When Someone You Love Dies,There Is No Such Thing as Moving On | Kelley Lynn | TEDxAdelphiUniversity
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- Her proudest accomplishment continues to be when she was blocked on Twitter by President Donald Trump. Lynn has a B.F.A. in Theatre from Adelphi University, where she went on to teach courses in acting and stand-up comedy for the past 16 years. You can see more of her work at ripthelifeiknew.com.
Stand-up comedian, actor and writer Kelley Lynn has performed in the same lineups with Amy Schumer, Jim Gaffigan and Elayne Boosler. Lynn is probably best known for her comedy videos on TH-cam; her most recent video, “I’ve McFallen,” has been viewed over 50 million times worldwide. She’s also known for her scathingly funny TV reviews of shows like “The Bachelor” and “Dancing with the Stars.” The latter show’s host, Tom Bergeron, tweeted that Lynn was “witty and wonderfully snarky.”
Lynn is also a regular presenter at the “Soaring Spirits International” annual events called “Camp Widow,” a three-day conference held in the U.S. and Canada for widowed men and women. She is currently writing her first book, My Husband Is Not a Rainbow: The Brutally Awful, Hilarious Truth About Life, Love, Grief, and Loss, with a tentative release date of winter 2017. Her proudest accomplishment continues to be when she was blocked on Twitter by President Donald Trump. Lynn has a B.F.A. in Theatre from Adelphi University, where she went on to teach courses in acting and stand-up comedy for the past 16 years. You can see more of her work at ripthelifeiknew.com.
Follow Kelley at @kelleyiskelley
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
The truth is- you will NEVERRRRR everrr know how it feels until it happens to you .
اوسامة محمد you got this man, you dont have to move on but give it time. and never forget about her she lives on inside you
@@sadkidan4120 very wise words brother, this was very comforting even for me.
Agree
Spot on x
This is so correct 😔
When someone you love dies, a part of you dies with them.
Or all of you minus a part!!!
Exactly the same feeling 😪
@@jebsmoak925 when someone dies it only mean that their spiritual body will always be with u. The human body is gone.
Yes
Very true.
@@rebeccagutierrez1960 I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
I pray for everyone watching this video because I think we're all watching this for a reason. Don't ever let someone tell you not to talk about your past loved ones or to stop mourning them. I honor the people I've lost every day and that is the only thing that makes me happy and keeps me going. I will keep doing it no matter what happens or who says anything and you all should continue doing the same as long as it brings you some kind of peace.
I’ll get to reunite with daddy in heaven??
Well said. I'm here because one of my best friends passed away from cancer last March. I didn't get to tell him "happy Easter" this year. I miss him everyday.
Going through grief right now. My husband has a terminal brain tumor and what is the saddest thing we are all just waiting and worried about what's going to happen today.
thank you! Im glad my video resontated for you and Im happy you will keep talking about the people you have lost to death. Its so important.
it's fine to talk about them positive and negative. Grief is real face it.
I lost my loving mother 3 days before Christmas. She passed away peacefully in hospice from end stage Parkinson's, dementia, and a stroke that paralyzed the left side of her body. I was by her side until her last breath. I miss my mom so much.
I lost my amazing mother as well , on the 31st of October from liver cancer, it was the most traumatizing experience and the saddest thing to have happened to me
I lost my mom the day after Christmas. She was paralysed for the past 20 years and was suffering from interstitial lung disease. She was the kindest and the most beautiful woman. My dad didn't treat her right or spoke to her for the last one year. She suffered a lot. I feel you totally. Stay strong ❤️
I lost my beloved dad on October 11, 2022 and I miss him so much.
SO VERY SORRY MY CONDOLENCES, MAY I ASK FOR YOUR MUMS NAME, SO I MAY PRAY FOR HER SPIRIT. GOD BLESS YOU.
The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory.
Wow, very powerful comment.
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Your so right 😪
When your shared memories together and now they're just yours
Not a better way to put feelings to word . I just found my wife dead on april 21 and she was my world she gave me The best times of my life. She was only 38 and we have 2 girls 9 and 10 and all we have are memories that im terrified that they will fade
Have anyone else noticed that you don't fear death after you loose your loved ones 💔 you just wish you also die to be with them 😥 I miss you mum 😥😥😥
Yes it's how i feel now after losing my boyfriend a month ago.
If I died today to be with my pet, my best friend who got me through everything, i wouldnt be angry
I lost someone precious to me 2 days ago on my birthday.... part of me honestly just wants to die too
this is exactly how i feel i just lost my mum to covid a month ago:(
I am alot older than you and am going through same. Please know you are not alone. Hugs
There absolutely isn’t a thing as forgetting and letting go of grief. I will never be okay.
You're right. There is no such thing as forgetting or letting go, but you WILL be okay someday.
Just a different okay. A new okay @kgoodridge1
@@kgoodridge1 PERFECTLY SAID..
@@rossmith3379 A new 'normal'.
How I feel over 8 years now after I lost my mom. Never the same.
There is no process of grief, every process has an end, but grief is for life and is there to stay. You don't move on from grief you move forward with it. Somedays you are doing good, but somedays even in the middle of your daily life chores the thought of the person you lost hits you and you start missing the person, you miss the person so much that it's physically painful.
I still cry for my mother 8 years after her death. The grief never goes away. You just learn to cope.
true'
So true
I lost the love of my love lately...
it's very painful
no matter how hard you are moving on, the pain will never go away...
A woman who lost her child told me more than 30 years after it happened. You never get over it, you just deal with it differently.
I hate when people say move on, the pain of the death of a loved one leaves a permanent void in one's soul.
What I've learned from the loss of my daughter is that there is no moving but moving WITH grief.
My friend died to suicide, my mum told my to get over it. Now all I feel is grief and loneliness. Like no one cares if I just disappear
@@JoelManrique i lost my daughter 11/10/2019 ..
@@helenasmalls7075 so sorry to hear!! How old was she?? I'm been grieving for the last 16 months and it's been a feeling that I wish no other parents would ever feel...hang tight Helena and take it one day at time...let's talk about it because for me that helped and that's one reason why I created my TH-cam Channel in memory of my sweet sweet daughter Neveah.
@@JoelManrique she was 39 ...leukemia lymphoma took her in 2months she left me with a 7month old granddaughter ehich she was born on mother's day of this year....
“You can’t move on from love. Love is the only thing that never dies”
Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp +2349157547182 I have a surprise for you God bless
Smart.
@@rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 Amen
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe due to the covid 19 pandemic?
This is true and I've seen only damaged ppl think love is loyalty and loyalty means love when it's two completely different things.
It's been over three years and I still move around like a lost child. The loneliness, the pain, that feeling of despair... it's undescribable.
Lost my mum last month. Have no idea how I'm going to live without her.
@@jennim282 ❤️❤️
@jennim282 my mom died in late February this year and I just can't believe it
Grief for a loved one is the loneliest place you can be. Or so I've found. I lost my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly and unexpectedly in February this year. 2/20/22. The next day I found my engagement ring in his room. I had lost my dad 3 months prior and my dog of 17 years only a month before. This has been the loneliest 10 months of my life. I will never get over him and moving on without him is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. I needed to hear this speech. I'm working on myself but it is a lonely and sad existence. Thank you for these understanding and heartfelt words.
