Regarding partners who are continually venting, I remembered something I learned from an early boyfriend-in the 70’s. I was distraught and whining to him about my parents’ looming divorce. He broke up with me. I am SO grateful he told me the reason why: “You’re cute and you used to be fun. But now you’re a bum trip”. 😊. I chuckle at that 1970’s expression but it helped me immensely.
I would argue that you repress your emotions now? Or vent to a therapist now? Or are you actually always happy?? Because if you can't go to an intimate partner then what are they there for? I mean to a least degree of vulnerability? You know not constant barage of course.
This is another great clip from that interview with Jillian. It really highlights the importance of being with a partner that you are in alignment with. Everyone has different views, wants and needs and the beauty of it all is as long as you find that one person for you it's really irrelevant what others think about your relationship choices and dynamic. Differing viewpoints is what makes each relationship special and unique and one partner right for you and one that's not. I believe another huge question that is important to address early on is asking your partner what marriage looks like to them. People decide to get married or not for many different valid reasons. When two people mutually decide to commit themselves to each other marriage is that extra step that legalizes that commitment in the eyes of the law. Commitment and marriage are not mutually exclusive however and you can live happily together having one and not the other if that's what both partners envision for themselves. The whole idea of a prenup is important to discuss in that conversation early on as well, because if you're not on the same page with that it's not going to work.To me if you are already trying to control the outcome of what will happen if your marriage ends before it even begins why even enter into it. In a committed relationship if it doesn't work then the partners can honor each other by going their separate ways without having to get the Courts involved. On other hand I fully understand and respect why people would mutually agree to a prenup as well. That's truly where the importance of partner selection and being on the same page early on can make all the difference. 💛
Can summ this up and rephrase by saying - 1st comes conscious attraction over unconscious attraction, 2nd establish compatability and 3rd conscious commitment. (i dont see a real reason to get married unless having children oh and if having children must be morally, emotionally, physically, financially ready for parenthood to stop the vicious cycle of traumatized people in the first place) ☯️
5:05 is this not how people start affairs emotional or otherwise when one partner finds someone else or other people to talk to or share frustrations with?
Regarding partners who are continually venting, I remembered something I learned from an early boyfriend-in the 70’s. I was distraught and whining to him about my parents’ looming divorce. He broke up with me. I am SO grateful he told me the reason why: “You’re cute and you used to be fun. But now you’re a bum trip”. 😊. I chuckle at that 1970’s expression but it helped me immensely.
What's the lesson you are grateful for from this story?
That you are not allowed to be bummed? Or that he was an ass?
@@paulv2348that’s my question too!
@@paulv2348 That partners do not merely exist for one’s ceaseless unloading.
Thats exactly what i said! @paulv2348
I would argue that you repress your emotions now? Or vent to a therapist now? Or are you actually always happy?? Because if you can't go to an intimate partner then what are they there for? I mean to a least degree of vulnerability? You know not constant barage of course.
This is another great clip from that interview with Jillian. It really highlights the importance of being with a partner that you are in alignment with. Everyone has different views, wants and needs and the beauty of it all is as long as you find that one person for you it's really irrelevant what others think about your relationship choices and dynamic. Differing viewpoints is what makes each relationship special and unique and one partner right for you and one that's not. I believe another huge question that is important to address early on is asking your partner what marriage looks like to them. People decide to get married or not for many different valid reasons. When two people mutually decide to commit themselves to each other marriage is that extra step that legalizes that commitment in the eyes of the law. Commitment and marriage are not mutually exclusive however and you can live happily together having one and not the other if that's what both partners envision for themselves. The whole idea of a prenup is important to discuss in that conversation early on as well, because if you're not on the same page with that it's not going to work.To me if you are already trying to control the outcome of what will happen if your marriage ends before it even begins why even enter into it. In a committed relationship if it doesn't work then the partners can honor each other by going their separate ways without having to get the Courts involved. On other hand I fully understand and respect why people would mutually agree to a prenup as well. That's truly where the importance of partner selection and being on the same page early on can make all the difference. 💛
Can summ this up and rephrase by saying - 1st comes conscious attraction over unconscious attraction, 2nd establish compatability and 3rd conscious commitment. (i dont see a real reason to get married unless having children oh and if having children must be morally, emotionally, physically, financially ready for parenthood to stop the vicious cycle of traumatized people in the first place) ☯️
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5:05 is this not how people start affairs emotional or otherwise when one partner finds someone else or other people to talk to or share frustrations with?
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Thank you so much!
Can you both not be eachothers almost everything?