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Parenting Aging Parents
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 10 พ.ค. 2021
Welcome to Parenting Aging Parents!
We all get to the point when the kids are in high school or college. You're about to be empty nesters. But now you have a new role. Aging parents that you're taking care of. Helping them with medical problems, financial situations, life insurance, health insurance, Covid, Alzheimer's and more. On this channel, Kim & Mike Barnes will share interviews with experts to help you know what questions to ask and where to turn for help.
We have a website with resources, including The Caregiver's Key - A Guide for Gathering Essential Information (parentingagingparents.com/the-caregivers-key/).
There's also a private Facebook community where you can go to ask questions, share your experiences and get ideas and support from others. You can go to everything at: parentingagingparents.com
We're all in this together.
We all get to the point when the kids are in high school or college. You're about to be empty nesters. But now you have a new role. Aging parents that you're taking care of. Helping them with medical problems, financial situations, life insurance, health insurance, Covid, Alzheimer's and more. On this channel, Kim & Mike Barnes will share interviews with experts to help you know what questions to ask and where to turn for help.
We have a website with resources, including The Caregiver's Key - A Guide for Gathering Essential Information (parentingagingparents.com/the-caregivers-key/).
There's also a private Facebook community where you can go to ask questions, share your experiences and get ideas and support from others. You can go to everything at: parentingagingparents.com
We're all in this together.
How Respite Can Give Caregivers a Break and Keep Your Elderly Loved One Safe
If you have a business trip, want to go on vacation or just need a break from caregiving for your aging parent, but don't think it's safe for them to be at home by themselves, you may be feeling stuck.
Respite Care could be a helpful option. The definition of respite is a short period of rest or relief from something difficult or unpleasant. Respite care can provide a short-term stay at a senior community. It can give the caregiver the assurance that their elderly loved one is being taken care of so the caregiver can do what they need to do.
Dr. Narendra Punjabi has been an Internal Medicine Doctor for almost 40 years and is the new owner of Sunflower Memory Care in Cedar Park, Texas. In this sponsored interview, Dr. Punjabi talks with Kim & Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents about how respite care works, how he wishes he had known about it when he had a parent living with him and why he's offering a one week minimum stay to make respite care more accessible.
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🧭 If you're a caregiver looking for more resources and support - join our free, private Facebook group to get insight and share experiences. For info: go to parentingagingparents.com.
🧭 The Caregiver’s Key - A Guide to Gathering Essential Information. Use this guide to gather and organize important information about your aging parents. It's a way to keep everything together and will prompt you with questions you didn’t even know to ask. For more info: parentingagingparents.com/the-caregivers-key/
Respite Care could be a helpful option. The definition of respite is a short period of rest or relief from something difficult or unpleasant. Respite care can provide a short-term stay at a senior community. It can give the caregiver the assurance that their elderly loved one is being taken care of so the caregiver can do what they need to do.
Dr. Narendra Punjabi has been an Internal Medicine Doctor for almost 40 years and is the new owner of Sunflower Memory Care in Cedar Park, Texas. In this sponsored interview, Dr. Punjabi talks with Kim & Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents about how respite care works, how he wishes he had known about it when he had a parent living with him and why he's offering a one week minimum stay to make respite care more accessible.
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🧭 If you're a caregiver looking for more resources and support - join our free, private Facebook group to get insight and share experiences. For info: go to parentingagingparents.com.
🧭 The Caregiver’s Key - A Guide to Gathering Essential Information. Use this guide to gather and organize important information about your aging parents. It's a way to keep everything together and will prompt you with questions you didn’t even know to ask. For more info: parentingagingparents.com/the-caregivers-key/
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Checklist for Life If You're Caring for Aging Parents ~ Morning on Merit Street
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It's a topic most of us don't want to think about it, but if you're caring for an aging parent it's important to know their wishes. Where do you start? Kim Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents joins Dominique Sachse and Fanchon Stinger on Morning on Merit Street. Kim shares the important conversations to be having and information to be gathering now so that you're better prepared to help and care ...
