I can actually breathe now. No contact is the best healing process. I feel so sorry for his new supply. She doesn’t know what she’s in for. Pay no attention to social media. Our inner self knows the truth.
ex husband's new supply he publicly put on a pedestal ended up leaving him and taking their 2 kids with her. Don't fret over it. The fake paradise will eventually crumble and you will have the last laugh. I sure did:)
Barbara Speaks it ALWAYS happens! The idiot threw me out of his house a year ago Spring. His life has never looked so good as I had taken care of everything. Fast forward to now. I spent this time going all the way back to figure out how I let such a predator in my life. I changed my entire life. I did the work. I am attracted to unavailable men. That's what the narcissist really represents-- unavailability. Fast forward what did he do? Repeated the pattern of abuse even when I thought my situation would be different. Nope! He replaced me within minutes as he had her lined up. They went to prep school together and had know each other for over 30 years. He splashed her all over Facebook as he vacationed with her to one of her 5 homes throughout the country. This guy doesn't even have a credit card he is that broke. She spent $1 million cash for a new home in Denver which he splashed all over Facebook. Got engaged within a year of our breakup. It was over at the engagement and he kept her strung along until June of this year. He then told his family she dumped him and made her look crazy so they felt bad for him. He could have moved to Denver and never worked again. He could have never had money problems again. He didn't do it. This woman likes to do so many fun things like go hot air ballooning in Albuquerque in the Fall. She is a world class skier. plays tennis and gulf and she has 2 homes with country club memberships. He didn't do it. I was shocked that he didn't take this route but I have my theories as to why. I'll admit I watched The Facebook as it validates me but I don't recommend it. There were signs as I knew where to look that he was treating her terribly. His ex wife called when the new woman bought that house. His ex wife had been remarried for 9 years and had stalked him the entire time. I kinda felt it when we were together but I had no idea it was this bad. She spent 8 years chasing him around. I told her it was all fake and that they would never get married. She didn't believe me. It played out exactly like The Narcissist Playbook Plays every single time. The end.
Jacqueline Antone that's funny I know that's how they work. His new girl told me go ahead and get them divorce papers lol.. Like he'd gonna marry her. Hell we lasted 3 weeks short of a year l
They dont get a NEW supply. They have probably already cheated on you with her for a long time. And when he leaves you she feels like a winner and plaster social media with how in love they are. Little does she know he is probably already cheating on her too. Nasty creatures.
Oh yes she wasn't new I was his wife he was malignant narc he had 4 on go. She was upstairs neighbour he had stds spreading around. She was my flying monkey got my benefit and child's money stopped she tried to get me jailed.
"it feels like you're dying" Yes. Yes it does. To a narcissist, control and not being vulnerable is everything. If they can't control you or can't get anything out of you anymore, they discard you without even blinking.
I didn't look at his social media until week 10. I wasn't able to move on and I figured I was already in intense pain, I took a look at his new relationship. I had to do that or my mind would have continued to wander wondering what was going on. That was last tuesday. Honestly, it liberated me. It was a slap in the face of reality like nothing else and I honestly felt relieved. Right after, I immediately blocked both of them. I think part of me just wanted every little thing that could possibly cause me pain to happen sooner than down the road. I would rather know that they are a happy looking Barbie and Ken now, and deal with it, then have to run into them down the road in the future and have it slap me in the face then. Maybe I'm a sucker for punishment. But I honestly feel like I needed to get it out of my system. I wish all of you the best!
Exactly. We gaslight ourselves and silent treatment our own pain. It’s no wonder we find narcissists to distract us. They are here to teach us to think/love ourselves first and to be sure of ourselves even in doubt. They present to us our deepest fears and wounds that remain hidden. They have a lot to teach us if we pay attention.
This is true. They teach us to stand on our own and have our own mind, to be steadfastly loyal to our own discernment. This can be tough when you're a people-person and you want to believe the best in others. You just want things to be harmonious and you see solutions, so you can't fathom why someone would act ANTI to that. But this is what they do. They'll lie and twist and distort, all the while taking and taking and taking, and at the end of it you're an empty shell and they've run off with everything that makes you, you. They're leeches. I think that a VERY high level of discernment is required today - nothing can be taken for granted and nothing can be overlooked. It's just too risky.
God I am thankful the only thing that became of my life with a narcissist is this analogy. I left my best fragile mask laying on the ground and my neighbors dog stepped on it and crunched into a pile of sh-t. Ok so it was just a mask it was not real anyway. Ok every ones happy now that I am not running around in my warlord mask frightening half the town or more.
Once I had proof of him cheating, I went completely no contact, changed my phone number and filed for divorce. I can feel myself feeling better every day.
One telltale sign of a narcissist is someone who rebounds very quickly after one long term relationship ends. They are very soon in another relationship before you know it. The majority of the time their new supply is a downgrade and they have likely been cheating anyways. Narcissists also have rage/anger issues that they try to hide very well. They will also accuse you of being a narcissist whenever you stand up for yourself and finally call them out on their abuse and selfishness. It is called projecting.
What is they married the person while they were engaged to you? I know he was preparing her all this time but why not just leave instead of hurting someone like that.
My narcissistic ex has a new boyfriend after 4 months. We were together for 4 years and the relationship ended just a couple months ago in March. She left me, and I realized it was a golden ticket, because the no contact was hard, but it was for the best, since I went through so much abuse. My birthday is next week and I honestly don’t even want her to send me a text wishing me happy birthday. I would rather just never talk again, because even if she did apologize, I know it wouldn’t be real or sincere, since the apologies throughout the whole relationship were nothing but a lie. I was blind to it all, and I would always tell her “I would never leave her” and I never did. Looking back on it, I stepped in the tray myself, and it’s crazy for me to think that I was really with a narcissist for so long, but I was. Her new boyfriend really doesn’t have anything on me, but I 100% know it’s just a rebound to try and forget about me. Once I’m fully healed, I know nothing will bother me anymore when it comes to my ex, and I can’t wait for that day
As a licensed therapist in NY/NJ it has taken over THREE years of therapy to finally move my patient out of this toxic dynamic with her NARC. He almost killed her and she STILL regretted to hear he moved on with his life and married someone else. And what happened a year later? He tried to re-engage my patient in a triangulation when he grew tired of the current wife. He has children from several women to add to the aforementioned. FINALLY after attaining a profession and feeling less dependent with improved self esteem my patient has at long last embarked on her emancipation. I have to thank you for enlightening women on the predatory dynamic that seduces and subsequently rejects. Personally I never seem to attract these NARCs because they run from me. lol!
Well it is not only happening to women. My son is suffering deeply after 7 years with a very beautiful NARC. She quickly dumped him and replaced him. I am sure many men are likewise abused.
Michele Pearl Rubin it took me 3 weeks I wanted to kill my self she moved on like I never existed even before I moved out she was dating.. brie my heart and nisee.. then I met god and Jesus at same time and I don't care about the narcissistic and I am not doing drugs. And she still is. I think in up
I won't say that it didn't hurt when it got back to me that He "now had a very special lady". I remember thinking, "to bad I could not be special" (to him). But to have had this narc follow me about, (trying to make me jealous), saying "the women at work say I'm a nice guy, they said they would snatch me up in a second" or, "I'm dating women, I'm signing up on dating sites!":(No, I'm not kidding,) was laughable, by then I had seen right through him, I was dead to him, he could not make me jealous. He had crushed, stomped, smashed and pulverized my affections, handing back my love as a dying bloody pulp in my hands. All I could say was "OK, go easy on them" and keep walking, getting away. It was SO good for me to leave the state to get away from him, have an apt on my own, just breath!
Wish them both the happiness and great health. Block everyone associated with Narc and all supplies from Social Media. Appear to be busy and happy on Social Media like nothing bothers you. No negative or passive aggressive messages on Social Media. Be or appear to be HAPPY because it destroys them.
My former narcissist girlfriend - a psychologist had her new supply 2 months before she discarded me. Now, I see them at and she looks at him with 'loving' eyes. Yea, the guy is handsome and I admit that. But, man he has NO idea what she truly is about. Her jealousy will kill it. Glad I am away from that. I am still healing. Good video!
being ignored, discarded after 7b years and seeing her move on in a week after lining someone else up and moving overseas has changed me forever. I will never trust a woman in my life ever again. im getting another dog. love is for losers. on a lighter note thank you for your input it has shed some light on this topic for me. thank you.
@@NEbluefire It's funny how when a woman has gone through trauma she is perfectly justified in never dealing with or trusting men again but when a man goes through the same thing he is somehow still deemed as misogynistic , now why is that?
me to told her we were separated but living in the same house!! She believed him and even had sex with him several times in r bed when i was at work !!
Great video as always! Once we truly understand that a narcissist is only capable of bringing one more conflict and corresponding misery, you'll be happy to be out. A huge Part of working on myself is a dedication to never look back, block all avenues of communication, move forward and grow. 0 desire to go back. Zilch, nada. I'm worth more than that nonsense and if you're reading this, so are you.
You are SO right! After I healed from the 6 year mistake, I was and I am now jumping for joy over having escaped by the skin of my teeth living forever with Mr. Poison!!!!!!! I thank God for delivering me from that hell!!! And now, I am living with so much peace and tranquility and it is WONDERFUL!!!
I could never accept to go from the main and only lover to the side piece . I could never do it. That why I blocked my ex narc and never looked back. New supply and side supply for the new supply may still be stuck being friendly or sex partners with the narc but I don't want any of that nastiness. I work with a family friend of thr narc and he keeps asking me why I have refused to remain friends with the narc or why I didn't wish the narc happy birthday. I replied that "we are not friends or enemies. We are strangers and you don't wish strangers happy birthday do you" it was the coolest thing because indeed the narc IS a stranger ended up being a different person from who I initially thought they were. That person I fell for is fake and when the mask slipped the real person emerged and he's horrible. I have no interest of getting to know the real person so yeah we really ARE strangers
My narc was in a new relationship already after 2 months. Think he got her on the side for a longer amount of time before “dumping” me. New supply for him, freedom for me :) Good riddance.
