I’m so sick and tired of the females that’s already healed from narc abuse commenting under Harios video talking about ,” MOVE ON ALREADY.” Well I too am healed but I would never comment telling the next to move on.. PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT.. PEOPLE HEAL DIFFERENT!! Let the people that needs help feel like they are being heard! We all know how it feel! Thank you Hario, for helping the ones that appreciate you services! PLEASE DON’T STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING! May God bless you!!❤️
Wow, beautifully stated!!! And thank you too for your supportive and encouraging words! You are 1000% spot-on!!! My guess is that those women are narcissists themselves simply in here trolling for lack of better things to do. If they can come in here and be so dismissive and unsympathetic, yet claim to be victims themselves, then I call BS on them and they can get over themselves and keep it moving!!!
When they marry the new supply to make themselves look like they are "not the problem" and that they are capable of being in a loving relationship, they will stay with them for a long time. They have to keep up the facade. That is why they flood social media with photos of their "happy life." The new supply is miserable for sure but may also stay with the narc bc they are too embarrassed to leave since they, too, made everyone think that they had found the love of their lives. Let them be miserable together, especially when the new supply knew what she was getting into but thought she had won a prize. Instead, it was "trick AND treat" you like 💩.☺️☺️☺️
They will stay with the new supply as long as the new supply continues to be a "door mat" ! As long as the narc is in complete control and all their wishes are being fulfilled....they will hold on for awhile. However, even with that.... it is always a matter of time before they get bored and will hunt for another or try to hoover you back!
Exactly! I was just hoovered by the ex narc three years after he cheated on me and married the then new supply. What was striking to me is that he's been keeping tabs on me the entire time. It's beyond me how smoothly these creatures juggle.
Facts anyone they deal with will become trap engaged and unhappy all of them me those before and anyone after me all the publication be for show to make who they want to taunt the lookers they tryna trigger
They’re on dating apps with the new supply there too she has zero clue she’s dumb and ugly 😂I left his ass and went no contact after he got me everything to keep me while he was cheating !
My narcissist new supply was my friend before I moved 900 miles away she knows what’s up she’s called me but for some reason she wants to believe she can do him better than I guess the 20 years I gave him! More power to both stupid people 👏
They will continue to destroy you each and everyday! God forbid if i was to pass on..damn narc would not even pay respect to my own freaking funeral!! He would just keep rotten away using & lying to folks..stealing...sexing family and use up supplies ...under age females...maybe guys too.(..lord have mercy!!!) Smh that's his hobbie.. I just thank God for my life health and strength!! I had to run for the hills and fast!!! Never looked back no contact for about 8 .months now!
At the end of the day those demons will tear them up! Those demons, legions of demons are inside of them waging war! Pushing them to do what the devil had created them to do is to hurt and afflict people with pain and emotion. They are the vessel of demons. Yeah, you can call it the monster. But demons is even worst!!! They hear voices those are demons. And they react on the voices. Some of these people that are being used by demons are basically are basically mentally ill people. Somewhere in their life there's a crack and those demons had came in. My x husband had a lot of demons and I could even feel it in the air. There might be even 7 demons in him.
Guys I promise you this man is telling the truth. I spent 3 months crying myself to sleep thinking the narcissist changed and is treating her better. Then came the Hoover and he told me he was gonna “make that B**** get an abortion” because he didn’t want to be with her. Proved to me he has not changed one bit... stay strong
Good luck my dear I am also in the same boat as you. Merry Christmas and happy new year I live in United Kingdom England if ever you needed a friend leave me a message. Thanks 😊
The Narc was slandering you behind your back, way before you became aware! But why give a s*** what they tell others, if they take the narcs side nd trust me some of them will, thats his camp, as long as we have God nd the entire host of heaven in our camp, we will always be the greater one💪🏾! Now, LET the Church say AMEN.😲💃🏾🕺🤸🏻♀️🤸🏾♂️
The best part of that fake relationship was me blocking ex narc on every avenue. I erased him all the way out of my life, and anyone I even thought was associated with him. When you start demonstrating self love away from the hamster wheel of abuse, you won’t care about who a narc is with once you get out. You’ll just be celebrating that it’s no longer you.
I hope everyone who has been a victim of narc abuse truly gets to the place where they just don't care about wasting precious thoughts on an ex narc or who their current supply is......I'm just blessed to be on my new trajectory and living my best life. Onward and forward!!
Just got to that place and it feels good to watch these videos now and not have to convince myself that my story is different and that my monster can change. I did it I finally walked away and meant it🙌
@@mzkizatt Praise the Lord Kathleen!! That is the ONLY way to get darkness out of your life and that is to leave it behind you and keep following the light that is in front of you!! Good for you!!
@@xochilthguitron1836 I'm sorry you have to detach from her as well.....there's a saying, the devil attacks those he's threatened by.....and you must be a threat. Count your blessings and move on to live your best life!
Exactly, but I stopped talking to her many years ago, I knew something wasn't right in that head and sure enough just like my husband, they're both the same
My ex wife divorce me and went back to her ex husband then left him now she with a new supply smh but im good now im finding myself and getting closer to God.
The narc will not take your warnings seriously until you stop giving them the time of day. In one of the hoover conversations I had with my ex-narc, I had asked him "how do you know you haven't lost me" (because I was offended by the conceited attitude he had that I would always want him). He answered, "because you're still talking to me." And his behavior got worse, because as long as I continued to choose to deal with him, he felt I wasn't going anywhere and there was no incentive for him to change and behave better. And that is their attitude towards all supply..."as long as you are still willing to talk to me, I have you wrapped around my finger and I can treat you any which way I choose."
My ex narc kept saying if it doesn’t work out with her new boyfriend she doesn’t want me back. My reply was I don’t want you back either. Thirteen years, am dead to her, not even a little sadness on her part. All because i left her three years ago and i came back, ruined it with her new boyfriend, who was my friend, was, so it took three years for the devaluation and final discard. Hurt me like hell. But i am ok now, three months pd.
Poem I stayed because I loved, I stayed because I cared, I stayed because I thought there was a "we", when really there was only "me". I watched as you flirted, lied to my face, and shut the door when I cried. And in those dark moments, my soul died. I stayed with you because I loved, but finally I have given up. Now, a year later, I watch you walk down the street; a new woman is on your arm. I see the bruises on her face, and know one day she too will see the devil I see.
Great video and 💯 on point! I can attest that when I was the " new supply " , all was beautiful until about 3 months in! That is when you start noticing the " red flags "! I suffered greatly for surrendering and refusing to see him for what he really was! It was 3 years of the biggest nightmare of my life! Trust me , that supply will NOT be happy for long! I GUARANTEE it!
Same here Kelly, I started picking up on things at about the 3 month mark....but i swept the flags under the table cuz she moved from 3hrs away to be with me, and laid out the pity party real heavy knowing i was extremely empathetic.
I stayed with mine for 8 years. It's so sad that I can't get those year back, my whole 20s with this narc. He's in a new relationships all smiles with his child. This makes me sad because we haven't spoken in 1 month! I'm now trying to heal and so happy that I've came across this page to learn more. He's been hoovering my social media the last 2 weeks too. 🙄
Omgoodness! 3 months was exactly when my husband's mask started to slip! Yes, unfortunately, im still married after 6yrs now nd it has definitely been anightmare after another. It's going from bad to worse. We invested in nothing to show that we built together as a couple. Im still riding around in the truck my ex husband purchased for me, a 2001 Nissan xterra. He doesn't want anything for example: a new home, he rather rent, car he rather die or "im not going to live much longer, so im not buying anything to leave for somebody else to enjoy" he says. Damn, who thinks like that? Just Pitiful 😟 Hario is so right, you will have happy moments in-between, then its back to torture as usual! Its a merry go round! Im tired 😫 of going around the same damn tree, round nd round I go. I can actually, not only predict the behavior but also the type, when it will start, ns how long it will last! Lord, give me the grace to endure nd protect me while I'm enduring!
