I was putting off watching this thinking I wouldn’t learn anything new but I’m so glad I watched! This system makes so much sense, getting things done is all about momentum.
No, if you had a transformation within 1 hour, which I doubt, he made you changing it, probably by helping through giving insight and inspiration and motivation. Think first pal. Noone can change your life for you. It is something you have to do yourself. Carry on!
When it comes to procrastination, the hardest part is getting started. But once you get started with it, it's usually not as bad as you imagined it in your head!
AP classes made me realize this very quickly haha The workload at first seems like a lot, but when you buckle down and spend an hour or two you are done! And almost always I feel proud of finishing what I’ve done, a small reward for doing my work :)
Even though you've probably written this with the best intentions this platitude is the equivalent of "Being poor? Start making money!". I deeply despise everybody upvoting this.
@@tekozlofiu 🤔 I honestly don't understand what you are saying. It is sound advise to those who procrastinate and find out the work isn't too bad once you start. It's about the fear of this big mountain of work. I don't see the connection with being poor or being rich.
I've recently learned that procrastination can be a response to trauma. I think this is the reason why simple behavioural changes don't do the trick for so many people. Sometimes it's a deeply rooted avoiding mechanism.
@@valerieh5400 Maybe it is because your tasks were simpler back then? I feel ya, I struggle with this feeling all the time. When I was a teenager, it was so easy for me to do things, that others found hard, I almost felt like a superhuman. Here I am at soon 26 and I struggle to do easier things and I wonder where I lost my strong brain along the way.
exactly the same. I've put my goal of learning mandarin Chinese aside for 2 years. This procrastination needs to stop. I could have had a great level if I have studied consistently for 2 years
Hello, it's been nearly 2 months and 10 days later. It seems I'm still facing the same problem. I have a lot of academic work and other tasks. I also need to start self-help and mould myself into an ideal version of myself. If by any chance, I happen to get out of this rut, Ill make sure to log here.
I have been in a literal DAZE for about 2 weeks now, vehemently avoiding overdue school work that I convinced myself I could complete in a week. Of course, I couldn't convince myself to declare when that week officially starts. My mental state has taken a dive, honestly. Those looming, anxious thoughts really do affect everything. Can't enjoy drawing, gaming, relaxation, anything. And then, just like a divine message from the universe, one of your vids gets recommended to me. I NEVER watch self-help stuff. I don't know WHY TH-cam showed me this. But it came just six hours before a big ol deadline that I was probably going to miss aGAIN. I will update here if I can get it done in time. You've inspired me in a single afternoon. I'm ready to give this a shot. Edit: I DID IT BITCHES 15 MINUTES BEFORE MIDNIGHT WOOOOOOOOOO >:D I mean I think it mighta sucked but it was only 3 pages, I didn't have to rush too bad. Mr. Bald Man, I don't know you, but you may have singlehandedly saved my skin today. Was literally lying miserable in bed when I watched this vid, and 6 hours later I have a *win.* Still got lotsa work ahead of me, but now I know I still got steam. And I still want to try. Genuinely, thank you for helping me realize that.
I’m in your exact shoes right now. Gonna pull through for myself tomorrow by focusing on just the one task and using the momentum to keep going and doing more.
Holy shit, you described my thoughts almost verbatim. I didn't realize it was this common for people to feel like this. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, man.
As the new year began, I started to plan and dream my goals for the year. It was all great but I felt so overwhelmed and paralyzed by the sheer amount of tasks and expectations, I found myself unconsciously avoiding to start the tasks. And when I saw there was no real progress after planning day after day, the pressure and disappointment grew. I felt suffocated and wanted to find a solution to the problem. Thank you for sharing your wisdom (even though it sounds so simple, when I was stuck in the situation I felt lost). p.s. Your blooper made me smile :)
For me that thing is my entrance exam, I've had this "horrible" feeling for about 3 years now and I'm sick of it. I've forgotten life without this feeling. I have not spent one day without guilt.
Man, I've been struggling so much with this lately but I feel like I've finally got the hang of it. I've been breaking my tasks down into smaller chunks and I've been less ambitious about how much I want to get done in a day. It's been helping heaps ❤️
Your content genuinely changes my life. I have had depression for years, and about 2 years ago it got to an extremely low point, I then found your account and watched a ton of your videos and it genuinely gave me motivation which I hadn’t had in years. In the past couple of months it went a bit downhill again, so I’m back and god your videos are inspiring, thanks for giving me hope that I can be better :)
This is actually great advice for people with ADHD too. Battling executive function issues is already bad enough, but it becomes overwhelming when the to-do list is too big. The dopamine achieved from finishing a single thing can help push along the second item on the list.
To add to this, I believe for me I compulsively take on too much at times out of avoidance. Avoidance of not feeling like enough so I set out to prove my worth that way. Avoidance of processing some tough emotions from a traumatic event(s). Avoidance of success and fulfillment and peace because I didn’t believe I was worthy of it or believed chaos was the way life is or my life had to be because of my earlier experiences. Even taking on learning self help and habit change strategies has fallen into this compulsive thing that ultimately was also avoiding that I didn’t actually live myself. Now that I’m more and more doing the real self love and self care work, things naturally tend to fall into place and it’s easier to stay motivated and live in alignment with what I want and fulfill my commitments. I think it takes both this inner work and the more practical habits and strategies, but some people do build those skills and never do the inner work and just wind up being really unhappy “successful” people.