Your lucky I wish mine would get the hell out. Being that they are 60 and I am 45 at least I get to watch them go down hill. They think they are an immortal. I used to think it too until one day my face started to look like the condition of the Hollywood sign back in days old when it too was aging except the funny thing is people faces are not fixable like the Hollywood sign. Let the f-cken somatic narcissist take this little saying into there piss size brain …Some day every ones clock will strike 12 and they will have to face the fact the goddamb slipper never did fit... it was all just an illusion. Die in pain ass hole narcissist I will laugh as you rot in a nursing home. I will come and rub all the pain you ever gave me in your face if you don't get f- out of my life.
Carol Dudeck, Sorry to hear that. That makes my skin crawl. Takes a real animal to do that. And here you have their excuse to match, "It's natural for animals to jump from one to the next like a flea," so the swine say. I got a new term for narcissists "BED CRICKETS"!!! Get the term out their. OH & TELL them this "Animals don't do it for an ego boost!!" Maybe your cheater will come back through several incarnations as a fruit fly because they don't disserve to be human that's for sure.
I mostly agree with you and have seen all your videos. However, I found that finally having the courage to look at his new supply (I couldn't for years after he left) made me realize objectively that what he had implied, that she was soooo much better than me, wasn't remotely true. I hate to sound obnoxious, but when I finally looked and saw that I am just as successful and much better looking than her actually snapped me out of my lack of self worth and made me realize that I did not agree with his judgment at all- this actually made me feel free of his crap more than any "therapy." Otherwise, no matter what I did, it was always lingering in the back of my mind, this feeling that he left me for someone "better" even though I had given 100% for 4 years and he had previously acted like I was perfect for him. But she wasn't better. Maybe she had some personality traits he preferred, etc but seeing her made me realize she was not this amazing being he had described. If anything, I now think he traded down. I think my real problem was that I didn't value myself. Perhaps his constant comparing me to her made me feel like she must have been so great. Nowadays, I would say, think what you like about her, but I think I'm amazing and deserve someone who thinks so too. So in a way, I wouldn't categorically say that healing doesn't happen by looking outside ourselves. After I did a lot of inward looking healing and growth, and then had the courage to look outward at her/them, I found that looking at her/them objectively did help me to heal even more than just looking inside myself.
Oh my ! I just got replaced by my Boyfriend. I saw on fb He was in a relationship with someone… Not me! This video nailed it! Never had an experience with a narc before. I’ve been feeling so bad like what did I do wrong, and just so confused about everything. He was still in the love bombing phase with me. I just couldn’t believe that there was someone else. I’ve been totally figuring out how to contact him.....Even thinking of just being friends with him. Oh my goodness ....I need therapy ! So grateful for this video and finding it tonight, when I really needed to read it. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your videos... I recently got dumped after a 2 month relationship with the man i thought would be the love of my life, before that we hadn't seen each other in over 10 years and he was a childhood friend, so when he started love-bombing me i really thought i could trust him and fall right in. I never thought a 2 month relationship could de-stabalize me the way it did. and i have been following other youtubers on Narcissistic abuse... but your ones have brought me the most comfort and most healing.
I tell you what I would do.......after I finish laughing I would go home and thank God he's out of my hair with all his drama, lying, manipulation and overall fake life. :-) He cant rub my nose in something I dont care about lol. BYE! Aint like I cant date too.
I wasn't aware about what a narc was until I was dumped It crushed me, but I am going on 3 month's and I'm finally giving myself the attention I need to move forward. I'm taking steps to focus on my health, mind set, work, changing my lifestyle. She's having summer flings but I will never take sloppy seconds or put myself in danger. I am gaining confidence and she will have to deal with her choices, and I will find a stable woman with qualities I can trust. I can't stand nutcases and I will not be jumping into the sack with a crazy brain. GET MEDS!!!
You don't know it usually at the time, but what you should do if a narcissist quickly replaces you and flaunts their new supply is celebrate that day and for the rest of your life.
my ex narc husband and his new supply are in the love bombing phase, jeez i remember it, i thought he was perfect.it took a longggggg time for me to see red flags. as in 4 years. the love bombing was intense but i thought it was fairytale, renting out restaurants, the most thoughtful gifts for no reason, flowers just because it's monday. it's hard to think they aren't happy because for 4 years i thought i won a prize, only after marriage did the devalue and discard happen like literally on the honeymoon and i realized what people were saying was true. i didn't win a prize, i was the biggest loser and my prize was my narc husband, a big steamy pile of poo
Molar Bear I can totally relate ,this is me!!! I’m going through this right now. Five years dating two years married and as of today filing for divorce !!!
I was cursed out immediately after the reception for a decision he made and 23 years later, dumped for a 25 year old Philippine woman whom he brought to the US on a 90 day visa and married just recently. Tried to flaunt her in front of my kids eyes and they wanted no parts of it.
My narc ex is an alcoholic who replaced me with someone who has a kid. Problem is, my ex absolutely hates kids. I'm currently buying gourmet popcorn online. Gonna to sit back and watch the show.
lol My narc ex has two kids. He expected me (a childless woman) to revolve my life around him and his two kids but guess what? He hates other people's kids and will only seek out childfree women! Such a hypocrite!
3 weeks ago I got a birthday call from my ex. I broke up with him 5 yrs ago after dating him for 3 yrs. I started to recognize he was a narc and broke up with him and cut off all communication. I told him not to call me and blocked him on my phone and social media. He called me out of the blue. He sent me a picture of himself and called a week later to ask if he could visit me. That didn't happen! He then told me he was going to move in with his new girlfriend in a few weeks. He stated he and she were traveling and had went to a few places I told him I dreamed of going. I congratulated him and his new relationship. This shocked him and he said he didn''t do well in relationships. I told him to give it his all and one easy thing would be to establish trust by not calling his ex. He became quiet. We talked a few more minutes and the conversation ended. I could tell he was trying to make me jealous ;NOT! I've moved on!
Mine dumped me through text message the day of our 6 month anniversary. While I was at work I got the text. We had had a big fight two days prior and he had asked for space just to break up with me on a text message on our anniversary. A month and a half later he heard I was going out and seeing other guys ( very casually) and came back. We communicated for a week. Everything felt like back the normal except for the awkwardness of not having spoken in so long. He wanted me to meet him at his place to "talk things out " but I said no to meet somewhere public instead. We met after that week and here (after acting like he wanted me back throughout that week) he gave me nothing but excuses like " I'm too busy for a girlfriend, I have to travel" ect. I was disappointed but the excuses did trick me. Two weeks after this, he had a new girlfriend (who I'm sure he was already talking to ) who works with him. Shortly after that they were living together in the place Him and I called our space. I try not to talk about this story because re leaving it is too painful. I don't want him back because of all the pain he has caused me and all the work and time its taken me to move on. But it's hard because he was my first everything and his family took me in so I lost so much more than just him
He wanted to just check were you still on the hook .... Had similar thing happened to me . Live ur life and don’t be sad the time will come he will come back again just to to do same thing over again... You need to listen these videos to change ur perspective and get power back... Don’t respond when he text trust me they always do try to come back.
Yes, they do come back sometimes after years and sound soooo sincere, they WILL apologize despite what some people say about narcs but the catch is they dont MEAN any of it. I made the terrible of mistake of giving him that second chance and absolutely regret it. @@summermoon4620
I left my job of 16 yrs my son when he was 17 two years ago after being w narc for two years prior. My soul was empty my spiritual condition was absent and it started getting abusive. He played w me like a toy. I am well aware I volunteered but had I know this while my life was still my own I would have never ever ever left w him to MI. I honestly went crazy drinking look d liked shit. People in public wouldn't even talk to me. Kinda funny now. I had everything going for me massive variety of friends kind and open to heal my addiction. Alcohol and my ex. He got a new younger girl. I stalked social media and cried for months. I am embarrassed now I spent so much time broken-hearted over a man whom could care less. Thank you for your videos. Had I known then what I know now🙌🏻
Happened to me, following years of his selfish and annihilistic behaviour. I saw the real person behind the mask and knew he wasn't good. But he still presented himself well to others. It was horrible the way he dicarded, but I'm now so very much stronger and healed. Thank God.
Great video. sooooooo true. I'm free from mine. I couldn't figure out why this relationship was the most difficult one I had ever been in. It wasn't until I couldn't take it any more and left. Then he felt like I was doing him wrong. Pls. I didn't know that these people existed. My first encounter and likely my last. I can see the signs now and will use my experience not to EVER get in this type of relationship again. This video explains a lot. I'm 3yrs free!
That happened to me. I got out of the hospital, and he dumped me, right there and then. He moved in with someone else, 4 blocks away in a town of 500 people. I finally had a nervous breakdown and went away to a psychiatric hospital for 2 months. He was cruel, abusive, narcissistic, just like my mother. It is now 6 years later, I don;t miss him one bit, and I couldn't walk before, and now I can. She did me a favor, and he still tries to get back into my bed, and I just kick him right out. He comes to do favors for me because I am so disabled, nice to see him, nice to see the back of him. What was I thinking when I was so addicted to him. Abuse goes on as long as you let it, I won't let him, or my Super Narc Mother, abuse me, and I am fine thank you. Leanne Johansen, Alberta, Canada
Leanne Johansen omg mine did the same thing.. I went in the hospital nervous break down cause he contacted an ex by phone behind my back. Cheated on me with another girl. While I was in the hospital. I came home he came back for,11 days only to leave me again for another supply.. I'm sick to death over all of it.
