Not a better way to put feelings to word . I just found my wife dead on april 21 and she was my world she gave me The best times of my life. She was only 38 and we have 2 girls 9 and 10 and all we have are memories that im terrified that they will fade
@@rebeccagutierrez1960 I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
I pray for everyone watching this video because I think we're all watching this for a reason. Don't ever let someone tell you not to talk about your past loved ones or to stop mourning them. I honor the people I've lost every day and that is the only thing that makes me happy and keeps me going. I will keep doing it no matter what happens or who says anything and you all should continue doing the same as long as it brings you some kind of peace.
Well said. I'm here because one of my best friends passed away from cancer last March. I didn't get to tell him "happy Easter" this year. I miss him everyday.
Going through grief right now. My husband has a terminal brain tumor and what is the saddest thing we are all just waiting and worried about what's going to happen today.
Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp +2349157547182 I have a surprise for you God bless
My father is home on hospice. I know he doesn't have long, and I cherish every moment. I have a video saved of him telling me he loves me... And I know I will listen to it multiple times every day, im thankful to have that.
Please don't ever presume to invalidate someone's pain. You could not POSSIBLY know how much something hurts a different person unless you are in their skin.
The saddest part is knowing that I probably gonna live for another 50 years without my dad and I don't wanna forget his voice. I feel like some part of me died with him.
I lost my dad 4 months ago, he was only 61 and I am 35. He was the best father I could have hoped for. I have the exact same thoughts, and have been trying to find videos of him. I found only very little, because he was camera shy. I keep thinking how every day that passes, its just more time that I haven't seen him, and how that just makes it worse. And today my grandmother, my dad's mother, has joined my father. She was my last living grandparent. I'm sorry for your loss
I really relate to your comment. My dad and i only spend 3 years togheter but have a deep connection, I know how he looked and what he liked but i cant remember his voice. I realised that the memories of my dad are just based on picutures and stories other people told me and i really hate that, i would have loved to have him here for my 18th bday and have him know me and have me know what kind of person i would be if he was still in my life. My condolences and we're not alone
@Ambient Sounds #relaxation #calm I am sorry for your experiences about never knowing your dad plus the painful loss of your brother. Sending you love & best wishes. Take care.
So so true there isn't a person on earth that can speak to me with worthless words to make me feel any better lost a daughter and son the hurt the longing is there day and night
@@jesusdiscipledon1499 I could write a book my middle son was a handful in and out of eight of dif prisons over twenty odd yrs ago petty what goes. On. today he got down down on the rd in a coma the
Me to my friend... I just lost my HEART on the 18th of September 2020 17 days ago!!! I am lost. I am grieving and mourning oh the pain. Friend to friend I am not moving on.
@Sam Sung Your heart isn’t lost. The lowest lows exist to define the highest highs. You can’t feel the best you’ve ever felt without feeling the worst you’ve ever felt. At least, once in a while.
Grief for a loved one is the loneliest place you can be. Or so I've found. I lost my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly and unexpectedly in February this year. 2/20/22. The next day I found my engagement ring in his room. I had lost my dad 3 months prior and my dog of 17 years only a month before. This has been the loneliest 10 months of my life. I will never get over him and moving on without him is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. I needed to hear this speech. I'm working on myself but it is a lonely and sad existence. Thank you for these understanding and heartfelt words.
I'm sorry about your loss. I don't think moving on is the correct term. But just continuing on before we meet them again. I just lost my dog of 17 years as well a few days ago. I found some comfort in building an altar for them and painting them. Maybe it could help feel like your honoring them by doing as well? Much love
I know what it’s like so I do feel for you truly. I haven’t had so much losses in such a short time but I also lost my boyfriend to the war on October 28, 2022 and then found an engagement ring with the “I love you” words engraved. I have listened to this talk many times since his death and found it’s very comforting. Sending you much love, Kathy.
Sorry for your loss. Same situation I am in. John gone since 2020 died quickly from cancer. Together 21 years. So lonely without him. God bless you. I will pray for you. 🙏♥️
Oh my dear, you really have lived my worst nightmare. I am so sad for you, but having been there myself i like many others can only say it will get better for you but will take a lot of time slowly slowly. Be good to yourself, buy yourself something every week,force yourself to go somewhere nice, find a new hobby or give more attention to an old one and at first it will be difficult but there is an old saying of time heals and it really does, i know because i have lived it too, pop down to your nearest homeless dog shelter too, its amazing the work they do and you may find a new 4 legged friend who hasn't anyone that cares xxxx
I too lost my dad 3 days ago. Came here to find someone who can understand my pain. I feel lonely n scared. I'm not the same person anymore. My prayers with u and ur family. Take care
I cant imagine ur pain.... just know you guys are fighters! Tho we don't know each other, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! Keep fighting, we love you....💜
My grandma died last year. Today I cried so much that I almost threw up. No one understands why I still cry about her sometimes. I really needed this video
siobhan mckee My grandma died 12 years ago and I still miss her terribly. If you love someone very much, I think it’s normal to be sad. I feel sorry for your loss ❤️
@@Sara2016a we can go Jesus for our sadness, he can help. He said happy are those that mourn for they will be comforted. We don't have to be sad all the time over a loss.
Shelly Blanchard Yes, I pray many times and I understand, we don’t have to be sad all the time. That’s true. It’s only sometimes when I have some memories. I know we must accept God’s choice. We have to move forward no matter what.
I love my grandma so much she raised me as my parents are almost always busy with work and don’t really spend time with me. If she died I would fall apart and wouldn’t know what to do.
F them they have to experience loss my heart goes to you my story is too long lost a daughter and son yr half apart adults my life ended the days they left me xx
There is no process of grief, every process has an end, but grief is for life and is there to stay. You don't move on from grief you move forward with it. Somedays you are doing good, but somedays even in the middle of your daily life chores the thought of the person you lost hits you and you start missing the person, you miss the person so much that it's physically painful.
My mama passed away 3 weeks ago, one moment she was having a nap next door half an hour or so later I told my daughter to go kiss her goodnight as usual, but by that time my mama was already gone. There is no pain that could ever described this. If you still have your Mama cherish them, there is no one on this earth like your mama. Without them your world is completely changed forever. Rest in peace my queen 💗
JANINE, I AM SENDING YOU A BIG HUG. I'M SO SO SORRY FOR THE PASSING OF YOUR MAMA. I SHALL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS HONEY. I WILL ASK OUR LORD TO SEND EXTRA ANGELS TO CARRY YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THE PAIN YOU ARE IN. I LOST MY DADDY/PAPEE . HE STAYED TO SPEND MY BIRTHDAY WITH ME FOR THE LAST TIME AND PASSED THE NEXT DAY. I TOO, CALL MY MOTHER MAMA. SHE IS MY BESTEST LOVING FRIEND AND HONESTLY I FEAR THE DAY JESUS COMES DOWN AND LOOKS AT HER AND TAKES HER BREATH AWAY. I HAD AN AWAKENING ONE DAY DOING BUSINESS IN REGARDS TO DADDY/PAPEE. THIS YOUNG LADY SAID TO ME, YOU'RE VERY LUCKY...IVE NEVER BEEN A DADDY'S GIRL...IM LUCKY IF I SEE HIM ON HOLIDAYS. I FELT SO SAD FOR HER BUT I REALIZED GOD LOANED ME THE BEST. THAT REALLY MADE ME REALIZE I HAD BEEN BLESSED, AS YOU HAVE BEEN. IT HURTS SO BAD BECAUSE THEY GAVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS. CONTACT ME IF YOU'D LIKE. SENT WITH LOVE AND HUGS 💜
@@nainaarora1885 HONEY THE HEARTACHE NEVER GOES AWAY EVER...U JUST LEARN TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY I'M TOLD BY MANY. I'M TRULY SORRY HONEY. IT'S BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALL YOUR LIFE 💕 I STILL CRY ....AND MISS DADDY EVERYDAY. I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL BIG TIME. HE WAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MAN. YOU AND I WERE BLESSED. GOD BLESS YOU..MAY HE SURRPUND YOU WITH ANGELS TO CARRY YOU. REMEMBER SHE IS WITH YOU ALWAYS. WE WILL NEVER DEAL WITH IT...SO WE REMEMBER OUR PARENTS LOVE AND MEMORIES.....AND KEEP THEM ALIVE. HUGS AND LOVE 💔
My Auntie Bonnie who was everything to me passed I'm her sleep, 3 years later I'm still so lost without her the pain never goes away I cry everyday, I can't move on without her. I'm so sorry for your loss I know your pain, if anything I want you to know that your not alone love..
I feel the same way. We have no choice. We HAVE to go on and live because others love us. My mom died of covid February 2021. I understand and accept that God, in His sovereignty, allowed this to happen, but I can't find joy in being here. All the positive things are of no eternal value and the negative hurts so it seems to me that it's better to be with the Lord and my mother. I won't hurt myself because I love my family but I would much rather be with my mom. I have also found that my pain is my connection to my mother. Memories, are just that ...memories. The only thing that is a REAL experience is the pain I feel of losing her. I am hanging on to that pain because that is all I have that is truly a connection to her. I would gladly trade that pain for a nightly dream of her.. the kind that feel SO REAL. The kind where you could feel the pressure of her touch! But I have only had one of those. Of if I had "unusual" experiences where I just KNOW that it's her. As of now, my pain is my comfort and I will never "move on".
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
I lost my loving mother 3 days before Christmas. She passed away peacefully in hospice from end stage Parkinson's, dementia, and a stroke that paralyzed the left side of her body. I was by her side until her last breath. I miss my mom so much.
I lost my amazing mother as well , on the 31st of October from liver cancer, it was the most traumatizing experience and the saddest thing to have happened to me
I lost my mom the day after Christmas. She was paralysed for the past 20 years and was suffering from interstitial lung disease. She was the kindest and the most beautiful woman. My dad didn't treat her right or spoke to her for the last one year. She suffered a lot. I feel you totally. Stay strong ❤️
the worst thing you can do to a person who is grieving, is to ask them to change the subject to something less depressing... bring them a cooked meal, instead, sit with them, and allow them to talk about their loved one and or cry about them, openly, without stopping them to talk about something else... Be there to listen, show interest, and understand.
absolutely agree, ive recently lost my young daughter, and people dont want to hear, they keep changing the subject......for my own good they say. I just want them to sit there and let me talk, scream and cry, but they dont
@@retrfdg - I got a huge lump in my throat reading your post. Keep pressing forward. Let me know your daughters name and tell me what ever comes to your mind first: what is the funniest memory you have of the two of you laughing together. 😇
@@tinyhoney12 my daughter's name is Amii. She was beautiful, inside and out. She lost her life due to neglect from NHS. I cannot move on from the day i came home and found her. Yes there are many happy memories, we laughed and got up to mischief together a lot, but Im too low, too sad to go there. Just cant process anything
i hate it when people are so insensitive to grieving people, grieving is guttering and exhausting. I have empathy for all of you who are going through a tough time, hang in there everyone. xx
@@anneosullivan5160 It really doesn’t matter if I don’t know of you, or your beloved son. What matters is that, we as humans feel a bond somehow with other people that are mourning. Why is that? Well, because millions of us have experience what you’re experiencing right now. I want to offer my condolences to you and your family, and it comes from my heart.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
The pain of losing your mother can be so overwhelming I feel like I can't breathe some days it truly feels like a nightmare. It's only been 2 weeks I miss her every second of everyday but I know she would want me to get up everyday and live so I do it for her. I love you so much mommy I really miss you.
A quote, not sure who said it, "People die twice. First there is the physical dying of your body, second is the last time that your name is spoken aloud. " We can't change the first, but the second death....we can change. Keep that loved one in your thoughts, speak their name, don't be afraid to tell their story. You never "move on" you carry on. The greatest gift you can give your loved on is the gift of never forgetting. Beautiful ted talk, given in a beautiful way. Thank you
I may not know you personally but you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and live your life in a way that would make ur loved one proud:)
I lost my 17 year old son last year ..l want to tell his story..he was a brave boy who battled hypo ventilation syndrome with hypoxic brain injury for 12 years still spreading joy to all around him..we miss you Shashwat..which means eternal..he will live in our hearts forever Thank you for sharing your love
That might sound nice but there can also be a lot of grief for a person with whom there are many missed opportunities, with a person that should have been loved or loving… but wasn’t. The bereavement of people who had cold parents/spouses/relatives etc. is real.
You know what also hurts? When your loved one dies even after trying your best to prevent their death and them dying exactly the way you feared them to.
That's what I'm dealing with now. Mine passed away July 1st from exactly what I was afraid of.. I'm glad I still have our daughter though she'll be 14 in December & reminds me of him so much 🤍
Souls have their mission and that includes how and when they take their exit. If you can talk to loved ones who passed they would probably scold you for thinking you could have prevented how they passed. People live their lives to get experience for the soul and when that is accomplished they leave, never mind their earthly connections that they leave behind. Those who are left behind for them there is a lesson also, so let go and focus on how you live going forward - your loved ones will always be a part of you now....so do not be stuck in the period of their death...but remember your soul also has a mission and being in their life was part of that...you are still here...why?!
@@jillsinanan6777 would she really do that Beforr my grandma died I could hear how she wished she could live longer to see us grow and accomplish our dreams. she wanted to live but she had no choice.
@@mirianansotegi9590 Thank you. Your words truly mean a lot. I felt as through I was only one who had lost my mom. Everyone says I should just move on..but it really isn't possible when you lose someone so close to your ❤️
I lost my mom too, back in Sept 2018. I still feel so heartbroken and miss her so much! I try my best to cope with it but I can’t imagine my life without her.. I’m praying for you and sending you love! 💜
My mom passed away two days ago. I wasn’t even with her for the last goodbye. I talked to her a night before when I asked her to sleep properly and take care of her health and she reassured that she is taking care of herself and that I should not worry at all. Imagine my horror when I received the news the very next morning. It is excruciatingly painful. Her voice, her face, her sweet smile, I don’t want to forget anything. I will never forget her. She is going to stay forever in my heart, in my memories. The path in front of me is scary. I don’t know how I’ll survive without my mother’s advice, I don’t know who will I work hard for in the future. I just want to remember her forever. The pain is too much but I could only hope to get to meet her soon. I love you so much mumma.