I don't want to know how the Narc is doing nor if they are happy, nor do I care if they will last with the new supply. If I do that it implies I'm still under their bondage. This freedom feels too good to care. I'm focused on my happiness and my funds!
Amen!!! I'm with you all!! Loving my space and singleness for the very first time!!! I'm too selfish to share that with anyone!! Just me..myself.. And I;)!
Your videos have saved my sanity. I thought there was something wrong with me for falling for a narc. But there's nothing wrong with me for being a good loving kind empath however I now realize that narcs seek out people like me so I have to educate myself and be aware that these kinds of people exist in the world. I am now an Super Empath, I see the truth and I know my value. I will never fall victim to these types of people ever again!
Narc is never satisfied & Pictures do NOT tell the truth. It's a show for that particular moment. Narcs consider a loving happy relationship to be boring. Cheating is their preferred method of keeping things spicy
I'm just learning I'm with a Narc husband and planning my exit...but as for sex it was boring ...lacked intimacy....cold and disconnected to name a few....I never ever initiated sex because it was never satisfying at all...so I hope his new supply and his other side chicks are getting ready for the Karma they caused me!! Otherwise I'm not interested one way or the other!
I'll take peace Alex for $100. Any day!!! And I'm so thankful for everyday I have my peace. I don't fight for situations or relationships that I see not going nowhere.
You were once the new supply...look at it this way. The narc plays from the same play book. Once the new supply is Hooked and fooled like I was,the narc then goes in for the devaluation stage. The narc is going to start contacting ex’s, crushes,admirers, prostitutes...anything for more supply..the new supply but now worn out supply will try and hold on but the narc will give her every reason to leave..the narc will constantly tell the new supply how you (the ex)was better at cooking, sex, parenting, and that he never should have left you..leaving the new supply confused because in the beginning the narc hated you. Trust...the narc is going to be even better at the game..so pray for the next victim because that’s an evil force roaming earth as we know it. A narc is the devils minion...they have Noooo soul. They can only take your energy because they are empty shells.
That came into my mind the other day. He is going to tell someone that I am better than them. That is so messed up. And zombies are empty shells. Very well put.
This is interesting. How do we know this…? I haven't been hoovered or contacted yet :/ Eventually new supply will become old supply and then their cycle continues.
My heart breaks for people requesting videos like this. Heal and shift your focus. Your no contact is in vain if you are still invested into what the narc is doing.
I have been there he had left a couple times and thinking grass was greener this last time he left trying to slide back in to my life it hurt so bad but not this time he made his bed stay stay in it I am heal know it took a long time to heal and you think I am going to let you back no way I am done this time they crazy they hurt you so bad like they did nothing bye bye they don’t have a heart they out cold!
@@stephleesimmons8501 I'm practically neighbors with my ex narc who wanted to keep us a secret from everyone in the trailer park so I have to see his face just about everyday. But I'm 32 days no contact otherwise.
It takes a bit of time to get over what actually the hell happened to you. I have a secret wish her life turns to crap so i can be vindicated, but also wish it could have been better with both us together. But it wasn’t, so I don’t want her back. Am three months post discard. Am happier healthier and a nicer person to be around. Living life with a toxic person is draining and makes me a bit sour and grumpy, low energy. She seems happier too. But i know what’s coming, so i just have to wait, see if am right.
@@jonesfredrick94 Even if the man/husband is the narc and he is the one paying the bills ? Cause that’s the kind of situation i as referring to.... what happens then?
He’s not happy I seen today for myself.... He was running to go home before 11 to be with her lol 😂 tonight I called his auntie bc she keeps our daughter while I’m working and he was still at auntie house.... so that happy well will always run dry periodttttt
That's right! When you have a solid relationship, you don't have to keep pushing it in everyone's face. I see many on social media, constantly doing that and it ends up looking like they want attention.
The exact same thing we all went through, because it’s a new supply doesn’t mean the narc changed their ways. She’s probably going through worse than you did.
So I'm not mad at New supply I rather the narcissist keep it moving than to cheat on me and possibly bring me back some disease when I'm not out here pulling down my pants to get a disease.
Whoever is my narcs "new supply" good look to you SAWEETIE ! lol he is not my problem anymore im gonna fully heal and be off to find the man I am meant to be with ! 💪🏽❤️💯
That is so true when you have a great relationship it doesn’t have to be broadcasted all over the world … Grade A supply is not a compliment, it just means you are a great candidate to be a doormat , they have lil to no boundaries at all they are right up the Narcs alley I was married to one for 14yrs and I asked him for a divorce and I finally was able to tell him , me being an option is no longer an option for him and I wanted him to leave… the journey is extremely painful but having my joy and peace was and is so worth it… I thank God❤
I was on the sideline. I didn't know it for two years until the day I discovered on social media that he had married a former colleague of mine over the summer. It was a VERY bad day for me when I learned that he'd just been using me all along, and that there wasn't anything like love for me in his heart at all. Now, I'm terrified of falling for someone in the future. I can't go through that hell again.
This is so true. I had little to no boundaries in my 7 yr relationship. Once the mask fell off and I set boundaries the discard was full force. I left without giving notice and no contact since. It’s been 4 yrs and he’s still hoovering. Narcs are masters of perception, but they’re fake af. Thank you for your content ❤
I had very strong and high boundaries, the narc hated that. He created drama and ignored me for days and weeks on end when I would assert and affirm my boundaries. It lasted 15 months and he is already (after seven months) very publicly with his new supply. I discarded him. He already took her to Mexico and is love bombing her and buying her things and she is posting all of it publicly. It’s sad.
Hario ! Do you read my THOUGTHS????? I gave him ALL LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING for 22 years, but was NEVER enough to him! He never married me. He hid me!!!!
So sorry. I dint know what I was. He was all about me for a while even went to church with me and got baptized . Now he’s with a new supply at her apartment where he spend his birthday. Three months discarded and he’s with her the same amount of time. New tonight he’s texting me that he realized I maybe losing myself and if I need his help .
Now look you still beautiful strong an still on your purpose ! ..God took you away because he love you more ...dont go back trust me ive had two they both tried ...but after i spashed out they ran with their asses tucked somewhere lol 😀 be thnkuful yah saved you an stay cute cause u are pretty as heck ...✌🏿dont let them weak bastrds steal your joy ever ...be happy 💝
I was with mine for four years, and didn't even know what a narc was until about a month after the discard. I was investigating what had even happened wile trying to figure out how to move on when somebody described what she was as a textbook narcissist. Then I started looking at that, and everything fell into place. If not for the info in these videos I think she would have broke me, but the sec I found the truth it was a wrap. Keep up the great work. Your saving lives out here for sure. It's been a month and a half, and I'm just working on me, and mine now:)))
I'm so glad I met my narcissist in high school he was 14 at the time. He was 25 when the final discard happened and wow what a monster he became over the years. I definitely feel sorry for the people that have yet to meet him because WOW😩 5 years no contact in July 🦋
My ex Narcs new supply lasted 8 weeks, he moved in with her after 3 weeks. She contacted me, he changed overnight with her, she said he was wonderful and charming then he ignored her, raged for no reason and slept on her couch. I had 18 years with him and his behaviour got worse and worse. The new supply is still playing his game, good luck to her!
They believe in the false mask, not realising that the bad side is the real character. The narc brainwashes by acting nice for the first month, paying their way, not acting out. Sweet/mean cycle starts at SWEET. Like a Venus flytrap. It's dreadful how people get demeaned and think they can't escape. It's horrific. People commit suicide over these idiots. The cruelty is REAL. The kindness is FAKED. Can you even remember any kindness? The new supply saved my life, thank you for taking the load, it was destroying my happiness, mocking me, draining me. Very toxic.
