People. Understanding that though I'm likely "naturally" introverted and also an isolator due to extreme trauma, people and my willingness to experiment with my capacities to relate to them are my ticket to deeper freedom. Change brings change. It may be that my biggest road blocks will never move, but I still have a beautiful life to live and the desire to be creative with it.
Emotional regulation. I kinda wish you had touched upon it during the episode (although I think that may have been what Rick alluded to when he spoke of "personal psychology" at the end), but I guess there's a lot you needed to leave out in order to make the episode have a finite length 😂 But personally, the (I guess meta?) skill of emotional regulation is what changes the name of the game for me, from an avoidance perspective to a purpose perspective. For example, this thought came up as I was watching the episode and felt good enough and centered enough that I decided I wanted to cut some fruit for breakfast, which is much much healthier than my usual choices, and it came from a place of wanting something that's good for me and not just "I should do this because the alternative is terrible". Maybe that's what I should work towards in 2025, build up my personal psychology, outline some contingency plans for when that definitely fails 🙃 and let everything else flow from there. Does this resonate? As for the episode itself, I loved how much it highlights the contrast between your style and Rick's. It's a great dynamic you two have, and seeing the way you handle his veering you off your established course is honestly brilliant! 😁 Happy new year Forrest! Much love and all the best wishes for you, Rick, Elizabeth, and all your loved ones!
I am always drawn in by your willingness to help others with your open, authentic sharing. When I see there is a new podcast from you, I wait to watch it when I can give it my full attention. I find in every podcast there are gems to take away and think through as to how to apply them in my life. Thank you both so very much for your important work here.
You’ve got some really great takeaways for someone who somewhat despises New Year’s resolutions but wants to approach it in a more mindful and effective way. Your dad’s comment about checking out Grindr was hilarious btw 😂
omg the grindr part was so unexpected and funny. Thank you both for all the gifts you have put out into the world through this podcast, I listen to every episode and it has helped me so much this year! I am so thankful for you both
I like asking people what they feel like or how they see themselves demonstrating their love for a partner. How do they express their love/affection and what behavior informs them that their partner loves them? Getting a person into that flow state of experiencing themselves as a loving person helps get them motivated and in a better frame of mind to do the things that lead them into a loving relationship. Maybe they want to show their love by creating a romantic candlelit dinner for their partner, or maybe they want someone to go rollerblading with or doing travel adventures together and learning a foreign language together. Building up yourself as a person who has passions will attract people who appreciate your intellect, skills, healthy habits, good sense of humor or sense of adventure. Being yourself authentically allows the right person to notice you.
I loved the role play!! Great episode! I liked that it was about getting to the heart of motivation, and the internal and external steps involved with setting a goal or intention. I liked that you spoke about the roadblocks that will naturally come along with change..and letting them be okay.
My resolution this year, if I even have one, is to stop rejecting myself as I am and embrace the way God/Nature created me to be. That means I have a clear orientation to do no harm consciously, but accept that my unconscious, including my body, have other agendas to work out. My God steps in and out of me to help as my unrepairable bits cannot function. They are, by any measure, broken. But there is more to be gained in the acceptance of those parts than in the attempts at manipulating them. My God makes sure that I have the help when it's needed, karma and all, and also loves me in my naturally occurring woundedness that isn't meant to be healed but held.
loved this, thank you, lots of good stuff in here. i wish rick would have dug deeper into his (roleplayed) desire "to be loved by a good person" (50:00). why does it have to be a good person? why do you want to be loved at all? asking because i'm grappling with these very questions myself lately.
Very useful! I just started a new job after grad school and realized I want to study again. I feel super happy about allowing myself to make such a big change but also anxious whether I will manage to sustain myself with the new job while also studying. I realized a part in me wants a celebration for landing the job and that I need to give myself something I couldn't have for years during grad school, sth a loving parent would wish for me to have, before then hurrying on to the next big thing. Also the feeling part, what is my deeply personal connection to why I want that next thing, what's the pull.
I’m not on and have never been on social media. I have been the oddball for a long time, but now I’m expecting to one day find myself in the majority as people slowly realize it’s more destructive to social lives than anything.
What's helped you find more fulfillment?
People. Understanding that though I'm likely "naturally" introverted and also an isolator due to extreme trauma, people and my willingness to experiment with my capacities to relate to them are my ticket to deeper freedom. Change brings change.
It may be that my biggest road blocks will never move, but I still have a beautiful life to live and the desire to be creative with it.
Emotional regulation. I kinda wish you had touched upon it during the episode (although I think that may have been what Rick alluded to when he spoke of "personal psychology" at the end), but I guess there's a lot you needed to leave out in order to make the episode have a finite length 😂
But personally, the (I guess meta?) skill of emotional regulation is what changes the name of the game for me, from an avoidance perspective to a purpose perspective. For example, this thought came up as I was watching the episode and felt good enough and centered enough that I decided I wanted to cut some fruit for breakfast, which is much much healthier than my usual choices, and it came from a place of wanting something that's good for me and not just "I should do this because the alternative is terrible".
