Absolutely girl! Im all about focusing on someone’s potential rather than staying focused on the reality they’re showing me. It’s not always a good thing
This is so f up, we waste years of life trying to be good enough for a man who will never see value in us. Sometimes your just not enough for a man who isn’t ready or for you.
@@KulaVoncille I get called the same because I pull the plug when I see a guy isn't making the same effort for me and I am for him. And I think that's fair. I'm looking for a husband not a f boy so no point wasting my time on someone who is playing the game of "ill wait for you to do it first and when I see you do it ill start giving a sh*t"... no booboo you can pack your games along with your insecurities and bounce tf outta here. Boy bye
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
Yes, I did too. I still miss him to this day... but I couldn't handle the daily anxiety. I believe people can provoke insecurity and jealousy (which can also be translated into lack of respect). The last thing he did was take a gal out all the time (secretly) who he called his "little sister". He wasn't willing to put distance between him and her as he didn't want to do that to a "friend". I left the relationship and told him what my boundaries were. He acquiesced after awhile and after another week he rescinded and said he couldn't do it. He said he treated everyone equally and refused to get rid of "friends".
Hi Yes Ms, Ella, I agree,whole hardly, MEN!!!!!!! Instinctually know!!!!!! Girls stop wasting your Precious time. Until he makes you his priority, you do not make him a PRIORITY!!!!!!!!! Right-On, Right-On.📌📌📌📌📌
How come Stephan hasn’t liked this video but liked others? I noticed that when someone says opposite of what he says he doesn’t like/love the comment… just saying🤷🏾♀️
commitment boils down to the right match. what the man needs: 1) he needs to have peace, 2) he needs unique value, 3) he needs to have connection, 4) he needs physical attraction 5) he needs loyalty 6) he needs support . moreover 1) women need to have their own internal deadline, 2) women should give a taste but not the whole meal, 3) the effort needs to be equal
I laugh, because when it comes to men in general, there are so many requirements, so much to do, is exhausting just to listen. I'm sorry, just had to say it. I believe when the right man comes into my life, I won't have to thing and take nots of everything I have to do or say. I believe that everything will come so natural that it will blow my mind away. I hope that what I believe it's true and not an ideology or fairytale. What do you say about what I said? Am I on the right track or am I way off?
You are way off. You have to put in work for something you want and like and love and want to keep. Just being yourself is more than enough men love that. However to sustain the relationship you have to put in the work my dear. Don't be deluded.
Every woman I have seen fall happily in love and journey forward in long, healthy, committed relationships always say that the relationship "just flowed". There were no big dramas, misunderstandings or break ups. They had their bumps in the road but solved them without outside influence. They could communicate within their connection and support each other. We can love people but sometimes he/she isn't "the one" and that's okay. Walk away and understand you won't get what you need from that person with gratitude for their time and lessons learned. Man's rejection is God's protection.
It is a balance of both. There will be times where natural is important but you two aren’t perfect so there are times where it’s not going to be natural, you two aren’t mind readers so there’s going to be conflict, even big problems, but it’s the dealing with it, having an open and understanding mind, a willing heart, and good communication, that make all the difference.
I like that point of ‘you’re not going to be for everybody’. Regardless of how amazing you are it’s not going work if it’s not the right fit. I see it like a man & a woman being like a lock & key, there’s only going to be that one key that fits for that specific lock, so any hesitation to commit is like that acknowledgment that it just doesn’t connect or feel right. And when it is the the right fit, it will unlock so many more blessings that God has planned.
Anneka Jordan, You stated that so wonderfully, with a Great Analogy. It restates exactly what He is trying to get us to Comprehend... Thanks to Both of You....ACT
I'm at the point in my life with men where I'm not about to try to prove to a man that I'm a good woman to make a man want to love me and be in a long term relationship with me. When it comes to love and commitment it's all about whether the two compliment each other or not. It has to come natural and not forced. A man knows what he wants whether you're a good woman or not. Commitment is a choice. And when a man chooses it then there won't be any questions as to what he wants from a woman. It'll be known. I'm done with the games, the trying to figure out the signs and questioning my importance. Bottom line is if he wants to be with you and commit to you then you won't have to look for signs and ask questions about it. Period. I'm not about to keep playing myself for a guy who likes to play.
I couldn't agree with you More sis!! I just started dating out of a 21 year relationship. And I'm noticing these lil games being played out here. I'm Straight on this BS
This is my exact mindset!!! If you cant give me the love i deserve, time, energy, and commitment that I need then you not for me. Why should i waste my time trying to “wait” on you to figure out if you want to have a sustainable future with me? My time is too valuable and i have absolute no reason to settle☺️
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They have to be emotionally available , emotionally healed & commitment minded for this to be accurate. If they aren’t ready for commitment... or emotionally mature...it don’t matter how good you are , “or are the 1” etc... it won’t matter. if they are commitment minded and ready this is trueeeee!
Your comment about “insecurities” was SPOT ON. Some of us do not tap into/understand our own nervous system which is a clear SIGN that this person is not the one. You will feel secure with the right person bottom line.
What if sometimes you feel good foundation and when you are not together you feel doubt. What if you have a genuine person but their lack of experience shows how they deal wrong and make you doubt.
This why I don't pursue no man at all you never know how many options he already has even if he is single ain't no telling how many women he is entertaining along with you if he doesn't see any value in commiting to you he is going to play you until the woman he really wants comes along
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯
Like Stephan said, it takes a good 10 minutes to KNOW that TRUE VIBE and CHEMISTRY is there. It hits you like a HURRICANE. He was 100% on this point. It’s indescribable. No words. It’s not something that you HOPE can eventually HAPPEN. Connection is REAL.
I dont agree, its not always a hurricane lol, sometimes there's a definite connection but it takes time to grow. Not every happy relationship starts the same way.
We’ve been together over a year. My deadline was a year and then evaluate. While he is exclusive with me and committed in that sense, he still excludes me from parts of his life which makes it feel like we still have a casual dating relationship. It doesn’t feel like we are building or creating a life together. It just feels like we are casual dating but in love. It’s not enough for me.
I stayed with someone for six years and was in the exact situation. Never met his children or parents or friends. All I can say is that we dated, traveled, and would say that we loved each other. This was not enough and he was not the one. Get out now and do not question it. He is not the one. On the flip side… I met my husband and knew instantly. He asked me to marry him 3 months later and within 8 months we got married.
These platforms at first listen are hilarious because it seems to just be entertainment. But then realizing how some men and women relate to one another, brings such a sadness to my heart. I’m wishing the best for all of you that are prepared to be found by someone who is worthy of your very precious time here on earth.
That was beautiful, but I have to say. I have never had peace, like the peace I have since the day I decided to not date and not pursue any relationships. Sometimes we focus on it too much! My friend suggested I watch this video.
