Because no matter what, they insist on being miserable with us. They want a SAHM, then bitch he has to pay for everything. Once she gets a job, now he’s mad she’s not at home taking care of his every whim. He complains about his wife’s graying hair and aging skin, and leaves for a younger woman, then moans about how immature she is. He whines his woman isn’t a horny little nympho, then when she ups her bedroom game, suddenly he complains that she’s a wh*re. He misses his ex, but gods forbid she decides she misses him too, and now suddenly he’s missing you. 💅 We can’t win with these fools. They’ll never allow it.
Facts I'm pushin 40 extra extra motivated to not get married & not have kids. Life comes with no guarantees, ppl change & feelings change. Also too unexpected deaths happen too, a woman should always have a backup plan/ saved money just in case shit happens
I was called ‘selfish’ too. But…if you seen what I saw as a 2yr old and the piece of garbage I married that basically stole my life…you wouldn’t call it selfish. You’d call selflessness for not perpetuating the cycle.
I think it’s Judge Lynn Toler who said, “if you give a man the power to feed you, you also give him the power to starve you.” I strongly believe that a man should never have that much power to govern your life, especially considering that he can wake up one day and decide that he no longer wants his own children or wife. That’s dangerous to rely on someone like that who is not grounded, nor sees you as a human being.
Not to mention that even if he were a "good" man, there's always a chance that he could get into a car accident and become paralyzed and dependent on _her_ or actually pass away. We all have a 100% death rate, and the best person to take care of the old you is the young you.
Well that’s what marriage is for. It isn’t for love, it was for this very reason, so if he decides to leave, he must provide child support for HIS offsprings and spousal support. But when you all rush out and marry broke men for “love” and “looks” then you have nothing to get in the divorce.
@@ImtheONEnotthetwoYou sound ridiculous. This is not middle age England.You can marry for whatever reason. Divorce was not even legal back then and highly frowned upon just a few decades ag, so he could not just decide to leave. And plenty of people lie and feign wealth, power, etc long enough to trap others. He still must provide child support (whether it gets paid if anither issue) as they are HIS offspring. Please join us in this century.
The paradox: my ex resented me when I made money, but resented paying the bills when I didn't. Surprise twist: he's a resentful person, and nothing was going to make him happy.
I have just come from a video where men are saying that they do not want women with careers. In this video we have men saying they don’t want to pay the bills and don’t want you or their own child in the house. A lot of men want us powerless and it is up to us to say no, look after ourselves and secure our own financial independence. Thank you for another great video.
By the looks of if it, men don’t know what they want. They want a doormat/house maid/second mother while a superwoman to be a career woman/SAHM/housewife. They keep pushing this narrative that a woman is a 2nd class citizen and if she doesn’t do exactly what he says then he will threaten to not keep everything stable. But refuses to see that if they simply cannot afford to provide everything for a wife and children, they need to keep their peen in their pants and stay away from women until they grow up to be a real man. All i have to say is these lowlifes like in the video will be the same ones wondering why in about 10-20yrs when they do decide to come back in the lives of their baby mothers and children that they either act like they never knew them and/or completely resent them. And why their kids won’t claim them and treat them the same way they treated them and their mother. They will reap extremely hard of what they have sown in the long run but will try and act oblivious and flabbergasted at why they are being treated in a such a way. These will also be the deadbeats that will also be alone when they take their last breath and be unclaimed bodies in the morgue too.
@@Priscilla_Boye yes that was me married. He was sabotage me going to school, getting money, I divorced because feeling stuck while he also being sneaky or shady with his move, I got a lot of anxiety… God set me free.
I'm convinced some men are just bitter and unhappy with life and looking for someone to blame. If you have a job and are self-sufficient, you're emasculating them. If you give up your job and stay home, you're not contributing enough and they start acting resentful. Even when they're the one who pushed you to stay home in the first place.
You'd think so but since I have family split between city & country you can see the city ones & frankly alot of them in general for the city just expect this level of treatment from bm, if he ain't cheating he's broken! once those women calm down they'll find another man just like that one move in & get the same card. It's good they're showing it off yet how many are going to be able to not repeat this maybe slim for some it's they must repeat due to unconscious programming, others they must repeat cuz they need a roof & while they know they'll get screwed they can count the months till it occurs it's a necessary evil they can't avoid they have to put their arm in the maw of the alligator for some short term gain of a roof & a warm bed for their kids. WM jump from woman to woman when they get kicked out trying to keep himself fed & housed, city bw move from thug to thug hoping to not be murdered to obtain the samething if their family of origin is somehow even worse then him!
@@pbfairley & Dr_Nutrition : Problem is if yo Mama, Auntie, friend warned u, you wld not hv listened. Move on w/ life. I didnt listen either. ❤️ Fed us lies like they have yo back then drained us dry.
Nothing more satisfying when someone realize the foundations they made crumble then “suddenly” isn’t there to support them anymore. If you don’t act like a parent then don’t expect a child to take care of you like their beloved parent.
Right they’ll have an amazing wife and beautiful children and then leave them for a much younger girl and then get surprised when that same girl does the same to them and leaves them for someone else. Like I’ve seen this in so many affair stories about how the husband will cheat on the wife and leave for a girl and then she’ll leave him hung out and dry, drained his bank accounts. Like how are you so stupid? To leave your beautiful LOYAL wife for essentially a gold digger
Have you noticed they always put the women and children out in the middle of the night? They don't give them till the morning or next day. Its truly a Hallmark of an evil person. Abusive parents also do the same thing.
And yet they say your degree,education, and job dont matter and you need to be traditional and stay at home with the kids. But then kick u out for not paying bills. Why its so important to have your own money. As well as making sure your name is on the home and apartment lease.
What's crazy is them same men love throwing around the education % of women and how many women don't work 🙄 yet they claim education and careers are not important
When a man doesn’t love the woman, he won’t love the child. Women learn to love yourself and your desire to be a mother, please slow down. Do not have kids just because you want to be a mom!
EXACTLY! But most women are selfish! I want to be a mom, I want a mini me, I want a purpose, I want a best friend, I want to experience it.. it always starts with “I want I want” nothing else matters
@@swanthequeen2144😂😂😂 they never see the truth until the kid gets here. It's more like "I want to be a servant 24/7 , for the next 25 years of my life with no vacations" , or " I wanna get off work to go home to more work" 😂😂😂
@@swanthequeen2144 or to make the man love them or stay. Hence why some women also think a man will stay and love them more if they give him a son. Having children wont make you closer to a man if he isnt.
Or if you truly believe motherhood is for you but don't want the extension of a man then adopt save another life like how you saved your own by going solo but if not don't be selfish and have kids at the drop of a dime.
Alot of women don't even realize that men love the thought of one day being able to do this to them. From day one they be setting you up for those "gotcha" moments. You just have to listen they say it. I know I heard it more than once
These males are probably bragging to their homeboys about how they “kicked that b*tch out of their house” and getting pats on the back for it. Homoerotics mf’s.
@@areyouokay4306I think they are talking about men who try to convince you to be a stay at home gf or wife only because they love the idea of having the power to kick you out if you act in a way they don't like. They do it for the control aspect not because they love you so much that they don't want you to work
This is why I tell my daughter don’t ever fall for being totally reliant on some Prince Charming who sells her a Disney dream. She’s 16 and already on top of it.
I remember my single blk mother telling me when i was 13yo that if i ever got pregnant, to let her know to handle it. I looked at her and said with a serious face while feeling a bit offended, “PREGNANT?! 🤨 i’m still a child myself. What i look like being a child with a child?” She started laughing and said, “but seriously, if you end up pregnant, just let me know and i’ll help you.” My response, “I don’t plan on having any kids now and definitely not during my teen years. And for sure if i’m not secured financially, mentally and emotionally. And if boy that could be the father definitely cannot help me, be there for me mentally, emotionally and physically, I’m definitely not having no kids.” My parents always thought i was an odd child while other adults thought i was wise beyond my years. My thought process was seeing all the trouble my mom went through as a single mother of three and how her, my father constantly have custody battles across state lines, they constantly were in conflicts and never got married either. I didn’t want to end up that way. And i was not planned either. I found out when i was in my late 20’s (i’m in my 30’s now), from my maternal grandmother and my father that at the time my mother was pregnant with me that my father gave money to my mother for to abort me. They were both 21yo at the time and still not prepared to have a kid. But for my father to admit to me that at first he wanted to abort me took alot of courage to do so. He said he feels guilty and hates himself daily for ever thinking for wanting to do that in the first place as i am the best thing that has ever came into his life.
Good job Mom. And the Disney dreams always forget to explain how a princess ended up needing to be saved by Prince Charming. It’s sounds like the pimp and hoe story: beat a woman up, then run her a bath and give her shoulder to cry on. She’ll forget who beat her up in the first place.
@@anonnnymousthegreatyes so true,learnt it early on that sex is that son of a bitch people especially women shouldn't be meddling with before marriage 🫠
She's breastfeeding too? If she has mail going there, he can't kick her out. If she went to the po po, they would've made him leave and her and the kids would've been allowed back in. Learn your rights.
