Hi everyone! Do you unintentionally hate yourself or know someone who does? We to all some extent lack a bit of self love, so that's why this video is made to help us recognize times when we may not be doing ourselves a service. If you resonate with any of these signs, know that you are not alone. We can only grow when we are self aware. Quick favor! We're launching a channel that makes our content more accessible in Korean. But on top of that we will be doing movies reviews from a psychological perspective. If you're interested, do consider supporting us here: th-cam.com/video/NKLkjTZ-vyc/w-d-xo.html on BPD. We have the English subtitles too!
Who doe QwQ I'm very confident and Happyyyyy UvU I hate sadness I would murder that emotion if I seen it . I actually wouldn't murder the emotion sadness I like it cuz well in Anime it's so dramatic and in movies it's also dramatic :))
And I will get annoyed when someone tells me that I may have a problem or even gives me suggestions on how to get better. And I am 100% aware that this reaction makes absolutely no sense. Maybe thats just another symptom we have.
It's like you hate yourself so much you don't feel like you deserve to get better, so you don't try to get better. But at the same time, you feel awful and want to get better, but you did this to yourself anyway so you deserve the suffering, and on and on and on goes the never ending cycle of hell
1. You tear yourself down - true 2. You feel insecure around others - true 3. You neglect your self-care - Kinda 4. You don't let yourself be happy - true 5. You isolate yourself from others - very true 6. You put on a facade for others - true 7. You're afraid to dream big - not true I feel like my self hatred comes from how useless I am as I person. I could accomplish whatever I want, but it won't matter if the two people I love suffer. I'll continue to hate myself until i've achieved more important goals.
i’m straight up embarrassed to around anyone bc i feel like i’m too ugly. i hate when people say nice things ab me bc i feel like they are lying but if someone says something bad about me it lingers with me constantly.
Same! This girl says I'm cute when I blush and think she's just saying that to tease me. But when someone jokes about my face, I think about it for MONTHS.
I had this friend I've never fought with, but once I made a joke that made her uncomfortable and for the first time in my life I heard her raise her voice, and I was the only person she yelled at. A part of me knows she is still my friend, but another part is always eating away at me because I did something to make her yell at me when she had never yelled at anybody. A part of me can't stop but think I don't deserve her friendship.
Fr everytime I go outside I get so uncomfortable, nervous and very insecure to the point I cant focus and almost got ran over. I appreciate people saying kind things to me but I feel like their only saying this in pity because they feel bad for how bad I am lol.
@@iamagirl9938 i bet your friend forgot about that lol we are always so critical on ourselves. sometimes if you think of yourself as a friend you’d be like “oh I would forgive them”. like we are really our own enemies
When ever someone compliments me I feel really awkward and I tell them if they are serious,then they reply with yes and then I feel depressed cause I know they're lying
I don't get those often (once yearly at best) like that time it happened was 2 years ago, because some girl told me that my wallet looked good (i tough it wasn't directed to me, but apparently she did talked to me)
1. You tear yourself down 2. You compare yourself to others 3. You neglect your self care 4. You don’t let yourself be happy 5. You isolate yourself from others 6. You put on a facade for others 7. You’re afraid of dream big
@@peculiarduckmaster1778 oh yeah it's normal don't worry people are just a bit more depressed since covid-19 like you so don't worry about being different
I think i don't do 6. Well it depends of your definition of a facade. My friends know that I hate myself and/or I am depressed but when I'm around them I'm trying to go along with everyone's mood and not embarass everyone with my state of mind does this count as a facade ?
The weird thing is I get so happy seeing others being confident about themselves and will always go the extra mile to hype people up but I’d never do that for myself
But you can change how you think about yourself you can learn to love yourself . Dont compare yourself to others thinking I wish I looked or behaved etc like them .learn to accept yourself that you're ok as you are and start with little steps towards positive change ...
I feel this comment. I hate myself but feel bad that I hate myself, especially if I mention it because I feel like I'm doing it for attention and that I'm not worth worrying about.
Hating myself has became so much of a habit it feels normal at this point I do it because everyone has worse and I deserve it Everyone else is more popular than me because they aren't overrated unlike me Everyone else is more talented than me Etc
I used to feel this way so much in my early 20s. I look back and regret not turning my life around sooner. 10 years later, I'm in a much better place. I feel more grounded, I've accepted who I am, and realize that I'm not always perfect but I don't need to be. I dont need to please anyone but my own self. For the first time in my life, I like who I am.
“You're not comfortable letting other people help as you feel your problems are yours alone and you deserve them” This explains a lot actually, I thought I just had trust issues that's why I don't open up to people even if they’re close to me
Whenever I talked to my friends about my problems, I instantly regretted it, because I knew it was uncomfortable for them and I was putting too much pressure on them to help me. I know I'm not good at lifting someone up with my words, so I feel awful for not being able to help them in return.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
I didn't read all of it but it sounds more to me like you need to rethink who your Friends are if your friends care they care and they want to listen they want to be there to help
Well , I understand that and it's really sad . There r many people out here who support u . If it gets 2 overwhelming, feel free to talk about any of ur problens on these comments 😁
Crying while watching this I honestly don't wanna be here anymore but that one comment that said "TH-cam its kinda getting personal now" made me cheer up
I’m not lying when I say this, I was praying today and after praying I just got on TH-cam and immediately this video was the first thing that popped up. Literally every single symptom that was named in this video is exactly what I’ve been going through for years now, and I know enough that I don’t need a doctor to tell me. My friends have been trying to help me get into different, careers, jobs, and etc. I still don’t want to accept the help because bro honestly I do not want anybody to see the real me because of the stuff I try to put down and hide about myself. God bless this video and the creator of said video because this helped me a bunch.
"You think they're better off without you." I related to the full list, but this hit the hardest. Like you get a strong feeling that they would be happier and more free if they didn't have to worry about you.
Yup, pretty much. People always let me down & then get mad at me if I point it out. That's when I know I have no true friends & people would rather I be gone.
Well I cried when I watched the video because I relate and I don't want to relate, but then I cried when I read this too Unscather, ur comment hits so hard
Same. I do my own thing and I'm very different for a female in many ways and I like many things about me. I think the occasional self loathing is due to childhood conditioning and not achieving certain societal expectations. It's confusing 🥴
@@darkfame1499 it’s “hxneyoats” the hxney part means honey. so just read it as honeyoats. I just thought it would look better with an x. I hope that made sense lol😭
That part when she said "you stay back, because you feel like they'll be better of without you" is actually true for me. I feel like my energy/ vibe or whatever is only bringing my group of people down and making everyone feel weird or awkward so thats why I prefer to be the least participative or just separate myself so that they can actually have fun and be chill
Yea, I totally feel that too. But the rational part of me knows that sometimes how we feel about some things are not what they are. But then feelings and rational thoughts do have their differences :/
@@davebrenner7347 i think being rational is part of when we reflect about it. That can be after the situation or before the situation, but there's a high chance it will be a diferent story when faced with the social situation.
Yea. There have been so many times we went out and I killed the vibe. Just feel like my presence is bad. Even my parents told me "you ruined today. We went out happy and you ruined it"
Same...I make it uncomfortable for the ones around me...it's just hard to be ....its hard..no one understands.. I don't want anyone to understand either...it's just disgusting how my mind works...good vibes to you though
It is offensive to watch if this is the result of psychological warfare, abuse or trauma. I'm seriously trying to understand how many people just naturally hate themselves without anything from external people causing it. It's against survival to hate one's self. I think this is the narcissistic narrative of self hate. Imo.
I actually cried from this, not because it makes me feel bad, but because of how true it is. This hits so hard, and yet it's so hard to fight this self-loathing mindset.
im glad to see i wasn't the only one that cried while watching this. i want this life to get better but i don't even see myself as a person anymore i talk about myself in the 3rd person like im a character. i think about killing myself and everyday that goes by it seems like a better option. i like to think im better than people by being smarter but im not smart i like to think that so i have a reason not to talk to people but its because im empty uninteresting and awkward. i see extroverts effortlessly being charismatic and making people laugh and i just think to myself like oneday ill be like that but i know i won't
3:34 in my childhood and now tho,I was told ,,don't touch it,you're breaking everything!,, I have a big trauma from it,I can't even allow myself to do something I want to sometimes...
One time, I watched a horror movie That My aunt Didn't want me to watch and after I was scared I ask if I could sleep with her and see sad come here Wonka and then she yelled at me and called me names and I ran to the Couch and Cried Underneath my Pillow. Am crying well. Typing this, I wish the pain could end. I am nice to everyone, yet people hate me.... why?
