@@sylviasass501 get as far away from him as you possibly can and do not feel sorry for him at all. Be very careful as this screams red flags, I believe your female friend about the rape. Seriously I'd get out of that situation immediately and not have any further involvement not even as a friend to him at all. You are putting yourself in danger
I had a guy today trying to MANipulate my expectations down from a relationship to sex friends today. I told him to lose my number. He now has all the control all by himself. I’m not sure why all men act the same awful way, but it gets really old. They’re like some mass produced robot at this point doing and saying the same things over and over, and none of them are special, since none of them are original at all. I think I might have a heart attack and die of shock if I ever met a decent man who isn’t an insecure, control freak.
Amen I'm with you on this for sure. So many and same phrases I've heard.... Projection from hell. It's abuse. Emotional blackmail. But never really opening up to you while demanding it all. There is a song called 'Done'. Also when you decently set your boundary z explain why you feel hurt they will break you down. They have problems but will make it yours. Some of these types would upset me until I would hyperventilate with physical heart aches and whole day ruined. No more of that for me. Just kindness, respect and warmth. They also have a problem if you call them out on their manipulation. They attack agressively, verbally. Then play victim that you are hurting them. Turning tables, gaslightmg. All the BS.
at first, I feel around him and believe him. but now I am over it cause I know he wants to control me he doesn't even care about my feelings. shout from the Philippines Alex .this angel
Yes, the control bit, I get that totally. He would leave me feeling so confused, he was all I could think about and he acted as if he didn’t care. Then he’d pop up and make it like he was doing me some kind of favour for ‘taking me back’
My weakness has been him and getting into that state of being so sorry, so sad for him and all his trauma. So that he's used that against me and has taken taken taken. Two years and I'm absolutely exhausted to the point of deep depression. All my fault of course. I think I've already lost him anyway because I don't think he'll fight for me. So be it. 💔💔
I needed this video because a guy at work used every body language and flirting tactics there is to get me interested and once I reciprocated and started liking him back I found out he has a girlfriend for months (that no one knew of). He also threw her under the bus saying " she came to me, it wasn't my idea " and "she was faster than you" as if falling in love is a sport..
I don’t want this relationship any more ( I’m from iowa lm fine with this types of men and I’m not chasing no man but I’m not taking this and I’m starting to voice and standing up for my self I’m walking away they don’t deserve me
I'm working on trying to keep that distance. He has been trying to control and manipulate me for a looooong time. But he's been using me, mostly - everything on HIS terms. I usually give in. Since yesterday he's been calling maybe 50 times. Non-stop because he wants me to help him with money. I have been doing that but it's enough now. He hasn't kept his promises so I'm done. He doesn't believe it of course because I've always given in. It's VERY very hard to ignore him but it's the only way.
Thank you so much for all the value you provide this has helped me so much!! ❤️😊☀️🥰I recently was manipulated by a guy so I will definitely be keeping these tips in mind the next time I see these red flags 🚩
Wow thank you for this video bc at first tory lift you up even about your person and heart or talents then step by step insults, jabs bc just like women also men can be envious and competitive in an unhealthy way. No genuine intentions but striving.
Thank you very much Alex. I just learn how to protect myself,how to love myself and to make boundaries. Your video ist best of. I was oft manipulated in name of love. Your work is great. Love your videos.
Bonjour Alex! I just bought your ''Challenge Him Technique'' this morning. I have been listening to you for over a year now and dealing with hot & cold behaviour since last October, I am fed up and want to get this relationship on the move with a man I work with. I have never put labels on people's behaviour, but I just discovered that this person is a dismissive-avoidant after watching a lecture given by a psychologist. I hope this course works on people like this too? Merci et bonne journée Alex du Québec!
