The 4 SECRETS To Get Him ADDICTED To You!
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The 4 SECRETS To Get Him ADDICTED To You is a relationship advice video for women where I will assist women in understanding men and give them the secrets to get him addicted. Unlike other relationship advice videos, which tend to teach you tricks and games to play to pick a man’s interest, in this relationship advice for women I will give you healthy relationship advice that will help you not to play yourself.
I will also give you secrets to help you avoid getting him addicted yet he is the man that you want and not the man that you need. After watching the 4 secrets to get him addicted to you, you will increase your desirability to a man and enable you to draw his attention more in a healthy way, and this way you will get him addicted to you.
Below are the secrets to get him addicted that I discuss in this video
When you are a confident woman, you know what you bring to the table, which conveys to the man that you understand your values and this will get him addicted to you.
Taping into positivity and femininity is definitely going to make you more desirable and get him addicted to you because no one wants to be around a miserable or negative person.
As a woman when you compliment, flirt, and show interest you are likely to get him addicted to you because men are used to being the ones that show interest, men feel good when women show interest.
The biggest issue in relationships and dating are lack of communication. Always express how you feel. For the sake of your emotional health, you should always express yourself and how you feel.
Women make mistakes of internalizing issues and putting the blame on themselves asking what they did wrong. If you don’t know what caused the problem in a relationship, there is no need for you to beat up yourself.
When you act like it doesn’t bother you or you don’t care when you do is unhealthy because you are suppressing your interests and desires and it may kill the potential of your relationship.
When you try to find some way to compromise your true desires to appease him to get him back into your life is a big mistake because you will not be at peace in that relationship. If you compromise you are setting yourself up for big disappointments.
Healing is definitely key and when you move on to cope you are not resolving the real issue and you will be dragging the pain and the emotional baggage with you. You are not likely to get on with the right person when you have not healed.
You might think that when a man chases you it is out of love, no, in most cases when a man is willing to chase he is locked to the fantasy, infatuation, or hype he has towards the woman.
When a man truly loves you and you make him chase, you will increase the chances of that man becoming feminine and insecure because he will not be sure if you want him or if you are serious about him.
When you make him chase you and he finally gets you, it will be your turn to chase him because it was not about a healthy successful relationship. If you start a relationship one-sided where he is chasing you he will now flip it on you and you will find yourself chasing him.
As a relationship coach and dating coach, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this relationship advice helpful and that it will help you to get him addicted to you in a healthy way. If you are asking any of the following questions:
What are the secrets to get him addicted?
How do you get a man addicted to you?
Is he addicted to me?
What relationship advice will help me to get him addicted?
Understanding men to get them addicted
What are the secrets to get him?
How can I get him addicted to me?
and more, well, I believe this relationship advice video will give you the clarity you need.
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We were just friends hanging out and supporting but he said that he didn't want to ruin friendship and I started to develope feeling so I pulled back
To be single is not a curse. You are just happy developing yourself to be whole.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Amen 🙏
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'It's not about the man you want, its about the man that's BEST for you .'
You cannot "connect" with someone who isn't connected with themselves...this is often a road block for so many 😫
Absolutely!
So true !!!!! 100 %
A deep statement. My sister just said the very same thing to me. Amazing!
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Congratulations, that's wonderful!!!
Congratulations !!! God is so Amazing !!!
Congratulations! I love how you said a beautiful soul, so sweet. I wish you all the best. 🤗
Me too girl
Yaaaaaay!!❤ God is good indeed
Ladies you never want a man who doesn’t want you. He’s running away because you’re chasing him. STOP chasing him, it increases the chances IF he’s going to allow you to catch him. I say stop chasing not with a guarantee that he will let you catch him it’s for your own emotional health you are learning detachment and surrendering the outcome.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Great advice!!!!
THIS!
Nowadays it's best if the women show they have interest (especially with Clear non Ambiguous signs).... because women nowadays are so busy trying to be strong Masculine and independent..that they don't even really know WTH they're doing with men SO your advice is Troublesome..it Mostly Benefits a man More to not chase women...but that doesn't mean women should be desperate though..
This is great advice. Exactly what I needed to hear. I love how you put it. Its to learn how to detach and move on. Stop chasing. Got it. Now I have to apply it.
