state and you wont need sweeteners anymore (or not that much). I went cold turkey, and the first 3 weeks were challenging, i prepared puddings with sweeteners almost all the time to trick myself, but even tho they were sweet, they did not contain sugar, so I was still cranky. Then it was over, and I stopped having cravings at all. :) Even had periods without eating some sugary stuff before or during. Anyhow, I hope I managed to explain it well, I hope it shows that you can follow this for the rest of your life because it does not restrict any healthy foods, its just the ratio and the timing. Good luck!
@V King This is exactly what I did, and I think it’s the best way for many people. Faster isn’t better! I never feel deprived because I still eat chocolate every day, and all that good stuff. But I’ve lost more than 30 lbs and kept it off.
I eat around 2200 a day and i'm petite. I used to think people lied when they said they only eat 1400 if they were alot bigger than me. This explains alot.
Yep i used to have anorexia in high school and i was skinny/eating under 900cals. 10 years later(now) i eat around 1200 and stay at 160lbs, ive definitely messed something up lol 😂
@@vqxm7 Not a lot.. I do weights 2 times a week but generally speaking I am a tad lazy. I do not restrict so I tend to not binge like some maybe. I think that could be why. Maybe my metabolism is healthy.. I do not over eat but when I am not hungry I stop eating. Those are the only things I can think of. I can say though that if put on a 1400 calorie diet I would be hangry as all hell. My daughter eats about that.
Girl...I'm 340lbs and a 1400 calorie diet is A LOT for me. I tend to eat around 500-700 calories a day. I tried forcing myself to eat more for my health but its hard.
The all in diet was really amazing for me, I was 15 pounds higher than I normally am and I wanted to change and fix my metabolism because weight loss wouldn’t work, I tried all in I ended up gaining weight of course but after around roughly 6 months I started to lose the weight again and I actually dipped below my goal without restriction without diets by simply just eating again and doing intuitive eating. Amazing!
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
Abbey, I am a man who has struggled with anorexia over the past 20 years, and well as you might know one of the symptoms is that you never feel like you are "anorexic enough." But when you mentioned RMR, I looked up what mine would have been at my restricting weight, and it turns out I was restricting to around or below that amount the entire time. My caloric intake was high for a female anorexic... but not a male anorexic. This feels significant to me, because maybe I would have gotten help sooner if eating disorders in men were more talked about, and not just the ones related to sports.
Agree. As a formerly female anorexic who starved my way to a BMI of 10.2, I hear you. I honestly believed there was something else causing it. I knew I was obsessed, but I'd been obsessed years prior. I was well aware that I ate xxx amount of calories - but so, apparently, did a whole lot of other celebrities and dieters. I refused to believe that I had to eat more than them, not understanding that they were likely lying, oblivious, or only doing it very short term. If I'm understanding you, you're saying that you felt the same way, except you were comparing your calories to women overall?
@@Denidrakes69there is no reason to share your bmi. This is so triggering to people who have anorexia. And if they haven’t gotten to this weight, they might think that they are not sick enough.
Same boat man 17 years old and i’ve been struggling with it since i was 13, I did get help and was in the hospital for quite some time however it was not the right kind of treatment for me, a man with an ED seems to be quite the epiphany for the medical world
Absolutely wonderful content! I thought "reverse dieting" was the golden key, until I tried it. Despite my coaches wishes I quit her $900 program, quit myfitnesspal, and quit calorie counting. I ended up finding Intuitive Eating. I don't have to count calories all day and worry that I'm spiraling back into disordered eating. My weight is more stable and I actually think I eat healthier because there's no restriction, so I just naturally eat more veggies some days and have dessert on others. I'm 10x happier and finally have healthy relationships and a job I love, because I have more mental energy (not doing calorie math). I am obsessed with this channel. Thank you!!
I’m working on this currently! A weird example that really helped me start trusting my body more: my boyfriend as a child was allowed any and all snacks. He was known for being the house that had gushers, cheezits, fruit rolls ups, candy, etc. and he said he used to notice when his friends came over they’d binge eat it all (because their parents didn’t allow it) whereas he who was allowed it anytime usually would eat a bag of chips and then like broccoli and hummus. He loves veggies because he had no “good and bad” foods, he always ate what he enjoyed. I’ve been working on intuitive eating the last year and I’m finally noticing a difference in my view of food and my body’s signals. The other day I ate a baked sweet potato as a snack and loved it which I would normally never ever do, I’d think “ugh a veggie as a snack.” I also passed on dessert which is uncommon, but I just felt okay without it. Next day I had like 4 cookies and felt no guilt or anything about it because my body wanted them and I no longer see them as “bad.” Thank you for sharing your journey too! I’m glad we have accounts like Abbey to educate us and help us see food as fuel.
Goals! I’m only 3 months into intuitive eating after dieting for a while . I had already slipped out of dieting a few month before starting this and gained some weight. I have since gained even more . I’m trying really hard not to be bothered by the weight gain, but I’m just so uncomfortable . I’m really hoping my hunger goes down soon and I can cut some of this weight naturally. 🥲
@@Dazzlemebeautifully Hi Tiffanie, I can really relate. The first few months I did gain weight and it was uncomfortable that none of my clothes fit! Knowing that this was normal & temporary kept me from going crazy. I ended up seeing a dietitian who encouraged me to eat an even wider variety of foods. I know it is hard now but it gets better! I also focus a lot on just moving my body (walking) or signing up for a low impact class (pilates) which is working out a lot better than intense workouts.
@@ariesleocap Thank you for the reply . That’s encouraging . I’ve still been doing weight training because I enjoy it, but I’ve been paying attention to how I’m feeling and sometimes take extra rest days . I also stopped adding in cardio for the time being because I hate it 😂
I’m recovering from an ED and rly struggling with weight gain :( it feels like my options are either killing my body, or just being uncomfortable with my body for the rest of my life
I am in recovery too and the one thing I have learned is that the sooner you let go, the easier it gets. Just try your best to listen to your body and your mind will catch up. Work with a therapist too. My intuitive eating focused therapist has helped so much. Best of luck to you on your recovery journey. ❤️
I'm recovered and all I have to say is, after a while you just have to give in. Enjoy the process, and take this time to eat all the foods you've been scared of. The more you gain weight and realise that 'hey! this isn't that bad!' and begin to appreciate the extra energy, the easier it gets. But you will have to push yourself all the way :) good luck, and I hope you have a therapist or some support. I didn't, but watching videos by people such as Alice Olivia really helped me relax. I eat healthier now and I exercise, but I'm really chill about it and I'm so glad I recovered. Focus on getting your body and mind back to healthy first, and you can focus on health and maybe losing a little of the excess weight later (which will come naturally, I promise. Just DON'T RELAPSE!!!)
I was eating as little as 400-600 calories a day in order to lose weight until I couldn’t anymore. I wasn’t losing anything and was basically starving myself for nothing. I finally decided that this is not the way to go so I joined a gym and increased my calorie intake after learning about reverse dieting and damaged metabolism . I am currently eating about 1,000 calories and while I gained some weight in the beginning, the scale has finally started to move down as I slowly increase my intake. I’m slowly becoming less scared of food
This makes me hopeful! I eat around 900 but want to eat more because eating less has not made me lose weight anymore. But I’m very scared of gaining weight. How long before the weight starts to go down again??
@@Itscalistarodriguez I will talk for myself here since It’s different for everyone but it took me about a month or so for my weight to start going down again. It’s been consistent since then but it’s at a much slower pace than I’m used to, so I would really suggest trusting the process and being patient. You can do it! I believe in you :)
@@Itscalistarodriguez It’s not letting me edit but I just wanted to add that at first I gained weight which is understandable because I upped about 400 calories at once and I think that’s the scariest part. At some point I stalled and after that is when it slowly started going down again. I combine weight training and a balanced diet and although I just now went back to the weight I was before I started this. I look and feel so much better! And also eat so much more which is the best part in my opinion hahahaha
I love this so much! I had an eating disorder on and off for over6 years, no need to say that my metabolism was destroyed because my body was so used to absorb everything to survive. Now, I’m in my anniversary without a relapse and I no longer fear food, hence I’m winning weight because my body was so used to storing, it can sometimes be hard because my mind is not at its 100, but I also know that my body is so smart that it will relearn and my health comes first (:
I've been doing reverse dieting for a while with the difference that I did not gradually increase my calories. To me the positive effects started pretty quickly. Although my problems were weight gain, slow metabolism and general discomfort and I do find that it is still getting better. Thank you for the video, it was very informative!:)
I didn't know it at the time, but I had anorexia and hypothalamic amenorrhea when I was 16, and my parents got me "No Period, Now What?" It changed my life. I was overwhelmed and scared by the thoughts of never having a period again, and that book taught me that other women struggled with the same thing I did, and they recovered! I got my period back when I was 18, and I'm the strongest physically and mentally that I've ever been. I'm 22 now and a studying dietitian! As I'm looking for resources to help future clients this video came up and it just reminded me of how far I've come, and how far I hope to bring others! I thank God, my parents, Dr. Nicola Rinaldi and Abbey! ❤
I ate 1000 calories a day for like a year but I couldn’t lose any weight, and that lead to binges and then I gained about 8kg. Then I learnt about reverse dieting and slowly added calories up to 2100 a day, and in total I gained like half a kilogram lol (it was as Abby said, I gained a bit more and then it normalized). Now I’m eating 1600 a day as a deficit and so far it’s working fine!
While this may be helpful for people in a normal weight range who are trying to stop dieting, it’s extremely discouraging as someone who is overweight and needs to lose weight to constantly hear that losing weight is pointless since you’ll gain it back, your set point is your set point! I wish you could do a video on how to lose weight that actually needs to be lost without causing metabolic damage in the first place as it would be much more beneficial than these videos that are always looking through the viewpoint of a normal weight starting point.
A lot of the intuitive eating viewpoint is that fixing your relationship with food is more important than the number on the scale. Abby in a lot of videos has mentioned that you can't really be aiming to lose weight while you eat intuitively. If you feel as though you need to lose weight for medical reasons, a different approach is probably needed. That being said, it doesn't have to be a crash diet approach.
I've written very similar comments before so I know how you feel. That said, her most oft repeated advice is to work with a registered dietician, preferably one that specializes in Intuitive Eating. If you haven't watched her videos on that, I recommend looking them up. I resisted the idea for quite some time, but I finally bought the book on it. I'm still working on my relationship with food, but I know I'm happier in that regard than I've ever been before. I understand having health concerns, I have them too. Intuitive Eating is not a weight loss program; it's about changing your relationship with food and your body. That ultimately results in being healthier even if not as thin as we're told we should be.
Megan Beaule agreed it doesn’t need to be a crash dieting approach, which is why it would be helpful to hear her suggestions on it! Sure I can learn to eat intuitively at this weight, but my weight now qualifies me as borderline obese, and eating intuitively to maintain this weight is just as unhealthy in my view
@@tamaramarie1071 For me, it took about 5 months to get my period back. But I know a lot of people take more or less time for their cycles to start again. It depends on a lot of factors! Also, important, once my cycle started again, I *stayed* all in and worked on my relationship with food, so I could become an intuitive eater/exerciser, rather than immediately falling back into restrictive habits. I read the Intuitive Eating book, listened to a lot of intuitive eating podcasts, and had a session with a non diet dietician. After that, I never consciously stopped being all in either--my eating and exercise just naturally fell into a comfortable, intuitive level after being unrestricted for so long. Good luck!!
@@ForthcommaAbby Did you gain a lot of fat since starting your journey, and I have you lose fat (I'm purposefully not talking about weight here as it really doesn't matter that much :))? I need to "go all in" to get my period back and heal my relationship with food but i'm scared I won't be able to get to a body I'm comfortable in (no matter the weight), I just want to feel comfortable an quite lean without being ripped and under my set point weight. I've seen people who kept muscle and lost fat during their all in journey and some didn't and I'm scared...I should see a dietician or/and naturopath maybe?
@@-ihhssan-9062 A really important part of my journey with this was doing the work on body image and becoming body positive. I highly recommend starting there, because it makes recovery SO much easier. (A free resource I found super helpful with that is the Food Psych Podcast with Christy Harrison!) A non diet dietician could be totally helpful. I have no experience with naturopaths, so I couldn't speak to that. But if you're going to go all in I think what's most important is to not work with someone who will put you on a diet. My dietician helped me most with adding food and variety into my daily eating. I don't weigh myself, so it's hard to say how my body has changed exactly. I definitely gained necessary fat (I was too lean for my frame before), but I feel completely comfortable in my body. Actually, I feel MORE comfortable now that I've done the body image work and am at a bigger size than I did before when I was smaller and in a tough mindset about it. Good luck! You got this!