Holy shit you just wrote exactly what i did. I saw the video and was like yeah interesting topic but i don't really want to watch right now and put it into "watch later". Then i scrolled a bit further down and was like, shit that's exactly what i need now, because it literally describes my situation perfectly.
Thank you for actually explaining what is the underlying problem. Instead of just using some research or just blurting out tips and tricks. I really enjoyed the those graphs. Those literally helped me gain a simplified perspective for the problem. I hope you make more videos relating to this topics like what to do when it's hard to get anything done :)
As I'm currently staring at a long list of about 30 projects/tasks I need to get done, I have to say the timing of this video couldn't have been better.
Love love love this video! I've been struggling hard the past 6 months and felt pretty alone. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one going through this.
The social situation described in the beginning of the video is exactly what happens with me, and the feeling is indeed awful. Thanks for this video and the advice!
I feel like I’ve got some form of depression or anxiety since COVID hit. I got let go from my job and haven’t worked since, found it extremely hard to get back into my old work ethic and I seriously, no joke, NEVER want to work another day in my life. It’s sad, I’m unhappy and I’m not making enough money in addition to incredible amounts of procrastination. But at the same time, I’m extremely comfortable, I could sit around all day every day for the rest of my life. Reality is that I can’t do that, so this video seriously helped man. I’ll try your way of working/thinking and hopefully I can get back on my feet. It’s not necessarily doing the thing for me, it’s getting to it. I think about it and instantly say ‘nope’ and watch TH-cam all day. It doesn’t even bother me when things get out of hand/late 😂. But thanks again! I’ll try adapt this mindset into my day to day life. Already went to the gym this morning 👍🏻
Loved this and needed this. I think the other aspect is how easy it is to start to identify as a failure when you see all those unfinished projects. I think another major part is learning how to talk to ourselves better and not dictate our worth by how many things we did that day. For me, I see every unfinished thing as another sign I'm not doing enough and I lash out with self-punishment or self-defeatest thoughts. It's honestly all about finding more self-compassion.
*Tells self that action begins after consuming this content* I have a calculus II exam in 3 days and yesterday I was supposed to launch my study plan and instead I slept until 2:30pm, wallowed until 10pm and did like a handful of assignments that don’t contribute to my exam grade. The severity of my behavioral issues is cray! Thanks Joey for coming in clutch with the discipline I need. Your content is always an important reality check!
Ya know, the thing I love most about your videos are they're applicable to SO many situations. I occasionally get sucked down into productivity video rabbit holes, but most are irrelevant to me because I'm a stay-at-home mom, not an office worker and the like. But there's always something I can pull from your advice and apply it to my life. In this case, it's my kitchen. I spend a majority of my day just preparing and feeding little gremlins, and if thr kitchen is a disaster, its a HUGE impediment to everything else I need to do. But I haaaaate cleaning it. The longer I wait though, the longer it will take, and the harder it is to keep my monsters happy. Now, it's not as easy as "just do it" sometimes because anyone with small children knows they make things VERY hard to get done, but there are times where that isn't the case but I shrug it off because of dread. The philosophy in your video is on point though, and I'll take it as a reminder whenever things start getting out of control, what I can do to bring some semblance of sanity back to our space. Thanks for your content, it's always inspiring. :)
I'm about to start senior year, I suffered through this exact thing through all of 11th grade. definitely gonna use this for when the assignments start snowballing
I really appreciate that rather counterintuitive thought. I'm also someone who generally puts a lot on their plate and thus falling into the trap of feeling overwhelmed. Great video as always, really helps to change perspective on how to approach things.
Thank you so much man! You couldn't believe how hard time I have had, and the suffer of not being able to bear everything became insane. After I realized what I had to do I gained all my courage and sought therapy. The fact I'm soon gonna talk to someone professional made me feel that I have found the way. Thank you and stay strong with scripting and editing, you are doing important work!
You have a God given gift. many people try discrediting the same thing but they fail to reach the clarity and quality of what you provide. Thank you, Joey :)
This is 100% true, nothing makes me feel more accomplished and successful in my day than smashing out that one shitty task. I find I want to do the small things, exercise, eat well, read, educate myself and get a good sleep. This spiralling effect makes life that little bit simpler; you reward yourself for your accomplishments by being a more intentional person.
Your videos have been a huge help while slogging my way through a PhD. Something about your word choice "submit to it" creates the feeling that I am not better or worse than my thesis, and that helps me overcome my ego and work on the damn thing. Thanks again
I can't express to you how meaningful this video was for me to hear. My one thing is also writing, and I have been having so much resistance doing it. This was genuinely exactly what I needed, thank you very much. I subscribed!
Your videos mean the world to me. You sir, are a life-changer for sure. I was feeling depressed and stuck in the same cycle of life because I was way too hesitant to create changes. I was stuck in the same construction company doing a job I hate, day in day out, while being depressed for not making the money I wanted to earn. Then I came past your channel, and you learned me so much that hugely affected my life. Because of your videos, I made a move to enter the Belgian military, to expand my view on the world, to say yes to new adventures and LIVE! You are awesome for real!
the whole ,"looking at people doing things and thinking how do you have the energy to do that and no freak out' resonated with me,thought i was alone iwth that
My problem is that I have too many of these emergency situations that need to be dealt with RIGHT NOW. That keeps pushing everything else on my to do list further down until a lot of THOSE become urgent. It's like living with fire alarms going off.