@@AmaVandiloveit2006 I am sorry Being Kind is the thing that no one care in this world I appreciate you be mean sometimes if you don't speak up for yourself then who will you Angel
*Me who watches it anyway despite fully knowing how much I hate myself:* Just making sure- (Edit: I never realized I resonated with so many people, lol. I hope you're all doing well to do better and wish you good luck. Be nice to people and, well, live laugh love.)
Same lol, and there is literally no way to overcome this because it's a paradoxical situation where it's impossible to not want to hate yourself when you already hate yourself.
The line at 4:23 hit so hard. "You isolate yourself to refrain from inconveniencing others with your presence." What a perfect way to describe my social life.
@@grqndecat9862 Thanks for the encouragement, but when I look back at my "accomplishments" all I can see is a lot of obsolete equipment and things that aren't there anymore. Nothing lasted. Let me give you the "road map"... Cheswick Power Station 2013-2021: currently being demolished. Elrama Power Station: 2008-2013: demolished in 2023. Space Shuttle program: ended in 2011. Orbiters in museums. Process Instruments: 2000-2008: sold and moved. Westinghouse Instrument Service Company 1983-2000: sold to Siemens in 1998, shuttered in 2005. US Steel Homestead Works: 1978-1981: Long gone Westinghouse Electric East Pittsburgh: 1978: Long gone. Union Switch and Signal: 1977: Long gone. You see, there is no place for me to take my grandchildren to and say "I used to work there." I could focus on the minutae, and delude myself by thinking that what I did made a difference while I was working there, but if I had truly made a difference those places would still be there.
1) You tear yourself down. ✅ 2) You feel insecure about others. ✅ 3) You neglect your self-care. ✅ 4) You don’t let yourself be happy. ✅ 5) You isolate yourself from others. ✅ 6) You put on a facade for others. ✅ 7) You’re afraid to dream big. ✅ The test result are ready. You were right.
to summarize: 7 signs you may be suffering from self-loathing 1. you tear yourself down 2. you feel insecure around others 3. you neglect your self-care 4. you don’t let yourself be happy 5. you isolate yourself from others 6. you put on a facade for others 7. you’re afraid to dream big
@@kohji_y I made the sad mistake to give up hope and it led me down a dark path. I'm still slowly working on myself and piecing things together. I don't have all the answers, but at least with the internet; it's up, it's up forever. There will be that mark for everyone to see we tried. We can slowly become the majority of true empaths and see a world where no one will be misunderstood. Even if I fade into obscurity afterward, I can rest knowing I either helped ignite the spark of change; or I died trying.
I actually have reached other people, and the result is push away and ignore. So my isolation is due too the fact not refraining, trying to be in the presense of others as the "right and correct" isolate others.
@@stargirl3459 you make me sick to my stomach instead of trying to manipulate people into a religion why not try to convince them not to hate themselves give good reasons not just lies....
Sometimes I feel like I give too much of myself and start to sound either too big for my boots or on the flip side, too desperate for attention after craving it for so long. I hate to inconvienience someone, ANYONE even if they have told me more than once that they are there if I need them. It's just that by the time "I need you" comes around, often it turns out to be bad timing for them, so I don't reach out which then means that soon after I fall to pieces because I then suddenly go from feeling supported to feeling alone.
I commented on this a really long time ago. I didn’t remember that I watched it and I didn’t know how one day I just got better and I talked to someone, but I’m watching it and I realized I commented on it and I’m pretty sure this is how I knew I got better. Thank you
My therapist had me write a mantra for myself. One that I need to say three times a day. I can tear myself down like a champ. If it were a sport I'd come in 1st place in my division. It is very awkward to say kind words for oneself but over time it's supposed to get easier. I do think it is starting to. If you choose to try it also start with something positive but not overly so you don't feel overwelmed. Something you will feel a little awkward saying but not something you find outlandish. Maybe something like, "I am worthy. I am worthy of love and affection. I am worthy of my love and affection." Use no negatives. Don't say, "I am worthy but..." Just use, "I am worthy..." I wish you nothing but the best. Be kind to yourself, even though it can be terribly hard. We can all get through this together. Have a beautiful night, dear. 🩵
That’s what I feel, every time I try to say “I love myself for this” but every time I look at myself I just can’t disagree that I never like the way I put things, because after I’ll have to do more of it if it collapses
“So when you look in the mirror, all you see is a haggard reflection, unworthy of love, and that’s how you like it.” This hit me harder than it probably should have..
when i look in the mirror i see a mess of a youtuber that cant keep a consistent schedule and hide themselves in public because o one will ever love them because all they are is a little brat and the world would be better of without them. but what do you see of yourself?
I hate when the solution to things like this is “just live yourself”. But what if you really have behavioral issues and it not just you “needlessly beating yourself up“?
in fact, this is the only solution. you need to start loving yourself with small things - play sports and/or do exercises, take care of yourself, compliment yourself, eat healthy food, sleep properly, do not compare yourself to others, communicate openly, do not lie to yourself and others, be able to say no.. and much more. start with the smallest and continue to love yourself
me, watches "7 Signs You Hate Yourself" already knowing i do: me, after finishing the whole thing: wow, i didnt know i hated myself. i must say, i am surprised.
You must be young? When I was a teenager or in my 20’s I was in denial. When I turned 30 I accepted the fact I deeply hate myself so now I am open about it. It takes time but at some point you accept the truth.
“I think you’re actually a really nice guy and just acting like you’re mean.” I never acted to be mean. I actually thought I was being nice holding open doors, picking up after people, and being honest, but I was actually just wasting my time being a people pleaser. That was that last “complement” I ever got and I’ve kept that living in my head for 6 years. I’ve hated myself since because I always think I’m being too mean by not helping people, yet at the same time, I don’t wanna come out as a people pleaser.
It feels okay. Loving yourself makes you more intrested to have great sex and love some other people. I dont blame my body for anything, when nothing is my body fault and I dont blame myself also, when to hard situation in life to get was not my fault, when others screamed over me to tell how their always 100% right, so I never myself felt guilty in anything, when I had not any annoying childish prideful personality that made me do something to feel guilty.
I feel constantly feel like a doormat for everyone’s emotional need. I used to love myself but I don’t know anymore. I just sometimes have strong urge to just die so I don’t have to feel so much all the time
1. You tear yourself down - ✔ 2. You feel insecure around others - ✔ 3. You neglect your self-care - ✔ 4. You don't let yourself be happy - ✔ 5. You isolate yourself from others - ✔ 6. You put on a facade for others - ✔ 7. You're afraid to dream big - ✔ Damn, first thing I got perfect score from.
I’ve never liked myself, from the way I look, speak, hear and move. Every time I look in the mirror I could never be happy. I don’t bother talking to anyone when I feel depressed because the people around me don’t like listening to me. I have a big family but none of them are comforting to me when I’m sad. It’s had because I’ve learned to hold in my feelings my entire life even though I know I should love myself.
People will always fail you... But God is your heavenly Father who will never leave you nor forsake you, and you will never be alone as long as you trust Him
I've always felt like people don't listen to me. Because they don't. Because the vast majority of us are terrible listeners. Which is why one day I chose be an active one. It changed my life.
I don't like the way I look, speak, hear and move too. But my boyfriend do. And my friends. And they help me a lot to accept myself. Even if it's hard. In 2016, I was depressed, without any friends, I was all alone. Speaking to no one for days, for weeks.
@@deborahkarcher6123 didn't think about it so much but now after reading your reply, I don't remember anyone giving me compliments either, even tho I know I've received atleast a few over the years. Yet I still can't remember anything, most likely because none of them were really true, or they were aimed at my false self, my outwardly appearance. I reject any and all compliments simply because I know myself, I know they are all empty words, even if the person meant them genuinely.
Same here, i've really hated myself since childhood coz i've always been aware about how my parents will never love me as much as they love my sister, and i dunno, it's like this video validated my thoughts even more and i just kinda internally crumbled
Sometimes emotions just come out of us. When I had depressive episodes that happened often. The important thing is that you let yourself express these things.
I have absolutely zero confidence in anything about myself, and the world did a good job at making me feel like I'm right to feel this way. I don't know how to break out of it
One thing I've learned, is if you pretend to be confident, even when you are not, you will eventually grow accustomed to being confident and it will be easier for you.
Recently I found a picture of myself when I was in elementary school and I just burst into tears. Thinking about how happy and peppy little me was makes me think that I’m letting down my past self. I had such big dreams for myself back then. It makes me think about how if little innocent me met the current me, little me would be so disappointed and sad. I’m really trying to better myself and this time I’m doing it for me.
Yeees same. I always get so nostlagic and depressed when looking through old photos because I was soo happy and content. It's immeasurable how that mood has dropped throughout the years. I just wish I could go back to being 8 or 9 where I had no worries or insecurities. Im glad I'm not alone in this ☺️
Whenever I look back I just giggle and say I was a little bitch, whenever I was young I didn't set high standards and if I did the past me wouldn't be disappointed, because I'm more wiser than that little demon could ever be, I love the spot that I'm at, even tho I'm nowhere big atm, I won't care, I'm happy and that's all I care about.
