Someone didn't watch all the way through hm? Edit:This doesn't deserve likes, it's incorrect, my comment is- But while an egg apron is kinda shitty especially cus she has one already, I think we should also realize she should wake up and understand that a vacation to greece is not gonna help her health. She's kinda entitled about it. She deserves a break but she asks for WAAAY too much for today's world, and her own mental wellbeing. Especially with the planning even if you could afford it
mozart's older sister was a child musical prodigy as well but her parents forced her to quit performing once she reached a "marriageable age", she taught piano until well after her husband's death AND she wrote her own compositions but none of them have survived; the only reason we even know she composed is because there are letters from her brother that praised her work
Except Hannah literally loves her life and wants to live it exactly how she is, or are we just calling her a liar? How exactly is telling a woman how she feels or is supposed to feel, feminist?
@@asiajo999 I literally saw a man yesterday on Swoop's video about Pearl Davis, saying we owe men for "working 12 hours a day growing the food you ungrateful women eat". Oh? So you, a man who has never set foot on a farm, grew, harvested, processed, cooked, and packaged my food? Mm hmm. They sure have the audacity, don't they.
“Women weren’t forced back into the home they were gently lured back inside through the combined efforts of advertisers, academics and politicians who all benefited from maintaining the status quo” THAT HITS.
I was a full-time mom, not because of advertisers or politicians, but yes, partially academics. I wanted to use everything I'd spent a decade learning about child development and parenting to the benefit my child so that she could have a better start than I got. There was a high price because I trusted the wrong man who took advantage of my loss of financial power. It was a huge sacrifice but I wouldn't change it. I think my daughter benefited from the early years I devoted to parenting full-time. I have financial independence now and a better man in my life and am grateful that I got to be home with my daughter to help nurture and shape her early life.
@@Pollergirl I dont think you need to justify yourself, im sure what you did had a positive impact on your daughter, my mum chose the opposite cause my dads a deadbeat so i just basically raised myself and barely saw my mum until i was 18 cause she was at work.dont think it helped in raising me into a productive member of socitety.
“How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos, because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?” Is actually such a FIRE line
It hit me in the face like a truck with how true and painful it is. How many brilliant women were never permitted to reach their potential, simply because they were women?
I hope someday you grow up and realize that cleaning your house is not beneath you. It's actually incredibly snobbish to imply that housework is beneath anybody, and the snobs who hold those attitudes usually end up pushing that work onto someone they deem less of a person, like a child or hired worker.
@@alex_1993 It's not "cleaning the house is beneath us", it's "I want a choice between cleaning and cooking my whole life and going to study a subject or get a different job".
My grandparents were a "traditional" couple. Like, both of them were teenagers during the great depression. My grandfather was considered really progressive for his time, to the point where he lost most of his male friends because they saw him as being "too forgiving" with my grandmother. He almost got KICKED OUT of his bowling group in the 60's, because his teammates found out that he'd given my grandmother written permission to open a bank account. He had to write multiple notarized declarations of permission, and got repeated calls from the bank to make sure he really actually truly wanted to give his wife the legal ability to have her own money. The reason he pushed through? His mother was left destitute and penniless because her husband died of polio, and his youngest brother starved to death because she didn't have any legal right to her dead husband's savings. And she was one of the lucky ones, who had a son old enough to work. My grandfather was ostracized and ridiculed because he made sure his wife and children wouldn't be forced onto the streets to starve or freeze to death if he happened to die.
That's the other side of it I don't see enough people talking about. He could be a good husband but if he dies then the wife and kids are screwed. Though I suppose you could argue he wouldn't truly be a good husband if he didn't have a safety net in place for his wife and kids. Thanks for sharing your story!
@@thinlizzy9032well I don't want to put all the blame on him for that, my family is struggling to have food to eat. We try to keep the staples, but we can't keep them all now. If we have eggs and milk, we don't have bread. If we have bread and milk we don't have eggs. Our boiler broke (not such a big deal we still have cold water) but cannot fix it. We are paycheck to paycheck, one vehicle. We are not able to save money at all. Our house bought for $80,000 in 2002 now worth 100,000 -120,000 supposedly. We have not added anything to it.
Especially since currently a woman running for PRESIDENT is being called a cat lady. I'm sorry but if being a cat lady means I get the spotlight for running for president and am successful in life- it's not an insult anymore.
Its made scary to young girls so the boys that become men never have to consider for a moment why their behavior might make a woman favor the company of cats over a man
@@kingclong3227being a cat lady really is always shown as "nobody loves her, so her house is overrun with cats, and this crazy old lady is gonna die alone" Rather than what a normal cat person would be, which is someone who just likes cats
@@kingclong3227ironic because when you call me incels it's still a womens fault for not wanting to be with them and a man dying alone is treated as a "loneliness epidemic"
Something I learned in college (bc yk women and afabs can actually do that now) is a story called "Susanna and the Elders". A woman bathing in a bathhouse was SAed by 2 men, they tried to blackmail her into saying yes bc they said if she said no they would lie and tell everyone she said yes anyway. Despite this she said no. The story has been painted many times, but by men depicting the story as enjoyable or sensual for Susanna. Well in 1610, Artemisia Gentileschi, the daughter of a well known painter and a survivor of SA painted her depiction of "Susanna and the Elders", which portrayed Susanna as rightfully uncomfortable and fighting off her assailants. It's an incredible piece, but to this day people argue that it was her father that painted it and just gave her credit. Her father not only taught her how to paint, but he was able to be one of the first to sue someone for SA. At the time SA and Grape weren't illegal so he found another way to sue her abuser. She was unmarried and so technically she was considered still her father's "property", so he sued him for damage of personal property, which worked! All of this to say that feminism did more than allow women to work. Women can now sue their abusers and not have to rely on the empathetic men in their lives to care enough do it for them. Women can create incredible art and accomplishments and be credited for them instead of people still trying to find a way to credit it to a man in her life. Women are not seen as just property to be damaged and nothing more
I do appreciate discussion on Artemisia, since she was an astounding painter and her work is amazing, but it should be noted that the painting of Susanna was in 1610 and her assault happened in 1611. Something else important to note is that the main point of the trial wasn't even the assault. Its that her assaulter didn't marry her afterwards. Her father went to court 9 months after the incident because he refused to marry her.
That story is on the Catholic canon of scripture as part of the book of Daniel, and it's very clear that Susanna is being presented in the text as a woman who was being assaulted, and that the men wanted in addition to frame her for adultery. You can read it for free in any online Catholic Bible. To paint her as being significantly tempted by the men is absolutely contrary to the biblical account. I'm kinda shocked if pervious depictions of Susanna presented her this way as opposed to Gentileschi's depiction.
Apparently she doesn't own a dictionary however. If I had a dime for every ignorant person I know who thinks Feminist= man hater I would be a millionaire 😂
According to these women anyone who can cook isn't a feminist? Does that include men ? Or does a man being able to make his own meals automatically make him a feminist? 😂 I am having trouble keeping up.
My grandma graduated highschool in the late 60s. She was planning to go to college, but then she met with her school guidance counselor. He told her that she wasn't smart enough for college, and her only hope was to get married to a man who could support her. So that's what she did. Then at 60 she finally decided to go to college. When she graduated she said she wished that old counselor was still alive so she could tell him to suck it. At her next high-school reunion she got to talking to some other women, and it turns out he had discouraged all the girls from going to school and told them all to be housewives.
Imagine how many young girls he affected, and potential guidance counselors with similar views... ): I'm so happy for your grandma tho! I would be proud to be her grandkid if I were you
I'm (I think) a feminist, and my mom (a self-employed girlboss) taught me to cook when I was little, it's a good skill, my grandma (college professor) says some college kids can't even cook, so it's good to know
The way society teaches kids that being single and living a peaceful life with your pets is worse than being stuck in an abusive environment where you don't have any choice or shred of independence whatsoever is wild. Why are a few side-eyes from the neighbours considered worse that being raped, beaten and held on a leash by a spouse who thinks it's their right to impose their will on you?
My biggest pet peeve is people acting like all feminism did was make us get jobs. As if it didn't also give us the right to: Vote, get divorced, bodily autonomy, financial freedom, legal protection, and so much more... yeah work sucks but everyday I wake up glad knowing my dad or husband doesn't legally own me.
It also gave us the right to start our own business (that we own!), own property, and become social media influencers. ... Yeah, those women wouldn't even be able to publicly say they hate feminism if feminists hadn't fought hard to ensure they had the right to do so.
Also, work sucks because of capitalism, not feminism. A lot of conservative men talk like stay at home wives have it all because they don't have to work, but never think about changing the work culture to be more bearable and less soul crushing
And woman didn't work because of feminisme. They always did exept the one in very wealthy family. The stay home mom / wife come from industrial age, at the same time of the raise of capitalisme ...
The economy is what forced women to work. If the economy wasn't such trash then women could be stay at home moms. The only reason women are "forced to work" is because single income households no longer are viable for the average person (in America). No I'm not saying women shouldn't be allowed to work, But if women want to be stay at home moms of their own free choice, it sucks that a lot of them don't have that option because of how bad the economy is and they are forced to work to support the household and don't have the time to raise their children and do home-cooked meals. No not all women should be stay-at-home moms, But it sucks that the economy has taken that option away from many women that would want that life. I'm nowhere near the trad wife scene, I've been working since I was 12 years old, I started that early doing manual physical labor (by my own choice because I wanted the money) I've done tons of physical labor jobs, whenever I've been out of work due to surgery recently it's drove me absolutely crazy. I cook and clean and don't do much else while I'm healing and it makes me crazy. I'm sure that there are women that truly want to be stay at home wives/mothers, That never has been and will never be me. But I support people having options. Also there is the option that a woman is a mostly stay-at-home wife/mother and them also having a part-time or work from home job. It doesn't have to be "The woman has to be a construction worker or she has to be a brood mare"
Psychology student here , once one of our professors was talking about how helpless he was in the kitchen and would cut or burn himself, and I was like, do you think we were just born with pans and cookbooks in our hands? Context: The topic was women working, and he was saying men are bad at cooking and cleaning because they are not cut out for it and better to leave them alone so they can work in workplaces where they do better.also he was saying women working in workplaces causes them too much stress to handle and it's okay for them to relay on their partner because when women work they want a divorce in the smallest inconvenience. Sorry to disappoint, but I didn't just write a joke that my professor told us and try to make it look bad. I wish more than anyone that a psychology professor wouldn't think this way and try to teach it to others.
Trapping a woman on a flight until she does what you want IS the plot of a horror movie, I think it’s called Red Eye, starring Rachel McAdams and Cillian Murphy
I always thought that was a cringe movie so I don't think it's similar. I reckon that Hannah thought that was romantic if anything It's sad. She was so young
Yes! I thought of that movie too!It’s funny too because the trailer for that movie kinda plays it like it’s a romcom for a bit, but then turns to “this is an obvious horror movie” pretty quickly because IT IS! I wish we’d stop romanticizing stalking.
Funky's ability to go from a masculine outfit to a feminine one and look cool as fuck both ways is something I think we all aspire to Edit: Jesus Christ I'm just saying I dont look good in both and I wish i did how do i have people saying I'm pushing gender roles and then other people saying I'm a woke piece of shit can yall chill
To be honest, I initially didn't realize that Nancy was her. EDIT: Oops, have not been here long enough to know that funky uses they/them pronouns. Sorry for the mistake. Thanks for all the polite corrections.
Tried this with my aunt (who is 71) She said she thought the video was good but was too harsh about the traditional lifestyle because it works out for some women, but there is a risk they end up like her friend (who's life qas takenfrom DV years ago) keep in mind, my aunt is divorced because of DV from her trad husband. I asked her if she knew anyone personally who this lifestyle worked out for without ever experiencing some type of abuse, she said no but she "has seen people in the media" who it worked out for. I think it's still hard for her to let go of the years of conditioning.
I heard one time "If you want a stay-at-home wife you should hand her half of your paycheck. If you don't want to do that, than you don't want a stay-at-home wife but a slave. Because cooks, cleaners, babysitters and teachers gets payed."
I say something similar. Be prepared to man up as the tradhusband and hand over your *entire* paycheck to your tradwife because the homemaker is responsible for paying the bills. As the breadwinner, *you* work for *her* household.
If the wife wants to do it, she doesn't need to get paid. It's her decision. No one is forcing her. My father, was a stay at home dad for a few years and my mum obviously didn't pay him either. She paid the bills, he didn't. Some people/ women sometimes really think they deserve applause and recommendation for every little thing. In relationships you talk to your partner and take roles, this isn't some form of boss and worker basis. It's an open communication. If you don't want to do it, you don't have to do it.
@@milli3377 I dunno, expecting every single income household to be the same to how yours was is unrealistic and tbh very unfair. Different households have different needs and circumstances. It’s good that in your house your mom had the time and money to do all the chores that required the handling of money, like paying the bills, gas for the car, buying food and other necessities, but not all the distribution of chores are the same for every house, and you should keep that in mind. It’s unrealistic to expect someone to do all that labor with the share of money needed/expected for it, and it’s unfair to think of that as non-deserved entitlement.
Ok but can we talk about this part? 4:32 that moment where the small picture of the ballerina was above the stove was pretty unnoticeable, but after funky frog bait overanalyzed it… that was just so heartbreaking.
I told my 93 year old grandmother about the trad wife movement. She was shocked that young women romantizise the "old times". She laughed at the idea that stay at home wives have a relaxing, carefree life. She never worked less than her husband, but more, tending to the land their families survival depended on, doing repairs and handywork around the house, caring for her children, all that while also constantly being pregnant! She's so happy that women today have other choices now, that she could raise her daughters differently than how she was raised. I grew up surrounded by strong, female rolemodels and will be forever thankful for that.
Same for my grandma. If there's one thing she regretted in life was not being able to have an education and a career. She always told me to study so I can be independent.
Right?? Both my grandmas couldn’t finish their education because of duties they were expected to do in their families and then were married off and had kids before they knew it. One wanted to be a doctor and the other a dietitian and possibly if she hadve grown up in the right time, an animator. I can’t help but feel these influencers either don’t talk much to their grandparents, they’ve passed, or have very strong religious ties
Same with my grandparents. They were born in 1915 and 1917. He provided wonderfully, but she had to quit her teaching job that she LOVEDl not long after they got married because she was pregnant. The thing was, she actually came from money, but it all went to her brothers. She was president of the PTA, Den Mother for my moms and uncles boy/girl scout troops (took both boys and girls camping, taught them to cook, sew, start a fire, all of it! ), president of the garden club, treasurer of the thier church and "ladies" lion club, gave homemaking lessons out the house to young/teen mothers, Army FRG leader (he was a Lt. Col), just so many amazing things! She git paid for lessons but mainly all volunteer work because women belonged in the home. My Grandfather let her soar as much as society would let him without criticism. And finally in the late 70s was able to get a job at the schol administration Office. She was the strongest, kindest, most beautiful soul. They both told me to do everything thing you can to make your place in this world and bring as many people with me. I miss them terribly!!!
My grandma has always been a super mom (she was a stay at home mom) but she would occasionally work for the church, the other day she told me that I shouldn’t rely on a man and that she wishes she could of had a better chance of getting a job.
I saw a person in one of tiktok's comment section say "She's the ballerina in his jewelry box that he keeps at his bed's side" and since ive read this, it never left my brain UPDATE : I'm glad everyone is as shocked as I was when I read this. And I'm happy I shared it and it became this whole thread.
@@l0vesick666 A lot of jewelry boxes have a little twist thing so that when the box opens, a little ballerina will spin while music plays. The ballerina will only spin when the box is opened though, even if the knob is twisted while it is closed. To add to the metaphor: the music will sound more tired as the years go by but the ballerina still spins
"How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?" Hits especially hard when you know that Einstein's wife was also a scientist and that Mozart's sister also was a piano prodigy, even going as far as composing songs for her younger brother to learn the piano.
Yes. And the excuse of "every successful man has a strong woman behind them" sounds completely innocent and empowering, until you dig deeper into it. Nobody should be excused of doing their most basic chores (unless they are physically limited) just because they are a 'genius' or successful. This mindset also pushes the idea that woman CAN'T be successful themselves, because they are already busy 'supporting' their partners, which again, was proven wrong by countless women in history. It's honnestly saddening that many people still have this mindset.
Right? Einstein's wife helped him with many of his works and Mozarts sister contributed to helping her brother learn the piano. And yet, I don't even know their names.
There aren’t any more Einstein‘s or Mozart’s because they already were the founders who propelled evolution and technological advancements, plus you can be a traditional wife and go after your dreams easier when somebody else is paying all your bills. Being wrapped up in a soul sucking job isn’t the be-all end-all especially when these folks are letting other people raise their children then wonder why their children end up on drugs not knowing what they want to do with their life, no aim, then abandons them in their old years or sending them to nursing homes because they are spiteful having never gotten the proper guidance by a mom when they were younger
as someone who was raised by a traditional set of grandparents it’s insane how behind my grandma is, she didn’t make it past the third grade from having to work in the kitchen and take care of her siblings. When I was younger she would tell me her dreams on wanting to become a fashion designer but were quickly shot down from not being able to receive basic education, at 15 she married my grandpa and had her first out of eight children. Growing up I never saw my grandpa cook for me maybe only once when my grandma was really sick, he did mostly yard work or building or fixing the house. My grandma never learned to drive, she had to teach herself to read and write. But from what she told me from their early years of marriage my grandpa would cheat, come home drunk, abuse her and their kids but was never able to speak out against for fear of losing what she knows and being alone. Now seeing the trad wife trends continue to rise in popularity it genuinely hurts since as being a woman of color and thinking to all my grandmas and their mothers how they fought for equality just for it to reverse back, it really is sad.