I think men want to feel comfortable around her, and be his self. Not harshly judged, and where as the woman is being herself as well. Communication comes easy, sharing your wants and needs without any judgement becomes easy. If it's a easy relationship, and its free glowing, most men won't want to leave. Having the same life goals, values, and morals. Also helps for it to flow into the direction of marriage.
Amen I like this..when it's real you'll know because you can just feel it when you can put a smile on each other's face naturally and you both like the time you are spending together that's a good flag!!❤😊
@@tashaequeen8935 And..., its easy. It just is so easy. The relationship and the respect just flows, and grows. You will definitely know it when God gives you the right one!
@@mustbeheard9834 AMEN! I agree, that's a good feeling..and God won't ever let you down when blesses yoywith that kind of relationship it's going to sustain. 💖
I felt unsecure about 3 months into my relationship which consequently ended up in a breakup. After breaking up I feel as confident as Beyonce. You are spot on that I knew something was off from early on.
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Honestly I believe some men (especially if they haven’t healed their issues) will become attracted and committed to the woman that will play off of their unhealed issues. Like a trauma bond. Some people don’t like peace, some like chaos. So I think love is way more nuanced and complicated. Just because people are in relationships doesn’t mean that they are healthy. Just because a man commits to you doesn’t mean he’s healthy. Some men (and women) commit to each other Bc they are both emotionally unavailable. Human psychology and the reasons why people become bonded to each other are so vast. There’s nothing a woman or a man can do besides be their authentic selves (whatever that is) and be open to the possibility of connection.
@@TJay1S2G3J thank you for sharing your story. To me it sounds like he isn’t the issue, it’s maybe you not holding firm to your boundary of having people in your life that treat you well? Trust me I was the same way. After seeing the same pattern repeat over and over I decided to take a look at myself- as I was the common denominator in all of the situations. I had to look at WHY was I a person that let men treat me this way. I started by learning about real self love. Then I read books/watched videos on why I chose emotionally unavailable men (had to do with my childhood). I feel like now I know my worth and that it’s up to ME to not allow people to play around in my life if they not serious. It has nothing to do with them. I know now that I deserve the best, and I love myself enough to be alone until the best comes. This was my journey. I realized it’s not up to the man to treat me right, it’s up to me to not entertain a man that doesn’t treat me the way I deserve. I believe that’s what Stefan is trying to say in ALL of his videos. To know your worth and act accordingly. It’s a beautiful journey to get there. I encourage you to look into it, it changed my life. Best of luck with everything ❤️
A man told me once he had a list in his mind that was about 2 pages long that he was looking for in a wife. I only made page one. It was harsh but I appreciated that honesty. You are not for everybody.
@@NoCreativeNameGirl yes he did. Right after me. Met her online before that was even cool. She moved to ohio for him. They were married shortly after. He wasn’t kidding around
@@NoCreativeNameGirl 🤣🤣😂😂😂 I think it just shows you have strong ideals for your match and to not compromise. I mean a have a list - it’s not two pages long. Check boundaries and wants and hopefully you find him! I’ve cut back on my list over the years cause getting older but will not compromise on several things.
I didn't watch all of this video, but it came into my news feed. The best positive advice women need to receive is just love yourself and focus on JOY! Don't continue to feed into what you don't have, but please focus on the positive things and good things you do have in your life. What you focus on expands, so focus on what you do want. Focus on being all that God wants you to be, and your hearts desires will come! Faith is all you need.
The story hit the nail on the head. That feeling has come over me a few times and sure enough the man wasn’t all in. It wasn’t insecurity it was the spidey sense tingling. The physical part is so hard. Real women have real bodies that have given birth multiple times. Perfection is not attainable on either side. Men walk around potbellied but want halle berry to lay next to him every night. Yes it should be what’s in the inside and we go the the gym together. Great message. 💜
Excellent video. Yes, agree that when a man finds "the one" his motivation to commit increases and he will invest more into the relationship. Relationships are a lot like an investment. Something that has value and worth makes you want to make more deposits. Deposits are your time, love, support, and overall what you are willing to do to keep the flames in the relationship lit. When you meet the right match you know as it is something you feel and a lot of that ties into the strong genuine connection. Agree, that a woman who is loyal is actually a feeling of security for a man as he knows that she will stand with him in any storm and has his back regardless. Most important is that mutual effort of love and reciprocity as that is what will keep the love and desire strong. Loving relationships keep the flames going. Thank you for the video. Keep up the great work. Sending blessings and peace to you.
Totally agree with your statement, there has to be mutual reciprocity, because if only one person is doing most of the work and effort, and the other is not then, why waste your precious time??! Time to move on. 💯💯
Stephan, you are the entire walking series of encyclopedia Britannica for relationships. Ty for all of time, energy, and knowledge that you provide for all of us.💓
Spot on Mr. Stephen!! when you mention when a man wants his women to be there for him is going through, Men and women should COMMUNICATION of what's going on and let that other know instead making the other wonder. Communicating is key! Another thing too is when you mentioned about men and women should pour into each other , not the physical/intimate part but emotionally, mentally, spiritually through it all. Especially wanting to work it out, and willing to fight with one another. It shouldn't ever be one sided !! My mom told me we should learn to compromise.
You have hit all points of a relationship support, communicating, encouraging, loving what he loves( love his hobby’s) Attractiveness it’s a must. Have his back when he is s down or a bad day at work. Be there fir him and he will do the same for you!!!
You have some men get all of this and still not appreciative . It’s best to pray and ask God to help you find your wife or husband. Don’t force yourself to be with someone that doesn’t appreciate you or want to stay committed to you. Build a relationship with God and let him seek the right person for you .
I am sooo glad I listened to this. I now have the conviction that I am not in the right relationship for me. Him and I are not compatible and he doesn't provide me the security and peace I need because he lied from day 1 and as a result, it's been hard for me to feel secure. Thank you Stephan!
So one of the things that i find men want is to feel they are in a safe space to actually reveal their vulnerabilities and be vulnerable, feeling emotionally safe. This ease is something they also find attractive and goes beyond having a good communication connection. The thing about setting boundaries whether it be time together, length of courtship and things you will and won’t do is important because i find men like the reliability of self discipline and being a woman of your word, meaning what you say and being a strong nurturer. All the things mentioned in the video are spot on and knowing that someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and keeping it moving. When the Divine is central you can enjoy the experience and know that who is for you is not being delayed because you are fixated on who’s not for you. See every experience as another opportunity for preparation.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks may the Creator continue to Guide Bless and Keep you. May you be Anointed with Abundance of Divine Wisdom and may your Works be driven by the overflow of Love and may you reap the Riches worthy of an Anointed One.
5:22, her "insecurities" are a direct reflection of his spirit not committing to the relationship!! Thank you for saying it! Most men don't understand THIS!