Hey Joey, your videos have explained the work dilemma I have been facing subtly through this pandemic. Im able to address these problems logically with better countermeasures and understanding. Finishing my final year semesters soon. I can't thank you enough, keep the videos going 👍🏻👍🏻
Every single time I watch one of your videos I relate and am BLOWN AWAY about how you are IN MY HEAD. The first few minutes of this video I was hysterical- this is exactly how I feel every single day! Your content is just too good.
Man, you really nail these subjects and illustrate all the anxiety and thoughts that occur in regards to doing things. I certainly have experienced this over my whole life. Thank You so much for making this!
Woah dude ive been in this emotional state in life for the past month where i wanna learn multiple things but everytime i think of learning one of them my brain automatically thinks the other one is more important so i start stressing out and then dont learn neither lol. Thank you so much for your great Advice man
Man, i love how motivational but down-to-earth you are, you keep it simple in pretty much everything On paper that sounds boring but in practice its premium content right here Greetings from Mexico
Dude, are you a wizard of some sort? How on earth do you manage to post videos about the exact issue I am facing in the exact same time.. like how?! I love your videos a lot! You unknowingly helped me a lot with 3 of your videos that hit me right during periods of being in a rut, overwhelmed or feeling down. Thank you from the deepest of mt heart! Stay genuine!
I literally needed this because I'm tired of not completing things because I feel overwhelmed by my list. I will focus on one thing and complete it. I've asked several for advice but this is the best answer
100% dependent on what you are shooting, this is terrible advice. I'd rather miss a African Buffalo with a .45 than hit it with a .22...you'll just piss it off and it won't end well
man your videos always come at the best time for me. Its crazy to see just how common the issues we face on a day to day are for everyone, well at least those who live in a similar enough environment. Thanks again inspirational bald guy!
I put this in a comment chain that said it's ADHD. But feel like it should be a separate comment too. For me it's autism, only found out last year after being in full burnout for close to 8yrs with many many instances prior to that. The only thing I did was work, every moment outside of that was sleeping or being a zombie. Got so sick, never had tonsilitis then ended up with it for 8months straight and had them removed, never had migraines but got them constantly and longer each time. Then it got to a point where all my brain did was throw suicide at me, walk past stairs, the brain would simulate me going down, until it got to a point where I was waiting for the train and it wasn't a simulation but as if I had jumped in front of it, I could feel the wheels cut into my body. I took time off for nearly 3 whole months and slept the whole time but within a month back at work it was already bad again. Then after my next breakdown less than 6months later I came across an autistic meme and it clicked. Any person within the neurodivergent spectrum can't really deal with the world as it's set up, even neurotypical people struggle with it. We're not machines no matter how much hyper wealthy and/or political persons think we aren't human and it's our own fault for being poor, unaware of their own privilege and not interested in recognising it. Mammals need rest periods every day that's not sleep, need periods of play just for playing. A disorder is only a disorder because of the environment the impacted person exists in. On a more practical note, body shadowing makes it easier to clean or get stuff done if you have someone doing it with you, or do a swap with another person who has the same issue you're dealing with. It's so hard for me to clean my own house but far easier to clean a friend's house. Set up calendar blocks with someone that you can sit down and pay bills all in one hit or set up automatic payments. Pay the neurodivergent tax and buy the precut fruit/veg/meat. You'll use more of it than if you bought it uncut because food preparation is exhausting. Buy frozen meals, don't let people shame you about it, if they aren't experiencing it they will not ever understand fully what you have to deal with or that some days are better or worse than others. Start setting up a habit where, whenever you walk past the kitchen table you take one thing and put it away. You won't get overwhelmed with having to clean the whole area and have executive functioning breakdown. Just one item at a time.
the thing is i used to not be like this, i used to be able to just sit down and do things even if it's not fun. it gets worse because i feel so disappointed in myself
I just dont get how your video captions most often are the exact mindset of mine ever since I subscribed to your channel from my other account.... Lots of love brother.... Your videos are truly a great opening for me when stuck...
@@makeyourmommaproud6500 naw man you gotta realize that shit is corrupt and inhuman. Most pornstars commit suicide or get swallowed down a dark path filled with drugs and emptiness. Not only that, porn encourages abuse and supports sex trafficking. It's all so fucked up. I wouldn't wish a porn career on my sluttiest ex-girlfriend.
Omg, Thank you soo much for this beautiful reminder !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THISS DUDE !! THIS IS SOO HELPFUL !! SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVEE, BLESSINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY ABD BIG HUGSS !! ❤️❤️❤️✨
“Every sucessful person in the world is a hustler one way or another. We all hustle to get where we need to be. Only a fool would sit around and wait on another man to feed him.”
Hey! This is truly awesome I would like to add advices from other youtubers Ali Abdal tries to do those things first which seem to scare him and the ones which feel the moist daunting/difficult Thomas Frank stick to only 3 main goals in a day
you get me man, every time. nobody has been so insightful and nuanced at the same time. i learning something new every single fucking time and gain new insights without fail.
Honestly, even this video gives me anxiety haha. I need this. I write a "to-do list" everyday, but honestly its the same list everyday. And, it's all tiny/trivial, but just annoying and overwhelms me.
The more I listen the more my stomach begins to nervously twist, even if I'm aware that without focusing on certain thing instead of filling your head up with many tasks that need to be done I'm not going to move on from the spot where I'm currently standing. Consciously, I know that I'll begin and concentration will come as I needed it to, but inner fear that nothing will ever be done still imprisoning me.