Omg this is so true 🙈 I had absolutely no boundaries, exactly as you said I thought by going back and forth trying to explain how wierd and horrible he was being would eventually change things because I didnt know about npd or that I was in the devaluation stage, my reactions were hideous, he got me to the point where I would scream and swear at him and hes used that against me in the smear campaign, I had absolutely no clue about npd, none, I knew about narcassism sort of but it's not until you've been through it with someone with fullblown npd that you can fully see how sickening it is and what they were doing, I so wish that I had known, hes even used texts i sent him to smear me but no one understands what he did before that to get me to that point. part of it for me was that I didnt know it was abuse, i was trying to figure it out and get answers so I went back and forth and I feel so stupid now. I look back and think why didnt I end it years prior
Lula lily YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Everything was pre-calculated! It knows one day you’re going to leave and it fears exposure for all the demonic evil they afflicted on Sweet, Loving and Innocent people.
It's odd how we used to hang on to those tiny glimpses of hope that the narc would put forth and try to make you feel like there was some humanity in there! I was never so wrong about a person! The chaos with this person far outweighed any little crumb that he would throw me. He was just baiting his hook! I am so woke now!
This is spot on! Whoever stays with a narc after realizing what they are about, have no self respect or self esteem. Never ignore your gut. I learned from many narcissistic abuse experiences.
This one particular video hit the problem on target! You said it all. Narcs break up first to be able to come back. He did this 3 x but I said no. Then he stopped because I meant it-And I got married. Thanks for great advice.
Whats the saying "I DONT FEEL LOVED IF IM NOT ABUSED" that's the new supply, I was pregnant by that creature and he didn't care or want the baby, it dont matter what she does for him it will never be enough and he gets bored quick, I was the one that got away
Wow mines wanted baby but when it happened he told me to abort. Now she’s two and he’s still saying I should’ve done it and we would’ve gone our separate ways.
I've watched a few different channels such as yours. I find that I seem to reasonate with you more than any of the others. So, I Thank You from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do !! Bless You !! 🤗 Usually, I'm the one helping people but it's so hard to handle my own feelings. I'm learning to put up boundaries & protect myself. If I don't take care of me ~ everyone else will completely drain me.
My ex narc was extremely insecure and his NS is not only a downgrade but she is extremely insecure and jealous and I believe that she is an inverted narcissist as well. So he will use her insecurities to abuse her and she will tolerate it because she thrives on it. I'm sure they will stay together for a long time because they have someone that they can use and abuse and they are giving each other the supply that they want. I have no doubt that they have nothing more than an abusive toxic fake. I hope that they have a long miserable life together.
I left the Narcissist and I went back with him after two months not contact. People they DO NOT change. I had to run for my life literally; catch my drift?? People listen to this man ; he is speaking Facts!
I laugh at the idea of anyone wanting any of my past narcs..I was dumb and too forgiving..looking back I am beyond embarrassed with my past self for ever giving a minute of my time effort or energy on those bums..they took me for a fool..never again..I am wide awake and not playing with trash ever again..enjoy my life from now on..👏👏💜💯💜👏👏👏
Naw my narc has that only quality the bedroom action. But it feels like a molestation. However that may feel, but I know, never good. Their whole mind frame is different the glorify bad things only. Pay attention. They are sick af. They have been either super minded abused or they been coddled to death in their childhood. Totally conditioned. It starts in childhood. Everyone around them were bad. The whole damn family mostly the immediate are sadistic weirdos. Pay attention.
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER! I WAS NOT HEALTHY WHEN I met MY EX NARC. AFTER THE MENTAL ABUSE AND GOING THROUGH IT I GREW TO A BETTER PERSON. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!
Im always gonna be like nah she can't be that cold to me than be all lovey dovey the next moment with next guy. If she had all that capacity of so called love in her she wouldn't have played me and ridicule me the way she did wouldn't have occurred and we still be together if that love in her was real.
Subscribed and liked .ok I've seen alot of channels on Narcissists. I've heard alot speak but never touch on the issues that you do and there so on point.i work with a beautiful female in her 50s I've seen her flirt with 3 other men I admit she had me in her web.i thought I was that one then she would disappear for a week or so.i started watching her actions to see what she was up to. I would see her yes see her flirting with other men and looking me in the eye and laugh as she did this.are you serious.now i know thank god.and your channel 🙏
yes, My ex I told him i'm glad your gone because the NEW woman has a monster with her...He was something else....he was jealous..negative...didn't want me to read..write books and learn things...oh man...I'm HAPPY!
I gave him so much energy. I asked questions from the beginning but took six years to discard. After I put him out He told Me we In Friend Zone until I get myself together Emotionally. Funny I had told Him weeks before once I got myself together Emotionally He was gonna be a DONE DEAL ANYWAY. I'M WOKE!!!!!!!!
That's why we were married for 20 years. I took it, I put up with it, I let my self worth be beaten down to nothing. Every now and again I would come to my senses and fight back, this was when he'd be at his worst and threaten to leave to control me. I was so scared of him leaving I would then fold. I believed him when he said it was my fault. I apologized when I was not wrong. All to keep the peace. In the end I wasn't taking it though, I was demanding him to do right and he hated it. I felt like I had "fixed" everything he said was wrong with me at that point and he was still doing me bad. I started standing up for myself and he hated it, said things only got worse. Yeah, because I stopped being a doormat. That's when he went for the next affair and final discard. I did fold after the discard, I won't lie. But he knew at that point I wasn't accepting his crumbs anymore and it was no longer worth staying with me. His new wife (after 4 months of dating) seems very weak in the boundary department. Thinks he's a man of God that won't do her wrong. I suspect that marriage will last if that's true, he's going to enjoy walking all over her.
I was that person, that took the abuse for 2 years until I finally put my foot down and told her we had to change things. She said ✌🏼 and that she won’t come back until I agree to basically not ask her to change. Bye 👋🏼. Good luck new supply
@@stevena5164 Same thing happened with the ex narc. I was with him for 2 years and it was hell upon hell upon hell. He constantly sabotaged the relationship despite the many chances I had given him. At the time I called him out before going no contact, I did not know that he was a narcissist. However I woke up to the craziness and realised this guy did not have my best interests at heart. His behaviours made it clear that he wanted to destroy me. So I called him out. I told him he's heartless, manipulative, abusive, controlling, childish, doesn't take accountability for his wrongdoings etc. I told him never to contact me ever again. He said that he doesn't care what I say because I don't know him. Damn right I didn't know what I was dealing with for 2 years. I've been no contact for 1 year and 4 months. Prior to calling him out he had tried to hoover me multiple times (hence why I called him out and told him to stay away). Since calling him out I have not heard for him at all. I am so thankful for the peace 🙏🏾 Stay away from me forever demon. Going no contact was the best gift I could have ever given to myself 🙌🏾
I needed to hear this. Thanks for explaining bc this has been on my mind for so long. He has recently moved his new supply in with him. Therefore, I figured they will be together forever 😥
A tip for everyone! When hoover doesn’t stop. Send him an e-mail and tell him that if he calls, texts, stalks you will take legal actions 20 calls a day and now 0 calls ! That’s good
Totally 100% right on @5:23 - exactly what happened to me. Thank You for your wisdom and validation. Ex Narc's New Supply was exactly the person he said he never would be with and talked smack about for years. Guess what happened. @10:53 is so 100% true!! I keep rewinding your video. So helpful to me, thank you!
I love what you had to say in this video. This is a perfect message for me to move forward and start to implement some tactics when dealing with my narc ex and when it's my son's time to visit his Dad.
