Summary: 1. You’re too hard on yourself 2. You’re quick to point out the negative 3. You wait until the last minute 4. You’re disorganised 5. You feel like a phony 6. You overdo it 7. You are burned out Happy weekend everyone! 💜
Whether artist or tech' (I'm a man of many hats)... I learned most of it the same way. I screwed up crap and destroyed projects and equipment until I figured out how to do stuff properly. Some of it had good information available in books, and sometimes I got good instruction from mentors. Experience is still directly correlated to the amount of stuff rendered to ruination. I'm not going to tell you not to replay missteps in your head. We should reflect on the details of how and when or where things went sideways. It's how our failures teach us more than our successes. I WILL tell you that I've screwed up more than I've gotten done right, and that I'm still screwing things up from time to time. That's perfectly normal. Reflect, learn, and then understand that it's JUST a mistake and means nothing. It's only an experience that taught you something (hopefully) or refined something that earlier mistakes had led up to. Then move on to either try it again, go back and fix it as applicable and appropriate, or get into the next project. In art, we say, "screw up the first one... study it... do it again... screw it up just a little better... study it... do it again... and repeat until you're happy with the results." There are even artists who advise you to "screw it up faster so you can improve easier"... The bottom line is, being human, it's normal to screw stuff up. There's no need to put yourself down because of it. AND the only true form of failure is to quit. I've even gone back to build a project after I've been told it was no longer my project. I did that JUST so I could apply what I'd learned in the fails... and to find out if I COULD finally finish the thing. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS MESSAGE! Yes ,I have learned to reflect on my experiences and mistakes and I am working on not beating myself up for them!! It's something hard to remember that as humans, we aren't meant to be perfect
@@SamElle It doesn't really even matter if you've got an interest in drawing or painting or not... I'm going to advise you go and bookmark the following in your browser (at least, mine lets me do that) : th-cam.com/video/IB8BUc2pavU/w-d-xo.html It should get you to Ethan Becker's channel and "How to Draw Better Faster". It's a fun little vid' and he's a little "dry" in his humor, but amusing while he really shows how to go back to examine the work done with an interest in improving for work TO BE done. I've found it helps to have someone tell you (even in video) that it's okay to not be perfect... In fact, to encourage you to be imperfect and just keep going. SO when you feel a bit down, or find you're beating yourself up, maybe hit the bookmark and play it again... It can help. ;o)
I wonder if I mostly self sabotage because I'm really afraid of actually being successful. I think I do have potential, but I don't understand how to use it. I always focus on other people instead of myself... And I believe I'm somewhat emotionally stable, which makes it even harder
*7 Signs of Self Sabotaging Behavior* 1. you’re too hard on yourself 0:58 2. you’re quick to point out the negative 1:51 3. you wait until the last minute 2:28 4. you’re disorganized 3:11 5. you feel like a phony 3:56 6. you overdo it 4:34 7. you’re burned out 5:08 *love this art style!! thanks for the video!*
@@words007 Sometimes our thoughts are our own worst enemy. You are a valued and needed part of this living world. You have no idea how you positively impact those around you 🫶 Your are enough
I have come to realise that I've mixed being realistic with being pessimistic. It is not that I want to view everything negatively. It is just that I get let down when I think optimistically. And somehow that feels worse than always thinking negatively. That sinking feeling in your gut when happiness fades😣. There seems to always be a catch. And that's why it somehow feels easier to see it pessimiscally, and be disappointed but not surprised.
SAME. People tell me things like "you're so hard on yourself" and my response is "I'm realistic." And I think many people are so UNrealistic about themselves because they think more highly of themselves than I feel they should. But whatever, no one cares what my opinion is so.... -shrug-
@@apackman1822 I actually had a discussion with a good friend of mine actually and talked about this and I’m so amazed by how I got out of it because for one whole month I smoked so much, I ate junk food, binge watched stuff, drank alcohol and yet I got out of it...how??? I’m still amazed by myself to be honest, but I guess somehow there’s a little part inside u which doesn’t want to give up?
@@MindNow so i have to just stop what i am doing, that is enjoyable yet non productive. and i will feel better? if I had given up I would be dead, life sucks, I just hope it would have some ups too.
@@apackman1822 believe it or not, life has ups and it WILL come to u, u just don’t see it yet. I’m not going to say that what ur going through is nice because it’s probably not, but one day u will look back at this exact time and say “holy cow! It makes sense!” U see, it’s nice to inform urself on things, but it’s nowhere as powerful as EXPERIENCING it urself. I’m not encouraging u to always be like this, but at this moment, this shitty moment that ur having, ur meant to go through it. But, I also want to add this...take responsibility for whatever action ur taking. This doesn’t mean that u should look down on urself the fact that ur not productive, but I’m just saying...don’t be like blaming urself for not getting anywhere bc if ur sabotaging urself or whatever other negative actions ur taking is brining u down, well that is what it is supposed to do. But by sabotaging urself, u might discover the reason why u do it in the first place and without the sabotaging u might hv never discovered it. Does this make sense? Everyone has different circumstances. There’s no competition here unless YOU make it. So, don’t do it when it comes to loving urself and being ok where u r. Your job is to make the best out of YOUR unique circumstance. And hey, I might not be in your shoes, but I just want to say that u WILL get out of this even if it doesn’t look like it, but u will. I hope I was able to help u a bit and if u need more perspectives on this, I’m glad to help 😊🙏❤️
OMG. Every single one describes me. And pretty blatantly too. Explains a lot. I've known that I do self sabotage for years now. And I'm fully aware of the harm it causes too. Watching this was intense for me. The damage to. my life has been incalculable. I quite literally could be the poster boy for this. I'm in my 50s, and this has cost me big time. Not quite sure what my next move is, but change is definitely needed. Thank you for posting this
As someone apparently swimming in all of these on a daily basis, I have one recommendation: routine de-cluttering. I've recently selected the last Sunday of every month to clean the house in the morning, and do my finances in the afternoon (i.e. log that month's transactions in a spreadsheet). 3 months in and this is absolutely working for me. The house is cleaner, I understand my money more, and I'm starting to relax about these two aspects of my life. It gets easier each time. It's working for me, maybe it'll work for you too. Take care.