I'm sorry about your loss. I don't think moving on is the correct term. But just continuing on before we meet them again.
I just lost my dog of 17 years as well a few days ago. I found some comfort in building an altar for them and painting them. Maybe it could help feel like your honoring them by doing as well?
Much love
I know what it’s like so I do feel for you truly. I haven’t had so much losses in such a short time but I also lost my boyfriend to the war on October 28, 2022 and then found an engagement ring with the “I love you” words engraved.
I have listened to this talk many times since his death and found it’s very comforting.
Sending you much love, Kathy.
Sorry for your loss. Same situation I am in. John gone since 2020 died quickly from cancer. Together 21 years. So lonely without him. God bless you. I will pray for you. 🙏♥️
Oh my dear, you really have lived my worst nightmare. I am so sad for you, but having been there myself i like many others can only say it will get better for you but will take a lot of time slowly slowly.
Be good to yourself, buy yourself something every week,force yourself to go somewhere nice, find a new hobby or give more attention to an old one and at first it will be difficult but there is an old saying of time heals and it really does, i know because i have lived it too, pop down to your nearest homeless dog shelter too, its amazing the work they do and you may find a new 4 legged friend who hasn't anyone that cares xxxx
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I learned some years back, that platitudes and "It will be OK!" is not OK. I hope the best for you.
“The fear of forgetting the sound of their voice.” That hit hard. It’s been three years and I’m still adjusting to life without them in it.
My father is home on hospice. I know he doesn't have long, and I cherish every moment. I have a video saved of him telling me he loves me... And I know I will listen to it multiple times every day, im thankful to have that.
Yes!! Save videos, voicemails!
Me too
I've never forgotten the voice or face of anyone I lost. That's a myth
I lost my special person on this 1 st october ,😭
My mom passed away yesterday. The depth of grief cuts so deep. I think it’s a blessing to love someone this tremendously and to grieve likely for the rest of my life. I don’t expect it to get better and maybe that is okay.
Loosing a mother is a lot of pain, I lost mine last month June 14. I know it’s not easy but with time you will get over it! Remember she will always want you to be happy wherever she is now. Sending you love and hugs 🫂 ❤
im pretty sure i lost my dad the same day u lost your mom. He was only 49
@@markdashark3094 I’m so sorry about, my mom died 1week after celebrating her 51 years old birthday, I almost lost my mind but I’m getting better now, I miss her so much..
@@markdashark3094 so sorry about yours dude, I hope you’re doing good now.
My dad just died today. I feel so lost
Losing my husband is the hardest thing i have ever been through. Its been 1 1/2 months and its harder now that at first. Thank you, everyone for sharing, i know i am not alone.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
“You can’t move on from Love. Love is the only thing that never dies.”
I’m bawling.
So so true there isn't a person on earth that can speak to me with worthless words to make me feel any better lost a daughter and son the hurt the longing is there day and night
@Brenda Drumm
Heaven is real. Thanks to Jesus we all go. I don’t say these things for any other reason than that they are facts I’ve come to accept.
@@jesusdiscipledon1499 I could write a book my middle son was a handful in and out of eight of dif prisons over twenty odd yrs ago petty what goes. On. today he got down down on the rd in a coma the
Me to my friend...
I just lost my HEART on the 18th of September 2020 17 days ago!!! I am lost. I am grieving and mourning oh the pain. Friend to friend I am not moving on.
@Sam Sung
Your heart isn’t lost. The lowest lows exist to define the highest highs. You can’t feel the best you’ve ever felt without feeling the worst you’ve ever felt. At least, once in a while.
You can move on from a breakup and find someone better, but you can never move on from a death of a loved one. They can never be replaced.
Amen Preach, I'm listening.
Facts
What’s a better solution?
Absolutely true.
Please don't ever presume to invalidate someone's pain. You could not POSSIBLY know how much something hurts a different person unless you are in their skin.
I lost my mom today, on march 15th. She passed away due to liver cancer. She was only 56 years old and i am 22. I was her only child. It’s been really hard, but this video has helped me a lot, thank you so much ❤
As an only child please know you aren't alone. I think we tend to think we are so alone. I dont even know you but I am here. Take your grief 1 minute at a time. Sending all my love.
I am so sorry, that is so difficult. I am sending you love and prayers.
I am truly so so sorry for your loss ❤
So sorry ❤ please vent if you need to
I hope you are ok at times. I cannot imagine the pain. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
A quote, not sure who said it, "People die twice. First there is the physical dying of your body, second is the last time that your name is spoken aloud. " We can't change the first, but the second death....we can change. Keep that loved one in your thoughts, speak their name, don't be afraid to tell their story. You never "move on" you carry on. The greatest gift you can give your loved on is the gift of never forgetting. Beautiful ted talk, given in a beautiful way. Thank you
Came here to find comfort from grief. Woke up in the middle of the night, missing my dad terribly. He just left 6 days ago.
I too lost my dad 3 days ago. Came here to find someone who can understand my pain. I feel lonely n scared. I'm not the same person anymore. My prayers with u and ur family. Take care
So sorry :( still miss my dad a year later. Honor him everyday
I cant imagine ur pain.... just know you guys are fighters! Tho we don't know each other, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! Keep fighting, we love you....💜
I'm also here to seek some comfort
@@mohfirepilipili just hang on, we r on same boat. Night is always dark before dawn.
the worst thing you can do to a person who is grieving, is to ask them to change the subject to something less depressing... bring them a cooked meal, instead, sit with them, and allow them to talk about their loved one and or cry about them, openly, without stopping them to talk about something else... Be there to listen, show interest, and understand.
absolutely agree, ive recently lost my young daughter, and people dont want to hear, they keep changing the subject......for my own good they say. I just want them to sit there and let me talk, scream and cry, but they dont
@@retrfdg hope you can get through it and I'm just proud of you for being here. Talking about it.
@@retrfdg I agree 100%. I recently lost my Mom and people asks me to change the subject and stop crying for her.
@@retrfdg - I got a huge lump in my throat reading your post. Keep pressing forward. Let me know your daughters name and tell me what ever comes to your mind first: what is the funniest memory you have of the two of you laughing together. 😇
@@tinyhoney12 my daughter's name is Amii. She was beautiful, inside and out. She lost her life due to neglect from NHS. I cannot move on from the day i came home and found her. Yes there are many happy memories, we laughed and got up to mischief together a lot, but Im too low, too sad to go there. Just cant process anything
My best friend died 6 weeks ago, and I am completely devastated. We were best friends for 44 years. The grief washes over me in waves, I think this will haunt me forever. My heart breaks for everyone else who has felt this pain.
My Best friend died 13 days back, i never realised i was so emotionally attached to him, dont know how i came over here searching for answers, something has died inside, i am not able to get over it, dont know if i would get over it or not
@@AmanRaj-bf9yv I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don't. People keep telling me as time goes by it gets better but for me it's the opposite, the more time goes by the more I miss him. It really hurts. I wish I knew the answer to healing. I wish you peace.