My sister and brother have been murdered, and i am not able to forget the memories. All the day mind is filled with thoughts, regret.. Don't know what to do 😭
I lost my mom today, on march 15th. She passed away due to liver cancer. She was only 56 years old and i am 22. I was her only child. It’s been really hard, but this video has helped me a lot, thank you so much ❤
As an only child please know you aren't alone. I think we tend to think we are so alone. I dont even know you but I am here. Take your grief 1 minute at a time. Sending all my love.
My boyfriend was the only one who I could share the funny stories with, Now the loneliness is even stronger whenever I see one. Im sorry for your loss.
I'm native American. Where I come, from it's completely backwards from what's taught in mainstream culture. When the baby is born we grieve that baby and everything that baby will go through, throughout its life, all the hardships and pain. When that baby grows old and dies, we rejoice and remember all the good times. Sure there are sad moments but the ones that count, are the happy moments and successful moments.
Mr. G., Your description of grieving at a baby's birth and rejoicing at the end of this life makes a lot of sense. There is so much suffering here. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🌿🌅🌃
Wow...that is incredible; it makes so much sense! Of course Native Americans would think that way...they have deep reverence for all of nature and the life cycle living things go through. Beautiful!
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
My beloved died 37 years ago. There was no TH-cam then or ways to find such good uplifting content and community. It was hard then and more lonely to be in one’s grief. This video has rocked my world in a most beautiful way. Coming upon it is a gift from him, I do believe. His name was Phil.
Phil, You are blessed to have the love of this person who loves you still after 37 years enough to bless us with introducing us to you through your name. Much love to you both❤️🙏
Losing my husband is the hardest thing i have ever been through. Its been 1 1/2 months and its harder now that at first. Thank you, everyone for sharing, i know i am not alone.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
My daughter at 31 died of cancer on 6/2/22. She was an only child. It is the hardest I ever had to deal with. The pain is unique to each person. There is nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. Lynn gave a wonderful talk.
I agree. Nothing can be said, nothing will make you feel better. I wish people would stop saying 'you'll get over it, it's life, bla bla bla'. They could just shut up. Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.
You never get over it. You just learn to live in pain. To survive for the living loved ones who need you. To cry when you need to. To pray for them as much as you pray for yourself. There is no forgetting, stitching, or moving on from the pain. There is no lesson, just pain. However you do learn to appreciate the precious people still with you. Their love will carry you through.
Heartbreaking... I completely agree with her! My mom died when I was 17... now I'm 30 and I'm still grieving 😢 you CAN'T just move on, instead you learn in time to live with the pain.
Whew...finally, someone understands. My husband died nearly 20 years ago from cancer and I (apparently) handled it really well according to everyone. Then my Mom died six months ago at age 97 and I've been a mess every single day since. Can't sleep, can't eat, don't want to go anywhere and thoughts of my husband and his life being cut short now haunt me. I'm going to my first counseling session in a few days because this acute grief is exhausting and I'm needing some tools to ease the pain.
This what I am afraid of not being able to live with the pain . I am 29 and my mother died almost 3 weeks ago and the days seem longer . The middle of the day is when I feel this huge sadness . I am so sorry you lost your mom .
My best friend died 6 weeks ago, and I am completely devastated. We were best friends for 44 years. The grief washes over me in waves, I think this will haunt me forever. My heart breaks for everyone else who has felt this pain.
My Best friend died 13 days back, i never realised i was so emotionally attached to him, dont know how i came over here searching for answers, something has died inside, i am not able to get over it, dont know if i would get over it or not
@@AmanRaj-bf9yv I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don't. People keep telling me as time goes by it gets better but for me it's the opposite, the more time goes by the more I miss him. It really hurts. I wish I knew the answer to healing. I wish you peace.
Talking about your loved one and being able to sit in your grief is healthy. No one ever knows how long it will take to be able to deal with the loss of a loved one. There are so many stages of grief and they can come in your heart at any moment. For me, what we do with our grief honors our loved one that has passed on. I heal when I get to hold people up as they loose loved ones. Sitting with people in their grief is humbling and full of the people for whom I’ve lost. Extending my love for others, gives the ones that have passed on their legacy even when they are not here anymore. They now live through me. Blessings to all of you.
I understand my best friend, sister, one of the greatest loves of my life passed almost 6 months ago. We were besties for 49 years. Introduced her to her husband, We were two peas in a pod always together. I pray, I cry, I talk to her. Some days are better than others. I tell her everything to this day. Love never fades.
@Linda Collins I talk to my friend too, I thought maybe I was weird or something, but I find it helps me feel close to him. It's all I have left. I am so sorry for your loss, may memories of your loved one bring you comfort.
I lost my wife this Month due to covid she is 6 months pregnant for our first baby, we just got married last June the pain is killing me everyday, I'm in lost 😭
I lost my love ❤ too . Be strong and don't be harsh on ur self I know this is a tough time. But i believe that u will keep them alive in ur heart and never be sad. E=mc2... Believe their energy is still their u r not alone in this fight dear 💕 my love and blessing to u. May God give u peace of heart and soul.... Love u aalllll the way from kashmir
My heart is so broken for you. I’m devastated over the sudden loss of my mother. My brother lost his wife a year ago and half an hour ago his daughter committed suicide. No knows where my brother is so he still does not know his daughter died. I’m so broken over this I don’t know what to do. My heart goes out to you and I’ll be praying for you tonight. I wish you peace.
I just lost my papa 2 nights ago, i was by his side the whole time.. i miss him so much. I’m so happy he’s no longer in pain or suffering 😞 Please send prayers and good thoughts my way 😞
I lost my father on the 17th of November suddenly with heart problems I feel your pain brother i feel like my hearts been ripped out I miss him and want him back so much I know they'll be at peace now no pain and watching over us let's make them proud because they live on in us good luck Anthony
Nothing can ever prepare you for the death of your father. Mine died a this week of a sudden heart attack. He was only 57. Keeping you in my thoughts Anthony.
Losing my mom was detrimental to me. 20 years with her was just not long enough. I miss her with every fiber of my being, everyday. It will never go away. I will never be over it. I’m almost 25 and it still feels like I’m lost and stuck in that day. People don’t understand. It is so lonely. A piece of me died with her that day.
Same. My mother died when I was 23. I sometimes blame myself. If only I know she'll die too soon. I'd trade everything just to see her again. Just one hug. I miss her voice. I miss everything. I'm not who I was before. I'm still half dead.
A mothers love never dies and when a mother passes a daughter never fully recovers. A piece of us is missing forever and you never get too old for a mothers love. I still cry for her all the time.
Am sorry. I totally understand. It changes you for sure. How can 1 ever get over losing the person that gave us life and loved us unconditionally. Take care and be kind to yourself💕
I'm so sorry :( I lost my mom a year ago and I feel the same. A part of me died with her. Yet she's alive in me, in my memories and in my love for her. We can never move on from this loss.
Just lost both of my parents within the last 14 months. Dad died suddenly of a massive stroke and Mom was devastated without him. I gave up a year of my life to take care of Mom until she passed from lung cancer almost exactly a year after Dad left her. That year was very hard but I am so glad I gave her that gift. She gave up so much to give me life when she was only 17, back in 1963 that was very hard. I am so grateful we had a year to spend together and really reconnect. I love you Mom, and I will tell your story. Thank you dear lady for this talk, I really needed this. Love and peace to all who have lost loved ones, you are strength and a voice for those who need it.
I lost my daughter one week ago, she was 3 days old. You never expect such a short life to teach you so much, but she did. She showed me ways i can contribute, and i hope i will make her proud. I am devastated and heartbroken.
There’s just something’s some people, can’t adjust to, or accept or live with, and I’m one of them, it’s like a living nightmare, you wake up every morning, and that is the first thing that comes in to you’re head, they’re gone 😱
You can't move on. It's definitely the most horrible feeling ever. When someone you love dies your life is over. You only learn to continue life with a broken 💔.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
The pain is horrible, but it is the primary duty of the living ones to carry on with their fathers' work. Parents bring one up so that one could stand on one's own feet and live as happy as possible. I don't know whether they see us when they die or not - but they wouldn't be happy to see their child's life broken by their death.
I just recently lost my beautiful funny silly amazing girlfriend and right now my heart is so broken 💔 I am grieving and want so badly to be with her I don't want to even go on
I am a recent widow. It’s the worst feeling EVER 💔😢 No one will truly understand unless they go through it. Grief is not something you just “get over”. Thank you for this.
So crazy that I'm watching this after crying less than 3 hours ago. I was (and still am) in a lot of pain. I miss my parents so much and I still can't understand why they had to leave me. The fear, the pain and emptiness are just unbearable.
Nothile, I am truly sorry for your pain & loss. I pray you find peace and healing💛🙏🏻. Please know however that your parents are not lost to you, they are merely in a different form-but they will be your guardians until you all meet again. Trust this and talk to them everyday. Please search Carolyn Molnar videos. They brought me a lot oc comfort.
My brother died today. And a huge part of my heart went with him. I refuse to ever forget or move on. I'm frightened I will forget his voice. My heart just hurts so much right now.
I just lost my sister a few days ago from cardiac arrest. She had severe asthma. She was only 25 and left behind 2 beautiful girls. Her birthday is next month. This is the most unthinkable pain, and I know exactly how you’re feeling. I wish I could tell you something to take the pain away, but the only thing keeping me sane is I know they’re in a much better place than this.
Losing one's sibbling is so psychologically painful that I wouldn't even wish such a traumatising experience to my worst foe. In a place where I come from, we usually say that the surviving sibbling loses part of him/her. My eldest sister died 7 years ago and our mother followed 4 years later. Everyone in the family seems to have moved on except me, and they can't comprehend why I have not been able to forget about them? But how come one's descendants can just wipe their ascendants out of their memories so fast? I'm wondering what this world has come to? My condolences to you and the entire family, and may your brother R.I.P.
So sorry. Prayers for your strength and calm. I lost my brother in ‘91. He was my best friend. It took forever to get to where I could talk about it. Time makes it to where we can manage our grief better, but the hole in your heart stays. Peace be with you.
My mom passed away yesterday. The depth of grief cuts so deep. I think it’s a blessing to love someone this tremendously and to grieve likely for the rest of my life. I don’t expect it to get better and maybe that is okay.
Loosing a mother is a lot of pain, I lost mine last month June 14. I know it’s not easy but with time you will get over it! Remember she will always want you to be happy wherever she is now. Sending you love and hugs 🫂 ❤
@@markdashark3094 I’m so sorry about, my mom died 1week after celebrating her 51 years old birthday, I almost lost my mind but I’m getting better now, I miss her so much..
So sorry for your pain. I lost my Dad and best friend to a completely sudden death two months ago. My heart is broken into pieces. It's going to be a long hard road of pain unfortunately. Hope you're holding up!
My mother died in my arms 3 days ago and my heart feels very sad 😭 I crave my mother's presence to a huge extent😔She was a huge part of my life for many years. I miss her a lot. I feel a wave of loss and grief. I want to call out to her, hear her voice, share something with her and I can’t. She is gone. All I am left is with a very empty, heavy, sad heart😞😩😭
Almost 10 years passed since I lost my love of my life..I think we both died on that cold December Afternoon together..the only thing is that......she died once...and I die everyday.
“Taking away someone’s connection to someone that they love, what purpose does it serve?” Such a powerful statement. Hate it when people think it’s irrelevant when you talk about the person you miss the most, who you won’t ever get to see again.
What's even more aggravating is to hear that kind of advice from a person who has never lost a loved one... someone who tries to justify showing their sympathy. They have no Idea what losing someone close feels like. They should take their advice about moving on and shove it into the "Crematorium of bad advice"!
I just posted💓 if u are going thru loss like our family maybe it could help. God bless. Post: 💜💕. my momma💜 passed on in 2016 due to cancer; it broke our family. My parents had been married over 40 years. My dad went into deepest depression. He wrote a book about my parents love story, faith & the journey of loss/grief. He did an interview recently on (Aminutetomidnight) TH-cam channel. His name is George & that interview was posted June 9 2019. Maybe it would encourage you💜💕, I miss my momma too everyday forever grateful for her being in my life.💜💕
I’m from Saudi Arabia I lost my father 5 years ago everyone avoid talking about him including my friends and even my own family.. Sometimes I wanna talk but I can’t find anyone open to talk with me.. they think talking about him is not worth it and he’s gone.. Whenever I feel pain and sadness I watch this video over and over again to comfort me.. Thank you so much. I wish I had better friends.
I’m sorry you feel that way! I lost my father 23 yrs ago and still think and talk about him daily! Don’t listen to your people. You keep talking about your dad because he was here and he mattered! Love him always.
Dear Everyone in the comments. If I could hug all of you I would. If I could sit with you and listen to your memories of your loved ones, I would. If I could have met the one you speak of, I would have been blessed to have even known them. We all should treat each other in such a way we would have wanted others to treat the one we so long to speak with again. Every person that walks by us is loved dearly by someone and they will be missed dearly by someone one day. Let’s all honor the ones we love with honoring each other❤️🙏
When people say move on or get over it, it is their way of saying they don't understand and they will never understand until they lost their own loved ones
There are others who as soon as you talk about your loved one, they say: hmm, my mother died way longer ago and look at me, i'm still alive... as if losing a loved one was a matter of racing who's stronger or not...