A relationship is supposed to enhance not complicate. I refused to be treated like a book on a shelf. You're not going to pick me up from time to time. Consistency and and trust is important 💯
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Wow, so well put 🥺 what a wonderful saying I’m going to have keep that! I will give you one in return. There’s relationship coach name, Margarita Nazzarenko - she explains that you could be the juiciest most delicious peach. Even so, the end of the day, some people just don’t like peaches. 🤷🏼♀️ whenever I’m feeling low about myself I just tell myself with love “I’m a juicy peach 🥰🍑” it truly brings me back up and reframes because I’m delicious and deserve to seen as such!
It's easy, pray (and maybe fast) ....detach from all outside distractions and truly listen for God's response. Sometimes he answers in a dream, through a vision or through a message! This was my answer...Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
I like what you say 😊
Thank you 😊
Great advice
Amen!! GOD 1st Point.Blank.PERIOD.🎤
When you’re really into the guy.... He said “you gotta talk yo self outta doing too much” LoL...! I had a crush on a guy so hard that I had to talk myself out of riding by his job just to get a glimpse.. Hold me up in prayer Family! 🤣
I would love to hold you up fam 🤣 but I did just that!!!
Your funny! 😂
I often talk myself out of situations like that 😂
I just did this a few weeks ago. Lol yeah, restraint is key lol
@@loviejohnson5700 I feel ya' sis..! It gets bad sometimes.. LoL!!!
@@nahla7899 ..LoL!
My motto is to always be yourself!!! This is something that I had to learn over the years. This is how you will truly attract who is best for you.
Love that! Thank you for sharing.
Best advice EVER...energy must be matched no matter where on the scale it is. If you’re acting a certain way, it’ll wear off eventually and you’ll be back to square one in no time. The only thing high value about anyone is their proximity to Christs virtues. Everything else is just looking good.
This really works
I got my ex back
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Not showing a man you are hurt after they pull away.. some men want a reaction out of you. Most men and women have very unhealthy dating habits. I have come across alot of men who try to squeeze emotion out of me by doing things that they feel will trigger a unhealthy response because most men view that unhealthy response as love or feelings, period. I don't have erratic responses. If you dont call me back Im not the type to spaz out. I have buisnesses to run Ive always been busy, its hard to take people serious because of the intentional mind games that people play. I try to be transparent to give what i would want in return but people are so use to toxicity. I appreciate the message i guess im here because i have not given up. But my relationship with Elohim
El Shaddai is my unconditional love. Some Men are scared of that, because it means my morals run deep.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
If we say we Love God, and we understand that when we Truly Love Him, we will keep His commandments, we must realize, if a man wants a Christian woman, he will respect her and not open her precious gift, without marrying her! Often when a man begs to have sex, we feel sorry for them because their compassion runs so deep, and sex is very important to a sexually active man. We do not go into a relationship, to be used! Too often we find ourself in this maladaptive cycle cycle. Which makes us believe he really really loves us and we are doing something for him because he loves us so much. Of course he’s going to marry me, he loves me! But many times he does not love you, he just lust after you. He wants you physically and because this is the way he has lived his life or his adult life, you get pulled into the cycle! He will love you, or love on you for as long as you will allow him to, but the one he’s chasing is usually the one he can’t get! Pray about it!
That's real, sis! It is hard out here but God.
@@gloriajohnson1122 so true my Sister! ☺️🙏🏽
AMEN👐🏿🙌🏿🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👑👑👑👑!!!!
This guy is real,even when it hurts
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Connection is everything! It’s a great feeling and a beautiful thing ❤️
Honestly
Yes Stephan is the real deal
@Adams Wood it’s been 3yrs and I still can’t get over my ex ...I really love him soo bad
1. Be Confident .. that make me come to you. If not find diffrent style to work for you be it clothes, etc.
2. Exude positive n feminine energy. As an established man wants to invest his life in such a person.
Don't be miserable.
3. Showing n expressing interest.. compliment him, flirt make him feel good
Don't use words that stroke his ego. Have a positive approach. N make him want you.
Imp message: focus on attention,see if you are on the same page. " Be in the best position to get the best" and all the things will fall on place. Does god want him to be in your life.. think?
Mistakes made by women that make men leave.
1. Not expressiing how you feel. Lack of communication.-confusion - chaos
2. Internalizing the issue. Don't internalize the issue you don't know.
3. Acting like you don't care. .. share that you are scared or remembering your past... Share your emotions.😊 Address the issue and resolve it.