I was yelled at when I was ten years old for not knowing how to crack an egg. A family member said I’ll never get a husband if I couldn’t do it. Now I’m an adult and the men I work with in food service can’t even clean a dish or mop the floor. I’m assuming they didn’t have anyone to yell at or demean them.
33:14 "More good women have been lost to marriage than war, famine, disease and disaster" - A fictional character that gilrbossed hard but had an affinity for animal cruelty, but she had a fucking point. It's a very good quote to ponder while you lie awake in bed at 2AM. Ballerina farmhouse tradwife and countless others prove this.
@@changa_sk4524 thanks all of you who replied. Makes sense, it probably was reused in it, or i just had an epiphany and memories mixed, lol. Thanks again :)
That "Your welcome." from the husband was so passive aggressive it made me physically cringe. Just because she's willing to ignore the red flags doesn't mean we can't be concerned about them for her.
Great, you can be a narcissist who keeps everyone in terror during every holiday because you can't be satisfied with a gift. Those people definitely live happy and fulfilling lives.
@@alex_1993Today I learned that subdued disappointment = “keeping everyone in terror over the holidays” and expecting your husband to care about you = narcissism. Don’t be disingenuous. You know exactly why the gift he got her was insulting.
i’ve finally found my favourite youtuber who talks about all the things i WISH i could talk about with my friends. please never stop making content, i feel so safe here
You cannot convince me that stupid apron wasn't a punishment to her for daring to ask for anything for herself. And/or he's jealous she's the famous one and not him.
Fr! And you can't tell me that that apron was more than maybe 30 bucks. This rich ass man, with rich ass parents who OWN AIRLINES.... couldn't afford a plane ticket? Bro couldn't shell out some money for an actually meaningful gift? Plus, she only got one gift! Like imagine looking forward to a trip to Greece and your husband is like "errmm actually, here's an apron. Happy birthday!"
@@KeroniKnowsYourSecrets Honestly, he could literally smother her in gifts and affection. He could give her anything she wants and have a full on dudley dursley style birthday celebration with 37 instead of 36 gifts. Instead he gave her an apron. I get that you dont have to give someone everything they want to be in love but they are genuinely in a place where they can most of what they want. No fuss or problems. Why not let her have a trip or something nice?
@@KeroniKnowsYourSecrets apparently it was a package she bought for herself that had just been delivered, and he just gave it to her pretending it was a gift he bought her. And then he said “you’re welcome” Absolute scumbag
My grandma was raised in a conservative family in the asscrack of France (even for the time, her family was considered conservative). She grew up to be a housewife, as a kid she did ALL of the chores around the house, her mother didn’t contribute to anything and lived of her husband’s will. Her brother was the ´perfect child’, he didn’t have to do anything in the house and was always in the right no matter what. When she started working as a teen, her mother would literally take away the little pay she earned. (Please note that they were pretty well off, I’d say upper middle class.) Then, she married my grandpa, who worked as a mailman and came from a poor family. So, of course, no one approved of this marriage. She raised my mother and uncle as best she could while working as a mailwoman. She cooked, clean, took care of the kids, did everything. And after her two kids moved out, she got a divorce. She spent the 30/40 first years of her life sacrificing herself for others, she was everything a traditional man could’ve asked for. But as soon as she divorced and didn’t have to care for anyone but herself, she finally started to live and did everything she couldn’t do as a teen. And now, at 82 years old, she’s free, she remarried with a man who actually helps her around the house, supports her. She has a huge group of friends, goes on small trips across the country, has hundreds of books (she wasn’t allowed to read as a kid, or get an education). She’s a fan of history, weird criminal tv shows and heroic fantasy. Being a woman took away half of her life, and she’s now spending the other half being happy. Love you mamie Monique
This made me tear up, because I see some of these themes in my grandparents and parents marriages. I’m just t happy that my parents at least FINALLY divorced.
@@phillipschouw2462 I would point out that no piece of media is free from bias. In fact, no person is free from bias. The best way to have an objective view of what the world thinks, if that is what you wish, is to listen to a multitude of opinions.
thank you so much for this video. i actually bawled like 4 different times lol. i’m so glad i’m only 17 and learning this before it’s too late unlike my mom. every day i see the shit she has to go through with my dad and my siblings and it’s just the fact she was born and raised in a mormon household.
I was a trad wife. He left me for a stripper. He took everything I own (including my toothbrush and the lightbulbs out of the fixtures "because he paid for them"). He left me with no car, no money (he turned off all of my cards and locked me out of our accounts), and no job or prospects. I got a tattoo to commemorate that time... it says, "Never Again."
But how? If you were his wife then by law everything should be 50-50 if you separate, it doesn't matter who paid for what. What he did is illegal and you can go to court. And if you can also prove that he left you for a stripper then he might even have to pay you alimony since it's illegal to cheat if married. (although this may vary depending on where you live). Usually the court will be in favor of the woman especially if the man was the one braking the marriage by cheating. Honestly, you should not let him get away like this, he needs to understand that his actions have consequences and needs to pay.
@@julimibzI obviously can't speak to OPs specific experience but if you're in an isolating and abusive relationship, you're often without the time, resources, knowledge and support needed to actually pursue justice
My parents met when my mom was 14 and my dad was in his early twenties. My mom was supposed to go to Harvard but my dad didn’t let her, my mom was 19 when she got married and when she was 20 she got pregnant with me then 2 years later had my little brother. I think the biggest punch in the face was that after years of abuse and cheating my dad was the one who left, not my mom. I watched her gain her education from the ground up after we moved in with my grandparents, she is now a veterinarian. I couldn't be prouder of her.
That's real as hell, my mum has a similar story. It's evident to me that these women who romanticise the trad-wife movement have never met anyone who's experienced abuse, they all seem very naive & privileged.
How resilient. Thank goodness for the grandparents. Otherwise she would have to start from zero. So happy for her. But sadly she is not the norm for what happens to women who go through that.
Additionally about the egg apron - she ordered that. Thats why she goes "My egg apron!" She had ordered that for herself. Her husband just took the parcel and presented it to her as his gift.
@@wyleecoyotee4252 nothing it seems. he maybe gave her gifts off camera, but frankly it seems like social suicide to not show the actual gifts you got your wife after doing that so it's really leaning towards "she got jack shit"
I get that that may have been what she wanted for her day to day life but she made it OBVIOUS that she wanted to travel for her birthday, so that was an issue that should have been cleared up cause they did act as if that was a gift that he bought for her, specifically for her birthday.
This is so well put. All of it. Growing up and being taught that its okay for men to abusive and contribute nothing to a relationship while being taught to take care of the house has always confused me. The silent suffering people adore and idiolize is painful to watch. It's nice to see a video with so much naunce often I havent seen people talk about the religious affects and I think it was wonderfully put.
In my opinion I think it's just men who have formed that negative perspective of what a "traditional marriage should be" I think that there's some scriptures about this topic in the bible has be misinterpreted and re-written in the perspectives of men of how they view traditional marriages and women in general. The only thing I can do rn is pray to understand the bible NOT in a man's (i'm talking males) perspective I'm sick of it. All of it feels off and I won't be afraid to admit that as a Christian
I love the acting, especially when Nancy screamed “GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” that was insane. And the line “how many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts have bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being a woman” LITERALLY SENT CHILLS DOWN MY BACK
It did happen, many wife had their works stolen and were send to psychiatric hospital if they were to "hard to handle". Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart was inspired by his sister, Maria Anna Mozart. She was a child prodigy too and there is evidence that Maria wrote musical compositions, but none survived. When she reached a marriageable age, her musical career was terminated. She was permitted to be a piano teacher.
Let's not forget the idea that no woman could ever be another Shakespeare. I don't know the exact quote or who said it, but I know I've read it. It ignored the fact that for centuries, women were far less educated than men, in favor of asserting that women lacked the psychological and emotional depth, intelligence, skill, and talent of men. Yet this is obviously an unfair assessment. Even if you firmly believe that Shakespeare himself was a common man and don't entertain the theories that his name was used as a cover story/pen name for some higher-status playwright, he would've had a much easier time gaining knowledge of the world through education, self-education, and travel than a woman of the time would have done. Imagine a world where women had been granted the same freedom of movement and education that Shakespeare had. We would have likely had at least one who reached Shakespeare's level of fame. That's ignoring the theories I've seen that involve the possibility that Shakespeare was used as a cover story for a woman playwright. I don't have a particularly strong opinion on the legitimacy of Shakespeare as an author vs. as a pen name one way or another, regardless whether the plays are attributed to a woman, a nobleman, a merchant, etc.; there's too little evidence available, and what is available tends to be circumstantial. There are many historical women authors and artists who are barely or not at all remembered today, even though their works were often every bit as good as their male counterparts' of the time (or better). But there weren't as many as men precisely because of their expected role in society and because they were denied the education and training that would have helped more women excel.
You forgot to mention that sometimes even the best husbands can die and be bad at managing money, leaving you with nothing and a bunch of kids and no marketable skills or job experience.
This. I was looking for someone saying this. You can be 100% convinced your husband is a good man and would never treat you wrong but how can you be sure he’s not going to get seriously ill or even die and leave you with your kids alone without any income, it’s just irresponsible.
Adding onto this absolutely correct post, he might also have medical trouble down the line. People get sick, get hurt, get disabled all the time, and husbands and fathers are not exempt. If this happens, not only would a housewife have a stale resumé, family to feed, and normal bills to pay, she would also have medical expenses, while having (at least temporarily) lost his income during an already stressful season of their lives. Those are times that are hard for anyone and made much easier by her having her own pre-established source of income to rely on. Having multiple sources of income provides security, which is important for anyone, but especially children.
My mother was a nurse but never handled the finances so when my father died she turn to my husband. This made me realize, as a stay at home mom, what will I do when he’s gone? I know nothing about finances! I’m working on that. 🤞
@@bobfearnley5724 life insurance is a good option, but that's assuming that you have the means to pay the premiums for it or relying on your husband to set that up on his own.
The idea that women might not feel safe telling their husbands who they voted for or the idea that they would even be asked such a question at all is horrible
I have asked that of my partner but the reason is so that I could hear and try to understand their reasoning in case there's something I've missed in my own thoughts. I don't think the question itself is bad at all, but the motive definitely can be (and sadly usually is). She didn't actually answer me who, which is fine too, but we did have a conversation about the reasoning so the person didn't actually much matter
Several years back, my husband and I had gone to our local polling spot to vote in a presidential election. He had gone ahead of me because I was having trouble digging my license out of my billfold. With that accomplished, I stepped up to show my ID and receive my ballot sheet. The woman who was taking my info was an elderly lady, probably in her early 80's. I gave her my license and she commented on the address being the same and I verified that she had also registered my husband. She looked at my voter designation, looked back up at me and proceeded to ask me if I "truly understood" that my husband's vote would cancel out my vote because we were registered with different parties...did I want her to change my party affiliation so my vote would be counted. I guess I looked a little strange at that moment because she then told me that most wives follow the guidance of their husband's and vote the same party line. I asked her why my vote would be cancelled over my husband...she got a smirky smile on her face and said it was because he was the head of the household and his vote counted more than mine. I told her I would take my chances and no, I didn't want to change parties. She gave a long sigh, said it was too bad I didn't feel comfortable being guided by my husband and she would pray for me. Now....this was in the early 2000's. I had not stepped back in time. I did confirm with another poll worker that what I was told was completely incorrect and they would speak with the volunteer. But to think that, in the 21st century, women still believed a line of horse poop like what she shoveled at me was both sad and infuriating. So for this trend to currently be so glamorized on TikTok....I am terrified for the future of my granddaughter 😢
Mozart and his sister, Maria, were musical prodigies, and Mozart himself said that she was a genius and a much better musician on the harp than he was. Maria by age 12 was considered a child prodigy who toured Europe, and people said that her brother must’ve learned from her. Her father, when she became a teenager, forced her to stop playing. He sent her home, and forced her to marry. While Mozart went on to become the common name, Maria could’ve been beside him. But she wasn’t, because she had the misfortune of being born a woman. She died alone at age 78. Even now, it’s “Mozart’s Sister”, not Maria Anna Mozart.
Tbh, she did not have the misfortune of being born a woman, she had the misfortune of being born to a horrible father. :( Being a woman is one of the most wonderful experiences life can offer. It brims with creativity, intelligence, depth, compassion, unity, artistry, complexity, inspiration and so much of feeling and smelling ✨pretty✨. It is the people terrified of our beauty and power that make it vile instead, sadly.
@@sowshanmostafa3671 Mozart was born to the same father, and was allowed to continue with music and become a famous composer. Maria Anna was not. The Father is a common factor. The difference is that she was female.
@@sowshanmostafa3671 I feel this is a bit biased? I thought both genders were supposed to be a 50/50 on power/deserved love/respect. I wouldn't say terrified i would more say humans who decided they want power against the other humans is it not? Who said we dudes were terrified? It seems a bit more like we had a lot of power, and still have a large social leverage on others in comparison to a small degree. Not every women is better then every guy and vise versa other gender. I mean you deserve to have free will but you also deserve to understand what the 2 choices really mean instead of having the pressures put on to do the one thing your choice was trying to avoid. Well what do i know im just some random 14 year old on the internet you can't really call me a credible source can you?
44-year-old here 🤚 watching from a motel, jobless and homeless atm, because after leaving my good job in a hospital and dedicating years to raising a family and supporting a husbands needs, he had a psychotic meltdown and kicked me and our last, minor, elementary school child out. I will never allow my safety, health, welfare, and roof over my head to be dependent on someone else ever again! THAT is feminism.
I am so sorry!! I hope you know how strong and capable you are! But also that you do not have to always be strong in such a situation. Wishing peace for you!! ❤️
“Crazy single cat ladies” if these people saw a single guy with a dog they would applaud him for financially being able to support having a house and a dog
Ah... Definitely not, he would be surely treated as a virgin loser or as a toxic guy, even if he's neither of both, haters will be hates regardless of your gender.
1:19 the mad respect I have for FunkyFrogBait is unreal. Most influencers wouldn’t care about the future of the child, or the internet-based chaos that not blurring the face of the child could cause, while FunkyFrogBait actually cares enough to take a bit and edit out the child’s appearance. Maybe there are some real gems on the internet. ☺️
The concept of a Trad Wife isn't even traditional. Historically women have had to work, especially impoverished women. They worked in agriculture, at the markets, as maids and servants and of course as adult workers. Even children had to work so their family could eat. Even during the twentieth century, women went to work in the factories because the men were fighting abroad. As for the upper classes and the women who didn't need to work, their children were mostly raised by nannies. The idea that a woman stays at home to raise her children alone is completely new and is only reinforced as a way to control women.
I agree! Enola Holmes and Enola Holmes 2 on Netflix (mostly the sequel) display this I think. One of the main plot points of number 2 is that young women and CHILDREN are DYING in match factories because a chemical in the matches was causing typhus, and they would get sick and die.
“Feminism bad 👹😡” Did we conveniently forget that prior to the legalisation of divorce women were just straight up sent to the grave if their husbands wanted to get remarried.
It's not his fault if he got a defective one. People forget that prior to 1970, women did not have the little recycle triangle symbol on the bottom of their right foot. So a man who wanted a fresh start was left with having to wait for the twice yearly wife-goods curb pickup, or taking care of the disposal himself.
@@paulpinecone2464 Breaking News. Local man implies women deserved to be killed if their husbands didn't like them enough. Genuinely thinks it's a good argument.
using your father to book a plane ticket next to a woman who has turned you down for 6 months, to essentially force interactions between you two onto her, is actually psychotic and terrifying. i’d think i was about to be murdered or am being stalked …
4:23 shit like selfishly refusing to hire a nanny for your eight kids when you’re beyond rich and can easily afford it (and a Greece vacation for your wife), and controlling your wife’s choice to use pain meds during all of her births, is SO ABUSIVE
And the kicker is, I personally know half a dozen women like this who were either cheated on or left when the husband found someone new. The babies that this woman is monetizing won’t stay young forever and neither will she. How many options will she have then if he leaves (and I wonder how much of what they own is in her name as well).
To people who idealize the 50s, women could not open up their own bank accounts or take out loans until 1974 with “The Equal Credit Opportunity Act (ECOA) of 1974”.
Also the top marginal tax rate was as high as 94% and the corporate tax rate was over 50%. I wonder if that has anything to do with the strength of the middle class at the time 🤔
okay but can we talk about the cool drawings that appear throughout the video? They’re well drawn with a goofy, cartoony style that’s really appealing. Can we PLEASE see more of these doodles?
I'm a woman and I'm terrified for my future. Remember ladies, you don't have to tell anyone who you voted for. THATS YOUR RIGHT; that feminism rewarded you.
Man, it's not even fun to make fun of the US anymore. :-/ As an Europoor I really hope you can sort that out, although I don't really see how. Best of luck! (I must admit though, that a tiny part in me thinks that it could help as a warning for us here, at least?)