That was actually scary, I had no idea, I thought I loved myself but EVERYTHING in the video was stuff Iv told myself and already knew I do, I didn’t know, thank you so much.
This song actually gets me out of my negative mindset. Especially when she says “all the times I went and fucked it up, I wonder if I love me was enough?” It’s so true though! I feel like I self sabotage and tear myself down before I even try but I give everyone my love and support. It’s like “why can’t I take my own advice already??!!”😂😂😂
No kidding I listened to that song the entirety of Quarantine cuz I related so much lol. My friends tell me that I'm great at giving advice and even if that's true, I suck at taking it. I truly wonder when I love me is enough 😂
Funny how they claim 'this video is made to help us recognize times when we may not be doing ourselves a service' but, it's when humans become entitled and thinking they deserve things they clearly don't deserve that they are not doing themselves a service, because they become an impostor wanting that which is not meant for them, and, it's a fact that the 🔥 is waiting for all imposters trying to steal my place after the system change -- the only humans that are not going to be severely punshd are the humans that stay humble and know their place and do not misuse my big terms/names/compliments and only weer suitable/simple cIothes and no high heels and no gold/jewelry/diamonds and no shiny/glittery/luxury/pretty/s3ksy stuff and no makeup etc or other unsuitable items (that are only meant for me) and that do not pluck/destroy flowers/trees/nature etc and the humans that do not try to date/steal moments that are not meant for them, but only for me...
This type of videos are only misusing big terms and trying to get broads and betas to become more entitled, when it's perfectly normal for humans to h8 themselves and to know the fact that they do not deserve anything and that they should not want that which is not meant for them, but only for me the only lovable being -- all males subconsciously h8 womyn and all betas consciously or subconsciously h8 themselves, which is why they date/drill broads in the first place, despite the fact that broads are not date materiaI because they are not love materiaI, instead of just using their hand...
And humans have no idea what love is, and what humans have is the exact opposite of love -- love is an absolute feeling that only exists for me the absolute being, and love can only be felt by my pure protectors aka the alphas for me only, myself being the only lovable/loved/lovely being and the only being who reflects big terms and compliments and the only being who deserves everything!
FOR THE PEOPLE WHO JUST WANT THE LIST 1. You tear yourself down - quick to blame yourself, don’t commend yourself, too hard on yourself 2. You feel insecure when around others - you’re constantly comparing yourself to them 3. You neglect your self care 4. You don’t let yourself feel happy - you take others’ criticism to heart but don’t really take compliments 5. You isolate yourself from others - struggle to make friends because you don’t consider yourself good enough to receive love, you believe that your presence is holding them back 6. You put on a face for others - You hate who you are, you wish you were someone else 7. You’re afraid to dream big - it scares you, you think you’ll never be able to achieve them so what’s the point
I used to watch videos from this channel a few years back when i was struggling with depression. Now I feel somewhat better, and I can see the change. I laugh more, talk more, put myself out there like I never used to, but it's all going back. I am more stressed, more worried and struggle accepting the things that are good, and I notice them. It is like my mind is scared of being happy, like today, I went through something that broke almost every piece of my heart that I restored. I also didn't do what my heart was begging me to do because it was wrong. It was not right to have these feelings. I tried telling myself that every day but every time the frame passes by my heart can't do anything but crumble. It's like for the first time in my life, my mind was fighting away the feelings my heart grew onto me. The thing today was something that shredded every emotion and thought I had over the past years. I will keep it to myself knowing the mental damage it might cause, since it embedded itself into my mind. I also don't speak of it because I don't want to hurt others. The chances of them seeing this low, but the chances of them knowing is high. This channel helped me in some way but thank you for the effort. I struggled alone and hated myself for being who I am. I hope, I really hope that my future self would still be here, and that I will live long enough to see what I become. It's really hard, I'm not going to try and change anything, nor myself. Pain is temporary, scars are permanent.
Even if I am self aware of my own hatred, I can't get myself together. When I started feeling better about myself, I got back to square one and hated myself for my failures. I started believing that there's no point of loving myself or improving when I'm just destined to fail.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
@@alexdaniel5641 i can’t trust anyone, i feel like i’m using my friends as therapists, and my “”””””””family”””””””” is what helped push me into this mess
To hear someone else vocalize so many points and disturbing thoughts is terrifying and relieving. It also helped me come to terms with it a little more and acknowledge I need help.
Yep. I thought I loved myself bcz I think I'm awesome...but that's only one side of me. Every single word she said felt like a hammer to my skull...I wanted to push this video aside but I kept watching bcz if this is me I need to accept it now. Yep, I cried. It hurts because I don't have anyone by my side, and I now know a lot of it was my fault. Naturally, I'm going to readily accept that fact.
I wish the phrase “I hate myself” hadn’t become so normalized. It’s taken away the weight in which you feel it. It is impossible to get help these days when you struggle with communicating your feelings
100%. The issue can and often is, getting that help though. The hoops you have to go through sometimes is unreal. money can buy you an express route but many people struggling with these thoughts/feelings don't have access to those kinds of luxuries.
Hey!!! I'm also facing this but, if you're comfy enough, you can share it with me..whatever your problem is, you can tell me...I'd be glad to make you feel better as I feel you 🙂🙂💜💜
1. You tear yourself down - kind of true 2. You feel insecure around others - true 3. You neglect your self-care - Kinda 4. You don't let yourself be happy - sometimes 5. You isolate yourself from others - I am an introvert 6. You put on a facade for others - true 7. You're afraid to dream big - not true how do I stop self hatred
for me : 1. yes 2. way too much 3. too much 4. yes (rearely leetting myself to be happy) 5. introverted (my muscle memory makes me automatically cold whit other when they try to talk whit me, even if i want to talk to them) 6. i actually never am myself, maybe a bit online or in bed when i'm about to fall sleep 7. well, kindoff, only big dream i have if leave this place to be somewhere where no one knows me so i work daily, get home and stay home till next work day
Time stamps! 0:55 You tear yourself down 1:44 You feel insecure around others 2:16 You neglect your self care 3:02 You dont let yourself be happy 3:46 You isolate yourself from others 4:29 You put on a facade for others 4:55 You are afraid to dream big
this makes me so frustrated first I think "yes I do hate myself" and then I'm like "no I have a good life I have no reason to hate myself" and then I'm like "well I am kinda fat and lazy" "that's what a self-loathing person would say" "I just want attention I need to stop" "I don't deserve to hate myself" I have so many conflicting thoughts that it makes it so frustrating to think about, because I don't want to be dramatic but I want to be true to myself but I want attention from others but I don't want attention from others because wanting attention from others is annoying to others and I don't want to be annoying to others arghhhhhhhhhh what do I think
It's truly a shame that the idea that people are faking negative feelings is so commonplace. I get that some people actually do fake it, but that's between them and a medical professional, and not any others.
I don't like that other people go through this but I am kinda glad that its not just me. I've been homeschooled for 4 years now so I don't know anything normal and I only see myself everyday. I hope these thoughts stop for anyone who has this though. Have a good day to whoever does or does not read this :)
Aww seeking attention sometimes annoyed other people but there's also some people who rarely gets annoyed.. It's okay to hate yourself sometimes at least you take care of yourself and you will find the true you which is you are awesome. *Hugs *
“You hate yourself, that’s why you hurt others. You do it because you know the pain it brings you is far harsher than the pain anyone else can do to you” - Misato Katsuragi
This made me cry at the end. Every time anyone talks about 'loving yourself' I get really emotional, it sounds like such a happy and beautiful thing I can never get...
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
1. You tear yourself down - Hits me 2. You feel insecure around others - Hits me 3. You neglect your self-care - Hits me 4. You don't let yourself be happy - Hits me 5. You isolate yourself from others - Hits me 6. You put on a facade for others - Hits me 7. You're afraid to dream big - Hits me Aw, i rather want a less score here than a perfect score
@@holyonesingadimedja3241 I'm only fine with very few friends hugging me. Compliments don't really affect me, they just go straight through my ears and I just immediately forget them a few minutes later.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
Oh my God finally someone that feels the same! If you wanna solve urself problem Try to copy little part-by-part other people personality. That made me love **new ** self
@@rioblogs5149 if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
Hi everyone! Do you unintentionally hate yourself or know someone who does? We to all some extent lack a bit of self love, so that's why this video is made to help us recognize times when we may not be doing ourselves a service. If you resonate with any of these signs, know that you are not alone. We can only grow when we are self aware.