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
I realized I was doing my diet wrong when I woke up yesterday feeling terribly weak and my body does not want to move at all. It was an unusual feeling because on days when I wake up and don't want to move, it's because my muscles are stiff. But yesterday, they were plain weak. My body was screaming for proper nutrition so I will surely eat properly from now on. Thank you for this video. It's amazing to know about the science of diet and exercise XD
Today actually marks the 1 year anniversary of my deciding to go all in! I /had/ osfed/ednos from the ages of 11-22 with brief periods of quasi-recovery mixed in there. This is the first time in my life i've been able to go a year without relapsing. I can eat a bowl of icecream and not purge or hate myself after. I can cook food I enjoy again, and actually eat it. It's flippin amazing. Even though my weight is higher than my disordered brain would've liked, i don't freakin care any more! I never thought this would happen for me. I feel content and respectful with my body now.
Currently going through this right now! no extreme hunger but definitely large weight fluctuations with eating intuitively. I'm 4 months in! The hardest part is the weight gain, but I just have to trust my body to get to its own set point. Stephanie Buttermore is truly an inspiration next to Alice Olivia and Kayla Rose
It is worth it! I went through this last summer and all I can say is keep going! My weight went up and down and finally is stable. Eating intuitively is the BEST decision I ever made. I'm rooting for you!!
@@ariesleocap yes! the food freedom is absolutely life-changing. I'm focusing more on looking into myself and asking why I feel so uncomfortable with viewing myself at a higher weight
I am a larger person and I did All in for 2 years and gained over 100lbs I thought it was helping in the beginning but the weight never stopped going up. Now I'm seeing a dietician who is great and basically like Abbey I'm so glad I found her cuz the other ones just wanted me to go back to starving myself. I see my therapist as well she's amazing and I think this combo has really helped. I have hypothyroidism and since working with them my metabolism has gone up almost too fast now. I haven't lost weight yet just maintained but my relationship with food and body is so much better.
I recently saw a video of Matthew McConaughey talking about the process of regaining weight after an extreme loss. He describes all the issues you have listed at the beginning of this video. He also mentioned Tom Hanks who believes that his diabetes was triggered by losing and gaining weight for Cast Away.
@acidtea00 I completely understand:( i’m suffering from an eating disorder and for a while now i’ve wanted to recover. but the idea of eating “so much” food and gaining back all the weight i’ve lost is keeping me trapped. it’s overwhelming, and terrifying to think about. i understand how you feel .
In my personal experience, reverse dieting did not help. Having an eating disorder that implies the uncontrolled obsession for counting calories, I was finding it very stressful. I then decided, with the help of a therapist and a nutritionist, to try the all in. It was HARD and yes I did gain weight fast but guess what, it was the weight I needed to go back to and healthy body, with my period, hair loss stopped. I kept the all in for months and at some point my weight gain just stopped. Now I can eat extras knowing that my body is stable on this weight. Of course I don't eat cheeseburgers and cakes all day, it's an healthy diet, but I do eat big portions and also snacks like chocolate, cookies etc daily, with pizzas once or twice a week etc without gaining a single pound. Mentally I'm still recovering, but my body is happier than ever.
I lost over 200lbs in a VERY unhealthy way and would sometimes only eat 600-800 calories a day. When the effects of that made me realize the damage I was doing to my body and started eating more calories I was stunned at how quickly I gained weight back. I've gained 85-90lbs back in only 2 years. Now I'm working on my metabolism so I can start losing weight again. I've found some great resources on TH-cam and this was a very comprehensive and well put together video to help me learn what I should be doing in order to get to where I want to be. Thank you!!!
it's so important for young women and other AFAB people with problems like chronic fatigue to understand that the "little" unconscious tasks/movements take up so much more energy than we think.
My body’s been through so much during the last 3 years of my ED recovery. I’ve learnt that if you listen to your body it will take you to where it’s supposed to be if you just trust it !
Glad I found this channel. So many doctors and nutritionists simply shame us into doing what "should" be done, when what should be done is not clear and not the same for everyone.
I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve tried for years to heal my relationship with food and my body. I always yo-yo dieted, growing up in the 90s slim fast was the big thing and since my mom was always dieting I tried it too at age 9. I found a New Years resolution list I made at age 11 and one of the resolutions was “lose 20 pounds.” It was heartbreaking to see! Around 18years ago I wanted to lose 10 pounds so I tried the south beach diet. I went off it when I was moving because I couldn’t cook but I gained 2 pant sizes in 2 weeks when I ate carbs again. My body was never the same after that. I wish I had never done it!!!! I’m still working to not feel guilty about eating carbs. I’m at the best point I’ve ever been with food and my body but I’m still obese and I don’t feel like I’m at a healthy weight legitimately so it’s such a struggle to figure it all out.
As someone who used to eat less than 800 kcal/day, I can't see myself going "all-in" no matter how vehemently a dietitian recommends it. I think reverse dieting could be really healing for someone who's suffered from anorexia and/or bulimia. It just needs to be paired with therapy, and followed by a switch to intuitive eating once he or she is content with their weight and metabolism.
Nice to think that, but you will be stuck in this "reverse dieting" forever, and will not be weight restored, so its kind of like just doing the same thing with a bit more calories. Just not worth it.
@@JolieUTU you don't know that plus the all in approach can be very triggered. I know for me reserve dieting would be sm more beneficial to me, yeah it would take longer but I would be able to handle it unlike the all in approach. The initial weight gain can be triggering and turn a person away from recovery complete at least for me.
@@JolieUTU the way I understand it is that gradually increasing calories keeps you from getting an initial massive weight gain and eases your metabolism into regular function.
@@JolieUTU not everyone with an eating disorder needs to be weight restored though. i struggle with disorder eating but was 200 pounds when it started and now i’m 140- a healthy weight
I remember my grandma always having me on a diet or a scale. My mom taking me to Jenny craig as a 15 year old where they would weigh me every week. They had me on 1200 a day! Starving my body on crappy nutrientless food. Looking back on that now that was 19 years ago and I realized my relationship with food was messed up because the women in my life had messed up relationships with food or disordered eating. I can’t believe that was allowed.
If you were overweight they were trying their best to help you the only ways they knew how. Is it better for a parent to allow an overweight child to keep gaining? 1200 is low for anyone let alone a growing teenager and I disagree with calorie counting in general but rather feeding healthier foods but the intention sounds like it was good...I hope you forgive them and find balance within your body.
@@jaqenhghar6244 True...people are just doing the best they can though and most of us are deeply flawed so its best to try to see through the eyes of everyone even people that hurt you so you understand they were either confused and suffering or meant no harm and you dont have to carry around any anger resentment or hate because thats alot of negativity to carry for a lifetime in addition to the traumatic memories themselves..
Nothing like a mother to f’ck your mind up as a kid. Mine used “diet” as a weapon to have power over a child. Pretty typical of narcissists. So, tell me again how you think they were trying their best.😞
SAME! I remember my nanny taking me to Jenny Craig and putting me on all sorts of supplements and I was taking truckers love it at like 13 and back then it had ingredient thats are now outlawed and were used to make meth! And they wonder why I had a drug addiction for years and a body complex.
I’d love a video with someone in a larger body discussing the topics of set point, intuitive eating, and weight loss. I feel like it’s easy to embrace these concepts when your “set point” is at a lower end of the spectrum, but I’d like to hear the perspective of someone in a larger body! Love your videos Abbey!
I honestly don't think anyones set point is very overweight, obese or morbidly obese, I don't mean to say that in judgment as someone who has struggled with their weight, most of it goes back to habits, culture and lack of knowledge. Intuitive eating is amazing for people who struggle with ED that restric food but for ED where people overeat IE could literally kill someone who knows no limits and their body is addicated to food. Sometimes seeking medical professionals is necessary and also therapy.
Agreed. Most of the people taking about reverse dieting are maybe 10-20 lbs overweight. I need advice for mistakenly thinking if I consume 1000-1300 cal/day and exercise for 7 years I’d lose weight. I’m looking to gradually increase calories to not gain even more than my 55 extra lbs of gravity but to also actually feed my body and get rid of some chronic fatigue, digestive and other issues.
@@SolidSiren I wish that were true. I'm at the highest weight I've ever been after my last pregnancy and never struggled with my weight as much as I do now. I was always able to lose weight but now being 70 lbs overweight losing anything has been the hardest it's ever been in my life.
I just deleted my calorie tracker app, that said that I should eat 1295 calories. I have not had my period for months and I’m hoping to get it back. This video made me trust my body, and it’s needs. I know it is not going to be the easiest to start not carrying about every single macro and calorie that I eat, but I’m gonna try my best
So happy I found your channel, for the longest time I've tried intermittent fasting and eating only breakfast and dinner and it was taking a toll on my metabolism, thank you so much! I really needed to hear this
I just wanted to say that this channel has been so helpful in my journey towards (finally) choosing recovery over my decade-long eating disorder. Thanks for everything you do, Abbey. Dismantling the diet industry one video at a time!
I think every service member who goes through initial military training should watch this video. We all lose so much weight so quickly while in training (not by choice, obviously), and then we end up gaining more than we’ve every weighed in our lives and struggle to get down to even our pre-basic training weight. Knowing that this is a result of metabolic adaptation really helps-both in coping with it mentally/emotionally and deciding what the next step is to recover from such extreme weight cycling.
I've tried both approaches and they both worked, in different periods of my ed journey. They both have their + and - so it's hard to say which one is better.
Wow it's crazy! I just realized that I did the All in approach intuitively. After dealing with ED all my life I slowly learned about intuitive eating and slowly started to have a better relationship with food. I have gained A LOT of weight this last year and, even if my doctor started to tell me to diet, I just didn't listened and tried to love my body anyway. I knew that I was eating like this for a reason and I really didn't want to shame me or my body for it. After about a year, I started to feel less hungry and more "calm" toward food. Now it's been a few months that I just eat intuitively and I think I'm starting to lose weight. I'm trying to be neutral about it cause gaining or losing weight isn't a good or a bad thing and yeah, I just feel really healthy, not just now but before when I was eating a lot too! It's reaaally good when you have/had an ED to learn about loving yourself no matter what and to see food as just food to be happy about. Now I just LOOOVE to eat, all my meals are happy moments, I even dance with pure joy everytime I eat ahah. Wish you all to heal and to feel good about yourself
After approximately 10 years of yo-yo dieting, (the last 2 of them I was fully keto) I realised that I was cycling the sam 15 kg on and off, and honestly I have no idea what my natural weight is because I started dieting so early (by being bullied by my dermatologist go figure 🙆🏻♀️) going all in has helped me regulate my hunger soooo much ! I no longer fear food especially when I'm around people! The worst part is the weight gain, people around you even the colsest to you can be harsh, some days are worse than the others and honestly I'm still trying to accept the idea that I might never lose any of the weight I gained, but I take it one day at a time .. thanks Abby for the video ❤️
TW: calorie counting, restrictive dieting I didn't even realise that I was sliding into a restrictive dieting that my body absolutely hated until I saw this and the intuitive eating videos. I workout regularly and I had started to count my macros because I want to gain muscle. I promised myself that I wouldn't get into the restrictive dieting mode but it's so easy to do that! I was losing weight with my regular intake but not gaining muscle and I should have just recomped my food habits instead of trying to cut calories and ruining my gains with more weight.
I went all in 2yrs and 7 months ago... I'm 37 with a past of yo yo dieting. I started at 154 having dieted and lost about 20lbs to get there. In all in recovery I've gained 80lbs...im heavier than I've ever been in my life. I have no idea of it will go down... This is a long, long process for some people...
Bravo! In a sea of misinformation, product sponsorship and extreme trends, this video (and your content in general), is a gem! A BIG thanks from a former disordered eater :)
I started with all in, but hit a wall and stopped being hungry. Then I started increasing calories slowly, but not on a plan, it was just me using a bit of time to break through the mental blocks of eating more because I was recovering on my own, which wasn't easy.
Abbey, thank you for this, it’s a real eye opener! My husband keeps telling me I’m not eating enough.. I’m 5’5, I weight train a couple times a week, and jog/run once a week. Not intensely with either. But I thought 1300-1400 calories/day is good, it’s enough, right? Once in a while 800 calories..Not severely restricting.. It’s been a year, I have dropped 15-20 pounds -at first I felt great- and so kept the weight off this way, but in the process became anemic (not enough iron because not getting enough from restricting food), sleep is getting inconsistent, and starting to become really fatigued again. Calorie counting works for me, as before was becoming overweight -and was binging on some weekends- prevents me from eating unhealthy foods (as I don’t want to visually see that I ate deep fried foods, burgers..). Also I think it would affect my mental health negatively if I go ‘all in’- I can’t imagine gaining 15-20 pounds back quickly as I didn’t feel great at that weight either. I really think reverse dieting would work for me because I won’t be unhappy if I gain 5 pounds gradually eating more (healthy whole foods as I have been doing), and will regain my energy back.. would like to keep my energy up for the strength training as I really like doing that and keeping muscle mass for my overall health. Your body needs energy, and food is the fuel!