Maybe go to a psychiatrist to address anxiety? (I used to get too anxious to study then couldnt even enter the exam) Try laying low for a while, it helps especially if you have been burnt out. Don't worry, the world will catch up to you. Take a semester off or take easy courses or take a gap year if you're studying. I don't know what could be done if you're working, maybe some time off paid or unpaid?
@@ecemilgun9867 I took a semester off and now kinda feel like regretting. I mean, I'm already old, but still can't finish my college on the right time...
7 signs of self-sabotage: 1. You are hard on yourself 2. You quick to point out the negative 3. You wait until the last minute 4. You are disorganized 5. You feel like a phoney 6. You overdo it 7. You are burned out If you feel any of this you are not alone, I feel this too. Please seek out help or therapy or talk to someone! Physical health is extremely important but mental health is your priority! You are worthy of love! ❤️
Jasmine Agilada no not always!!! If you are continuously doing this and if you feel you are horrible depressed then you might need a therapist! But then again sometimes therapist helps with lot of things we alone cannot do. It is for the individual to understand whether he or she needs a therapist or not ! When I said mental health is your first priority I also meant that it is only you who will understand whether you need to reach out or not. Take care ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Don't be afraid to seek help, its never too late. Find a good therapist and before you do write down exactly how you feel and what you have learned about yourself from these videos so they can help you better. You got this. I struggle with this too, but im ready to change. We got shit to do in this life and God (spirit) wants us to live the rest of our lives in joy, gratitude, abundance, and freedom! All the love and power to you.
@sparky Tuttle ❤❤ Thanks again, no I never heard of this poem, but I appreciate at. Believe me, I will succeed in this world, all I need is tough love and that push.
@sparky Tuttle yes ma'am, I have great, supporting people around me, I just need to talk more. As for what I want to do in life, it's so much I'm interested in. I want to travel, do things in Sports and entertainment, work in business administration to name a few
I do these things on a daily. It gets difficult..well it’s always difficult, I tend to just sit on my bed and do nothing cuz so many things bother me or I just don’t feel motivated anymore. I used to love to write stories and now I can’t even get a piece of paper and pencil to write an essay for class. My anxiety goes up and my depression is getting worse because of it. I don’t even believe my friends when they say I’m such a great person, i don’t see that I see all the bad things I’ve done and I don’t think as myself to be great like they say. Idk how to fix it but I’m trying..but every time I try it gets worse. Really trying tho.
Overcommitting, feeling like a phony, and having too much clutter are my current struggles. Looks like I need to make some changes. This video couldn't have come at a better time. Thanks Psych2Go! 💓
I’ve constantly been pressuring myself for the best academic grades that now it has effected my mental health and health in general. I can’t look at my math course without feeling nauseous and feeling like I can’t do it with the fear of failure. Thank you for this video!
This is just great. I’m self-sabotaging for the first time in my life, and it’s in the final, Year 12 exams. You know, the ones that get me into my dream uni. All of my hard work for 13-years has led to me having mentally collapsed in study and the actual exam. Thanks me. My life is literally over.
@@viciadoemhalo3 Well.... let's just say that life has a funny way of figuring itself out. I got special consideration, with bonus points for being from a regional school under COVID conditions, and my final (ATAR) result was calculated off my overall year performance and reviews from all my teachers, who all believed that I had been one of their best students despite battling with mental health issues. I got into not only my dream university, but also Australia's no. 1 university, where I'm currently studying my dream degree, with amazing friends and an amazing girlfriend going on 2 years. AND today I just got a job at a cafe in the heart of the city - a job I had been dreaming of getting. It's not to say there hasn't been hiccups... my parents got divorced and some health and financial difficulties have hit all of my family members on all sides... but we're all surviving, especially despite these difficult times in the world. Believe in yourself and allow yourself to put trust in fate. There are always solutions out there.
I'm self-sabotaging to the point of being afraid to do anything or talk to anyone, just existing with lots of feelings of guilt and shame. What a life. Good thoughts, everybody!
Awww i know what that feels like i hope you have a good day today, just focus on one day at a time and not on all of them together. And when you feel grateful or happy about something say it out loud, so that your mind realizes that yes, you had a fun/happy moment. Im also struggling through some really tough situations but i hope you and me, and every other person who is struggling makes it out alive, and i hope we all find our happiness 🥺🥺♥️
@@Supernova-217 Ohh, thank you 💕. In fact, for a couple of days now I've been doing better. Just as you say - one day at a time. I've started a journal and try to set small, achievable goals. It'd unbelievably hard to start anything when burdened with a perspective of changing everything in one fell swoop. What's more, from my experience, even small steps are hard when the mind is in a dark place. It's easy to see some things when you're feeling better but while you're not... And I'm icredibly lucky to have a possibility to take things slow.
Watch the actual impostor be smart. I've met awesome people who are everything but that and I would die for them bc they are so great. Plus me being "smart" just isnt realistic
I often just feel like everyone is better than me. That I’m not good enough in much of anything and that someone will always be better. Even down to little things like being self conscious of the way I move or my handwriting or my voice and the way my face changes according to expressions. I feel awkward in my body and see a caricature of myself instead of reality. It’s been worse since the pandemic as that’s beaten me down considerably in too if the fact that I suffer with Asperger’s syndrome which brings distress from a lot of sensory factors and changing routines for me. For everyone going through shit, just know you’re not alone and all of it temporary, you’ll come out only if you want to and if you get up and fight your fears.
Sneaky Signs of Self-Sabotage Overplanning. Planning is a stress-buster. ... Searching for inspiration. Like overplanning, searching for inspiration is another way you procrastinate without realizing it. ... Lack of commitment. ... Lack of consistency. ... Putting yourself into a box.
