I hear compassion when you recognize that your ex was only capable of the actions he took when he left. Hearing that was super helpful in reflecting on past break ups and thinking about others people's emotional troubles.
I really love how extremely open-minded you are and being able to see things from so many different perceptions. Then the fact that you can explain things to your audience so clearly all while covering so many areas very thoroughly. You nail it every time !! ❤
Wow, a big slap on my face. I was about to cry when I heard this specific sentence "how do I deal with my loneliness ". It was so intense, because it's so true. Thank you for talking about tricky subject with both honesty and soothing voice. Take care
Reflection questions: 1. How do I deal/cope with my loneliness on a day to day basis? 2. How do I conceal my shame? What do you do to cover up the things you don't particularly like about yourself or the things that you are particularly ashamed of? 3. How do I numb muself from emotional discomfort? Is there stuff in my life I am avoiding dealing with? 4. What's the mountain that you need to climb this year?
💥✨️💥⭐️🎶🎶 I'm not one to typically have New Year's resolutions LOL . However, I would say I'll continue to practice being more authentic and true to myself and less settling in some areas of my life. Practice a bit more patience with myself perhaps. Last but definitely not the least LOL - The opportunity to meet Jillian Turecki someday soon ! You're Awesome , Thank you for being who you are and helping so many ! ❤
❤ AWARENESS is mandatory ! Mandatory to become the best version of ourselves. Mandatory to evolve. Without awareness of anything it's almost impossible to evolve becoming our best version. Our best version for ourselves and for others. Awareness is the first step of everything then being honest with yourself and accountable in areas you need to be. Owning it and practice being authentic . Then it's all just a practice until it becomes somewhat of a habit or rather your nature. As a better way becomes your nature, you are evolving .
Here's to 2025 being the best year yet, and to focusing on self care and growth. But also not sure if I should continue into the new year with the love of my life because it's clear I have too much unresolved trauma to continue in a stable and healthy relationship. And the pressure of an about-to-expire K2 visa application doesn't help the situation.
As a 37 year-old man who has spent my entire adult life looking for a relationship and been rejected by every woman I've ever dated, I've decided to stop trying. At least in my part of the world, most women are polyamourous and more interested in casual dating, and I'm tired of having my heart broken over and over again. Now my goal is to get comfortable with the idea that I'll likely never get to feel love or close human connection. No amount of inner work and personal growth seems to be enough. Still, I appreciate all of your videos, and that top is amazing. :)
As a 44 woman who had similar experiences with relationships, I decided to give up trying and focus my energy and my time on others fulfilling paths, like study, crafts and so on.
For me, focusing on self-love, self-worth, and building a life I love and care about deeply is now my focus, over seeking the external validation and approval of having a partner. I am a 35 year old man. I think that taking the mindset “I am giving up” will hurt your mindset and the energy you bring to your relationships, including your relationship with yourself.
Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication. - Don Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements
Yes this is true . Yet we also have boundaries and if those are expressed and those chosen or unconscious behaviours continue then we get to decide to leave
It would be a lot cooler if my ex hadn't ghosted me so that we could have figured out and squashed the issue. Sometimes it's impossible to fix the problem. Sometimes one person in the relationship totally checks out.
How somebody treats you is their karma..everything to do with the other person...I despise that whole construct..because not only is it widely pandered, it gives people a false sense of security. I've left relationships because of what I perceived as an unhealthy relationship dynamic. So, to say only one person is at fault for breaking up a relationship isn't always true. Yes it was their decision, but as to why that decision was made, could VERY WELL have something to do with the dynamic not just them waking up one day saying well my needs aren't getting met so I'm going to decide to move on today..
My favorite podcast, please discuss emotional incest and how to deal with this issue when you’re a partner of a man and how to handle the situation with him and his unhealthy mother. 🤍
I hear compassion when you recognize that your ex was only capable of the actions he took when he left. Hearing that was super helpful in reflecting on past break ups and thinking about others people's emotional troubles.
Favorite podcast of 2024
I really love how extremely open-minded you are and being able to see things from so many different perceptions. Then the fact that you can explain things to your audience so clearly all while covering so many areas very thoroughly. You nail it every time !!
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Thank you for your kind words! I appreciate your support.
Really enjoyed ways we can approach accountability… in a relationship both parties benefit when we all can use this skill🌟💫
Wow, a big slap on my face.
I was about to cry when I heard this specific sentence "how do I deal with my loneliness ".