Thanks for this video! I found reverse dieting super helpful when I didn't have any hunger signals during recovery with the long term goal to eat intuitively. I was so intimidated to eat carbs too so worked into it was so helpful. My period came back during the reverse diet and my hunger signals regulated as well once my calories were up :)
This is so good! I’ve been working on this with my dietitian. My story doesn’t start with intentional dieting but a unexpected family tragedy that caused me to go months without properly eating due to grief. Once I began eating not only did I regain but I do have that “overshoot” issue. I truthfully have never struggled with my weight until recently, but I’m so glad for you and other dieticians out there because it would’ve been so easy for me to go down a vicious cycle of dieting when it turns out restriction was my problem in the first place. I’m on a mechanical eating journey until my dietician feels like I should try intuitive eating. Already I’m seeing things stabilize and noticing that I’m having hunger and fulness cues again. After a while I no longer feel hunger but I also wasn’t feeling fulness cues when I was eating so it was difficult to gauge. Now every time I feel hunger pangs it’s just a reminder of the positive journey I’m on as well as to eat LOL! Also I find eating often but smaller meals is helping avoid some of the negative symptoms of metabolic adaptation. My heartburn is much better and overall I’m just feeling more consistently energized. I said it’s all to say there is hope! And you don’t just have to eat salads all the time 😅
Video request!! Maybe you’ve already done this, but I would love a video about hormones and weight, hunger, and cravings. Specifically, maybe how different types of birth control affect that? and how it’s different for women/men?
This video is excellent! Thank you for this insightful information. I'm currently 4 months all in and, even when I have to admit it has had some emotional burden, I can recommend it enough if you come from a life of restriction, dieting, obsession with clean eating, exercise burnout, ETC. This process not only helps to heal the body but it forces the mind to see that as uncomfortable as gaining weight is in this society is, it won't kill you. Thanks for sharing. I'm familiar with Nicola Rinaldi's work but I'm seriously considering reading the book after this one.
Maybe could you talk about Demi Lovato's eating disorder which she discusses in the first episode of her new documentary Dancing with the Devil, and also in her previous documentary Simply Complicated? She just got on Ellen recently, and she said that her past team "hid all sugar, even fruit" from her, and that on her birthday she was only allowed to have sliced watermelon and non-fat whipped cream, and that it was only now on her most recent birthday that she's had birthday cake in a long time. She was also put into boxing and jiu-jitsu and she did a lot, a lot, a lot of these high intensity exercises. And this was a person who had a full team of nutritionists, doctors, therapists. She also talked in interviews and like a zoom call with her old cast members from Disney how she would have meetings over her lunch break, and how her dressing room was always set at a high temperature because she was always freezing. She also said in Simply Complicated that when she broke up with her long-time boyfriend, she started purging again after a long time. And then after 6 years of sobriety, the controlling environment from her team was too much for her that she relapsed. I think her journey really makes a great case for why further controlling someone's relationship with food when they've had a history of disordered eating is only bad for them. I hope you could talk about it.
These were not people that had their best interest in mind and probably not that knowledgeable about what they were doing, she should sue any doctor involved for malpractice because that’s pretty unacceptable
This was a good video for me to see. Someone suggested "reverse dieting" to me online but seeing this, it is really for underweight people. I'm overweight despite eating less than 1200 consistently for years. I'm glad I didn't try this. I definitely cannot gain any more weight. Thank you, Abbey!
@@morgenmorgen4625 I think focusing on exercise, both resistance and aerobic, is a good idea. It might help change your body composition, but only if you keep at it for at least a few years. Good luck!
I literally don’t believe that anybody can be overweight eating constantly 1200 calories. You have to have some serious health issues, go to the doctor and check thyroid. Or you just miscounting your calories. One option also can be that you restrict most of the days and then binge some days which put you in a calorie surplus.
Damn I needed this video so bad I suffered from an ED for years and started recovering on my own. Gained like 50lbs real quick. Now trying to love weight again but even after a year of normal eating I have only been able to lose weight by dropped my calories fairly low. But I dont wanna screw up my metabolism even more so even though its helped me get back to a low weight I don't want to have to eat like this forever to not gain.
Thank you. I met with a nutritionist. As a cyclists she noted how I was under eating due to my yo yo diet behavior yet extensive workouts. I do appreciate this break down.
what a wonderfully informative video! I'm just starting on my weight loss and have been thinking what i need to do once i reach my goal and knew a little bit about reverse dieting but this has really educated me beyond that. thank you!
I would say that reverse dieting can still lead to being in a calorie deficit when you hit your goal weight. I wish I had seen this video back then 💫 Right now I am carrying all the weight I lost and more, but understanding that I need to allow my body to work it out and that there are more important things for me to focus on. It’s a massive journey, thanks for sharing.
I tried going all in back in May because I have been without a period for a year now (if I don't count two withdrawal bleeds from to rounds of progesterone challenge tests) and before my last natural period, I hadn't had it for 8 months. And prior to that, I went about 6 months without one. I struggled so much with body image while trying the all in approach (though I struggled prior to it and still do) and have been trying to switch to a more intuitive mindset while still being mindful of what I eat. I should probably pursue counseling for help with my struggles with food/exercising, but I think my biggest issue for lack of period is probably mental stress. So challenging to handle!! But these past few months I have gotten much better at managing it. And Abbey's videos have also helped me to find balance and a healthier mindset on nutrition.
I totally agree! I usually listen to these videos while out on a walk, and I'm too cheap to pay for TH-cam premium so it keeps pausing accidentally when my phone is in my pocket. 😂 Or maybe turn the audio from the videos into a podcast? 🙂
The way you describe All-In in this video is very, very similar to the diet I was put on by my OB, Nutritionist, & lactation consultant while nursing my youngest kid (just turned 6yo in July '20) in order to attempt to produce enough milk (along with the diet was medication & supplements as well). In about a year, I went from a "normal/healthy" BMI to being Stage 2 Obese; they all shrugged it off citing that a surprising number of people gain weight while nursing instead of the weight loss you usually hear about. This large weight gain totally removed my [previously great] hunger & fullness signals/feelings, screwed over my menstruation cycle, caused my bipolar episodes [both the ups & downs] to be so much worse, etc. New Drs & specialists all-round now and while I'm still overweight I'm doing much better (with every 5-10lb I loose, we notice overall improvement in my health :) ). I've been on a scheduled-eating (4-5 meals a day at set times) calorie counting (I have a minimum# I have to hit & a maximum# I should try my best to stay under) & macro counting (goals are to be close to 50%carb, 30% fat, & 20%protein...hitting minimum #g of protein is the hardest!) diet to help with the extra weight and the hunger/fullness cues. After 2yrs of this particular diet I've actually started to get my hunger & fullness cues back within the last month! They're still pretty subtle [a small shadow of what they once were], but going from years of absolutley nothing to a tiny bit of something is such a huge victory to me.
Kris, I am also bipolar. I understand that most drugs used to treat our condition leach out in the milk and should be removed if you want to get pregnant and nurse. Bipolar in itself is very hard when the meds don't work or I am off them. I applaud your strength to face all of this while generating a baby and nursing it. I am happy to hear that you were able go get it under control. All the best to your family.
Coming from disordered eating past with a damaged metabolism myself......reverse dieting makes sense to me bc I went from being obese,eating the doors off the hinges with terrible foods to the opposite side to starving myself, fasting for 64 hours, eating zero carbs. My doctor wanted me to get therapy to fix that issue but I honestly can't afford it. So, the reverse dieting is the method I am choosing to fix it. It allows me to plan my food, inch up week by week, not gain weight, and choose the foods I want to fulfill my needs. Not going crazy extreme on either side of this issue. I feel like the psychologic damage the all in approach would make things even worse. We all saw it through stephanie buttermore's all in videos. That was rough. Staying patient and eating more weekly is def helping me. I understand the video and appreciate all the info! Great job!
Your videos are genuinely so informative, and I’m finally setting up a consult with my local dietitian. I can’t do this on my own, and I want to be healthier. I’m grateful for you and your expertise!
As somebody who was on the ana abc diet for 8 months, thanks, my hair is thickening as well! I'm nearly back to normal. However, due to me doing this severe diet throughout a time in my life when I was meant to be developing, I now have the body of a child and very thin bones and wrists due to malnutrition, I also have pretty bad anemia which comes with some very fun symptoms.
@@KeketsoN01 I actually am! I got a boyfriend and he loves me enough for the both of us, I'm maintaining and got my period back, my skin is less yellow, and I'm building up my strength :)
So I’m a male with very bad adrenal fatigue… I finally put 2 and 2 together to figure out that I’ve had a restrictive approach to food and calories for 20 years and that this has caused a metabolic problem which essentially is the same thing as adrenal fatigue. I appreciate this video so much… I understand that most people seeking this information are women so the video is a bit geared towards them, but for men out there that may have navigated here this stuff applies to you as well. I have gained a tremendous amount of weight in the last 15 months all while being at a caloric deficit the whole time due to my eating disorder. My body, in response to stress added weight, so I ate less, then it added weight so I ate less. I drove my body into complete exhaustion. I was waking up in the middle of the night with adrenaline rushes, exhausted all day, high (what I call) body anxiety (meaning my anxiety was generated physically not mentally but then LED to mental anxiety as a result), my resting heart rate dropped to the low 50’s, my heart skipped beats 2-3 times a minute, etc etc etc. 2 weeks of eating at maintenance level calories for my current weight and activity level and I’m telling you - resting heart rate came up to 65, I haven’t had a single skipped heartbeat, insomnia is decreasing, anxiety is way down, no adrenaline rushes, etc. STOP DIETING. Dieting, I’m convinced, is a mental disorder. Thank you so much for this video (maybe make a short one for dudes too?)
Maggie, I think one of the biggest issues with that range is that doctors seem to completely underestimate and under treat metabolism. I know a few people online in that range who only lost weight by testing and treating thyroid, insulin resistance, and sex hormone difficulties. Yet most doctors just suggest a starvation diet. Ugh. Makes me so angry!
@@lynncrf most doctors aren't very educated in the field of nutrition. I think it's best to consult a registered dietician, who is not affiliated with any organizations like HAES, Fat acceptance or extreme diets.
@@jessicakathryn I disagree, seeking out a dietitian who works from a HAES lense would be beneficial to those in infinifat bodies. They would address any issues brought forth by the client, helping the individual to care for their body, at any size.
@@bunkertons infinifat? Do you mean morbidly obese? They should be working towards not being morbidly obese. A HAES dietician is going to continue telling them what they want to hear. If you're that fat, most of your issues are going to be because of your weight. It's just fact. I only have an extra 50 pounds and cam feel the difference in my joints. You can't tell me a 300 - 500 pound person is healthy.
this is probably the most important and informative video you've ever made. it explains everything I needed to know to heal my metabolism after years of restrictive eating. Thank you
Awesome video Abbey and you are absolutely right about reset and metabolism restoration after prolonged dieting/purging. I suffered from an eating disorder for more than 30 years, and have now been in recovery for 5 years. It took almost 6 months to return to a normal, healthy weight after bloating and electrolyte imbalance. Now that I am weight restored and at a normal BMI, I do not have to diet at all, just eat nutritious foods (mostly), but I do not deprive myself when I want to eat something that has been labeled as "non-healthy". I so agree with you when you say that you do not like labels such as "bad" or "good" foods. That is what starts a lot of young people falling into the dieting culture, which then leads to an eating disorder like anorexia, which I am recovering from (we are always in a state of "recovery" because ED is a psychological disorder which manifests itself physically, so we are always "recovering", one day at a time, one meal at a time...). I watched Stephanie Butterworth all through her "all in" recovery method here on YT, and she was awesome and so real and she looks fantastic now and can eat normally and no need for any cheat day meals! She is still athletic and has great muscle tone, but not anything excessive. I appreciate all the information you conveyed here and love your channel!
Is the body’s set point just a number or is there a compositional aspect as well? For example let’s say my set point is 150 lbs and I am 30% body fat. If I lost weight but gained it back as muscle so that I ended up at 150 lbs but 10% body fat, would my body still fight to get to 30% body fat, or would it be ok at 150 lbs regardless of body fat percentage?
I’m wondering the exact same !! I reckon that you’d need to have a certain amount of fat depending on who it is but I’ve seen people gaining weight but with body recomposition , slowly the fat went off and the weight gained was replaced with muscle ...I don’t know really, I’m really looking forward to having an answer to this bravais would that mean that any weight you are as long as it is our set point at this moment in time we could recomp?