It's so important to reiterate: feminism is not telling all these women they are living their lives wrong. Feminism is letting them know that they have the choice to be who they want to be. I don't want to go to work either, that's not the fault of feminism, that's just how the world works now. Men hate working too.
Yep. Women (and men) NEEDING to work to survive (and thus not really having a choice between homemaker and worker) isn't the fault of feminism, it's the fault of capitalism. The vast majority of households with children simply can't survive on one paycheck these days. This lady can only make that choice because her husband is rich AF.
@@Marzi29 Id still choose to work over being a homemaker. Not every woman is "forced to work because her husband is poor". Women just want to be independent people too.
When I was 14, I told an uncle of mine that I wanted to be a chef, told him all the things I wanted do as a chef. When he agreed with me, I thought he was being supportive until he said that I should learn how to cook like a chef so I can make my future husband happy. No matter what I said what my dreams are, he will make it about how much it would benefit whoever married me-not myself only.
I wish you could give your uncle a massive middle finger and hope for the best on your endeavor as a chef! Jesus, they want yiu to marry a man who can’t cook for himself and expect you to do it for him? Hard pass.
The disgusted look my cousin, who was a teenage girl at the time, made when her Trad wife mother served instant potatoes instead of homemade haunts me to this day. It's not just the husband, it is baked into the fabric of their lifestyle in every imaginable sense.
I'm glad my man understands if I'm tired we're having kraft Mac and cheese with hot dogs in it lol. (I normally cook because I like fresh food that's been recently made) But he knows, he gets What I cook and if he doesn't want that he can sort it out himself lol.
@@shadowsoulless6227 I’m so glad to hear that! When I’m tired, I make instant potatoes for a side or toss a frozen meal in the oven. I can’t imagine being judge by the whole family for taking a short cut! Kinda similar to you said but if my siblings don’t like what I make, they can make something up themselves haha
Another crazy point to consider is that the Bible doesn’t even promote women being helpless and completely relying on men for absolutely everything. There are many examples of strong women who hold business roles, government/leadership roles, etc. in the Bible. So the people who are essentially trapping their wives with the ideology that they need to give up their dreams and do nothing but homemake are solely doing that for personal gain no matter what label they try to stick on it
Oh most definitely! Very funny to see people who use the religion where the main character surrounds himself in respectful and (mostly) selfless young men and intelligent strong wealthy women to promote the exact opposite. My mother enjoys talking about how Jesus chose to reveal himself to the women first as well as how God chose Joseph (the man who when he found out his fiancé was pregnant with another’s child, instead of immediately having his neighborhood stone her to death publicly like most men would, said he would let her leave him quietly) to be the man to help raise His son. I personally think the story where Jesus scolded Martha for acting like a good woman and staying in the kitchen, especially in the context of Rabbi not teaching women. Jesus was definitely about as feminist as it gets.
Yes this is my favorite thing!!!! If anyone reading this comment hasn’t read the story of Deborah, in Judges 4, PLEASE go and read it. I LOVE that story cause it has not one, but TWO women who defy the expectations of the traditional standard at the time, and they get the credit they deserve. For anyone who’s briefly curious: Deborah delivers a message to an army general saying to go conquer an enemy general and that the Lord will be with him. He doubts she’s speaking from the Lord (imo it’s just simply because she’s a woman) and as a result, she tells him he won’t get the glory for taking down the enemy and that it’ll go to a woman instead. Which is like, the biggest roast she could’ve delivered, considering how they viewed women in that time! And that’s not even the best part! Seriously, it’s one the SICKEST stories of women in the first part of the Bible.
My mom was sadly a victim of these ideals. When I was 5 my dad forced her to put in her two weeks at her job (even writing the resignation himself) so she could take care of me despite not having a job himself. When he got a job again, she still stayed home with me while he controlled the finances. It got so bad to where we would be grocery shopping and anything that wasn't on the list that we needed my mom had to call him and ask permission to get it. When he divorced her, she was left with nothing and had to claw her way to having a job and being able to take care of me full time. A lot of these trad lifestyle supporters will never understand just how damaging it is for one person to have the ability to leave the other with nothing.
These women all think they are different. They are special. They did all the right things so that kind of thing would cover happen to them. That outcome is only for the bad ones. And then they get left for a younger model.
Funky Frog's haircut is that of either a band member of an 80s glam rock group or a newyorka' in a movie who's either the inattentive receptionist or a stock trader with giant shoulder pads.
the mozart mention actually hits if you know how talented his sister was (according to himself she was a genuis and way more amazing musician than him) but never got to even release a single composition of hers bc their father wouldn't let her 😭
And?how tf would that change anyones life? Go to poor countries and ask them for mozarts or any of these,people are busy with their own lives and taking care of family and making htem into good people.audacity of mentioning mozart while you have the bs music industry today,like you know any of mozarts pieces
@@puch9830how are you so angry man😭 you are getting ignored by everyone you reply to, like what you just wrote doesn't even make sense or has anything to do with anything the comment originally said, get a job man
@@puch9830what’s with the hate? Learning history is good, and learning women’s history is probably a subject that should be taught in schools, as well as black history, lgbtq history, and so much more, we already know white history, the rich are the ones who wrote history books, and who were the rich people? Whites. Get a fucking grip, and pull your head out of your ass, why do people need to know any of motzarts shit songs to be able to criticize or critique what his family did to his sister, when EVEN MOTART acknowledged his sister was better than he was. Go troll somewhere else, fucking weirdo.
A reminder from Dylan Marron: "Empathy is not Endorsement." Your empathy and understanding is not and SHOULD NOT BE limited to people you agree with. You can feel for someone and still know they're wrong.
Honestly I find empathy for people who make thinking flaws to be the most educational for myself. Because by getting a gut feeling for how and why other people make decisions that I myself know (or think to know) to be wrong, I can more reasily find the flaws in my own thinking and perhaps even forgive myself for it.
The amount of times I’ve run into something like this - two things can exist at once. For example: you can do good in a game and still lose, you can critique something (whether it’s a show, a person, or a character) and still like it, you can try and explain someone’s actions and not be defending/excusing them, and like you said, you can feel for someone and still think they’re in the wrong. People who think otherwise make me, someone who’s not even an adult yet, very sad to think about :(
You're confusing empathy and approval. I don't approve of that "Trad wife" I don't approve because I've been there. I had to plan 5 years secretly... An still was hurt leaving... So I love me now.... He froze to death.... Cuz God must not like ugly🤷🏼♀️... I'm grateful my kids are grown and healed.. an love rules the day!! Kindness empathy ext... But self love means no one can tell you lies about who I are... 🤷🏼♀️
Wrong. Been a homemaker for 28 years now. I've had college at my fingertips with the GI bill. I loved being a sahm. My babies are grown now and I'm going on my 19th cruise next week. I have a beautiful home and my dream vehicle.
@@HillbiillyPrincessno hate honestly happy it worked out for you queen but i don’t believe you would have access to those benefits had it not been for the strides in feminism over the past 5 decades ❤
The horror movie where a powerful guy pulls strings so he can sit next to a specific woman on a plane in order to use her is called "red eye". You were close with ' the flight' though props.
What's crazy is that there are so many women that have this weird Cinderella complex of "Well if he truly loves you he will chase you down" No, A man should not be hunting you like you're an animal....like NOOOOO
“Why would I want to have a job” oh idk maybe if your husband starts abusing you or cheating on you and you eventually decide to leave, the best way to do that is with money.
But also, we all like and need work to an extent. Humans don't thrive being lazy and doing nothing of any kind. We just don't like capitalist work, which is entirely different. Gardening? Work. Solving puzzles? Work. Helping out ppl who can't do things independently? Work. And these are things that plenty of ppl find enjoyable and rewarding, they just don't call it work bc of capitalist conditioning.
@@miyounovaCapitalism doesn't have anything to do with what defines work. All those things you mentioned are hobbies and they do not benefit society directly but rather, you or your family.
“how many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? how many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman” is such an incredibly precise and heavy-hitting metaphor my fucking god
You should read "Why Have There Been No Great Women Artists" by Linda Nochlin, it covers a lot of the Socioeconomic historical stuff that did prevent Women from pursuing the arts. Really awesome publication!
I get furious watching these men scream to a woman that being a trad wife and staying at home is better than working, but it's still work, in fact several jobs that require the same effort of an employed person but without paid wages, which means a lower rank than even a maid, all this and I don't understand what a man's role or the sacrifice he will make by being a 'trad husband', putting so much value on the bare minimum and can't even provide basic respect, that's what a 'trad husband ' is, I think
@Dutiyf I think the basic schema is that the 'trad husband,' has to work hard to bring home the money to support the ungodly amount of children running around. I suspect that basic schema is somewhat invalid when you're a nepo baby and millionaire by birth
@@Dutiyf Also, you can clock out after work, you can’t clock out when you’re a stay at home parent. Even then, working women are still expected to cook, clean, and take care of the kids. Working men have no excuses.
@@генри1917 google this quote to get the article "Women in the US are more likely to be murdered during pregnancy or soon after childbirth than to die from the three leading obstetric causes of maternal death (high blood pressure disorders, hemorrhage, or sepsis), say experts in The BMJ today."
Women against feminism devastates me in a way that I can’t appropriately put into words. Seeing our sisters radicalized against us, against themselves, and against their own self interests breaks my heart.
I wish all those anti feminist videos were redone by women that are true feminists who don't mind men being gentlemen because they also are gentle-women. An not by the psycho fanatic anti anything male types of "feminist" We need to normalize what an ACTUAL Christian, Liberal, Feminist, Woke person is vs the extreme psycho fanatic version that gets seen as the face of us by the media.
Hello👋 male here, it scares me as well… I’d rather women have the option to make the male wear protection and not have to worry about children by getting plan B if she chooses to not have him wear protection. Now if we could figure out how to make safer birth controls that’d also be nice, or better yet, male birth control? Heard a story about it ONCE and never again…
25:27 feminist here, I take birth control for medical reasons and yet I still have to track my menstrual cycle. Imagine bragging about having a period to put down other women
She may have been referring to the difference between withdrawal bleeds on birth control and actual period bleeds that proceed ovulation. Which to me is still weird to brag about…
Same. My period causes me faint, have insomniac episodes for days, heart palpitations (I am also anemic so that doesn’t help) severe mental issues that change drastically. I have to take birth control to avoid losing so much control of my body and my life coming to a halt every month because of it. Birth control has helped abundantly and it’s so ignorant and insulting that women shame others for the use of it. it’s insanity.
I was just ranting to my friends about how conservative politicians don't seem to know that birth control is used for more than contraception, as someone who also needs it for medical reasons, this is very annoying.
I am just now getting to the end of a divorce because after my husband and I got married, he suddenly stopped doing any household chores, expected me to cook and clean every day, kept pressuring me to have a kid, and ignored me and my needs completely while he spent all his time with his friends and having them sleep at our home multiple nights a week. All while I was also working. I’d get home around 9pm and he’d ask what was for dinner. Like, dude, you could have made a sandwich or something with all the groceries I bought. Luckily we kept separate bank accounts, never had kids, and the only shared asset was the car, so the divorce isn’t too messy. Edit: wow I did not expect any response from this. Thank you to everyone wishing me good things, I wish it all for you too. I had four years of this relationship and I’m very happy after leaving. I hope anyone dealing with the same or similar have a chance to make their life what they want, too. 🖤
Good for you girl! Like I swear to god I cannot fathom wanting your spouse to do everything for you when you’re a grown adult who could do it themselves! These men should be ashamed of themselves.
You divorced your husband because he would not make his own sandwiches and had friends? Sounds pretty stupid and short sighted. Maybe he was a dick, I don't know him, but that is such a pitiful and weak reason to end your marriage. My mum is next to me reading your comment (A Real Woman), she was laughing and saying how in 10 years you will regret being so self centered. I'm sure you will attack me in return, but give it time, being alone will be harder. You can not change reality and time comes for us all.
@@salkoharper2908 I’m sorry but if you can’t make yourself a damn sandwich and expect your wife to do it for you then you are a child and quite frankly, he got what he deserved. Please spare me your pity, he was a dick? Bro is a whole ass toddler with how much weight he’s dragging along and letting his wife do the slack. Imagine trying to act incompetent at your job, they would literally fire you if you can’t do it so why should we expect to put up with childish notions like this dude. Also if you are reading the comment, the wife wasn’t mad he had friends, she stated that he KEPT hanging with his friends and letting them freeload at their place multiple times a week. Imagine having strangers in your home that you only knew because they are friends of your husband and are offloading and taking up space in the home they aren’t even paying rent. Also, who are you to decide she’ll be alone forever? Life changes and I wish she would find a better partner than her old one cause guess what? This woman knows her worth and she won’t settle for less.
Former Jehovah's Witness- Married at 23 but a house wife until he emptied our bank account, stole the new generator my parents bought and left to never see or speak to me again. They had to find me to collect his body after he died because I was his legal next of kin since I didn't have money to divorce. I wasn't even told when the funeral would be. I am 48 years old and still unlearning the Patriarchy.
As a fellow ex-jw, I can imagine how hard it must've been for you. Know that you are not alone in the world when you leave the religion, rather you just entered a new era of company, happiness and love.
I was a stay at home mom for ten years. My husband decided his hr manager was a better fit for him than me and left. I am now struggling day to day because I have no degree and ten years with no work experience. I never considered myself a trad wife, I was just doing what worked for us. I never realized the dangerous position I was putting myself in.
Same, I have 3 kids. The cost of daycare was too much. I lived in an 8 bedroom house now im in a trailer. But its less stressful. I hope you re okay. Send you lots of love.❤❤❤
So many women also don’t realize that if you don’t pay taxes for a certain number of quarters (40 = 10 years) you don’t qualify for social security on your own.
Also, the idea that all women stayed home and didn’t work before the 1960s is verifiably false. Most of the “ideal housewife” imagery from the 1950s focuses on upper middle and upperclass white women because most others were out working just like the men. The problem is that they were payed significantly less and often didn’t have access to their own earnings, among many other things.
Capital owners really liked the fact that they can get twice the workforce for the same pay during WWII and sticked with it. Idealizing a single earner household isn't necessarily bad, but you need a lot of socialism to get there.
My maternal grandmother was born in 1924 and she worked her entire life until retirement. She worked in agriculture most of the time and those were definitely jobs children and women were doing way before my grandma was born as well. One of my paternal great-aunts used to be a radio technician back in the day. She was born in the 30s so this was in the 50s and 60s. Working class people usually all worked in some way outside the house to afford to live especially over here in Europe.
@@DieAlteistwiederdamy great grandmothers ( I was lucky to have known them both) worked as well as my grandmothers. They only stopped working as soon as they had children.
also i dont know if it was just me who noticed but ive been a long funkyfrog fan and the drawings that they put in were really nice and added a good touch :)
Being a housewife is also a class privilege. Many women, especially in the Third World, have to work and take care of the house. In my country (Mexico), 4 out of 10 children do not have a father because of child abandonment... My grandmother always told my aunts that even if they were housewives, they should have a bachelor's degree and money.
@@vanessacarses3942 this. Women have always worked. May it be on farm. Or as maid, cook, nanny anything and everything. Only rich women had the privilege. These tradhoes are selling a fantasy
This vid is how I found you. Automatic sub! As a 35yr old married to a man, cis bi lady, mostly stay at home mom of 3 who considers herself a feminist and a huge nerd. LOVE the content. I can see you put in so much work, and look forward to binging all your videos. After I get my kids to bed of course, cuz that's a wife's job 🙃
She’s 100% oppressed. Oppression isn’t an identity or just an experience- it’s an observed set of circumstances and systems. Oppression is simply a description. She’s oppressed.
Yep. A bird may like the cage, may even prefer it, but it's still undeniably caged and more woe to the others of its kind that find the cage less pleasant than it.
She not oppressed at all. They make a choice. Telling someone that there choice is wrong is evil. Trad wife are just doing stuff that one partner does in a relationship guy or girl There just doing it in cosplay. For views
As a guy 15 years old, im just so surprised how cleaning, cooking, clothes is such a struggle for husbands. Like i have a mother with issues (disabilities wise) and so i do most of the chores and ITS NOT THAT HARD, and if the husband is full on work. Load your wife with presents/love , instead of a FUCKING APRON. But anyway love the videos
It's not difficult to figure out how to do chores, but it does use energy and time to learn and do them. Some loser husbands would rather trick a woman into thinking she's loved so he can get her to be a servant and do it for him. Heck you have to spend 10 while seconds looking up a TH-cam video if you've never used a vacuum before, that's time you could instead delegate to your servant.
@@Neo69420it's sad but true, most men don't know or want to learn how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. It's pathetic honestly. But you are one great kid, keep up the good work ❤
@@BankruptMonkey because of my sensory issues i was always scared of using a vacuum cleaner.. then i just tried it with earplugs and it worked perfectly for me. makes me proud that i can still accomplish things despite my problems, unlike these pathetic manchildren
My mom finally left my dad this last year. They were married almost 20 years, and that whole time she never had her own bank account. I had to take her to a bank so she could open one for herself. Members of our family and her church were not happy with her decision to get a divorce, but they’re totally fine with the abuse that was going on I guess. She now lives with me so she can build back up her own life after years of letting someone else control hers. I’m so proud of her for finally leaving that situation ❤️ Whether you are a feminist or not- having independence over your own facilities is paramount.
