"if you're depressed, if you're anxious, you're not weak, you're not crazy, you're not a machine with broken parts... you're a human being with unmet needs."
@warner tesla Aren't we judgy!! It's a general statement about the modern human condition which does affect more than myself. But thanks for making it personal. Says a lot about you.
@@karlvi4040 i'd like to see it that when you're depressed you surround yourself with assholes. negative thinking leads to attracting negative people. being around negative people keeps you in a negative place
Stephen, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Life as a child was pretty awful as well. Everything felt so overwhelming, like everyone knew something I didn't and didn't want to tell me. Everything was terrifying
akosiRanRan _ Take some deeprest, when calmness comes you will purge your need authentically... when it does, of course meet that need...but I’d say become aware of basic needs and meet those (shelter, food, peace in your own mind)
Amazing. "Your depression is not a malfunction. It's a signal". That brought tears to my eyes. I've been thinking "something is wrong with me. Why do I have to be messed up?" When in reality I'm not messed up. There's something wrong about my situation or circumstances that's bothering me. Thank you for this.
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
"you're not weak, you're not crazy, you're not, in the main, a machine with broken parts. You're a human being with unmet needs." That hit me, I needed to hear it.
Same cos it's so true and what I have been telling the closest to me and they say to me no if you had a partner you would still be depressed. I say no, no I wouldn't unless he was the wrong person
Marissa Etchison If your current situation is loving, caring, safe, fulfilling, and depression persists then it may be necessary to explore further back (perhaps with a clinical psychologist) into your pre-birth history and early childhood years and into late adolescent years and understand your life script which formed your adult personality. It may provide identification of unresolved pain or trauma encountered during formative years, impacting current mental/emotional state. Or loss of a loved one may be a reason, which bereavement therapy is effective to resolve the depression. Or your life may lack deep-seated spiritual meaning in terms of having purpose and meaning to your earthly life, and engaging with the needy and offering some service to groups within the community may be the answer. For last mentioned consultation with a spiritual director or life couch may be beneficial. Best to you.
I've been trying to explain this for years. Depression & anxiety is a normal part of living in a society that no longer has close communities, we work long hours in jobs that often don't feel meaningful, we are not close to nature all day because our jobs are generally indoors, jobs these days are also not stable which contributes to anxiety, most people have very few close friends, people seem to value being "busy" over spending time with friends, and then there's this whole materialistic culture, that makes people feel like losers if they don't have a fancy car/job/house etc. Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills, which have bad side effects and actually made me feel worse.
"Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills" - You've gone to a doctor for help, what else would you like them to do? Take you out into nature? Force you to work on maintaining old connections and making new ones? Get you a more fulfilling job? Make sure you get to bed on time? Doctors give pills as it's the only real measurable they can help in their professional capacity, not because they're lazy. They can (and should) advise on these other aspects, but they're not therapists or life coaches.
The main reason why I believe I cannot break out from my depression/anxiety is because everytime and I mean absolutely everytime I do open up to someone they always compare my suffering to someone else's. By giving the good old and here's some examples " imagine some people can't walk" or " you could have no job" I don't want comparison to someone else's mindset/life I want you to hear ME out.
Yes!! So many of us struggle with this and you’re absolutely right. You must be talking to men in my guess, because they’re “fixers” by nature and they do this all the time. A lot of women are much better at expressing empathy instead of trying to prove to you that you could have it worse. You need someone better to talk to ❤️
This is why it's also important to go to specialists for help. Yes some people love us and can help but most of us aren't equipped to understand what's happening... help is out there for you. Wishing you the best.
That's it isn't it, people are sick to death of me me me,just as you state, people in this employment of listening to others last 6 months at most,the medical profession is poisoned by giving you poison,and your government has already got past your agenda,since the rivers of blood speech,wake up people,the only people that can help you is you,this is your mortal coil from the same perspective,life is not easy,you depend on your path
Hearing you!! Get the same too when I know the source of my issues is loneliness & isolation, no connection !!! Just being heard out brings a sense of connection & understanding.
@@denisdenak The unmet needs that the speaker is talking about are the inborn basic social needs that a person requires for survival. For example, orphan infants that are not held and hugged will just die, even if they are well fed, clothed and housed. We all have basic needs for loving human interaction that are consciously destroyed by the school system, corporate employment, and suburban isolation. THIS social isolation that is absolutely unprecedented in the history of mankind, is what the author is talking about. Perhaps you are lucky to be born into a loving family, caring community, and wealthy inheritance. THAT is NOT the life that most Americans live, and it is doubtful that your own character had much to do with your own good luck in America.
@@denisdenak did you not hear ANYTHING this man said? i can't even begin to explain how ignorant your statement is. you're doing exactly what shouldn't be done, shaming a person into believing it's their 'fault' for being depressed and anxious by having 'high expectations', which btw i would like it if you elaborated. how exactly are, basic unmet human needs, considered high expectations?
@@atwaterpub I understand the quote and I don't necessarily disagree with it. I'm just saying that those needs can be met in almost any society regardless of where you are coming from. The alienated society is absolutely detrimental to a person's mental health, but not the main reason behind depression in my opinion. Risk factor - absolutely, cause - uh, I'd doubt it. IMHO, the main issue is the high standard of living in the West. Living in those conditions puts child's "basic needs" too high and when that child does meet with reality - his expectations are not just unmet, they are utterly destroyed by the cruel reality. About me - if you have not guessed by now, English is not my first language and thank God I wasn't born in the US or Europe, nor was I raised in a wealthy family.
@@Kookie-zv4bu how is stating my opinion considered to be ignorant or shaming? You could just ask me to elaborate on my statement and I hope I did so replying to atwaterpub.
"you need to feel you belong, to feel your life has meaning and purpose, to feel that people see you and value you, that you have a future that makes sense"
I just moved into another country, alone, no friends and family, and loneliness, anxiety and depression is starting to creep in. I just need to see videos like these and some self-help articles from Marc and Angel's website and I know I can beat this and I'm going to be fine.
This makes me even more anxious. Not even in death regretting will end? Not even at the end we can only die like every other animal on earth no, still there we must feel not enough.
I was a strung out IV drug user who was anxious and depressed, couldn’t get clean, then I got a puppy, I’ve been clean ever since. I am as many years sober as she is old...10!
Great talk. When my dad got depressed, in addition to talking therapy and drugs, my mum bought him a black lab puppy. It got him outdoors, talking to other dog walkers and built a bond of unconditional love. For this reason he really dislikes the "big black dog" campaign as a symbol of depression because, for him, the black dog represented his healing.
1. The most cause to be depressed or anxious is the way we live, lifestyle 2. Be us, be we, be part of a group 3. "We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life"... your depression is a signal to tell you something ! Thanks Mr. Johann Hari !
Yes! The paradigm , the mental construct that stupefies us in order that we do not have a clear view of that machine is seductive and at the same time revolting, and it appears we know it ! It so robs us of any belief in our feelings that even after listening to the wise words of Mr Hari knowing them to be true ; we still misinterpret the signal , the red flag that says 'Boy are WE in trouble !' We see the flag , the crisis that the flag signifies bit still take away t h e message that we are not right , it's us that needs adjusting , medicating to resolve these uneasy feelings. No! There is a problem ! In the matrix , in the force , in the world , not in my fucking synapses
Thank you very much… having battled with depression and anxiety … very lonely … need time with my family and friends.. and I planted my first garden this summer.. it was wonderful - made me happy…. And I met people … I’m alone most of the time…. I’m newly married And this
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
Finaly i hear these words out loud. My friend wanted to kill him self and i invited him to live with me just to feel a part of the tribe . It was the best thing i could do for him. Now he is living his life almost have a wife and is absolutely happy. a little kindnes goes a long way. Be good to each other please people. Love you all.
They did NOT say “Hey, buddy, you need to pull yourself together. It’s your job to figure out and fix this problem on your own”. They said “We’re here to pull TOGETHER with you, so together, we can figure out and fix this problem”. Thank you so much for your speech, it was highly needed, thanks a lot
Taking drugs to treat depression is like putting on a coat when it rains, it doesn't mean you stopped the rain it just means that you temporarily don't get soaked.
I once told a trusted friend I was depressed. His response was, "What do you have to be depressed about?" in a very dismissive tone. He may as well just have smashed me in the face.
This is due to language. Are you feeling down that it's raining on your birthday, or do you feel the absolute need to flee, while simultaneously feeling glued to the bed, and recognize the hopelessness of both options? The English language uses the same word for both of these things.
Dear @soslothful, i very much feel that and have experienced it in a similar way as well! If you want to talk with someone about your depression, please feel free to contact me and we can start an online chat. In any way, i wish you all the best and send you love from europe!
What I heard from this talk is that the most important thing anyone can give to another person is their time. Quality time with other people heals us. I feel most anxious and depressed when I feel I am not interesting enough to be worth someone else’s time.
I just told my dad this morning that travelling helps me with my depression. He said it’s was BS, that I should keep on taking my pills and that everybody’s a little happier when going on vacations. I feel like the worst thing about having depression is being surrounded by people who don’t WANT to understand thinking everything you say is just your depression talking.
Not only they don't want to understand but they are actually the ones putting you there in the first place and pushing you deeper into it with their constant negative comments about what makes you happy.
I started having extreme anxiety this year. And I can’t shake it. It’s so scary. I been through a lot this year My ex girlfriend passed. My dog of 16 years passed. Then covid 19. All in one year. Then my Gma got covid. I got covid. My whole family. Things have been shifting so fast. I used to be the Person people can come to. Now I’m in this mind state where everything gets me so petrified. & My heart palpitates like crazy. I hate it. But hopefully I can get through this man. It’s a horrible feeling. Anyone going through this I wish you the best.
Hope you're doing okay, it's extremely distressing to go from being the rock everyone can lean on to needing someone to lean on yourself. I hope you have people in your life you can lean on and there is no shame or weakness in doing so, just perseverance, strength, and honesty.
Exactly. People think being famous and having tons of money would make you happier. I swear it doesnt. And you have more chances to be more stressed when you are on the top of the dominance hirerarchy. Ex: Famous actor. Imagine, those people doesnt have intimate life, everyone tracks them, they cant do anything otherwise they are judged by everyone. I would never want to be famous because this is not the path for happiness at all.
My mom made a list of things for me to do Everyday to feel better. I have always had anxiety and depression. They are: Do something nice for yourself. Do something nice for someone else. Smile. Do something you love doing. Get some kind of exercise that you enjoy doing. Eat healthy foods. Be kind to yourself and others. And... Think happy thoughts. My mom was very loving and very wise.
@@chillaxer8273 It's shifting the fault from implying an innate problem had started within the individual to the type of environment that individual lives in.
Hang in there friend, you'll find where you belong, I'm sure of it. I'm 35 and I can tell you there is no magic bullet, being happy has become easier with age but if you just be yourself, there is bound to be people you'll meet who like you and whom you like :)
As someone who has become deeply depressed in the last year, this man still holds so much sadness inside of him. Given it’s an amazing talk, you can see how emotional he is talking about this subject. This brought tears to my eyes
"Why would we know something so profound, but not live by it" - "Because we live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life" - Amen to that.
Thank you for this. I've been dealing with Anxiety attacks since 6th grade. I was bullied. They broke my nose, ripped apart my clothes. After my first few panic attacks, I started to stay home more and more. Which later turned into agoraphobia. Going to a simple shopping made me sooo nervous, I thought my blood pressure was 200 and I'm going to have a stroke. Seeing all my friends travelling made me even more sad. Beause yes, I was happy being alone home, it felt like my safe spot, later this came back as feeling depressed even at home. Especially more recently. Now, I'm turning 23 and started feeling REALLY lonely. I've started crying for no reason. I felt I'm alone on this world. No one undestrands me. No matter how introvert I am, now I started feeling the desire to go places, meet people. Forget about my problems. And yes, they also prescribed me SEROXAT when I went into middle school, but that changed NOTHING. My father was the main person I did things with. We went to random places. Worked together. And he really started curing my Anxiety. After his passing in 2018, I relapsed and went back to have agoraphobia. I rarely left my room. But just a few days ago this overwhelming feeling of lonelyness started to hit me. Crying for no reason. So now I booked a visit to a clinic. But what you've said here is sooooo true. Now I undestand (hopefully) what my body wants, and I'll look more at this "feeling depressed" thing more as a sign, rather than me thinking I'm just going crazy. I'll try going out more and more. Maybe making the big leap to travel again to other countries. Sorry for the long comment, but had to let this off of my chest. Thank you. I'll update my comment when I feel more and more better. I pray to God I will.