19:08 I'm just learning this at the age of 25 & I'm so grateful to be growing in insight and wisdom. Helps cut out a lot of the BS and be discerning with my boundaries
After a emotional roller coaster 🎢 of a 6 and a half year I needed to watch this!!! There is so much truth into this whether we want to hear it. We as Women feel so personally attacked when not having a man commit to us...but we fail to understand 99.9% of the time there is a reason. My spirit knew years ago, this was not the relationship for me for many reasons. No matter what.....there was no connection, no communication, no making each other better, no friendship....it was just comfortable. Sooooo much truth to this!! Thanks for this Stephen eye opener! This does also go both ways!
Dear Stephan - couple of years ago, I unfortunately had to go through the same as woman A in your story. Now I am finally healing, and learning so much from your videos. Your insights are phenomenal.
That instant connection is usually a twin flame or soulmate connection. It happened between my now husband and I, and I didn't understand it at first. As a matter of fact, I thought I was the only one who felt it. Months into the relationship he confessed his love for me and proposed. It was so weird. We are mirrored versions of each other. When I researched it was when I learned that he is my twin flame. Certain relationships are divinely guided. You have to be patient, work on yourself, and be assertive with your values.
Men want commitment but it might not be with you. Never force him to marry you because he will put you through hell. The example you gave is exactly what happened to me. He married women B within a very short period of time. But it was because I had too much to offer and he felt insecure.
This is so accurate! It’s not about “trying to be” this woman so that they will commit. It’s just telling women what men want in a woman that makes them commit from a male perspective. I love this!!!
I often here people say “it comes out of nowhere I wasn’t looking” yes it did why because you loved yourself first and you committed to loving you and putting yourself and of course when you do that you tend to be conscious of your decisions .
A real woman will heal herself from the last man before she entertains the next one. Ladies stop blaming your past an start learning from it and preparing yourselves to be able to receive a real genuine commitment.
Thank you Stephan! This video gave me a lot of input to my current relationship dilemma and actually has been easing my heartache. I feel that I am on my way to accept that we are not for each other and let go of the emotional pain it is causing me.
Dang Stephan, you got some people MAD mad on this one 🤣. I love it though. And despite being in a horrible relationship for years 🥴, I think your descriptions are accurate. HE'S NOT TELLING US TO DO THESE THINGS, HE'S JUST TELLING US WHAT MEN LOOK FOR.
The crazy thing is most men commit to woman who are playing games with them. The females who a running around exploring their options and not giving them much times are the ones the men seem to hold onto , not the woman that actually love and care about them.
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯
About connection, it's everything you said, there could be no more explanation to it, you two just clicked, like you have know each other before. Uniqueness and physical attraction also plays a major role too.
Great video! Yes, most married men I asked what made them commit to a specific woman, they said "she was different" than any woman I've met. It's like the "it" factor 😄
This man said that I am but it Factor unique Factor never had a factor but whatever we have an issue never listed down and talk about it Factor let me run to my family and friends in my mind as a woman they should be a man and woman Factor to discuss any and everything that we betray to each other
I think, if a woman can't positively influence a man, than there is no relationship, nor a future. The first lady being insecure, didn't have a backbone to encourage him to positively grow. I feel men need a challenge. With that said, I think people may confuse chemistry and connection. Chemistry makes people fly to Vegas. Connection Makes People Want to Move Mountains.
@@zero1188 How do you not feel that getting through an obstacle is not a boost to his confidence. Does not earning the rewards of life not a thrill in itself. How could a man not want to do what he was inherently put on earth to do?., correct me if I'm wrong, yet I feel if a man was not meeting challenges throughout his life, he would become stagnant. Men are build to Do.
the connection between the two has to be mutual. just because one person is feeling a connection doesn't mean that it's the same for the other. ..and that's the beauty of being in tune with oneself, choices are precious and appreciated and made for our best self.
I’m not going out my way to change me to fit a man requirement for him to commit to me..When you meet someone everything should be organic..he naturally adores you..for you..flaw and all..he loves everything..
This is so true. When I met my now partner. We connected from the very first conversation. It was sooooo strange. We literally could just be ourselves and it felt like he was always here the whole time. And matter what we did. We couldn’t stop thinking about each other. It just hit us both hard and we both have never experience that feeling ever.
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
To learn from your good advice is a pleasure, how much talent and wisdon! You have and aura with such good energy, im glad i found you, listening to u means a lot to me! Good bless you
Thanks for this video. I’m 1 month in a relationship that I hope is “it.” The attraction is there and i feel we’re connected to each other. We have a long way to go, but this video will be viewed several times to make sure i fully “get it.” He’s a beautiful man and i sincerely want this relationship to work.
Very good information! First, ladies don’t be insecure! Trust your man and give him reasons to focus on you only. By that love him the way he want to be love that includes inside and outside. Outside includes respect him in every way. Make sure you are equally yolk. Communication is a big key in all relationships! Keep that communication line open for all questions and answers. Be submissive!!!
Much respect for what you do bro. I have seen each and every one of your videos, many of them multiple times as I use them constantly to help me cope with what I am dealing with currently with my recent Ex Girlfriend. Your playlists "Understanding Women" and "Dating advice for men" are invaluable to men such as myself who wish to understand women a little better and understand relationships altogether. You have a way of explaining things that just gets the point across and hits the nail in the head as they say. Just wished my ex would speak English so I can direct her to watch some of your videos lol. Anyhow thanks for the uploads. Keep those videos coming. Blessings.
My deadline, unfortunately, was 25 years... I finally kicked him to the curb. He failed to alleviate the burdens I had while he enjoyed all the benefits of my support both financial, physical, and emotional. He drained my energy and I finally had the courage to end it (we have 3 adult children and 1 teen, but they are 100% supportive of my decision).
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Excellent video. The original story you told us was interesting. The first woman wasn't the one and he wasn't ready. Something stood out about the second woman and it made him commit.
I believe in the deadline as well. There must be a point where one decided that they have given enough in proportion to where you are, therefore, the seriousness of the relationship must be evident enough to decide whether or not to move forward
I really enjoy your videos. I learned a lot from you. I will have to say that what you said is true. On the other hand I got to also say that men can’t bring drama into the relationship and expect peace. That’s what a lot of women are dealing with.
One of the things I love most about your videos is that it is from a man's prospective but this is moral and life advice for everybody. (Noted and Expressed) Observation, and the application of learned lessons and experiences, are the BIGGEST lowkey flexes and such important parts of living, dating, and marriage most people forget about. Self love is for everybody. Confidence and gaining confidence within self is for everybody. People think men and women are so different but for ME... our principals on how we treat ppl and talk to ppl should be the same. Truth/Trust. Honest. Respect. Open Communication. Vulnerability. Reciprocity. The ability to listen. The ability to change. The choice to grow. The choice to learn. Etc. All of these things men and women can both do, should do.