Talking about your loved one and being able to sit in your grief is healthy. No one ever knows how long it will take to be able to deal with the loss of a loved one. There are so many stages of grief and they can come in your heart at any moment. For me, what we do with our grief honors our loved one that has passed on. I heal when I get to hold people up as they loose loved ones. Sitting with people in their grief is humbling and full of the people for whom I’ve lost. Extending my love for others, gives the ones that have passed on their legacy even when they are not here anymore. They now live through me. Blessings to all of you.
I understand my best friend, sister, one of the greatest loves of my life passed almost 6 months ago. We were besties for 49 years. Introduced her to her husband, We were two peas in a pod always together. I pray, I cry, I talk to her. Some days are better than others. I tell her everything to this day. Love never fades.
@Linda Collins I talk to my friend too, I thought maybe I was weird or something, but I find it helps me feel close to him. It's all I have left. I am so sorry for your loss, may memories of your loved one bring you comfort.
The amount of grief is in direct proportion to the amount of love. 💜
That might sound nice but there can also be a lot of grief for a person with whom there are many missed opportunities, with a person that should have been loved or loving… but wasn’t. The bereavement of people who had cold parents/spouses/relatives etc. is real.
My mama passed away 3 weeks ago, one moment she was having a nap next door half an hour or so later I told my daughter to go kiss her goodnight as usual, but by that time my mama was already gone. There is no pain that could ever described this. If you still have your Mama cherish them, there is no one on this earth like your mama. Without them your world is completely changed forever. Rest in peace my queen 💗
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JANINE, I AM SENDING YOU A BIG HUG. I'M SO SO SORRY FOR THE PASSING OF YOUR MAMA. I SHALL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS HONEY. I WILL ASK OUR LORD TO SEND EXTRA ANGELS TO CARRY YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THE PAIN YOU ARE IN. I LOST MY DADDY/PAPEE . HE STAYED TO SPEND MY BIRTHDAY WITH ME FOR THE LAST TIME AND PASSED THE NEXT DAY. I TOO, CALL MY MOTHER MAMA. SHE IS MY BESTEST LOVING FRIEND AND HONESTLY I FEAR THE DAY JESUS COMES DOWN AND LOOKS AT HER AND TAKES HER BREATH AWAY. I HAD AN AWAKENING ONE DAY DOING BUSINESS IN REGARDS TO DADDY/PAPEE. THIS YOUNG LADY SAID TO ME, YOU'RE VERY LUCKY...IVE NEVER BEEN A DADDY'S GIRL...IM LUCKY IF I SEE HIM ON HOLIDAYS. I FELT SO SAD FOR HER BUT I REALIZED GOD LOANED ME THE BEST. THAT REALLY MADE ME REALIZE I HAD BEEN BLESSED, AS YOU HAVE BEEN. IT HURTS SO BAD BECAUSE THEY GAVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS. CONTACT ME IF YOU'D LIKE. SENT WITH LOVE AND HUGS 💜
My mom passed away 5 years ago and I still am clueless how to deal with it
@@nainaarora1885 HONEY THE HEARTACHE NEVER GOES AWAY EVER...U JUST LEARN TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY I'M TOLD BY MANY. I'M TRULY SORRY HONEY. IT'S BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALL YOUR LIFE 💕 I STILL CRY ....AND MISS DADDY EVERYDAY. I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL BIG TIME. HE WAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MAN. YOU AND I WERE BLESSED. GOD BLESS YOU..MAY HE SURRPUND YOU WITH ANGELS TO CARRY YOU. REMEMBER SHE IS WITH YOU ALWAYS. WE WILL NEVER DEAL WITH IT...SO WE REMEMBER OUR PARENTS LOVE AND MEMORIES.....AND KEEP THEM ALIVE. HUGS AND LOVE 💔
My Auntie Bonnie who was everything to me passed I'm her sleep, 3 years later I'm still so lost without her the pain never goes away I cry everyday, I can't move on without her. I'm so sorry for your loss I know your pain, if anything I want you to know that your not alone love..
You know what also hurts?
When your loved one dies even after trying your best to prevent their death and them dying exactly the way you feared them to.
😢
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
That's what I'm dealing with now. Mine passed away July 1st from exactly what I was afraid of.. I'm glad I still have our daughter though she'll be 14 in December & reminds me of him so much 🤍
Souls have their mission and that includes how and when they take their exit. If you can talk to loved ones who passed they would probably scold you for thinking you could have prevented how they passed. People live their lives to get experience for the soul and when that is accomplished they leave, never mind their earthly connections that they leave behind. Those who are left behind for them there is a lesson also, so let go and focus on how you live going forward - your loved ones will always be a part of you now....so do not be stuck in the period of their death...but remember your soul also has a mission and being in their life was part of that...you are still here...why?!
@@jillsinanan6777 would she really do that
Beforr my grandma died I could hear how she wished she could live longer to see us grow and accomplish our dreams.
she wanted to live but she had no choice.
It’s been 40 years since my mom died and I am sitting crying because I miss her badly!!I want to cuddle with mom, hear her tell me how proud she is of me. I miss the smell of her perfume. She always had home made cookies for me and my brothers for after school. The pain never goes away. I love you mom and you will always be in my heart forever. The pain atm is pretty unbearable. I just want my mom back!
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I understand you because I am going through the same. I will miss my mum until the day that I die. I can't help it and there's nothing wrong with it.
@David James 19 years since my husband died, it was also totally unexpected. I was 37, he was 47. It is so hard.
I lost my mom on September 24th 2021 I lost her at 22 years of age I am 23 now and it is still the hardest battle I’ve ever faced. I miss her dearly… I wish it would get easier but no one understands. I feel so numb inside
@@noahahmed8247 I am very sorry. Deal with it how you want to. Don’t listen to anyone else.
A comment I read on another video about death was,
“Grief is love with nowhere to go.”
I lost my partner of 20 years two years ago.
I stopped talking to my friends about him after a friend told me it had been two years and that I should be over it.
So sad how people can be so insensitive! So sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry! Grief has no time. Some days we are better some days it hits us hard. I’m so sorry for your loss and your not alone.
If you're watching this, I love you and you're not alone. ❤️
Thank you ole the same to you
SAME HERE
Thank you. Always keep safe Ole..
Thank you I Iove you too
Thank you so much.
My grandma died last year. Today I cried so much that I almost threw up. No one understands why I still cry about her sometimes. I really needed this video
siobhan mckee My grandma died 12 years ago and I still miss her terribly. If you love someone very much, I think it’s normal to be sad. I feel sorry for your loss ❤️
...me too...😢😤😕
@@Sara2016a we can go Jesus for our sadness, he can help. He said happy are those that mourn for they will be comforted. We don't have to be sad all the time over a loss.
Shelly Blanchard Yes, I pray many times and I understand, we don’t have to be sad all the time. That’s true. It’s only sometimes when I have some memories. I know we must accept God’s choice. We have to move forward no matter what.
I love my grandma so much she raised me as my parents are almost always busy with work and don’t really spend time with me. If she died I would fall apart and wouldn’t know what to do.
Just lost both of my parents within the last 14 months. Dad died suddenly of a massive stroke and Mom was devastated without him. I gave up a year of my life to take care of Mom until she passed from lung cancer almost exactly a year after Dad left her. That year was very hard but I am so glad I gave her that gift. She gave up so much to give me life when she was only 17, back in 1963 that was very hard. I am so grateful we had a year to spend together and really reconnect. I love you Mom, and I will tell your story. Thank you dear lady for this talk, I really needed this. Love and peace to all who have lost loved ones, you are strength and a voice for those who need it.