They both should be ashamed of doing you that way with you being ill I know how you feel the same ones has abandon me or stuck around to torcher me with the negativity and sometimes its the closest ones to you isn't it?
Yes! You can bet after a divorce or breakup, the narcissist is not doing any inner work whatsoever. I see and hear proof that that is true every time I have to deal with my ex.
They don't do any inner work. They rebound very quickly and repeat the same unhealthy patterns of abuse. They don't think they are the problem. That is the issue.
Thank you so much Melanie! I have been doing NARP for almost 4 months and it has changed my life! I have also watched every single one of your TH-cam videos and I'm so grateful for you! Though I have released 99% of the charge, I still feel pulled to cyber stalk the narc and his new supply... actually he may have already even moved on from her and I spend more time than I would like trying to figure out who the new supply is. It feels like an addiction. Maybe a peptide addiction. Or I just feel like my life isn't as exciting, or I'm boring without this… it's definitely something I do when I'm bored. It also feels really irrational because I truly don't even want him back… It's sort of like looking at pictures of a crime scene over and over again. I would love your take and any advice you have to offer! Thank you so much ❤️💛💚💙💜
Tara you are so welcome :) I am so pleased NARP has helped you so much. Ok - as with any addiction - this is the way to tackle it ... Go No Contact with the "looking" let the urge come up and take it straight into Module work ... load up and release. That will get it up and out and gone. xoxox
Why is it so hard to heal and disconnect from the narcissist? They are flaunting the new supply within a few weeks and it is crushing me on the inside.
I was in a narcissistic relationship for 6 years. I left and move to another state to get away from him. Its hard to do that when you do share a child with the narcissist. but there are ways to be able to have somewhat of normalcy with the narcissist, and what I mean by that is if everything has to be done through Courts so that peace is remained, then that's the best way to do it. I so desperately would love for my narcissist to replace me. why in the world would I care if they're with someone else and married someone else? if anything I feel so bad for the person that has gotten into a narcissistic courtship/ relationship with him. The outcome will always be the same. The person will leave if they have enough self-esteem and energy to do so. His last supply ended up the same way too she left. They're in a cycle that they can't escape these are insane people.
My Ex had an affair, so I decided to divorce him as he took great pleasure in trying to triangulate me with this woman. She dumped him 9 months into our divorce. He then panicked and tried to come back, and I said hell no. He is now on his 3 women. The first 2 dumped him after about 9 months.
It is very painful Sasha and my heart goes out to you sweetheart. If you would like to find out how to heal for real I would love you to connect to my free resources to help you find relief from the pain. Love and blessings to you xoxox www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage.htm
Melanie Tonia Evans he left when i needed him the most.when a fell into depression aftrr sexual harrasment.and he left for a mutual friend .flounting it all bragging.giving her all he promised me :(((
MichaelPA1023 : The TH-cam channel "The Truth Hurts" has set up a brilliant, professional, petition called "Lilith's Law" which is to make this narcissistic behaviour, and its aftermaths, a crime. You can sign the petition. Once accepted in the U.S other countries will follow. The details on the petition page are amazing, so empowering. :-)
I’ve never been abused or treated so badly before my narc ex husband. I have other childhood traumas unrelated to abuse so my wounds lie in my experience with him. My past struggles isn’t the root of my pain. ❤️
This is what it brought up for me thinking about letting go: My self awareness got in touch with these emotions... I wouldn't feel wanted I wouldn't feel accepted I wouldn't feel desired I would feel lonely I would feel "left"
Thank you for all the advice and encouragement i am 48 years old and now understand why my mother treats me the way she does she was abused as a child and became cold and unattached i grew feeling alone and not wanted my mother has four daugthers i am third and got singled out by her to be the one she dumps everything on that is not good in the mean time she has my younger sister as the golden child and my elder sister as her puppet and plays us against one another up to this present time i cant seem to cut cords from her but i am trying its hard because i have kids and seperated from my husband who i now understand is also a Narcissist.I live with my mom now and its alot of pain now i understand her more i am now letting go of alot of things she has done to me , with my kids i try not to do the things my mom did to me and still does I understand now i am not alone in this battle so thank you for being a light of hope . In a world filled with so much darkness
Hi Rhonda, My heart goes out to you hun. Have you seen my video on healing the wounds from Narcissistic Mothers? It may help you sweetheart th-cam.com/video/4YJez-GNZhA/w-d-xo.html. I hope it helps you xoxox
These videos are so great- pure godsends! For over a decade I was emotionally and mentally reeling because no one believed the destructive force that was my wife! Now I know what she was and how to deal with.
When my ex narc came to get some stuff he had at my place a few days after he had broken up with me,I just asked how he was doing,he said cheerily 'yeah great, everyone has told me I look like a big weight has been lifted of my shoulders'
Spot on. I’ve been watching you plus other videos on narcissist’s abuse. This is exactly what I’m going through except I found out she was actually commenting for years on his FB and even photos of us. I found out she was under my nose with us at an event yet he kept calling me outside same event and was scolding me for talking to friends I’ve known since High School. I discarded that night after 5 years of walking on eggshells and we were I thought doing great for the last year. We were traveling away weekends dong shows and back to affectionate and loving. 2 weeks later the event I left and she moved in immediately paid his mortgage off and buys him anything he wants like a sugar momma and had talked to and treated her like she’s. Karma for both. Good luck. She has been isolated and knows no one here.
The part I still struggle with is for many years this was a small trait in a basically good man then that trait suddenly grew out of all proportion. Now I'm just left reeling & wondering if it was ever true love. My love for him got deeper & deeper over time that's what really hurts when discarded for another. For many years I felt secure but in the last 4 years I was a wreck so it is a blessing in disguise that he's left. Perhaps he only ever loved my false self. Who I really am he doesn't seem to love.
I became so frustrated to the point I told him ‘ I hate you’ but even after that he convinced me he was sorry he loved me. What a bloody gullible fool I’ve been. Thank GOoDness I’ve sussed what he is doing, done to me, so I’ve deleted him from everything. I’m working on Myself now.
I was in a relationship with a serial cheating narcissist for 5 years. He got married less than 6 months after we broke up. Unfortunately I soon got with another narcissist, 3 years later he chucked me out of our flat, stole my kitten and started to date his work colleague two weeks later. I demanded no contact for 6 months though he was quite insistent on staying friends a year later. So a few years ago was dating a really nice guy and this ex interfered and we started sleeping together again. Thankfully he's head over heels with another new girlfriend and rarely hangs out at all. My father is an abusive narcissist and he recently threatened to kill my mother and himself. I've never really felt truly respected in a relationship before but I know that's what I deserve. At 28 years, I've been single for about 4 years and I feel as though I've almost healed past trauma. Thank you for confirming to me that I'm on the right track! Great wisdom in this video.
When my ex and I spoke again after breaking up and he said he moved on i asked him “so you have a girlfriend?” he said “at the moment yes” but that he doesn’t “put that in contrast to us having sth in the future” like W T F
Wow WTF😳he sounded a extremely arrogant,cocky narc to presume youd even take him back....Hope u blocked him & went no contact & moved on with your life👍
thank you so much for these videos I'm at the tail of healing I'm just at that finish line and I'm so thankful that this all wasn't just in my mind! it was a crazy crazy ride dealing with a narc for 10 years since i was 19 but I'm glad i learned so much, I'm still alive and I'm much stronger now! Thank GOD
I’ve been single 14 years hadn’t dated in 3 years . On a dating site a man I knew from a past job messaged me and said he had always been attracted to me but felt I was out of his league, we met and quickly he wanted to have the boyfriend/ girlfriend status.. things went well for weeks, he called every morning , I saw him a couple times a week and on weekends but I was always coming to him , only occasionally he would come to my place and he seemed angry about it.. He grew angry, distant, disrespectful and rude.. his life was all drama , I called him out on his actions and two days later he was back on the dating website...I know this sounds sneaky but after a month of dating I set up a fake profile and messaged him as a random girl , he messaged back the fake profile asking to meet 2 days after I called him out.. I feel devastated, I know he’s not worth it but it still hurts :(
I can understand why it hurts hun. Hurt people hurt people and I would love you to have my free resources Kim, so you can find the answers and the wounds inside to heal for real and be strong in your choices of partner. It all starts with ourselves Dear Lady xoxox www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage.htm
When I asked him if he was hooking up sexually with all the young local women he added as his friends, he ghosted me, posting a meme that said "he's not waiting when people push him away." I was like wtf? I got so physically sick with bronchitis and couldn't talk for three months.
Your videos are very helpful. I really like how your emphasis is on us, ourselves. Your videos have been enormously helpful to me in making sure I’m never on the narcissist’s “snack menu.” (I chuckled at that 😀)
Melanie, thank you so much for this video. I broke up for less than a week and he is already flaunting to our mutual friends that he has found the love of his life and is going to engage and marry her. Moving things quick with this chick but while I was with him he was always the one suggesting taking things slow.... Also he’s out there spreading bad lies and trying to break my friendship with my close friends. I’m beyond heart broken. Still love him but it just hurts like hell knowing he does everything to maximize the damage even after the breakup.
You were all cheated. Its not ohh he went to a new relationship after 3 days 30 days 2 months. He had that other person there having sex for months you were just blind
Michaela it is the inner self-partnering and healing that does. I"d love to show you how in a way that will totally make sense www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse xoxox
How truely inspiring you are Melanie. Your work and experiences have made my life that to be so much clearer. I take my own responsibility to heal and know I love myself for who I am .Time invested in me is uplifting. Thankyou for NARP. 💓
We do not just get over the loss of a true Heart Connection. After 33 years with the “love of my life” - there is no switch to turn off that love. That empty feeling that comes after Narcissistic Discard has got to be the most horrid feeling of loss and grief there could ever be. There is Inner Healing available - it is all our internal gut instincts and emotions poured out in private - which allow a person - true revelation into what that relationship meant to the Narcissist verses what it meant to the Empath. The relationship was of use of another object or tool to the Narcissist. It was of even subservient Love by the Empath. We are never to be subservient to another human being. Love must always be reciprocated willingly and in private above all. Narcissists can display / pretend “love” in public - but when you enter into a private space - of intimacy and we allow them to witness our true Authentic Self - it is a scary as hell for the Narcissist who has had nearly every emotion shut down - be at through childhood - or adolescence - or even adulthood. This video could use a little more of your usual Compassion and Heart Melanie.