Best of luck to you. Really sorry about your father. I hope things end up turning around. I would recommend a public gym as a first step in reintroducing yourself to public settings. Physical movement kills anxiety like nothing else and there are often staff that will help guide you. Joining a class can also help, although I would recommend something that has less risk of being self conscience. You would be surprised how happy and welcoming people can get when they see someone new at their facility.
So, as I've promised; an update after visiting my doc: The first problem was that I suddenly stopped taking Seroxat, which as a side effect made me feel like crap 90% more. So as I started taking it I feel better, but I do feel that weird feeling in my chest. The second thing he now prescribed me are long walks. Walking and exercise makes these feeling pass by a bit faster. Not only that, but I started being around my family a bit more than usual, which also helps to forget a bit more. I hope my next comment update will be when I feel completely me again.
Bro, I'm sorry about everything that has happened to you. If you are physically able, and you want to feel better, do a few things for yourself: 1. believe the past doesn't determine your future 2. start hitting the weights and start building the strongest, healthiest physique you can. the BODY will fuel your MIND. 3. eat well and get your rest. so you can LIFT more weights. i don't care what any doctors says or anyone says: if you are able to lift weights, get to work building your body up. it will do more for you than any therapy, prescription, book, etc. good luck. the more you lift, the better you will feel
Your anxiety is perfectly understandable in the context of your experiences. Don’t blame yourself. It’s possible to recover and you have bravely, taken the first steps. I found volunteering for a charity helped enormously. You will find what works for you. Best of luck on your journey and keep giving updates. ☘️🌝🌲
Are you for or against this Ted talk? It's a good quote but I'm curious if you mean that it is better to be alone, rather than finding new people or working with the ones you got?
@@AdrianAnetsen The actor Robin Williams suffered from depression. He found solitude in cycling with a group and never overcame his demons. I am sure that he meant that avoiding those that you do not see eye to eye with are better left out of your life
@@utistudent099 Robin had Lewy Body Dementia which is a SOMATO explanation for what has been falsely labeled as PsychoSOMATIC conditions. There are NO clinical tests for any condition listed in the DSM.
vaccinefraud Marylin Monroe was locked up in the psycho ward by her shrink and part time lover and that accelerated her spiral toward death. Her ex husband that divorced her six years earlier whom went by the name of Joe DiMaggio threatened to destroy that hospital brick by brick if they did not release her and they did under his pressure. Psychology itself as a practice had much to do with her death. Psychology is a witch-hunt.
@@utistudent099 I'll see your Witch Hunt and raise you Sorcery, which is (witches?) what Psychiatry is because they use unknown substances to poison people with. The PDR often says: The Mechanism of Action of this drug is unknown, but.... As to isolation, the problem that I and I've noticed some other commenters is that the legend of Bodhi Dharma was that he sat staring at the wall of a cave for 9 years. Isolation can be a liberating experience. It all depends on how you entered into it. My favorite quote was when they asked him what he did during that nine years, he replied, "Listened to the ants scream."
Being a part of a community/group and forming valuable connections with everyone in that 'tribe' is the best antidote to depression and anxiety. I learnt a lot from this video. I see this comment section as a community as well. So I love each and every one of you. Having communities in person is what we all need.
Lazy, spot on. The community which accepts us for who we are, and smiles at us daily is where I belong. Oh and a simple clean cottage in the woods would help.
A problem for me is that, as an older woman, I have no family, no career, and my friends (with family) are so busy with their careers or with babysitting (the older friends) that they don't have the time for the deep friendship that I crave.
@@Alice-km1hv im in a single dorm room and im not involved in any extracurriculars. I just go here for my classes right now. The only time i ever talk to a human being is either in 1 of my classes or for when i go to get food
Erik A lot of people born around Generation Z tends to be more depressed or stressed. Especially for those born around 1998 or before are adults now in 2019.
I'm in tears. I'm so lonely. It permeates my existence. I try finding friends and the flakey, ghosting, competative backstabbing bla bla.. and back to loneliness. I just want people to genuinely care about me and find my tribe.
But you're loneliness doesn't make you weak. It's what makes us human. Our vulnerabilities, and what make us fragile are because we as humans are not perfect. Maybe, we were never meant to be.but it's the most important thing is to be loved. And you can always draw near to God, because in my brokenness, I was able to find God. My sin separated me from Him.
Maybe we need to stop believing the lies, by surrounding ourselves with people that love us for who we are, not what we're not. Wss hy is it that as babies, all our needs were met. Now, that you're older, they love you a little less.
This is the talk that helped me get out of depression. After a few months I got my autism and ADHD diagnosis and it changed my life. It was like having a second chance to life my life.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free. Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
@Jack Fantom Every building is evidence of a builder. Even if he has been dead for 100 years and there is no docu¬mentation, you know there was a builder because it's impossible for a building to have built itself. Creation (nature) is evidence of the Creator. It is impossible for nature to have made itself or be eternal. Those who don't believe in God default to believing that nothing created everything, which is scientifically ludicrous.
Emanuele, The permanent cure to anxiety and stress is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
You are not alone about the breakdown. Life can be very disappointing. So we must somehow find what makes us happy and relaxed. Usually simple and beautiful things make people happy. Funny things make people laugh. Each day is a gift. See what is beautiful in that day; no matter how painful that day has been. Find something you enjoy. Take time to laugh, cry if necessary, and let it all go. Make some comfort food. Do Yoga. Mindfulness. Peaceful Visualization. Whatever works.
I’m 25 years old watching this and will cherish these values you’ve taught me today and keep them close to me when I find myself feeling depressed or struggling with anxiety. Thank you.
I lost my six week old daughter to SIDS. Every day after getting my four children out the door I would fall to my knees and cry where I would stay all day long. Four months later I ordered myself 100 baby chickens which I knew would make me get off of my knees because I would have to take care of them. I still grieved my daughter but I was able to get my life back
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. The fact that you took steps on your own to get your life back speaks volumes about your strength. Never forget how strong you are capable of being.
3:45 “every human being has natural psychological needs. You need to feel you belong. You need to feel your life has meaning and purpose. You need to feel that people see you and value you.”
This is the first “self improvement” talk that I’ve ever heard that makes good sense and doesn’t blame the victim. It was powerful and compassionate and very encouraging.
@Sqrley L. Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@lauradelta8060 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@Sqrley L. , this is quite good, but listen also to Dr Gabor Maté, who shows even better, how we can use Compassionate Inquiry into understanding ourselves in a positive and compassionate way! He is an incredible doctor with a lifetime of experience, including palliative care, serious disease, suicide, addiction, etc. Through this experience and his weaving together of growing research, he shows us a path forward. He blames no one, and goes even more deeply in his work, to show how unconscious childhood stress has influenced development of not only our depression, ADHD, OCD, etc, but also serious disease such as cancer, MS, ALS, etc., which can also develop as a consequence of our stress. His many talks have changed my lifelong depression, as I now understand that my problems are no one’s fault, and that I can finally come out of this hole. Best wishes to you!
I don't know what happened but when he said that your depression is not just a malfunction it's a signal Something triggered in me and I feel okay now,somehow I think I needed to hear that and that sentence gave me hope to actually get out of my bed in the morning and find what my body has been searching for all this time. And I'll always be grateful for this video.
Seriously!!! I look at certain things in my life that consistently make me feel absolutely awful. I will take a variety of Otc anti depressants to try and force myself to be ok to be ok with what I'm not ok rather than actually fixing the situation itself
Melissa Goldstein you're not alone. Think of the people who are feeling same but they can't even afford the meds. It's really nasty. I'm writing and facing quite a bit on this subject myself.
Please look into Nonviolent Communication developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg. It's all about developing the language and skills to understand our needs and employing strategies for having those needs met. It has been life-changing for me and I hope it helps you, too!
Absolutely spot on. I've changed diet, working on my thinking/attitude, exercising again, writing more and playing my guitar, meditating, praying etc. for the past two months and feeling better already! Very very important stuff! In the early 70's my father said,"The problem is people don't need each other anymore." Exactly.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free. Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
People have been lost. Not on their own, but carefully turned into consumers living in endless competition to eachother for this flawed idea that individual happiness will lead to all people being haply. We know that is a complete lie that corporations and elite have gotten us all to believe. Quality time with those we love is the real way to get happy.
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I’ve tried. Just by asking god or Jesus for help doesn’t mean he just magically shows up and heals you. In fact I reach out to him a lot and nothing changes. It’s like my purpose on this earth is to suffer.
What's terrible is that humanity has been on this path for the better part of two centuries. Many 19th century European philosophers saw the massive upheaval caused by industrialization, urbanization, mass production, and mass consumption.
Excellent talk. In addition to all the things he said, when we are depressed, we have to work through it as well and that takes time. For the past couple of years, I was depressed from a devastating heartbreak. I had to work through it, meaning doing the crying, thinking, pondering, resting, praying, and finding the value in my own life. I tried to get involved in volunteer work. I've done some sewing, reading, writing, and crocheting. I've talked to close friends and spent time with family. And, now, finally, after working through it all, I've emerged on the other side. I feel happy and purposeful again. And that feels wonderful!
I really appreciate when he said "you're not a machine with broken parts" because that's how everyone reacts if I ever tell them I have depression & anxiety, as if I'm just broken and it's my fault.
TokyoBlue I totally feel you on that....my family doesn’t understand it when I have depression or anxiety symptoms. They just say “oh you just have to exercise more” “oh just change your mindset.” It makes me feel even worse and then I just don’t talk about it unless I’m talking with a friend that understands.
Similar to when I tell people that I was in intensive psychotherapy (therapeutic community (not a cult but an outpatient treatment in the UK)) the usual response is "Oh I'm so sorry" And I'm like what? That was me getting better it was before that I needed sympathy.
@@SarahLeaf totally understand the way it feels when people respond like that. Most annoying is that while what they say is somewhat true, challenging your own low thoughts and taking more exercise would probably help it misses the point. At those times you just need someone to be open minded, non judgemental and supportive. The messed up society kind of disapproves of passive, not-quick-fixes.
@@chrishughes3405 I feel you. Most people in my country are still absolutely or mostly blind when it comes to mental needs, illnesses. For example, if I told them that I'm depressed and I need to meet a psychologist, their reactions would be "Are you crazy?". That is a very disheartening reaction and it just makes me feel like I AM crazy. That's why I have a mission to share as much as I can about our psychological needs. You will be understood, you will be embraced, you will be fine. I want you and people to feel that way. Please share it to people who needs, because we're all in this group together.
Covid was an awakening. People were forced to accept that which they can not change. When you accept what IS, you do not suffer. When you fight what IS, you suffer. People were forced into their inner worlds and face them. Perspective of the external world is merely a reflection of the internal world. We apply our thoughts and emotions to events to label them but events are facts and that's why two people can go through the exact same event and come out with completely different perspectives. Covid was not good or bad, it was an event and either you grew or suffered.
I can tell you how it has affected kids. I am a camp guide in a summer camp, and we make activities and games for them, each series of kids staying for a week. What we observed this summer is that they are extremely starved for attention and touch. I mean, we take care of these through talking, playing and high fives. The real issues are with the inter-person relationships. Some are extremely introverted and stuck into their phones or playing with their toys, especially the younger ones. Overall, we have noticed that they are extremely aggressive and unkind, becoming outright feral. Us, the adults, have already adapted to the situation, but to kids it seems to have been catastrophic. They fight much more than in the previous years, they bully each other more, and they are harder to work with. I do hope lockdowns do not get enforced anymore. These poor kids deserve more.
@@nicheatic9189 I agree with, I here some people say lockdown is not good or bad or that it helps self discover and figure out our values but I have to disagree. You have to figure out stuff on your own and not be forced to do so. The kids nowadays have it bad because they are the ones who are going to be repaying all this Covid crap because all the adults are deluded and scared and prefer to destroy the economy.