I'm very sorry about your loss, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, how have you been doing ?
I'm sorry you've lost your Mum and Dad 😢 God bless you and I pray you will be OK 🙏❤️
When I lost my wonderful husband, I learned many things. The most important one? You need to make room in yourself ~ your brain or your heart, or both, for your new, and constantly evolving grief. I’ve tried locking grief up, because it’s so bothersome. It appears at the worst times, when you least expect it, and is like a stubborn child it WILL have its say. In the beginning, you wonder how to control this monster, because after all you have a life to finish living. I controlled it by giving it 30 minutes a day. I choose the time, and I timed its allotment. When 30 minutes was up, so was grief’s hold on my day. Gradually, like a satisfied child, the grief quieted, and went into dormancy. It will rise up, during a drive, and music coming on the radio, at movies, filled with emotion, and with memories; but I’d be lying if I told you it ever disappears, because it doesn’t. It’s like a wound with a scab, it’ll get smaller over time, but it will leave a scar to remind you it was there. We each find our way through those dark days, and gradually you begin to live again. My husband gave me the very best gift. A life with nothing left unsaid, and with no regrets. He always told me “we are not promised tomorrow, so we have to live for today”. Good luck to all going through it. You are not alone, as many have been there before you. ❤️
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, how have you been doing ?
the pain is like something inside of you has died , but the sad part is you have to live.
So well said 💔💔💔
Don't be such a dummy you can move on and you will
Exactly, and its so hard 😪
I feel the same way. We have no choice. We HAVE to go on and live because others love us. My mom died of covid February 2021. I understand and accept that God, in His sovereignty, allowed this to happen, but I can't find joy in being here. All the positive things are of no eternal value and the negative hurts so it seems to me that it's better to be with the Lord and my mother. I won't hurt myself because I love my family but I would much rather be with my mom. I have also found that my pain is my connection to my mother. Memories, are just that ...memories. The only thing that is a REAL experience is the pain I feel of losing her. I am hanging on to that pain because that is all I have that is truly a connection to her. I would gladly trade that pain for a nightly dream of her.. the kind that feel SO REAL. The kind where you could feel the pressure of her touch! But I have only had one of those. Of if I had "unusual" experiences where I just KNOW that it's her. As of now, my pain is my comfort and I will never "move on".
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
My husband died 10 years ago. I still share funny stories about him. That's how he stays alive.
My boyfriend was the only one who I could share the funny stories with, Now the loneliness is even stronger whenever I see one. Im sorry for your loss.
Me too. My husband died six years ago.
@@amyzhang2082 JCPenney
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Also helps me to think of good moments me and my son had even though we battled
Four weeks ago I very suddenly lost my mom. I'm in my early twenties, she was in her sixties. She died 5 weeks after receiving an extremely rare cancer diagnosis (stage IV). I graduated from grad school in June, she was gonna retire in September. We were gonna travel the world for a year. We've always been close. I'm not sure how I'm doing. I feel numb. Kelley is right, moving on does not exist.
You'll get to travel to places your Mum wanted to see. What were the places she looked forward to most? They can be your first stops.
I too lost my mother 2months back because of stage 4 lung cancer.. I still don't know how to come out of this tragic loss... Many regrets regarding treatment strategies I have. I am totally unaware of what to do and what not to do in this regard😢😢
I tragically lost my husband last month. He was my whole world and my best friend. There are no words to describe the pain. I don't even want to live anymore. I know I have to keep going but I don't want to live here without him. The loneliness and pain are unbearable. I think you hit the nail on the head with all you said. Especially the part about hurtful comments people make. People who say "move on" obviously never lost a spouse that they loved. There is no moving on from that.
I'm going through the same lost my husband last month..it's a pain have never felt before😔
I am so very, very sorry about losing your husband. I can’t even imagine going through that. I just found out my best friend died in her sleep. We don’t know from what yet but I’m in shock. I feel physically ill and keep having crying fits. I don’t know what I would do if I lost my husband. I know nothing anyone says will help
ease your pain but I just wanted you to know that I felt what you wrote in my heart and I hurt for you. I hope you have people you can reach out to, to talk with or even not to talk with but just to be with you. You’re in my prayers. 💕
Totally understand the not wanting to live. 3 months on from losing Catherine I still feel the pain
Been almost 11 months since my wife died. Still hope for death everyday
@@AddisonDrake I am so sorry. I know how you feel and I am just so sorry. It's the worst pain in the whole world. I wish I could make it all better for us.
Love is the only thing that never dies
Jennifer Hernandez
Nothing ever dies. All that is, is Love
I feel that
When she said that, it really hit home.
It hurts so bad.. 💔😓
Right on
Agree ❤
My mom passed away two days ago. I wasn’t even with her for the last goodbye. I talked to her a night before when I asked her to sleep properly and take care of her health and she reassured that she is taking care of herself and that I should not worry at all. Imagine my horror when I received the news the very next morning. It is excruciatingly painful. Her voice, her face, her sweet smile, I don’t want to forget anything. I will never forget her. She is going to stay forever in my heart, in my memories. The path in front of me is scary. I don’t know how I’ll survive without my mother’s advice, I don’t know who will I work hard for in the future. I just want to remember her forever. The pain is too much but I could only hope to get to meet her soon. I love you so much mumma.
I am so sorry for your loss. This is not easy but I hope it gets better.
Same here bro/sis, i can understand the pain
My sister and brother have been murdered, and i am not able to forget the memories. All the day mind is filled with thoughts, regret.. Don't know what to do 😭
Hugs Mitanshi beta 🤗 mumma is watching over you ...ok stay strong my love
My mon died on July 19th. I truly feel your pain 😞 💔💔💔 no one can replace our moms.
I always say that the one positive thing death of a loved one brings you is empathy...
You know what? I would have to say I agree with this. My dad just passed away and I do feel like I’m more empathetic toward others now.
empathy is a gift, grief is love with nowhere to go.god bless
I have certinly become more compassionate since losing my husband to death. I hope my talk helped in some way.
I am a recent widow. It’s the worst feeling EVER 💔😢
No one will truly understand unless they go through it. Grief is not something you just “get over”.
Thank you for this.
i hate it when people are so insensitive to grieving people, grieving is guttering and exhausting. I have empathy for all of you who are going through a tough time, hang in there everyone. xx
People tend to act like that because they've either gone through it multiple times, or they've never experienced it.
@@goat9295 true
Exactly. My son died 7 wks ago
@@anneosullivan5160 It really doesn’t matter if I don’t know of you, or your beloved son. What matters is that, we as humans feel a bond somehow with other people that are mourning. Why is that? Well, because millions of us have experience what you’re experiencing right now.
I want to offer my condolences to you and your family, and it comes from my heart.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
Missing my mom. Lost her a year ago. I’m with everyone who is grieving.
Lost my mom a year ago too. Miss her so very much. 🐾🙏
Mirian Ansotegi we will get by. Praying for better days. Stay safe and well Mirian.