@@bessk8847 I think your right he used to send love songs tells me I'm beautiful but when another woman on messenger came along we both knew they were on and off with in mins of each other and he said it's in my head she TD me she doesn't know him yet he showed me the text she knew him very well and all the songs stopped and he's out every weekend .but argues with me then come Monday he want to talk but short sentences xxx
I have learn so much from.your video And it is my pleasure learning about manipulation of the man Thank so much I live in Albania but i consider you the best friend GOD BLESS YOU
it happened to me some time ago and it was completely new and painfil...at the start I was soooo confused and then dignity mafe me step away...4 months after sutil messages to get sex from his part, and smooth rejections from my side made him realize I was not up for that and he changed the way to aproach, breakfast dates and daylight activities...after that he became super consistent and respectful...but cost me some tears cause i wanted to be with him but had to remain away for a while. your videos are great Alex...thx! ♥️
Good for you, I couldnt endure it I just told I wont anymore, because im not happy, cuz I know he dont want serious relship. So its 2 Months no contact of Setting and end to a situationship and nothing changed. He never changed, or made efforts. Only was very active for sex, anything else very blocking. I hope one day I will not even understand Why I liked him, because he did make me fall hard with his tricks. Still recovering from this alluring tricks.
It doesn't matter what his motive is, if his actions are selfish and disrespectful, he's hurting you. It's up to you to not let someone continue to hurt you.
Yes after 4 days he said marry me , and he disappeared , he never texted me , and the problem he is 39 years old. 😞 he tried hard to make me attracted to him
Knock down the walls and get to the point by telling them DONT TALK ABOUT IT BE ABOUT IT! You could also refer them to a old song that says SHOW AND TELL IS JUST A GAME I PLAY WHEN I WANNA SAY I LOVE YOU!🤔
When guys try to make you feel bad or sad for them, run!
Am glad I ran away from a 5 year relationship that was so manipulative. Once I ended it, I felt something leaving my body😩 I felt free.
Yep, that's grooming a prospect
I think you are way too involved in the drama already. Detach asap
Correct💯👏🏽
@@sylviasass501 get as far away from him as you possibly can and do not feel sorry for him at all. Be very careful as this screams red flags, I believe your female friend about the rape. Seriously I'd get out of that situation immediately and not have any further involvement not even as a friend to him at all. You are putting yourself in danger
I had a guy today trying to MANipulate my expectations down from a relationship to sex friends today. I told him to lose my number. He now has all the control all by himself. I’m not sure why all men act the same awful way, but it gets really old. They’re like some mass produced robot at this point doing and saying the same things over and over, and none of them are special, since none of them are original at all. I think I might have a heart attack and die of shock if I ever met a decent man who isn’t an insecure, control freak.
Amen I'm with you on this for sure. So many and same phrases I've heard.... Projection from hell. It's abuse. Emotional blackmail.
But never really opening up to you while demanding it all.
There is a song called 'Done'.
Also when you decently set your boundary z explain why you feel hurt they will break you down.
They have problems but will make it yours.
Some of these types would upset me until I would hyperventilate with physical heart aches and whole day ruined. No more of that for me. Just kindness, respect and warmth.
They also have a problem if you call them out on their manipulation.
They attack agressively, verbally.
Then play victim that you are hurting them. Turning tables, gaslightmg. All the BS.
True all men are obsessed with control
rampant porn ruined real love
Don't give up Donna. There are good guys out there.
same. same here..
The best way to win in playing the game of control....is not to play
We'll win 100%
True, be bored, turned off and disappointed by the player behaviour.
Stay strong and on a pedestal. Nobody deserves to be manipulated in any way. Thank you Alex for your words!
Yeah thou
Yes and men who tend to say 'don't put a woman on a pedestal' are dangerous types.
Big ego's and macho.
at first, I feel around him and believe him. but now I am over it cause I know he wants to control me he doesn't even care about my feelings. shout from the Philippines Alex .this angel
Actions speak not their words
Challenge!
Confuse... Control.. Beautiful words..
Be distant!
Thank you so much for watching!
He’s telling the truth!!! This guy I dated did it to me. Thank you. I’m leaving.
Me too!
Same to me
3:48 be distant and pull away if manipulating you with *confusion/hot&cold* 4:25 *selling a dream* with words = future faking
Yes, the control bit, I get that totally. He would leave me feeling so confused, he was all I could think about and he acted as if he didn’t care. Then he’d pop up and make it like he was doing me some kind of favour for ‘taking me back’
That's Narcissist' cycle of abuse
Alex you are AMAZING.
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate you!
Thanks
They are looking to CONTROL ❤️🤦🏽♀️
Confused
Control
Manipulate w words
Thank you very much for giving advice you are excellent 😊
Thank you so much for watching! I truly appreciate it!