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Nice
I hate myself but not unintentionally
I still can't tell I'm wondering if I'm in denial or not
I hate myself and any version of myself after oct 20th
@@mariomaster101official what happened on October 20th
When I get confident about myself, it disgusts me that I felt like that.
Same. I feel like I shouldn't. But sometimes I wish it to be like that everytime, so that I can be true to myself
@Phoenix Wolf ikr? And then talk about why we hate ourselves then help each other out
I get that all the time or more so that i feel my problems are insignificant in the larger scheme of things.
Who doe QwQ I'm very confident and Happyyyyy UvU
I hate sadness I would murder that emotion if I seen it . I actually wouldn't murder the emotion sadness I like it cuz well in Anime it's so dramatic and in movies it's also dramatic :))
I mean there's group therapy, meeting random people on the Internet is probably gonna get someone killed like it or not
the worst part is that I am 100% self-aware of all these things, yet I still do nothing about it.
And I will get annoyed when someone tells me that I may have a problem or even gives me suggestions on how to get better. And I am 100% aware that this reaction makes absolutely no sense. Maybe thats just another symptom we have.
It's like you hate yourself so much you don't feel like you deserve to get better, so you don't try to get better. But at the same time, you feel awful and want to get better, but you did this to yourself anyway so you deserve the suffering, and on and on and on goes the never ending cycle of hell
@@harper6032 jajaj yes, that's exactly the whole problem!
Same story Bro😶😶
Same, like it says in the video I feel like I don't deserve happiness sooooo
It's really sad how we can be really supportive with everyone, but harsh with ourselves.
I agree with you like no one knows that from the outside I may smile or look happy but inside I'm crying and just want to die
@@lenie447 so true
i couldn't agree more
@@lenie447 this is such facts. And I'm scared to tell my mom
Yeah, I just put on a smile and try and make everyone else happy. I don't want them to feel the kind of internal pain I do...
1. You tear yourself down - true
2. You feel insecure around others - true
3. You neglect your self-care - Kinda
4. You don't let yourself be happy - true
5. You isolate yourself from others - very true
6. You put on a facade for others - true
7. You're afraid to dream big - not true
I feel like my self hatred comes from how useless I am as I person. I could accomplish whatever I want, but it won't matter if the two people I love suffer. I'll continue to hate myself until i've achieved more important goals.
Your not useless I promise ❤❤
Similar struggle, but we can't give up.
Very true for each point
@@Ur_so_skibidyy Are you sure about that
@@shadowclaws2250 yeah
It’s not a coincidence that this was recommended to me.
indeed.
@@Psych2go 😂😂
Yep
Here before this comment gets 1K likes
I just got the notification
i’m straight up embarrassed to around anyone bc i feel like i’m too ugly. i hate when people say nice things ab me bc i feel like they are lying but if someone says something bad about me it lingers with me constantly.
Same! This girl says I'm cute when I blush and think she's just saying that to tease me. But when someone jokes about my face, I think about it for MONTHS.
I had this friend I've never fought with, but once I made a joke that made her uncomfortable and for the first time in my life I heard her raise her voice, and I was the only person she yelled at. A part of me knows she is still my friend, but another part is always eating away at me because I did something to make her yell at me when she had never yelled at anybody. A part of me can't stop but think I don't deserve her friendship.
Fr everytime I go outside I get so uncomfortable, nervous and very insecure to the point I cant focus and almost got ran over. I appreciate people saying kind things to me but I feel like their only saying this in pity because they feel bad for how bad I am lol.
Same...
@@iamagirl9938 i bet your friend forgot about that lol we are always so critical on ourselves. sometimes if you think of yourself as a friend you’d be like “oh I would forgive them”. like we are really our own enemies
Whenever someone compliments me, I feel like they're lying
they may be right in some aspect
I am wary of compliments not for that reason but because i think its only a matter of time before they start to hate me or become disappointed in me.
When ever someone compliments me I feel really awkward and I tell them if they are serious,then they reply with yes and then I feel depressed cause I know they're lying
What’s that
Y’all are getting complimented?
I ABSOLUTELY HATE getting any kind of compliments.
I don't get those often (once yearly at best) like that time it happened was 2 years ago, because some girl told me that my wallet looked good (i tough it wasn't directed to me, but apparently she did talked to me)
Your username is cool bro
"You put on a facade because you hate the real you"
I feel called out.
same 💀
me too 🥲
Yeah, it stings.
its at69 likes let me ruin it
Same
1. You tear yourself down
2. You compare yourself to others
3. You neglect your self care
4. You don’t let yourself be happy
5. You isolate yourself from others
6. You put on a facade for others
7. You’re afraid of dream big
The only thing I don't do is comparing my self with others, The rest I do them all.
Wait- everyone doesn't do this already!? Wait I though it was normal?
💀
@@peculiarduckmaster1778 oh yeah it's normal don't worry people are just a bit more depressed since covid-19 like you so don't worry about being different
oh no ; ;
I think i don't do 6. Well it depends of your definition of a facade. My friends know that I hate myself and/or I am depressed but when I'm around them I'm trying to go along with everyone's mood and not embarass everyone with my state of mind does this count as a facade ?
The weird thing is I get so happy seeing others being confident about themselves and will always go the extra mile to hype people up but I’d never do that for myself
And hello my clone 🤣
same
Yeah that's me right there!
Same
I hated myself. I never wanted to be happy. And I would never change that till I die. I never want to care about myself *FOREVER!*
This might be the most calm comforting voice I’ve ever heard
true, but what she says hurts me ):
I didn’t need a sign that I hate myself. This is just the cherry on top
same lol........*crys*
You already know what's going on. Learning to love yourself can be a project, but it's worth it, hope you can find some good advice here on TH-cam.
Ahahaha can relate
@•Honey Potter• thx lol
@•Honey Potter• Nagitoe but actually •Honey Potter•.. I like it.
you know sometimes i wonder how does it feel to be someone who loves themselves and or like genuinely happy
Me too
It's a mystery, ain't it?
Pfft. It's about a big a mystery to me, as what's beyond death is to science..
Oml, same-
Seen that kinda person tho... They're like a different specie...
“She hates her life, not because it was bad but because when you hate your mind and your body it’s hard to enjoy the rest” :/
euphoria😭❤️
The fact that this is so true-
@@sarau2034 i didnt expect that lmao
But you can change how you think about yourself you can learn to love yourself . Dont compare yourself to others thinking I wish I looked or behaved etc like them .learn to accept yourself that you're ok as you are and start with little steps towards positive change ...
You are beautiful
I wanna give everyone who feels this a warm long and big virtual hug
😢actually crying
i decline but thank you
Thank you for the offer, but you deserve it more than I do.
@@Coolkrobirdsame 😢
🫂
I knew I hated myself, but I didn’t know I hated myself to the point where I relate to absolutely every point in this video
Absolutely "hate" myself but I can just cover it up with "Every person might differ from each other but at the end the grave is all we get"
I relate to this video by 80% i hate myself alot :/ but i dont isolate myself
Same bro.. Ahahahhaah- sobbing
Same 😗🤚
relatable
Me: “Huh, I guess I hate myself now”
Also me: “Don’t worry I hate you too”
I don't know what to say lol
My subconscious: I guess that makes 3
.
.
Lol.
I hate the fact that I hate myself but I can't do anything about it because I feel like I deserve it.
I feel this comment. I hate myself but feel bad that I hate myself, especially if I mention it because I feel like I'm doing it for attention and that I'm not worth worrying about.
@@pluto3194 this is why I don't tell anyone about anything about myself
I hate myself and I feel sorry bcs I feel like I’m being unfair to myself. But I think I deserve it. So yeah
@@solux902 Yeah, I feel good about my hatred for myself too...I know that’s bad but who honestly gives a crap?
Hating myself has became so much of a habit it feels normal at this point
I do it because everyone has worse and I deserve it
Everyone else is more popular than me because they aren't overrated unlike me
Everyone else is more talented than me
Etc
I used to feel this way so much in my early 20s. I look back and regret not turning my life around sooner. 10 years later, I'm in a much better place. I feel more grounded, I've accepted who I am, and realize that I'm not always perfect but I don't need to be. I dont need to please anyone but my own self. For the first time in my life, I like who I am.
i'm not even joking when I say that this video has literally summed up my whole life
mine too
Same
Amen
Dang
I think A LOT of people feel the same way. Hell, ALMOST EVERYBODY, if we were to truly admit it. That's why life is such a challenge my friend.
it all start from clicking this video
Bruh 1 minute ago
Your nick is what i use usually lmao
bruh 6 days ago
btw legend sy verified people never reply to people in they reply to they comment
uhh
It’s like what they always say: “you can’t kill what’s already dead”
FNaF Afton family vibes..
