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Matias made me cry. That poor sweet soul trapped for so long. He truly had a voice SCREAMING in his head LOUDER than Julien. To see it slowly suffocate out of him and his true self start to emerge... So powerful to watch. I wish I could give him a hug. I do this to myself too. ❤❤❤❤
When Mattias started to raise his voice, you could tell that small roar he did came from the heart. Mattias is one hell of a f***ing lion and I hope he realises this one day.
I LOVE this guy! Look at him. Everyone in the crowd can relate. He is just the personification of a part that's driving so many of us but that most of us just abandon and behave as if it doesn't exist. Seeing him is actually wholesome because it's SO relateable.
LETS F**KING GO MATTIAS!!! I am Mattias. I lived through that, I felt it so hard. I am so scared, and I don't know why. Seeing it in someone else, seeing how powerful HE is made me feel so much more capable. We are all the same, just expressing in different ways.
I was at the event as well and it has been an amazing experience. I met many different people who where open and incredibly friendly towards me. But Matthias has been the most encouraging person that evening stepping out of the shadows of his own anxiety. I personally made that following week to my first vacation where I was completely on my own, because I think being with yourself, enyoing your own company is one of the most valuable things someone can do. It gives you the time and space to ask yourself the uncomfortable questions and grow. I am still not there yet, but I think I am on a good way of accepting and loving myself. Somebody, that means a lot to me, once said: "Have you ever wondered, if you even got your own back?" Blessings to everyone who reads this. I may not know you, but I definitely believe in you already 😊
When I'm anxious I stop breathing, I'm mostly anxious when I have intrusive thoughts and flashbacks, I believe my anxiety started when I was very young, my mum used to scream alot especially at me and my brothers,I was the only girl and she aimed at me alot more than my brothers, even when I'd try and help her shed stop me and say you can't do anything right then tell me to get outside, she also told me that it wasn't her fault nobody liked me,these sunk in and stayed with me for 55years and led me to live in my head alot,that and the fact I was mostly ignored by my entire family my anxiety has ran my life and I've had enough!!! Thank you for this video 😊❤
You done a great job mattias. Also it's so sweet that how supportive and kind the audience are towards Mattias. Acts like this restore my faith in humanity
Huge respect to these audience members who get picked. So relatable. My mind would go blank as well, I would want to run away but social pressure would be too much to even do that, all the walls that come up and inner battles "I can't make my scream loud, I feel embarrassed that I can't make it loud, I could try to make it louder but it sounds strange because I'm holding it back, I'm embarrassed that I'm embarrassed to make a strange sound, this is too hard, I give up because I don't mind feeling like loser after all, but actually I'm sick of feeling like a loser, I have to do this now, I'm not sure if I can"
I'm crying, I'm on my period too (eating a daughnut), but seeing this man makes me think I'm gonna soon end up like this if I don't take any action. He was authentic coz he showed his real feelings I would of probably make sure to cover it best I can so nobody knows I'm scared. To me, he was brave to show his vulnerablity.
you wont end up like anything if you care enjoy the action you do take enjoy the suffering of it see the light in the hardships know what you are here for here to live for stand for live by and feel move at YOUR pace it's very important not to compare yourself to others only compare yourself to where you were previously best of luck to you and your period donuts
I am crying also but i am a grown men assuming being in that weirdest cage, the one i, now just want to break it out ! Thats the beauty of it. Dont hide behind a reason. Live your feeling. Embrace it and get OUT 😁
@@kevinparent8843I am a grown woman and I cried too 😢I am in the cage still at 44 years old and I’m so sick and tired of it. This video really make me think deep and hard of how I lived it’s so sad I am feeling really sorry for myself but it’s has to change 😔
Mattias you brought me to tears man. I'm so happy for you. I know what it's like and I'm working on it myself, just know you're not alone! Love u man, you made massive progress
This vídeo is absolutely insane, like really it’s a fucking movie, the way you play with the characters makes it so visual, that’s the best way to help people !
I wanna be put in an uncomfortable situation like this although I may cry . But it will help me a lot . My anxiety makes me cry and get hot and numb and tingly when I’m being pressured , but I know at the end of the day I can conquer it .
Well then I have good news for u. You absolutely can put yourself in this situation, without Julien. You can start doing embarrasing stuff in public which will generate the same anxiety. For example one time I had a batman hoodie with batman ears, and walked in the subway, looking people in the eyes. That was hard but honestly, I got less reactions than I thought I would. I need to do that again.
Focus on compassion. Your brain can't hold both at the same time. As the compassion muscle grows the anxiety muscles dies. Don't shame yourself for the parts of yourself you don't like.
there well be a day you feel comfortable in your own skin may only be for one day but then two then three youll always have new challenges but never leave your own side
I feel like a lot of younger people just watch these videos as entertainment, maybe taking the most cursory lessons from them but not understanding the things Julien is talking about demand everyday action. He's trying to get you to bypass years and years of misery and awkwardness by kicking these truths to you! It's up to you though to decide for yourself if you've had enough of stuffing the real you deep inside you and constantly putting on a performance for strangers everyday!
