Navigating the River of Grief with David Kessler

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  • @KM-wv2og
    @KM-wv2og 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This is by far the best discourse on grief on the entire internet and believe me I've been searching every single day for over a month!!!

    • @mkf628
      @mkf628 ปีที่แล้ว

      absolutely, same here.

    • @oregontrail5
      @oregontrail5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just found this and I agree, it is very well done and so helpful.👍

  • @lydiamoore142
    @lydiamoore142 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you so much for this. You are very compassionate, and very insightful.

    • @veldagoren8228
      @veldagoren8228 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This has helped me with my grief ; thank you 🙏

  • @betha8761
    @betha8761 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    If your loved one has passed recently or far in the past, watch as many of David’s videos as you can, when you can if he resonates with you. He has helped me tremendously. Doesn’t make the pain go away, but it can help you realize that you’re not going crazy and it isn’t taking too long. There is no time limit on this. My mom transitioned over 4 years ago. A grief I’ve never experienced before. I knew it would be hard one day but didn’t realize it would be the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I developed PTSD with my grief due to how her transition went. Sudden, unexpected and quick, all with me witnessing it and attempting to safe her life. By the time I got to her she was gone in about 20 minutes, maybe less. Completely knocked me off balance for what felt like forever. 4 + years. It is an emotional roller coaster ride no matter how it happens. No rules in grief. Peace to All!☮️

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I lost my beloved partner 6 months ago. I knew him in HS and then reconnected 4 years ago and realized I have always loved him and we were/are twin flames. He died of cancer, which we knew would happen, just not when. Now I can't seem to let him go, and the pain is unbearable. I feel like I'll be disloyal if I move on. I just don't want to lose him, although he is lost.

    • @leighjacobs6125
      @leighjacobs6125 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i lost my mom suddenly too , my sister and I found her she passed on infront of us and i cant even begin to explain the disbelief and shock that we still feel its been 6 months n she was only 59.

    • @TheTanjusC
      @TheTanjusC 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @one-G-row
    @one-G-row ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow my grief is the greatest thanks

  • @Nobrainwashing1414
    @Nobrainwashing1414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My mom died Nov 1 2022 at 90 but it devastated me. Thank you

  • @pjones7012
    @pjones7012 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you again and again

  • @toniclark3512
    @toniclark3512 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Absolutely amazing, loss my husband over a month ago, you have been a God send, I feel soooooooo blessed to have found this Channel, God bless, it's like going to the University of grief, THANK YOU!!!

  • @GGVanilla
    @GGVanilla 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really loved this lecture (video). I came here from Dr.Ramanis video she just shared. I thought this person (David) is so charming, I love their vibe, I have to check them out. So I came to your channel, and I feel I have learned so much. Thank you so much, I feel seen in my grief. When you shared the story about the little girl who watched her father leave and internalize the message, “I’m not worth staying for”. Oof that was life changing, I’m going to remember it forever.

  • @marca6190
    @marca6190 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for your validation and amazing ability to relate to us who are grieving. I have lost my good friend and also my partner in 1 minth time. Both were sudden and I am dealing with an illness too. Its almost left me unable to leave my bedroom. The pain has been eviscerating and relentless. Truly i am overwhelmed!!

    • @mkf628
      @mkf628 ปีที่แล้ว

      🌸🌼🌺

    • @cassandraburton6132
      @cassandraburton6132 ปีที่แล้ว

      Marcia, may you find solace and be comforted. Will pray that it will be so.🧡

  • @thewrecthedness808
    @thewrecthedness808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much Mr. @davidkesslerongrief for your soothing tone and helpful words. My mom passed last week a day after her birthday, holidays will never be the same but your videos & feedback is greatly comforting during coping stages and beyond.
    I respect you and highly appreciate the time you put into the uploads and sharing. I encourage others in the time of depression, hardship or loss to take time to watch these as they will be medicine for the soul and ears.

