Jordan Peterson REVEALS How To Get Over A Breakup FAST..

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  • Jordan Peterson REVEALS How To Get Over A Breakup FAST..
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  • @chipprovost8345
    @chipprovost8345 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    I'm no expert but if you want to get over someone focus on yourself. Exercise, eat right, connect with family and friends, and read. Stay busy and stay productive. Learn to let go. Learn from this experience. Ride out the storm. Better days lie ahead.

    • @simpleliving4205
      @simpleliving4205 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Excellent advice

    • @nss259
      @nss259 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Thank you brother.

  • @Clevelandsteamer324
    @Clevelandsteamer324 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    The person that cares the most loses.
    You will emerge stronger than ever

    • @menglund08
      @menglund08 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thanks for posting that

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yes, but it can hurt like a mofo. Exactly why so many songs have been written about it. What the Blues are about. Some don't make it. Ones that do ARE stronger, but scarred. Love is a b---.

    • @alanhenriqueborelligarcia314
      @alanhenriqueborelligarcia314 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      3:33 make the situation analysis.
      (something between lines: just that part is looking back on past, and that is the right productive way to do that).
      4:30 compare how things are and learn how to be able to articulate your vision of your life to the real world. Detecting missmachtes decrease pain.
      5:00 be focus in living in the biological sense. You be able to maintain your curiosity needed to learn. With no racional thoughts that generally uses mental models to ignore things you will avoid to look to old ways of meaning of past situations turn us to be able to "format" your operation system.
      9:20 motivation and emotions are not separated. So, a break up make you feel negative emotions. It's common seeing motivation like on or off, but if it's likely emotional is positive and negative. A negative motivation is reasons to stay still. And that match with negative emotions. By doing things, you start to be able to motivate yourself positive. Seems that is started by learn new things which will bringing to you by surpress your overthinking and be focus to perception of the present.
      I am a portuguese speaker. And now I surprised that your language carries what to do in a break up on the expression: look the past objectively, stop overthinking, focus on present, learn how things really are and... MOVE ON!

    • @Whatsthedill_ENT
      @Whatsthedill_ENT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I lost everything and was told it was me and ignored the signs. Never again , i dont even want to date again no point.

    • @rebeccapope3295
      @rebeccapope3295 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Whatsthedill_ENT I feel the same.

  • @christopherlinge26
    @christopherlinge26 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I love this man. Everyone has someone they click with .I click with his mastery of cognitive therapy .

  • @Jon-fl7cu
    @Jon-fl7cu หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I've recently had a break up. Doing things you enjoy will help. No matter what it is. As time passes you'll find yourself in a routine. A routine you can live with, move on with. You will gradually become stronger and start loving yourself more than you did when you was with your ex. You will start to look down on your ex for looking down on you, you may even forget about them. But you need to do something everyday that you enjoy. Ive joined a gym with a sauna. I play fifa when i have chance, go to a football/rugby match, watch a series with something. Go abroad. Take your kids out. Make them laugh and have a good time. Talk to your friends. Try to make them laugh and you'll slowly or quickly start to recover. You might cry again. So cry! But do your best to repeat the above. You'll cry less or not atall and you'll be smiling and laughing again soon enough. Don't stall.

  • @colmrooney414
    @colmrooney414 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    I guess what helped/helps me is remembering that the feeling of love is not attached to someone even if they met that need for you at the time.

  • @emmanuelwolfmusic410
    @emmanuelwolfmusic410 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Start loving your own soul, as if it's just you on this plane. If you can't be alone for a few hours with yourself and have self worth , you will never be able to truly love another person, because you'll be relying on that other person to fill those things for you. I wish anyone out there who's going through a breakup love, it's going to be OK.

    • @xxChacaronXX
      @xxChacaronXX 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      “Be still, and know that I am God“ - Psalm 46:10
      Jesus is the way brother!

    • @MrJackjr69
      @MrJackjr69 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      God's words is helping me , reading bible from beggining trying to find solace , and also videos like this, Eckhart Tolle, stoicism , it's all good, but mind is tricky, thoughts of despair, anxiety, seems to be at the front row at all times ,

    • @maceyr.6583
      @maceyr.6583 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @iflexnutz
    @iflexnutz ปีที่แล้ว +128

    I learned some more about the brain....but how to get over a breakup fast....not so much.

    • @alkafelts
      @alkafelts 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😂

    • @luisbahena2905
      @luisbahena2905 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Hi there, I'm in the same situation, I have been talking to myself trying to train my brain saying this "that person its gone, its gone forever, you need to accept it, you can't control the other person's feelings., the pain will pass" .I lost my lover of 25 years.

    • @xxChacaronXX
      @xxChacaronXX 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      “ A great teacher teaches you where to look, not what to think”

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      There is no way to get over a breakup fast, not if you gave 100%. Time heals. Cliche, but true. Matter of taking it slow, one day at a time. How much time? It's different for each case. We're all human. Most of us suffer while going through this sh*t. Is it possible to bounce back? Yes.