Hario can you do a video of when the narcissist will bait you.. for example right after I got married with my ex that’s when I noticed a switch went off .. I notice this pattern with me and other victims when you get married or have a child from a narc they really flip the switch on you because in a way they trapped you.. if you can make a video on this topic please it would be greatly appreciated ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sandra Bazil I too was married 32 years. Have left the marital home and filled for divorce. I went through so much. He was not going to stop cheating, thought l had accepted it. Hope l can meet others in my situation just wondering how they cope after ending a long term marriage. I'm doing well promoted, now a Master of Science candidate. Grown children doing well. I'm trying but I have my moments. My faith in God and prayer has supported me in all of this.
You are so right Hario . There happiness is different from normal people . The narc loves drama n confusion, if you are not providing that they are gone to someone who will .
The narc I was with won’t even post his new supply lol. She popped up on Facebook apparently pregnant and everyone was like “Harpo who dis?” Lol. It’s a sad situation. Y’all, let’s just be happy we got out. Blessings!
I was discarded after putting my foot down about him getting his driver's license after 5 years of promising to get it back after losing it to DUI. He realized I finally had enough being his chauffeur. He also treated me like his servant. He felt he was above house work and cooking. I couldn't stand a dirty house so I just did all of it. He has promised the new supply he will get his license now. I'll believe it when I see it. I was also abused financially. He has another new mystery illness which I'm sure he will use as an excuse to continue to work part time with the new supply. He was a bum loser and when he realized that I saw it, he was off to the new supply. I warned her what he was though. So she gets no sympathy from me when the devalue and discard happens.
@@cassiebennet4262 He said he was going to get it back right when we first started dating 6 years ago. I went and got all the necessary paperwork from the DMV. He just kept coming up with excuses all the time. Shortly before the discard, I blew up at him about it. He asked me what I wanted him to do and I told him to step up and be a man. I believe this was the narcissistic injury that caused the discard. Now he is supposedly trying to get it to pacify the new supply. I'll believe it when I see it.
I have learnt so much from your videos and am truely greatfull for the insight you have given to me and have been able to continue working on my relationship with the creator God and continue in my life's purpose in the disiple making work that God asighned to me keep going and God bless you
Every story this thing told me about there ex is the same thing I was accused of like cheating which I didn’t I should of lol as much as I was accused and Facebook it’ll last as long as they put up with it
Don't care ✔💯 . I was NOT A+ supply. Im good with that. I caused the narc a lot of problems/injuries. Like he last said to me, "I MISS U, BUT U COME WITH TO MANY PROBLEMS" Good bastard ✔
I know its hard to know that you have been discarded for another supply ..believe me I get it,it haunts me everyday to know that you loved them so much and tried so hard to show them and do everything right but they have no capability to love back ..it was all a show! And no matter how much you think about it and how many people you ask,everyone of our exs are different and you know how yours was behind closed doors..well guess what that behavior is still the same. It depends on how long it takes the new supply to get sick of their shit or the narc discards them for someone else...how long did you stay? Damage and abuse will go on as long as its allowed and they walk away just as broken, lost and confused as we were
It’s really painful. He took a week off from work and he’s been at her house the whole time. Spend his bday with her abs not once came to see his daughter.
Right off the back it’ll last as long as they are willing to take it , I took it for 2 years to long I should of left after the first encounter they got drunk and acted a total fool .
13 years of hell. He was very charming for the first five or six years. When I asked why he saiid he had to make a good impression. How sick is that? The next 6years he was like Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde.😀😃😀😃
You're right my ex narc started showing his true colors about 3 months into the relationship. During that time he was getting back with his ex for 11 yrs.
I’m so sick and tired of the females that’s already healed from narc abuse commenting under Harios video talking about ,” MOVE ON ALREADY.” Well I too am healed but I would never comment telling the next to move on.. PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT.. PEOPLE HEAL DIFFERENT!! Let the people that needs help feel like they are being heard! We all know how it feel! Thank you Hario, for helping the ones that appreciate you services! PLEASE DON’T STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING! May God bless you!!❤️
Yesss.this!!! AMEN
Wow, beautifully stated!!! And thank you too for your supportive and encouraging words! You are 1000% spot-on!!!
My guess is that those women are narcissists themselves simply in here trolling for lack of better things to do. If they can come in here and be so dismissive and unsympathetic, yet claim to be victims themselves, then I call BS on them and they can get over themselves and keep it moving!!!
Better yet, stop referring to women as "females". 🙄
Amen Thank You
God bless you 🙌🏽
When they marry the new supply to make themselves look like they are "not the problem" and that they are capable of being in a loving relationship, they will stay with them for a long time. They have to keep up the facade. That is why they flood social media with photos of their "happy life." The new supply is miserable for sure but may also stay with the narc bc they are too embarrassed to leave since they, too, made everyone think that they had found the love of their lives. Let them be miserable together, especially when the new supply knew what she was getting into but thought she had won a prize. Instead, it was "trick AND treat" you like 💩.☺️☺️☺️
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Ashley Lee WOW!
@@constancebarton2399 It’s crazy lol
Ashley Lee There is no end to their demonic ways!
@@constancebarton2399 It’s really not. Almost like going into the abyss
They will stay with the new supply as long as the new supply continues to be a "door mat" ! As long as the narc is in complete control and all their wishes are being fulfilled....they will hold on for awhile. However, even with that.... it is always a matter of time before they get bored and will hunt for another or try to hoover you back!
Exactly! I was just hoovered by the ex narc three years after he cheated on me and married the then new supply. What was striking to me is that he's been keeping tabs on me the entire time. It's beyond me how smoothly these creatures juggle.
Gary Schnaus... Well Said💯
Facts anyone they deal with will become trap engaged and unhappy all of them me those before and anyone after me all the publication be for show to make who they want to taunt the lookers they tryna trigger
I lasted 15 years... So, God bless her and her daughter. Because there are more supplies sharing the same trash with her.
They’re on dating apps with the new supply there too she has zero clue she’s dumb and ugly 😂I left his ass and went no contact after he got me everything to keep me while he was cheating !
As long as the new supply puts up with them
My narcissist new supply was my friend before I moved 900 miles away she knows what’s up she’s called me but for some reason she wants to believe she can do him better than I guess the 20 years I gave him! More power to both stupid people 👏
He’s already treating her a lot worse and disrespectful than I would allow.... enjoy my garbage!
tina acree You are right! They get worse! She is literally catching HELL!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
They will continue to destroy you each and everyday! God forbid if i was to pass on..damn narc would not even pay respect to my own freaking funeral!! He would just keep rotten away using & lying to folks..stealing...sexing family and use up supplies ...under age females...maybe guys too.(..lord have mercy!!!) Smh that's his hobbie.. I just thank God for my life health and strength!! I had to run for the hills and fast!!! Never looked back no contact for about 8 .months now!
April sunshine75 I’M 4 months NO CONTACT! The best I’ve felt in 3 years! 💜💜💜💜
The Narcissists Never Stop Afflicting Pain On Their Victims Because Those Monsters Feed Off Our Emotions & Reactions
Yes Ms Jones exactly. Facts!
Yes they do, my ex narc told me that I was selling her body to get a reaction, my reaction was, "what would I do with a whole quarter"...
@@giovannilevoci941 😂😂😂😂😂
At the end of the day those demons will tear them up! Those demons, legions of demons are inside of them waging war! Pushing them to do what the devil had created them to do is to hurt and afflict people with pain and emotion. They are the vessel of demons. Yeah, you can call it the monster. But demons is even worst!!! They hear voices those are demons. And they react on the voices. Some of these people that are being used by demons are basically are basically mentally ill people. Somewhere in their life there's a crack and those demons had came in. My x husband had a lot of demons and I could even feel it in the air. There might be even 7 demons in him.
EVERYDAY
We’ve all been the new supply at one point.. and look how that turned out 😅
Guys I promise you this man is telling the truth. I spent 3 months crying myself to sleep thinking the narcissist changed and is treating her better. Then came the Hoover and he told me he was gonna “make that B**** get an abortion” because he didn’t want to be with her. Proved to me he has not changed one bit... stay strong
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Wow!!! She deserves that!!!!