@coconutwater4531 What? I don't understand. She'd go homeless, make her kids homeless, to protect her abuser? How....what??? Like what? Doesn't her inner Mother, her divine right to protect her children take over her brain? I don't get it. Why are they like this? When you have a child you become animalistic. You will hiss like a cat to protect your child as a woman. Like, it's involuntary. BW need to come live with other women. This needs fixing. Well. I'm stunned. Thanks for letting me know. It's like their basic survival skills aren't working. You know what I mean. They're protecting the perp not the innocent. 😞
36, still a virgin. I refuse to give absolutely anything to men ESPECIALLY black men. Ever. I learned this at 15. Been blessed, paid & happy ever since.
🤚Same. 38 here. I am beginning to think what the hack was wrong with me to even pray about marriage in this crazy world. Only praying for strength and sanity now. I feel like marriage ain't even worth praying for nowadays.
Don't give anything to any man, reguardless of color. I'm 38 and I regret losing my virginity at 19. Being sexually active between the ages of 19 and 28 made my life hell. You're definitely not missing anything good.
@@kelleo9213why tf would u stay if he acting like that .....have u not seen how many women more specifically black women get killed for staying and how many black men have killed their black kids
This isn’t just women. It’s real specific as you can see in the video. This is how they treat us black women. I would be scared to death to have to rely on a man financially.
Does the BW community not know if you have mail.going there he legally can't do this and if All these Moms went to the po po he would be forced to leave and maybe even be arrested and the Mom and children would be let back into the home? It's the law. 😊
Truth! Don't rely on another person to take care of you, because they will have so much power over you. Always have your own money! Seriously, my ex husband was a nightmare. Don't financially rely on anyone. Especially, a man. 😢😢😢
@@juliebella1221Even though legally he can't evict you, a BW has to worry about him ending her life if she doesn't leave. And many wouldn't hesitate to do it.
A man can say he wants a stay at home mom all he wants. At the end of the day, no matter how much labor a woman contributes to the household, his labor is the only one he sees as valuable and at some point he will see you as a freeloader who sits at home doing nothing all day. And also when men can’t provide they stop protecting
Facts this happened to a friend she was married 15 years he got her pregnant, begged to have that child then dipped smh , my mom told me always have your own money
You know as a teenager I had this illusion that I wanted to be married with 2.5 kids etc by the time I was 35 . I’m 33 now and over the past 4 years I came to the conclusion that 1. I don’t actually want to be a mom 2. I refused to be in any kind of relationship/marriage where I am treated in anyway that is disrespectful or demeaning . I rather be single for the rest of my life than ever allow someone to treat me the way these men are treating the mother of their kids . It’s absolutely insane and wild to me .
You ladies do not listen to men no matter how good it sounds when they say they want a family or they got you. Men will leave you or kick you out the moment they want another woman or they get tired of taking care of their responsibilities. Always have your own stuff in your own name.
This is awful. I'm literaly in tears for these women and their babies. These men are heartless. My husband has been financially supporting our houshold 10-years now. We don't have kids. I've been earning my own money for 4-years now (he still pays for everything), so if he were to do this to me (I hope he would never!!), I can take care of myself.. I trust him with my life so I feel and know deep in my heart that he'd never do this to me but as one of the women said, people change. Women, just make sure you have something saved, even if its to cover one month's rent. And importantly, DONT HAVE CHILDREN WITH MEN. I've been spared so many heartaches and suffering because I never burdended myself with children.
Keep your finances separate and sock that money away. You are shrewd and brilliant for doing so. Also plan your own retirement just because. And having children can cost you dearly. I wish more women were doing what you are doing Hon! I went through an ugly divorce and we had a child who is severely disabled and of course, the ex abandoned us. Thankfully, I have my education and could provide the basics for us. Marrying and having a child are the worst decisions I ever made.
Facts we are at a point where it’s not needed to procreate like that. I would advise all blsck women to especially stop having babies I used to want 5 but after being abandoned with my first child I no longer desire anything that would cause me to deal with a man for more than an hour
I’m 39 never married, no kids…. I’ve went to over 37 countries, own two apartments…. Men tried to break me… tried to rape me… tried Tobake everything from me… WHY WOULD I NEED A MEN? Be happy or get married…
That's what really disgusted me the most was doing it like that in front of the baby's, and one dude recording his baby and his mother baging up was horrendously embarrassing and to record it 🤡, the baby was so confused that was pure ugly to confuse ur child like that 🤢🤮 ugliness.
This is why you don’t completely depend on men, I’ve been through this myself my ex husband would kick me out constantly, we’re divorced & I have my own career & independence now wish I had been wiser when I was younger. Please listen young women & learn from our mistakes
It's hard to tell young women with hormones raging, and even more the lies men tell. I just really, really hope young women can believe what women with experience are trying to tell them.
Ladies pleeeease take heed!! I, unfortunately, did not. Thought I found one different. We are in our 40s and known each other 20+ years. None of that matters.. As soon as I was pregnant and learned it was high risk and was forced to sit down almost my whole 9 months, I became disposable. The disdain he had for me began before I was even out of my 2nd month of pregnancy. I was having to find me and my daughter somewhere to live by the time she was 8 months. I was able to get back to work and back on my feet, but shouldn't have had to do it alone. There are too many boys finding excuses to not be men. Pleeeeaaaase let this be a lesson.
Lord that is terrifying. Glad you made it out, there are SO MANY stories of women being abandoned as soon as they encounter serious health issues. These men are selfish
@@darknightmare7281 definitely blessed. Sometimes we don't realize that if we let go of the things that are no for us, we can receive all that is meant for us. This year has turned out to be beautiful 😍🥰
I got kicked out too after after he filled for divorce. He brought his new girlfriend's stuff even before I had moved out. It's funny seeing that he can't afford the house and his parents have to pay his mortgage 😂
True. I am staying at a domestic abuse shelter and my ex’s family blames me for his arrest. He assaulted me because he thought I was cheating on him. Turns out he was cheating on me.
@@MC-rw2bk sorry your going through this. It is heartbreaking all around especially when the victim is blamed. My thoughts and well wishes are with you and your children. I hope you stay strong to make it through. Tough times are hard but you are not alone in this situation. I hope hearing other stories helps.
Thank you. I go to group therapy and after my experience and the horror stories I hear from other women, I don’t think I can ever take a man seriously enough to be in a committed relationship.
Chile and this is why I’m EXTREMELY hesitant in getting married, because marriage doesn’t mean a thing to these men. It’s just another situation for them. No thanks.
My mom always told me never let what a man brings to the table be all u have to eat... Best advice ever Always be able to stand alone whether a man is there or not
Where Im from, my family would have pulled up to beat a man down if he ever disrespected me AND my kids. I love my Uncles and cousins, they dont play about the women in our families.
I can't even watch this it's so upsetting. My ex kicked me in my daughter out when she was sixteen een months old at bedtime. I went back. Abuse cycles are sick. We finally left once and for all. Leave at the first sign of abuse, ladies. 🙏💕
Lord help my son if i ever hear he did this to his partner and child bc the last of his worries will be his rent bc the hospital bill will be so large rent seems like nothing. Stupid little boys out trying to act grown.
My exact thoughts. If I ever have a son and he lets the little hoodlum boys mess up his mindset and he did something like this …. trust me I’m going to be the definition of a girl girls and hell hath no fury like a woman scorned in one. I’d be teaming up with that woman to make sure she gets her lick back 10 fold. This is the most disgusting thing a man can do when given power and responsibility. Blood or not, our Earths future is empty without women being safe and stood up for.
@darkdiamond: The sooner we accept people r wired this way, the better. We hold out hope 🙏 this is one is diff & Mom's GF, baby Moms are Unalived when they r shamed.
aDark: You r not a failure when kids do wrong. Nature (bio wiring - testosterone/socialization) wins over nurture. You have to let go of control. Dont beba control freak or 1) u will end up in jail while he's still free to continue breaking hearts 💔 OR 2) he UN- alives u. Many of mothers said my baby wLD NEVER lay a hand on me or his sister - and they r 6 ft under. Pray & let him be when the day comes when transforms into a Pookie. It's inevitable. Sorry Sis. We"ve all seen it in our families. They've all betrayed & broken hearts 1 by 1 from grandPops down to bros^ The cycle won't end until we stop dating & birthing 'em.
@@RightToFreedomGirl yes this is very true.. but not 100% true, some of them love and respect their moms, sisters, daughters. I have seen many different stories
Women talking about that amazing life can be put in the same situation at any time. A lot of these women thought that everything was going well until it isn’t. Always have your own and don’t have kids unless you can take care of them by yourself. Why? At any time someone can die and or switch up on you. Also, don’t live with these males for years. I’m glad I don’t have kids!
Don't live with these males who you are not married too, and don't take care of your kids on your own, find a husband that can have the common sense to take care of their children physically as well, you are not about to take cAre of your kids on your own just Incase your husband dies, most women are not doing that because they might end up being a widow,they do that because they are marrying man children
@@sbusisiweshaba1715 good men exist. But it is very, very rare. Most men are toxic. They run the long con. They extract use out of that wife for years and “act” kind. But after many years they show their true colors.
Most of my friends who are stay at home moms literally have masters degrees and careers they could walk right back into tomorrow. I’m very sad for women who don’t😢
This is the best way to do it right out of high school! Secure yourself first; get that education and career started with job/ career experience history. Then marry..... 💯
@@shaunajones3244I personally have my BA, not an MA, but same. Why waste extra years getting that much additional education just to be a stay at home mom?