    • @dylanpringle4314
      @dylanpringle4314 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I would never pick up the dictionary as a kid. My mind is math and music. I’m using speaker text to speak. My father is quite articulate in college. It quite young age. I understand this man very well. It’s too bad. I can’t speak it my own language, I love his cognitive therapy yes and I love how many different teachers, and one teaching, I enjoy that very much. I don’t enjoy long amount of meditation without feeding the brain.

  • @pippacarron1861
    @pippacarron1861 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +137

    The title is misleading. There is no info in this Peterson extract that tells people how to get over a breakup, let alone FAST.

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I wish this dude would learn to get to the point. He rambles.

    • @teeaymusik9811
      @teeaymusik9811 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      These videos are bullshit anyways, a breakup needs time to heal.. You cannot shorten it.

    • @watercolorsinbloom
      @watercolorsinbloom 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm noticing a lot of videos posted with him are exactly like this. They don't exhibit the title.

    • @rickb7378
      @rickb7378 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Totally agree! This is just an advanced case of "man-splaining" !

    • @chrisCNX7522
      @chrisCNX7522 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The comments are full of idiots.... like you and me.

  • @Alffovinni
    @Alffovinni 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    sometimes the other person PUSHES YOU into the pit. so it’s not your fault and nothing that YOU did

  • @gregdingleberry4746
    @gregdingleberry4746 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I never thought i'd open up to anyone but i opened up to this one girl.. Gave her my everything.. And got shit on in the end..

    • @sylviaguenther-zc9lg
      @sylviaguenther-zc9lg 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I’m sorry to hear that happened to you Greg, I feel U should know 1 thing, U gave it your all & U didn’t coward to the feeling or the biggest thing U didn’t play with anyone’s heart, U we’re honest; u R a true find it’s her loss. The right person will come when u least expect it🦋✌️

    • @juandaniel2070
      @juandaniel2070 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Welcome to the club. Now the challenge is to keep loving and the heart open when it's wounded and painful. As I say, something better is coming your way :)

  • @ThisisRubbishlo
    @ThisisRubbishlo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    You did nothing wrong, the one that left did, don’t lose sleep over them

    • @Muzzaa
      @Muzzaa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What if you did do something wrong though? And it's your fault its over.

    • @insignia2543
      @insignia2543 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why is this statement lacking so much accountability, it's not about who did more wrong. Relationships are complex but both parties generally make mistakes. I don't understand your philosophy. I think it is an emotional fantasy.

  • @fifthrider
    @fifthrider 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    With some of these JP videos I learn more about the topic from the people in the comments than what JP was talking about. Thank you to all commenters who shared their stories. It helps some of us understand better.

    • @jamesdoakes4956
      @jamesdoakes4956 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Because half the time the title is clickbait n half the time jp is giving word salad

    • @fifthrider
      @fifthrider 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jamesdoakes4956 Well, you got me there. Yes, this is true.

    • @denisepfahl3147
      @denisepfahl3147 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Exactly! These commenter are very insightful! Helped me a lot too!

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Comments are the true gold nuggets on YT

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jamesdoakes4956Yep. Too often vids are clickbait. Beats having to work for a living (like the rest of us have to). For so many of these peeps who post videos, this is nothing more than a form of entertainment; something to do. I hope the kind-hearted peeps who are hurting (because they had a bad experience having been involved with a cold-blooded player: male or female) get enough info/feedback that's on here to help them get through the pain.

  • @gunfugames7430
    @gunfugames7430 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Once you loved truly you never get past by that you never forget how good it felt when it last and how bad it hurt what it ended. Your whole life became studying and chasing that feeling you once had because you are sure nothing will ever compare.

    • @VFXShawn
      @VFXShawn หลายเดือนก่อน

      This. I will never feel the way I felt with anyone else. It's been 20 years since I saw her, but my love for her burns like an inferno that could eclipse the sun, and my pain burns to the deepest hell. She moved on instantly, eventually a few years later my 'friend' slept with her for over a year, making her his domestic sex toy before he moved onto his next victim, my little sister. God has a special place in hell for him. The girl I loved then got married and just had her first kid. I suffer every day thinking about her, her picture is the first thing I look at every morning and the last thing before I go to bed. I dream about her, but usually I'm looking for her and can never find her. I went to talk to her mom the other day after 20 years, told her everything, how much I was suffering. She thanked me for coming. Next week I'm going to give a babyshower gift of 5000$ as a gesture of good will and showing my support. My love for her will never change, no matter how badly she hurt me, love keeps no record of wrongs, the Bible says. She used to tell me she was an atheist, I'm not sure where she is at with that, but if she goes to hell when she dies, I will leave the Kingdom of God, descend into the depths of hell, brave its horrors and burnings, and find her. If she will not be permitted into the Kingdom, I will plead that a special place be made for her and I, where I can visit her. I can not live this, and the next, without her.