The claim about women not having the right to open bank accounts before 1974 is somewhat misleading. There were many women before 1974 with bank accounts. Where women did have more difficulty was getting access to credit in their own name (and on equal terms). At a time when credit cards were becoming popular, the Equal Credit Opportunity Act of 1974 expanded access to credit by prohibiting banks from discriminating on the basis of gender. There is a post on r/AskHistorians called “Could women open a bank account in the US in the 1950s?” where a commenter gives a great overview of studies about women’s access to banking in the early 1970s.
The line “how many Einsteins spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over a stove instead of a piano because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?” hits SO MUCH HARDER when you know that Einsteins wife contributed immensely to his research and he took credit for everything. Mozart had a sister equally if not more talented than him but she gave up music when her family married her off.
There's a quote that I can't quite remember but it was a man trying to credit his wife's assistance because of course he got all the credit. There are also so many other women scientists throughout history that just straight up had their work stolen by men because women weren't recognized as being smart. The same goes for women artists. It was so rare for women to be recognized for being capable of anything other than children factories.
Rosalind franklyn and her contribution to chromosomes taken into credit by her professor idrk but our teacher made sure to educate us students about how her work wasn't given much credit.
@@lucypreece7581 at least Ada is getting a little more recognized these days (and with "these days" i really mean around "last 15 years", maybe a bit more). I've seen a lot of places selling images of her, and it's so good to recognize the women in STEM
The stories told by the former trad wives breaks my heart because my mom went through the same thing during the divorce while raising me and my other two siblings. She was stuck with a massive gap in job experience a decade ago and to this day is still struggling and very close to homelessness with a disabling job that won't pay her enough meanwhile my dad recovered just fine from the divorce and could retire before 60
"At best, the tradwife lives her life comfortably, in a gilded cage. At worst, shes caught in a deathtrap." That last sentence hit so hard and actually got me to tear up. You said it so much better than most I see talking about this
And as a woman who grew up in an initially two income household, until my father became dangerously ill, if my mother hadn't been working, we may have been hungry, instead of just having to give up hobbies.
Yeah, that is something that I would ask trad wifes. Not if her men leaves her (because "he never will! He loves me!"), but what would happen if he became disabled or seriously ill and unable to work. So if you want to be a trad wife, be one, but always have a plan B in your pocket.
historically (and currently, let’s not kid ourselves) disabled people were seen as drains on society. so i’d imagine the compassion for a man unable to support his family would be minimum, if at all. i think of this as another way gender is socially constructed. gender is stripped from disabled people who don’t fit conventional aesthetics and roles because of their disabilities. a man no longer able to support his family financially is no longer a man. a woman unable to have children is no longer a woman. disabled people have never been upheld as exemplifying gender stereotypes. disabled people aren’t granted the same access to gender, and thus, the same access to a world reliant on rigid binary gender, as able-bodied folks are.
@@Valfara770 The irony of that, though, is that it usually *is* that he leaves her in the tradwife setup, whether they believe that will happen or not. Often he ends up cheating or flat out leaving the tradwife for a younger woman. Mind you, I make a distinction between the tradwife and the housewife. The tradwife is focused strongly on traditional gender roles and religion and will also often homeschool the children; she doesn't have much else unless she does TikTok or TH-cam videos. Tradwives also have a heavy emphasis on an aesthetic, with the idea being that they need to look good for their husbands. The housewife, who has often simply chosen to stay at home because childcare is unaffordable, might still have part-time jobs and likely visits with friends during the day. Most tradwives defer to their husbands and aren't really partners in the relationship. Most housewives have some expectation that their spouses will do parenting and chores when they return home, have a say in the budget, and wear comfortable and practical clothing. Most of them aren't focused on pretty dresses or makeup or making TH-cam videos. I genuinely worry for tradwives who aren't wealthy (because many of them are, and that's how they afford that lifestyle) because they don't have a retirement fund of any type or work experience they can rely on if something does happen or if their husband leaves them for someone else. A lot of times, their religion has pressured them into that situation. But I also worry for the young women who see tradwife videos and somehow fail to see how fake those videos are, especially when the young people are *not* wealthy and then seek out a "trad husband." These are the women who end up left by their misogynistic husbands and end up destitute because they never had money and they usually don't have job experience or higher education either.
same case with me, my father died with a mountain of medical debts and my mom still manage to feed me and my brother. imagine if she was a sahm? we would be out in the streets, i tbh dont support women stay at home if they dont have that plan B. idk, dowry? trust fund? anything that can make sure her and her children lives.
Right? It seems like he knows the "gift" sucked, wasn't what she wanted, and basically was a display of power. "I'm going to give you something that sucks and you're going to immediately thank me for it."
There are so many scriptures about being patience and kind. To love, to be gentle. To be a light. I’m so sorry if ur parents were darkness for you. You are so smart and have amazing gifts. Although I do not share ur views, I understand ur mindset and how u came to these conclusions. Absolutely masterfully put together.
For anyone who doesn't believe that a handmaid's tale scenario is possible - in the 60s, the middle east was fairly liberal, with a solid separation between mosque and state; the majority of women did not cover themselves, women were highly educated and allowed to work outside the home. That all changed by the 70s thanks to a radical group of religious traditionalist. Ask yourself: if it can happen there, what's stopping it from happening here?
Well you know, it's _those_ people, _they're_ just like this, not like _us._ We're _civilised._ OK, but really, I'll find it bitterly hilarious if Western countries manage to regress. Those "savages" were in the desert, with few resources, contending with constant instability surrounding them. We, the "civilised" ones, are just sleepwalking into it for the hell of it.
this is currently happening in my country and it is HELL on earth. i wake up everyday dreading what's to come. my government has given a voice to a radical religious CULT that's tortured people to death (including a feminist women because of who she was) and hid their bodies back in 90s. i want every women that'll see my comment to never be silent, don't accept being silenced.
Just because we cover ourselves doesn't mean we're uneducated. I Live in the middle east and not everyone here is covered, stopp pushing a western propaganda. We still have schools and university that both men and women attend. (Most people who attend Schools here where I live are actually women) We're not cave people for choosing to be modest, the extremist do not represent all of us.
@@user421-nk so let me get this straight, women in these countries can wear whatever they want without being punished? Really? Because last I saw, people in Saudi Arabia still weren’t even allowed to drive. You have every right to your beliefs, but the stories I’ve heard of women and non-believers in Middle Eastern countries is appalling. Let me amend, women in Saudi Arabia were allowed to start driving five years ago, and there’s still roadblocks on it. I’m glad you seem to have a different experience, but from what I’ve heard it’s pretty heartbreaking positions for women over there.
@@Darkemberandviolet The culture of these countries is modesty. The western way is not the only way. Stop looking down on modest culture. There's a comfort to covering. Ppl choose how to dress themselves, but it's also important to be mindful of the country/ religion practiced. And i dont trust western media on news about Saudi Arabia or where Im from which is Bangladesh. The media churns misinformation. You're talking to me about global misogyny as if i am not aware. I am, pls read again i just want a positive perspective. And since you've read about diff women struggles, you're only pointing it out, nowhere did I say my experience is everyone's experience i said specifically i know alot of women like me and that there are alot of evil men. Its frustrating when i talk about modern muslim women and all ppl want to say is that we need to be saved. All of us are capable. As a muslim woman not only do we have to deal with men we have to deal with people saying our religion is the problem. Thats not true.
33:15 If I remember from my last year's class correctly. Mozart's sister was actually just as talenred as him but since she was a woman, she had to quit making music and get married. Just imagine being her for a second, watching your brother be what you also could have been :(
@@joex1084 That idea has mostly been discredited now it seems, but she most definitely faced hardship in even attaining higher education, and her endeavors to pursue a career and degree in the sciences was ultimately foiled when she became pregnant out of wedlock. She spent the rest of her life simply as a housewife (until she and Einstein got divorced). While she didn't really have any significant contribution to Einstein's body of work, her story is also another case study in how feminism has changed the lives of women today.
sorry that i don't have examples, feel free to add them but many classical literature, famous novels were written with help of the writer's wives. it's them who edited their works and rewrote their messy scripts and helped get it published. there was even discourse on crediting them as co-writers. ok it's now clear to me that i have a terrible memory when it comes to names but i read that one writer read his female cousin or sister's diary and "took inspiration" aka stole her poems and published as his own. all of that in times when being a great artist was a man's job edit: found one already, sofia tolstoy rewrote "peace and war" eight times and was his husband's agent, she made sure things got published and was a writer herself edit 2: here's a quote from sofia's diary “I was wondering today why there were no women writers, artists or composers of genius. It’s because all the passion and abilities of an energetic woman are consumed by her family, love, her husband - and especially her children. Her other abilities are not developed, they remain embryonic and atrophy. When she has finished bearing and educating her children her artistic needs awaken, but by then it’s too late.”
Haven't seen anyone talk about the actual quality of the video. We have custom illustrations, set changes in a new location, amazing script, etc. The video was so much more than just "professional shit talking." Im so impressed by this one froggy good job
I love the production quality of this video. I'm just here for the entertainment value of this content creator. I don't care about anything about the Trad Wives nonsense or feminism.
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YES
Yes, it is my job as the FEMALE of the house to COOK and CLEAN. because I live ALONE and my CATS can't wash their own DISHES
Ngl, this is my dream life
Goals.
Such ungrateful cats smh
One of them earns their keep by killing bugs, but the other one? Pure princess.
But have they been taught how?!?😂
the fact she was like "my egg apron!" implies she already knew about it and had it. her husband is a scumbag.
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she ordered it for herself and her husband gifted the box to her that she didnt know came. thats the context and its....
I think maybe she had already asked for one and was expecting it ?
@@Sunnystrawberrygirl are you stupid
Someone didn't watch all the way through hm?
Edit:This doesn't deserve likes, it's incorrect, my comment is-
But while an egg apron is kinda shitty especially cus she has one already, I think we should also realize she should wake up and understand that a vacation to greece is not gonna help her health. She's kinda entitled about it. She deserves a break but she asks for WAAAY too much for today's world, and her own mental wellbeing. Especially with the planning even if you could afford it
mozart's older sister was a child musical prodigy as well but her parents forced her to quit performing once she reached a "marriageable age", she taught piano until well after her husband's death AND she wrote her own compositions but none of them have survived; the only reason we even know she composed is because there are letters from her brother that praised her work
This is incredibly sad story... And then anti feminist guys brag about "we are creators of eVeRyThInG"
Except Hannah literally loves her life and wants to live it exactly how she is, or are we just calling her a liar?
How exactly is telling a woman how she feels or is supposed to feel, feminist?
@@lizdahl did we watch the same video
37:51 minutes of this video covers your question
@@asiajo999 I literally saw a man yesterday on Swoop's video about Pearl Davis, saying we owe men for "working 12 hours a day growing the food you ungrateful women eat". Oh? So you, a man who has never set foot on a farm, grew, harvested, processed, cooked, and packaged my food? Mm hmm.
They sure have the audacity, don't they.
“Women weren’t forced back into the home they were gently lured back inside through the combined efforts of advertisers, academics and politicians who all benefited from maintaining the status quo”
THAT HITS.
I was a full-time mom, not because of advertisers or politicians, but yes, partially academics. I wanted to use everything I'd spent a decade learning about child development and parenting to the benefit my child so that she could have a better start than I got. There was a high price because I trusted the wrong man who took advantage of my loss of financial power. It was a huge sacrifice but I wouldn't change it. I think my daughter benefited from the early years I devoted to parenting full-time. I have financial independence now and a better man in my life and am grateful that I got to be home with my daughter to help nurture and shape her early life.
@@Pollergirl I dont think you need to justify yourself, im sure what you did had a positive impact on your daughter, my mum chose the opposite cause my dads a deadbeat so i just basically raised myself and barely saw my mum until i was 18 cause she was at work.dont think it helped in raising me into a productive member of socitety.
I argue it is the other way way around. Do not serve your family, serve the status quo tax slave.
Dont forget the cost of childcare
Holy conspiracy theory. Nobody cares abt u as much as u think they do
“How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos, because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?” Is actually such a FIRE line
It hit me in the face like a truck with how true and painful it is. How many brilliant women were never permitted to reach their potential, simply because they were women?
i mean mozarts sister was an extremely talented and revered composer, but she did not get much credit, so you’re half true.
I hope someday you grow up and realize that cleaning your house is not beneath you. It's actually incredibly snobbish to imply that housework is beneath anybody, and the snobs who hold those attitudes usually end up pushing that work onto someone they deem less of a person, like a child or hired worker.
@alex_1993 that's not what this is about at all, did you read the comment/watch the video?
@@alex_1993 It's not "cleaning the house is beneath us", it's "I want a choice between cleaning and cooking my whole life and going to study a subject or get a different job".
My grandparents were a "traditional" couple. Like, both of them were teenagers during the great depression. My grandfather was considered really progressive for his time, to the point where he lost most of his male friends because they saw him as being "too forgiving" with my grandmother. He almost got KICKED OUT of his bowling group in the 60's, because his teammates found out that he'd given my grandmother written permission to open a bank account. He had to write multiple notarized declarations of permission, and got repeated calls from the bank to make sure he really actually truly wanted to give his wife the legal ability to have her own money. The reason he pushed through? His mother was left destitute and penniless because her husband died of polio, and his youngest brother starved to death because she didn't have any legal right to her dead husband's savings. And she was one of the lucky ones, who had a son old enough to work. My grandfather was ostracized and ridiculed because he made sure his wife and children wouldn't be forced onto the streets to starve or freeze to death if he happened to die.
That's the other side of it I don't see enough people talking about. He could be a good husband but if he dies then the wife and kids are screwed. Though I suppose you could argue he wouldn't truly be a good husband if he didn't have a safety net in place for his wife and kids. Thanks for sharing your story!
Oh my gosh, that's horrifying! At least a truly strong men came out of that tragedy, good on your grandpa!
W grandpa
I love your grandpa, and I never met him.
@@thinlizzy9032well I don't want to put all the blame on him for that, my family is struggling to have food to eat. We try to keep the staples, but we can't keep them all now. If we have eggs and milk, we don't have bread. If we have bread and milk we don't have eggs. Our boiler broke (not such a big deal we still have cold water) but cannot fix it. We are paycheck to paycheck, one vehicle. We are not able to save money at all. Our house bought for $80,000 in 2002 now worth 100,000 -120,000 supposedly. We have not added anything to it.
Can't believe as young girls they told us being a cat lady is the worst position a woman could find herself in instead of abusive relationships?!
Especially since currently a woman running for PRESIDENT is being called a cat lady. I'm sorry but if being a cat lady means I get the spotlight for running for president and am successful in life- it's not an insult anymore.
Its made scary to young girls so the boys that become men never have to consider for a moment why their behavior might make a woman favor the company of cats over a man
@@kingclong3227being a cat lady really is always shown as "nobody loves her, so her house is overrun with cats, and this crazy old lady is gonna die alone"
Rather than what a normal cat person would be, which is someone who just likes cats
@@chadcascaron5539maybe this is part of why so many men dont like cats
@@kingclong3227ironic because when you call me incels it's still a womens fault for not wanting to be with them and a man dying alone is treated as a "loneliness epidemic"
Something I learned in college (bc yk women and afabs can actually do that now) is a story called "Susanna and the Elders". A woman bathing in a bathhouse was SAed by 2 men, they tried to blackmail her into saying yes bc they said if she said no they would lie and tell everyone she said yes anyway. Despite this she said no. The story has been painted many times, but by men depicting the story as enjoyable or sensual for Susanna. Well in 1610, Artemisia Gentileschi, the daughter of a well known painter and a survivor of SA painted her depiction of "Susanna and the Elders", which portrayed Susanna as rightfully uncomfortable and fighting off her assailants. It's an incredible piece, but to this day people argue that it was her father that painted it and just gave her credit.
Her father not only taught her how to paint, but he was able to be one of the first to sue someone for SA. At the time SA and Grape weren't illegal so he found another way to sue her abuser. She was unmarried and so technically she was considered still her father's "property", so he sued him for damage of personal property, which worked!
All of this to say that feminism did more than allow women to work. Women can now sue their abusers and not have to rely on the empathetic men in their lives to care enough do it for them. Women can create incredible art and accomplishments and be credited for them instead of people still trying to find a way to credit it to a man in her life. Women are not seen as just property to be damaged and nothing more
There's an amazing book about her called "Blood, Water, Paint". Genuinely one of my favorite reads (which is a skill I was taught thanks to feminism)
Thank you for sharing this sad but also heartening piece of History!
I do appreciate discussion on Artemisia, since she was an astounding painter and her work is amazing, but it should be noted that the painting of Susanna was in 1610 and her assault happened in 1611. Something else important to note is that the main point of the trial wasn't even the assault. Its that her assaulter didn't marry her afterwards. Her father went to court 9 months after the incident because he refused to marry her.
That story is on the Catholic canon of scripture as part of the book of Daniel, and it's very clear that Susanna is being presented in the text as a woman who was being assaulted, and that the men wanted in addition to frame her for adultery. You can read it for free in any online Catholic Bible.
To paint her as being significantly tempted by the men is absolutely contrary to the biblical account. I'm kinda shocked if pervious depictions of Susanna presented her this way as opposed to Gentileschi's depiction.
thank you so much for sharing!!!!