4. Compromising your true desires and values to get him back.
5. Moving on to cope rather than to heal
What to do if you feel your man is neglecting you.
*1. Talk to him. Ask him if he does care.... If he cares about you, he will surely expose himself n do better. If talking to him is not enough then remove him.
2. Pour more love into that man if you are sure he is the right guy.
Thank you so much!
I took your advice when I felt a really lovely man was pulling away. I expressed how I felt and that I hoped it wasn’t the case because I thinks he’s really wonderful. He didn’t realize he was even making me feel any kind of way and felt bad. We have open communication all the time now and are closer than ever. He says he loves me and my passion. Thank you for actual good advice ♥️
That is so awesome to hear. My pleasure.
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What Sapp him now,,,
🤦🏾♀️ Lord let me go and sit down and heal!!! Peace and Blessings!
Healing is definitely key!
I Promise The Healing Will Help!!!🙏🏾😭🙏🏾😭At The End Of The Day You Wanna Make Sure That You're In A Wonderful Place Within Yourself To Receive The ❤That You Deserve...Trust It...I let Myself Heal For Almost A Year...Also Went Without Sex For A Yr. &A Half...You'll Be Tested Trust &Believe...Stay Strong Hun🙏🏾💪🏾🙏🏾❤
@@cielitasanta-cruz2439 Thank you! I am not even worried about the sex part, I been pass those urges 🤦🏾♀️😂. But yeah I am taking the time to heal from all past hurts and love me freely with expectations. Just trying to be me and resist the devils son when he call!
@@justlue380 Yesssss....Maammm👍🏾
Bless you, sis. 🙏🏽
Starting at 27:21 you described my husband. He neglected me FOR MORE THAN 6 YEARS. I never thought to play games. Instead, I talked to him. Constantly made my feelings known. Begged for him to treat me better. Finally, I became indifferent during year 8 of neglecting me. I realized that he is not the right person for me. It took me being so hurt, second guessing myself, blaming myself and still cookin and serving and being the best wife I could be but he still did nothing to make me convinced that he appreciated me and valued me. Buying things occassionally or "paying most of the bills" (as he put it) does not make up for the neglectfulness and indifference he showed me. So now, I am moving on. I think we are better off as friends anyway. He now understands and has apologized for neglecting me for so long. However, once I have been hurt to this degree (also due to his volatility and verbally abusive nature when he gets angry), there is no way I can see myself loving him like I used to before he hurt me. I am just only able to be a friendly co-parent with him. Stephan's point in this video is spot on. I am just sorry I subjected myself to so much hurtful behavior for so long.
Your ex-partner sounds like a classic narcissist from his attitude where love is transactional e.g him thinking paying most of the bills id enough and no empathy toward your needs. Glad you're out of that relationship.
Congratulations ❤
Communication is very important to me in a relationship.
Communication is definitely key!
..Amen Sister.
Same here
Same with me here
I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEART ❤DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR BABA,, WHO HELPED RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. 🏠HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE,,,
Stephan bring relational and biblical tips for successful HEALTHY dating and relationships! We thank God for HIS MINISTRY
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Yes
Amen!
Amen
Lol 😂 I was like get him addicted!!! Nooo I don’t want him addicted I just need him loyal loving and spiritually aligned 🔥❤️ also driven and passionate about his goals in life
Lol
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you know I think 🤔 your such a good catch and give such awesome advice which I'm sure helps so many women and men !! Why are you still single😊 and then I was like well Samantha Michelle your still single and focused on helping others and working on self ! So thats it we both have faith and trust in divine timing. Because let's be honest God already has our divine partner picked for us 💯💯💯
Get them addicted like drugs and it goes further into something we don't like after awhile
Amen Samantha❣️
THATS A SIGN OF ADDICTED IN A GOOD WAY
Y’all better listen to Stephan!!! Self-love and personal growth is everything! Without self-love and personal growth you will keep having the same or similar experiences!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
31:53 A Hunter chases for hunger and flesh, a Miner will search for the diamond in the rough. Men need to change from hunter mindset to Miner mindset to find quality woman.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
I like this. 🙏🏽
AMEN!!!! 👑👑👑👑🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This really works
I got my ex back
When you are confident you can attract whatever you want. And that’s on everything 💖✨👌🏻
Bottom line, be your authentic self, speak what's on your mind, be clear but don't be stuck on a situation that does not serve you. If expressing yourself is taken as a negative- that situation for sure is not for you. If your gonna be with someone you have to find someone who appreciates all of you - period. Happy relationships y'all... Never compromise your peace for anyone - it too much if a price to pay. We live and learn so let's do right by us 😏💞💞💞
Too many ppl play games. It's very unhealthy. I like mutual effort and consistency from a woman.