  • @obi-wan-cod-obi6692
    @obi-wan-cod-obi6692 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    4 years apart and i miss them daily, having a child makes it so hard to move on

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Stay strong

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is why divorce is so painful, my brother. Why I keep saying to all the good dudes out there: Careful. These modern females (in certain countries) will take great joy in destroying you.

    • @sharong8908
      @sharong8908 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Let her go,

    • @appeljuicesurf
      @appeljuicesurf หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you are not alone friend.

    • @sandradube4456
      @sandradube4456 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm sorry yooure hurting. You need to love yourself more than that. You need to start waking up every morning and choosing yourself instead of a person that didn't value your love. 4 years is a long time to be fantasizing about someone who doesn't love you, regardless that you have a child with them. Seek professional help. Life is passing you by, your ex is enjoying his/her life without you, why are you torturing yourself? In future relationships, don't place any person in the place of God. God first, then a lover. That way, you have someone to hold on to if that relationship doesn't work. Because ryt now, it sounds like you idolized your ex.

  • @rayray2878
    @rayray2878 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    There is evil unseen that torment a person's spirit .

  • @jazz4asahel
    @jazz4asahel 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The things helping me are my understanding of myself only I know, and the very personal promise that I will turn this rejection I am suffering into things overall better for me.

  • @holographic555
    @holographic555 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    There is no mental anguish when you know your self worth.

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Sometimes peeps give their heart to the wrong person (aka player) & it can take time to bounce back. The only peeps who never feel anything toward their fellow humans are sociopaths. This is why/how they are able to cause the pain they cause & walk away with a smile on their face, as if it's something to truly be amused by. No one on here, of course. Speaking in general. Sh*t that happens out there in all parts of the world.

    • @kirstisamuelsen3712
      @kirstisamuelsen3712 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If you are alive and there is no anguish you have to be really superfiscial
      Having anguish is a part of being human
      If you feel something

    • @holographic555
      @holographic555 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kirstisamuelsen3712 so you want to WILLFULLY DREAD your existence when you have ways to manage how you feel?

    • @kirstisamuelsen3712
      @kirstisamuelsen3712 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@holographic555
      Oh.Of course you can work on yourself to lessen the anguish.
      I agree.

    • @kirstisamuelsen3712
      @kirstisamuelsen3712 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Oh yes there is.

  • @user-bp4fz4kn1c
    @user-bp4fz4kn1c 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I went through my wife's phone. Which I know is wrong but I found out she's been cheating on me And now they're together.
    We've been together for 10 years and now she's with him. It's been two days.

    • @user-ki2ft6ot6v
      @user-ki2ft6ot6v 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Stay strong brother I'm also facing something like that now and we have a 2years old daughter

    • @ironjohn5914
      @ironjohn5914 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Women these days lie cheat steal use you and abuse you...plus waste a lot of your time...

    • @johannesvonsaaz3987
      @johannesvonsaaz3987 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I'm so sorry to hear that brother.
      Mine was still seeing her ex who she can't let go all along.
      Life is full of cruel lessons
      I also left 3 days ago

    • @dauglove7835
      @dauglove7835 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Rejection is Gods protection.
      You are meant for better, for respect and someone who is committed , has commitment as a value which cheaters do not, find your support, go pow contact, hold up your chin, remind yourself of your worth and go about the serious business of healing from betrayal with books, videos and a qualified counselor.
      Blessings.
      I’m 4 years into healing, post 23 year relationship and who knows how much infidelity that I did not see.
      List all the things she did that were cruel and keep it as a reminder near by . Look up cognitive dissonance and try to stay grounded in fact.
      Pray.

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Painful but now the path forward is very clear as all doubts are erased and worsts confirmed. You WILL come out the other side , juts try to save as much as yourself in the process

  • @raikaramorim5175
    @raikaramorim5175 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Love your enemy and you will be saved even if he doesn't love you. Hate your enemy and you are both doomed.

  • @GorillaMyDreams
    @GorillaMyDreams 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I agree. Too many people monkeying around with their dreams and relationships.

  • @carelminnaar8454
    @carelminnaar8454 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    The 1st minute is sooooo accurate and describes it so perfectly well. That's exactly how it is for me right now, even still after seeing this I feel the failure was on my part... I still feel like I should've tried harder / do better. I have my suspicions on what went wrong, but will probably never really know for sure (though I am 90% sure).