Home doesn’t feel like home anymore. It feels like a prison. That’s not me trying to be edgy I’m really serious when I say that schools have forgotten that children and teens can’t just sit in front of a screen for 6 or 7 hours, and then do possibly another few hours of homework, and I’d just like to say that if you need to assign students an overview of the lesson for them to do at home, did you really teach the lesson well?
My girlfriend got out of her depression and anxiety disorder by stopping antidepressants and making life changes so her life would align morewith her desires than her fears :)
Ademir, The permanent cure to anxiety is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
This is such an important video highlighting the importance of discussing mental health and overcoming the stigma associated with depression and anxiety. For those who may be struggling, it's essential to know that there are resources and support available. You may want to check out @Dr.healingstrain, a mycologist who uses mushrooms to help people overcome depression and anxiety. They provide valuable information and support for those dealing with mental health challenges, and their work is worth exploring.
I've been following Dr.healingstrain for a while now, and their work with psilocybin-containing mushrooms is really impressive. They're doing groundbreaking research into the potential benefits of these mushrooms for mental health.
I've never heard of Dr.healingstrain before, but their approach to treating anxiety and depression with mushrooms is intriguing. I'm definitely going to check out their products and see if they can help me.
I earnestly wish I wasn’t so deeply depressed so that this ted talk could have made a difference for me. I’m at least happy I decided to watch. Maybe that means I’m trying to survive.
Keep trying. If this EXACT MOMENT isn't the one where you die then you might as well KEEP SWIMMING until you feel differently. Take care of anything that's been gnawing at you while you're at it. As simple as washing the dishes or as hard as that phone call. Not the angry one. The other one. The one where everyone is a flawed human in need of love and understanding. As awkward as that might be. Either way, you might feel better after. Anyways...I've got a few unreported scars in vital places and a 5150 under my belt. I ask the question of if I'll make it to tomorrow almost every day...but I'm still here a long time after I thought I wouldn't be. Hopefully you will be too.
Hi JRS, I know what you mean, I've been there. In my case it was not a TED video I watched, but a book I decided to start reading (Feeling Good, by doctor Burns). That was the beginning, then went thru a number of therapies, activities, help of other people, work on myself, meditation etc... it can be beaten!
If you watch it again and write down main points, you could distill those down into two or three phrases to affirm to yourself daily. You could tape them to your mirror or above the toilet so you see it every day. And say them to yourself. It has made a difference for me to use such a strategy. Keep going..I struggle immensely with depression too and I know that feeling of dreading doing anything. Good luck!
i'm in tears watching this. i always have this voice in my head saying that other people are stronger than me. more able to understand how they can ease their depression or anxiety. its a really lonely feeling. it helps when you can relate to the person talking about this. and that we are together in this world, even in this wierd individualized society
This is so true. I live alone and am older. My son is a drug addict. My 23yr old grand daughter does not speak to me in the last 5 yrs. My boyfriend has prostate cancer. I have no friends and am all alone. My bf does not live with me and i only see him once day a wk. So i am really alone. I don't care anymore. It's true. I often wonder who will bury me when i die? There is no one around me. I am 70.
@@marieb.1810 Mary whenever I feel alone I always say no I have me and my voice inside, whoever thst is it's been with me all this time and then I see my dog and I wonder... How in the world do I get along and love another living thing that has never communicated with me in vocal words? Then I say sometimes it's better to be alone than in bad company and too much isn't enough and words mean nothing if they are said by mean egos. I can't feel your pain we all live differently and I just wanted to try and help and I can't say I'm here for you but I was just now and always think when you feel down that there's someone out there that has it even worse and see what you do with that, take care of yourself, we born alone and die alone just need to find good company that's all.
@@PEACEFULWARRIOR999 Thanks. I like what you wrote. I do have a dog i love very much. I have no real friends. I think i lost myself somewhere along the way. My son is a drug addict and stresses on me. I raised my grand daughter since she was a baby and at 17 she left and won't talk to me anymore. I guess i am better being alone than being near my druggie son. We live far apart. He texts me for money all the time. I am old at 70 and getting so tired of life. I know there are people who have it worse than me. I got a roof over my head and enough food. I think i just need to be around more people. Winter in the country is too isolating. I'm thinking of helping out at a Soup Kitchen in the spring. I can meet people then and help the poor.
“ your depression is not a malfunction...your depression is a signal...” You made me cry... Thank you... thank you for this... for a so many years I thought something was wrong with me that I had a “malfunction” but I’m taking this depression as a signal thank you again !
A lot of doctors nowadays are shady. They waste their time, don't keep their appointments, act like they don't care. Don't bother to give a diagnosis. "It screams I don't care about you", then Bill's insurance for $$$. -SAD. Then, you wonder why people don't get better...
I think we should go back to the days where we lived with family instead of alone. Everyone contributes to the running of the household in a meaningful way that works for everyone. Elderly would never get left out and have purpose and be cared for and moms and dads wouldn't feel the burden of taking care of children by themselves and providing for the household by themselves. If I was a millionaire I would build a large house for my family with a large living room where everyone could gather but also have separate quarters where everyone could go if they needed peace. Everyone would have their own bathrooms.
This!! Even in literature, modernism shows us how people turn to absurdism and nihilism, become depressed. All because of industrialisation and urbanization. They become more lonely and sad all because people decided to live individually in their own houses
i used to work with a bollywood actor, he was very poor before and later became filthy rich, he used to live in a grand multi million dollar house here in india in mumbai, and then moved to a small house like less than 1500 sq ftt. i asked him why doing so ? cant you afford the luxury ? he told me once that once you get rich, the houses become huge , but people get away from you, and literally his mother had a heart attack and he couldnt hear her scream , he could not even have dinner with his children as they ate in their rooms watching laptop, and after that day, he went to live in quite a smaller house, always family before work
@The Brown Analyst wow, very eye opening. Thanks for sharing. Goes to show money isn't everything and people are what truly matter. We should love like people are dying tomorrow.
Another reason why we are depressed and anxious is because we are all stuck in offices, living like robots, running an endless race on a hamster wheel we will never win.
This is literally my problem. I'm such an optimistic person, but I don't have enough support and it really affects me. I heard that support was to be earned like respect, but I think its something everyone deserves.
Honestly...you’re probably asking for support from the wrong group ...gurl...you need to absorb your energy into a group that truly understands and relates to you . Sometimes with your personality type . Do the personality Test and learn more about yourself . I did it and I am an ENFP (campaigner) ...I was exactly in the same position as you are feeling ...after much though and research ... I realized that I need to move on to another group . It will make a huge difference I can vouch for it gurl ! 🤗
It's all about empathy. If someone is making a trade out of emotional support, they are narcissists, BPD. Empathy is something that should come naturally and doesn't require conditions.
I was part of a group counselling session today where one of the participants shared this TED Talk after what I had to share. I have to say that this is the best TED Talk I've ever watched. Thank you for your research, voice and sharing. This hit me right in the mind and heart tonight. Thank you.
It’s crazy because I can see when people feel this way in public and I shed a tear for them on the inside. Because I’ve seen it for years now in myself. Looking in the mirror. I see those same eyes in people.
@@jacobmettler3857 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
“If we already know what makes us happy, why do we neglect that?” “Because live in a machine that is designed to make us neglect what is important about life.”
Slippery slope of a metaphor. What if one’s unmet needs is to cheat because they have a sexual fantasy of cheating or unmet needs of a pedophile. I get what he means but in today’s age wants are needs and needs are pseudo desires
@@iEMMANU3L Those aren't needs, those are desires, needs are necessities, food, water, home, purpose, security and love. You won't die if you don't cheat, you will die if you are overworked, not eating enough and left entirely alone.
My mother she was the only person that i used to speak with when im down when im sad and since i lost her i feel like she took a big part of me with her , i wish i can see her and sit with her just for 2 minutes
My mom was the same for me..my best friend and confidante. She gave the best advice and shoulder to cry on. Since she passed I go on walks and I talk to her. And silence myself as though to listen and believe it or not it was as if my heart was giving me what I believe she did. Please know she is still with you.
Myself too . My whole family is in heaven and I have nowhere to turn that I feel comfortable with . Most people do not know how to handle my kind of raw emotions . I hope that you find peace within .
@@kinnyadams8601 Same..i talk to my dear mama and look at her photo every day- i believe she is watching over me xox it gives me the strength to carry on.
I know the feeling,Same here,I know this sounds stupid but I thought she was never gonna die,Its been a year I still feel shocked.your not alone.Dont give up.🙏⚘🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
That was excellent! I’m in tears and finally feel validated. I don’t need a bunch of antidepressants I need what I have been asking for all my life and that’s to BELONG TO SOMEONE! Belong somewhere, be a part of something. And to be LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY. And not be abused. The first time I was involved in something I created with a group of people is the ONLY time in my life I felt I belonged somewhere and a part of someone. This was so good and validating I am going to share with my therapist and ask if we can watch it in group. I’d love to hear the feed back from everyone. I’m that group I’m just opening up and wonder if others are feeling what he just talked about. My daughter who has a BA I’m psychology and an MA in Social work just sent me a long list of why and how I need to change my thinking bc I’m acting like a victim. When all I did was express my feelings about things that happened to me and my other children in the past. Then I got scripture thrown at me which was taken out of context. I am a Christian so I know scripture well and I’ll go read and study whatever someone gives me. What she sent me doesn’t pertain to depression and anxiety. But she’s still young and will figure it out. This was really my life saver tonight bc I felt so defective and now I’m leaving here with a direction to go. I have social anxiety and panic attacks that’s what keeps me isolated. It’s so hard for me to initiate a conversation or friendship but I can give my time to someone in service like I did last time and I come back out of my shell. Thank you for the talk.
I hope your daughter did figure it out because that sort of stuff is why so many people in rural areas hesitate to go to a mental health professional. I went to a counseling center and one of the questions the counselor asked me was, "Are you a Christian?" I told her no and she stared at me for 10 seconds and then said, "You have a little anxiety, but I think it's medical not psychological. So you need to go back to your doctor and have them test you for everything." Basically, it was her way of saying she didn't want to help me because I wasn't Christian. I had gone to multiple medical doctors before that meeting and since. They've all said the same thing: anxiety. The other mental health practitioners here messed up my mom, so I definitely don't want to see them. Basically, I need to earn enough money to move to a larger city in order to get the chance at getting decent mental health care.
This is spot on, I’m sad because I’m lonely, I have no friends I can go for coffee with or go watch a movie with or go to the salon with. I wish I could find my tribe
Oh wow. I feel the same way. If I want to go to the movies I go with my daughter. How sad. It’s a work in progress not to feel depression and anxiety. Good luck finding your tribe. ☺️
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best
i'm so tired of feeling powerless and anxious. I've been trying for months to accept my negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations but i feel like im going nowhere. I tell myself that it's in my hands not to feel this way and that progress is slow but I feel like I want to scream from how much I'm constantly stressed out and unsure. I just want to one day wake up and feel differently
forgiveness is the key to change. forgive yourself for your faults and realize that you’re not beyond redemption. what differentiates a good person from a bad person is that a good person tries to be good, because they care, not that they’re always good. that’s what really matters.
This is correct. But in this, there is also some element of otherness. I am not good enough, and different to everyone else. This is where being part of a bigger community is helpful. To realise that we are not as separated and different as we think we are. Our thoughts about life and ourselves are not unique to us.
I get this overwhelming feeling that I just want to be this guy’s friend... the calming way he spoke and the sincerity in his eyes, I felt it, through a screen...
Yes, and i think the reason he was able to form this great message through a long journey of research is his sincere and genuine interest in finding why depression is increasing and how to help those going through it. Lovely person.
Totally agree. And the fact that he's actually been there himself, so he knows what he's talking about. I loved the part about being part of a tribe / community. I've learnt this year to let people in, let them help.
I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking shrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.
Wow! How do I find someone trustworthy to get me some please? So many deaths on the news from mushrooms lately. Can you give me a trustworthy source please? I’m in Australia.
I say this with the utmost sincerity, you have that person and always have, it's you. If you've made it thus far, even with the challenges, you've done an amazing job.