I believe, at some point we all reach this point of enlightenment. Whether we will choose to learn and grow from these life experiences, or whether or not we will choose to continue to cycle through these same experiences. For me that is the gift and glory of God, Intelligent design and the blessing of free will. We all have the right of free will to choose what we want to do. I believe that for some of us, our duties to our communities, the Earth, and our fellow beings are greater than others and therefore our insistence and conviction to do the right thing is greater; but we all have a role to play and lessons to learn. Even at our worse, the blessing remains that we are still drawing breath, which means God ain't done with us yet. Lol. With so much noise on TH-cam, it is really nice to see that there are men of color teaching people the beauty it is to be awake and aware... without the psychosis of the ego. Thank you so much for answering your call and sharing your gift ❤️
Can I ask you a question.... What made you want to be a relationship coach? What made you decide to start a channel to share your gift? (That's two questions 😭 I know but I'm interested in knowing the answers if you want to share 🥰)
Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy life to make these videos to help women and men get the best out of relationships. They have been a great help to me on a personal and spiritual level 😊
The sad part of all this that woman waste their time because a man makes the woman believe that they are the woman they want and at the end but yet all they are doing is stringing us along. All because we want it more.
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So many truths here! Attraction to sleep with u, is not the same attraction to commit and marry you-- should be a major game changer for many. Make them wait, ladies. Guys who just want to hit it, wont wait... Thx Stepgan for all ur truth and wisdom!! God bless!
Good video Stephan. The peace , connection & chemistry advice was on point. I just believe people connect for various reasons. Pray 🙏🏾 about everything even as simple as , “I met somebody new” !!! God knows !!!
I want to speak on that connection thing real quick. I was married for 10 years. We got along but there wasn’t a connection. I met my current fiancé and we had known her a few years online and talked for about a month online before we went on a date. The date went amazing and while we were walking to the car I decided to hold her hand. At the moment our hands held I had a feeling of fireworks throughout my whole body. I knew she was the one I had always looked for.
I look forward to making sure im the best i can be for a solid relationship. My friends tell me i attract broken or unhealed men cause im a healer. Im not Florence Nightingale. Im.not doing all that because i known the time and power it took too heal myself. So this video was very informative to changing my mindset. Not thinking men aint shit.....not thinking i will not find a good dude. But......thinking I am deserving of a man who will pour into my cup as I pour into him.
Some men have everything beautiful wife with all the qualities they want kids a home and a good job but still no commitment. I want to blame it on disconnect because if he claims to be happy and have everything why desire other women or entertaining others Appreciate the knowledge ❤️🙏🏽
Agreed. My man says he loves me, only wants to be with me, had a baby with me, has me around his family and everything but wouldn't commit. Instead cheating on me behind my back. WTF.
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Doing things alone having no room for personal wants. But still this helps. I listen attentively and impliment this phenomenal advice
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I never got the b👀k.
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A lot of times we do sense something is off. 💯 sometimes we’re so busy seeing the potential in people instead of seeing who they really are.
Happens all of the time!
Absolutely girl! Im all about focusing on someone’s potential rather than staying focused on the reality they’re showing me. It’s not always a good thing
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That’s deep!!!!
This is so f up, we waste years of life trying to be good enough for a man who will never see value in us. Sometimes your just not enough for a man who isn’t ready or for you.
I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
I get called a runner cause I wont stay in a situation thats not right for me.....ok. Ill be Flo Jo...and run into my happiness
we live n learn
@@KulaVoncille I get called the same because I pull the plug when I see a guy isn't making the same effort for me and I am for him. And I think that's fair. I'm looking for a husband not a f boy so no point wasting my time on someone who is playing the game of "ill wait for you to do it first and when I see you do it ill start giving a sh*t"... no booboo you can pack your games along with your insecurities and bounce tf outta here. Boy bye
This sounds contradicting….just bc he not ready doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough ..you aren’t the problem …he is .
I walked away from a man who made me feel insecure … commitment is not my focus. RESPECT is 💯
IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!🤪
Absolutely
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
w - asap him if you need help☝️☝️
Yes, I did too. I still miss him to this day... but I couldn't handle the daily anxiety. I believe people can provoke insecurity and jealousy (which can also be translated into lack of respect). The last thing he did was take a gal out all the time (secretly) who he called his "little sister". He wasn't willing to put distance between him and her as he didn't want to do that to a "friend". I left the relationship and told him what my boundaries were. He acquiesced after awhile and after another week he rescinded and said he couldn't do it. He said he treated everyone equally and refused to get rid of "friends".
I always say men know and feel who the “one” is. That’s why as a woman if a men don’t want you get out of there. He aint your man!
Yes!
Hi Yes Ms, Ella, I agree,whole hardly, MEN!!!!!!! Instinctually know!!!!!! Girls stop wasting your Precious time. Until he makes you his priority, you do not make him a PRIORITY!!!!!!!!! Right-On, Right-On.📌📌📌📌📌
How come Stephan hasn’t liked this video but liked others? I noticed that when someone says opposite of what he says he doesn’t like/love the comment… just saying🤷🏾♀️
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commitment boils down to the right match. what the man needs: 1) he needs to have peace, 2) he needs unique value, 3) he needs to have connection, 4) he needs physical attraction 5) he needs loyalty 6) he needs support . moreover 1) women need to have their own internal deadline, 2) women should give a taste but not the whole meal, 3) the effort needs to be equal
I laugh, because when it comes to men in general, there are so many requirements, so much to do, is exhausting just to listen. I'm sorry, just had to say it. I believe when the right man comes into my life, I won't have to thing and take nots of everything I have to do or say. I believe that everything will come so natural that it will blow my mind away. I hope that what I believe it's true and not an ideology or fairytale. What do you say about what I said? Am I on the right track or am I way off?
You are way off. You have to put in work for something you want and like and love and want to keep. Just being yourself is more than enough men love that. However to sustain the relationship you have to put in the work my dear. Don't be deluded.
You are on the right track.
Both. I think it should be enjoyable and you should be natural with eachother. But yes, you do have to put in some work as no-one is perfect.
Every woman I have seen fall happily in love and journey forward in long, healthy, committed relationships always say that the relationship "just flowed". There were no big dramas, misunderstandings or break ups. They had their bumps in the road but solved them without outside influence. They could communicate within their connection and support each other. We can love people but sometimes he/she isn't "the one" and that's okay. Walk away and understand you won't get what you need from that person with gratitude for their time and lessons learned. Man's rejection is God's protection.
It is a balance of both. There will be times where natural is important but you two aren’t perfect so there are times where it’s not going to be natural, you two aren’t mind readers so there’s going to be conflict, even big problems, but it’s the dealing with it, having an open and understanding mind, a willing heart, and good communication, that make all the difference.
The insecurity issue is right- you can feeel when someone is not ALL in.
