To Anyone Going Through a Breakup

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  • @sleepy-ashz8289
    @sleepy-ashz8289 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +213

    I’m grieving for what could have been. We weren’t perfect, but we were something.

    • @chiaramartini2865
      @chiaramartini2865 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      I think I get your words...I often see the potential of a relationship instead of what it actually is and I hang up to that.

    • @indyd9322
      @indyd9322 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I've been there before. The hopes and dreams you had surrounding this person suddenly vanish. It's okay to grieve and feel sad. You're not alone. Eventually acceptance comes, and then you get to dream new dreams.

    • @Juan-x1r
      @Juan-x1r 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I feel bad :(
      I miss her

    • @arieblock2337
      @arieblock2337 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      man i loved her so much :/

    • @EdelweisSusie
      @EdelweisSusie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too.

  • @elyzabeth0258
    @elyzabeth0258 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +576

    He broke up with me,told me I didn't deserve the way he treated me. Now I see that in my mind I had a love story very far from reality. He doesn't love me and does't care what I feel. It's been hard going through this break up but I know some day it wont hurt anymore. I wish you all the best!❤

    • @faithsmeltingpot8586
      @faithsmeltingpot8586 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🤗🤗

    • @thematthewhussey
      @thematthewhussey  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      You’re bringing a strong and beautiful mindset to this, and I promise you as a result you will heal from this and move on to something better. ❤

    • @SarahBogue-je4ky
      @SarahBogue-je4ky 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@thematthewhussey my boyfriend cheated on me whit his cousin I was hurt I’m don’t konw what to do 😢💔💔💔

    • @elyzabeth0258
      @elyzabeth0258 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@thematthewhussey thank you very much!🥺

    • @Talentedtadpole
      @Talentedtadpole 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You dodged a bullet x ​@@SarahBogue-je4ky

  • @glorialynn2242
    @glorialynn2242 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +506

    I've always said, you don't miss them. You miss the "idea" of them. And when someone tells you who they are, you need to listen.

    • @glorialynn2242
      @glorialynn2242 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@kaderbn1121 Exactly! I learned this the hard way too. Not any more...

    • @Yuviaamor
      @Yuviaamor 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I need help I wish I had the money to see him I’m so stuck in pain and a deep heart brake I lost my fiancee in the year 2021 I met this guy in a month after I told him I needed to heal but he came to me with kindness and such love as if for a moment my fiancee was in him I tried to erase that thought, he gave me all the time needed I had no idea he would brake me more than my grief and deep sadness I’m so broken at this moment it’s so bad I want out and don’t know how to fight this hurt I want time to speed up so I can heal this guy has treated like shit and still I hurt not knowing what to do with me anymore I wish I could talk to h but listening to his voice and knowledge I’m hoping I will find some sort of healing in this pain

    • @Yuviaamor
      @Yuviaamor 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@kaderbn1121 thank you for your advice I appreciate it’s been terrible since 2021 not healing my fiancee death properly then having another guy who literally told me he just used me for sex but this feeling of missing is out of my control I don’t even know myself anymore and it’s not that of me being insecure or jumping to casual sex because that is not me but this guy took a spot I allowed and pretty much just yesterday said he was done dancing with me I don’t know if it’s ego or I’m just not thinking clearly and not feeling myself at this moment but I’m beyond hurt the guy keep me on with crumbs, lied and perhaps slept with other females besides me but I guess what hurts is that I would never use or hurt someone like this nor lie to a person that was hurting only to hurt that person more.

    • @Yuviaamor
      @Yuviaamor 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kaderbn1121 thank you I’m not gonna give up on the God given hope that He has someone good for me regardless of my intrusive thoughts. I know the time will come when I’ll be completely healed and fine with being alone if it should be. I let love leave me because of a man that treated me like trash I hope to be better soon and someday love without having to give more than I did nor excepting less than what is not right for me. I’ll work on myself not to have expectations to receive a love wholeheartedly that we all are worthy to receive and very well deserved. I’ve been listening to his videos for hours now thank God for Mathew and if later on…I’ll definitely repeat my new playlist, looping until it gets through my thick head, blind heart and overwhelmed body and I’ll make time to read the Good news too. Thank you sis for sharing your kind words, I appreciate you comforting me with your rational thoughts. May you live a healthy, much loved and blessed life.

    • @anderstermansen130
      @anderstermansen130 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      it have been nine years pal, and i still miss the idea of her. Then again, i have autism. The fuck do i know about love? Nothing.

  • @saradf
    @saradf 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +343

    My intuition always tells me when they’re deciding to quit but try to hide it because they can’t communicate their feelings ! I prefer someone to tell me the ugly truth and break up with me, rather than slowly torturing me,being cold,distant or ghost just to keep me as a back up plan.. that’s the most cruel and coward thing to do , I’m sick of it.

    • @bryancordero6532
      @bryancordero6532 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Hey, I hope you're doing ok
      I'm recovering from something like this
      We started dating in October, she even took the first step in kissing me and practically love bombing me
      Starting January things began changing slowly, you know the story: less texts, excuses, cold treatment, and I can swear that I never did something wrong. I started panicking because I also watched how she and another guy started interacting a lot on Facebook. Come Valentine's Day and, fuck, just remembering makes me feel humilliated
      I planned everything, got her a pair of shoes because that was my real feeling, I like making my partner have a good time
      Anyways, that night she was so distant including the physical aspect, no kisses, no holding hands, nothing
      One week later I confront her saying that I've noticed those changes and asked her "what's going on?" and she just replied "hmm I didn't expect this hehe, this is kind of awkward and I'd rather not confront these kinds of situations"
      My heart was broken: in that moment I realized that she didn't care about my feelings at that moment
      Luckily that long week and even when I got that text I was not alone
      I just told her "ok, understandable"
      She replied "I didn't think that there was any problem and you felt this way, thank you for telling me and hope there isn't any remorse"
      Fuck that, really fuck that shit. Two days later posts a pic on IG about a movie implying that someone else took her out, and deleted a post from November in which we hanged out and I appeared in one of the pics
      I went no contact from that day: no messages, every chat hidden, threw away all gifts and photos from her.
      It has been a really fucking hard process, practically my instinct from January was not wrong after all and it hurts.
      I've been going to therapy, got into gym and started hanging out more with my friends and also reconnected with my family
      One of the most hard weeks in my life.