Thank you Melanie for another great talk, this just hits home. Your videos are a guiding light to keep ourselves honest and on right path to becoming better. Do you have a patreon?
I have been through this in the past and faced it i was broken stayed out of relationship and dating for 6 years but still some how attracted another. Now I am going through the same thing all over again
Sam Vaknin says that not forgiving is perfectly normal, where's your PhD? Heal? My anger gives me focus,it makes me stronger, I don't need a partner to be happy, I just need the anger she has left. I will stop her, from destroying others and justice is coming to her, I really don't care who she's with, all I have to know is where she is.
married 25 years. He didn't discard me; I divorced him last year and 7 months later, he married again. He totally downgraded and this was devastating to me because I could not understand why he chose to marry rather than try to change and make our marriage work. How would he feel if I were to get married again?
They always down grade. There reality of attraction is far away from their reality. Another words, they drop a person thinking there is better. You are not good enough. Reality shows that you were really a great catch that they did not appreciate and their pathetic soul can only now attract some one worse. They are pathetic souls. Best to leave them living in their pathetic mind
my ex left me twice, the first time she put the new guy on her fb profile the very next day, invited me over to talk, she had a photo of her and him on the night stand. the second time she left me there was another new guy, they took family photos and posted them all over. we have a child together. i just find it so strange, its almost like they are not in a relationship for the purpose of being in a relationship, they are in one to get reactions from everyone, posative reactions for their followers or flying monkeys, and they seem to love the negative reactions from everyone who has morals. its like a competition , almost like how someone who loves cars will pop the hood and brag about the engine. they just want to impress people
He replaced me with a girl I know. It hurts. I feel she is better than me. Im broken and crushed. I did no contact but broke it by sending him angry messages yesterday. I keep stalking him and her on social media. I feel like im going crazy.
DofL17, my herta goes out to you - I know how painful this is when it happens. I'd love you to come into my free 3 keys workshop www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where I can help you get clarity, releif and your power back. I hope that this helps xoxox
I met the King Kong of Narcissist’s. Final level of narcissism. This idiot said to me (after cheating on me several times) “ sweetheart I need to talk to you. It’s someone else. I caught feelings for someone else and I want to be with her” I told him I hated him multiple times. I was literally at the hospital with my mom and I just blocked him. He made a separate account to message me saying he made a mistake he didn’t want to be with her. Then it turned to insults and then threats. So I got scared and talked to him to calm him down. Found out he was at the club when he said he was at home. Didn’t last an hour. Blocked him again. Reminder - all of this is happening with in 48 hours. So I think he’s gone forever because one of the girls he cheated on me with and got pregnant, he proposes to the next morning on the beach. 😂😭🤣 Well the narcissist forgets he’s fucking famous so everyone knows his business so on twitter someone noted “ funny how ____________ got engaged but just took my friend back to the hotel. So then he dumps the fiancé lol and decided to plaster the woman he cheated on me with all over his Instagram. In his bio, he even made a highlight. I was pissed. I felt like he’s doing everything I wanted for her. Except he got to sleep with her. We’ve never been intimate ( Thank God) he sleeps around so much that I would be shocked if he didn’t have anything. Well the new girl disappeared. I also had another fake page of his message me. It was a letter of guilt. ( I’m the only woman the narc feels guilt about) but I didn’t let him know I opened. I was not clearing his conscience. Well the next morning he posted “ his girl “ with flowers. But I noticed he didn’t tag the woman from the bio like he usually does. But what I also noticed is the woman’s nail color had changed. It was a different woman. I’m almost certain. The girl from the bio even deleted her Twitter. I feel she may have been embarrassed not sure. I spoke with him this morning because he had a friend reach out to me. He said that he told her he needed to be alone. Well couldn’t need to be too alone begging to have me back you know. I asked him why didn’t he tell her the truth and he was very dodgy about it. Well then I asked the narcissist to FaceTime because he can never look me in the face. I personally feel he can’t face me. Well he got upset and felt I was trying to set him up so he blocked me and made his friends and family block me to except they know how he is so they actually asked me first. I’m still not sure honestly if he’s a complete narcissist because he actually feels empathy with me. He’s had a lot of trama happen to him recently. But he definitely has issues. I’m hurt but good riddance. I am so exhausted and drained. I felt like I dated a psychopath who almost tried to change for me. He has a good side and bad side. I can’t fight the demons on the bad side and I’m very spiritual. I feel he may reappear hopefully not now but within time. I think I need therapy though. Extreme therapy.
Alexis, big hugs and please know there is relief and healing available for this - in a Quantum way that defies everything we used to believe about abuse recovery. Please come into my free webinar that will explain to you HOW this works - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxox
My ex Narc girl friend had a good thing with me , nice house I owned she had her grand kids round and family (She was all about family..So I thought) We weren't perfect could be volatile but gen she was taken on nice holidays etc..We both made mistakes in first year of relationship, I cheated couple of times whilst she had an affair with my best mate..We got back together drew s line under it , i never done it again..In the end though she lied about working , was seeing new supply while lying about working late etc..She always stalked every inbox and message on my old phone they acquired.. When she finally discarded me for ever she cooked me a meal (That I bought ) and she kissed me good bye left throug the door late at night and never came back..
Hard to see the narc socializing and triangulating you with other females on social media. Do they take pleasure in thinking we are probably watching and upset about it, even though they have discarded us?
Bonnie Irvin yes, they do take pleasure in this because they think that if they can upset you then it means they are important. Sick, sad and true but such an excellent reminder of why we should all be grateful to have them out of our lives!
if you wait long enough on the side of the river...you will witness your enemies floating by.
patience.
Anita Barneycastle : enemies bodies. So true.
Old chinese proverb. Lol
love it
Anita Barneycastle lmao!!!
You mean if ya throw them in it first?
I can actually breathe now. No contact is the best healing process. I feel so sorry for his new supply. She doesn’t know what she’s in for. Pay no attention to social media. Our inner self knows the truth.
ex husband's new supply he publicly put on a pedestal ended up leaving him and taking their 2 kids with her. Don't fret over it. The fake paradise will eventually crumble and you will have the last laugh. I sure did:)
Iams Daughter I can't wait for it to happen
Barbara Speaks it ALWAYS happens! The idiot threw me out of his house a year ago Spring. His life has never looked so good as I had taken care of everything.
Fast forward to now. I spent this time going all the way back to figure out how I let such a predator in my life. I changed my entire life. I did the work. I am attracted to unavailable men. That's what the narcissist really represents-- unavailability.
Fast forward what did he do? Repeated the pattern of abuse even when I thought my situation would be different. Nope!
He replaced me within minutes as he had her lined up. They went to prep school together and had know each other for over 30 years. He splashed her all over Facebook as he vacationed with her to one of her 5 homes throughout the country. This guy doesn't even have a credit card he is that broke. She spent $1 million cash for a new home in Denver which he splashed all over Facebook. Got engaged within a year of our breakup. It was over at the engagement and he kept her strung along until June of this year. He then told his family she dumped him and made her look crazy so they felt bad for him.
He could have moved to Denver and never worked again. He could have never had money problems again. He didn't do it. This woman likes to do so many fun things like go hot air ballooning in Albuquerque in the Fall. She is a world class skier. plays tennis and gulf and she has 2 homes with country club memberships. He didn't do it. I was shocked that he didn't take this route but I have my theories as to why.
I'll admit I watched The Facebook as it validates me but I don't recommend it. There were signs as I knew where to look that he was treating her terribly. His ex wife called when the new woman bought that house. His ex wife had been remarried for 9 years and had stalked him the entire time. I kinda felt it when we were together but I had no idea it was this bad. She spent 8 years chasing him around. I told her it was all fake and that they would never get married. She didn't believe me. It played out exactly like The Narcissist Playbook Plays every single time. The end.
Jacqueline Antone that's funny I know that's how they work. His new girl told me go ahead and get them divorce papers lol.. Like he'd gonna marry her. Hell we lasted 3 weeks short of a year l
ALL BONDS ARE BROKEN!!!!⚡🔓📢
Same here. They already divorced less than a year later LOL
They dont get a NEW supply. They have probably already cheated on you with her for a long time. And when he leaves you she feels like a winner and plaster social media with how in love they are. Little does she know he is probably already cheating on her too. Nasty creatures.
This Truth!!
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Before, after and while back burner narc supply toxic as hell
Count on cheating
Oh yes she wasn't new I was his wife he was malignant narc he had 4 on go. She was upstairs neighbour he had stds spreading around. She was my flying monkey got my benefit and child's money stopped she tried to get me jailed.
as an empath it was one of the hardest things i ever had to go through and watch as my ex was doing this to me,,,the struggle and pain is very real.
Robert Swift - Almost killed me! You're not alone. Hope you're doing ok 🙏
I can agree, I’m an empath and I didn’t think I could survive the soul torture but I did and I’m stronger
she took out 7 insurance policies on my life---so what does that tell you ???
Absaloutely agree. I'm in it right now.it's he'll.it's purely tested me and literally brought me to my knees
Feel your pain. My ex left in November and told me in email yesterday she has a new partner already and she is much happier etc etc
"it feels like you're dying"
Yes. Yes it does.
To a narcissist, control and not being vulnerable is everything. If they can't control you or can't get anything out of you anymore, they discard you without even blinking.