I have been watching you since mid-2019, but more lately. I am just subscribing to your channel now. Because this video resonated with me. It hit me and I didn't dodge. I needed this so bad. Thank you so much, Joey. ❤️ Keep creating these meaningful high-quality content of yours. ⚡️
For me my one thing is working out. I always watch videos about working out, learn more about it everyday, and like actually doing it, and seeing results is the best feeling ever. I just can’t get the jump to actually start working out consistently, I always just put it off to “tomorrow” or “in a couple days,” and end up working out 2 days a week when I really want to be working out 4-5 days a week. Just setting up for the task and the thought of doing the task dissuades me from doing it, but when I actually start, I always finish it. Sucks.
I literally can not remember a time when I didn't have something I needed to do, and yet wait till the eleventh hour to start, then do a half assed job of it, then feel horrible about it, try to escape with video games or something, then even more stuff would pile up, and it just keeps going. Quite a situation I've got myself in.
I feel exactly the same. It's not that we can't get stuff done. It's the overwhelming certainty that it's never going to end. It's like dusting, one you finish, more dust it's going to come. You'll never get it done. Then why do it in the first place?.
Yeah I can relate. What’s interesting is a little procrastination isn’t all bad, otherwise your work will expand to fill the time given it. That balance is hard to find tho
With a final coming up, a take home exam and 4 chapters of homework due in two days I needed this to just push me to work on it today, instead of putting it off. Because I won't get anywhere if I don't start. Thank you for your content!
This really inspired me. Sometimes the bare minimum seems like plenty to me. A couple months ago i was tackling these kind obligation better than i am now. I liked how you described the feeling of getting something done and being empowered to do more and really connect with good emotions. Id love to hear ways to get yourself out of slumps. I tend to have productive times followed by just trying to get through. Id love to find tools i can really use. Or even one tool that leads to momentum/progress. i could use some encouraging advice.
I have my own playlist in youtube which I named "when inspiration turns off", and your videos are always there. Now adding this one.
Can you make it public
It doesn't work if that vid didn't change you then it's not in the future
@@Alexandra-uk4vr love it
Can you share this playlist?
Mine is called "Hell Week Help" 😊💙
I was putting off watching this thinking I wouldn’t learn anything new but I’m so glad I watched! This system makes so much sense, getting things done is all about momentum.
That bad huh. I feel you.
This was me only I felt like I wouldn't be able to change my outlook. Yet videos like this add so much.
Same here
Dang, nice art.
Same here
This bald guy here changed my life
Bald yet bold. 💯
Yep
@@neptune0909 best comment award is yours
No, if you had a transformation within 1 hour, which I doubt, he made you changing it, probably by helping through giving insight and inspiration and motivation. Think first pal. Noone can change your life for you. It is something you have to do yourself. Carry on!
always there when things get hairy
Like JBP said: "a small step in a right direction beats the hell out of doing nothing"
"just clean up your room"
I would reframe it to 'a step to any direction is better than doing nothing. If the step is wrong, well at least you have a feedback now'
It isn’t obvious to me that
When it comes to procrastination, the hardest part is getting started. But once you get started with it, it's usually not as bad as you imagined it in your head!
AP classes made me realize this very quickly haha
The workload at first seems like a lot, but when you buckle down and spend an hour or two you are done! And almost always I feel proud of finishing what I’ve done, a small reward for doing my work :)
I absolutely agree!
Yessir I recommend this to everyone especially those with ADHD
Even though you've probably written this with the best intentions this platitude is the equivalent of "Being poor? Start making money!". I deeply despise everybody upvoting this.
@@tekozlofiu 🤔 I honestly don't understand what you are saying. It is sound advise to those who procrastinate and find out the work isn't too bad once you start. It's about the fear of this big mountain of work. I don't see the connection with being poor or being rich.
I've recently learned that procrastination can be a response to trauma. I think this is the reason why simple behavioural changes don't do the trick for so many people. Sometimes it's a deeply rooted avoiding mechanism.
That’s interesting because when I was younger I felt like I didn’t procrastinate as much and now I feel like I procrastinate more.
You mean because of puberty & therfore the brain changes?
@@valerieh5400 Maybe it is because your tasks were simpler back then? I feel ya, I struggle with this feeling all the time. When I was a teenager, it was so easy for me to do things, that others found hard, I almost felt like a superhuman. Here I am at soon 26 and I struggle to do easier things and I wonder where I lost my strong brain along the way.
This could not come at a better time. Thank you for everything, Joey
exactly the same. I've put my goal of learning mandarin Chinese aside for 2 years. This procrastination needs to stop. I could have had a great level if I have studied consistently for 2 years
Hello, it's been nearly 2 months and 10 days later. It seems I'm still facing the same problem. I have a lot of academic work and other tasks. I also need to start self-help and mould myself into an ideal version of myself. If by any chance, I happen to get out of this rut, Ill make sure to log here.
I have been in a literal DAZE for about 2 weeks now, vehemently avoiding overdue school work that I convinced myself I could complete in a week. Of course, I couldn't convince myself to declare when that week officially starts. My mental state has taken a dive, honestly. Those looming, anxious thoughts really do affect everything. Can't enjoy drawing, gaming, relaxation, anything. And then, just like a divine message from the universe, one of your vids gets recommended to me. I NEVER watch self-help stuff. I don't know WHY TH-cam showed me this. But it came just six hours before a big ol deadline that I was probably going to miss aGAIN. I will update here if I can get it done in time. You've inspired me in a single afternoon. I'm ready to give this a shot.