    • @calebkeegan3023
      @calebkeegan3023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yep my ex jezabelle Jayne always hoovering on off diff # s hurts bad to say NO must expect and reject Hoovers

    • @Fatimazahwa
      @Fatimazahwa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      he did that to me at the beginning it was a roller coaster of emotions , he would treat me so poorly and expect me to hush , then seen i wouldn’t leave so left me instead after i terminated :(

    • @Dilby123
      @Dilby123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Going through this right now. 9 years ending has been brutal

    • @TheGizzle85
      @TheGizzle85 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Just went through same shit. 6 years and then 8 months of hell. I'm done. Worst pain I've ever felt. By far

  • @paulotorquato3302
    @paulotorquato3302 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    I've been healing for the past seven months and counting. I deleted my social media and I'm trying to focus on my health. It sucks how things sometimes get better and sometimes they don't. It's been a truly rollercoaster of feelings, insecurities, and fear, but I look forward to healing completely. To be left by the person you love the most is the incomprehensible pain of all. Anyway, to anyone out there suffering from a breakup, never give up on yourself. May love come to find you and live calmly and truly inside of you

    • @California20250
      @California20250 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ameen Hope God helps u heal too 🤲🙏

    • @GothlindReiss
      @GothlindReiss 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@California20250 Thank you for your kind reminder that God loves us all UNCONDITIONALLY! ♥🙏

  • @jimjam_games5783
    @jimjam_games5783 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Its the acceptance that my version of reality wasn't their reality which is the most painful part for me. It feels like its been a lie, and its destroyed memories.

  • @Volikovatvinga
    @Volikovatvinga หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

    • @SylviaGalvann
      @SylviaGalvann หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let him go. So i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

    • @Volikovatvinga
      @Volikovatvinga หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?

    • @SylviaGalvann
      @SylviaGalvann หลายเดือนก่อน

      Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Volikovatvinga
      @Volikovatvinga หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @theshiv3296
      @theshiv3296 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@SylviaGalvannpoor taste preying on the hurt and vulnerable

  • @lucasparisi428
    @lucasparisi428 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    i miss her yeah…but at this point i miss myself more, i miss my funny confident personality that everyone loved, i feel lost and like i’m not social or anything anymore

  • @barkburton1
    @barkburton1 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Wow… “are you grieving the loss of a reality that you’ve come to realize was not the case” That is a powerful message that I needed to hear. 🙏

  • @duan_meixuan
    @duan_meixuan 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    The fact that my ex thought about the breakup for a while yet never properly communicated to me-and left because that spark faded 🙄-is something of which I try to remind myself when I'm missing him.
    What makes me feel better, though, is that he thought he could have me as a friend after the breakup, but I declined. I don't want to be friends with someone who took me for granted. I was still putting in effort when he was withdrawing, and now I've come to realize that the person who is actually deserving of my love is someone who will appreciate it.
    Thank you, Matt, for opening my eyes ❤️

    • @Verasevos
      @Verasevos 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      The fact that he was using you mentally preparing to break up and after the breakup suggested staying friends means his intention was malicious. You don't need a dishonest "friend". A friend does not take advantage of a friend's vulnerability... Do not believe him he cares deeply about you, he just wants to wash off his ego, he wants so much to be proud of himself at your cost. As much as your ego wants to reclaim your worthiness.

    • @kaidence7580
      @kaidence7580 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My situation is about exactly the same

    • @calebkeegan3023
      @calebkeegan3023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely I had to leave the long distance narcissistic gf

    • @grydon6422
      @grydon6422 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @PowerOfQwerty
      Wtf are you talking about.. stop trying to lie to yourself and make him the worst enemy just to feel better lmao.
      The reality is, these topics are hard af to confront and deal with. He didn’t break up immediately when that thought came to him because the person his with obviously means something to him, and he was most likely pondering his future and what would be the best decision. Mixed feelings of wanting maybe something else but also knowing there is a lot of good in this person and she might be the ideal partner, but there is just that nagging feeling that something is not right. And then you go back and forth that maybe you can fix your own mindset so the thoughts about break up go away, so you don’t communicate these thoughts to the other. No communication is also because talking openly about those thoughts can lead to the other person breaking down and becoming distanced themselves to ”prepare for the final blow”, not believing your ”feelings” anymore, which the person wants to avoid if they still feel like it could still work. Obviously communicating and working together would be better, but there are risks of ruining the relationship by communicating if the other one is mot mature enough to receive the news.
      Wanting to stay friends is not malicious at all, jesus.. It’s the fact that again, this person means much to them, and he respects her as a person despite the fact that he can’t see romatic future together, so he would like to keep you in his life as a friend.
      Especially if they have been together for a while, it makes perfect sense to stay friends in a way if nothing nasty caused the break up; this person has been the most important thing for that time, and to throw that person away completely is just dumb. Of course that is a norm because people like to make ex’s the enemies like you just did, but it makes no sense. This of course needs the knowledge that men and women can be just friends; only all the low IQ people can think ”that is just to use her for pleasure afterwards”…
      Yes, I’m speaking of experience. Of course million if different situations, and this doesn’t apply to everyone, but that comment about him sutomatically being malicious is ridiculous and crazy

    • @Verasevos
      @Verasevos 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@grydon6422 "WTF" is a bad start for such excessive reply on my comment... I see u invested time typing LMAO, I appreciate it.

  • @basshunter9018
    @basshunter9018 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    so true matt...in their mind, theyve already moved on weeks/months before they actually let us know it's finished. they usually have someone else lined up!!

    • @SpyOnDeck
      @SpyOnDeck 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Ugh, so true. Tough pill to swallow.

    • @sniffs_lilac
      @sniffs_lilac หลายเดือนก่อน

      I attest to this

  • @stef8709
    @stef8709 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    As a man watching Matthew's channel for years, I just want to appreciate his glow up since he got gold ring on his finger. He's living the dream.

  • @esraarageh4141
    @esraarageh4141 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    I felt it two months before he actually said it

  • @misterfister586
    @misterfister586 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    I meet a girl 4 months ago and everything went perfect. I thought that I’m gonna marry her and care for her even if our time was short. Last week she told me that she meet another guy three days before and he will be the right one for her. Im feeling betrayed and never thought this kind of pain exists. I hope I can heal from this, look at this text in the future and be proud that I could get out of this. Blessings for everyone reading this

    • @UnitedStatesSpaceForce
      @UnitedStatesSpaceForce 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Have you healed?

    • @jimbucci7727
      @jimbucci7727 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same situation except 9 months on month 8 she cheated and got pregnant and still kept my clueless self around, her guilt finally got to her when she got the conception date from the ultrasound, she wanted it to be my baby, thank god it wasn’t!

    • @vb9043
      @vb9043 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Are you okay now 9 months later?