Same then my Friend told me he was in her inbox trying to get with her a year later so he seems to already be cheating on her or trying to.
How sad she must feel he destroyed her life too
Good luck my dear I am also in the same boat as you. Merry Christmas and happy new year I live in United Kingdom England if ever you needed a friend leave me a message. Thanks 😊
Well I hope my old narcissist and his new supply are very happy. I'm not mad about that because as long as he is happy he is not bothering me.
He's not happy, they don't know how to be. 'Preoccupied' is what he is
This is when you know you've moved on frfr.That's when I knew.
Amen my sister. I've been no contact for 2 year's and i did the walking away. To god be the glory! 😊
Gone girl, your healing is prospering
They are nit happy really. They act as though they are happy outside, but inside they are miserable.
The narcissist never appreciated anything I have done for them . I gave ,gave and gave they kept stealing and slandering behind my back .
@Mary Lane Thanks been around the narcissist so long they f**ked with my spelling .
They are takers. Good riddance
The Narc was slandering you behind your back, way before you became aware! But why give a s*** what they tell others, if they take the narcs side nd trust me some of them will, thats his camp, as long as we have God nd the entire host of heaven in our camp, we will always be the greater one💪🏾! Now, LET the Church say AMEN.😲💃🏾🕺🤸🏻♀️🤸🏾♂️
You give and that’s what make u special. We are in the light and we receive back from other people
They are takers. If they do give, it’s conditional and for show. It’s never out of love nor genuine. Everything they do is calculated
We need to move forward with our new life because he will never change. He never loved us. Keep it moving!
You're right about it
He hates me and I know it he is pitiful
That right ok 🙏🚪👻👻 that what they do trust me it 🗑️🐒⌚to to keep it. Moving ❤️🧎😁🎶🎶
The best part of that fake relationship was me blocking ex narc on every avenue. I erased him all the way out of my life, and anyone I even thought was associated with him. When you start demonstrating self love away from the hamster wheel of abuse, you won’t care about who a narc is with once you get out. You’ll just be celebrating that it’s no longer you.
Yes💯🗣️🗣️
Well said 😀
FACTS AMEN GOD BLESS THEM
I hope everyone who has been a victim of narc abuse truly gets to the place where they just don't care about wasting precious thoughts on an ex narc or who their current supply is......I'm just blessed to be on my new trajectory and living my best life. Onward and forward!!
Just got to that place and it feels good to watch these videos now and not have to convince myself that my story is different and that my monster can change. I did it I finally walked away and meant it🙌
@@mzkizatt Praise the Lord Kathleen!! That is the ONLY way to get darkness out of your life and that is to leave it behind you and keep following the light that is in front of you!! Good for you!!
I agree with you especially because his new supply is my narcissistic sister
@@xochilthguitron1836 I'm sorry you have to detach from her as well.....there's a saying, the devil attacks those he's threatened by.....and you must be a threat. Count your blessings and move on to live your best life!
Exactly, but I stopped talking to her many years ago, I knew something wasn't right in that head and sure enough just like my husband, they're both the same
My ex won't allow pics on FB because all of his other supplies will see it. He says he's a private person...no you're a secretive person!
Same here!!there dogs
Definitely a narc!
No lier
Yep. New supply always trying to prove & convince others and themselves that they're happy
My ex wife divorce me and went back to her ex husband then left him now she with a new supply smh but im good now im finding myself and getting closer to God.
The narc will not take your warnings seriously until you stop giving them the time of day. In one of the hoover conversations I had with my ex-narc, I had asked him "how do you know you haven't lost me" (because I was offended by the conceited attitude he had that I would always want him). He answered, "because you're still talking to me." And his behavior got worse, because as long as I continued to choose to deal with him, he felt I wasn't going anywhere and there was no incentive for him to change and behave better.
And that is their attitude towards all supply..."as long as you are still willing to talk to me, I have you wrapped around my finger and I can treat you any which way I choose."
TOTALLY TRUE! NO CONTACT is the only answer ......
I agree!!!!
My ex narc kept saying if it doesn’t work out with her new boyfriend she doesn’t want me back.
My reply was I don’t want you back either.
Thirteen years, am dead to her, not even a little sadness on her part.
All because i left her three years ago and i came back, ruined it with her new boyfriend, who was my friend, was, so it took three years for the devaluation and final discard. Hurt me like hell.
But i am ok now, three months pd.
@@Tony-dh Glad you're now ok. Keep hanging in there.
Poem
I stayed because I loved,
I stayed because I cared,
I stayed because I thought there was a "we",
when really there was only "me".
I watched as you flirted, lied to my face, and shut the door when I cried.
And in those dark moments, my soul died.
I stayed with you because I loved,
but finally I have given up.
Now, a year later, I watch you walk down the street; a new woman is on your arm.
I see the bruises on her face, and know one day she too will see the devil I see.
Special Twice thank you for your thought-provoking poem, it really resonated with me. 😀 May God continue to bless you 🙏
Perfect!
Great video and 💯 on point! I can attest that when I was the " new supply " , all was beautiful until about 3 months in! That is when you start noticing the " red flags "! I suffered greatly for surrendering and refusing to see him for what he really was! It was 3 years of the biggest nightmare of my life! Trust me , that supply will NOT be happy for long! I GUARANTEE it!
Wow! My same experience🤦🏽♀️😞
Same here Kelly, I started picking up on things at about the 3 month mark....but i swept the flags under the table cuz she moved from 3hrs away to be with me, and laid out the pity party real heavy knowing i was extremely empathetic.
Same here. This is so uplifting cause here I'm thinking of all the things he said I did wrong.
I stayed with mine for 8 years. It's so sad that I can't get those year back, my whole 20s with this narc. He's in a new relationships all smiles with his child. This makes me sad because we haven't spoken in 1 month! I'm now trying to heal and so happy that I've came across this page to learn more. He's been hoovering my social media the last 2 weeks too. 🙄
Omgoodness! 3 months was exactly when my husband's mask started to slip! Yes, unfortunately, im still married after 6yrs now nd it has definitely been anightmare after another. It's going from bad to worse. We invested in nothing to show that we built together as a couple. Im still riding around in the truck my ex husband purchased for me, a 2001 Nissan xterra. He doesn't want anything for example: a new home, he rather rent, car he rather die or "im not going to live much longer, so im not buying anything to leave for somebody else to enjoy" he says. Damn, who thinks like that? Just Pitiful 😟 Hario is so right, you will have happy moments in-between, then its back to torture as usual! Its a merry go round! Im tired 😫 of going around the same damn tree, round nd round I go. I can actually, not only predict the behavior but also the type, when it will start, ns how long it will last! Lord, give me the grace to endure nd protect me while I'm enduring!
I don't want to know how the Narc is doing nor if they are happy, nor do I care if they will last with the new supply. If I do that it implies I'm still under their bondage. This freedom feels too good to care. I'm focused on my happiness and my funds!
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I like this comment because now it's time to focus on you.
Amen!!! I'm with you all!! Loving my space and singleness for the very first time!!! I'm too selfish to share that with anyone!! Just me..myself.. And I;)!
@@stephleesimmons8501 thank You, I agree
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Your videos have saved my sanity. I thought there was something wrong with me for falling for a narc. But there's nothing wrong with me for being a good loving kind empath however I now realize that narcs seek out people like me so I have to educate myself and be aware that these kinds of people exist in the world. I am now an Super Empath, I see the truth and I know my value. I will never fall victim to these types of people ever again!
