Grieving for your aging parent before you lose them

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  • @maloneaqua
    @maloneaqua ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I’ve been anticipating this in waves since childhood 🤦🏽‍♀️ think it’s due to growing as at an only child and your parents often become like your best friends

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is hard since our parents have been the ones we have looked to for answers and advice.

    • @clairevicky
      @clairevicky 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I’m an only child too and can relate

  • @heiltecn9ne
    @heiltecn9ne 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I can’t even imagine life without my mother, I can’t sleep some nights because I dread this moment.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So sorry to hear. Sounds like you are definitely experiencing anticipatory grief. Hopefully you can get the help you need.

  • @myheartsdesire643
    @myheartsdesire643 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks to all of you! I am in anticipatory grief alot because 10 days ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer....16 months ago he had a tumor inside the esophagus and now its spread to lymph nodes. I have been grieving this since the day we found out 16 months ago. Mr. Colwell I am so sorry for your loss and I so get it...about the wanting to travel and how the diagnosis changed everything! I feel like you described what we feel better then anyone I have heard so far. Thank you!

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad the explanation helped you put into words how you're feeling. So sorry to hear what you're going through right now.

  • @AmandaEllis
    @AmandaEllis 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Emotions need motion. Thank you a beautiful video found just as I’m navigating my fathers terminal illness - appreciate your wisdom xx

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      So sorry for what you’re going through. Glad this video helped you.

  • @vleak76
    @vleak76 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m feeling this right now as I’m watching my aging mother experience extreme shortness of breath just doing small things. She has COPD.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That has to be very hard and certainly could bring up anticipatory grief for you.

    • @fordtrucklover90280
      @fordtrucklover90280 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm currently going thru the same thing, my mom has Pulmonary fibrosis and currently she gotten worst . She's really having a had time breathing and it hurts me so much so see her suffer

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@fordtrucklover90280 Sorry to hear. It is so hard.

  • @justforyou3846
    @justforyou3846 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’ve been in this state my whole life but as my mom is in later stage dementia and is sundowning… my heart is breaking and I feel like a a disabled woman who has no desire of ever trusting a man ever again… I fear my life will be empty and purposeless. I only have my sons and they deserve to be free to live as I also did. So I know I’ll encourage them to let me be alone.
    I hope God shows me grace and purpose after she leaves me. She fought EVERYTHING LIKE HELL TO STAY AND HOLD ON so if she can no longer hold on, I can accept it but I don’t want to.

  • @Rogelio_007
    @Rogelio_007 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Invaluable. Thanks so much for this information. Helps to lighten the burden whin I understand what is happening.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad to hear! It is hard to understand when you're going through it.

  • @pattiblount2046
    @pattiblount2046 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am having that for my husband, although I could in reality go first.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It can come in so many different situations. Sorry for your situation.

  • @dale9724
    @dale9724 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent helpful material. I am very experienced with anticipatory grief unfortunately. Thank you.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry to hear. Hope this gave you some coping ideas.

  • @glendagalloway7905
    @glendagalloway7905 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much
    Helped feel validated
    Whew, now it begins ❤

  • @farisasmith7109
    @farisasmith7109 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was very helpful. Thank you for posting this.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful. It is so hard to go through this.

    • @farisasmith7109
      @farisasmith7109 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@parentingagingparents My dad is in his 90's and I see him really slowing down. I will probably be there when he passes and the anxiety of this is something I've been feeling more and more. I'm sharing this video with my siblings because we really need to talk about this stage in my concerns. Just get that out there .

  • @jessicayoung1383
    @jessicayoung1383 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @claudiacleary9492
    @claudiacleary9492 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My emotionally distant father is on his deathbed. I decided to stay home, as he lives far from me. It's not an easy choice.

    • @parentingagingparents
      @parentingagingparents  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry to hear about your father. It is all so hard and we all have to do what feels right to us.