The videos these men make are powerful evidence of the abuse they inflict on the woman and children. Hope these women have legal recourse to get the right outcome.
As a kid and now being 20, all that toxic horrible brainwashing is gone but now, I don't want marriage nor kids at all! Everyday just reassures me that it's the best decision ever!
1000% you would never catch me depending on anyone for anything. Was raised in a very religious family and my own mom shamed me for wanting to go to school and get a good job. It’s not safe to have to depend on anyone to sustain your lifestyle.
My own family tried to tell me i didnt need to do certain things that would actually help me. They would discourage me to elevate so that i would need them. Now that I dont they hate it. I learned at this point and i will never let anyone get over on me. I already had to live through it.
Wow. This happened to me. I gave up everything I moved in with a man. I never did that before. I also knew this man for over 20years. I thought I was in safe hands. I’ve always had my own house. That I worked hard for. We were engaged. He knew me moving in with him was a fear of mines. I did it anyway to start my journey of being submissive to him. And to face a fear I had. He prayed on my fears and put me out over a argument. I was pregnant at the time. Had my other two children. We were put out at night. That was the saddest thing to watch was my kids packing their stuff. I was put out for washing dishes with the water running. He said I should’ve filled up the sink and wash dishes. We argued and I was put out admittedly. He was also mad and arguing in my face aggressively. So I stood up for myself and chin checked that fool. He said I was challenging him. He was mad because I wouldn’t quit my job. Said I wasn’t being submissive to him. I was put out I had to go live with my mom pregnant and started over from scratch. I turned up in that house. Went ape shii. Tore him and that darn house up.. Police was Called on me. He played the victim card quick. He actually pressed charges on me after we got back together and I was 7months pregnant. Man these men are something else. A lot of people suffer with Narcissistic personality disorder. Its scary out here. The value of many men out here is weak and distorted. I would never do it again. Now to this day he doesn’t take care of our daughter. All to continue to hurt me. Bcuz I actually didn’t fail as he was trying to destroy me. Until this day he has been lying putting all the blame on me for being put out and losing everything. He has no remorse and refuses to see his wrong doing and just how weak it was as a man. Actually as a darn human being. He justifies all his actions. He pins everything on how I reacted to him. Which is reactive abuse. He will not admit he put me out because of dishes. Why because that clearly states he’s a weak man for doing such a thing. Now my daughter suffers. Im glad I’m out. I was taught a huge lesson.
I'm sorry you went through that, never again hey? They always find the dumbest excuse to act like it's the final straw. But they planned it from the beginning. We're just toys/movies to rent and return for another. The discard phase comes out of nowhere for no reason other than they're bored. 99% of all men are narcissistic psychopaths.
Even women who think they choose right and right now they are living a great life with their partner/husband/etc, they really don't know how quick these dudes can flip on ya. It's too risky to be so reliant on anyone for anything. Set yourself up so you can always take care of yourselves in the event of a breakup...which is high considering most relationships will fail at the end of the day. Be open to love but, always be smart about who you let into your life and don't forget that you always can pull the eject button on them.
There was a major case in Nigeria of a popular actor and his wife who boasted about how much he loved his wife. Everyone called him a good husband and admired their marriage. Until one day, he suddenly married a new woman secretly and it was exposed. His wife, his parents and siblings and everyone were shocked. We couldn't believe that someone who praised his wife who much would do this to her. Some people cursed at him and even his father and brother expressed disappointment. Now, after months if heartache and losing one of their kids his wife has filed for divorce. It's been revealed that the child he thought was his with his new wife isn't his and he is having issues with his new wife. He came back begging his former wife on her birthday, she refused. People change.
At the end of the day I have to ask this question: If we as women and mothers can't depend on men to provide and protect (their job?) then how can we be with them and have children with them if we can't trust them to do their jobs. I've raised my family, and it was just like this. He didn't want to support us, he wanted me to support us (which I did) and when he didn't want to be a husband and a father he would change his mind, and he did kick me/us out with no place to go. If I had to do it all over again, (and I love my children) I would do it differently. I now have my own place, which I will never give up for 'love'. (Oh please) My security is way more important than 'love' will ever be. I am convinced marriage is a scam that men sell us (from infancy) for their benefit, and their benefit only. Staying single, free, and independent.
@jenbodhi1133 they know that they really just wanted to sleep with you provide the minimum and are angry when you hold them accountable. The fairytale keeps you trying. Reality shows you who they are.
This is exactly why I would never ever be a stay-at-home mother! That gives too much power to the male population and they always use the financial abuse
Scariest situation. Never move in with him unless you’re married and the house is in YOUR name too! Have secret emergency break up money hidden for you to get out of there!
I am so thankful that my parents raised my siblings and I to be independent, no matter what a male or female had to say. I was married, not married, and I ALWAYS made sure I was moving up financially on my own. My Mom would say negative things about me being driven and that my sister was a better mother bc she was married and just took care of her kids. I didn't care bc I was taking care of my children too and our futures in case anything went wrong with my husband (when I was married). Ladies, always make sure you're making your own money and getting that bag even if you're in a relationship or not. And if a male throws you out, leave the kids there, see how fast he changes his tune. And when he lets you stay there, keep your head down, stay focused, make your money then leave. Don't even waste your breath arguing with these dusty bandits.
You’re 💯 correct, most men are not prepared for fatherhood,that love involves sacrifice, the value of a woman is more than his pay check, the value of children or family. Many are raised pampered by mothers feeling guilty for not always being there and over compensating whilst the fathers may be there but have checked out of all real responsibilities. Broken people. It’s frustrating
The way the men in these clips just humiliated women with zero empathy, zero consideration and zero humanity just solidifies I made the right decision at 24 years old to get divorced, never remarry again, focus on raising my kid, focus on my career, go back to school and complete my degree, pay off all my debts and save and save and save. In my late 40s now, I’m very healthy, get confused for being 10 years younger than I am, am financially and emotionally stable and while every once and a while I do miss companionship, the price is too high…the cost/benefit isn’t there. I’m just gonna date young dudes whenever I’m craving seggs or physical closeness and leave it at that!
This is exactly what you should do. Males will be mad about that. They are generally mad that women can live this way. Ignore them, and do it anyway! Great idea. You will protect yourself and give yourself the life that makes the most sense.
The only thing you can rely on until death is money. Money saves you, men leave you behind. Your knight in shining armour is money, it gives a roof over your head, nice things to buy, a joyous life. Compare that to men’s transactional love. They don’t love for real because of they did they wouldn’t allow themselves to use you or be a burden.
@@swatiketu115 Well Said. But I believe money should be earned by the woman always because if you have your own money you don’t even have to deal with men’s audacity.
@@swatiketu115 Well Said. But I believe money should be earned by the woman always because if you have your own money you don’t even have to deal with men’s audacity.
I wish women would record the first conversation of men when they first tell them that they will take care of them and expect them to quit their jobs and stay home with the kids. Then, record how this changes when they abandon her. Because, there's a lot of women who are told this and suddenly down the line, they're being kicked out. This needs legal remedy. It's too common and hasn't borne any consequences for the eviction.
@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake Id have hoped in his comments that people would call him out and tell him he is wrong..but youre right there are weirdos out there who would defend him and enable his shitty behavior. The same morons who get with a 3 time deadbeat baby daddy and think he will be different with her kid.
Even grannies in the fifties would keep a small amount of money aside from their husbands in case of emergencies and being left alone without a husband. I don't understand how women can still be so naive.
Do these women not know the LAW???? What the hell??? You can't kick anyone out if they get mail there!!! Period!!! Why don't they call the cops??? The cops would remove the man from the property if he thinks he is above the law. And then the court would make them pay all utilities and rent even if they don't reside there ,especially if it's a house. It's called squatter rights!!! If it's an apartment, an eviction notice has to be served. When she goes to court, they will give her a year or more to relocate because she is unemployed.
Dear God I watched my mother lose the security of my fathers income after 23 years of marriage and it was crazy….she went from living in a nice home and driving nice cars to living in an apartment with my sister and driving a old clunker. My father then tried to get my sister taken away from her so he didn’t have to pay child support and had more money for his new wife. He treated her like she was a piece of garbage after. She spent her entire life with a man just to come up with absolutely nothing at the end….
I am glad this woman spoke up, because you have these idiotic women wanting to be stay at home wives without even knowing , how dangerous it can be Being a stay at home wife sounds great, but it's scary at the same time,
I agree, with all of the information like this and women still don't listen until they have to go through this and the worst part is the child is going through this.
Watching these videos from different channels for the past... eight days straight, I feel hurt, I feel stupid, I feel angry, I feel resentful, but I feel blessed because I don't have children, and I was never once married. The longest relationship I had lasted for almost three years. I couldn't "keep no man" because God rerouted me to path I needed to be on. Otherwise, I'll be like these women in the video. I pray that they developed the strength to rise above all of this. I appreciate them being vulnerable and sharing these stories as a cautionary tale. Don't get me wrong, I'm still a squishy who loves love, but from what I learned is that I like the ideal of what it is. The delusional aspect of it is expecting it from someone who isn't capable of loving you or themselves. The only person who can give you unconditional loving is you (and your fur babies).