Edit: I DID IT BITCHES 15 MINUTES BEFORE MIDNIGHT WOOOOOOOOOO >:D I mean I think it mighta sucked but it was only 3 pages, I didn't have to rush too bad. Mr. Bald Man, I don't know you, but you may have singlehandedly saved my skin today. Was literally lying miserable in bed when I watched this vid, and 6 hours later I have a *win.* Still got lotsa work ahead of me, but now I know I still got steam. And I still want to try. Genuinely, thank you for helping me realize that.
I’m in your exact shoes right now. Gonna pull through for myself tomorrow by focusing on just the one task and using the momentum to keep going and doing more.
Same thing my brother, gotta stop being like this. It’s motivation time. Always Positivity
Holy shit, you described my thoughts almost verbatim. I didn't realize it was this common for people to feel like this. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, man.
Seems like you are not alone in this. Same problem here.
myself included!!
We can do this! 💙💙💙
As the new year began, I started to plan and dream my goals for the year. It was all great but I felt so overwhelmed and paralyzed by the sheer amount of tasks and expectations, I found myself unconsciously avoiding to start the tasks. And when I saw there was no real progress after planning day after day, the pressure and disappointment grew. I felt suffocated and wanted to find a solution to the problem. Thank you for sharing your wisdom (even though it sounds so simple, when I was stuck in the situation I felt lost). p.s. Your blooper made me smile :)
Priorities and scheduling are a must.
Is it you on your main pic?
@@fallenstar358 Is it you on your main pic?
True
@@fallenstar358 Same face that’s in every video.
@@CaseyBurnsInvesting you are so nice you are attractive
For me that thing is my entrance exam, I've had this "horrible" feeling for about 3 years now and I'm sick of it. I've forgotten life without this feeling. I have not spent one day without guilt.
Was just about to procrastinate on my assignment and this is the first notification I get. Lol.
So u procrastinated
@@A2Z2 Nah dw I just finished it 😂
@@panadol2851 good for you
@@panadol2851 great
@@panadol2851 Awesome!
That kind of procrastination is self-reinforcing... it gets worse the longer you wait
Burnout is a big one for me. I actually needed rest in order to do things, and to remember to take care of myself.
me toooooo
felt like this for 20 years, and people like you have helped me change. i get shit done now. thanks forever srsly
Is there name Sultana?
@@fallenstar358 ya! thats my name
@sultanaxavier7108
How did you change!?
not once would I have thought there's a video explaining my exact feelings 24/7 and how to work around or go about overcoming them, thank you
Man, I've been struggling so much with this lately but I feel like I've finally got the hang of it. I've been breaking my tasks down into smaller chunks and I've been less ambitious about how much I want to get done in a day. It's been helping heaps ❤️
Your content genuinely changes my life. I have had depression for years, and about 2 years ago it got to an extremely low point, I then found your account and watched a ton of your videos and it genuinely gave me motivation which I hadn’t had in years. In the past couple of months it went a bit downhill again, so I’m back and god your videos are inspiring, thanks for giving me hope that I can be better :)
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The first thing on my list would be: Writing a list
😂🤣😂
This is actually great advice for people with ADHD too. Battling executive function issues is already bad enough, but it becomes overwhelming when the to-do list is too big. The dopamine achieved from finishing a single thing can help push along the second item on the list.
Pls help😪😓
@@ZERO-nc7td You still didn't get your help?
@@abbez4888 nope
Wdym?
@@ZERO-nc7td you're the only one who can truly help yourself
These videos just come out at the right time man
To add to this, I believe for me I compulsively take on too much at times out of avoidance. Avoidance of not feeling like enough so I set out to prove my worth that way. Avoidance of processing some tough emotions from a traumatic event(s). Avoidance of success and fulfillment and peace because I didn’t believe I was worthy of it or believed chaos was the way life is or my life had to be because of my earlier experiences.
Even taking on learning self help and habit change strategies has fallen into this compulsive thing that ultimately was also avoiding that I didn’t actually live myself. Now that I’m more and more doing the real self love and self care work, things naturally tend to fall into place and it’s easier to stay motivated and live in alignment with what I want and fulfill my commitments.
I think it takes both this inner work and the more practical habits and strategies, but some people do build those skills and never do the inner work and just wind up being really unhappy “successful” people.
My first impulse was to click 'Watch Later' on this video, and then I became self aware haha!
Me too 🙄
@J. Lee i have over 400 lol
jokes on me, I've got more than 1800...
Holy shit you just wrote exactly what i did. I saw the video and was like yeah interesting topic but i don't really want to watch right now and put it into "watch later". Then i scrolled a bit further down and was like, shit that's exactly what i need now, because it literally describes my situation perfectly.
I have over 5000 and I can't add videos to watch later anymore lol
Thank you for actually explaining what is the underlying problem. Instead of just using some research or just blurting out tips and tricks.
I really enjoyed the those graphs. Those literally helped me gain a simplified perspective for the problem.
I hope you make more videos relating to this topics like what to do when it's hard to get anything done :)
As I'm currently staring at a long list of about 30 projects/tasks I need to get done, I have to say the timing of this video couldn't have been better.