"Im not a feminist, I can cook!"
at your big age I would hope you would know how to
Apparently she doesn't own a dictionary however. If I had a dime for every ignorant person I know who thinks Feminist= man hater I would be a millionaire 😂
According to these women anyone who can cook isn't a feminist? Does that include men ? Or does a man being able to make his own meals automatically make him a feminist? 😂 I am having trouble keeping up.
I make my own damn cereal and I wash my own bowl.
😂😂😂
Brainrot-material like this is probably just made for engagement, though
My grandma graduated highschool in the late 60s. She was planning to go to college, but then she met with her school guidance counselor. He told her that she wasn't smart enough for college, and her only hope was to get married to a man who could support her. So that's what she did. Then at 60 she finally decided to go to college. When she graduated she said she wished that old counselor was still alive so she could tell him to suck it. At her next high-school reunion she got to talking to some other women, and it turns out he had discouraged all the girls from going to school and told them all to be housewives.
I bet he is crying in his grave
I'm glad she still went to college
Imagine how many young girls he affected, and potential guidance counselors with similar views... ): I'm so happy for your grandma tho! I would be proud to be her grandkid if I were you
They should sue the school board
Ew
That one girl saying she's not a feminist because she can cook then whipping out boring ass pasta made me scream.
Im a feminist and I can cook. That must just be brain scrambling for some people.
@carrielankford4036 I'm a feminist and a housewife lmao. I am well aware that I confuse a lot of no-nuance Nellies
I’m a feminist and I can sure as hell recognize kraft macncheese when I see it, and that was kraft
lol!
I'm (I think) a feminist, and my mom (a self-employed girlboss) taught me to cook when I was little, it's a good skill, my grandma (college professor) says some college kids can't even cook, so it's good to know
The way society teaches kids that being single and living a peaceful life with your pets is worse than being stuck in an abusive environment where you don't have any choice or shred of independence whatsoever is wild. Why are a few side-eyes from the neighbours considered worse that being raped, beaten and held on a leash by a spouse who thinks it's their right to impose their will on you?
My biggest pet peeve is people acting like all feminism did was make us get jobs. As if it didn't also give us the right to: Vote, get divorced, bodily autonomy, financial freedom, legal protection, and so much more... yeah work sucks but everyday I wake up glad knowing my dad or husband doesn't legally own me.
It also gave us the right to start our own business (that we own!), own property, and become social media influencers.
... Yeah, those women wouldn't even be able to publicly say they hate feminism if feminists hadn't fought hard to ensure they had the right to do so.
Also, work sucks because of capitalism, not feminism. A lot of conservative men talk like stay at home wives have it all because they don't have to work, but never think about changing the work culture to be more bearable and less soul crushing
@@kat4923 they also forget that house work is still ALSO work
And woman didn't work because of feminisme. They always did exept the one in very wealthy family. The stay home mom / wife come from industrial age, at the same time of the raise of capitalisme ...
The economy is what forced women to work. If the economy wasn't such trash then women could be stay at home moms. The only reason women are "forced to work" is because single income households no longer are viable for the average person (in America).
No I'm not saying women shouldn't be allowed to work, But if women want to be stay at home moms of their own free choice, it sucks that a lot of them don't have that option because of how bad the economy is and they are forced to work to support the household and don't have the time to raise their children and do home-cooked meals.
No not all women should be stay-at-home moms, But it sucks that the economy has taken that option away from many women that would want that life.
I'm nowhere near the trad wife scene, I've been working since I was 12 years old, I started that early doing manual physical labor (by my own choice because I wanted the money) I've done tons of physical labor jobs, whenever I've been out of work due to surgery recently it's drove me absolutely crazy. I cook and clean and don't do much else while I'm healing and it makes me crazy. I'm sure that there are women that truly want to be stay at home wives/mothers, That never has been and will never be me. But I support people having options.
Also there is the option that a woman is a mostly stay-at-home wife/mother and them also having a part-time or work from home job. It doesn't have to be "The woman has to be a construction worker or she has to be a brood mare"
Psychology student here , once one of our professors was talking about how helpless he was in the kitchen and would cut or burn himself, and I was like, do you think we were just born with pans and cookbooks in our hands?
Context: The topic was women working, and he was saying men are bad at cooking and cleaning because they are not cut out for it and better to leave them alone so they can work in workplaces where they do better.also he was saying women working in workplaces causes them too much stress to handle and it's okay for them to relay on their partner because when women work they want a divorce in the smallest inconvenience. Sorry to disappoint, but I didn't just write a joke that my professor told us and try to make it look bad. I wish more than anyone that a psychology professor wouldn't think this way and try to teach it to others.
Everyone should know how to cook, it's a life skill. That's pathetic.
We all start like the Sims on Level one. Burning the kitchen, just because we wanted a salad...
Same for when they hand you your first newborn. We're not born knowing how to change a diaper!
Ah he was putting his psychology into use; weaponized incompetence, maybe a bit of learned helplessness. 😊
@@artistdudebroomg he was teaching his students yasss truly a education learning moment 😍
Trapping a woman on a flight until she does what you want IS the plot of a horror movie, I think it’s called Red Eye, starring Rachel McAdams and Cillian Murphy
I THOUGHT OF THIS EXACTLY I WAS LIKE “RAAAAHHH RED EYE REFERENCE 💥💥💥💥‼️‼️🚔🚔"
I always thought that was a cringe movie so I don't think it's similar.
I reckon that Hannah thought that was romantic if anything
It's sad. She was so young
I was thinking of a Nicci French book.
Yes! I thought of that movie too!It’s funny too because the trailer for that movie kinda plays it like it’s a romcom for a bit, but then turns to “this is an obvious horror movie” pretty quickly because IT IS! I wish we’d stop romanticizing stalking.
I always thought Cillian Murphy could play a creepy, boundary-pushing horror character
That painting of a ballerina above the stove is fricking heartbreaking
Funky's ability to go from a masculine outfit to a feminine one and look cool as fuck both ways is something I think we all aspire to
Edit: Jesus Christ I'm just saying I dont look good in both and I wish i did how do i have people saying I'm pushing gender roles and then other people saying I'm a woke piece of shit can yall chill
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To be honest, I initially didn't realize that Nancy was her.
EDIT: Oops, have not been here long enough to know that funky uses they/them pronouns. Sorry for the mistake. Thanks for all the polite corrections.
@@amarketing8749 They go by They/Them :P
if you play this on tv around your mom/grandmas they are definitely gonna drop some lore they've been holding in for like 50 years.
Is this from experience-
@@Twisted_HappyI would also like to know if this was successfully tested 👀
@@paigiee Imma ask my friend to try it cause i have no grandma and my mom wont watch it
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Tried this with my aunt (who is 71)
She said she thought the video was good but was too harsh about the traditional lifestyle because it works out for some women, but there is a risk they end up like her friend (who's life qas takenfrom DV years ago)
keep in mind, my aunt is divorced because of DV from her trad husband. I asked her if she knew anyone personally who this lifestyle worked out for without ever experiencing some type of abuse, she said no but she "has seen people in the media" who it worked out for. I think it's still hard for her to let go of the years of conditioning.
I heard one time "If you want a stay-at-home wife you should hand her half of your paycheck. If you don't want to do that, than you don't want a stay-at-home wife but a slave. Because cooks, cleaners, babysitters and teachers gets payed."
I say something similar. Be prepared to man up as the tradhusband and hand over your *entire* paycheck to your tradwife because the homemaker is responsible for paying the bills. As the breadwinner, *you* work for *her* household.
If the wife wants to do it, she doesn't need to get paid. It's her decision. No one is forcing her. My father, was a stay at home dad for a few years and my mum obviously didn't pay him either. She paid the bills, he didn't. Some people/ women sometimes really think they deserve applause and recommendation for every little thing. In relationships you talk to your partner and take roles, this isn't some form of boss and worker basis. It's an open communication. If you don't want to do it, you don't have to do it.
@@milli3377 I dunno, expecting every single income household to be the same to how yours was is unrealistic and tbh very unfair. Different households have different needs and circumstances. It’s good that in your house your mom had the time and money to do all the chores that required the handling of money, like paying the bills, gas for the car, buying food and other necessities, but not all the distribution of chores are the same for every house, and you should keep that in mind. It’s unrealistic to expect someone to do all that labor with the share of money needed/expected for it, and it’s unfair to think of that as non-deserved entitlement.
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@@milli3377 your dad was financially abused.
Ok but can we talk about this part? 4:32 that moment where the small picture of the ballerina was above the stove was pretty unnoticeable, but after funky frog bait overanalyzed it… that was just so heartbreaking.
I told my 93 year old grandmother about the trad wife movement. She was shocked that young women romantizise the "old times". She laughed at the idea that stay at home wives have a relaxing, carefree life. She never worked less than her husband, but more, tending to the land their families survival depended on, doing repairs and handywork around the house, caring for her children, all that while also constantly being pregnant!
She's so happy that women today have other choices now, that she could raise her daughters differently than how she was raised. I grew up surrounded by strong, female rolemodels and will be forever thankful for that.
Amen to that
Same for my grandma. If there's one thing she regretted in life was not being able to have an education and a career. She always told me to study so I can be independent.
Right?? Both my grandmas couldn’t finish their education because of duties they were expected to do in their families and then were married off and had kids before they knew it. One wanted to be a doctor and the other a dietitian and possibly if she hadve grown up in the right time, an animator. I can’t help but feel these influencers either don’t talk much to their grandparents, they’ve passed, or have very strong religious ties
Same with my grandparents. They were born in 1915 and 1917. He provided wonderfully, but she had to quit her teaching job that she LOVEDl not long after they got married because she was pregnant. The thing was, she actually came from money, but it all went to her brothers. She was president of the PTA, Den Mother for my moms and uncles boy/girl scout troops (took both boys and girls camping, taught them to cook, sew, start a fire, all of it! ), president of the garden club, treasurer of the thier church and "ladies" lion club, gave homemaking lessons out the house to young/teen mothers, Army FRG leader (he was a Lt. Col), just so many amazing things! She git paid for lessons but mainly all volunteer work because women belonged in the home. My Grandfather let her soar as much as society would let him without criticism. And finally in the late 70s was able to get a job at the schol administration Office. She was the strongest, kindest, most beautiful soul. They both told me to do everything thing you can to make your place in this world and bring as many people with me. I miss them terribly!!!
My grandma has always been a super mom (she was a stay at home mom) but she would occasionally work for the church, the other day she told me that I shouldn’t rely on a man and that she wishes she could of had a better chance of getting a job.
I saw a person in one of tiktok's comment section say "She's the ballerina in his jewelry box that he keeps at his bed's side" and since ive read this, it never left my brain
UPDATE : I'm glad everyone is as shocked as I was when I read this. And I'm happy I shared it and it became this whole thread.
Whoa. 😢
Wow
someone pls explain this to me
@@l0vesick666 A lot of jewelry boxes have a little twist thing so that when the box opens, a little ballerina will spin while music plays. The ballerina will only spin when the box is opened though, even if the knob is twisted while it is closed.
To add to the metaphor: the music will sound more tired as the years go by but the ballerina still spins
Shoutout to Chappell Roan's Good Luck Babe
"How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?" Hits especially hard when you know that Einstein's wife was also a scientist and that Mozart's sister also was a piano prodigy, even going as far as composing songs for her younger brother to learn the piano.
Yes. And the excuse of "every successful man has a strong woman behind them" sounds completely innocent and empowering, until you dig deeper into it.
Nobody should be excused of doing their most basic chores (unless they are physically limited) just because they are a 'genius' or successful.
This mindset also pushes the idea that woman CAN'T be successful themselves, because they are already busy 'supporting' their partners, which again, was proven wrong by countless women in history.
It's honnestly saddening that many people still have this mindset.
Right? Einstein's wife helped him with many of his works and Mozarts sister contributed to helping her brother learn the piano. And yet, I don't even know their names.
Mileva Marich was a prominent scientist, but, of course, it was 19 century and she was a women
The biggest reason we know about Marie Curie is because her husband pushed for her to get equal credit for their work.
There aren’t any more Einstein‘s or Mozart’s because they already were the founders who propelled evolution and technological advancements, plus you can be a traditional wife and go after your dreams easier when somebody else is paying all your bills. Being wrapped up in a soul sucking job isn’t the be-all end-all especially when these folks are letting other people raise their children then wonder why their children end up on drugs not knowing what they want to do with their life, no aim, then abandons them in their old years or sending them to nursing homes because they are spiteful having never gotten the proper guidance by a mom when they were younger
as someone who was raised by a traditional set of grandparents it’s insane how behind my grandma is, she didn’t make it past the third grade from having to work in the kitchen and take care of her siblings. When I was younger she would tell me her dreams on wanting to become a fashion designer but were quickly shot down from not being able to receive basic education, at 15 she married my grandpa and had her first out of eight children. Growing up I never saw my grandpa cook for me maybe only once when my grandma was really sick, he did mostly yard work or building or fixing the house. My grandma never learned to drive, she had to teach herself to read and write. But from what she told me from their early years of marriage my grandpa would cheat, come home drunk, abuse her and their kids but was never able to speak out against for fear of losing what she knows and being alone. Now seeing the trad wife trends continue to rise in popularity it genuinely hurts since as being a woman of color and thinking to all my grandmas and their mothers how they fought for equality just for it to reverse back, it really is sad.
I was yelled at when I was ten years old for not knowing how to crack an egg. A family member said I’ll never get a husband if I couldn’t do it. Now I’m an adult and the men I work with in food service can’t even clean a dish or mop the floor. I’m assuming they didn’t have anyone to yell at or demean them.
They’ll never get a wife
@@Ohmygod_neilcicceregafacts
It sucks, but it just means the real working world will hit them so much harder as they enter it. I hope they improve as people.
You deserved better. I’m sorry that happened to you.
@@shigechiyangu454 "real working world"? is food service not real work or
33:14 "More good women have been lost to marriage than war, famine, disease and disaster" - A fictional character that gilrbossed hard but had an affinity for animal cruelty, but she had a fucking point. It's a very good quote to ponder while you lie awake in bed at 2AM. Ballerina farmhouse tradwife and countless others prove this.
Is it perhaps from the Poppy Wars trilogy? I feel like I've read it there, but I'm not sure
@@childofathena_ Live action 100 and 1 Dalmatians
@@childofathena_no, 101 dalmatians, the live action film
@@childofathena_actually just googled it and it’s by Cruella De Vil haha!! Which explains the part about animal cruelty lmao
@@changa_sk4524 thanks all of you who replied. Makes sense, it probably was reused in it, or i just had an epiphany and memories mixed, lol. Thanks again :)
That "Your welcome." from the husband was so passive aggressive it made me physically cringe. Just because she's willing to ignore the red flags doesn't mean we can't be concerned about them for her.
I guess you can't help those who don't want to help themselves
It made me cringe so hard 😭
like yeah sorry i can’t say that your husband is an ass? fuck him
Great, you can be a narcissist who keeps everyone in terror during every holiday because you can't be satisfied with a gift. Those people definitely live happy and fulfilling lives.
@@alex_1993Today I learned that subdued disappointment = “keeping everyone in terror over the holidays” and expecting your husband to care about you = narcissism. Don’t be disingenuous. You know exactly why the gift he got her was insulting.
i’ve finally found my favourite youtuber who talks about all the things i WISH i could talk about with my friends. please never stop making content, i feel so safe here
You cannot convince me that stupid apron wasn't a punishment to her for daring to ask for anything for herself. And/or he's jealous she's the famous one and not him.
Fr! And you can't tell me that that apron was more than maybe 30 bucks. This rich ass man, with rich ass parents who OWN AIRLINES.... couldn't afford a plane ticket? Bro couldn't shell out some money for an actually meaningful gift?
Plus, she only got one gift! Like imagine looking forward to a trip to Greece and your husband is like "errmm actually, here's an apron. Happy birthday!"
@@KeroniKnowsYourSecrets Honestly, he could literally smother her in gifts and affection. He could give her anything she wants and have a full on dudley dursley style birthday celebration with 37 instead of 36 gifts. Instead he gave her an apron.
I get that you dont have to give someone everything they want to be in love but they are genuinely in a place where they can most of what they want. No fuss or problems. Why not let her have a trip or something nice?
@@KeroniKnowsYourSecrets apparently it was a package she bought for herself that had just been delivered, and he just gave it to her pretending it was a gift he bought her. And then he said “you’re welcome”
Absolute scumbag
I unfortunately agree with you.
It's a reminder. "YOU want a vacation? You wanna do something else? No. You're a mother. You're a farmer. So farm."
My grandma was raised in a conservative family in the asscrack of France (even for the time, her family was considered conservative). She grew up to be a housewife, as a kid she did ALL of the chores around the house, her mother didn’t contribute to anything and lived of her husband’s will. Her brother was the ´perfect child’, he didn’t have to do anything in the house and was always in the right no matter what.
When she started working as a teen, her mother would literally take away the little pay she earned. (Please note that they were pretty well off, I’d say upper middle class.)
Then, she married my grandpa, who worked as a mailman and came from a poor family. So, of course, no one approved of this marriage.
She raised my mother and uncle as best she could while working as a mailwoman. She cooked, clean, took care of the kids, did everything. And after her two kids moved out, she got a divorce.
