Good men are honest, respectful and loyal but r as rare as gold to find these days so im choosing to stay single till i find someone with old school values and morals
3:20 dont let him have control over your love life or 100% of your attention 4:25 become a challenge. Let him fight for your attention 7:10 dont give him all control cause they will take advantage of you
Every relationship is unique, and romantic dynamics can be influenced by numerous factors, including social changes, personal expectations, and individual life experiences. Even if your parents had an apparently flawless relationship, it doesn't mean that challenges in your own romantic relationships are abnormal or impossible to overcome.
I figured it out they only want control and power not love. So I am exhausted from wasting time bonding then they push you away because they're on the Narc spectrum.
Set boundaries and keep Them there, nothing better than seeing someone chasing for your attention after you’ve decided to ignore them and maybe perhaps forgot about them😂
Men want a submissive wife to not be a challenge to them so they can chase side women who are better at playing games....that is the sad truth unfortunately 😢
@@sarcodonblue2876Same. It’s exhausting and my values no longer match with theirs because men love toxicity. They find it exciting so if you want a healthy peaceful relaying ship you are boring to them. I just broke up with one who kept disregarding my boundaries and blocked him so he can’t use coercive control on me again and took the control away from him. He can cry and be as mad as he wants. My peace and my goals are more important to me than his dumbass
They do everything right to conquer you first and then they show who they are, advise: don’t fall in love too fast, go slow look up for red flags, they have a plan you have one also, be careful love yourself first❤
Great advice! Take your time, watch for red flags, and always prioritize your own well-being. Love yourself first and stay alert to any signs that something might not be right.
Forget about men. Who wants to play bs games? It is so stressful and wastes time. They all want this control no matter how kind and compassionate they seem. I am just going to focus on my goals and enjoy life as much as possible.
You are so right. Life is too short for this kind of games. I am working on this too. It's not easy, but it's the best we can do. The right person will value us and treat us the right way. ❤
*Surprises can indeed add a sense of excitement and spontaneity to a relationship. However, it's crucial to emphasize the importance of consent and open communication. It's not about trying to control or manipulate our partners but rather showing them love, appreciation, and thoughtfulness.*
Hey your a genius I followed through with what you said completely cut off was putting things in my WhatsApp status he came back he's going counselling now to change for us thank you ❤
I'm glad to hear that you took action and that things are moving in a positive direction. Wishing you both the best on this journey of growth and healing. Thank you for your comment !
@@FrenchRelationshipExperthey alex unfortunately it all went sour again he started being manipulative lieing being cold was even worse in just this short time... He's been to a councillor told him he's a narcissist and iv let him go for good this time completely blocked him got rid of his number.... But you still helped me so much watching your videos has helped me find myself respect and learn so much without your help I wouldn't of been able to walk away and be strong you have taught me to value myself and finally I can move on... Thank you x
I sort of suspected this with my man. He was crazy about me, initially. When i assured him of my love, I think he got bored. People say its games but its human nature. Men do like a bit of stress and challenge.
I stressed the man I love a bit too much. I was needy. Needing his reassurance and he told me to kick rocks. He basically said he didn’t want to stay in touch and that broke my heart. I know he is an avoidant man, and I was ok with that because deep down I’m an avoidant too. I love him!! Cannot let him go but I also understand that I cannot ever return the same way. If I ever do try to get him back I have to be different. Indeed, I am different and I know that because I surprise myself with my own reactions and behaviors when it comes to the situation. I don’t want to lie to myself anymore, but I also do not want to be stupid and hope for the best. I have to take action, but strategic action and with the right time.
Thanks Alex, your videos have been helping confirm my own thoughts on this matter and it’s timely because I’m doing just as you say here with the 50 year old ‘man’ who still plays video games in his spare time and thinks he’s so interesting he can just waffle on about himself constantly and never show any actual interest in me to get to know me as he claimed he wanted to do! Now he’s learning the hard way who I am 😂
Alex he wants control and emotionally unavailable 😢 Been with him for 5 years I tried everything to understand him, he always wants me to do the work to fix, he hurt me so much yet he couldn't give me support emotionally after he chased me out if his house and he didn't care I was hurt and messed my car, I'm done Im exhausted, yet he told I must leave him alone, I told him thank you I will move on, never again will I beg and try to fix😢
Yes I released from trap to control me After being independent i don't want him or his attention any more. Is it fine?? I feel it's just game ... relationship is not game am i right??