How’s it going 2 days later?
@@annabelvb Pretty good, made some good progress :) By the end of tomorrow I will have completed three significant things off of my list.
@@poweredbysoul6630 cool! 👏🏻
How is it goin? If you want to see mine i can give you a link for that. I'm dying every single minute.
Love love love this video! I've been struggling hard the past 6 months and felt pretty alone. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one going through this.
Wow, that's a cute quote joey. You should put that on a poster
😆😂
came here for that one. Guess I was too late xD
Unfortunately that doesn’t make any sense…
The social situation described in the beginning of the video is exactly what happens with me, and the feeling is indeed awful. Thanks for this video and the advice!
I feel like I’ve got some form of depression or anxiety since COVID hit. I got let go from my job and haven’t worked since, found it extremely hard to get back into my old work ethic and I seriously, no joke, NEVER want to work another day in my life.
It’s sad, I’m unhappy and I’m not making enough money in addition to incredible amounts of procrastination. But at the same time, I’m extremely comfortable, I could sit around all day every day for the rest of my life. Reality is that I can’t do that, so this video seriously helped man.
I’ll try your way of working/thinking and hopefully I can get back on my feet. It’s not necessarily doing the thing for me, it’s getting to it. I think about it and instantly say ‘nope’ and watch TH-cam all day.
It doesn’t even bother me when things get out of hand/late 😂. But thanks again! I’ll try adapt this mindset into my day to day life. Already went to the gym this morning 👍🏻
Well done on going to the gym and good luck!
Loved this and needed this. I think the other aspect is how easy it is to start to identify as a failure when you see all those unfinished projects. I think another major part is learning how to talk to ourselves better and not dictate our worth by how many things we did that day. For me, I see every unfinished thing as another sign I'm not doing enough and I lash out with self-punishment or self-defeatest thoughts. It's honestly all about finding more self-compassion.
*Tells self that action begins after consuming this content*
I have a calculus II exam in 3 days and yesterday I was supposed to launch my study plan and instead I slept until 2:30pm, wallowed until 10pm and did like a handful of assignments that don’t contribute to my exam grade. The severity of my behavioral issues is cray!
Thanks Joey for coming in clutch with the discipline I need. Your content is always an important reality check!
Ya know, the thing I love most about your videos are they're applicable to SO many situations. I occasionally get sucked down into productivity video rabbit holes, but most are irrelevant to me because I'm a stay-at-home mom, not an office worker and the like. But there's always something I can pull from your advice and apply it to my life. In this case, it's my kitchen. I spend a majority of my day just preparing and feeding little gremlins, and if thr kitchen is a disaster, its a HUGE impediment to everything else I need to do. But I haaaaate cleaning it. The longer I wait though, the longer it will take, and the harder it is to keep my monsters happy. Now, it's not as easy as "just do it" sometimes because anyone with small children knows they make things VERY hard to get done, but there are times where that isn't the case but I shrug it off because of dread. The philosophy in your video is on point though, and I'll take it as a reminder whenever things start getting out of control, what I can do to bring some semblance of sanity back to our space. Thanks for your content, it's always inspiring. :)
I'm about to start senior year, I suffered through this exact thing through all of 11th grade. definitely gonna use this for when the assignments start snowballing
I'm from Türkiye and it is same situation. Where are you from?
I really appreciate that rather counterintuitive thought. I'm also someone who generally puts a lot on their plate and thus falling into the trap of feeling overwhelmed.
Great video as always, really helps to change perspective on how to approach things.
Thank you so much man! You couldn't believe how hard time I have had, and the suffer of not being able to bear everything became insane. After I realized what I had to do I gained all my courage and sought therapy. The fact I'm soon gonna talk to someone professional made me feel that I have found the way. Thank you and stay strong with scripting and editing, you are doing important work!
You have a God given gift. many people try discrediting the same thing but they fail to reach the clarity and quality of what you provide. Thank you, Joey :)
This is 100% true, nothing makes me feel more accomplished and successful in my day than smashing out that one shitty task. I find I want to do the small things, exercise, eat well, read, educate myself and get a good sleep. This spiralling effect makes life that little bit simpler; you reward yourself for your accomplishments by being a more intentional person.
Your videos have been a huge help while slogging my way through a PhD. Something about your word choice "submit to it" creates the feeling that I am not better or worse than my thesis, and that helps me overcome my ego and work on the damn thing. Thanks again
I can't express to you how meaningful this video was for me to hear. My one thing is also writing, and I have been having so much resistance doing it. This was genuinely exactly what I needed, thank you very much. I subscribed!
Dude, you nailed it with that feeling of accomplishment- the momentum that you can leverage to motivate you.
8:25 Super valuable tip. It makes life so much easier to have a to-do list. Thanks for the great video!
Your videos mean the world to me. You sir, are a life-changer for sure.
I was feeling depressed and stuck in the same cycle of life because I was way too hesitant to create changes. I was stuck in the same construction company doing a job I hate, day in day out, while being depressed for not making the money I wanted to earn.
Then I came past your channel, and you learned me so much that hugely affected my life. Because of your videos, I made a move to enter the Belgian military, to expand my view on the world, to say yes to new adventures and LIVE!
You are awesome for real!
This is me. I literally haven't uploaded a video in 2+ years lol fml.
hey man i believe that you can do it, you clearly can do great when you try judging from your channel!