Narc is never satisfied & Pictures do NOT tell the truth. It's a show for that particular moment. Narcs consider a loving happy relationship to be boring. Cheating is their preferred method of keeping things spicy
And lying
I'm just learning I'm with a Narc husband and planning my exit...but as for sex it was boring ...lacked intimacy....cold and disconnected to name a few....I never ever initiated sex because it was never satisfying at all...so I hope his new supply and his other side chicks are getting ready for the Karma they caused me!!
Otherwise I'm not interested one way or the other!
@@1010QUEEN7 yes pathologically, if thats a word! Hahaha. They are some sad nd twisted individuals 😪 👹
I'll take peace Alex for $100. Any day!!! And I'm so thankful for everyday I have my peace. I don't fight for situations or relationships that I see not going nowhere.
You were once the new supply...look at it this way. The narc plays from the same play book. Once the new supply is Hooked and fooled like I was,the narc then goes in for the devaluation stage. The narc is going to start contacting ex’s, crushes,admirers, prostitutes...anything for more supply..the new supply but now worn out supply will try and hold on but the narc will give her every reason to leave..the narc will constantly tell the new supply how you (the ex)was better at cooking, sex, parenting, and that he never should have left you..leaving the new supply confused because in the beginning the narc hated you. Trust...the narc is going to be even better at the game..so pray for the next victim because that’s an evil force roaming earth as we know it. A narc is the devils minion...they have Noooo soul. They can only take your energy because they are empty shells.
Everything you said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yup they suck the life out of you leave you drained.
That came into my mind the other day. He is going to tell someone that I am better than them. That is so messed up. And zombies are empty shells. Very well put.
This is interesting. How do we know this…? I haven't been hoovered or contacted yet :/ Eventually new supply will become old supply and then their cycle continues.
Exactly
My heart breaks for people requesting videos like this. Heal and shift your focus. Your no contact is in vain if you are still invested into what the narc is doing.
this is soooooo true. thank god i’ve healed and moved on🙏
I have been there he had left a couple times and thinking grass was greener this last time he left trying to slide back in to my life it hurt so bad but not this time he made his bed stay stay in it I am heal know it took a long time to heal and you think I am going to let you back no way I am done this time they crazy they hurt you so bad like they did nothing bye bye they don’t have a heart they out cold!
Amen
@@stephleesimmons8501 I'm practically neighbors with my ex narc who wanted to keep us a secret from everyone in the trailer park so I have to see his face just about everyday. But I'm 32 days no contact otherwise.
It takes a bit of time to get over what actually the hell happened to you. I have a secret wish her life turns to crap so i can be vindicated, but also wish it could have been better with both us together. But it wasn’t, so I don’t want her back. Am three months post discard. Am happier healthier and a nicer person to be around. Living life with a toxic person is draining and makes me a bit sour and grumpy, low energy.
She seems happier too. But i know what’s coming, so i just have to wait, see if am right.
Why even care how long the narc will stay with the NS.... Just be thankful you (we) got rid of them and saved ourselves...thank you Father God
Of all the people who discuss narcissism…you are the one that not only says it like is but make us the normal people feel healed. Thank you.
Yes!!
I meant staying is surrendering. They're never really in a relationship just "dealing" with someone.
BOOM!!! There it is...
What if they are married ?
@@Nobodyhome630 its just a business deal too them bills are being paid at the moment its false security
Facts
@@jonesfredrick94
Even if the man/husband is the narc and he is the one paying the bills ? Cause that’s the kind of situation i as referring to.... what happens then?
My jaw just hit floor when you said: “ narc is with a person that he said he would never be with”. Hario, did you know my ex- lmao
Mine too because that's exactly what happened with my ex narc. 2x!!!
Almost everything that told you was a lie. The opposite of what they said.
Yes!! Yes, he does!!! Ans he knows mine too!!!
Yep they all say that 😂😂😂 but look at what they be laying up with!!!! Tricks and hoes!!!!
The new supply or old supply won’t stay with the narcissist long. It may seem long months-years but nothing last forever.
2 years max unless its long distance then 3 maybe.
Your a narc
I'm just praying that one day I will be just as happy as he is with someone. But I want my happiness be real and better.
“As happy as he is”
Is not happy at all
Of course it'll be better. The narc relationship is fake.
He’s not happy I seen today for myself.... He was running to go home before 11 to be with her lol 😂 tonight I called his auntie bc she keeps our daughter while I’m working and he was still at auntie house.... so that happy well will always run dry periodttttt
And keep in mind the narc is 38 and the new supply is 21 and they been together for a year
Exactly well sais
That's right! When you have a solid relationship, you don't have to keep pushing it in everyone's face. I see many on social media, constantly doing that and it ends up looking like they want attention.
I could just imagine what the new supply is going through.... I don't miss that life at all.
👏👏👏🙌 YES
The exact same thing we all went through, because it’s a new supply doesn’t mean the narc changed their ways. She’s probably going through worse than you did.
I'm the same i'm relieved I got away from the situation and I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with him.
Facts!!
So I'm not mad at New supply I rather the narcissist keep it moving than to cheat on me and possibly bring me back some disease when I'm not out here pulling down my pants to get a disease.
Preach!!
Whoever is my narcs "new supply" good look to you SAWEETIE ! lol he is not my problem anymore im gonna fully heal and be off to find the man I am meant to be with ! 💪🏽❤️💯
Yesssss
That is so true when you have a great relationship it doesn’t have to be broadcasted all over the world …
Grade A supply is not a compliment, it just means you are a great candidate to be a doormat , they have lil to no boundaries at all they are right up the Narcs alley
I was married to one for 14yrs and I asked him for a divorce and I finally was able to tell him , me being an option is no longer an option for him and I wanted him to leave… the journey is extremely painful but having my joy and peace was and is so worth it… I thank God❤
The narcissist has 2 or 3 supply and go from one to the other. They never have one person they always have 2 or more people waiting on the sideline
True its when the supplies know about each other and still compete for the narcs attention a real disgrace.
@@veda1306 lol
I was on the sideline. I didn't know it for two years until the day I discovered on social media that he had married a former colleague of mine over the summer. It was a VERY bad day for me when I learned that he'd just been using me all along, and that there wasn't anything like love for me in his heart at all. Now, I'm terrified of falling for someone in the future. I can't go through that hell again.
This is so true. I had little to no boundaries in my 7 yr relationship. Once the mask fell off and I set boundaries the discard was full force. I left without giving notice and no contact since. It’s been 4 yrs and he’s still hoovering. Narcs are masters of perception, but they’re fake af. Thank you for your content ❤
I had very strong and high boundaries, the narc hated that. He created drama and ignored me for days and weeks on end when I would assert and affirm my boundaries. It lasted 15 months and he is already (after seven months) very publicly with his new supply. I discarded him. He already took her to Mexico and is love bombing her and buying her things and she is posting all of it publicly. It’s sad.
This just gave me chills because it’s all true. I felt bad for blocking him from everything but this just changed everything.
Hario ! Do you read my THOUGTHS?????
I gave him ALL LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING for 22 years, but was NEVER enough to him! He never married me. He hid me!!!!
22 years
17 years over here. It suuuuucks
11yrs & 3yrs with another narc! Smh! Nothing like freedom & peace!
11 years 3 kids rheblies the b.s im done f_ck her shes nuts
20 yrs and 4 children. I feel you.
It took me 5 yrs to know my WORTH but I AM DONE. Yes I was the new supply once and I got treated the Worst
So sorry. I dint know what I was. He was all about me for a while even went to church with me and got baptized . Now he’s with a new supply at her apartment where he spend his birthday. Three months discarded and he’s with her the same amount of time. New tonight he’s texting me that he realized I maybe losing myself and if I need his help .
