Make sure the guy is worth it. I dated an avoidant who turned out to be a loser and when I had him hooked, I had to run. Alex’s tips are spot on but make sure the person is worth it.
same.. he does send a meaningless text every day just to keep me on the loop now that I think of it, but only meets every 2-3weeks. says he's busy, traveling hiking working out cooking exhibitions doing all sorts of stuff by himself or with his 'male' friends.. ? -according to him- but that went on for 2 months already. I finally confronted him and called it quits. Told him i like being with him but i feel distant with his inconsistency and don't like when he ignores my text replies treating me like an option, he replies 24hrs later saying 'don't think too much, i'm not good with chatting, i was busy'.. wow that took 24hrs to reply? so i replied asking what he wants cuz I want to invest my precious energy, time, and emotions in someone who's willing to do the same.. him? no answer for a week since then, today he changed his profile pic of him having some tropical decorated cocktail with someone in front of him who took his pic. 2 guys hanging out having cocktails? puhleez... as if. He seemed liked a perfect catch but now i know why he never got married till 50.
That sounds like a lot of work..... Sounds like someone who will keep looking around sooner or later. What kind of life is that? Alex you're not talking about how to change his behavior until the second half of the video, only talking about changing our own behavior. Perhaps the avoidant man is the one you need to avoid completely. Because long term, he's going to look around and you will obviously, inevitably be taken for granted.
1/dont ask question 2/how to make them feel 3/diff date 4/you should be special/unique 5/dont txt reply quick 6/see each other only twice a week 7/let them chase you 8/let them initiate contact 9/have your own fun and goal focus life 10/live with purpose 11/ 2 yes, 1 no 12/dont believe in love 13/dont show attention in grp 14/show attention and understand them 1 ok n 1
Hi there! I know Coach Alex would love to help you with your situation but he would need to know a little more about your situation before giving you proper advice on this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/ -FRE Team
thank you, very useful, i never dated an avoidant and its driving me crazy to understand him and what to do, gave me a lot of problems in a bad time for me, could not focus on this really, so thanks
This will force all the work on one person in the relationship. I am too old for that and too secure. I would move on to a better relationship with someone else.
Yep! Was with mine for 5 years and he was very disconnected. He left me and my daughter in Feb. he was very involved in the beginning. Then within months of the relationship he literally just wasn’t there anymore :( but he tried. But never really committed. Now he’s keeping me on a tether and left his shit here in my garage and his car. It’s been 8 months and he’s still got his stuff here. Along with seeing my daughter every now and then. Wants to go with her and I next month to cedar point. Very confusing.
Hi Alex. I just want to enlighten you on a NEW subject...(still about love)...I have been crying for 4 yrs... I was LABELLING the men...but NO!! These men are on The Autistic Spectrum!! ( My Indian friends & me) Even my EX HUSBAND is on this Spectrum!! (I've know him 25yrs - he couldn't FEEL me)...I'd love to talk to you about it. Lisa 🌷🙏🏽👑 New Zealand 🇳🇿
Oh you mean we have to do somersaults with him? You need to give examples …..This guy just wants variety … if I say no, he just goes to someone else …..
Alex I love your work but I need a bottle of wine right now.... It is so hard to always take THEIR emotions and their attachment style into consideration. It sounds like the entire relationship is about addapting to his needs.... other wise he will run. Oh man.. And to come to thiink he pursued me for 3 whole months before I actually opened up, it took me so long just because i was afraid for him to break my heart!!! and now this??
I'm so sorry to hear about this! I would love to help you through your situation. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with me using this link: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/ -FRE Team
What if it ended abruptly again when it was going amazing he opened up about being avoidant and his past (he’s never done that with anyone else) and this time I chased because I thought it would show him I wasn’t going to abandon him. But now I have done no contact for 3 months and haven’t heard anything. Is it done for good?
I agree to you Alex. So hard avoidant man I'm dating avoidant many for two months is not work 😂I don't know if he want relastionship or dating only. Once a day only send me mssge that it so hard 😂
We meet these people on dating sites. We get sexually involved. YES. These men are DIFFERENT. (It's not a purposeful thing - read my other comment). Thanks 🙏🏽🌷
I met a guy in May, he was wonderful, he was alot of things I have wanted in a partner. Everything seemed to be going so well, he's talking about seeing a future with me. Then he pulled back Really hard last month and said he was unsure about everything. So we stopped dating and remained friends and now I'm dating again and it's like he's interested again. Will we always have to be in the chasing stage?
How often do you talk or text with your avoidant in an ldr almost 2 years in. Always when we talk I look sad and than he makes me smile. Promises he comes more often and he hide s again. I am trying to find balance. We are always so happy and drawn to each other. We are planning to meet going on vacation and closing the gap.