"You can't kill me, I'm already dead inside"
Aka, my self-esteem
You can kill a zombie though
yep
“You're not comfortable letting other people help as you feel your problems are yours alone and you deserve them”
This explains a lot actually, I thought I just had trust issues that's why I don't open up to people even if they’re close to me
“You isolate from others”
It’s not that I hate myself, I just hate people
Honestly tho 😂
Haha this deserves more likes
Or love. You know. XD Bc Corona.
Very true, very true
Psychologists are stuck trying to take any action to protect yourself from society as a flaw in yourself, not the society that is perverse.
Whenever I talked to my friends about my problems, I instantly regretted it, because I knew it was uncomfortable for them and I was putting too much pressure on them to help me. I know I'm not good at lifting someone up with my words, so I feel awful for not being able to help them in return.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
I didn't read all of it but it sounds more to me like you need to rethink who your Friends are if your friends care they care and they want to listen they want to be there to help
@@alexdaniel5641 Some problems aren’t temporary my guy
@@kennethmeyer3961 True
Well , I understand that and it's really sad . There r many people out here who support u . If it gets 2 overwhelming, feel free to talk about any of ur problens on these comments 😁
Crying while watching this I honestly don't wanna be here anymore but that one comment that said "TH-cam its kinda getting personal now" made me cheer up
Same
Its going to get better God loves you and will never leave you trust me ❤️❤️❤️
@@janblau4839 its going to get better trust me my friend God loves you and Will not leave me or you or anyone ❤️❤️❤️
Hope your feeling better. 🤗hugs
I love how it’s the comment above you lol
I’m not lying when I say this, I was praying today and after praying I just got on TH-cam and immediately this video was the first thing that popped up.
Literally every single symptom that was named in this video is exactly what I’ve been going through for years now, and I know enough that I don’t need a doctor to tell me.
My friends have been trying to help me get into different, careers, jobs, and etc. I still don’t want to accept the help because bro honestly I do not want anybody to see the real me because of the stuff I try to put down and hide about myself.
God bless this video and the creator of said video because this helped me a bunch.
"You think they're better off without you."
I related to the full list, but this hit the hardest. Like you get a strong feeling that they would be happier and more free if they didn't have to worry about you.
Yup, pretty much. People always let me down & then get mad at me if I point it out. That's when I know I have no true friends & people would rather I be gone.
And they will.
My whole life in a nutshell, I am a waste of space and I know it. My only option is to slowly withdrawal so I don't disturb their, "peace."
Same.
Well I cried when I watched the video because I relate and I don't want to relate, but then I cried when I read this too Unscather, ur comment hits so hard
I'm a weird mix of absolutely hating myself and being totally chill with who I am. It's really freaking weird
I'm learning self love but I haven't unlearned self hatred. Maybe it's like that?
@@thevilemac8743 I hadn't thought of that. Thank you!!
It is man I have bad deeds I've done and regret I can't ever sleep but I accept what I've don't and try to move on but yet I still feel guilty
Same. I do my own thing and I'm very different for a female in many ways and I like many things about me. I think the occasional self loathing is due to childhood conditioning and not achieving certain societal expectations. It's confusing 🥴
Yah like I tell people this how I am I'm proud and ashamed at the same time wtf
This entire video really said: “this you?”
My response is: yes.
What's the name of your profile
Everything except the 7th
@@darkfame1499 it’s “hxneyoats” the hxney part means honey. so just read it as honeyoats. I just thought it would look better with an x. I hope that made sense lol😭
Who dis
y'know what hurts most? when you relate to all the signs.
Yep-
That part when she said "you stay back, because you feel like they'll be better of without you" is actually true for me. I feel like my energy/ vibe or whatever is only bringing my group of people down and making everyone feel weird or awkward so thats why I prefer to be the least participative or just separate myself so that they can actually have fun and be chill
Yea, I totally feel that too. But the rational part of me knows that sometimes how we feel about some things are not what they are. But then feelings and rational thoughts do have their differences :/
@@davebrenner7347 i think being rational is part of when we reflect about it. That can be after the situation or before the situation, but there's a high chance it will be a diferent story when faced with the social situation.
Yea. There have been so many times we went out and I killed the vibe. Just feel like my presence is bad. Even my parents told me "you ruined today. We went out happy and you ruined it"
Same...I make it uncomfortable for the ones around me...it's just hard to be ....its hard..no one understands.. I don't want anyone to understand either...it's just disgusting how my mind works...good vibes to you though
@@bbk6848 Good vibes to all of you. But it's comforting in a way to know that so many people experience this too.
I've never been so offended by something I completely agree with. This was honestly touching.
It is.
Yeah I had to cry smh
It is offensive to watch if this is the result of psychological warfare, abuse or trauma. I'm seriously trying to understand how many people just naturally hate themselves without anything from external people causing it. It's against survival to hate one's self. I think this is the narcissistic narrative of self hate. Imo.
Same lmfao
Well said
I actually cried from this, not because it makes me feel bad, but because of how true it is. This hits so hard, and yet it's so hard to fight this self-loathing mindset.
I mean, aren’t we all? I, myself, have cried from this multiple times because of the same reason you have-
im glad to see i wasn't the only one that cried while watching this. i want this life to get better but i don't even see myself as a person anymore i talk about myself in the 3rd person like im a character. i think about killing myself and everyday that goes by it seems like a better option. i like to think im better than people by being smarter but im not smart i like to think that so i have a reason not to talk to people but its because im empty uninteresting and awkward. i see extroverts effortlessly being charismatic and making people laugh and i just think to myself like oneday ill be like that but i know i won't
@@moosecaboose599 I really hope your life gets better, you seem like you deserve it
@@moosecaboose599 I’ll be wishing the best for you and many others who are stuck in the same situation as us!
I can relate to this.
3:34 in my childhood and now tho,I was told ,,don't touch it,you're breaking everything!,, I have a big trauma from it,I can't even allow myself to do something I want to sometimes...
One time, I watched a horror movie That
My aunt Didn't want me to watch and after I was scared I ask if I could sleep with her and see sad come here Wonka and then she yelled at me and called me names and I ran to the Couch and Cried Underneath my Pillow. Am crying well. Typing this, I wish the pain could end. I am nice to everyone, yet people hate me.... why?
@@AmaVandiloveit2006 oh,I understand you;(.
@@AmaVandiloveit2006 I am sorry Being Kind is the thing that no one care in this world I appreciate you be mean sometimes if you don't speak up for yourself then who will you Angel
@racho-san you Deserve better we both do
*Me who watches it anyway despite fully knowing how much I hate myself:*
Just making sure-
(Edit: I never realized I resonated with so many people, lol. I hope you're all doing well to do better and wish you good luck. Be nice to people and, well, live laugh love.)
i hope you're better now!
i wish life would get better for us!
@@nowie4007 we all wish that 🥶 but it gets better!
Same lol, and there is literally no way to overcome this because it's a paradoxical situation where it's impossible to not want to hate yourself when you already hate yourself.
@@asvuksi42 yea
The line at 4:23 hit so hard. "You isolate yourself to refrain from inconveniencing others with your presence." What a perfect way to describe my social life.
I know you expected this, but: Yeah, same.
Same
exactly like at this point idek if i'm an introvert who doesn't like people or i just hate myself too much to burden them with my company
mood
This is me in a nutshell. I nearly cried.
Not accepting the compliments but holding in the criticism is the most relatable thing I’ve ever heard. I started crying when you said that.
Because my old man once told me that no matter how good I thought I was there is always someone better than me?
@@spaceflight1019there could be, but that doesn’t mean your accomplishments aren’t valid
@@grqndecat9862 Thanks for the encouragement, but when I look back at my "accomplishments" all I can see is a lot of obsolete equipment and things that aren't there anymore. Nothing lasted. Let me give you the "road map"...
Cheswick Power Station 2013-2021: currently being demolished.
Elrama Power Station: 2008-2013: demolished in 2023.
Space Shuttle program: ended in 2011. Orbiters in museums.
Process Instruments: 2000-2008: sold and moved.
Westinghouse Instrument Service Company 1983-2000: sold to Siemens in 1998, shuttered in 2005.
US Steel Homestead Works: 1978-1981: Long gone
Westinghouse Electric East Pittsburgh: 1978: Long gone.
Union Switch and Signal: 1977: Long gone.
You see, there is no place for me to take my grandchildren to and say "I used to work there."
I could focus on the minutae, and delude myself by thinking that what I did made a difference while I was working there, but if I had truly made a difference those places would still be there.
🤗
My mom told me specifically that my brother is better at me than everything
The feeling I get when I look in the mirror is one of total contempt.
1) You tear yourself down. ✅
2) You feel insecure about others. ✅
3) You neglect your self-care. ✅
4) You don’t let yourself be happy. ✅
5) You isolate yourself from others. ✅
6) You put on a facade for others. ✅
7) You’re afraid to dream big. ✅
The test result are ready. You were right.