Here is diffrent things...my man is too much emotional.and he seek emotions but i have controlled emotion person.what to do.i can't speak allways like baby lalalulu.
I understand you feel tired and you're questioning things. It's important to remember that true love includes both moments of happiness and challenges. Fatigue can sometimes make us doubt, but it's also an opportunity to reflect on what we really want and to seek ways to improve our situation.
Thankz for the advice but Alex he never see my status on watsup after broke up, wat shal i do give me some advice so that he can see my status, reply me here plz
what your reAction when u find out your husband for 7yrs that u thought is honest from the start is a cheater and giving money to multiple woman his been chatting online his priorities than the wife and we on in off now i found out recently his taking penis enlargement snd i noticed it but i knew he did it is not for me he did it for other woman he preferring now thankyou for yoir vedios its been teo days now i am trying to step back pursuing him cause i feel like the more i’m trying to fix things and give him a chances is the more he will go.i want somebody that put family snd wife priorities first not somebody else .he wants me to be controlled and i feel like his taking advantage on me its sad i always cry without even knowing i feel miserable right now i am trying to love my self and focus to get back my body figure he give me to much insecurities that its makes me like this .😢
A “ man “ desire control more than sex …….coercive control law was passed in certain European countries …….they will end up with a huge litigation lawsuit possibly prison time ……make sure you tell your male clientele females know the laws .A controlling “ man” needs to be in rehab . Have a great one everybody .
Thanks Alex am in no contact after he ignored my texts and ghosted me.i will never call or text him if he wants he will.i can't allow him to take all control over me.
I'm dating a very busy man and we have a crazy time zone. I never initiate contact, he does. It's because I always text last so he has to text first 😅 he must chase me lol
I have difficulties with a man (l think he is my ex, but he never ended the relationship). First he wanted space, then he blocked me and now he ignores me. I gave him too much attention. I did everything for that man, so l lost my value. Also l think he is a commitment phobic man and he didn't always treat me well. He is lazy too. He was happy, l think, that l boosted his ego. Now l will take Alex' advice and keep my distance. I will not write or call him again, so l will not chase him, don't ask him questions and l will not act needy or mad anymore. I will be silent. I don't think he will ever come back to me, unless it's for his personal gain and for the wrong reasons. I deserve better. He didn't even put me on a pedestal. It's just so sad that some women like me, put so much effort in the wrong man, because we love him and we even believe that he might be the one, just because he gives us sometimes that feeling or he talks about it, but his actions don't. He doesn't give me what l need, although l gave him everything he wanted or needed. It's so unfair. He should have appreciated me instead of blaming me. l am very sad and l need to pick myself up and try to move on with my life. He really broke my heart several times and l don't know if l can ever heal from it. 😢
Elo mr Alex am from Uganda please help me my husband left me in house with two children and told my mother and his family and our landlord that his nolonger responsible to us he said i should use the things he left in house but i had no job nothing to feed children no money to pay rent but he keep on telling people he give money i left the house and now struggling with my children what can i do for him to regret at list to support children because one is schooling hv no fees to pay am still looking for a job please help me how to make him regret or to take his responsibilities
Good men are honest, respectful and loyal but r as rare as gold to find these days so im choosing to stay single till i find someone with old school values and morals
3:20 dont let him have control over your love life or 100% of your attention 4:25 become a challenge. Let him fight for your attention 7:10 dont give him all control cause they will take advantage of you
Let him feel he is in control... without giving him the actual control 😊
Then he won't respect you.
@@rmg2419He doesn't anyway other wise he wouldn't want to control you to begin with. Women need to say no altogether until men stop the games.