@@umamii936 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I don't care for money, success for myself....But my parents are in their 60s with no retirement, no house, no plans. I feel sad making decision that would provide financial stability for my family over my passion.
Just for today…. Or a time period. So much is temporary. Can you keep your interest alive yet in the background? Hod honors us when we are honorable. I hope the best growing time for you. 🙏
Loneliness is a huge part of my depression. My health keeps me home a lot and people just stop coming around. I can't work because of my health. And I have no friends. Therapy is the only bright hour of my week, because someone listens and cares.
Keep going man, hopefully you’ll get there and be able to work and leave the house regularly. If your ever feeling lonely there’s people online to talk to, I’m here if you need to talk :)
Michael Taylor: Hi Michael, I hope you are okay and that your week has been good. Can I make a gentle suggestion? Have you considered joining some volunteer groups where people get together to do some gardening, walking or even exercise classes. Sometimes moving your body, being active and interacting with other people can really do wonders for the mind body and soul. Try going online and seeing what's out there. You might find that you get to meet new people and make new friends. I know you've mentioned you have poor health but this could help improve it as well as ease the loneliness. Hope this info helped. Capt. Coco.
Hmm- used to be depressed and anxious- but not anymore. I got to being my own friend- easy to say- harder to apply- but I learned to really like myself and see earth as a place to just experience- not “succeed” in something. Real success is truly doing something you are present in and not always jumping to the past or future trying to be something more then just an experiencer of things that fascinate you. people will pick up on that fast and become interested in you. Be interested in them. I could live a thousand years and still be wanting to experience things on Earth.
Thank you for your personal insight. It has helped me see life in a new perspective. My favorite... learn to be be your own friend and aim to be successful in what u enjoy and experience not by social standards. Life is a playground . Don't be so serious i guess 😁
@@Elian- That's fine, you don't need to like the excuse. No one does. Psychosocial stressors are legitimately so complex. It isn't fair to call other people's experiences an "excuse" just because you can't empathize. Until you receive a degree in applied clinical psychology or another similar certification, you have no right to deem one excuse less acceptable than others. Get over yourself.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free. Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Are you against rapists and rapists marrying their victims? If so you might want to ditch that trash known as the bile bull Deuteronomy 22: 28-29 If a man encounters a young woman, a virgin who is not engaged, takes hold of her and rapes her, and they are discovered, the man who raped her is to give the young woman’s father fifty silver shekels, and she will become his wife because he violated her. He cannot divorce her as long as he lives.😬
@@thebodykeepsthescore2828 God encouraging rape? Deuteronomy 22:28-29 28 “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, 29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days." Is the bible encouraging rape? No. Rape was a common practice back then where a guy would rape a woman take her virginity and leave her for dead or in the gutter so to speak so God is saying now you must marry her and pay the bride price to the parents (much better than what happens now to women when they get raped).
@@thebodykeepsthescore2828 One of the biggest mistakes people make is to blame all the evil in the world as God’s fault. Make no mistake, the dEVIL caused it. But your sins gives the devil a license to cause mayhem in your life. God never created a world full of hate, murder, children being aborted, cancer etc We live in a fallen world the more you sin the more corruption there will be. If Everyone were holy, then the world would be a much better place because God would be present.
If you examine it closely, people got depressed when their expectations are broken. Our individual world, our daily reality are actually made up of continuous uninterruptible flow expectations. When they are broken, people will lost their sense of self continuity, they will lost confidence and self certainty and indulge in fear of what has to come.
YES!! *Doctors want to give you a pill. *Insurance allows you 6-therapy sessions. *Well meaning people make clueless or dismissive remarks. *Others arrogantly judge, criticize. .....and they then wonder WHY you're no longer open with them, withdrawn, isolate.
There are millions of beings that need a reality check and a need and thirst for knowledge, that destroy there own planets,I am pleased you came for the show,no charge
Yes, yes and utter yes. This is probably one of the single most important talks in modern day history. Every part rings with deep clarity and understanding. This right here should be essential information in every school and corner of the world.
"if you're depressed, if you're anxious, you're not weak, you're not crazy, you're not a machine with broken parts... you're a human being with unmet needs."
The last line hit home
This part made me cry
i started crying when he said that
And rin, you love mankind and understand it's vulnerability.
God Bless 🙏 Goodnight 🌉
BTW... Who or where are you " quoting " from?
@@petemavus2948 this is from the video
"If you are depressed, if you are anxious, you're not weak, you're not crazy... you're a human being with unmet needs." 100%
“Put your hand on the left side of your chest. Feel that beat. That’s purpose. You are here for a reason.”
Gold
Depression is really underated. Being broke leaves you struggling with depression every time. I just can't help it most times
@@gonzalezxavier1702 even with money its a struggle hope there's some comfort in that . Peace to u
@@gonzalezxavier1702 it's a process, I advice adopting saving and investing. Trust the process you'll pull through.
We are lonely because our purpose in life has been reduced to making money. All other human needs have been sidelined.
@warner tesla Aren't we judgy!! It's a general statement about the modern human condition which does affect more than myself. But thanks for making it personal. Says a lot about you.
@@mamarama5174 don't let the narcissism of another get to you
@@thomaskavanagh9780 As long as I can turn it into a clever reply I don't. Thanks for the support.
I agree!
@warner Tesla totally proved the speaker’s point
There’s a saying: ‘before you diagnose yourself with anxiety and/or depression, make sure you’re not surrounded by a$$holes’
Gee that's good!
it s also a reason that some people are depressed
Wow. True
@@karlvi4040 i'd like to see it that when you're depressed you surround yourself with assholes.
negative thinking leads to attracting negative people.
being around negative people keeps you in a negative place
I mean, it’s not wrong.
Congrats to anyone trying to improve their life. Never stop trying.
🙏
Stephen, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thank you stranger your comment brightened a rather grey day
This comment made me cry
@@chase3872 Put God first and ask for guidance. He is the only one who could fill that void. I will be praying for you. Have a blessed day 🙏
i used to say 'i cant wait to be an adult'. never have i been so wrong. life as a child was bliss.
That is so so true.I 100% relate.
💗
Only when you're not abused or exposed to traumatizing experiences
I don't want to be an adult even when I was a child. And it is still true today >
Life as a child was pretty awful as well. Everything felt so overwhelming, like everyone knew something I didn't and didn't want to tell me. Everything was terrifying
"Your depression is not a malfunction, it's a signal." Excellent TED Talk.
Yes, take some “Deep rest” 👍
yes
my key takeaway. the next challenge is to figure out what that unmet need is
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Take some deeprest, when calmness comes you will purge your need authentically... when it does, of course meet that need...but I’d say become aware of basic needs and meet those (shelter, food, peace in your own mind)
Turn off cellphones and wifi in home....and garden!
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Amazing. "Your depression is not a malfunction. It's a signal". That brought tears to my eyes. I've been thinking "something is wrong with me. Why do I have to be messed up?" When in reality I'm not messed up. There's something wrong about my situation or circumstances that's bothering me. Thank you for this.
thank you. it took you saying this for me to understand.
hope things are better or getting better for u
@@mekaydoge3428 thank you! They have definitely been getting better. Bless you.
@@ChynnaTheIsraelite glad to hear it
I hope you are okay
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
"you're not weak, you're not crazy,
you're not, in the main, a machine with broken parts.
You're a human being with unmet needs."
That hit me, I needed to hear it.
yes!, same here🥳😼
Same cos it's so true and what I have been telling the closest to me and they say to me no if you had a partner you would still be depressed. I say no, no I wouldn't unless he was the wrong person
@@courtneyjackson7181 I have a wonderful partner and I'm still depressed and anxious. No one thing makes anything better, especially depression.
Marissa Etchison If your current situation is loving, caring, safe, fulfilling, and depression persists then it may be necessary to explore further back (perhaps with a clinical psychologist) into your pre-birth history and early childhood years and into late adolescent years and understand your life script which formed your adult personality. It may provide identification of unresolved pain or trauma encountered during formative years, impacting current mental/emotional state. Or loss of a loved one may be a reason, which bereavement therapy is effective to resolve the depression. Or your life may lack deep-seated spiritual meaning in terms of having purpose and meaning to your earthly life, and engaging with the needy and offering some service to groups within the community may be the answer. For last mentioned consultation with a spiritual director or life couch may be beneficial. Best to you.
if only the World knew what to do and what to say, instead of the crap they DO say to us, ad nauseam.
"You're not a machine with broken parts. You are a human being with unmet needs." That hit me in the feels and made me start to cry.
It's true. God bless you
exactly. me too.
I hope you’re not a guy
Chase Jordan cos it would be gay to cry
Indeed. Just how I felt. Just what I needed to hear today💔😢
I've been trying to explain this for years. Depression & anxiety is a normal part of living in a society that no longer has close communities, we work long hours in jobs that often don't feel meaningful, we are not close to nature all day because our jobs are generally indoors, jobs these days are also not stable which contributes to anxiety, most people have very few close friends, people seem to value being "busy" over spending time with friends, and then there's this whole materialistic culture, that makes people feel like losers if they don't have a fancy car/job/house etc.
Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills, which have bad side effects and actually made me feel worse.
Goodness me ... this is so very true and real ... ☆
its the capitalism
"Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills" - You've gone to a doctor for help, what else would you like them to do? Take you out into nature? Force you to work on maintaining old connections and making new ones? Get you a more fulfilling job? Make sure you get to bed on time? Doctors give pills as it's the only real measurable they can help in their professional capacity, not because they're lazy. They can (and should) advise on these other aspects, but they're not therapists or life coaches.
Have you found something that does help?
@@daveydaveable - Unfortunately docs don't advise on these other aspects.
The main reason why I believe I cannot break out from my depression/anxiety is because everytime and I mean absolutely everytime I do open up to someone they always compare my suffering to someone else's. By giving the good old and here's some examples " imagine some people can't walk" or " you could have no job" I don't want comparison to someone else's mindset/life I want you to hear ME out.
Yes!! So many of us struggle with this and you’re absolutely right. You must be talking to men in my guess, because they’re “fixers” by nature and they do this all the time. A lot of women are much better at expressing empathy instead of trying to prove to you that you could have it worse. You need someone better to talk to ❤️
This is why it's also important to go to specialists for help. Yes some people love us and can help but most of us aren't equipped to understand what's happening... help is out there for you. Wishing you the best.
That's it isn't it, people are sick to death of me me me,just as you state, people in this employment of listening to others last 6 months at most,the medical profession is poisoned by giving you poison,and your government has already got past your agenda,since the rivers of blood speech,wake up people,the only people that can help you is you,this is your mortal coil from the same perspective,life is not easy,you depend on your path
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Hearing you!! Get the same too when I know the source of my issues is loneliness & isolation, no connection !!! Just being heard out brings a sense of connection & understanding.
"If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy -- you're a human being with unmet needs," Hari says.
If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy - you're a human being with high expectations.
@@denisdenak The unmet needs that the speaker is talking about are the inborn basic social needs that a person requires for survival. For example, orphan infants that are not held and hugged will just die, even if they are well fed, clothed and housed. We all have basic needs for loving human interaction that are consciously destroyed by the school system, corporate employment, and suburban isolation. THIS social isolation that is absolutely unprecedented in the history of mankind, is what the author is talking about. Perhaps you are lucky to be born into a loving family, caring community, and wealthy inheritance. THAT is NOT the life that most Americans live, and it is doubtful that your own character had much to do with your own good luck in America.
@@denisdenak did you not hear ANYTHING this man said? i can't even begin to explain how ignorant your statement is. you're doing exactly what shouldn't be done, shaming a person into believing it's their 'fault' for being depressed and anxious by having 'high expectations', which btw i would like it if you elaborated. how exactly are, basic unmet human needs, considered high expectations?
@@atwaterpub I understand the quote and I don't necessarily disagree with it. I'm just saying that those needs can be met in almost any society regardless of where you are coming from. The alienated society is absolutely detrimental to a person's mental health, but not the main reason behind depression in my opinion. Risk factor - absolutely, cause - uh, I'd doubt it.
IMHO, the main issue is the high standard of living in the West. Living in those conditions puts child's "basic needs" too high and when that child does meet with reality - his expectations are not just unmet, they are utterly destroyed by the cruel reality.