@@mirianansotegi9590 Thank you. Your words truly mean a lot. I felt as through I was only one who had lost my mom. Everyone says I should just move on..but it really isn't possible when you lose someone so close to your ❤️
I lost my mom too, back in Sept 2018. I still feel so heartbroken and miss her so much! I try my best to cope with it but I can’t imagine my life without her..
I’m praying for you and sending you love! 💜
Thank you. Lost my Grandfather. He was everything to me. I can't bear this. I miss him sooo much. I'm with you too.
I am lost. I just lost my dad. Out of nowhere. He was my go to. My person. The fixer. The one who held everything together. The one who I went to when i needed that healing love and hug. He was here this morning, when I left for work. I was just leaving work when I got a call from my mom, that my dad had fallen while walking the dog. I thought I was rushing to a scene where he had fallen and severely twisted his ankle or broken his leg. Instead, he was taken away in an ambulance and he was in such a state, that my mom was told she could not ride along in the ambulance. She was told by first responders, that she was not allowed to ride to the hospital, with the love of her life and her best friend, while she believed he was suffering. She knew. By the time I arrived, in under 5 minutes, she was a wreck. She looked at me and said "it's really bad. Very bad." Within the time it took to drive to the location, get my mom and the dog, drop the dog off at home and speed to the hospital, I already had the feeling I would never get to speak to my father, ever again. I was right. Just as my mom had said. I don't even know where to go from here. He was my rock. The fixture of our family.
I’m from Saudi Arabia I lost my father 5 years ago everyone avoid talking about him including my friends and even my own family..
Sometimes I wanna talk but I can’t find anyone open to talk with me.. they think talking about him is not worth it and he’s gone..
Whenever I feel pain and sadness I watch this video over and over again to comfort me..
Thank you so much.
I wish I had better friends.
I will listen to you and be the friend who supports your deep love for your dad.
I’m sorry you feel that way! I lost my father 23 yrs ago and still think and talk about him daily! Don’t listen to your people. You keep talking about your dad because he was here and he mattered! Love him always.
I'm native American. Where I come, from it's completely backwards from what's taught in mainstream culture. When the baby is born we grieve that baby and everything that baby will go through, throughout its life, all the hardships and pain. When that baby grows old and dies, we rejoice and remember all the good times. Sure there are sad moments but the ones that count, are the happy moments and successful moments.
Mr. G., Your description of grieving at a baby's birth and rejoicing at the end of this life makes a lot of sense. There is so much suffering here. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🌿🌅🌃
Apparently when I was born many moons ago, my grandmother commented that we are born into a cruel world.
Wow...that is incredible; it makes so much sense! Of course Native Americans would think that way...they have deep reverence for all of nature and the life cycle living things go through. Beautiful!
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
That is a beautiful tradition. Thank you for sharing this.
I lost my wife this Month due to covid she is 6 months pregnant for our first baby, we just got married last June the pain is killing me everyday, I'm in lost 😭
I lost my love ❤ too . Be strong and don't be harsh on ur self I know this is a tough time. But i believe that u will keep them alive in ur heart and never be sad. E=mc2... Believe their energy is still their u r not alone in this fight dear 💕 my love and blessing to u. May God give u peace of heart and soul.... Love u aalllll the way from kashmir
My heart is so broken for you. I’m devastated over the sudden loss of my mother. My brother lost his wife a year ago and half an hour ago his daughter committed suicide. No knows where my brother is so he still does not know his daughter died. I’m so broken over this I don’t know what to do. My heart goes out to you and I’ll be praying for you tonight. I wish you peace.
@@susanm7887 I love u dear 💕stay strong
I really hope u find strength .... this is heartbreaking. All the love and strength to u buddy !
I am so sorry for your losses.
Absolutely....there is no moving on...true love never dies...
My husband of 27 years passed away 19 days ago from cancer and I can attest he took half of my spirit with him to the other side. I took care of him as he battled cancer for 16 months up to watching him take his last breath.
I've loss many family members from my father to grandmother, but the level of grief I'm experiencing is simply devastating. I've seen many people lose their spouses but I had no idea until now how crushing the grief actually is.
"Love is the only thing that never dies"
"There is no such thing as moving on"
So true
I Lost my Dad on 03 May.
I don't want to move on. I want to keep his memory alive.
Wbo is this Lady , would like to read her blog.
NeverLetGo KojnKuv yes
@@jdvandeventer AMEN. THE CRUELEST WORDS A PERSON COULD SAY TO US IS "MOVE ON OR GET OVER IT"! THE LOVE AND MEMORIES KEEPS THEM ALIVE...AMEN❤
NeverLetGo KojnKuv will
Yes
I’d rather forget people that belittle me for grieving rather than forget about my mother❤️
F them they have to experience loss my heart goes to you my story is too long lost a daughter and son yr half apart adults my life ended the days they left me xx
it bloody hurts they dont have a clue.. its heartless really..
@@brendadrumm9708 😢
1000000% me too
Amen, cakey C.
When you truly love someone who's life has been taken away from you in your life you don't want to forget them in any way. The fact is if you really loved them up until that moment they were taken away from you, then you will always love them till the day you pass yourself. Yes, we have to carry on as best we can with our own lives, but when you have had that love in your life, it never goes away, it will always remain with you.
Thank you for saying this
Just lost my beloved husband on 5/29/23, had his services 6/8/23. We have a 2 YO baby girl. Our world is completely turned upside down and I find it so difficult to do even the simple small things. He was part of everything and every day of our lives. I’m so struggling with just breathing and waking and sleeping. The pain is paralyzing. And his side of the family attacking me makes it even worse. I’m asking God for help because I don’t know how to navigate this life without him. Please pray for me.
I'm so very sorry... My heart & prayers go out to you.
So sorry, praying for you. Godspeed
Sometimes a hug is better than anything someone might say.
absolutely. or sitting in silence with someone.
So true.
Yes 100% I've found that most people actually make it worse with their words to me.
I find that, too. To just be held while you cry can be SO comforting and is often more comforting than words.
can I have a hug? :(
The pain of losing your mother can be so overwhelming I feel like I can't breathe some days it truly feels like a nightmare. It's only been 2 weeks I miss her every second of everyday but I know she would want me to get up everyday and live so I do it for her. I love you so much mommy I really miss you.
I hear you. Sorry for your lost a d pain. Send you a hug❤🌹
I feel you, my mom passed away 5 days ago, and I watched her die in the hospital. I feel like I am stuck in a nightmare. It hurts so bad.
@@fatoumfatoumeh sorry for your loss.
@@FabyJazmin Sorry for yours too. I hope it gets better for us.
I know how u feel i deal with day in and day out- tomorrow it will be a year that my mom died, and the pain still hurts
My darling ten year old Grandson was tragically killed three months ago, I cry every day but I am still talking about him still recalling all the wonderful memories but people are as you say nearly embarrassed and no longer ask how I am just say time will heal the other day I was asked if I wanted a Christmas hat to wear at work , I was mortified, I will never get over his death but I will learn to live with it somehow as will my son who is going through a hundred times the pain I am I hope all of you suffering finds your own peace and your own way through it all
I recently lost my dad in a tragic death. I literally feel emptiness, I still tell myself he is still here. This is the hardest part in life. I still feel lost.
