Why You Care So Much & How To Stop...
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- 90% of people care too much about what other people think... Here's the most important step I took to overcome this!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Why You Care So Much & How To Stop...
How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation!
Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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It's sooooooo freeing and relieving when you finally "stop caring"
Yah, like just fuck it all. I want to relax and don't give a shit.
True.... It's the problem of them to think about you ...
This video should be shown to kids in school so they never suffer like i did all my life people pleasing.
Schools really don’t care about preparing you for life 🤦🏾♂️
Heyyy there !! Julien...I'm Shalini from a very small village of india...i have been watching your video for 17or 18 days and honestly man my mind is being so care free...and you won't believe that this is my first comment of my life I'm doing on...actually your made me do this .thank you man from the bottom of my heart❤
Well done, bro.👍🏻
Congrats 🙌🏽
Best of luck in your journey Shalini
Thank you
You go, girl ❤
Never look for acceptance and approval as that's giving away your power
Those are the stuff kids should learn at school not the crap they are filled with it today,this is golden
I am so much more confident by just one thing that you said: letring go. I stopped being focusing on having certain "confident" body language, I let go of neediness of people validation and I don't care that even my present friends will stop like me, I let go of trying talking with people who really don't care about me . Also I accepted being alone and myself and that helped me also
Good for you man. I agree, society paints it as high status body language and wanting to be approved of. It's ridiculous, why not just be who you naturally are and not care about fitting in.
hey , do you have any tips to actually let go ? I've tried but cant actually do it
@@Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa imagine your gonna die every day and it's your last day on earth when you have those thoughts. Sounds silly but it works try it.
Here is a summary of the key points from the video:
1. Most people try to control how they come across to get approval from others. But this backfires - people see through it and it makes you appear less confident. Instead, stop betraying yourself and hiding parts of who you are.
2. Don't worry so much about what others think or try to control their thoughts. You can't please everyone, so don't betray your true self to do so. Embrace freedom of speech and thought, even critiques of you.
3. Life is not as serious as we make it out to be. Learn to laugh at yourself - have inside jokes, be willing to embarrass yourself and go into the cringe. This builds confidence.
4. Underneath the need to control is a lack of trust in life and other people. Examine where this distrust comes from via introspection.
5. Make being your true, authentic self the goal - not some supercharged external version of you. Harness all your emotions and moods, not just happy ones.
6. Visualize yourself as the hero of your own life movie. Play, use imagination, create - don't just consume entertainment passively. Get bored sometimes rather than constantly distracting yourself.
7. Let go of control, embrace unpredictability and chaos. See life as an action-packed video game you are immersed in. Make every year epic by living fully.
8. Stop waiting for a magical perfect ending. There is no "happily ever after" - embrace the messiness of life. Collect as many bold memories as you can.
9. Self-love comes from releasing self-hate, not surface level affirmations. Identify and resolve sources of distrust in yourself so you can unlock authentic confidence.
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your videos are the main ones i have ever watched that ACTUALLY help me progress forward. I overcame a good amount of my social anxiety because of you, thank you Julien 🙏
Amazing to hear! Congrats! 🙌
I wish you THE BEST. These videos are ESSENTIAL for everyone not just for people pleasers or low confident people. just THANK YOU JULIEN.
Guy in the front row gets a lesson in learning embarrassment is simply a reaction. Life ain’t so serious 😊
Yes. And love the chainmail battle gloves. Battling the false beliefs that society, and we, put on ourselves
Julian taught me so much in my self help journey. I think a common goal of mine would be to be happy; and knowing what that means. A lot of people use that counterproductive advice to “be happy”, but never follow up what that means. To me, to be happy is to do the things you love. Doing the things that ultimately give you joy; the gym, reading, yoga, etc. Doing these things continually made me see that the stuff I looked for acceptance, a girlfriend, a nice car and stable job, the less those needy distractions came to be when I was having a damn blast with my life. It made me question and ponder the idea of, if I’m genuine and happy with everything I’m doing, does anything else really matters much as it did???? Not really :) god bless
I relate so much with the "mental numbing" part. People who work in retail and customer service often have to live like this for hours-on-end because customers don't like seeing the real people that employees are. Customers just want perfect service with a perfect smile and a perfect attitude. Until we can fix this issue as a society, there will always be people having to put on the mask daily because their entire career requires them to be fake.