This was the heaviest so far. I'm sure it hit hard for most of us who have or have had severe social anxiety. Watching this made me remember and feel again how it was for me 10 years ago, when I was too afraid to go to the grocery store without drinking 2 beers. A life like that was a horrible prison. I have done a lot of inner work since and nowadays work as a teacher in a class of 23 students. It hasn't been an easy road (and is still continuing) but it has been well worth it! I wish A LOT of strenght to Mattias and anyone in a similar position. Take it day by day. We fear uncomfortibility but in actuality, it's our best friend.
I’m at home crying & clapping! I wouldn’t have had the confidence to do that. You’re awesome Matthias! Banish the frenemy Wormtongue, be kind to ‘Matthias the child within’ that’s trying to keep you ‘safe’ by screaming ‘danger’ all the time triggering panic, anxiety & shut down, say ‘thank you, I know you’re trying to keep me safe but I AM safe so that means you are. We can relax now, I’ve got this’ xxxxx
00:00 🗝 Resistance and social conditioning create an invisible prison that holds many back. 04:01 💡 Your comfort zone, even if uncomfortable, feels safer due to familiarity. 07:28 🔄 Self-sabotage often operates unconsciously, blocking opportunities without awareness. 11:45 🤔 Regular introspection is crucial for identifying and dismantling mental barriers. 17:50 🛠 Success often involves removing internal barriers more than adding external strategies. 22:48 🎯 Significant personal growth often arises from confronting inner struggles, even amidst pain. 24:12 🃏 Fear often bluffs, appearing formidable until confronted, revealing its lack of substance. 25:32 💪 Embrace fear and face your challenges with empathy and firmness, just as you would with a scared child. 29:24 🦁 Remember who you are and reclaim your power, like King Theoden in "The Lord of the Rings" and Simba in "The Lion King". 33:20 🦗 Spit out the "bugs" of self-doubt and reclaim your true identity, just like Simba spitting out bugs in "The Lion King". 38:58 🚫 Recognize that self-doubt is a bluff, and breaking free from it once proves you can do it again. 43:52 🗣 Stand up to your inner critic and reclaim your power by silencing self-doubt and acknowledging your progress.
that was 2 years worth of therapy in 30 min for Matthias. not kidding. finding and removing wormtongue from your brain requires massive strength and bravery. chapeau, my friend!
Your gift of allowing others to feel and be aware of their shadows and egos are remarkable. I felt M and his fear so deeply and I know that feeling of letting my ego take control of my highest self, which came from years of conditioned fear! The monster in the closet analogy was a great example. Pain pushes vision and until we can’t take the pain anymore - something beautiful happens - we finally start to not give a crap about what people think and we start to remove the layers of trauma we have been carrying from birth and start to truly remember who we are - which is pure love: Thank you for this post. I’m going to watch this with my 12 year old daughter and circulate your message 🍃❤. May you continue to be blessed healthy loved and abundant
Something that really amazes me, in the clip with Natalia, and also here with Mattias, the moment they scream/shout and actually do it, their entire posture relaxes. Awesome stuff man I hope you'll keep on helping people a long time!
Out of all the more "emotional" and less practical videos you uploaded, this was the best one yet. Really amazing watching how much you changed and improved over the years since the drama series from pua times till now.
Thank you soo much Julien. At times I find myself wanting to comment on a bunch of videos but never did because my inner wormtongue convinces me stuff like “it won’t make a difference” or “people might disagree with you”. You know what? SHUT UP! Even tho it’s a small thing, it means a lot to me. To be able to be more expressive. It’s a small improvement but an improvement nonetheless. I’m happy to get a sense of being able to grab my own inner demon by the balls. All thanks to you! ❤
All my life, I've been afraid of men and for the life of me, I couldn't figure out where this damn fear comes from. I'm healing as of late, that fear is slowly leaving and I feel more and more free to be me. I don't "follow" Julien but I still watch him to see others who come out of these challenges in their own way. Our path and healing modalities may differ but we are all sure together in this journey. Prayers for all 🙏❤️
That’s so awesome dude. Genuinely really impressive of him. Makes me happy to see. Screaming like that alone in a crowd is scary af for me as well and many others. Really cool to see
I am having fears and social anxiety. I always think about what others are thinking about me. It’s like my mind is constantly wondering about others thinking about me. Situation was so worse one year ago that I have avoided meeting people I stopped meeting my friends. My relations with my family also screwed. It’s really a nightmare for me and I was stuck how to get out of this loop. But then I came across Julian blanc videos on anxiety and the things that he explained make sense. I applied that and doing exercises that he suggests and also meditation. It worked for me now I don’t get anxiety when I go to some gatherings. You are doing great job by posting videos. Thank you for your help 😃🙏🏻
After 8 months, I wonder how the person here is doing now. The effects of limiting beliefs can be extremely harsh but they can be removed, I am deeply convinced.