Most men are so confused. It’s like they need two wives: one who is traditional, stay at home, dependent and another who has a career so she can help him 50/50 with the bills. Maybe he will be happy then. Oh wait, no he won’t be happy because both wives will be too tired. He will need a mistress too.
This was my mom and I. She shouldn’t make the mistake of eventually leaving her child with the father and his new spouse. My mom did that. I grew up abandoned and abused in every way and at every time in my life
@@MaroonRose3216 I'm not a mother, but if your child is too quiet or has become more quiet than usual, doesn't communicate properly or with enough assertiveness, I would be worried. Low self esteem too. It can also be the opposite - a lot of anger, rebellious. Don't yell at them.
@@MaroonRose3216 the best you can do for your child is to be very attentive , and also show the father and his new spouse that you’re not afraid to come for them if they ever harm your child. Then you have to build a solid friendship with your child , let your child be very comfortable with you, more than anyone else. My mom just left me. I had no one to protect me so I was an easy target. However my dad divorced my stepmom too after their 2nd child. What I realized was that my half siblings didn’t go through what I had to go through because their mom (who was my main abuser) fought tooth and nail for them. She would come to the house to raise a ruckus when any of her children complained, so her kids were never abused by my fathers third wife.
Thank you for your story honey, god bless you!🙏🏻🙏🏻 I had almost same story, my mom never protected me from my stepfather, they both laughed at me. She was afraid of him, he sometimes beat her. But it seems that she liked it to some extent, when we asked her to divorce him, she said how she would be alone, without husband. What people will say, it's always been very important to her. And her husband was more important than her own children.
These times are crazy... its very difficult for one person to maintain their own bills, let alone care for an entire family on one paycheck. The days of a man being able to provide for an entire family is over. Then we got young people playing house and ending up with REAL RESPONSIBILITIES- like children. But really neither party have true love or respect for the other party. Girls, be careful. Stop having children with these men!!! If u do have a baby do whatever it takes to get finacially independent. These modern men WILL leave you high ad dry.
This is why I tell women and girls that SAHM ish is great but ALWAYS have a backup plan. ALWAYS have an income or at least some way to make income because men like to switch up like the wind!
@the8thchurch461 Being a SAHM or Stay at Home parent in general is work, hard work at that. It's good because you can watch your own children(if you have any) and maybe even homeschool. I wouldnt want to be a SAHM but a lot of women do.
It's sad that women who really want to stay home and raise their babies can't but I agree wholeheartedly. Men just aren't reliable - no matter what they claim or even show you, it can change at any moment. Even if you just do a little side hustle at home while the babies are sleeping, have something that's just yours just in case.
These videos were so triggering for me because ive been through this...once he stops caring about you most of them stop caring about the kids. My daughters are a living witness and now have mental health issues because of the trauma. Smh
When most of them became crazy, they don’t care about the time of the day, your health-status, their kids, where you guys are and you. Never give them too much power financially or even emotionally 😢 stay strong ladies. I learn it the hart way and now i am dealing with a crazy person for the rest of my life.
My parents have been together for my whole 35+ years of life and they always let me know I should have for myself before relying on any man! They share everything in the household..my father does everything to help a household run..my mother had breast cancer twice and he did the most! He is definitely unique but not the only man in my family who is like that with their wives! Some men choose to be heartless and selfish! 😢😮
Bw I say this in love. It’s 2023 we keep seeing how these stories are ending. Stop having these babies and stop prioritizing these XY because you see how they will do when they have all the power. Prioritize your education and your career and you won’t find yourself in these situations. Your life depends on it. And its not just the tyrones doing this its the average joe, its the educated lame etc.
I feel so badly for the first woman. The only reason I advocate for marriage they can’t kick you out your own home. I’ll be damned. Truth be told, married or not you don’t have to leave. You at the very least have tenants rights. I’d call the police and let them sort it out. 9 times out of 10 the police will ask him to leave.
Women have always done that. Men always find a way to divide and conquer. Let's take it back ladies. Pay attention to how you think towards and treat other women. You have an inkling as to what she is going through.
You never know what can happen. I have a coworker whose mother advised her that "men are great but you never know what will happen. Make sure you can take care of yourself." So, she went to college and became an engineer. She met a great guy in college and they got married. One day at the age of thirty, a blood vessel in his brain popped and in an instant he was dead. Fortunately for her, she was able to provide for herself with her well-paying job.
My mum/dad have a traditional relationship. Mum works for fun stuff, dad works for the bills. He cheated and my mum shut him out (emotionally), he got really sick lost weight became depressed. The girlfriend dissapeared.......we stayed. Turs out his kidney had died and was poisening him on the inside. He got better THEN the girlfried showed up again....he chose my mum and his health.
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Disgusting behavior. Men say they want a traditional stay at home wife...then turn around and complain about being the breadwinner. Silly boys.
They don't even know what that means. They want to control everything but don't think they should be responsible.
Males speak with a forked tongue. That’s why they’re demons
Boy math. They want a stay at home mom and homemaker but don't want to pay all the bills.
Because no matter what, they insist on being miserable with us. They want a SAHM, then bitch he has to pay for everything. Once she gets a job, now he’s mad she’s not at home taking care of his every whim.
He complains about his wife’s graying hair and aging skin, and leaves for a younger woman, then moans about how immature she is.
He whines his woman isn’t a horny little nympho, then when she ups her bedroom game, suddenly he complains that she’s a wh*re.
He misses his ex, but gods forbid she decides she misses him too, and now suddenly he’s missing you. 💅
We can’t win with these fools. They’ll never allow it.
This is why loads of women don't want kids or husbands anymore and are staying childfree.
These videos are my birth control and my reason for never ever getting married.
Most of them aren't even married. That's even worse.
I was married for 15 years before he cheated on a Tuesday. Ruined our family
my tubes tied just by watching this video
Facts I'm pushin 40 extra extra motivated to not get married & not have kids. Life comes with no guarantees, ppl change & feelings change. Also too unexpected deaths happen too, a woman should always have a backup plan/ saved money just in case shit happens
Same
Childfree women are NOT selfish.
We are actually wise and intelligent 😁
Nope definitely not
@@mzniecy6012Amen!
@@mzniecy6012 Veryyy
I was called ‘selfish’ too. But…if you seen what I saw as a 2yr old and the piece of garbage I married that basically stole my life…you wouldn’t call it selfish. You’d call selflessness for not perpetuating the cycle.
I think it’s Judge Lynn Toler who said, “if you give a man the power to feed you, you also give him the power to starve you.” I strongly believe that a man should never have that much power to govern your life, especially considering that he can wake up one day and decide that he no longer wants his own children or wife. That’s dangerous to rely on someone like that who is not grounded, nor sees you as a human being.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Not to mention that even if he were a "good" man, there's always a chance that he could get into a car accident and become paralyzed and dependent on _her_ or actually pass away.
We all have a 100% death rate, and the best person to take care of the old you is the young you.
Well that’s what marriage is for. It isn’t for love, it was for this very reason, so if he decides to leave, he must provide child support for HIS offsprings and spousal support. But when you all rush out and marry broke men for “love” and “looks” then you have nothing to get in the divorce.
F the human part. I’ve never treated a living thing that callously.
@@ImtheONEnotthetwoYou sound ridiculous. This is not middle age England.You can marry for whatever reason. Divorce was not even legal back then and highly frowned upon just a few decades ag, so he could not just decide to leave. And plenty of people lie and feign wealth, power, etc long enough to trap others. He still must provide child support (whether it gets paid if anither issue) as they are HIS offspring. Please join us in this century.
The paradox: my ex resented me when I made money, but resented paying the bills when I didn't. Surprise twist: he's a resentful person, and nothing was going to make him happy.
@@XRTSDFA can you comprehend?
Kiki: So many have been deceived. You're not alone.
Yep been there!
Five years after I divorced him still thinking best decision I have had!
@@RightToFreedomGirl ❤️😞
@@katst3960 can't wait for that milestone! Still putting the pieces back together, but starting to feel a little more whole again.
I have just come from a video where men are saying that they do not want women with careers. In this video we have men saying they don’t want to pay the bills and don’t want you or their own child in the house. A lot of men want us powerless and it is up to us to say no, look after ourselves and secure our own financial independence. Thank you for another great video.
They want us powerless so they can mistreat us.
By the looks of if it, men don’t know what they want. They want a doormat/house maid/second mother while a superwoman to be a career woman/SAHM/housewife. They keep pushing this narrative that a woman is a 2nd class citizen and if she doesn’t do exactly what he says then he will threaten to not keep everything stable. But refuses to see that if they simply cannot afford to provide everything for a wife and children, they need to keep their peen in their pants and stay away from women until they grow up to be a real man. All i have to say is these lowlifes like in the video will be the same ones wondering why in about 10-20yrs when they do decide to come back in the lives of their baby mothers and children that they either act like they never knew them and/or completely resent them. And why their kids won’t claim them and treat them the same way they treated them and their mother. They will reap extremely hard of what they have sown in the long run but will try and act oblivious and flabbergasted at why they are being treated in a such a way. These will also be the deadbeats that will also be alone when they take their last breath and be unclaimed bodies in the morgue too.
@@Priscilla_Boye yes that was me married. He was sabotage me going to school, getting money, I divorced because feeling stuck while he also being sneaky or shady with his move, I got a lot of anxiety… God set me free.