Yes absolutely relate
When someone body shaming us, anger should kick up actually. But instead emotions kicks up for me. How to let go of that resistance, Julien.
Anger kicks up only when you are out of sadness or apathy. Gotta let go of much supressed feelings first. And then your reaction will be naturally fitting
By far the best fucking ensemble julien has ever fucking worn. Although that blue wizard jacket with the stars does go hard.
Love him being bold, real, raw and honest and relatable
I've made a lot of progress on undoing a lot of conditioning with the help of these videos and others, but every few months or so I need a reminder and this video was that. Thank you as always Julien.
I have to say you are doing a lot of good for a lot of people. I lost my way maybe 25 years ago, and I’m starting to feel a little more myself these days. Keep up the outstanding work!
Here's a nuance to "Who cares what other people think of you! No one can approve or disapprove you":
- Logically I agree that you should not have any emotional charge ( or get triggered) whenever you feel threatened on what will other people think of you for the words you speak or the course of action/behaviour you just put out.
- But it's also true that you have to be open for feedback because it's so easy to end up on either extremities (I listen to everybody AND I don't give a damn what other people think of me).
It's like you should not care of what other people think of you but you should also be socially calibrated. Let's say in a social group, you have something to say that you found in a self-help book and you truly believe it's true and it makes sense to put it out there because of the context of conversation. Now most people who don't read self-help books, somewhere subconsciously believe that people who read self improvement books are somewhat losers. People reading those books can also feel that other people somewhere think that self-help readers are somewhat losers. Now if I alter what I'm about to say by dumbing it down and get rid of all self-help jargon so that it's easier for them to understand, am I socially calibrating myself or became a slave to other peoples opinion of myself?
Also, second nuance is that: Sure you shouldn't care of what other people think of you. But if you keep telling yourself "I don't care what they think", even though deep down you care or say you have emotional charge or subconsciously care about what they think of you, it'll be just like working on an effect rather than cause. So the actual question is "Why do you care what other people think of you?" rather than forcing the right answer.
For the "dumbing it down so that people understand" part, you're clearly socially calibrating because otherwise you wouldn't have said it
@@enricooliveri3061 dude you think your sooop smart
@@eddiew2325 it was a genuine question
this is why self help is so dumb.
Just do what you want man. If people don't fuck with it, find people that do or just find enjoyment in being on your own and not having to deal with people's shit. It's that simple.
True genius who looks like a fashion victim but I don't give a damn and neither does he. Just be real and don't forget to play. Thanks Julian!
Julien and Mark Manson. The duo world needs!
You are the GOAT!! Helping out so many people is a blessing for real. I feel fortunate to have found your TH-cam channel. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Holy crap that last line is so obvious yet so elusive. 🤯
Thank you, Julien! 🤩
You're my God, you're my father, you're my brother ,you're my mentor and you're my uncle😢😢😢❤❤❤
Ever since I was diagnosed with epilepsy, I've changed my mindset to go out and do the things that would've held me back every time before (primarily because of SUDEP). I've loved every choice I've made since because it gives me new places to go, new people to meet, and something to look back on. I always listen to people, no matter what they're talking about. Even if it's something I have no interest in, I can use that information to help me engage with others who are interested in that topic. Adopting just the art of listening and engaging will take you far.
Much respect for grabbing life by the balls… or the pussy, whichever you vibe with more lol… keeping up this attitude and behavior you’ll have many awesome stories to share with people making you the guy girls want to grab by the balls lol😂
People have something to say about what you do, but they don't have to live with the consequences... You do. So be yourself, because you're the one who's going to have to live with yourself.
"a little tight" ayyYYOO!