About me - if you have not guessed by now, English is not my first language and thank God I wasn't born in the US or Europe, nor was I raised in a wealthy family.
@@Kookie-zv4bu how is stating my opinion considered to be ignorant or shaming? You could just ask me to elaborate on my statement and I hope I did so replying to atwaterpub.
"you need to feel you belong, to feel your life has meaning and purpose, to feel that people see you and value you, that you have a future that makes sense"
I just moved into another country, alone, no friends and family, and loneliness, anxiety and depression is starting to creep in. I just need to see videos like these and some self-help articles from Marc and Angel's website and I know I can beat this and I'm going to be fine.
@@TH-cam_IS_WOKE You'll find you're connection :3
0 /4. Eh…
Amen
@@TH-cam_IS_WOKE where are you?
“On your deathbed, you are not going to think about all the shoes and retweets you got, you will think about these moments of love.” Love it
that is quite profound
I am stuck in a marriage with a man who doesn’t get that even after his sister died by Suicide. He and my parents all watch tv constantly.
This makes me even more anxious. Not even in death regretting will end? Not even at the end we can only die like every other animal on earth no, still there we must feel not enough.
but I'll definitely be thinking about that cow
@@einsteindarwin8756 escapism!!!
"I feel like pain is leaking out of me" that is deep
Let it flow. 💞
me too 😝
I was a strung out IV drug user who was anxious and depressed, couldn’t get clean, then I got a puppy, I’ve been clean ever since. I am as many years sober as she is old...10!
Life helps create life
Proud of you!
Congratulations!! That is NOT EASY! I was thinking about dogs when he was talking about the cow. ❤️🐶
Nice!
Jeff - What breed ? Male or female ?
"We need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalance in the way we live."
True... be more in Nature ... bring Harmony to yourself..
Amen! 👏👏
Spot on
I agree.
And in society as a whole.
Great talk. When my dad got depressed, in addition to talking therapy and drugs, my mum bought him a black lab puppy. It got him outdoors, talking to other dog walkers and built a bond of unconditional love. For this reason he really dislikes the "big black dog" campaign as a symbol of depression because, for him, the black dog represented his healing.
thanks for sharing a beautiful story!
This is so sweet it really brightened my day
I know, I so agree. We have a lovely black labrador who is nothing like that dog in the campaign ...shame..
Corona killed him.
sunlide nature, Even a depressed person want be depressed standing by a beach with rocks
Black labs MATTER !! This is proof.
1. The most cause to be depressed or anxious is the way we live, lifestyle
2. Be us, be we, be part of a group
3. "We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life"... your depression is a signal to tell you something !
Thanks Mr. Johann Hari !
Yes! The paradigm , the mental construct that stupefies us in order that we do not have a clear view of that machine is seductive and at the same time revolting, and it appears we know it !
It so robs us of any belief in our feelings that even after listening to the wise words of Mr Hari knowing them to be true ; we still misinterpret the signal , the red flag that says 'Boy are WE in trouble !'
We see the flag , the crisis that the flag signifies bit still take away t h e message that we are not right , it's us that needs adjusting , medicating to resolve these uneasy feelings.
No! There is a problem ! In the matrix , in the force , in the world , not in my fucking synapses
Thank you very much… having battled with depression and anxiety … very lonely … need time with my family and friends.. and I planted my first garden this summer.. it was wonderful - made me happy…. And I met people … I’m alone most of the time…. I’m newly married And this
I make my own group, noit be part of anothers group.
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
@@richardventus1875 Where can these guidelines be found? I searched on Google but found very little
Finaly i hear these words out loud. My friend wanted to kill him self and i invited him to live with me just to feel a part of the tribe . It was the best thing i could do for him. Now he is living his life almost have a wife and is absolutely happy. a little kindnes goes a long way. Be good to each other please people. Love you all.
God bless you, man! What an inspiring story
You are a good friend 💙
*Almost
Did he finally got married?
🙏💙🙏
That was so very cool of you. That was the best thing you could have done for him.
"you don't want to die, you want your way of life to die"
I don't like this sentence but "that's deep" would fit in there actually :O
That can be actually a life-changing thing to say to some people, thank you really
Especially those who are thinking about suicide.
This means the death of America as it was created. Perhaps this is why America is the loneliest and saddest nation in the world.
you want to kill the depresive feelings
This was like a warm blanket
Neja H. Someone finally understands 💗
most definitely
Really??
A cold pillow on a summer night
Neja H. Gurl you can be my blanket.
They did NOT say “Hey, buddy, you need to pull yourself together. It’s your job to figure out and fix this problem on your own”.
They said “We’re here to pull TOGETHER with you, so together, we can figure out and fix this problem”.
Thank you so much for your speech, it was highly needed, thanks a lot
Taking drugs to treat depression is like putting on a coat when it rains, it doesn't mean you stopped the rain it just means that you temporarily don't get soaked.
Yeah, and if you keep the same coat on long enough (even if it’s the best GoreTex)...
...you will eventually get thoroughly soaked nevertheless.
Or you're now getting soaked from the inside out as well
Some of the drugs make you feel worse and when you tell them they don't listen. They play lab rat with you.
Good statement or analogy ryadh456! 👍☺👏
It's not a coat. Some drugs have significant side effects, like weight gain, and tardive dyskinesia.
I once told a trusted friend I was depressed. His response was, "What do you have to be depressed about?" in a very dismissive tone. He may as well just have smashed me in the face.
This is due to language. Are you feeling down that it's raining on your birthday, or do you feel the absolute need to flee, while simultaneously feeling glued to the bed, and recognize the hopelessness of both options?
The English language uses the same word for both of these things.
Kat Mack what? Can you rephrase that because it made no sense. Lost me at the “they use the same word for both”
@soslothful - a trusted friend, perhaps, but not a very bright one
@@eleven9286
"It's raining on my birthday and I'm depressed now"
"I cannot leave my bed because I'm depressed"
Dear @soslothful, i very much feel that and have experienced it in a similar way as well! If you want to talk with someone about your depression, please feel free to contact me and we can start an online chat. In any way, i wish you all the best and send you love from europe!
What I heard from this talk is that the most important thing anyone can give to another person is their time. Quality time with other people heals us.
I feel most anxious and depressed when I feel I am not interesting enough to be worth someone else’s time.
Same
I can relate to that
I agree
I can’t tell if its a good thing or a bad thing that there are other people who feel this way, like me
💯💯💯
"Junk values don't meet your psychological needs."
Thank you for this talk!
I just told my dad this morning that travelling helps me with my depression. He said it’s was BS, that I should keep on taking my pills and that everybody’s a little happier when going on vacations. I feel like the worst thing about having depression is being surrounded by people who don’t WANT to understand thinking everything you say is just your depression talking.
Show him this video, might change his mind.
Anyway, I hope you find your way to deal with your depression.
Exactly being around people who don’t understand you / “get” you can be super frustrating and kinda depressing.
I’ve dealt with this for years when talking with my dad. I’ve finally stopped sharing my feelings. Some people can’t understand.
Not only they don't want to understand but they are actually the ones putting you there in the first place and pushing you deeper into it with their constant negative comments about what makes you happy.
Traveling stresses me out. Glad you find it comforting
I started having extreme anxiety this year. And I can’t shake it. It’s so scary. I been through a lot this year My ex girlfriend passed. My dog of 16 years passed. Then covid 19. All in one year. Then my Gma got covid. I got covid. My whole family. Things have been shifting so fast. I used to be the Person people can come to. Now I’m in this mind state where everything gets me so petrified. & My heart palpitates like crazy. I hate it. But hopefully I can get through this man. It’s a horrible feeling. Anyone going through this I wish you the best.
Hey, I just wanted to tell you, no matter how hopeless it may feel, hang in there. It gets better.
@@Snottle1 thank you man. I needed to hear that
I'm in the same boat. You will be ok.
Hope you're doing okay, it's extremely distressing to go from being the rock everyone can lean on to needing someone to lean on yourself. I hope you have people in your life you can lean on and there is no shame or weakness in doing so, just perseverance, strength, and honesty.
U should get a cold water tank put it outside and go in it everyday . That what I did the win Hoff method change ma life
"We were trained to look for happiness in all the wrong places."
This
I read this exactly when he said it
Exactly. People think being famous and having tons of money would make you happier. I swear it doesnt. And you have more chances to be more stressed when you are on the top of the dominance hirerarchy. Ex: Famous actor. Imagine, those people doesnt have intimate life, everyone tracks them, they cant do anything otherwise they are judged by everyone. I would never want to be famous because this is not the path for happiness at all.
“Lookin' for love in too many faces,
searchin' their eyes and lookin' for traces of what I'm dreamin' of.”
No, the problem is the simple fact we are trained to look for it.
His watery eyes are much enough to understand how much pain he went through and how much he feels for the depressed people.
My mom made a list of things for me to do Everyday to feel better. I have always had anxiety and depression.
They are: Do something nice for yourself. Do something nice for someone else. Smile. Do something you love doing. Get some kind of exercise that you enjoy doing. Eat healthy foods. Be kind to yourself and others. And... Think happy thoughts.
My mom was very loving and very wise.
Beautiful
That’s very sweet of her
Thank you very much. I will share this list
@@irisclarke3414 me too
Your Mom sure was wise, thank you so much for sharing her wisdom, she lives on in the better part of you🤗 song 'Scars In Heaven' by Casting Crowns
when he said 'we need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalances in the way we live' i felt that
Mary Iskakova for sure! That’s such a truth bomb!
Mary Iskakova Yes!!!
Can someone explain what that means? Isnt this littearly the same things??
@@chillaxer8273
It's shifting the fault from implying an innate problem had started within the individual to the type of environment that individual lives in.
Mary Iskakova 💯
this made me cry. it's no wonder i feel so depressed, i feel so alone. i need a tribe
EDIT: thank you all so much for the positive comments
💗
A tribe is okay so long as it doesn't make an enemy of any other tribe !!
I wanna give you a hug
Hang in there friend, you'll find where you belong, I'm sure of it. I'm 35 and I can tell you there is no magic bullet, being happy has become easier with age but if you just be yourself, there is bound to be people you'll meet who like you and whom you like :)
Your such a nice person! C: I'm pretty sure, that you'll be able to make your own tribe one day~
As someone who has become deeply depressed in the last year, this man still holds so much sadness inside of him. Given it’s an amazing talk, you can see how emotional he is talking about this subject. This brought tears to my eyes
Exactly.
Yeah
Yeah thats true
"Why would we know something so profound, but not live by it" - "Because we live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life" - Amen to that.
Thank you for this. I've been dealing with Anxiety attacks since 6th grade. I was bullied. They broke my nose, ripped apart my clothes. After my first few panic attacks, I started to stay home more and more. Which later turned into agoraphobia. Going to a simple shopping made me sooo nervous, I thought my blood pressure was 200 and I'm going to have a stroke. Seeing all my friends travelling made me even more sad. Beause yes, I was happy being alone home, it felt like my safe spot, later this came back as feeling depressed even at home. Especially more recently. Now, I'm turning 23 and started feeling REALLY lonely. I've started crying for no reason. I felt I'm alone on this world. No one undestrands me. No matter how introvert I am, now I started feeling the desire to go places, meet people. Forget about my problems. And yes, they also prescribed me SEROXAT when I went into middle school, but that changed NOTHING. My father was the main person I did things with. We went to random places. Worked together. And he really started curing my Anxiety. After his passing in 2018, I relapsed and went back to have agoraphobia. I rarely left my room. But just a few days ago this overwhelming feeling of lonelyness started to hit me. Crying for no reason. So now I booked a visit to a clinic. But what you've said here is sooooo true. Now I undestand (hopefully) what my body wants, and I'll look more at this "feeling depressed" thing more as a sign, rather than me thinking I'm just going crazy. I'll try going out more and more. Maybe making the big leap to travel again to other countries.
Sorry for the long comment, but had to let this off of my chest.
Thank you.
I'll update my comment when I feel more and more better. I pray to God I will.