Barefoot and pregnant. I was horrified when I google it
I'm convinced some men are just bitter and unhappy with life and looking for someone to blame. If you have a job and are self-sufficient, you're emasculating them. If you give up your job and stay home, you're not contributing enough and they start acting resentful. Even when they're the one who pushed you to stay home in the first place.
What sends me is that the little boys filming think they aren't exposing themselves as losers.
Men who do this need to be exposed so as to save the next woman from potentially getting involved with them.
True
Some women will think well she should have worked and think they are better than her
@@catcat9582Exactly. Some women think they can save a man. And that he won't do that to her.
@@catcat9582 Tbh It's still better to expose them....
You'd think so but since I have family split between city & country you can see the city ones & frankly alot of them in general for the city just expect this level of treatment from bm, if he ain't cheating he's broken! once those women calm down they'll find another man just like that one move in & get the same card. It's good they're showing it off yet how many are going to be able to not repeat this maybe slim for some it's they must repeat due to unconscious programming, others they must repeat cuz they need a roof & while they know they'll get screwed they can count the months till it occurs it's a necessary evil they can't avoid they have to put their arm in the maw of the alligator for some short term gain of a roof & a warm bed for their kids. WM jump from woman to woman when they get kicked out trying to keep himself fed & housed, city bw move from thug to thug hoping to not be murdered to obtain the samething if their family of origin is somehow even worse then him!
I was so stupid thinking my husband would never leave cuz I was a great wife & we were “happy”. Ladies, never let your guard down - sad but true.
Why did he leave?
Same sis ! You will lose everything ! Im just getting over this
@@pbfairley & Dr_Nutrition : Problem is if yo Mama, Auntie, friend warned u, you wld not hv listened. Move on w/ life. I didnt listen either. ❤️ Fed us lies like they have yo back then drained us dry.
These are the type of men that will die alone crying about how their lives turned out and I'm here for it.
Nothing more satisfying when someone realize the foundations they made crumble then “suddenly” isn’t there to support them anymore. If you don’t act like a parent then don’t expect a child to take care of you like their beloved parent.
We'll be smirking and eating popcorn watching them cry 😂
Have you ever asked for a relationship?@@lamppuu1
Right they’ll have an amazing wife and beautiful children and then leave them for a much younger girl and then get surprised when that same girl does the same to them and leaves them for someone else. Like I’ve seen this in so many affair stories about how the husband will cheat on the wife and leave for a girl and then she’ll leave him hung out and dry, drained his bank accounts. Like how are you so stupid? To leave your beautiful LOYAL wife for essentially a gold digger
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Have you noticed they always put the women and children out in the middle of the night? They don't give them till the morning or next day. Its truly a Hallmark of an evil person. Abusive parents also do the same thing.
Yes evil people 101
This Is what women use to do to low life men. Men of today are feminine disgusting
And yet they say your degree,education, and job dont matter and you need to be traditional and stay at home with the kids.
But then kick u out for not paying bills.
Why its so important to have your own money. As well as making sure your name is on the home and apartment lease.
True power lies in financial independence.
There is tremendous trust needed to procreate with one of these demons 👹
True
What's crazy is them same men love throwing around the education % of women and how many women don't work 🙄 yet they claim education and careers are not important
F what they say. Their “traditions” go wherever the wind blows.
When a man doesn’t love the woman, he won’t love the child. Women learn to love yourself and your desire to be a mother, please slow down. Do not have kids just because you want to be a mom!
EXACTLY! But most women are selfish! I want to be a mom, I want a mini me, I want a purpose, I want a best friend, I want to experience it.. it always starts with “I want I want” nothing else matters
@@swanthequeen2144
Yeah if those your reasons never have kids.
@@swanthequeen2144😂😂😂 they never see the truth until the kid gets here. It's more like "I want to be a servant 24/7 , for the next 25 years of my life with no vacations" , or " I wanna get off work to go home to more work" 😂😂😂
@@swanthequeen2144 or to make the man love them or stay. Hence why some women also think a man will stay and love them more if they give him a son. Having children wont make you closer to a man if he isnt.
Or if you truly believe motherhood is for you but don't want the extension of a man then adopt save another life like how you saved your own by going solo but if not don't be selfish and have kids at the drop of a dime.
If a man putting all four of his toddler to baby aged kids out on the streets isn’t proof that men don’t love their kids, I don’t know what is.
Alot of women don't even realize that men love the thought of one day being able to do this to them. From day one they be setting you up for those "gotcha" moments. You just have to listen they say it. I know I heard it more than once
These males are probably bragging to their homeboys about how they “kicked that b*tch out of their house” and getting pats on the back for it. Homoerotics mf’s.
Preach!! So well stated. I’ve never been married but some of the men I’ve dated recently did exactly this.
@@mrenae6798could you please elaborate I am about to start dating but am so confused?
@@areyouokay4306I think they are talking about men who try to convince you to be a stay at home gf or wife only because they love the idea of having the power to kick you out if you act in a way they don't like. They do it for the control aspect not because they love you so much that they don't want you to work
@@mrenae6798 ok tysm💞
This is why I tell my daughter don’t ever fall for being totally reliant on some Prince Charming who sells her a Disney dream. She’s 16 and already on top of it.
I remember my single blk mother telling me when i was 13yo that if i ever got pregnant, to let her know to handle it. I looked at her and said with a serious face while feeling a bit offended, “PREGNANT?! 🤨 i’m still a child myself. What i look like being a child with a child?” She started laughing and said, “but seriously, if you end up pregnant, just let me know and i’ll help you.” My response, “I don’t plan on having any kids now and definitely not during my teen years. And for sure if i’m not secured financially, mentally and emotionally. And if boy that could be the father definitely cannot help me, be there for me mentally, emotionally and physically, I’m definitely not having no kids.”
My parents always thought i was an odd child while other adults thought i was wise beyond my years. My thought process was seeing all the trouble my mom went through as a single mother of three and how her, my father constantly have custody battles across state lines, they constantly were in conflicts and never got married either. I didn’t want to end up that way. And i was not planned either. I found out when i was in my late 20’s (i’m in my 30’s now), from my maternal grandmother and my father that at the time my mother was pregnant with me that my father gave money to my mother for to abort me. They were both 21yo at the time and still not prepared to have a kid.
But for my father to admit to me that at first he wanted to abort me took alot of courage to do so. He said he feels guilty and hates himself daily for ever thinking for wanting to do that in the first place as i am the best thing that has ever came into his life.
wise mother!
Good job Mom. And the Disney dreams always forget to explain how a princess ended up needing to be saved by Prince Charming. It’s sounds like the pimp and hoe story: beat a woman up, then run her a bath and give her shoulder to cry on. She’ll forget who beat her up in the first place.
@@anonnnymousthegreatyes so true,learnt it early on that sex is that son of a bitch people especially women shouldn't be meddling with before marriage 🫠
My mom started warning me about men when I was four years old.
She's breastfeeding too? If she has mail going there, he can't kick her out. If she went to the po po, they would've made him leave and her and the kids would've been allowed back in. Learn your rights.
Ooooo the blk love,, never call police on your man
She won’t because she doesn’t want to call the police on a black man 🙄 meanwhile all those innocent kids suffer
@coconutwater4531 What? I don't understand. She'd go homeless, make her kids homeless, to protect her abuser? How....what??? Like what? Doesn't her inner Mother, her divine right to protect her children take over her brain? I don't get it. Why are they like this? When you have a child you become animalistic. You will hiss like a cat to protect your child as a woman. Like, it's involuntary. BW need to come live with other women. This needs fixing. Well. I'm stunned. Thanks for letting me know. It's like their basic survival skills aren't working. You know what I mean. They're protecting the perp not the innocent. 😞
I think he could get violent I’ve seen it happen where the women aren’t safe anymore💔 I hope she went to the closest woman’s homeless shelter
@@senorita-qh6bmThat's what I said. I don't trust him. Too many women and children are killed by these violent creatures.
36, still a virgin. I refuse to give absolutely anything to men ESPECIALLY black men. Ever. I learned this at 15. Been blessed, paid & happy ever since.
🤚Same. 38 here. I am beginning to think what the hack was wrong with me to even pray about marriage in this crazy world. Only praying for strength and sanity now. I feel like marriage ain't even worth praying for nowadays.
Learned this in elementary by watching my peers, my parents, tv….
I’m 25 and I don’t and can’t find black or black adjacent men attractive
Wow well this is increidbly racist
Don't give anything to any man, reguardless of color. I'm 38 and I regret losing my virginity at 19. Being sexually active between the ages of 19 and 28 made my life hell. You're definitely not missing anything good.
I assure you men of all races are capable of the same things. Would be a lot easier if it were as simple as colour of skin.
How on Earth is it legal to kick out your child?
It’s not
It isn't. I believe it's legal abandonment.
NEVER LEAVE ! He has to get court order to remove you😢
@@kelleo9213He may get violent. He doesn't sound very stable.
@@kelleo9213why tf would u stay if he acting like that .....have u not seen how many women more specifically black women get killed for staying and how many black men have killed their black kids
This isn’t just women. It’s real specific as you can see in the video. This is how they treat us black women.
I would be scared to death to have to rely on a man financially.