You're absolutely right!
You should move on… he’s not your person.
So true!
"Being loyal to him, does not mean accepting him being mediocre." Those words would have been great for me to have heard in my last relationship.
Self love is so important! Once you love yourself. Everything falls into place!
True dear
Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯
I never fully understood this until I went on a healing journey. ❤
Ladies don't let your idea of what the man could be overshadow who he really is. Accept what is and make a choice to stay or go.
exactly!
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I like that point of ‘you’re not going to be for everybody’. Regardless of how amazing you are it’s not going work if it’s not the right fit. I see it like a man & a woman being like a lock & key, there’s only going to be that one key that fits for that specific lock, so any hesitation to commit is like that acknowledgment that it just doesn’t connect or feel right. And when it is the the right fit, it will unlock so many more blessings that God has planned.
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I agree. But for so many there is no match because there is no compromise. Most cant let go of pride or this so called hi standard they have set.
@Me and Me only Yes it’s unfortunate that some will allow pride to get in the way of choosing their best fit, but it will only lead to unfulfillment.
Anneka Jordan, You stated that so wonderfully, with a Great Analogy. It restates exactly what He is trying to get us to Comprehend... Thanks to Both of You....ACT
@Andrea Townes Aww that’s so sweet of you to say so, I appreciate that and I’m glad that the analogy was helpful to you! ❤️
Where there is love, there is no question.
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Lol.
You always have to question everything. Cmon now 😒
@@misselle1430 if you have to question his love, it means it likely isn't love
@@DM-wv6to so true
I'm at the point in my life with men where I'm not about to try to prove to a man that I'm a good woman to make a man want to love me and be in a long term relationship with me. When it comes to love and commitment it's all about whether the two compliment each other or not. It has to come natural and not forced. A man knows what he wants whether you're a good woman or not. Commitment is a choice. And when a man chooses it then there won't be any questions as to what he wants from a woman. It'll be known. I'm done with the games, the trying to figure out the signs and questioning my importance. Bottom line is if he wants to be with you and commit to you then you won't have to look for signs and ask questions about it. Period. I'm not about to keep playing myself for a guy who likes to play.
I couldn't agree with you More sis!!
I just started dating out of a 21 year relationship. And I'm noticing these lil games being played out here. I'm Straight on this BS
This is my exact mindset!!! If you cant give me the love i deserve, time, energy, and commitment that I need then you not for me. Why should i waste my time trying to “wait” on you to figure out if you want to have a sustainable future with me? My time is too valuable and i have absolute no reason to settle☺️
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯
+2348170575769🪴🪴❄️❄️🔮香港，香港很開心*
w - asap him if you need help☝️
They have to be emotionally available , emotionally healed & commitment minded for this to be accurate. If they aren’t ready for commitment... or emotionally mature...it don’t matter how good you are , “or are the 1” etc... it won’t matter. if they are commitment minded and ready this is trueeeee!
Your comment about “insecurities” was SPOT ON. Some of us do not tap into/understand our own nervous system which is a clear SIGN that this person is not the one. You will feel secure with the right person bottom line.
What if sometimes you feel good foundation and when you are not together you feel doubt. What if you have a genuine person but their lack of experience shows how they deal wrong and make you doubt.
This why I don't pursue no man at all you never know how many options he already has even if he is single ain't no telling how many women he is entertaining along with you if he doesn't see any value in commiting to you he is going to play you until the woman he really wants comes along
Please do a separate video with details and examples on a man’s PEACE and PURPOSE. Thank you!
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you
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I like the way you put that our “insecurities “ is actually a sense of a man not being fully in.
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯
+2348170575769🪴🪴❄️❄️🔮香港，香港很開心*
w - asap him if you need help☝️
That was gold!
Like Stephan said, it takes a good 10 minutes to KNOW that TRUE VIBE and CHEMISTRY is there. It hits you like a HURRICANE. He was 100% on this point. It’s indescribable. No words. It’s not something that you HOPE can eventually HAPPEN. Connection is REAL.
Thank you for sharing ❤ I appreciate your feedback!
Absolutely
I dont agree, its not always a hurricane lol, sometimes there's a definite connection but it takes time to grow. Not every happy relationship starts the same way.
@@nursejen1111 …..true. All vibes are on different levels. Mine hit like a hurricane. Amazing.
For sureeeee that chemistry is no joke if it’s there u gonna feel it 💯
We’ve been together over a year.
My deadline was a year and then evaluate. While he is exclusive with me and committed in that sense, he still excludes me from parts of his life which makes it feel like we still have a casual dating relationship.
It doesn’t feel like we are building or creating a life together. It just feels like we are casual dating but in love. It’s not enough for me.
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I stayed with someone for six years and was in the exact situation. Never met his children or parents or friends. All I can say is that we dated, traveled, and would say that we loved each other. This was not enough and he was not the one. Get out now and do not question it. He is not the one. On the flip side… I met my husband and knew instantly. He asked me to marry him 3 months later and within 8 months we got married.
I broke up with one of those and he came back wanting more.
I just left this same situation after 2 1/2 years of dating. 😔
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These platforms at first listen are hilarious because it seems to just be entertainment. But then realizing how some men and women relate to one another, brings such a sadness to my heart. I’m wishing the best for all of you that are prepared to be found by someone who is worthy of your very precious time here on earth.
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That was beautifully said!🥰
thank you & you too, love
That was beautiful, but I have to say. I have never had peace, like the peace I have since the day I decided to not date and not pursue any relationships. Sometimes we focus on it too much! My friend suggested I watch this video.
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I think men want to feel comfortable around her, and be his self. Not harshly judged, and where as the woman is being herself as well. Communication comes easy, sharing your wants and needs without any judgement becomes easy. If it's a easy relationship, and its free glowing, most men won't want to leave. Having the same life goals, values, and morals. Also helps for it to flow into the direction of marriage.
Well said 👏🏾
Amen I like this..when it's real you'll know because you can just feel it when you can put a smile on each other's face naturally and you both like the time you are spending together that's a good flag!!❤😊
@@tashaequeen8935 And..., its easy. It just is so easy. The relationship and the respect just flows, and grows. You will definitely know it when God gives you the right one!
@@mustbeheard9834 AMEN! I agree, that's a good feeling..and God won't ever let you down when blesses yoywith that kind of relationship it's going to sustain. 💖
I felt unsecure about 3 months into my relationship which consequently ended up in a breakup. After breaking up I feel as confident as Beyonce. You are spot on that I knew something was off from early on.
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
w - asap him if you need help☝️☝️
Honestly I believe some men (especially if they haven’t healed their issues) will become attracted and committed to the woman that will play off of their unhealed issues. Like a trauma bond. Some people don’t like peace, some like chaos. So I think love is way more nuanced and complicated. Just because people are in relationships doesn’t mean that they are healthy. Just because a man commits to you doesn’t mean he’s healthy. Some men (and women) commit to each other Bc they are both emotionally unavailable. Human psychology and the reasons why people become bonded to each other are so vast. There’s nothing a woman or a man can do besides be their authentic selves (whatever that is) and be open to the possibility of connection.