You’re saving many hearts from being broken Alex! ❤
Thank you so much for watching!
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I love you Alex, you are such a great teacher and a savior for us women. I will always watch you.
My weakness has been him and getting into that state of being so sorry, so sad for him and all his trauma. So that he's used that against me and has taken taken taken. Two years and I'm absolutely exhausted to the point of deep depression. All my fault of course. I think I've already lost him anyway because I don't think he'll fight for me. So be it. 💔💔
Ty Good advice
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate you!
Distance yourself
Be emotionally strong,
yes!
am currently going through this and i almost commited suscide twice this year
I'm truly sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. Your life holds immense value, and I want to encourage you to reach out for help❤️
I am talking to a guy that has done all these things to me. He is also French. Thank you for teaching me how to receive love.
I protect myself simply not playing their, you that makes me the winner smile
I needed this video because a guy at work used every body language and flirting tactics there is to get me interested and once I reciprocated and started liking him back I found out he has a girlfriend for months (that no one knew of). He also threw her under the bus saying " she came to me, it wasn't my idea " and "she was faster than you" as if falling in love is a sport..
Same
Players are not prospects. Sorry he did that. 😥 You'll see it from a mile away now. Boundaries & Sincerity...
Confidence
Thank you so much for watching!
I don’t want this relationship any more ( I’m from iowa lm fine with this types of men and I’m not chasing no man but I’m not taking this and I’m starting to voice and standing up for my self I’m walking away they don’t deserve me
I'm working on trying to keep that distance. He has been trying to control and manipulate me for a looooong time. But he's been using me, mostly - everything on HIS terms. I usually give in. Since yesterday he's been calling maybe 50 times. Non-stop because he wants me to help him with money. I have been doing that but it's enough now. He hasn't kept his promises so I'm done. He doesn't believe it of course because I've always given in. It's VERY very hard to ignore him but it's the only way.
I hope you are not romance scamed
I needed to hear this video. CONTROL is more important than love to men
Cause they’re insecure and can’t trust someone will love them for them they don’t even love themselves.
That’s so true thank you for the advice I met a lot of guys doing like that 😔
If my husband is manupliated me i back off don't speak and keep way , he maybe confuse himself not play control game😊
Thanks for watching! I appreciate you!
Thank you so much for all the value you provide this has helped me so much!! ❤️😊☀️🥰I recently was manipulated by a guy so I will definitely be keeping these tips in mind the next time I see these red flags 🚩
Alex this was soooo good! Exactly what I needed to hear. Comes on so strong w words then completely opposite
Gray rock .
Show no emotion 😊
If they just be plain ignored. There wouldn't be no time for confusion.
Wow thank you for this video bc at first tory lift you up even about your person and heart or talents then step by step insults, jabs bc just like women also men can be envious and competitive in an unhealthy way.
No genuine intentions but striving.
Some of them.are just being themselves and it might seem intentional.
With some men yes, this is true.
Don't be available
This it’s why you don’t pledge exclusivity right away and take your time.
Confusion, that leads to control.
My husband is so much rude behaviour with me
I'm so sorry to hear about this! How long has this been going on for?
Thank you so much.i will apply this in my next relationship.much love from Africa,Kenya🇰🇪
Thank you very much Alex. I just learn how to protect myself,how to love myself and to make boundaries. Your video ist best of. I was oft manipulated in name of love. Your work is great. Love your videos.
Thanks Alex . This video answers a lot of my questions . Now , I just need to apply it.
Thank you so much for watching! I'm always happy to help!
They look for the Chase x
This is probably my favourite of your videos. Excellent content in this one, Alex. ❤
I agree, straight to the point
Bonjour Alex! I just bought your ''Challenge Him Technique'' this morning. I have been listening to you for over a year now and dealing with hot & cold behaviour since last October, I am fed up and want to get this relationship on the move with a man I work with. I have never put labels on people's behaviour, but I just discovered that this person is a dismissive-avoidant after watching a lecture given by a psychologist. I hope this course works on people like this too? Merci et bonne journée Alex du Québec!