Same here! :) I just don't think I'm important or good enough XD I'm just wearing a mask hiding me
Yeah same..
Same lol but can anyone tell me how to fix this ? XD
Heck
Hey! It's my personality!
to summarize:
7 signs you may be suffering from self-loathing
1. you tear yourself down
2. you feel insecure around others
3. you neglect your self-care
4. you don’t let yourself be happy
5. you isolate yourself from others
6. you put on a facade for others
7. you’re afraid to dream big
Thank you
Thank you
o shizz 5/7 definite yes's. At least on auto mode
3, 4, & 5. I don't trust people.
Lol how’d you know what’s on my resume
I never thought I could reach this point in my life 💘. I don't even know what my emotions are anymore. I am busy battling narcissists every month 😭.
Finally a test even I can get full marks on!
God, this actually made me laugh a little through the tears. I'm glad people with humor like you exist. Thank you.
😂. Thanks I needed that.
Heads up to the both you above this, shit'll get better for all of us, eventually ♥
@@kohji_y I made the sad mistake to give up hope and it led me down a dark path. I'm still slowly working on myself and piecing things together. I don't have all the answers, but at least with the internet; it's up, it's up forever. There will be that mark for everyone to see we tried. We can slowly become the majority of true empaths and see a world where no one will be misunderstood.
Even if I fade into obscurity afterward, I can rest knowing I either helped ignite the spark of change; or I died trying.
@@mitchellbarton7915 pathetic
Anyone else pretty much immediately brought to tears by this?
me, still crying
Ya I just started crying in one part of the video 😢
iam
this hit so personal I started crying
Me
"as a result, you isolate yourself to refrain from inconveniencing others with your presence."
*this sentence literally describes my life.*
I actually have reached other people, and the result is push away and ignore. So my isolation is due too the fact not refraining, trying to be in the presense of others as the "right and correct" isolate others.
I actually feel I'm a burden to my family,and i try to be perfect,but it never ever works...
@@stargirl3459 you make me sick to my stomach instead of trying to manipulate people into a religion why not try to convince them not to hate themselves give good reasons not just lies....
yup
Sometimes I feel like I give too much of myself and start to sound either too big for my boots or on the flip side, too desperate for attention after craving it for so long. I hate to inconvienience someone, ANYONE even if they have told me more than once that they are there if I need them. It's just that by the time "I need you" comes around, often it turns out to be bad timing for them, so I don't reach out which then means that soon after I fall to pieces because I then suddenly go from feeling supported to feeling alone.
I commented on this a really long time ago. I didn’t remember that I watched it and I didn’t know how one day I just got better and I talked to someone, but I’m watching it and I realized I commented on it and I’m pretty sure this is how I knew I got better. Thank you
I always said, "I should love myself" but the fact is it's hard to love yourself when you have low self esteem.
It’s tough… I don’t even think I’m deserving of any love, especially for myself.
My therapist had me write a mantra for myself. One that I need to say three times a day. I can tear myself down like a champ. If it were a sport I'd come in 1st place in my division. It is very awkward to say kind words for oneself but over time it's supposed to get easier. I do think it is starting to. If you choose to try it also start with something positive but not overly so you don't feel overwelmed. Something you will feel a little awkward saying but not something you find outlandish. Maybe something like, "I am worthy. I am worthy of love and affection. I am worthy of my love and affection." Use no negatives. Don't say, "I am worthy but..." Just use, "I am worthy..." I wish you nothing but the best. Be kind to yourself, even though it can be terribly hard. We can all get through this together. Have a beautiful night, dear. 🩵
That’s what I feel, every time I try to say “I love myself for this” but every time I look at myself I just can’t disagree that I never like the way I put things, because after I’ll have to do more of it if it collapses
This.
It's impossible to love yourself when everyone else is so much more than you
You know my favorite quote," Nobody can hate you more than you hate youself."
Yeah
Hitler
Seriously do I need to say more
@@tammid8423 no ya dont lol
@@tammid8423 😂
thanks dora
“So when you look in the mirror, all you see is a haggard reflection, unworthy of love, and that’s how you like it.”
This hit me harder than it probably should have..
Same still does
when i look in the mirror i see a mess of a youtuber that cant keep a consistent schedule and hide themselves in public because o one will ever love them because all they are is a little brat and the world would be better of without them. but what do you see of yourself?
same, thats why i try to get away from mirrors
Me too. How y’all doing?
I see a stupid ugly rat in the mirror ;(
I hate when the solution to things like this is “just live yourself”. But what if you really have behavioral issues and it not just you “needlessly beating yourself up“?
Or ur brain is wrong so it doesn’t let you
in fact, this is the only solution. you need to start loving yourself with small things - play sports and/or do exercises, take care of yourself, compliment yourself, eat healthy food, sleep properly, do not compare yourself to others, communicate openly, do not lie to yourself and others, be able to say no.. and much more. start with the smallest and continue to love yourself
I *know* I hate myself, I'm just fact-checking at this point
Lol same
same
Same
same
same....🥺💔
me, watches "7 Signs You Hate Yourself" already knowing i do:
me, after finishing the whole thing: wow, i didnt know i hated myself. i must say, i am surprised.
bro same
You must be young? When I was a teenager or in my 20’s I was in denial. When I turned 30 I accepted the fact I deeply hate myself so now I am open about it. It takes time but at some point you accept the truth.
Me too
Same
Honestly many of these r true for me and I didn't notice and IVe been doing self luv everyday but I guess it'll be a while till I finally luv me
"You're wary of compliments or praise because it seems mocking."
I literally didn't need to be called out this way--
I feel you, this whole video seems like my biography.
@@PnPride I swear
Maybe we all did so we can fix it, I know I want to feel better about my existence
Im wary of compliments they way they given to me. Instead of sincere i feel like the mocking me or treating me like a baby or incompetent
Hey, if you ever get lonely or need someone to talk to, respond to this and I can help. Smile :) it looks good on you
“I think you’re actually a really nice guy and just acting like you’re mean.”
I never acted to be mean.
I actually thought I was being nice holding open doors, picking up after people, and being honest, but I was actually just wasting my time being a people pleaser. That was that last “complement” I ever got and I’ve kept that living in my head for 6 years. I’ve hated myself since because I always think I’m being too mean by not helping people, yet at the same time, I don’t wanna come out as a people pleaser.
I literally don’t remember what it feels like to love myself and I’m genuinely curious how people do it
just realized i never have
…every time i tried someone called me cocky and made me feel like shit
It feels okay. Loving yourself makes you more intrested to have great sex and love some other people. I dont blame my body for anything, when nothing is my body fault and I dont blame myself also, when to hard situation in life to get was not my fault, when others screamed over me to tell how their always 100% right, so I never myself felt guilty in anything, when I had not any annoying childish prideful personality that made me do something to feel guilty.
same, like how do you not notice all the flaws in your body or personality and just ignore them- i dont think thats possible
I feel constantly feel like a doormat for everyone’s emotional need. I used to love myself but I don’t know anymore. I just sometimes have strong urge to just die so I don’t have to feel so much all the time
maybe start by complimenting yourself everyday when looking in a mirror. do it even if it feels weird or too egotistical.
1. You tear yourself down - ✔
2. You feel insecure around others - ✔
3. You neglect your self-care - ✔
4. You don't let yourself be happy - ✔
5. You isolate yourself from others - ✔
6. You put on a facade for others - ✔
7. You're afraid to dream big - ✔
Damn, first thing I got perfect score from.
Oh damn bro
honestly its the same for me too
fr 😭
🖐 high five
Savage self-burn - ✅
“ I don’t wanna live but I’m too scared to die “ describes me all the way.
Yeah
God loves you so much, he sent his Son to die for you, to pay for your sins, so that you can live. You are loved.
Yeah, that sentence hit a little to close to home for me.
Same
Same.. :c
That…hit home harder than I thought it would.
I’ve never liked myself, from the way I look, speak, hear and move. Every time I look in the mirror I could never be happy. I don’t bother talking to anyone when I feel depressed because the people around me don’t like listening to me. I have a big family but none of them are comforting to me when I’m sad. It’s had because I’ve learned to hold in my feelings my entire life even though I know I should love myself.
Just in case you'd need a random person to talk to, I'll be here ÔuÔ
People will always fail you... But God is your heavenly Father who will never leave you nor forsake you, and you will never be alone as long as you trust Him
I've always felt like people don't listen to me. Because they don't. Because the vast majority of us are terrible listeners. Which is why one day I chose be an active one. It changed my life.
I don't like the way I look, speak, hear and move too. But my boyfriend do. And my friends. And they help me a lot to accept myself. Even if it's hard. In 2016, I was depressed, without any friends, I was all alone. Speaking to no one for days, for weeks.