@@sarcodonblue2876They don’t like or respect themselves that’s the issue
Egocentric men want "control". Godly men respect you and honor and cherish you 🤍🤍🤍
Nearly all men want control. Ones who don't are so rare.
Ones who don’t are the ones we don’t want lol
Men are exhausting
My mother was always available and my father was always in love with her...I can't understand why all are so difficult now...
Every relationship is unique, and romantic dynamics can be influenced by numerous factors, including social changes, personal expectations, and individual life experiences. Even if your parents had an apparently flawless relationship, it doesn't mean that challenges in your own romantic relationships are abnormal or impossible to overcome.
I figured it out they only want control and power not love. So I am exhausted from wasting time bonding then they push you away because they're on the Narc spectrum.
Yep. They all want control to some degree and I am done with them all. You need boundaries with even male friends so they can't try the same BS.
Set boundaries and keep
Them there, nothing better than seeing someone chasing for your attention after you’ve decided to ignore them and maybe perhaps forgot about them😂
Men want a submissive wife to not be a challenge to them so they can chase side women who are better at playing games....that is the sad truth unfortunately 😢
@@sarcodonblue2876Same. It’s exhausting and my values no longer match with theirs because men love toxicity. They find it exciting so if you want a healthy peaceful relaying ship you are boring to them.
I just broke up with one who kept disregarding my boundaries and blocked him so he can’t use coercive control on me again and took the control away from him. He can cry and be as mad as he wants. My peace and my goals are more important to me than his dumbass
We love you with your French tone! Thank you Alex
They do everything right to conquer you first and then they show who they are, advise: don’t fall in love too fast, go slow look up for red flags, they have a plan you have one also, be careful love yourself first❤
Great advice! Take your time, watch for red flags, and always prioritize your own well-being. Love yourself first and stay alert to any signs that something might not be right.
Forget about men. Who wants to play bs games? It is so stressful and wastes time. They all want this control no matter how kind and compassionate they seem. I am just going to focus on my goals and enjoy life as much as possible.
You are so right. Life is too short for this kind of games. I am working on this too. It's not easy, but it's the best we can do. The right person will value us and treat us the right way. ❤
Facts
We must understand human nature. It's flawed. We all need Christ.
*Surprises can indeed add a sense of excitement and spontaneity to a relationship. However, it's crucial to emphasize the importance of consent and open communication. It's not about trying to control or manipulate our partners but rather showing them love, appreciation, and thoughtfulness.*
Your messages are so pure and kind and yet honest. Thank you 🌹
Hey your a genius I followed through with what you said completely cut off was putting things in my WhatsApp status he came back he's going counselling now to change for us thank you ❤
I'm glad to hear that you took action and that things are moving in a positive direction. Wishing you both the best on this journey of growth and healing. Thank you for your comment !
@@FrenchRelationshipExperthey alex unfortunately it all went sour again he started being manipulative lieing being cold was even worse in just this short time... He's been to a councillor told him he's a narcissist and iv let him go for good this time completely blocked him got rid of his number.... But you still helped me so much watching your videos has helped me find myself respect and learn so much without your help I wouldn't of been able to walk away and be strong you have taught me to value myself and finally I can move on... Thank you x
I sort of suspected this with my man. He was crazy about me, initially. When i assured him of my love, I think he got bored. People say its games but its human nature. Men do like a bit of stress and challenge.
I stressed the man I love a bit too much. I was needy. Needing his reassurance and he told me to kick rocks. He basically said he didn’t want to stay in touch and that broke my heart. I know he is an avoidant man, and I was ok with that because deep down I’m an avoidant too. I love him!! Cannot let him go but I also understand that I cannot ever return the same way. If I ever do try to get him back I have to be different. Indeed, I am different and I know that because I surprise myself with my own reactions and behaviors when it comes to the situation. I don’t want to lie to myself anymore, but I also do not want to be stupid and hope for the best. I have to take action, but strategic action and with the right time.
How?
Alex is right. Deny them control.