Yep no thier fault though its society n proffesinals to they say to you how long has it been n u tell them they look at u can almost hear them say pull your self togeter that was 3yrs ago my son 2018 n my daughter 2010 im trying to live so is my remaining son hes doing well im concerned hes going for couselling now he might b dissapointed you gt 6 appointments 6 hrs basically couselling bah
Good for you! Why should we be expected to stop loving the people we love who have died? Think about it. Its crazy. you will love her forever, and that love will grow more love and more life for you ....thank you for watching xo
When I lost my wonderful husband, I learned many things. The most important one? You need to make room in yourself ~ your brain or your heart, or both, for your new, and constantly evolving grief. I’ve tried locking grief up, because it’s so bothersome. It appears at the worst times, when you least expect it, and is like a stubborn child it WILL have its say. In the beginning, you wonder how to control this monster, because after all you have a life to finish living. I controlled it by giving it 30 minutes a day. I choose the time, and I timed its allotment. When 30 minutes was up, so was grief’s hold on my day. Gradually, like a satisfied child, the grief quieted, and went into dormancy. It will rise up, during a drive, and music coming on the radio, at movies, filled with emotion, and with memories; but I’d be lying if I told you it ever disappears, because it doesn’t. It’s like a wound with a scab, it’ll get smaller over time, but it will leave a scar to remind you it was there. We each find our way through those dark days, and gradually you begin to live again. My husband gave me the very best gift. A life with nothing left unsaid, and with no regrets. He always told me “we are not promised tomorrow, so we have to live for today”. Good luck to all going through it. You are not alone, as many have been there before you. ❤️
I know how heartbreaking that is . I lost mine when I was 10 and think of her everyday still. I hope you are doing okay . I know you don’t know me but you are loved ❤️
A comment I read on another video about death was, “Grief is love with nowhere to go.” I lost my partner of 20 years two years ago. I stopped talking to my friends about him after a friend told me it had been two years and that I should be over it.
I'm here to find comfort from my grief. I put down my cat, Harmony, on Friday, now it's Monday. He was just a cat, some might say, but he was my baby and losing him is the worst pain I've ever felt. This video helps a lot, even if it's about losing humans. To many people, pets are just as precious as any relative or loved one.
I'm also here grieving for my cat who passed away yesterday. He was everything to me and the pain is unbearable. You're not alone. Our loved ones, person or pet, will always be with us.
So very sorry for your loss, ジョネーJonét 😥💔😥 It's almost been 6 weeks since my beautiful orange tabby Biscuit had to be euthanized (he would've been in so much pain & agony if he lived longer)💔😭. The pain you and I feel -- and the pain MILLIONS of people feel after their beloved pet dies -- is something inexplicable (at least to me) and so emotionally painful. Basically, it's like a nightmare that you NEVER wake up from...
I can't imagine your pain, just know that you guys are fighters and tho I may not know you and u don't know me, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! We love you guys and stay just as strong as you r! We will be here 💜
Mine has been gone since July 7th and im still expecting him to walk through the door any minute. It will never feel real for me but will always hurt tremendously.
It's a new reality ypu've been thrust into. And no one goes there willingly. When I gave myself permission to NEVER stop loving my late Husband, the panic lessened a LOT.
My sister Eileen died on the 01/04/2020 from Covid 19. Eileen (means light) and she was the light in our lives. Eileen was born with Down's Syndrome but her love of life, her empathy, her joy and her humour touched the lives of so many people. I think of her every day and she will forever be in my heart.
My sister, Kathy, was also born with D.S. and just passed away this past Feb. 9, 2021 from stomach cancer. She was 51. We received her cancer diagnosis in Nov. 2020 but my parents didn't tell me until first week of Jan. because they didn't want to "ruin" my wedding. (I got married in Dec.) We immediately drove up to see her and I'm so glad because it was the last time. She was like my "twin" growing up because we were so close in age and she learned how to do everything by watching me. I completely understand the hole you have in your heart 'cause I have it too. When you sit still and close your eyes, you will "feel" her ....regardless of what faith you are. Try it. They're a special kind of people, sent to special families!!
This is very validating . My husband died in 2005. I was 32 with 5 and 3 year old boys . I feel my husband every day . I speak about him almost every day .
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?
I’m really sorry for your loss 🥺 My grandma passed away last year and I hope all of us get through those tough times 🙏🏼💛 Many thanks to the amazing speaker 🙏🏼💛💛
I feel the same. I lost my husband to Covid, we were about to celebrate our 50th Anniversary, I had to cancel our trip. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I died myself and will never have joy again. No one understands this pain only other people who have loved so deeply and lost their love one. You have my deepest sympathy.
I know this pain too Lost mine 3 days after Xmas December 28th 2021 You're right. Move on? What are they saying? "Hurry and be yourself again or be fake because I can't cope with your grief/ loss" Ignorance. I love this gals Ted talk. A refreshing new view
My husband of 27 years passed away 19 days ago from cancer and I can attest he took half of my spirit with him to the other side. I took care of him as he battled cancer for 16 months up to watching him take his last breath. I've loss many family members from my father to grandmother, but the level of grief I'm experiencing is simply devastating. I've seen many people lose their spouses but I had no idea until now how crushing the grief actually is.
I feel you, going through the same pain which is unbearable. I lost my beloved husband of 30 years through cancer almost 2 weeks ago. He died in my arms…
My grandma just passed away today. Couldn't even see her because of covid. I can't take it my heart is breaking lost my grandad back few years ago. Im shattered to pieces. May we all reunite together in paradise
The best episode I've watched. My girlfriend died of an accidental drug overdose earlier this year. I found her in our hotel room. You don't understand the shock, disbelief, and pain unless you've been through it.
That is so true. It’s definitely much harder than you can ever imagine.i think it takes about two years to actually come to terms with it, but you never really get over it. It just gets a little easier as time goes on. But true love never dies , 🌸🌺🌸
My husband suicidal overdosed and left sad and alone in this earth but I still can't forget and stop loving him, he was my best energy and now am dead without him
Caleb, I’m so sorry. I also lost my girlfriend 2 days ago to an overdose. She struggled so hard and sadly, after this last time in rehab, she relapsed and lost the fight to this horrible disease. I love you and care about you, I wish you the best life has to offer. Take care my friend ❤️
My mother's funeral was today, I lost my Dad two years ago. This helped a lot. I am very open about my grief and struggles, it's how I cope. It can feel very isolating because it feels like you're the only one who feels that way, but knowing I'm not the only one is so powerful, it certainly helps.
With my sister being killed, I feel all alone. I understand about feeling isolated. However, there are people in my life that has been reaching out.. very few. But when I need someone to talk to, I have a few friends I can call.
I needed this. My fiance died Tuesday Dec 6th 2022. I had joined the bereavement ministry at my church Dec 4th 2022. I never in a million years would have thought his death would help me in the future to help and talk to others. Keep me in your prayers
You're not alone sis....my fiance died Dec 23, 2021....still miss him dearly every single day...but I know he's still with me cause he'll do little things to remind me of him and all the good times we had together.
@@bluebellbeatnik4945 immediately!....i'd hear the songs he loved, smell his hair oil/colognes on other men, see his various cars, hear phrases he'd use, see cardinal birds, and i started feeling a breeze blow past my feet in the kitchen while washing dishes with no windows open...so i knew that was him...also I'd see him in dreams...and he was always happy...smiling toothless from ear to ear...cause when he passed he didnt have his dentures in😁😁
It’s been 40 years since my mom died and I am sitting crying because I miss her badly!!I want to cuddle with mom, hear her tell me how proud she is of me. I miss the smell of her perfume. She always had home made cookies for me and my brothers for after school. The pain never goes away. I love you mom and you will always be in my heart forever. The pain atm is pretty unbearable. I just want my mom back!
My heart is full of joy and excitement , Dr RORPOPOR HERBAL is truly the son of his father the medications I order from him can testified to that , A BIG thanks to you doctor Cancer cured💕
I lost my mom on September 24th 2021 I lost her at 22 years of age I am 23 now and it is still the hardest battle I’ve ever faced. I miss her dearly… I wish it would get easier but no one understands. I feel so numb inside
Very important speech. The most frustrating thing when you are the person who lost a loved one, is the fact that most people around you will share in that loss with you, but only for a limited time. I almost want to call it "Sympathy Limitation Syndrome". That doesn't mean those people don't mean well, i.e. they are there to call you when it has just happened, they bring food, they come by to give you a hug. They are there to attend the funeral and pay their final respects, but then what? What happens to most people who have lost someone, is that after the funeral is over, and the initial shock and commotion surrounding the event of losing a loved one has calmed down a bit, the people in their friendship circle go on about their daily business. But what about you? You aren't ready to go on with your daily business, because your grief doesn't stop with the funeral. This is the time when you feel that grief and pain the most, but it also tends to be the time when there aren't enough people around. When your loss has just happened, you find yourself in a whirlwind of arrangements that have to be made, you're busy with funeral preparations, and creating announcement cards, etc etc. But when the funeral is over and all the whirlwind activities that surround a death come to a close, and you finally have the time to reflect on the actual loss, that is the time when the hard stuff really starts. That is when that grief hits you like a ton of bricks. What I have learned from grieving personally is that the time AFTER the funeral (once all the memorial activities come to a close), is the most crucial time to reach out to the person who is grieving. For that is when the person who is grieving feels the most isolated and the most alone. We as a society have to collectively realize that a person's grief doesn't end when the last person walks out of the church, or when the last person in attendance leaves the grave site. It doesn't end there, it is only the beginning to a very difficult upwards hill of processing that grief. I think it is also important to not ask "Can I do anything for you?" or "What can I help you with?", because often when you're grieving, you don't really know what it is that you need help with. Everything is so overwhelming or you are too embarrassed to ask, even though they offered their help. In my opinion, it is better to not ask but to just do it. When you go over to their house and see that it is a mess with dishes in the sink, dust everywhere etc, the grieving person may be too embarrassed to ask you for help. So, I think it is best to just dig in and start cleaning. Do the dishes, give the plants some water, vaccuum the house, and if you know the person really well, even do a few loads of laundry. The point is to leave their home a warm and clean place for them to grieve in. Chaos in the house adds to chaos that is already in the mind of a grieving person, so the less household stress they have the better. Bring some food over without asking them if they would like you to do so. Just kind of put yourself in their position and think about what you would like someone to do for you in a time of mourning.
You are so right about all of this. Im glad you got something out of my talk and thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. They say grief lasts much longer than sympathy, which I think is true. We have a lot to learn, but we are getting better with time.
kelleyfunnylady What you do, speaking out about grief, speaking out about your beloved husband, trying to change the narrative of how people react to not only their own grief, but how they react to other people's grief is incredibly valuable, incredibly important, and has many dimensions. It helps you honor your husband and make sure that his death wasn't senseless, that his life and also death has a tremendous purpose, that his person stays relevant, that you are doing good for others in his name. You are honoring him in the highest regard. I know for a fact he could not be more proud of you and more grateful for you. Also, what you do has a trifecta of outcomes: you are helping yourself by giving loss a purpose, you are helping him by honoring him, and you are helping others through his story and through your own grief journey to give them some direction and a different option on how to handle their grief, in addition to handling other people's grief better. I think everyone (if we let it) could stay so consumed by grief and just give up, stay in bed, stay under the covers, and just be heartbroken forever. What you have decided to do with your grief is so commendable and so purposeful. Thank you for doing what you do.
that is very nice of you to say. Its definitely hard work, and there are plewnty of days when I DO sit around at home and lie in bed crying or cant seem to do much of anything. I always tell people that I have had to fight for my joy and for the life I live today. Its a constant battle, but very worth it to me to havew found purpose and meaning in helping others sitting in the darkness.
kelleyfunnylady I so completely understand. I don't think we would be human if we didn't have plenty of incredibly dark and sad days in bed after such a painful and profound loss. That is why I think it is so remarkable that you still find strength to do these events. It is very difficult to find joy after experiencing deep losses like this. Life can just be so hard. You just wonder how you're even supposed to get through the next hour. And when the loss is recent, you don't even know how to get through the next minute. You find it hard to even comprehend how life around you even goes on. I am also am shocked about the insensitive things some people say, like you mentioned in this video. The comment about grieving today and finding someone new the next day is unbelievable. "Get over it, move on" is also crazy insensitive and impossble. It is mindboggling how anyone could possibly say these things. Even if they wouldn't have experienced loss, I find it shocking.
Nikita, WOW, you are so right! Lost my wife 2 and a half years ago. Known her since kindergarten. I still wear my wedding band and hers, just can't "move on" or "get over it". Weeks after the funeral was the same old thing, nobody even talked to me as how are you doing or are you ok. Unless someone has has lost a spouse, the greatest person in your life, nobody has anything to say to you unless it's the "greatest hits" as Kelly said. Will always love my wife even though she is not here with me. Just can't forget her.
I miss my mother more than I could ever explain. I am so thankful that I could see how special she always was even as a very young child. She had an extremely hard life but could always find hope . I love you mom and will see you again.
@@sourmilkncookies963 I miss mine too so much. She was my best friend. She also had a hard life,lost her mom when she was 3 months old and struggled so much growing up.She is my hero.
I miss my mom every day. I lost her 3 months ago as she suffered from cancer. I can’t believe she is no more. I agree it’s hard to move on and only thing that keeps me going is that some day I will see her. I love you mom..
@@ams8833 I am so sorry for your loss. Having a close relationship with your mother is truly a blessing from God. Know in your heart that your mother will always be watching over you until you can be together again. ❤
When you truly love someone who's life has been taken away from you in your life you don't want to forget them in any way. The fact is if you really loved them up until that moment they were taken away from you, then you will always love them till the day you pass yourself. Yes, we have to carry on as best we can with our own lives, but when you have had that love in your life, it never goes away, it will always remain with you.
I lost my dad, the love of my life, a month ago. I'm 24 and I can't imagine my life without him. I'm not living, I'm surviving. My heart is bleeding and I'm alive just because my lungs work automatically. I don't know how to help my mother, because I can't even help my self. This video should be seen by all those people who are trying to give you life lessons, without knowing how you really feel every day. It's too easy to say move on when the pain is not yours.