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Absolutely 100%
awesome message 💯🙏🏽
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@@TJay1S2G3J thank you for sharing your story. To me it sounds like he isn’t the issue, it’s maybe you not holding firm to your boundary of having people in your life that treat you well? Trust me I was the same way. After seeing the same pattern repeat over and over I decided to take a look at myself- as I was the common denominator in all of the situations. I had to look at WHY was I a person that let men treat me this way. I started by learning about real self love. Then I read books/watched videos on why I chose emotionally unavailable men (had to do with my childhood). I feel like now I know my worth and that it’s up to ME to not allow people to play around in my life if they not serious. It has nothing to do with them. I know now that I deserve the best, and I love myself enough to be alone until the best comes. This was my journey. I realized it’s not up to the man to treat me right, it’s up to me to not entertain a man that doesn’t treat me the way I deserve. I believe that’s what Stefan is trying to say in ALL of his videos. To know your worth and act accordingly. It’s a beautiful journey to get there. I encourage you to look into it, it changed my life. Best of luck with everything ❤️
A man told me once he had a list in his mind that was about 2 pages long that he was looking for in a wife. I only made page one. It was harsh but I appreciated that honesty. You are not for everybody.
Wow, he was prepared 😂
Did he ever find the wife for 2 pages list?
@@NoCreativeNameGirl yes he did. Right after me. Met her online before that was even cool. She moved to ohio for him. They were married shortly after. He wasn’t kidding around
@@jjc2323 Excuse me, i'm going to go make a list for a great husband! Clearly it works! :)
@@NoCreativeNameGirl 🤣🤣😂😂😂 I think it just shows you have strong ideals for your match and to not compromise. I mean a have a list - it’s not two pages long. Check boundaries and wants and hopefully you find him! I’ve cut back on my list over the years cause getting older but will not compromise on several things.
I love his honesty. Somethings you might not want to here but you need to.
Absolutely!
I didn't watch all of this video, but it came into my news feed. The best positive advice women need to receive is just love yourself and focus on JOY! Don't continue to feed into what you don't have, but please focus on the positive things and good things you do have in your life. What you focus on expands, so focus on what you do want. Focus on being all that God wants you to be, and your hearts desires will come! Faith is all you need.
Amen amen amen amen amen amen 🙏🏼
The story hit the nail on the head. That feeling has come over me a few times and sure enough the man wasn’t all in. It wasn’t insecurity it was the spidey sense tingling. The physical part is so hard. Real women have real bodies that have given birth multiple times. Perfection is not attainable on either side. Men walk around potbellied but want halle berry to lay next to him every night. Yes it should be what’s in the inside and we go the the gym together.
Great message. 💜
That part!! SMH 😅
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This is hilarious but real at the same time! I agree with you 100%!
You're so right girl
Truth! Pennies out here looking for dimes!
Excellent video. Yes, agree that when a man finds "the one" his motivation to commit increases and he will invest more into the relationship. Relationships are a lot like an investment. Something that has value and worth makes you want to make more deposits. Deposits are your time, love, support, and overall what you are willing to do to keep the flames in the relationship lit. When you meet the right match you know as it is something you feel and a lot of that ties into the strong genuine connection. Agree, that a woman who is loyal is actually a feeling of security for a man as he knows that she will stand with him in any storm and has his back regardless. Most important is that mutual effort of love and reciprocity as that is what will keep the love and desire strong. Loving relationships keep the flames going. Thank you for the video. Keep up the great work. Sending blessings and peace to you.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 blessings and peace unto you as well!
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Totally agree with your statement, there has to be mutual reciprocity, because if only one person is doing most of the work and effort, and the other is not then, why waste your precious time??! Time to move on. 💯💯
Totally agree. Wish I knew thos years ago.
Men, keeping us in prayer let's keep the faith stay positive/thankful. We reap, what we sow so let's sow positive/good. 💯🙏🏼💪🏼
I pray we’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🗣️in Jesus name in agreement amen!!! 🏃🏽👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Thanks
Stephan, you are the entire walking series of encyclopedia Britannica for relationships. Ty for all of time, energy, and knowledge that you provide for all of us.💓
My pleasure ❤
Spot on Mr. Stephen!! when you mention when a man wants his women to be there for him is going through, Men and women should COMMUNICATION of what's going on and let that other know instead making the other wonder. Communicating is key!
Another thing too is when you mentioned about men and women should pour into each other , not the physical/intimate part but emotionally, mentally, spiritually through it all. Especially wanting to work it out, and willing to fight with one another. It shouldn't ever be one sided !! My mom told me we should learn to compromise.
You have hit all points of a relationship support, communicating, encouraging, loving what he loves( love his hobby’s) Attractiveness it’s a must. Have his back when he is s down or a bad day at work. Be there fir him and he will do the same for you!!!
You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!
If a guy is confused and closed off doesn’t matter what you do it won’t work.
You have some men get all of this and still not appreciative . It’s best to pray and ask God to help you find your wife or husband. Don’t force yourself to be with someone that doesn’t appreciate you or want to stay committed to you. Build a relationship with God and let him seek the right person for you .
@@tonyasmithe I agree put God first and everything else will fall in place. I have fell in love with a good man.
I am sooo glad I listened to this. I now have the conviction that I am not in the right relationship for me. Him and I are not compatible and he doesn't provide me the security and peace I need because he lied from day 1 and as a result, it's been hard for me to feel secure. Thank you Stephan!
So one of the things that i find men want is to feel they are in a safe space to actually reveal their vulnerabilities and be vulnerable, feeling emotionally safe. This ease is something they also find attractive and goes beyond having a good communication connection. The thing about setting boundaries whether it be time together, length of courtship and things you will and won’t do is important because i find men like the reliability of self discipline and being a woman of your word, meaning what you say and being a strong nurturer. All the things mentioned in the video are spot on and knowing that someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and keeping it moving. When the Divine is central you can enjoy the experience and know that who is for you is not being delayed because you are fixated on who’s not for you. See every experience as another opportunity for preparation.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that thank you for sharing!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks may the Creator continue to Guide Bless and Keep you. May you be Anointed with Abundance of Divine Wisdom and may your Works be driven by the overflow of Love and may you reap the Riches worthy of an Anointed One.
5:22, her "insecurities" are a direct reflection of his spirit not committing to the relationship!! Thank you for saying it! Most men don't understand THIS!