  • @p.v.w-6113
    @p.v.w-6113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you. You are so wonderful and kind. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. Your words are so comforting. God bless you.

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm grieving too, my Mom died 5/1 I'm struggling

    • @carmenburnham1088
      @carmenburnham1088 ปีที่แล้ว

      So sorry. My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband 5 years ago. That first year was devastating. It does get better in a way but I still miss him like crazy.

  • @vickifrederick2934
    @vickifrederick2934 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Watching for the second time. Need this

  • @joannedobkin3363
    @joannedobkin3363 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am dealing with abandonment as a kid I was left out of the loop. When I requested help for mom I was blocked and disregarded as no one and in her death I was abandoned at the funeral home. I miss my mom every day she saw me and loved me. My mom was my only cheerleader. 😢

    • @cassandraburton6132
      @cassandraburton6132 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Heartfelt. I am so sorry you have been left alone and feel abandoned. My heart goes out to you Joan and will pray that you will be comforted. May our God, Jesus’s, become for you, your cheerleader.🧡

  • @rosegarden7517
    @rosegarden7517 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    David 's videos have been a blessing. My siblings suffer from social phobia and these videos have been great and affordable.

  • @izmew90
    @izmew90 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just lost two close family members this last weekend and this is so helpful. Thank you so much.

  • @CurlyToedShoes
    @CurlyToedShoes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So much wisdom in this talk and food for thought. Thank you!

  • @dianasalazr1523
    @dianasalazr1523 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Me ayuda escucharlo es usted una super persona, que me motiva a continuar mi vida.

  • @wendyallen5105
    @wendyallen5105 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    4 grandkids and 2 sons not in my life right now. It’s just too much.. 27% families estranged.. it’s just so heartbreaking..

  • @didierlason6453
    @didierlason6453 ปีที่แล้ว

    Best general talk on grief online. What he says is very, very true. Peace and enlightenment.

  • @cynthiawalsh262
    @cynthiawalsh262 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have “got this” - your words & insights are on target flawlessly - indeed we need someone w/ intellect, knowledge on the deep emotional heartfelt soul penetrating issue of grief …

  • @mkf628
    @mkf628 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    such helpful content!!!!

  • @KayLaViola-v5k
    @KayLaViola-v5k 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent talk about grieving. David really explained it so well and lifts your spirit.

  • @KathleenHemrich
    @KathleenHemrich 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this. Thank you David, I'm sharing on my own YT channel!

    • @mkf628
      @mkf628 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      it's such awesome mature heartfelt evidence based content!

  • @joannedobkin3363
    @joannedobkin3363 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So true about needing others to share in the grief. My mother passed away on my sons birthday and my siblings didn’t join me in celebrating my mothers life. They refused to join me to say goodbye. I sat by my deceased mothers body alone the youngest of 5 children. They abandoned her while living and then again in death. One sister said another was over it days after. They won’t talk to me because I’m hated for telling them mom needs help I was blocked and discarded for sounding the alarm that mom was starving and unable to care for herself. Now they are fighting me on the will and how it’s being handled. I feel isolated in my grief. I wish I brought authorities in like I said I would. These siblings are horrible people. They deserve the shame 😢

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've known other adults who not only lost their beloved parent, but their siblings who did the same thing yours are.

  • @sallyraine1713
    @sallyraine1713 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dear Dr Kessler, thank you for such a wonderful, kind and beautiful discussion on grief. It was as if I was in the room with you and felt as if I could validate my grief after losing my beautiful mother. She was my best friend. Thank you!