You would be able to consume more calories than before because muscle burns more calories than fat. Thats why weight training during weight loss can be so helpful
this video is amazing. I want to start recovering from my eating disorders and restore my metabolism. I now know I need to just listen to my body and trust the process. thanks so much🥰❤️
Hi, could you please do a video on the Autoimmune Protocol diet? We believe that my fiance has a underlying autoimmune issue which at this point is undiagnosed, and I'm thinking about trialing the diet alongside him.
you should get the book “a simple guide to the paleo autoimmune protocol” by Eileen Laird. I have pots/dysautonomia and my cardiologist recommended this for me last year. It definitely was hard to start but i did notice a difference and when I started re introducing foods I was really able to pinpoint ones that my body was reacting negatively to. The only advice I would have is to not get your hopes up, it can take a awhile to start noticing any changes and make sure you are eating enough:)
This is so nuanced, bc I basically went all in for 6 months after some stressful life stuff happened 2 yrs after gastric sleeve (800-1200 cals/day). I hope this means that once I try to restart my WL, at the least my metabolic rate will be fairly regular again. Idk, but I guess we’ll see!
Would you PLEASE make a video specifically about bulimia patients during and after long periods of dieting 🙏, I feel like most of the information online is about anorexia patients with very low weights 😏
Wow! I learned so much, somehow I pretty much did the All-in method without knowing about it and it certainly makes sense. Seems like I started it during the pandemic, since I had no choice but to stop my intense exercises(gym rat over here) and started yoga instead. I also started to increase my caloric intake because hellooo pandemic. Abbey, I truly appreciate what you do on your channel. This is amazing and I cannot stop sharing and talking about you.
I think I'm going to try this. I was on 1200 for a while- and when that stopped working, I went down to 1000 - then 800 and then 500 and then 300. My metabolism has taken a beating, so this is my last hope.
I believe in you! You can do it I know it :) I started dieting around 2019 - 2020 when I realized how heavy I was. I immediately cut down to 1200 calories a day and back then I was so clueless about dieting. Eventually 1200 stopped working so on many days I found myself being overjoyed if I only consumed 300-800 calories… It never worked past that point, so I went back to eating 1200 but again, I never lost any more weight no matter how much I exercised. (I had already lost a large amount, and I was no longer overweight but I just was always stuck around 15 lbs away from my goal weight) So afterwards I continued to average 1200 cal for an entire year, I wasn’t counting calories but I can always roughly estimate the amount any food has. One time I ate as much as I wanted for an entire week, and I stepped on the scale dreadful of the number I thought I’d see. To my surprise I had LOST a few pounds. I did some digging and I now realize that was my body thanking me for adequately fueling it! I’m going to start reverse dieting, and I’m a bit nervous since I never see it being talked about, but I’m finally ready to start treating my body right. I wish you good luck!
I think I've been doing this by complete accident since the start of the year. I just started letting myself eat whatever I want, and although I gained weight to begin with, my weight now seems to be settling and even dropping a little perhaps (I don't weight myself and just go off how my clothes fit me). My appetite has been insane, especially during lockdown, but seems to be reducing now I've let myself indulge in things. I was skeptical of intuitive eating and the idea of 'all in' but I think it can seriously work for some people.
Such a well put together and informative video. Thank you for using your knowledge to spread truth and wisdom on the internet... and for free. There is so much misinformation out there regarding eating disorders and the psychological effects of dieting and I am so thankful for people like you who are preaching a science-based, holistic approach to healing. Thank you thank you thank you!
Totally agree. When I was first in recovery from my anorexia, I was working with a dietitian and she had me on a reverse diet. Didn't work for me at all - I think its so important to treat those in recovery on an individual level (she was convinced I'd "fit the statistics" and my weight would drastically drop before I'd gain, and was so fixated on showing me all these statistical graphs and basing my eating plan around that). It can honestly be so damaging and stunt recovery. For instance, I felt very unsatisfied with how she was handling my recovery and so I ultimately decided to cut ties with her and rather go off on my own (which retrospectively could've ended extremely badly). All in all, I think all healthcare workers working with ed patients should be hyperaware of this and steer clear from treating them as a statistic and try different methods to see what specifically works for THIER INDIVIDUAL bodies! :)
I actually have a medically confirmed slow metabolism, my doctor wanted to do an endoscopy, and after not eating as told I went to do the endoscopy and the food still hadn't digested. I explained I was on 3.0mg's of Trulicity, which slowed down my metabolism even more so than average already slow natural metabolism, now I'm back on 0.75mg's of trulicity and I think it doesn't cause as much issues for my type 2 diabetes. However, I'm on Weight Watchers.
I was 258lbs in April of 2021 and now I am 191. 3 days ago I was 184lbs. So I felt that my body was finding homeostasis in the 190s, this has happened three times over the past 2months. My goal is 140 and my body is literally fighting me. I workout and eat in a deficit and now my body is rebelling So true i have been feeling ravaging in my appetite, literally doesnt make sense to me!
Im only 10 minites in but I wanted to write this before I forgot. Dr Jason Fung claims his approach to water fasting can work against slowing your metabolism while losing weight. A video on your response would be interesting.
Increasing your calories by 40-50 is unnecessary. I've tried that after my cutting phase and calories at 1300. It was torture. Next time starting from 1350 calories I estimated my NEW maintenance calories, which came to about 2100. I bumped my calories right away to 1800. Stayed there for a week to see how my body reacts. Slight weight gain, water, and glycogen. It's not fat because you are still in a calorie deficit. I felt great, eating more and being myself again. After that, I've increased my calories by 75-100 every week until I found my actual maintenance, which was closer to 2000. I was weight lifting at the same time and was as lean as ever. Then it was a lean bulk. So the second time getting back to my calorie maintenance was easier, faster, and more manageable. I wasn't hangry anymore.:) That was my experiance.
When you went through the most common signs and symptoms, all I could think was, “check, check and check!” I’ve been carrying an extra 10-12 lbs for the last two years (after losing about 90 lbs about 6 years ago) and can’t seem to get rid of it, no matter what I do. Intermittent fasting seemed to work for a while, but it all came back. This all makes a lot of sense.
I am genuinely impressed by her nutrition education... if she had taught me about nutrition as a kid, I don't think I would have developed an ED
yeah! the science of nutrition should definitely be taught in schools! Would debunk a lot of false ideas leading to any sort of ED before they even cross the kids' minds
Same; wish I had her 15 years ago
Right?! My food and fitness education came from teen magazines that just showed you ab exercises you can do at home. I genuinely didn’t learn about protein / carbs / fats until I was 18 and thought starvation was the only way to lose weight. Wish she had been there to stop the ed before it ever started 😔
Same i just feel i can never have a normal metabolism ed here for 16 years trying my best to get through it
She is not addressing the audience, this information is for those with science and nutrition background.Too obsessive in her approach.
i used to eat anywhere from 1000-1400 calories a day (sometimes way more, wouldn't binge, i'd just allow myself at parties and stuff) and ive been increasing my calories by 25-50 a week for a while now. Ive gotten to 1,950 a day and I haven't gained a pound. It taught me how much food i really needed to eat in a day and helped to heal my relationship with food. Reverse dieting worked for me :) Update - got my period back and its been regular for the past 3 months!
I used to do the exact same thing but I brought my calories to maintenance with a few "surplus" days and have gained weight since then so I'm in a weird place rn :/ Good to know reverse dieting worked for you though!!
One questionnn, does it actually matter where they come from? I'm doing the same thing and I think is going well but I'm still afraid of increasing more
@@madzbray8444 i gained weight but stayed the mostly the same size through mine. In some areas I am bigger (glutes and thighs) and some areas are smaller (waist etc). Gaining weight isn't such a bad thing when it's paired with lifting weights and a slight surplus on some days.
I'm eating about 1000-1200 calories or less right now. I want to start reverse dieting and eat anywhere from 1500-1800, but I'm not sure how I can add more calories into my diet when I dont really feel much of an apetite..
@@EuphoriaInBloom Your appetite is suppressed because you're eating so little, and likely have been for so long, that you body has reached the point where it's decided to halt the physical signals of hunger in a desperate attempt to save energy. Mental signals of hunger though may be on overdrive though.
You can literally jump up to 1500 calories off the bat and go from there. I got to add about 100 calories each week until I reached 1900, and the rate went down to about 50 until I reached my current intake level, 2150. I remember when I thought that it'd be amazing if I got to eat as much as 1800kc and look at me now, eating a lot more and maintaining and, most importantly, FEELING so good! I feel so energetic, my mind is so clear, I'm reconnecting with my hobbies and gosh.
Seriously, don't be afraid of eating more. Your body needs the energy. You deserve freedom from restriction. You can do this.
I remember like a year ago i found you and i didnt like you. Why? Bc i had an eating disorder and didnt want to admit it to myself so instead I just said to myself that you were wrong. Today, after a year and a half of therapy, I love your content and even if im terrified to gain weight i know that i have to get through this. Thank you Abby for sharing all your knowledge ❤️
Oh my god same. I just hated to be pointed out that my ways are wrong and stupid. Used to hurt me so much but now i watch her daily lol
Weight gain can be scary and I know but it's just a temporary stage to get thru to be happier, healthier and regain your power with food & your body. You've got this
I really don't like how hypocritical she is. She always says don't shame but then reacts to all those what I eat in a day videos, and she gets really nasty and rude.
@@bossyspaghetti To me it doesn't seem like she's shaming them, she's just pointing out what's wrong with what they're doing and providing them with ways to become healthier and better.
@@xraye_ theres a difference between reacting to what someone does and reacting to them as a person, she’s reacting to what they do, she’s not shaming them as a person
Reverse dieting explanation starts at 12:35
I should've seen this comment 11 minutes ago😞
Thank you luv 💛🦁
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The first 12 minutes are still worthwhile for educating yourselves. No one has patience anymore. Now Now Now.
To everyone who is trying to recover from metabolic damage it is scary because you're eating normally which means you will gain some weight but trust me the feeling of not being so tired all the time or being dizzy or getting cold easily is so so so good. Just make sure to exercise regularly and incorporate weight/resistance training to build up those muscles and reset that metabolism!! No one can live eating like a bird their whole life, no one deserves to either.
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
@@zureraova Ik this is like a super late response, but normally to get metabolic damage you have to send you body into starvation mode, or just eat in a severe calorie deficit compared to what you were previously eating. If you are eating under 1200 calories there is a high chance you went into starvation mode. I think the best way to stay out of it is by eating 1400 a day at least.
I took part in a reverse diet to help me recover physically from my eating disorder and after 6 months have increased my calories by around 800 so far ! Craziest part is I actually lost around 8 pounds from eating more ! My body reacted so well to finally being nourished and I am feeling amazing now , if anyone is looking to do it I would highly recommend but make sure you do your research first xxx
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Reverse diet sounds far better than all in, honestly.
How did you change your diet? Like what did you eat? Did you start eating everything you wanted like EVERYTHING or did you eat healthy and cut out too much sugar?
@@meyra4305 When I started to reverse diet I made sure I was still eating well balanced meals so my body was being fed well as it had been starved for so long, but I mainly started to add more calorie dense foods mainly carbs as during my eating disorder I really struggled with eating these, gradually I increase my carb intake but still kept my protein intake high and I had so much more energy ! Then I started to add in more “unhealthy foods “ but I’ve now come to realise from this journey that everything can be in moderation and food isn’t always just good or bad so I try not to cut any foods out, but still working on it in the recovery process ! Xx
@@megtracey9791 Did you have bulimia?
I would love to hear more info on how to lose weight without damaging your metabolism! I love my body, but I am overweight and would like to lose some weight safely because it might help with some of the chronic pain I am feeling. However I am already fatigued, so I can’t sacrifice more energy on a starvation diet that won’t even work.
Make gradual changes that you can see yourself sustaining for the rest of your life. Don't go on any particular diet. Instead, incorporate healthier food, cut out soda and make sure you're getting enough protein. Check in with your mental health and make sure you're not eating out of boredom or as a coping mechanism. Work out, but increase intensity gradually. I recommend cardio AND weight training, not just one or the other.
You can lose weight healthily and sustainably. I lost 40 lbs 4 years ago and I've kept it off with no yoyoing, starvation or any sense of deprivation.
There’s a video on TH-cam by MissfitandNerdy it’s called “fat loss secret” it where you do mini cut cycles to loose weight. For example 3 weeks in a deficit and a week at maintenance. This allows for your metabolism to stay high and not drop when you get to your goal weight.