What a coincidence that i holded my feeling because of a fucking girl i hade crush on
Anyone else feel tooo damn tired for life? Like even maintaining a small thing as a discussion with someone is draining for me
Yes I'm tired of the same routine everyday..
Ive cutted myself too many times,and when i was doing it,i thought i was a attention seeker.
I haven’t cried in so long but I really need to and I am tired life and just want it to end
Come speak to me if you have discord. Chickenmaster#4237
@@murtza_6640 thank you , you kind soul i dont have discord thugh
Finally, someone who knows just compliments won’t work.
I know right?
So true
I think people give me complements but I don’t remember them.
@@deborahkarcher6123 didn't think about it so much but now after reading your reply, I don't remember anyone giving me compliments either, even tho I know I've received atleast a few over the years. Yet I still can't remember anything, most likely because none of them were really true, or they were aimed at my false self, my outwardly appearance. I reject any and all compliments simply because I know myself, I know they are all empty words, even if the person meant them genuinely.
My family always compliments me, but, it's just not enough...
0:49 *When no-one hears a word they say*
I just broke down while watching this, I thought it was normal that everyone blames themselves for everything and is always insecure
It's okay just remember one thing you are loved 💓💓💓
Same here, i've really hated myself since childhood coz i've always been aware about how my parents will never love me as much as they love my sister, and i dunno, it's like this video validated my thoughts even more and i just kinda internally crumbled
That's what I am wondering tho. Isn't it normal to a certain extent or are there people who can not even remotely relate to this? I'm so confused.
@@kahokohino8573 same
Please get help IMMEDIATELY. And I mean RIGHT THIS INSTANT!
Please. 😢💔
Okay, TH-cam, it’s starting to get personal now.
Incredibly personal
too personal 😭
Agreed, but I don’t mind lol
unbelievably personal, youtube.
So its true that you all got on recommended?
"you're a pessimist who's quick at finding the negative aspect in every situation."
wow.
way to call me out.
strongly agreed
She’s just trying to help..
Hey it's not our fault this world has sucked since the beginning of time lol
Ikr
i searched for it
Dysphoria, anxiety, and depression is a brutal line up. I swear god knew I'd be too powerful without all my mental disorders.
Actually you're better off with these disorders.
@@YourWorstNightmareyes I don't know about that one
Me: clearly knows I hate myself
Me again: **clicks video just in case**
omg that's me lol
Bts annoys me so no thanks (no offense to bts just not my thing)
@@btsbutter2405 I love them but unfortunately still hate myself
@@shuoyt3 It’s ok as long as you respect them:) And I hope you have a nice day thank you☺️
@@charlottedekievit3874 Try digging deeper into their message and try understanding them more.
i’m tearing up watching this because u described everything i’ve done to myself
Right..🙁
I'm with you, friend. I wish you get better.
They only described one for me so i guess i dont hate myself
You're not the only one
She just described me exactly
"you think you don't deserve their love"
I can relate to this 💯
This is actually true af I started crying idk why
i understand, you have all rights to be sad wfter hearing that..i can relate🙂
You and me both😔i gotta fix myself😖
Yeah anytime I get a compliment it's just a "uh... thanks" from me
Sometimes emotions just come out of us. When I had depressive episodes that happened often. The important thing is that you let yourself express these things.
I destroy love, so yeah I don't deserve it lmao and anyone like me here deserves the same
3:46 applies to me. So does 4:28. Literally feel like no one would like me no matter what and nobody wants to be friends with me no matter what.
I have absolutely zero confidence in anything about myself, and the world did a good job at making me feel like I'm right to feel this way. I don't know how to break out of it
Same..
One thing I've learned, is if you pretend to be confident, even when you are not, you will eventually grow accustomed to being confident and it will be easier for you.
Blames the world lol.
Same
@@d2heffz231 and is right
Recently I found a picture of myself when I was in elementary school and I just burst into tears. Thinking about how happy and peppy little me was makes me think that I’m letting down my past self. I had such big dreams for myself back then. It makes me think about how if little innocent me met the current me, little me would be so disappointed and sad. I’m really trying to better myself and this time I’m doing it for me.
I hope that goes well...
Yeees same. I always get so nostlagic and depressed when looking through old photos because I was soo happy and content. It's immeasurable how that mood has dropped throughout the years. I just wish I could go back to being 8 or 9 where I had no worries or insecurities. Im glad I'm not alone in this ☺️
@@sibilansnel I hope you’re doing well :)
@@lundinp You too! 🥰
Whenever I look back I just giggle and say I was a little bitch, whenever I was young I didn't set high standards and if I did the past me wouldn't be disappointed, because I'm more wiser than that little demon could ever be, I love the spot that I'm at, even tho I'm nowhere big atm, I won't care, I'm happy and that's all I care about.
Me throughout this whole video: “I feel like everyone does that... right?”
Same F
Yes but apparently no
Same.. i hate myself :/
I mean it's pretty normal in our generation but it's not supposed to be
@@chibikenma that’s true. A lot of people (not all) do feel these ways because of things like school or work
That was actually scary, I had no idea, I thought I loved myself but EVERYTHING in the video was stuff Iv told myself and already knew I do, I didn’t know, thank you so much.
"I'm a blackbelt when I'm beating up on myself, but I'm an expert at giving love to somebody else."
This song actually gets me out of my negative mindset. Especially when she says “all the times I went and fucked it up, I wonder if I love me was enough?” It’s so true though! I feel like I self sabotage and tear myself down before I even try but I give everyone my love and support. It’s like “why can’t I take my own advice already??!!”😂😂😂
@@awsomepeep i know right! i feel like i always give advice, but never use that advice upon myself! 😂😂
i love that song, and i love demi :)
No kidding I listened to that song the entirety of Quarantine cuz I related so much lol.
My friends tell me that I'm great at giving advice and even if that's true, I suck at taking it.
I truly wonder when I love me is enough 😂
This is an amazing quote
@@RosheenQuynh ahaha it's a song lyric from demi levato's song "i love me"!
I've hated myself for as long as I can remember and I can't imagine ever not feeling that way.
Same
Same
Funny how they claim 'this video is made to help us recognize times when we may not be doing ourselves a service' but, it's when humans become entitled and thinking they deserve things they clearly don't deserve that they are not doing themselves a service, because they become an impostor wanting that which is not meant for them, and, it's a fact that the 🔥 is waiting for all imposters trying to steal my place after the system change -- the only humans that are not going to be severely punshd are the humans that stay humble and know their place and do not misuse my big terms/names/compliments and only weer suitable/simple cIothes and no high heels and no gold/jewelry/diamonds and no shiny/glittery/luxury/pretty/s3ksy stuff and no makeup etc or other unsuitable items (that are only meant for me) and that do not pluck/destroy flowers/trees/nature etc and the humans that do not try to date/steal moments that are not meant for them, but only for me...
This type of videos are only misusing big terms and trying to get broads and betas to become more entitled, when it's perfectly normal for humans to h8 themselves and to know the fact that they do not deserve anything and that they should not want that which is not meant for them, but only for me the only lovable being -- all males subconsciously h8 womyn and all betas consciously or subconsciously h8 themselves, which is why they date/drill broads in the first place, despite the fact that broads are not date materiaI because they are not love materiaI, instead of just using their hand...
And humans have no idea what love is, and what humans have is the exact opposite of love -- love is an absolute feeling that only exists for me the absolute being, and love can only be felt by my pure protectors aka the alphas for me only, myself being the only lovable/loved/lovely being and the only being who reflects big terms and compliments and the only being who deserves everything!
FOR THE PEOPLE WHO JUST WANT THE LIST
1. You tear yourself down - quick to blame yourself, don’t commend yourself, too hard on yourself
2. You feel insecure when around others - you’re constantly comparing yourself to them
3. You neglect your self care
4. You don’t let yourself feel happy - you take others’ criticism to heart but don’t really take compliments
5. You isolate yourself from others - struggle to make friends because you don’t consider yourself good enough to receive love, you believe that your presence is holding them back
6. You put on a face for others - You hate who you are, you wish you were someone else
7. You’re afraid to dream big - it scares you, you think you’ll never be able to achieve them so what’s the point
You've described me to the T ! Thanks very much !
3, 5, 6 that describes me well, and as for 2 I could say half and half
Yes to all of the above
_Inwardly harsh, outwardly forgiving_
All of those Match with me!🐻
I used to watch videos from this channel a few years back when i was struggling with depression. Now I feel somewhat better, and I can see the change. I laugh more, talk more, put myself out there like I never used to, but it's all going back. I am more stressed, more worried and struggle accepting the things that are good, and I notice them. It is like my mind is scared of being happy, like today, I went through something that broke almost every piece of my heart that I restored.