She spent the 30/40 first years of her life sacrificing herself for others, she was everything a traditional man could’ve asked for. But as soon as she divorced and didn’t have to care for anyone but herself, she finally started to live and did everything she couldn’t do as a teen.
And now, at 82 years old, she’s free, she remarried with a man who actually helps her around the house, supports her. She has a huge group of friends, goes on small trips across the country, has hundreds of books (she wasn’t allowed to read as a kid, or get an education). She’s a fan of history, weird criminal tv shows and heroic fantasy.
Being a woman took away half of her life, and she’s now spending the other half being happy.
Love you mamie Monique
This made me tear up, because I see some of these themes in my grandparents and parents marriages. I’m just t happy that my parents at least FINALLY divorced.
@@kayhaven4710 omg same, there’s like one couple that never got a divorce in my entire family. I’m so glad your parents finally did the right thing
Can you tell your grandma she's awesome and cool for me
Tell her we love her!!
Thank you!! I'm happy for her. She got her freedom. It's a lot more than many women will ever have.
"I'm not oppressed" says the woman who isn't allowed to speak for herself during an interview and was forced to give up her dream as a dancer.
the way she was speaking during her response video sounded like she was a hostage reading a script
You say forced like she didn’t have a choice on dating this guy, getting engaged, getting married and having a kid.
@@phillipschouw2462 perhaps you should watch the whole video before commenting, as your argument is addressed in the video
@@emilyb.8219 good point, I tried but I got a vibe of this being a biased place.
@@phillipschouw2462 I would point out that no piece of media is free from bias. In fact, no person is free from bias.
The best way to have an objective view of what the world thinks, if that is what you wish, is to listen to a multitude of opinions.
thank you so much for this video. i actually bawled like 4 different times lol. i’m so glad i’m only 17 and learning this before it’s too late unlike my mom. every day i see the shit she has to go through with my dad and my siblings and it’s just the fact she was born and raised in a mormon household.
I was a trad wife. He left me for a stripper. He took everything I own (including my toothbrush and the lightbulbs out of the fixtures "because he paid for them"). He left me with no car, no money (he turned off all of my cards and locked me out of our accounts), and no job or prospects. I got a tattoo to commemorate that time... it says, "Never Again."
How did you recover?
I'm so sorry angel, you deserved better. Personally I'd rather be alone forever
But how? If you were his wife then by law everything should be 50-50 if you separate, it doesn't matter who paid for what. What he did is illegal and you can go to court. And if you can also prove that he left you for a stripper then he might even have to pay you alimony since it's illegal to cheat if married. (although this may vary depending on where you live). Usually the court will be in favor of the woman especially if the man was the one braking the marriage by cheating. Honestly, you should not let him get away like this, he needs to understand that his actions have consequences and needs to pay.
@@julimibz This is true... if she lives in the US.
@@julimibzI obviously can't speak to OPs specific experience but if you're in an isolating and abusive relationship, you're often without the time, resources, knowledge and support needed to actually pursue justice
My parents met when my mom was 14 and my dad was in his early twenties. My mom was supposed to go to Harvard but my dad didn’t let her, my mom was 19 when she got married and when she was 20 she got pregnant with me then 2 years later had my little brother.
I think the biggest punch in the face was that after years of abuse and cheating my dad was the one who left, not my mom.
I watched her gain her education from the ground up after we moved in with my grandparents, she is now a veterinarian.
I couldn't be prouder of her.
it's horrible what your mother went through but amazing how far she's come since then. Women like her are an inspiration
I hope your mom knows how amazing she is
That's real as hell, my mum has a similar story. It's evident to me that these women who romanticise the trad-wife movement have never met anyone who's experienced abuse, they all seem very naive & privileged.
How resilient. Thank goodness for the grandparents. Otherwise she would have to start from zero. So happy for her. But sadly she is not the norm for what happens to women who go through that.
badass mother you've got. i hope she is doing well ^-^
Additionally about the egg apron - she ordered that. Thats why she goes "My egg apron!" She had ordered that for herself. Her husband just took the parcel and presented it to her as his gift.
So what did he get her???
@@wyleecoyotee4252 nothing it seems. he maybe gave her gifts off camera, but frankly it seems like social suicide to not show the actual gifts you got your wife after doing that so it's really leaning towards "she got jack shit"
I get that that may have been what she wanted for her day to day life but she made it OBVIOUS that she wanted to travel for her birthday, so that was an issue that should have been cleared up cause they did act as if that was a gift that he bought for her, specifically for her birthday.
If that’s the case , my blood boils even more hearing him say ur welcome
At first I thought they were just doing for the video, a bit of click bait but the look in her eyes. I think says it all.
This is so well put. All of it. Growing up and being taught that its okay for men to abusive and contribute nothing to a relationship while being taught to take care of the house has always confused me. The silent suffering people adore and idiolize is painful to watch. It's nice to see a video with so much naunce often I havent seen people talk about the religious affects and I think it was wonderfully put.
In my opinion I think it's just men who have formed that negative perspective of what a "traditional marriage should be" I think that there's some scriptures about this topic in the bible has be misinterpreted and re-written in the perspectives of men of how they view traditional marriages and women in general. The only thing I can do rn is pray to understand the bible NOT in a man's (i'm talking males) perspective
I'm sick of it. All of it feels off and I won't be afraid to admit that as a Christian
“honey wake up, the only thing keeping this marriage together just posted, pull out the popcorn.”
Dark, I like it.
👑❤️
To bad I couldn't show this to my parents sooner
@@Known_ErrorMeL O L
Very demure very mindful
I love the acting, especially when Nancy screamed “GET OUT OF MY HOUSE” that was insane. And the line “how many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts have bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being a woman” LITERALLY SENT CHILLS DOWN MY BACK
right omg
It did happen, many wife had their works stolen and were send to psychiatric hospital if they were to "hard to handle". Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart was inspired by his sister, Maria Anna Mozart. She was a child prodigy too and there is evidence that Maria wrote musical compositions, but none survived. When she reached a marriageable age, her musical career was terminated. She was permitted to be a piano teacher.
@@verobb7149 oh wow that’s tragic
I completely agree. That was masterful, had my feminist heart burning
Let's not forget the idea that no woman could ever be another Shakespeare. I don't know the exact quote or who said it, but I know I've read it. It ignored the fact that for centuries, women were far less educated than men, in favor of asserting that women lacked the psychological and emotional depth, intelligence, skill, and talent of men. Yet this is obviously an unfair assessment. Even if you firmly believe that Shakespeare himself was a common man and don't entertain the theories that his name was used as a cover story/pen name for some higher-status playwright, he would've had a much easier time gaining knowledge of the world through education, self-education, and travel than a woman of the time would have done.
Imagine a world where women had been granted the same freedom of movement and education that Shakespeare had. We would have likely had at least one who reached Shakespeare's level of fame. That's ignoring the theories I've seen that involve the possibility that Shakespeare was used as a cover story for a woman playwright. I don't have a particularly strong opinion on the legitimacy of Shakespeare as an author vs. as a pen name one way or another, regardless whether the plays are attributed to a woman, a nobleman, a merchant, etc.; there's too little evidence available, and what is available tends to be circumstantial.
There are many historical women authors and artists who are barely or not at all remembered today, even though their works were often every bit as good as their male counterparts' of the time (or better). But there weren't as many as men precisely because of their expected role in society and because they were denied the education and training that would have helped more women excel.
You forgot to mention that sometimes even the best husbands can die and be bad at managing money, leaving you with nothing and a bunch of kids and no marketable skills or job experience.
This. I was looking for someone saying this. You can be 100% convinced your husband is a good man and would never treat you wrong but how can you be sure he’s not going to get seriously ill or even die and leave you with your kids alone without any income, it’s just irresponsible.
Adding onto this absolutely correct post, he might also have medical trouble down the line. People get sick, get hurt, get disabled all the time, and husbands and fathers are not exempt. If this happens, not only would a housewife have a stale resumé, family to feed, and normal bills to pay, she would also have medical expenses, while having (at least temporarily) lost his income during an already stressful season of their lives. Those are times that are hard for anyone and made much easier by her having her own pre-established source of income to rely on. Having multiple sources of income provides security, which is important for anyone, but especially children.
My mother was a nurse but never handled the finances so when my father died she turn to my husband. This made me realize, as a stay at home mom, what will I do when he’s gone? I know nothing about finances! I’m working on that. 🤞
Get life insurance
@@bobfearnley5724 life insurance is a good option, but that's assuming that you have the means to pay the premiums for it or relying on your husband to set that up on his own.
The idea that women might not feel safe telling their husbands who they voted for or the idea that they would even be asked such a question at all is horrible
I have asked that of my partner but the reason is so that I could hear and try to understand their reasoning in case there's something I've missed in my own thoughts. I don't think the question itself is bad at all, but the motive definitely can be (and sadly usually is). She didn't actually answer me who, which is fine too, but we did have a conversation about the reasoning so the person didn't actually much matter
Several years back, my husband and I had gone to our local polling spot to vote in a presidential election. He had gone ahead of me because I was having trouble digging my license out of my billfold. With that accomplished, I stepped up to show my ID and receive my ballot sheet. The woman who was taking my info was an elderly lady, probably in her early 80's. I gave her my license and she commented on the address being the same and I verified that she had also registered my husband. She looked at my voter designation, looked back up at me and proceeded to ask me if I "truly understood" that my husband's vote would cancel out my vote because we were registered with different parties...did I want her to change my party affiliation so my vote would be counted. I guess I looked a little strange at that moment because she then told me that most wives follow the guidance of their husband's and vote the same party line. I asked her why my vote would be cancelled over my husband...she got a smirky smile on her face and said it was because he was the head of the household and his vote counted more than mine. I told her I would take my chances and no, I didn't want to change parties. She gave a long sigh, said it was too bad I didn't feel comfortable being guided by my husband and she would pray for me. Now....this was in the early 2000's. I had not stepped back in time. I did confirm with another poll worker that what I was told was completely incorrect and they would speak with the volunteer. But to think that, in the 21st century, women still believed a line of horse poop like what she shoveled at me was both sad and infuriating. So for this trend to currently be so glamorized on TikTok....I am terrified for the future of my granddaughter 😢
Mozart and his sister, Maria, were musical prodigies, and Mozart himself said that she was a genius and a much better musician on the harp than he was. Maria by age 12 was considered a child prodigy who toured Europe, and people said that her brother must’ve learned from her. Her father, when she became a teenager, forced her to stop playing. He sent her home, and forced her to marry. While Mozart went on to become the common name, Maria could’ve been beside him. But she wasn’t, because she had the misfortune of being born a woman. She died alone at age 78. Even now, it’s “Mozart’s Sister”, not Maria Anna Mozart.
Tbh, she did not have the misfortune of being born a woman, she had the misfortune of being born to a horrible father. :(
Being a woman is one of the most wonderful experiences life can offer. It brims with creativity, intelligence, depth, compassion, unity, artistry, complexity, inspiration and so much of feeling and smelling ✨pretty✨.
It is the people terrified of our beauty and power that make it vile instead, sadly.
@@sowshanmostafa3671 Mozart was born to the same father, and was allowed to continue with music and become a famous composer. Maria Anna was not.
The Father is a common factor. The difference is that she was female.
@@sowshanmostafa3671 I feel this is a bit biased? I thought both genders were supposed to be a 50/50 on power/deserved love/respect. I wouldn't say terrified i would more say humans who decided they want power against the other humans is it not? Who said we dudes were terrified? It seems a bit more like we had a lot of power, and still have a large social leverage on others in comparison to a small degree. Not every women is better then every guy and vise versa other gender. I mean you deserve to have free will but you also deserve to understand what the 2 choices really mean instead of having the pressures put on to do the one thing your choice was trying to avoid. Well what do i know im just some random 14 year old on the internet you can't really call me a credible source can you?
@@sowshanmostafa3671 what do you mean smelling ✨ pretty ✨??
44-year-old here 🤚 watching from a motel, jobless and homeless atm, because after leaving my good job in a hospital and dedicating years to raising a family and supporting a husbands needs, he had a psychotic meltdown and kicked me and our last, minor, elementary school child out. I will never allow my safety, health, welfare, and roof over my head to be dependent on someone else ever again! THAT is feminism.
I am really sorry that happened to you i hope you are doing fine!
I am so sorry 😢 you deserve so much better
I hope you are alright.
hoping for the best for u queen
I am so sorry!! I hope you know how strong and capable you are! But also that you do not have to always be strong in such a situation. Wishing peace for you!! ❤️
“Crazy single cat ladies” if these people saw a single guy with a dog they would applaud him for financially being able to support having a house and a dog
Exactly lol. These women are idiots.
No, they wouldn't. Those scumbags hate dogs and they hate single men, too.
Oop 🫢
No, they would certainly just hate crime the single man or put him down.
Ah... Definitely not, he would be surely treated as a virgin loser or as a toxic guy, even if he's neither of both, haters will be hates regardless of your gender.
1:19 the mad respect I have for FunkyFrogBait is unreal. Most influencers wouldn’t care about the future of the child, or the internet-based chaos that not blurring the face of the child could cause, while FunkyFrogBait actually cares enough to take a bit and edit out the child’s appearance. Maybe there are some real gems on the internet. ☺️
I didn't even realise that. That's actually huge
The concept of a Trad Wife isn't even traditional. Historically women have had to work, especially impoverished women. They worked in agriculture, at the markets, as maids and servants and of course as adult workers. Even children had to work so their family could eat.
Even during the twentieth century, women went to work in the factories because the men were fighting abroad.
As for the upper classes and the women who didn't need to work, their children were mostly raised by nannies.
The idea that a woman stays at home to raise her children alone is completely new and is only reinforced as a way to control women.
Well said 👏
You're absolutely right! Their ideas are based on pure fiction and fantasy and have no basis in history or reality at all.
I agree! Enola Holmes and Enola Holmes 2 on Netflix (mostly the sequel) display this I think. One of the main plot points of number 2 is that young women and CHILDREN are DYING in match factories because a chemical in the matches was causing typhus, and they would get sick and die.
Another good film that displays tings like this is A League of Their Own. About women playing baseball while their husbands were in the military.
@@Phoenix-theExcellent Um, typhus isn't caused by chemicals, it's a bacterial infection.
"can u fold clothes?" as i was actually folding clothes was so funny to me LOL
😂❤
Yeah, me too.
I feel attacked.
I'm just a poor boy trying to survive.
Why do you call me a tradwife. 😢
@@GekkeHenkie1313😂
Me too lol I was begrudgingly folding my siblings' clothes because they did the other chores 😞
The reverse for me, sitting surrounded by the clothes I totally should’ve folded about a week ago
“Feminism bad 👹😡”
Did we conveniently forget that prior to the legalisation of divorce women were just straight up sent to the grave if their husbands wanted to get remarried.
Historically a woman disinterested in continuing marriage could just wait and the world would take her husband's life in some way.
@@georgegrote7836 As soon as divorce was allowed, deaths of husbands by their wives went down
It's not his fault if he got a defective one. People forget that prior to 1970, women did not have the little recycle triangle symbol on the bottom of their right foot.
So a man who wanted a fresh start was left with having to wait for the twice yearly wife-goods curb pickup, or taking care of the disposal himself.
@@paulpinecone2464brother literally what the fuck are you saying 😭
@@paulpinecone2464 Breaking News. Local man implies women deserved to be killed if their husbands didn't like them enough. Genuinely thinks it's a good argument.
using your father to book a plane ticket next to a woman who has turned you down for 6 months, to essentially force interactions between you two onto her, is actually psychotic and terrifying. i’d think i was about to be murdered or am being stalked …
4:23 shit like selfishly refusing to hire a nanny for your eight kids when you’re beyond rich and can easily afford it (and a Greece vacation for your wife), and controlling your wife’s choice to use pain meds during all of her births, is SO ABUSIVE
I get such strong Andrea Yates vibes from all of this........ literally, America never learnt from what that poor woman went through.
And the kicker is, I personally know half a dozen women like this who were either cheated on or left when the husband found someone new. The babies that this woman is monetizing won’t stay young forever and neither will she. How many options will she have then if he leaves (and I wonder how much of what they own is in her name as well).
You don't know what abusive means dummy
When you love someone, seeing them in pain is sheer agony. That man does not love her.
@Melissa-tw2gp Women don't love, they EXPECT.
A day ago I hear a kid in my class say ‘Why’d we even give women rights? What are they gonna do with them.” WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
You can tell him to Yap that back at his mommy and see how it turns out
NO FUCKING WAY FR!?
Did you beat his ass? 👏👏👏👏👏
Drop his instagram or tik tok
What is he doing with HIS rights? 😐
To people who idealize the 50s, women could not open up their own bank accounts or take out loans until 1974 with “The Equal Credit Opportunity Act (ECOA) of 1974”.
They were also all on drugs to get through the day. They were even advertised as “moms happy pills”
Also the top marginal tax rate was as high as 94% and the corporate tax rate was over 50%. I wonder if that has anything to do with the strength of the middle class at the time 🤔
I read about Europe in the 50’s so I don’t really get why people idolize the 50s :p
they were also beaten by their husbands 😍
They know this. People who glorify the 50's are absolute scumbags.
okay but can we talk about the cool drawings that appear throughout the video? They’re well drawn with a goofy, cartoony style that’s really appealing. Can we PLEASE see more of these doodles?