I feel you and l lost my brother 4 days ago
Be strong girl 😢
I also lost my father recently in a tragic death, I'm completely lost without my father now, I don't know what to do
I lost my dad 10/26/22 ! I feel the same way I am so lost my dad was my everything
@@gwendolynnemichelle8823 I've never lost anyone so close to me before, I'm also sorry to hear, people say it gets better but it's not gotten better yet, although they are not suffering no more I guess
@Jessica J it's hard to find faith at a time like this
Almost 10 years passed since I lost my love of my life..I think we both died on that cold December
Afternoon together..the only thing is that......she died once...and I die everyday.
I'm so sorry I lost mine in may. I understand the pain...no words...❤🙏🏽🌹
I'm so sorry for your loss may her soul rip❤️
i can’t imagine
So sorry
i lost mine in March. i’m so sorry for your loss. i agree,, he died once, i die everyday
😢
I lost my Grandma today. She was one of my soulmates. I will never move on from her, but instead, I will carry her with me. Thank you.
Sabryn Wooton I’m watching this because I too lost my grandma in September so it will be a year next month
I lost my grandma sep21 it will be a month tomorrow .. the sorrow I feel is consuming me
Sabryn Wooton
I lost my grandma yesterday:( RIP
Sabryn Wooton ...lGrandma B...Sept. 16, 2019. 😢😢
I lost my grandma on September 4th. I miss her daily and she took care of me from my childhood. I don't think I can ever forget her.
I needed this. My fiance died Tuesday Dec 6th 2022. I had joined the bereavement ministry at my church Dec 4th 2022. I never in a million years would have thought his death would help me in the future to help and talk to others. Keep me in your prayers
Our situations r so similar
Praying for you sweetie
❤️
You're not alone sis....my fiance died Dec 23, 2021....still miss him dearly every single day...but I know he's still with me cause he'll do little things to remind me of him and all the good times we had together.
@@dr.b1346 how long after did you start seeing signs?
@@bluebellbeatnik4945 immediately!....i'd hear the songs he loved, smell his hair oil/colognes on other men, see his various cars, hear phrases he'd use, see cardinal birds, and i started feeling a breeze blow past my feet in the kitchen while washing dishes with no windows open...so i knew that was him...also I'd see him in dreams...and he was always happy...smiling toothless from ear to ear...cause when he passed he didnt have his dentures in😁😁
After losing my husband to suicide and soon thereafter losing my son to overdose, I found it unbearable that people always asked the manner of their deaths. It’s been so uncomfortable I can’t even take a job. My support system is very small due to former friends walking away.
Same. DM me if you ever need n understanding human. I do. My husband choose his "leaving" too x
I’m so sorry this happened to you, but we are a community here and we are your support system you might not know me personally but I’m sending all the love I can to you. If you need someone to talk to im here for you! Please dm me❤️
@@Tpfp9999 thank you so much. If I can get through holidays I’m doing pretty good and I always get through it - there’s no other option. I keep myself busy as I can. I appreciate your kindness.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Only God can truly give us the strength to carry us through. Please get involved with a grief share group through a Bible based church. I recently started, and watching the videos really help. You are in my prayers.
(Proverbs 3:5-6)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.
The Lord is my firm foundation.💕
Hi, sorry for your loss. Its very difficult . Lost my daughter 17yrs old to suicide 2 months back. Everyday feels too difficult to pass. Mindlessly keeping myself occupied too doesnt help. Hoping that she will be in a better place is my only solace
You can't move on. It's definitely the most horrible feeling ever. When someone you love dies your life is over. You only learn to continue life with a broken 💔.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
A broken heart I never understood the meaning . Now I live with this broken heart .
The pain is horrible, but it is the primary duty of the living ones to carry on with their fathers' work. Parents bring one up so that one could stand on one's own feet and live as happy as possible. I don't know whether they see us when they die or not - but they wouldn't be happy to see their child's life broken by their death.
Absolutely true.
I just recently lost my beautiful funny silly amazing girlfriend and right now my heart is so broken 💔 I am grieving and want so badly to be with her I don't want to even go on
You never get over it...you learn to live with it.
I still haven't learned how.
There’s just something’s some people, can’t adjust to, or accept or live with, and I’m one of them, it’s like a living nightmare, you wake up every morning, and that is the first thing that comes in to you’re head, they’re gone 😱
Some of us fill the same way about loosing our dogs..they are like family also.. i was really attached to my dog. She was my best friend, always with me.
Agree 100%. Our pets are also our loved ones, and losing them has the same impact to our lives.
The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes memories
Ahhh that's so true🤗
Oh that is so true and beautifully said.
I lost my 17 year old son last year ..l want to tell his story..he was a brave boy who battled hypo ventilation syndrome with hypoxic brain injury for 12 years still spreading joy to all around him..we miss you Shashwat..which means eternal..he will live in our hearts forever
Thank you for sharing your love
Love to you all and ask Shashwat to give my beautiful mom a hug from me please 🙏🏽💫
Thankyou..warm hug to you too..I have taken to painting.. sending some flowers for you🌷🌹
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
" John 3:16
So sorry for your loss :(. My cousins son passed away at 17 years old from a car accident in October in this year
My son also died they died differently but it is the same pain that never goes away ever
Words can’t even explain the pain I’m going through right now 😔 ❤️🕊
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending LOVE.❤️❤️❤️
I may not know you personally but you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and live your life in a way that would make ur loved one proud:)
They never will it's a journey with no ending x
Love and light
I lost my daughter father and its killings me right now
My mother left me and my sister at 4 and 7 yrs. Old with our father
He passed at 62
With 38yrs on the railroad
That was 40 yrs ago
And it still hurts ...
He gave so much for us....
My wife of 30 years died in 2019, she had cancer and died in Hospice where I accompanied her for those short 3 hrs. ,in not letting her pass alone ,in Dignity and with my love for her,, this after a heart attack and suffering hypoxia that happened while I took our Dog out in the yard for his morning business and came back to find her !!
My insensitive comments came from my Family ,heard all those things from my loved ones ,,which is the most hurtful from my supposed only support system left !!
Thank God for my inlaws and some of my longtime friends who had the compassion to understand and be of support !
Three years after and countless sleepless nights full of rage for the people who were in lack of compassion in my loss !!
I am still lost ,,and can't tell you how much this video means in support of my search for myself ! Thank You very much ,this renewed my spirit far more than many ,,I appreciate you for sharing ,and will send to my personal family members in hopes it reaches their heart in understanding about compassion and great loss !!!
Very relatable ,,Thank You again !!
thnk you so much for watching and for your lovely message about my video. Im so glad it helped, and Im so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. Compassion is such an important thing and not everyone has it. Carry the love with you adn your spirit will continue to grow and renew.
@@kelleyfunnylady God Bless you 👆
Heartbreaking... I completely agree with her! My mom died when I was 17... now I'm 30 and I'm still grieving 😢 you CAN'T just move on, instead you learn in time to live with the pain.
Whew...finally, someone understands. My husband died nearly 20 years ago from cancer and I (apparently) handled it really well according to everyone. Then my Mom died six months ago at age 97 and I've been a mess every single day since. Can't sleep, can't eat, don't want to go anywhere and thoughts of my husband and his life being cut short now haunt me. I'm going to my first counseling session in a few days because this acute grief is exhausting and I'm needing some tools to ease the pain.
