Turn Self Sabotage Into Self Improvement
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Self sabotage is a big part of many mental health issues. How can we recognize self sabotage and in turn work toward self improvement? Learn more about what self sabotage really is - from the perspective of a psychologist, Dr. Ramani AND a hypnotherapist, Grace Smith, and the subconscious reasons we self sabotage in the first place.
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Ok, tell me if I’m going crazy, but I could have sworn that MedCircle offered personalized online therapy, not just pre-recorded videos. Has this changed? I remember seeing a page where you can choose your doctor and get to know them.
Is it possible for someone to have the narcissist personality and self sabotage? Because my older sister could fit into both of those from what I've learned through these videos today.
@@nataliesue2485 Yes my ex's a self-sabotaging narcissist.
Should I stay or should I go theory and slf sabotaging during confinement is a common dilemma we re all into these days , thank you for the support 😊
@SGgaming When Dr Amani (?) mentioned supporting the dysfunctional hypothesis - that means we do things that support our negative self-image that we developed in childhood. The dysfunctional hypothesis is the belief that doesn't serve us. Sometimes coaches with a medical background are a better fit than a therapist.
"people are afraid to go to therapy" no, a lot of ppl just can't afford it XD
Ppl with immense trauma are!
Lol I just looked into it and it was $360/month. And they called themselves inexpensive. Yikes.
Absolutely ... when I saw how much therapists charge I was surprised , I could never afford therapy .... it would be great if one day we could form everywhere communities where people could share thoughts in groups led by meaningful people that are more mindful of the majority of the population’s realistic earnings ....
In the USA, call 211. There are one who work on a sliding fee scale.
Unless you find a really good therapist - they are not of much benefit. I gave up. Deal with it. Dr Ramani is a voice of reason.
"Your subconscious will never let you become something that you hate" 🤯
sure it will. people become things they hate all the time. The things you hate are really just the parts of yourself you cant come to terms with. If you keep ignoring it, its ugly head will get bigger and bigger until you are forced to deal with it. Thats what your subconcious wants.
One of the things that a person needs to do in life is live your values. If you don't live your values it's a constant fight against yourself. For example, the thief that hates thievery.
@@Katie-qu9iv thieves are usually liars and liars get a high when they get away with it... they tell people they hate it when they actually love their sin. Just as an addict loves their drug.
Thanx for sharing 🙏it’s so true .. that’s why we should say positive things about yourself . Everybody has them ,
@@chillbaby5000I totally agree with you. When you can't deal with what you hate, you eventually become that and then hate yourself because of it so unless you haven't come in terms with something you hate, you cannot be healed and live a more authentic and fulfilling life but often times we are stuck cuz we can't do that amount of work and it takes sooo much courage so it's easier for us to flee that situation or person or habit than to just face it!! And one more thing! What if you can't flee or hide or run away and you can't face that thing either?? It takes a massive toll on your mental health it's like you are enclosed in a space which is constantly shrinking, the walls are slowly coming closer to you and what happens next? 🤯You either die before your death or you lose life before you find it.
"I'm a walking limiting belief." Didn't think I could admire Dr. Ramani more. What a comfort to hear someone so intelligent and interesting be so real.
She is so articulate and explain everything so well.
RIGHT?! I love that about her ❤️
Are intelligent interesting people generally not real?
I self sabotaged, due to being a big fat people pleaser, and never feeling that I deserved as much love as everyone else. I was taught you can't tell your family no, or you are not acting like a family member. I am now on a mostly people vacation to fix my damage, and to get my life back on track. I am spending some years without investing much time into anyone.
Same!
Im on same vacation. Just hung up my codependent dancing shoes lol.
Yess, I can so relate to being a “people pleaser” and would sabotage myself to be someone else in able to be liked. I still struggle, but I’m putting more effort into turning it into confidence and self determination. 🙏💞
I like that
Sounds like a great plan.
I don't dislike wealthy people but I dislike the greed that many people have. Corporations that exploit people, our earth, etc. My brother who is a multi-millionaire stole 200k from my Mom. He didn't need it, but he saw an opportunity and took it it's because he NEVER has enough. It's almost a disease.