My most sincere condolences. May God bring peace and strength to you heart during this sad time and find comfort in his promise to bring back to life those you love who have fallen asleep in death. (1 thessalonians 4:13,14)
I’m speechless.. I lost my mother 4 months ago,and many of our close friends and family have told me to “move on” everytime we met..I too stopped meeting them and have isolated myself..I don’t and won’t ever understand how you can forget someone you loved so truly and deepy and get on with life..no..that’s not the way.. Thankyou for these amazing words,I hope people who don’t understand the loss of losing a loved one can be more mindful and considerate...this couldn’t have been said better ❤️ miss you mama 💔
God bless you! You never get over loosing a loved one, you just go on and miss them.I still have my mom and dad and I love so much n yell them every time we speak. I think our memories of our loved ones stays alive because we think and talk about them. God bless
I lost my grandfather today. I'm in 4th year of high-school and could rarely talk to him in the last 2 years. I loved him so much. He was the only one who would never scold me for anything and take the blame on him. And yet I used to ignore him thinking "I'd rather study" I feel like the hustle for greatness and being the best often makes us lose sight of our loved ones. So guys, cherish the loved ones you have and spend time with them. I learnt a very important lesson in my life. And hereby I take an oath to stop wasting time on non productive stuff and instead spend time with my family
Sorry for your loss. It's very important to find balance & still live your life and do your studies. Your education & what you do to make ends meet is very important. Now is the time to get that out the way while you're younger, it's 100000xs harder as you get older.
I relate with you completely as I experienced a similar thing. I miss him a lot too, everyday i do. The only thing I can say is , know that he loved you no matter what and that there'll always be a part of him in you.
This made me cry in such a good way. I miss my mom every day, and thank you so much for giving me permission to miss her and not feel apologetic about it.
My dad was my bestfriend. He passed away 2 days ago. The last words he ever spoke were to me saying 'love you too' & gave me a kiss. I miss u so much dad. He had heart failure most of my life but im just thankful i got to say goodbye. I just wish there was a way to know that they are safe after death wherrever they are ... 😥🙏🏽
Im so sorry about your dad, and I hope you will keep telling his story. I also wissh we could know they are safe after death, but my heart tells me they are.
Hannah T same. My father passed away 4 years ago. They will forever live in our memories! I never loved a men as much as my dad, I know it sounds creepy but it is true. We were not lovey dove, but I just felt good around him, loved talking to him, could hear the same story over and over and enjoy it while others didn’t. Even with all his flaws, no men compares to him! Matt Damon is a close second, but still second!
My dad passed away three months ago and I know what you mean. I pray that I know he's ok. I haven't had a sign yet but still waiting. Have you had a sign? Ive been having a hard time with the grief lately. Hope you are doing ok. Thanks
Very difficult to move on if someone you truly love died. True love will make you to always have such a person besides you and you feel the presence always. You feel better like that and cherish the memories ❤❤❤
These people are our motivations to keep moving, if they died, what's the point of keep moving?😢. I don't know if I would be strong enough. I heard of older couples that the pain is so bad that when one died, the next one died right after
My boyfriend of 7 years passed away a week ago & ive never experienced pain like this...all I want is for him to show me signs & I promise it would make me feel a little better.
It does hurt but only You have to go through. Words of others can bring a relief for a moment but than you are again with your loss...so sad. I know this kind of feelings very much so ....Regards across the ocean.
Yes, my Husband of 8 years passed away. I came home from work and yelled I miss you!! And boom! A sound came from my bedroom closet and a box that was securely on the shelf fell and out fell two of his hats.. I felt his love all around me....❤
He did give you a sign, sitting beside you in bed in the first 2-3 days after he passed away. Maybe you were asleep and missed it. They do come back and give you a "I'm still here honey for always" The day my Mom died, she sat on the corner of my bed. Maybe we get scared when that happens to us, because I ran out of her house to get my uncle and she never came back again. This is a true story. *.*
@@mckennalewis3690 Yes, time will help you. Now this depends on how much you loved him, One thing for sure is if you find love again that will take your pain away, It's not that you have to go look for a new Love, It will just happen as if your boyfriend sent him to ease your awful pain. *.*
My grandmother passed away 3 months ago and I was right there beside her. I saw her die in front of me and it still hurts today as much as it did at that moment. I needed to hear this.
I’m so glad I saw this because I agree with all of this! At 30, I lost my partner of nearly 9 years. Everybody kept saying ‘move on’, ‘find another man’, ‘it gets easier’, ‘you need to stop grieving’. The grief process never ends.
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The truth is- you will NEVERRRRR everrr know how it feels until it happens to you .
اوسامة محمد you got this man, you dont have to move on but give it time. and never forget about her she lives on inside you
@@sadkidan4120 very wise words brother, this was very comforting even for me.
Agree
Spot on x
This is so correct 😔
The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory.
Wow, very powerful comment.
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Your so right 😪
When your shared memories together and now they're just yours
Not a better way to put feelings to word . I just found my wife dead on april 21 and she was my world she gave me The best times of my life. She was only 38 and we have 2 girls 9 and 10 and all we have are memories that im terrified that they will fade
When someone you love dies, a part of you dies with them.
Or all of you minus a part!!!
Exactly the same feeling 😪
@@jebsmoak925 when someone dies it only mean that their spiritual body will always be with u. The human body is gone.
Yes
Very true.
@@rebeccagutierrez1960 I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
I pray for everyone watching this video because I think we're all watching this for a reason. Don't ever let someone tell you not to talk about your past loved ones or to stop mourning them. I honor the people I've lost every day and that is the only thing that makes me happy and keeps me going. I will keep doing it no matter what happens or who says anything and you all should continue doing the same as long as it brings you some kind of peace.
I’ll get to reunite with daddy in heaven??
Well said. I'm here because one of my best friends passed away from cancer last March. I didn't get to tell him "happy Easter" this year. I miss him everyday.
Going through grief right now. My husband has a terminal brain tumor and what is the saddest thing we are all just waiting and worried about what's going to happen today.
thank you! Im glad my video resontated for you and Im happy you will keep talking about the people you have lost to death. Its so important.
it's fine to talk about them positive and negative. Grief is real face it.
Have anyone else noticed that you don't fear death after you loose your loved ones 💔 you just wish you also die to be with them 😥 I miss you mum 😥😥😥
Yes it's how i feel now after losing my boyfriend a month ago.
If I died today to be with my pet, my best friend who got me through everything, i wouldnt be angry
I lost someone precious to me 2 days ago on my birthday.... part of me honestly just wants to die too
this is exactly how i feel i just lost my mum to covid a month ago:(
I am alot older than you and am going through same. Please know you are not alone. Hugs
“You can’t move on from love. Love is the only thing that never dies”
Today, as you go out, you shall be blessed. You shall return with great fortunes. Your coming in shall be fulfilling. Morning will work for your good. My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day. message me on WhatsApp +2349157547182 I have a surprise for you God bless
Smart.
@@rev.fr.ejikembaka1303 Amen
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe due to the covid 19 pandemic?
This is true and I've seen only damaged ppl think love is loyalty and loyalty means love when it's two completely different things.
“The fear of forgetting the sound of their voice.” That hit hard. It’s been three years and I’m still adjusting to life without them in it.
My father is home on hospice. I know he doesn't have long, and I cherish every moment. I have a video saved of him telling me he loves me... And I know I will listen to it multiple times every day, im thankful to have that.
Yes!! Save videos, voicemails!
Me too
I've never forgotten the voice or face of anyone I lost. That's a myth
I lost my special person on this 1 st october ,😭
There absolutely isn’t a thing as forgetting and letting go of grief. I will never be okay.
You're right. There is no such thing as forgetting or letting go, but you WILL be okay someday.
Just a different okay. A new okay @kgoodridge1
@@kgoodridge1 PERFECTLY SAID..
@@Rozzylous A new 'normal'.
How I feel over 8 years now after I lost my mom. Never the same.
You can move on from a breakup and find someone better, but you can never move on from a death of a loved one. They can never be replaced.
Amen Preach, I'm listening.
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Absolutely true.
Please don't ever presume to invalidate someone's pain. You could not POSSIBLY know how much something hurts a different person unless you are in their skin.
The saddest part is knowing that I probably gonna live for another 50 years without my dad and I don't wanna forget his voice. I feel like some part of me died with him.
I know exactly what you mean. I hate the fact that I know my kids (that aren’t even born yet) won’t ever be able to meet the man who raised me.
I lost my dad 4 months ago, he was only 61 and I am 35. He was the best father I could have hoped for. I have the exact same thoughts, and have been trying to find videos of him. I found only very little, because he was camera shy. I keep thinking how every day that passes, its just more time that I haven't seen him, and how that just makes it worse.
And today my grandmother, my dad's mother, has joined my father. She was my last living grandparent.
I'm sorry for your loss
Couldn’t agree more 💔💔💔
I really relate to your comment. My dad and i only spend 3 years togheter but have a deep connection, I know how he looked and what he liked but i cant remember his voice. I realised that the memories of my dad are just based on picutures and stories other people told me and i really hate that, i would have loved to have him here for my 18th bday and have him know me and have me know what kind of person i would be if he was still in my life. My condolences and we're not alone
@Ambient Sounds #relaxation #calm I am sorry for your experiences about never knowing your dad plus the painful loss of your brother. Sending you love & best wishes. Take care.
“You can’t move on from Love. Love is the only thing that never dies.”
I’m bawling.
So so true there isn't a person on earth that can speak to me with worthless words to make me feel any better lost a daughter and son the hurt the longing is there day and night
@Brenda Drumm
Heaven is real. Thanks to Jesus we all go. I don’t say these things for any other reason than that they are facts I’ve come to accept.
@@jesusdiscipledon1499 I could write a book my middle son was a handful in and out of eight of dif prisons over twenty odd yrs ago petty what goes. On. today he got down down on the rd in a coma the
Me to my friend...
I just lost my HEART on the 18th of September 2020 17 days ago!!! I am lost. I am grieving and mourning oh the pain. Friend to friend I am not moving on.
@Sam Sung
Your heart isn’t lost. The lowest lows exist to define the highest highs. You can’t feel the best you’ve ever felt without feeling the worst you’ve ever felt. At least, once in a while.
Grief for a loved one is the loneliest place you can be. Or so I've found. I lost my boyfriend of 4 years suddenly and unexpectedly in February this year. 2/20/22. The next day I found my engagement ring in his room. I had lost my dad 3 months prior and my dog of 17 years only a month before. This has been the loneliest 10 months of my life. I will never get over him and moving on without him is the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. I needed to hear this speech. I'm working on myself but it is a lonely and sad existence. Thank you for these understanding and heartfelt words.
I'm sorry about your loss. I don't think moving on is the correct term. But just continuing on before we meet them again.
I just lost my dog of 17 years as well a few days ago. I found some comfort in building an altar for them and painting them. Maybe it could help feel like your honoring them by doing as well?
Much love
I know what it’s like so I do feel for you truly. I haven’t had so much losses in such a short time but I also lost my boyfriend to the war on October 28, 2022 and then found an engagement ring with the “I love you” words engraved.
I have listened to this talk many times since his death and found it’s very comforting.
Sending you much love, Kathy.
Sorry for your loss. Same situation I am in. John gone since 2020 died quickly from cancer. Together 21 years. So lonely without him. God bless you. I will pray for you. 🙏♥️
Oh my dear, you really have lived my worst nightmare. I am so sad for you, but having been there myself i like many others can only say it will get better for you but will take a lot of time slowly slowly.
Be good to yourself, buy yourself something every week,force yourself to go somewhere nice, find a new hobby or give more attention to an old one and at first it will be difficult but there is an old saying of time heals and it really does, i know because i have lived it too, pop down to your nearest homeless dog shelter too, its amazing the work they do and you may find a new 4 legged friend who hasn't anyone that cares xxxx
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I learned some years back, that platitudes and "It will be OK!" is not OK. I hope the best for you.
Came here to find comfort from grief. Woke up in the middle of the night, missing my dad terribly. He just left 6 days ago.
I too lost my dad 3 days ago. Came here to find someone who can understand my pain. I feel lonely n scared. I'm not the same person anymore. My prayers with u and ur family. Take care
So sorry :( still miss my dad a year later. Honor him everyday
I cant imagine ur pain.... just know you guys are fighters! Tho we don't know each other, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! Keep fighting, we love you....💜
I'm also here to seek some comfort
@@mohfirepilipili just hang on, we r on same boat. Night is always dark before dawn.
My grandma died last year. Today I cried so much that I almost threw up. No one understands why I still cry about her sometimes. I really needed this video
siobhan mckee My grandma died 12 years ago and I still miss her terribly. If you love someone very much, I think it’s normal to be sad. I feel sorry for your loss ❤️
...me too...😢😤😕
@@Sara2016a we can go Jesus for our sadness, he can help. He said happy are those that mourn for they will be comforted. We don't have to be sad all the time over a loss.
Shelly Blanchard Yes, I pray many times and I understand, we don’t have to be sad all the time. That’s true. It’s only sometimes when I have some memories. I know we must accept God’s choice. We have to move forward no matter what.
I love my grandma so much she raised me as my parents are almost always busy with work and don’t really spend time with me. If she died I would fall apart and wouldn’t know what to do.
I’d rather forget people that belittle me for grieving rather than forget about my mother❤️
F them they have to experience loss my heart goes to you my story is too long lost a daughter and son yr half apart adults my life ended the days they left me xx
it bloody hurts they dont have a clue.. its heartless really..
@@brendadrumm9708 😢
1000000% me too
Amen, cakey C.
There is no process of grief, every process has an end, but grief is for life and is there to stay. You don't move on from grief you move forward with it. Somedays you are doing good, but somedays even in the middle of your daily life chores the thought of the person you lost hits you and you start missing the person, you miss the person so much that it's physically painful.
I still cry for my mother 8 years after her death. The grief never goes away. You just learn to cope.
true'
So true
I lost the love of my love lately...
it's very painful
no matter how hard you are moving on, the pain will never go away...
A woman who lost her child told me more than 30 years after it happened. You never get over it, you just deal with it differently.
Love is the only thing that never dies
Jennifer Hernandez
Nothing ever dies. All that is, is Love
I feel that
When she said that, it really hit home.