Ughh, it’s so annoying! I’ve has these thoughts for SO long! I remember it going back to like, elementary and me just telling my parents all these things, them taking me to a bad psychologist that even when told all my symptoms didn’t do anything and wasn’t helping me at all. I even had severe migraines (probably because of my extreme burnout, loneliness and friends leaving) which got so severe I had to sit out multiple days and sometimes weeks because of them. I had to pretend that I had *magically* lost those thoughts and symptoms to stop worrying my parents and to stop going to the therapist. I had used those ‘masks’ I made for so long.. And only now have I realized the toll these have taken on my life, how much built up self doubt, sabotage and problems built up throughout the span of multiple years and how I had to grow, learn and improve myself, my journey to self improvement and calmness of mind. I started this journey a couple months ago but hard work, dedication, constant support from others and a good attitude has helped me, and to all of you also struggling remember these four things: Hard work and dedication pays off, Being vulnerable isn’t a weakness but just letting yourself feel emotions, holding a grudge isn’t healthy And hurting yourself helps no one and makes everything harder for everyone.
it turns out,constantly doing and being extra can take a toll on your mental health.Overcommitments lead to self-sabotage in a variety of ways.For example,taking too much leads to not being able to finish everything you start.The feelings of guilt and obligation associated with overcommitment make it difficult to speak up for yourself or set healthy boundaries.Overcommitment sets you up to constantly put yourself last,which just makes stress worse.Overcommitment leaves you open to constantly being asked to do just one more thing,give just a little more
I relate to almost everything deeply. Seems like I'm addicted to being my own worst enemy and yet I feel powerless to change it. I've been trying for years and yet all I know is failure and despair
Summary: 1. You're too hard to yourself 0:57 2. You're quick to point out the negative 1:50 3. You wait until the last minute 2:27 4. You're disorganized 3:10 5. You feel like a phony 3:57 6. You overdo it 4:32 7. You are burned out 5:09 Thats all thanks for reading
Such a soothing, calming voice. It really feels like someone could talk to you without feeling judged. Congratulations for this video, I am sure it helps lots of people, including myself.
I can finally admit that I self sabotage. After a traumatic event that just left me exhausted, I just stopped talking to any of my close friends. I feel the need to avoid them because I don’t feel that I’m good enough in these relationships. My mind would rather ruin things than be happy. I just want to stop this but I don’t know how.
mann..........that image at 3:46....it really explains my that emotion sometimes when everything falls apart and becomes full of chaos..thats exactly me...
I had no idea that I've been self-sabotaging for a very long time... I didn't even know that was a thing, especially a thing that I was experiencing :(
Going through this currently, it has affected all aspects of my life and has resulted in MDD with psychotic features. Don’t be too hard on yourself, self care and self love is important and currently figuring it out
I finally got sober. I have been for last 3 months. I got a girl to like me. My friend asked for a job for me. I am planning college. I deal with this too. It sucks. I feel like my own worst enemy.
I've been experiencing all but one of the things listed in this video ever since I went back to school in august. I can certainly confirm that my grades have made a turn for the worst, and this is coming from someone who usually performs well. My mother says my anxiety medication may need adjusting, and while I do agree that that's probably one of the big factors, I think that I was also simply not emotionally and mentally ready to go back to classes for the fall semester because of the pandemic. But maybe I'm wrong or just overthinking, which are both very me things for me to do.
I cant tell how many times i have procrastinated from doing school work...when ever i have stress about school or anxiety about my life and finances...i try to escape the reality by watching alot of youtube videos of people living their best lives or my favourites...KOREAN DRAMAS/BL DRAMAS
Burned out made me quit my previous job right away since every time I’m going to work, I cried on the way and started to neglect my responsibilities after 4 years working there. Now I realized I was happier in my previous job. Was my decision too rushed?
I started looking for forgiveness in a general sense a little over a year ago after my dog died. My whole reality dissolved haha, slowly then all of a sudden. I thought id had a pretty normal life but realised a lot was trauma response. Friendships relationships careers hobbies have all been affected and i didnt even realise. I saw that my bad decisions and bad habits are all self sabotage and self abuse, and feel like iv served a sentence imposed upon myself. Heres to a productive future. Tldr if you are self sabotaging the way to change is by seeking forgiveness
I used to have self sabotaging behaviour. ..you know people will force you to get depression but you should be strong enough. ..to prove them wrong ... *motive is to spread love , happiness and positivity*
I've been sabotaging myself for a few months now. I was under a ton of stress and pressure at work, to the point where I could not handle anything anymore, that I left my job. I do not regret it because I have been meaning to spend my time on studying and pursuing higher studies, but being on your own, trying to find your own schedule when you don't have work commitments to show up to, is hard. And I have not been able to recover from it. I see all the signs of sabotaging in me, on a daily, infact every moment basis. I have been wasting away my days, knowing I am a burden (as of right now) on my parents for support and I can't seem to be able to fight it.
1. me 2. me, i keep it in my head 3. me every time. 4. me, and yes very true 5. heck yes, me 6. yup, and it never ends well 7. I swear that's me 24/7 but I cant stop. all of this is me 24/7 and I just cant stop even though I've been trying to for pve a year, but its just a continuous spiral that never stops. . .
Could you please do a video on how to overcome self-sabotage? Like some tips or advices. I found myself doing these things lately but I can’t find a way out of this situation.
what helped me get over my self sabotage like procrastination and binge eating was going on a deeper journey where I got free from the fears and beliefs that were keeping me tethered to sabotaging behaviors. I've been free from all of that for over a decade now. For me it wasn't about trying to make changes at the level of the actual behavior, it was deeper than that.
It doesnt help that society tells us we have to constantly be "perfect" or else we wont succeed. If youre like me, we want and crave success but we dont feel like we're ever gonna reach success despite how hard we try
Yes I am in self sabotage and and I know that it's so easy and important for me to get out of this because there are a lot of good things to do in life and not only good things you can say very great but I want to get out of it forever...
Which of these signs do you most relate to? 1. You're too hard on yourself 0:56 2. You're quick to point out the negative 1:49 3. You wait until the last minute 2:24 4. You're disorganized 3:09 5. You feel like a phony 3:55 6. You over do it 4:33 7. You're burnt out 5:07
Just did this with a woman I was very interested in. Now she doesn’t trust me or thinks I’m creepy and I can’t say anything that won’t make things worse. What’s even worse is that I could tell she is the same way. Probably wouldn’t have worked out then
I am hard on myself. For me is hard to be constant in anything, not because I want to but because I don't feel like doing it or because I forget. I am often tired and disorganized too. And all of those things make me frustrated and anxious because I feel like I'm blocked or too slow.
Been feeling like this all the time recently. It’s been tiring.. If you’re feeling the same, I pray you find your peace and know that there’s hope in God! Love to you!