This what I am afraid of not being able to live with the pain . I am 29 and my mother died almost 3 weeks ago and the days seem longer . The middle of the day is when I feel this huge sadness . I am so sorry you lost your mom .
icyivy - VERY WELL PUT!!!!
Love never dies.💜
icyivy gr my mom died when i was 24 im 29 now and it sucks sorry for your loss
My brother died today. And a huge part of my heart went with him. I refuse to ever forget or move on. I'm frightened I will forget his voice. My heart just hurts so much right now.
I just lost my sister a few days ago from cardiac arrest. She had severe asthma. She was only 25 and left behind 2 beautiful girls. Her birthday is next month. This is the most unthinkable pain, and I know exactly how you’re feeling. I wish I could tell you something to take the pain away, but the only thing keeping me sane is I know they’re in a much better place than this.
My brother has been gone for 10 years. I still remember his voice. I remember the way he smelled. I’m so deeply sorry. Hugs to you.
Losing one's sibbling is so psychologically painful that I wouldn't even wish such a traumatising experience to my worst foe. In a place where I come from, we usually say that the surviving sibbling loses part of him/her. My eldest sister died 7 years ago and our mother followed 4 years later. Everyone in the family seems to have moved on except me, and they can't comprehend why I have not been able to forget about them? But how come one's descendants can just wipe their ascendants out of their memories so fast? I'm wondering what this world has come to? My condolences to you and the entire family, and may your brother R.I.P.
So sorry. Prayers for your strength and calm. I lost my brother in ‘91. He was my best friend. It took forever to get to where I could talk about it. Time makes it to where we can manage our grief better, but the hole in your heart stays. Peace be with you.
I know I'm late but my condolences and I hope you find your peace one day for both of you
My hero, my best friend, aka my father died when I was 11. I have achieved what is considered a fairly prestigious degree in the mental health field, not that it REALLY matters or anyone cares, but it did help conceptualize the many theoretical/neurological models surrounding grief. During discussions with family/friends/clients, I get spoken to as if I have grief figured out. If I understand it so well, I must not experience the gamma and pains of old losses. It’s funny, no matter what clinical understanding I have
of grief, it doesn’t matter. It never has mattered. Somewhere deep within my core exists a small child waiting for his father to come back through that door again. His heart is made up. No matter how many times I challenge the boy with affection, love, and explanation, he stays the course. He forever waits for things to go back to a way that cannot exist anymore. I finally accepted him years back. When I know he’s there, I give him all the love I can because he’s my dad’s son. Innocent, unconditional, pure, and always yearning to be reunited with his father.
Bless you all my friends.
I've come to a point where I'm so comfortable with death I embrace it's part of life. Not in a morbid sense, but the beauty it reveals from how much a loved one moved us. I've lost my friend from college to cancer in 2016. My aunt last year to the same disease. This year my cousin tragically lost her premature baby. Followed by my grandmother who died in peace at age 101. Nothing will justify forgetting their existence, let alone my nephew who didn't get a chance of living a grown life. Nor my grandma who lived her fullest life. They're irreplaceable.
It meant as much to my cousin to carry her son and love him to the end. Talking about him is her healing process. I speak of him because he still exists in our hearts, among all those I've mentioned. Grief is a healthy expression of the human soul. The more we oppress it, the less connected we are to life overall. Thank you for this beautiful message.❤️
thank you Florence. Im so glad my talk resonated for you. And you are SO right - its a healthy expression of love to grieve, and oppressing it only makes us more isolated and less connected.
You never get over it. You just learn to live in pain. To survive for the living loved ones who need you. To cry when you need to. To pray for them as much as you pray for yourself. There is no forgetting, stitching, or moving on from the pain.
There is no lesson, just pain.
However you do learn to appreciate the precious people still with you.
Their love will carry you through.
I'm with you. You never 'get over' the grief. You just learn to adjust to life with that ever present ache in your heart.
@@blotski well said.
Pray ? Excuse me dear God but you did not obviously grant my prayers.
When Someone Dies, there is No Such Thing as Moving On
Exactly
You never ever get over it...it just gets a little easier to cope with in time...
@@finesseg5259 Yes, I agree. In 2013 I lost my Father and my Grandfather 3 months apart of each other. As heart breaking as it was and still is, it does get easier coping. I love talking about them to family and friends. 🙏🙏
I understand perfectly!
Yup you said that right
Very difficult to move on if someone you truly love died. True love will make you to always have such a person besides you and you feel the presence always. You feel better like that and cherish the memories ❤❤❤
These people are our motivations to keep moving, if they died, what's the point of keep moving?😢. I don't know if I would be strong enough. I heard of older couples that the pain is so bad that when one died, the next one died right after
My father died 5 years ago on fathers day, and as that day approaches the pain arises further and further. My heart aches constantly. Grief is a wound that never heals, and every now and then the wound peels open and bleeds once again... My heart goes out to everyone that has lost someone important to them whether they be human or animal. Every loss hurts.
I am very very sorry for your loss, I completely understand I lost my husband a month ago and now I also lost my job. I would do anything in this world to hug my husband again. Sending you a big big hug we are together on this journey
grief depression is like someone took your heart right out of your body
I just lost my papa 2 nights ago, i was by his side the whole time.. i miss him so much. I’m so happy he’s no longer in pain or suffering 😞 Please send prayers and good thoughts my way 😞
I lost my father on the 17th of November suddenly with heart problems I feel your pain brother i feel like my hearts been ripped out I miss him and want him back so much I know they'll be at peace now no pain and watching over us let's make them proud because they live on in us good luck Anthony
Hey how are you right now? I lost my dad recently. I hope you can stay strong in this difficult time. Sending my thoughts and prayers for you.
Prayers SENT!!😢😌🤗!!
Nothing can ever prepare you for the death of your father. Mine died a this week of a sudden heart attack. He was only 57. Keeping you in my thoughts Anthony.
Make him proud Anthony. ✊️
I am here from 2024. This is what I needed to hear. I recently lost my grandma. Thank you!
You're Perfect💯,
I lost my son on 05/05/2017 due to accident just a few hundred meters away from home, still crying everyday & will do it till I die, you'll never ever forget the person you lost 😭
much love to you ❤
So crazy that I'm watching this after crying less than 3 hours ago. I was (and still am) in a lot of pain. I miss my parents so much and I still can't understand why they had to leave me. The fear, the pain and emptiness are just unbearable.
sending some love your way, they dont leave you as long as they are in your ❤️
@@daryasavchenko6288 Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
Nothile, I am truly sorry for your pain & loss. I pray you find peace and healing💛🙏🏻. Please know however that your parents are not lost to you, they are merely in a different form-but they will be your guardians until you all meet again. Trust this and talk to them everyday. Please search Carolyn Molnar videos. They brought me a lot oc comfort.
I know. Going through the same way. I want to go home but I cant. Home is gone.
I have just lost my mum and miss her even though I’m 60 I feel so sad seeing my dad without her and the house feels empty
I lost my daughter one week ago, she was 3 days old. You never expect such a short life to teach you so much, but she did. She showed me ways i can contribute, and i hope i will make her proud. I am devastated and heartbroken.