As I define capitalism as "trading value for value", I then also define greed as "a desire for the unearned" and/or "wanting something for nothing". Not being willing to trade value to get value.
It is NOT a product unique to the wealthy, but also commonplace among the poor. Just look around at all the people rubbing their hands over their "covid money" they anticipate from the government.
Agree. The “rich hate” talk took me out of the videos
These two white people need to be checked by the dr of south Asian descent. Their whiteness and class position seems to be messing with their point of view.
I don't think it takes away from the video's point but yes, using $75K as an example of underachievement was a bit offputting. Many people don't have the capacity due to many things..... disabilities (mental or physical), social standing, country they live in ect to make that amount of money as is. But I do agree mentally limiting ourselves can get in the way of our goals. I don't necessarily think financial wealth is the ultimate goal anyhow There are many other factors that make one's existence rich and having enough money is simply a component of it. Think about all the wealthy people committing suicide. Perhaps they had financial wealth but lacked wealth in other areas such deep connections, purpose, spiritual, mental and physical health.
@@K7M80 hahaha right cuz SOUTH ASIANS HAVE NEVER HAD PROBLEMATIC VIEWS ABOUT MONEY!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 or a literal caste system that ACTUALLY tells people they can never make more money.
No multibillionaires in Mumbai landing their helicopters on the top of their private palaces in the sky over the slums.
It's not like they're a culture that until recently never even ALLOWED anyone to fall in love with someone poor or anything.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dr. Ramani is so articulate it really helps to clarify complex topics. Amongst so many useless therapists that just talk Dr. Ramani stands out and ILLUMINATES the darkness . like a star
This is all so good and so true
Dr. Ramani is great because she's scientifically accurate, compassionate, humble, and a great communicator.
So many fancy mental sicknesses again.
I had more realizations in this 25 minute video than a f*cking year of therapy
Woooow! I think I just fell in love with Dr. Ramani. She's so good at explaining complex thought processes.
And she's good at speaking to the limiting voices inside our heads that we don't vocalize, sometimes we don't even realize are driving our limitations.
ikr she's amazing
get in line. i fell in love with her a few months ago haha
Me too!!
She is sooooo well spoken
“If you can upgrade those limiting beliefs, then there’s nothing to sabotage.” That’s such a powerful statement. Thank you!!!
Yes you are right Cairde,
How best do you think we can go about that ?
This episode made me cry I didn’t even expect that
Did anyone else get tears?, just thinking of my adult persona walking into my childhood to defend me...its very intense and has so much potential for healing.
Good way to earn a living being therapists.
Lots of talkings.
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Parents have their own limiting beliefs so they unknowingly pass it on to their kids. Dr.Ramani you are so right.🙏
My parents told me because they believed they wouldn't succeed in certain areas I wouldn't succeed...
@@krystalrussell4350 at least you realised!
Now you can change that thought/belief… (Beliefs, attitudes, behaviours… is apparently how it goes… )
@@belindamarie5557 Some things I believe in somethings I don't.
I recently found out I have DCD aka Dyspraxia and not many in my families thought I had it. With Dyspraxia it's more complex because it's based off information like instructions. So if it's too complicated it'll be harder to follow through with.
Honestly learning things and reading tons of books is great but from a young age we are trained to conform to not stand out to sit still for long periods of time when we are full of energy etc it's all toxic to me
This video really spoke to me. I did a similar exercise in my writing group based on POV. We were asked to write about a time when we were wronged. Use dialogue, narrative voice, build the story. Make it believable. I wrote about a fight I had with my step sister. Her behavior was horrible. After we read our pieces aloud, we then had to write the same scene from the other person's POV using the same techniques. I wrote from her POV and really dove into the story. That writing exercise changed how I viewed that fight. I was equally wrong. It changed how I thought about her and the incident and it changed our relationship. I was able to let it go and forgive.
Addiction seems like ultimate self sabotage.
True, and I also believe addictions are what people use to cope with pain based narratives.