    • @misterfister586
      @misterfister586 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ I feel much better now. The first 3 months were really hard for me but my life has changed a lot since then and I'm now happy with how things turned out. I still think about the person sometimes but it definitely doesn't hurt anymore. It's more of a faint memory of intense feelings I once had. I am now seeing someone and things are going pretty well which makes me very happy :)) Always try to remember that better times will come ❤️

  • @SpyOnDeck
    @SpyOnDeck 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I hope everyone watching this video finds closure and peace. Know that we're all going through the same pain. Stay strong friends, and trust in God 🙏

  • @BärbelK
    @BärbelK 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    My „Love of my Life“ left me 3 month ago, After 41 years of relationship and 29 years of marriage….for another women. I‘m 57 years old and this is the worst experience in my life and there have been other remarkable hits. It‘s so hard, but you are absolutely right with every word. So I keep going to manage our divorce in attitude and decency from my side. And I try to enjoy the peace my son and I have now. Thank you. All the best.

    • @Lotusawj
      @Lotusawj 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I wish you healing. Be proud of the way you handle it. ❤

    • @BärbelK
      @BärbelK 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Lotusawj Thank you very much. ❤️‍🩹

    • @ChiaraPolgar
      @ChiaraPolgar 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you doing dear?

    • @BärbelK
      @BärbelK 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ChiaraPolgar Thanks for asking!
      Getting divorced, being strong for my son at home and managing my job takes a lot of energy. Contacts with my (still) husband are painful and irritating. He is a stranger to me...after 41 years. I need to find a flat, letting my old live behind, but the market is diffucult. I'm trying to deal with everything step by step.

  • @Pandaluvthemusic
    @Pandaluvthemusic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +120

    My bf of 5 years was gradually distancing himself from me after I moved back home after being away for 1 year to build my career. I was too blinded by my love for him that it didn't occur to me that I felt insecure and anxious because of his lack of interest when we were together and minimal affection. When he broke up with me, he told me he was losing feeling for A YEAR and no longer saw a future with me. But now I have to thank him for giving me the opportunity to find someone who deserves my love.

    • @kimberlylim4539
      @kimberlylim4539 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Hi there, im going through something very similar as well, ended a 5 year long relationship. Wishing you all the best and happiness ❤️ We shall heal and move on to happier and better things ☺️

    • @Pandaluvthemusic
      @Pandaluvthemusic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kimberlylim4539 Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes! We will get through to the other side! Our futures are bright ❤️❤️❤️. Wishing you happiness as well.

    • @DaisyGyasi-vx9rc
      @DaisyGyasi-vx9rc 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We will get through this, I’m still healing after 5years relationship 🫶🏾

    • @fairydustmaidenfairydustma3486
      @fairydustmaidenfairydustma3486 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I’m also going through something similar. I was about to move to another country to be with him after 5 years of long distance and traveling back and forth.
      I feel like nothing is real right now.

    • @Pandaluvthemusic
      @Pandaluvthemusic 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@fairydustmaidenfairydustma3486 It's unfortunate how universal this pain and hurt is for so many of us. It's hard to believe that someone you invested so much time and energy into could just part with you and not think of the history you built together. I truly wish you happiness and real love in the future 💖. I believe we can all get through these dark times and come out so much stronger and brighter that we could've imagined.

  • @emilys2064
    @emilys2064 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    What stand out to me the most is that you are right that he probably had this idea of breaking up for weeks, months in his mind. Yet he did not tell me anything about his doubts which proves that at this point he is not able to communicate as openly and with honesty as I would expect my life partner to. This helps me better to stop Idealizing him. Moreover he was willing to hurt me by breaking up out of nowhere, without giving any hints, without any warning. He accepted to hurt me tremendously yet he decided to do it this way. I don‘t believe that MY person would be willing to hurt me this much… it’s a hard truth to accept but I have to shallow this pill. Thank you for your great work Matthew, you help healing hearts all over the world ❤

    • @magnusVarblomst
      @magnusVarblomst 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Most of the time it is not a communication problem. Often, our minds reach a conclusion swiftly, even before we act upon it in reality. It's not necessarily about harboring doubts, but rather needing time to muster the courage to have a difficult conversation

    • @mayi4741
      @mayi4741 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Hello this is exactly what I’ve been through now… they would always say there would be warning signs but my ex knew well I’m not the type to catch “hints” easily. I’m still in the phase where I’m feeling really mad and betrayed at how he didn’t even try to fight for our 9 year relationship… I’m processing all these feelings bc I just know one day I’ll get over it. I first begged to fix us but he was adamant there is no getting back to how we used to be and it’s been a week now and I feel very ashamed I begged to stay with a person who deliberately hurt me and doesn’t love me unconditionally… You’re right, for sure they have thought about this for months and decided to just flat out hurt me than trying to communicate first when the problem was developing.
      Sorry for dumping all that, I’m still processing this terrible heartbreak.
      Your comment made me feel better and solidified my thoughts to just completely move on, i just want u to know :) Thank you sm

    • @Verasevos
      @Verasevos 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @magnusVarblomst He was "collecting courage," you say, like we should sympatise with him. But i see it differently, like he was mastering manipulation tactic upon her trust. He was just using her body. As soon as smth better came up, he dumped her. Player.

    • @Verasevos
      @Verasevos 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @mayi4741 he didn't try to fight for your 9 years relation because he knew all along he will dump you when smth better will come up. He was keeping you hooked so you wouldn't confront him and dump him first. You should feel ashamed! Shame will keep you from doing same mistake. Your mistake is that you let him disrespect you for too so long...

    • @magnusVarblomst
      @magnusVarblomst 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Verasevos I can only speak from my experience, I cannot read somebody elses intentions. I don’t stay in a relationship if I don’t want to be with that person, simple as that. But in the past, the willpower to be able to break up when your “so” is still excited is tremendous, specially if you respect her. It may appear easier to postpone the conversation, and sometimes you even lie to yourself hoping that you will regain the spark, that you may never have to crush her feelings. Don’t just assume bad intentions from people, you will be happier

  • @meiyi9013
    @meiyi9013 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    The month he broke up with me, I also received a rejection letter from my dream school, and the death of a family member. I felt like my life just turned to a dark chapter. I moved to another city, the one that is closer to my home so I could always go back to my family if anything happens. But then deep down, I have to admit that the reason I left (more like fled) was because of him. The day I packed my stuff I cried so hard, every corner of the apartment reminds me of him. It’s been eight months and I am still sad. I don’t know how to be happy again.

    • @Pillshere31
      @Pillshere31 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      hey im going through something similiar right now. lost a family member last week, my ex gf broke things off with me 3 days ago. feels like someone pulled away a rug under my feet. i dont know who you are or where you are from but i sincerely hope you will find happiness again soon, hang in there.