I feel you, but we have to focus on doing what is truly best!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks yep
The same goes for men. I want effort and consistency from Men to.
I agree with you, but I'm spontaneous expressive but everytime that I try to show my feelings he changed and start act like superior or like he got my attention and broke up with him
@@gissellsanchez875 this really works
I just think that a man likes you for you no matter what you are. One time I was very sad about something and it showed. This guy said to me, you are so sad, you need cheering up. I smiled at him and even told him why I was sad. It had nothing to do with men/women relationships. We started talking and now we are married. We see all dimensions of each other and we still care. Thank you!
I'm so HAPPY this is NOT really about getting a man ADDICTED 2 U because I've had my share of stalkers with police reports attached & its NOT COOL.....Relationships need to simply be HEALTHY🌼
I always operate from a place of love, even when I'm hurt. I had to learn that through prayer and learning patience and forgiveness for myself.
Not gon lie ... I went straight to the comments and first off before watching this whole video , I just like how he replied to just about everyone's comment even if he's just thanking them 👏🏾
Good observation.
And your comment was on point. That's how you do it..
I did too...
This really works
I got my ex back to me within 48hours
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His advice reflects the mindset of a mature person.
I'm always praying about others and the people all around the world every day
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Amen, Sister!!! God bless you!! ❤️
May god bless you for your sincere prayers for others! 🙌🏽💕
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Of course I am here, he supports women so we support him. I am sharing it with my friends so they can support him too. Keep up the good work Mr. Speaks
I appreciate that, thank you for sharing!
Agreed. Stephens channel is nit about bashing women. It’s about human development. I appreciate him as well and here to give my support as well.
I thank God for the grace He has put on your life.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Amen!
A high value man will appreciate your feminine qualities so MUCH! ❤️❤️❤️
💯 Yes!
True. It a lot of women are afraid to be in their divine feminine self . I below eve because they are with the wrong man. When. I see women loves and respected uplifted by their mates those women are soft and feminine. Let go of that tough exterior.
The 4th mistake is so true. Whenever I meet a guy who say "lets go with the flow" or "Im looking for something casual" I don't bother to waste my time. I stand on what I want, a relationship leading to marriage and I always let the man know. I don't do casual and I'm not going to change my mind. I just walk away from that man since we are not on the same page.
The problem is I was one that thought I could change his mind. I was obviously wrong and alot of hurt followed .😔
I missed out on the love of my life by moving on to fast twice ! Doing it different this time.
Period👌🙏
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What Sapp him now,,,,z
Healing is very important. I dont want a man to chase me and I am not about to chase a man. All that chasing is like a cat and mouse game. That is to much time and energy wasting. I agree with you when you talk about lust and love. Lusting just leads to a headache and heartbreak. Love leads to happiness and forever. Thank you Stephan for all your videos and books. God has blessed you with the wisdom and knowledge to help us women and men. Keep up the good work and keep dropping these videos handsome. ❤👏🏾
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
He pulls away and I'm supposed to show him how much I care? It makes us look like a fool!!! Women have ego too you know. We don't like looking foolish either.
Many men play games with women. The reason is: the games almost always seem to work! He will pretend he really cares for you, wine and dine you; then, for no reason, you are aware of, he’ll pretend to be upset! Now, you thought this was a great guy, so you are wondering what happened? You may even ask him what’s wrong? He can’t tell you what is wrong, because that would mess up his game. So, there you are feeling hurt and baffled about what is, or what went wrong with, this great man? When he is ready to “hook-up” (with you) he will come back, apologizing for his previous behavior and pretending to have missed you, so much! Everything in your good conscience, says RUN! AND DON’T LOOK BACK! But, maybe he is telling you the truth...., So, you give him another chance! Now he is really going to put a little time in, so you think you made the right decision! But, low and behold, he disappears again, or starts a fake argument. The reason is that he met someone else, that he wants to try on for size...., he’ll be back, with a “Baby, it’s me, I’m so sorry, I just can’t believe I have found such a beautiful woman like/as you.”😮 He is a “player” and will continue to treat you like the side chick🐣.