@@nc7332 I do something similar to that. Every month for a few days I will eat at my energy expenditure. I enjoy those days cause I can eat until I do feel more full and eat a lot more of the food I enjoy (NGL I do fit a hot choco into my daily calorie allowance)
I might be a bit late, but I will share what helped me lose 20 kilos and keep it off. Reducing to the absolute minimum anything that contains refined flour or sugar, and on days when you crave them a lot, just have them till noon. This way you still have like 10 active hours ahead to burn it off and you won't store it as fat. It also has a good psychological effect on you, because you know that it is perfectly okay to have a slice of cake in the morning every now and then, and it will calm you down. Then as for the rest, try to aim for lots of veggies and lean protein, and always make sure you consume twice as much of them as from healthy starchy carbs. For example: a nice plate of scrambled eggs with a bowl of salad is super for dinner, but if you are craving some healthy crabs, have some wholemeal (and really wholemeal) bread, half of the amount (or less) of the eggs and the salad. Or if you have a big steak, make sure that there is half the amount of potato next to it (or even less). There are no amount restrictions, clearly people have different needs and the person who weighs 90 kilos will need to eat less, than the one who weighs 150 kg, even if both of them are trying to lose weight. So make sure that 70% of your diet is based on low GI food (like most of the veggies, some fruits, most of the dairy products, meat, fish, tofu, eggs etc), and the rest is healthy carbs (whole meal bread, grains, potato, corn, banana, figs etc) and try to have them until 3 pm. Try to avoid anything with refined sugar and refined flour, but if you must, allow yourself some treats every now and then, and then move on without feeling guilty (during pms some chocolate is almost compulsory :). Be aware, that when you go cold turkey on sugar, you will have bad withdrawal symptoms, as it is as addictive as any other heavy drug. Or you can gradually reduce it by substituting it with sweeteners, until your taste buds go back to a normal state and you wont need sweeteners anymore (or not that much). I went cold turkey, and the first 3 weeks were challenging, i prepared puddings with sweeteners almost all the time to trick myself, but even tho they were sweet, they did not contain sugar, so I was still cranky. Then it was over, and I stopped having cravings at all. :) Even had periods without eating some sugary stuff before or during. Anyhow, I hope I managed to explain it well, I hope it shows that you can follow this for the rest of your life because it does not restrict any healthy foods, its just the ratio and the timing. Good luck!
@V King This is exactly what I did, and I think it’s the best way for many people. Faster isn’t better! I never feel deprived because I still eat chocolate every day, and all that good stuff. But I’ve lost more than 30 lbs and kept it off.
I eat around 2200 a day and i'm petite. I used to think people lied when they said they only eat 1400 if they were alot bigger than me. This explains alot.
do you exercise?
Yep i used to have anorexia in high school and i was skinny/eating under 900cals. 10 years later(now) i eat around 1200 and stay at 160lbs, ive definitely messed something up lol 😂
@@vqxm7 Not a lot.. I do weights 2 times a week but generally speaking I am a tad lazy. I do not restrict so I tend to not binge like some maybe. I think that could be why. Maybe my metabolism is healthy.. I do not over eat but when I am not hungry I stop eating. Those are the only things I can think of. I can say though that if put on a 1400 calorie diet I would be hangry as all hell. My daughter eats about that.
Girl...I'm 340lbs and a 1400 calorie diet is A LOT for me. I tend to eat around 500-700 calories a day. I tried forcing myself to eat more for my health but its hard.
@@VHale-yz7hc 😭then how to reduce weight without damaging metabolism, what did you do?
The all in diet was really amazing for me, I was 15 pounds higher than I normally am and I wanted to change and fix my metabolism because weight loss wouldn’t work, I tried all in I ended up gaining weight of course but after around roughly 6 months I started to lose the weight again and I actually dipped below my goal without restriction without diets by simply just eating again and doing intuitive eating. Amazing!
Hi , how long did you go all in
Amazing 🤩
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
Abbey, I am a man who has struggled with anorexia over the past 20 years, and well as you might know one of the symptoms is that you never feel like you are "anorexic enough." But when you mentioned RMR, I looked up what mine would have been at my restricting weight, and it turns out I was restricting to around or below that amount the entire time. My caloric intake was high for a female anorexic... but not a male anorexic. This feels significant to me, because maybe I would have gotten help sooner if eating disorders in men were more talked about, and not just the ones related to sports.
Agree. As a formerly female anorexic who starved my way to a BMI of 10.2, I hear you. I honestly believed there was something else causing it. I knew I was obsessed, but I'd been obsessed years prior. I was well aware that I ate xxx amount of calories - but so, apparently, did a whole lot of other celebrities and dieters. I refused to believe that I had to eat more than them, not understanding that they were likely lying, oblivious, or only doing it very short term.
If I'm understanding you, you're saying that you felt the same way, except you were comparing your calories to women overall?
@@Denidrakes69there is no reason to share your bmi. This is so triggering to people who have anorexia. And if they haven’t gotten to this weight, they might think that they are not sick enough.
Same boat man 17 years old and i’ve been struggling with it since i was 13, I did get help and was in the hospital for quite some time however it was not the right kind of treatment for me, a man with an ED seems to be quite the epiphany for the medical world
Absolutely wonderful content! I thought "reverse dieting" was the golden key, until I tried it. Despite my coaches wishes I quit her $900 program, quit myfitnesspal, and quit calorie counting. I ended up finding Intuitive Eating. I don't have to count calories all day and worry that I'm spiraling back into disordered eating. My weight is more stable and I actually think I eat healthier because there's no restriction, so I just naturally eat more veggies some days and have dessert on others. I'm 10x happier and finally have healthy relationships and a job I love, because I have more mental energy (not doing calorie math). I am obsessed with this channel. Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing your experience! So glad it is helpful
I’m working on this currently! A weird example that really helped me start trusting my body more: my boyfriend as a child was allowed any and all snacks. He was known for being the house that had gushers, cheezits, fruit rolls ups, candy, etc. and he said he used to notice when his friends came over they’d binge eat it all (because their parents didn’t allow it) whereas he who was allowed it anytime usually would eat a bag of chips and then like broccoli and hummus. He loves veggies because he had no “good and bad” foods, he always ate what he enjoyed.
I’ve been working on intuitive eating the last year and I’m finally noticing a difference in my view of food and my body’s signals. The other day I ate a baked sweet potato as a snack and loved it which I would normally never ever do, I’d think “ugh a veggie as a snack.” I also passed on dessert which is uncommon, but I just felt okay without it. Next day I had like 4 cookies and felt no guilt or anything about it because my body wanted them and I no longer see them as “bad.”
Thank you for sharing your journey too! I’m glad we have accounts like Abbey to educate us and help us see food as fuel.
Goals! I’m only 3 months into intuitive eating after dieting for a while . I had already slipped out of dieting a few month before starting this and gained some weight. I have since gained even more . I’m trying really hard not to be bothered by the weight gain, but I’m just so uncomfortable . I’m really hoping my hunger goes down soon and I can cut some of this weight naturally. 🥲
@@Dazzlemebeautifully Hi Tiffanie, I can really relate. The first few months I did gain weight and it was uncomfortable that none of my clothes fit! Knowing that this was normal & temporary kept me from going crazy. I ended up seeing a dietitian who encouraged me to eat an even wider variety of foods. I know it is hard now but it gets better! I also focus a lot on just moving my body (walking) or signing up for a low impact class (pilates) which is working out a lot better than intense workouts.
@@ariesleocap Thank you for the reply . That’s encouraging . I’ve still been doing weight training because I enjoy it, but I’ve been paying attention to how I’m feeling and sometimes take extra rest days . I also stopped adding in cardio for the time being because I hate it 😂
She's so good at breaking down complex biological processes for us all to understand clearly! thank you for making real objective science accessible!
I get what you meant, but I think the word "vulgarize" has a negative connotation. Simplify, break down, unravel, explain - might be better words.
@@dim9753 very possible... i'm french canadian and tend to invent my own english words based off french lol. thanks for letting me know.
I’m recovering from an ED and rly struggling with weight gain :( it feels like my options are either killing my body, or just being uncomfortable with my body for the rest of my life
I am in recovery too and the one thing I have learned is that the sooner you let go, the easier it gets. Just try your best to listen to your body and your mind will catch up. Work with a therapist too. My intuitive eating focused therapist has helped so much. Best of luck to you on your recovery journey. ❤️
It will get better I promise, I never would’ve thought but it does!
@@lauren6860 thank you ❤️
@@katharinaprinz8283 thank u
I'm recovered and all I have to say is, after a while you just have to give in.
Enjoy the process, and take this time to eat all the foods you've been scared of. The more you gain weight and realise that 'hey! this isn't that bad!' and begin to appreciate the extra energy, the easier it gets.
But you will have to push yourself all the way :) good luck, and I hope you have a therapist or some support. I didn't, but watching videos by people such as Alice Olivia really helped me relax. I eat healthier now and I exercise, but I'm really chill about it and I'm so glad I recovered. Focus on getting your body and mind back to healthy first, and you can focus on health and maybe losing a little of the excess weight later (which will come naturally, I promise. Just DON'T RELAPSE!!!)
Can u do a video on kombucha, probiotics and if “fixing ur digestion” is actually something you can do with these and if so how much this works?
Thanks for the suggestion!
Yes please!
Yes please! I’d love to see a video on these topics as well!
Yessss
I’d love to see this!
I couldn’t focus Bc I kept on reading the comments and had to watch the video twice lol
This is my problem always
@@Charliefulle lolll
I couldn’t focus because she kept saying “aka” 😥
To anyone reading this: I hope you are having an amazing day, staying safe, and know you are beautiful (even if you are having trouble seeing it).
❤️❤️❤️
🧡🧡☺️ You too Anna
I was eating as little as 400-600 calories a day in order to lose weight until I couldn’t anymore. I wasn’t losing anything and was basically starving myself for nothing. I finally decided that this is not the way to go so I joined a gym and increased my calorie intake after learning about reverse dieting and damaged metabolism . I am currently eating about 1,000 calories and while I gained some weight in the beginning, the scale has finally started to move down as I slowly increase my intake. I’m slowly becoming less scared of food
This makes me hopeful! I eat around 900 but want to eat more because eating less has not made me lose weight anymore. But I’m very scared of gaining weight. How long before the weight starts to go down again??
@@Itscalistarodriguez I will talk for myself here since It’s different for everyone but it took me about a month or so for my weight to start going down again. It’s been consistent since then but it’s at a much slower pace than I’m used to, so I would really suggest trusting the process and being patient. You can do it! I believe in you :)
@@Itscalistarodriguez It’s not letting me edit but I just wanted to add that at first I gained weight which is understandable because I upped about 400 calories at once and I think that’s the scariest part. At some point I stalled and after that is when it slowly started going down again. I combine weight training and a balanced diet and although I just now went back to the weight I was before I started this. I look and feel so much better! And also eat so much more which is the best part in my opinion hahahaha
I love this so much! I had an eating disorder on and off for over6 years, no need to say that my metabolism was destroyed because my body was so used to absorb everything to survive. Now, I’m in my anniversary without a relapse and I no longer fear food, hence I’m winning weight because my body was so used to storing, it can sometimes be hard because my mind is not at its 100, but I also know that my body is so smart that it will relearn and my health comes first (:
I've been doing reverse dieting for a while with the difference that I did not gradually increase my calories. To me the positive effects started pretty quickly. Although my problems were weight gain, slow metabolism and general discomfort and I do find that it is still getting better. Thank you for the video, it was very informative!:)
Thanks for sharing! Glad it was helpful
I didn't know it at the time, but I had anorexia and hypothalamic amenorrhea when I was 16, and my parents got me "No Period, Now What?" It changed my life. I was overwhelmed and scared by the thoughts of never having a period again, and that book taught me that other women struggled with the same thing I did, and they recovered! I got my period back when I was 18, and I'm the strongest physically and mentally that I've ever been. I'm 22 now and a studying dietitian! As I'm looking for resources to help future clients this video came up and it just reminded me of how far I've come, and how far I hope to bring others! I thank God, my parents, Dr. Nicola Rinaldi and Abbey! ❤
I ate 1000 calories a day for like a year but I couldn’t lose any weight, and that lead to binges and then I gained about 8kg. Then I learnt about reverse dieting and slowly added calories up to 2100 a day, and in total I gained like half a kilogram lol (it was as Abby said, I gained a bit more and then it normalized). Now I’m eating 1600 a day as a deficit and so far it’s working fine!
How much did you increase/add calories intake every week
How long did u do the reverse diet for? Time period?
@@TheSyedraiyan oh wow this was so long ago!! I don't really remember but probably around 500 calories spread out in a week
While this may be helpful for people in a normal weight range who are trying to stop dieting, it’s extremely discouraging as someone who is overweight and needs to lose weight to constantly hear that losing weight is pointless since you’ll gain it back, your set point is your set point! I wish you could do a video on how to lose weight that actually needs to be lost without causing metabolic damage in the first place as it would be much more beneficial than these videos that are always looking through the viewpoint of a normal weight starting point.
A lot of the intuitive eating viewpoint is that fixing your relationship with food is more important than the number on the scale. Abby in a lot of videos has mentioned that you can't really be aiming to lose weight while you eat intuitively. If you feel as though you need to lose weight for medical reasons, a different approach is probably needed. That being said, it doesn't have to be a crash diet approach.
I've written very similar comments before so I know how you feel. That said, her most oft repeated advice is to work with a registered dietician, preferably one that specializes in Intuitive Eating.
If you haven't watched her videos on that, I recommend looking them up.
