Why your ego is (slowly) ruining your life
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Not me, I’m super good at being humble
Seriously though, great video dude
hi
This must be a joke!
humble is the new ego🤥
I’m better at being humble
Ego is false confidence, self-respect is true confidence.
Great thought!
Would you not say that an ego can come from confidence?
I.e You know you’re very good at the things your good at, and thus it inflates your ego?
@@FaithsStardust overconfidence*
Ego = self-esteem. Just don't inflate your ego because that is arrogance.
True you make more mistakes with false confidence
"Impressing people is utterly different from being truly impressive." -Ryan Holiday, The Ego is the Enemy
I love that
As a wise man once said: "all the roads lead to squarespace"
Perfect*
"If you can't accept reality, you can't improve reality."
1. What's the one thing you like most about the personal development niche?
2. What kind of videos would you like to see more on TH-cam?
I'm doing a bit of research and I'd appreciate your help.
Thank you so much.
Seems pretty obvious to me.
You can’t improve reality anyway. It always appears before “you” do
@@justbreakingballs True but we can still respond to our reality more consciously.
the universe love courage. terrence mkcenna
"Why breathing is ruining your life"
Cause oxygen is destroying our life slowly, hehehe..
100% of people who breathe, die. This is scientifically proven evidence. Do you really think it's wise essentially kill yourself every moment, every second?
@@batman5796 What is your source for that? Hm?!
add "mouth" before the word "breathing" and yes that is actually a very relevant topic that many people are doing, thereby ruining their lives (seriously, mouth breathing is really bad for you)
it's hilarious
Stop caring about how you appear to others and care about actually being useful to others. Love this advice, thanks Mr. Mustache
U mind checking out my videos?
Don't forget that being useful to others doesn't mean doing others duties.
Be useful to your goals and yourself
How to stop caring about anything at all?
😂😂😂
This video: Your ego is ruining you
Me, with low self esteem: “So this is how other people live...”
Same here
lmao!!
I have low self esteem, but still have an ego. They aren't mutually exclusive
Big ego might be often in close relation to low self esteem I would say, they are not exactly two opposite things.
I know, right?
"Starve the ego, feed the soul"
1. What's the one thing you like most about the personal development niche?
2. What kind of videos would you like to see more on TH-cam?
I'm doing a bit of research and I'd appreciate your help.
Thank you so much.
Starve the ego. Feed the world.
But how
@@AM-dp9tv Runescape
@@FearlessDreams i want to see more videos educating about climate change
Ah the ego, my worst enemy
thats what it said ;D
@Mind of Love thats the joke
Amazing. “Focus on doing something rather than being someone.” An important message especially for millennial and gen z listeners.
"Ego is the only requirement to destroy any relationship. Be the bigger person, skip the 'E' and let it "GO"
I needed this!
Nice....
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On such things, Narcissists survive and keep sucking your energy. Be mindful of the pattern! ✌🏽
Felt🤧
Happy December everyone, let's finish this year strong!!
fuck yes!
Lets do it!
We can do it!
I want to finish this life as well! Let's go!
The only strong thing about this year is gonna be our right arm 8 days into December
Thank you for giving me the inspiration to kick the day and maintaining focus on the right things
Right?
Always with my morning coffee
Let's go!
Love your stuff man.
Hey Man quick question are you getting anything from your content, I meant monetary?
Thanks for giving all of us inspiration!
“Why Better Ideas Are Ruining Your Ego”
Crazy. I have recently observed that I’m having a narcissist issue which is connected with ego. Working on that already and you just arrived on time. Thank you.
can you do a vid about overthinking... ive been finding myself doing that lately instead of doing simple things to just make my life better
Yees Please Do A Video Covering Overthinking. One Of My Worst Personal Habits.
right now...the best advice i can give you. is to download the app waking up with sam harris and do the free 28 introductory course. Just TRUST ME....