Having a Good Attitude, Even When Your Wife Has Alzheimer's and Doesn't Recognize You Anymore
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Imagine being married for more than 60 years and then having your spouse have to move away. Imagine spending more than 60 years living with your loved one and then only being able to visit a few times a week. Imagine your loved one forgetting your name and who you are and all of the things you did together. John Barnes has had to live through these problems since his wife, Jane, moved to Memory...
When Should Aging Parents Stop Driving? Morning on Merit Street
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How do you know when it's time to talk about your parents about not driving? How do you have the conversation? How do you help it be their decision so you don't have to take the kids away? What options do you have if they refuse? Kim Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents shares tips with Dominique Sachse and Fanchon Stinger on Morning on Merit Street. 🧭 If you're a caregiver looking for more resour...
Navigating social security with elderly parents
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Trying to understand social security is no easy feat and can be even more difficult if you're stepping in to help your aging parents and are having to pull together all the pieces of the puzzle. Kim & Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents talk with Patricia Taylor. She worked for the Social Security Administration for 33 years. After retiring, she started Servant's Heart to help people navigat...
How to Find the Best Caregivers for Aging Parents: Expert Tips and Advice | Home Care & Support
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How do you find a caregiver? Whether your elderly parent is in crisis and needs a caregiver with them full time or you just want someone to check on them every once in a while, or something in between, where do you start? A Google search to find some help can be overwhelming. Stacy Scarborough of Visiting Angels Georgetown talks to Kim and Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents and shares exper...
Dealing with Alzheimer's with Author Jim Henry - How he coped while caring for his wife
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Jim Henry took care of his wife as she battled Alzheimer's for several years. He teamed up with Deb Terry to write a book about what he learned. It's called "What Now?" He talks with Kim Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents about the journey he went on, from diagnosis to her passing. Jim Henry was a pastor in Florida for 29 years and says he leaned on his faith for this tough walk of life. But he ...
Overcoming Loneliness in Caregivers & Elderly Parents: How to Combat Isolation & Feel Valued
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Loneliness isn't just a feeling; it's an epidemic that the U.S Surgeon General reports can lead to an increased risk of heart disease, stroke and dementia. It's also an often silent struggle faced by both caregivers and their aging loved ones, So how do you deal with loneliness in elderly parents or lend support to caregivers feeling isolated caring for their aging parents? Best-Selling Author ...
Biggest Legal Mistakes to Avoid in Estate Planning With Your Aging Parents
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When you make a legal mistake in estate planning, it can be costly. Or your desires aren't executed in the way you thought they would be. Often times, if you wait too long, it's too late. What are some of the biggest mistakes to avoid? Jeff Barnett and Keith Leuty are lawyers with partnering sponsor Barnett & Leuty, PC. They talk with Kim and Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents to explain so...
Moving aging parents to Independent Living
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What do you do when living in their house is too much for Mom and Dad? Moving to Independent Living is an option that many aging parents like. Some think it causes them to lose their independence or that it costs too much. But others say there is freedom, comfort and they're in a better situation. Tom Hutto is the General Manager of an Independent Care community in the Dallas area. He talks wit...
Helping your Aging Parent with Technology - iPhones, Computers, TVs, Printers, iPad
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Problems with the iPhone or the computer or the printer or the TV or the iPad. The list goes on and on with technology and our aging parents. But there are some things you can do involving apps and passwords and antivirus programs and more. Joshua Natinsky is the owner of Support Sharks, which helps people with their technology problems. He talks with Kim and Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Pare...
How Do I Deal with a Narcissistic Parent? Expert Insights and Practical Tips
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Caring for an aging parent can be challenging even in the best of circumstances. Throw in narcissism and the experience can be even more difficult. Whether your parent has full-blown narcissistic personality disorder or exhibits narcissistic traits, there are strategies for coping and maintaining your own mental health. Patty Monical is a Family Therapist and Counselor with Just Mind Counseling...
The Inheritance Playbook - Tax strategies to save time and money
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Inheritance. It's a word that can ruffle some feathers in some families, but if you don't plan for it you can wind up losing some of the money. Whether your parents have a lot to leave or a little, there are strategies to implement while they're still alive to save time and money. Chad Holmes is a financial planner and CPA who has written a book to help people be prepared with some tax-saving s...