I went NO Contact in all areas! Social Media... never peaked... hard to do, but I listened to you! Thank you . best thing I ever ever did!
God I'm having a very hard thing with the social media peaking it hurting me even more.. Why do I do it???
Barbara Speaks your probably seeking validation by seeing if the same cycle happens with the next victim
Me, either.... already hurting enough. I know that would kill me even though I wouldn't have him back for anyting.
@@floridagirl5250 fl is.awesome
I didn't look at his social media until week 10. I wasn't able to move on and I figured I was already in intense pain, I took a look at his new relationship. I had to do that or my mind would have continued to wander wondering what was going on. That was last tuesday. Honestly, it liberated me. It was a slap in the face of reality like nothing else and I honestly felt relieved. Right after, I immediately blocked both of them. I think part of me just wanted every little thing that could possibly cause me pain to happen sooner than down the road. I would rather know that they are a happy looking Barbie and Ken now, and deal with it, then have to run into them down the road in the future and have it slap me in the face then. Maybe I'm a sucker for punishment. But I honestly feel like I needed to get it out of my system. I wish all of you the best!
Exactly. We gaslight ourselves and silent treatment our own pain. It’s no wonder we find narcissists to distract us. They are here to teach us to think/love ourselves first and to be sure of ourselves even in doubt. They present to us our deepest fears and wounds that remain hidden. They have a lot to teach us if we pay attention.
This is true. They teach us to stand on our own and have our own mind, to be steadfastly loyal to our own discernment. This can be tough when you're a people-person and you want to believe the best in others. You just want things to be harmonious and you see solutions, so you can't fathom why someone would act ANTI to that. But this is what they do. They'll lie and twist and distort, all the while taking and taking and taking, and at the end of it you're an empty shell and they've run off with everything that makes you, you. They're leeches. I think that a VERY high level of discernment is required today - nothing can be taken for granted and nothing can be overlooked. It's just too risky.
God I am thankful the only thing that became of my life with a narcissist is this analogy. I left my best fragile mask laying on the ground and my neighbors dog stepped on it and crunched into a pile of sh-t. Ok so it was just a mask it was not real anyway. Ok every ones happy now that I am not running around in my warlord mask frightening half the town or more.
Well said.
Right on the money 👌🏾
Once I had proof of him cheating, I went completely no contact, changed my phone number and filed for divorce. I can feel myself feeling better every day.
One telltale sign of a narcissist is someone who rebounds very quickly after one long term relationship ends. They are very soon in another relationship before you know it. The majority of the time their new supply is a downgrade and they have likely been cheating anyways. Narcissists also have rage/anger issues that they try to hide very well. They will also accuse you of being a narcissist whenever you stand up for yourself and finally call them out on their abuse and selfishness. It is called projecting.
What is they married the person while they were engaged to you? I know he was preparing her all this time but why not just leave instead of hurting someone like that.
Totally
My narcissistic ex has a new boyfriend after 4 months. We were together for 4 years and the relationship ended just a couple months ago in March. She left me, and I realized it was a golden ticket, because the no contact was hard, but it was for the best, since I went through so much abuse. My birthday is next week and I honestly don’t even want her to send me a text wishing me happy birthday. I would rather just never talk again, because even if she did apologize, I know it wouldn’t be real or sincere, since the apologies throughout the whole relationship were nothing but a lie. I was blind to it all, and I would always tell her “I would never leave her” and I never did. Looking back on it, I stepped in the tray myself, and it’s crazy for me to think that I was really with a narcissist for so long, but I was. Her new boyfriend really doesn’t have anything on me, but I 100% know it’s just a rebound to try and forget about me. Once I’m fully healed, I know nothing will bother me anymore when it comes to my ex, and I can’t wait for that day
Exactly!
Happened to me, your replacement is waiting she is cheating w him way before she leaves you
Actually I was relieved to know I wasn’t the only sucker!!! I spent so long thinking how could I have been so stupid!!! Thank god it’s over!!!!
As a licensed therapist in NY/NJ it has taken over THREE years of therapy to finally move my patient out of this toxic dynamic with her NARC. He almost killed her and she STILL regretted to hear he moved on with his life and married someone else. And what happened a year later? He tried to re-engage my patient in a triangulation when he grew tired of the current wife. He has children from several women to add to the aforementioned. FINALLY after attaining a profession and feeling less dependent with improved self esteem my patient has at long last embarked on her emancipation. I have to thank you for enlightening women on the predatory dynamic that seduces and subsequently rejects. Personally I never seem to attract these NARCs because they run from me. lol!
You do great work
Well it is not only happening to women. My son is suffering deeply after 7 years with a very beautiful NARC. She quickly dumped him and replaced him. I am sure many men are likewise abused.
Michele Pearl Rubin it took me 3 weeks I wanted to kill my self she moved on like I never existed even before I moved out she was dating.. brie my heart and nisee.. then I met god and Jesus at same time and I don't care about the narcissistic and I am not doing drugs. And she still is. I think in up
Michele Pearl Rubin damn I thought I moved on but I haven't .. I am doing really good but still want her to heal and be with me she is fucking sick
I won't say that it didn't hurt when it got back to me that He "now had a very special lady". I remember thinking, "to bad I could not be special" (to him). But to have had this narc follow me about, (trying to make me jealous), saying "the women at work say I'm a nice guy, they said they would snatch me up in a second" or, "I'm dating women, I'm signing up on dating sites!":(No, I'm not kidding,) was laughable, by then I had seen right through him, I was dead to him, he could not make me jealous. He had crushed, stomped, smashed and pulverized my affections, handing back my love as a dying bloody pulp in my hands. All I could say was "OK, go easy on them" and keep walking, getting away. It was SO good for me to leave the state to get away from him, have an apt on my own, just breath!
Wish them both the happiness and great health. Block everyone associated with Narc and all supplies from Social Media. Appear to be busy and happy on Social Media like nothing bothers you. No negative or passive aggressive messages on Social Media. Be or appear to be HAPPY because it destroys them.
My former narcissist girlfriend - a psychologist had her new supply 2 months before she discarded me. Now, I see them at and she looks at him with 'loving' eyes. Yea, the guy is handsome and I admit that. But, man he has NO idea what she truly is about. Her jealousy will kill it. Glad I am away from that. I am still healing. Good video!
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being ignored, discarded after 7b years and seeing her move on in a week after lining someone else up and moving overseas has changed me forever. I will never trust a woman in my life ever again. im getting another dog. love is for losers. on a lighter note thank you for your input it has shed some light on this topic for me. thank you.
It’s not for losers. U loved u are a winner she is broken. If and when u heal your trauma u will be able to to meet true love
I too have been ignored discarded after 10 years and it seems like absolutely nothing to her. I agree. I'm not trusting women again.
Hope you changed your mind lol, I was like you but I decided that the feeling of loving someone is worth the pain that they can bring you
@@NEbluefire It's funny how when a woman has gone through trauma she is perfectly justified in never dealing with or trusting men again but when a man goes through the same thing he is somehow still deemed as misogynistic , now why is that?
OMG is this happening to everyone nowdays?!
That would prolly explain the high rates of murder nowadays...
I was replaced while we were still married. He lied telling her we'd been over for years and we were separated.
same here, even though we were separated they were having an affair.
I was replaced too. We didnt even make a year of marriage. Its like sleep with me on Thursday night and a new one on Friday night smh...
E H same here. We were married for 15 years. I'm in the divorce process now and it's awful
leigh catapano its so sad how they do us.. How did u make it 15 years with a liar and a cheater?
me to told her we were separated but living in the same house!! She believed him and even had sex with him several times in r bed when i was at work !!
Great video as always! Once we truly understand that a narcissist is only capable of bringing one more conflict and corresponding misery, you'll be happy to be out. A huge Part of working on myself is a dedication to never look back, block all avenues of communication, move forward and grow. 0 desire to go back. Zilch, nada. I'm worth more than that nonsense and if you're reading this, so are you.
Mike THANK YOU... needed to read this about narcissists. Very encouraging!
Thank you Mike. I am worth more than his nonsense.
Thank you for your words sir
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This needs to be communicated widely to the “twin flame” community.
My God help us to stay away from this garbage and rid them from our hearts and minds for good!!
His flaunting it in front of me. No heart.
You are SO right! After I healed from the 6 year mistake, I was and I am now jumping for joy over having escaped by the skin of my teeth living forever with Mr. Poison!!!!!!! I thank God for delivering me from that hell!!! And now, I am living with so much peace and tranquility and it is WONDERFUL!!!
I could never accept to go from the main and only lover to the side piece . I could never do it. That why I blocked my ex narc and never looked back. New supply and side supply for the new supply may still be stuck being friendly or sex partners with the narc but I don't want any of that nastiness. I work with a family friend of thr narc and he keeps asking me why I have refused to remain friends with the narc or why I didn't wish the narc happy birthday. I replied that "we are not friends or enemies. We are strangers and you don't wish strangers happy birthday do you" it was the coolest thing because indeed the narc IS a stranger ended up being a different person from who I initially thought they were. That person I fell for is fake and when the mask slipped the real person emerged and he's horrible. I have no interest of getting to know the real person so yeah we really ARE strangers
My narc was in a new relationship already after 2 months. Think he got her on the side for a longer amount of time before “dumping” me. New supply for him, freedom for me :)
Good riddance.
Your lucky I wish mine would get the hell out. Being that they are 60 and I am 45 at least I get to watch them go down hill. They think they are an immortal. I used to think it too until one day my face started to look like the condition of the Hollywood sign back in days old when it too was aging except the funny thing is people faces are not fixable like the Hollywood sign. Let the f-cken somatic narcissist take this little saying into there piss size brain …Some day every ones clock will strike 12 and they will have to face the fact the goddamb slipper never did fit... it was all just an illusion. Die in pain ass hole narcissist I will laugh as you rot in a nursing home. I will come and rub all the pain you ever gave me in your face if you don't get f- out of my life.