Its an attempt to fill the void with something we lacked or were deficient from in our childhood years. Its all an attempt to feel loved and secure,
It is, addiction keeps people in place, it's a state of stagnancy and people are usually addicted to smth to numb/get away from the pain.
We are creatures of desire😅😅
I was thinking that maybe suicide is the ultimate self sabotage because you won't have the need to self sabotage yourself any longer. Sometimes, for some people addiction can be an attempt to survive another day. I'm thinking of soldiers at war watching people dying day after day and using drugs "to make it" as many have done during the IIWW or Vietnam.
I wish Dr. Ramani could be my therapist. I’ve never been to therapy, I have no idea how to look for a good therapist that’s going to fit my needs.
If you have a hr personnel they helped me find my therapist
@Merci Beaucoup i wish she was that aunt you can go to 'cause she makes you feel like a "normal person"
Check their credentials, try them for 1 or 2 sessions and if you don't like them try another one. Listen to your gut instinct. There are bad therapists out there and you have to protect yourself But keep trying it is worth it. In Capital cities there are many free self help groups, or even free therapy sessions which usually last 6 times if you have a low income. I have never used an expensive therapist - I consider it an exploitation of the vulnerable. A priest would know of a therapist, often churches have therapists. Do not let yourself be exploited.
@@lynneivison5773 Thank you!
Betterhelp online
A limiting thought I've held is that if I become successful then people wouldn't love me authentically. If someone is able to love me while I'm "invisible", then they are worth my time.
Become successful, but hide the signs of it (certain clothing etc) ? :-)
@@timothydraper3687 That would probably work.
Same
Become successful for you, to love yourself. Don’t ever feel guilty for your hard work and sacrifice that made you successful. People who truly love you actually celebrate your improvement , happiness and success and do not question it or judge it.. ever.
There’s a little bit of truth in that. You find out who you’re true friends are when you have nothing to offer materially.
Some people self-sabotage, not because they think "I'm unworthy" and self-fulfill their own prophecy that they won't get something, but because OTHERS will sabotage them, and so they kinda sabotage themseves first.
It's a form of control too.
A sort of "oh, you want to sink my boat !? no you won't, I'm going to sink it MYSELF ! ah ! joke on you !"
It's dumb.
But it's how it is.
Story of my life good lord it's sad 😢
Or get punished an harrased if successful to a small degree
Yeah so true
Thanks alot for this video
male in his 30s here. that story around the 16 minute mark about going back as the older self to save the day is powerful stuff. great content
If you havent heard of IFS (internal family systems) - its very much like that story shared about the older self helping the younger 🙂
in the series "suits" this technique was used help louis get rid of his childhood issues with bullying.
In the series The Sound of Magic, the main character goes back and comforts herself at the time shes abandoned by her mother at a playground. Its so powerful and emotional. Definitely worth watching
I do have a self-sabotage problem at the moment where I procrastinate my college work like crazy and I always felt this inner-me rebelling or trying to communicate as you’ve said. This video has helped self reflect better and I vow to at least try and stop my bad repetitive behavior when I notice it!
This is exactly what am going through. I also feel like an inner me is telling to do the right thing but some way some how I keep sabotaging and get Bs or Cs in courses that I know if I focused I would have got straight As
@Muhammad Khater - Celebrate that you are noticing your repetitive behavior! 👏🏼
Maybe this will help you gain insight because I had the same problem. Usually this pattern results because as a child when you were always told what to do you had no power except to delay it. So we rebel up until the last minute because it’s a learned response. Of course this only hurts our adult self. I had someone tell me once that procrastination is a form of self sabotage. So when I do delay I have to rearrange my consciousness to help me get through it.
Spot on. How do you rearrange your conciousness? I have been procrastinating to 'start living fully?' for long periods in my life.
I have an exam in 20 days and I still didn’t catch up on my work. I want to k word myself more and more everyday
This conversation is GOLD. Saving it for reference, and for my next therapy session
ditto!
Doing the same!!
I actually just talked about this shit. Got to let some things go to get better.