I'm a woman and I'm terrified for my future. Remember ladies, you don't have to tell anyone who you voted for. THATS YOUR RIGHT; that feminism rewarded you.
Remember you can vote and if you want to still have that choice…please vote.
Vote now, or you might not be able to next election.
@@quixomegadamn, thats horrible to think about :(
"Why do our daughters have to fight for the rights their grandmothers already won for them." Is the most important thing I've heard/seen lately.
Man, it's not even fun to make fun of the US anymore. :-/
As an Europoor I really hope you can sort that out, although I don't really see how. Best of luck!
(I must admit though, that a tiny part in me thinks that it could help as a warning for us here, at least?)
It's so important to reiterate: feminism is not telling all these women they are living their lives wrong. Feminism is letting them know that they have the choice to be who they want to be. I don't want to go to work either, that's not the fault of feminism, that's just how the world works now. Men hate working too.
Yep. Women (and men) NEEDING to work to survive (and thus not really having a choice between homemaker and worker) isn't the fault of feminism, it's the fault of capitalism. The vast majority of households with children simply can't survive on one paycheck these days. This lady can only make that choice because her husband is rich AF.
Exactly. That is the fault of capitalism. Not feminism
@@supermeme177 yep also women of the working class also had to work in the past.
@@Marzi29 Id still choose to work over being a homemaker. Not every woman is "forced to work because her husband is poor". Women just want to be independent people too.
Lmao u people r such retards
When I was 14, I told an uncle of mine that I wanted to be a chef, told him all the things I wanted do as a chef. When he agreed with me, I thought he was being supportive until he said that I should learn how to cook like a chef so I can make my future husband happy. No matter what I said what my dreams are, he will make it about how much it would benefit whoever married me-not myself only.
I wish you could give your uncle a massive middle finger and hope for the best on your endeavor as a chef! Jesus, they want yiu to marry a man who can’t cook for himself and expect you to do it for him? Hard pass.
I hope you became a chef so you can cook an amazing meal for your entire family and then spit in his food before serving it to him.
@@mitchellbarnes8538weirdo 💀
You should make a beautiful, delicious meal for yourself and chew it slowly in front of him 😭
@@LilBunni7 ooh that's the right energy
I’m 63 - and I’ve seen a lot.
You’re 💯 right, on all of this.
Thank you for sharing this.
The disgusted look my cousin, who was a teenage girl at the time, made when her Trad wife mother served instant potatoes instead of homemade haunts me to this day. It's not just the husband, it is baked into the fabric of their lifestyle in every imaginable sense.
That’s crazy!
I'm glad my man understands if I'm tired we're having kraft Mac and cheese with hot dogs in it lol. (I normally cook because I like fresh food that's been recently made)
But he knows, he gets What I cook and if he doesn't want that he can sort it out himself lol.
@@shadowsoulless6227 I’m so glad to hear that!
When I’m tired, I make instant potatoes for a side or toss a frozen meal in the oven. I can’t imagine being judge by the whole family for taking a short cut! Kinda similar to you said but if my siblings don’t like what I make, they can make something up themselves haha
i pity the daughter, its often for daughters to join their fathers in being cruel to their mother, until the father stops loving the daughter.
Lol instamash is the same damn thing if you get the moisture right. Picky brats.
I’d rather be a ‘weird cat lady’ then get yelled at for making a rare steak instead of a medium.
If you're lucky there's a spanking in it too.
What the hell is this, raging bull 🤣
i honestly dream of being an old cat lady.. i guess a man could be in it
U can still medium a rare steak tho so guys like that are just dicks.
Easy fix. Put it back on the grill dear.
Another crazy point to consider is that the Bible doesn’t even promote women being helpless and completely relying on men for absolutely everything. There are many examples of strong women who hold business roles, government/leadership roles, etc. in the Bible. So the people who are essentially trapping their wives with the ideology that they need to give up their dreams and do nothing but homemake are solely doing that for personal gain no matter what label they try to stick on it
The term is Bible Thumper or Hider. They're not Christians.
They just cherry pick and use the Bible our of context to justify terrible behavior.
Exactly! Ruth, Esther, fuckin MARY?! Jesus’ mom?! There are some real badass women of the Bible and they just… get softly ignored
Oh most definitely! Very funny to see people who use the religion where the main character surrounds himself in respectful and (mostly) selfless young men and intelligent strong wealthy women to promote the exact opposite.
My mother enjoys talking about how Jesus chose to reveal himself to the women first as well as how God chose Joseph (the man who when he found out his fiancé was pregnant with another’s child, instead of immediately having his neighborhood stone her to death publicly like most men would, said he would let her leave him quietly) to be the man to help raise His son.
I personally think the story where Jesus scolded Martha for acting like a good woman and staying in the kitchen, especially in the context of Rabbi not teaching women. Jesus was definitely about as feminist as it gets.
Deborah didn't girlboss so we could girlunderachieve
Yes this is my favorite thing!!!! If anyone reading this comment hasn’t read the story of Deborah, in Judges 4, PLEASE go and read it. I LOVE that story cause it has not one, but TWO women who defy the expectations of the traditional standard at the time, and they get the credit they deserve.
For anyone who’s briefly curious: Deborah delivers a message to an army general saying to go conquer an enemy general and that the Lord will be with him. He doubts she’s speaking from the Lord (imo it’s just simply because she’s a woman) and as a result, she tells him he won’t get the glory for taking down the enemy and that it’ll go to a woman instead. Which is like, the biggest roast she could’ve delivered, considering how they viewed women in that time!
And that’s not even the best part! Seriously, it’s one the SICKEST stories of women in the first part of the Bible.
Hands down one of your best videos, I love the way you express your ideas, as well as the way you present yourself, keep up the good work
My mom was sadly a victim of these ideals. When I was 5 my dad forced her to put in her two weeks at her job (even writing the resignation himself) so she could take care of me despite not having a job himself. When he got a job again, she still stayed home with me while he controlled the finances. It got so bad to where we would be grocery shopping and anything that wasn't on the list that we needed my mom had to call him and ask permission to get it. When he divorced her, she was left with nothing and had to claw her way to having a job and being able to take care of me full time.
A lot of these trad lifestyle supporters will never understand just how damaging it is for one person to have the ability to leave the other with nothing.
What happened to your father
@@K_idk ?????? He divorced their mother and left them destitute? Were you not reading?
@@Violet-Storm Yeah but we were kinda hoping he ended up miserable later down the line >:D
These women all think they are different. They are special. They did all the right things so that kind of thing would cover happen to them. That outcome is only for the bad ones. And then they get left for a younger model.
Of course they understand, that's the whole idea, unfortunately.
Funky Frog's haircut is that of either a band member of an 80s glam rock group or a newyorka' in a movie who's either the inattentive receptionist or a stock trader with giant shoulder pads.
My farts are better than FunkyFrogBait’s farts 💨
yeah and they're chewing gum while using their really loud type writter
How about all of the above?
She reminds me of Misty Quigley from YellowJackets (younger version obviously)
It is very specifically April O' Neil from the 1990 TMNT movie and you can't convince me otherwise
the mozart mention actually hits if you know how talented his sister was (according to himself she was a genuis and way more amazing musician than him) but never got to even release a single composition of hers bc their father wouldn't let her 😭
I learned about this a few years ago and it made me incredibly sad for her.
And?how tf would that change anyones life? Go to poor countries and ask them for mozarts or any of these,people are busy with their own lives and taking care of family and making htem into good people.audacity of mentioning mozart while you have the bs music industry today,like you know any of mozarts pieces
@roomofmirrors and Einstein's wife was a gifted scientist who contributed to his work but never got any recognition for it.
@@puch9830how are you so angry man😭 you are getting ignored by everyone you reply to, like what you just wrote doesn't even make sense or has anything to do with anything the comment originally said, get a job man
@@puch9830what’s with the hate? Learning history is good, and learning women’s history is probably a subject that should be taught in schools, as well as black history, lgbtq history, and so much more, we already know white history, the rich are the ones who wrote history books, and who were the rich people? Whites. Get a fucking grip, and pull your head out of your ass, why do people need to know any of motzarts shit songs to be able to criticize or critique what his family did to his sister, when EVEN MOTART acknowledged his sister was better than he was. Go troll somewhere else, fucking weirdo.
this is genuinely my favorite video from you, it's a perfect mix of comedy and education and genuine concern for our and future generations of women
A reminder from Dylan Marron: "Empathy is not Endorsement." Your empathy and understanding is not and SHOULD NOT BE limited to people you agree with. You can feel for someone and still know they're wrong.
Honestly I find empathy for people who make thinking flaws to be the most educational for myself. Because by getting a gut feeling for how and why other people make decisions that I myself know (or think to know) to be wrong, I can more reasily find the flaws in my own thinking and perhaps even forgive myself for it.
Thank you for this slogan!!!! Such a powerful phrase to reintroduce nuance, not every opinion has to be black or white!
The amount of times I’ve run into something like this - two things can exist at once. For example: you can do good in a game and still lose, you can critique something (whether it’s a show, a person, or a character) and still like it, you can try and explain someone’s actions and not be defending/excusing them, and like you said, you can feel for someone and still think they’re in the wrong. People who think otherwise make me, someone who’s not even an adult yet, very sad to think about :(
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You're confusing empathy and approval. I don't approve of that "Trad wife" I don't approve because I've been there. I had to plan 5 years secretly... An still was hurt leaving... So I love me now.... He froze to death.... Cuz God must not like ugly🤷🏼♀️... I'm grateful my kids are grown and healed.. an love rules the day!! Kindness empathy ext... But self love means no one can tell you lies about who I are... 🤷🏼♀️
“I would rather stay home and cook and clean.” Sweetheart, you wouldn’t even get to say “rather” you would just have to accept it without feminism.
I have seen women who hate on feminism take most advantages of it. To spread nonsense😖
Wrong. Been a homemaker for 28 years now. I've had college at my fingertips with the GI bill. I loved being a sahm. My babies are grown now and I'm going on my 19th cruise next week. I have a beautiful home and my dream vehicle.
@@HillbiillyPrincess you missed the point
@@HillbiillyPrincessno hate honestly happy it worked out for you queen but i don’t believe you would have access to those benefits had it not been for the strides in feminism over the past 5 decades ❤
Feminists wouldn’t have anything without the validation and support of men. 😅
30:59 I heard someone say "if you give a man the power to feed you, he also has the power to starve you"
Man here, it always comes to that in my experience from talking with my female friends
equally if someone is strong enough to protect you, he is strong enough to abuse you
That is true about the government too!
True
And this trend inspired my cosmic horror book about a brain eating fungus obsessed with the 50s
To be completely honest, I’d love to read something like that. ♡
The horror movie where a powerful guy pulls strings so he can sit next to a specific woman on a plane in order to use her is called "red eye". You were close with ' the flight' though props.
Rachel McAdams was in it, omg I remember how unhinged the guy was.
That part genuinely scared me. If a guy did that, I'd file a restraining order.
Also 50 shades of grey
LOLOL was looking for a comment like this i love that movie
What's crazy is that there are so many women that have this weird Cinderella complex of "Well if he truly loves you he will chase you down"
No, A man should not be hunting you like you're an animal....like NOOOOO
“Why would I want to have a job” oh idk maybe if your husband starts abusing you or cheating on you and you eventually decide to leave, the best way to do that is with money.
Or maybe I like being financially independent and doing work that benefits society. That's reason enough for me
But also, we all like and need work to an extent. Humans don't thrive being lazy and doing nothing of any kind. We just don't like capitalist work, which is entirely different. Gardening? Work. Solving puzzles? Work. Helping out ppl who can't do things independently? Work. And these are things that plenty of ppl find enjoyable and rewarding, they just don't call it work bc of capitalist conditioning.
Being a tradwife is still a job though lol. It requires so much of you. They don't even make their own sense.
@@BIOL6895 fr omg .
@@miyounovaCapitalism doesn't have anything to do with what defines work. All those things you mentioned are hobbies and they do not benefit society directly but rather, you or your family.
“how many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? how many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman” is such an incredibly precise and heavy-hitting metaphor my fucking god
You should read "Why Have There Been No Great Women Artists" by Linda Nochlin, it covers a lot of the Socioeconomic historical stuff that did prevent Women from pursuing the arts. Really awesome publication!
I get furious watching these men scream to a woman that being a trad wife and staying at home is better than working, but it's still work, in fact several jobs that require the same effort of an employed person but without paid wages, which means a lower rank than even a maid, all this and I don't understand what a man's role or the sacrifice he will make by being a 'trad husband', putting so much value on the bare minimum and can't even provide basic respect, that's what a 'trad husband ' is, I think
@Dutiyf I think the basic schema is that the 'trad husband,' has to work hard to bring home the money to support the ungodly amount of children running around. I suspect that basic schema is somewhat invalid when you're a nepo baby and millionaire by birth
@@Dutiyf Also, you can clock out after work, you can’t clock out when you’re a stay at home parent. Even then, working women are still expected to cook, clean, and take care of the kids. Working men have no excuses.
And especially hitting knowing about Einstein's first wife and Mozart's sister...
I did NOT expect this to bring me to tears and hit so hard
Domestic violence is the number 1 killer of women during pregnancy.
@@gforcethomas Citation?
@@генри1917 GOOOOOOOGLE IT.
@@генри1917 Took me 2 minutes to google it. Take your weaponized incompetence somewhere else 🧹💨
Google is free :) @@генри1917
@@генри1917 google this quote to get the article "Women in the US are more likely to be murdered during pregnancy or soon after childbirth than to die from the three leading obstetric causes of maternal death (high blood pressure disorders, hemorrhage, or sepsis), say experts in The BMJ today."
Women against feminism devastates me in a way that I can’t appropriately put into words. Seeing our sisters radicalized against us, against themselves, and against their own self interests breaks my heart.
It's actually horrifying
I wish all those anti feminist videos were redone by women that are true feminists who don't mind men being gentlemen because they also are gentle-women. An not by the psycho fanatic anti anything male types of "feminist" We need to normalize what an ACTUAL Christian, Liberal, Feminist, Woke person is vs the extreme psycho fanatic version that gets seen as the face of us by the media.
Literally my sister 😪💀
Hello👋 male here, it scares me as well… I’d rather women have the option to make the male wear protection and not have to worry about children by getting plan B if she chooses to not have him wear protection. Now if we could figure out how to make safer birth controls that’d also be nice, or better yet, male birth control? Heard a story about it ONCE and never again…
@@gageemmons4124male birth control should def be a thing. Make sex safer for everyone.
25:27 feminist here, I take birth control for medical reasons and yet I still have to track my menstrual cycle. Imagine bragging about having a period to put down other women
Literally same.
She may have been referring to the difference between withdrawal bleeds on birth control and actual period bleeds that proceed ovulation. Which to me is still weird to brag about…
Same. My period causes me faint, have insomniac episodes for days, heart palpitations (I am also anemic so that doesn’t help) severe mental issues that change drastically. I have to take birth control to avoid losing so much control of my body and my life coming to a halt every month because of it. Birth control has helped abundantly and it’s so ignorant and insulting that women shame others for the use of it. it’s insanity.
I was just ranting to my friends about how conservative politicians don't seem to know that birth control is used for more than contraception, as someone who also needs it for medical reasons, this is very annoying.
How is period tracking supposed to work when they’re expected to submit to their husbands every night?
I mean this with all my heart but you are the most amazing commentary TH-camr out there
I am just now getting to the end of a divorce because after my husband and I got married, he suddenly stopped doing any household chores, expected me to cook and clean every day, kept pressuring me to have a kid, and ignored me and my needs completely while he spent all his time with his friends and having them sleep at our home multiple nights a week. All while I was also working. I’d get home around 9pm and he’d ask what was for dinner. Like, dude, you could have made a sandwich or something with all the groceries I bought. Luckily we kept separate bank accounts, never had kids, and the only shared asset was the car, so the divorce isn’t too messy.
Edit: wow I did not expect any response from this. Thank you to everyone wishing me good things, I wish it all for you too. I had four years of this relationship and I’m very happy after leaving. I hope anyone dealing with the same or similar have a chance to make their life what they want, too. 🖤
Good for you girl! Like I swear to god I cannot fathom wanting your spouse to do everything for you when you’re a grown adult who could do it themselves! These men should be ashamed of themselves.
glad you got out, I wish you all the best for your future! ❤
You divorced your husband because he would not make his own sandwiches and had friends? Sounds pretty stupid and short sighted. Maybe he was a dick, I don't know him, but that is such a pitiful and weak reason to end your marriage. My mum is next to me reading your comment (A Real Woman), she was laughing and saying how in 10 years you will regret being so self centered. I'm sure you will attack me in return, but give it time, being alone will be harder. You can not change reality and time comes for us all.
@@salkoharper2908 I’m sorry but if you can’t make yourself a damn sandwich and expect your wife to do it for you then you are a child and quite frankly, he got what he deserved. Please spare me your pity, he was a dick? Bro is a whole ass toddler with how much weight he’s dragging along and letting his wife do the slack. Imagine trying to act incompetent at your job, they would literally fire you if you can’t do it so why should we expect to put up with childish notions like this dude. Also if you are reading the comment, the wife wasn’t mad he had friends, she stated that he KEPT hanging with his friends and letting them freeload at their place multiple times a week. Imagine having strangers in your home that you only knew because they are friends of your husband and are offloading and taking up space in the home they aren’t even paying rent.