😂that sound crazzy
AYOO PAUSE
jajajaja 😂
Not many people there understood it lol
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Good one Julien
You have your own battles and you choose to teach others and walk others through life. It’s inspiring. Thank you.
Thank you! And you are so welcome... I'm glad my content resonates with you!
One day we'll find out that Julien is actually an escaped mental patient and we've been listening to the unhinged ravings of a mad man..... yet benefitted more than he intended.
I found this channel like a week ago, this channel will have had 10+ million sub if people cared about their deep desire their life more than games and where to find the next dollar from
“ Its not something u turn on. Its who u r
Don’t change urself. Embrace urself”
Awesome video Julien! Appreciate your content bro it's helped turn my life around recently! Thanks man! Been watching your videos the last couple weeks and it's changed how I approach life already; sure there's still a lot of work to be done on my end but it's kickstarted something positive I didn't even realise I needed until I stumbled along your vids! Cheers man!
Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress so far! 🙏
That was simply amazing. Great speech 🎉
Thanks so much! Glad it was impactful!
This is totally a metaverse where you totally are the embodiment of Rick Sanchez ! Love it ! Nice cover Rick !
This is exactly how I thought back when I was 19 20 yo. Thanks for reminding me my life philosophy! Looking back I was making core memories almost every single week when I was at that age.
People forgot on an emotional level that life can be exciting and fun
Man..great,great great, im gonna finnish my first big documentary film because of you, and hopefully send it to you,to watch and enjoy ! you are awakening my innerchild in me.thanks!!
Glad this video resonated with you! 🙌
How’s the documentary going?
A new Julien skin has been unlocked! Noice.
This was great bro. you speak with such honesty and come from a place of being grounded.
Thank you! 🙏
It is a big deal what people think of you if you're lonely.
It's all fun and games until you realize you are not enough to satisfy your need for connection.
Loneliness is a feeling you can let go of. Actually the needyness. And afterwards you will be fine alone. And magically other people will feel your abundance and be drawn to you
Julien rockin’ that Teezo Touchdown fit.
julien himself this is abenezer himself 🧐 from ethiopia and i thank you so much for making my life easier and for teaching me to be myself i mean himself 😄. i wish you good of everything.
You're so welcome! Glad my content has been helpful! 🙏
Wow this guy rocks!!What great common sense knowledge a real world advice!!Heis teachings should start in elementary schools to high school because kids need a lot more of this in life then social studies or home economics!!Live the advice
Regardless of freedom of speech, I still don't think that we should simply dismiss the impact words can have on others. It shouldn't just become an excuse of saying whatever, having to put up with potentially hurtful behavior or even guilt-tripping people into believing that it's not okay to feel upset or bad about it. We still have certain degree of personal agency and it goes both ways. I think and feel a lot of stuff about random people too, but I don't just act upon fleeting and oftentimes deceptive emotions and judge people that I don't truly know.
Thanks for the free therapy sesh as always Julien.
Fuggin Julien lookin like a character out of world of warcraft. Those bracelets give him +10 defense. 😂 OMFG. He's wearing crocs. That is fucking unreal. LOL
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Thank you for this much of valuable content . Im a young man trying to learn social skills and increase my social status, please give me some advice or something
I'd suggest starting here: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc 👌
Thank you for your videos. It has really helped me a lot overcoming anxiety and boosting my confidence and self esteem
It really is amazing how acting on your ideas and working on them have made my life much better! Thanks Julien
omg this look is giving
✨ Lady Gaga ✨ and I'm here fot it 💁💅
I can even hear the ✨MOMOMOMO✨ 💁
I hide my confidence to look charming and nice.
But in reality i'm just a disgusting fake people pleaser..
Lovely, as usual, Julien...
I thought you were talking to me when you were pointing out someone touching themselves… and no it wasn’t because of your hair or your smile or the shape of your head but because of that outfit… seriously gave me a little woody.. I’ll definitely be hiring you for some fashion coaching 😂
How dare you!!!