My parents are emotionally abusive and my guardians tortured me for 7 years. Those harsh criticism. Make myself sabotaging. Can't able to stop self sabotaging 😭😭😭😭
I don’t mean this In a bad way but I am upset on how accurate this is. I noticed that all of my failures resulted in my own self sabotage but this video did help me realize that this is normal and if I just keep on starting where I came from is a good way to cope. However sometimes it does get hard when people say “they are proud of you” and that “you should be proud of yourself” because I’m not sometimes
I've been having severe migraine attacks reoccurring every 2 weeks or so, sometimes with symptoms of nausea, motion sickness and intense numbness that can persist for days, probably related to how angry and stressed out I've been in regards to my performance. Every time someone tells me that I'm a perfectionist, it feels like they are looking down on me, so I isolate myself. "Stop sabotaging yourself" sounds like "deal with it". It's as if everyone is out to get me, maybe not taking me seriously or they just don't know what they're talking about. Either I don't listen to them or I forcibly follow every little word they spit out at me because they seem to know better than I do, which causes me to flip-flop between listening and ignoring.
I think I am incapable of trying my best. It is weird feeling I know it in my mind that I can do what I want to do. But in reality I choose to just watch it all go down as the time passes.
We tend to think other people have it so much better than us, maybe thats why. Truth is everyone has their own struggles, even if their struggle isnt the same as yours it doesnt mean they dont have things at the back of their mind keeping them awake. There are times in iur lives when ee do get to sleep peacefully, and i hope that everyone experiences it and i hope it lasts for everyone, including me :
me: shows this video to my mom my mom: oh ok thx for showing me this, I also identify a little bit from this too next day: my mom: why are you like this?
Happy Sunday everyone! What are your plans for the weekend?
playing video games! :D
Doing nothing but foolishness
Probably do my modules from online school :'(
Waiting for tommorow because my crush asked me to sit with her at lunch
i plan on doing nothing
Summary:
1. You’re too hard on yourself
2. You’re quick to point out the negative
3. You wait until the last minute
4. You’re disorganised
5. You feel like a phony
6. You overdo it
7. You are burned out
Happy weekend everyone! 💜
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I'm watching it live!
I'm still at number 1
I'm at number 2
Happy weekend to you too
They missed one called "Pushing close friends and family members away"
Yup!!
Agreed
I wish I had close friends and family
Yeah....😞
Omg that's so trueee🥲
I constantly put myself down and replay my mistakes in my head... People keep telling me I'm doing great but I find it hard to believe...
I know from experience this can be hard to get over. I hope & wish everything works out well for you :-)
Whether artist or tech' (I'm a man of many hats)... I learned most of it the same way. I screwed up crap and destroyed projects and equipment until I figured out how to do stuff properly. Some of it had good information available in books, and sometimes I got good instruction from mentors. Experience is still directly correlated to the amount of stuff rendered to ruination.
I'm not going to tell you not to replay missteps in your head. We should reflect on the details of how and when or where things went sideways. It's how our failures teach us more than our successes. I WILL tell you that I've screwed up more than I've gotten done right, and that I'm still screwing things up from time to time. That's perfectly normal.
Reflect, learn, and then understand that it's JUST a mistake and means nothing. It's only an experience that taught you something (hopefully) or refined something that earlier mistakes had led up to. Then move on to either try it again, go back and fix it as applicable and appropriate, or get into the next project.
In art, we say, "screw up the first one... study it... do it again... screw it up just a little better... study it... do it again... and repeat until you're happy with the results."
There are even artists who advise you to "screw it up faster so you can improve easier"...
The bottom line is, being human, it's normal to screw stuff up. There's no need to put yourself down because of it. AND the only true form of failure is to quit. I've even gone back to build a project after I've been told it was no longer my project. I did that JUST so I could apply what I'd learned in the fails... and to find out if I COULD finally finish the thing. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS MESSAGE! Yes ,I have learned to reflect on my experiences and mistakes and I am working on not beating myself up for them!! It's something hard to remember that as humans, we aren't meant to be perfect
@@SamElle It doesn't really even matter if you've got an interest in drawing or painting or not... I'm going to advise you go and bookmark the following in your browser (at least, mine lets me do that) :
th-cam.com/video/IB8BUc2pavU/w-d-xo.html
It should get you to Ethan Becker's channel and "How to Draw Better Faster". It's a fun little vid' and he's a little "dry" in his humor, but amusing while he really shows how to go back to examine the work done with an interest in improving for work TO BE done.
I've found it helps to have someone tell you (even in video) that it's okay to not be perfect... In fact, to encourage you to be imperfect and just keep going.
SO when you feel a bit down, or find you're beating yourself up, maybe hit the bookmark and play it again... It can help. ;o)
@@SamElle OH YEAH!!!
You're certainly ALWAYS WELCOME!!! ;o)
I wonder if I mostly self sabotage because I'm really afraid of actually being successful. I think I do have potential, but I don't understand how to use it. I always focus on other people instead of myself... And I believe I'm somewhat emotionally stable, which makes it even harder
I feel you
Wow this is really how I am too
Same case here.....I just do the bare minimum to survive.
Me at the moment
Really, feeling matched
What gets in my way?
Me. I get in the way.
It's too overwhelming to overcome.
😂 your not alone at lest I'm wondering if I need to make a saport group for self emotional abuse
*7 Signs of Self Sabotaging Behavior*
1. you’re too hard on yourself 0:58
2. you’re quick to point out the negative 1:51
3. you wait until the last minute 2:28
4. you’re disorganized 3:11
5. you feel like a phony 3:56
6. you overdo it 4:34
7. you’re burned out 5:08
*love this art style!! thanks for the video!*
paislxy_ flxn you’re welcome!
@@xoxo-gossipgirl8744 thank you
- Holly la Hufflepuff - ofc!
Susan Ananda xx
i think the common thread between these is fear of failure
when you relate to all 7 signs, and does them on a daily basis..........
It's better to not exist then exist being an imperfect being😢. That's me
@@words007
Sometimes our thoughts are our own worst enemy.
You are a valued and needed part of this living world.
You have no idea how you positively impact those around you 🫶
Your are enough
"The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best".