19:08 I'm just learning this at the age of 25 & I'm so grateful to be growing in insight and wisdom. Helps cut out a lot of the BS and be discerning with my boundaries
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
After a emotional roller coaster 🎢 of a 6 and a half year I needed to watch this!!! There is so much truth into this whether we want to hear it. We as Women feel so personally attacked when not having a man commit to us...but we fail to understand 99.9% of the time there is a reason. My spirit knew years ago, this was not the relationship for me for many reasons. No matter what.....there was no connection, no communication, no making each other better, no friendship....it was just comfortable. Sooooo much truth to this!! Thanks for this Stephen eye opener! This does also go both ways!
It was 3 years and a baby for me, but I concur completely!!
Dear Stephan - couple of years ago, I unfortunately had to go through the same as woman A in your story. Now I am finally healing, and learning so much from your videos. Your insights are phenomenal.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
That instant connection is usually a twin flame or soulmate connection. It happened between my now husband and I, and I didn't understand it at first. As a matter of fact, I thought I was the only one who felt it. Months into the relationship he confessed his love for me and proposed. It was so weird. We are mirrored versions of each other. When I researched it was when I learned that he is my twin flame. Certain relationships are divinely guided. You have to be patient, work on yourself, and be assertive with your values.
Bla bla bla
Twin flame isn’t of God.
😂😂😂 fr!!
Men want commitment but it might not be with you. Never force him to marry you because he will put you through hell. The example you gave is exactly what happened to me. He married women B within a very short period of time. But it was because I had too much to offer and he felt insecure.
This is so accurate! It’s not about “trying to be” this woman so that they will commit. It’s just telling women what men want in a woman that makes them commit from a male perspective. I love this!!!
I often here people say “it comes out of nowhere I wasn’t looking” yes it did why because you loved yourself first and you committed to loving you and putting yourself and of course when you do that you tend to be conscious of your decisions .
i love how you adress that a woman senses that the mans not really all in is what makes a woman insecure.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Yes you are talking…………you can not ignore that feeling of knowing he is not all in!
This is good! I feel like timing is very important too. When a man is ready, he is ready. When he is not, you can be perfect but it won't work.
A real woman will heal herself from the last man before she entertains the next one. Ladies stop blaming your past an start learning from it and preparing yourselves to be able to receive a real genuine commitment.
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Well said! Much needed 💖
You as well
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Preach!
Thank you Stephan! This video gave me a lot of input to my current relationship dilemma and actually has been easing my heartache. I feel that I am on my way to accept that we are not for each other and let go of the emotional pain it is causing me.
I deserve commitment! I claim it! I declare and decree it! IJN Amen!💯👸🙌💪
Amen 🙏
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Omgosh yesssss that's so true a woman can sense the disconnect and that causes the insecurity , yes I feel validated 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
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Dang Stephan, you got some people MAD mad on this one 🤣. I love it though. And despite being in a horrible relationship for years 🥴, I think your descriptions are accurate. HE'S NOT TELLING US TO DO THESE THINGS, HE'S JUST TELLING US WHAT MEN LOOK FOR.
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The crazy thing is most men commit to woman who are playing games with them. The females who a running around exploring their options and not giving them much times are the ones the men seem to hold onto , not the woman that actually love and care about them.
It isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯
+2348170575769🪴🪴❄️❄️🔮香港，香港很開心*
w - asap him if you need help☝️☝️
Because if he dont commit to the one that olay games she will say bye and go. The nice girl is going to be there forever, no reason to commit.
Wow!! This especially the so called "insecurity" part is right on time!...Thank You!!
My pleasure ❤
About connection, it's everything you said, there could be no more explanation to it, you two just clicked, like you have know each other before. Uniqueness and physical attraction also plays a major role too.
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When you said “that woman’s insecurity was a symptom” WHEW. Our intuition NEVER lies!!!!!!!
Great video! Yes, most married men I asked what made them commit to a specific woman, they said "she was different" than any woman I've met. It's like the "it" factor 😄
This man said that I am but it Factor unique Factor never had a factor but whatever we have an issue never listed down and talk about it Factor let me run to my family and friends in my mind as a woman they should be a man and woman Factor to discuss any and everything that we betray to each other
@@rosemarydarby8075What?!!
@@battamcrease2450 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great message!
I think, if a woman can't positively influence a man, than there is no relationship, nor a future. The first lady being insecure, didn't have a backbone to encourage him to positively grow. I feel men need a challenge. With that said, I think people may confuse chemistry and connection. Chemistry makes people fly to Vegas. Connection Makes People Want to Move Mountains.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
Bella Kim Wisdom 101, and knowing what you want along these lines. Thanks for the honest and positive encouragement along these lines, needed.
idk l know about the challenge part
@@zero1188 How do you not feel that getting through an obstacle is not a boost to his confidence. Does not earning the rewards of life not a thrill in itself. How could a man not want to do what he was inherently put on earth to do?., correct me if I'm wrong, yet I feel if a man was not meeting challenges throughout his life, he would become stagnant. Men are build to Do.
Amen!!!!!!!!
"Peace is a big piece of the puzzle!!" Well said! I love it !!
the connection between the two has to be mutual. just because one person is feeling a connection doesn't mean that it's the same for the other. ..and that's the beauty of being in tune with oneself, choices are precious and appreciated and made for our best self.
Yes 100% on the "insecurity" issue...its most likely because the man is making the woman feel insecure by not being 100% committed!
I’m not going out my way to change me to fit a man requirement for him to commit to me..When you meet someone everything should be organic..he naturally adores you..for you..flaw and all..he loves everything..
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OMG! That is so true. A woman can feel or have intuition on whether he is all in or not!
This is so true.
When I met my now partner. We connected from the very first conversation. It was sooooo strange.
We literally could just be ourselves and it felt like he was always here the whole time. And matter what we did. We couldn’t stop thinking about each other. It just hit us both hard and we both have never experience that feeling ever.
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
To learn from your good advice is a pleasure, how much talent and wisdon! You have and aura with such good energy, im glad i found you, listening to u means a lot to me! Good bless you
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may God bless you as well and be sure to share so that others may receive love and healing!
Thanks for this video. I’m 1 month in a relationship that I hope is “it.” The attraction is there and i feel we’re connected to each other. We have a long way to go, but this video will be viewed several times to make sure i fully “get it.” He’s a beautiful man and i sincerely want this relationship to work.
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how has it been?
@@hej2800 I implemented principle #1 a few days ago and cut-off all communication. I no longer live 15 min away from him. I'm 8hrs away😔
IT is so brilliant!!!!