My bad
Just got me crazy 😂?😂?
omg. I asked myself so many times why youre wearing sunglasses. finally the big reveal.
😂😂
Love the outfit❤
17:34... Stellar explanation process!
Thanks! Glad that part spoke to you!
I was there! 😎👊 I volunteered but looked too eager 😂
Thanks for making it out in person!! 🔥👊
Notification SQUAD!! Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
Boom! 🔥🔥🔥
Julien, just wanted to say thank you.
God, I love your seminars, Julien! ❤️💯😎
Julien's the best
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Just fun helpful videos it's funny how insanity is same thing all over again vs being unpredictable funny and authentic is actually scarier.
Wow, you’ve come so far julien
you do good job
Thanks!
Great video Julien. Can you put this audio on your podcast?
Hell yea 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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When trying to be uninvolved with others think of you it also moves into how the group around you thinks of you like for instance I told my sibling when I found their fancy special dishes in the dishwasher that they're hand wash only says so on the underside well later that day I over heard the sibling saying how this concern I showed for their fancy dishes was to their POV was me bitching about them washing their stuff wrong which in turn had their half of the family thinking I now bitch a fit if they hurt & destroy their own things.
Lesson I'll let them destroy their own things if the sibling is so unaware as to put hand washed items into a machine they get the result that will result whatever it is. It sucks and was hurtful this sibling thinks this way & couldn't see the concern what they saw is complaining/bitching which seems to be their mindset on anything you tell them that isn't a compliment or a fun idea or invite to something.
I needed this reminder Julien❤🙏🏾
so bassically you have to be around people that dont care so much
Is having this,uncontrollable all day about everything ADHD? Or?
I never commented under his videos until I heard baldurs gate 3. i love baldurs gate ahhhh
My zeisty teacher
lol that apparel thoughXDXD
baldurs gate is so freaking good
What if you have a psycho parent who just steal your energy you need to grow and find the path
He looks like a New York quidditch player
Don’t play god with other people’s emotions or thoughts🎉
This is fucking deep shit.
But I think everyone who is prone for anxiety or overthinking should biohack hormones, neurotransmitters and micronutrients.
broadly applicable does not always equal successful so why be a people pleaser?
I unironically love your outfits.
Thanks! 🕺
Hi Julien, how do we maintain being collaborate with everyone around us while at the same time not people pleasing?
People often engage in people pleasing because they assume others are against them... And they do it to make others like them in order to feel safe. If you're in a collaborative frame however, you don't have that original assumption that people are against you... And the need to people please fades away.
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏
the gloves stole the show cant even concentrate on the content
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Is Julien coming to Dallas or did I just miss it?
damn I thought this was 2009 Julian Casablancas
This guy is hilarious
My greatest inspiration❤️❤️❤️
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Nice outfit tday
4th one!!
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@@JulienHimself OMG u first time replied to my comment me so happy😭😭😭
First one❤
Boom! Enjoy!
repetitive repetitive repetitive why why why ?
Hello @JulienHimself, Thanks for your great conversation ,which I lastly taste it with Hac Sahin Xutba. Please read the Quran ,and try to feel it as you are, I believe you deserve it. Happy infinite, interesting life.
i do not think that you know Azerbaijani language to listen to Haci Sahin Xutba. However, you can analyze Hz.Ali's words and Hz.Hüseyn's Life and Karbala. i Believed that you deserved to know them , I shared these with you. just appreciate.
Dragqueen ?
The Truth 🙏♑📿
Oh man, Lady Gaga really changed over the years.
Whats up
do you wear crazy outfits to defy social anxiety?
just to be himself
I think the point is. He doesn't let things control him and make him reactive. So he does and wears stuff other people wouldn't
@@Noor-sl5epactually, going out of your way to wear a clown outfit to defy social norms is VERY reactive 💀
@@sumgi1537 You can look at it that way. But he might just be doing it here deliberately for educational purposes, to show as an example to others who care way too much about how they look
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I understand what you are trying to say but defying social norms isn't what he is after