Mine had new supply after 4 days and brought them through our marital bed, GROSSE
Carol Dudeck, Sorry to hear that. That makes my skin crawl. Takes a real animal to do that. And here you have their excuse to match, "It's natural for animals to jump from one to the next like a flea," so the swine say. I got a new term for narcissists "BED CRICKETS"!!! Get the term out their. OH & TELL them this "Animals don't do it for an ego boost!!" Maybe your cheater will come back through several incarnations as a fruit fly because they don't disserve to be human that's for sure.
After he broke the engagement, he wanted me back an again he broke up and within 4 weeks he had someonels on his picture with our wedding text
They have no soul, no heart and are the devil on earth!
My narcissist ex went back to her ex after 1 hour!
I mostly agree with you and have seen all your videos. However, I found that finally having the courage to look at his new supply (I couldn't for years after he left) made me realize objectively that what he had implied, that she was soooo much better than me, wasn't remotely true. I hate to sound obnoxious, but when I finally looked and saw that I am just as successful and much better looking than her actually snapped me out of my lack of self worth and made me realize that I did not agree with his judgment at all- this actually made me feel free of his crap more than any "therapy." Otherwise, no matter what I did, it was always lingering in the back of my mind, this feeling that he left me for someone "better" even though I had given 100% for 4 years and he had previously acted like I was perfect for him. But she wasn't better. Maybe she had some personality traits he preferred, etc but seeing her made me realize she was not this amazing being he had described. If anything, I now think he traded down. I think my real problem was that I didn't value myself. Perhaps his constant comparing me to her made me feel like she must have been so great. Nowadays, I would say, think what you like about her, but I think I'm amazing and deserve someone who thinks so too. So in a way, I wouldn't categorically say that healing doesn't happen by looking outside ourselves. After I did a lot of inward looking healing and growth, and then had the courage to look outward at her/them, I found that looking at her/them objectively did help me to heal even more than just looking inside myself.
I always fall in love with men like this I'm Fed up of them hurting my feelings & replacing me with somebody new.
Oh my ! I just got replaced by my Boyfriend. I saw on fb He was in a relationship with someone… Not me!
This video nailed it! Never had an experience with a narc before.
I’ve been feeling so bad like what did I do wrong, and just so confused about everything. He was still in the love bombing phase with me. I just couldn’t believe that there was someone else. I’ve been totally figuring out how to contact him.....Even thinking of just being friends with him. Oh my goodness ....I need therapy ! So grateful for this video and finding it tonight, when I really needed to read it. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your videos... I recently got dumped after a 2 month relationship with the man i thought would be the love of my life, before that we hadn't seen each other in over 10 years and he was a childhood friend, so when he started love-bombing me i really thought i could trust him and fall right in. I never thought a 2 month relationship could de-stabalize me the way it did. and i have been following other youtubers on Narcissistic abuse... but your ones have brought me the most comfort and most healing.
I tell you what I would do.......after I finish laughing I would go home and thank God he's out of my hair with all his drama, lying, manipulation and overall fake life. :-) He cant rub my nose in something I dont care about lol. BYE! Aint like I cant date too.
Theresa Taylor are they all talking against him? What's this all about!
Melanie thank you so much....i was recently discarded and replaced in less than a week. I am healing quickly but looking in the mirror this time.
That is great Michael and you are very welcome xoxox
I wasn't aware about what a narc was until I was dumped It crushed me, but I am going on 3 month's and I'm finally giving myself the attention I need to move forward. I'm taking steps to focus on my health, mind set, work, changing my lifestyle. She's having summer flings but I will never take sloppy seconds or put myself in danger. I am gaining confidence and she will have to deal with her choices, and I will find a stable woman with qualities I can trust. I can't stand nutcases and I will not be jumping into the sack with a crazy brain. GET MEDS!!!
No lie I literally felt this in my heart. Everything you’re saying is so true
You don't know it usually at the time, but what you should do if a narcissist quickly replaces you and flaunts their new supply is celebrate that day and for the rest of your life.
I just want all the pain he caused me to heal 😢Thank you for the advice
It is so possible A Lee! Please know that! www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxoox
my ex narc husband and his new supply are in the love bombing phase, jeez i remember it, i thought he was perfect.it took a longggggg time for me to see red flags. as in 4 years. the love bombing was intense but i thought it was fairytale, renting out restaurants, the most thoughtful gifts for no reason, flowers just because it's monday. it's hard to think they aren't happy because for 4 years i thought i won a prize, only after marriage did the devalue and discard happen like literally on the honeymoon and i realized what people were saying was true. i didn't win a prize, i was the biggest loser and my prize was my narc husband, a big steamy pile of poo
Molar Bear
I can totally relate ,this is me!!! I’m going through this right now. Five years dating two years married and as of today filing for divorce !!!
I was cursed out immediately after the reception for a decision he made and 23 years later, dumped for a 25 year old Philippine woman whom he brought to the US on a 90 day visa and married just recently. Tried to flaunt her in front of my kids eyes and they wanted no parts of it.
exactly my story
I am so glad I dropped them!!! Three years I have grey rocked, and blocked. With their crazy self!!!
My narc ex is an alcoholic who replaced me with someone who has a kid. Problem is, my ex absolutely hates kids. I'm currently buying gourmet popcorn online. Gonna to sit back and watch the show.
lol My narc ex has two kids. He expected me (a childless woman) to revolve my life around him and his two kids but guess what? He hates other people's kids and will only seek out childfree women! Such a hypocrite!
Same with my ex narc.
3 weeks ago I got a birthday call from my ex. I broke up with him 5 yrs ago after dating him for 3 yrs. I started to recognize he was a narc and broke up with him and cut off all communication. I told him not to call me and blocked him on my phone and social media. He called me out of the blue. He sent me a picture of himself and called a week later to ask if he could visit me. That didn't happen! He then told me he was going to move in with his new girlfriend in a few weeks. He stated he and she were traveling and had went to a few places I told him I dreamed of going. I congratulated him and his new relationship. This shocked him and he said he didn''t do well in relationships. I told him to give it his all and one easy thing would be to establish trust by not calling his ex. He became quiet. We talked a few more minutes and the conversation ended.
I could tell he was trying to make me jealous ;NOT! I've moved on!
Ebony Eyes Sounds like you did great starving the parasite of premium narco fuel !
Triangulation at its best. One has to learn to expect nothing else from these people.
Awesome and inspiring! Good job!... for reals
reading your post gave me great satisfaction
Wow!!!! YOU go, girl!!!
Mine dumped me through text message the day of our 6 month anniversary. While I was at work I got the text. We had had a big fight two days prior and he had asked for space just to break up with me on a text message on our anniversary. A month and a half later he heard I was going out and seeing other guys ( very casually) and came back. We communicated for a week. Everything felt like back the normal except for the awkwardness of not having spoken in so long. He wanted me to meet him at his place to "talk things out " but I said no to meet somewhere public instead. We met after that week and here (after acting like he wanted me back throughout that week) he gave me nothing but excuses like " I'm too busy for a girlfriend, I have to travel" ect. I was disappointed but the excuses did trick me. Two weeks after this, he had a new girlfriend (who I'm sure he was already talking to ) who works with him. Shortly after that they were living together in the place Him and I called our space. I try not to talk about this story because re leaving it is too painful. I don't want him back because of all the pain he has caused me and all the work and time its taken me to move on. But it's hard because he was my first everything and his family took me in so I lost so much more than just him
He wanted to just check were you still on the hook .... Had similar thing happened to me . Live ur life and don’t be sad the time will come he will come back again just to to do same thing over again... You need to listen these videos to change ur perspective and get power back... Don’t respond when he text trust me they always do try to come back.
Yes, they do come back sometimes after years and sound soooo sincere, they WILL apologize despite what some people say about narcs but the catch is they dont MEAN any of it.
I made the terrible of mistake of giving him that second chance and absolutely regret it. @@summermoon4620
I left my job of 16 yrs my son when he was 17 two years ago after being w narc for two years prior. My soul was empty my spiritual condition was absent and it started getting abusive. He played w me like a toy. I am well aware I volunteered but had I know this while my life was still my own I would have never ever ever left w him to MI. I honestly went crazy drinking look d liked shit. People in public wouldn't even talk to me. Kinda funny now. I had everything going for me massive variety of friends kind and open to heal my addiction.
Alcohol and my ex.
He got a new younger girl. I stalked social media and cried for months.
I am embarrassed now I spent so much time broken-hearted over a man whom could care less.
Thank you for your videos. Had I known then what I know now🙌🏻
But know I know:). Let the inner strength shine through!!
Love and blessings to you Dear Lady xoxox
How are you doing now? I been going through almost exact experience now.
I’ve been struggling so much with healing, This video made everything so clear. Spot on. Thank you so much for the work you do. ♥️♥️
My pleasure Kashmir Noor. I'm so glad this helps. Love and blessings xoxox
Happened to me, following years of his selfish and annihilistic behaviour. I saw the real person behind the mask and knew he wasn't good. But he still presented himself well to others. It was horrible the way he dicarded, but I'm now so very much stronger and healed. Thank God.
Great video. sooooooo true. I'm free from mine. I couldn't figure out why this relationship was the most difficult one I had ever been in. It wasn't until I couldn't take it any more and left. Then he felt like I was doing him wrong. Pls.
I didn't know that these people existed.
My first encounter and likely my last. I can see the signs now and will use my experience not to EVER get in this type of relationship again. This video explains a lot. I'm 3yrs free!
This is so helpful. You have changed my life and helped me to be aware of the abuse I went through.