Best of luck to you. Really sorry about your father. I hope things end up turning around. I would recommend a public gym as a first step in reintroducing yourself to public settings. Physical movement kills anxiety like nothing else and there are often staff that will help guide you. Joining a class can also help, although I would recommend something that has less risk of being self conscience. You would be surprised how happy and welcoming people can get when they see someone new at their facility.
Hug ❤from a person who's also lonely.
So, as I've promised; an update after visiting my doc:
The first problem was that I suddenly stopped taking Seroxat, which as a side effect made me feel like crap 90% more. So as I started taking it I feel better, but I do feel that weird feeling in my chest.
The second thing he now prescribed me are long walks. Walking and exercise makes these feeling pass by a bit faster. Not only that, but I started being around my family a bit more than usual, which also helps to forget a bit more.
I hope my next comment update will be when I feel completely me again.
Bro, I'm sorry about everything that has happened to you. If you are physically able, and you want to feel better, do a few things for yourself:
1. believe the past doesn't determine your future
2. start hitting the weights and start building the strongest, healthiest physique you can. the BODY will fuel your MIND.
3. eat well and get your rest. so you can LIFT more weights.
i don't care what any doctors says or anyone says: if you are able to lift weights, get to work building your body up. it will do more for you than any therapy, prescription, book, etc. good luck. the more you lift, the better you will feel
Your anxiety is perfectly understandable in the context of your experiences. Don’t blame yourself. It’s possible to recover and you have bravely, taken the first steps. I found volunteering for a charity helped enormously. You will find what works for you. Best of luck on your journey and keep giving updates.
☘️🌝🌲
It's better to be alone than be surrounded by those that make you feel alone
Robin Williams
Are you for or against this Ted talk? It's a good quote but I'm curious if you mean that it is better to be alone, rather than finding new people or working with the ones you got?
@@AdrianAnetsen The actor Robin Williams suffered from depression. He found solitude in cycling with a group and never overcame his demons. I am sure that he meant that avoiding those that you do not see eye to eye with are better left out of your life
@@utistudent099 Robin had Lewy Body Dementia which is a SOMATO explanation for what has been falsely labeled as PsychoSOMATIC conditions. There are NO clinical tests for any condition listed in the DSM.
vaccinefraud Marylin Monroe was locked up in the psycho ward by her shrink and part time lover and that accelerated her spiral toward death. Her ex husband that divorced her six years earlier whom went by the name of Joe DiMaggio threatened to destroy that hospital brick by brick if they did not release her and they did under his pressure. Psychology itself as a practice had much to do with her death. Psychology is a witch-hunt.
@@utistudent099 I'll see your Witch Hunt and raise you Sorcery, which is (witches?) what Psychiatry is because they use unknown substances to poison people with. The PDR often says: The Mechanism of Action of this drug is unknown, but....
As to isolation, the problem that I and I've noticed some other commenters is that the legend of Bodhi Dharma was that he sat staring at the wall of a cave for 9 years. Isolation can be a liberating experience. It all depends on how you entered into it. My favorite quote was when they asked him what he did during that nine years, he replied, "Listened to the ants scream."
Being a part of a community/group and forming valuable connections with everyone in that 'tribe' is the best antidote to depression and anxiety.
I learnt a lot from this video. I see this comment section as a community as well. So I love each and every one of you. Having communities in person is what we all need.
This, we need human connection through friends and family who love and value us……. ONE can’t do it in this world alone………
Lazy, spot on. The community which accepts us for who we are, and smiles at us daily is where I belong. Oh and a simple clean cottage in the woods would help.
You are right. Depressed people are everywhere, forming valuable connections would really help.
A problem for me is that, as an older woman, I have no family, no career, and my friends (with family) are so busy with their careers or with babysitting (the older friends) that they don't have the time for the deep friendship that I crave.
@@ktorpiehow are you doing sweetheart?
"Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame."
-Uncle Iroh
-Uncle Iroh is such a complex character.
Uncle Iroh has wisdom for a whole mankind
@@jeanjacquesrousseau1955 I gotta rewatch Avatar the last Airbender... What a spectacular show.
Says Vegeta XD
Great comment...
However there is one thing a saiyan always keeps.
HIS PRIIIIIDEE!!!!
going to college can be so isolating and I feel like generates huge amounts of depression in a lot of students. Depression is so common in college!
I feel it too, but I go to community college.
Why do you feel like going to college can be isolating? I mean I agree and I have my own reasons, but I’m just curious about yours 😅😅
@@Alice-km1hv im in a single dorm room and im not involved in any extracurriculars. I just go here for my classes right now. The only time i ever talk to a human being is either in 1 of my classes or for when i go to get food
Erik A lot of people born around Generation Z tends to be more depressed or stressed. Especially for those born around 1998 or before are adults now in 2019.
Erik ohhh I see. Sorry to hear that. I’ve been experiencing the same issues so I know how you feel. 😞😞😞😞
I'm in tears. I'm so lonely. It permeates my existence. I try finding friends and the flakey, ghosting, competative backstabbing bla bla.. and back to loneliness. I just want people to genuinely care about me and find my tribe.
The loneliness, is your body's way of telling you, that you need to reach out to a friend.
But you're loneliness doesn't make you weak. It's what makes us human. Our vulnerabilities, and what make us fragile are because we as humans are not perfect. Maybe, we were never meant to be.but it's the most important thing is to be loved. And you can always draw near to God, because in my brokenness, I was able to find God. My sin separated me from Him.
Maybe we need to stop believing the lies, by surrounding ourselves with people that love us for who we are, not what we're not. Wss hy is it that as babies, all our needs were met. Now, that you're older, they love you a little less.
I know this will sound cliché but...Want to be friends?
Can we be friends?
This is the talk that helped me get out of depression. After a few months I got my autism and ADHD diagnosis and it changed my life. It was like having a second chance to life my life.
"your depression is not a malfunction, it's a signal" perfectly worded. Thank you sir
I agree! 💯
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
👍🏼
@Jack Fantom Every building is evidence of a builder. Even if he has been dead for 100 years and there is no docu¬mentation, you know there was a builder because it's impossible for a building to have built itself. Creation (nature) is evidence of the Creator. It is impossible for nature to have made itself or be eternal. Those who don't believe in God default to believing that nothing created everything, which is scientifically ludicrous.
yes 🙏🙏
“We need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalances in the way we live.”
Yeah man that's what's its really about. Alot of it anyway.
That's good
But it's all about the chemical imbalance lmao
Emanuele, The permanent cure to anxiety and stress is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
@@shyaaammeneen63 i suggest you to take a 10 days vipasaana program rather than following youtube video
TH-cam really knows I’m having a mental breakdown rn huh (edit: you guys are so kind, thank you, really.)
You are not alone about the breakdown. Life can be very disappointing. So we must somehow find what makes us happy and relaxed. Usually simple and beautiful things make people happy. Funny things make people laugh. Each day is a gift. See what is beautiful in that day; no matter how painful that day has been. Find something you enjoy. Take time to laugh, cry if necessary, and let it all go. Make some comfort food. Do Yoga. Mindfulness. Peaceful Visualization. Whatever works.
My mom sent this to me. Even worse 😂😂😭😭😭
Yeah we have mental health chips built into every smart phone which tells us if this person is having a meltdown.
@@Ron-np9rp harsh
@@plantmama7442 your body is purging and preparing for a better tomorrow have faith
I’m 25 years old watching this and will cherish these values you’ve taught me today and keep them close to me when I find myself feeling depressed or struggling with anxiety. Thank you.
Glad u empathise
Just dont allow it
Hmm, seems you lack critical thinking
I lost my six week old daughter to SIDS. Every day after getting my four children out the door I would fall to my knees and cry where I would stay all day long. Four months later I ordered myself 100 baby chickens which I knew would make me get off of my knees because I would have to take care of them. I still grieved my daughter but I was able to get my life back
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. The fact that you took steps on your own to get your life back speaks volumes about your strength. Never forget how strong you are capable of being.
God bless you. Sending hugs your way🙏
So very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry… what a great plan
I am really sorry for your loss ma'am🙏🏽 I pray that you will have the strength to endure during this difficult time🙏🏽 you are an amazing person❤️
3:45 “every human being has natural psychological needs. You need to feel you belong. You need to feel your life has meaning and purpose. You need to feel that people see you and value you.”
I'm completely invisible until someone wants something from me. Does that count?
When you realise you haven't got any of that...
I don't feel I belong anywhere
:'(
Exactly why politics should be avoided
This is the first “self improvement” talk that I’ve ever heard that makes good sense and doesn’t blame the victim. It was powerful and compassionate and very encouraging.
His delivery is perfect not condescending or unrealistic
@Sqrley L. Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@lauradelta8060 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Yep
@Sqrley L. , this is quite good, but listen also to Dr Gabor Maté, who shows even better, how we can use Compassionate Inquiry into understanding ourselves in a positive and compassionate way!
He is an incredible doctor with a lifetime of experience, including palliative care, serious disease, suicide, addiction, etc. Through this experience and his weaving together of growing research, he shows us a path forward. He blames no one, and goes even more deeply in his work, to show how unconscious childhood stress has influenced development of not only our depression, ADHD, OCD, etc, but also serious disease such as cancer, MS, ALS, etc., which can also develop as a consequence of our stress. His many talks have changed my lifelong depression, as I now understand that my problems are no one’s fault, and that I can finally come out of this hole.
Best wishes to you!
I don't know what happened but when he said that your depression is not just a malfunction it's a signal
Something triggered in me and I feel okay now,somehow I think I needed to hear that and that sentence gave me hope to actually get out of my bed in the morning and find what my body has been searching for all this time.
And I'll always be grateful for this video.
We're human beings with unmet needs - I need a moment with that.
Seriously!!! I look at certain things in my life that consistently make me feel absolutely awful. I will take a variety of Otc anti depressants to try and force myself to be ok to be ok with what I'm not ok rather than actually fixing the situation itself
Melissa Goldstein you're not alone. Think of the people who are feeling same but they can't even afford the meds. It's really nasty. I'm writing and facing quite a bit on this subject myself.
Please look into Nonviolent Communication developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg. It's all about developing the language and skills to understand our needs and employing strategies for having those needs met. It has been life-changing for me and I hope it helps you, too!
Will Foley you mean the book written by him with same title? I added it to my list.
The book is great but that workshop is what really made it click for me. I highly recommend both!
Absolutely spot on. I've changed diet, working on my thinking/attitude, exercising again, writing more and playing my guitar, meditating, praying etc. for the past two months and feeling better already! Very very important stuff!
In the early 70's my father said,"The problem is people don't need each other anymore." Exactly.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 he said he was praying already dude. At least read his comment man..
Your father's quote really touched me so thanks you for sharing it
People have been lost. Not on their own, but carefully turned into consumers living in endless competition to eachother for this flawed idea that individual happiness will lead to all people being haply. We know that is a complete lie that corporations and elite have gotten us all to believe. Quality time with those we love is the real way to get happy.
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I’ve tried. Just by asking god or Jesus for help doesn’t mean he just magically shows up and heals you. In fact I reach out to him a lot and nothing changes. It’s like my purpose on this earth is to suffer.
"We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life."
Holy crap. That's it. That's what it is...
Eric Hodge Holy crap indeed. Mind absolutely blown 🤯🤯🤯
What's terrible is that humanity has been on this path for the better part of two centuries. Many 19th century European philosophers saw the massive upheaval caused by industrialization, urbanization, mass production, and mass consumption.
Imagine if we live in a simulation like Niel Degrasse Tyson talks about. This statement would then have a double meaning!!!
its called neoliberalism or neoliberal capitalism
@@Schooney60606 "consumption" used to be another name for sickness
Excellent talk. In addition to all the things he said, when we are depressed, we have to work through it as well and that takes time. For the past couple of years, I was depressed from a devastating heartbreak. I had to work through it, meaning doing the crying, thinking, pondering, resting, praying, and finding the value in my own life. I tried to get involved in volunteer work. I've done some sewing, reading, writing, and crocheting. I've talked to close friends and spent time with family. And, now, finally, after working through it all, I've emerged on the other side. I feel happy and purposeful again. And that feels wonderful!
I really appreciate when he said "you're not a machine with broken parts" because that's how everyone reacts if I ever tell them I have depression & anxiety, as if I'm just broken and it's my fault.