Dude your growth over the years has been amazing. Im on my way up. Have been for a long time. But especially over the last few months things have really been starting to click for me. Still stacking and building and improving every day.
i could feel what matias was feeling, he is really brave he can be proud ! ❤ we all find ourselves trapped in a cage sooner or later, it is important to break free to live the life we deserve
This was the best video yet. WOW I didn't think Mathias would scream. That was amazing!!!! I love your analogy. Next time I stifle myself I'm going to think of wormtongue. I will never forget it. Thank you!
This is so hard to watch. Getting “interrogated” like this and put in the spotlight would’ve made me cry if I were in Matthias’ position. He’s so strong for not crying. I wouldn’t have been able to make it or change myself and scream. I really hope that this experience helped Matthias but I personally can’t imagine how one would be able to constantly fight ‘Wormtongue’ and start to believe in yourself. It seems like an impossible task when you lived like this for more than half your life. I’ve been bullied through most of my life without knowing why. I believe it must be something within me that is worth getting bullied over. Something that is fundamentally wrong with me so I don’t think I’m worth a dime. I don’t think Julien’s approach could help me change but I’m glad it has helped others.
One element that might help is to know that people pick more on people who have been bullied before. So once you got bullied and it attacked your self-esteem, people will notice, and think of you as an easier target or feel justified (you feeling down is interpreted as confirmation). It does NOT mean something is wrong with you. It's a cycle that repeats: bullying, less self-esteem, people feeling confirmed, likelier target. Self-defense is not only okay, it's your right, and you will notice some people who bullied/attacked you will actually appreciate it if you defend yourself.
As someone who suffers from anxiety, and a lot of fears i can identify. I have a lot of negative self talk. Ive lessened though over the years and become more confident at least enough to look people in the eyes and engage when need too. But as an introvert i prefer to be alone. 😊
I was in a similar state as Matais when I was younger. I was unable to express myself clearly and was extremely shy. I had a counselor who challenged me in a similar way. He brought my friends into the room to ask me questions and every time I said "I don't know" he would stop me and tell me that I had to answer. He was very patient and respectful but very firm that I had to answer and couldn't escape into my habits. He kept telling me that saying I don't know was very rude. It's an avoidance technique. And It kind of is rude. I am very grateful that he pointed this out to me. It feels very disrespectful to be confronted in this way but in some ways it is the most respectful thing you can ever do to another human being. I still have work to do but I'm running a business and talk with people all day now. Sometimes people can't shut me up. I still hate talking to groups of people but I think I would get over that if I did it more often.
I went to a buddhist teaching in India a few months ago, and at a random point, the monk looked and pointed at me and said "you have a very deep question". My instinctive reaction was to shut down and I felt like a rabbit in headlights. He immediately did something very smart; he looked away to someone on the opposite side of the room and said something related. That was what was needed to break my resistance and I just found myself speaking. I would never have done that if he'd just locked in on me continuously.
Julien the problem is not being around good people, the problem with the bad people who's judge a lot and laugh and give negative energie, i feel afraid around them ...i want a solutions for that ❣️✨
I m in the same boat but I m just starting to see why now, I guess. It should basically be the same. only thing is in those situations you/we are afraid of an actual conflict, a fight of some sort that might break some relationships or change the interactions with that someone or place which would make it scary or unpleasant in the future as well....I guess it s still about 'manning' up and trusting yourself and the universe it will work out at some point...I think many people who bully are so weak that they ll end up reversing places quickly if someone really stands up for themselves...one thing keeping me from doing so is my own promise to avoid intentionally doing it to others because I know how much it sucks...
Sounds really simple but just stop caring about what people like that think about you because their opinion is not important. Because people who threat other people shitty treat themselves the same way so just pitty them :) they are not worth your precious time
Just finished the 20 mins. What struck me the most is when Jul said in verbatim: The goal is to not forget the experience. (Feeling the feelings of anxiety until you let go of anxiety) You will eventually forget this experience because of day to day life challenges but once you've made it once, trust yourself that you can do it again.
Glad this was impactful for you! If you want to go deeper on this, I'd suggest applying for online coaching so I can give you some personalized feedback. 👌
i absolutely loved this! and mattias is a boss! i wanted you to make him get up on stage, though and have him read your points in the closing dialogue. just to further let him know that he can do anything!
Woah! Incredible presentation. It was like watching a Shakespearean Tour de Force!! I help others to find confidence in singing. I struggle with self-love though, a constant battle with my own Wormtongue. I think you just changed my life!