    • @chrissv10tfsi
      @chrissv10tfsi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      After long loneliness, I stumbled upon a girl who looked exactly how my dream girl would look like. Then we talked, and I realized she's exactly the same weirdo like myself. Within three weeks we fell in love with each other. I had a few longer relationships, and some deep love but she loved me to my core more than any of my gf's before. So I was on the moon. 2 months passed by in this elevated state, no arguments whatsoever, just freaking pure love. She told me at beginning that she is diagnosed with severe ADHD, so I should know that life with her is like a rollercoaster ride. One day I introduced her to my family, where my family couldn't believe how much love this girl gives to me openly non-stop. I said to them, she does that all the time. The other day she started acting weird, and she said she can't connect with me suddenly. Then few days passed by, and she left with a letter, writing that she is unable to attach herself to anyone long term.
      My brother, I fucking shattered to pieces. It was the most brutal brake up I ever had, even though it was just a few month. Everything reminded me of her, places, music, small details here and there, it was and still is a nightmare.
      I'm at day 6 of it right now and today I met with her to talk a littlebit, but she is committed and cold as ice, so she's gone. The last 6 days I completely blamed myself for everything, until today when I realized it's not me who fucked up anything, it's her ADHD. Now I'm reliefed littlebit, my heart still in pain because I'm still addicted to her but I'm sure time will heal it.
      I see you posted 1 month ago, I hope you are in better shape than I am right now. Wish you and all the poor souls who will read these lines in the future good luck, and energy to heal.

    • @Inside_the_Male_Mind
      @Inside_the_Male_Mind 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Like what?

    • @Shyuuta
      @Shyuuta 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@chrissv10tfsi I'm in the same situation as you right now except my ex doesn't have ADHD. She has a severe level of trauma because of the prolonged abuse from childhood and from her ex (physically & mentally). I did try to talk to her for one week because she's perfect to me like your gf to yours and I don't wanna give that up. That one week drained me of my mental and emotions, I couldn't feel anything except pain and regrets. Today I just ended it, I knew it had to be done but I kept holding to the hope that she'll see my reasons. Sorry about the rants, and I hope you're doing well man. Peace to us all.

    • @chrissv10tfsi
      @chrissv10tfsi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      We got back together and all went in an even better direction than before, but this time we had to go deep into our traumas to deal with. Childhood as well, on both side. Wish you and your ex good luck, and all the best, keep it up.@@Shyuuta

    • @Mo1337
      @Mo1337 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Chris, I've had a very similar experience to yours. I met her online, and she was the kindest and most loving person I had ever met. She loved me so much, and the way we fell in love was incredible. In just one week, she completely redefined the concept of love for me, especially considering I had been in an abusive relationship before. But with her, I truly understood what love is. Both of us were committed to making our relationship work. We were actively fighting our toxic thoughts and discussing them, trying our best to make it work.
      However, things took a sudden turn around last Christmas. She told me she needed some time alone. Five days passed without a single word from her. In an attempt to show my affection, I sent her tulip flowers, knowing they were her favorite. She messaged me then, asking why I was sending flowers after we had broken up. I had no idea; my heart was shattered. She had broken up with me and moved on without even telling me why, aside from a vague conversation she had with my friend, where she mentioned being tired of this "bullshit."
      It's been really tough for me because I saw her as a life partner. We had spent a year together, and I had done my best to make her happy. But this happened, and I can't help but wonder if it's related to a friend of hers from Belgium who started hanging out with her around the same time. I've lost trust in everyone, and this suspicion is only making everything worse. My heart is in deep pain, but I'm trying to navigate through these dark thoughts whenever they hit me.
      I forgot to mention that she also told me she had ADHD.
      Despite everything, I genuinely hope she's happy and healthy, and I wish her parents good health as well.
      it's been 2 month since you commented, I hope you're doing good and moving forward.
      Edit: i just saw your latest comment 9 days ago, im happy for you and i hope you guys get through everything together.

  • @bennym1326
    @bennym1326 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just found out through friends, that my ex is married. Im happy for her. I still grieve the loss of the future we had planned, but I truly wish her happines. True love is putting someone else's feeling above yours, as hard as it is

  • @nathanforrest3483
    @nathanforrest3483 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I once almost got hit by a speeding car and at that moment I completely forgot about my ex. Once you're in a near death situation you will completely forget about your ex. although I would recommend a safer way. and do not follow in my footsteps.
    Seriously.

  • @BabyBoyMcCoy
    @BabyBoyMcCoy ปีที่แล้ว +307

    How To Get Over A Breakup FAST? Where did I miss the How To Get Over A Breakup FAST?

    • @amberklein6893
      @amberklein6893 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      EXACTLY!
      I was about to ask the same thing!