It hurts so bad.. 💔😓
Right on
Agree ❤
My mama passed away 3 weeks ago, one moment she was having a nap next door half an hour or so later I told my daughter to go kiss her goodnight as usual, but by that time my mama was already gone. There is no pain that could ever described this. If you still have your Mama cherish them, there is no one on this earth like your mama. Without them your world is completely changed forever. Rest in peace my queen 💗
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JANINE, I AM SENDING YOU A BIG HUG. I'M SO SO SORRY FOR THE PASSING OF YOUR MAMA. I SHALL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS HONEY. I WILL ASK OUR LORD TO SEND EXTRA ANGELS TO CARRY YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THE PAIN YOU ARE IN. I LOST MY DADDY/PAPEE . HE STAYED TO SPEND MY BIRTHDAY WITH ME FOR THE LAST TIME AND PASSED THE NEXT DAY. I TOO, CALL MY MOTHER MAMA. SHE IS MY BESTEST LOVING FRIEND AND HONESTLY I FEAR THE DAY JESUS COMES DOWN AND LOOKS AT HER AND TAKES HER BREATH AWAY. I HAD AN AWAKENING ONE DAY DOING BUSINESS IN REGARDS TO DADDY/PAPEE. THIS YOUNG LADY SAID TO ME, YOU'RE VERY LUCKY...IVE NEVER BEEN A DADDY'S GIRL...IM LUCKY IF I SEE HIM ON HOLIDAYS. I FELT SO SAD FOR HER BUT I REALIZED GOD LOANED ME THE BEST. THAT REALLY MADE ME REALIZE I HAD BEEN BLESSED, AS YOU HAVE BEEN. IT HURTS SO BAD BECAUSE THEY GAVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS. CONTACT ME IF YOU'D LIKE. SENT WITH LOVE AND HUGS 💜
My mom passed away 5 years ago and I still am clueless how to deal with it
@@nainaarora1885 HONEY THE HEARTACHE NEVER GOES AWAY EVER...U JUST LEARN TO LIVE DIFFERENTLY I'M TOLD BY MANY. I'M TRULY SORRY HONEY. IT'S BECAUSE SHE GAVE YOU UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALL YOUR LIFE 💕 I STILL CRY ....AND MISS DADDY EVERYDAY. I WAS A DADDY'S GIRL BIG TIME. HE WAS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL MAN. YOU AND I WERE BLESSED. GOD BLESS YOU..MAY HE SURRPUND YOU WITH ANGELS TO CARRY YOU. REMEMBER SHE IS WITH YOU ALWAYS. WE WILL NEVER DEAL WITH IT...SO WE REMEMBER OUR PARENTS LOVE AND MEMORIES.....AND KEEP THEM ALIVE. HUGS AND LOVE 💔
My Auntie Bonnie who was everything to me passed I'm her sleep, 3 years later I'm still so lost without her the pain never goes away I cry everyday, I can't move on without her. I'm so sorry for your loss I know your pain, if anything I want you to know that your not alone love..
the pain is like something inside of you has died , but the sad part is you have to live.
So well said 💔💔💔
Don't be such a dummy you can move on and you will
Exactly, and its so hard 😪
I feel the same way. We have no choice. We HAVE to go on and live because others love us. My mom died of covid February 2021. I understand and accept that God, in His sovereignty, allowed this to happen, but I can't find joy in being here. All the positive things are of no eternal value and the negative hurts so it seems to me that it's better to be with the Lord and my mother. I won't hurt myself because I love my family but I would much rather be with my mom. I have also found that my pain is my connection to my mother. Memories, are just that ...memories. The only thing that is a REAL experience is the pain I feel of losing her. I am hanging on to that pain because that is all I have that is truly a connection to her. I would gladly trade that pain for a nightly dream of her.. the kind that feel SO REAL. The kind where you could feel the pressure of her touch! But I have only had one of those. Of if I had "unusual" experiences where I just KNOW that it's her. As of now, my pain is my comfort and I will never "move on".
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
I lost my loving mother 3 days before Christmas. She passed away peacefully in hospice from end stage Parkinson's, dementia, and a stroke that paralyzed the left side of her body. I was by her side until her last breath. I miss my mom so much.
I lost my amazing mother as well , on the 31st of October from liver cancer, it was the most traumatizing experience and the saddest thing to have happened to me
I lost my mom the day after Christmas. She was paralysed for the past 20 years and was suffering from interstitial lung disease. She was the kindest and the most beautiful woman. My dad didn't treat her right or spoke to her for the last one year. She suffered a lot. I feel you totally. Stay strong ❤️
I lost my beloved dad on October 11, 2022 and I miss him so much.
SO VERY SORRY MY CONDOLENCES, MAY I ASK FOR YOUR MUMS NAME, SO I MAY PRAY FOR HER SPIRIT. GOD BLESS YOU.
You got to say good bye . She died in a comfortable bed. Mine died in a burning house . You’re luckier than you know
the worst thing you can do to a person who is grieving, is to ask them to change the subject to something less depressing... bring them a cooked meal, instead, sit with them, and allow them to talk about their loved one and or cry about them, openly, without stopping them to talk about something else... Be there to listen, show interest, and understand.
absolutely agree, ive recently lost my young daughter, and people dont want to hear, they keep changing the subject......for my own good they say. I just want them to sit there and let me talk, scream and cry, but they dont
@@retrfdg hope you can get through it and I'm just proud of you for being here. Talking about it.
@@retrfdg I agree 100%. I recently lost my Mom and people asks me to change the subject and stop crying for her.
@@retrfdg - I got a huge lump in my throat reading your post. Keep pressing forward. Let me know your daughters name and tell me what ever comes to your mind first: what is the funniest memory you have of the two of you laughing together. 😇
@@tinyhoney12 my daughter's name is Amii. She was beautiful, inside and out. She lost her life due to neglect from NHS. I cannot move on from the day i came home and found her. Yes there are many happy memories, we laughed and got up to mischief together a lot, but Im too low, too sad to go there. Just cant process anything
I lost my Grandma today. She was one of my soulmates. I will never move on from her, but instead, I will carry her with me. Thank you.
Sabryn Wooton I’m watching this because I too lost my grandma in September so it will be a year next month
I lost my grandma sep21 it will be a month tomorrow .. the sorrow I feel is consuming me
Sabryn Wooton
I lost my grandma yesterday:( RIP
Sabryn Wooton ...lGrandma B...Sept. 16, 2019. 😢😢
I lost my grandma on September 4th. I miss her daily and she took care of me from my childhood. I don't think I can ever forget her.
If you're watching this, I love you and you're not alone. ❤️
Thank you ole the same to you
SAME HERE
Thank you. Always keep safe Ole..
Thank you I Iove you too
Thank you so much.
It's been over three years and I still move around like a lost child. The loneliness, the pain, that feeling of despair... it's undescribable.
Lost my mum last month. Have no idea how I'm going to live without her.
@@AnneM76 ❤️❤️
@jennim282 my mom died in late February this year and I just can't believe it
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yes it is devistating, i lost my daughter 1 year ago and i just cannot stop crying the pain is awful.
i hate it when people are so insensitive to grieving people, grieving is guttering and exhausting. I have empathy for all of you who are going through a tough time, hang in there everyone. xx
People tend to act like that because they've either gone through it multiple times, or they've never experienced it.
@@NoCluYT true
Exactly. My son died 7 wks ago
@@anneosullivan5160 It really doesn’t matter if I don’t know of you, or your beloved son. What matters is that, we as humans feel a bond somehow with other people that are mourning. Why is that? Well, because millions of us have experience what you’re experiencing right now.
I want to offer my condolences to you and your family, and it comes from my heart.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
"Love is the only thing that never dies"
"There is no such thing as moving on"
So true
I Lost my Dad on 03 May.
I don't want to move on. I want to keep his memory alive.
Wbo is this Lady , would like to read her blog.
NeverLetGo KojnKuv yes
@@jdvandeventer AMEN. THE CRUELEST WORDS A PERSON COULD SAY TO US IS "MOVE ON OR GET OVER IT"! THE LOVE AND MEMORIES KEEPS THEM ALIVE...AMEN❤
NeverLetGo KojnKuv will
Yes
The pain of losing your mother can be so overwhelming I feel like I can't breathe some days it truly feels like a nightmare. It's only been 2 weeks I miss her every second of everyday but I know she would want me to get up everyday and live so I do it for her. I love you so much mommy I really miss you.
I hear you. Sorry for your lost a d pain. Send you a hug❤🌹
I feel you, my mom passed away 5 days ago, and I watched her die in the hospital. I feel like I am stuck in a nightmare. It hurts so bad.
@@fatoumfatoumeh sorry for your loss.
@@FabyJazmin Sorry for yours too. I hope it gets better for us.
I know how u feel i deal with day in and day out- tomorrow it will be a year that my mom died, and the pain still hurts
A quote, not sure who said it, "People die twice. First there is the physical dying of your body, second is the last time that your name is spoken aloud. " We can't change the first, but the second death....we can change. Keep that loved one in your thoughts, speak their name, don't be afraid to tell their story. You never "move on" you carry on. The greatest gift you can give your loved on is the gift of never forgetting. Beautiful ted talk, given in a beautiful way. Thank you
Charles bukowsi said "to know your own death is to die twice. Once, really. And then, hardly at all."
Sometimes a hug is better than anything someone might say.
absolutely. or sitting in silence with someone.
So true.
Yes 100% I've found that most people actually make it worse with their words to me.
I find that, too. To just be held while you cry can be SO comforting and is often more comforting than words.
can I have a hug? :(
Words can’t even explain the pain I’m going through right now 😔 ❤️🕊
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending LOVE.❤️❤️❤️
I may not know you personally but you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and live your life in a way that would make ur loved one proud:)
They never will it's a journey with no ending x
Love and light
I lost my daughter father and its killings me right now
I lost my 17 year old son last year ..l want to tell his story..he was a brave boy who battled hypo ventilation syndrome with hypoxic brain injury for 12 years still spreading joy to all around him..we miss you Shashwat..which means eternal..he will live in our hearts forever
Thank you for sharing your love
Love to you all and ask Shashwat to give my beautiful mom a hug from me please 🙏🏽💫
Thankyou..warm hug to you too..I have taken to painting.. sending some flowers for you🌷🌹
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
" John 3:16
So sorry for your loss :(. My cousins son passed away at 17 years old from a car accident in October in this year
My son also died they died differently but it is the same pain that never goes away ever
The amount of grief is in direct proportion to the amount of love. 💜
That might sound nice but there can also be a lot of grief for a person with whom there are many missed opportunities, with a person that should have been loved or loving… but wasn’t. The bereavement of people who had cold parents/spouses/relatives etc. is real.
No truer words ❤
You know what also hurts?
When your loved one dies even after trying your best to prevent their death and them dying exactly the way you feared them to.
😢
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
That's what I'm dealing with now. Mine passed away July 1st from exactly what I was afraid of.. I'm glad I still have our daughter though she'll be 14 in December & reminds me of him so much 🤍
Souls have their mission and that includes how and when they take their exit. If you can talk to loved ones who passed they would probably scold you for thinking you could have prevented how they passed. People live their lives to get experience for the soul and when that is accomplished they leave, never mind their earthly connections that they leave behind. Those who are left behind for them there is a lesson also, so let go and focus on how you live going forward - your loved ones will always be a part of you now....so do not be stuck in the period of their death...but remember your soul also has a mission and being in their life was part of that...you are still here...why?!
@@jillsinanan6777 would she really do that
Beforr my grandma died I could hear how she wished she could live longer to see us grow and accomplish our dreams.
she wanted to live but she had no choice.
Missing my mom. Lost her a year ago. I’m with everyone who is grieving.
Lost my mom a year ago too. Miss her so very much. 🐾🙏
Mirian Ansotegi we will get by. Praying for better days. Stay safe and well Mirian.
@@mirianansotegi9590 Thank you. Your words truly mean a lot. I felt as through I was only one who had lost my mom. Everyone says I should just move on..but it really isn't possible when you lose someone so close to your ❤️
I lost my mom too, back in Sept 2018. I still feel so heartbroken and miss her so much! I try my best to cope with it but I can’t imagine my life without her..
I’m praying for you and sending you love! 💜
Thank you. Lost my Grandfather. He was everything to me. I can't bear this. I miss him sooo much. I'm with you too.
My mom passed away two days ago. I wasn’t even with her for the last goodbye. I talked to her a night before when I asked her to sleep properly and take care of her health and she reassured that she is taking care of herself and that I should not worry at all. Imagine my horror when I received the news the very next morning. It is excruciatingly painful. Her voice, her face, her sweet smile, I don’t want to forget anything. I will never forget her. She is going to stay forever in my heart, in my memories. The path in front of me is scary. I don’t know how I’ll survive without my mother’s advice, I don’t know who will I work hard for in the future. I just want to remember her forever. The pain is too much but I could only hope to get to meet her soon. I love you so much mumma.
I am so sorry for your loss. This is not easy but I hope it gets better.
Same here bro/sis, i can understand the pain
My sister and brother have been murdered, and i am not able to forget the memories. All the day mind is filled with thoughts, regret.. Don't know what to do 😭
Hugs Mitanshi beta 🤗 mumma is watching over you ...ok stay strong my love
My mon died on July 19th. I truly feel your pain 😞 💔💔💔 no one can replace our moms.
I lost my mom today, on march 15th. She passed away due to liver cancer. She was only 56 years old and i am 22. I was her only child. It’s been really hard, but this video has helped me a lot, thank you so much ❤
As an only child please know you aren't alone. I think we tend to think we are so alone. I dont even know you but I am here. Take your grief 1 minute at a time. Sending all my love.
I am so sorry, that is so difficult. I am sending you love and prayers.
I am truly so so sorry for your loss ❤
So sorry ❤ please vent if you need to
I hope you are ok at times. I cannot imagine the pain. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
My husband died 10 years ago. I still share funny stories about him. That's how he stays alive.
My boyfriend was the only one who I could share the funny stories with, Now the loneliness is even stronger whenever I see one. Im sorry for your loss.
Me too. My husband died six years ago.