Incredible video! Start by finding events within our unconscious mind and letting them go is so powerful and freeing. And, there is no physical danger, yet our fear response is not proportional to the event, there is no harm speaking up, you can say 'I am good enough' to do anything, I am the producer of my emotions, I can choose how to behave.
i felt so many emotions while watching this, Julien you're so amazing! and Bravo to Matias! kinda feel like i need to experience your event live too now
Julien, what you mention about having to forcely change due to suffering is called in Yoga, "Yoga of desperation" in which the mind or conciousness cannot deal with the whole load of pain and as a mean of survival, it changes.
Vidéo incroyable, toujours d'excellents conseils, cela fait déjà un an que je te suis et j'adore ce que tu fais ! Tu m'as permis de voir la vie différemment et je t'en remercie ! Merci pour tout ce contenu que tu nous proposes ! Je te souhaite le meilleur !
This was an amazing bit Mathias is an absolute g reminds me of my experience in Copenhagen last year. That shit is terrifying to say the least😅. Well done...
I was doing an exercise from another vid where you just blindfold yourself for an hour and I was listening to this and other Julien vids. And man... I just had a crazy breakthrough. The whole story of how I got messed up in life as a kid and the explanation of why I am the way I am is just a total lie I've been telling myself. It's to justify the comfortable pain prison. It's insane. And dude if I wasn't egotistical and taking things personal - if I were more adaptable as a child and I wasn't feeding into the Reticular Activation System idea that "everyone in class is mean and doesn't like me for no reason". Dude I would have had a totally different life if I could have seen it back then and didn't take things so personal. But instead I took everything personal and it fed into the bullshit victim mentality. I would have had such a better childhood and I wouldn't have been picked on but had many friends instead. Bro I really don't want to be socially successful at a high level I guess 😅 How freaking crazy is that? This is amazing to realize this but damn dude. Its actually really hard to keep analysing things from my life knowing about the love of comfort and reticular activation. I had to rip off my blindfold and relay this message to you because I had to distract myself from it. It's just nuts because I don't know how to start rewiring it yet. These videos are tremendous. How you and Owen figured all this stuff out is way beyond me.
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Shout out to Mattias❤
MASSIVE respect to him, yes! 🔥👊
Mattias is scary powerful when he lets himself out of the cage
and MASSIVE respect to you... you are a true genius in this field. Much love to you from a long-time follower ❤@@JulienHimself
literally clapped at his effort even though im at home by myself. nice work Mattias
MATIAS YOU GOT THIS!! Never give up, no matter what wormtongue is saying
I am in an Uber, listening to this and crying... I identify with Matias. Send him light and love. You are not alone Matias
Never forget: "What's most personal is most universal..." 🙏
@@JulienHimself What a game changer
Seeing the dude become a different person by the end of the video just made my soul smile and me cry 😂
True, but at what cost in the face of eternity?
Matias made me cry. That poor sweet soul trapped for so long. He truly had a voice SCREAMING in his head LOUDER than Julien. To see it slowly suffocate out of him and his true self start to emerge... So powerful to watch. I wish I could give him a hug. I do this to myself too. ❤❤❤❤
When Mattias started to raise his voice, you could tell that small roar he did came from the heart. Mattias is one hell of a f***ing lion and I hope he realises this one day.
No for real Mattias has balls of titanium
His last "GET OUT!!!" gave me chills. Way to go, Mattias!
I LOVE this guy! Look at him. Everyone in the crowd can relate. He is just the personification of a part that's driving so many of us but that most of us just abandon and behave as if it doesn't exist. Seeing him is actually wholesome because it's SO relateable.
Yes, massive respect to him! What's most personal is most universal... 🙏
This one made me cry. To see the ray of sunshine force itself out through the clouds is beautiful. Hope he carries it on.
What a fucking beautiful human being Mattias is. I hope brother is living a new life with more confidence than ever before, good for him
LETS F**KING GO MATTIAS!!! I am Mattias. I lived through that, I felt it so hard. I am so scared, and I don't know why. Seeing it in someone else, seeing how powerful HE is made me feel so much more capable. We are all the same, just expressing in different ways.
Yep!! Let's Goo
we can overcome this. kings
The outfit is such a great marketing piece for the exact thing he offers; mental freedom of internal judgment.
Don't forget the factory
It's all about the factory
Or the way a cult leader dresses
@@simonsharp3319 What a sad comment...
Outfit goes hard
I was at the event as well and it has been an amazing experience. I met many different people who where open and incredibly friendly towards me. But Matthias has been the most encouraging person that evening stepping out of the shadows of his own anxiety.
I personally made that following week to my first vacation where I was completely on my own, because I think being with yourself, enyoing your own company is one of the most valuable things someone can do. It gives you the time and space to ask yourself the uncomfortable questions and grow. I am still not there yet, but I think I am on a good way of accepting and loving myself. Somebody, that means a lot to me, once said:
"Have you ever wondered, if you even got your own back?"