It's just as addictive if not more or less like x.
Thanks Alex, your videos have been helping confirm my own thoughts on this matter and it’s timely because I’m doing just as you say here with the 50 year old ‘man’ who still plays video games in his spare time and thinks he’s so interesting he can just waffle on about himself constantly and never show any actual interest in me to get to know me as he claimed he wanted to do!
Now he’s learning the hard way who I am 😂
Hey Alex! I have mentioned ur name on my gratitude journal...u are so amazing ...I m really inspired by you! Thank You for being there❤
Thank you so much for watching!
This is the kind of advice I'm looking for.Thank you🙏🙏 I really need this
I AM FROM CROATIA
Am Tessy and I am watching from agilti i have been giving him and it's getting in his head .I love dis your video❤❤ thank you so much.youbare the best
Thank you so much for watching! I truly appreciate this!
Thanks Alex for another very good and useful video.🙏❤️❤️
Alex he wants control and emotionally unavailable 😢
Been with him for 5 years I tried everything to understand him, he always wants me to do the work to fix, he hurt me so much yet he couldn't give me support emotionally after he chased me out if his house and he didn't care I was hurt and messed my car, I'm done Im exhausted, yet he told I must leave him alone, I told him thank you I will move on, never again will I beg and try to fix😢
Never give a man 5 years. Your not his wife. There's no commitment. Why did you stay so long? You must understand why and don't go there again.
Your accent is great and I’ve learned soooo much from you! Thank you so very much for helping so many women!
Thank You Alex! You’re spot on!❤
I want a man to control me but these days they are so bad at being worthy of it 😩
Thank you our friend!!!!❤❤❤❤
Thanks
Thank you Alex
Thank you so much for watching!
This was golden. Thanks!!
Thank you so much for watching!
We can easily understand English bravo coach 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much for watching!
Love your videos Alex ❤thank you for all your awesome advice
Thank you so much for watching my videos and for your support!
Thanks you Alex for your advice
You're always welcome!
This os so good Alex
So honest and eye opening
He is not going to have that on me. Heck no!!!
Thanks Alex
You're always welcome!
so true alex
i ll never do it again
yeah show him that not everything
revolve around him
Yes I released from trap to control me After being independent i don't want him or his attention any more. Is it fine?? I feel it's just game ... relationship is not game am i right??
Hello from Brazil! 🤗
I love your Vídeos. ❤
Thank you so much for the support!
Thank for your advise,
You're always welcome!❤️
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Woooo you're AMAZING. Thank you so much! Let me know if you want me to do a special topic on the channel?
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Thank you so much for watching! I deeply appreciate this!
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No control freedom
Not sure to understand?
COntrol is not love
Here is diffrent things...my man is too much emotional.and he seek emotions but i have controlled emotion person.what to do.i can't speak allways like baby lalalulu.
This is the same thing happening with me. 🏳️🌈👨❤️👨👬
I hope this video is able to help you!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert it is that's why my boyfriend is getting mad and lil changing positive way (I am gay)
I crave bonding
What do I do with my partner who has depression and emotionally shuts me out? x
He is NOT ALL THERE. HE WILL AND CANT NE THERE FOR YOU.
IS HIS CALL TO GET PROFESSIONAL FEEDBACK HELP....
Get a new one girl
I’m so tired, I’m questioning if this is real love.
I understand you feel tired and you're questioning things. It's important to remember that true love includes both moments of happiness and challenges. Fatigue can sometimes make us doubt, but it's also an opportunity to reflect on what we really want and to seek ways to improve our situation.
110 no control
Not sure to understand?
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Thank you so much for watching!
Hi Alex! I replied to the email but won’t let me save a seat, it’s saying the live is already over?