I think self sabotage is safer than someone else doing it. Makes you feel secure you can accuse yourself than the terror of someone else doing it. When your self- image and worth depends so much on other people - which is naturally and healthily does when you’re little, if your core people DONT accept you and reject you when you fail you by gosh don’t want to fail cause it means rejection. So if you can fail/ blame yourself, you’re insulated from someone else’s blame/ rejection. I.e. you now control the hurt
I really like Dr. Ramani's analogy of the bug in the rug. This really makes sense. I am starting to read "Don't You Know Who I Am?"
I've just downloaded a sample on Kindle, but obviously so good I'll be purchasing it.
She has a rare talent in public speaking. Even better than her writing. (Some people are vice-versa).
I’ve been an integrative therapist for 20 years and I’m still uncovering deeper levels of limiting beliefs in my own psyche. I am always doing the work on myself, with the help of other practitioners, which gives me a greater understanding of my clients. Everyone self sabotages in at least one area of their lives until they recognize it and overcome it.
How to overcome it is where I'm stuck at.
Both ladies are very intelligent and brilliant, but Dr. Ramani seems like a gentle and warm person.
She seems tough to me.
The way I have always put it is, "You can't see the picture from inside the frame."
Stephanie Soressi,you got a lovely smile
@@lioydwilliams1850 You say that to all the women! LOL
I disagree. My therapist couldn't see my picture from "outside the frame". I stopped going because I was very disillusioned, frustrated and angry with her inability to provide possible effective solutions to my problems. My therapist couldn't relate to what I was going through, even though I tried my best to explain it to her from "inside the frame". Nobody understands.
Well put, you can't see the problem the way you look at things when you are a part of the picture.
DAMN. the effect of this video on my brain was E L E C T R I C
i love this duality of psychotherapy and hypnosis! such a great series - it's interesting and informative. it's one of my favorites.
Thanks for watching and supporting mental health education!
I like the idea of showing the differences...but in the end for me the hypnosis sounds too far fetched to work in many situations.
@@jaimhaas5170 i see that. i mean idk if i would ever do that. i think hypnosis just needs more time and research. but it sounds like a very creative/effective method.
@@laurenbernstein1539 I agree for a very limited number in our culture it might work. I sort of relate it to the ability to be hypnotized. I know the several times I have been at a show where they attempt to encompass the whole audience. I can't do it.
@@MedCircle ofc! love the channel.
Fear of rejection, that's what seems to be underneath. Not being psychologically prepared for rejection and disappointment.
Some people get more rejection than others - especially in a racist sexist society that is NOT a meritocracy no matter how much the people who hope it will stay exactly the way it is try to gaslight you that it IS one
Fear of rejection because of a disability that affects social skills will do it.
ADHD and rejection sensitivity dysphoria go hand in hand most of the time too
Thank you for this discussion of self-sabotage. It is something I have done my whole life and even passed on to my children who are now adults and experiencing their own self-sabotaging behaviors. It is heartbreaking for me to see this happening as I tried so hard not to do this. How can we break this cycle so we don't pass it on to future generations?
Therapy. All of you. So your kids don’t pass this on to their kids as well
Yes! I’m ok sabotaging myself, but it’s heart wrenching seeing your 18 year old daughter suffer.....especially knowing how intense and real these emotions are!
@@CocoaButterOil inflation doesn't think so.
Dr.Ramani is brilliant.
How we view trauma as an adult vs how we view trauma when we're 6 ❤
What allowed me to survive, as a child. Is killing me, as as adult. I do not have the money, nor the time for therapy.. I believe there are probably many, many, people in my situation. I, so, thank goodness for self help books and TH-cam. It is healing. It can save your life. It is saving my life, a little bit , at a time.
@@brigettesweet2464 I read Feeling Good by Dr David Burns and it helped my perspective on how I see the world, book changed my game! But I also didn't feel like I needed therapy after reading it 🤗
@@ericag5346 oh great thanks for the book 📙 name I'll check it out, i'v learned a lot on here it's great for people who aren't with lots of money for therapist's but doc Ramini is great at explaining it so well she's really helped me..
This discussion made me realize A LOT of things about myself and about my unconscious habit self-sabotaging.