You know, sometimes u just hv to go through it, but what I can advice u to do and what has helped me is the foundation: eat right, sleep well and exercise. Do this for a month and see how it affects ur mood and focus. After that u can meditate and observe ur thoughts and see how strong ur ego is that wants everything to be perfect. The fact that ur overthinking is because ur mostly in the future or in the past with ur thoughts, but not in the present. U saying stuff like “what if this and that” “should I do this or that” imagining worst case scenarios and thinking that u might regret things. I hv been overthinker for a long time. I’m now 26. It comes a point where u hv done it so often that u say enough is enough. But u see, I hv watched A LOT of videos on this topic. Also, I’ve read books and read articles as well, but I still did it. Ok, maybe at the beginning I didn’t because u feel motivated, but eventually u might fall back into that trap again. Maybe it’s a trigger or ur motivation just didn’t hold up. Trust me when I say to prioritize on the foundation first. Do this so ur meditation becomes effektive. Then u will see that ur ego is at play here.
I hope this was helpful and I could give u another perspective on it. 🙏❤️
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Hope this gold video helps you guys☺️
@@aronvillaluna548 Wow what a wonderful video !! Thank you for sharing , it really does quite my mind
The ego might be one of the most misunderstood words out there. So short yet so full of meaning
He was talking about hubris more than ego, in my opinion.
Thanks for this; I sometimes find myself as a guy in my mid twenties wanting the world and getting caught up in thinking I deserve a better job, better pay, more opportunity, etc. instead of working to create those opportunities. This was a nice slice of humble pie.
Same here bro, I find myself being in my twenties as well. People look at me like I’m some sort of Bruce Wayne, owns a business, cool cars, and stuff and l latch onto that, if you call that an ego; then I go why don’t l have it for..
my ego has just been a shitty lifevest over years of darkness...i'm aware of it but it's very hard to completely separate it from my overall life...When you're all alone your ego is your only friend
Hmm interesting thought, wonder if it applies to me. These days for me my friend is slowly becoming the enjoyment I take in from doing things I like to do. Practicing presence and also appreciating that I get to do this thing I like.
@@yolandamejia7488 the ego is really just a tool, or a companion you might say. If it gets filled with positive stuff and enjoyment it will have a sense of fulfillment and respond to the world accordingly and vice versa with negative energy.
action > talking + thinking
humility > bragging + ego
learning > comfort + stagnation
I'm a master of the right side
Action without thinking is destructive though, dont need to give examples its all around us
But I guess you mean too much thinking
Thinking is really important, but not all kinds if thinking. Reflecting what you did good and what didn't worked and what may be the reason is essential to improve quickly. One should di it between two actions of the same kind to get more conscious and gain knowledge more effectively
Yes action is better than thinking. I tried for a long time to think and talk myself into a new way of acting. But after some good advice from a friend, I learned I can act my way into a new way of thinking
"Confidence is the food of the wise man but the liquor of the fool." - Vickram
Best salesman I ever knew
Sad he didn't stayed at the company... Would had love to see where the work relationship would go/developed. Specially for Pam
Word.
🎙is everything to the better voice
i am having a bad day, more like a bad last month. as an artist, i just heard an advice that brought me back to the reality
Come on Skai 💪 I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞 💯 ❤️
Me too
This is such a great reminder, thank you so much! I think it's also important to recognize that the ego, is essence, is not ACTUALLY your enemy - it's a part of you, and when we spend time trying to kill it...it often fights back. Instead, befriending the enemy and telling it to sit in the back and not touch anything, while you take the wheel, has been so helpful in my own journey. I loved this video and all your videos, thank you again!
But don’t u preach about having delusional confidence? At the beginning of this video he’s talking about unconditional sense of self confidence and you said to tell yourself you have a small and cute nose if you have a big ugly nose and the law of attraction will shrink my nose? I think that blinds you from ur weaknesses and from improvement.
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Aother LoA scammer hahah
Well said, sister! ✊
@@user-tb8mv2fu2d lol oh, please educate us all about the law of attraction, wise guru no one has ever heard of ever
"Remind yourself that overconfidence is a slow and insidious killer" - Darkest Dungeon
One of the greatest qoutes from that game
I’ve been thinking of picking that game up to try. Worth it?
@@Garrus1995 of course! It's a top tier game!
@@Nelex111 What about it do you particularly recommend?