Thank you
You are so welcome Melissa and I am delighted this has helped you Sweetheart xoxox
That happened to me. I got out of the hospital, and he dumped me, right there and then. He moved in with someone else, 4 blocks away in a town of 500 people. I finally had a nervous breakdown and went away to a psychiatric hospital for 2 months. He was cruel, abusive, narcissistic, just like my mother. It is now 6 years later, I don;t miss him one bit, and I couldn't walk before, and now I can. She did me a favor, and he still tries to get back into my bed, and I just kick him right out. He comes to do favors for me because I am so disabled, nice to see him, nice to see the back of him. What was I thinking when I was so addicted to him. Abuse goes on as long as you let it, I won't let him, or my Super Narc Mother, abuse me, and I am fine thank you. Leanne Johansen, Alberta, Canada
Hope you are doing better now, Leanne.
Leanne Johansen omg mine did the same thing.. I went in the hospital nervous break down cause he contacted an ex by phone behind my back. Cheated on me with another girl. While I was in the hospital. I came home he came back for,11 days only to leave me again for another supply.. I'm sick to death over all of it.
Barbara Speak
Sounds familiar hope it wasn't the same soundel you need supportive friends not an idiot!
They both should be ashamed of doing you that way with you being ill I know how you feel the same ones has abandon me or stuck around to torcher me with the negativity and sometimes its the closest ones to you isn't it?
Yes! You can bet after a divorce or breakup, the narcissist is not doing any inner work whatsoever. I see and hear proof that that is true every time I have to deal with my ex.
They don't do any inner work. They rebound very quickly and repeat the same unhealthy patterns of abuse. They don't think they are the problem. That is the issue.
Thank you so much Melanie! I have been doing NARP for almost 4 months and it has changed my life! I have also watched every single one of your TH-cam videos and I'm so grateful for you! Though I have released 99% of the charge, I still feel pulled to cyber stalk the narc and his new supply... actually he may have already even moved on from her and I spend more time than I would like trying to figure out who the new supply is. It feels like an addiction. Maybe a peptide addiction. Or I just feel like my life isn't as exciting, or I'm boring without this… it's definitely something I do when I'm bored. It also feels really irrational because I truly don't even want him back… It's sort of like looking at pictures of a crime scene over and over again. I would love your take and any advice you have to offer! Thank you so much ❤️💛💚💙💜
Tara you are so welcome :) I am so pleased NARP has helped you so much. Ok - as with any addiction - this is the way to tackle it ... Go No Contact with the "looking" let the urge come up and take it straight into Module work ... load up and release. That will get it up and out and gone. xoxox
Why is it so hard to heal and disconnect from the narcissist? They are flaunting the new supply within a few weeks and it is crushing me on the inside.
Feel sorry for the new partner..it will wear off..they get bored it's all a show..the poor partner has to go through what you went through soon
I have spent years trying to understand why he treats me like a piece of furniture and no real emotions were ever involved.
I was in a narcissistic relationship for 6 years. I left and move to another state to get away from him. Its hard to do that when you do share a child with the narcissist. but there are ways to be able to have somewhat of normalcy with the narcissist, and what I mean by that is if everything has to be done through Courts so that peace is remained, then that's the best way to do it. I so desperately would love for my narcissist to replace me. why in the world would I care if they're with someone else and married someone else? if anything I feel so bad for the person that has gotten into a narcissistic courtship/ relationship with him. The outcome will always be the same. The person will leave if they have enough self-esteem and energy to do so. His last supply ended up the same way too she left. They're in a cycle that they can't escape these are insane people.
My Ex had an affair, so I decided to divorce him as he took great pleasure in trying to triangulate me with this woman. She dumped him 9 months into our divorce. He then panicked and tried to come back, and I said hell no. He is now on his 3 women. The first 2 dumped him after about 9 months.
He dumped me and got engaged 4 months later .so heartbrocken
It is very painful Sasha and my heart goes out to you sweetheart. If you would like to find out how to heal for real I would love you to connect to my free resources to help you find relief from the pain. Love and blessings to you xoxox
www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage.htm
Melanie Tonia Evans he left when i needed him the most.when a fell into depression aftrr sexual harrasment.and he left for a mutual friend .flounting it all bragging.giving her all he promised me :(((
That's very sad Sasha and it must hurt a lot xoxox
MichaelPA1023. In some states it is a crime. If you're married or engaged
MichaelPA1023 : The TH-cam channel "The Truth Hurts" has set up a brilliant, professional, petition called "Lilith's Law" which is to make this narcissistic behaviour, and its aftermaths, a crime. You can sign the petition. Once accepted in the U.S other countries will follow. The details on the petition page are amazing, so empowering. :-)
Melanie this was amazing. Thank you so much! Sending you lots of light with gratitude.
I’ve never been abused or treated so badly before my narc ex husband. I have other childhood traumas unrelated to abuse so my wounds lie in my experience with him. My past struggles isn’t the root of my pain. ❤️
This is what it brought up for me thinking about letting go: My self awareness got in touch with these emotions...
I wouldn't feel wanted
I wouldn't feel accepted
I wouldn't feel desired
I would feel lonely
I would feel "left"
This was so powerful
Thank you for all the advice and encouragement i am 48 years old and now understand why my mother treats me the way she does she was abused as a child and became cold and unattached i grew feeling alone and not wanted my mother has four daugthers i am third and got singled out by her to be the one she dumps everything on that is not good in the mean time she has my younger sister as the golden child and my elder sister as her puppet and plays us against one another up to this present time i cant seem to cut cords from her but i am trying its hard because i have kids and seperated from my husband who i now understand is also a Narcissist.I live with my mom now and its alot of pain now i understand her more i am now letting go of alot of things she has done to me ,
with my kids i try not to do the things my mom did to me and still does I understand now i am not alone in this battle so thank you for being a light of hope . In a world filled with so much darkness
Hi Rhonda, My heart goes out to you hun. Have you seen my video on healing the wounds from Narcissistic Mothers? It may help you sweetheart th-cam.com/video/4YJez-GNZhA/w-d-xo.html. I hope it helps you xoxox
Melanie Tonia Evans thank you i will
Thank you a million times! The way you explain everything is perfect. So thankful for you and your videos.
It's my pleasure Lai, keep thriving hun xoxox
These videos are so great- pure godsends! For over a decade I was emotionally and mentally reeling because no one believed the destructive force that was my wife! Now I know what she was and how to deal with.
When my ex narc came to get some stuff he had at my place a few days after he had broken up with me,I just asked how he was doing,he said cheerily 'yeah great, everyone has told me I look like a big weight has been lifted of my shoulders'
This has changed my world . Thank you
My pleasure sweetheart. I'm so glad this has helped. Love and blessings xoxox
Spot on. I’ve been watching you plus other videos on narcissist’s abuse. This is exactly what I’m going through except I found out she was actually commenting for years on his FB and even photos of us. I found out she was under my nose with us at an event yet he kept calling me outside same event and was scolding me for talking to friends I’ve known since High School. I discarded that night after 5 years of walking on eggshells and we were I thought doing great for the last year. We were traveling away weekends dong shows and back to affectionate and loving. 2 weeks later the event I left and she moved in immediately paid his mortgage off and buys him anything he wants like a sugar momma and had talked to and treated her like she’s. Karma for both. Good luck. She has been isolated and knows no one here.
The part I still struggle with is for many years this was a small trait in a basically good man then that trait suddenly grew out of all proportion. Now I'm just left reeling & wondering if it was ever true love. My love for him got deeper & deeper over time that's what really hurts when discarded for another. For many years I felt secure but in the last 4 years I was a wreck so it is a blessing in disguise that he's left. Perhaps he only ever loved my false self. Who I really am he doesn't seem to love.
I became so frustrated to the point I told him ‘ I hate you’ but even after that he convinced me he was sorry he loved me.
What a bloody gullible fool I’ve been.
Thank GOoDness I’ve sussed what he is doing, done to me, so I’ve deleted him from everything.
I’m working on Myself now.
I was in a relationship with a serial cheating narcissist for 5 years. He got married less than 6 months after we broke up. Unfortunately I soon got with another narcissist, 3 years later he chucked me out of our flat, stole my kitten and started to date his work colleague two weeks later. I demanded no contact for 6 months though he was quite insistent on staying friends a year later. So a few years ago was dating a really nice guy and this ex interfered and we started sleeping together again. Thankfully he's head over heels with another new girlfriend and rarely hangs out at all.
My father is an abusive narcissist and he recently threatened to kill my mother and himself. I've never really felt truly respected in a relationship before but I know that's what I deserve. At 28 years, I've been single for about 4 years and I feel as though I've almost healed past trauma. Thank you for confirming to me that I'm on the right track! Great wisdom in this video.
You are so very welcome Lara. I'm so glad this helped. Love and blessings dear lady xoxox
You really did explain all of this, very well.....
Thank you a. banks xoxox
Wow this video helped me heal and feel much better thank you so much for your work
No ! catch your breath, THANK GOD! for keeping you in your right MIND and laugh you got away!
I love this so eye opening.. So it goes back to my childhood
When my ex and I spoke again after breaking up and he said he moved on i asked him “so you have a girlfriend?” he said “at the moment yes” but that he doesn’t “put that in contrast to us having sth in the future” like W T F
Wow WTF😳he sounded a extremely arrogant,cocky narc to presume youd even take him back....Hope u blocked him & went no contact & moved on with your life👍
thank you so much for these videos I'm at the tail of healing I'm just at that finish line and I'm so thankful that this all wasn't just in my mind! it was a crazy crazy ride dealing with a narc for 10 years since i was 19 but I'm glad i learned so much, I'm still alive and I'm much stronger now! Thank GOD
You are so welcome Ayani. I'm so glad the videos help and that you are feeling stronger and happier.
Much love xx
What an amazing article, great advice Thankyou.. I am nearing to this now. 😟 I look forward to the inner true love, I just hope it's not at a cost.