I also didn't do what my heart was begging me to do because it was wrong. It was not right to have these feelings. I tried telling myself that every day but every time the frame passes by my heart can't do anything but crumble. It's like for the first time in my life, my mind was fighting away the feelings my heart grew onto me. The thing today was something that shredded every emotion and thought I had over the past years. I will keep it to myself knowing the mental damage it might cause, since it embedded itself into my mind. I also don't speak of it because I don't want to hurt others. The chances of them seeing this low, but the chances of them knowing is high.
This channel helped me in some way but thank you for the effort. I struggled alone and hated myself for being who I am. I hope, I really hope that my future self would still be here, and that I will live long enough to see what I become. It's really hard, I'm not going to try and change anything, nor myself. Pain is temporary, scars are permanent.
Even if I am self aware of my own hatred, I can't get myself together. When I started feeling better about myself, I got back to square one and hated myself for my failures. I started believing that there's no point of loving myself or improving when I'm just destined to fail.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
You're not a failure. It's okay to fail and learn the lessons. You are awesome and I wish you the best ❤️🙂
Failure is a natural and important part of life. It doesn't mean you are horrible, it means you are human.
@@alexdaniel5641 i can’t trust anyone, i feel like i’m using my friends as therapists, and my “”””””””family”””””””” is what helped push me into this mess
@@gliiitched4429 Hi! It’s the therapist job to help people, they studied the human mind, so why don’t you just try? Good luck! 🍀👍
As bad as it is, this made me wanna cry. Never heard someone explain how I've thought and felt about myself for so many years.
Same :')
U didn't cry? 😭
To hear someone else vocalize so many points and disturbing thoughts is terrifying and relieving. It also helped me come to terms with it a little more and acknowledge I need help.
Same I almost cried at the realization
Yep. I thought I loved myself bcz I think I'm awesome...but that's only one side of me. Every single word she said felt like a hammer to my skull...I wanted to push this video aside but I kept watching bcz if this is me I need to accept it now. Yep, I cried. It hurts because I don't have anyone by my side, and I now know a lot of it was my fault. Naturally, I'm going to readily accept that fact.
I wish the phrase “I hate myself” hadn’t become so normalized. It’s taken away the weight in which you feel it. It is impossible to get help these days when you struggle with communicating your feelings
this :(
You are enough
@@JizzyF83 thank you ♥️
100%. The issue can and often is, getting that help though. The hoops you have to go through sometimes is unreal. money can buy you an express route but many people struggling with these thoughts/feelings don't have access to those kinds of luxuries.
Hey!!! I'm also facing this but, if you're comfy enough, you can share it with me..whatever your problem is, you can tell me...I'd be glad to make you feel better as I feel you 🙂🙂💜💜
1. You tear yourself down - kind of true
2. You feel insecure around others - true
3. You neglect your self-care - Kinda
4. You don't let yourself be happy - sometimes
5. You isolate yourself from others - I am an introvert
6. You put on a facade for others - true
7. You're afraid to dream big - not true
how do I stop self hatred
for me :
1. yes
2. way too much
3. too much
4. yes (rearely leetting myself to be happy)
5. introverted (my muscle memory makes me automatically cold whit other when they try to talk whit me, even if i want to talk to them)
6. i actually never am myself, maybe a bit online or in bed when i'm about to fall sleep
7. well, kindoff, only big dream i have if leave this place to be somewhere where no one knows me so i work daily, get home and stay home till next work day
"You don't sleep well"
Me watching this at 2am : this is fine
me watching this at 4 AM: 🙂
5:33 AM here..
@@putthatjellyinmybelly9698 it's 9 AM now and I didnt sleep all night :)
i stayed up until 3 watching stuff, then i let my adhd take control, and danced until morning. beautiful.
Its 2:30 here
I don’t feel like I hate myself, but I just don’t feel like a person...
I feel both
Same
I'm the best and the worst.
I 20 percent hate myself
mmmm it's okay if you arent comfortable answering, but do you mind if I ask what it means to feel like a person from your pov?
Time stamps!
0:55 You tear yourself down
1:44 You feel insecure around others
2:16 You neglect your self care
3:02 You dont let yourself be happy
3:46 You isolate yourself from others
4:29 You put on a facade for others
4:55 You are afraid to dream big
Mine originally came from external sources unfortunately. There's no way to heal from that if you're stuck with those people.
6/7. damn it.
7/7, fudge.
6/7 uhm-
God when it’s laid out like this it feels like you’re describing the way I feel about myself
I have most of these. Thank you for bringing my issues to my attention. I will continue to learn from you. Thank you.
this makes me so frustrated
first I think "yes I do hate myself"
and then I'm like "no I have a good life I have no reason to hate myself"
and then I'm like "well I am kinda fat and lazy"
"that's what a self-loathing person would say"
"I just want attention I need to stop"
"I don't deserve to hate myself"
I have so many conflicting thoughts that it makes it so frustrating to think about, because I don't want to be dramatic but I want to be true to myself but I want attention from others but I don't want attention from others because wanting attention from others is annoying to others and I don't want to be annoying to others arghhhhhhhhhh
what
do
I
think
you described exactly how I feel and think a lot of the time
It's truly a shame that the idea that people are faking negative feelings is so commonplace. I get that some people actually do fake it, but that's between them and a medical professional, and not any others.
like damn why cant our minds pick a struggle alrdy...
I don't like that other people go through this but I am kinda glad that its not just me. I've been homeschooled for 4 years now so I don't know anything normal and I only see myself everyday. I hope these thoughts stop for anyone who has this though. Have a good day to whoever does or does not read this :)
Aww seeking attention sometimes annoyed other people but there's also some people who rarely gets annoyed.. It's okay to hate yourself sometimes at least you take care of yourself and you will find the true you which is you are awesome. *Hugs *
“You hate yourself, that’s why you hurt others. You do it because you know the pain it brings you is far harsher than the pain anyone else can do to you” - Misato Katsuragi
Holy,its true me...
ouch too true
Noooo, not the eva references
I'm not ready to begin to think about the ending again
Yep that is me I like to argue for some reason this explains.
@@KrazyKirbyKid well are you sure about that? some people think arguing is fun or useful
…wow you described me….
NICE. 3 DAYS AGO AND NO COMMENTS AND 13 LIKES
oh my.. That's what I said at the end of every chapter ;-; I'm about to start crying
same whaha
@@woolerz. I'm numb mate. Cried to much. I hate my self tried to commit suicide before.
Me too
I had a feeling that I hated myself but this just makes it a fact
Cried through the whole things because it’s true. Thank you I needed this.
Same, big tear spot in my pillow rn
same, ugly crying all the way through...
Same especially the one were you downgrade yourself really hit towards me
Yeah me to hope your okay tho 💕
Yep me too.
I’ve never been able to take a compliment . Every time someone compliments me or my work, It weirds me out and makes me think that I don’t deserve it.
I just say "thank you" in a very neutral way because I dont actually know what am I suppose to say
Man I dont even get compliments
I try to give compliments to others in order to make myself feel better. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.
This made me cry at the end. Every time anyone talks about 'loving yourself' I get really emotional, it sounds like such a happy and beautiful thing I can never get...
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
Right ,just knowing I can’t get it makes me so sad🙁
same i can never get thing right
Same here... 🥺
Same here...
1. You tear yourself down - Hits me
2. You feel insecure around others - Hits me
3. You neglect your self-care - Hits me
4. You don't let yourself be happy - Hits me
5. You isolate yourself from others - Hits me
6. You put on a facade for others - Hits me
7. You're afraid to dream big - Hits me
Aw, i rather want a less score here than a perfect score
in case no one has done it yet
Thanks❣️ I was looking for this
I relate to number six so much😭😭😭
I literally get annoyed when people compliment me. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Same thing with hugs, I hate them.
Same, I literally ask myself "what the hell are they complimenting me for???" And hugs just make me uncomfortable🙁
Im Ok With Hugs But Being Complimented Is Just Uncomtortable For Me Sometimes
@@holyonesingadimedja3241 I'm only fine with very few friends hugging me. Compliments don't really affect me, they just go straight through my ears and I just immediately forget them a few minutes later.
I think why you don't like compliments is because you know they're lying or sugarcoating it, atleast for me
You guys are getting compliments and hugs??
"You constantly wish you were someone else"
You're right, I wish I was someone who didn't do that.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
Oh my God finally someone that feels the same!
If you wanna solve urself problem
Try to copy little part-by-part other people personality.
That made me love **new ** self
@@rioblogs5149 if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
@@alexdaniel5641 bot
Me to
I hurt myself even for just a tiny mistake. This is me. I don't dream big anymore. And I see myself failing on everything that I will do