@@Garrus1995 I've only just started, and only killed a single boss (Necromancer Apprentice). What I enjoy about the game is team management between different missions (Stress management), as when you fight your party member get inflicted by stress during fights(turn based fights). Which can cause really hype or saddening moments depending on the outcome. Another thing I enjoy about it is the atmosphere that sucks you in. The music, lore, and character attachment which can be horrible if something happens to them (Looking at you odd Crits). But I Suggest you look at some gameplay before you dive in, as some people get turn off from the perma death / run restarting aspect the game contains.
He's evolving. First he was Zuckerberg, now he's slowly morphing into Anthony Fantano, but with more Testosterone.
Hey, everyone. Joey Schweitzer here, and it's time for a review of... Your social life
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lol I don't know this guy - just found the video but yeah I see the Zuckerberg resemblance** . Dunno who ANthony Fantano is
@@revertingthemoldways he’s a pretty popular music critic on TH-cam, the needle drop. Pretty interesting besides the fact that I usually disagree with his ratings, you should check him out
"Your willingness to be a nobody". That's actually great advice
"The path forward to dramatic progress in your life is the willingness to become nobody until the results put you in a different category."
Couldn't have said it any better
My opinion: doesn’t matter how much you do, you can always improve in something. Even if others consider you the “best” in some field, there’s always space for improving.
I agree. That’s a great mindset to have, in my opinion.
Being mission driven has been much more fulfilling than trying to be externally validated or trying to feel important. Trying to help people become their greatest versions.
This is such an important video. The cultural disdain for being average is so toxic. I'm really glad that I majored history in college, if anything it's given me a very keen, sharp awareness of how much we all are just dust in the wind... even the greats in history to an extent, unremarkability is a good outcome in this existence. Find joy and comfort in things that are not all guts and glory and you'll find it's a lot easier to not only love yourself but love others as well.
Why to we need to stay average why trying to stop being all you can be i dont want to be average thats how weak willed people think stop trying to sounds smart
@@mariharrik5987 There are things in life you will never be good at. If you wish to be the best at something, be so with 1 thing.
If you spend all your energy trying to be great at everything, you will be great at nothing.
If you focus on being great at a few things, you increase your chances at success.
You have limited time and energy.
Being average at that which isn't important, doesn't hurt.
That was a great reminder - I'm currently reading "Stillness is the key" by Ryan Holiday. Providing value to others without expectations is a good motto to live by, but in reality it's hard 🤯
Ego and confidence really isn't the same thing! Ego will drive you the wrong path, but confidence can guide you towards greatness!
The former is a false identity, the latter is just a form of energy that can be useful as it's superior to apathy, but it's not the ultimate goal.
*"It all begins and ends in the mind. What you give power to has power over you" -- anonymous*
What hv YOU given power to?
I really appreciate the message about writing up your resume. I quit my job of 11 years in March because I felt like I was declining so much, I was making a fool of myself. There was so much frustration of "I can do better than this" (among other issues) i couldn't get myself on track and left. Since then I've been so anxious about finding something else, feeling like I'll be inadequate. So many sources tell you to use that "fluffy language" in your resume to stand out, that a simple resume stating your skills is no longer "in". You have to sell yourself by advertising why you're better than the others rather than just showing that you're the right person for the job because you have the skills.
I have to stop over thinking it.
Thank you 💜
I was feeling really depressed and down, and found your talks to be positively uplifting, I did few long-overdue tasks after watching few of your videos, I don't normally comment, but I think you deserve the credit... thank you, I love how humble and humane you are...
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves." (Philippians 2.3)
I love that! Yes!
What a fucking boring life tho
That’s the best way to live
this guy looks like the bald non-lizard version of mark zuckerberg
OMG you just gave me an asthma attack 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ok
I always feel he looks like Louie ck
You’re like 12 right?
Zuck is a cyborg not a lizard
“You can aspire to be somebody or you can aspire to do something”
I’ve never done this before but I watched this video last night and it was so good I came back to watch it again tonight. Such a good message👌🏽
Lovely video! Amazing I have myself been struggling with not been focused for my medical exams and when I'm true with myself I realise that it leads to a road of fear and anxiety. However the only way forward is moving towards a better life and purpose
Omg this video cut so deep for me. It felt like you literally talking about and to me, and i will try to be better. All I can say is thanks for making these videos that have such great advice, and keep up the good work! 🙏
Wow! I’m a first timer and this was one of the most helpful videos ever! Just happened to come up on my recommended and I resonated with it so much! Keep it up👏
I’ve had this in my Watch Later for too long, and this is the video I needed to start the year… thank you for keeping me in check!