"Your subconscious will never let you become something you hate" ❤️
Wow I realized self-sabotage is the source of pretty much most of my problems....
Me too 😢 after dropping out of college for the 3rd time 💔
Your subconscious will never allow you to become something you hate ! She said it best about self sabotage. Let's change the way we view people that are better off than us. We can be like them! We can climb the mountain and even make it move if we choose ! Amen
I am loving this series because I love psychology and hypnotherapy. This is all so fascinating!
Lots of good b.s.
Let the other therapist talks. The white one. She has ideas to share. Don't take the whole stage . WOW.
I used to self sabotage and people would make a fool out of me. If you don't carry yourself self with dignity . you will give away your power if you allow people to have power over you.
I've done this for most of my life, and didn't realize I was doing it, even in the "absence" of someone else doing it towards me. It's like a subconscious compensatory mechanism for that which we've learned to be a familiar occurrence in our lives, early on. Over the years I've learned that even if it's something we know is counterproductive and toxic to us, we often just continue 'running that familiar program' , as if by default. I've also come to realize that it takes daily - effort (for me at least), which consist of 'relearning / re-installing' some 'new programs' which we know are healthy and productive for us (yet unfamiliar to us). I've always have been better @ helping others than focusing that same attention to help myself. I'm finally working on re-programming all the 'negative-programming' part of it, after nearly 5- decades of repeating the same patterns. ~Blessed~ To finally see it, and begin to consciously create something on the other side of that spectrum.
Very well said....thank you for this comment!
@@ginahess6022 I appreciate you, likewise 👍💖
I think I ve been so lucky to have parents who validated me as a person and said « you are as good as anyone else » « don’t let anyone tell you to do with your life, including us » I naturally had this posture with my 3 kids, now adult. It was crazy hard with my youngest who was a very very difficult teenager, dropped out at 16 but I tried my best to fully support his choices and told him he would do great things. I got a ton of social pressure ( living in France) saying I should push him to conform but I didn’t listen and my parents fully backed me up on this. So grateful for my fantastic parents
That is only one thing missing from the reliving sessions. When you go back, and relive something bad, your grown self has to go always towards the person, or people, who did bad to you, and not only understand them, but facing those people with their actions. And the client can do anything, they want to do with them, hit them, shout at them, or just educate them, doesnt matter, but your grown self always has to go until the child self is satisfied, and in peace. Understanding the perpatraitor's motives alone wont help you.
The way Dr. Ramani speaks in metaphors so fluently makes everything make sense. I write songs and stories so I enjoy listening to her talk.
Thank you for this. For years, I had self limiting believe that I am not good for relationships and I will be alone. I had thought that I had worked through that belief by starting to date again but I now realize that it still manifests in the kind of men I choose to date and what I choose to accept in relationships. I still sabotage my ability to be in a successful relationship even though I started dating.
Question for Dr Ramani: has she ever read The Republic by Plato? isn't it a paradox that good people are less attracted to power and therefore do not reach for it? how do we bring good people into positions of power?
God bless you Dr. Ramani 🕊️
Whoa! The talk about self sabotage blew my mind. I need to remember this for my next therapy session.
I am an artist and I drew pictures of my shadow selves...good girl, rebel, spiritual, intellectual, and THE SABOTEUR.
We decided that this self needed to be eliminated, and since I'm against death penalty, we just gave him life in prison.
rich people's problems: "Your father never made over $75,000/year... suddenly you find you can't make over $75,000"
I'd consider it a success to make over $30,000 a year.
(yes, from my perspective, someone making 75k a year is "rich").
yes
The actual amount is relative but the concept holds true and is running in our brains background like malware.
That example is sad because it doesn’t account for inflation.
Yeah, really made me laugh. First world problems.
i was like 75g wow really!!!