Epictetus
No one does so back to my throne! 🛌
So keep company with no one. Got it.
No one lol :(
Good luck
Who else randomly found Psych2Go one day and has been watching ever since?
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Me i was Looking for the Answer Of Wasting my life.
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I have come to realise that I've mixed being realistic with being pessimistic. It is not that I want to view everything negatively. It is just that I get let down when I think optimistically. And somehow that feels worse than always thinking negatively. That sinking feeling in your gut when happiness fades😣. There seems to always be a catch. And that's why it somehow feels easier to see it pessimiscally, and be disappointed but not surprised.
SAME. People tell me things like "you're so hard on yourself" and my response is "I'm realistic." And I think many people are so UNrealistic about themselves because they think more highly of themselves than I feel they should. But whatever, no one cares what my opinion is so.... -shrug-
*I went through this and It was HORRIBLE, but I had to go through that to realize things* 🙏
Mind Now I am sorry for you that you went trough that 😰😭.
what did you do to get out of it.
@@apackman1822 I actually had a discussion with a good friend of mine actually and talked about this and I’m so amazed by how I got out of it because for one whole month I smoked so much, I ate junk food, binge watched stuff, drank alcohol and yet I got out of it...how??? I’m still amazed by myself to be honest, but I guess somehow there’s a little part inside u which doesn’t want to give up?
@@MindNow so i have to just stop what i am doing, that is enjoyable yet non productive. and i will feel better?
if I had given up I would be dead, life sucks, I just hope it would have some ups too.
@@apackman1822 believe it or not, life has ups and it WILL come to u, u just don’t see it yet. I’m not going to say that what ur going through is nice because it’s probably not, but one day u will look back at this exact time and say “holy cow! It makes sense!”
U see, it’s nice to inform urself on things, but it’s nowhere as powerful as EXPERIENCING it urself. I’m not encouraging u to always be like this, but at this moment, this shitty moment that ur having, ur meant to go through it. But, I also want to add this...take responsibility for whatever action ur taking. This doesn’t mean that u should look down on urself the fact that ur not productive, but I’m just saying...don’t be like blaming urself for not getting anywhere bc if ur sabotaging urself or whatever other negative actions ur taking is brining u down, well that is what it is supposed to do. But by sabotaging urself, u might discover the reason why u do it in the first place and without the sabotaging u might hv never discovered it. Does this make sense?
Everyone has different circumstances. There’s no competition here unless YOU make it. So, don’t do it when it comes to loving urself and being ok where u r. Your job is to make the best out of YOUR unique circumstance. And hey, I might not be in your shoes, but I just want to say that u WILL get out of this even if it doesn’t look like it, but u will.
I hope I was able to help u a bit and if u need more perspectives on this, I’m glad to help 😊🙏❤️
OMG. Every single one describes me. And pretty blatantly too. Explains a lot. I've known that I do self sabotage for years now. And I'm fully aware of the harm it causes too. Watching this was intense for me. The damage to. my life has been incalculable. I quite literally could be the poster boy for this. I'm in my 50s, and this has cost me big time. Not quite sure what my next move is, but change is definitely needed. Thank you for posting this
Thank u
I wish you all the best!! ❤
As someone apparently swimming in all of these on a daily basis, I have one recommendation: routine de-cluttering.
I've recently selected the last Sunday of every month to clean the house in the morning, and do my finances in the afternoon (i.e. log that month's transactions in a spreadsheet).
3 months in and this is absolutely working for me. The house is cleaner, I understand my money more, and I'm starting to relax about these two aspects of my life. It gets easier each time.
It's working for me, maybe it'll work for you too. Take care.
Thank You for sharing. Will try this.
Outstanding. I will give this a go. Being mindful and taking positive actions is the best route to go vs this ailment, it’s a great foundation
My sister self sabotages and I wanna help her but I don't know how. How can I be there for her?
"It was me all along!?"
Me to myself:
"always has been"
Claim your “here before a million views ticket here
Id like to have one
Boom! I got 89 Ticket🎫🎫! Boiii🧨🧨🧨
*GunShots*
I want to have 1
I see this comment on bruno mars lyric video..
It might not even get 1 million views
Do you also have tips on how to tackle self sabotaging? Instead of only giving the signs🤗🥺
I would love this
yes please :(
Yes, please!
Some ideas on how to climb out of the hole of self sabatoge would be appreciated.
Any suggestion folks? I'm an all-of-the-above.
Maybe go to a psychiatrist to address anxiety? (I used to get too anxious to study then couldnt even enter the exam)
Try laying low for a while, it helps especially if you have been burnt out. Don't worry, the world will catch up to you. Take a semester off or take easy courses or take a gap year if you're studying. I don't know what could be done if you're working, maybe some time off paid or unpaid?
@@ecemilgun9867 I took a semester off and now kinda feel like regretting. I mean, I'm already old, but still can't finish my college on the right time...
7 signs of self-sabotage:
1. You are hard on yourself
2. You quick to point out the negative
3. You wait until the last minute
4. You are disorganized
5. You feel like a phoney
6. You overdo it
7. You are burned out
If you feel any of this you are not alone, I feel this too. Please seek out help or therapy or talk to someone! Physical health is extremely important but mental health is your priority!
You are worthy of love! ❤️
Aw well, looks like I’m screwed
@@jamsya493 same bud
Jasmine Agilada no not always!!! If you are continuously doing this and if you feel you are horrible depressed then you might need a therapist!
But then again sometimes therapist helps with lot of things we alone cannot do.
It is for the individual to understand whether he or she needs a therapist or not ! When I said mental health is your first priority I also meant that it is only you who will understand whether you need to reach out or not.
Take care ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
N’STUFF well me too! Screwed AF , I have been self sabotaging too :/
Take care of yourself ❤️
Arpan Kerketta :)
You inspired me to be generous
Now I’m always generous
i'm feeling generous so here have a like and a dislike
Yay :D
I went surfing 🏄♀️ , you gotta see thiss
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Kwenz Landah ok here 💴
*That was unfortunate of getting a lot of likes*
I shed a couple of tears, most of this is me, I will be 35 in a couple of months, if I don't change a lot of my ways, I just don't know
Don't be afraid to seek help, its never too late. Find a good therapist and before you do write down exactly how you feel and what you have learned about yourself from these videos so they can help you better. You got this. I struggle with this too, but im ready to change. We got shit to do in this life and God (spirit) wants us to live the rest of our lives in joy, gratitude, abundance, and freedom!