Now look you still beautiful strong an still on your purpose ! ..God took you away because he love you more ...dont go back trust me ive had two they both tried ...but after i spashed out they ran with their asses tucked somewhere lol 😀 be thnkuful yah saved you an stay cute cause u are pretty as heck ...✌🏿dont let them weak bastrds steal your joy ever ...be happy 💝
I was with mine for four years, and didn't even know what a narc was until about a month after the discard. I was investigating what had even happened wile trying to figure out how to move on when somebody described what she was as a textbook narcissist. Then I started looking at that, and everything fell into place. If not for the info in these videos I think she would have broke me, but the sec I found the truth it was a wrap. Keep up the great work. Your saving lives out here for sure. It's been a month and a half, and I'm just working on me, and mine now:)))
I'm so glad I met my narcissist in high school he was 14 at the time. He was 25 when the final discard happened and wow what a monster he became over the years. I definitely feel sorry for the people that have yet to meet him because WOW😩 5 years no contact in July 🦋
My ex Narcs new supply lasted 8 weeks, he moved in with her after 3 weeks. She contacted me, he changed overnight with her, she said he was wonderful and charming then he ignored her, raged for no reason and slept on her couch. I had 18 years with him and his behaviour got worse and worse. The new supply is still playing his game, good luck to her!
They believe in the false mask, not realising that the bad side is the real character. The narc brainwashes by acting nice for the first month, paying their way, not acting out. Sweet/mean cycle starts at SWEET. Like a Venus flytrap.
It's dreadful how people get demeaned and think they can't escape. It's horrific. People commit suicide over these idiots. The cruelty is REAL. The kindness is FAKED. Can you even remember any kindness?
The new supply saved my life, thank you for taking the load, it was destroying my happiness, mocking me, draining me. Very toxic.
a b I’M GRATEFUL FOR THE NEW SUPPLY TOO! WE’RE FREE! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💜💜💜💜👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾😇
Omg this is so true 🙈 I had absolutely no boundaries, exactly as you said I thought by going back and forth trying to explain how wierd and horrible he was being would eventually change things because I didnt know about npd or that I was in the devaluation stage, my reactions were hideous, he got me to the point where I would scream and swear at him and hes used that against me in the smear campaign, I had absolutely no clue about npd, none, I knew about narcassism sort of but it's not until you've been through it with someone with fullblown npd that you can fully see how sickening it is and what they were doing, I so wish that I had known, hes even used texts i sent him to smear me but no one understands what he did before that to get me to that point. part of it for me was that I didnt know it was abuse, i was trying to figure it out and get answers so I went back and forth and I feel so stupid now. I look back and think why didnt I end it years prior
Lula lily YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Everything was pre-calculated! It knows one day you’re going to leave and it fears exposure for all the demonic evil they afflicted on Sweet, Loving and Innocent people.
It's odd how we used to hang on to those tiny glimpses of hope that the narc would put forth and try to make you feel like there was some humanity in there! I was never so wrong about a person! The chaos with this person far outweighed any little crumb that he would throw me. He was just baiting his hook! I am so woke now!
I have learned so much I can’t believe I stayed 4 and a half years !!! It took me a bit to comprehend what he was but now game over !
This is spot on! Whoever stays with a narc after realizing what they are about, have no self respect or self esteem. Never ignore your gut. I learned from many narcissistic abuse experiences.
The relationship lasts because the new supply does not mind the abuse.. They are OK with it. That's the only time the relationship lasts.
This one particular video hit the problem on target! You said it all. Narcs break up first to be able to come back. He did this 3 x but I said no. Then he stopped because I meant it-And I got married. Thanks for great advice.
Whats the saying "I DONT FEEL LOVED IF IM NOT ABUSED" that's the new supply, I was pregnant by that creature and he didn't care or want the baby, it dont matter what she does for him it will never be enough and he gets bored quick, I was the one that got away
Wow mines wanted baby but when it happened he told me to abort. Now she’s two and he’s still saying I should’ve done it and we would’ve gone our separate ways.
@@30lacieful they are very sad girls
30lacieful omg he is monster for saying that to a sweet innocent soul and for a lady like you to have to hear that I am so sorry 😞
Kesha Powell DEMONS FROM THE DARKEST DEPTHS OF HELL!
the new supply is weaker.& that just to make me sad ,but not today ,it makes me proud of my strength🙏🏽😁
Some narcissists won't post their relationships in order to pretend to be single to other supplies
I've watched a few different channels such as yours. I find that I seem to reasonate with you more than any of the others. So, I Thank You from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do !! Bless You !! 🤗
Usually, I'm the one helping people but it's so hard to handle my own feelings. I'm learning to put up boundaries & protect myself. If I don't take care of me ~ everyone else will completely drain me.
Soul Soother I totally agree! 🥰🥰🥰
My ex narc was extremely insecure and his NS is not only a downgrade but she is extremely insecure and jealous and I believe that she is an inverted narcissist as well. So he will use her insecurities to abuse her and she will tolerate it because she thrives on it. I'm sure they will stay together for a long time because they have someone that they can use and abuse and they are giving each other the supply that they want. I have no doubt that they have nothing more than an abusive toxic fake. I hope that they have a long miserable life together.
I left the Narcissist and I went back with him after two months not contact. People they DO NOT change. I had to run for my life literally; catch my drift?? People listen to this man ; he is speaking Facts!
With all these videos I am gaining clarification and confirmation. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I laugh at the idea of anyone wanting any of my past narcs..I was dumb and too forgiving..looking back I am beyond embarrassed with my past self for ever giving a minute of my time effort or energy on those bums..they took me for a fool..never again..I am wide awake and not playing with trash ever again..enjoy my life from now on..👏👏💜💯💜👏👏👏
Narc's have no personality and super wack in bed. Still trying to figure out what is all this hype is about them.
Naw my narc has that only quality the bedroom action. But it feels like a molestation. However that may feel, but I know, never good. Their whole mind frame is different the glorify bad things only. Pay attention. They are sick af. They have been either super minded abused or they been coddled to death in their childhood. Totally conditioned. It starts in childhood. Everyone around them were bad. The whole damn family mostly the immediate are sadistic weirdos. Pay attention.
It's amazing how the narcs are same all over the world... it's sad these people became that way
The new supply has her own agenda.
Very likely
So true! The ex narc husband got with someone who lies and manipulates just like him.
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER! I WAS NOT HEALTHY WHEN I met MY EX NARC. AFTER THE MENTAL ABUSE AND GOING THROUGH IT I GREW TO A BETTER PERSON.
WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!
I was A-ONE SUPPLY.
You only a one supply if you hold a light
Im always gonna be like nah she can't be that cold to me than be all lovey dovey the next moment with next guy. If she had all that capacity of so called love in her she wouldn't have played me and ridicule me the way she did wouldn't have occurred and we still be together if that love in her was real.
Subscribed and liked .ok I've seen alot of channels on Narcissists. I've heard alot speak but never touch on the issues that you do and there so on point.i work with a beautiful female in her 50s I've seen her flirt with 3 other men I admit she had me in her web.i thought I was that one then she would disappear for a week or so.i started watching her actions to see what she was up to. I would see her yes see her flirting with other men and looking me in the eye and laugh as she did this.are you serious.now i know thank god.and your channel 🙏
Oh... That's why the new supply is the biggest show for the narc. The new supply has no boundaries nor SELF RESPECT... #eyeopener line.
This is so true! Especially the way they become the person they said they would never be.
yes, My ex I told him i'm glad your gone because the NEW woman has a monster with her...He was something else....he was jealous..negative...didn't want me to read..write books and learn things...oh man...I'm HAPPY!
I gave him so much energy. I asked questions from the beginning but took six years to discard. After I put him out He told Me we In Friend Zone until I get myself together Emotionally. Funny I had told Him weeks before once I got myself together Emotionally He was gonna be a DONE DEAL ANYWAY. I'M WOKE!!!!!!!!