Blessings to everyone who reads this. I may not know you, but I definitely believe in you already 😊
❤❤
Love
When I'm anxious I stop breathing, I'm mostly anxious when I have intrusive thoughts and flashbacks, I believe my anxiety started when I was very young, my mum used to scream alot especially at me and my brothers,I was the only girl and she aimed at me alot more than my brothers, even when I'd try and help her shed stop me and say you can't do anything right then tell me to get outside, she also told me that it wasn't her fault nobody liked me,these sunk in and stayed with me for 55years and led me to live in my head alot,that and the fact I was mostly ignored by my entire family my anxiety has ran my life and I've had enough!!! Thank you for this video 😊❤
You done a great job mattias. Also it's so sweet that how supportive and kind the audience are towards Mattias. Acts like this restore my faith in humanity
44:28 That smile from Julien was so pure and warm, you can tell he's genuinely happy for Mattias
Huge respect to these audience members who get picked. So relatable. My mind would go blank as well, I would want to run away but social pressure would be too much to even do that, all the walls that come up and inner battles "I can't make my scream loud, I feel embarrassed that I can't make it loud, I could try to make it louder but it sounds strange because I'm holding it back, I'm embarrassed that I'm embarrassed to make a strange sound, this is too hard, I give up because I don't mind feeling like loser after all, but actually I'm sick of feeling like a loser, I have to do this now, I'm not sure if I can"
Literally crying seeing Matias break through. I'm so proud of that man
I'm crying, I'm on my period too (eating a daughnut), but seeing this man makes me think I'm gonna soon end up like this if I don't take any action. He was authentic coz he showed his real feelings I would of probably make sure to cover it best I can so nobody knows I'm scared. To me, he was brave to show his vulnerablity.
you wont end up like anything if you care enjoy the action you do take enjoy the suffering of it see the light in the hardships know what you are here for here to live for stand for live by and feel
move at YOUR pace it's very important not to compare yourself to others only compare yourself to where you were previously
best of luck to you and your period donuts
Hey dont be scared my dear. Your better than him and wont end up like him ❤️ Your strong and brave
That was a joke. How downgrading is ur egoistical comment. What u mean by end like him. We better not end like you
I am crying also but i am a grown men assuming being in that weirdest cage, the one i, now just want to break it out ! Thats the beauty of it. Dont hide behind a reason. Live your feeling. Embrace it and get OUT 😁
@@kevinparent8843I am a grown woman and I cried too 😢I am in the cage still at 44 years old and I’m so sick and tired of it. This video really make me think deep and hard of how I lived it’s so sad I am feeling really sorry for myself but it’s has to change 😔
Mattias you brought me to tears man. I'm so happy for you. I know what it's like and I'm working on it myself, just know you're not alone! Love u man, you made massive progress
This vídeo is absolutely insane, like really it’s a fucking movie, the way you play with the characters makes it so visual, that’s the best way to help people !
Never has my heart been so heavy.
That whole bit with Mattias was just a pleasure to watch. It just shows how good Julien is at what he does. Massive respect to you Julien
I wanna be put in an uncomfortable situation like this although I may cry . But it will help me a lot . My anxiety makes me cry and get hot and numb and tingly when I’m being pressured , but I know at the end of the day I can conquer it .
i know its hard but you Can (:
Well then I have good news for u. You absolutely can put yourself in this situation, without Julien. You can start doing embarrasing stuff in public which will generate the same anxiety. For example one time I had a batman hoodie with batman ears, and walked in the subway, looking people in the eyes. That was hard but honestly, I got less reactions than I thought I would. I need to do that again.
Focus on compassion. Your brain can't hold both at the same time. As the compassion muscle grows the anxiety muscles dies. Don't shame yourself for the parts of yourself you don't like.
there well be a day you feel comfortable in your own skin may only be for one day but then two then three youll always have new challenges but never leave your own side
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I’m so proud of him! I can tell he’s been through a lot so massive respect
Yo I felt that last “GET OUT!” Good job!!!!
You did it!! Matias. You are a lion and you deserve to become a better version of yourself. KEEP GOING
I feel like a lot of younger people just watch these videos as entertainment, maybe taking the most cursory lessons from them but not understanding the things Julien is talking about demand everyday action.
He's trying to get you to bypass years and years of misery and awkwardness by kicking these truths to you! It's up to you though to decide for yourself if you've had enough of stuffing the real you deep inside you and constantly putting on a performance for strangers everyday!
Mattias you are STRONG. You are Capable !
This was the heaviest so far. I'm sure it hit hard for most of us who have or have had severe social anxiety. Watching this made me remember and feel again how it was for me 10 years ago, when I was too afraid to go to the grocery store without drinking 2 beers. A life like that was a horrible prison. I have done a lot of inner work since and nowadays work as a teacher in a class of 23 students. It hasn't been an easy road (and is still continuing) but it has been well worth it! I wish A LOT of strenght to Mattias and anyone in a similar position. Take it day by day. We fear uncomfortibility but in actuality, it's our best friend.