Thankz for the advice but Alex he never see my status on watsup after broke up, wat shal i do give me some advice so that he can see my status, reply me here plz
what your reAction when u find out your husband for 7yrs that u thought is honest from the start is a cheater and giving money to multiple woman his been chatting online his priorities than the wife and we on in off now i found out recently his taking penis enlargement snd i noticed it but i knew he did it is not for me he did it for other woman he preferring now thankyou for yoir vedios its been teo days now i am trying to step back pursuing him cause i feel like the more i’m trying to fix things and give him a chances is the more he will go.i want somebody that put family snd wife priorities first not somebody else .he wants me to be controlled and i feel like his taking advantage on me its sad i always cry without even knowing i feel miserable right now i am trying to love my self and focus to get back my body figure he give me to much insecurities that its makes me like this .😢
can i ask him why he always asks me who i’m dating, or who so and so is when they stop me on the street? like what’s it to him? 😂
Poor Alex
Who s your coach ?????😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I don't have only one coach :-)
A “ man “ desire control more than sex …….coercive control law was passed in certain European countries …….they will end up with a huge litigation lawsuit possibly prison time ……make sure you tell your male clientele females know the laws .A controlling “ man” needs to be in rehab . Have a great one everybody .
Sounds like the man is needy to want that much control
It's just the nature of the beast. You ever read the Bible? Its all about men wanting power when the reality is God has the power. Women too.
But it seems that the guys that want control are the abusive ones.
Normal healthy good men don't need to dominate and control.
Thanks Alex for the advise
You're always welcome!
Great advice. Ty
❤
Thanks Alex am in no contact after he ignored my texts and ghosted me.i will never call or text him if he wants he will.i can't allow him to take all control over me.
That's a toxic Narcissistic person definitely cut him off!
I'm dating a very busy man and we have a crazy time zone. I never initiate contact, he does. It's because I always text last so he has to text first 😅 he must chase me lol
Update...... He was never busy. He ghosted months ago lol
I have difficulties with a man (l think he is my ex, but he never ended the relationship). First he wanted space, then he blocked me and now he ignores me. I gave him too much attention. I did everything for that man, so l lost my value. Also l think he is a commitment phobic man and he didn't always treat me well. He is lazy too. He was happy, l think, that l boosted his ego. Now l will take Alex' advice and keep my distance. I will not write or call him again, so l will not chase him, don't ask him questions and l will not act needy or mad anymore. I will be silent. I don't think he will ever come back to me, unless it's for his personal gain and for the wrong reasons. I deserve better. He didn't even put me on a pedestal. It's just so sad that some women like me, put so much effort in the wrong man, because we love him and we even believe that he might be the one, just because he gives us sometimes that feeling or he talks about it, but his actions don't. He doesn't give me what l need, although l gave him everything he wanted or needed. It's so unfair. He should have appreciated me instead of blaming me. l am very sad and l need to pick myself up and try to move on with my life. He really broke my heart several times and l don't know if l can ever heal from it. 😢
Alex you are literally saving my life thank youuuuu
He gives me the attention but he won’t take the relationship to the next level. He’s a hour distance from me
I'm so sorry to hear this!
I was answering his messages after a few hours and he got mad at me. Now I know why 😂
Men are like kids sometimes. So adorable
😂😂😂
They want control I want them away
You're absolutely right...i wants came across narcissistic guy like this but i surprise him with my action unbelievable for him he went crazy
Im from Nigeria. Thank you for this insight .
Elo mr Alex am from Uganda please help me my husband left me in house with two children and told my mother and his family and our landlord that his nolonger responsible to us he said i should use the things he left in house but i had no job nothing to feed children no money to pay rent but he keep on telling people he give money i left the house and now struggling with my children what can i do for him to regret at list to support children because one is schooling hv no fees to pay am still looking for a job please help me how to make him regret or to take his responsibilities
I get it 😅
You are a good man
This is Barbara watching from Uganda ( East Africa)
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you Alex
Thank you so much for watching!
Youre right, start right (take control and discipline him). Do not accept crumbs. Demnd new experiences.
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate this!
are there men who are not like this? i am with a french man... do men get like this in long term relationships too?
It is most men . I would say it is rare for them not to be like this.
Coach Alex is a French man and he treats women the right way. He even gives advice in this video. ❤