I thought this was going to be a manscaped ad and was positive your ego was at an all time low.
This guy gives the best advices in the highest cinematic quality of filming, excellent clear sound, brilliant speech skills with humorous, intelligent and very entertaining way of presenting his projects to us....for free. He deserves way more subscribers than he has now.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Your videos are always so good! You are one of few youtuber's I've see that talk about self-improvement that's so raw and relatable! I can tell you know what you're talking about, and not just watching other videos and repeating what they say. You have dropped so many gems into my mind! Truly helping me change my ways day by day. Thank you so much.
Yes, this is a subject not many youtubers have spoked of and you are absolutely right.
We all tend to be egoistic time to time. It's good to stop, see you as a one individual among others and not think you are a special person in any way, there is always someone better and you can always learn something new to become better. Just work on things you love and let the results astonish others. Good things will then happen. Be humble.
This really came right on time. I dont stay consistent with this channel but I'm glad I didn't unsubscribe.
Love the angle you took in this video. This really helps put things into perspective.
this is sooooo important!!! i'm glad someone's talking about it... usually what we see in social media nowadays is people giving those "self esteem/productive tips" that are actually so toxic, because they actually prevent us from growing, they make us think we're already "perfect" instead of saying "hey, you may not be good enough now, but that is ok!" to me, that should be the "motivacional tips" anyways, you said everything in the video
What you're describing is actually a person with low self-esteem trying to hide it with "fake self-confidence", someone who gets defensive as soon as they see their ego being threatened because it is very fragile. Someone with decent self-esteem would not mind because they wouldn't even feel the need to compare themselves or brag or be the best etc.
This is superb, as a designer I often fall into the ego trap. Thank you for the advice!
I always think it's interesting how sometimes you hear exactly what you needed to, exactly when you needed to. This video feels like that. I had a preconception going into it that I wasn't going to like this video because I'm in a situation at the moment now where self-confidence is the only thing keeping me going. But what you said about making the best videos you could, and the video being the goal rather than any financial reward or validation, really resonated with me. It hardens my resolve that this is what I want to do with my life: immerse myself in making the best art that I possibly can. thanks for making these videos. I was going a ton of value out of them, but this one is especially good. Now explain the mustache.
I love how straightforward you are.
This the realest slice of humble pie I needed, haha great vid, thanks for the reminder!
Comparison kills....
crack kills, too
@@jovi_way Say no to crack
@@santiagoacosta6491 can't help it
Your videos always seem to land at the right time for me. That says something. Thank you again.
Dude, this was one of your best videos! So direct and clear. Liked it.
This really makes it's way into relationships too. Sometimes our obsession with who we are superceeds what we can actually do for other people and the love we could give. Our focus on identity often is the death of closeness and real fulfillment because we can't see past our own image of who we think we are and how other people must align with this image.
2:46 Confidence
VS
3:03 Ego
I really needed to hear this today, thank you! Especially the don't try to be someone, try to do something.
"Stop trying to be somebody, start trying to do something", wow, thank you for this.
"The Ego is a veil between humans and God" ~Rumi 🙏🏽❤️
This video nails it. 5 years ago I wanted to be a studio animator. But instead of trying to become big and famous. I went back to school and would work on my personal projects in the evening. When I graduated my portfolio was exactly where I wanted it to be. Landed my first studio jobs 6 months later (and during a pandemic). Sometimes you just gotta be so good that your work will speak for you.
Thanks for putting perspective where it should be. Your videos are amazing.
This video comes in the time that I most needed. Many thanks, and keep up the good work
Balance is always key.