Never treat a date, like he is your husband! Don’t allow him to use you and then throw you away! You have to value yourself, if you want him to value you! .....stay safe, enjoy your life.
This really works
I got my ex back to me
WhatsApp me....
WhatsApp me....
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I'm happy this has been helpful to you and thank you for sharing!
Ladies being Single is NOT bad EITHER‼️
I don't know for sure Adam had eve in paradise
I love the way Stephan breaks things down and the realness and honesty he brings 🙌👌💯
WHAT SAPP DR BABA i WAS LIKE THIS BEFORE I KNOW WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT STOP WASTING YOUR TIME HERE,,,,,,,,
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I listen to you because you stress on praying . Pray on decisions . The best advice ever.
Absolutely!
The best example is the thin line between love and hate. The guy chased her like crazy,once he hit it ,he left and then the girl ended up chasing him like crazy( dont judge english is not my first language)
I agree confidence is key. I recently met a great guy he said to me ‘Kimberly, you’re beautiful and I can tell you’re a very special woman’ to which I replied ‘ I couldn’t agree more, I see no lies here sir!’ lol.. when you tap in to who you are and couple that with prayer, supporting him, being his biggest fan and handling your business ( i.e. bringing something to the table)he’s not going anywhere!
You're absolutely right!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Another great video
Preach!
I have did, have done all 4 secrets and more and men will still play games, tests and tricks. No I'm not going to tell a man how I feel when he pulls away, he pulled away for his reasons and it's cool and I'll keep it moving with my life. I don't internalize what other people do. I been told by my exs oh I'm too nice, I'm too good, blah blah blah from them. So being a great, good woman a man will mistreat me. When I show interest in a man he ghost. So I don't have the time and energy to waste on men with mind games and other stuff. Why I love myself and living my best life.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
Thank you for this because I've always given more love in relationships than I ever received. No more I let go and started working on me.Working to be the best woman I can be. I'm just spending time loving myself at this point
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks
Thank you And thank you for all you do to pour into others lives
I can admit that I really had to listen to this video before communicating my thoughts because the VERY 1st thing I thought was, "Addiction is not always demonstrated in a healthy way", but I do fully comprehend the message in its totality.
I think chasing is important. If he doesn't chase he's not that interested in you. You have to create the bond with a man while they are in the chase. U have to peak his interest by getting him to chase in the beginning of the relationship. U have to drive up his interest by letting him chase you a little but don't sleep with him until he has committed to being your boyfriend in a committed relationship if not he will pull away
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
Absolutely 💯
I would stay away from the word “chase” and move towards the word “pursue”. Chasing is more out of obsession and list, pursuing a woman, showing effort is more out of love and genuine interest.
Yes some men will say "its the thrill of the chase" that's not good.
What Sapp him now,,,
Im glad I came across this video. Your so right! Its no fun anymore when you get hurt by someone you thought you could trust. Actions truly speak louder than words.
I pray that you heal all you have been through.
Amazing, yet simple food 4 thought. As a female who's been traumatized by relationships, I get nervous when a man comes on too strong or pushy. When we like someone, wherever the attention goes, it flows! If i like someone I don't want the evening or date to end. Who likes the uneasy feeling of wondering when or how you'll hear from them again. Luv the real, Brother!
Working on becoming the best most confident version of myself 👑💕💁🏽♀️ always on point Stephan!!
You got this! Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
WHAT SAPP DR BABA i WAS LIKE THIS BEFORE I KNOW WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT STOP WASTING YOUR TIME HERE,,,,
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Something as simple as highlights in your hair can add so much softness to you ladies. I have locs and although I love natural hair they made me feel a little hard looking...my best friend suggested color..going from black to brown with highlights made them look so feminine and even took some years off my face:) small things matter.
My ex really loved me and I did too. I had many walls up because of my childhood experiences where my father was abusive to my mother. My mother brought me up basically programming me that marriage ain't any good and men are bad.
So I only allowed myself to be friends with my ex. But after a few years, I couldn't take it and told him yes to being his girlfriend.
I behaved very clingy, needy and overbearing in the relationship as I was afraid he doesn't want me. He shut down. I was caught up in my anxiety rather than being happy with him.