I’m at home crying & clapping! I wouldn’t have had the confidence to do that. You’re awesome Matthias! Banish the frenemy Wormtongue, be kind to ‘Matthias the child within’ that’s trying to keep you ‘safe’ by screaming ‘danger’ all the time triggering panic, anxiety & shut down, say ‘thank you, I know you’re trying to keep me safe but I AM safe so that means you are. We can relax now, I’ve got this’ xxxxx
00:00 🗝 Resistance and social conditioning create an invisible prison that holds many back.
04:01 💡 Your comfort zone, even if uncomfortable, feels safer due to familiarity.
07:28 🔄 Self-sabotage often operates unconsciously, blocking opportunities without awareness.
11:45 🤔 Regular introspection is crucial for identifying and dismantling mental barriers.
17:50 🛠 Success often involves removing internal barriers more than adding external strategies.
22:48 🎯 Significant personal growth often arises from confronting inner struggles, even amidst pain.
24:12 🃏 Fear often bluffs, appearing formidable until confronted, revealing its lack of substance.
25:32 💪 Embrace fear and face your challenges with empathy and firmness, just as you would with a scared child.
29:24 🦁 Remember who you are and reclaim your power, like King Theoden in "The Lord of the Rings" and Simba in "The Lion King".
33:20 🦗 Spit out the "bugs" of self-doubt and reclaim your true identity, just like Simba spitting out bugs in "The Lion King".
38:58 🚫 Recognize that self-doubt is a bluff, and breaking free from it once proves you can do it again.
43:52 🗣 Stand up to your inner critic and reclaim your power by silencing self-doubt and acknowledging your progress.
Thanks for your effort!
that was 2 years worth of therapy in 30 min for Matthias. not kidding. finding and removing wormtongue from your brain requires massive strength and bravery. chapeau, my friend!
Your gift of allowing others to feel and be aware of their shadows and egos are remarkable. I felt M and his fear so deeply and I know that feeling of letting my ego take control of my highest self, which came from years of conditioned fear! The monster in the closet analogy was a great example. Pain pushes vision and until we can’t take the pain anymore - something beautiful happens - we finally start to not give a crap about what people think and we start to remove the layers of trauma we have been carrying from birth and start to truly remember who we are - which is pure love: Thank you for this post. I’m going to watch this with my 12 year old daughter and circulate your message 🍃❤. May you continue to be blessed healthy loved and abundant
Big respect and love for Matthias, He conquer his inner demons.
Something that really amazes me, in the clip with Natalia, and also here with Mattias, the moment they scream/shout and actually do it, their entire posture relaxes.
Awesome stuff man I hope you'll keep on helping people a long time!
Out of all the more "emotional" and less practical videos you uploaded, this was the best one yet. Really amazing watching how much you changed and improved over the years since the drama series from pua times till now.
I was crying watching this! Thank you Mattias & thank you Julien!!! 👏 That was so freaking inspiring
Thank you soo much Julien. At times I find myself wanting to comment on a bunch of videos but never did because my inner wormtongue convinces me stuff like “it won’t make a difference” or “people might disagree with you”. You know what? SHUT UP!
Even tho it’s a small thing, it means a lot to me. To be able to be more expressive. It’s a small improvement but an improvement nonetheless. I’m happy to get a sense of being able to grab my own inner demon by the balls. All thanks to you! ❤
You're so welcome! And GREAT job commenting! 🔥👊
julien you are alot stronger that i ever imagined
🙏🙏
All my life, I've been afraid of men and for the life of me, I couldn't figure out where this damn fear comes from. I'm healing as of late, that fear is slowly leaving and I feel more and more free to be me.
I don't "follow" Julien but I still watch him to see others who come out of these challenges in their own way. Our path and healing modalities may differ but we are all sure together in this journey.
Prayers for all 🙏❤️
If you read this Mathias, I'm so fucking proud of you. Wish you the best,you are a LION!!!
That’s so awesome dude. Genuinely really impressive of him. Makes me happy to see. Screaming like that alone in a crowd is scary af for me as well and many others. Really cool to see
I am having fears and social anxiety. I always think about what others are thinking about me. It’s like my mind is constantly wondering about others thinking about me. Situation was so worse one year ago that I have avoided meeting people I stopped meeting my friends. My relations with my family also screwed. It’s really a nightmare for me and I was stuck how to get out of this loop. But then I came across Julian blanc videos on anxiety and the things that he explained make sense. I applied that and doing exercises that he suggests and also meditation. It worked for me now I don’t get anxiety when I go to some gatherings.
You are doing great job by posting videos. Thank you for your help 😃🙏🏻
That jumping out the fire analogy was beautiful. Thank you bro
BRO FR
The Doom shirt is a great analogy for this concept. It's like you're battling demons in your psyche to power yourself up as much as possible.
After 8 months, I wonder how the person here is doing now. The effects of limiting beliefs can be extremely harsh but they can be removed, I am deeply convinced.