Does the BW community not know if you have mail.going there he legally can't do this and if All these Moms went to the po po he would be forced to leave and maybe even be arrested and the Mom and children would be let back into the home? It's the law. 😊
Truth! Don't rely on another person to take care of you, because they will have so much power over you. Always have your own money! Seriously, my ex husband was a nightmare. Don't financially rely on anyone. Especially, a man. 😢😢😢
Black men are fickle dating one you will find yourself homeless when they get mad which is every other day do not date them at all they a red flag
@@juliebella1221Even though legally he can't evict you, a BW has to worry about him ending her life if she doesn't leave. And many wouldn't hesitate to do it.
Jfc I'm so sorry that's how they treat you. I'm hearing so many awful stories of black men. I'd stop dating them at this point if I were yall
A man can say he wants a stay at home mom all he wants. At the end of the day, no matter how much labor a woman contributes to the household, his labor is the only one he sees as valuable and at some point he will see you as a freeloader who sits at home doing nothing all day. And also when men can’t provide they stop protecting
That was a mouth full wow 😮 it’s truth tho 😕
Decentering these males. Save yourself ladies.
Facts this happened to a friend she was married 15 years he got her pregnant, begged to have that child then dipped smh , my mom told me always have your own money
You know as a teenager I had this illusion that I wanted to be married with 2.5 kids etc by the time I was 35 . I’m 33 now and over the past 4 years I came to the conclusion that 1. I don’t actually want to be a mom 2. I refused to be in any kind of relationship/marriage where I am treated in anyway that is disrespectful or demeaning . I rather be single for the rest of my life than ever allow someone to treat me the way these men are treating the mother of their kids . It’s absolutely insane and wild to me .
You ladies do not listen to men no matter how good it sounds when they say they want a family or they got you. Men will leave you or kick you out the moment they want another woman or they get tired of taking care of their responsibilities. Always have your own stuff in your own name.
This is awful. I'm literaly in tears for these women and their babies. These men are heartless.
My husband has been financially supporting our houshold 10-years now. We don't have kids. I've been earning my own money for 4-years now (he still pays for everything), so if he were to do this to me (I hope he would never!!), I can take care of myself.. I trust him with my life so I feel and know deep in my heart that he'd never do this to me but as one of the women said, people change. Women, just make sure you have something saved, even if its to cover one month's rent. And importantly, DONT HAVE CHILDREN WITH MEN. I've been spared so many heartaches and suffering because I never burdended myself with children.
Don’t let these women USE you for emotional labor.
They Keep choosing SEX/PENIS over reason.
That’s not our fault.
Keep your finances separate and sock that money away. You are shrewd and brilliant for doing so. Also plan your own retirement just because. And having children can cost you dearly. I wish more women were doing what you are doing Hon! I went through an ugly divorce and we had a child who is severely disabled and of course, the ex abandoned us. Thankfully, I have my education and could provide the basics for us. Marrying and having a child are the worst decisions I ever made.
Don't ever trust a human being with your life,only trust God
Facts we are at a point where it’s not needed to procreate like that. I would advise all blsck women to especially stop having babies I used to want 5 but after being abandoned with my first child I no longer desire anything that would cause me to deal with a man for more than an hour
@@purplelove3666
Lmao na. I read the book.
I’m 39 never married, no kids…. I’ve went to over 37 countries, own two apartments…. Men tried to break me… tried to rape me… tried Tobake everything from me… WHY WOULD I NEED A MEN? Be happy or get married…
You are very smart👍
Wise woman
#childfreebychoice. I refuse to put myself through this humiliation nor a child. So sad. In many ways
That's what really disgusted me the most was doing it like that in front of the baby's, and one dude recording his baby and his mother baging up was horrendously embarrassing and to record it 🤡, the baby was so confused that was pure ugly to confuse ur child like that 🤢🤮 ugliness.
Same, that’s why I just stay away from them
This is why you don’t completely depend on men, I’ve been through this myself my ex husband would kick me out constantly, we’re divorced & I have my own career & independence now wish I had been wiser when I was younger. Please listen young women & learn from our mistakes
It's hard to tell young women with hormones raging, and even more the lies men tell. I just really, really hope young women can believe what women with experience are trying to tell them.
Ladies pleeeease take heed!! I, unfortunately, did not. Thought I found one different. We are in our 40s and known each other 20+ years. None of that matters.. As soon as I was pregnant and learned it was high risk and was forced to sit down almost my whole 9 months, I became disposable. The disdain he had for me began before I was even out of my 2nd month of pregnancy. I was having to find me and my daughter somewhere to live by the time she was 8 months. I was able to get back to work and back on my feet, but shouldn't have had to do it alone. There are too many boys finding excuses to not be men. Pleeeeaaaase let this be a lesson.
Lord that is terrifying. Glad you made it out, there are SO MANY stories of women being abandoned as soon as they encounter serious health issues. These men are selfish
I hope that now you and your child are living the life that you deserve and are happy
@@darknightmare7281 definitely blessed. Sometimes we don't realize that if we let go of the things that are no for us, we can receive all that is meant for us. This year has turned out to be beautiful 😍🥰
s soon as you’re stuck in any way I’d dependant on them, their disgust and contempt sets in and they treat you like a literal animal
I got kicked out too after after he filled for divorce. He brought his new girlfriend's stuff even before I had moved out. It's funny seeing that he can't afford the house and his parents have to pay his mortgage 😂
And I think that’s a huge part of the problem in why these boys treat people the way they do: enabling family members.
@@MaroonRose3216 exactly and a new bitch who think she’s special and also enables him. Smh sad world.
True. I am staying at a domestic abuse shelter and my ex’s family blames me for his arrest. He assaulted me because he thought I was cheating on him. Turns out he was cheating on me.
@@MC-rw2bk sorry your going through this. It is heartbreaking all around especially when the victim is blamed. My thoughts and well wishes are with you and your children. I hope you stay strong to make it through. Tough times are hard but you are not alone in this situation. I hope hearing other stories helps.
Thank you. I go to group therapy and after my experience and the horror stories I hear from other women, I don’t think I can ever take a man seriously enough to be in a committed relationship.
Chile and this is why I’m EXTREMELY hesitant in getting married, because marriage doesn’t mean a thing to these men. It’s just another situation for them.
No thanks.
My mom always told me never let what a man brings to the table be all u have to eat...
Best advice ever
Always be able to stand alone whether a man is there or not
Where Im from, my family would have pulled up to beat a man down if he ever disrespected me AND my kids. I love my Uncles and cousins, they dont play about the women in our families.
he's only paying 1800 dollars a month to support two dependents and he's trippin about it? should've paid 1000 for a vasectomy and been done with it
My guess is he has someone else he wants to entertain. Whether his child's mother is living there or not, he still has to pay rent.
@@auemmjeenow he will have to pay child support..so he is a moron.
He sounds like a stupid lollipop head idiot.
I can't even watch this it's so upsetting. My ex kicked me in my daughter out when she was sixteen een months old at bedtime.
I went back. Abuse cycles are sick.
We finally left once and for all.
Leave at the first sign of abuse, ladies. 🙏💕
Glad that you’re out now ❤️
Lord help my son if i ever hear he did this to his partner and child bc the last of his worries will be his rent bc the hospital bill will be so large rent seems like nothing. Stupid little boys out trying to act grown.
My exact thoughts. If I ever have a son and he lets the little hoodlum boys mess up his mindset and he did something like this …. trust me I’m going to be the definition of a girl girls and hell hath no fury like a woman scorned in one. I’d be teaming up with that woman to make sure she gets her lick back 10 fold. This is the most disgusting thing a man can do when given power and responsibility. Blood or not, our Earths future is empty without women being safe and stood up for.
I think that’s a big problem too these parents do not hold a lot of men accountable
@darkdiamond: The sooner we accept people r wired this way, the better. We hold out hope 🙏 this is one is diff & Mom's GF, baby Moms are Unalived when they r shamed.
aDark: You r not a failure when kids do wrong. Nature (bio wiring - testosterone/socialization) wins over nurture. You have to let go of control. Dont beba control freak or 1) u will end up in jail while he's still free to continue breaking hearts 💔 OR 2) he UN- alives u. Many of mothers said my baby wLD NEVER lay a hand on me or his sister - and they r 6 ft under. Pray & let him be when the day comes when transforms into a Pookie. It's inevitable. Sorry Sis. We"ve all seen it in our families. They've all betrayed & broken hearts 1 by 1 from grandPops down to bros^ The cycle won't end until we stop dating & birthing 'em.
@@RightToFreedomGirl yes this is very true.. but not 100% true, some of them love and respect their moms, sisters, daughters. I have seen many different stories
He put his own baby out on the street. Provider and protector, ya'll.
Women talking about that amazing life can be put in the same situation at any time. A lot of these women thought that everything was going well until it isn’t. Always have your own and don’t have kids unless you can take care of them by yourself. Why? At any time someone can die and or switch up on you. Also, don’t live with these males for years. I’m glad I don’t have kids!
Don't live with these males who you are not married too, and don't take care of your kids on your own, find a husband that can have the common sense to take care of their children physically as well, you are not about to take cAre of your kids on your own just Incase your husband dies, most women are not doing that because they might end up being a widow,they do that because they are marrying man children
@@purplelove3666 they can switch up any time. There is no vetting these men.