I resisted the idea for quite some time, but I finally bought the book on it. I'm still working on my relationship with food, but I know I'm happier in that regard than I've ever been before. I understand having health concerns, I have them too. Intuitive Eating is not a weight loss program; it's about changing your relationship with food and your body. That ultimately results in being healthier even if not as thin as we're told we should be.
Megan Beaule agreed it doesn’t need to be a crash dieting approach, which is why it would be helpful to hear her suggestions on it! Sure I can learn to eat intuitively at this weight, but my weight now qualifies me as borderline obese, and eating intuitively to maintain this weight is just as unhealthy in my view
Natacha oceane has REALLY good info about losing weight without doing metabolic damage. I suggest checking out her videos- she’s amazing.
This topic is on the list to talk about! Thank you for the suggestion
I went all in to heal my HA and it was such a good choice. My relationship with food is better than it ever was before!
I'm so glad!!
@@tamaramarie1071 For me, it took about 5 months to get my period back. But I know a lot of people take more or less time for their cycles to start again. It depends on a lot of factors!
Also, important, once my cycle started again, I *stayed* all in and worked on my relationship with food, so I could become an intuitive eater/exerciser, rather than immediately falling back into restrictive habits. I read the Intuitive Eating book, listened to a lot of intuitive eating podcasts, and had a session with a non diet dietician. After that, I never consciously stopped being all in either--my eating and exercise just naturally fell into a comfortable, intuitive level after being unrestricted for so long. Good luck!!
@@ForthcommaAbby Did you gain a lot of fat since starting your journey, and I have you lose fat (I'm purposefully not talking about weight here as it really doesn't matter that much :))? I need to "go all in" to get my period back and heal my relationship with food but i'm scared I won't be able to get to a body I'm comfortable in (no matter the weight), I just want to feel comfortable an quite lean without being ripped and under my set point weight. I've seen people who kept muscle and lost fat during their all in journey and some didn't and I'm scared...I should see a dietician or/and naturopath maybe?
@@-ihhssan-9062 A really important part of my journey with this was doing the work on body image and becoming body positive. I highly recommend starting there, because it makes recovery SO much easier. (A free resource I found super helpful with that is the Food Psych Podcast with Christy Harrison!) A non diet dietician could be totally helpful. I have no experience with naturopaths, so I couldn't speak to that. But if you're going to go all in I think what's most important is to not work with someone who will put you on a diet. My dietician helped me most with adding food and variety into my daily eating.
I don't weigh myself, so it's hard to say how my body has changed exactly. I definitely gained necessary fat (I was too lean for my frame before), but I feel completely comfortable in my body. Actually, I feel MORE comfortable now that I've done the body image work and am at a bigger size than I did before when I was smaller and in a tough mindset about it. Good luck! You got this!
hello, I was wondering if I had metabolic damage, I was eating less and loosing weight SUPER SLOWLY (5kg in 7 months since starting) but I wanted to ask if you could give me an idea on how little you had to eat to get metabolic damage?
I realized I was doing my diet wrong when I woke up yesterday feeling terribly weak and my body does not want to move at all. It was an unusual feeling because on days when I wake up and don't want to move, it's because my muscles are stiff. But yesterday, they were plain weak. My body was screaming for proper nutrition so I will surely eat properly from now on. Thank you for this video. It's amazing to know about the science of diet and exercise XD
Today actually marks the 1 year anniversary of my deciding to go all in! I /had/ osfed/ednos from the ages of 11-22 with brief periods of quasi-recovery mixed in there.
This is the first time in my life i've been able to go a year without relapsing.
I can eat a bowl of icecream and not purge or hate myself after. I can cook food I enjoy again, and actually eat it. It's flippin amazing.
Even though my weight is higher than my disordered brain would've liked, i don't freakin care any more! I never thought this would happen for me. I feel content and respectful with my body now.
Thank you for sharing your experience!
Currently going through this right now! no extreme hunger but definitely large weight fluctuations with eating intuitively.
I'm 4 months in!
The hardest part is the weight gain, but I just have to trust my body to get to its own set point.
Stephanie Buttermore is truly an inspiration next to Alice Olivia and Kayla Rose
Yeah i love Stephanie she definitely helped me to
It is worth it! I went through this last summer and all I can say is keep going! My weight went up and down and finally is stable. Eating intuitively is the BEST decision I ever made. I'm rooting for you!!
Thank you for sharing your experience!
@@ariesleocap yes! the food freedom is absolutely life-changing. I'm focusing more on looking into myself and asking why I feel so uncomfortable with viewing myself at a higher weight
Absolutely agree!
I am a larger person and I did All in for 2 years and gained over 100lbs I thought it was helping in the beginning but the weight never stopped going up. Now I'm seeing a dietician who is great and basically like Abbey I'm so glad I found her cuz the other ones just wanted me to go back to starving myself. I see my therapist as well she's amazing and I think this combo has really helped. I have hypothyroidism and since working with them my metabolism has gone up almost too fast now. I haven't lost weight yet just maintained but my relationship with food and body is so much better.
Thank you for sharing your experience!
I recently saw a video of Matthew McConaughey talking about the process of regaining weight after an extreme loss. He describes all the issues you have listed at the beginning of this video. He also mentioned Tom Hanks who believes that his diabetes was triggered by losing and gaining weight for Cast Away.
Ugh I wish I didn’t need to eat anymore. This is so stressing...
This made me so sad.. food is yummy fuel 😟
@@janehoe. aw sorry about that, it really sucks... I wish I could see it like that
I’m sorry you feel that way. Please seek help, like a therapist or dietitian. Food is delicious and meant to be enjoyed, not to cause stress .
You deserve to eat, friend. I hope you're able to get to a good place with food. ❤️
@acidtea00 I completely understand:( i’m suffering from an eating disorder and for a while now i’ve wanted to recover. but the idea of eating “so much” food and gaining back all the weight i’ve lost is keeping me trapped. it’s overwhelming, and terrifying to think about. i understand how you feel .
In my personal experience, reverse dieting did not help. Having an eating disorder that implies the uncontrolled obsession for counting calories, I was finding it very stressful. I then decided, with the help of a therapist and a nutritionist, to try the all in. It was HARD and yes I did gain weight fast but guess what, it was the weight I needed to go back to and healthy body, with my period, hair loss stopped. I kept the all in for months and at some point my weight gain just stopped. Now I can eat extras knowing that my body is stable on this weight. Of course I don't eat cheeseburgers and cakes all day, it's an healthy diet, but I do eat big portions and also snacks like chocolate, cookies etc daily, with pizzas once or twice a week etc without gaining a single pound.
Mentally I'm still recovering, but my body is happier than ever.
I lost over 200lbs in a VERY unhealthy way and would sometimes only eat 600-800 calories a day. When the effects of that made me realize the damage I was doing to my body and started eating more calories I was stunned at how quickly I gained weight back. I've gained 85-90lbs back in only 2 years. Now I'm working on my metabolism so I can start losing weight again. I've found some great resources on TH-cam and this was a very comprehensive and well put together video to help me learn what I should be doing in order to get to where I want to be. Thank you!!!
it's so important for young women and other AFAB people with problems like chronic fatigue to understand that the "little" unconscious tasks/movements take up so much more energy than we think.
For sure
My body’s been through so much during the last 3 years of my ED recovery. I’ve learnt that if you listen to your body it will take you to where it’s supposed to be if you just trust it !
Glad I found this channel. So many doctors and nutritionists simply shame us into doing what "should" be done, when what should be done is not clear and not the same for everyone.
I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve tried for years to heal my relationship with food and my body. I always yo-yo dieted, growing up in the 90s slim fast was the big thing and since my mom was always dieting I tried it too at age 9. I found a New Years resolution list I made at age 11 and one of the resolutions was “lose 20 pounds.” It was heartbreaking to see! Around 18years ago I wanted to lose 10 pounds so I tried the south beach diet. I went off it when I was moving because I couldn’t cook but I gained 2 pant sizes in 2 weeks when I ate carbs again. My body was never the same after that. I wish I had never done it!!!! I’m still working to not feel guilty about eating carbs. I’m at the best point I’ve ever been with food and my body but I’m still obese and I don’t feel like I’m at a healthy weight legitimately so it’s such a struggle to figure it all out.
As someone who used to eat less than 800 kcal/day, I can't see myself going "all-in" no matter how vehemently a dietitian recommends it. I think reverse dieting could be really healing for someone who's suffered from anorexia and/or bulimia. It just needs to be paired with therapy, and followed by a switch to intuitive eating once he or she is content with their weight and metabolism.
Nice to think that, but you will be stuck in this "reverse dieting" forever, and will not be weight restored, so its kind of like just doing the same thing with a bit more calories. Just not worth it.
@@JolieUTU you don't know that plus the all in approach can be very triggered. I know for me reserve dieting would be sm more beneficial to me, yeah it would take longer but I would be able to handle it unlike the all in approach. The initial weight gain can be triggering and turn a person away from recovery complete at least for me.
@@JolieUTU the way I understand it is that gradually increasing calories keeps you from getting an initial massive weight gain and eases your metabolism into regular function.
@@JolieUTU not everyone with an eating disorder needs to be weight restored though. i struggle with disorder eating but was 200 pounds when it started and now i’m 140- a healthy weight
I remember my grandma always having me on a diet or a scale. My mom taking me to Jenny craig as a 15 year old where they would weigh me every week. They had me on 1200 a day! Starving my body on crappy nutrientless food. Looking back on that now that was 19 years ago and I realized my relationship with food was messed up because the women in my life had messed up relationships with food or disordered eating. I can’t believe that was allowed.
If you were overweight they were trying their best to help you the only ways they knew how. Is it better for a parent to allow an overweight child to keep gaining? 1200 is low for anyone let alone a growing teenager and I disagree with calorie counting in general but rather feeding healthier foods but the intention sounds like it was good...I hope you forgive them and find balance within your body.
@@starriw8050 the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
@@jaqenhghar6244 True...people are just doing the best they can though and most of us are deeply flawed so its best to try to see through the eyes of everyone even people that hurt you so you understand they were either confused and suffering or meant no harm and you dont have to carry around any anger resentment or hate because thats alot of negativity to carry for a lifetime in addition to the traumatic memories themselves..
Nothing like a mother to f’ck your mind up as a kid. Mine used “diet” as a weapon to have power over a child. Pretty typical of narcissists. So, tell me again how you think they were trying their best.😞
SAME! I remember my nanny taking me to Jenny Craig and putting me on all sorts of supplements and I was taking truckers love it at like 13 and back then it had ingredient thats are now outlawed and were used to make meth! And they wonder why I had a drug addiction for years and a body complex.
I’d love a video with someone in a larger body discussing the topics of set point, intuitive eating, and weight loss. I feel like it’s easy to embrace these concepts when your “set point” is at a lower end of the spectrum, but I’d like to hear the perspective of someone in a larger body!
Love your videos Abbey!
Thank you for the suggestion!
I honestly don't think anyones set point is very overweight, obese or morbidly obese, I don't mean to say that in judgment as someone who has struggled with their weight, most of it goes back to habits, culture and lack of knowledge. Intuitive eating is amazing for people who struggle with ED that restric food but for ED where people overeat IE could literally kill someone who knows no limits and their body is addicated to food. Sometimes seeking medical professionals is necessary and also therapy.
Agreed. Most of the people taking about reverse dieting are maybe 10-20 lbs overweight. I need advice for mistakenly thinking if I consume 1000-1300 cal/day and exercise for 7 years I’d lose weight. I’m looking to gradually increase calories to not gain even more than my 55 extra lbs of gravity but to also actually feed my body and get rid of some chronic fatigue, digestive and other issues.
It doesn't matter where you start!
@@SolidSiren I wish that were true. I'm at the highest weight I've ever been after my last pregnancy and never struggled with my weight as much as I do now. I was always able to lose weight but now being 70 lbs overweight losing anything has been the hardest it's ever been in my life.
I just deleted my calorie tracker app, that said that I should eat 1295 calories. I have not had my period for months and I’m hoping to get it back. This video made me trust my body, and it’s needs. I know it is not going to be the easiest to start not carrying about every single macro and calorie that I eat, but I’m gonna try my best
So happy I found your channel, for the longest time I've tried intermittent fasting and eating only breakfast and dinner and it was taking a toll on my metabolism, thank you so much! I really needed to hear this
This video could not come at a better time. I was literally contemplating my reverse diet this past few days.
I'm so glad! I hope it is helpful
Me too! Omg
Me too! Damages after years of restriction and loss of fertility....
I just wanted to say that this channel has been so helpful in my journey towards (finally) choosing recovery over my decade-long eating disorder. Thanks for everything you do, Abbey. Dismantling the diet industry one video at a time!
I'm so glad!!
I think every service member who goes through initial military training should watch this video. We all lose so much weight so quickly while in training (not by choice, obviously), and then we end up gaining more than we’ve every weighed in our lives and struggle to get down to even our pre-basic training weight. Knowing that this is a result of metabolic adaptation really helps-both in coping with it mentally/emotionally and deciding what the next step is to recover from such extreme weight cycling.