    • @michellebradbury7762
      @michellebradbury7762 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I have had the break up where I no longer felt happiness anymore and every waking moment was like someone was extracting my bone marrow… a friend gave me a book called “it’s a break up because it’s broken” and it was the first time I had genuinely laughed in months. Get this book, and Matt’s of course, as it’s a how to guide for finding a tiny slice of happiness again ☺️

    • @meiyi9013
      @meiyi9013 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you, I am better now. I picked up new hobbies and tried my best to find fun. I hope you are also better now. @@Pillshere31

    • @katherinedharmalingam3580
      @katherinedharmalingam3580 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      May u heal❤‍🩹

  • @suziandchopstix
    @suziandchopstix 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I hope this heartbreak series continues because sounds like a lot of us need it

  • @timothyisidro4215
    @timothyisidro4215 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I went through the video feeling determined and motivated, finally wanting to actually moved on. I was smiling, agreeing, and everything.
    Until 11:43 "I'm so sorry that you're in pain right now." made me tear up and I had to pause and take a few deep breaths.
    I guess I needed to hear that.

  • @aimeepoyato5265
    @aimeepoyato5265 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Now I realize he def had a different experience in the relationship than me because I was trying so hard to make it work without realizing he was over it and moving on long before it needed.
    The bridge between two perspectives is communication and honesty. Sadly, I was not offered this but this realization will do wonders for me. Hope you heal soon xoxo

  • @astridcontreras3839
    @astridcontreras3839 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You just hit the nail on the head. I always felt anxious and insecure and like he was gonna cheat on me or leave me. I would have nightmares that he would leave all the time. And I’d share my anxieties and fears with him and he’d always reassure me that he wasn’t going anywhere, that he was gonna marry me. 5 years later, he was gone in 2 weeks. Out of no where. I’ve never felt such pain. But you’re so right, there is peace in knowing it wasn’t me that was insecure.

  • @APRILartz
    @APRILartz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    after over a year together, He led me on thinking he was happy. How do I not feel disgusted knowing now that all of my memories were lies? I kissed him thinking it was reciprocated. I cant help but think that this entire time I spent with a statue of a man I believed to be real. and then he sent a goodbye text and walked away like i meant nothing. no ounce of love left in his eyes.

    • @relaxandunwind1496
      @relaxandunwind1496 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That happened to me. He was so sincere, said he loved me, acted like it, so happy to have me in his life, blah blah blah. We never argued, had common hobbies we loved, laughed together all the time, showed affection, etc. Then come home one day and he was gone. People lie and then leave. It's been 7 years since that happened. I'm still single, don't trust anymore. I'm happy and peaceful alone. Screw relationships.

  • @sleepeating888
    @sleepeating888 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    wow! the part about 'they moved on months before' is so striking! never saw it from that angle

  • @kerrykalia2076
    @kerrykalia2076 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I feel so happy I came across this video/ i feel broken after being broken up with. I felt like I lost my happiness and literally my purpose. I made this person my god and I regret it so much

    • @calebkeegan3023
      @calebkeegan3023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same right there w u but I had to leave hurts left so many x too

    • @Fatimazahwa
      @Fatimazahwa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i relate to this comment so much it’s because we sacrifice so much for them but we shouldn’t we should fill our own cup now and fill into ourselves !! They don’t deserve us let’s pour into ourselves ❤️❤️🙈

    • @calebkeegan3023
      @calebkeegan3023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep ignored another email hoover cuz # i blocked

    • @LorenaBerrenbaum
      @LorenaBerrenbaum 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel you.

  • @christopherkraft5553
    @christopherkraft5553 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +311

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @andrewvasilyev3540
      @andrewvasilyev3540 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @christopherkraft5553
      @christopherkraft5553 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @andrewvasilyev3540
      @andrewvasilyev3540 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @christopherkraft5553
      @christopherkraft5553 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @janhabiseth4504
      @janhabiseth4504 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same. Its easier to let go of him, as he cheated. But, I don't really not love him. there is no off switch to feelings i guess. Hope you find strength to heal from this.

  • @gunveendureja7753
    @gunveendureja7753 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I knew I wanted to end things month before it happened. But I gave him the respect and courtesy of knowing where my head was at, when I started feeling like that. I communicated my needs and feelings yet, nothing changed. And he told me he couldn’t give me what I needed so I told him I couldn’t accept what he was willing to give because I wanted more. Sometimes you can tell people what you need, but there is a mismatch between what you want, and their ability to give it to you. And now I am having such a hard time because I had to break my own heart and his.

    • @foreverkrystalwest
      @foreverkrystalwest 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I ended it, felt guilty, but it won't work with his narcissistic rules and control.

  • @MotivationScriptOfficial
    @MotivationScriptOfficial 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Just remember, breakups are like bad haircuts-painful at first, but eventually you look back and laugh… and wonder what you were even thinking! 😂💇‍♂️ Healing takes time, but so does growing back a good hairstyle. Stay strong, the glow-up is coming! 💪✨

  • @sarahsmiles52
    @sarahsmiles52 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I hope everyone starts feeling better.

  • @michad707
    @michad707 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I understand the heartbreak of divorce. I've been there. After years of dating and doing my inner work, I'm glad my ex wanted a divorce. I'm in a much better place mentally, and I enjoy my own company. I don't need a man in my life to live a full life. If I want to have a relationship with a man, it will be because he adds value to my life as I add to his. It won't be because I need him to survive or to fill some void. Do your healing and continue to become your best self. It will lead you to the right person for you. Thank you, Matthew, for all of the important work you do! You are much appreciated. ❤

  • @Babesinthewood97
    @Babesinthewood97 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    The second type of grief will soon be a ticket to freedom and a big relief. Finally you can live again and look forward to things again.

  • @JayOak
    @JayOak 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you, Matthew. I'm so broken right now, that this video only made me realize "oh yeah, that's an excellent point and way of thinking", but it is still not helping me in getting up on my feet. I'm an extrovert, always positive and happy. This is the first time I've been in a place so dark... The only person that could help me and would listen in a situation like this... gone... and here I am... doing something I never did in my life, because of how desperate I am right now. Nothing is helping me. Music, exercise, going out... that used to help. Now it is not working. This one was big and I'm scared because I can't get up... I don't wish this feeling on anyone...

  • @themontrealgirl95
    @themontrealgirl95 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    just got dumped after 13 years... 2 little kids... i can't believe this is happening to me. Im completly chattered ... i just wanna wake up from this nightmare

    • @California20250
      @California20250 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I m sorry. I pray God will help u all the way 🙏🙏🤲🤲

  • @TheRater3
    @TheRater3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you. Your videos have been getting me through the break up of a 7.5 year relationship. There was so much pain and insecurity all those years. Your words are keeping me focused on this so I can move on.