He's now with another woman who he claims treats him better(according to his post) Which I'm sure he put up out of hurt. The chasing really hurt him because I was his first love.
I'm now really sad for what I did and to think I've lost him but I've learnt alot.
I'm in no contact because I obviously can't talk to him when he's with another woman. It's been 26 days since I told him I love him but I respect his decision.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Amen.
I believe I'm on my way to healing. I wouldn't have discovered all the hurt and trauma I have if not for the breakup. I also struggle with low self-esteem.
I'm working through it all.
Thank you.
@@jessica76311 I am sorry about it. Sending u huge hug !
@@evka24 Thank you.
Awww. The thought of a man insecure and communicating that in a relationship? That is Endearing. Vulnerability and Communication. Beauty~full strength. Xoxo
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
My goodness Stephan... I felt like you were talking DIRECTLY to me!! So specific, so detailed, like you were in my conversations this past week. Thank you!! That was the answer and confirmation I needed on soooooo many levels.
"he's not for you!" Amen!!!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
I REALLY needed to hear this. I appreciate you so much Stephan - always keeping it real and telling me what I need to hear!
Glad I could help!
I never had a man love me, it’s why I chosen to stay single rest of my life.
you did not meet a real man. Are rare, but they are there. Don't give up!
Kindly don’t say that, there are a lot of good men out there and I pray that you find the man God has for you!
I hear that Sis, I hear that, but you really don't want to die alone. I have missed so many opportunities, when love presented it's self, I was too blind to see it. Now I'm older and wiser, I've learned to ask all the questions I need to know and if all goes well, I can proceed.
If you keep listening to this guy Stephan he will get you on right track...I realized that God answered my prayer 5 years ago but I didn't see my blessing until recently...boy do I feel upset at myself for almost missing it! As always so thankful for Stephans advice.
Me too. 😊
Great way to hook some women to watch the video. All you had to say to get me was "How to have a healthy lifestyle that includes a Man". I'm all about Health.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
I know when something is genuine, and this advice is genuinely good advice. I have found myself listening to various relationship coach and so far this is the best that I have heard. I like the work that you are doing in empowering women to make healthier choices when it comes to relationships.
God bless and continue the good work.
This is so true. I didn’t allow him to chase me but he presented it to everyone like he had ‘won’ me. Unfortunately I ended up marrying him thinking he was a great guy. It turns out he’s a player who chases women for an ego boost.
I have never chased and do not care to be chased. If you care about me or I, you, one should get to know each other on a level that will open the door to a friendship that cultivates something more mutually suited for both, or you may find out that what you desire is not possible with this person, but it was an honest friendship that's better for both parties
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 love the positive spin on this!!! Self-Love, Confidence & being TRUE to who we are, then watching the stars align 😍🤩🥰 everything else will fall in place!✨
WHAT SAPP DR BABA i WAS LIKE THIS BEFORE I KNOW WHO CAN HELP YOU OUT STOP WASTING YOUR TIME HERE,,,,,,
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Love all the great words . maybe one day my two daughters will meet a beautiful soul 💕
I originally started watching your videos to get a better understanding of men. There is a guy and I wanted to deal with him differently than I do the others. In the midst of that, I’ve received validation and confirmation on some things I’m already doing and has learned so much more! Thank you for these videos that I didn’t know I needed. #Blessings
I had been rejected from my own biological mother from the womb and was married to a military man for 20 y he died two years ago was abused and every level of my life now I am an a distance relationship we’re the guy also is distance from myself! Good presentation today zi want the guy but don’t need Him? Oh I ‘ve been praying and fasting rejection is real and painful Please pray thank you
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you so very much for your thoughtfulness And good advice
#2 is definitely up to the guy u want. Because any guy who ever loved me, loved me bc I knew how to speak up. And I wasn’t a yes woman. I will tell u when you’re wrong. They liked my tough side more than my femininity.
Why do all that? He's not into you then don't waist your time. God created someone that will love you like Christ love the church just be patient sis.❤🙏
You're absolutely right!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you.
Ooh, praise God!!! Say that again!
@Sunny Blazin however long God takes at sending you the one that will never have you guessing is this the one or not? God isn't the author of confusion but if you chose to go ahead and follow the flesh it will come to nought. You are going to be alright, you will still have your peace and drama free. GOD is right on time, every time so be patient and continue to wait it out....