I always taught I will finish school, get a good job, get my own place, meet someone, get married, have kids, be happy, but instead I'm 36 been in an abusive relationship(it ended), have 2 kids I'm a single parent, in a job I hate but only there bcuz I'm making enough money to get my kids to school n put a few items in my fridge but nothing else, I'm back living with my parents cuz I can't afford my own place n my mother would never let me forget about how much of a failure I am everyday, I pretend to b happy so my kids wouldn't see me cry ending my life just plays repeatedly in my mind
Great video! Self sabotage supports your dysfunctional hypothesis - brilliant. My biggest sabotage used to happen with bingeing on chocolate and other foods in SPITE of wanting to get healthy and lose weight. I couldn 't not do it. My freedom from my eating disorder and food addiction came when I went deeper and got free from the things that were keeping me bound to my "dysfunctional hypotheses" like being not enough, being too much and being wrong. Once I returned to an internal state of feeling enough and being ok inside, the food problem fell away.
Be careful with telling people to open up to love, cause that s how I ended up in 2 very abusive relationships.
I felt I wanted to share this, hope u don t mind my comment, Dr Ramani.
And thanks for sharing all of this interesting knowledge. Despite everything I still love psychology.
Thanks for sharing that. Too many people believe victims of abusive relationships did something wrong. In truth, anyone can fall into an abusive relationship, especially during a difficult period in their life. Sometimes best to remain a little closed during those vulnerable periods.
After years of trying to heal myself, I've been thinking about self sabotage playing a huge part in my life. Whether it's romantic, emotional or even trying to loose weight, I've always felt limited, like a glass ceiling being present. And this video just confirmed it all. I had chills while watching, thanks ❤️
-I am not enough
-I am not talented enough to reach my dreams
-I'll never be good enough for my family
-I never finish anything
Hmmmmm......
The power, intellect, and wisdom in this conversation! OMG! Thank you!
Love how they promote loving rich people, like you can´t hate them because most of them got that way through dishonest means. I don´t care what you say, OBJECTIVELY I have seen it having worked at loads of Fortune 500 companies. I hate rich people because I´ve worked for rich people and mostly they are corrupt. End of story. I had no problems asking for the raise I deserved every year and which they were more than happy to try to make me think that I was undeserving of while they tried to pad out the dividends on the company stock which they held. Eff them.
Okay I thought I was crazy and the only one who thought this. This circle is NOT addressing structural issues, because then that would mean we have to encourage folks to organize
Butt hurt much.
Being afraid of success even though you know you are capable of it 💔
I have had this struggle mainly with my art career. I have the discipline to make beautiful art, but have also sabotaged myself when I want to make the leap to put my art out there. Have had to do a lot of work to change my inner voice positively before I came back to my art.
To me I'm a stronger person because I can deal with it myself even though I'm not right on how I deal with it sometimes.
cracking up about how kyle quietly realizes his own issues in min 13.15-13.30 :D. feeling with you, bro!
Dr. Ramani is so helpful!!
"You'll never become something you hate"..... I'm thankful for my conscience ❤ it continues to keep my morals and values intact and God in my life! I hate evil in every way shape and form.
This video has SO MUCH information that I need to rewatch it MULTIPLE times to actually get a good grip on the info.
This is amazing… I’m starting to unpack so many childhood invalidating and shaming moments to reconstruct my broken psyche.
Absolutely loved this! I'm totally a self-sabotager. I also really liked the insight from hypnotherapist. Answered a lot of questions I had about the whole process. Thank you!
Guys.....thanks!!! Thanks for these amazing videos. You are bringing light to the world. I cannot explain how grateful I feel for these 2 women how helpful they ate to the world and to the man who brings them here and makes this possible. Thank you again♥️
I just wanna say you guys are doing the work that saves lives. I really appreciate this. Thank you for continuing putting out quality content.
"How do I decide whether I really just like sweatpants or if this is self-sabotage?" - I have the exact same problem and an answer that Dr. Ramani started but never finished I find really great: Do you really feel comfortable and at ease in sweatpants, or does it come up into your mind more often?
For me it's definitely the latter. THANK YOU guys so much, I'm halfway through the video but I already found out so much about myself.
“For the last 40 years we have been living under a market fundamentalist ideology that you could trace to the Reagan-Thatcher revolution,” explains Anand Giridharadas, a progressive commentator and author of “Winners Take All.” He describes the basic tenets of that ideology: Government is bad, taxes are bad, regulation is bad - but rich people are not only good but will make the world a better place.