    • @golittleworld
      @golittleworld ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Click bait title

    • @charmainedevilliers7194
      @charmainedevilliers7194 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      Listen again, we can't all be spoon fed...He talks you through it, as if you were in a counseling session, gives you facts, so you can figure out why things did not work and with facts and a new outlook, move on😊

    • @xperrience
      @xperrience 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      ​@golittleworld very simple minded comment.
      Did you expect him to say, sleep well, eat a healthy diet, shake it off and get yourself out there?
      No he explains that what you are feeling is a complex biological action. The sooner you understand that the sooner your consciousness can say this is normal to feel this way - and I'm over analyzing everything in the relationship. I didn't necessarily do anything wrong but I understand that's why my brain is keeping me up at night thinking I did.
      The sooner you compute this data and information the easier your brain can over come the "obstacles" he mentions

    • @lizzyalexander7429
      @lizzyalexander7429 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yeah he didn't really say how

  • @williammorgan6217
    @williammorgan6217 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The fastest way to get over someone is to find someone better even if they are an illusion

  • @sharong8908
    @sharong8908 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Some people are in your life for reason and some for a season!

  • @GalestianMusic
    @GalestianMusic 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I love Jordan Peterson. One of the biggest assets of our time.

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Intelligent. Certainly. Keep in mind no one has all the answers.

  • @morganwhite2176
    @morganwhite2176 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Wish it didnt have the sad piano music in background, it makes it depressing.

  • @n.d.7931
    @n.d.7931 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I think a large part that needs to be recognized here is that PTSD brains are different than healthy normal developed brains. Those that say just know your worth and love yrself tee-hee....obviously don't understand the dynamics of those that truly struggle and the core reasons behind it.

    • @danielp8433
      @danielp8433 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      word. and i never learned that im worth anything , guess i always went the wrong way and im fucking tired of life.

    • @AwakenedBeing24
      @AwakenedBeing24 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have had the worst CPTSD for my entire life. I was massively abused as an infant and child. I was abused as an adult. I almost decapitated myself in an accident and I watched a husband die a horrible death in front of me. And in the last 4 years both my ex husbands have died. I have had to tell all my children at different times that their father's passed away. You can absolutely learn to love yourself on the deepest level possible when all you have is yourself. It is possible to fully heal and to actually be the "normal" person. No one has a completely healthy normal developed brain. Not one person. That is what needs to be focused on. Once you Love yourself more than you ever loved another, you will transform into the butterfly you never through you could be. 💕 I've realized even with my massive CPTSD I am healthier than most people that don't have it. Because I did the hard work over the last 16 years to get myself where I am today. And I will continue to work on myself and Love myself to the fullest until the day I leave here. If you truly love yourself more than others, you will automatically love the others as you love yourself. All for one and one for all. We are all from The One perfect energy known as God.

  • @RantJamz
    @RantJamz ปีที่แล้ว +56

    This video doesn't answer its own question but it's still good

    • @junejune060586
      @junejune060586 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I thought I was the only one that thought that!

    • @clarityml4221
      @clarityml4221 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂😂

    • @mery.m
      @mery.m 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      partly it says that you can rethink the relationship and see where both werent compatible

    • @NtoV1995
      @NtoV1995 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thats because this channel just stole a video and put up his own title. i guess the maintainer of this channel has something in between 70-80IQ.

    • @jamesdoakes4956
      @jamesdoakes4956 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@mery.mfacts. Then you take your brain out of your head except for the hypoplatupus then put the n a cat brain

  • @beezrey4482
    @beezrey4482 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Why would they put music in the background.... and so loudly that you can't even hear it properly?! This is an informative talk... meant to be heard 😏🫣

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So many of them do it. It hurts the ears. This is not a cartoon; not some mindless tinsel town flick.

    • @camellia8625
      @camellia8625 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There are written subtitles and there is a function on here where you can slow the speed down.

  • @rayray2878
    @rayray2878 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is a good subject to have more on Because it goes way back the the biblical time and throughout even woman being shamed for being unwed mother's.

  • @unknowndude835
    @unknowndude835 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes my wife decided to tell me she not in love with me after all she has done to me and our kids it hurts so bad having a hard time with this. Shebwas disrespectful, a narcissists lier, always played the victim n i watch her fall in love with another man right in front of my face. I know karma is real but for the sake of me i get to focus on my self now

    • @makalani400
      @makalani400 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Stay strong for you and your children. Easier said than done of course but you can do it. My ex was the same kind of cheating narcissist. After all the emotional and physical abuse I endured, I finally called the cops on him and now he’s suffering for his actions by being someone’s ass puppet in jail as a soon-to-be convicted felon. Ha!! Karma may not come for her as quickly as it did for him but know that she will get what she deserves. 🤙🏾

    • @unknowndude835
      @unknowndude835 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @makalani400 thank you I hope you bounce back

  • @TreeBloom
    @TreeBloom 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No mention in this video of relationship or getting over relationships. It’s all about brain function, motivation and emotions

  • @malikattar9484
    @malikattar9484 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such a great video 🙏🙏🏾🙏🏻

  • @priscilagomesS
    @priscilagomesS 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    How do you get over all the feelings, memories? throw away or put aside? as if that person never existed in my life and meanwhile my heart hurts and and my eyes fall in tears!