All the love and power to you.
@@Ashes2Ashes_Blush2Blush Thank you so much and I wish you the best with your journey. Power and love to you
@sparky Tuttle Thank you so much, I will do my best in life and I wish you the best as well. ❤❤ I must break out of this shell
@sparky Tuttle ❤❤ Thanks again, no I never heard of this poem, but I appreciate at. Believe me, I will succeed in this world, all I need is tough love and that push.
@sparky Tuttle yes ma'am, I have great, supporting people around me, I just need to talk more. As for what I want to do in life, it's so much I'm interested in. I want to travel, do things in Sports and entertainment, work in business administration to name a few
I do these things on a daily. It gets difficult..well it’s always difficult, I tend to just sit on my bed and do nothing cuz so many things bother me or I just don’t feel motivated anymore. I used to love to write stories and now I can’t even get a piece of paper and pencil to write an essay for class. My anxiety goes up and my depression is getting worse because of it. I don’t even believe my friends when they say I’m such a great person, i don’t see that I see all the bad things I’ve done and I don’t think as myself to be great like they say. Idk how to fix it but I’m trying..but every time I try it gets worse. Really trying tho.
I feel the same way! It's exhausting and terrible. Stay strong and keep trying!!
@@blatfrau you too!
Overcommitting, feeling like a phony, and having too much clutter are my current struggles. Looks like I need to make some changes. This video couldn't have come at a better time. Thanks Psych2Go! 💓
I’ve constantly been pressuring myself for the best academic grades that now it has effected my mental health and health in general. I can’t look at my math course without feeling nauseous and feeling like I can’t do it with the fear of failure. Thank you for this video!
"... Can lead to emotional eating too." Not me procrastinating and eating noodles right this very moment 😻
yup I used to do this too
This channel has really helped me figure out I’m much more mentally screwed up than I thought.
This is just great. I’m self-sabotaging for the first time in my life, and it’s in the final, Year 12 exams. You know, the ones that get me into my dream uni.
All of my hard work for 13-years has led to me having mentally collapsed in study and the actual exam. Thanks me.
My life is literally over.
Bro, you still there? How did it turn out?
@@viciadoemhalo3 Well.... let's just say that life has a funny way of figuring itself out.
I got special consideration, with bonus points for being from a regional school under COVID conditions, and my final (ATAR) result was calculated off my overall year performance and reviews from all my teachers, who all believed that I had been one of their best students despite battling with mental health issues.
I got into not only my dream university, but also Australia's no. 1 university, where I'm currently studying my dream degree, with amazing friends and an amazing girlfriend going on 2 years. AND today I just got a job at a cafe in the heart of the city - a job I had been dreaming of getting. It's not to say there hasn't been hiccups... my parents got divorced and some health and financial difficulties have hit all of my family members on all sides... but we're all surviving, especially despite these difficult times in the world.
Believe in yourself and allow yourself to put trust in fate. There are always solutions out there.
No matter how you choose to deal with self-sabotage ,You are worth the effort....This line 🤗🥺♥️
My sister self sabotages and I wanna help her but I don't know how. How can I be there for her?
I'm self-sabotaging to the point of being afraid to do anything or talk to anyone, just existing with lots of feelings of guilt and shame. What a life.
Good thoughts, everybody!
Awww i know what that feels like i hope you have a good day today, just focus on one day at a time and not on all of them together. And when you feel grateful or happy about something say it out loud, so that your mind realizes that yes, you had a fun/happy moment. Im also struggling through some really tough situations but i hope you and me, and every other person who is struggling makes it out alive, and i hope we all find our happiness 🥺🥺♥️
@@Supernova-217 Ohh, thank you 💕. In fact, for a couple of days now I've been doing better. Just as you say - one day at a time. I've started a journal and try to set small, achievable goals. It'd unbelievably hard to start anything when burdened with a perspective of changing everything in one fell swoop. What's more, from my experience, even small steps are hard when the mind is in a dark place. It's easy to see some things when you're feeling better but while you're not... And I'm icredibly lucky to have a possibility to take things slow.
"ppl can relate to some of these from time to time"
HA jokes on you I had all signs for a while now
LazyDemon same
Long time
Yeah same
*Self sabotage*
*Emergency meeting*
Me: Maybe I am imposter.
*laughs in anxiety*
The person reading this personality’s:
Beautiful, Smart, Funny, stupid, Kind, awesome!
*There is 1 impostor among us.*
Lol and it's you
@@user-oz2sl5it2b lol, that's quite rude
Stupid is sus
Watch the actual impostor be smart. I've met awesome people who are everything but that and I would die for them bc they are so great.
Plus me being "smart" just isnt realistic
BIG BOI LOL
I often just feel like everyone is better than me.
That I’m not good enough in much of anything and that someone will always be better.
Even down to little things like being self conscious of the way I move or my handwriting or my voice and the way my face changes according to expressions.
I feel awkward in my body and see a caricature of myself instead of reality.
It’s been worse since the pandemic as that’s beaten me down considerably in too if the fact that I suffer with Asperger’s syndrome which brings distress from a lot of sensory factors and changing routines for me.
For everyone going through shit, just know you’re not alone and all of it temporary, you’ll come out only if you want to and if you get up and fight your fears.
Sneaky Signs of Self-Sabotage
Overplanning. Planning is a stress-buster. ...
Searching for inspiration. Like overplanning, searching for inspiration is another way you procrastinate without realizing it. ...
Lack of commitment. ...
Lack of consistency. ...
Putting yourself into a box.
Inspiration is another way of procrastinating.....good one! Bingo!
It's almost like Psycho2Go knows how we're feeling
Self-Sabotaging yep that's me
Ughh, it’s so annoying!
I’ve has these thoughts for SO long!
I remember it going back to like, elementary and me just telling my parents all these things, them taking me to a bad psychologist that even when told all my symptoms didn’t do anything and wasn’t helping me at all.
I even had severe migraines (probably because of my extreme burnout, loneliness and friends leaving) which got so severe I had to sit out multiple days and sometimes weeks because of them.