@@amyzhang2082 JCPenney
@@amyzhang2082
Flabby
Also helps me to think of good moments me and my son had even though we battled
I'm native American. Where I come, from it's completely backwards from what's taught in mainstream culture. When the baby is born we grieve that baby and everything that baby will go through, throughout its life, all the hardships and pain. When that baby grows old and dies, we rejoice and remember all the good times. Sure there are sad moments but the ones that count, are the happy moments and successful moments.
Mr. G., Your description of grieving at a baby's birth and rejoicing at the end of this life makes a lot of sense. There is so much suffering here. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🌿🌅🌃
Apparently when I was born many moons ago, my grandmother commented that we are born into a cruel world.
Wow...that is incredible; it makes so much sense! Of course Native Americans would think that way...they have deep reverence for all of nature and the life cycle living things go through. Beautiful!
My prayer for you this day is that before you call one, hundreds will arise to favour you. I see people falling over themselves to divinely favour you. As you keep trusting the Lord, He will favour you and elevate you to heights beyond your imagination Have a super pleasant day.
That is a beautiful tradition. Thank you for sharing this.
My beloved died 37 years ago. There was no TH-cam then or ways to find such good uplifting content and community. It was hard then and more lonely to be in one’s grief. This video has rocked my world in a most beautiful way. Coming upon it is a gift from him, I do believe. His name was Phil.
My older Brother died at 19 I know what you feel like it’s like a everlasting emptiness in your heart i’m sorry for your brother
May GOD bless you and continue to help you find peace.
Phil, You are blessed to have the love of this person who loves you still after 37 years enough to bless us with introducing us to you through your name. Much love to you both❤️🙏
Yes, speak his name. Phil. Your love. He is honored that you spoke of him. I lost my beloved husband 4 years ago. His name was Dan.
@@susanschroedel893 thanks Susan. And here’s to your Dan. Love endures.
Losing my husband is the hardest thing i have ever been through. Its been 1 1/2 months and its harder now that at first. Thank you, everyone for sharing, i know i am not alone.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
Me to my hubby gone 2 months i feel its harder an harder.. love to you x
My daughter at 31 died of cancer on 6/2/22. She was an only child. It is the hardest I ever had to deal with. The pain is unique to each person. There is nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. Lynn gave a wonderful talk.
What was her name?
I agree. Nothing can be said, nothing will make you feel better. I wish people would stop saying 'you'll get over it, it's life, bla bla bla'. They could just shut up. Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all.
I pray that you have found some comfort in all of your pain. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Sending you a tight hug!
@@bonnierobinson8684 Mallory
Jerry, I really cannot imagine your pain...sincere condolences. This makes me hate cancer even more.
You never get over it. You just learn to live in pain. To survive for the living loved ones who need you. To cry when you need to. To pray for them as much as you pray for yourself. There is no forgetting, stitching, or moving on from the pain.
There is no lesson, just pain.
However you do learn to appreciate the precious people still with you.
Their love will carry you through.
I'm with you. You never 'get over' the grief. You just learn to adjust to life with that ever present ache in your heart.
@@blotski well said.
Pray ? Excuse me dear God but you did not obviously grant my prayers.
Heartbreaking... I completely agree with her! My mom died when I was 17... now I'm 30 and I'm still grieving 😢 you CAN'T just move on, instead you learn in time to live with the pain.
Whew...finally, someone understands. My husband died nearly 20 years ago from cancer and I (apparently) handled it really well according to everyone. Then my Mom died six months ago at age 97 and I've been a mess every single day since. Can't sleep, can't eat, don't want to go anywhere and thoughts of my husband and his life being cut short now haunt me. I'm going to my first counseling session in a few days because this acute grief is exhausting and I'm needing some tools to ease the pain.
This what I am afraid of not being able to live with the pain . I am 29 and my mother died almost 3 weeks ago and the days seem longer . The middle of the day is when I feel this huge sadness . I am so sorry you lost your mom .
icyivy - VERY WELL PUT!!!!
Love never dies.💜
icyivy gr my mom died when i was 24 im 29 now and it sucks sorry for your loss
My best friend died 6 weeks ago, and I am completely devastated. We were best friends for 44 years. The grief washes over me in waves, I think this will haunt me forever. My heart breaks for everyone else who has felt this pain.
My Best friend died 13 days back, i never realised i was so emotionally attached to him, dont know how i came over here searching for answers, something has died inside, i am not able to get over it, dont know if i would get over it or not
@@AmanRaj-bf9yv I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don't. People keep telling me as time goes by it gets better but for me it's the opposite, the more time goes by the more I miss him. It really hurts. I wish I knew the answer to healing. I wish you peace.
Talking about your loved one and being able to sit in your grief is healthy. No one ever knows how long it will take to be able to deal with the loss of a loved one. There are so many stages of grief and they can come in your heart at any moment. For me, what we do with our grief honors our loved one that has passed on. I heal when I get to hold people up as they loose loved ones. Sitting with people in their grief is humbling and full of the people for whom I’ve lost. Extending my love for others, gives the ones that have passed on their legacy even when they are not here anymore. They now live through me. Blessings to all of you.
I understand my best friend, sister, one of the greatest loves of my life passed almost 6 months ago. We were besties for 49 years. Introduced her to her husband, We were two peas in a pod always together. I pray, I cry, I talk to her. Some days are better than others. I tell her everything to this day. Love never fades.
@Linda Collins I talk to my friend too, I thought maybe I was weird or something, but I find it helps me feel close to him. It's all I have left. I am so sorry for your loss, may memories of your loved one bring you comfort.
I lost my wife this Month due to covid she is 6 months pregnant for our first baby, we just got married last June the pain is killing me everyday, I'm in lost 😭
I lost my love ❤ too . Be strong and don't be harsh on ur self I know this is a tough time. But i believe that u will keep them alive in ur heart and never be sad. E=mc2... Believe their energy is still their u r not alone in this fight dear 💕 my love and blessing to u. May God give u peace of heart and soul.... Love u aalllll the way from kashmir
My heart is so broken for you. I’m devastated over the sudden loss of my mother. My brother lost his wife a year ago and half an hour ago his daughter committed suicide. No knows where my brother is so he still does not know his daughter died. I’m so broken over this I don’t know what to do. My heart goes out to you and I’ll be praying for you tonight. I wish you peace.
@@susanm7887 I love u dear 💕stay strong
I really hope u find strength .... this is heartbreaking. All the love and strength to u buddy !
I am so sorry for your losses.
I just lost my papa 2 nights ago, i was by his side the whole time.. i miss him so much. I’m so happy he’s no longer in pain or suffering 😞 Please send prayers and good thoughts my way 😞
I lost my father on the 17th of November suddenly with heart problems I feel your pain brother i feel like my hearts been ripped out I miss him and want him back so much I know they'll be at peace now no pain and watching over us let's make them proud because they live on in us good luck Anthony
Hey how are you right now? I lost my dad recently. I hope you can stay strong in this difficult time. Sending my thoughts and prayers for you.
Prayers SENT!!😢😌🤗!!
Nothing can ever prepare you for the death of your father. Mine died a this week of a sudden heart attack. He was only 57. Keeping you in my thoughts Anthony.
Make him proud Anthony. ✊️
Losing my mom was detrimental to me. 20 years with her was just not long enough. I miss her with every fiber of my being, everyday. It will never go away. I will never be over it. I’m almost 25 and it still feels like I’m lost and stuck in that day. People don’t understand. It is so lonely. A piece of me died with her that day.
Same. My mother died when I was 23. I sometimes blame myself. If only I know she'll die too soon.
I'd trade everything just to see her again. Just one hug. I miss her voice. I miss everything. I'm not who I was before. I'm still half dead.
I know right? My mom died when I was 19 almost 20. Now I am 30 and still hits very hard when I remember her. I still cry every time 😞
A mothers love never dies and when a mother passes a daughter never fully recovers. A piece of us is missing forever and you never get too old for a mothers love. I still cry for her all the time.
Am sorry. I totally understand. It changes you for sure. How can 1 ever get over losing the person that gave us life and loved us unconditionally. Take care and be kind to yourself💕
I'm so sorry :( I lost my mom a year ago and I feel the same. A part of me died with her. Yet she's alive in me, in my memories and in my love for her. We can never move on from this loss.
Just lost both of my parents within the last 14 months. Dad died suddenly of a massive stroke and Mom was devastated without him. I gave up a year of my life to take care of Mom until she passed from lung cancer almost exactly a year after Dad left her. That year was very hard but I am so glad I gave her that gift. She gave up so much to give me life when she was only 17, back in 1963 that was very hard. I am so grateful we had a year to spend together and really reconnect. I love you Mom, and I will tell your story. Thank you dear lady for this talk, I really needed this. Love and peace to all who have lost loved ones, you are strength and a voice for those who need it.
I'm sorry you've lost your Mum and Dad 😢 God bless you and I pray you will be OK 🙏❤️
Your parents did such a good job with you. What a wonderful daughter you were to them ❤
I lost my daughter one week ago, she was 3 days old. You never expect such a short life to teach you so much, but she did. She showed me ways i can contribute, and i hope i will make her proud. I am devastated and heartbroken.
I just lost my father today we are here for you even in the comments....it’s extremely difficult and so painful
So so sorry for your pain.
I am heartbroken for you. 💕
God Bless You 🙏
Lots of love your way✊
You never get over it...you learn to live with it.
I still haven't learned how.
There’s just something’s some people, can’t adjust to, or accept or live with, and I’m one of them, it’s like a living nightmare, you wake up every morning, and that is the first thing that comes in to you’re head, they’re gone 😱
You can't move on. It's definitely the most horrible feeling ever. When someone you love dies your life is over. You only learn to continue life with a broken 💔.
My sincere condolence. It's Colin. I'm from Boxford, US. I noticed from your comment that you must be a positive personality. Nice meeting you here. May I have the chance to know the Angel behind this beautiful face?
A broken heart I never understood the meaning . Now I live with this broken heart .
The pain is horrible, but it is the primary duty of the living ones to carry on with their fathers' work. Parents bring one up so that one could stand on one's own feet and live as happy as possible. I don't know whether they see us when they die or not - but they wouldn't be happy to see their child's life broken by their death.
Absolutely true.
I just recently lost my beautiful funny silly amazing girlfriend and right now my heart is so broken 💔 I am grieving and want so badly to be with her I don't want to even go on
I am a recent widow. It’s the worst feeling EVER 💔😢
No one will truly understand unless they go through it. Grief is not something you just “get over”.
Thank you for this.
Everyday since my hubby died, I always talk to him like he's just beside me. I still talk to him about everything like I did when he was still alive.
i am so sorry,people that die never go away ,they walk beside us everyday,this is a very healthy thing to do ,you have not forgotten..
My husband passed away six weeks ago and I do the exact same thing.
@@robinr5561 I’m so sorry I hope you are able to handle your emotions throughout this.
@@Ayra654 Thank you.
@@robinr5561 Be strong! You're a fighter. All my respect and best wishes
So crazy that I'm watching this after crying less than 3 hours ago. I was (and still am) in a lot of pain. I miss my parents so much and I still can't understand why they had to leave me. The fear, the pain and emptiness are just unbearable.
sending some love your way, they dont leave you as long as they are in your ❤️
@@daryasavchenko6288 Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
Nothile, I am truly sorry for your pain & loss. I pray you find peace and healing💛🙏🏻. Please know however that your parents are not lost to you, they are merely in a different form-but they will be your guardians until you all meet again. Trust this and talk to them everyday. Please search Carolyn Molnar videos. They brought me a lot oc comfort.
I know. Going through the same way. I want to go home but I cant. Home is gone.
I have just lost my mum and miss her even though I’m 60 I feel so sad seeing my dad without her and the house feels empty
My brother died today. And a huge part of my heart went with him. I refuse to ever forget or move on. I'm frightened I will forget his voice. My heart just hurts so much right now.
I just lost my sister a few days ago from cardiac arrest. She had severe asthma. She was only 25 and left behind 2 beautiful girls. Her birthday is next month. This is the most unthinkable pain, and I know exactly how you’re feeling. I wish I could tell you something to take the pain away, but the only thing keeping me sane is I know they’re in a much better place than this.
My brother has been gone for 10 years. I still remember his voice. I remember the way he smelled. I’m so deeply sorry. Hugs to you.
Losing one's sibbling is so psychologically painful that I wouldn't even wish such a traumatising experience to my worst foe. In a place where I come from, we usually say that the surviving sibbling loses part of him/her. My eldest sister died 7 years ago and our mother followed 4 years later. Everyone in the family seems to have moved on except me, and they can't comprehend why I have not been able to forget about them? But how come one's descendants can just wipe their ascendants out of their memories so fast? I'm wondering what this world has come to? My condolences to you and the entire family, and may your brother R.I.P.
So sorry. Prayers for your strength and calm. I lost my brother in ‘91. He was my best friend. It took forever to get to where I could talk about it. Time makes it to where we can manage our grief better, but the hole in your heart stays. Peace be with you.
I know I'm late but my condolences and I hope you find your peace one day for both of you
My mom passed away yesterday. The depth of grief cuts so deep. I think it’s a blessing to love someone this tremendously and to grieve likely for the rest of my life. I don’t expect it to get better and maybe that is okay.
Loosing a mother is a lot of pain, I lost mine last month June 14. I know it’s not easy but with time you will get over it! Remember she will always want you to be happy wherever she is now. Sending you love and hugs 🫂 ❤
im pretty sure i lost my dad the same day u lost your mom. He was only 49
@@markdashark3094 I’m so sorry about, my mom died 1week after celebrating her 51 years old birthday, I almost lost my mind but I’m getting better now, I miss her so much..
@@markdashark3094 so sorry about yours dude, I hope you’re doing good now.
My dad just died today. I feel so lost
I lost my beloved father to cancer in 2017. I love and miss him every single day. This pain is indescribable. I will never be the same.
I am in the same boat as you.
My Daddy died almost 3 weeks ago, after 3 months in the Hospital. I feel like dead inside
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So sorry for your pain. I lost my Dad and best friend to a completely sudden death two months ago. My heart is broken into pieces. It's going to be a long hard road of pain unfortunately. Hope you're holding up!