I felt rhat
TokyoBlue I totally feel you on that....my family doesn’t understand it when I have depression or anxiety symptoms. They just say “oh you just have to exercise more” “oh just change your mindset.” It makes me feel even worse and then I just don’t talk about it unless I’m talking with a friend that understands.
Similar to when I tell people that I was in intensive psychotherapy (therapeutic community (not a cult but an outpatient treatment in the UK)) the usual response is
"Oh I'm so sorry"
And I'm like what? That was me getting better it was before that I needed sympathy.
@@SarahLeaf totally understand the way it feels when people respond like that. Most annoying is that while what they say is somewhat true, challenging your own low thoughts and taking more exercise would probably help it misses the point. At those times you just need someone to be open minded, non judgemental and supportive. The messed up society kind of disapproves of passive, not-quick-fixes.
@@chrishughes3405 I feel you. Most people in my country are still absolutely or mostly blind when it comes to mental needs, illnesses. For example, if I told them that I'm depressed and I need to meet a psychologist, their reactions would be "Are you crazy?". That is a very disheartening reaction and it just makes me feel like I AM crazy. That's why I have a mission to share as much as I can about our psychological needs. You will be understood, you will be embraced, you will be fine. I want you and people to feel that way. Please share it to people who needs, because we're all in this group together.
I can’t imagine how Covid19 lockdown has affected people, in terms of anxiety and loneliness.
Covid was an awakening. People were forced to accept that which they can not change. When you accept what IS, you do not suffer. When you fight what IS, you suffer. People were forced into their inner worlds and face them. Perspective of the external world is merely a reflection of the internal world. We apply our thoughts and emotions to events to label them but events are facts and that's why two people can go through the exact same event and come out with completely different perspectives. Covid was not good or bad, it was an event and either you grew or suffered.
I can tell you how it has affected kids. I am a camp guide in a summer camp, and we make activities and games for them, each series of kids staying for a week. What we observed this summer is that they are extremely starved for attention and touch. I mean, we take care of these through talking, playing and high fives. The real issues are with the inter-person relationships. Some are extremely introverted and stuck into their phones or playing with their toys, especially the younger ones. Overall, we have noticed that they are extremely aggressive and unkind, becoming outright feral. Us, the adults, have already adapted to the situation, but to kids it seems to have been catastrophic. They fight much more than in the previous years, they bully each other more, and they are harder to work with. I do hope lockdowns do not get enforced anymore. These poor kids deserve more.
Agree
@@nicheatic9189 I agree with, I here some people say lockdown is not good or bad or that it helps self discover and figure out our values but I have to disagree. You have to figure out stuff on your own and not be forced to do so.
The kids nowadays have it bad because they are the ones who are going to be repaying all this Covid crap because all the adults are deluded and scared and prefer to destroy the economy.
Home doesn’t feel like home anymore. It feels like a prison. That’s not me trying to be edgy I’m really serious when I say that schools have forgotten that children and teens can’t just sit in front of a screen for 6 or 7 hours, and then do possibly another few hours of homework, and I’d just like to say that if you need to assign students an overview of the lesson for them to do at home, did you really teach the lesson well?
My girlfriend got out of her depression and anxiety disorder by stopping antidepressants and making life changes so her life would align morewith her desires than her fears :)
that's brilliant, man
good for her! :D
Ademir, The permanent cure to anxiety is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
Shyaaam Meneen that sounds like a lot of words for relaxing on a chair
Seems like she’s very privileged to be so fortunate. Good for her.
If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
This is such an important video highlighting the importance of discussing mental health and overcoming the stigma associated with depression and anxiety. For those who may be struggling, it's essential to know that there are resources and support available. You may want to check out @Dr.healingstrain, a mycologist who uses mushrooms to help people overcome depression and anxiety. They provide valuable information and support for those dealing with mental health challenges, and their work is worth exploring.
I've been following Dr.healingstrain for a while now, and their work with psilocybin-containing mushrooms is really impressive. They're doing groundbreaking research into the potential benefits of these mushrooms for mental health.
I've never heard of Dr.healingstrain before, but their approach to treating anxiety and depression with mushrooms is intriguing. I'm definitely going to check out their products and see if they can help me.
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Depression is a normal emotional reaction to our broken valueless disconnected society.
It's broken because the values of the powerful are fucked up and allow them to ignore the suffering of most people.
Preach
Indeed
James Brannick yep
yes
I earnestly wish I wasn’t so deeply depressed so that this ted talk could have made a difference for me. I’m at least happy I decided to watch. Maybe that means I’m trying to survive.
Keep trying. If this EXACT MOMENT isn't the one where you die then you might as well KEEP SWIMMING until you feel differently. Take care of anything that's been gnawing at you while you're at it. As simple as washing the dishes or as hard as that phone call. Not the angry one. The other one. The one where everyone is a flawed human in need of love and understanding. As awkward as that might be. Either way, you might feel better after.
Anyways...I've got a few unreported scars in vital places and a 5150 under my belt. I ask the question of if I'll make it to tomorrow almost every day...but I'm still here a long time after I thought I wouldn't be. Hopefully you will be too.
It’s ok, we all love you so much
Hi JRS, I know what you mean, I've been there. In my case it was not a TED video I watched, but a book I decided to start reading (Feeling Good, by doctor Burns). That was the beginning, then went thru a number of therapies, activities, help of other people, work on myself, meditation etc... it can be beaten!
Respect.
If you watch it again and write down main points, you could distill those down into two or three phrases to affirm to yourself daily. You could tape them to your mirror or above the toilet so you see it every day. And say them to yourself. It has made a difference for me to use such a strategy. Keep going..I struggle immensely with depression too and I know that feeling of dreading doing anything. Good luck!
One of the best Ted talks ever! " Don't be you. Don't be yourself, be us! Be we, be part of a group."
Wrong How Do we Be we when people can be quite different?! Christ is the Answer
i'm in tears watching this. i always have this voice in my head saying that other people are stronger than me. more able to understand how they can ease their depression or anxiety. its a really lonely feeling. it helps when you can relate to the person talking about this. and that we are together in this world, even in this wierd individualized society
When people have suffered depression long enough, they just don't care anymore. That's the cruel reality we face in. People not caring anymore.
Nope, they see that others don't or want to care along with them and they don't want to bother
cold hearts lead to nobody's😪
This is so true. I live alone and am older. My son is a drug addict. My 23yr old grand daughter does not speak to me in the last 5 yrs. My boyfriend has prostate cancer. I have no friends and am all alone. My bf does not live with me and i only see him once day a wk. So i am really alone. I don't care anymore. It's true. I often wonder who will bury me when i die? There is no one around me. I am 70.
@@marieb.1810 Mary whenever I feel alone I always say no I have me and my voice inside, whoever thst is it's been with me all this time and then I see my dog and I wonder... How in the world do I get along and love another living thing that has never communicated with me in vocal words? Then I say sometimes it's better to be alone than in bad company and too much isn't enough and words mean nothing if they are said by mean egos. I can't feel your pain we all live differently and I just wanted to try and help and I can't say I'm here for you but I was just now and always think when you feel down that there's someone out there that has it even worse and see what you do with that, take care of yourself, we born alone and die alone just need to find good company that's all.
@@PEACEFULWARRIOR999 Thanks. I like what you wrote. I do have a dog i love very much. I have no real friends. I think i lost myself somewhere along the way. My son is a drug addict and stresses on me. I raised my grand daughter since she was a baby and at 17 she left and won't talk to me anymore. I guess i am better being alone than being near my druggie son. We live far apart. He texts me for money all the time. I am old at 70 and getting so tired of life. I know there are people who have it worse than me. I got a roof over my head and enough food. I think i just need to be around more people. Winter in the country is too isolating. I'm thinking of helping out at a Soup Kitchen in the spring. I can meet people then and help the poor.
“ your depression is not a malfunction...your depression is a signal...”
You made me cry...
Thank you... thank you for this... for a so many years I thought something was wrong with me that I had a “malfunction” but I’m taking this depression as a signal thank you again !
It's just so calming to know what's wrong with us for once.
That is deep.
A lot of doctors nowadays are shady. They waste their time, don't keep their appointments, act like they don't care. Don't bother to give a diagnosis. "It screams I don't care about you", then Bill's insurance for $$$. -SAD. Then, you wonder why people don't get better...
words cannot describe how badly i needed this. great timing.
knish Good luck.
knish same 🙌
I hear you bro (or sis), you are not alone in your struggle. I pray for you.
Same here
I think we should go back to the days where we lived with family instead of alone. Everyone contributes to the running of the household in a meaningful way that works for everyone. Elderly would never get left out and have purpose and be cared for and moms and dads wouldn't feel the burden of taking care of children by themselves and providing for the household by themselves. If I was a millionaire I would build a large house for my family with a large living room where everyone could gather but also have separate quarters where everyone could go if they needed peace. Everyone would have their own bathrooms.
This!! Even in literature, modernism shows us how people turn to absurdism and nihilism, become depressed. All because of industrialisation and urbanization. They become more lonely and sad all because people decided to live individually in their own houses
i used to work with a bollywood actor, he was very poor before and later became filthy rich, he used to live in a grand multi million dollar house here in india in mumbai, and then moved to a small house like less than 1500 sq ftt. i asked him why doing so ? cant you afford the luxury ? he told me once that once you get rich, the houses become huge , but people get away from you, and literally his mother had a heart attack and he couldnt hear her scream , he could not even have dinner with his children as they ate in their rooms watching laptop, and after that day, he went to live in quite a smaller house, always family before work
@The Brown Analyst wow, very eye opening. Thanks for sharing. Goes to show money isn't everything and people are what truly matter. We should love like people are dying tomorrow.
You are so spot on. I've said this a long time.
I love your post. Many do live as a family, but I smiled that you draw the line at shared bathrooms 😺
Another reason why we are depressed and anxious is because we are all stuck in offices, living like robots, running an endless race on a hamster wheel we will never win.
Exactly 👍
Yep!!
@J G i think "stuck in offices" can be seen in a metaphorical way as in saying "stuck in jobs that we hate/dislike/dread/feel uncomfortable in"
Not true.
Being financially independent and office free also sucks
"You depression is a Signal" and not a neurotransmitter imbalance, this guy highlighted this in a meaningful and powerful way!
what signal?
It's can be an imbalance as well.
@@waykee33 I'm sure I'm far more intelligent than you.
This is literally my problem. I'm such an optimistic person, but I don't have enough support and it really affects me. I heard that support was to be earned like respect, but I think its something everyone deserves.
How are you doing now? Have you met new people? Joined a "tribe" of some sort?
are you genuinely supportive towards yourself?
Girl i'll support you 😩🙌
Honestly...you’re probably asking for support from the wrong group ...gurl...you need to absorb your energy into a group that truly understands and relates to you . Sometimes with your personality type . Do the personality Test and learn more about yourself . I did it and I am an ENFP (campaigner) ...I was exactly in the same position as you are feeling ...after much though and research ... I realized that I need to move on to another group . It will make a huge difference I can vouch for it gurl ! 🤗
It's all about empathy. If someone is making a trade out of emotional support, they are narcissists, BPD. Empathy is something that should come naturally and doesn't require conditions.
I was part of a group counselling session today where one of the participants shared this TED Talk after what I had to share. I have to say that this is the best TED Talk I've ever watched. Thank you for your research, voice and sharing. This hit me right in the mind and heart tonight. Thank you.
“I had this feeling that pain was leaking out of me.” I’ve never heard something so relatable.
It’s crazy because I can see when people feel this way in public and I shed a tear for them on the inside. Because I’ve seen it for years now in myself. Looking in the mirror. I see those same eyes in people.
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@@jacobmettler3857 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
“If we already know what makes us happy, why do we neglect that?”
“Because live in a machine that is designed to make us neglect what is important about life.”
Marx agreees.
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Pretty much spot on.
Nick this is the same conclusion I've come to. In Germany there is a new movement that says "we can do better than capitalism".
“You're Not a machine with broken parts
You're a human being with unmet needs”
🤯🤯🤯
Slippery slope of a metaphor.