@@manifest2203Not true, proper vetting eliminates toxic men, good men exist.
@@sbusisiweshaba1715 good men exist. But it is very, very rare. Most men are toxic. They run the long con. They extract use out of that wife for years and “act” kind. But after many years they show their true colors.
Women, please have a back up plan for the back up plan.
How anyone can throw their own children on the streets. That is beyond evil.
Most of my friends who are stay at home moms literally have masters degrees and careers they could walk right back into tomorrow. I’m very sad for women who don’t😢
This is the best way to do it right out of high school! Secure yourself first; get that education and career started with job/ career experience history. Then marry..... 💯
I’m not going to have a masters and be a stay at home mom
@@shaunajones3244I personally have my BA, not an MA, but same. Why waste extra years getting that much additional education just to be a stay at home mom?
@@shaunajones3244right? That’s the sad part, what a waste of potential
She 100% right. Men will take everything from you and still worry about what you're not giving them.
I hate how BW are conditioned to not call the cops.....START CALLING!!! And let the chips fall where they may.
The videos these men make are powerful evidence of the abuse they inflict on the woman and children. Hope these women have legal recourse to get the right outcome.
oh i am NEVER getting married, let alone have kids.
You are smart!!!
Best decision dear..
Me too. I don’t trust that men will take care of women in the end
As a kid and now being 20, all that toxic horrible brainwashing is gone but now, I don't want marriage nor kids at all! Everyday just reassures me that it's the best decision ever!
Same
Stay single, work hard, save money. Have your freedom
1000% you would never catch me depending on anyone for anything. Was raised in a very religious family and my own mom shamed me for wanting to go to school and get a good job.
It’s not safe to have to depend on anyone to sustain your lifestyle.
My own family tried to tell me i didnt need to do certain things that would actually help me. They would discourage me to elevate so that i would need them. Now that I dont they hate it. I learned at this point and i will never let anyone get over on me. I already had to live through it.
@fiona: i agree. it's crazy. We assume thry'll be our biggest cheerleaders, but nope.
Wow. This happened to me.
I gave up everything I moved in with a man. I never did that before. I also knew this man for over 20years. I thought I was in safe hands. I’ve always had my own house. That I worked hard for. We were engaged. He knew me moving in with him was a fear of mines. I did it anyway to start my journey of being submissive to him. And to face a fear I had. He prayed on my fears and put me out over a argument. I was pregnant at the time. Had my other two children. We were put out at night. That was the saddest thing to watch was my kids packing their stuff. I was put out for washing dishes with the water running. He said I should’ve filled up the sink and wash dishes. We argued and I was put out admittedly. He was also mad and arguing in my face aggressively. So I stood up for myself and chin checked that fool. He said I was challenging him. He was mad because I wouldn’t quit my job. Said I wasn’t being submissive to him. I was put out I had to go live with my mom pregnant and started over from scratch. I turned up in that house. Went ape shii. Tore him and that darn house up.. Police was Called on me. He played the victim card quick. He actually pressed charges on me after we got back together and I was 7months pregnant. Man these men are something else. A lot of people suffer with Narcissistic personality disorder. Its scary out here. The value of many men out here is weak and distorted. I would never do it again. Now to this day he doesn’t take care of our daughter. All to continue to hurt me. Bcuz I actually didn’t fail as he was trying to destroy me. Until this day he has been lying putting all the blame on me for being put out and losing everything. He has no remorse and refuses to see his wrong doing and just how weak it was as a man. Actually as a darn human being. He justifies all his actions. He pins everything on how I reacted to him. Which is reactive abuse. He will not admit he put me out because of dishes. Why because that clearly states he’s a weak man for doing such a thing. Now my daughter suffers. Im glad I’m out. I was taught a huge lesson.
That's disgusting. I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm sorry you went through that, never again hey? They always find the dumbest excuse to act like it's the final straw. But they planned it from the beginning. We're just toys/movies to rent and return for another. The discard phase comes out of nowhere for no reason other than they're bored. 99% of all men are narcissistic psychopaths.
He's beyond weak & pathetic.
Wow he is a horrible person 😢smh
Please tell me you left him?
He said you are cutting my check off and I can’t have fun huh 🤦🏾♀️
She's got a job too, looking after his child. Men are evil.
Even women who think they choose right and right now they are living a great life with their partner/husband/etc, they really don't know how quick these dudes can flip on ya. It's too risky to be so reliant on anyone for anything. Set yourself up so you can always take care of yourselves in the event of a breakup...which is high considering most relationships will fail at the end of the day. Be open to love but, always be smart about who you let into your life and don't forget that you always can pull the eject button on them.
There was a major case in Nigeria of a popular actor and his wife who boasted about how much he loved his wife. Everyone called him a good husband and admired their marriage. Until one day, he suddenly married a new woman secretly and it was exposed. His wife, his parents and siblings and everyone were shocked. We couldn't believe that someone who praised his wife who much would do this to her. Some people cursed at him and even his father and brother expressed disappointment.
Now, after months if heartache and losing one of their kids his wife has filed for divorce. It's been revealed that the child he thought was his with his new wife isn't his and he is having issues with his new wife. He came back begging his former wife on her birthday, she refused. People change.
Prime reason I am single and child free! Never wanted kids and will NEVER have any for a man. I have to protect my peace!
At the end of the day I have to ask this question: If we as women and mothers can't depend on men to provide and protect (their job?) then how can we be with them and have children with them if we can't trust them to do their jobs. I've raised my family, and it was just like this. He didn't want to support us, he wanted me to support us (which I did) and when he didn't want to be a husband and a father he would change his mind, and he did kick me/us out with no place to go. If I had to do it all over again, (and I love my children) I would do it differently. I now have my own place, which I will never give up for 'love'. (Oh please) My security is way more important than 'love' will ever be. I am convinced marriage is a scam that men sell us (from infancy) for their benefit, and their benefit only. Staying single, free, and independent.
I agree
I have told my daughter to always have an emergency fund for this type of BS. You never know when people will change on you.
Thank you for spreading awareness. This is so heartbreaking honestly.
Any time!
You’re absolutely right. Stay ready, no matter how good he is.
You're are 100% correct. As an older woman with children. Most men will change after you have children they don't want to provide consistently.
They become resentful
@jenbodhi1133 they know that they really just wanted to sleep with you provide the minimum and are angry when you hold them accountable. The fairytale keeps you trying. Reality shows you who they are.
This is exactly why I would never ever be a stay-at-home mother! That gives too much power to the male population and they always use the financial abuse
Scariest situation. Never move in with him unless you’re married and the house is in YOUR name too!
Have secret emergency break up money hidden for you to get out of there!
Sad to say…I’ve never actually met a happy mother whether she was married or unmarried 😬
They became all crazy
I am so thankful that my parents raised my siblings and I to be independent, no matter what a male or female had to say. I was married, not married, and I ALWAYS made sure I was moving up financially on my own. My Mom would say negative things about me being driven and that my sister was a better mother bc she was married and just took care of her kids. I didn't care bc I was taking care of my children too and our futures in case anything went wrong with my husband (when I was married).
Ladies, always make sure you're making your own money and getting that bag even if you're in a relationship or not.
And if a male throws you out, leave the kids there, see how fast he changes his tune. And when he lets you stay there, keep your head down, stay focused, make your money then leave. Don't even waste your breath arguing with these dusty bandits.
Thank you 😊
You said your parents raised you to be independent but then said your mom would say negative things about you being driven. Which is it?
And this is why women will eventually run the world 🌎 and do it with compassion and love
Those the men who end up with women who use them and take everything then they try to go back to the bm/wife and she elevated 🤞🏽
I agree ladies. We need to make sure we only work with or for women. No more #menbosses
You’re 💯 correct, most men are not prepared for fatherhood,that love involves sacrifice, the value of a woman is more than his pay check, the value of children or family. Many are raised pampered by mothers feeling guilty for not always being there and over compensating whilst the fathers may be there but have checked out of all real responsibilities. Broken people. It’s frustrating
My lawd
I was about to give up studying.
Jesu im about to get my arse to that desk and WORK 😂
The way the men in these clips just humiliated women with zero empathy, zero consideration and zero humanity just solidifies I made the right decision at 24 years old to get divorced, never remarry again, focus on raising my kid, focus on my career, go back to school and complete my degree, pay off all my debts and save and save and save. In my late 40s now, I’m very healthy, get confused for being 10 years younger than I am, am financially and emotionally stable and while every once and a while I do miss companionship, the price is too high…the cost/benefit isn’t there. I’m just gonna date young dudes whenever I’m craving seggs or physical closeness and leave it at that!
This is exactly what you should do. Males will be mad about that. They are generally mad that women can live this way. Ignore them, and do it anyway! Great idea. You will protect yourself and give yourself the life that makes the most sense.
This was very sad to watch😔 Childfree by choice and i think I'll keep it that way for a long time. Protecting my womb and my sanity.
This is why I DO NOT recommend depending on a man EVER. Whatever he does is Extra!!
2nd video is prime example as to WHY you shouldnt depend on bandits for ANYTHING or birth their kids. Perfect example of what Cynthia spoke about.
The man putting his OWN child in the street at night is a new kind of LOW. 😯
Not new babe.
The only thing you can rely on until death is money. Money saves you, men leave you behind.