5:29 I had the same issue the man was not fully commited and it drives me insecure !!! and he repproached it to me
Very good information! First, ladies don’t be insecure! Trust your man and give him reasons to focus on you only. By that love him the way he want to be love that includes inside and outside. Outside includes respect him in every way. Make sure you are equally yolk. Communication is a big key in all relationships! Keep that communication line open for all questions and answers. Be submissive!!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Trust is earned
Much respect for what you do bro. I have seen each and every one of your videos, many of them multiple times as I use them constantly to help me cope with what I am dealing with currently with my recent Ex Girlfriend. Your playlists "Understanding Women" and "Dating advice for men" are invaluable to men such as myself who wish to understand women a little better and understand relationships altogether. You have a way of explaining things that just gets the point across and hits the nail in the head as they say. Just wished my ex would speak English so I can direct her to watch some of your videos lol. Anyhow thanks for the uploads. Keep those videos coming. Blessings.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
How I wish I can invite my ex to watch the video
So true not insecure but sensing something is not there !! It’s deep thanks Stephan you incredible 👊🏽
Nailed it! I appreciate the way you articulate the truth
My deadline, unfortunately, was 25 years... I finally kicked him to the curb. He failed to alleviate the burdens I had while he enjoyed all the benefits of my support both financial, physical, and emotional. He drained my energy and I finally had the courage to end it (we have 3 adult children and 1 teen, but they are 100% supportive of my decision).
Congratulations. Proud of you. Now go live ya best life. Loving yourself more.... ya go youu!
I like the positive message that you consistently deliver. Giving a man peace, being peace and having peace all hit home with me!
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The last one should be number one. Even when they don’t admit it, physical attraction is what lures them in. Then they check the rest.
Excellent video. The original story you told us was interesting. The first woman wasn't the one and he wasn't ready. Something stood out about the second woman and it made him commit.
Glad you enjoyed watching and be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!
Happiness, and to love someone is a choice at the end of the day....
Absolutely!
Thank You so much for being SO candid. It’s much needed. You speak with such candor.
I believe in the deadline as well. There must be a point where one decided that they have given enough in proportion to where you are, therefore, the seriousness of the relationship must be evident enough to decide whether or not to move forward
This whole lesson described my life to the T from beginning to ending. Thank you for the clarification on my 15yrs of feeling stuck.
I really enjoy your videos. I learned a lot from you. I will have to say that what you said is true. On the other hand I got to also say that men can’t bring drama into the relationship and expect peace. That’s what a lot of women are dealing with.
One of the things I love most about your videos is that it is from a man's prospective but this is moral and life advice for everybody.
(Noted and Expressed) Observation, and the application of learned lessons and experiences, are the BIGGEST lowkey flexes and such important parts of living, dating, and marriage most people forget about.
Self love is for everybody.
Confidence and gaining confidence within self is for everybody.
People think men and women are so different but for ME... our principals on how we treat ppl and talk to ppl should be the same.
Truth/Trust. Honest. Respect. Open Communication. Vulnerability. Reciprocity. The ability to listen. The ability to change. The choice to grow. The choice to learn. Etc.
All of these things men and women can both do, should do.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
I believe, at some point we all reach this point of enlightenment. Whether we will choose to learn and grow from these life experiences, or whether or not we will choose to continue to cycle through these same experiences.
For me that is the gift and glory of God, Intelligent design and the blessing of free will.
We all have the right of free will to choose what we want to do.
I believe that for some of us, our duties to our communities, the Earth, and our fellow beings are greater than others and therefore our insistence and conviction to do the right thing is greater; but we all have a role to play and lessons to learn.
Even at our worse, the blessing remains that we are still drawing breath, which means God ain't done with us yet. Lol.
With so much noise on TH-cam, it is really nice to see that there are men of color teaching people the beauty it is to be awake and aware... without the psychosis of the ego.
Thank you so much for answering your call and sharing your gift ❤️
Can I ask you a question....
What made you want to be a relationship coach?
What made you decide to start a channel to share your gift?
(That's two questions 😭 I know but I'm interested in knowing the answers if you want to share 🥰)
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Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy life to make these videos to help women and men get the best out of relationships. They have been a great help to me on a personal and spiritual level 😊
The sad part of all this that woman waste their time because a man makes the woman believe that they are the woman they want and at the end but yet all they are doing is stringing us along. All because we want it more.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏
"A lot of women's insecurities were a symptom of her spirit knowing this man was not fully all in" Jackpot!
I know I loved that Stefan said this. It's not (necessarily) that she is an insecure person, in other words.
Yes I am very interested in your program
I PRAY THE LORD GRANT YOUR HEART DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX ❤️ THROUGH THE SAME GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR FRANK WHO HELPED RESTOREN MY BROKEN 🏠. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE 💯💯💯
w - asap him if you need help☝️☝️
Thank you adding the insecurity caveat, because it is truly a symptom of something off in the relationship.
My pleasure ❤
Thanks!
All facts wow!! Patiently waiting on her!
Glad to hear that thank you for your response. I pray that you receive the one God has for you 🙏
Thank you for the Seven principals thank you so much for that
This is so true. I was woman A in one relationship, now I’m woman B ☺️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
So many truths here! Attraction to sleep with u, is not the same attraction to commit and marry you-- should be a major game changer for many. Make them wait, ladies. Guys who just want to hit it, wont wait...
Thx Stepgan for all ur truth and wisdom!! God bless!
❤ 🙂 Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback and may God bless you as well!
Very well said,its all about compatibility.Don't force someone into your life...I learned the hard way...but God bringing me through.🙏🙏🙏🙏
That is so true brother, That's right everyone is not everyone is cup of tea💛🙏
Good video Stephan. The peace , connection & chemistry advice was on point. I just believe people connect for various reasons. Pray 🙏🏾 about everything even as simple as , “I met somebody new” !!! God knows !!!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you thank you for sharing!
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I am so sick and tired of what men want and what to do to please them. Too much work,exhausting.stay single.
I want to speak on that connection thing real quick. I was married for 10 years. We got along but there wasn’t a connection. I met my current fiancé and we had known her a few years online and talked for about a month online before we went on a date. The date went amazing and while we were walking to the car I decided to hold her hand. At the moment our hands held I had a feeling of fireworks throughout my whole body. I knew she was the one I had always looked for.
I love the bring your best self part. So KEY.
You’re extremely intuitive and gifted. You’re amazing. Thank you for all you do! ❤️
I look forward to making sure im the best i can be for a solid relationship. My friends tell me i attract broken or unhealed men cause im a healer. Im not Florence Nightingale. Im.not doing all that because i known the time and power it took too heal myself. So this video was very informative to changing my mindset. Not thinking men aint shit.....not thinking i will not find a good dude. But......thinking I am deserving of a man who will pour into my cup as I pour into him.
Some men have everything beautiful wife with all the qualities they want kids a home and a good job but still no commitment. I want to blame it on disconnect because if he claims to be happy and have everything why desire other women or entertaining others
Appreciate the knowledge ❤️🙏🏽
❤ 🙂 Thank you I appreciate your feedback!
Agreed. My man says he loves me, only wants to be with me, had a baby with me, has me around his family and everything but wouldn't commit. Instead cheating on me behind my back. WTF.