Well youve made videos before, and the hardest part is beginning, so just begin. Once the ball is rolling you’ll have momentum
Wow you're already a verified account.
Keep going, dude
What fml mean?
@@sarahgraham4056 f*ck my life
the whole ,"looking at people doing things and thinking how do you have the energy to do that and no freak out' resonated with me,thought i was alone iwth that
My problem is that I have too many of these emergency situations that need to be dealt with RIGHT NOW. That keeps pushing everything else on my to do list further down until a lot of THOSE become urgent. It's like living with fire alarms going off.
joey is always exactly at the right time when you a needed a punch of reality
God bless you man you’re the best this helped me and it reached me at the right moment
My reason I can't get anything done is bc I'm always binging these videos 😅
Hey Joey, your videos have explained the work dilemma I have been facing subtly through this pandemic. Im able to address these problems logically with better countermeasures and understanding. Finishing my final year semesters soon. I can't thank you enough, keep the videos going 👍🏻👍🏻
WHY DO YOU ALWAYS KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY LIFE AND THE ADVICE THAT I NEED?!
Is he secretly Jesus?
Every single time I watch one of your videos I relate and am BLOWN AWAY about how you are IN MY HEAD. The first few minutes of this video I was hysterical- this is exactly how I feel every single day! Your content is just too good.
I actually needed this. Like. Every word. Every thing you said, was exactly my situation. WOW😫😫😫😫
Man, you really nail these subjects and illustrate all the anxiety and thoughts that occur in regards to doing things. I certainly have experienced this over my whole life. Thank You so much for making this!
The timing of this video couldn't be more dead on with my issues.
one of the most relatable human beings on this platform. love your videos man ❤️
Woah dude ive been in this emotional state in life for the past month where i wanna learn multiple things but everytime i think of learning one of them my brain automatically thinks the other one is more important so i start stressing out and then dont learn neither lol. Thank you so much for your great Advice man
i literally started watching you the 2nd week of July and omg you've helped me get back up everytime I haven't felt the best so tysm
"Will I be living on the streets"
Me right now
Man, i love how motivational but down-to-earth you are, you keep it simple in pretty much everything
On paper that sounds boring but in practice its premium content right here
Greetings from Mexico
I don't even know what I need to get done. I just have this overwhelming feeling of dread and anxiety.
Dude, are you a wizard of some sort?
How on earth do you manage to post videos about the exact issue I am facing in the exact same time.. like how?!
I love your videos a lot!
You unknowingly helped me a lot with 3 of your videos that hit me right during periods of being in a rut, overwhelmed or feeling down.
Thank you from the deepest of mt heart!
Stay genuine!
I'm always amazed at how Joey is so good at saying "Just do it"
haha right! I would have to agree though, that "doing" really is one of the most important factors of becoming successful
I literally needed this because I'm tired of not completing things because I feel overwhelmed by my list. I will focus on one thing and complete it. I've asked several for advice but this is the best answer
Unpopular opinion :- For some people it's even hard to watch this video till end 😂
Literally 😭
Bro😭
I thought I was the only one !😂
Video came at just the right time. I've been putting off a simple task for over a year that could have bettered my life in an instant. Thanks, Br0.
“A hit with a .22 is better than a miss with a .45”
100% dependent on what you are shooting, this is terrible advice.
I'd rather miss a African Buffalo with a .45 than hit it with a .22...you'll just piss it off and it won't end well
man your videos always come at the best time for me. Its crazy to see just how common the issues we face on a day to day are for everyone, well at least those who live in a similar enough environment. Thanks again inspirational bald guy!
This guy has changed so many lives
U successful Joey let’s go
I put this in a comment chain that said it's ADHD. But feel like it should be a separate comment too.
For me it's autism, only found out last year after being in full burnout for close to 8yrs with many many instances prior to that. The only thing I did was work, every moment outside of that was sleeping or being a zombie.
Got so sick, never had tonsilitis then ended up with it for 8months straight and had them removed, never had migraines but got them constantly and longer each time.
Then it got to a point where all my brain did was throw suicide at me, walk past stairs, the brain would simulate me going down, until it got to a point where I was waiting for the train and it wasn't a simulation but as if I had jumped in front of it, I could feel the wheels cut into my body.
I took time off for nearly 3 whole months and slept the whole time but within a month back at work it was already bad again. Then after my next breakdown less than 6months later I came across an autistic meme and it clicked.
Any person within the neurodivergent spectrum can't really deal with the world as it's set up, even neurotypical people struggle with it.
We're not machines no matter how much hyper wealthy and/or political persons think we aren't human and it's our own fault for being poor, unaware of their own privilege and not interested in recognising it.
Mammals need rest periods every day that's not sleep, need periods of play just for playing. A disorder is only a disorder because of the environment the impacted person exists in.
On a more practical note, body shadowing makes it easier to clean or get stuff done if you have someone doing it with you, or do a swap with another person who has the same issue you're dealing with.
It's so hard for me to clean my own house but far easier to clean a friend's house. Set up calendar blocks with someone that you can sit down and pay bills all in one hit or set up automatic payments.
Pay the neurodivergent tax and buy the precut fruit/veg/meat. You'll use more of it than if you bought it uncut because food preparation is exhausting. Buy frozen meals, don't let people shame you about it, if they aren't experiencing it they will not ever understand fully what you have to deal with or that some days are better or worse than others.