Your knight in shining armour is money, it gives a roof over your head, nice things to buy, a joyous life.
Compare that to men’s transactional love. They don’t love for real because of they did they wouldn’t allow themselves to use you or be a burden.
This all day 👏👏. Money is the provider. A sure thing. Always. Without it, all you get is male audacity 😢
@@swatiketu115 Well Said. But I believe money should be earned by the woman always because if you have your own money you don’t even have to deal with men’s audacity.
@@swatiketu115 Well Said. But I believe money should be earned by the woman always because if you have your own money you don’t even have to deal with men’s audacity.
I wish women would record the first conversation of men when they first tell them that they will take care of them and expect them to quit their jobs and stay home with the kids. Then, record how this changes when they abandon her. Because, there's a lot of women who are told this and suddenly down the line, they're being kicked out. This needs legal remedy. It's too common and hasn't borne any consequences for the eviction.
What kind of man kicks out his own child to the streets and expects people will be on his side?
I can smell a sociopath from a mile away. These women sit up there and defend those dudes till they burn her.
@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake Id have hoped in his comments that people would call him out and tell him he is wrong..but youre right there are weirdos out there who would defend him and enable his shitty behavior. The same morons who get with a 3 time deadbeat baby daddy and think he will be different with her kid.
Even grannies in the fifties would keep a small amount of money aside from their husbands in case of emergencies and being left alone without a husband. I don't understand how women can still be so naive.
Do these women not know the LAW???? What the hell??? You can't kick anyone out if they get mail there!!! Period!!! Why don't they call the cops??? The cops would remove the man from the property if he thinks he is above the law. And then the court would make them pay all utilities and rent even if they don't reside there ,especially if it's a house. It's called squatter rights!!! If it's an apartment, an eviction notice has to be served. When she goes to court, they will give her a year or more to relocate because she is unemployed.
Thank you! Please learn your rights ppl.
I can never emphasize how important it is for a woman to have their own money .
Dear God I watched my mother lose the security of my fathers income after 23 years of marriage and it was crazy….she went from living in a nice home and driving nice cars to living in an apartment with my sister and driving a old clunker. My father then tried to get my sister taken away from her so he didn’t have to pay child support and had more money for his new wife. He treated her like she was a piece of garbage after. She spent her entire life with a man just to come up with absolutely nothing at the end….
I am glad this woman spoke up, because you have these idiotic women wanting to be stay at home wives without even knowing , how dangerous it can be Being a stay at home wife sounds great, but it's scary at the same time,
If he has the power to feed you, he also has the power to starve you.
Facts
I agree, with all of the information like this and women still don't listen until they have to go through this and the worst part is the child is going through this.
@@bougiepeaches5497 some of these men are demonic,how can you even have a child go through this, are the menosphere going to talk about this?,
Girl i literally ran away from a comment section of young pickmees saying what the hell went into these feminists fighting so that we will work.
Watching these videos from different channels for the past... eight days straight, I feel hurt, I feel stupid, I feel angry, I feel resentful, but I feel blessed because I don't have children, and I was never once married.
The longest relationship I had lasted for almost three years. I couldn't "keep no man" because God rerouted me to path I needed to be on. Otherwise, I'll be like these women in the video. I pray that they developed the strength to rise above all of this. I appreciate them being vulnerable and sharing these stories as a cautionary tale.
Don't get me wrong, I'm still a squishy who loves love, but from what I learned is that I like the ideal of what it is. The delusional aspect of it is expecting it from someone who isn't capable of loving you or themselves. The only person who can give you unconditional loving is you (and your fur babies).
Most men are so confused. It’s like they need two wives: one who is traditional, stay at home, dependent and another who has a career so she can help him 50/50 with the bills.
Maybe he will be happy then.
Oh wait, no he won’t be happy because both wives will be too tired.
He will need a mistress too.
Every woman should know the number/location of the local women's shelter, as they were designed for when men start acting
up.
This was my mom and I.
She shouldn’t make the mistake of eventually leaving her child with the father and his new spouse.
My mom did that. I grew up abandoned and abused in every way and at every time in my life
What signs should I look for as a mother who has to let the child visit with an irresponsible father?
I hope you treat that deadbeat father like trash he is.
@@MaroonRose3216 I'm not a mother, but if your child is too quiet or has become more quiet than usual, doesn't communicate properly or with enough assertiveness, I would be worried. Low self esteem too. It can also be the opposite - a lot of anger, rebellious. Don't yell at them.
@@MaroonRose3216 the best you can do for your child is to be very attentive , and also show the father and his new spouse that you’re not afraid to come for them if they ever harm your child. Then you have to build a solid friendship with your child , let your child be very comfortable with you, more than anyone else.
My mom just left me. I had no one to protect me so I was an easy target.
However my dad divorced my stepmom too after their 2nd child.
What I realized was that my half siblings didn’t go through what I had to go through because their mom (who was my main abuser) fought tooth and nail for them.
She would come to the house to raise a ruckus when any of her children complained, so her kids were never abused by my fathers third wife.
Thank you for your story honey, god bless you!🙏🏻🙏🏻 I had almost same story, my mom never protected me from my stepfather, they both laughed at me. She was afraid of him, he sometimes beat her. But it seems that she liked it to some extent, when we asked her to divorce him, she said how she would be alone, without husband. What people will say, it's always been very important to her. And her husband was more important than her own children.
These times are crazy... its very difficult for one person to maintain their own bills, let alone care for an entire family on one paycheck. The days of a man being able to provide for an entire family is over. Then we got young people playing house and ending up with REAL RESPONSIBILITIES- like children. But really neither party have true love or respect for the other party. Girls, be careful. Stop having children with these men!!! If u do have a baby do whatever it takes to get finacially independent. These modern men WILL leave you high ad dry.
This is why I tell women and girls that SAHM ish is great but ALWAYS have a backup plan. ALWAYS have an income or at least some way to make income because men like to switch up like the wind!
@the8thchurch461 Being a SAHM or Stay at Home parent in general is work, hard work at that. It's good because you can watch your own children(if you have any) and maybe even homeschool. I wouldnt want to be a SAHM but a lot of women do.
Same thing happened to me and I was married. Men should support you if you bear their children, but you can't trust men. Don't sleep with them.
Agreed
It's sad that women who really want to stay home and raise their babies can't but I agree wholeheartedly. Men just aren't reliable - no matter what they claim or even show you, it can change at any moment. Even if you just do a little side hustle at home while the babies are sleeping, have something that's just yours just in case.
Yup they are against women having careers. Want women to be stay at home moms yet are also against paying women alimony.
Ladies don't ever enter a relationship if you don't have your own money or income. Point blank!
These videos were so triggering for me because ive been through this...once he stops caring about you most of them stop caring about the kids. My daughters are a living witness and now have mental health issues because of the trauma. Smh
When most of them became crazy, they don’t care about the time of the day, your health-status, their kids, where you guys are and you. Never give them too much power financially or even emotionally 😢 stay strong ladies. I learn it the hart way and now i am dealing with a crazy person for the rest of my life.
This is why I'll never live with another man in my life. My ex did me like this. Its sickening how these males do people.
They switch up on u quickly. I had happen to me too. NEVER AGAIN
Yup. I always planned to be self sufficient with my own money and things. Men really kicking out their wife/baby mom and children is shameful.
My parents have been together for my whole 35+ years of life and they always let me know I should have for myself before relying on any man! They share everything in the household..my father does everything to help a household run..my mother had breast cancer twice and he did the most! He is definitely unique but not the only man in my family who is like that with their wives! Some men choose to be heartless and selfish! 😢😮
They sit and wait for the moment to pounce on our spirits through the kids, finances, abuse, etc. PREDATORS!!
Bw I say this in love. It’s 2023 we keep seeing how these stories are ending. Stop having these babies and stop prioritizing these XY because you see how they will do when they have all the power.
Prioritize your education and your career and you won’t find yourself in these situations. Your life depends on it. And its not just the tyrones doing this its the average joe, its the educated lame etc.
Yes, PLEASE! Young women please opt out of motherhood and marriage. It's not worth it.
I feel so badly for the first woman. The only reason I advocate for marriage they can’t kick you out your own home. I’ll be damned. Truth be told, married or not you don’t have to leave. You at the very least have tenants rights. I’d call the police and let them sort it out. 9 times out of 10 the police will ask him to leave.
girls, time to get together and take care of ourselves and each other. much greater stability in female roomies than trying to rely on a man.
Women have always done that. Men always find a way to divide and conquer. Let's take it back ladies. Pay attention to how you think towards and treat other women. You have an inkling as to what she is going through.
You never know what can happen. I have a coworker whose mother advised her that "men are great but you never know what will happen. Make sure you can take care of yourself." So, she went to college and became an engineer. She met a great guy in college and they got married. One day at the age of thirty, a blood vessel in his brain popped and in an instant he was dead. Fortunately for her, she was able to provide for herself with her well-paying job.
So much for being providers and the man of the of the family.
My mum/dad have a traditional relationship. Mum works for fun stuff, dad works for the bills. He cheated and my mum shut him out (emotionally), he got really sick lost weight became depressed. The girlfriend dissapeared.......we stayed. Turs out his kidney had died and was poisening him on the inside. He got better THEN the girlfried showed up again....he chose my mum and his health.