A Neurologist's Perspective on Dementia
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What should you do if you think you're seeing signs of dementia in your parent? How important is it to see a neurologist and what if you can't get in to see them? These are problems that adult children often face. Kim and Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents talk to a behavioral neurologist, Dr John Bertelson, about how to handle these problems and the steps you take when dementia enters your...
Improving Home Safety
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The holidays have lots of visits with families and you don't want to find out your aging parent is in a dangerous situation because of their physical capabilities. Physicians and therapists can be helpful in finding ways to address the problems and so can equipment from Harmar, such as stairlifts and ramps. Kim and Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents talk with Sarah Puls from Partnering Spon...
Do I need a Medical Power of Attorney? Legal Documents You Need for Medical Situations
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Do I need a Medical Power of Attorney? Legal Documents You Need for Medical Situations
True Story of Elderly Scam: "Robert's Story" | Interview with Stephen Michaud
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True Story of Elderly Scam: "Robert's Story" | Interview with Stephen Michaud
Advice from a Gerontologist: What to do when mom or dad make decisions you don't agree with
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Advice from a Gerontologist: What to do when mom or dad make decisions you don't agree with
When should I call Adult Protective Services on behalf of an aging adult? What does APS do?
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When should I call Adult Protective Services on behalf of an aging adult? What does APS do?
Taking care of your parents and your kids
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Taking care of your parents and your kids
What to do when you don't agree with your brother or sister on how to care for aging parents
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What to do when you don't agree with your brother or sister on how to care for aging parents
Need someone to check on your aging parents?
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Need someone to check on your aging parents?
What are our aging parents going through?
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What are our aging parents going through?
Never call them!!! They are corrupt. The will put your loved one under guardianship or conservatorship and ROB YOU BLIND.
Great information easy to understand. Gold nugget tips
What about it happening at a Treatment facility?
I'd reach out to the Ombudsman's office in your area. They help resolve disputes and concerns in assisted living, memory care, skilled nursing or nursing homes. You can find one in all 50 states. Do a google search for "Area Agency on Aging" and your city. They should be able to tell you how to find the ombudsman's office. If it's an emergency you can also report complaints to the state agency in your state that oversees those facilities. In Texas, it's Health and Human Services and their hotline number is 800-458-9858. If you're in another state, do google search for "complaint hotline" for whatever type treatment facility you're concerned with. Here's an interview we did about what an Ombudsman does, if helpful. th-cam.com/video/7YM8TMLxCS4/w-d-xo.htmlsi=8AlBuSiJyivDPZuD
The VA does allow you to hire a private care giver and they vet them for you. You don’t have to go through an agency.
There are many different programs so definitely find the one that works best for you!
I can’t even imagine life without my mother, I can’t sleep some nights because I dread this moment.
So sorry to hear. Sounds like you are definitely experiencing anticipatory grief. Hopefully you can get the help you need.
Thank you
So glad it was helpful. It is so confusing!
Why doesn't America take care of its elderly instead of worrying so much about all the rich people and foreign countries.
Better not be navigating social security, BOY
can you explain the difference in between having a life insurance policy could affect being qualify?
I'd check with the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services www.usa.gov/agencies/centers-for-medicare-and-medicaid-services. There's also a link there to find your state Medicaid office since benefits vary by state.
Hopefully Oklahoma will be better 🙏🏽
I made up a rhyme to differentiate the 2. MEDICAID-don’t get paid. MEDICARE-got gray hair.
It can be hard to keep them straight!
It's getting harder and harder to find doctors who will accept Medicaid. It truly is bottom of the barrel care, which in most cases is no care at all.
Sorry you're having trouble.
HELP ME
THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN FOR ME I BEEN GIVEN THE RUN AROUND...