@Sunny Blazin don't run out of patience, speak out and tell God about it. Continue telling Him that you want a partner because He blessed you in Gen 1 and says you should be Fruitful and Multiply. God hears and helps. You also need to believe that God hears you, keep believing, and you will be glad at the end.
When you mention “dead horse” it breaks my heart just to picture about it.
So true! Because we like them doesn’t mean we gonna get them
Yes, true love can sustain a healthy relationship, and being able to take constructive criticism goes along way❤
You're absolutely right!
I adore your videos...especially the ones where your personality and ability to be funny come through. There is nothing better than a man that can talk about something serious and relevant while also being funny...the message is received 1000x better! Thank you I am so grateful for you and your energy.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Speak STEPHAN!!! I’ve been saying this since day one!!! People don’t listen to me though because I’m a nobody and unworthy. I’m glad you speak truth on BOTH ends! I’m becoming a better me because of you. I didn’t have a father to teach me... I’m just trying to figure it out on my own and people don’t like that...I come off as weak I guess 🤔
I am sorry to hear about that and thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
You give great advice. I speak on everything but to much relationship topics because I wanted to be absolutely correct before I ever did so. I am glad I came across you. You have made me stronger these last few years and I hope to one day attend one of your seminars once things get back to normal 💛
Thanks for sharing, I appreciate hearing your feedback!
No way 🙅🏾I want a man addicted to me but definitely addicted to God 🫶🏽Real Talk 💯
I agree it’s about both partners to bring balance and respect each other and have communication
You're absolutely right!
Being single is hard . . .BUT to never compromise to gain the love & respect you deserve : it's worth it ! I just want someone relatable. Someone who understands life. Has gone through rough times & gives GOD the glory for saving them & not ashamed to give a testimony. Has values & appreciate the values I have & him being tall dark & handsome wouldn't hurt either 🤓
Same
This is exactly what I’ve felt to be true all along! Thank you! This is what I needed to hear and I’m glad if it’s meant to be you won’t have to be anything but you!
You are the only coach who tells us to be honest and express our feelings in all areas. No games. I love what you have to say. It's us supporting ourselves, and no matter what happens, we'll be okay. If he's the right man, you'll be proving insight to him. I think he'll be happy to know you think he's important enough for you to put your feelings out there. That's my 2¢. Thank you for your solid advice. By the way, your advice and insight is effective for people of all ages, in all relationship levels. Most only apply to younger people.
I'm 21 but i always come across videos like this in such an early age.i'm luck i must say.u tok much sense...be blessed for helping women to go the right way in relationships.BRAVO☺️
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
It’s even easier. Greet him at the door. Thank him for going to war all day at work for you. Then, 5-10 minutes a day, do something for him that he loves, even if you don’t get anything out of it.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that and that would be awesome!
🙌🏾Yes...🙌🏾Of Course To The Right Deserving Man...Every Man Doesn't Deserve To Get The Red Carpet Pulled Out For Him.
YOU COMMUNICATE VERY WELL---YOUR VIDEOS ARE WORTH WATCHING ESPECIALLY BECAUSE YOU GIVE US REAL EXAMPLES!
I side eyed the title..👀..like Stephan is this really you?..😂..So im happy that you made the point to elaborate on praying if its a man "she wants" because the message kind of confused me at first. A man desiring a women more if the both of them are interested in each other cleared it up for me. Thanks! 😂🙏🏼
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!
Same😂
I just love you & your wisdom & knowledge!!!! You r a true man of God who the lord is using to help so many broken women. Thank you!!! Mr. Stephan not only do I hear you but I listen as well.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
I had to read the title of this video a few times because it didn’t sound like a typical Stephan message. But once I listened, as always, absolute words of wisdom! Thank you! Your talks help give me the confidence to keep stepping and not to compromise. 🙌
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙌
The interest part is true. Growing up relationships were discouraged for me, so everytime I see a guy come too close I shut down and become defensive.
I realized that I made this a habit. Now, each time a guy I may like comes I have to retrain myself.
These videos are so lovely! I was just scrolling through TH-cam when I got a suggestion from TH-cam of this page! I listened to one- and I just couldn't get enough of his inspirational voice! Straight away, I subscribed !!!.
As the saying goes, some people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
i told him how i felt, not in a loving manner and never allowed him back in my life. it wasnt the first time he did it.