I just lost my father today we are here for you even in the comments....it’s extremely difficult and so painful
she is an angel in heaven now, so sorry for your loss.
So so sorry for your pain.
I am heartbroken for you. 💕
God Bless You 🙏
When my sister died last year, I learned to love life more.
Thank you. My husband passed away suddenly. I learned that few people know what to say. And they want me to move on. Thank you for the validation that we don't move on. We slowly find our way to heal.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, how have you been doing ?.
When people say move on or get over it, it is their way of saying they don't understand and they will never understand until they lost their own loved ones
Correct
True
There are others who as soon as you talk about your loved one, they say: hmm, my mother died way longer ago and look at me, i'm still alive... as if losing a loved one was a matter of racing who's stronger or not...
Soo truee❤️❤️❤️
They say that its been soo long.
They never understand
Yep no thier fault though its society n proffesinals to they say to you how long has it been n u tell them they look at u can almost hear them say pull your self togeter that was 3yrs ago my son 2018 n my daughter 2010 im trying to live so is my remaining son hes doing well im concerned hes going for couselling now he might b dissapointed you gt 6 appointments 6 hrs basically couselling bah
My daughter at 31 died of cancer on 6/2/22. She was an only child. It is the hardest I ever had to deal with. The pain is unique to each person. There is nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. Lynn gave a wonderful talk.
I lost my 20 year old baby girl to Covid at doc hands it be a year Oct 18 seems like yesterday
What was her name?
I agree. Nothing can be said, nothing will make you feel better. I wish people would stop saying 'you'll get over it, it's life, bla bla bla'. They could just shut up. Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.
I pray that you have found some comfort in all of your pain. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Sending you a tight hug!
@@bonnierobinson8684 Mallory
My twin sister died last November 2022 . That was unexpected she's sick but not terminally ill. She's even working as a regular employee. Her death was so sudden. Unexpected. She was the Joy of our family. She's my best friend. She's the only person in this world who knows me the best. And now that she's gone , I felt like a part of me also died . Felt like I cant never be happy the same way I was before. Up until this moment , I still longing . her voice, her smile everything . I just miss every single moment with her. I miss her so bad
The worst part about losing someone is when you realize that you barely knew them. Like imagine finding out the amazing things someone went through only AFTER they pass away.
Everyday since my hubby died, I always talk to him like he's just beside me. I still talk to him about everything like I did when he was still alive.
i am so sorry,people that die never go away ,they walk beside us everyday,this is a very healthy thing to do ,you have not forgotten..
My husband passed away six weeks ago and I do the exact same thing.
@@robinr5561 I’m so sorry I hope you are able to handle your emotions throughout this.
@@Ayra654 Thank you.
@@robinr5561 Be strong! You're a fighter. All my respect and best wishes
I needed to hear this. Having a very bad day of grief. Rest In Peace to my son Nicolas 2/19/94 - 8/1/2011
I'm sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace.
rip💐 ☹ I was born in 94 too
So sorry for you loss. Lost my son too. My only child Mayowa. Life hurts so much
Sorry for your great loss... take care.
Amy im so sorry
As long as we remember a person they're not really gone
My mom passed 11 days ago , and I will keep her spirit alive, as long as my heart beats she’s with me. Heartbroken. God bless us all.
My beloved died 37 years ago. There was no TH-cam then or ways to find such good uplifting content and community. It was hard then and more lonely to be in one’s grief. This video has rocked my world in a most beautiful way. Coming upon it is a gift from him, I do believe. His name was Phil.
My older Brother died at 19 I know what you feel like it’s like a everlasting emptiness in your heart i’m sorry for your brother
May GOD bless you and continue to help you find peace.
Phil, You are blessed to have the love of this person who loves you still after 37 years enough to bless us with introducing us to you through your name. Much love to you both❤️🙏
Yes, speak his name. Phil. Your love. He is honored that you spoke of him. I lost my beloved husband 4 years ago. His name was Dan.
@@susanschroedel893 thanks Susan. And here’s to your Dan. Love endures.
My dad just died and I miss him so much. Life doesn’t feel real anymore.
Mine too, just a few days ago out of nowhere. I feel so empty and alone with him gone.
Me too. I have so many regrets. I still feel like I'm trapped in a dream. I cannot imagine a future without him. He was only 48.
I can't imagine your pain, just know that you guys are fighters and tho I may not know you and u don't know me, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! We love you guys and stay just as strong as you r! We will be here 💜
Mine has been gone since July 7th and im still expecting him to walk through the door any minute. It will never feel real for me but will always hurt tremendously.
It's a new reality ypu've been thrust into. And no one goes there willingly. When I gave myself permission to NEVER stop loving my late Husband, the panic lessened a LOT.
Absolutely 100% agree, people who say move on to you especially family members is such an insensitive thing to say, they have no idea.
Love to each of you grieving the recent loss of a loved one. It has been almost 34 years since I lost my dad, and while the storm of horrible grief has passed (and that took several years), I still cry sometimes (like now) because I miss him so much, and I grieve the 34 years we haven’t been able to share life. My heart goes out to those who are trying to comprehend and accept and adjust to the loss, because people who haven’t experienced it don’t understand, and neither did I. It is so very hard 💗
My husband died on January 30th. Our youngest daughter asked me why people don't talk to her about her father. My oldest daughter told her it's because people are scared of us. No one knows what to do with us. Children are able to express feelings much better than adults.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
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@@colinjamieson7225 Colin,this is a TH-cam comment section where people are talking about their losses.Not the time
Losing my mom was detrimental to me. 20 years with her was just not long enough. I miss her with every fiber of my being, everyday. It will never go away. I will never be over it. I’m almost 25 and it still feels like I’m lost and stuck in that day. People don’t understand. It is so lonely. A piece of me died with her that day.
Same. My mother died when I was 23. I sometimes blame myself. If only I know she'll die too soon.
I'd trade everything just to see her again. Just one hug. I miss her voice. I miss everything. I'm not who I was before. I'm still half dead.
I know right? My mom died when I was 19 almost 20. Now I am 30 and still hits very hard when I remember her. I still cry every time 😞
A mothers love never dies and when a mother passes a daughter never fully recovers. A piece of us is missing forever and you never get too old for a mothers love. I still cry for her all the time.
Am sorry. I totally understand. It changes you for sure. How can 1 ever get over losing the person that gave us life and loved us unconditionally. Take care and be kind to yourself💕
I'm so sorry :( I lost my mom a year ago and I feel the same. A part of me died with her. Yet she's alive in me, in my memories and in my love for her. We can never move on from this loss.
I've found I've NEVER GOTTEN OVER losing the people Ive been GRACED to have in my life in loving relationship. I have learned GET ON with my life feeling graced to had them.
I lost my grandma, and it was very painful because she was murdered. I get the speaker's point, but personally, what she did was actually moving on. Moving on doesn't have to be something like forgetting the people you lost. Moving on means accepting the fact that they are gone, and that doesn't mean we should stop remembering or loving them. Moving on is also trying to live our lives again and see light despite the pain and darkness we are in. I think most people misunderstand what moving on is, but what the speaker said about those harsh questions is also true. Those people misunderstood what moving on meant.
Wife just died traumatically in front of my eyes.The pain is unbearable but our love goes on.
Stay strong x