Fav relationship coach...cute accent ,xpression n nose. Hilarious
Hi Alex .Thanks so much for your video
Thank you so much for your wisdome.I am waching your video every 8:24
Thank you so much he's doing this to me and worse when we argue he turns it on me when it's his fault and makes me feel so bad
Hes a narcissist ,probably a player 🏃♀️🏃♀️
@@bessk8847 I think your right he used to send love songs tells me I'm beautiful but when another woman on messenger came along we both knew they were on and off with in mins of each other and he said it's in my head she TD me she doesn't know him yet he showed me the text she knew him very well and all the songs stopped and he's out every weekend .but argues with me then come Monday he want to talk but short sentences xxx
My ex husband had all these traits before I knew what I was dealing with
C for challenge
Thank you;ladies challenge them.thats the answer I've been searching for
Thank you so much Alex 🙏🙏
This video has healed my heart,...thank you 🌹
Be a challenge
Chasing
We all have The very BEST Teacher 😘👍
Thank you for sharing, is my bf such a manipulating and ignoring me now
Thank you always Alex🍀🍀🍀👊
I have learn so much from.your video
And it is my pleasure learning about manipulation of the man
Thank so much
I live in Albania but i consider you the best friend
GOD BLESS YOU
Hi Alex 👋 I am from Texas. Wow! This is so true!
Challenge
CONTROL ‼️
Amazing video!
Another amazing topic 😍
Thank u 🙏🏼
Yes I have experienced this
Love your Energy❤
Thank you Alex!
I am always watching here from Philippines 💗
I’m shook
it happened to me some time ago and it was completely new and painfil...at the start I was soooo confused and then dignity mafe me step away...4 months after sutil messages to get sex from his part, and smooth rejections from my side made him realize I was not up for that and he changed the way to aproach, breakfast dates and daylight activities...after that he became super consistent and respectful...but cost me some tears cause i wanted to be with him but had to remain away for a while. your videos are great Alex...thx! ♥️
Hi Esmeralda,
I know how difficult this can be to deal with! You are strong and I know you can get through this. I'm here for you!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert You are the sweetest...🥰
Good for you, I couldnt endure it I just told I wont anymore, because im not happy, cuz I know he dont want serious relship. So its 2 Months no contact of Setting and end to a situationship and nothing changed. He never changed, or made efforts. Only was very active for sex, anything else very blocking. I hope one day I will not even understand Why I liked him, because he did make me fall hard with his tricks. Still recovering from this alluring tricks.
Alex you are amaizing 🤩🤩🤩 you should write a book for us🤩🤩 if i had more money i will take session with you. Thnks for the super advices 😊
You’re amazing thank you
You're the Best!
Thx Alex!
Thank you Alex be blessed 🙌 I always learn alot 🙏 am in this situation right now😢😢 LDR 🙆♀️I will apply this Tips 😊
very informative
A man's silent treatment can mean he is not interested or he is manipulating. How can I tell the difference? Both ways he's not talking. Thank you.
If he’s manipulating you, he’s not interested in you as a human being-only as a human doing and what he can get out of you. They’re the same thing.
Either way He's not communicating
It doesn't matter what his motive is, if his actions are selfish and disrespectful, he's hurting you. It's up to you to not let someone continue to hurt you.
Excellent advice, Alex!
True with relation his 3yrs but many hiding things to much hurt, coz i ask him.. ur fighting
Distance
C for control
Thanks you Alex
Yes after 4 days he said marry me , and he disappeared , he never texted me , and the problem he is 39 years old. 😞 he tried hard to make me attracted to him
Haha I enjoy this video ❤ I would literally smash the like button for you Alex 🤗
Thank you Alex for the advice
Thank u alex u hav done alot to me
Thanks Alex. Very helpful. Greetings from Canada
Control!
Knock down the walls and get to the point by telling them DONT TALK ABOUT IT BE ABOUT IT! You could also refer them to a old song that says SHOW AND TELL IS JUST A GAME I PLAY WHEN I WANNA SAY I LOVE YOU!🤔
Hi there
I can't make a guy genuine if he's manipulative and if I'd try that I would be manipulative myself 🤔
C is to confuse
Thanks Alex for this great advice..
thanks fore advice
Thank you
Confident ❤
I really enjoy this video l live in France
I would like to have your opinion about my relationship problem 😔