Dude your growth over the years has been amazing. Im on my way up. Have been for a long time. But especially over the last few months things have really been starting to click for me. Still stacking and building and improving every day.
Thanks you and congrats on your progress! Glad you're on an upward spiral!
Inner work essential- The most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. It shapes everything we do in life.. brilliant job Mattais
i could feel what matias was feeling, he is really brave he can be proud ! ❤
we all find ourselves trapped in a cage sooner or later, it is important to break free to live the life we deserve
This was the best video yet. WOW I didn't think Mathias would scream. That was amazing!!!!
I love your analogy. Next time I stifle myself I'm going to think of wormtongue. I will never forget it.
Thank you!
MASSIVE RESPECT to Matias
Mattias you go brother!!!!!! You are brave sir!!!!!
Great video. Shoutout to Mattias, and masterful way to bring him out of his shell 💯
Just listening to this is therapy. Great stuff!!!!!!.
This is so hard to watch. Getting “interrogated” like this and put in the spotlight would’ve made me cry if I were in Matthias’ position. He’s so strong for not crying. I wouldn’t have been able to make it or change myself and scream.
I really hope that this experience helped Matthias but I personally can’t imagine how one would be able to constantly fight ‘Wormtongue’ and start to believe in yourself. It seems like an impossible task when you lived like this for more than half your life.
I’ve been bullied through most of my life without knowing why. I believe it must be something within me that is worth getting bullied over. Something that is fundamentally wrong with me so I don’t think I’m worth a dime. I don’t think Julien’s approach could help me change but I’m glad it has helped others.
One element that might help is to know that people pick more on people who have been bullied before. So once you got bullied and it attacked your self-esteem, people will notice, and think of you as an easier target or feel justified (you feeling down is interpreted as confirmation). It does NOT mean something is wrong with you.
It's a cycle that repeats: bullying, less self-esteem, people feeling confirmed, likelier target.
Self-defense is not only okay, it's your right, and you will notice some people who bullied/attacked you will actually appreciate it if you defend yourself.
This is why Healing is tough, its uncomfortable, But this was so beautiful ❤️
As someone who suffers from anxiety, and a lot of fears i can identify. I have a lot of negative self talk. Ive lessened though over the years and become more confident at least enough to look people in the eyes and engage when need too. But as an introvert i prefer to be alone. 😊
takeaway : be more aware of your thoughts and more vigilante with wormtongue
Solid takeaway! 🔥👊
This made me cry im proud of matt
I'm so fucking proud of you Mattias !! He did a great job 🙌🙌🙌 Julien is really good at this ✊✊✊
Great content! This is the real work. 🙌🏼
Eii this made me cry. Dear Matthias. How I wish for him to BE HAPPY! Thank you for your service Julien
Mattias such an amazing job! Never stop fighting for full authentic expression!
That was amazing Mathias ! Keep it up, you got this !
Thank you Mattias, you shouted like i could never
You should write a book Julien, for real. Keep it going!
I was in a similar state as Matais when I was younger. I was unable to express myself clearly and was extremely shy. I had a counselor who challenged me in a similar way. He brought my friends into the room to ask me questions and every time I said "I don't know" he would stop me and tell me that I had to answer. He was very patient and respectful but very firm that I had to answer and couldn't escape into my habits. He kept telling me that saying I don't know was very rude. It's an avoidance technique. And It kind of is rude. I am very grateful that he pointed this out to me. It feels very disrespectful to be confronted in this way but in some ways it is the most respectful thing you can ever do to another human being. I still have work to do but I'm running a business and talk with people all day now. Sometimes people can't shut me up. I still hate talking to groups of people but I think I would get over that if I did it more often.
I went to a buddhist teaching in India a few months ago, and at a random point, the monk looked and pointed at me and said "you have a very deep question". My instinctive reaction was to shut down and I felt like a rabbit in headlights. He immediately did something very smart; he looked away to someone on the opposite side of the room and said something related. That was what was needed to break my resistance and I just found myself speaking. I would never have done that if he'd just locked in on me continuously.
Julien the problem is not being around good people, the problem with the bad people who's judge a lot and laugh and give negative energie, i feel afraid around them ...i want a solutions for that ❣️✨
I m in the same boat but I m just starting to see why now, I guess. It should basically be the same. only thing is in those situations you/we are afraid of an actual conflict, a fight of some sort that might break some relationships or change the interactions with that someone or place which would make it scary or unpleasant in the future as well....I guess it s still about 'manning' up and trusting yourself and the universe it will work out at some point...I think many people who bully are so weak that they ll end up reversing places quickly if someone really stands up for themselves...one thing keeping me from doing so is my own promise to avoid intentionally doing it to others because I know how much it sucks...
Sounds really simple but just stop caring about what people like that think about you because their opinion is not important. Because people who threat other people shitty treat themselves the same way so just pitty them :) they are not worth your precious time
F*ck them, why you give them validation? If they make your life more negatively why you should give them validation?