That's why we were married for 20 years. I took it, I put up with it, I let my self worth be beaten down to nothing. Every now and again I would come to my senses and fight back, this was when he'd be at his worst and threaten to leave to control me. I was so scared of him leaving I would then fold. I believed him when he said it was my fault. I apologized when I was not wrong. All to keep the peace. In the end I wasn't taking it though, I was demanding him to do right and he hated it. I felt like I had "fixed" everything he said was wrong with me at that point and he was still doing me bad. I started standing up for myself and he hated it, said things only got worse. Yeah, because I stopped being a doormat. That's when he went for the next affair and final discard. I did fold after the discard, I won't lie. But he knew at that point I wasn't accepting his crumbs anymore and it was no longer worth staying with me. His new wife (after 4 months of dating) seems very weak in the boundary department. Thinks he's a man of God that won't do her wrong. I suspect that marriage will last if that's true, he's going to enjoy walking all over her.
I was that person, that took the abuse for 2 years until I finally put my foot down and told her we had to change things. She said ✌🏼 and that she won’t come back until I agree to basically not ask her to change. Bye 👋🏼. Good luck new supply
They will ghost you for confronting them, and they definitely want you to accept the bs.
@@janiemartin1408 You’re right. When I called her out she vanished.
@@stevena5164 Same thing happened with the ex narc. I was with him for 2 years and it was hell upon hell upon hell. He constantly sabotaged the relationship despite the many chances I had given him. At the time I called him out before going no contact, I did not know that he was a narcissist. However I woke up to the craziness and realised this guy did not have my best interests at heart. His behaviours made it clear that he wanted to destroy me. So I called him out. I told him he's heartless, manipulative, abusive, controlling, childish, doesn't take accountability for his wrongdoings etc. I told him never to contact me ever again. He said that he doesn't care what I say because I don't know him. Damn right I didn't know what I was dealing with for 2 years. I've been no contact for 1 year and 4 months. Prior to calling him out he had tried to hoover me multiple times (hence why I called him out and told him to stay away). Since calling him out I have not heard for him at all. I am so thankful for the peace 🙏🏾 Stay away from me forever demon. Going no contact was the best gift I could have ever given to myself 🙌🏾
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I needed to hear this. Thanks for explaining bc this has been on my mind for so long. He has recently moved his new supply in with him. Therefore, I figured they will be together forever 😥
That’s the best that can happen. She will see his true self sooner
@11:11 Exactly So 💯
~ Thank you Hario for the amazing content. 👍
A tip for everyone! When hoover doesn’t stop. Send him an e-mail and tell him that if he calls, texts, stalks you will take legal actions
20 calls a day and now 0 calls ! That’s good
Great advice Lana, which I will certainly follow 😀 God bless you 🙏
Totally 100% right on @5:23 - exactly what happened to me. Thank You for your wisdom and validation. Ex Narc's New Supply was exactly the person he said he never would be with and talked smack about for years. Guess what happened. @10:53 is so 100% true!! I keep rewinding your video. So helpful to me, thank you!
I love what you had to say in this video. This is a perfect message for me to move forward and start to implement some tactics when dealing with my narc ex and when it's my son's time to visit his Dad.
Hario can you do a video of when the narcissist will bait you.. for example right after I got married with my ex that’s when I noticed a switch went off .. I notice this pattern with me and other victims when you get married or have a child from a narc they really flip the switch on you because in a way they trapped you.. if you can make a video on this topic please it would be greatly appreciated ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sandra Bazil I too was married 32 years. Have left the marital home and filled for divorce. I went through so much. He was not going to stop cheating, thought l had accepted it. Hope l can meet others in my situation just wondering how they cope after ending a long term marriage. I'm doing well promoted, now a Master of Science candidate. Grown children doing well. I'm trying but I have my moments. My faith in God and prayer has supported me in all of this.
You are so right Hario . There happiness is different from normal people . The narc loves drama n confusion, if you are not providing that they are gone to someone who will .
ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO
THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO
AND SHARING YOUR GIFTS
The narc I was with won’t even post his new supply lol. She popped up on Facebook apparently pregnant and everyone was like “Harpo who dis?” Lol. It’s a sad situation. Y’all, let’s just be happy we got out. Blessings!
I was discarded after putting my foot down about him getting his driver's license after 5 years of promising to get it back after losing it to DUI. He realized I finally had enough being his chauffeur. He also treated me like his servant. He felt he was above house work and cooking. I couldn't stand a dirty house so I just did all of it. He has promised the new supply he will get his license now. I'll believe it when I see it. I was also abused financially. He has another new mystery illness which I'm sure he will use as an excuse to continue to work part time with the new supply. He was a bum loser and when he realized that I saw it, he was off to the new supply. I warned her what he was though. So she gets no sympathy from me when the devalue and discard happens.
What excuse did he use when you offered to take him to DMV?
@@cassiebennet4262 He said he was going to get it back right when we first started dating 6 years ago. I went and got all the necessary paperwork from the DMV. He just kept coming up with excuses all the time. Shortly before the discard, I blew up at him about it. He asked me what I wanted him to do and I told him to step up and be a man. I believe this was the narcissistic injury that caused the discard. Now he is supposedly trying to get it to pacify the new supply. I'll believe it when I see it.
@@cassiebennet4262 He lost it thru DUI and has to go thru a legal process to get it back.
This is so on point💕
Those happy moments are just breadcrumbs lol.
I have learnt so much from your videos and am truely greatfull for the insight you have given to me and have been able to continue working on my relationship with the creator God and continue in my life's purpose in the disiple making work that God asighned to me keep going and God bless you
I smile too when you lay it out for real. Thank you, Hario!
Narc!!! Very strategic... they can only make with the weak minded...✌🏾 deuces....
I want to thank you from the bottom of my ❤.
Every story this thing told me about there ex is the same thing I was accused of like cheating which I didn’t I should of lol as much as I was accused and Facebook it’ll last as long as they put up with it
I let them put up with it cause they wanted him/her let them get what they gave us!! 🤷cluck them ducks!!
True words Doctor. You are absolutely amazing.
Absolute facts he divorced me and married the type of woman he always made fun of and despised.
So weird, but not my circus not my monkeys. 🥴
Don't care ✔💯 . I was NOT A+ supply. Im good with that. I caused the narc a lot of problems/injuries. Like he last said to me, "I MISS U, BUT U COME WITH TO MANY PROBLEMS" Good bastard ✔
Good for you Sis 😊
Mrs1982 October 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I was told the same thing.
I was told the same thing. Oh well!!!!
Thank you, sad but true, I appreciate you. a 2 plus year survivor! Hanging tough!
Phyllis Kelley Congratulations 🥳🥳🥳🥰🥰🥰
So on point. You're so amazing.
I know its hard to know that you have been discarded for another supply ..believe me I get it,it haunts me everyday to know that you loved them so much and tried so hard to show them and do everything right but they have no capability to love back ..it was all a show! And no matter how much you think about it and how many people you ask,everyone of our exs are different and you know how yours was behind closed doors..well guess what that behavior is still the same. It depends on how long it takes the new supply to get sick of their shit or the narc discards them for someone else...how long did you stay? Damage and abuse will go on as long as its allowed and they walk away just as broken, lost and confused as we were
It’s really painful. He took a week off from work and he’s been at her house the whole time. Spend his bday with her abs not once came to see his daughter.
Alot of good advice man your helping alot of people.
Right off the back it’ll last as long as they are willing to take it , I took it for 2 years to long I should of left after the first encounter they got drunk and acted a total fool .
Yes so true! He called me intoxicated started off okay but next thing I know he started to hint I did something to lose my daughter.
13 years of hell. He was very charming for the first five or six years. When I asked why he saiid he had to make a good impression. How sick is that? The next 6years he was like Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde.😀😃😀😃
You're right my ex narc started showing his true colors about 3 months into the relationship. During that time he was getting back with his ex for 11 yrs.
"CAN'T STOP, WON'T STOP!!"
- P. DIDDY ❤