It was so intense, because it's so true.
Thank you for talking about tricky subject with both honesty and soothing voice.
Take care
Happy New Year dear Jillian! Thank you so much for your work🙏✨
Thank you so much, Jillian! you and your posdcast are among the many things I'm grateful for for the last two years!
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Happy New year !!
Looking forward to listening to this!
Awesome shirt 🙂
Have a great day Jillian ❤
Happy New Year to you too! ❤️
Good, human and humble words.
Reflection questions:
1. How do I deal/cope with my loneliness on a day to day basis?
2. How do I conceal my shame? What do you do to cover up the things you don't particularly like about yourself or the things that you are particularly ashamed of?
3. How do I numb muself from emotional discomfort? Is there stuff in my life I am avoiding dealing with?
4. What's the mountain that you need to climb this year?
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and vulnerability. Just preordered your book!
Thank you for preordering my book! Don't forget to join me and Matthew Hussey for our live event on 1/19! www.jillianturecki.com/book-extras
You’re wonderful. Happy New Year and thank you. Will order your book. Can’t wait
Brilliant, thank you 🙏
Just went through a hard situationship where this girl didn’t communicate and dropped off and blocked me. It hurt but I’m going to be better for it
Legend legend legend
💥✨️💥⭐️🎶🎶
I'm not one to typically have New Year's resolutions LOL .
However, I would say I'll continue to practice being more authentic and true to myself and less settling in some areas of my life. Practice a bit more patience with myself perhaps. Last but definitely not the least LOL - The opportunity to meet Jillian Turecki someday soon !
You're Awesome ,
Thank you for being who you are and helping so many ! ❤
❤ AWARENESS is mandatory !
Mandatory to become the best version of ourselves. Mandatory to evolve.
Without awareness of anything it's almost impossible to evolve becoming our best version. Our best version for ourselves and for others.
Awareness is the first step of everything then being honest with yourself and accountable in areas you need to be. Owning it and practice being authentic .
Then it's all just a practice until it becomes somewhat of a habit or rather your nature. As a better way becomes your nature, you are evolving .
Excellent video once again! Imma get this book asap. I have a question, does the writing ofyour book helps you make such cool calm and clear videos ?
Here's to 2025 being the best year yet, and to focusing on self care and growth.
But also not sure if I should continue into the new year with the love of my life because it's clear I have too much unresolved trauma to continue in a stable and healthy relationship. And the pressure of an about-to-expire K2 visa application doesn't help the situation.
i feel personally attacked by this video lol - can't wait to read the book.I admire how you can talk about your divorce.
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As a 37 year-old man who has spent my entire adult life looking for a relationship and been rejected by every woman I've ever dated, I've decided to stop trying. At least in my part of the world, most women are polyamourous and more interested in casual dating, and I'm tired of having my heart broken over and over again. Now my goal is to get comfortable with the idea that I'll likely never get to feel love or close human connection. No amount of inner work and personal growth seems to be enough. Still, I appreciate all of your videos, and that top is amazing. :)
That is a bad way of looking at it.
As a 44 woman who had similar experiences with relationships, I decided to give up trying and focus my energy and my time on others fulfilling paths, like study, crafts and so on.
For me, focusing on self-love, self-worth, and building a life I love and care about deeply is now my focus, over seeking the external validation and approval of having a partner. I am a 35 year old man.
I think that taking the mindset “I am giving up” will hurt your mindset and the energy you bring to your relationships, including your relationship with yourself.
Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.
- Don Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements
Yes this is true . Yet we also have boundaries and if those are expressed and those chosen or unconscious behaviours continue then we get to decide to leave
It would be a lot cooler if my ex hadn't ghosted me so that we could have figured out and squashed the issue. Sometimes it's impossible to fix the problem. Sometimes one person in the relationship totally checks out.
How somebody treats you is their karma..everything to do with the other person...I despise that whole construct..because not only is it widely pandered, it gives people a false sense of security. I've left relationships because of what I perceived as an unhealthy relationship dynamic. So, to say only one person is at fault for breaking up a relationship isn't always true. Yes it was their decision, but as to why that decision was made, could VERY WELL have something to do with the dynamic not just them waking up one day saying well my needs aren't getting met so I'm going to decide to move on today..
Damn! I thought she was trans.
My favorite podcast, please discuss emotional incest and how to deal with this issue when you’re a partner of a man and how to handle the situation with him and his unhealthy mother. 🤍