I had to pretend that I had *magically* lost those thoughts and symptoms to stop worrying my parents and to stop going to the therapist.
I had used those ‘masks’ I made for so long..
And only now have I realized the toll these have taken on my life, how much built up self doubt, sabotage and problems built up throughout the span of multiple years and how I had to grow, learn and improve myself, my journey to self improvement and calmness of mind.
I started this journey a couple months ago but hard work, dedication, constant support from others and a good attitude has helped me, and to all of you also struggling remember these four things:
Hard work and dedication pays off,
Being vulnerable isn’t a weakness but just letting yourself feel emotions,
holding a grudge isn’t healthy
And hurting yourself helps no one and makes everything harder for everyone.
Yes! I've had similar experiences to you! Hard work & dedication is great! You're motivated to improve....still need to find mine. :)
Yes, yes!! I get myself into this "cat chasing it's own tail" spin. Overwhelm seeps in & nothing gets done. 🤦♀️
I feel this most of the time at school. I always underrated myself, even now I think.
And then, there is only one question left. Am i really underrating myself, when people may say it just to calm me down?
it turns out,constantly doing and being extra can take a toll on your mental health.Overcommitments lead to self-sabotage in a variety of ways.For example,taking too much leads to not being able to finish everything you start.The feelings of guilt and obligation associated with overcommitment make it difficult to speak up for yourself or set healthy boundaries.Overcommitment sets you up to constantly put yourself last,which just makes stress worse.Overcommitment leaves you open to constantly being asked to do just one more thing,give just a little more
I relate to almost everything deeply. Seems like I'm addicted to being my own worst enemy and yet I feel powerless to change it. I've been trying for years and yet all I know is failure and despair
Summary:
1. You're too hard to yourself 0:57
2. You're quick to point out the negative 1:50
3. You wait until the last minute 2:27
4. You're disorganized 3:10
5. You feel like a phony 3:57
6. You overdo it 4:32
7. You are burned out 5:09
Thats all thanks for reading
.
Among us impostors be like
Lmao I was wondering when someone would mention Among Us
Anyway when I saw that title I was reminded of the impostor sabotage
LMAO! Do you like the thumbnail :)
@@Psych2go well i do
@@Psych2go I do!!!☺️
@@Psych2go i do! There's some typical anime being late to with toast on mouth, that's hilarious
me when the love of my life loved me but I self isolated and self sabotage into them being with another person ! 😂
Such a soothing, calming voice. It really feels like someone could talk to you without feeling judged. Congratulations for this video, I am sure it helps lots of people, including myself.
it really applys to me,,,, not confident...... always feel guilty when i was wasting time, always want to do more but still feel i am not diligent
To the early squad sending you virtual hugs 🤗and love !!! Stay safe and be happy ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I can finally admit that I self sabotage. After a traumatic event that just left me exhausted, I just stopped talking to any of my close friends. I feel the need to avoid them because I don’t feel that I’m good enough in these relationships. My mind would rather ruin things than be happy. I just want to stop this but I don’t know how.
mann..........that image at 3:46....it really explains my that emotion sometimes when everything falls apart and becomes full of chaos..thats exactly me...
I had no idea that I've been self-sabotaging for a very long time... I didn't even know that was a thing, especially a thing that I was experiencing :(
Narrator's voice is so so soothing and beautiful ! And healing background music :-)
I've learned that these symptoms come with OCD and ADHD!! 😮💨 All of this, except for the pessimistic one, resonated with me. 😩
Psych2Go: Imposter syndrome
Me: I'M AN IMPOSTER!!!!!
Going through this currently, it has affected all aspects of my life and has resulted in MDD with psychotic features. Don’t be too hard on yourself, self care and self love is important and currently figuring it out
I finally got sober. I have been for last 3 months. I got a girl to like me. My friend asked for a job for me. I am planning college. I deal with this too. It sucks. I feel like my own worst enemy.
My sister self sabotages and I wanna help her but I don't know how. How can I be there for her?
I've been experiencing all but one of the things listed in this video ever since I went back to school in august. I can certainly confirm that my grades have made a turn for the worst, and this is coming from someone who usually performs well. My mother says my anxiety medication may need adjusting, and while I do agree that that's probably one of the big factors, I think that I was also simply not emotionally and mentally ready to go back to classes for the fall semester because of the pandemic. But maybe I'm wrong or just overthinking, which are both very me things for me to do.
I cant tell how many times i have procrastinated from doing school work...when ever i have stress about school or anxiety about my life and finances...i try to escape the reality by watching alot of youtube videos of people living their best lives or my favourites...KOREAN DRAMAS/BL DRAMAS
Burned out made me quit my previous job right away since every time I’m going to work, I cried on the way and started to neglect my responsibilities after 4 years working there. Now I realized I was happier in my previous job. Was my decision too rushed?
I started looking for forgiveness in a general sense a little over a year ago after my dog died. My whole reality dissolved haha, slowly then all of a sudden.
I thought id had a pretty normal life but realised a lot was trauma response. Friendships relationships careers hobbies have all been affected and i didnt even realise. I saw that my bad decisions and bad habits are all self sabotage and self abuse, and feel like iv served a sentence imposed upon myself. Heres to a productive future.
Tldr if you are self sabotaging the way to change is by seeking forgiveness
I looked at the title and immediately thought of among us :'>
okay that little dance the three animations were doing at the end got to me 🥺
I used to have self sabotaging behaviour. ..you know people will force you to get depression but you should be strong enough. ..to prove them wrong ...
*motive is to spread love , happiness and positivity*
Do not worry. We I'll get you to 1k. You WILL and CAN make it 🤗👍
@@flamsparksbiggestfan2931 ohhh thank you so much may God bless you
@@mygoalistohave1ksubscriber141 You TRULY deserve it and everything 🤗 We all love you!!!!!!!!
@@flamsparksbiggestfan2931 love you 2 .....you deserves a lot of blessings
I've been sabotaging myself for a few months now. I was under a ton of stress and pressure at work, to the point where I could not handle anything anymore, that I left my job. I do not regret it because I have been meaning to spend my time on studying and pursuing higher studies, but being on your own, trying to find your own schedule when you don't have work commitments to show up to, is hard. And I have not been able to recover from it. I see all the signs of sabotaging in me, on a daily, infact every moment basis. I have been wasting away my days, knowing I am a burden (as of right now) on my parents for support and I can't seem to be able to fight it.