Also, who are you to decide she’ll be alone forever? Life changes and I wish she would find a better partner than her old one cause guess what? This woman knows her worth and she won’t settle for less.
@@salkoharper2908 this comment is so insane I actually can't tell if it's satire or not
Former Jehovah's Witness- Married at 23 but a house wife until he emptied our bank account, stole the new generator my parents bought and left to never see or speak to me again. They had to find me to collect his body after he died because I was his legal next of kin since I didn't have money to divorce. I wasn't even told when the funeral would be. I am 48 years old and still unlearning the Patriarchy.
You’ll learn that everything leads to the patriarchy some way or another, sorry
I'm so sorry all of that happened to you, what a nightmare. Best of luck on your journey to unpack all of this.
you are so strong and i wish you luck on your journey!!
I’m so sorry that happened to you. You are so strong! Keep going!
As a fellow ex-jw, I can imagine how hard it must've been for you. Know that you are not alone in the world when you leave the religion, rather you just entered a new era of company, happiness and love.
I was a stay at home mom for ten years. My husband decided his hr manager was a better fit for him than me and left. I am now struggling day to day because I have no degree and ten years with no work experience. I never considered myself a trad wife, I was just doing what worked for us. I never realized the dangerous position I was putting myself in.
@@jodisantillan3948 hope you are doing better💚
Same, I have 3 kids. The cost of daycare was too much. I lived in an 8 bedroom house now im in a trailer. But its less stressful. I hope you re okay. Send you lots of love.❤❤❤
He knew, though. So sorry it happened to you.
So many women also don’t realize that if you don’t pay taxes for a certain number of quarters (40 = 10 years) you don’t qualify for social security on your own.
If you were married and had kids then you can get child support and half the estate.
I hear so much honesty in your content. I appreciate your sincerity and straightforward communication style. Good job.
Also, the idea that all women stayed home and didn’t work before the 1960s is verifiably false. Most of the “ideal housewife” imagery from the 1950s focuses on upper middle and upperclass white women because most others were out working just like the men. The problem is that they were payed significantly less and often didn’t have access to their own earnings, among many other things.
such a great point, these trad wife enthusiasts dont even think about the class element of it
Capital owners really liked the fact that they can get twice the workforce for the same pay during WWII and sticked with it.
Idealizing a single earner household isn't necessarily bad, but you need a lot of socialism to get there.
My maternal grandmother was born in 1924 and she worked her entire life until retirement. She worked in agriculture most of the time and those were definitely jobs children and women were doing way before my grandma was born as well.
One of my paternal great-aunts used to be a radio technician back in the day. She was born in the 30s so this was in the 50s and 60s.
Working class people usually all worked in some way outside the house to afford to live especially over here in Europe.
Because their earnings would go straight to their husbands?
@@DieAlteistwiederdamy great grandmothers ( I was lucky to have known them both) worked as well as my grandmothers. They only stopped working as soon as they had children.
FUNKYFROG CLEANING MONTAGE GOES WAY TOO HARD
My farts are better than FunkyFrogBait’s farts 💨
@@p-__
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she's kinda hot as a trad...
also i dont know if it was just me who noticed but ive been a long funkyfrog fan and the drawings that they put in were really nice and added a good touch :)
Being a housewife is also a class privilege. Many women, especially in the Third World, have to work and take care of the house. In my country (Mexico), 4 out of 10 children do not have a father because of child abandonment... My grandmother always told my aunts that even if they were housewives, they should have a bachelor's degree and money.
This is such an important point!
I find it both funny and pathetic how men have the gall to blame *mothers* for *fathers* abandoning children
@@vanessacarses3942 this. Women have always worked. May it be on farm. Or as maid, cook, nanny anything and everything. Only rich women had the privilege. These tradhoes are selling a fantasy
Good point well made!
More proof men are negligent babies
This vid is how I found you. Automatic sub! As a 35yr old married to a man, cis bi lady, mostly stay at home mom of 3 who considers herself a feminist and a huge nerd. LOVE the content. I can see you put in so much work, and look forward to binging all your videos. After I get my kids to bed of course, cuz that's a wife's job 🙃
She’s 100% oppressed. Oppression isn’t an identity or just an experience- it’s an observed set of circumstances and systems. Oppression is simply a description. She’s oppressed.
and the thing Kal was saying about the gilded cage at the end was spot on, especially in the context of Ballerina Farm.
She's abused. From the very start, when this pos decided to just obtain her as a property
Yet people will continue to deny and deny again as a method of comfort
Yep. A bird may like the cage, may even prefer it, but it's still undeniably caged and more woe to the others of its kind that find the cage less pleasant than it.
She not oppressed at all. They make a choice. Telling someone that there choice is wrong is evil.
Trad wife are just doing stuff that one partner does in a relationship guy or girl
There just doing it in cosplay. For views
As a guy 15 years old, im just so surprised how cleaning, cooking, clothes is such a struggle for husbands. Like i have a mother with issues (disabilities wise) and so i do most of the chores and ITS NOT THAT HARD, and if the husband is full on work. Load your wife with presents/love , instead of a FUCKING APRON. But anyway love the videos
Congratulations young one. Just know that you are more self sufficient than all the grown men from Daily Wire.
@@sarahcloud444 😂😂😂😂
It's not difficult to figure out how to do chores, but it does use energy and time to learn and do them. Some loser husbands would rather trick a woman into thinking she's loved so he can get her to be a servant and do it for him. Heck you have to spend 10 while seconds looking up a TH-cam video if you've never used a vacuum before, that's time you could instead delegate to your servant.
@@Neo69420it's sad but true, most men don't know or want to learn how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. It's pathetic honestly. But you are one great kid, keep up the good work ❤
@@BankruptMonkey because of my sensory issues i was always scared of using a vacuum cleaner.. then i just tried it with earplugs and it worked perfectly for me. makes me proud that i can still accomplish things despite my problems, unlike these pathetic manchildren
"how many motzarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they were born a woman" girl dropping bars
No because that like goes unreasonably hard
This would be lowkey a tattoo that goes hard
Fr, that was fuckin rough.
They had the misfortune* of being born a woman. It goes even deeper
This should be adopted into the feminist manifesto!
My mom finally left my dad this last year. They were married almost 20 years, and that whole time she never had her own bank account. I had to take her to a bank so she could open one for herself.
Members of our family and her church were not happy with her decision to get a divorce, but they’re totally fine with the abuse that was going on I guess.
She now lives with me so she can build back up her own life after years of letting someone else control hers. I’m so proud of her for finally leaving that situation ❤️
Whether you are a feminist or not- having independence over your own facilities is paramount.
The thing about women not being able to open a back account independently until 1974 made my jaw DROP
I need to text my mom about that because WHAT
Surprised not enough people know about this!
The claim about women not having the right to open bank accounts before 1974 is somewhat misleading. There were many women before 1974 with bank accounts. Where women did have more difficulty was getting access to credit in their own name (and on equal terms). At a time when credit cards were becoming popular, the Equal Credit Opportunity Act of 1974 expanded access to credit by prohibiting banks from discriminating on the basis of gender.
There is a post on r/AskHistorians called “Could women open a bank account in the US in the 1950s?” where a commenter gives a great overview of studies about women’s access to banking in the early 1970s.
Shocking how many people don't know about that
@@amicaaranearum this doesn’t make it any less insane.
These intros feel more and more like a miniseries. Imma need film therapy to hope on this, decode the lore
My farts are better than FunkyFrogBait’s farts 💨
Epic pfp
@@p-__ I seriously doubt that.
Film therapy (i know its a misspelling shut it.),,i find it funny
omg lmk pfp
The line “how many Einsteins spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over a stove instead of a piano because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?” hits SO MUCH HARDER when you know that Einsteins wife contributed immensely to his research and he took credit for everything. Mozart had a sister equally if not more talented than him but she gave up music when her family married her off.
Damn
There's a quote that I can't quite remember but it was a man trying to credit his wife's assistance because of course he got all the credit. There are also so many other women scientists throughout history that just straight up had their work stolen by men because women weren't recognized as being smart. The same goes for women artists. It was so rare for women to be recognized for being capable of anything other than children factories.
Rosalind franklyn and her contribution to chromosomes taken into credit by her professor idrk but our teacher made sure to educate us students about how her work wasn't given much credit.
Ada Lovelace and Clara Schubert. Two amazingly talented women. Ignored by history and constantly overshadowed by a man.
@@lucypreece7581 at least Ada is getting a little more recognized these days (and with "these days" i really mean around "last 15 years", maybe a bit more). I've seen a lot of places selling images of her, and it's so good to recognize the women in STEM
The stories told by the former trad wives breaks my heart because my mom went through the same thing during the divorce while raising me and my other two siblings. She was stuck with a massive gap in job experience a decade ago and to this day is still struggling and very close to homelessness with a disabling job that won't pay her enough meanwhile my dad recovered just fine from the divorce and could retire before 60
The most typical story
"At best, the tradwife lives her life comfortably, in a gilded cage. At worst, shes caught in a deathtrap." That last sentence hit so hard and actually got me to tear up. You said it so much better than most I see talking about this
Are liberals really so emotionally incontinent?
i got literal chills...
And as a woman who grew up in an initially two income household, until my father became dangerously ill, if my mother hadn't been working, we may have been hungry, instead of just having to give up hobbies.
Yeah, that is something that I would ask trad wifes. Not if her men leaves her (because "he never will! He loves me!"), but what would happen if he became disabled or seriously ill and unable to work. So if you want to be a trad wife, be one, but always have a plan B in your pocket.
Yeah true.
historically (and currently, let’s not kid ourselves) disabled people were seen as drains on society. so i’d imagine the compassion for a man unable to support his family would be minimum, if at all.
i think of this as another way gender is socially constructed. gender is stripped from disabled people who don’t fit conventional aesthetics and roles because of their disabilities.
a man no longer able to support his family financially is no longer a man. a woman unable to have children is no longer a woman. disabled people have never been upheld as exemplifying gender stereotypes.
disabled people aren’t granted the same access to gender, and thus, the same access to a world reliant on rigid binary gender, as able-bodied folks are.
@@Valfara770 The irony of that, though, is that it usually *is* that he leaves her in the tradwife setup, whether they believe that will happen or not. Often he ends up cheating or flat out leaving the tradwife for a younger woman.
Mind you, I make a distinction between the tradwife and the housewife. The tradwife is focused strongly on traditional gender roles and religion and will also often homeschool the children; she doesn't have much else unless she does TikTok or TH-cam videos. Tradwives also have a heavy emphasis on an aesthetic, with the idea being that they need to look good for their husbands. The housewife, who has often simply chosen to stay at home because childcare is unaffordable, might still have part-time jobs and likely visits with friends during the day. Most tradwives defer to their husbands and aren't really partners in the relationship. Most housewives have some expectation that their spouses will do parenting and chores when they return home, have a say in the budget, and wear comfortable and practical clothing. Most of them aren't focused on pretty dresses or makeup or making TH-cam videos.
I genuinely worry for tradwives who aren't wealthy (because many of them are, and that's how they afford that lifestyle) because they don't have a retirement fund of any type or work experience they can rely on if something does happen or if their husband leaves them for someone else. A lot of times, their religion has pressured them into that situation. But I also worry for the young women who see tradwife videos and somehow fail to see how fake those videos are, especially when the young people are *not* wealthy and then seek out a "trad husband." These are the women who end up left by their misogynistic husbands and end up destitute because they never had money and they usually don't have job experience or higher education either.
same case with me, my father died with a mountain of medical debts and my mom still manage to feed me and my brother. imagine if she was a sahm? we would be out in the streets, i tbh dont support women stay at home if they dont have that plan B. idk, dowry? trust fund? anything that can make sure her and her children lives.
1:24 ive never heard a more passive-agressive 'youre welcome' in my life
@@isaw9969 it truly made me so mad when I heard it. that guy is such a jackass.
It really shows that he doesn't do anything for her because he expects a big thanks for an apron lmao.
Right? It seems like he knows the "gift" sucked, wasn't what she wanted, and basically was a display of power. "I'm going to give you something that sucks and you're going to immediately thank me for it."
It’s like scary somehow
@@Goat.Cheeseexactly
There are so many scriptures about being patience and kind. To love, to be gentle. To be a light. I’m so sorry if ur parents were darkness for you. You are so smart and have amazing gifts. Although I do not share ur views, I understand ur mindset and how u came to these conclusions. Absolutely masterfully put together.
For anyone who doesn't believe that a handmaid's tale scenario is possible - in the 60s, the middle east was fairly liberal, with a solid separation between mosque and state; the majority of women did not cover themselves, women were highly educated and allowed to work outside the home. That all changed by the 70s thanks to a radical group of religious traditionalist. Ask yourself: if it can happen there, what's stopping it from happening here?
Well you know, it's _those_ people, _they're_ just like this, not like _us._ We're _civilised._
OK, but really, I'll find it bitterly hilarious if Western countries manage to regress. Those "savages" were in the desert, with few resources, contending with constant instability surrounding them. We, the "civilised" ones, are just sleepwalking into it for the hell of it.
this is currently happening in my country and it is HELL on earth. i wake up everyday dreading what's to come. my government has given a voice to a radical religious CULT that's tortured people to death (including a feminist women because of who she was) and hid their bodies back in 90s. i want every women that'll see my comment to never be silent, don't accept being silenced.
Just because we cover ourselves doesn't mean we're uneducated. I Live in the middle east and not everyone here is covered, stopp pushing a western propaganda. We still have schools and university that both men and women attend. (Most people who attend Schools here where I live are actually women) We're not cave people for choosing to be modest, the extremist do not represent all of us.
@@user421-nk so let me get this straight, women in these countries can wear whatever they want without being punished? Really? Because last I saw, people in Saudi Arabia still weren’t even allowed to drive. You have every right to your beliefs, but the stories I’ve heard of women and non-believers in Middle Eastern countries is appalling. Let me amend, women in Saudi Arabia were allowed to start driving five years ago, and there’s still roadblocks on it. I’m glad you seem to have a different experience, but from what I’ve heard it’s pretty heartbreaking positions for women over there.
@@Darkemberandviolet The culture of these countries is modesty. The western way is not the only way. Stop looking down on modest culture. There's a comfort to covering. Ppl choose how to dress themselves, but it's also important to be mindful of the country/ religion practiced. And i dont trust western media on news about Saudi Arabia or where Im from which is Bangladesh. The media churns misinformation. You're talking to me about global misogyny as if i am not aware. I am, pls read again i just want a positive perspective. And since you've read about diff women struggles, you're only pointing it out, nowhere did I say my experience is everyone's experience i said specifically i know alot of women like me and that there are alot of evil men. Its frustrating when i talk about modern muslim women and all ppl want to say is that we need to be saved. All of us are capable. As a muslim woman not only do we have to deal with men we have to deal with people saying our religion is the problem. Thats not true.
33:15 If I remember from my last year's class correctly. Mozart's sister was actually just as talenred as him but since she was a woman, she had to quit making music and get married. Just imagine being her for a second, watching your brother be what you also could have been :(
Yeah, I remember that too. And a lot of people theorize that Mileva Maric who was married to Einstein majorly contributed to his theories.
@@joex1084 That idea has mostly been discredited now it seems, but she most definitely faced hardship in even attaining higher education, and her endeavors to pursue a career and degree in the sciences was ultimately foiled when she became pregnant out of wedlock. She spent the rest of her life simply as a housewife (until she and Einstein got divorced). While she didn't really have any significant contribution to Einstein's body of work, her story is also another case study in how feminism has changed the lives of women today.
sorry that i don't have examples, feel free to add them but many classical literature, famous novels were written with help of the writer's wives. it's them who edited their works and rewrote their messy scripts and helped get it published. there was even discourse on crediting them as co-writers. ok it's now clear to me that i have a terrible memory when it comes to names but i read that one writer read his female cousin or sister's diary and "took inspiration" aka stole her poems and published as his own. all of that in times when being a great artist was a man's job
edit: found one already, sofia tolstoy rewrote "peace and war" eight times and was his husband's agent, she made sure things got published and was a writer herself
edit 2: here's a quote from sofia's diary “I was wondering today why there were no women writers, artists or composers of genius. It’s because all the passion and abilities of an energetic woman are consumed by her family, love, her husband - and especially her children. Her other abilities are not developed, they remain embryonic and atrophy. When she has finished bearing and educating her children her artistic needs awaken, but by then it’s too late.”
@@sockseaterSofia Tolstoy's story always makes me so sad. And Tolstoy didn't even acknowledge her as an equal. Depressing!
Haven't seen anyone talk about the actual quality of the video. We have custom illustrations, set changes in a new location, amazing script, etc. The video was so much more than just "professional shit talking." Im so impressed by this one froggy good job
frrrr ive been scrolling for a while and havent seen any comments like this! ive loved all of their vids but this one was exceptional
Agree, this video was so good I think it might actually get through to my "anti-feminist" relative, crossing fingers.
Funky is absolutely killing the whole video essay thing
This is the first video that I see on this channel and it was truly a masterpiece for the eyes
I love the production quality of this video. I'm just here for the entertainment value of this content creator. I don't care about anything about the Trad Wives nonsense or feminism.