    • @headtoheart
      @headtoheart 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      With you on that ❤

  • @visiface
    @visiface 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    10 year relationship, 6 years of marriage ended. it wasnt my choice. he decided and i was never part of the conversation. we have both done things to hurt each other, but how could i help someone who refuses help? i cant. ive been processing and ive been lonely, lost, and hurt for so long. a lot of this video resonated with me. i missed him for so long and i know why now. when the divorce is said and done and i can move back to my home country, i can start to heal. i am not okay now, but i will be.

    • @Ira.1
      @Ira.1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It'll be different, but it'll be okay.
      Hope you're doing better now, sending love and light your way

    • @BillieBob_
      @BillieBob_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🥺 hope you are doing okay back at home

  • @Rwjab22
    @Rwjab22 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    After forgiving her for cheating, I made the mistake of giving her another chance. I didn’t last long after taking her back because I was losing my sanity. I kept overthinking and one night I asked myself, “is this what I really want?” So I left her,and now I’m feeling the heartbreak.

  • @susanatapia3980
    @susanatapia3980 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Married 22 yrs then 2 yrs later just finish 8 yrs relationship with a person who was in and out of the relationship. Thanks to you I learned how to stop chasing after someone who I had lowered my standards just because I didn’t want to be alone . I can breathe now.

  • @petridhskyriakos
    @petridhskyriakos 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I OWE YOU EVERYTHING!!!
    I've been blinded for 9 months now & I couldn't go on with my life-feeling nothing but guilt,shame & regret...Although I was dumped by my ex,I blamed myself for everything...
    & now I realized-FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME-that her "love" for me wasn't true.Wasn't real.
    Because if you TRULY LOVE someone,THE MOMENT YOU DECIDE YOU NO LONGER WANT HIM,YOU MUST LET HIM KNOW.
    Instead,she used me for at least 6 months & OF COURSE,dumped me through AN SMS!!!

  • @shuynh8351
    @shuynh8351 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    When people say love is blind, this must be what they meant. We can become blind to the reality of the love, choosing instead to focus on the love story we wanted and hoped for. It's time to lift that veil from my eyes and see exactly how little effort was being expended on his side, how much his silence and distance gave me anxiety when I'd never had this level of anxiety before, how much I questioned my own worth and value because I wasn't getting the responses I wanted from him. It hasn't been easy to face the truth, but it's such a necessary part of this journey. Much love to all the broken hearts out there! You are not alone, and you are stronger than you feel right now ❤️‍🩹🫶🏻

  • @davebalmada
    @davebalmada 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    4:49 wow you are literally describing my situation in detail!
    I overlooked many things thinking that they happened because the honey moon phase was over when the other person was probably already going through the break up in their mind. I didn't pay attention to the moments when I felt hurt and not appreciated. However, I'm wondering what's the lesson for my next relationship? I think so far, that I should compassionately bring it up and see what they say, without making strong demands and see what comes up. Because on the one hand, I don't want to suffocate the other person with my anxious attachment style but, on the other hand, I also should value my needs and check how important the other person thinks those needs are for them.
    You opened my eyes to see that the relationship that I thought I had, never actually existed. That we were having completely different experiences. And that I didn't lose nearly as much as I thought I did.
    Thank you for this video!

    • @thematthewhussey
      @thematthewhussey  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re so welcome

    • @TerriDubie
      @TerriDubie 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am married not happy he is just using me and put me down now I am involved with other guy but he lives away right we are talking to be together soon. Please help me.

    • @ChinazaLydia
      @ChinazaLydia 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My relationship of yrs just ended
      It hurts so much 😭😭😭
      Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria 🇳🇬

  • @elliotcheung682
    @elliotcheung682 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I experienced this for the past 6 weeks. He told me he knew but was going back and forth. He was distancing himself emotionally and physically... I was feeling unsafe. I reacted the way an anxious person would. He pulled away more. One day, he just lashed out at me when I was unwell at a spa. I knew then... but I was hoping to still salvage it, but he gave up. I take responsibility that I contributed to its demise

  • @loverespecthumbleness7187
    @loverespecthumbleness7187 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Matthew you have 100% described my current pain ,,,i broke up with my gf 2 days ago and the pain is so drowning me and i know with people like you ill be okay very soon....thanks man may God bless you more.

  • @faithsmeltingpot8586
    @faithsmeltingpot8586 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    When I look back at it, there were so many red flights that I chose to ignore. And what that got me was a person who ghosted me and when he finally texted me, he told me you are a good woman and you will find the love you deserve. You know what I told him you got that right I will find the love I deserve so f*** off.

    • @loxofluxe
      @loxofluxe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It’s the ghosting without reason for me; my guy did the same thing. I’m so puzzled but I’m over it.

    • @jenmascaro4014
      @jenmascaro4014 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I also ignored red flags. I ended up staying too long, and putting up with too much, damagingly. It’s happened to me a few times before. I need to pay more attention to the early red flags for sure. I’m always the one that pays in the end.

    • @faithsmeltingpot8586
      @faithsmeltingpot8586 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I guess hard lesson learned, those red flags are your intuition, guardian telling you listen,listen, listen! But I'm afraid to say as women we always ignore that gut feeling...

    • @antriggs4190
      @antriggs4190 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I literally got told the same. She told me I was such a good man over and over while crying in my arms and being affectionate with me hours after she had already given her entire break up speech. She had told me she never wanted to see me again and yet she seemed to still be head over heels in love with me. Even when I saw her at her work a month later, she helped me with paperwork but looked like she wanted to cry and stood staring at me as I said thanks, bye, and walked out.

    • @Suspended24
      @Suspended24 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am still confused about why I stayed this long and put up with so much crap. I know myrelationship was nice and comfortable and we loved each other but the 'red flags' were there and I kept ignoring them and in the end she decided to go anyway. I need to work on myself to figure out why I chose her over myself, disregarded my needs and kept trying to please her. This video made me cry thinking of the bad stuff@@jenmascaro4014

  • @Nancy2551-g6i
    @Nancy2551-g6i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    This compelling video brings back terrible memories of my recent breakup after four years of dating. My dearest friend made the decision to go, and I was left with an inexhaustible hurt. I can't even begin to imagine my life without him, much as I keep trying to make amends. I'm frustrated. I want to write about how much I miss him here because I can't seem to get him out of my head.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I understand how hard it is to let go of someone you love; after a five-year relationship ended, I was unable to simply let him go; instead, I tried everything to get him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

  • @emmaeIIe
    @emmaeIIe 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So true. Breakups don't happen out of the blue.

  • @hannahf.3636
    @hannahf.3636 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Watching the Heartbreak Series made me realize that you’re speaking and asking questions FOR us and ON BEHALF OF us. To help us. Not just for your benefit or making an interesting interview. It may seem obvious now but that honestly didn’t click for me until watching these. Thank you so much.