Exactly how I feel too. I lost my dad in a road accident. It's been 4 years, but I'm still living with utmost pain. :( Sorry about your loss.
The pain of grief never goes away, you just learn how to live with it.
Exactly
Am married to a widower and I can say it's not an easy expense, his late wife memories never dies and I have to leave with that reality.
I needed to hear this. Having a very bad day of grief. Rest In Peace to my son Nicolas 2/19/94 - 8/1/2011
I'm sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace.
rip💐 ☹ I was born in 94 too
So sorry for you loss. Lost my son too. My only child Mayowa. Life hurts so much
Sorry for your great loss... take care.
Amy im so sorry
My mother died in my arms 3 days ago and my heart feels very sad 😭 I crave my mother's presence to a huge extent😔She was a huge part of my life for many years. I miss her a lot. I feel a wave of loss and grief. I want to call out to her, hear her voice, share something with her and I can’t. She is gone. All I am left is with a very empty, heavy, sad heart😞😩😭
I really relate to this. My mum died 7 days ago. I sobbed for a few days but the pain has been sitting in my chest today. I hope you are ok. Xx
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I’m so very sorry for your loss. ❤
Almost 10 years passed since I lost my love of my life..I think we both died on that cold December
Afternoon together..the only thing is that......she died once...and I die everyday.
I'm so sorry I lost mine in may. I understand the pain...no words...❤🙏🏽🌹
I'm so sorry for your loss may her soul rip❤️
i can’t imagine
So sorry
i lost mine in March. i’m so sorry for your loss. i agree,, he died once, i die everyday
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“Taking away someone’s connection to someone that they love, what purpose does it serve?” Such a powerful statement. Hate it when people think it’s irrelevant when you talk about the person you miss the most, who you won’t ever get to see again.
My daughter and sons got taken away by their other parent.
Not dead, but they're been gone nine years. As good as dead.
You deal. That's all there is.
You will get to see them again in heaven if you and your loved one have accepted Jesus as your Savior
What's even more aggravating is to hear that kind of advice from a person who has never lost a loved one... someone who tries to justify showing their sympathy. They have no Idea what losing someone close feels like. They should take their advice about moving on and shove it into the "Crematorium of bad advice"!
Y E S !!!
@@wildastreet9148 gospel truth!
Crying as I watch this... My goodness, I don’t know you, but I love you. And I loved everything you said.
I just posted💓 if u are going thru loss like our family maybe it could help. God bless. Post:
💜💕. my momma💜 passed on in 2016 due to cancer; it broke our family. My parents had been married over 40 years. My dad went into deepest depression. He wrote a book about my parents love story, faith & the journey of loss/grief. He did an interview recently on (Aminutetomidnight) TH-cam channel. His name is George & that interview was posted June 9 2019. Maybe it would encourage you💜💕, I miss my momma too everyday forever grateful for her being in my life.💜💕
Me too!!!! 🖤🖤🖤
Memories will Always be in your heart. I cannot get over my daughter.take your time and grief..
Completely Agree 1,000% 👐🙌👏💞
From a distance your photo looks like my late fiancé 😭
I’m from Saudi Arabia I lost my father 5 years ago everyone avoid talking about him including my friends and even my own family..
Sometimes I wanna talk but I can’t find anyone open to talk with me.. they think talking about him is not worth it and he’s gone..
Whenever I feel pain and sadness I watch this video over and over again to comfort me..
Thank you so much.
I wish I had better friends.
I will listen to you and be the friend who supports your deep love for your dad.
I’m sorry you feel that way! I lost my father 23 yrs ago and still think and talk about him daily! Don’t listen to your people. You keep talking about your dad because he was here and he mattered! Love him always.
Dear Everyone in the comments.
If I could hug all of you I would. If I could sit with you and listen to your memories of your loved ones, I would. If I could have met the one you speak of, I would have been blessed to have even known them. We all should treat each other in such a way we would have wanted others to treat the one we so long to speak with again. Every person that walks by us is loved dearly by someone and they will be missed dearly by someone one day. Let’s all honor the ones we love with honoring each other❤️🙏
Beautiful words. Thankyou.
Bless you. That's lovely💕
I would love to sit with you and tell you everything 😭😭
Perftly said. 💕
Well said
When people say move on or get over it, it is their way of saying they don't understand and they will never understand until they lost their own loved ones
Correct
True
There are others who as soon as you talk about your loved one, they say: hmm, my mother died way longer ago and look at me, i'm still alive... as if losing a loved one was a matter of racing who's stronger or not...
Soo truee❤️❤️❤️
They say that its been soo long.
They never understand
Yep no thier fault though its society n proffesinals to they say to you how long has it been n u tell them they look at u can almost hear them say pull your self togeter that was 3yrs ago my son 2018 n my daughter 2010 im trying to live so is my remaining son hes doing well im concerned hes going for couselling now he might b dissapointed you gt 6 appointments 6 hrs basically couselling bah
Absolutely on point. thank you. I won't ever stop loving my wife or stop talking about her. Couldn't have said it any better.
Good for you! Why should we be expected to stop loving the people we love who have died? Think about it. Its crazy. you will love her forever, and that love will grow more love and more life for you ....thank you for watching xo
dante236519
May your wife rest in peace.
dante236519 I am the same with my husband .
I’m the same way about my mom
dante236519 be blessed dear
When I lost my wonderful husband, I learned many things. The most important one? You need to make room in yourself ~ your brain or your heart, or both, for your new, and constantly evolving grief. I’ve tried locking grief up, because it’s so bothersome. It appears at the worst times, when you least expect it, and is like a stubborn child it WILL have its say. In the beginning, you wonder how to control this monster, because after all you have a life to finish living. I controlled it by giving it 30 minutes a day. I choose the time, and I timed its allotment. When 30 minutes was up, so was grief’s hold on my day. Gradually, like a satisfied child, the grief quieted, and went into dormancy. It will rise up, during a drive, and music coming on the radio, at movies, filled with emotion, and with memories; but I’d be lying if I told you it ever disappears, because it doesn’t. It’s like a wound with a scab, it’ll get smaller over time, but it will leave a scar to remind you it was there. We each find our way through those dark days, and gradually you begin to live again. My husband gave me the very best gift. A life with nothing left unsaid, and with no regrets. He always told me “we are not promised tomorrow, so we have to live for today”. Good luck to all going through it. You are not alone, as many have been there before you. ❤️
I lost my mother today
This helped me heal, even for a little bit.
Thank you.
Im so sorry for that trmendous loss of your mom. Keep sharing her story, and know that love never dies.
SCD Gaming hope you are doing good
I lost my son last week. Things like this are a great help for me, too. My sympathies for your loss.
I hope you never forget her and that she's looking over you even in death somewhere.
I know how heartbreaking that is . I lost mine when I was 10 and think of her everyday still. I hope you are doing okay . I know you don’t know me but you are loved ❤️
“No one told me grief feels a lot like fear “ that really hit home for me 🤔💔
We don't move on, but we move forward with the memories and feeling that always linger in our heart and mind.
What you said made caused me to think. How long ago did you lose someone?
A comment I read on another video about death was,
“Grief is love with nowhere to go.”
I lost my partner of 20 years two years ago.
I stopped talking to my friends about him after a friend told me it had been two years and that I should be over it.
So sad how people can be so insensitive! So sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry! Grief has no time. Some days we are better some days it hits us hard. I’m so sorry for your loss and your not alone.
I'm here to find comfort from my grief. I put down my cat, Harmony, on Friday, now it's Monday. He was just a cat, some might say, but he was my baby and losing him is the worst pain I've ever felt. This video helps a lot, even if it's about losing humans. To many people, pets are just as precious as any relative or loved one.
Pets become family. I understand how you are feeling. I grieve over my pets passing also. God bless.
I'm also here grieving for my cat who passed away yesterday. He was everything to me and the pain is unbearable. You're not alone. Our loved ones, person or pet, will always be with us.
So very sorry for your loss, ジョネーJonét 😥💔😥 It's almost been 6 weeks since my beautiful orange tabby Biscuit had to be euthanized (he would've been in so much pain & agony if he lived longer)💔😭. The pain you and I feel -- and the pain MILLIONS of people feel after their beloved pet dies -- is something inexplicable (at least to me) and so emotionally painful. Basically, it's like a nightmare that you NEVER wake up from...
More so.
You hurt all the same when you love a human or an animal. I've been there.
My dad just died and I miss him so much. Life doesn’t feel real anymore.
Mine too, just a few days ago out of nowhere. I feel so empty and alone with him gone.
Me too. I have so many regrets. I still feel like I'm trapped in a dream. I cannot imagine a future without him. He was only 48.
I can't imagine your pain, just know that you guys are fighters and tho I may not know you and u don't know me, I am proud you guys are hanging in there! We love you guys and stay just as strong as you r! We will be here 💜
Mine has been gone since July 7th and im still expecting him to walk through the door any minute. It will never feel real for me but will always hurt tremendously.
It's a new reality ypu've been thrust into. And no one goes there willingly. When I gave myself permission to NEVER stop loving my late Husband, the panic lessened a LOT.
My sister Eileen died on the 01/04/2020 from Covid 19. Eileen (means light) and she was the light in our lives. Eileen was born with Down's Syndrome but her love of life, her empathy, her joy and her humour touched the lives of so many people. I think of her every day and she will forever be in my heart.
❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
My sister, Kathy, was also born with D.S. and just passed away this past Feb. 9, 2021 from stomach cancer. She was 51. We received her cancer diagnosis in Nov. 2020 but my parents didn't tell me until first week of Jan. because they didn't want to "ruin" my wedding. (I got married in Dec.) We immediately drove up to see her and I'm so glad because it was the last time. She was like my "twin" growing up because we were so close in age and she learned how to do everything by watching me. I completely understand the hole you have in your heart 'cause I have it too. When you sit still and close your eyes, you will "feel" her ....regardless of what faith you are. Try it. They're a special kind of people, sent to special families!!
@@jillsimpson7838 We were truely blessed to have such special sisters. Sending you love and prayers x
@@jillsimpson7838 ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️💔
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I always say that the one positive thing death of a loved one brings you is empathy...
You know what? I would have to say I agree with this. My dad just passed away and I do feel like I’m more empathetic toward others now.
empathy is a gift, grief is love with nowhere to go.god bless
I have certinly become more compassionate since losing my husband to death. I hope my talk helped in some way.
Really? I've become almost sociopathic and borderline sadistic after losing my mom.
This is very validating . My husband died in 2005. I was 32 with 5 and 3 year old boys . I feel my husband every day . I speak about him almost every day .
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?
Keep your mouth shut and let him rest in PEACE.
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@@smoothbobby6230she can do whatever she wants and you have no right to tell her how to live her life. Try being nice, it’s free.
I lost my husband of 26yrs on 2/9/22. The pain and emptiness I feel is indescribable. I appreciate this TED TALK, because I'll never move-on.😔
I’m really sorry for your loss 🥺
My grandma passed away last year and I hope all of us get through those tough times 🙏🏼💛
Many thanks to the amazing speaker 🙏🏼💛💛
I feel the same. I lost my husband to Covid, we were about to celebrate our 50th Anniversary, I had to cancel our trip. It’s been 7 months and I feel like I died myself and will never have joy again. No one understands this pain only other people who have loved so deeply and lost their love one. You have my deepest sympathy.
your life will paint more memories around your memories together - you will never forget.
You will never move on the memories are there you are alive just live with all the bygones
I know this pain too
Lost mine 3 days after Xmas December 28th 2021
You're right.
Move on? What are they saying?
"Hurry and be yourself again or be fake because I can't cope with your grief/ loss"
Ignorance.
I love this gals Ted talk.
A refreshing new view
Wife just died traumatically in front of my eyes.The pain is unbearable but our love goes on.
Stay strong x
My husband of 27 years passed away 19 days ago from cancer and I can attest he took half of my spirit with him to the other side. I took care of him as he battled cancer for 16 months up to watching him take his last breath.
I've loss many family members from my father to grandmother, but the level of grief I'm experiencing is simply devastating. I've seen many people lose their spouses but I had no idea until now how crushing the grief actually is.
I feel you, going through the same pain which is unbearable. I lost my beloved husband of 30 years through cancer almost 2 weeks ago. He died in my arms…
My grandma just passed away today. Couldn't even see her because of covid. I can't take it my heart is breaking lost my grandad back few years ago. Im shattered to pieces. May we all reunite together in paradise
You will see them again in paradise. You have the resurrection to look forward to. It won’t be much longer now. My heart goes out to you.
The best episode I've watched. My girlfriend died of an accidental drug overdose earlier this year. I found her in our hotel room. You don't understand the shock, disbelief, and pain unless you've been through it.
That is so true. It’s definitely much harder than you can ever imagine.i think it takes about two years to actually come to terms with it, but you never really get over it. It just gets a little easier as time goes on. But true love never dies , 🌸🌺🌸
My husband suicidal overdosed and left sad and alone in this earth but I still can't forget and stop loving him, he was my best energy and now am dead without him
Caleb, I’m so sorry. I also lost my girlfriend 2 days ago to an overdose. She struggled so hard and sadly, after this last time in rehab, she relapsed and lost the fight to this horrible disease. I love you and care about you, I wish you the best life has to offer. Take care my friend ❤️
I lost him as he suicidal overdosed bcz cheated on me but I still love him and he left me alone in this earth so easily.
@@lavishhuma7513 I'm so sorry how long ago was that?
My mother's funeral was today, I lost my Dad two years ago. This helped a lot. I am very open about my grief and struggles, it's how I cope. It can feel very isolating because it feels like you're the only one who feels that way, but knowing I'm not the only one is so powerful, it certainly helps.
With my sister being killed, I feel all alone. I understand about feeling isolated. However, there are people in my life that has been reaching out.. very few. But when I need someone to talk to, I have a few friends I can call.
I needed this. My fiance died Tuesday Dec 6th 2022. I had joined the bereavement ministry at my church Dec 4th 2022. I never in a million years would have thought his death would help me in the future to help and talk to others. Keep me in your prayers
Our situations r so similar
Praying for you sweetie
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You're not alone sis....my fiance died Dec 23, 2021....still miss him dearly every single day...but I know he's still with me cause he'll do little things to remind me of him and all the good times we had together.