“We now know that this kind of winners-take-all philosophy allows the very fortunate, through rigging political power to assist their economic power, to basically monopolize the future itself,” he says. “I think people are well aware that there are some people who’ve managed to get themselves on the right side of every [political] change. And most people haven’t.”
And yet billionaires, for the most part, have evaded criticism by branding themselves as great innovators, personifying the American ideals of rags-to-riches opportunity and hard work. (“If we did it, you can do it, too!”)
www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/why-does-everybody-suddenly-hate-billionaires-because-theyve-made-it-easy/2019/03/13/00e39056-3f6a-11e9-a0d3-1210e58a94cf_story.html
that ideology goes back much farther than Reagan; it goes back to the Founding Fathers.
Government _is_ a necessary evil.
Taxes are bad.
Regulation is bad.
Rich people, when not incentivized to hoard their wealth or manipulate society, do make the world better. The world is not better by having millions of starving peasants.
Taxes are bad because they waste money you can spend better on things you either can arrange for yourself, or don't want done.
Regulation is bad, because it is government interference in business... _which is what makes the giant corporations possible_ . With regulation, business becomes less a matter of price and quality responding to competition, and more about manipulating government to your advantage.
There actually are few if any true “rags to riches” stories in which someone became wealthy solely through honest, hard work. Either they started out with some unusual privilege, got extremely lucky (as in marrying money), or were willing to do something highly unethical & cruel to get ahead. Usually a combination of the above.
Had not seen this but the title stopped me as I was scrolling and I was truly glad I did. This is a solid, solid take team and I am glad I got the chance to watch this. Thank you
Just clicking, and listening attentively to this video was an accomplishment, for me. Starting my journey right now.
A note: content /trauma warnings would be good & sensible to use, especially as a mental health-informed channel, & the video title just says self sabotage but specific mentions of r@pe & s€xual abuse can trigger people, & considering male violence is a crisis & is common trauma for immense numbers of women & children, & can trigger others who are traumatized in general, a CW/TW for mentions of s€xual abuse would be good to do. I’m aware & informed & do my best to avoid unnecessary exposure to heavy topics as I can while healing, but without a warning I can’t. Thank you so much for your work, I’ve learned so much from Dr. Ramani’s talks and even had several breakthroughs on my limiting beliefs while listening to this.
she really just launched into that with some Harsh language and no warning. rough watch...
So glad I have found you. My whole body aches the stress of negitive energy is making me ill!
I am learning that I have this behavior. I was going on vacation, yet didn't bc I had not refilled my meds.
I was violently discarded after 36 year's of marriage.
I was 24 when I was married. Sixty one years old when at divorce.
I was isolated due to the ex husband. He had to control us. Rage was a way to control. Also silent treatment for months.
He also had us so fearful that none wanted his wrath.
We were each afraid of him.
How are you feeling now Sonia?
@@taradutton8871 much better. Thank you. Only 30 days til the move. ✌💪❤
Happy Easter!
How are you?
I really admire Dr. Ramani, she is very articulated, natural, eloquent, professional. Thanks to invite her and for all this video material. All of you are the best. Subtitles would be great!
Dr. Ramani...you are more than enough! You are Love, I see you as a oracle. A beam of light. Sending you loving peace and energy
Hello Dr Ramani,
I have been a huge lover of ur content for multiple years now. I’m only 1 minute into this particular video of you, but I just wanted to offer a different perspective to you saying it’s a reward when self sabotage, and say that if I’m honest with myself, it’s not purely a reward in itself, but more a feeling of being in control of any possible bad situations that may come up. The sabotage in my opinion with living this way, is that it’s driven purely through fear, and may create problems that may never even happen.
Thanks again for your amazing content!
I hope you watched the rest of the video and felt validated by what they said after!
I needed this so much today. Thank you. Thank you very much.
I could seriously listen to Dr Ramani talk all day long. I’ve watched every video she’s made & been in at least twice lol. Such a wonderful speaker
Thank you all. This has been extremely helpful. I can't express the joy that I feel when I realize what you are saying. Thank you again.