I’ve been single 14 years hadn’t dated in 3 years . On a dating site a man I knew from a past job messaged me and said he had always been attracted to me but felt I was out of his league, we met and quickly he wanted to have the boyfriend/ girlfriend status.. things went well for weeks, he called every morning , I saw him a couple times a week and on weekends but I was always coming to him , only occasionally he would come to my place and he seemed angry about it..
He grew angry, distant, disrespectful and rude.. his life was all drama , I called him out on his actions and two days later he was back on the dating website...I know this sounds sneaky but after a month of dating I set up a fake profile and messaged him as a random girl , he messaged back the fake profile asking to meet 2 days after I called him out..
I feel devastated, I know he’s not worth it but it still hurts :(
I can understand why it hurts hun. Hurt people hurt people and I would love you to have my free resources Kim, so you can find the answers and the wounds inside to heal for real and be strong in your choices of partner. It all starts with ourselves Dear Lady xoxox www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage.htm
Melanie Tonia Evans thank you
When I asked him if he was hooking up sexually with all the young local women he added as his friends, he ghosted me, posting a meme that said "he's not waiting when people push him away." I was like wtf? I got so physically sick with bronchitis and couldn't talk for three months.
Your videos are very helpful. I really like how your emphasis is on us, ourselves. Your videos have been enormously helpful to me in making sure I’m never on the narcissist’s “snack menu.” (I chuckled at that 😀)
Melanie, thank you so much for this video.
I broke up for less than a week and he is already flaunting to our mutual friends that he has found the love of his life and is going to engage and marry her. Moving things quick with this chick but while I was with him he was always the one suggesting taking things slow.... Also he’s out there spreading bad lies and trying to break my friendship with my close friends. I’m beyond heart broken. Still love him but it just hurts like hell knowing he does everything to maximize the damage even after the breakup.
Update?
@@SheenaAligenerally it's ALWAYS the same pattern...
You were all cheated. Its not ohh he went to a new relationship after 3 days 30 days 2 months. He had that other person there having sex for months you were just blind
It hurts that after all she did to me, I still want the best for her.
You are speaking my life right now. Exactly. How ever will I get past it?
Michaela it is the inner self-partnering and healing that does. I"d love to show you how in a way that will totally make sense www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse xoxox
How truely inspiring you are Melanie. Your work and experiences have made my life that to be so much clearer. I take my own responsibility to heal and know I love myself for who I am .Time invested in me is uplifting. Thankyou for NARP. 💓
Hi Susan, thank you for your kind words. I am so pleased that NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp is helping you so much xoxox
We do not just get over the loss of a true Heart Connection. After 33 years with the “love of my life” - there is no switch to turn off that love.
That empty feeling that comes after Narcissistic Discard has got to be the most horrid feeling of loss and grief there could ever be. There is Inner Healing available - it is all our internal gut instincts and emotions poured out in private - which allow a person - true revelation into what that relationship meant to the Narcissist verses what it meant to the Empath. The relationship was of use of another object or tool to the Narcissist. It was of even subservient Love by the Empath. We are never to be subservient to another human being. Love must always be reciprocated willingly and in private above all.
Narcissists can display / pretend “love” in public - but when you enter into a private space - of intimacy and we allow them to witness our true Authentic Self - it is a scary as hell for the Narcissist who has had nearly every emotion shut down - be at through childhood - or adolescence - or even adulthood.
This video could use a little more of your usual Compassion and Heart Melanie.
Thank you Melanie for another great talk, this just hits home. Your videos are a guiding light to keep ourselves honest and on right path to becoming better. Do you have a patreon?
Hi Supreet you are very welcome, I am glad you enjoy there! No I don't ... it sounds like an interesting concept! xoxo
Supreet Sharma yes it is true. Her videos are my life saver.
I have been through this in the past and faced it i was broken stayed out of relationship and dating for 6 years but still some how attracted another. Now I am going through the same thing all over again
Sam Vaknin says that not forgiving is perfectly normal, where's your PhD? Heal? My anger gives me focus,it makes me stronger, I don't need a partner to be happy, I just need the anger she has left. I will stop her, from destroying others and justice is coming to her, I really don't care who she's with, all I have to know is where she is.
The victory is within
married 25 years. He didn't discard me; I divorced him last year and 7 months later, he married again. He totally downgraded and this was devastating to me because I could not understand why he chose to marry rather than try to change and make our marriage work. How would he feel if I were to get married again?
LVNCSR idk u sound like a narcissist
They always down grade. There reality of attraction is far away from their reality. Another words, they drop a person thinking there is better. You are not good enough. Reality shows that you were really a great catch that they did not appreciate and their pathetic soul can only now attract some one worse. They are pathetic souls. Best to leave them living in their pathetic mind
My was a double sword but I came back to this video for knowledge and to stay focused on me.
So beautifully put, thank you 😊
my ex left me twice, the first time she put the new guy on her fb profile the very next day, invited me over to talk, she had a photo of her and him on the night stand. the second time she left me there was another new guy, they took family photos and posted them all over.
we have a child together. i just find it so strange, its almost like they are not in a relationship for the purpose of being in a relationship, they are in one to get reactions from everyone, posative reactions for their followers or flying monkeys, and they seem to love the negative reactions from everyone who has morals. its like a competition , almost like how someone who loves cars will pop the hood and brag about the engine. they just want to impress people
I watched as her life fell to shambles. Everyone tells me how bad she looks and I just have to smile. Bc I’m doing great
I need to do that as well .sick of social media ! Thanks !
My ex announced his new girlfriend's pregnancy and marriage less than a month after he ghosted me... *wtf*
Thats my story too after 2 years of promising marriage
He is leaving me after 10 years for someone younger. I never thought I would feel so much pain even though I was miserable.
He replaced me with a girl I know. It hurts. I feel she is better than me. Im broken and crushed. I did no contact but broke it by sending him angry messages yesterday. I keep stalking him and her on social media. I feel like im going crazy.
DofL17, my herta goes out to you - I know how painful this is when it happens. I'd love you to come into my free 3 keys workshop www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where I can help you get clarity, releif and your power back. I hope that this helps xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans I just saw this message now and I have registered. Thank you very much
Thank you for that Melanie 😎
My pleasure Empathetic xoxo
Melanie. I love your videos. Thank you
Thank you Elyse, you are so welcome Sweetheart xoxox
I met the King Kong of Narcissist’s. Final level of narcissism. This idiot said to me (after cheating on me several times) “ sweetheart I need to talk to you. It’s someone else. I caught feelings for someone else and I want to be with her” I told him I hated him multiple times. I was literally at the hospital with my mom and I just blocked him. He made a separate account to message me saying he made a mistake he didn’t want to be with her. Then it turned to insults and then threats. So I got scared and talked to him to calm him down. Found out he was at the club when he said he was at home. Didn’t last an hour. Blocked him again. Reminder - all of this is happening with in 48 hours. So I think he’s gone forever because one of the girls he cheated on me with and got pregnant, he proposes to the next morning on the beach. 😂😭🤣 Well the narcissist forgets he’s fucking famous so everyone knows his business so on twitter someone noted “ funny how ____________ got engaged but just took my friend back to the hotel. So then he dumps the fiancé lol and decided to plaster the woman he cheated on me with all over his Instagram. In his bio, he even made a highlight. I was pissed. I felt like he’s doing everything I wanted for her. Except he got to sleep with her. We’ve never been intimate ( Thank God) he sleeps around so much that I would be shocked if he didn’t have anything. Well the new girl disappeared. I also had another fake page of his message me. It was a letter of guilt. ( I’m the only woman the narc feels guilt about) but I didn’t let him know I opened. I was not clearing his conscience. Well the next morning he posted “ his girl “ with flowers. But I noticed he didn’t tag the woman from the bio like he usually does. But what I also noticed is the woman’s nail color had changed. It was a different woman. I’m almost certain. The girl from the bio even deleted her Twitter. I feel she may have been embarrassed not sure. I spoke with him this morning because he had a friend reach out to me. He said that he told her he needed to be alone. Well couldn’t need to be too alone begging to have me back you know. I asked him why didn’t he tell her the truth and he was very dodgy about it. Well then I asked the narcissist to FaceTime because he can never look me in the face. I personally feel he can’t face me. Well he got upset and felt I was trying to set him up so he blocked me and made his friends and family block me to except they know how he is so they actually asked me first. I’m still not sure honestly if he’s a complete narcissist because he actually feels empathy with me. He’s had a lot of trama happen to him recently. But he definitely has issues. I’m hurt but good riddance. I am so exhausted and drained. I felt like I dated a psychopath who almost tried to change for me. He has a good side and bad side. I can’t fight the demons on the bad side and I’m very spiritual. I feel he may reappear hopefully not now but within time. I think I need therapy though. Extreme therapy.
Alexis, big hugs and please know there is relief and healing available for this - in a Quantum way that defies everything we used to believe about abuse recovery. Please come into my free webinar that will explain to you HOW this works - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxox
My ex Narc girl friend had a good thing with me , nice house I owned she had her grand kids round and family (She was all about family..So I thought) We weren't perfect could be volatile but gen she was taken on nice holidays etc..We both made mistakes in first year of relationship, I cheated couple of times whilst she had an affair with my best mate..We got back together drew s line under it , i never done it again..In the end though she lied about working , was seeing new supply while lying about working late etc..She always stalked every inbox and message on my old phone they acquired.. When she finally discarded me for ever she cooked me a meal (That I bought ) and she kissed me good bye left throug the door late at night and never came back..
Hard to see the narc socializing and triangulating you with other females on social media. Do they take pleasure in thinking we are probably watching and upset about it, even though they have discarded us?
Bonnie Irvin yes, they do take pleasure in this because they think that if they can upset you then it means they are important. Sick, sad and true but such an excellent reminder of why we should all be grateful to have them out of our lives!
05.40-06.20 Exactly true how they do😔