@@dr.b1346 how long after did you start seeing signs?
@@bluebellbeatnik4945 immediately!....i'd hear the songs he loved, smell his hair oil/colognes on other men, see his various cars, hear phrases he'd use, see cardinal birds, and i started feeling a breeze blow past my feet in the kitchen while washing dishes with no windows open...so i knew that was him...also I'd see him in dreams...and he was always happy...smiling toothless from ear to ear...cause when he passed he didnt have his dentures in😁😁
It’s been 40 years since my mom died and I am sitting crying because I miss her badly!!I want to cuddle with mom, hear her tell me how proud she is of me. I miss the smell of her perfume. She always had home made cookies for me and my brothers for after school. The pain never goes away. I love you mom and you will always be in my heart forever. The pain atm is pretty unbearable. I just want my mom back!
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I understand you because I am going through the same. I will miss my mum until the day that I die. I can't help it and there's nothing wrong with it.
@David James 19 years since my husband died, it was also totally unexpected. I was 37, he was 47. It is so hard.
I lost my mom on September 24th 2021 I lost her at 22 years of age I am 23 now and it is still the hardest battle I’ve ever faced. I miss her dearly… I wish it would get easier but no one understands. I feel so numb inside
@@noahahmed8247 I am very sorry. Deal with it how you want to. Don’t listen to anyone else.
Very important speech. The most frustrating thing when you are the person who lost a loved one, is the fact that most people around you will share in that loss with you, but only for a limited time. I almost want to call it "Sympathy Limitation Syndrome". That doesn't mean those people don't mean well, i.e. they are there to call you when it has just happened, they bring food, they come by to give you a hug. They are there to attend the funeral and pay their final respects, but then what?
What happens to most people who have lost someone, is that after the funeral is over, and the initial shock and commotion surrounding the event of losing a loved one has calmed down a bit, the people in their friendship circle go on about their daily business. But what about you? You aren't ready to go on with your daily business, because your grief doesn't stop with the funeral. This is the time when you feel that grief and pain the most, but it also tends to be the time when there aren't enough people around. When your loss has just happened, you find yourself in a whirlwind of arrangements that have to be made, you're busy with funeral preparations, and creating announcement cards, etc etc. But when the funeral is over and all the whirlwind activities that surround a death come to a close, and you finally have the time to reflect on the actual loss, that is the time when the hard stuff really starts. That is when that grief hits you like a ton of bricks.
What I have learned from grieving personally is that the time AFTER the funeral (once all the memorial activities come to a close), is the most crucial time to reach out to the person who is grieving. For that is when the person who is grieving feels the most isolated and the most alone. We as a society have to collectively realize that a person's grief doesn't end when the last person walks out of the church, or when the last person in attendance leaves the grave site. It doesn't end there, it is only the beginning to a very difficult upwards hill of processing that grief.
I think it is also important to not ask "Can I do anything for you?" or "What can I help you with?", because often when you're grieving, you don't really know what it is that you need help with. Everything is so overwhelming or you are too embarrassed to ask, even though they offered their help.
In my opinion, it is better to not ask but to just do it. When you go over to their house and see that it is a mess with dishes in the sink, dust everywhere etc, the grieving person may be too embarrassed to ask you for help. So, I think it is best to just dig in and start cleaning. Do the dishes, give the plants some water, vaccuum the house, and if you know the person really well, even do a few loads of laundry. The point is to leave their home a warm and clean place for them to grieve in. Chaos in the house adds to chaos that is already in the mind of a grieving person, so the less household stress they have the better. Bring some food over without asking them if they would like you to do so. Just kind of put yourself in their position and think about what you would like someone to do for you in a time of mourning.
You are so right about all of this. Im glad you got something out of my talk and thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. They say grief lasts much longer than sympathy, which I think is true. We have a lot to learn, but we are getting better with time.
kelleyfunnylady What you do, speaking out about grief, speaking out about your beloved husband, trying to change the narrative of how people react to not only their own grief, but how they react to other people's grief is incredibly valuable, incredibly important, and has many dimensions. It helps you honor your husband and make sure that his death wasn't senseless, that his life and also death has a tremendous purpose, that his person stays relevant, that you are doing good for others in his name. You are honoring him in the highest regard. I know for a fact he could not be more proud of you and more grateful for you. Also, what you do has a trifecta of outcomes: you are helping yourself by giving loss a purpose, you are helping him by honoring him, and you are helping others through his story and through your own grief journey to give them some direction and a different option on how to handle their grief, in addition to handling other people's grief better. I think everyone (if we let it) could stay so consumed by grief and just give up, stay in bed, stay under the covers, and just be heartbroken forever. What you have decided to do with your grief is so commendable and so purposeful. Thank you for doing what you do.
that is very nice of you to say. Its definitely hard work, and there are plewnty of days when I DO sit around at home and lie in bed crying or cant seem to do much of anything. I always tell people that I have had to fight for my joy and for the life I live today. Its a constant battle, but very worth it to me to havew found purpose and meaning in helping others sitting in the darkness.
kelleyfunnylady I so completely understand. I don't think we would be human if we didn't have plenty of incredibly dark and sad days in bed after such a painful and profound loss. That is why I think it is so remarkable that you still find strength to do these events. It is very difficult to find joy after experiencing deep losses like this. Life can just be so hard. You just wonder how you're even supposed to get through the next hour. And when the loss is recent, you don't even know how to get through the next minute. You find it hard to even comprehend how life around you even goes on. I am also am shocked about the insensitive things some people say, like you mentioned in this video. The comment about grieving today and finding someone new the next day is unbelievable. "Get over it, move on" is also crazy insensitive and impossble. It is mindboggling how anyone could possibly say these things. Even if they wouldn't have experienced loss, I find it shocking.
Nikita, WOW, you are so right! Lost my wife 2 and a half years ago. Known her since kindergarten. I still wear my wedding band and hers, just can't "move on" or "get over it". Weeks after the funeral was the same old thing, nobody even talked to me as how are you doing or are you ok. Unless someone has has lost a spouse, the greatest person in your life, nobody has anything to say to you unless it's the "greatest hits" as Kelly said. Will always love my wife even though she is not here with me. Just can't forget her.
I miss my mother more than I could ever explain. I am so thankful that I could see how special she always was even as a very young child. She had an extremely hard life but could always find hope . I love you mom and will see you again.
you will see her again, God says so.
@@margaretmanzer2194 Thank you Margaret Manzer, I really appreciate that. 💖 ☦
@@sourmilkncookies963 I miss mine too so much. She was my best friend. She also had a hard life,lost her mom when she was 3 months old and struggled so much growing up.She is my hero.
I miss my mom every day. I lost her 3 months ago as she suffered from cancer. I can’t believe she is no more. I agree it’s hard to move on and only thing that keeps me going is that some day I will see her. I love you mom..
@@ams8833 I am so sorry for your loss. Having a close relationship with your mother is truly a blessing from God. Know in your heart that your mother will always be watching over you until you can be together again. ❤
When you truly love someone who's life has been taken away from you in your life you don't want to forget them in any way. The fact is if you really loved them up until that moment they were taken away from you, then you will always love them till the day you pass yourself. Yes, we have to carry on as best we can with our own lives, but when you have had that love in your life, it never goes away, it will always remain with you.
Thank you for saying this
I lost my dad, the love of my life, a month ago. I'm 24 and I can't imagine my life without him. I'm not living, I'm surviving.
My heart is bleeding and I'm alive just because my lungs work automatically.
I don't know how to help my mother, because I can't even help my self.
This video should be seen by all those people who are trying to give you life lessons, without knowing how you really feel every day.
It's too easy to say move on when the pain is not yours.
My most sincere condolences. May God bring peace and strength to you heart during this sad time and find comfort in his promise to bring back to life those you love who have fallen asleep in death.
(1 thessalonians 4:13,14)
I can totally relate to you,i am 25 and my Father died 2 weeks back😢
Its never been easy
mine died about three ago.. at home on the farm
i dont feel anyth .. just numb
So true man. I’m 20 and my dad died 9 days ago.
I’m speechless..
I lost my mother 4 months ago,and many of our close friends and family have told me to “move on” everytime we met..I too stopped meeting them and have isolated myself..I don’t and won’t ever understand how you can forget someone you loved so truly and deepy and get on with life..no..that’s not the way..
Thankyou for these amazing words,I hope people who don’t understand the loss of losing a loved one can be more mindful and considerate...this couldn’t have been said better ❤️
miss you mama 💔
cant hold my tear as i can feel the pain
God bless you! You never get over loosing a loved one, you just go on and miss them.I still have my mom and dad and I love so much n yell them every time we speak. I think our memories of our loved ones stays alive because we think and talk about them. God bless
I'm sorry people responded to you like that. That sucks. My dad just died and I'm afraid people will "move on" faster than me.
Sending Condolences!🙏
I lost my Mom..2 years ago, losing a Mother is so difficult it leaves a hole in your heart! 💔😥💔🙏
My dad died yesterday
There is so much I want to tell him
But he doesn’t answer when I call 😞
I know how you feel😔 I lost my dad almost three weeks ago and I think him everyday😭
I am sorry for your loss.I lost my boyfriend 2 days ago. I’m with you
Wow
Oh no sorry
My first two days I couldn’t even eat.
I was torn up
But don’t be afraid to cry
Petite C I haven’t eaten I’ve been trying to drink as much water as I can.Thank you so much
Petite C I’m torn and devastated
I love this video so much. As a widow, this helped me to understand that no one else can understand my loss.
I lost my grandfather today. I'm in 4th year of high-school and could rarely talk to him in the last 2 years. I loved him so much. He was the only one who would never scold me for anything and take the blame on him. And yet I used to ignore him thinking "I'd rather study"
I feel like the hustle for greatness and being the best often makes us lose sight of our loved ones. So guys, cherish the loved ones you have and spend time with them.
I learnt a very important lesson in my life. And hereby I take an oath to stop wasting time on non productive stuff and instead spend time with my family
Sorry for your loss. It's very important to find balance & still live your life and do your studies. Your education & what you do to make ends meet is very important. Now is the time to get that out the way while you're younger, it's 100000xs harder as you get older.
I'm so sorry. Sending you love and light 💛
My grandfather just died yesterday, im just really really 😢
@@AlmightyJon I am SO very sorry William (my son's name). My sincerest condolences. Sending love and light to you and your entire family. 💛
I relate with you completely as I experienced a similar thing. I miss him a lot too, everyday i do. The only thing I can say is , know that he loved you no matter what and that there'll always be a part of him in you.
This made me cry in such a good way. I miss my mom every day, and thank you so much for giving me permission to miss her and not feel apologetic about it.
Same here...miss my mom so much 😭
My dad was my bestfriend. He passed away 2 days ago. The last words he ever spoke were to me saying 'love you too' & gave me a kiss. I miss u so much dad. He had heart failure most of my life but im just thankful i got to say goodbye. I just wish there was a way to know that they are safe after death wherrever they are ... 😥🙏🏽
Im so sorry about your dad, and I hope you will keep telling his story. I also wissh we could know they are safe after death, but my heart tells me they are.
Hannah T the soul still alive.. Just in another dimension .. You will get signs when they around you..
Call out to Yahshua Jesus Christ
Hannah T same. My father passed away 4 years ago. They will forever live in our memories! I never loved a men as much as my dad, I know it sounds creepy but it is true. We were not lovey dove, but I just felt good around him, loved talking to him, could hear the same story over and over and enjoy it while others didn’t. Even with all his flaws, no men compares to him! Matt Damon is a close second, but still second!
My dad passed away three months ago and I know what you mean. I pray that I know he's ok. I haven't had a sign yet but still waiting. Have you had a sign? Ive been having a hard time with the grief lately. Hope you are doing ok. Thanks
Very difficult to move on if someone you truly love died. True love will make you to always have such a person besides you and you feel the presence always. You feel better like that and cherish the memories ❤❤❤
These people are our motivations to keep moving, if they died, what's the point of keep moving?😢. I don't know if I would be strong enough. I heard of older couples that the pain is so bad that when one died, the next one died right after
My boyfriend of 7 years passed away a week ago & ive never experienced pain like this...all I want is for him to show me signs & I promise it would make me feel a little better.
It does hurt but only You have to go through. Words of others can bring a relief for a moment but than you are again with your loss...so sad. I know this kind of feelings very much so ....Regards across the ocean.
My boyfriend of 7 years took his life 6 days ago. I’m struggling and I don’t want to keep feeling this way. Has time helped you?
Yes, my Husband of 8 years passed away. I came home from work and yelled I miss you!! And boom! A sound came from my bedroom closet and a box that was securely on the shelf fell and out fell two of his hats.. I felt his love all around me....❤
He did give you a sign, sitting beside you in bed in the first 2-3 days after he passed away. Maybe you were asleep and missed it. They do come back and give you a "I'm still here honey for always" The day my Mom died, she sat on the corner of my bed. Maybe we get scared when that happens to us, because I ran out of her house to get my uncle and she never came back again. This is a true story. *.*
@@mckennalewis3690 Yes, time will help you. Now this depends on how much you loved him, One thing for sure is if you find love again that will take your pain away, It's not that you have to go look for a new Love, It will just happen as if your boyfriend sent him to ease your awful pain. *.*
My grandmother passed away 3 months ago and I was right there beside her. I saw her die in front of me and it still hurts today as much as it did at that moment. I needed to hear this.
You are absolutely right Kelly. My life has never moved on. I still cry for my only daughter who passed away 17 years ago. I agree with you 100%
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter when she was 25 and I feel for you. no you never ever move on.
Ed my Mom died in 2014 and my Dad in 2016. I am still very sad and cry from time to time.
I’m so glad I saw this because I agree with all of this!
At 30, I lost my partner of nearly 9 years. Everybody kept saying ‘move on’, ‘find another man’, ‘it gets easier’, ‘you need to stop grieving’.
The grief process never ends.