Welp almost everything leads to depression everytime i watch this channel that makes me think human mind it's more prone to break easly 🤔😟
The thing is - we are making this problem by ourselves.
So we could change our mood using the same "tool" :-)
1. me
2. me, i keep it in my head
3. me every time.
4. me, and yes very true
5. heck yes, me
6. yup, and it never ends well
7. I swear that's me 24/7 but I cant stop.
all of this is me 24/7 and I just cant stop even though I've been trying to for pve a year, but its just a continuous spiral that never stops. . .
This is my new favorite style of animation
Thank you so much!! Would you like to see more of this artstyle?
Watching this increased my stress level 😭.
Could you please do a video on how to overcome self-sabotage? Like some tips or advices. I found myself doing these things lately but I can’t find a way out of this situation.
Yes, that would be a great video. Which self sabotaging sign affects u the most?
@Jack Smith Thanks for the recommendation
@@PlanetPsych I think that most of the time I procrastinate and still expect to succeed in my tasks without designating any time to accomplish them...
what helped me get over my self sabotage like procrastination and binge eating was going on a deeper journey where I got free from the fears and beliefs that were keeping me tethered to sabotaging behaviors. I've been free from all of that for over a decade now. For me it wasn't about trying to make changes at the level of the actual behavior, it was deeper than that.
It doesnt help that society tells us we have to constantly be "perfect" or else we wont succeed. If youre like me, we want and crave success but we dont feel like we're ever gonna reach success despite how hard we try
4:07
*slams button*
EMERGENCY MEETING
Kinda sus
Bro I was in electrical working on my tasks I swear
I actively avoided watching this video for months and I don’t know why, but now I know I’m self sabotaging so maybe that’s it.
Is it just me who feels almost all of these all the time ...
Sam Rain is such an amazing animator for these videos! Conveys the messages really nicely
Thank you! This made me realize all the improvements I've made and all the things I can do to improve 👌👌
I have sign number 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5. I am watching more videos on self-sabotaging.
This was the sermon I didn’t know I needed!🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yes I am in self sabotage and and I know that it's so easy and important for me to get out of this because there are a lot of good things to do in life and not only good things you can say very great but I want to get out of it forever...
I was in self sabotage
@@YASHSONI_07 I wish you the best hope you are able to live the life you want to.
Your voice is so calming 😌
i couldn't help but cry watching this.
Which of these signs do you most relate to?
1. You're too hard on yourself 0:56
2. You're quick to point out the negative 1:49
3. You wait until the last minute 2:24
4. You're disorganized 3:09
5. You feel like a phony 3:55
6. You over do it 4:33
7. You're burnt out 5:07
4 & 6
1,2 n 7?
Depends on the day
Just did this with a woman I was very interested in. Now she doesn’t trust me or thinks I’m creepy and I can’t say anything that won’t make things worse. What’s even worse is that I could tell she is the same way. Probably wouldn’t have worked out then
When all of these are all of me all the time...
I am hard on myself.
For me is hard to be constant in anything, not because I want to but because I don't feel like doing it or because I forget.
I am often tired and disorganized too.
And all of those things make me frustrated and anxious because I feel like I'm blocked or too slow.
After a few minutes, I just started to laugh because it’s just insane how well this video describes me ! 😂
Love this animation style
I’m early yesssss
And thank you for this video 🤗❤️
Been feeling like this all the time recently. It’s been tiring..
If you’re feeling the same, I pray you find your peace and know that there’s hope in God! Love to you!
why did i think of the sabotage as an imposter in among us
I thought that too
Her voice is extremely soothing.
Red: Cyan sus. He doesn’t do tasks
Cyan: I’ll do them later.
Regular impostors: sabotage others
People with impostor syndrome: self-sabotage
Just checking the cams...
Oh the irony of how imposters just *can't* do the tasks :(
Are you Cyan?
@@Psych2go yes. Btw I love ur vids keep it up!
My parents are emotionally abusive and my guardians tortured me for 7 years. Those harsh criticism. Make myself sabotaging. Can't able to stop self sabotaging 😭😭😭😭
I hope things, get better for you soon :-)
I don’t mean this In a bad way but I am upset on how accurate this is. I noticed that all of my failures resulted in my own self sabotage but this video did help me realize that this is normal and if I just keep on starting where I came from is a good way to cope. However sometimes it does get hard when people say “they are proud of you” and that “you should be proud of yourself” because I’m not sometimes
Me, running to fix the sabotage i caused as an impostor
yes, now I'm certain that I'm self-sabotaging and afraid of my own success
Wishing you all a great day :-))
I've been having severe migraine attacks reoccurring every 2 weeks or so, sometimes with symptoms of nausea, motion sickness and intense numbness that can persist for days, probably related to how angry and stressed out I've been in regards to my performance.
Every time someone tells me that I'm a perfectionist, it feels like they are looking down on me, so I isolate myself.
"Stop sabotaging yourself" sounds like "deal with it". It's as if everyone is out to get me, maybe not taking me seriously or they just don't know what they're talking about. Either I don't listen to them or I forcibly follow every little word they spit out at me because they seem to know better than I do, which causes me to flip-flop between listening and ignoring.
2:45 wow, thats _gru-some_
"I WILL STUFF YOU ALL IN THE CRUST"
I think I am incapable of trying my best. It is weird feeling I know it in my mind that I can do what I want to do. But in reality I choose to just watch it all go down as the time passes.
why do i always want to be someone who i'm not? just wondering.
We tend to think other people have it so much better than us, maybe thats why. Truth is everyone has their own struggles, even if their struggle isnt the same as yours it doesnt mean they dont have things at the back of their mind keeping them awake. There are times in iur lives when ee do get to sleep peacefully, and i hope that everyone experiences it and i hope it lasts for everyone, including me :
Make a video about how to cheer yourself up, how to get out of a rut, activities to prevent from getting more depressed
me: shows this video to my mom
my mom: oh ok thx for showing me this, I also identify a little bit from this too
next day:
my mom: why are you like this?