Why being yourself is ruining your life
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"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."
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Changing "be yourself" to "find yourself" helped me out a lot. You're an ever evolving and changing person, keep searching for ways to improve & find happiness/fulfillment in your life.
It’s not about “being yourself” it’s about being the best version of yourself
Society : "just be yourself"
„Be yourself” in today’s culture means „give up on trying to improve and do nothing” - not exactly a life motto I’d want to follow. Thank you for the quality content!
I've been on both ends of the spectrum:
To me, someone that's struggled with social anxiety and a fear of rejection, I see "just be yourself" as something endearing to strive for. Basically, lay down your unhealthy defense mechanisms and be unafraid to express your genuine self. In other words, you SHOULD spite the idea that people would accept you for anything other than what is "you" - a collection of motivations, the positive desires you have, and your unique flare of personality. While I understand that some may see this saying as having negative connotations of settling, for me it's a rallying call to be confident and content in the idea that I can be my individualistic self, no matter what place or people.
I think this is a very subjective topic. For me, "being myself" means to stay true to my intuition, my needs, my feelings and my desires and not getting distracted and directed by the societal "self-optimisation-urge for being financially successful". I do get your point and I think its important for you to address this! But I guess this "be yourself" thing has a lot of different interpretations for many, some of which can actually be beneficial and good (:
I've always interpreted "just be yourself" as simply doing what feels true to you and mostly following your intuition. It's helped me along the way as following that gut feeling that tells you if something seems right or wrong has led to me making the best choices for my life trajectory most of the time.
“Just be yourself” does have its merits. Socially, it helps you to understand and reaffirm your boundaries, have confidence in your interests, and avoid buying into useless advice. I was quite hard on myself for the last couple of years because my passions very much lie in writing and history but, being surrounded by voices telling me STEM subjects are infinitely better for employability and they’re more modern etc, I became a bit disheartened and pessimistic about my passions. I used “just being myself” to reassure myself that my passions weren’t stupid, nor were they worthless, and that as long as I put in the time and effort then I can make them the centre of my life and still be successful. That’s an example where that motto can be used productively, as having the confidence and determination to follow these passions fully is far better as opposed to wasting time in limbo and trying to push them away.
For me, being yourself means to stay true ro your values and don't be a hypocrite. It means to be honest with yourself and don't lie to yourself about yourself. It is the fundamental step to development.
That's why I always say don't be yourself, choose yourself. Decide who you want to become and strive toward it
The sad truth about succeeding as an authentic person in this life:
I've always interpreted 'be yourself' as 'be authentic' a.k.a. don't be someone else's best version of you, be YOUR best version of you. Jenna Marble's video on being yourself comes to mine (one of my faves) and she defined being yourself as thinking with your own mind and making your own choices which I love because it works even as you're evolving, changing, growing and working on yourself. But I agree 'be yourself' is probably too simplistic a phrase by itself.
"So, maybe the answer to life isn't “Just Be Yourself!”, maybe the answer is to love yourself enough to become something more."
“Maybe the answer to life isn’t to just be yourself, maybe the answer is to love yourself enough, to become something more.”
I feel like "just be yourself" means more to stop caring what ppl think of you and pursue your own ideal self on your own. It isn't to just delete all your goals and sit down on the couch all day, it's to stop worrying about what irrelevant ppl who you will never see again think of you in the moment.
“Just be yourself” often means have the same flaws you had as a child growing up.
Man, your videos never fail to inspire me. I feel like every video I watch from you, I’m given a new perspective on life that opens new windows to the way I think. Thank you for this content!