Hi Sir Handsome Alex..I need your help badly to coach me on what to do with my Bf..were on LDR..we met in real already..he said he love me but he's changing lately..hearing from you soon in messenger will be much appreciated..thanks so much..take care and God bless
Hi there! I know Coach Alex would love to help you with your situation. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him so he can have a full understanding of what you're going through so he can give you the advice you need. www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/ FRE Team
Avoidants porbably have vision abou jobs, hobbies purpose...which is actually healthy thing....because some people are born with a talent and want to fulfil the urgency of it. but I guess they are not against close realtionsp they just probably want to fulfil th edream...I think he may love people in general, but schedule is pushing him to be alone for some time to undrestand why its difficult to fulfil the needs of customers or business, trying to understand it takes a lot of time so therefore has less time for partners, not because he wats to have less time for partner but because of other things...but sometimes mediation helps people to achieve things faster both career and loving realationship. because mediatation makes the heart blissful and heart is a great advisor for health career and relationships.
12 years with a avoidant,nearly broke my soul….i‘m rising like a phoenix🔥
Praise God I’ve been dating one I think for 4 months the last week have been crazy
Make sure the guy is worth it. I dated an avoidant who turned out to be a loser and when I had him hooked, I had to run. Alex’s tips are spot on but make sure the person is worth it.
I know it’s been a year since you posted this but do you have any coping advice or and guidance or tips ?
@@jillianortiz4018😮u😮outing goes good vgiuntu v
I laughed out loud when you said “if he wants to see you 2 or 3 times a week” I see my avoidant guy about every 2 weeks!
same.. he does send a meaningless text every day just to keep me on the loop now that I think of it, but only meets every 2-3weeks. says he's busy, traveling hiking working out cooking exhibitions doing all sorts of stuff by himself or with his 'male' friends.. ? -according to him- but that went on for 2 months already. I finally confronted him and called it quits. Told him i like being with him but i feel distant with his inconsistency and don't like when he ignores my text replies treating me like an option, he replies 24hrs later saying 'don't think too much, i'm not good with chatting, i was busy'.. wow that took 24hrs to reply? so i replied asking what he wants cuz I want to invest my precious energy, time, and emotions in someone who's willing to do the same.. him? no answer for a week since then, today he changed his profile pic of him having some tropical decorated cocktail with someone in front of him who took his pic. 2 guys hanging out having cocktails? puhleez... as if. He seemed liked a perfect catch but now i know why he never got married till 50.
Omg same 😭 or once a month makes me think he is cheating I hate him 😅
if we're lucky
@@jaynenyc1954 sounds like just a player... ditch him asap!
@@riannab5256 believe me does... my experience
That sounds like a lot of work.....
Sounds like someone who will keep looking around sooner or later.
What kind of life is that?
Alex you're not talking about how to change his behavior until the second half of the video, only talking about changing our own behavior.
Perhaps the avoidant man is the one you need to avoid completely. Because long term, he's going to look around and you will obviously, inevitably be taken for granted.
Avoid the avoidant!
Thanks for this video!!! Please talk more about handling conflict with avoidants. Also anxious and avoidants in relationships.
I just broke up with a possible avoidant partner,i felt so alone IN the relationship..i couldn’t do it anymore.
1/dont ask question 2/how to make them feel 3/diff date 4/you should be special/unique 5/dont txt reply quick 6/see each other only twice a week 7/let them chase you 8/let them initiate contact 9/have your own fun and goal focus life 10/live with purpose 11/ 2 yes, 1 no 12/dont believe in love 13/dont show attention in grp 14/show attention and understand them 1 ok n 1
Hi there! I know Coach Alex would love to help you with your situation but he would need to know a little more about your situation before giving you proper advice on this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link: www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Thank you Alex. I don’t want to get him. I want him to chase. So I take your advice. It works.
I'm happy my advice was able to help you!
Avoidants are a lot of mental work...I'm tired😅
😂😂😂😂😂
I’m married to an avoidant, this is eye opening!! #9monthsin
Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video was able to help you!
Is anyone really worth this much work? Especially when they leave you hanging when you need help the most. No, better close the door.
I will never date an avoidant man ever again. They have really hurt me in the past.
Very good video, a competent coach. Thanks Alex!
After watching these videos on youtube it looks like we are all dating the exact same person, intresting!
Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video is able to help you!
thank you, very useful, i never dated an avoidant and its driving me crazy to understand him and what to do, gave me a lot of problems in a bad time for me, could not focus on this really, so thanks
Hi there! I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope this video was able to help you with this situation!
Thank you Alex! Indeed your French coach
BRILLIANT topic and brilliant video
My avoidant just told me I deserve better ….that he doesn’t want a commitment and that he doesn’t want to hurt me. Sounds like he’s done 😢
I'm so sorry to hear this! I appreciate that he was honest about this!
Alex, you're the best indeed!👍🙌
Very helpful information merci
This will force all the work on one person in the relationship. I am too old for that and too secure. I would move on to a better relationship with someone else.
Yep! Was with mine for 5 years and he was very disconnected. He left me and my daughter in Feb. he was very involved in the beginning. Then within months of the relationship he literally just wasn’t there anymore :( but he tried. But never really committed. Now he’s keeping me on a tether and left his shit here in my garage and his car. It’s been 8 months and he’s still got his stuff here. Along with seeing my daughter every now and then. Wants to go with her and I next month to cedar point. Very confusing.