  • @loinfinito3311
    @loinfinito3311 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My boyfriend broke up with me out of nowhere a month ago on vacation (after 9 months together). He also knew that I was triggered by vacations and nervous going in to it, since it had happened to me last summer right after a vacation (also suddenly).
    I started to feel the uncertainty and discomfort and anxiety after only 3 weeks of meeting him, even though he was saying all the right things and planning our future together. I put up with all of those feelings for all of the reasons you listed for 9 months.
    1 month post break up, I did realize that I’d much rather be feeling this pain (that does get better everyday) rather than being in a relationship in which I was so dysregulated that I just lost myself and never felt safe the whole time, suffering whenever we were apart. But I knew where it was coming from the whole time. And blamed it on my own attachment style, gaslighting myself.
    Hindsight is 20/20. I just wanted the security and story and identity as his so I ignored the red flags.
    He also made me feel so special.
    you’re so right. I grieved the loss of the reality and now I’m looking forward to a new future where real love can bloom ✨

  • @cb.8099
    @cb.8099 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    I broke my own ❤, i created a fantasy on my head that was far from reality 😢.

    • @aspyatkova
      @aspyatkova 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same

  • @Abbstar0519
    @Abbstar0519 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I have poured into him so much. But when I wanted Romantic nights, flowers, hugs and kisses, he told me he’s not Romeo and I should go find what I want. 😮‍💨😔 he told me this 3 months into the relationship. I left and I feel so much peace and safety, and that is something he didn’t provide as well.

  • @TerrySatin
    @TerrySatin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I haven’t written a book but I’m one of the best “story tellers” I know …time to stop! I’m 65! No more time to waste😮. Looking forward to your book ❤

    • @thematthewhussey
      @thematthewhussey  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Love this comment! ❤️‍🩹

  • @nathalialuz1758
    @nathalialuz1758 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    It’s been 3 years and I can’t get over..
    It’s the love of my life I sabotaged myself and ruined everything

    • @Shaersa
      @Shaersa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You really shouldn’t blame yourself. Don’t be too hard on yourself

    • @virginiemazy7054
      @virginiemazy7054 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Listen to the video: it was not the love of your life. It’s a thought that was built in your head.
      Don’t cry for a chimera.
      See what you regret as the expression of a need.
      If you’re stuck after 3 years, it’s time to see a therapist to “unstuck” you so you get your life back.
      You can and need to move forward. Do you see yourself like this during 10 years ? 20 years ? All your life ? Chose a brighter future for you 🤗🌈💪
      NB I bought the book. It is interesting especially the chapter on being happy enough.

  • @genevievejones6697
    @genevievejones6697 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This was needed but really hurts to hear. I thought our relationship was perfect and we were going to have a future together. I thought I had finally found it (and trust me when I say, he led me to believe he felt the same way).
    While he was breaking up with me, he said he'd been feeling this way for a few weeks. (He "couldn't do it anymore" said he's still in love with his ex girlfriend...)
    As soon as he said that, I realized I had noticed tiny signs but I ignored them because I thought I was being silly/the honeymoon phase was over.
    It's been almost 3 months and I still can't accept that we're not supposed to be together. Your videos are slowly helping me get through it.
    I have to believe there's someone else out there.

    • @DefiningBiology
      @DefiningBiology 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢wow.. I am sorry you went through that. I am going through something similar..and day to day I keep looking back this relationship and realizing the red flags I ignored. I also thought I was being silly but again it's not easy not to think that when you're being loved bombed.

    • @genevievejones6697
      @genevievejones6697 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@DefiningBiology I'm really sorry you're going through it too. It's the worse kind of pain...
      I'm such a romantic, it's really hard to accept that love bombing is a red flag. I knew from the moment I met this man so it didn't seem crazy or "too fast" to me. But now I know I need to unlearn that, it's not doing me any good. I hope we both heal from this soon ❤️

  • @marydrewthepsychicnextdoor899
    @marydrewthepsychicnextdoor899 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Your videos are like vitamin D for my soul. Warmth and love in your aura radiates to your audience. You are a huge part of stage 1 to my healing. 12 and 1/2 year relationship
    Ended suddenly. Trying to fall apart and rebuild. Because only new seeds grow when buried! When I bloom, my beauty will make another smile.😢😊 Blessings.

    • @MyFav77
      @MyFav77 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hello. 10 year relationship ended in November of last year. Im really trying to move forward. My emotions are all over the place, some days okay, other days Im angry, sad and confused.

  • @mariabanholzer7942
    @mariabanholzer7942 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are the very best Matthew! Brings it to the point! So true! Pst! I am 73.... the man 57... a womaniser, butterfly going from one to the other woman..... it was somehow wonderful.....a present.... but i can tell you the heartbreak very painful!!!!
    Red flags i saw.... did not hear to them..... Young woman: better think twice.... before you open the door!

  • @JaneDonut
    @JaneDonut 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    BEST breakup advice ever given. Period. Thank you Matthew Hussey.

  • @bryshinneman306
    @bryshinneman306 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    you are so spot on. i felt so insane the last couple months and insecure and had no idea why

  • @sihr07
    @sihr07 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ‘Surviving a breakup’ is the right title. I literally almost didn’t survive the last one and, while I cannot say I’m fully healed, I would never trade the way it transformed me for not feeling that pain. Matthew’s advice was instrumental for this, deeply grateful❤

  • @Lionhearttarot
    @Lionhearttarot 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I've not been in a relationship for years, I didn't even accept any offers because I always knew how it would turn out.. I would give my soul and in return I would be left holding an empty space and then have the impact of seeing them with someone else very quickly so it's easier to stay as I am and I'm so use to it now it doesn't bother me. My channel is more important to me and it gives me hope for my future. Thanks Matthew your a good soul

  • @loxofluxe
    @loxofluxe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    My somewhat of a relationship (a month in duration)was an unshared beautiful reality. It was initially beautiful to the both of us but somewhere along the lines, his feelings changed but the enjoyment of the reality still felt great to me. Unfortunately, the last weekend I saw him, I felt a coldness and the fire in the relationship was reduced to smoke. It felt like I was physically going through the motions but the once beautiful reality was null. My Achilles heel, is that I love too hard, and too strong, too early. I know I will get over this rather quickly, because self-reflection has allowed me to get the lessons I need(ed) to learn in order to heal, grow, and learn how to love at a different pace. I’m not angry or bitter; I’m rather grateful ❤️

    • @loxofluxe
      @loxofluxe 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Last but not least, thank you, for this amazing video❤

  • @stavrosnikola7598
    @stavrosnikola7598 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sooo true.. hes right.. my ex who left me 2 months ago in my mind shes was perfect.. Everything that i wanted she matched my crazyness.. But.. Without me realizing i had so much stressed so much gut feeling that i am not good enough that she wanted more from me that cause me to lose my self my confidence my values and i had so much anxiety and stress to prove to her that am a good partner but she already decided in her mind that i was not..