Thank you, dear Dr. Ramani for all that you do for people. You are amazing. I cried watching this.
Turned 30 this year. Still working on my limiting beliefs and self sabotagge behaviors. And I want to say that for me, after working out on getting rid of some parental resentment I've found within myself, I've been able to observe better at those issues. Amazing video, very insightful! Thank you
Dr.Ramani, your clear explanations and humility, peppered with humor makes all of this so much easier to understand. Mahalo
This was so perfectly explained and I was able to make many connections about my own inhibitions, and repetition of unwanted behaviors. I really appreciate all the information you made available for free 🥺. I’ll start to face one of my mental barriers that I would act upon, the fear of sharing what’s on my mind on the media and in person.
I must admit this is the first time I've learnt that therapists need therapy too! Amazing! We're all equal!
But we are not financially equal! These psychologists get $120/Hour. They get therapy because they can afford to get therapy. I make less than minimum wage, so I can't afford to get therapy.
@@susan638 they usually go through therapy as a part of the process of becoming therapists.
I've met a lot of therapists who are more plenty more imbalanced than their clients!
@@susan638you can heal yourself
These talks give fill me with love and empathy and a sense that I am not alone. I love you all deeply and appreciate you very much. Everyday heroes who overcame their own trauma.
Grace and Dr.R, thank you for teaching us how to identify roadblocks and sharing knowledge to remove them.
Watching Dr Ramani has helped me in so many ways! I want a Dr like her, she seems to really care about her clients.
I LOVE THIS SOOOOO MUCH! Huge fan of this channel and of Dr. Ramani ♥️. First time coming across hypnosis therapy and now I really want to try it as well as traditional therapy ♥️! I am the epitome of self sabotage: I feel like my life is escaping me right in front of my eyes.
Dr. Ramani is so brilliant. I'm amazed, Wow.
This video has given me so many answers! As many of them have. You are just amazing! So grateful to Dr Ramani for all her work and sharing her knowledge with us.
Whenever I come across any interviews with Dr Ramani, I always watch them. Her videos on dealing with Narcissists have helped me immensely. So grateful that she is kind enough to allow her advice and tips etc to be on line 🙌🙌. Massive thank you to her ⭐⭐
I am grateful for the abundance of quality mental health information in the Med Circle repertoire. For someone who wants to become my best self, these videos shed light on so many topics that I feel affect my life. Sending gratitude and appreciation to the facilitators, doctors, and counselors who contribute to these videos.
I love watching this, but I wish I was sitting with you guys too!!!! Such a great conversation!!!!!
I think you are amazing. I love you. You have helped me not to fall too far!
Thank you. I’m very grateful. My children still have me here in life because of you.
You have educated me in what I’ve been living with for 33 years. I could never put my finger on what was happening. I now understand.
Thank you thank you thank you.
I’m now ready to live the rest of my life.
Grace is such a joy to listen to. I would feel very very comfortable in her presence.
Love this discussion - so helpful
THIS video is #1 b/c it is THE reason for ALL 9 personality Disorders. Trickles from the top- or the bottom- Foundation - Child Trauma.
I respect Dr Ramani's Channel. It's so relieving to finally have the explanations to so many of my issues. Trauma, Negativity, and self hate controlled my life at such a young age 5. Now at 42 I finally surrendered, faced my fears, sort help for alcoholism, accepted my ADHD, instead of pretending if I drank enough it would go away. I never understood the term believe in yourself, for decades I didn't get it. I totally get it now. Thank you for all the videos. Always having positive reinforcements. 😘
Dr.Ramani is such a great analyst about things that are hard to explain. Thank you
I love listening and watching Dr. Ramani because I can tell she truly loves her job. She is radiant, and I am envious. 💜 #lifegoals
EMDR is one of the best forms of therapy in my opinion. There were things I didn't want to share in detail, but got the chance to process and reframe through EMDR.
I did self sabotage myself and I knew deep down I was. I wasn't bettering myself, Yes, I somewhat was but my only motivation was to satisfy myself by pleasing others