What if one’s unmet needs is to cheat because they have a sexual fantasy of cheating or unmet needs of a pedophile. I get what he means but in today’s age wants are needs and needs are pseudo desires
@@iEMMANU3L Those aren't needs, those are desires, needs are necessities, food, water, home, purpose, security and love.
You won't die if you don't cheat, you will die if you are overworked, not eating enough and left entirely alone.
why can't we have both?
@@iEMMANU3L if you get what he means, then why are you picking it apart like a pedantic arsepedal?
Hugs Eleanor
Anyone who need someone to talk without knowing each other ..i am here for you...I swear i am here for you. 💜
This talk was more important to people who are depressed than a ton of gold
👍👍👍👍
Now i dont wanna die anymore and dont feel useless thank you
Not that a ton of gold wouldn't have helped my depression a tiny bit.
Hanji 🥰 I agree
No. A ton of gold would allow me to quit my job-I'd be much happier with a ton of gold.
This is one of the best TED Talks ever done, period.
true
Exrcellent
Agreeeed 💖
@@GeaCanete24123 g
The best
My mother she was the only person that i used to speak with when im down when im sad and since i lost her i feel like she took a big part of me with her , i wish i can see her and sit with her just for 2 minutes
I know what you're feeling, brother. You'll find somebody that will love you and that will talking to when you're down..
My mom was the same for me..my best friend and confidante. She gave the best advice and shoulder to cry on. Since she passed I go on walks and I talk to her. And silence myself as though to listen and believe it or not it was as if my heart was giving me what I believe she did. Please know she is still with you.
Myself too . My whole family is in heaven and I have nowhere to turn that I feel comfortable with . Most people do not know how to handle my kind of raw emotions . I hope that you find peace within .
@@kinnyadams8601 Same..i talk to my dear mama and look at her photo every day- i believe she is watching over me xox it gives me the strength to carry on.
I know the feeling,Same here,I know this sounds stupid but I thought she was never gonna die,Its been a year I still feel shocked.your not alone.Dont give up.🙏⚘🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
That was excellent! I’m in tears and finally feel validated. I don’t need a bunch of antidepressants I need what I have been asking for all my life and that’s to BELONG TO SOMEONE! Belong somewhere, be a part of something. And to be LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY. And not be abused. The first time I was involved in something I created with a group of people is the ONLY time in my life I felt I belonged somewhere and a part of someone. This was so good and validating I am going to share with my therapist and ask if we can watch it in group. I’d love to hear the feed back from everyone. I’m that group I’m just opening up and wonder if others are feeling what he just talked about.
My daughter who has a BA I’m psychology and an MA in Social work just sent me a long list of why and how I need to change my thinking bc I’m acting like a victim. When all I did was express my feelings about things that happened to me and my other children in the past. Then I got scripture thrown at me which was taken out of context. I am a Christian so I know scripture well and I’ll go read and study whatever someone gives me. What she sent me doesn’t pertain to depression and anxiety. But she’s still young and will figure it out.
This was really my life saver tonight bc I felt so defective and now I’m leaving here with a direction to go. I have social anxiety and panic attacks that’s what keeps me isolated. It’s so hard for me to initiate a conversation or friendship but I can give my time to someone in service like I did last time and I come back out of my shell. Thank you for the talk.
I mean you are loved unconditionally.
I hope your daughter did figure it out because that sort of stuff is why so many people in rural areas hesitate to go to a mental health professional.
I went to a counseling center and one of the questions the counselor asked me was, "Are you a Christian?" I told her no and she stared at me for 10 seconds and then said, "You have a little anxiety, but I think it's medical not psychological. So you need to go back to your doctor and have them test you for everything."
Basically, it was her way of saying she didn't want to help me because I wasn't Christian. I had gone to multiple medical doctors before that meeting and since. They've all said the same thing: anxiety. The other mental health practitioners here messed up my mom, so I definitely don't want to see them.
Basically, I need to earn enough money to move to a larger city in order to get the chance at getting decent mental health care.
This is spot on, I’m sad because I’m lonely, I have no friends I can go for coffee with or go watch a movie with or go to the salon with. I wish I could find my tribe
Me too😔
You can find people to connect to, there are people around you who want to connect to you, try to get out as much as you can to find them :)
Oh wow. I feel the same way. If I want to go to the movies I go with my daughter. How sad. It’s a work in progress not to feel depression and anxiety. Good luck finding your tribe. ☺️
Ditto
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A TED best. Timely topic. Engaging. Speaker right-on-point; addressing spectrum of cause(s) whilst speaking his own truth.
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best
TED=Timely, Engaging, Deep
"You're a human being with unmet needs". That quote was powerful
I broke to tears hearing that.
I love you Leonardo
@@sudhirchandra9790 me too Sudhir
A standing ovation, very much deserved! What a brilliant man!
"we gave him an antidepressant... we went and sat with him." dudes, I'm crying here
most depression and anxiety is driven by faulty/negative core beliefs about ourselves , and most negative core beliefs are about not being good enough
Precisely. But I suffer from this deeply because I actually am not good enough. I have to change my life
Caused by other people and environment.
i'm so tired of feeling powerless and anxious. I've been trying for months to accept my negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations but i feel like im going nowhere. I tell myself that it's in my hands not to feel this way and that progress is slow but I feel like I want to scream from how much I'm constantly stressed out and unsure. I just want to one day wake up and feel differently
forgiveness is the key to change. forgive yourself for your faults and realize that you’re not beyond redemption. what differentiates a good person from a bad person is that a good person tries to be good, because they care, not that they’re always good. that’s what really matters.
This is correct. But in this, there is also some element of otherness. I am not good enough, and different to everyone else. This is where being part of a bigger community is helpful. To realise that we are not as separated and different as we think we are. Our thoughts about life and ourselves are not unique to us.
I get this overwhelming feeling that I just want to be this guy’s friend... the calming way he spoke and the sincerity in his eyes, I felt it, through a screen...
Yes, and i think the reason he was able to form this great message through a long journey of research is his sincere and genuine interest in finding why depression is increasing and how to help those going through it. Lovely person.
Totally agree. And the fact that he's actually been there himself, so he knows what he's talking about.
I loved the part about being part of a tribe / community. I've learnt this year to let people in, let them help.
Yes cause he gets it
His book is amazing as well.
He is like a Shrink.
I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking shrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.
I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.
Yeah doc.brenttt is your guide. Man is exceptional with anything psychedelics.
Yes doc.Brenttt
Psychedelics really has a-lot of potential medical benefits. So cool
Wow! How do I find someone trustworthy to get me some please? So many deaths on the news from mushrooms lately. Can you give me a trustworthy source please? I’m in Australia.
"We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life," - this quote deserves to be carved into stone.
As someone who is severely depressed, I wish I had someone who did not give up on me
I found them too. I know it's hard but keep searching 😃
I say this with the utmost sincerity, you have that person and always have, it's you. If you've made it thus far, even with the challenges, you've done an amazing job.
@@erichuang3956 I agree. You are your own best friend. You need to take care of yourself and treat yourself well.
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@@umamii936 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I don't care for money, success for myself....But my parents are in their 60s with no retirement, no house, no plans. I feel sad making decision that would provide financial stability for my family over my passion.
If you have a job you can tolerate that pays well, you've won the lottery! Passion is cultivated, not something you find or follow.
Just for today…. Or a time period. So much is temporary. Can you keep your interest alive yet in the background? Hod honors us when we are honorable. I hope the best growing time for you. 🙏
Loneliness is a huge part of my depression. My health keeps me home a lot and people just stop coming around. I can't work because of my health. And I have no friends. Therapy is the only bright hour of my week, because someone listens and cares.
Keep going man, hopefully you’ll get there and be able to work and leave the house regularly. If your ever feeling lonely there’s people online to talk to, I’m here if you need to talk :)
Michael Taylor I can relate!
are u on Facebook ? we can chat.
Michael Taylor: Hi Michael, I hope you are okay and that your week has been good. Can I make a gentle suggestion? Have you considered joining some volunteer groups where people get together to do some gardening, walking or even exercise classes. Sometimes moving your body, being active and interacting with other people can really do wonders for the mind body and soul. Try going online and seeing what's out there. You might find that you get to meet new people and make new friends. I know you've mentioned you have poor health but this could help improve it as well as ease the loneliness. Hope this info helped. Capt. Coco.
join Facebook chat group on Facebook. you can have conference call
Hmm- used to be depressed and anxious- but not anymore. I got to being my own friend- easy to say- harder to apply- but I learned to really like myself and see earth as a place to just experience- not “succeed” in something. Real success is truly doing something you are present in and not always jumping to the past or future trying to be something more then just an experiencer of things that fascinate you. people will pick up on that fast and become interested in you. Be interested in them. I could live a thousand years and still be wanting to experience things on Earth.
Feel free to say more. Please. 😊
I’m am saving this. 🥰
Was it really crippling depression and anxiety which didn’t allow you to live normally ? Not get out ? Not work ?
Thank you for your personal insight. It has helped me see life in a new perspective. My favorite... learn to be be your own friend and aim to be successful in what u enjoy and experience not by social standards. Life is a playground . Don't be so serious i guess 😁
this is the hardest part of retirement, letting myself be alone and unproductive.
Some people avoid human contact because they're reminded of other's negativity, & *that* makes them feel depressed!
That's an excuse, no one's like that
@@Elian- That's fine, you don't need to like the excuse. No one does. Psychosocial stressors are legitimately so complex. It isn't fair to call other people's experiences an "excuse" just because you can't empathize. Until you receive a degree in applied clinical psychology or another similar certification, you have no right to deem one excuse less acceptable than others. Get over yourself.
empath....
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Rasko these one a few comments under yours and I’m another one.
"You are not alone" is my favorite response to someone telling me that they're struggling.
This guy is so natural on stage and full of wisdom.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free.
Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 Are you against rapists and rapists marrying their victims? If so you might want to ditch that trash known as the bile bull
Deuteronomy 22: 28-29
If a man encounters a young woman, a virgin who is not engaged, takes hold of her and rapes her, and they are discovered, the man who raped her is to give the young woman’s father fifty silver shekels, and she will become his wife because he violated her. He cannot divorce her as long as he lives.😬
@@thebodykeepsthescore2828 God encouraging rape?
Deuteronomy 22:28-29 28 “If a man meets a virgin who is not betrothed, and seizes her and lies with her, and they are found, 29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the father of the young woman fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has violated her. He may not divorce her all his days." Is the bible encouraging rape? No. Rape was a common practice back then where a guy would rape a woman take her virginity and leave her for dead or in the gutter so to speak so God is saying now you must marry her and pay the bride price to the parents (much better than what happens now to women when they get raped).
@@thebodykeepsthescore2828 One of the biggest mistakes people make is to blame all the evil in the world as God’s fault. Make no mistake, the dEVIL caused it. But your sins gives the devil a license to cause mayhem in your life. God never created a world full of hate, murder, children being aborted, cancer etc We live in a fallen world the more you sin the more corruption there will be. If Everyone were holy, then the world would be a much better place because God would be present.
Oh my. “You’re a human being with unmet needs.” Beautiful. Thank you for this talk!!
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If you examine it closely, people got depressed when their expectations are broken. Our individual world, our daily reality are actually made up of continuous uninterruptible flow expectations. When they are broken, people will lost their sense of self continuity, they will lost confidence and self certainty and indulge in fear of what has to come.
YES!!
*Doctors want to give you a pill.
*Insurance allows you 6-therapy sessions.
*Well meaning people make clueless or dismissive remarks.
*Others arrogantly judge, criticize.
.....and they then wonder WHY you're no longer open with them, withdrawn, isolate.
There are millions of beings that need a reality check and a need and thirst for knowledge, that destroy there own planets,I am pleased you came for the show,no charge
If you're watching this, I love you and you're not alone. ❤️
I love you, peace.
Do you know Jesus?
I love you 💕
🌈'Lovingly returned'🥰
I love you too!
Yes, yes and utter yes. This is probably one of the single most important talks in modern day history. Every part rings with deep clarity and understanding. This right here should be essential information in every school and corner of the world.
This could be one of the most important talks modern society has ever not seen.
Maybe, just maybe
it is not automatic that the presence of doubt indicates a lack of salvation, or that the absence of doubt attests to salvation.