  • @Cello69.
    @Cello69. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    After what recently happened to my 22 year marriage this channel has proven to be a life preserver. Maybe literally.
    Thank you for the content and thank you all for sharing your stories. I wish everyone nothing but happiness. The grieving will not last for ever.

  • @kourtneyw8442
    @kourtneyw8442 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I watched one of your videos about when he won’t commit and isn’t sure. I used the “I think you need to go away and find what you want.” It helped take the pressure off. He didn’t say anything. I handed him things and drove away.

  • @amandaboyce4142
    @amandaboyce4142 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I absolutely didn’t know why I was feeling so insecure and taking things so personal when I could fee he was creating distance. I am the one who started the conversation that ultimately lead to our breakup by asking “ I feel like there is a distance between us, what is going on for you?” I am so proud I was brave enough to connect with him even though I knew it would be a hard conversation.

  • @hadiza1
    @hadiza1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    "Different planets even if you're in the same room" Preach!!!! 💜💜💜

  • @Construct87
    @Construct87 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    She gave me everything she had and despite having such deep and real feelings for her I wasn't able to make her feel that. I feel so guilty for not being able to meet her needs and realizing earlier that she's the one I can finally let that guard down and have all the happiness I internally longed for.
    It was all right there in front of me, ready to be had. She even tried to work with me and I just couldn't change my ways enough. Here I am after she left me finally understanding what was going on and how my internal barriers didn't let me access and share my feelings for here and make her feel as loved as she was.

  • @michealsilvey1124
    @michealsilvey1124 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes... felt very unsafe!! After 32 years... the raging, devaluing, etc - YES - 100% SPOT ON

  • @StefanieLoerwald
    @StefanieLoerwald 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This guy gets it. I’m buying this book. I’m buying every book. You are spot on. I’m struggling so hard and you have helped me so much. Thank you so much for making this video for those of us who have no one to go to. Thank you. Truly.

  • @craftingwithtresk5900
    @craftingwithtresk5900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you Matthew for your kindness I just feel so lost and to make me feel more sad more lost more numb I had to have my older beautiful dog put to sleep he was 19 years old last week so right now I don’t want to feel nothing maybe in time I will begin to feel bit better

    • @emilys2064
      @emilys2064 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Im very sorry for the loss of your loved dog ❤ sending you love and wish you the best for these painful times

    • @astrid8433
      @astrid8433 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry for your loss. I hope you get through this ❤

  • @peterknight8948
    @peterknight8948 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I knew it was coming
    Because of a gut feeling of distance and gradual loss of interest. She went from loving me with everything she had, for years, to slowly pulling away until “I’m sorry you and me haven’t worked out” bomb shell.

  • @TarisKit
    @TarisKit 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The reality is not who he is when they were with you but reality is who he is once he broke up with you

  • @lauraguo2164
    @lauraguo2164 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Mattew for your video, extremely useful for me now. My boyfriend broke up to me very out of the blue and didn't give me chance to improve or last our relationship longer. But you were right, when I look back his impatience, unpredictable anger and desire for too much personal space are red flags and I can get rid of them now. Indeed, when you feel insecure for no reason, it is more likely a hint to the end.

    • @suziandchopstix
      @suziandchopstix 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Literally going through the same thing. Was in denial that I should let go but watching videos like this bring me back to reality bc I catch myself hoping … it’s the fear of actually letting go and giving ourselves the respect we deserve

  • @HappyGull
    @HappyGull 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ‘You feel peaceful because you no longer have to feel unsafe in the relationship.’ This is so true.

  • @joannajo8986
    @joannajo8986 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think that we never lose anybody, it is just an illusion that we think we do, as we often count on the other person to fulfill our own happiness. We can only lose ourselves in our grief, yet to find our life purpose again.

  • @safelander7811
    @safelander7811 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Man these videos resonate with me a lot... I really felt like I had lost my perfect person when she broke up with me, but I can see a little better now that she was already moving on long before I even knew it was over. The signs were there, she wasn't very interested, kind or present to me even though she is generally a lovely person to be around, because she was working up the courage to break up. I will still take time to grieve, but I know that the right thing to do for myself is to keep her at a distance.
    Now she wants us to be friends in the future when I've 'gotten over her' after a decent period of no contact, but I realise that she just feels bad about herself and wants me around to lean on whilst simultaneously moving in and being happy/seeing other people. She even says 'I still have a lot of love for you but I no longer am in love with you' which just makes me feel more confused. I'm no longer going to reply to her messages or let her string me along; I'm going to leave her behind.

  • @giannishen
    @giannishen 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Thanks a lot for sharing, you did a really great job! 👍🥰👏

    • @thematthewhussey
      @thematthewhussey  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you so much 🤗

    • @giannishen
      @giannishen 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@thematthewhussey It is my honor, thanks to you too! Welcome to Taiwan any time! 👍🥰👌

  • @audreycoggins1652
    @audreycoggins1652 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow this is exactly what I’m experiencing thank you for clearly reminding me that there are valid reasons for leaving. It’s an odd peace.

  • @sonblomful
    @sonblomful 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This helped so much. I ended it but because I was going crazy with the insecurity and feeling unsafe going down the rabbit hole of my old triggers. But needed to hear this. Thank you

  • @heyu123
    @heyu123 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That’s me. I had so much anxiety towards the end I thought I was going crazy. He first asked for a pause (for him but he said for me), then 2 weeks later he broke up with me. And the worst part, it was before our flight 😢 I think he has already checked out ages ago. He’s not the right person for me, just the right time. His words didn’t match his actions. He never deserved me. He mislead me. He was lovebombing me at the beginning. Once he had me, he didn’t want the relationship anymore. He was just chasing a feeling.

  • @jeremyryan4138
    @jeremyryan4138 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've been having a very hard time, and this video was exactly what I needed to hear. I'm going to save this and come back to it when I need encouragement over the next few weeks. Thank you!

  • @ChristopherConnors
    @ChristopherConnors 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I needed to hear this more than I knew. My wife and best friend is divorcing me after 8 years together. Distraught but feeling more aware of the path forward from your words. Thank you sir. Just bought your book on Audible because of your wisdom.

  • @elisejayde
    @elisejayde 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You’re onto something Matt. Look up the demartini method, there’s a structured way to dissolve grief in the water you’re talking about.