Maybe that's what I should work towards in 2025, build up my personal psychology, outline some contingency plans for when that definitely fails 🙃 and let everything else flow from there. Does this resonate?
As for the episode itself, I loved how much it highlights the contrast between your style and Rick's. It's a great dynamic you two have, and seeing the way you handle his veering you off your established course is honestly brilliant! 😁
Happy new year Forrest! Much love and all the best wishes for you, Rick, Elizabeth, and all your loved ones!
Wow, Dr Rick Hanson is 72. You're looking amazing! Good luck finding love on Grindr😂😂
I am always drawn in by your willingness to help others with your open, authentic sharing. When I see there is a new podcast from you, I wait to watch it when I can give it my full attention. I find in every podcast there are gems to take away and think through as to how to apply them in my life. Thank you both so very much for your important work here.
This was a great episode! Thank you so much. The demonstrations of role plays are always very helpful 🤍
You’ve got some really great takeaways for someone who somewhat despises New Year’s resolutions but wants to approach it in a more mindful and effective way. Your dad’s comment about checking out Grindr was hilarious btw 😂
omg the grindr part was so unexpected and funny. Thank you both for all the gifts you have put out into the world through this podcast, I listen to every episode and it has helped me so much this year! I am so thankful for you both
That part caught me off-guard too 😂
Amen to that 🙏❤️ the same for me and my life. I'm beyond grateful for the content and the podcast 🙏
😂😂
Really enjoy your podcasts! This one was so creative and gave some fun and very original perspectives!! Loved it!
Great content- watched twice because it was so good.
So insightful and helpful! Thank you both very much!
Happy New year! Really enjoyed this video and found lots of value and directions to follow and starting points 🥰
I like asking people what they feel like or how they see themselves demonstrating their love for a partner. How do they express their love/affection and what behavior informs them that their partner loves them? Getting a person into that flow state of experiencing themselves as a loving person helps get them motivated and in a better frame of mind to do the things that lead them into a loving relationship. Maybe they want to show their love by creating a romantic candlelit dinner for their partner, or maybe they want someone to go rollerblading with or doing travel adventures together and learning a foreign language together. Building up yourself as a person who has passions will attract people who appreciate your intellect, skills, healthy habits, good sense of humor or sense of adventure. Being yourself authentically allows the right person to notice you.
I loved the role play!! Great episode! I liked that it was about getting to the heart of motivation, and the internal and external steps involved with setting a goal or intention. I liked that you spoke about the roadblocks that will naturally come along with change..and letting them be okay.
Happy and Healthy New Year ! 🎉🎉🎉great episode
Can't wait to dive in! Years ago I changed resolutions to intentions and it helped tremendously. Have a wonderful New Year's! ❤🎉
I loved the seeming randomness which was rich and authentic.I would love a part 2 of this. TY you to you both
One of your best episodes
My resolution this year, if I even have one, is to stop rejecting myself as I am and embrace the way God/Nature created me to be.
That means I have a clear orientation to do no harm consciously, but accept that my unconscious, including my body, have other agendas to work out.
My God steps in and out of me to help as my unrepairable bits cannot function. They are, by any measure, broken. But there is more to be gained in the acceptance of those parts than in the attempts at manipulating them. My God makes sure that I have the help when it's needed, karma and all, and also loves me in my naturally occurring woundedness that isn't meant to be healed but held.
loved this, thank you, lots of good stuff in here. i wish rick would have dug deeper into his (roleplayed) desire "to be loved by a good person" (50:00). why does it have to be a good person? why do you want to be loved at all? asking because i'm grappling with these very questions myself lately.
Loving yourself could solve this.
“ Developing your own psychology.” Love the roleplaying. I have learned a lot from your videos. Thank you!🙏💕🎉
Getting ready to make a vision board for 2025, this is a wonderful framework. Thanks! 🥰
Very useful! I just started a new job after grad school and realized I want to study again. I feel super happy about allowing myself to make such a big change but also anxious whether I will manage to sustain myself with the new job while also studying. I realized a part in me wants a celebration for landing the job and that I need to give myself something I couldn't have for years during grad school, sth a loving parent would wish for me to have, before then hurrying on to the next big thing. Also the feeling part, what is my deeply personal connection to why I want that next thing, what's the pull.
I deleted my social media before new year. I think sometimes it's about letting go of things that aren't serving a positive purpose.
I’m not on and have never been on social media. I have been the oddball for a long time, but now I’m expecting to one day find myself in the majority as people slowly realize it’s more destructive to social lives than anything.
Rick doesn't look 72 at all!
Whoooo!
45:40 😂😂😂