    • @CallsItLikeISeizeIts
      @CallsItLikeISeizeIts 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do we ever really? Hard but ya have to stay strong, here’s a hug😊

  • @brandonunknown7396
    @brandonunknown7396 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For all the people wondering where is the getting over someone fast, it's right there in front of you in what he talks about in the first 5 minutes of the video. He's explaining why you think the way you do, how you analyze and are in the slump you are in, he is telling you the why, it's the root of the problem, if you can understand the root cause other than just "I'm heartbroken", it's clear as day. DO something, anything that is going to shift your mind away, stop over analyzing and focus on anything else that's positive.

  • @kyleerasmus7179
    @kyleerasmus7179 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We're taught that the most honorable thing you can do is not be a burden. My emotions are my burden, and its not right to burden others with my burden.

  • @gardeniabee
    @gardeniabee 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    If someone is generally comoatible / attractive to you and has exceptional relationships skills (or willing to learn them) value them and appreciate your good fortune. Hang on to the relationship!

    • @raleaha8962
      @raleaha8962 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great advice

  • @hamzaahmed1578
    @hamzaahmed1578 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I cant understand completely what he said. But parts of what he is trying to say do hit on a deeper level and made me feel and think better

  • @NtoV1995
    @NtoV1995 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    man, i wish he never went into politics. this man is a genius, id like more of that.

  • @rayray2878
    @rayray2878 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Whenever you think everything should be in place and someone eles doesn't that's a huge thing between people you have one taking things out to the garage and the other one is passing you bringing back up the drive .

    • @christoph3187
      @christoph3187 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds like totally minor stuff to me the way you describe it. Big differences for me would be one wants children, the other doesn’t or one wants to live free, hustle and travel the world, the other wants to stay locally and work a nine to five job.

    • @robertataylor5794
      @robertataylor5794 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My ex husbands ring tone on my phone is the music from Sanford and Son LOL🤣🤣🤣

  • @KRAZEEIZATION
    @KRAZEEIZATION 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    If I’m lied to and disrespected by a woman, she’s out and that’s it. No ifs, ands or buts!
    I forgot my ex after the first two minutes of this video!

  • @Msrojo1004
    @Msrojo1004 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Good talk but the background music is distracting for me.

  • @georgesontag2192
    @georgesontag2192 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Not sure if he gave any info. I think the real answer is what father told me 20 years ago. He said this to me as advise. If you don't like me, then I don't like you. You will learn to hate them as you dwell on their imperfections.

  • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
    @Americanpatriot-zo2tk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have fall back before I will fight back again

    • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
      @Americanpatriot-zo2tk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I have fight back before I will fight back again before I will fight back again

  • @PeaceInChrist23
    @PeaceInChrist23 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Learning to focus on oneself helps, but understanding your maker and then focusing on random things like in this video...starting a new course, or learning a language.....putting your mind on someone else really helps. Mind what music you listen to as well as it can intensify the feelings we have about a person, a situation or ourselves.

  • @light7867
    @light7867 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    JP not in a position to advise on a topic he has not experienced. First step is to create a step away from the trauma and go no contact!

    • @nightlady2001
      @nightlady2001 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sure JP has experienced a breakup at some point in his life. Who hasn't?

  • @Cormac-jd2kx
    @Cormac-jd2kx หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I dumped my ex but sometimes I remember the good times
    I’m definitely going to ask her to hook me up with her cousin

  • @sisid6295
    @sisid6295 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ty so much im in pain morr than a year now

  • @jerddorsettebykno3473
    @jerddorsettebykno3473 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Mentor you know me🕊️

  • @user-or8zf2mh2r
    @user-or8zf2mh2r 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    To think you can get over a relationship fast is unrealistic thinking. If you find a person that moves on fast, that's because they already had someone else they were talking to in the mix. I was talking to this guy that I had already known of him, but when we ran into each and he wanted to get to know me. Within 1 week, things had taken a turn down hill. Then we didn't talk for a whole week. Going through that, no contact, he reached out to me. Then, before that week was up, we were right back in the same situation 😂😂😂. For me, only to have engaged with him for 2 weeks, it hurt me. So that comes to show you how people can have an effect on you, and it can hurt you that quick.

  • @shawnvalencia8124
    @shawnvalencia8124 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you.

  • @dylanpringle4314
    @dylanpringle4314 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for explaining about post traumatic stress disorder

    • @dylanpringle4314
      @dylanpringle4314 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ❤ I knew this was about many teachings knew it was more then what is / it’s many learnings in one ☝️ my dad teaches this way he’s teaching how to change habits that are needed asap

  • @BryMilan888
    @BryMilan888 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ok, so what's the bottomline? I didn't get it.

    • @FriendofDorothy
      @FriendofDorothy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Neither did most people but he appeals to people who consider themselves deep thinkers so they won't admit it when they don't get one of his presentations. This video headline was mismatched to this video in order to get the attention of people in pain over a relationship failure. If the video was called "The Amazing Machination of the Hypothalamus" no one would click! Pseudo-intellectuals like myself love JP's videos, LOL...