Taking my hat off for you Julian. You have the magic.
This was the best one yet, you go matias!
Just finished the 20 mins. What struck me the most is when Jul said in verbatim:
The goal is to not forget the experience. (Feeling the feelings of anxiety until you let go of anxiety) You will eventually forget this experience because of day to day life challenges but once you've made it once, trust yourself that you can do it again.
This is what i needed the most
Glad this was impactful for you! If you want to go deeper on this, I'd suggest applying for online coaching so I can give you some personalized feedback. 👌
i absolutely loved this! and mattias is a boss! i wanted you to make him get up on stage, though and have him read your points in the closing dialogue. just to further let him know that he can do anything!
Shit man, you are the best therapist I ever encountered, I'm so impressed ❤
Woah! Incredible presentation. It was like watching a Shakespearean Tour de Force!! I help others to find confidence in singing. I struggle with self-love though, a constant battle with my own Wormtongue. I think you just changed my life!
Incredible video! Start by finding events within our unconscious mind and letting them go is so powerful and freeing. And, there is no physical danger, yet our fear response is not proportional to the event, there is no harm speaking up, you can say 'I am good enough' to do anything, I am the producer of my emotions, I can choose how to behave.
I relate so much. When I first started group fitness coaching I was literally paralyzed
Imagine bro in the middle of the street screaming: "GET OUT!!!"
Psychologist here. Bro, this shit is FANTASTIC!
i felt so many emotions while watching this, Julien you're so amazing! and Bravo to Matias!
kinda feel like i need to experience your event live too now
Julien I can tell you got more charismatic! Loved the play with the different voices😂 Good work!
Just came here to say great job Mattias!
Julien, what you mention about having to forcely change due to suffering is called in Yoga, "Yoga of desperation" in which the mind or conciousness cannot deal with the whole load of pain and as a mean of survival, it changes.
This is amazing! Bro levelling up a bro in real time.
Julians transformations over however long hes been on youtube is pretty cool!!
Matias is a real courageous man 👏 👏 kudos matias
Julien, we NEED another guided meditation here on youtube.
I have 2 shorter meditations coming soon... However, you can find my most powerful meditations in my mentoring course: application.julienhimself.com 👌
Mattias, WE ARE SHOUTING TOGETHER WITH YOU! ❤💥📣🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Mattias wow I’m really happy here smiling and clapping for him 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Vidéo incroyable, toujours d'excellents conseils, cela fait déjà un an que je te suis et j'adore ce que tu fais ! Tu m'as permis de voir la vie différemment et je t'en remercie ! Merci pour tout ce contenu que tu nous proposes ! Je te souhaite le meilleur !
Julien gets even more amazing everytime
Thank you so much! 🙏
Man I got tears!
We're all Mattias. Deep stuff Julien. ❤
This was an amazing bit Mathias is an absolute g reminds me of my experience in Copenhagen last year. That shit is terrifying to say the least😅. Well done...
Have been their, was really awesome. Julien is just pretty great at what he does and actually really humble. And probs to Matthias!
God bless that person who kept touching his back 🙏 ... I knew right then and there that was his guardian Angel 😇
Wow..just wow. Massive respect to Mattias, you're a lion, mate. And thank you Julien!!🔥🔥
1让我们意识到 我们的那个部分“留在地狱”，让我们意识到我们某个部分说“我们不需要改变” 我在训练你去放手，首先我们内心深处都有一个天花板，把我们放在那里，我也有自己的天花板，包括所有人都被困在一个天花板里面 同样的想法，同样的模式，同样的自我攻击，放手很重要 接受赞美，分散注意力来逃脱自己 。
I was doing an exercise from another vid where you just blindfold yourself for an hour and I was listening to this and other Julien vids. And man... I just had a crazy breakthrough. The whole story of how I got messed up in life as a kid and the explanation of why I am the way I am is just a total lie I've been telling myself. It's to justify the comfortable pain prison. It's insane. And dude if I wasn't egotistical and taking things personal - if I were more adaptable as a child and I wasn't feeding into the Reticular Activation System idea that "everyone in class is mean and doesn't like me for no reason". Dude I would have had a totally different life if I could have seen it back then and didn't take things so personal. But instead I took everything personal and it fed into the bullshit victim mentality. I would have had such a better childhood and I wouldn't have been picked on but had many friends instead.
Bro I really don't want to be socially successful at a high level I guess 😅 How freaking crazy is that? This is amazing to realize this but damn dude. Its actually really hard to keep analysing things from my life knowing about the love of comfort and reticular activation. I had to rip off my blindfold and relay this message to you because I had to distract myself from it. It's just nuts because I don't know how to start rewiring it yet. These videos are tremendous. How you and Owen figured all this stuff out is way beyond me.
Amazing, Great content.
Shout out to Mattias.