Help me I'm in Illinois my 87 yr old mother is being abused by young siblings, HELP ME
Here's website with the hotline number for Illinois. Hopefully they can help you. www.illinois.gov/services/service.report-elder-abuse.html
HELLO, IM IN ILLINOIS. I NEED HELP
Sorry you're having trouble. Maybe the Illinois Dept of Aging can point you in the right direction. Look for the office that's close to where you need help. ilaging.illinois.gov/forprofessionals/areaagenciesonaging.html
Interesting when attorneys in general never want to give the fee range that they charge. Obviously people want to decrease the amount of expense because the fees are high. Anyway, I thoroughly am enjoying your videos as they are informative. Thank you!
Glad you're finding the interviews helpful. Many attorneys offer a free consult so they can get a better idea of your needs. There are so many variables that can make a situation more or less complicated and time consuming, it's hard for any professional to guess how long it will take which determines the cost.
This was very helpful. Thank you for posting this.
Glad it was helpful. It is so hard to go through this.
@@parentingagingparents My dad is in his 90's and I see him really slowing down. I will probably be there when he passes and the anxiety of this is something I've been feeling more and more. I'm sharing this video with my siblings because we really need to talk about this stage in my concerns. Just get that out there .
If I quit my job do I still qualify for Medicaid if I was previously getting healthcare through my employer? 19 and 16 weeks pregnant. Don’t know if that would make a difference located in IL
Medicaid is a joint federal and state program that can you apply for if you meet certain income requirements. You apply through your state. Here's a website for IL: hfs.illinois.gov/medicalclients/medicaidguide/applying.html
I am having that for my husband, although I could in reality go first.
It can come in so many different situations. Sorry for your situation.
I’m only 5 minutes in so far so apologies if you go into this more. Yes everybody please consider password complexity and uniqueness and age - but OMG NO don’t write yours or else’s passwords down - in a book or on paper - in any chaotic or even organized fashion - in pencil OR pen. Unless this physical notebook or papers-in-folders will only sit static in a sturdy locked physical safe all the time. Passwords are more powerful now than they were when our parents had to come up with them. Treat them like you would money in the bank and put them in a secure vault.
In general you are not incorrect, however, it can be done safely. Keep it in a designated password protector and then lock it in a cabinet or safe. Sometimes it's a necessity and better than no online access.
With some less tech savvy people, using password managers and online vaults just isn't really an option. They can keep written passwords safe. Or like with my mom, we've just limited what can be accessed on her computer at all.. no bank accounts or other financial accounts so there's not much anyone could get to.
Thanks to all of you! I am in anticipatory grief alot because 10 days ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer....16 months ago he had a tumor inside the esophagus and now its spread to lymph nodes. I have been grieving this since the day we found out 16 months ago. Mr. Colwell I am so sorry for your loss and I so get it...about the wanting to travel and how the diagnosis changed everything! I feel like you described what we feel better then anyone I have heard so far. Thank you!
Glad the explanation helped you put into words how you're feeling. So sorry to hear what you're going through right now.
Does a lady bird deed overturn an affidavit of heirship
From what I've learned there are some documents that do similar things but might be called something different in different states. I'd check with an attorney in your state to make sure you have what you need for your specific situation.
This old man says starting on July 5, 2024 Fiduciary Security Elder Law Inheritance Administration will reward RE agents to Financial Advisors $1500.00 for each forgery proof NICER 837PC interdiction Gold Whoopi Bird another name for Lady Bird deeds so no one can steal our homes.
Super helpful, working with APS in FL currently. So far, they have been on top of it. I feel that they are advocating for my grandma (the client) AND me!
So glad to hear!
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I will be meticulous when it comes to Medicaid qualifications. They do not tell you that this program can take your home as a pay-back. Both the federal and the county will collect their money somehow somewhere
Agreed. In some instances it may be smarter to purchase a long term care policy.
It is all so confusing and every person's situation is definitely different. Finding a person who can advise you and your situation can help you decide what's the best plan of action for you.
They can't touch your home if it has a homestead exemption attached to it. Also if you quit claim deed the home to someone or leave it to them in a will the home cannot be touched.
So basically, everybody’s a narcissist
Thanks for the discussion, Mike & Kim!!!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and insight!