Thank you for sharing. I'm glad it could be helpful
I've tried both approaches and they both worked, in different periods of my ed journey. They both have their + and - so it's hard to say which one is better.
Could you summarize the pros and cons of both variations?
@@ititania_ I see this comment now, 3 years later. Do you still wonder?
@@thealiceftwi wonder! 😊
Wow it's crazy! I just realized that I did the All in approach intuitively. After dealing with ED all my life I slowly learned about intuitive eating and slowly started to have a better relationship with food. I have gained A LOT of weight this last year and, even if my doctor started to tell me to diet, I just didn't listened and tried to love my body anyway. I knew that I was eating like this for a reason and I really didn't want to shame me or my body for it. After about a year, I started to feel less hungry and more "calm" toward food. Now it's been a few months that I just eat intuitively and I think I'm starting to lose weight. I'm trying to be neutral about it cause gaining or losing weight isn't a good or a bad thing and yeah, I just feel really healthy, not just now but before when I was eating a lot too! It's reaaally good when you have/had an ED to learn about loving yourself no matter what and to see food as just food to be happy about.
Now I just LOOOVE to eat, all my meals are happy moments, I even dance with pure joy everytime I eat ahah.
Wish you all to heal and to feel good about yourself
After approximately 10 years of yo-yo dieting, (the last 2 of them I was fully keto) I realised that I was cycling the sam 15 kg on and off, and honestly I have no idea what my natural weight is because I started dieting so early (by being bullied by my dermatologist go figure 🙆🏻♀️) going all in has helped me regulate my hunger soooo much ! I no longer fear food especially when I'm around people! The worst part is the weight gain, people around you even the colsest to you can be harsh, some days are worse than the others and honestly I'm still trying to accept the idea that I might never lose any of the weight I gained, but I take it one day at a time .. thanks Abby for the video ❤️
Thank you for sharing! I'm so glad it's helpful
TW: calorie counting, restrictive dieting
I didn't even realise that I was sliding into a restrictive dieting that my body absolutely hated until I saw this and the intuitive eating videos. I workout regularly and I had started to count my macros because I want to gain muscle. I promised myself that I wouldn't get into the restrictive dieting mode but it's so easy to do that! I was losing weight with my regular intake but not gaining muscle and I should have just recomped my food habits instead of trying to cut calories and ruining my gains with more weight.
I need this written out. I’m so stupidly confused.
she's basically copying from the book "Why we eat (too much)" :)
She talks too much and doesn’t get to the point.
@@MacTheRipper13 I'm gonna read that book immediately, thank you!
I went all in 2yrs and 7 months ago... I'm 37 with a past of yo yo dieting. I started at 154 having dieted and lost about 20lbs to get there. In all in recovery I've gained 80lbs...im heavier than I've ever been in my life. I have no idea of it will go down... This is a long, long process for some people...
Bravo! In a sea of misinformation, product sponsorship and extreme trends, this video (and your content in general), is a gem! A BIG thanks from a former disordered eater :)
You did such an amazing job explaining this! It’s like a university lecture, but free. Thank you for your content and all the work you put into it!
I started with all in, but hit a wall and stopped being hungry. Then I started increasing calories slowly, but not on a plan, it was just me using a bit of time to break through the mental blocks of eating more because I was recovering on my own, which wasn't easy.
Thank you for sharing
Abbey, thank you for this, it’s a real eye opener! My husband keeps telling me I’m not eating enough..
I’m 5’5, I weight train a couple times a week, and jog/run once a week. Not intensely with either.
But I thought 1300-1400 calories/day is good, it’s enough, right? Once in a while 800 calories..Not severely restricting..
It’s been a year, I have dropped 15-20 pounds -at first I felt great- and so kept the weight off this way, but in the process became anemic (not enough iron because not getting enough from restricting food), sleep is getting inconsistent, and starting to become really fatigued again.
Calorie counting works for me, as before was becoming overweight -and was binging on some weekends- prevents me from eating unhealthy foods (as I don’t want to visually see that I ate deep fried foods, burgers..).
Also I think it would affect my mental health negatively if I go ‘all in’- I can’t imagine gaining 15-20 pounds back quickly as I didn’t feel great at that weight either.
I really think reverse dieting would work for me because I won’t be unhappy if I gain 5 pounds gradually eating more (healthy whole foods as I have been doing), and will regain my energy back.. would like to keep my energy up for the strength training as I really like doing that and keeping muscle mass for my overall health.
Your body needs energy, and food is the fuel!
Thanks for this video! I found reverse dieting super helpful when I didn't have any hunger signals during recovery with the long term goal to eat intuitively. I was so intimidated to eat carbs too so worked into it was so helpful. My period came back during the reverse diet and my hunger signals regulated as well once my calories were up :)
how many calories did it take for your period to come back?
This is so good! I’ve been working on this with my dietitian. My story doesn’t start with intentional dieting but a unexpected family tragedy that caused me to go months without properly eating due to grief. Once I began eating not only did I regain but I do have that “overshoot” issue. I truthfully have never struggled with my weight until recently, but I’m so glad for you and other dieticians out there because it would’ve been so easy for me to go down a vicious cycle of dieting when it turns out restriction was my problem in the first place. I’m on a mechanical eating journey until my dietician feels like I should try intuitive eating. Already I’m seeing things stabilize and noticing that I’m having hunger and fulness cues again. After a while I no longer feel hunger but I also wasn’t feeling fulness cues when I was eating so it was difficult to gauge. Now every time I feel hunger pangs it’s just a reminder of the positive journey I’m on as well as to eat LOL! Also I find eating often but smaller meals is helping avoid some of the negative symptoms of metabolic adaptation. My heartburn is much better and overall I’m just feeling more consistently energized. I said it’s all to say there is hope! And you don’t just have to eat salads all the time 😅
Thank you for sharing your experience!! I'm glad that's working for you!
Video request!! Maybe you’ve already done this, but I would love a video about hormones and weight, hunger, and cravings. Specifically, maybe how different types of birth control affect that? and how it’s different for women/men?
This was helpful. I never factored in calories absorbed, so it is possible a severe restriction of calories is even worse than one would realize.
This video is excellent! Thank you for this insightful information. I'm currently 4 months all in and, even when I have to admit it has had some emotional burden, I can recommend it enough if you come from a life of restriction, dieting, obsession with clean eating, exercise burnout, ETC. This process not only helps to heal the body but it forces the mind to see that as uncomfortable as gaining weight is in this society is, it won't kill you. Thanks for sharing. I'm familiar with Nicola Rinaldi's work but I'm seriously considering reading the book after this one.
Thank you for sharing! So glad it was helpful
Maybe could you talk about Demi Lovato's eating disorder which she discusses in the first episode of her new documentary Dancing with the Devil, and also in her previous documentary Simply Complicated? She just got on Ellen recently, and she said that her past team "hid all sugar, even fruit" from her, and that on her birthday she was only allowed to have sliced watermelon and non-fat whipped cream, and that it was only now on her most recent birthday that she's had birthday cake in a long time. She was also put into boxing and jiu-jitsu and she did a lot, a lot, a lot of these high intensity exercises. And this was a person who had a full team of nutritionists, doctors, therapists. She also talked in interviews and like a zoom call with her old cast members from Disney how she would have meetings over her lunch break, and how her dressing room was always set at a high temperature because she was always freezing. She also said in Simply Complicated that when she broke up with her long-time boyfriend, she started purging again after a long time. And then after 6 years of sobriety, the controlling environment from her team was too much for her that she relapsed. I think her journey really makes a great case for why further controlling someone's relationship with food when they've had a history of disordered eating is only bad for them. I hope you could talk about it.
I would sue them. What idiots. These people call themselves experts and swear to help people!
These were not people that had their best interest in mind and probably not that knowledgeable about what they were doing, she should sue any doctor involved for malpractice because that’s pretty unacceptable
This was a good video for me to see. Someone suggested "reverse dieting" to me online but seeing this, it is really for underweight people. I'm overweight despite eating less than 1200 consistently for years. I'm glad I didn't try this. I definitely cannot gain any more weight. Thank you, Abbey!
So what’s the solution for overweight people going through this?
@@vikkicoup1766 Nobody knows apparently. My doctors have just told me to lift weights and forget about trying to lose anymore. It's very depressing
@@morgenmorgen4625 This is so disheartening. I’m going through this right now, hoping for the best.
@@morgenmorgen4625 I think focusing on exercise, both resistance and aerobic, is a good idea. It might help change your body composition, but only if you keep at it for at least a few years. Good luck!
I literally don’t believe that anybody can be overweight eating constantly 1200 calories. You have to have some serious health issues, go to the doctor and check thyroid. Or you just miscounting your calories. One option also can be that you restrict most of the days and then binge some days which put you in a calorie surplus.
Damn I needed this video so bad
I suffered from an ED for years and started recovering on my own. Gained like 50lbs real quick. Now trying to love weight again but even after a year of normal eating I have only been able to lose weight by dropped my calories fairly low. But I dont wanna screw up my metabolism even more so even though its helped me get back to a low weight I don't want to have to eat like this forever to not gain.
Thank you. I met with a nutritionist. As a cyclists she noted how I was under eating due to my yo yo diet behavior yet extensive workouts. I do appreciate this break down.
what a wonderfully informative video! I'm just starting on my weight loss and have been thinking what i need to do once i reach my goal and knew a little bit about reverse dieting but this has really educated me beyond that. thank you!
If you want to save time, skip to around 12:00
Hope you and the baby are doing well, Abby! 💛
Thank you! ❤️
yea! we are doing good thanx:)
I would say that reverse dieting can still lead to being in a calorie deficit when you hit your goal weight. I wish I had seen this video back then 💫 Right now I am carrying all the weight I lost and more, but understanding that I need to allow my body to work it out and that there are more important things for me to focus on. It’s a massive journey, thanks for sharing.
I tried going all in back in May because I have been without a period for a year now (if I don't count two withdrawal bleeds from to rounds of progesterone challenge tests) and before my last natural period, I hadn't had it for 8 months. And prior to that, I went about 6 months without one. I struggled so much with body image while trying the all in approach (though I struggled prior to it and still do) and have been trying to switch to a more intuitive mindset while still being mindful of what I eat. I should probably pursue counseling for help with my struggles with food/exercising, but I think my biggest issue for lack of period is probably mental stress. So challenging to handle!! But these past few months I have gotten much better at managing it. And Abbey's videos have also helped me to find balance and a healthier mindset on nutrition.
RD2B here that is super passionate about everything metabolism. Love this video!!!
You should make a podcast!
Perhaps!
I totally agree! I usually listen to these videos while out on a walk, and I'm too cheap to pay for TH-cam premium so it keeps pausing accidentally when my phone is in my pocket. 😂 Or maybe turn the audio from the videos into a podcast? 🙂
Agree!
I agree !
agreed!!!
You're awesome! I've suspected this for a very long time after accidentally discovering it years ago. Well done on presenting this! Thank you!
The way you describe All-In in this video is very, very similar to the diet I was put on by my OB, Nutritionist, & lactation consultant while nursing my youngest kid (just turned 6yo in July '20) in order to attempt to produce enough milk (along with the diet was medication & supplements as well).
In about a year, I went from a "normal/healthy" BMI to being Stage 2 Obese; they all shrugged it off citing that a surprising number of people gain weight while nursing instead of the weight loss you usually hear about. This large weight gain totally removed my [previously great] hunger & fullness signals/feelings, screwed over my menstruation cycle, caused my bipolar episodes [both the ups & downs] to be so much worse, etc.
New Drs & specialists all-round now and while I'm still overweight I'm doing much better (with every 5-10lb I loose, we notice overall improvement in my health :) ). I've been on a scheduled-eating (4-5 meals a day at set times) calorie counting (I have a minimum# I have to hit & a maximum# I should try my best to stay under) & macro counting (goals are to be close to 50%carb, 30% fat, & 20%protein...hitting minimum #g of protein is the hardest!) diet to help with the extra weight and the hunger/fullness cues.
After 2yrs of this particular diet I've actually started to get my hunger & fullness cues back within the last month! They're still pretty subtle [a small shadow of what they once were], but going from years of absolutley nothing to a tiny bit of something is such a huge victory to me.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm glad that's working for you!
Kris, I am also bipolar. I understand that most drugs used to treat our condition leach out in the milk and should be removed if you want to get pregnant and nurse. Bipolar in itself is very hard when the meds don't work or I am off them. I applaud your strength to face all of this while generating a baby and nursing it. I am happy to hear that you were able go get it under control. All the best to your family.