Dear Alex excellence education i am studying and licensing every day thank you
Thanks a million!!!
Thank you so much for watching!
I like your accent
Hi Alex thank you for sharing!
Great content !! Thanks Alex
Thank you so much for watching!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertplease I need private couching
Hi Alex.
I just want to enlighten you on a NEW subject...(still about love)...I have been crying for 4 yrs...
I was LABELLING the men...but NO!! These men are on The Autistic Spectrum!! ( My Indian friends & me)
Even my EX HUSBAND is on this Spectrum!! (I've know him 25yrs - he couldn't FEEL me)...I'd love to talk to you about it.
Lisa 🌷🙏🏽👑 New Zealand 🇳🇿
Lisa. I think my ex DA is on the spectrum as well. Lacks any social emotional intelligence. I don’t think it was on purpose.
What a great video
Thank you so much!
Oh you mean we have to do somersaults with him? You need to give examples …..This guy just wants variety … if I say no, he just goes to someone else …..
I like a more forgiving attitude / withdrawals yes, PUNISHMENTS NO
Fantastic
This is super exhausting, to be honest, I'd not want to be with this man for the long run.
Yes Alex! Open your World gradually & blow Them outa' the Water!! #You NEED BOUNDARIES..all the way...☑️
Avoidant is a result of wounds.
Alex I love your work but I need a bottle of wine right now.... It is so hard to always take THEIR emotions and their attachment style into consideration. It sounds like the entire relationship is about addapting to his needs.... other wise he will run. Oh man.. And to come to thiink he pursued me for 3 whole months before I actually opened up, it took me so long just because i was afraid for him to break my heart!!! and now this??
I'm so sorry to hear about this! I would love to help you through your situation. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with me using this link:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
What if it ended abruptly again when it was going amazing he opened up about being avoidant and his past (he’s never done that with anyone else) and this time I chased because I thought it would show him I wasn’t going to abandon him. But now I have done no contact for 3 months and haven’t heard anything. Is it done for good?
Omg I only see avoidant men… I just see a few at a time😂 works out perfect … maybe avoidant 😂
😂😂😂
Good idea. There ia nothing good left anymore. I will take four and rotate them.
I agree to you Alex. So hard avoidant man
I'm dating avoidant many for two months is not work 😂I don't know if he want relastionship or dating only. Once a day only send me mssge that it so hard 😂
We meet these people on dating sites.
We get sexually involved. YES. These men are DIFFERENT.
(It's not a purposeful thing - read my other comment). Thanks 🙏🏽🌷
I met a guy in May, he was wonderful, he was alot of things I have wanted in a partner. Everything seemed to be going so well, he's talking about seeing a future with me. Then he pulled back Really hard last month and said he was unsure about everything. So we stopped dating and remained friends and now I'm dating again and it's like he's interested again. Will we always have to be in the chasing stage?
He isnvt avoiding you he wants different... avoidants still an commit.
Alex I’m tired of his behavior, he doesn’t call me , when I call he doesn’t answer, for weeks even up to 3 months , he will block me
How often do you talk or text with your avoidant in an ldr almost 2 years in. Always when we talk I look sad and than he makes me smile. Promises he comes more often and he hide s again. I am trying to find balance. We are always so happy and drawn to each other. We are planning to meet going on vacation and closing the gap.
Hi Sir Handsome Alex..I need your help badly to coach me on what to do with my Bf..were on LDR..we met in real already..he said he love me but he's changing lately..hearing from you soon in messenger will be much appreciated..thanks so much..take care and God bless
Hi there!
I know Coach Alex would love to help you with your situation. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him so he can have a full understanding of what you're going through so he can give you the advice you need.
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
FRE Team
I really need you Alex. How to reach you? ☹️
Hello couch, please how can I get to chat with you one on one
Hello Alex
How are you today my friends
That sounds similar to love bombing 😢
I was all the this but no way he still the same so i need to yes to me and no to him❤
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate you!
👏👏
My ex is being an avoidant.. idk how to get him back
❤
Avoidants porbably have vision abou jobs, hobbies purpose...which is actually healthy thing....because some people are born with a talent and want to fulfil the urgency of it.
but I guess they are not against close realtionsp they just probably want to fulfil th edream...I think he may love people in general, but schedule is pushing him to be alone for some time to undrestand why its difficult to fulfil the needs of customers or business, trying to understand it takes a lot of time so therefore has less time for partners, not because he wats to have less time for partner but because of other things...but sometimes mediation helps people to achieve things faster both career and loving realationship. because mediatation makes the heart blissful and heart is a great advisor for health career and relationships.
Avoidant guys are just childish ,period, no time for climbing a mountain with such ness!!!!
Thank you so much for watching and for your insight!
Avoidants are a tree I would never want to climb again ✌️
Ha Ha
If only I knew such thing exists before I dated him!!!
Anyways, Alex, you atleast, gave me the courage to not encourage his antics, finally.
❤🎉