Fantastic video. I've read a lot about the ego, but the way you articulated it in this video was fantastic and very helpful. It's very noticeable when my ego gets in the way, and how debilitating it can be to personal growth and overall development. To improve, we have to go down those unflattering paths. Fall, fail, embarrass ourselves. Stuff our ego is constantly trying to avoid. Eckhart Tolle does a great job discussing this in "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth: Awakening your life's purpose" discussing how identifying with the ego leads to a false sense of self, and constantly leads us down roads that never lead to fulfillment. I really trust this channel and immediately bought that book by Ryan Holiday and can't wait to read it and put it into practice. Thanks a lot for this video!
Dude I’m so stoked you got something out of this video. I’m a big fan of yours and have watched you for years. I’m envious of your filthy mitts. You’ve definitely helped me score an extra few goals in beer league despite my aversion to cardio. Keep up the great work on your end!
Also! Crazy to think you lived in Vancouver all these years, right next to me in Surrey!
Im on the right path! Thank you for this video!
Really candid and direct content. Thanks for sharing.
I actually quite enjoyed the video even without b-roll or background music for the core part. Message came across, well done!
Me too
Would love to see a video on the other side of the ego
Y E S ! Completely agree. Just need to make sure the "I need to be extremely useful" part is not your ego at play behind the scenes or that it becomes people pleasing
You always speak truth and reality. Thank you for this valuable advice.
This video could be titled "How to become so good at what you do and the recognition will follow". Great video man, thanks for creating!
“why living is(slowly) ruining your life”
Technically oxygen that you breathe in is very very slowly burning you inside. So yeah. Living does slowly ruin your life
@@user-fc5km1pc5p that’s terrifying but interesting
Loved your message in this one. Your recent videos have really been impactful. So from a regular subscriber, you can trust the difference you talk about in this video is apparent to us as well. Thank you!!!
Good for you Joey, proud of you man. Nice to see someone who is puting out quality, introspective content and getting the recognition they deserve for it. Keep at it, your words have more power than you know.
Every one is talking about success and inspiration and I can't unsee Joey's mustache
"No man wants to become something, but everyone already wants to be something" - Johann Wolfgang v. Goethe
Good video and very much needed in this toxic self-love culture. Ego and lack of confidence are two sides of the same coin. Neither beating yourself up nor telling yourself you're perfect moves you forward.
Watching your channel has given me hope. Thank you!
why is my ego so negative? Ego always means that people think they are better. but my ego tells me im nothing...
That’s also not good
Read the "Chimp Paradox" - great way of rethinking the ego and how to tame it
You are awesome
You are like a gift that keeps on giving. Thank you for putting so much of your determination and passion into what you do.
"Wanting to be noticed, rather than respected" 👍
Thank you for the vdo. I found a good message today. And also thank you for putting the commercial part at the end; it's more sincere and persuasive this way.
Totally nailed it at 5:30!!!
3 weeks, Hello FatRat!
My brain just registers you as an aggressive Matt D'Avella. I hope that's okay...
Well said. One of the most amazing speech I've ever heard ever. 🙏Thank you so much for inspiring us!
I admire how clear you are with your word.
Why do Joey's video always get uploaded in tandem with me having just cleaned my room to feel better about myself?
that's nice :)
That mustache is distracting me from listening to you speak. Its too epic 😂
😂😂😂
@@MindNow hahahaha
Man you are a lifesaver! I've been in a creative low tide and this video really made a lot of things make sense in my personal situation. Your content is simply amazing. Thank you for putting this and your other stuff out. You're really doing something here!
Great, Great Video. You spoke the truth and changed my life.
*I didn't know Johnny sins became such a down to earth youtuber.*
Lmao
the man wears many hats: pizza delivery guy, doctor, TH-camr...you name it!
Found the coomer
@@Mogwai88 at least he waited till December 1st to make a coomer joke kek
@@mallu2408 thats why he is talking about ego. He has so many successfully careers, his ego must be over the roof.
But he actually knows that his ego is getting in his way, respect !!
"Our ego blinds us from reality, and if we can't accept reality, we can't improve it."
WOW.
Wow i really needed this! I thought i had no confidence in my craft, what is really happening is I was just thinking I know everything and thus I should be further ahead. A real slice of humble pie for me. Thank you!
I needed to hear this very very very badly. Thank you so much!