  • @asedition8847
    @asedition8847 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You just helped me out of the pit…..

  • @Eneang888
    @Eneang888 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No. I don't give up on my family

  • @Sworn973
    @Sworn973 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    All that description and the most important "source" for that lecture, is not there....

  • @zoharkiaav
    @zoharkiaav ปีที่แล้ว +12

    There is no information on getting over a break up fast. Most channels that post Jordan Petersons videos are this way, it does not follow through on the title of the video and only certain aspects are provided, mostly out of context which will lead to more confusion and less help/assistance.

    • @charmainedevilliers7194
      @charmainedevilliers7194 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      He does not spoon feed, he wants to give you info and make you aware of the fact that you can MANAGE your emotions

    • @kellyw6652
      @kellyw6652 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Perhaps those people are too woke to understand.

    • @FriendofDorothy
      @FriendofDorothy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kellyw6652 the word "woke" is sooo over-used and inaccurate. Overly broad generalizations are the preferred choice of lazy minds

  • @susancarter3864
    @susancarter3864 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You can please some of the people some of the time. You can’t please all the people all of the time. You hold a bird with an open hand. Some people come into your life for a blessing and some come into your life for a lesson.

  • @dylanpringle4314
    @dylanpringle4314 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    He covers break ups. He covers post traumatic stress. He covers everything he’s talking about the quickest way to re-reset the pathways the neuropath way in your brain people listen slow down listen to the video when you have nothing to do.

  • @TheMisssy2
    @TheMisssy2 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This literally didn't have anything about getting over my breakup...I'm so confused...I love him thou

  • @daveh9803
    @daveh9803 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow! It’s almost as if our brains weren’t already scattered by the break up. This comes along to ensure that the scattering affects every molecule!!

  • @kirstisamuelsen3712
    @kirstisamuelsen3712 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I dig you!

  • @skellingtonmeteoryballoon
    @skellingtonmeteoryballoon ปีที่แล้ว +1

    it wasnt sudden, but never usually is right ?

  • @user-xu9iz4lm6w
    @user-xu9iz4lm6w 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    With all Respekt, I think he got carried away a bit there with the Beauty of science 😉

    • @kirkalex5257
      @kirkalex5257 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      JP. Brevity, please, kind sir. ;=)

  • @matthewray5343
    @matthewray5343 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jordan Peterson is the master at using a lot of words to say absolutely nothing.

  • @StevoSparta-tt5vu
    @StevoSparta-tt5vu 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You don't have to go through 80 million snakes though. People don't leave for the small, the leave for the big issues. These typically stem from two or three big personality issues. Don't give up before you have tried

  • @AndyFromBeaverton
    @AndyFromBeaverton ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For I forget my Y and Z too?

  • @gaynor2837
    @gaynor2837 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Unfortunately quite often I do not understand a lot of what he says. Guess he’s not for me to follow although I know so many people think he is incredible.

  • @aela3677
    @aela3677 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The background music is so distracting.

  • @karmachannel9135
    @karmachannel9135 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ha ha ha ...great caption!!!

  • @user-uh8ym7cr2r
    @user-uh8ym7cr2r 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hard to got a big one ❤❤

  • @robertdracea
    @robertdracea 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    10 months in...still hurts

    • @danielp8433
      @danielp8433 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      6 yrs - never found myself again , heavy ptsd symptoms. therapy. I wish you the best and healing.

  • @Leeeyawn
    @Leeeyawn 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    what is the name of the song

  • @diegomervich7177
    @diegomervich7177 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is it me or every time Peterson talks about a topic he basically always opens new windows and never arriving straight to the point

  • @ryanday7995
    @ryanday7995 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You're not good at listening or understanding other people that's why you see it that way

  • @dilnozamirazimova5311
    @dilnozamirazimova5311 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am going through hard time, i'm in deep pain

    • @ta8193
      @ta8193 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Try to do something, maybe a right music, force yourself to walk fast for an hour, watch some videos of animals, maybe abused, how they overcame, don't sit and think - you'll be surprised how wonderful life will be - just be patient, the happiness will come, for sure!

  • @immabouttobebannedagain1320
    @immabouttobebannedagain1320 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    did you suddenly stop following your daughter on the "onlyfans?"
    asking for a friend. he wants to know if he can get on line now.

  • @Jonathan-xo2gb
    @Jonathan-xo2gb 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Read a book to cope with anxious attachment syndrome and heal your inner child.

  • @sammich6389
    @sammich6389 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He's def on the drift on this one

    • @Jolyn888
      @Jolyn888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is just somebody else’s channel posting eye-catching titles with Jordan Peterson’s video attached to it

  • @papi5377
    @papi5377 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Szybko mi poszło.
    Jeszcze przed rozwodem.
    Miałam ten komfort przy rozwodzie , że nie musiałam bezpośrednio uczestniczyć z mężem. Zarówno mój były mąż.
    Dostałam rozwód w przeciągu 4 miesięcy na papierze.
    Rozwód wiąże boryka się ,z ogrom trudnościami ( Dzieci)
    I tu jest problem.
    Tak było i u mnie.