Coming from disordered eating past with a damaged metabolism myself......reverse dieting makes sense to me bc I went from being obese,eating the doors off the hinges with terrible foods to the opposite side to starving myself, fasting for 64 hours, eating zero carbs. My doctor wanted me to get therapy to fix that issue but I honestly can't afford it. So, the reverse dieting is the method I am choosing to fix it. It allows me to plan my food, inch up week by week, not gain weight, and choose the foods I want to fulfill my needs. Not going crazy extreme on either side of this issue. I feel like the psychologic damage the all in approach would make things even worse. We all saw it through stephanie buttermore's all in videos. That was rough. Staying patient and eating more weekly is def helping me. I understand the video and appreciate all the info! Great job!
This video and Natacha Oceanes videos have changed my life so much for the better. Thank you 💗
This is one of the most helpful video on metabolism regulation I have viewed yet.
I love the term "body trust"!
Also, what a great video, very informative!
Thank you!
Your videos are genuinely so informative, and I’m finally setting up a consult with my local dietitian. I can’t do this on my own, and I want to be healthier. I’m grateful for you and your expertise!
As somebody who was on the ana abc diet for 8 months, thanks, my hair is thickening as well! I'm nearly back to normal. However, due to me doing this severe diet throughout a time in my life when I was meant to be developing, I now have the body of a child and very thin bones and wrists due to malnutrition, I also have pretty bad anemia which comes with some very fun symptoms.
I hope you're continuing to do very well. Very relatable. All the best
@@KeketsoN01 I actually am! I got a boyfriend and he loves me enough for the both of us, I'm maintaining and got my period back, my skin is less yellow, and I'm building up my strength :)
@@tasha1955 so very very happy for you!!!!!! All the best moving forward 🤍
@@heh4389 how did u guess lmao, also I'm like good now btw, my bones are still a tad shitty and I still am anemic but apart from that I'm good :)
So I’m a male with very bad adrenal fatigue… I finally put 2 and 2 together to figure out that I’ve had a restrictive approach to food and calories for 20 years and that this has caused a metabolic problem which essentially is the same thing as adrenal fatigue. I appreciate this video so much… I understand that most people seeking this information are women so the video is a bit geared towards them, but for men out there that may have navigated here this stuff applies to you as well. I have gained a tremendous amount of weight in the last 15 months all while being at a caloric deficit the whole time due to my eating disorder. My body, in response to stress added weight, so I ate less, then it added weight so I ate less. I drove my body into complete exhaustion. I was waking up in the middle of the night with adrenaline rushes, exhausted all day, high (what I call) body anxiety (meaning my anxiety was generated physically not mentally but then LED to mental anxiety as a result), my resting heart rate dropped to the low 50’s, my heart skipped beats 2-3 times a minute, etc etc etc. 2 weeks of eating at maintenance level calories for my current weight and activity level and I’m telling you - resting heart rate came up to 65, I haven’t had a single skipped heartbeat, insomnia is decreasing, anxiety is way down, no adrenaline rushes, etc. STOP DIETING. Dieting, I’m convinced, is a mental disorder. Thank you so much for this video (maybe make a short one for dudes too?)
Abbey, do you have any videos with advice for individuals with weights in the 500 pound range and/or with binge-eating disorders?
I don't, but I can put this on the list to talk about
Maggie, I think one of the biggest issues with that range is that doctors seem to completely underestimate and under treat metabolism. I know a few people online in that range who only lost weight by testing and treating thyroid, insulin resistance, and sex hormone difficulties. Yet most doctors just suggest a starvation diet. Ugh. Makes me so angry!
@@lynncrf most doctors aren't very educated in the field of nutrition. I think it's best to consult a registered dietician, who is not affiliated with any organizations like HAES, Fat acceptance or extreme diets.
@@jessicakathryn I disagree, seeking out a dietitian who works from a HAES lense would be beneficial to those in infinifat bodies. They would address any issues brought forth by the client, helping the individual to care for their body, at any size.
@@bunkertons infinifat? Do you mean morbidly obese? They should be working towards not being morbidly obese. A HAES dietician is going to continue telling them what they want to hear. If you're that fat, most of your issues are going to be because of your weight. It's just fact. I only have an extra 50 pounds and cam feel the difference in my joints. You can't tell me a 300 - 500 pound person is healthy.
this is probably the most important and informative video you've ever made. it explains everything I needed to know to heal my metabolism after years of restrictive eating. Thank you
I absolutely love the knowledge, time, information, and passion you have in your videos! Your incredibly smart, beautiful and kind! Thank you!
Thank you ❤️
Awesome video Abbey and you are absolutely right about reset and metabolism restoration after prolonged dieting/purging. I suffered from an eating disorder for more than 30 years, and have now been in recovery for 5 years. It took almost 6 months to return to a normal, healthy weight after bloating and electrolyte imbalance. Now that I am weight restored and at a normal BMI, I do not have to diet at all, just eat nutritious foods (mostly), but I do not deprive myself when I want to eat something that has been labeled as "non-healthy". I so agree with you when you say that you do not like labels such as "bad" or "good" foods. That is what starts a lot of young people falling into the dieting culture, which then leads to an eating disorder like anorexia, which I am recovering from (we are always in a state of "recovery" because ED is a psychological disorder which manifests itself physically, so we are always "recovering", one day at a time, one meal at a time...). I watched Stephanie Butterworth all through her "all in" recovery method here on YT, and she was awesome and so real and she looks fantastic now and can eat normally and no need for any cheat day meals! She is still athletic and has great muscle tone, but not anything excessive. I appreciate all the information you conveyed here and love your channel!
Is the body’s set point just a number or is there a compositional aspect as well? For example let’s say my set point is 150 lbs and I am 30% body fat. If I lost weight but gained it back as muscle so that I ended up at 150 lbs but 10% body fat, would my body still fight to get to 30% body fat, or would it be ok at 150 lbs regardless of body fat percentage?
I’m wondering the exact same !! I reckon that you’d need to have a certain amount of fat depending on who it is but I’ve seen people gaining weight but with body recomposition , slowly the fat went off and the weight gained was replaced with muscle ...I don’t know really, I’m really looking forward to having an answer to this bravais would that mean that any weight you are as long as it is our set point at this moment in time we could recomp?
that’s so interesting!! i’m wondering the same!
You would be able to consume more calories than before because muscle burns more calories than fat. Thats why weight training during weight loss can be so helpful
Hi, as far as I know less tan 16% body fat for women it is not advisable and I would think your body will fight to don't get under that.
Same question
this video is amazing. I want to start recovering from my eating disorders and restore my metabolism. I now know I need to just listen to my body and trust the process. thanks so much🥰❤️
Hi, could you please do a video on the Autoimmune Protocol diet? We believe that my fiance has a underlying autoimmune issue which at this point is undiagnosed, and I'm thinking about trialing the diet alongside him.
Thanks for the suggestion! I'll put this on the list
you should get the book “a simple guide to the paleo autoimmune protocol” by Eileen Laird. I have pots/dysautonomia and my cardiologist recommended this for me last year. It definitely was hard to start but i did notice a difference and when I started re introducing foods I was really able to pinpoint ones that my body was reacting negatively to. The only advice I would have is to not get your hopes up, it can take a awhile to start noticing any changes and make sure you are eating enough:)
Missfitandnerdy did a long series on aip about a year ago while she was going through topical steroid withdrawal. You should check it out!
This is so nuanced, bc I basically went all in for 6 months after some stressful life stuff happened 2 yrs after gastric sleeve (800-1200 cals/day). I hope this means that once I try to restart my WL, at the least my metabolic rate will be fairly regular again. Idk, but I guess we’ll see!
Would you PLEASE make a video specifically about bulimia patients during and after long periods of dieting 🙏, I feel like most of the information online is about anorexia patients with very low weights 😏
Yeah.
Omg yes
Wow! I learned so much, somehow I pretty much did the All-in method without knowing about it and it certainly makes sense. Seems like I started it during the pandemic, since I had no choice but to stop my intense exercises(gym rat over here) and started yoga instead. I also started to increase my caloric intake because hellooo pandemic. Abbey, I truly appreciate what you do on your channel. This is amazing and I cannot stop sharing and talking about you.
I think I'm going to try this.
I was on 1200 for a while- and when that stopped working, I went down to 1000 - then 800 and then 500 and then 300.
My metabolism has taken a beating, so this is my last hope.
I believe in you! You can do it I know it :) I started dieting around 2019 - 2020 when I realized how heavy I was. I immediately cut down to 1200 calories a day and back then I was so clueless about dieting. Eventually 1200 stopped working so on many days I found myself being overjoyed if I only consumed 300-800 calories… It never worked past that point, so I went back to eating 1200 but again, I never lost any more weight no matter how much I exercised. (I had already lost a large amount, and I was no longer overweight but I just was always stuck around 15 lbs away from my goal weight) So afterwards I continued to average 1200 cal for an entire year, I wasn’t counting calories but I can always roughly estimate the amount any food has. One time I ate as much as I wanted for an entire week, and I stepped on the scale dreadful of the number I thought I’d see. To my surprise I had LOST a few pounds. I did some digging and I now realize that was my body thanking me for adequately fueling it! I’m going to start reverse dieting, and I’m a bit nervous since I never see it being talked about, but I’m finally ready to start treating my body right. I wish you good luck!
I think I've been doing this by complete accident since the start of the year. I just started letting myself eat whatever I want, and although I gained weight to begin with, my weight now seems to be settling and even dropping a little perhaps (I don't weight myself and just go off how my clothes fit me). My appetite has been insane, especially during lockdown, but seems to be reducing now I've let myself indulge in things. I was skeptical of intuitive eating and the idea of 'all in' but I think it can seriously work for some people.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I'm glad that's working for you
@@AbbeysKitchen Thank you Abbey, keep on spreading the word, you're helping a lot of people!
Such a well put together and informative video. Thank you for using your knowledge to spread truth and wisdom on the internet... and for free. There is so much misinformation out there regarding eating disorders and the psychological effects of dieting and I am so thankful for people like you who are preaching a science-based, holistic approach to healing. Thank you thank you thank you!
Totally agree. When I was first in recovery from my anorexia, I was working with a dietitian and she had me on a reverse diet. Didn't work for me at all - I think its so important to treat those in recovery on an individual level (she was convinced I'd "fit the statistics" and my weight would drastically drop before I'd gain, and was so fixated on showing me all these statistical graphs and basing my eating plan around that). It can honestly be so damaging and stunt recovery. For instance, I felt very unsatisfied with how she was handling my recovery and so I ultimately decided to cut ties with her and rather go off on my own (which retrospectively could've ended extremely badly). All in all, I think all healthcare workers working with ed patients should be hyperaware of this and steer clear from treating them as a statistic and try different methods to see what specifically works for THIER INDIVIDUAL bodies! :)
wdym didn’t work? like you gained weight? u didn’t der your metabolism back? or ect
If applied the all in method I will difinitely gain all my previous weight back because it is basically my normal life without diet
Thanks for ur feedback. I was wondering going on this all in would be a death sentence
I actually have a medically confirmed slow metabolism, my doctor wanted to do an endoscopy, and after not eating as told I went to do the endoscopy and the food still hadn't digested. I explained I was on 3.0mg's of Trulicity, which slowed down my metabolism even more so than average already slow natural metabolism, now I'm back on 0.75mg's of trulicity and I think it doesn't cause as much issues for my type 2 diabetes. However, I'm on Weight Watchers.
Litterally the only reason I don't super restrict my eating to something crazy, is because I thought it would make it so I would gain weight after
I was 258lbs in April of 2021 and now I am 191. 3 days ago I was 184lbs. So I felt that my body was finding homeostasis in the 190s, this has happened three times over the past 2months. My goal is 140 and my body is literally fighting me. I workout and eat in a deficit and now my body is rebelling
So true i have been feeling ravaging in my appetite, literally doesnt make sense to me!
Im only 10 minites in but I wanted to write this before I forgot. Dr Jason Fung claims his approach to water fasting can work against slowing your metabolism while losing weight. A video on your response would be interesting.
He made an excellent video about calories too.
Increasing your calories by 40-50 is unnecessary. I've tried that after my cutting phase and calories at 1300. It was torture. Next time starting from 1350 calories I estimated my NEW maintenance calories, which came to about 2100. I bumped my calories right away to 1800. Stayed there for a week to see how my body reacts. Slight weight gain, water, and glycogen. It's not fat because you are still in a calorie deficit. I felt great, eating more and being myself again. After that, I've increased my calories by 75-100 every week until I found my actual maintenance, which was closer to 2000. I was weight lifting at the same time and was as lean as ever. Then it was a lean bulk. So the second time getting back to my calorie maintenance was easier, faster, and more manageable. I wasn't hangry anymore.:) That was my experiance.
This is all the mom advice I needed on dieting 🥺❤️ thank youuu
When you went through the most common signs and symptoms, all I could think was, “check, check and check!” I’ve been carrying an extra 10-12 lbs for the last two years (after losing about 90 lbs about 6 years ago) and can’t seem to get rid of it, no matter what I do. Intermittent fasting seemed to work for a while, but it all came back. This all makes a lot of sense.