Start setting up a habit where, whenever you walk past the kitchen table you take one thing and put it away. You won't get overwhelmed with having to clean the whole area and have executive functioning breakdown. Just one item at a time.
Damn this can't be more timely 😅
This method had saved me from falling into a long, unmotivated rut for so many times. Thank you for sharing.
"If this were easy, what would it look like?" - Tim Ferris
This is the first self help guide I’ve heard that has legitimately made me feel capable. Thanks dude
Swear i was feeling this since a month.
its been 4 months for me
It has been like 4 and a half months for me , thinking about posting more here on TH-cam
Me too ive been in this state for like a month
just a month? a year.
the thing is i used to not be like this, i used to be able to just sit down and do things even if it's not fun. it gets worse because i feel so disappointed in myself
Taking on things initially feels good but can pile up like debt
Guess I'm in debt then.
I just dont get how your video captions most often are the exact mindset of mine ever since I subscribed to your channel from my other account.... Lots of love brother.... Your videos are truly a great opening for me when stuck...
He's like the Johnny Sins of Self Improvement
Please don't. Porn is some toxic ass bullshit and has no room here.
@@Steve1000ish bruh, have some fun.
@@makeyourmommaproud6500 naw man you gotta realize that shit is corrupt and inhuman. Most pornstars commit suicide or get swallowed down a dark path filled with drugs and emptiness. Not only that, porn encourages abuse and supports sex trafficking. It's all so fucked up. I wouldn't wish a porn career on my sluttiest ex-girlfriend.
@@Steve1000ish yeah, we know, no need to point it out right here right now
Omg, Thank you soo much for this beautiful reminder !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THISS DUDE !! THIS IS SOO HELPFUL !! SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVEE, BLESSINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY ABD BIG HUGSS !! ❤️❤️❤️✨
“Every sucessful person in the world is a hustler one way or another. We all hustle to get where we need to be. Only a fool would sit around and wait on another man to feed him.”
@@iMakeItFun I feel you. Gotta find a way to love it tho
The quality of your videos has been so consistent and you always tackle exactly what I need to hear. Thank you
Hey! This is truly awesome
I would like to add advices from other youtubers
Ali Abdal tries to do those things first which seem to scare him and the ones which feel the moist daunting/difficult
Thomas Frank stick to only 3 main goals in a day
you get me man, every time. nobody has been so insightful and nuanced at the same time. i learning something new every single fucking
time and gain new insights without fail.
Honestly, even this video gives me anxiety haha. I need this. I write a "to-do list" everyday, but honestly its the same list everyday. And, it's all tiny/trivial, but just annoying and overwhelms me.
You're literally my favorite youtuber right now this is so helpful
It's literally self-sabotage. You describe with such an accuracy my daily struggle.
Thanks!
The more I listen the more my stomach begins to nervously twist, even if I'm aware that without focusing on certain thing instead of filling your head up with many tasks that need to be done I'm not going to move on from the spot where I'm currently standing. Consciously, I know that I'll begin and concentration will come as I needed it to, but inner fear that nothing will ever be done still imprisoning me.
I have been watching you since mid-2019, but more lately.
I am just subscribing to your channel now. Because this video resonated with me. It hit me and I didn't dodge. I needed this so bad. Thank you so much, Joey. ❤️ Keep creating these meaningful high-quality content of yours. ⚡️
This is me lately, I have university admission tests coming up but I have been doing nothing lately which is causing me to go into depression
im currently on this position and somehow your videos popup in my recomendation, thanks a lot man. this help so much
this would make sense if this "motivation" after finishing the thing actually worked, but I just feel worse after I've done it so this doesn't help
Love this channel. Your observations are so accurate, and the solutions you propose always get to the problem from a different perspective
"DO LESS" this is what I should do instead of overthinking more tasks yet still nothing works to do. Thanks! 🙏
For me my one thing is working out. I always watch videos about working out, learn more about it everyday, and like actually doing it, and seeing results is the best feeling ever. I just can’t get the jump to actually start working out consistently, I always just put it off to “tomorrow” or “in a couple days,” and end up working out 2 days a week when I really want to be working out 4-5 days a week. Just setting up for the task and the thought of doing the task dissuades me from doing it, but when I actually start, I always finish it. Sucks.
I literally can not remember a time when I didn't have something I needed to do, and yet wait till the eleventh hour to start, then do a half assed job of it, then feel horrible about it, try to escape with video games or something, then even more stuff would pile up, and it just keeps going. Quite a situation I've got myself in.
I feel exactly the same. It's not that we can't get stuff done. It's the overwhelming certainty that it's never going to end. It's like dusting, one you finish, more dust it's going to come. You'll never get it done. Then why do it in the first place?.
Yeah I can relate. What’s interesting is a little procrastination isn’t all bad, otherwise your work will expand to fill the time given it. That balance is hard to find tho
With a final coming up, a take home exam and 4 chapters of homework due in two days I needed this to just push me to work on it today, instead of putting it off. Because I won't get anywhere if I don't start. Thank you for your content!
"And then my bald head get shoved into people's home pages" brilliant 😂
This really inspired me. Sometimes the bare minimum seems like plenty to me. A couple months ago i was tackling these kind obligation better than i am now. I liked how you described the feeling of getting something done and being empowered to do more and really connect with good emotions. Id love to hear ways to get yourself out of slumps. I tend to have productive times followed by just trying to get through. Id love to find tools i can really use. Or even one tool that leads to momentum/progress. i could use some encouraging advice.