    • @ta8193
      @ta8193 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Najwazniejsze zeby dzieci mialy kontact z ojcem, szczegolnie dziewczynki, inaczej beda mialy bardzo ciezkie zycie. To bedzie szlachetne rozwiazanie dla wszystkich.

    • @papi5377
      @papi5377 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ta8193 Absolutnie miały.
      Dwa tygodnie u taty dwa u mnie,czy u mnie.

    • @ta8193
      @ta8193 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless all of you! @@papi5377

  • @watcher5729
    @watcher5729 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The sick ones linger online .moving on is not ways oneway.

  • @user-rj1vj5wk9f
    @user-rj1vj5wk9f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Was that salt on the meat with the cat. Cats shouldn't be eating salt. Yes I love cats.

  • @hasamahikaru
    @hasamahikaru 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    thanks for telling me that I'm a conscientious person ig LMAOOO

  • @christopherpike9464
    @christopherpike9464 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The cheesy stock video doesn't add to your presentation.

  • @luke-vr9wk
    @luke-vr9wk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im 33 male in aus my fiance after 5 years just left me out of the blue. We were so happy and i tried so hard, pretty sure shes a narcissist and always makes me out to be the bad guy. We both have trauma and anxiety and we rant/get angry sometimes, me im irish and have PTSD but we were always there for each other, well i was atleast. I feel like im not good enough

    • @ta8193
      @ta8193 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Maybe not good enough for her, but one day you'll be everything for someone else. Maybe the courtship was too long? just thinking... but cheer up, you're just starting to live.

    • @luke-vr9wk
      @luke-vr9wk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ta8193 she did bring out the best in me. The courtship was never ending even with both of us in constant physical pain. We're talking I'm just full of regret. Things I didn't do and say enough. Respect thankyou

    • @cristiangabriel7861
      @cristiangabriel7861 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same for me ,but is to learn to came back to you

    • @luke-vr9wk
      @luke-vr9wk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@cristiangabriel7861 I had no social media and my friends pass away, so connecting again to society is the big one for me haha

  • @rayray2878
    @rayray2878 ปีที่แล้ว

    The lady dr.leaf a nuro surgeon she on TH-cam a Christian lady talks about the brain how it stores information and ways to renew information .

  • @bradmacleanfishing
    @bradmacleanfishing 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was as bad as my break up!

  • @navyvet8798
    @navyvet8798 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video if I was studying to be a psychiatrist, but not about getting over someone, much less fast. But I enjoy Peterson

  • @rahulkukar3929
    @rahulkukar3929 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Does this guy ever get to the point? The Tates would destroy him in any debate.

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Human brain processing is complex, we arent snakes ...but the Tates possibly are. Dont watch Jordan....you wont be able to process what he is saying..perhaps you are one of the lab cats he mentions with nothing of a brain except a hypothalamus....? Sybil Francis, PhD professor of clinical psychology

    • @marlimusrex
      @marlimusrex 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Short attention span?

    • @rahulkukar3929
      @rahulkukar3929 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@marlimusrex no time for nonsensical waffling with no end-point. I should hire you to summarise for me.

  • @skstudioshop
    @skstudioshop หลายเดือนก่อน

    My brain cannot process all these brainy technical terms while im trying to heal :(

  • @amd8365
    @amd8365 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stop adding music. Some people cant concentrate on both voice and music. Seriously.

  • @ddivar8149
    @ddivar8149 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The music is too distracting

  • @parkerberlin4410
    @parkerberlin4410 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2 seconds about your ex. 7 minutes about the hypothalamus

  • @lilithsrainb23lionsrloose19
    @lilithsrainb23lionsrloose19 หลายเดือนก่อน

    20 yrs first love from young
    Lost a 3rd child a baby
    I was a addict and I'd never had death around me, I got clean
    Growing cannabis and I lost my crop
    Because she got friends at same time
    So no more cannabis growing
    And I hated her for it
    Because I'm to ill to work
    And suicidal everyday
    I still have my grandparents
    Mother and father
    And I don't take drugs anymore
    I'd say I've been placed in hell

  • @ingridmorgan7893
    @ingridmorgan7893 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you’ve with someone for 35 it can’t be everything you did. Time wins out. So the theory is a bit off.

  • @mattg7207
    @mattg7207 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Misleading title, so boo on you. But I did find it interesting to understand why I keep going over past events.

  • @CompassionateJourney
    @CompassionateJourney 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg consciousness vs not consciousness

  • @user-uh8ym7cr2r
    @user-uh8ym7cr2r 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not me im over it he cant be phone never dtops 😂