I’m feeling this right now as I’m watching my aging mother experience extreme shortness of breath just doing small things. She has COPD.
That has to be very hard and certainly could bring up anticipatory grief for you.
I'm currently going thru the same thing, my mom has Pulmonary fibrosis and currently she gotten worst . She's really having a had time breathing and it hurts me so much so see her suffer
How do they qualify? Oh let us count the ways! And then once they 'qualify' Medicaid will take their home and all their assets. How family wealth gets financialized.
Invaluable. Thanks so much for this information. Helps to lighten the burden whin I understand what is happening.
Glad to hear! It is hard to understand when you're going through it.
What if you put you were pregnant but then got a abortion
I was accepted and only use it for adhd medication
I'd consult Medicaid expert.
Ouch. Not good
Ughh
I’ve been anticipating this in waves since childhood 🤦🏽♀️ think it’s due to growing as at an only child and your parents often become like your best friends
It is hard since our parents have been the ones we have looked to for answers and advice.
I’m an only child too and can relate
heroes - sharing your knowledge with so many who have NOT needed to know and NOW need to know..Thank you !
Glad it was helpful! There is so much we don't know that we need to know!
interesting. what if the husband & wife are co-owners on the deed and the husband has passed away? can the Lady Bird Deed be done in that scenario? in Texas btw
That could make it more complicated but I'm not an attorney. I would ask an attorney to be sure. If you're in Texas, Barnett & Leuty would be a good place to start!
We have Nicer Fiduciary Security Legals and Paralegals to install Forgery Proof Interdiction Living Trust Title Deeds. So we avoid probate and quit claim jumping equity elder abusing Lady Bird Title Deed Thieves.
How much would lawyers like them typically charge?
Sorry for slow reply. It's going to totally depend on how much needs to be done. Some law firms will give you a free consultation so you'll know what you're facing.
Thank you for this. So helpful
Glad it was helpful!
Irrevocable burial trust!
Thank you for this helpful video. It was extremely informative & helpful.🙏🙌🙌🙌
So glad it was helpful! It is all so confusing!
Thank you both for this extremely helpful video!! Parenting aging parents has been an incredible resource for me & so many others! My mom has Alzheimer's. I'm her caregiver & your group has helped me immensely.🙏🙌🙌🙌
We're so glad to hear! We feel like this is a topic that when we talk about the challenges, we can help each other!
Linden B Johnson gave property to his wife this way, making it famous....she was called Lady Bird or Miss Lady bird
I thank God that I live with my mom and dad who passed away in January. She needs a lot of help around the house. ❤
Can I have more than one property in a Lady Bird Deed? Or Do I need one Lady Bird Deed for each property in FL?
Doing some quick research I can't easily tell. I'd consult an attorney to make sure a Lady Bird Deed makes sense for your property since its not always the best option.
Great tips!
Glad you found it helpful!
Thank you so much Helped feel validated Whew, now it begins ❤
Glad this was helpful.
Thank you
Glad you found helpful.
Just discovered this channel and I just want to say the information you are providing is so helpful, practical and super informative. But THIS particular video is priceless- all of us hope and desire our parents take care of these health concerns and observing and listening to our loved ones is critical. Chuckled at your talk about “stubbornness” this is quite a challenge. Thank you and God bless you and your father. Happy Father’s Day❤
Thanks for your kind words and glad you're finding the videos helpful. Whenever we interview our parents it is extra special and we're so appreciative that they're willing to share to hopefully help others!
My mom had cataract surgery in both eyes several years ago. I was with her and helped her with putting in drops afterward. I still help her put in drops in her eyes to this day.😊 My dad passed away in January of this year and I was his primary caregiver. I miss taking care of him. He struggled a lot with COPD and glaucoma. Towards the end he had problems with his kidneys. I would help him with his medications and physical therapy and respiratory therapy. I would take him to his doctor appointments. I miss him! But yes, our parents go through a lot.
You definitely understand the challenges. Glad you were able to help your dad and now your mom. They're lucky to have you!
@@parentingagingparents Thank you! I am lucky to have them. My dad was/ my mom are wonderful parents.