  • @hend_9743
    @hend_9743 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Many people around me have said the same thing to me, but I wasn't convinced. And now I see your video, and you're saying the same words. It seems like I don't want to be convinced or I need more time to comprehend. Inside me, there's a strong desire to plead with you, just to be at least friends who know each other's news. I want to observe him and know what he's doing and how he feels.

    • @drewbarry7
      @drewbarry7 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You'll only be hurting yourself by keeping in touch. You need to move on.

    • @obiblooze5902
      @obiblooze5902 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@drewbarry7 you have to go no contact, its the only way to start to heal

    • @priyankav9792
      @priyankav9792 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes please move on..go no contact that's only the solution to be happy again

  • @hannahmiles7089
    @hannahmiles7089 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    “You did loose a lot that you did want to loose” SO GOOD. It’s true in my case. I lost him but I gained so MUCH PEACE.

  • @JimmieABES
    @JimmieABES 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    1 month post-breakup…it’s the worst pain I’ve ever felt. She was my dream girl

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      How are you doing? I’m so hurt and feel like I can’t get over it

    • @andersspencer
      @andersspencer 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Guys please help
      I cheated on her a while back
      It was a one time thing I messed up in that situation and hid it
      She found out and broke up
      Idk what to do
      I can't eat breathe I feel so numb

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@andersspencer I know what you are feeling. I still can’t sleep, eat and have panic attacks. Please pray right now. Try to stay calm. I’m here for you cause I know your pain now

    • @andersspencer
      @andersspencer 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@frankgeary7574
      I don't know what to do
      I want her back so badly
      It's so hurting knowing I broke her heart where she loved me the most
      I don't know what to do
      I love her

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@andersspencer I wish I could fix it for you because I’m in the same boat. Are you guys still communicating? Obviously she will have to trust you again. And that takes time and effort. She has to want to forgive you is the biggest thing I have learned. You can help with that by being honest from here forward.

  • @misterbaleize
    @misterbaleize 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dude, thank you - this was the precise message at the precise time; goodness, your message is of great encouragement and immediately resonated with what I was/am feeling but I could not independently work out the pathway to this truth 🙂

  • @MaiNguyen-kp6ky
    @MaiNguyen-kp6ky 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    please dont ever stop making videos. you are saving me right now of so much torture.

    • @dorotadokladna8908
      @dorotadokladna8908 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I have similar situation, terrible pain, trauma after he left me. Desperately looking for help. I found this video, this great man. Maybe it will help a little bit

  • @SohBayDa
    @SohBayDa 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your videos and the comments that come along with them are actively healing my heart and my spirit atm. Thank you.

  • @szucsyp
    @szucsyp 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are so right about feeling insicure while my partner is already having doubts about out relationship...

  • @李李李-d4r
    @李李李-d4r 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Matthew you are saving lives you deserve the best ❤

  • @yangtzeling7468
    @yangtzeling7468 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What could have been is ALWAYS more beautiful than reality.
    Took me 3 years to get over.

  • @hannahmiles7089
    @hannahmiles7089 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is something about this guy that is just approachable and kind and very non threatening. Like compassionate. Thank you for your work here. These videos have helped me open my eyes in ways other videos haven’t. It’s like I can accept that what has happened to me there was nothing wrong with me. That I do deserve to be happy and it wasn’t something I did or something that was broken in me. I am really breaking by free from my attachment to my soon to be ex spouse and it feels so good. A lot of videos of narcissism or emotionally unavailable apply to my ex spouse. Abandonment betrayal lies and gaslighting, been through a lot but feel stronger now that I have stood for my values and what I deserve in the end even though is stayed at first. I have forgiven myself for staying but I was beaten down from his abuse and lack of care and didn’t know there was a thing called trauma bond. I have been consuming information and glad I stumbled on this.

  • @luketaylor6682
    @luketaylor6682 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Matthew Hussey, thanks mate. I just lost what meant thr world to me. i thought these sorts videos were for losers, turns out i was the loser. I appreciate the time you put into this. Thanks heaps mate, if she loves me, she will come back and prove it.

  • @victoriacherrington9936
    @victoriacherrington9936 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Good morning & God bless you!!! Yes, pay attention to the red flags... we deserve more, truth & loyalty the someone all in for us together! Wait for God's best while being God's best you!😇🙏❤️🕊

    • @freakyholic
      @freakyholic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for pointing out the 'red flags'. That means a lot to me, Victoria. Somehow I only focused on the happy memories, ignoring the obvious signs and choosing to be in complete denial.

  • @orchidmooi1963
    @orchidmooi1963 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Matt is truly the best! ❤ I listened to him for 5 years on You Tube. Sorry Matt, I have healed mentally, spiritually and emotionally. ❤
    I am sure those who buys his program will heal much faster than listening You Tube videos. Get them today!

  • @Pat_22Pat
    @Pat_22Pat 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's not easy to forget the pain. When you are the one who works hard in a relationship. But the gift that you've got is tears. There are many reasons he show when he wants to walk away from me. It's hurt but I must be strong and move on. Times can heal the pain.

  • @thematthewhussey
    @thematthewhussey  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    If you're ready to move on from your break-up, I have a very powerful series that will help you finally find happiness after heartbreak. All 7 of the powerful conversations in this series will be yours for FREE simply for pre-ordering your copy of my new book, Love Life. For all the details, head over to HeartbreakSeries.com now.

    • @freakyholic
      @freakyholic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It's taking way too long, mate, can't wait! I have pre-ordered it. Should have been much quicker. You know that the heartbroken brigade can't wait for this that long. We need your immense help to heal through that book. All in all, really looking forward, Matt!

    • @SarahBogue-je4ky
      @SarahBogue-je4ky 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It’s really hard to move on from the guy, I actually love, he cheated on me then I felt alone he hurt me. I can’t move on from anything worng to him but he cheated on me 💔😢😢

  • @bryanmccaffrey4385
    @bryanmccaffrey4385 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes. I knew the moment she pulled away. 6 weeks prior. I actually asked if everything was okay. I have anxious attachment (working on it) and was told yes. I have never asked before. Breadcrumbing started. My nervous system was on fire. I don't miss that. I did my own damage through some emotional immaturity. I'm learning that now too. I miss her dearly. She seemed very secure. My anxious adaptations caused issues in the relationship. I'll fix that in me.

  • @kashafrajput4469
    @kashafrajput4469 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I absolutely loved it. I'm currently going through a relationship, and I must say that I had a very abdominable feeling and insecurity when he wasn't opening up. After some days, he told me about his cheating, and everything was finished soon. I'm trying to learn from my past, and practice self love to be better next time.

  • @AjWallis
    @AjWallis 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just lost the love of my life through a breakup and really needed something to help me deal with it...Some words, advice, wisdom. Matthew, you touched on all the thoughts and feelings I was/am experiencing. This clip helped me so much! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!