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, but he pulls away when he's too stressed about his own life. I can give him the space he needs and wants, but unfortunately, he's actually not doing anything to make his own personal life better. We've talked about this, but he says he just wants to do his own thing-- in reality, he work from 6:45 AM - 12:45 PM, goes home to watch anime, TH-cam videos, play mobile games, and even the violin. When we're together he keeps saying that he's tired. He said to me that he does see a future with me, but when he just does these things, he stops communicating with me in general. He's very cold and absent, physically and emotionally. Idk what to do.. 5 years of our lives have passed and he's not making any real moves about building a life together, yet he says these things.
I feel like you already have the answers you need in your statement. It's like you want someone to talk you out of it, even though you know what you need to do.
You cannot change a man. If he shows you who he is...believe him, because at this point his words should align with his actions towards the relationship. And if they don't, there's a problem there. You choose your happiness.
Time to walk away
Trust me. 10 years in. Leave. If his actions are not lining up with his words, he's not going to change anything.
update of 1 year.. so it's been 6 years now, and it's still a rollercoaster. I thought it'd get better but it didnt
@@theinsidewoman4805 thank you so much... we actually finally broke it off.. he dumped me last week.. 6.4 years gone
This is Good, Thank you !! I'm single and its been a long time and this is helping me to get back into the dating process again I know what I want in a man and this is helping. yes I do pray
Glad I could help!
Thanks!
Love the compilation!! Keeping us in school while your out of town...
Most definitely! Glad you love it.
Thank you for this.
I wasn't even aware of the whole chasing thing - that it can turn toxic and it doesn't help build up a relationship but only lust.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Ok so after watching 3 of your videos this one included I was conflicted as to whether or not I should call him after not hearing for him 7 days. He knows the pain I feel after not hearing from him for just 2 days. I finally got the courage to call him. I thought he wouldn't pick up the video call because he never does but just when I was ready to hang up he answered. The first thing he said was "I knew you would call me today" 😒 we're so spiritually connected he said "intuition" I was annoyed and he was happy I called. I told him he was on punishment he said he didn't mind working his way back up. I have to come up with a consequence to let him know he can't treat me like that. Take on the Weight of the world alone only wanting me to share in his high times and not his low times. #notcool
I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation, but we have to focus on doing what is truly best!
He playing games! Leave him alone and open the door for something better.
@@ebonymm6719 RIGHT. 7 days of silence and he knows you'll feel some way after 2? "I knew you were gonna call me today" = game he had ready and prolly would've pulled even if it were 2 months later smh
If talking to him is not enough he needs to be out of your life! I have been binging every Stephan video TH-cam algorithm gives me and I really appreciate the no bullshit-advice. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. Plain and simple. The right person will love it and the wrong one will fade away!
I have this guy whose holding on to me "addicted". We've talked about everything, one conversation concluded with him knowing it's NOT happening with us for "whatever" reasons. I don't know why this man won't let me go and I've met him with resistance for a long time now. He finally told me that I'm very "special" to him..and you know what..he's obviously created a new definition of "special". 😅😅😅
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Smh. I got a man who I felt was WAY out of my league...6 years later, just like you said, dead end relationship. He was who I wanted, not who I needed.
No one should be addicted to anyone...
That's codependent...
LOL
Great video, it opened my eyes to how I will set myself up then become frustrated.
I thank God I discovered this channel. Thanks Stephen.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!
I’ve been single for over 10 years and my only bf was because I said we were together and he went with it. Not sure if he would have ever asked me to be his gf . Now fast forward 10 years later I’m almost thirty and I can’t get a guy to remain interested in me for more than a few weeks or a couple of months if I’m lucky. And during that time, most barely want to even go out with me or just chill. Instead it’s just texting. All different backgrounds of men and I try both going with the flow and/or making it known I want a relationship and 9.9/10 they say they aren’t ready or don’t want a relationship then the minute I stop dealing with them, they’re in a relationship. I swear I’m not being dramatic, it literally happens almost every time and it’s been the most frustrating and depressing decade of my life 🥺
Have to admit the Title was concerning to me and I almost didn’t watch but I’m glad I did. Awesome Godly guidance Steph ‼️. Thank you 🙏🏽
My pleasure ❤
@@MeetStephanSpeaks the fact that I can only imagine how extremely busy you are but you still manage to make time to read and reply to the comments is so awesome. You Are Golden 🙏🏽