  • @ليناوصاف
    @ليناوصاف 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My boyfriend died 2weeks ago there are no words to describe what I feel but I'm in pain I can't do anything
    I just remember our connection and memories and I feel so hopeless
    Does it get better 💔

    • @KM-wv2og
      @KM-wv2og 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I believe it does. This is such a cliché but time really is the best healer. I can imagine right now you feel so desperate and stuck and trapped in your grief and can only see it spreading out for eternity. But these things heal, as impossible as it sounds now they do. It's so difficult to imagine where you are now ever feeling ok about his passing and that his passing will never, ever be ok or acceptable to you. I'm not going to tell you I promise but I am 100% certain that your grief, whether it's 1-year 2-years 3-years will naturally find its own healing. I'm not saying that you will move on from him in, as far as you will be moving away from him, but you will move on from the acute pain. All of your feelings are 100-percent worthy and need to be felt by you right now and for however long that takes. Remember how he said that buffalos run into the storm... maybe you could try not waiting for the grief to get better. Maybe instead you could run into the eye of the storm of that grief and sit there and embrace it lovingly and with full self-acceptance, no matter how ugly or savage the tears. The grief changes shape every single day and is likely to surprise you with all sorts of strange and uncomfortable feelings. Much like a wound healing, how it sometimes becomes ugly and scabby and pussy before it actually gets better and new skin is formed. It's probably hard to believe anything anybody says to you right now... but yes it will get better. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @oregontrail5
    @oregontrail5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so helpful, the whole process of grief explained so well. It's been a month now for me and thanks to videos like this and others, I recognize what I've been going through. And will go through. I'm doing all I can to embrace my grief. It is getting easier for me now as I understand understand the process and accept that I will always carry the grief but not let it dominate.

  • @kristineholcroft9163
    @kristineholcroft9163 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for being so comforting i keep comming back to your video play it over and over your voice and how you talk to us is very comforting it really helps thank you

  • @magdakidybinska6109
    @magdakidybinska6109 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you very much, that was precious, informative and very supportive 💜

  • @yuli3821
    @yuli3821 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for posting this! My daughter passed away in a car accident recently.

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm here if you want to talk, I'm grieving too

    • @ليناوصاف
      @ليناوصاف 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@carolmusselman8859
      My boyfriend died two weeks ago ,just like today i heard that terrible news
      At first I was in disbelief
      Then i asked his cousin he confirmed and it became so real ,the first week I cried my eyes out now I don't cry as much I feel numb I try to survive I tried to commit suicide but it was a pathetic attempt I don't want to die yet I just don't want to live like this anymore 😭 I avoid looking at our photos and videos we were so happy but now it's not helping me he was 24 he died suddenly suffocated by the air conditioning while he was in the garage with unknown girl they both died everything is just absurd especially the way he died he was full of life
      I don't think it was suicide
      And I don't know what was his relationship with the girl and he can't even defend himself but
      it doesn't change anything anyways, he died
      And he's never coming back and I'm left alone with his memories and his beautiful details and impact he made on me

    • @librarylover6414
      @librarylover6414 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My daughter was killed by a hit and run driver 3 mos ago . I am beginning to try to “talk “ to her. I miss her so much and there are so many unanswered questions.

    • @glory1star
      @glory1star ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello ​@@librarylover6414 sorry about your lost of your daughter!
      I lost my only daughter 5 months ago!
      How are you holding up ?

    • @librarylover6414
      @librarylover6414 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@glory1star thank you so much for asking . I’m struggling with grief but have a therapist and attend zoom grief groups when they’ re held . How are you ? Are you in Tender Hearts ? I want more zoo time with other grieving parents.

  • @suneethamay3615
    @suneethamay3615 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If any one thinks any lost
    as a grief not for me l think
    as a way life.
    When lost love ones or wealth made us more
    stronger and believer of
    our Lord more than ever
    Then becoming a provider for all existing love ones
    having a sense of responsibility live a life
    is great certainly there is no
    misery
    One thing is great in my life
    is never l had sense of guilt
    because we had the fear of
    any wrong doing we live a
    Iife of God's children.

  • @vickifrederick2934
    @vickifrederick2934 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Do not forget pet loss.

    • @fishy118
      @fishy118 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I lost my pet dog Toby , its left me with so much sadness and loneliness,,, he can never be replaced.

  • @wendyallen5105
    @wendyallen5105 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Having a Adult child they don’t want you in their lives...